Turned Away By All Groomers But Me

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  • @amandasmith8212
    @amandasmith8212 2 місяці тому +2

    Ive watched this little dog get groomed so many times. Of all the vids ive watched on dog grooming this just has to be the best.
    The biggest drama queen of all time, even at her age.
    Good on you dede for grooming her, i dint think youll ever get another as entertaining as her! Best her heart

  • @Lizzi810
    @Lizzi810 3 роки тому +56

    Aww...she sounds like a real baby crying.

  • @octaviamcgregor4553
    @octaviamcgregor4553 3 роки тому +32

    She need sum cbd oil to calm her dog I heard it safe 4 older dogs

    • @marciadoherty240
      @marciadoherty240 2 роки тому +1

      CBD is a wonderful product. I've been giving it to my dog for years. It's helped with stress,anxiety and pain . I highly recommend it.

  • @LauraTeAhoWhite
    @LauraTeAhoWhite 3 роки тому +81

    She's not abused. She is an 18-year-old dog. Dogs rarely make it to 18 years old if they're abused/neglected. As the owner said, the dog has some age-related issues. So I say kudos to her for making sure she gets groomed. She will be a much happier dog without the matting.

    • @aquarianlight1880
      @aquarianlight1880 3 роки тому +8

      I woukd say it is Neglect. the hair, coat is one thing, but the fleas! Smh, that is neglect.

    • @eponaswolf33
      @eponaswolf33 3 роки тому +1

      I agree the dog is not abused and 18 years old is quite old for a dog but to restrain the dog like this could give the dog a heart attack the stress alone is not good for it especially at that age.

  • @dereksilas4293
    @dereksilas4293 3 роки тому +22

    Lmao she ain't done fighting ...she's been doing it for 18 years ...I can only hope my lil baby lives as long..❤️

  • @janetmccombe7382
    @janetmccombe7382 2 роки тому

    Wee darling crying like a baby😢…you’re amazing with these dogs x

  • @theOriginalKate
    @theOriginalKate 3 роки тому +3

    18 years old! How awesome....god bless her and her owner for taking such good care of her....

  • @pataustin1977
    @pataustin1977 2 роки тому +2

    I had a dog that fought like that and the vet gave me some Benadryl to give her before we went to the vet and it calmed her down a lot. It was just liquid Children's Benadryl

    • @myfavoritegroomer
      @myfavoritegroomer  2 роки тому

      Don't do benadryl. You can, people will, but wow. Benadryl is a bandaid. The problem still exists and in my opinion it doesn't help. Benadryl is for allergies. Giving to a dog that is upset for grooming is like trying to make the dog sleep, might as well get a sedative from your local veterinarian.

  • @Cindy1956ful1
    @Cindy1956ful1 3 роки тому +13

    I know you were talking about dogs here. But something you said really hit home for me and I wanted to thank you for that. I recently quit my job and took early social security to move in with and care for my 89 year old mother with dementia. She doesn’t want to do a lot of things, like take baths and go to the eye doctor for glasses because she denies not being able to see. You said that when the dog gets old, we have to do things for them because it’s for their good and we want them to be comfortable. Thanks so much. That helped me a lot with Mom.

  • @annacousinsandalizesbegay.7772
    @annacousinsandalizesbegay.7772 3 роки тому +19

    Thank you for helping her get shaved and not turning the dog away, not too many dog groomers what to deal with shaving, you have a wonderful loving heart and I'm pretty sure the dog feels good.

  • @jerrilynnbicek7996
    @jerrilynnbicek7996 3 роки тому +42

    Thank you, Dede, for accepting dangerous dogs. You are their Angel.

    • @myfavoritegroomer
      @myfavoritegroomer  3 роки тому +11

      I Do What I Can To Help!

    • @susanclark6437
      @susanclark6437 3 роки тому

      Please.... a few rare cases that should. have some sort of sedation? Just wondering. One of your fans who Love's what you do

    • @jerrilynnbicek7996
      @jerrilynnbicek7996 3 роки тому +7

      @@susanclark6437 My dog is one of the dogs Dede grooms at her own risk (Sammy). He is on doggy prozac, but still will bite during grooming. The vet has said that the sedation is hard on their hearts, and usage every 6 weeks or so is not recommended. The vet declined to give me the sedative. So thankful for Dede!

    • @tiffanyholman4028
      @tiffanyholman4028 3 роки тому +4

      @@susanclark6437 I rescued a dog that was horribly matted. She could barely move because it was so thick and tight, and she could not poop or pee well. The only thing we could do was have the vet sedate her, and it still took over an hour to shave her, with 3 people working on her at once. The vet said it was fine for that specifically, but not every 6-8 weeks. So there's some special instances, but not as maintenance.

  • @Chloroformgirl73
    @Chloroformgirl73 3 роки тому +24

    Her cries are so pitiful and she breaks my heart.

  • @jenniferwright
    @jenniferwright 3 роки тому +29

    Seeing her eyes I would say she is blind, can you imagine her terror 😢.

    • @BonnieEwert
      @BonnieEwert 3 роки тому +1

      Luckily they also absorb the handlers energy.💗

    • @Dottie04
      @Dottie04 3 роки тому +3

      Not necessarily. My senior dog’s eyes look exactly the same, and she’s 15. I thought it was signs of early blindness or cataracts but the vet assured us it was just a sign of age. Ended up being correct because our dog is definitely not blind.

  • @paradiseana7634
    @paradiseana7634 3 роки тому +31

    Enjoyed the video. It's a sad reality. That comes with life. When you know your dog is getting older. It's the beginning of more health concerns. Just like seeing our parents get older. Glad, that you are there. For the senior dog. Senior dogs/as well as older humans need a little TLC. ❤️🐩🐾👏👏

  • @ca6177
    @ca6177 3 роки тому +7

    Are they able to breathe well? Feel sorry for the little doggie! Would she not be better using a collar or muzzle?

    • @tiffanyholman4028
      @tiffanyholman4028 3 роки тому +1

      She's not pushing on it, she's just holding her a little more still. She wouldn't be able to touch her if she only had a muzzle on without being held still. It's stressful, but it's the safest way.

  • @Bloodylaser
    @Bloodylaser 3 роки тому +16

    I’m sure she is a sweet dog despite the grooming. She looks cute!

  • @cindyharris3731
    @cindyharris3731 3 роки тому +8

    I love how she is acting like you all are just abusing her... I can see that the mom has ahold on her but not hurting. You are a great person for doing these dogs that are skittish. KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!!! 💜💜💜💗💗💗💜💜💜

  • @chelscidpfighter5980
    @chelscidpfighter5980 3 роки тому +28

    I understand the pet parents waiting to bring the dog in bc of the winter but if you know you have a difficult dog and a difficult groom then don’t wait till the hair gets long and matted. Sweaters make the mattes even worse btw. Dede you did an awesome job!

    • @ilonacanche
      @ilonacanche 3 роки тому +1

      Probable the budget Is the problem.

  • @catherinebryant651
    @catherinebryant651 2 роки тому

    Poor thing she is having a fit. What a cutie pie, she is adorable.

  • @patriciawilliams389
    @patriciawilliams389 3 роки тому +9

    Did you check and see if the blades are hot because you've been running them for an awful long time because they can get burned from the blade being hot 🥺

  • @nitaleach6816
    @nitaleach6816 2 роки тому +4

    I really admire you for your love and dedication to older fur babies. God has truly given you a talent.
    Bless you for all you do.

  • @bluevol1976
    @bluevol1976 3 роки тому +25

    Poor girl, she doesn’t understand what’s going on. She moves really well for an eighteen year old dog. I hope they get those fleas under control. That can’t feel good or be healthy.

  • @lizholmes5358
    @lizholmes5358 2 роки тому +5

    I cried watching this poor button having to have this level of care. You achieved so much with her. All of you must have been shattered at the end. You made a huge difference to her well being. Well done x

  • @shannonbrady2816
    @shannonbrady2816 3 роки тому +9

    Oh, poor thing, but understand what you said trying to keep her healthy!

  • @reneewilliams3829
    @reneewilliams3829 2 роки тому

    That’s just terrible and the owner is lying. The groomer knows the owner is lying but just trying to get through the appointment. Thank God for all the groomers as they help care for our fur babies 😢💙💙

  • @zxoickszx4422
    @zxoickszx4422 3 роки тому +2

    Dede - perhaps a donation fund to help you defray the cost to the pet owners that can't afford the entire price of essentials like the flea medications? I do not know how much you would get in donations but it might help?

  • @francespanicucci6379
    @francespanicucci6379 3 роки тому +8

    She’s a fiesty old girl your awesome Dee Dee

  • @coraspencer
    @coraspencer 2 роки тому

    Poor baby you so good to ones that no one else would touch ❤️❤️🇨🇦🇨🇦

  • @leticialightfoot1419
    @leticialightfoot1419 3 роки тому +2

    Just breaks my heart hearing this sweet furbaby cry... No animal should have to suffer with this, thank god Dede is helping this precious baby... 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

  • @MrCockatiel2007
    @MrCockatiel2007 3 роки тому +8

    This is why I call Capstar the ultimate flea killer. They jump ship and die very quickly.

  • @darlenekellogg6009
    @darlenekellogg6009 3 роки тому +9

    I feel so bad for that little dog. shame on the owner for letting her dog go through all that pain because she let her go because it was winter.!! I am hurting along with that dog. Sorry Dee. People who can't take care of their pets shouldn't have any. Sad.

    • @robinpinkham9398
      @robinpinkham9398 3 роки тому +2

      Being the owner of several senior shihtzus you cant blame the owner for neglect. It comes to a choice of how often you are going to stress the pet thru a groom. You do the best you can for the pet you love.

    • @anneann9127
      @anneann9127 3 роки тому +1

      @@robinpinkham9398 Having her on flea meds would not cause her stress. Brushing her once in a while would probably feel good. Waiting a year to bring her in covered in fleas and matts is stressful and neglect.

  • @sandrastory589
    @sandrastory589 3 роки тому +1

    Oh this is so sad but it has to be done. She will feel way better once it’s over. Dede good job on this senior with fleas you have really improved her life!

  • @joclovelady
    @joclovelady 3 роки тому +10

    That dog made almost human sounds. Great effort Dede. It's so good seeing a patient, knowledgeable groomer taking on a really difficult dog and helping that dog feel so much better.

  • @roseme99af2
    @roseme99af2 3 роки тому +12

    My goodness that poor old dog! Thank you for helping her ❤️❤️❤️

  • @dorothywillis5989
    @dorothywillis5989 3 роки тому +1

    Wow! Excellent groomer

  • @tangiepm
    @tangiepm 3 роки тому +1

    Love ur patient attitude even with not chastising the owner

  • @mrmrswalterjobjr4188
    @mrmrswalterjobjr4188 3 роки тому +9

    I think I remember watching the original live on this one

  • @BonnieEwert
    @BonnieEwert 3 роки тому +6

    Old doggies get dementia too. They get older and they can’t be sedated as well. They have done a super job.
    My friend has a 17 yr old Havanese rescue. She has had some issues as well.
    Not fair to call this neglect if groomers refuse to do them, and no shame to the groomer either, they don’t want to chance the old pup to pass due to stress on their poor old hearts.

  • @csnelling4
    @csnelling4 2 роки тому

    She fought to the end 🤣🤣🤣🥰👌

  • @trudylynnhanlon4919
    @trudylynnhanlon4919 3 роки тому +3

    Poor BABY. You did wonderful job. Thank you for all you do Dee Dee. Once again awesome job.

  • @maggiehaughey5408
    @maggiehaughey5408 3 роки тому +3

    Thankyou Dede for accepting and grooming this doggy,she sounded like a baba crying,you did great x

  • @ladybleu222
    @ladybleu222 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you Ms Dede.
    Is there a reason the pet's mom can't brush comb her dog? It takes 5 minutes a day. And use a once a month treatment for fleas?
    I don't want to be disrespectful - I just don't understand.

    • @robynl2910
      @robynl2910 3 роки тому

      The owner says she reacts the same to brushing as she does being shaved and it’s difficult to brush her, I would assume because the dog would need to be restrained just like this

    • @Ctruong88
      @Ctruong88 2 роки тому

      Right? It looks like her paws are just covered in defication too. And fleas on an old dog like that? That’s gotta be hard on the dog

  • @tarah5286
    @tarah5286 3 роки тому +1

    This is the most satisfying thing I’ve ever seen in a long time more please!!!!!🥰😘

  • @debfarrell2505
    @debfarrell2505 3 роки тому +2

    This just really upset me.
    That poor lil girls quality of life is not good. I know they love her,but if she were mine I would definitely think about euthanasia.

  • @emeraldmartinez3953
    @emeraldmartinez3953 2 роки тому +1

    Swear I thought a baby was in the background lol 😂

  • @Avagirl14
    @Avagirl14 3 роки тому +2

    Honest to god Dede i will never understand the people that come into your videos, and sit there to trash talk the absolute amazing work you do. They are not in your position, they dont know everything that goes on behind the scenes. Either watch the video or dont. Nothing is forcing them to sit here an watch these. So their negativity and downtalking your work is completely out of spite. Thank you for doing the dirty grungy hard work that many tend to turn away because its such a challenge or not in their ability to do. You're awesome!

  • @stephaniebelley6523
    @stephaniebelley6523 3 роки тому +2

    Oh my goodness!!!! She has the cutest little bark/yell I have ever heard. Hehe

  • @aimeekrieg9932
    @aimeekrieg9932 3 роки тому +5

    Thanks for agreeing to help her. It takes one kind person like yourself to make a difference. The dog did well, think she was just scared. ❤

  • @nancyrupp1174
    @nancyrupp1174 3 роки тому +5

    What a little cutie! For her age she sure is a little fire ball! You two worked as a great team helping out this little fur baby! 👍🏻❤️

  • @sortathesame8701
    @sortathesame8701 2 роки тому +2

    I know the poor little darling was under stress and quite grumpy, but those little noises she kept making were absolutely adorable!

  • @amixeblu
    @amixeblu 3 роки тому +2

    Torturing her? Dede, no! Of course not. Like the owner said, she is a senile dog. Older, and probably no longer realizing much what happens. It is all for the good of the dog, the entire process might not seem "nice", but it is just performing necessary tasks on a dog that isn't really "willing", or "able". Do we ignore our senior citizens, the ones with dementia, as well (like basic hygiene). Of course not! Well done Dede!

  • @emilytolman46
    @emilytolman46 3 роки тому +8

    A dog that sounds like a goose interesting

  • @pennyrose3882
    @pennyrose3882 3 роки тому +2

    She is scared, maybe just continue and stop to talk, 💜🐾🐾💜

  • @lauriesmith5008
    @lauriesmith5008 3 роки тому +2

    I have a dog that has to be sedated . So you taking the time to do this is awesome. I wish I lived closer to you .

  • @tiffanyholman4028
    @tiffanyholman4028 3 роки тому

    There are some garment/blankets that are used to sort of squeeze kids and adults that are autistic. Maybe something like that could be used for pets like this that you need held securely, like the x-ray vest you were talking about.

  • @llamastrudel3958
    @llamastrudel3958 3 роки тому +3

    A small weighted blanket might work for holding dogs down (like the x-ray thing)

  • @pookeypuppy2530
    @pookeypuppy2530 3 роки тому +4

    Intensely difficult groom!
    Thanks to you Dede this old gal will feel so much better when she's done.
    Bless you for doing what you do 😇

  • @lesleyparis2314
    @lesleyparis2314 3 роки тому +2

    You’re the best groomer I have ever seen. Your kindness towards this wee soul is the best in a groomer and he knows it. He’s so happy .

  • @lindacaylor3289
    @lindacaylor3289 3 роки тому +6

    Poor little baby, that has to be terrifying for her, she doesn't know what's going to happen when you lay her down and she hears that noise. It breaks my heart to hear that low cry. I know you wouldn't hurt them but it makes me cry to hear that. Poor little darlin. Would love to bring my girls to you they are 15 Maltese/poodles.

    • @roserose749
      @roserose749 3 роки тому

      she is 18 years old, not a baby, she's been groomed many times im sure.

  • @crystalpistol2753
    @crystalpistol2753 3 роки тому +4

    Oh my goodness! Listen to those little noises coming from that little stinker😍😂 Dede you’re the best!

  • @happyinharned2597
    @happyinharned2597 3 роки тому +2

    DeeDee you are so great at what you do. Its admirable how you help those doggies.....i love watching yoou.....and David.

  • @len2489
    @len2489 3 роки тому

    Awww she sounds like a little baby. That bark is so cute in a weird way. Lol

  • @janicedenius2635
    @janicedenius2635 2 роки тому +1

    Why would they wait so long to have this dog groomed ? So sad to do that to her when she is that old. On top of that she has fleas . Poor girl. Dede you did real well with her.

  • @pennyspage668
    @pennyspage668 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you for taking your time with the baby.. she's precious

  • @rosannmuller
    @rosannmuller 3 роки тому +10

    You rock Deedee and this owner is wonderful! Love when owners stay and help or see how their dogs are

  • @cathycuellarsanchez9843
    @cathycuellarsanchez9843 3 роки тому +4

    That was a very difficult groom, but at least you managed to help her as much as you could ♥️😘😘

  • @msy3abfamily
    @msy3abfamily 3 роки тому +33

    This dog is scared and very stressed. It should see a vet for medication to help, not be made to sit still and cry the whole time.

    • @Aarticqn
      @Aarticqn 3 роки тому +14

      The owner said because of her advanced age that the Vet won't put her to sleep anymore. So I doubt her would prescribe any kind of tranquilizers.

    • @eponaswolf33
      @eponaswolf33 3 роки тому +8

      @@Aarticqn yes I understand they don't want to sedate her but calming treats would really help this poor baby's stress level

  • @andreanobile330
    @andreanobile330 3 роки тому +1

    Dede you are so kind and helpful that would have been an extremely difficult groom.

  • @MonsieurLeScoob
    @MonsieurLeScoob 3 роки тому

    All I can think of is quality of life, and that doesn't look like a great quality of life. Nice job making her more comfortable Dede. You're probably one of the only groomers who can.

  • @Mrsgracieteach75
    @Mrsgracieteach75 3 роки тому +4

    That is great that you were able to assist her with her dog. I just euthanized my Mia who was 15 years old-she had cancer. I will see her when its my time.

  • @moonunitzappa7506
    @moonunitzappa7506 3 роки тому +5

    For the love of god...or dog... get a valium from the vet to calm her fears. That is torture for that old baby. Thank you for dealing with her. So sad to hear her crying. Hope she doesn't have a heart attack the next time.

    • @mysteria_1305
      @mysteria_1305 3 роки тому +5

      Due to health or age it may not be safe to do so. And yes it’s never pleasant to hear yet it doesn’t always mean that they are in distress. They could be doing it because it’s what has worked in the past and they know if I do this they will stop.

  • @dinkywinkydog1311
    @dinkywinkydog1311 3 роки тому +2

    Im a trainer and behaviorist (small dogs only) but groom my own Pomeranians. I am very very good at it. People always asking and some even get mad I won’t do their dog. And this would be the reason why my dogs are cooperative which makes the job easy they’ve been doing it I start them when they’re about eight weeks old just trimming nails and around their ears so they get used to getting groomed but hand me a dog that is out of control and freaks out yeah no. Great job!!! You got a gift there forsure!!!

    • @dinkywinkydog1311
      @dinkywinkydog1311 3 роки тому

      Also people think just because I’m a trainer in a behaviorist that I can make their dog to snap in line doesn’t work like that.

  • @ela2008
    @ela2008 3 роки тому +1

    i am totally imagining same situation with a big dog... you'd need a team of people! wow
    i have turned 180 after watching this
    hat off

  • @DeplorablesGarbage
    @DeplorablesGarbage 3 роки тому +7

    I love that you are willing to take on the challenges! 🥰🥰🥰

  • @karenroyal57
    @karenroyal57 3 роки тому +3

    Is this dog too old to give a sedative? CBD chew?

  • @reesecarr2105
    @reesecarr2105 3 роки тому +1

    The owner neglects her dog! FLEAS, are so easy to control NO EXCUSE!! NEGLECTED!! poor sweet dog has a horrible owner,

  • @findmeintime
    @findmeintime 3 роки тому

    Awww i cried for this terrified baby

  • @stormy0358
    @stormy0358 3 роки тому +3

    Poor baby so cute, you arè wonderful Dd.

  • @vernaburns1629
    @vernaburns1629 3 роки тому +1

    Does the little doggie maybe have terminal, PAINFUL CANCER? ? ? I mean all those moles!.

  • @RB-gt8bf
    @RB-gt8bf 3 роки тому

    Oh bless you Dede for assisting this senior dog and the owner. I know both feel better after getting hims some grooming TLC..

  • @Crows_Croquette
    @Crows_Croquette 3 роки тому

    You did amazing. Also what nail clippers do you recommend for an American Doberman with black nails and a chihuahua/ toy poodle mix with white nails?

  • @janedmn
    @janedmn 3 роки тому

    I’m a sorry but I have to be frank. This poor baby didn’t get this way because of age. It is pure neglect over years and years. Flea pills or drops one time a month. Yes, my Maltese hated comb and brush and bath but with frequent touch, comb brush, etc she calmed. She was 18 when she died. It takes 2 minutes to stand her up on your stomach while sitting in chair and comb out eye boogers, comb ears and tail to prevent matting. God Bless this baby and groomer for trying to make comfortable for her last days.

  • @BELABIN
    @BELABIN 3 роки тому +2

    Dede question....1) would it make a difference bringing her in more often? 2) If so would it then be easier to scissor her all over instead? Granting there are no mats, etc. just want to prepare when my baby is old.
    My pup goes in every 6 weeks and he loves his groomer. He gets combed frequently and bathed at home. Flea meds on board always.
    Poor baby, I feel bad that the pup has fleas and matted on top of everything else.

  • @missjessanpessan
    @missjessanpessan 3 роки тому +2

    As poor thing. Senior too 💔 that broke my heart. Good thing you did this so fast and efficiently 🥰

  • @sharonbelisle550
    @sharonbelisle550 3 роки тому

    You are so courageous! But I truly believe she needs sedation with all of her problems. Maybe not every time but when she is really bad. Poor thing! You and mom are great in my book 👍🏼!!!

  • @buffy9637
    @buffy9637 3 роки тому +6

    18 WOW!!!!!!!! Blessed!!

  • @missyestep447
    @missyestep447 3 роки тому +8

    I just will never ever understand how people can let their dogs go this long🙁 I bet the owners hair was cut n colored huh? So sad. Truly just neglect😤 she obviously doesn’t care if she’s on the what not to do UA-cam Jesus🙄🤬 this frustrates me.

  • @almmaaa
    @almmaaa 3 роки тому +5

    Poor thing. That stress can’t be good for her 😢

  • @marieryan2541
    @marieryan2541 3 роки тому +1

    Hi Dee Dee. Poor little shish tzu. You done a brilliant job with her. Love you for helping this old lady. Marie

  • @teresab6383
    @teresab6383 3 роки тому +3

    This is torcher this dog could have a heart attach. I can’t watch it anymore

  • @ritateixeira6110
    @ritateixeira6110 3 роки тому +2

    Great job with the gentle restraining!

  • @fitnessfit7701
    @fitnessfit7701 3 роки тому

    Manotas gigantonas que tiene usted... Casi rompe al perrito

  • @Jacimarcellini
    @Jacimarcellini 3 роки тому +1

    Dede you are the salvation of these difficult dogs you take on. Imagine what would happen if you didn't do these dogs. I lifetime of sedated grooms. How terrible. There just is no excuse for this.

  • @InaNugge
    @InaNugge 3 роки тому +4

    The people that doesn't like or know to take care of the fur of a dog shouldn't chose a dog with long, growing coat. They should chose a dog with short coat. Because this is torture for a little creature. OMG poor dog. Luckily DeDe knows how to handle them, but I am sure that she will think the same as I do. People - think before you buy a dog.

  • @sigmasherry1969
    @sigmasherry1969 3 роки тому +3

    You are amazing for being willing to attempt grooming this dog.

  • @alinaoro5875
    @alinaoro5875 3 роки тому +2

    Excellent job. My dog is very feisty when it comes to do this I pray every time he needs grooming 🤣🤣

  • @buffy9637
    @buffy9637 3 роки тому +4

    Is that a goose I hear?

  • @nellycastillo633
    @nellycastillo633 3 роки тому +3

    You are brave, omg 🐶 puppies can bite...

  • @lbearwald
    @lbearwald 9 місяців тому

    I'm justrewatching this. She sure was a complainer. I have had a couple of puppies like this.

  • @ChayaCuevasCohen
    @ChayaCuevasCohen 3 роки тому

    Would it be helpful to give this old girl a mild sedative so she is not so distressed?