Thank you for sharing your experiences in quite a balanced way. Really informative and realistic. I am South African thinking of moving to NZ. Most of the videos I have watched of expats in NZ are by white people- it is refreshing and helpful to hear from a fellow black brother!
You are very welcome friend. Don't worry about the white s in this country. They can only go so far .we got them under control lol 😆 😂 🤣 every now again they get out of control. But we put them in there place. When things get out of hand .this country is cultures and all cultures are welcome.
I'm black and i received looks and stares too, but i found out later that they are mostly curious and super shy to come and approach you. Like seriously once you start a conversation with anyone you realize how sweet most kiwis are, for example there was a woman who used to stare at me alot and a few months later we got into a social gathering and discovered that she was dying inside to compliment my hair and ask me about my heritage, she just looked uncomfortable and couldn't find the right way to start a conversation, and later she invited me to her house and we became really good friends. I see that alot. Some are really really shy and don't know how to approach others.
After living in NZ for 15 yrs you start to get sick of the starting especially when there's too many dark skin people here so I don't understand why they stare.
Your algud my brother. Trust me im Maori and I can tell you most kiwis are just curious NOT racist at all. All countries have bad people but 95% most people in my country are genuinely friendly.
I am a black girl living in Dunedin New Zealand. I lived in NZ for the past two years. I never ever ever felt any sense of racism. They are super lovely, friendly sweet people. I myself stare at black people because we are so small in number so it is kindda surprising to see other black people around. That is probably why we get some of the stares.
Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment and I'm super glad your experiences in Aotearoa have been nothing but wonderful. In my vlog I did talk about how some are surprised because we represent less than 1% in the country. I also believe that talking about racism does not take anything away from Aotearoa. I was called the n word, but still believe that those people do not represent all of the Kiwis in the country.
NZ has so many black people including Indians I don't know why they stare I been here for 15 years it gets annoying especially when I always wore my hair straightBLK people aren't just African there's BLK indian BLK Asians blk islanders so it's not different to see black people.... Unless you are talking about Africans that's a different story. Still Africans are BLK and don't understand why we get stares when people are used to seeing dark skin people. They are just racist and judgmental. Do you have any kiwi friends ??? Do you interact with your neighbours who's whyt?? I bet not cuz kiwis like to keep to themselves and with their own people. So ya there's racism here
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 The only time I have heard anyone use that word here in New Zealand and mean it as an attack, was a number of years ago now. I was waiting at the main bus station in Auckland, it was full daylight, hundreds of people around, and a young woman who had a baby in a pram, was waiting for the same bus talking to an older woman of maybe about 50 years. The young woman was "Black", like, from Africa, the older woman was Tongan. They were happily talking about the baby, and a guy walked up, with an angry face, looked at the baby, and started to say a lot of racist rubbish at the African girl, including the n word. He was deliberately being hateful, he must have been mentally ill or something. Everyone started to tell him off, me an another couple of guys started forward to intervene, the guy raised his fist . . this all happened like in seconds . . . if he had hit the woman he would have been torn apart, but he never got the chance to do more than raise his fist. With the most APPALLING force and no warning at all that it was coming the Tongan woman slapped his face. He shot off his feet and hit the guy who was coming up behind him, who kind of toppled him forward and as he fell the old Tongan lady grabbed him by the hair and HELD HIM FROM HITTING THE GROUND WITH ONE HAND !. Mighty Tonga ! Old Lady Strength means something when it is tied to 100 kgs of Tonga A couple of us grabbed the guy and forced him away to the main road and told him to F off. I walked back and everyone was still telling the ladies how sorry they were and that, and I walked up to the Tongan lady and shook her hand and told her how happy that mighty blow had made me feel. she was actually upset with herself for doing it, but we were all proud of her. I sincerely doubt I could deliver as powerful a blow now that I am old, I COULD have done it in my prime but I wouldn't have wanted to TAKE a big open palm from her, even when I was a young guy.
Hi Raphy. I really admire your courage and honesty about your experiences in Aotearoa NZ. I'm sorry some of those experiences have been negative. As a very Pakeha (white-skinned) South Island Kiwi I must admit as a young person I stared the first couple of times I saw a black person simply because it was so unexpected and unfamiliar, and I didn't know how to react appropriately. Over my lifetime using appropriate cultural behaviour has become a sensitive, and very much prevalent and growing trend in NZ. I feel very embarrassed about my reaction to seeing black people for the first time in hindsight and am glad to see NZ become more diverse in all the different ways possible. I like to think NZ is a country that welcomes and encourages people to be true to themselves and their respective cultural heritage, and that one day we truly will be a 'melting pot' country. Fortunately we are all becoming more acclimatized to that diversity and many now know as long as you start with a smile and a friendly greeting, much cultural awkwardness is forgivable and that it is perfectly OK to ask for guidance or to be corrected. No doubt one day I may travel somewhere where I will be the one with the skin hue that shows up in a crowd, and I hope that I can be as gracious as you to the reactions I may encounter. By the way, I may be old enough to probably be your mother but I have to agree with one of the other comment posts, you are a very good-looking and lovely natured chap and your character as it comes through your post just enhances that impression. Your husband is a very lucky man!
I love NZ and am extremely grateful to be living here! 😊❤ thank you so much for watching my vlog and commenting and thank you for the compliment my ego is getting a boost 😊 ☺ 😀.... I visited the South Island 2 weeks ago and loved it over there, it was my second in the South Island.
Hi bro, if people are staring at you, not all of it is racial, majority of people are just curious, and some are shy, just don't know how to approach you to start a conversation anyway give it time, welcome to nz bro, takecare and wish you all the best in little ol'e Nz
I have to agree M6T4u, I do exactly that but unsure how to approach the person in case I am perceived by that person as disrespectful or make that person uncomfortable. And like you M6 welcome to Aotearoa Raphy.
I feel like I know I can't relate to you but myself am islander do get stares too it heaps alot, you just have to build confidence and just smile and ignore trust me once you get use to living in nz you will be more comfortable.
you absolutely NAILED the stare! i moved to NZ in December last year with my family, and we're living in Napier right now and because there's almost no black people here in Napier apart from my family, the amount of stares i've gotten is insane! the amount of times i've been called the n-word by kids in my class too is even more disheartening. we're hoping to go to Auckland soon, though, because there's definitely more black people there so i think we'd be more comfortable here :) i hope you're good bro, and that the racism is getting better for you.
There is NO malice behind those stares. You're being racial taunted at school? This is something you should take up with your teacher. It's unfortunate you should have to deal with this at school.
@@ngatibroffessor1840 it's alright. i've spoken to another person from my country that lives here too, and they advised me not to speak up when you're being taunted because they are having an even harder time now. so i've just decided to just keep focused on school, and figure it out after graduation. but thank you, i appreciate the advice.
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654my wife has been on a mission to meet up with other Africans. We recently moved to Auckland this year. If you know any African events please keep in touch.
I'm sorry to hear if you and the people that have commented on your page have had bad experiences in Aotearoa (NZ). I think that you get predominately two types of people in our country where black people are concerned on first encounters. Those that have a curiosity about black people and those that are ignorant. Unfortunately, both types of people will stare. Being called the N-word is completely unacceptable. If people took that time to get to know other ethnicities, they would see that we aren't too different from one another. And if we are, there are usually a few common factors. I hope all your experiences improve in our country.
Quite right. The ignorant New Zealanders don't even know that Africa is a Continent with over 60 countries. They think all the people who come from African countries, live in kraals, have no taps and toilets, and that the women and men wear sheep skin clothes. 🤣That tigers, lions and other wild animals roam around in the streets.😂😂 They could not read world maps. I took a world map to school, as I am a teacher, and showed them how big the African Continent is with all the different countries. I also told them about the gold, diamonds, copper and valuable natural resources that the countries on the African countries have. Their geographical knowledge of the world is disastrous! Thank God for all the qualified teachers who immigrated from countries on the African Continent, who are teaching in New Zealand.
With the couple that looked at you with a shocked look on their face I would have turned to my husband at point at them with the same look of surprise. For the man who called you the N word after asking for money...I would have told him at least I'm a person who doesn't have to beg for money. It seems like it would be hard to feel superior to someone when you're begging for money. 🤦🏾♀️
I'm African in Australia, I've been stared at in white towns then later on treated like a celebrity because I "talk fancy" and cause I'm "educated" 😂😂😂
I'd stare at you because you're beautiful. And I'm older, I probably wouldn't be shy ~ I would most likely walk right up to you and say hello 😁 I love the way you pronounce Aotearoa ❤ It's late, but Welcome, haere mai ❤
I lived in NZ as a black person for 11 years. Wellington was the place I mostly felt at home, never experienced racism there, everyone was very friendly and I hardly got stared at. I found Wellingtonians more open minded and more welcoming. When I lived in Auckland and visited the South Island I got a lot of stares there, but I always stared back at the people and they would look elsewhere lol.
I have not been to Wellington yet, its on my list though. We wanted to go there 2 months ago, but with lockdown we could not. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch my vlog 🙂
Europeon kiwi here, i was born in Russia but lived in NZ since 1 year old, I can say people are just curious, They want to ask questions but aren't sure how to approach you, you'll be ok brother, take care
Hahaha I dont think so, but I'll take the compliment, its an ego boost haha. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch my vlog and commenting, it's really appreciated.
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 okay maybe it was just us. Lol But yeah we don’t care what nationality you are, to some of us it’s just the norm. But yes there are some, just like other countries, that just stare
Im in a process of moving to new Zealand from south Africa, trust me I don't care about what people will say or stare or whatever. Living in south Africa is a hell. I can sacrifice being stared or called names which to be honest rare in NZ just to get away from high crimes, poverty, corrupt government and all that. New Zealand will be my new home. A place where I will be raising my daughter
So sorry you've been through these awkward-racists moments. I'm searching for places where I can live better, and racism is one of my major topics, so your video helped me a lot!
Any foreigner coming to Aotearoa, this is one of the things you need to watch for ...... if a person raises their eyebrows to you they're saying "Hi", just raise your eyebrows back or smile. If people stare without raised eyebrows, smile and wave at them if they're sincere they'll smile or wave back if not you're not missing anyone important. The "N" word turn and look directly at them and reply, "mmm I'm beautiful to, unlike the ugly person I'm looking at" LOL. That man watching you while shopping is something tangata whenua experience, something I have experienced turn around and look directly at him and ask, "do you want something bro"? He will be very surprised and slightly dumbfounded at first, I have proceeded with, "bae you've been following me.......[this day, that day] what the hell do you want"? Wait for their reply even though you know it's not going to happen, last reply, "can you buggar off and leave me alone before I make a complaint about you". And purposely look at his name badge and say his name. LOL
alot of Kiwis are stand off people but once they get to know you they will greet you like you are a family member but there are those ignorant people who judge people on looks alone but most people will say hello or Kia Ora ...........
Cuzzy, when us Polynesians stay in the sun too long... watch us go dark as bro. My great grandparents were darker than you my bro. I'm a half baked Maori but if I get in the sun often I easily tan and eventually darken up. Welcome to Aotearoa. ❤
It would be a VERY small percentage of people that would treat you negatively because of the colour of your skin. Most people stare out of curiosity, not hate. It isn't nice to stare, and clearly they have no manners or consciousness of their actions, however, not hate-based. If someone was racist to you, people will step in/speak up. When people look/stare it could be because they are admiring the person. It's up to us to change how we think about people looking at us and talking etc etc. If we THINK they're saying something negative, that's OUR thoughts only. So, change your thoughts to something positive and how you feel about situations becomes positive too. For all we know, the stares he received may have had nothing to do with racism, but instead they didn't agree/like his clothing, or they could be bigots who are homophobes (unfortunately they can be found everywhere in the world!).
Kia Ora Raphy, I'm disappointed with your experiences with some of our Canadian mates. We hold so many similar values. Consider joining our whanau, diversity makes for a more interesting life and friends. I'd love to learn more about the DRC.
😉 When you said that the first thing that struck you was the stairs I thought it was because you have elevators and escalators in your last country! :-). I’m sorry you had negative experiences, in rural New Zealand and smaller cities people are used to Polynesian and Māori, as you note, not many black people. There are also some funny attitudes to gay people for some. Any road up don’t worry about the dropkicks and focus on the good people, I recon they are the majority. Kia Ora
Thank you son much for taking the time to watch my vlog and commenting, its greatly appreciated. Just a few bad experiences but all in all I am having a wonderful time in NZ.
Wellington is really nice and people are very accepting of other cultures. Auckland is ok too. Invercargill and Christchurch are quite racist. It’s better than it was but sadly there are some old school attitudes down there from the times of “white New Zealand”.
Kia ora Raphy, welcome I hope you are in great health and are still enjoying your life here since this video. Reach out anytime if you would like to connect with a friendly indigenous Kiwi local.
Before the video starts I just wanna say; New Zealand is not perfect, racism exists here still sadly but if comparing to other country’s New Zealand is a safe haven. The worse u get here is some ignorant kids who don’t know better or some old person who hasn’t changed from the 60s era so still hold hostility/racism. Most Maori are pretty culturally accepting as our culture has been accepted with pride in our nation by all ethnicities, most kiwis stand up to racism as we take pride in being an accepting nation. I have one fact tho soith island has allot more racism then north island but it’s very minor in comparison to the rest of the world. Sorry if you have had any bad experiences here bro, we strive to be better and I’m happy you appreciate our county. Kia kaha bro
The Coromandel situation is unfortunately a very common thing in smaller white majority towns. They are very conservative so stare if you are disabled, if you are gay and proud about it, are a different race. I feel like a decent smaller town is Whakatane if you want to visit, or for cities Christchurch and Wellington are the most open to different sexualities, races and disabilities.
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 I live in Christchurch, I hope you enjoy your stay when you get down here. Get up to Kaikoura and Nelson if you can and a trip down the west coast is always worthwhile. Dunedin, for its heritage, Queenstown (for obvious reasons) and Invercargill are also worth a visit.
I was in Christchurch last week and it was so nice, I made a vlog abt it if ever you want to see. Last year I went to Dunedin, it was really beautiful too.
I live in nz and am a middle aged white woman and have also had the same experience in the supermarket, was weird so duno maybe there are just weird shop assistants out there lol i just kept going but if felt very uncomfortable at the time.
Glad you enjoyed the beautiful Coromandel but sorry to hear about the shitty people in Thames Paknsave! There's a few people with some screws loose around town so you probably ran into some of them. As for the stares-as other people have said, a lot of it is probably general curiousity and shyness. People can be weird when interacting with cultures they are not familiar with 😅
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 I got friends in New Zealand so how bad is racism how to treat black people compared to America will you move out of New Zealand
you are an amazing handsome guy with a beautiful character chin up don't worry there are good and bad people in any group of people black and white alike it shouldn't put you off rnjoy your life I NEW ZEALAND and stay safe
You have got the wrong idea mate! NZers, unlike people in other countries, are interested in others. 99% of people aren’t staring, they just look. Don’t look for disapproval and don’t read thoughts in other people’s looks, we are just interested. Sorry about the people who gave you the n word, that’s horrible, but that’s their problem, not yours.
I say come out to the ppl you mostly trust. Not everyone needs to know! When you'll feel comfortable in your skin and with who you are, then you won't care. I guess it also depends where you are or where you live.
@@krishnabhati754 omg how stupid am I 😳 I am so sorry! Yeah you can, it depends in your qualifications. Go look on www.immigration.govt.nz/new-zealand-visas
Hey so a few places to visit Waikato, Coromandel, Rotorua, Wellington, Hamilton garden of the ones I remember. If you look at my old vlogs, you'll see more places I visited :D
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 thank you for your insight I'm sorry for my people's behaviour. my people are cololinised and forget solidarity and such things. You are welcome here and I appreciate you. I hope you have a very nice christmas and happy new years :)
They stare because they are curios and you are handsome. They want to talk to you bro. NZ is diverse so no shock to see a black man. They are normally athletes basketballers etc. Relax you’re fine don’t read too much into anything and enjoy Aotearoa
Thank you so much, so kind of you! And thank you for taking the time to watch and comment. If ever you want, you can watch my other vlog and subscribe if you like.
Thank you for watching my channel, well we have to be careful, just like in any countries they will always be bad apples. Knowing they are some racists in Aotearoa does not mean everyone is racist in Aotearoa. I was called the n word 2 times here, but I know that they dont represent all kiwis. I wish you a wonderful week!
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 My friend don't worried about the people who missjudge you because of the colour of your skins dont worry be happy if you see me around Auckland say hi to me and don't worried about the world either focus on your happiness brother and remember to thank god the king of the universe and king of everything you will be surprised if you travel arould plus brother go to nightmarket it amazing place lot of good people bro anyway god bless you brother you 🤗
@Derrick Jensenmy friend you see we are not like the world but our culture is different that why the world is so attractive to this peacefull nations and it alliance with Australia and when you beome a citizens of New Zealand you can travel to Australia without a permanant visa it already entitled to pernant resident and what great about New Zealand that it help's many small islands like cook island and others fijian nuewee tahiti and tuvalu and samoa and many more islands and also Australian do support the islands of the Pacific nations we are all different people and a peacefull nations but in America i understand the circumstances of what happen to your people because of black racial profiling and even white people use their white privilege to get what they want because of the dicrimination of the people but here you are safe and peacefull place for god does look after this country and bless it it will not go to waste so yeah my friend enjoy your time meet new people plus if you want me to meet for the youtube channel and i can come and join i am a youtube channel as well anuway have a great weeks my friend dont worry about what happen focua on the things that matter most in your life bro
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 had alot of african friends. they've never experienced racism, kiwi's just love taking the mickey out of people who come from al over the world
wrong! Our sovereignty documents say Nui Tireni. And as English isn't an Official Language and Te Reo Māori is, then Aotearoa or any other Te Reo name, is correct. White men don't dictate the name of these motu, International Law does. He Whakaputanga stands.
They do have barbers, I guess if you go to a Maori or Samoan's barber, it would be easier for a black person to get their hair cut. I cut my own hair so I would not know.
awwwe this kiwi try to pick your accent... The stares is not necessarily racism ... some might be to a little, but alot is most likely out curiosity. In general kiwis are pretty shy and (though some aren't lol) The other thing here is not every on is open being gay etc... so some of the stares could also be about that not the racism card... But being called the "N word" yeah that is ... sorry from this kiwi... However don't get me wrong there is racism here... and I have watched it grow more and more over the last 30 years... and that saddens me...
Thank you for sharing your experiences in quite a balanced way. Really informative and realistic. I am South African thinking of moving to NZ. Most of the videos I have watched of expats in NZ are by white people- it is refreshing and helpful to hear from a fellow black brother!
I'm glad you liked the vlog and you found it helpful 😊
Have you moved to NZ? How is you experience like?
Have u moved to New Zealand yet?
You are very welcome friend. Don't worry about the white s in this country. They can only go so far .we got them under control lol 😆 😂 🤣 every now again they get out of control. But we put them in there place. When things get out of hand .this country is cultures and all cultures are welcome.
Kia ora hello from Aotearoa new zealand hope you are well. Did you make it here? If yes Welcome if not why not?
I'm black and i received looks and stares too, but i found out later that they are mostly curious and super shy to come and approach you. Like seriously once you start a conversation with anyone you realize how sweet most kiwis are, for example there was a woman who used to stare at me alot and a few months later we got into a social gathering and discovered that she was dying inside to compliment my hair and ask me about my heritage, she just looked uncomfortable and couldn't find the right way to start a conversation, and later she invited me to her house and we became really good friends. I see that alot. Some are really really shy and don't know how to approach others.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch my vlog.
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 im planning to relocate to Newzealand.... i came across your vlog
@@Kaufman_zw awesome! I hope my vlog helped you a bit
But did you beat
After living in NZ for 15 yrs you start to get sick of the starting especially when there's too many dark skin people here so I don't understand why they stare.
Your algud my brother. Trust me im Maori and I can tell you most kiwis are just curious NOT racist at all. All countries have bad people but 95% most people in my country are genuinely friendly.
I am a black girl living in Dunedin New Zealand. I lived in NZ for the past two years. I never ever ever felt any sense of racism. They are super lovely, friendly sweet people. I myself stare at black people because we are so small in number so it is kindda surprising to see other black people around. That is probably why we get some of the stares.
Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment and I'm super glad your experiences in Aotearoa have been nothing but wonderful. In my vlog I did talk about how some are surprised because we represent less than 1% in the country. I also believe that talking about racism does not take anything away from Aotearoa. I was called the n word, but still believe that those people do not represent all of the Kiwis in the country.
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 That is true. Thanks for taking time to express that.
Hello Netsnanet. I'm planning to come New Zealand. Any advice? I'm from Home Country, Ethiopia 🥰
NZ has so many black people including Indians I don't know why they stare I been here for 15 years it gets annoying especially when I always wore my hair straightBLK people aren't just African there's BLK indian BLK Asians blk islanders so it's not different to see black people.... Unless you are talking about Africans that's a different story. Still Africans are BLK and don't understand why we get stares when people are used to seeing dark skin people. They are just racist and judgmental. Do you have any kiwi friends ??? Do you interact with your neighbours who's whyt?? I bet not cuz kiwis like to keep to themselves and with their own people. So ya there's racism here
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 The only time I have heard anyone use that word here in New Zealand and mean it as an attack, was a number of years ago now. I was waiting at the main bus station in Auckland, it was full daylight, hundreds of people around, and a young woman who had a baby in a pram, was waiting for the same bus talking to an older woman of maybe about 50 years. The young woman was "Black", like, from Africa, the older woman was Tongan. They were happily talking about the baby, and a guy walked up, with an angry face, looked at the baby, and started to say a lot of racist rubbish at the African girl, including the n word. He was deliberately being hateful, he must have been mentally ill or something.
Everyone started to tell him off, me an another couple of guys started forward to intervene, the guy raised his fist . . this all happened like in seconds . . . if he had hit the woman he would have been torn apart, but he never got the chance to do more than raise his fist.
With the most APPALLING force and no warning at all that it was coming the Tongan woman slapped his face. He shot off his feet and hit the guy who was coming up behind him, who kind of toppled him forward and as he fell the old Tongan lady grabbed him by the hair and HELD HIM FROM HITTING THE GROUND WITH ONE HAND !. Mighty Tonga ! Old Lady Strength means something when it is tied to 100 kgs of Tonga
A couple of us grabbed the guy and forced him away to the main road and told him to F off. I walked back and everyone was still telling the ladies how sorry they were and that, and I walked up to the Tongan lady and shook her hand and told her how happy that mighty blow had made me feel. she was actually upset with herself for doing it, but we were all proud of her. I sincerely doubt I could deliver as powerful a blow now that I am old, I COULD have done it in my prime but I wouldn't have wanted to TAKE a big open palm from her, even when I was a young guy.
They were staring at you thinking what a handsome man, and with such a beautiful smile.
Maori here welcome to aotearoa bro .
Hi Raphy. I really admire your courage and honesty about your experiences in Aotearoa NZ. I'm sorry some of those experiences have been negative. As a very Pakeha (white-skinned) South Island Kiwi I must admit as a young person I stared the first couple of times I saw a black person simply because it was so unexpected and unfamiliar, and I didn't know how to react appropriately. Over my lifetime using appropriate cultural behaviour has become a sensitive, and very much prevalent and growing trend in NZ. I feel very embarrassed about my reaction to seeing black people for the first time in hindsight and am glad to see NZ become more diverse in all the different ways possible. I like to think NZ is a country that welcomes and encourages people to be true to themselves and their respective cultural heritage, and that one day we truly will be a 'melting pot' country. Fortunately we are all becoming more acclimatized to that diversity and many now know as long as you start with a smile and a friendly greeting, much cultural awkwardness is forgivable and that it is perfectly OK to ask for guidance or to be corrected. No doubt one day I may travel somewhere where I will be the one with the skin hue that shows up in a crowd, and I hope that I can be as gracious as you to the reactions I may encounter. By the way, I may be old enough to probably be your mother but I have to agree with one of the other comment posts, you are a very good-looking and lovely natured chap and your character as it comes through your post just enhances that impression. Your husband is a very lucky man!
I love NZ and am extremely grateful to be living here! 😊❤ thank you so much for watching my vlog and commenting and thank you for the compliment my ego is getting a boost 😊 ☺ 😀.... I visited the South Island 2 weeks ago and loved it over there, it was my second in the South Island.
Thanks for sharing this. My wife, who is black, moved here from the UK nearly three years ago so It's useful to compare your experiences with hers.
Thank you so much for watching the vlog
Hi bro, if people are staring at you, not all of it is racial, majority of people are just curious, and some are shy, just don't know how to approach you to start a conversation anyway give it time, welcome to nz bro, takecare and wish you all the best in little ol'e Nz
Thank you for watching!
I have to agree M6T4u, I do exactly that but unsure how to approach the person in case I am perceived by that person as disrespectful or make that person uncomfortable. And like you M6 welcome to Aotearoa Raphy.
I feel like I know I can't relate to you but myself am islander do get stares too it heaps alot, you just have to build confidence and just smile and ignore trust me once you get use to living in nz you will be more comfortable.
you absolutely NAILED the stare! i moved to NZ in December last year with my family, and we're living in Napier right now and because there's almost no black people here in Napier apart from my family, the amount of stares i've gotten is insane! the amount of times i've been called the n-word by kids in my class too is even more disheartening. we're hoping to go to Auckland soon, though, because there's definitely more black people there so i think we'd be more comfortable here :) i hope you're good bro, and that the racism is getting better for you.
I'm so sorry to hear that, it really is disheartening. I hope you can come to Auckland, they are a bit more black people, but you do get the stares.
Dont stop at auckland go back to usa no loss
There is NO malice behind those stares. You're being racial taunted at school? This is something you should take up with your teacher. It's unfortunate you should have to deal with this at school.
@@boniglower1168 i'm not from the United States, but thanks for your suggestion.
@@ngatibroffessor1840 it's alright. i've spoken to another person from my country that lives here too, and they advised me not to speak up when you're being taunted because they are having an even harder time now. so i've just decided to just keep focused on school, and figure it out after graduation. but thank you, i appreciate the advice.
Your experience getting out the plane the first time in NZ was exactly what I experienced the first time.
Its a nice experience that fresh air right🙂. Thank you so much for watching my vlog!
The stares are insane especially from folks in their cars. I have learnt to ignore it
Me honestly I'm learning to ignore the statre.... the first few times were intense though lol
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654my wife has been on a mission to meet up with other Africans. We recently moved to Auckland this year. If you know any African events please keep in touch.
@@NyashaM yeah for sure!
My wife and I went to China for our honeymoon and everyone wanted to take our photo or be in photos with us so I know what you mean.
Smile and wave out to them bro 😊 you'll know for sure if they are sincere they'll wave back or smile, if not they're not worth worrying about.
I am so sorry for the people who stare and make you uncomfortable. I think you're lovely. Ignore ignorance. From a kiwi.
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I'm sorry to hear if you and the people that have commented on your page have had bad experiences in Aotearoa (NZ). I think that you get predominately two types of people in our country where black people are concerned on first encounters. Those that have a curiosity about black people and those that are ignorant. Unfortunately, both types of people will stare. Being called the N-word is completely unacceptable. If people took that time to get to know other ethnicities, they would see that we aren't too different from one another. And if we are, there are usually a few common factors. I hope all your experiences improve in our country.
Do not worry I love it here even though I was called the n word two times. Thank you for watching the vlog!
Quite right. The ignorant New Zealanders don't even know that Africa is a Continent with over 60 countries. They think all the people who come from African countries, live in kraals, have no taps and toilets, and that the women and men wear sheep skin clothes. 🤣That tigers, lions and other wild animals roam around in the streets.😂😂 They could not read world maps. I took a world map to school, as I am a teacher, and showed them how big the African Continent is with all the different countries. I also told them about the gold, diamonds, copper and valuable natural resources that the countries on the African countries have. Their geographical knowledge of the world is disastrous! Thank God for all the qualified teachers who immigrated from countries on the African Continent, who are teaching in New Zealand.
Kia ora whanau (hello family) just a MAORI SHARING LOVE 😊😊
Kia ora! Kia mihi whanau... I hope I made sense thank you for the love.
With the couple that looked at you with a shocked look on their face I would have turned to my husband at point at them with the same look of surprise.
For the man who called you the N word after asking for money...I would have told him at least I'm a person who doesn't have to beg for money.
It seems like it would be hard to feel superior to someone when you're begging for money. 🤦🏾♀️
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch my vlog and commenting...... Now I'm telling myself why did I not do that lol
I'm African in Australia, I've been stared at in white towns then later on treated like a celebrity because I "talk fancy" and cause I'm "educated" 😂😂😂
Oh wow 😳🤣
When these Kiwis stare at you do they raise their eyebrows also???
I'd stare at you because you're beautiful. And I'm older, I probably wouldn't be shy ~ I would most likely walk right up to you and say hello 😁
I love the way you pronounce Aotearoa ❤
It's late, but Welcome, haere mai ❤
I lived in NZ as a black person for 11 years. Wellington was the place I mostly felt at home, never experienced racism there, everyone was very friendly and I hardly got stared at. I found Wellingtonians more open minded and more welcoming. When I lived in Auckland and visited the South Island I got a lot of stares there, but I always stared back at the people and they would look elsewhere lol.
I have not been to Wellington yet, its on my list though. We wanted to go there 2 months ago, but with lockdown we could not. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch my vlog 🙂
Europeon kiwi here, i was born in Russia but lived in NZ since 1 year old, I can say people are just curious, They want to ask questions but aren't sure how to approach you, you'll be ok brother, take care
Oh I remember you, my friends, girls and a guy stared at you because your a good looking black guy lol 😍👍🏼
Hahaha I dont think so, but I'll take the compliment, its an ego boost haha. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch my vlog and commenting, it's really appreciated.
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 okay maybe it was just us. Lol But yeah we don’t care what nationality you are, to some of us it’s just the norm. But yes there are some, just like other countries, that just stare
Im in a process of moving to new Zealand from south Africa, trust me I don't care about what people will say or stare or whatever. Living in south Africa is a hell. I can sacrifice being stared or called names which to be honest rare in NZ just to get away from high crimes, poverty, corrupt government and all that. New Zealand will be my new home. A place where I will be raising my daughter
May your journey be safe and may you find peace & harmony
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Thank you brother
@@coreypack4120 why though, and where do you wanna go?
welcome!!
So sorry you've been through these awkward-racists moments. I'm searching for places where I can live better, and racism is one of my major topics, so your video helped me a lot!
I'm glad it helped. All in all I love it here in New Zealand.
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 Thank you so much!
Any foreigner coming to Aotearoa, this is one of the things you need to watch for ...... if a person raises their eyebrows to you they're saying "Hi", just raise your eyebrows back or smile. If people stare without raised eyebrows, smile and wave at them if they're sincere they'll smile or wave back if not you're not missing anyone important. The "N" word turn and look directly at them and reply, "mmm I'm beautiful to, unlike the ugly person I'm looking at" LOL. That man watching you while shopping is something tangata whenua experience, something I have experienced turn around and look directly at him and ask, "do you want something bro"? He will be very surprised and slightly dumbfounded at first, I have proceeded with, "bae you've been following me.......[this day, that day] what the hell do you want"? Wait for their reply even though you know it's not going to happen, last reply, "can you buggar off and leave me alone before I make a complaint about you". And purposely look at his name badge and say his name. LOL
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch the vlog and commenting, greatly appreciated much love 🥰
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 you are welcome thank you for the post have a blessed weekend 🥰
alot of Kiwis are stand off people but once they get to know you they will greet you like you are a family member but there are those ignorant people who judge people on looks alone but most people will say hello or Kia Ora ...........
Probably staring at you because you are extremely handsome.
Cuzzy, when us Polynesians stay in the sun too long... watch us go dark as bro. My great grandparents were darker than you my bro. I'm a half baked Maori but if I get in the sun often I easily tan and eventually darken up. Welcome to Aotearoa. ❤
I wanna study and discover this beautiful country but it’s scary to think some people might get angry because of the color of my skin
It would be a VERY small percentage of people that would treat you negatively because of the colour of your skin. Most people stare out of curiosity, not hate. It isn't nice to stare, and clearly they have no manners or consciousness of their actions, however, not hate-based. If someone was racist to you, people will step in/speak up.
When people look/stare it could be because they are admiring the person. It's up to us to change how we think about people looking at us and talking etc etc. If we THINK they're saying something negative, that's OUR thoughts only. So, change your thoughts to something positive and how you feel about situations becomes positive too.
For all we know, the stares he received may have had nothing to do with racism, but instead they didn't agree/like his clothing, or they could be bigots who are homophobes (unfortunately they can be found everywhere in the world!).
You're absolutely handsome!!!
Love from Brazil 💚💛🇧🇷🇧🇷
Thank you so much for the compliment! I'm flattered
Your cool bro I hope to visit new Zealand one day coming straight from 🇹🇹
Thank you for watching! And yes if you can! come visit New Zealand it's a beautiful country.
Kia Ora Raphy, I'm disappointed with your experiences with some of our Canadian mates. We hold so many similar values. Consider joining our whanau, diversity makes for a more interesting life and friends. I'd love to learn more about the DRC.
Love NZ I am returning sometime soon. Thank you for commenting & watching.
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 Let me know when, I'm in Christchurch, maybe able to meet for a beer. Cheers Francis
I’m here in Dubai and wanted to come to New Zealand but I want to go back to my home country after getting New Zealand visa so how can I come???
Sup. Just flip those starers the bird bro algoods lol. Enjoy your stay🤙
Lol oh no I would not flip the starers, most of the time I know it's out of curiosity.
😉 When you said that the first thing that struck you was the stairs I thought it was because you have elevators and escalators in your last country! :-). I’m sorry you had negative experiences, in rural New Zealand and smaller cities people are used to Polynesian and Māori, as you note, not many black people. There are also some funny attitudes to gay people for some. Any road up don’t worry about the dropkicks and focus on the good people, I recon they are the majority. Kia Ora
Thank you son much for taking the time to watch my vlog and commenting, its greatly appreciated. Just a few bad experiences but all in all I am having a wonderful time in NZ.
Nice video brother much love from christchurch 👍
Thank you for watching!
Tbh have you thought that people look at you because you're a beautiful man and quite unique
Awww thank you for the compliment I got an ego boost hahaha 😁😁😁😁 but I don't think so lol
Wellington is really nice and people are very accepting of other cultures. Auckland is ok too. Invercargill and Christchurch are quite racist. It’s better than it was but sadly there are some old school attitudes down there from the times of “white New Zealand”.
I relate to the celebrating small victories. Im trying each day to do that... Happy Pride LIFE 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
I'm trying to do that to be honest, I'm starting to see the importance of doing that.
Kia ora Raphy, welcome I hope you are in great health and are still enjoying your life here since this video. Reach out anytime if you would like to connect with a friendly indigenous Kiwi local.
Thank you for watching and commenting on my vlog. I'm in love with Aotearoa, such a beautiful country.
Before the video starts I just wanna say; New Zealand is not perfect, racism exists here still sadly but if comparing to other country’s New Zealand is a safe haven. The worse u get here is some ignorant kids who don’t know better or some old person who hasn’t changed from the 60s era so still hold hostility/racism. Most Maori are pretty culturally accepting as our culture has been accepted with pride in our nation by all ethnicities, most kiwis stand up to racism as we take pride in being an accepting nation. I have one fact tho soith island has allot more racism then north island but it’s very minor in comparison to the rest of the world. Sorry if you have had any bad experiences here bro, we strive to be better and I’m happy you appreciate our county. Kia kaha bro
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The Coromandel situation is unfortunately a very common thing in smaller white majority towns. They are very conservative so stare if you are disabled, if you are gay and proud about it, are a different race.
I feel like a decent smaller town is Whakatane if you want to visit, or for cities Christchurch and Wellington are the most open to different sexualities, races and disabilities.
I should visit Whakatane and Im going to go to Christchurch soon.Thank you for taking the time to watch my video.
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 I live in Christchurch, I hope you enjoy your stay when you get down here. Get up to Kaikoura and Nelson if you can and a trip down the west coast is always worthwhile. Dunedin, for its heritage, Queenstown (for obvious reasons) and Invercargill are also worth a visit.
I was in Christchurch last week and it was so nice, I made a vlog abt it if ever you want to see. Last year I went to Dunedin, it was really beautiful too.
Also thank you for taking the time to watch and comment this vlog. Really appreciated 🙏
So sorry you were called a horrible racial slur. I pray all is well now.
I live in nz and am a middle aged white woman and have also had the same experience in the supermarket, was weird so duno maybe there are just weird shop assistants out there lol i just kept going but if felt very uncomfortable at the time.
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Sorry for those horrible experiences bro. I am a fellow African currently living in Japan. Please hoe can I come over to new Zealand easily?
your audio is very low, ive even connected you on my home theater and i can hear you
Thank you for the feedback
Hey Raphael! Greetings from California. Please do a 'Meet My Husband Video' Thanks!
I would love to! my husband is a bit camera shy though so I can't promise lol thank you for watching!!!
Video has very low volume
Thank you for the feedback!
And like how much will I make per month as a factory worker in new zealand
Hi,
Thanks for sharing, please what country are you from originally??
Hey thank you for watching I'm from Congo
Glad you enjoyed the beautiful Coromandel but sorry to hear about the shitty people in Thames Paknsave! There's a few people with some screws loose around town so you probably ran into some of them.
As for the stares-as other people have said, a lot of it is probably general curiousity and shyness. People can be weird when interacting with cultures they are not familiar with 😅
Haha thank you for taking the time to comment and watch my vlog 😀
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 I got friends in New Zealand so how bad is racism how to treat black people compared to America will you move out of New Zealand
you can make a submission against Seymour bill b4 the 7/1/25
you are an amazing handsome guy with a beautiful character chin up don't worry there are good and bad people in any group of people black and white alike it shouldn't put you off rnjoy your life I NEW ZEALAND and stay safe
Hey Vaele
You are a kind and lovely looking person. Think that is more the reason people look at you. Xx
Thank you for the compliment ☺
HE WOULD'VE CAUGHT A LEFT HOOK TO THE JAW
You have got the wrong idea mate! NZers, unlike people in other countries, are interested in others. 99% of people aren’t staring, they just look. Don’t look for disapproval and don’t read thoughts in other people’s looks, we are just interested. Sorry about the people who gave you the n word, that’s horrible, but that’s their problem, not yours.
how can i apply for the new zealande visa
I want to work and come out . What to do?
I say come out to the ppl you mostly trust. Not everyone needs to know! When you'll feel comfortable in your skin and with who you are, then you won't care. I guess it also depends where you are or where you live.
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 no no raphy I don't have that issue.. I was asking you the procedure. Can I directly apply for job from India?
@@krishnabhati754 omg how stupid am I 😳 I am so sorry! Yeah you can, it depends in your qualifications. Go look on www.immigration.govt.nz/new-zealand-visas
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 are you a student there or you do the job?
Hey, how are you? I'm thinking about visiting New Zealand soon, and I was wondering if you could show me around.
Hey when are you coming, if you don't mind I could make a few list for you to check out.
I want to come ASAP. And thank you for the list Im sure it will help.
Awesome! I'll look into my old travelling vlogs and make you a list of places to visit 😄
Hey so a few places to visit
Waikato, Coromandel, Rotorua, Wellington, Hamilton garden of the ones I remember. If you look at my old vlogs, you'll see more places I visited :D
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 Really ? Because I planning to study at Waikato University.
Can I live and work in new zealand as a black man ..do I feel safe at night
Yes you would be able to, and its a safe country!!! Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and comment
You are welcome my boss ...how much can I get a month as a casual worker who's working 40 hours a week
@@kellyham9213 it depends.
i love how he says Aotearoa
Thank you ❤️
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 thank you for your insight I'm sorry for my people's behaviour. my people are cololinised and forget solidarity and such things. You are welcome here and I appreciate you. I hope you have a very nice christmas and happy new years :)
@@fentonpene6131 I love New Zealand, love the ppl🥰
They stare because they are curios and you are handsome. They want to talk to you bro. NZ is diverse so no shock to see a black man. They are normally athletes basketballers etc. Relax you’re fine don’t read too much into anything and enjoy Aotearoa
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Please 🙏 I want to contact with you
You're very welcome in this country 😊 and please speak your own language we love it too 💕
Thank you so for watching my vlog and for commenting 💕
is that real?
Remember the stares from gay man to straight man can be very very not confortable at all, my own experience!
just asking coz you said at one time you were with your husband
I heard that me too
Loving your energy sir
So kind,🔥💪💯
Thank you so much, so kind of you! And thank you for taking the time to watch and comment. If ever you want, you can watch my other vlog and subscribe if you like.
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I think people were staring at you as you are very handsome and exotic looking.
Thank you for the compliment 🙏🏿 😂 but I think it was more out curiosity 🤭...... But thank you 🥰
You nailed the stare 6:45
Hahaha
YOU'RE WAY TOO PASSIVE
Oh noooo I'm learning as time goes by to speak up lol but yeah I was a bit passive 😅
Can I have your email, I have some questions I want to ask you
no racist here in New Zealand bro it normal i live here in Auckland glad i found your channel wish you good weeks
Thank you for watching my channel, well we have to be careful, just like in any countries they will always be bad apples. Knowing they are some racists in Aotearoa does not mean everyone is racist in Aotearoa. I was called the n word 2 times here, but I know that they dont represent all kiwis. I wish you a wonderful week!
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 My friend don't worried about the people who missjudge you because of the colour of your skins dont worry be happy if you see me around Auckland say hi to me and don't worried about the world either focus on your happiness brother and remember to thank god the king of the universe and king of everything you will be surprised if you travel arould plus brother go to nightmarket it amazing place lot of good people bro anyway god bless you brother you 🤗
@Derrick Jensenmy friend you see we are not like the world but our culture is different that why the world is so attractive to this peacefull nations and it alliance with Australia and when you beome a citizens of New Zealand you can travel to Australia without a permanant visa it already entitled to pernant resident and what great about New Zealand that it help's many small islands like cook island and others fijian nuewee tahiti and tuvalu and samoa and many more islands and also Australian do support the islands of the Pacific nations we are all different people and a peacefull nations but in America i understand the circumstances of what happen to your people because of black racial profiling and even white people use their white privilege to get what they want because of the dicrimination of the people but here you are safe and peacefull place for god does look after this country and bless it it will not go to waste so yeah my friend enjoy your time meet new people plus if you want me to meet for the youtube channel and i can come and join i am a youtube channel as well anuway have a great weeks my friend dont worry about what happen focua on the things that matter most in your life bro
@@conversationswithmeraphy1654 had alot of african friends. they've never experienced racism, kiwi's just love taking the mickey out of people who come from al over the world
I'm planning to study in Waikato University, any advices? I'm from Africa 😊
Dude it was probably because you were with another guy bro
U don't look African 🤨🤨 honestly like seriously
I'm African more specifically from Congo.
It's not called Aotearoa mate It's called New Zealand so get your facts right
wrong! Our sovereignty documents say Nui Tireni. And as English isn't an Official Language and Te Reo Māori is, then Aotearoa or any other Te Reo name, is correct. White men don't dictate the name of these motu, International Law does. He Whakaputanga stands.
😬am sure it would be very hard at times
I mean it's just the stares..... Had one person call me the N word, apart from that I like living here!
Raphael Mukendi that actually cool 🤗
Rainbow family!❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Happy Pride month🥳😄
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Am in Liberia Monrovia how do I process my document to travel there can u help me plz thanks
Sadly nowadays NZ is closed to ppl due to Covid-19 but you can visit INZ website for more information.
great video
Thank you so much
Hey! Would you happen to have an Ig or email? Just have some questions
Hey you can add me on insta raph_mukendi
They must not have any barbers out there
They do have barbers, I guess if you go to a Maori or Samoan's barber, it would be easier for a black person to get their hair cut. I cut my own hair so I would not know.
I'm African dating a man from Neezealand lol
How are you liking New Zealand?
Get in with the islanders bro, they gotchu! Gross I hate people who sit and stare! I wouldve had your back for sure!
Thank you for commenting and watching the vlog.
Heyy...I was wondering if you have an Instagram account??
Yes I do....... raph_mukendi is my handle name on Instagram
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Hiii
Where are you living nz?
awwwe this kiwi try to pick your accent...
The stares is not necessarily racism ... some might be to a little, but alot is most likely out curiosity. In general kiwis are pretty shy and (though some aren't lol) The other thing here is not every on is open being gay etc... so some of the stares could also be about that not the racism card... But being called the "N word" yeah that is ... sorry from this kiwi...
However don't get me wrong there is racism here... and I have watched it grow more and more over the last 30 years... and that saddens me...
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Sammy sosa lookn ass boi
hi are you gay?
Yes I am gay
Its New Zealand