Girl everything you said in this video makes sense. For me at work I’m always to myself, always looked good, very likable and for that for some reason my coworkers viewed me as a threat and gossiped about me in their group chats, when none of them even knew me personally. That is so true because I’ve seen that the bosses and managers often likes those who ki$$ their behinds as opposed to people like me. I treat others with kindness and respect and never received the same from peers, instead it turned into jealousy. The world is simply backwards unfortunately, I’ve released opinions people have projected onto me after going through painful but necessary awakening.
Zion, you are being authentic that’s why people will always have an opinion and discourage you. Some people in this world will see you as being weak minded.
In one of your last videos you spoke on how not being able to make life friends. I am the same way. I am 23 year old woman and right now I have zero friends. I think that it gets better with acceptance. I’ve accepted that I’m just different and much more special than other people. I also don’t like to wear a costume like other people, I always come as myself, loving and authentic and that’s okay. It’s just me and god and it used to be painful but I learned to feel those emotions from when I was younger until now and the hurt people have caused me and let them go. It took me 7 months to heal from all the trauma I went through. I didn’t work or do anything else, it was my notebook, nature, my pain/grief and god. I feel so happy and free now.
It's stops mattering when you get burned out trying to keep up. 20-24 years old I got too tired of peoples opinions or just being told things or conversations because I started to feel my age and started to see the patterns. Eventually you get tired. You forgot what matters then you remember but wiser
✨✨ Opinions of others stops “mattering” when you quit giving it power & attching value to their opinion weather is “good” or “bad”.. give yourself permission to not hold attachment to people’s opinions/approval.
You have the option to choose what matters. Everywhere you go, someone gonna have an opinion but not really have solutions to your problems. Discover what you like and dislike, and when you realize what you don’t like, leave it where it is.
19 years old young black nonbinary cis girl here working at my job on break seeing this vid makes me feel relieved im not alone my parents stay pressuring me to look good but its never enough and all my coworkers r white looking at me weird
It’s so funny, because I had someone tell me to my face that they asked another person something about me instead of just asking me what they wanted to know. Mind you me and said person live in the same house. I’m not sure if they realized how weird that was or just didn’t care. Either way that’s the type of shit that makes me cool on people, because what happened to truth?
This video hits fucking different when you’re on your lunch break at a job you kiss so much ass at just to sustain a living and solidify a future job and home.
Can’t believe I’m just discovering this channel today, girl you are so real for all of this! It is important and necessary to practice authenticity. Through that you have the inner calm, confidence, and peace to rest with who you are and face challenges with more ease. The problem is, we are individuals living in a collective. We encourage individuality, which is absolutely great and important for maintaining your sense of self and sanity, while also entering collective spaces that don’t except us unless we live up to a certain degree. Think of jobs, religious groups, clubs, basically any community or group of people. The problem with being authentic in this sense is that you have to cut down some part of your individually in order to fit in, and contrary, popular belief, we all want to fit in as it’s somewhat linked to survival. For example you’re a smart go-getter who is thruough & a natural leader. You have found many environments that nurture support and encourage this, but one day you take on a role where your authenticity isn’t appreciated at all. Suddenly, you get feedback that you’re an arrogant slave driver & need to change yourself to make the collective happiest and most comfortable otherwise you’ll get kicked out the group (or fired if this is a job). What do you do in this regard? A positive UA-camr would just say you should be adaptable or leave that environment and find where you are appreciated, but what if they can’t? What if that would be lying to themselves? What if they need to hold out for a year to pay bills? What if this was their dream? End of day, I personally believe that other peoples opinions don’t matter. They’re either projecting their own perceptions onto you, or just taking whatever it is they got out on you because they’re miserable about something that has nothing to do with you. Neither of those are your problem or concern by the way. But you also hold an excellent point that to some degree peoples opinions do matter, and we care about those most because they speak more for us than we do for ourselves. My solution to this would be to find far more opportunities & spaces to actually be yourself and go where that’s appreciated whenever you can to make the moments where you can’t lot easier. It could be a group of people, it could be entirely by yourself. Those spaces are absolutely crucial because they help you learn, love and embrace all that you are as you continue to grow for your best life. Yes, I will face people who don’t like me. They will make up & spread whatever they can about me or expect me to be a certain way I can’t or won’t live up to. I may enter a collective space where I’m not excepted outright …BUT… I maintain myself & worth anyway. Even if I’m ostracized, and even if I fail, I have tomorrow to start over. I’ll continue to focus on my future, I have healthy spaces and communities where I’m supported. I have family and friends who love me! I love myself! I am always at peace with myself. With that, the opinions of others sizzle like water on a hot surface.
hey zion!!!! happy pre-birthday!!! lol i'm working through the same things even at 28!! i think we just gotta challenge it sometimes!! like, are they really gonna KILL you if you don't fit some ppl's limited idea of you??? like is their opinion sooooo important that they're gonna get confrontational abt it? and yeah i understand toning it down a bit for our jobs, (i don't wanna be myself for a corporation that doesn't care whether i live or die anyway) but what abt the rest of my life? how long do i gotta wear this damn monkey suit???? the truth is very few ppl on this earth get the luxury of doing and being whatever they want, and i dunno. maybe you have to be lucky. but all i can say is that it gets easier as you get a little older. maybe you don't quite lose that consideration for others' opinions entirely, but you gain a new respect for yourself, you figure out what your values are, and you learn how to handle 'rejection' from people who really don't matter in the grand scheme of things (lotta mentally ill ppl out there!!). and it's like no one can take that away from you, gotta pry it out of your cold dead hands lol. and that other part tends to matter less and less, at least in my experience. so it's my prayer that you eventually break free, that you hold onto yourself for as tight and as long as you can, that you make it to the other side and still recognize yourself!! i know it's kind of cringey to be this positive, but i have high hopes for you!! in the meantime, try to remind yourself whenever you can that you have value, dear zion, even if no one's around to say it
Just be who you see yourself to be. And trust yourself and believe in what you desire. Jesus has helped more than anyone except my mother and sister. 🙏🏽✝️ But that’s just my testimony. You have to discover your power from within. If you don’t want to be bothered with anyone, that IS your choice. 😄😁😊👍🏽
One thing I learned the hard way is that NOBODY is for you except the people who ACTUALLY MATTER in your life. DON’T change for nobody but for yourself. LITERALLY.❤️
Black mirror! Is my $h*t 😅like you just spoke my language. Need an update on the next season if ever. I've just been patiently waiting.... Like ... Forever!!
Holding onto it and hoping that something will change or someone will support you…..all can say is that’s up to you if you want to get hurt. Be who you see yourself to be, and ignore anything that makes you insignificant. People can be your worst enemies. Truly.
😮"We are f***** you mean to tell me a serial killer is giving you great vibes a lot of people in this world that have done bad things are getting away with good judgment because they have so many great opinions about them" facts! This is something that definitely needs to be addressed more 👏💁🏾♀️
I think everything deserves proper context, and then an indiviualds dicernment based off of their own perosnal guidance system, try not to judge it but rember that discernment is just as general as you would consider context. Wrap your head around that and maybe this new persective if new, will help. Juat sharing something I currently have come to believe, to someone pretty girl on tje interent. Hope you take it easy
I FEEL this. I'm trying to get employed and I had to give them my ex-managers number to get the 'opinion' on me. The only thing is, I think they got a bad opinion of him, so they don't trust me - through not liking him! It's crazy when you think about it.
I don't think the opinions will ever stop but I guess when you don't rely on anyone for anything... that's when they mean a lot less. When you can sustain yourself independently and they know their opinions won't affect you, they have less power. People loooooove to add their two cents because that's sometimes the only power they can have over you, or something, or their environment, or their experience. It's like their own stamp. I literally hate having a definitive opinion because, everything is so interchangeable, science gets proven wrong all the time. We don't know what's what. Maybe I'll have a different perspective tomorrow. Maybe I'll change my opinion once I've ate. It's energy draining and I literally don't care most of the time.
Girl everything you said in this video makes sense. For me at work I’m always to myself, always looked good, very likable and for that for some reason my coworkers viewed me as a threat and gossiped about me in their group chats, when none of them even knew me personally. That is so true because I’ve seen that the bosses and managers often likes those who ki$$ their behinds as opposed to people like me. I treat others with kindness and respect and never received the same from peers, instead it turned into jealousy. The world is simply backwards unfortunately, I’ve released opinions people have projected onto me after going through painful but necessary awakening.
Break away from what others think is better for you. That’s how you remain authentic. For real.
It’s a mind game, you lose if you allow things to hurt you. You have to fall before you can stand up for what you believe.
This!!!!
Zion, you are being authentic that’s why people will always have an opinion and discourage you. Some people in this world will see you as being weak minded.
In one of your last videos you spoke on how not being able to make life friends. I am the same way. I am 23 year old woman and right now I have zero friends. I think that it gets better with acceptance. I’ve accepted that I’m just different and much more special than other people. I also don’t like to wear a costume like other people, I always come as myself, loving and authentic and that’s okay. It’s just me and god and it used to be painful but I learned to feel those emotions from when I was younger until now and the hurt people have caused me and let them go. It took me 7 months to heal from all the trauma I went through. I didn’t work or do anything else, it was my notebook, nature, my pain/grief and god. I feel so happy and free now.
its not selfish or narcissistic to not want to prove yourself to anybody! i feel exactly the same way and feel so seen by your video
It's stops mattering when you get burned out trying to keep up. 20-24 years old I got too tired of peoples opinions or just being told things or conversations because I started to feel my age and started to see the patterns. Eventually you get tired. You forgot what matters then you remember but wiser
✨✨ Opinions of others stops “mattering” when you quit giving it power & attching value to their opinion weather is “good” or “bad”.. give yourself permission to not hold attachment to people’s opinions/approval.
You have the option to choose what matters. Everywhere you go, someone gonna have an opinion but not really have solutions to your problems.
Discover what you like and dislike, and when you realize what you don’t like, leave it where it is.
19 years old young black nonbinary cis girl here working at my job on break seeing this vid makes me feel relieved im not alone my parents stay pressuring me to look good but its never enough and all my coworkers r white looking at me weird
It’s so funny, because I had someone tell me to my face that they asked another person something about me instead of just asking me what they wanted to know. Mind you me and said person live in the same house. I’m not sure if they realized how weird that was or just didn’t care. Either way that’s the type of shit that makes me cool on people, because what happened to truth?
This video hits fucking different when you’re on your lunch break at a job you kiss so much ass at just to sustain a living and solidify a future job and home.
Can’t believe I’m just discovering this channel today, girl you are so real for all of this!
It is important and necessary to practice authenticity. Through that you have the inner calm, confidence, and peace to rest with who you are and face challenges with more ease. The problem is, we are individuals living in a collective. We encourage individuality, which is absolutely great and important for maintaining your sense of self and sanity, while also entering collective spaces that don’t except us unless we live up to a certain degree. Think of jobs, religious groups, clubs, basically any community or group of people. The problem with being authentic in this sense is that you have to cut down some part of your individually in order to fit in, and contrary, popular belief, we all want to fit in as it’s somewhat linked to survival.
For example you’re a smart go-getter who is thruough & a natural leader. You have found many environments that nurture support and encourage this, but one day you take on a role where your authenticity isn’t appreciated at all. Suddenly, you get feedback that you’re an arrogant slave driver & need to change yourself to make the collective happiest and most comfortable otherwise you’ll get kicked out the group (or fired if this is a job). What do you do in this regard? A positive UA-camr would just say you should be adaptable or leave that environment and find where you are appreciated, but what if they can’t? What if that would be lying to themselves? What if they need to hold out for a year to pay bills? What if this was their dream?
End of day, I personally believe that other peoples opinions don’t matter. They’re either projecting their own perceptions onto you, or just taking whatever it is they got out on you because they’re miserable about something that has nothing to do with you. Neither of those are your problem or concern by the way. But you also hold an excellent point that to some degree peoples opinions do matter, and we care about those most because they speak more for us than we do for ourselves. My solution to this would be to find far more opportunities & spaces to actually be yourself and go where that’s appreciated whenever you can to make the moments where you can’t lot easier. It could be a group of people, it could be entirely by yourself. Those spaces are absolutely crucial because they help you learn, love and embrace all that you are as you continue to grow for your best life.
Yes, I will face people who don’t like me. They will make up & spread whatever they can about me or expect me to be a certain way I can’t or won’t live up to. I may enter a collective space where I’m not excepted outright …BUT… I maintain myself & worth anyway. Even if I’m ostracized, and even if I fail, I have tomorrow to start over. I’ll continue to focus on my future, I have healthy spaces and communities where I’m supported. I have family and friends who love me! I love myself! I am always at peace with myself. With that, the opinions of others sizzle like water on a hot surface.
hey zion!!!! happy pre-birthday!!! lol
i'm working through the same things even at 28!! i think we just gotta challenge it sometimes!! like, are they really gonna KILL you if you don't fit some ppl's limited idea of you??? like is their opinion sooooo important that they're gonna get confrontational abt it? and yeah i understand toning it down a bit for our jobs, (i don't wanna be myself for a corporation that doesn't care whether i live or die anyway) but what abt the rest of my life? how long do i gotta wear this damn monkey suit????
the truth is very few ppl on this earth get the luxury of doing and being whatever they want, and i dunno. maybe you have to be lucky. but all i can say is that it gets easier as you get a little older. maybe you don't quite lose that consideration for others' opinions entirely, but you gain a new respect for yourself, you figure out what your values are, and you learn how to handle 'rejection' from people who really don't matter in the grand scheme of things (lotta mentally ill ppl out there!!). and it's like no one can take that away from you, gotta pry it out of your cold dead hands lol. and that other part tends to matter less and less, at least in my experience.
so it's my prayer that you eventually break free, that you hold onto yourself for as tight and as long as you can, that you make it to the other side and still recognize yourself!! i know it's kind of cringey to be this positive, but i have high hopes for you!!
in the meantime, try to remind yourself whenever you can that you have value, dear zion, even if no one's around to say it
Just be who you see yourself to be. And trust yourself and believe in what you desire.
Jesus has helped more than anyone except my mother and sister. 🙏🏽✝️
But that’s just my testimony.
You have to discover your power from within. If you don’t want to be bothered with anyone, that IS your choice. 😄😁😊👍🏽
ur so fucking right and very cute do u know ur sun moon and rising lol
One thing I learned the hard way is that NOBODY is for you except the people who ACTUALLY MATTER in your life. DON’T change for nobody but for yourself. LITERALLY.❤️
Black mirror! Is my $h*t 😅like you just spoke my language. Need an update on the next season if ever. I've just been patiently waiting.... Like ... Forever!!
Holding onto it and hoping that something will change or someone will support you…..all can say is that’s up to you if you want to get hurt.
Be who you see yourself to be, and ignore anything that makes you insignificant. People can be your worst enemies. Truly.
😮"We are f***** you mean to tell me a serial killer is giving you great vibes a lot of people in this world that have done bad things are getting away with good judgment because they have so many great opinions about them" facts! This is something that definitely needs to be addressed more 👏💁🏾♀️
GIRL. Not you said you just wanna play Roblox with your boo while I was playing 😂 totally unexpected.
Mind games are dangerous.
I think everything deserves proper context, and then an indiviualds dicernment based off of their own perosnal guidance system, try not to judge it but rember that discernment is just as general as you would consider context. Wrap your head around that and maybe this new persective if new, will help. Juat sharing something I currently have come to believe, to someone pretty girl on tje interent. Hope you take it easy
U forgot you were recording in the first 5 second's.
Careful next time.🎉
I love the video
I didn’t forget lol just a quick shirt fix
omg why does youtube keep recommending me videos like this
it's not a bad thing it's just crazy
I FEEL this. I'm trying to get employed and I had to give them my ex-managers number to get the 'opinion' on me. The only thing is, I think they got a bad opinion of him, so they don't trust me - through not liking him! It's crazy when you think about it.
I don't think the opinions will ever stop but I guess when you don't rely on anyone for anything... that's when they mean a lot less. When you can sustain yourself independently and they know their opinions won't affect you, they have less power. People loooooove to add their two cents because that's sometimes the only power they can have over you, or something, or their environment, or their experience. It's like their own stamp. I literally hate having a definitive opinion because, everything is so interchangeable, science gets proven wrong all the time. We don't know what's what. Maybe I'll have a different perspective tomorrow. Maybe I'll change my opinion once I've ate. It's energy draining and I literally don't care most of the time.
couldn’t agree more!!
You’re the most authentic person I have ever met!
The world does run on approval
You have to lose the person you were completely, and then nothing else matters except what you believe.
Opinions can be like eating rotten fruit, it can make you feel bitter inside in so many ways.
Zion you are truly beautiful. Nah seriously, you ARE. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
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Hi
Gotta stop believing in what they believe to be true. But you already know this
You just gained a subscriber 😊
Am in love yall
Awe me too😩
Stop complaining.
no ❤️
@@zions_diary the complaining aint going to help u be more confident.
@@flagontheplay6749 tell me you didn’t watch the whole video by telling me you didn’t watch the whole video
Focus on yourself and your needs and desires.
You’ll find the right direction.🤲🏽🧭