I once had a conversation with my Mom about this, saying how I want to wait until marriage to do that with a woman. My mom's response was "shouldn't you take a car for a test drive before regretting your choice?" My response was "A woman is not a car. It's God's word vs. yours." She immediately admitted defeat in that debate, choosing to respect what God wants. A conflict of views in my life was never settled so quickly😂
👏👏👏 well said. As a single Mom to a teenager boy, I raised him to wait. He truly believes in it. I on the other hand was not instructed this way although was kinda told to do so yet it was not modeled. Long story short... I chose the wrong person and had wonderful children with someone that is not God fearing. This led to letting go when my son was a child. Long story short… when you dedicate your beginning to God he will take care of the present moment as you give it to him as offering therefore ordering yours and your spouse’s step for the future. Keep it Godly. It is worth it and hey, you and your future wife are worth it.
Wow, I just realized how dehumanizing the "test a car" statement is. Like straight up. I already knew it was a bad argument but I never thought about how this argument kinda objectifies the person like they're some sort of machine only meant to give you sexual gratification and if it isn't working out you gotta return them to Amazon before that 30 day return window is over😅 funny enough you think progressivism would hate this considering that but at the same time how could they if sexuality is rampant?
What these girls fail to realize is: You wouldn't know the sex is "bad" if you have nothing to compare it to, and if you're with someone one you genuinely love; it won't ever be "bad" even if its unskilled.
That’s the perfect wording I was looking for. Just bc it’s unskilled at first doesn’t make it bad. Especially if you both are aiming to please one another.
Me and the wife waited until marriage. We both had to learn what each other liked. Who better to learn with than the love of your life?? Better than a complete stranger. Of all the reasons marriages failed I have never heard, “I wish my spouse had more sex with other people before me” as reason.
I do think that has been a reason for relationship failure, but not because it was legitimate but rather because (in particular with women) the person saying that probably had attachment issues that interfered with their ability to be fulfilled sexually that they then went and blamed on their partner having a “lack of sexual experience”
@@terranceramirez4816sometimes if a man has some really bad sexual experiences then that can crush his confidence and self esteem, but if you wait until marriage then that reduces so much of the anxiety as opposed to having sex with a random stranger. I couldn’t imagine trying to be intimate with a girl while wondering in the back of my mind if she has a STD. I wouldn’t be able to relax and enjoy the moment.
Unfortunately there are a lot of people these days who believe being promiscuous teaches people what they should know. So they can even look at not being sexually active as a bad thing because then people don’t have the experience they supposedly should have.
If I could go back in time, I’d stop myself from seeing porn for the first time at 8 and I’d stop myself from losing my virginity at 16. Regret both of those decisions.
Thank God that he gave us his son to die for our sins so that we can be forgiven. As long as we truly repent and turn away from that sin, we do not need to beat ourselves about it forever.
Same I'm a Christian but always try to think from different perspectives and even if i wasn't I'd probably still wait because if my very shy/introverted personality plus its romantic only being with 1 person
Yup. Not to mention, there are scientific reasons to wait as well. Studies have shown that premarital, promiscuous sex results in higher risks in STDs and cancers, higher rates of depression and suicide, and higher rates of unplanned pregnancies leading to abortions many women and even men regret.
I'm an atheist and I had no problem using waiting as a strategy. It filters out the girls who aren't serious and aren't around for the right reasons. It should seem obvious, but I wouldn't waste my time with anyone who wasn't a virgin, too. From my perspective, the car shibboleth is just degenerate propaganda for demoralization. I take a hard moral stance of "action must be justified" instead of "not doing something must be justified" and it is why I don't drink or do drugs, either. I think various religions have caught on to these concepts because they work, but they don't go far enough for my standards. I think, for example, drinking wine cannot be justified because it is bad for your brain in any amount, proportional to how much you drink.
My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night and don’t regret at all. No previous baggage and we had definitely had to learn what we do and don’t like but marital intimacy is just a beautiful gift from God. Sex and intimacy should be treated as such and when it is, it’s truly amazing. You get to learn each other’s body, communicate and intentionally seek to know what you can do to please each other. There was also no pressure from either of us to not wait and just do it. We both wanted to wait because we wanted to glorify God in the marriage bed. It’s been 2 years and God also blessed us with a baby boy. God is good!!!
Amen, same. Lord willing, one's marriage will offer many decades of time to learn and grow closer in that way (and many others) over your life together!
I've grown in my faith in Christ and I can say I 100% percent regret not waiting and never thought I'd feel this way but jealous (in a good way) of people who are virgins and waited til marriage, God bless you and your Union
I waited. My husband tried to wait, but failed, and was happy to wait for me. However, He brought so much more sexual baggage into our marriage than I did. It took him decades to fully sort and heal completely. I really want to urge anyone considering whether to wait - WAIT! Please wait.
How did you handle a man who had so much sexual baggage? How did his sexual baggage affect you? And how were you able to work with someone who was struggling and still healing from his sexual baggages without it affecting you too?
@baryl3969 it did affect me. And the answer to the rest of your questions would depend on the decade. We have been married 25 years now. The short answer is, I spent a lot of time consulting with God.
@@rachelrasmussen1101thank you for the honesty. Considering all the turmoil you went through in your relationship, would you recommend a woman to marry a man with sexual baggages and is still sorting through them? How did God help you? Did you think it was gonna be a struggle before you married him? Knowing all that you went through, would you NOW 25 years in, decide never to marry the person if you had known how difficult his sexual baggages would be in your relationship? Perhaps I am asking because as a single woman, I want to know if it’s better to marry a man with no sexual baggage and do without all the psychological baggages from his sexual past. But if God has shown you it’s the person He has handpicked for you but I have free will, would I still want to choose such a man who did have a sexual past and is still trying to heal.
Everyone that has sex outside of marriage does not have sexual baggage I know I do not. It’s more so a toss up. Glory be to God that he healed that part of your marriage. ❤
@baryl3969 I would NEVER try to give you advice on this subject. I can only answer for myself. I'm only here because I chose to stand by God and my husband ultimately decided to do the same. I am currently very very happily married, and by God's grace, my husband would say the same. But I wasn't in charge of his choices, and was given no guarantees.
Ughhh I hate when they say " if you are on your honeymoon and it sucks. " That's not what it's about! Its about 2 people loving each other and the sex is a reflection of that love. Ridiculous.
People don’t know how to love anymore. Attachment issues are rampant nowadays thanks to divorce/unwed relationships creating abandoned children and hardass parents creating avoidant children. 🤪
And the funny thing about that is if you have nothing to compare it to, it doesn't suck 😂. I look back on my honeymoon now and realize how unskilled we were, but I now have 13 years of marriage and intimacy to compare it with. In the moment, we were just having fun and learning about each other and we thought it was great! That's the beauty of waiting! You don't even know it wasn't great sex until after years of marriage when the sex gets really really good lol. But it's all about the journey!
Absolutely INSANE how degenerate society has become 😭😭 Growing up (as someone who's waiting for marriage) I witnessed so many girls getting torn apart because they were sleeping with guys. Some got pregnant and struggled to raise the child, one had an abortion and it broke her heart, others were used and discarded, many were lied to by guys who just wanted to take their virginity, and one got an STD. But because I was waiting 1) it filtered out all the selfish players and meant the only guys I dated were serious and committed and cared about me as a person 2) I was protected from all the drama. If someone truly loves you (man or woman) they will wait 💗 Anyone who tries to push or bully you into sleeping with them is selfish.
Yeah as a teenage boy... Even though i am currently in the process of NoFap. I hate the idea of sex before marriage, I wish the best to avoid it at ALL cost. Sex is for marriage between a man and woman, period :D
@@SulfGenesis "Sex is for marriage between a man and a woman", so gay people can't marry each other and have a bonding relationship either? Well, that's unfortunate.
@@ScienceNerd3336Gay persons can't marry marriage is only between a man and a women it not that they can't but more so that it isn't actually possible.
@@kylemckinney_22 they can actually marry each other under legal marriages. Traditional marriages vs legal marriages. If that upsets you, then that’s your problem.
As 36 years old virgin women I’m glad I made this decision. I didn’t make this decision for anyone, I made it because I wanna to honor God in the first place. And to anyone out there who feels ashamed for this I’ll tell you Don’t.. God will honor your commitment to him. ☺️
What the heck are you doing for 36 years then You know your running out of time to have kids as well, your body wont allow you to have children unless you don't want any in the first place. And if this is also the case there's a chance you must be lying.
Take it from a 22 year old man who lost his virginity at 13, and slept with a few women through school because it was considered “cool”. It is not cool. At all. It takes a piece of your soul. Every ended relationship, every one night stand. Until you’re broken, shattered, and empty inside. Ad all the risk of STDs (praise Jesus I didn’t get one), and broken homes for your children. I highly encourage you to wait for your wife. Make sure she is in the Lord. Unequal yoke is a no go to. Been there. I have now finally healed from my experiences in Christ and now am waiting for when God grants me a wife. I just hope that I won’t compare or am tormented by my past every time I’m in bed with her. And that I will give her what I was made for. True Godly sacrificial love. All things are made new in Christ. I don’t care if she isn’t a virgin either. I just hope we will be new together. And Christ recognizes our union as pure and unadulterated.
Hey man, I'm 26 I know how it is. I've been addicted to adult material and gone to my fair share of adult clubs before I found faith. Nothing fruitful comes from it. All it's done for me is destroy my mind and now I've spent the last year fighting myself. It's all a vicious lie and one in all honesty I still sometimes think I wish was true, but I know that's the old me talking because every time since I've trusted God I see it bring me nothing but pain and regret. I worry constantly that if I am called to marriage that the state of my mind will cause problems for her. It is hard, terrible to feel alone and see others who *seem* happy, but it's a wonderful experience to know He's given you freedom.
That is why God created sex to be in the context and form of marriage. It was never something to be exploring outside of God/marriage. If both parties decided to wait, the term "bad sex" wouldn't be applicable because both the husband and the wife are unaware of how to go about it which is the beautiful part of saving yourself for God and marriage. This way you both can learn together, create memories together in the process, and overall grow together. In the Bible it says, "we are God's masterpiece, that we are His workmanship." He is the creator and we are His creation, therefore we have His DNA, His signature. When we have sex outside of marriage, what we are really doing is giving away God's signature (which is us) to others/the devil. We are taking the paintbrush out of God's hand and giving it to strangers to paint over God's original painting which is us. So the painting God initially created is now tainted because we decided to abuse our free will by not waiting on the Lord because we wanted to explore rather than be obedient. So now the artwork/painting the artist created is not the original and its value goes down because we are walking around with signatures of people/strangers instead of God's. So now the painting's value is depreciated and is not worth its original price because now we are living life and seeing ourselves through the eyes of another creation rather than the One who is the Creator. So we as His paintings (His creation) are getting STD's, pregnancies outside of marriage, soul ties, and many more things that God didn't want for us because it would pull us away from Him and taint our image. So God sent His son who is Jesus to die for us so we can have and do life through Him and be reconciled with God. He restored our value by paying the ultimate price with His life by dying a criminal's death on a cross due to us giving away the paintbrush. He died for our sins and rose 3 days later due to us being disobedient and exploring and diving into what isn't good. But the beauty is that for those that gave away the paintbrush, they can always run back to the painter (God) because what Jesus did on the cross repaints over your sins, mistakes, and mess because that's what He died for, so you're able to be free now. So God gave His son, and sex should be the same, it should be giving to your spouse. Yes receiving as well, but giving first because God first gave. As long as you do it God's way there's no such thing as bad sex because God deems it good in the context of marriage. It may not be the best at first, but that revelation will only come as time goes by because you won't know the difference between bad and good until you and your spouse learn and grow together in that area, but it's still good regardless because God is in it.
Also can't you like, talk during sex? Can't you tell, hopefully your spouse, what you like??? For a sex positive culture these people seem kinda clueless.
My wife and I both waited until marriage. And that is one thing that we are so proud of. Young ones out there reading this, it’s so worth the wait. You’ll have a connection with your wife that you don’t have with anyone else. And that’s so important in ways you won’t understand until your married
I did the whole hook up culture in college. I felt disgusted with myself every time but i somehow convinced myself that it was my christian upbringing causing me to feel that way. Nah, its just human nature.
I agree as even though I'm christan I still try to see things from other perspectives and I just don't see the appeal in hookup culture like sex with someone you don't know just doesn't sound appealing. I feel even if I wasn't a christan I would probably still wait for marriage or atleast for a serious relationship after a few months.
God bless you soldier of Christ. Brother, do NOT compromise no matter how much attraction you may feel for a woman. If she’s not committed to upholding God’s standard, she has to go. I pray God brings you a good, godly woman.
Well, the guy I was so attached to laughed in my face about getting married, not even talking about waiting till marriage. so yeah, it hurts a lot but I believe God is going to reward us.
@@kimberlyturner820We're out there. The sad thing is that most of us have the same feeling towards women too. It's just rare to see *anyone,* whether they're male or female, following the ways of God these days.
I am a 20 year old woman and i cant wait to save myself for marriage ❤❤ i am so excited to God willing someday find an amazing godly man who loves me and leads me through life. I only became Christian 2 years ago but I love being a member of God's flock ❤❤😊😊😄
@@ModelJames13 no I am lol, luckily I became Christian before I had the opportunity to sleep with someone. I guess I phrased that wrong but I just mean it in the way "I'm excited to be doing this"
I can speak from experience with this one. I've been married now for 9 years and in a relationship with my wife for 11.Neither my wife nor I were virgins when we met. In fact although we both professed faith in Christ we both were seeking sexual relationships at the time. Both due to brokenness and but we both knew we were not being consistent in acting out our faith. 9 years later there are things about that time in our lives that we still work through. There are pain points, hurt, brokenness that we have spent a large part of our marriage working through because of our sexual experiences outside of marriage. We both struggled with retroactive jealousy for different reasons. Ultimately we have come to forgive and accept and love each other for who we are but it would have been FAR better and easier if we only knew each other. We plan on teaching our children as they become age appropriate why its important to wait. Not just that they should wait. I have found that for everything that God has directly spoken on about sin and how we should live our lives the reasoning is far deeper than we could understand. Often its not until we already are knee deep in the hole we dug with our disobedience that we look up and realize, ah, this is why God said this. Trust me young people, wait for your spouse. It's worth it.
Sex feels so much better after marriage too. God made it a reward, but the most important thing I learned is before marriage, sex, etc, the Lord should be your number 1.
Same for me and my husband. We regret having sex before each other. It has created so many problems in our minds having those memories haunting us. It was difficult in the beginning on comparing ourselves.
Preach! Fiance and I have been together for 4.5 years. We met a later on into adulthood than either of us would have liked. And we weren't saved until well into adulthood either. That past history we each have has hurt our current relationship badly. If we could go back, we wouldn't have been with anybody prior to marriage. We would have loved to just be each other's one and only. We cannot undo what has been done, but by the grace and mercy of God we still have this opportunity to build a marriage and family with Christ as the foundation. And this period of abstinence we've had as a couple, submitting to the design the Lord intended, has been wonderful for building a deeper relationship that is tied to Christ, instead of tied to just the physical.
Thank you for sharing your truth and experiences with the rest of us who are waiting in faith and for those who are contemplating in submitting to the secular world and the Devil’s lies.
As a married man, let me tell you it's never going to be perfect the first time, or the second time either, necessarily. It takes work to grow in knowing how to give and receive that in a way that you both enjoy, and you are not the authority on what makes it good based on what you like or what makes it good for yourself. In a godly (marriage) relationship, you are to love your partner as Christ loved the church, who gave himself for her. So what I am saying is it's not just to get what you want, but to be a servant to the other. It's about both giving and receiving. I can also tell you that you are best to wait until marriage to give that to someone else, you only get to have that 'first' with one person and if it's not the person you end up married to, you have that with you for the rest of your life and it can affect your future relationship with your spouse, and your relationship with God. It's a dangerous road to have that connection with someone outside of marriage for your faith and your future marriage as well. Forget the temporal fleeting pleasure, it's actually poison and it will not be worth it in the long run. Be strong and very courageous and run the race with endurance. It's worth it to wait brothers.
The people following Jesus here are helping renew my faith. I’ve never met a guy who is ok with waiting or wants to wait and honour God and treat me with love and respect out of love for Christ, not even men who say they are Christians, and I’m 35.. I’ve started to lose hope and faith that a godly, faithful relationship and marriage is possible in this world, but anything is possible with God!❤
As the other commenter said, God will lead you to someone if it is His plan for you. I've had the same doubts and concerns before as well, as a man who has decided to follow God and wait until marriage. I've been rejected so many times by girls pretending to be women and all because they saw that I refused to have sex unless I was married. I just thank God that I didn't get stuck in relationships with them and have to handle that baggage and rejection. It's a very easy method to sort whether someone is legit or not
Love your positive attitude, don’t give up and don’t give into the weird modern dating culture either. I personally know a Christian couple who met in their late 30s and are just so happy, anything is possible with God
I’ve heard it before that “sex is the perfect gift of self.” It’s the closest and most intimate gift you could ever give. It’s the most meaningful because it’s all of you that you’re giving. It’s binding, it’s loving, it’s building, and done right will add a wonderful romance to your life. When you’re throwing that around, I don’t want any part. You have fun with everyone else and build those searing memories into your mind and heart and now I have to compete with exes? People you practically hate? Or strangers even? It’s so much less meaningful. It’s heartbreaking. It’s horrendous when you’re cheated on especially in that way; but even to know that that’s the past you’re coming out of… I want no part in that. Like a new car depreciates as soon as it’s driven off the lot. You sell that again, it’s not worth what you bought it for. If you give it to one person only, it only appreciates in value, and it’s something that can last a lifetime if taken care of properly. Sex outside of marriage is incredibly improper. Unfortunately so many people have to learn that the hard way, and the ones who wait often times take up the crumbs and piece what once was there back together.
People are incredibly selfish today. Relationships are supposed to be equal and beneficial to both parties. Not wanting to be with someone just because they want to wait is incredibly selfish. You are just admitting that you don’t care about them, apart from what pleasure they can give you.
People are not brought up that way they used to be, society propagates wrong values to the people like a lot of śèx and cheap pleasures, "smoking weed and having lot's of women is cool, live one life so enjoy" instead of "live one life, so live it decent, not to regret your bad decisions"
@@OleksandrSe yah, I see this all the time. I got into college at the age of 16 with a bunch of supposedly “smart” kids in the same situation. But most of them just took the opportunity to smoke weed (it’s still illegal in my state) and have underage, premarital sex! I just don’t understand.
I'll be honest. Hearing that, these women aren't worth it. This is to be something we do between us. We shouldn't even do it outside of marriage. I oppose doing something that is so important before honoring my spouse and her and my future father in-law. This is incredible that people are encouraging something so wrong. The invention contraception has completely destroyed the definition of what sex is meant for. Bringing forth life as God has designed. It's made for the sanctity of marriage to do so outside of marriage is wrong.
God said us to wait (not only women, but especially men also) to protect us, to look out for us. Sex is too glorified, too prioritized these days and leads to immorality such as cheating and what not. A lot of PREGNANT women get cheated on because men do not get "fucked enough" during these months when women are carrying their offspring 😐
There’s nothing “wrong” with having sex so long as both parties are of age and it’s consensual. You can have your beliefs on sex and marriage, that’s fine. But don’t try and act like you’re high and mighty and the rest of us are sinners heading for eternal damnation lol. Mind your own business.
@@DWLADS A society with hook up culture is looking pretty bad right now. At least when people involved God in their lives, they behaved better and more responsibly. Just compare the 50s to today. Less divorce and stronger family values and stronger communities. And realize, crazy religious people are a minority, and wife beating was never culturally accepted in times like the 50s. Using either of those points as a rebuttal won't work.
@@DWLADShe's just talking about what God said.. Yes Pride is a sin but if what he said offended you so much maybe it would be better to reflect on why
My unbelieving wife of almost 5 years wants a divorce after I’ve gone all in on the gospel and for Jesus. She looks at my relationship with Jesus as me judging everything that she says and does, but not once have I ever condemned her. I’ve only showed love, grace and mercy. She wants nothing to do with the church at the moment. She refuses to really talk about what makes her want a divorce and she won’t go see any form of counselor with me. When I say being unequally yoked is hard, I mean it. Unfortunately she will never understand why I’ve changed and why I continue to show grace and mercy even when she’s breaking my heart until she realizes that she is also a sinner just like me, in need of a perfect savior. Until she calls upon the name of Jesus and has that true transforming power of the Holy Spirit in her life then she won’t understand. I am thankful for a God who is sovereign and in complete control. I’ve given this situation over to Him. I pray for her every single second of the day. I don’t necessarily pray for the marriage as much as I do her soul. I want her to have eternal life.
1 Corinthians 7 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. God bless you brother and your family in Jesus name, for He works all things good for those who love Him. Blessed by the work done in you, God is faithful to complete what He started in you and your wife, and your future family to come. Keep lifting up Jesus, and He will draw the men to Him. It is His battle, continue to be still and know He is God. Be strengthened and encouraged, I can already imagine the witness she’d be for Christ. And the power team you’d be for the kingdom of Christ, the devil is shaking at this plan. Keep praying about it, ask God if there’s anything to repent for,,, or to show you things happening in the spirit, we have control over the unclean and lying spirits also at work through our Lord Jesus Christ.
God knows your love for your wife.. i too always desire my unbelieving family’s salvation.. its so precious to me and you and those who really know reality
I was firmly in the "I need to have sex before marrying a girl to make sure we're compatible" when I was a liberal in my late teens and early twenties. I'm conservative now and am 180 degrees from almost everything I used to believe. I'm not technically a Christian yet, I suppose, though I want to start going to church again (did as a kid). I'm definitely down with waiting until marriage if I somehow (lol) manage to find a nice girl. Like that podcast guy in the first clip said, sex isn't everything. I know the majority of people seem to think that if they don't have sex every week they'll immediately explode and die but that's ridiculous. People just don't want to control themselves anymore and don't think they can. They've been told for many decades to "do what feels good" and it's gotten to the point they don't think they can act elsewise.
If you want to learn more about Christianity, the UA-cam channels Kaci Nicole and Tony Evans are really good! Also, reading the Bible is awesome lol! For beginners, the easiest translations to understand are NIV or maybe ESV or TLV 😊😊❤❤ if you have any questions I'd be glad to try to help you with answers as well 😁
@@t.n.1116 Thanks very much for the info! Yeah I've bought a couple Bibles (one kinda like a study one with additional info in it) and have been listening to Father Mike's Bible in a Year podcast.
@@clamum9648 Awesome! I second the Gospel of John! It is (almost) the whole story of Jesus' life, if you want to start there and see what it's all about. The Bible is awesome, both for its historical and story value but most importantly as a guide post for the Christian 😊 I personally do recommend starting in Genesis and reading front to back because there are so many tiebacks in the New Testament to events in the OT. But reading it is most important overall! 😄 I hope you enjoy it!
11 years and 5 kids later. Sex is great in marriage because you are safe and loved! It just keeps getting better, because you love the person more than yourself! Christian Marriage sex is the best way. Designed by a Glorious God!
I fully expect my wedding night to not be the best sex ever(not that I have a basis for comparison), but I expect for sex to be a thing we work on together to make it better for both of us (along with all the other parts of the marriage). Gotta find someone willing to marry me(and who I'm willing to marry) first though... 💁♂️
I agree with that so much, I see a lot of people thinking it'll be amazing the first time but it's not a guarantee, it's like a skill that you and your partner can work on to improve during your marriage.
God bless. As someone who’s virgin and practising holiness as a whole too, think it’s really tuff of you how strong you are and that you’re willing to wait. I’m sure the Lord will bless you with a relationship and marriage if it’s His will too. ❤
I'm going to say this as someone who came to the Lord at the age of 29 and partook is grotesque sexual sin before being forgiven of my filthy past, I will say this. I have had sex with multiple people (too many that I care to admit) and honestly the man I lost my virginity to (who was also a virgin at the time) was probably the best sex. Just because it's will be your first time with each other doesn't automatically mean it will be bad or not the best. I know you have no comparison but I may not be as bad as you think it will be. Definitely enjoy the moment when it does happen. I wish so much that I was still with that man, he's the father of my child and not a bad man. I was just stupid and selfish. God bless my friend :)
Absolutely correct! Hubs and I waited 5 yrs and while we had temptations, on our wedding night we both cried at having waited. It was the best most sublime feeling in the world. Like God himself rejoicing with us. And it wasn't even about sex the first night. We went over our loved ones' cards and just reminisced on our 5 yr journey and the beginning of our new life together. If you wait you won't regret it! ❤
My fiancé didn't wait and regret having done it with his ex, she hurt him badly so those few times aren't his best memories. I'm waiting till marriage but knowing that he didn't make me kind of jealous. I would've wanted to be his first, it feels as if I'm missing a piece of him... but I trust him, he's waiting again, for me, and that makes me really proud of him. I can't wait to marry him this summer ! Pray for us please
@@elkq0 Yeah I did grew up in church, him not so much so I understand that we don't have the same experience. But it's also because I know the girl he did it with, we were friends before he met her so it feels really weird to me.
Ive been married 10 years now. The sex gets better as you get to know them better physically, mentally and emotionally. We had an awkward wedding night. Its supposed to be new and a bit awkward. Im so glad I don’t have to deal with dating anymore. I love my husband. I wish I would have waited to get married until I found him. (Married previously, but Gods grace is amazing!)
@@saymynamejk4409Different people have different preferences. It takes a while to get to know the other person’s body. If she was used to her former husband, it may have been difficult to learn someone else’s preferences.
Man this hits different. My ex girlfriend was pushing a breakup because she compared our relationship with that of her wordly friend's. We've been doing long distance and it had been tough but it takes sacrifices. Just cut my losses and accepted her wish. I know she is likely not the woman God intended for me but it hurts on another level when she was the girl God used to introduce me to Him and the girl I thought I was going to marry.
For anyone who sees this and is struggling to wait, I promise it is so worth it. My husband and I waited. And yes it is very awkward in the beginning and neither of you know what you are doing. But because you are dedicated to each other for the rest of your life, you learn together how to make it the most enjoyable experience. It has only gotten better the longer we have been married.
That's really nice to hear im 21 male and currently struggling it's really hard waiting when everyone promotes hookup culture and sleeping on the 1st date. But I'm determined to wait til marriage so i can only share that experience with whoever becomes my wife
I’ve been married and divorced twice both marriages only lasted for three years each neither one was based on love just sex so naturally they didn’t last long so I’ve been completely single for the past almost 14 years figuring out who I am as an individual and raising my two boys on my own.
I am sorry for what happened to you. I hope one day you meet someone who appreciates you as a person. God bless you and your children. At least you can teach your sons to have good values.
We all make mistakes but God forgives the repentant sinners! I hope it doesn’t affect your boys or you too much and that your little family grows closer to God with each passing day. God bless you in your journey to Him!
This is a really tough topic. I didn’t wait and it led me down a road where now I’m 30 and have no real prospects for marriage. All the women I meet are liberal that want to have sex on the second or third date. It literally has zero meaning. What sucks even more is when you are with a really cool beautiful girl that you could see yourself marrying but she moves on super quick because she’s totally broken by her past relationships. I don’t see myself marrying because a lot of these women are broken. They have major pair bonding problems and have been ran through by multiple dudes. I’m trying to put my faith in Jesus to help me with all my problems and pray that I meet a nice Christian girl that wants to wait for marriage. Learn from my mistake and wait young boys and girls.
Not only women are broken, all humans have some sort of brokenness. Reflect on your own life, you too I assure have some something that has happened in your past that you carry some baggage over. Sin is what ultimates brakes us, it destroys what God has for us. Sounds like you are aren't a Christian yet so I recommend you place your faith in Christ first and allow him to work on you before you meet that Christian girl. We aren't unicorns, I'm a Christian female who has been abstinence since Jesus saved me, so we are out here. Sounds like you are going after worldy girls who desire worldy things.
If you want to be saved call out to the Lord, there is no works that you can do to save yourself, it is God giving you grace which you don't deserve. Why do I need to be saved? We are all infected with sin (Romans 3:23). We are born with sin (Psalm 51:5), and we all personally choose to sin (Ecclesiastes 7:20; 1 John 1:8). Sin is what makes us unsaved. Sin is what separates us from God. Sin is what has us on the path to eternal destruction. Saved from what? Because of our sin, we all deserve death (Romans 6:23). While the physical consequence of sin is physical death, that is not the only kind of death that results from sin. All sin is ultimately committed against an eternal and infinite God (Psalm 51:4). Because of that, the just penalty for our sin is also eternal and infinite. What we need to be saved from is eternal destruction (Matthew 25:46; Revelation 20:15). How did God provide salvation? Because the just penalty for sin is infinite and eternal, only God could pay the penalty, because only He is infinite and eternal. But God, in His divine nature, could not die. So God became a human being in the person of Jesus Christ. God took on human flesh, lived among us, and taught us. When the people rejected Him and His message, and sought to kill Him, He willingly sacrificed Himself for us, allowing Himself to be crucified (John 10:15). Because Jesus Christ was human, He could die; and because Jesus Christ was God, His death had an eternal and infinite value. Jesus’ death on the cross was the perfect and complete payment for our sin (1 John 2:2). He took the consequences we deserved. Jesus’ resurrection from the dead demonstrated that His death was indeed the perfectly sufficient sacrifice for sin. How can I be saved? What do I need to do? You must confess that Jesus is Lord, which signifies you realization that Christ must have full rule over your life with all of His righteous requirements. This confession of Christ as Lord also assumes that it is Christ who will work and fulfill His own righteousness within you. Next, you must believe that God has raised Jesus Christ from the dead. This belief in the death and resurrection of Jesus carries with it the realization that the penalty has been paid for sin and power is provided for man to live a life free from sin. “For if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is by believing in your heart that you are made right with God, and it is by confessing with your mouth that you are saved.
I have waited for marriage and I’m 41 and in more or less the same boat as you. It’s tough when the Christian church gets down hard on men but takes it easy on women. 🤪🫠
Hey if it makes you feel any better I'm older than you, did wait, and I still don't have a wife or any prospects either. Even if a person does things the right way they can still end up in the same bad way. So don't feel bad it's probably not your fault. 😎
He he if it makes you feel better, I'm just a bit older than you. Been waiting, a lady, and still single. The Lord does have a particular path for each one. So don't compare and don't despair, everything will come in good time.
Good sex is the easiest part of marriage. Respect of boundaries is crucial to a healthy relationship and it starts with honoring your girlfriend or boyfriend before having that entering the picture. It’s easy to wait if you both want to, my husband and I waited and he treats me with respect even in sex now that we’re married.
I wanted to wait till marriage, but I made some poor choices and put myself in a vulnerable situation where I was raped by my best friend (there were red flags and I should’ve known). After escaping that hell by God’s grace, I waited again and it felt like the first time with my husband. So for those of you who feel like they’ve fallen or had something precious taken from them, Christ truly will give you a new experience if you ask. I waited 7 years after that terrible year. It was a wonderful healing experience to find my husband. Jesus rescued me and then gave me back what I had lost. 7 years feel like a long time in your twenties. But waiting is worth it.
Sorry to ask this. It's ok if your not comfortable asking but what are some of the red flags. I'm 18 and I really don't have any guidance and I have some slight paranoia.
Hey, I just wanted to let you know, you should never feel like it was your fault with what happened. Sometimes the red flags just aren't seen unless in hindsight. At the end of the day, it is their responsibility and their fault for what they did to you. God does not hold that on you so please don't hold it on yourself.
Its so funny how often my own family will tell me that maybe God wants me to date a non-believer to end up converting them and I’m just like NOOO. First off, don’t date to change. Second, as a prodigal daughter I’ve done my time in unbelief and it was painful. I don’t want to deal with that pain again via my love interest. Like, yikes! I’d be in so much pain for him and he’d probably get sick of me talking about God all the time. Thirdly, as you pointed out, God even says its not a good idea. If at any point I date an unbeliever, it’ll be after he’s converted to Christianity. At which point he won’t be an unbeliever anymore, he’ll be a Christian.
Yeah like my mom kinda suggested the same thing and it's like trying to date at 21 is hard enough but now I'm expected to try to change someone worldview no thanks, I've heard plenty of stories of people trying that and it rarely working or the non beleiever convincing them to have sex.
I love your videos, always insightful and God leading you. I am waiting until marrige, currently I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for a year. It has taught me so much about myself and how i can grow spiritual. For my first real relationship i feel so blessed to be equally yoked. I just pray that God will lead me in his own time. May God continue to lead you, that it blesses not only those you reach but that he blesses your life and your wife abundantly.❤
Women like this are Blessing the Men of God who are dedicated to The Lord and Are willing to wait on His plan and Timing, (more than they realize). Fellas if she dumps you for your integrity, Hallelujah!! 🙌🙌🙌 Our Heavenly Father has Much Greater for you. No room for Compromise. Thank you Jesus for Discernment ❤
You as a man, must have the self control. She wants a better person than her. Its not just height, wealth, status. Its be a superior moral person, so she can trust you with herself, so she doesnt go astray. ❤❤❤
Sex with a stranger will always be "bad" compared to someone you love. Because you're not committed. You can be as sloppy and terrible as you want because you don't give a damn about the person. Use and abuse mindset. So the argument of "test drive" has no ground to stand on. As much as people say that. There is no foundation with that statement.
Exactly I'll never understand hookup culiture like getting naked and vulnerable with a complete stranger is just gross and weird especislly with all the risk of stds and pregnancy why would anyone risk that with someone they didn't love or could see raising their kids.
I do regret not being a virgin on my wedding night, it kinda felt "less special" I guess cause we did fall to sexual immorality before we were married. At least he was my first but still, I should've listened to my mother who was listening to the Bible and I wasn't really at the time. We did wait about 6 months though, the longest he had ever waited (he was an agnostic at the time) so he really cares for me and now that we're married we're no longer living in sin
What people dont realize is that both partners have to keep pure. If you do that, its all fine, you will learn together how to be intimate to each other. The BIG PROBLEM is if both of you have sexual relationships before marriage, then you will always compare your partner with someone else and youll not be happy.
"If the person couldn't keep it in their pants before meeting you, what's gonna stop them from doing the same after you?" That's my advice. I'm not sorry for waiting on God to guide me towards the relationship He wants me to have. I'm not missing out on anything by not having sex with random hustlers and diseased flesh. I might not have my husband now, but I know it'll be worth it for us as man & wife whenever I am joined to him, whoever he may be. I've come to understand that I am not ready just yet for becoming a wife or even a mother, but when the time comes, it'll happen just as God wants it - not how I want it. Because if I had gone out at a time I wanted, I could've started at 16 during a time where I thought I wanted to become a mother, and instead would have been used, abused, left alone feeling disgusted and miserable.
I will say, even before I was saved, I always found it more appealing when a guy wanted to actually wait till marriage and valued that. I don’t really get this debate at all, the world is so backwards and demonic. These girls also fail to realize, you’ll never truly know if a guy likes you if y’all start having sex opposed to waiting. It’s very easy for a guy to want to cuddle up and be all around you if he’s intimate with you and knows he can get that. It truly shows if a man and woman value eachother when they both wait, actually do activities, truly get to know eachother, and seek the lord. I wish I was still a virgin, sexual sin is like poison.
Exactly like I told someone I was waiting for marriage and they called me immature "an adult relationship involves sex" and I'm like what's wrong with waiting for a geuine connection and marrying that person.
@@dannyphantom3090 Exactly, sex is an intimate and private thing, shouldn’t be doing it with just anybody at all. Waiting till marriage is the way to go. It’s so much deeper than people realize with all these stds out, unwanted pregnancies, broken homes, and let’s not forget the demonic bondage and soul ties that come with it. Waiting is the way to go, Gods way is always the best way.
People who say "What if we aren't sexually compatible?" act like you can't learn and grow and develop a good sexual relationship with the person you're with... And like the guy on the podcast said, sex is not the end all be all of the relationship, it's an important aspect, but it's not the *most* important aspect.
Exactly like i never understood that outlook because they make it sound like it's going to be magically good if you do it before marriage. Also it makes relationships completely selfish if the sex is bad we're breaking up
I just watch people I have not seen one person who has had sex out side of marriage, happy or fulfilled in may aspects to their life. The only people who have sex after marriage are more satisfied that I’ve seen that are generally happy
I was on a low carb diet for 4 months. When I got off the diet, I had a piece of bread. It was the greatest thing I'd ever eaten. Now, that bread means very little to me since I eat it every day. Sex isn't much different. And the longer you go without it, the less you think about it. My fiancé and I are waiting, and it wasn't really as difficult as people think.
@@terranceramirez4816 I'm not saying you'll stop thinking about it entirely, but if you stop watching porn and masturbating all the time, your brain will adjust.
Practice makes perfect! It is so beautiful for two, unskilled, holy people, to practice intimacy together for a lifetime. They know what the other likes and they have no one to compare the other to. There is no one they run into that will be comparing them to someone else. I've heard adultery sex is the worst because it is all hormones and heat and no true knowledge of the other partner or their likes or dislikes. Give a couple 50 years of practice with only eachother, and you willl have something special. Of course, marriage is way more than sex. 50 years of shared memories and the ability to laugh and play together are priceless. Sex can't beat true love and friendship and years of shared history!
@@terranceramirez4816 For sure! I unfortunately fell into that sin, but having a renewed heart also strips away comparing to previous partners. "Good" and "bad" are just preferences, so even if you have sinned in that way, learn to be "good" for your spouse. Work together. Repent and be renewed in Christ and with your spouse
Honestly I’m glad you brought up the fact people will blatantly ignore the fact dating non Christians is a bad idea and expect to be the exception. I’ve seen so many guys asking for dating advice because they really like this girl, but she isn’t a Christian and it’s already been some time so they are emotionally attached. Like, bro, you know better.
Finally a good response! I was looking for a comment like this! Why should a Christian hold a nonbeliever to biblical standards. Of course an atheist or some agnostic isn’t going to have the same morals and values that god commands us to have…so why bother dating them!!!
Some women will use waiting as leverage or as a means to exert their dominance, on their terms. But when a man does it it’s seen as weird or suspect. A woman that would break up with a man for respecting or affirming their stance on abstinence and waiting until marriage is a huge red flag.
If sex is such a determining factor in dicing whether to get married, you can imagine what happens if the sex gets old and the novelty wares off, as it always does. If that's all that held you two together, guess what happens next! Two people who tell each other that they would wait and risk them not being totally "sexually compatible" but is willing to work through whatever happens in that department is a MUCH stronger bond in all areas of marriage and companionship. Even if they find themselves to be "sexually incompatible" (what a silly thing to think), they both know they are ready to work at, problem solve together, fix it and make it work because they like each other as a person!!
Yeah like testing for compatibility just makes relationships and marriage sound so gross and transactional. Like I'm only good for sex when in the long run sex is like 10% of a marriage when you throw in communication, commitment, love, kids, family etc...
As if everybody is born with a fixed skill for the deed. That's how a car is made, that's not how intercourse skill works. It's like dancing, you can learn it and it's best learnt together. The first time time doesn't tell you anything.
What I don't get is when people get into a relationship how they think it doesn't have to be worked on. People think they get in, it's just gonna be easy that's not how relationships are. It's two people coming together to work on every issue two together with the same goals
If ur both virgins, how would you know it's bad? It would be something special, intimacy between the two, Male and female. True intimacy is the actual connection before the physical relation. People are wrong to only think about lusts.
I appreciate this. I participated in hook up culture a bit in my early 20s. Felt so boring and purposeless. I slept with a dozen women but I haven’t slept with anyone in 5 years. I want to wait now until marriage and find a sweet wife who wants double digit children.
@@TheJacali awesome! My great grandma lived till she was 103, she had 5 kids and lived as an immigrant subsistence farmer in Canada. I'm named after her 😄. I love to hear stories of the strong women in my family
I absolutely believe that waiting for marriage is the best and healthiest way to approach sex, but I do think that sexual compatibility is relevant in certain cases. There will always be two different libido levels, sure, but what about someone with a fairly high sex drive and another who is borderline asexual? One may end up feeling pent up and stressed and the other could often feel like they're performing "duty sex" and then both are miserable. This kind of thing can be fairly well detected without having sex at least
Well if the couple truly loves one another they will be willing to sacrafice their individual desires for their spouse and be willing to compromise. For the one with greater desire, they need to learn to control that and for the person with less desire, they need to learn to understand their spouse's needs and desires and work all that out in a God honoring way.
Yes I think about those sort of things, plus physical anomalies. I hear the stories of micro appendages and I think I would be kind of horrified if I only discovered that after marriage. I heard an article of a guy who waited until marriage with a woman but only did it so he could hide his anomaly and trick someone into marrying him, not for religious purposes. But those things can definitely be discussed, no need to find out the hard way lol
I’m a Christian woman (31) who’s kept my virginity. I’m courting a Christian man (34) who’s also kept his virginity. We want to become best friends and grow in our intimacy of knowledge of each other first. The goal is to marry with divorce not being an option. We’re taking our time to develop love prior to physical intimacy. I’m not worried about the honeymoon. It’ll probably be fun because it’ll just be more that we get to learn about each other.
Agree! I am a woman who is saving herself for marriage. I am looking forward to being naive on my wedding night 😂 I can't wait to learn with my husband
I’ve been married going on 5 years now (neither hubby or I were virgins sadly) and looking back we both wished we would have waited - because of how much more fulfilling it would have been, and it would have been pleasing to God. We both agreed we weren’t in alignment with God’s word, only what our flesh wanted, but now we have the arsenal to help guide, direct, and advise our future children. I pray for all of you who are struggling with this, please cling onto the Word of God, because He is never wrong and He will never lead you into sin! ❤
The people that say that waiting for marriage for sex have a few false ideas of what "good sex" is. In a proper marriage, it's about being completely vulnerable with someone you love and trust so much. To want to love them with your heart, soul, mind, and body, and to want to please them as much as they want to please you. To be fully able to let go of all inhibitions, and give in to pure passion with someone else because you each love and trust each other that much. Before that lifelong commitment is made, you can never fully trust or love another person, and that sinking feeling of fear of them leaving you one day, or having a child together you may not want, will always be lingering. Because true love and trust is fully proven in action and not just emotions. Until someone is fully ready to commit their entire lives to you, you can never have that same relationship married couples can share.
Anyone who has had sex with multiple people will all say that the sex you have with the person you are in love is the best sex. Compared to just hooking up.
As someone who sorta waited and had only unfulfilling sexual experiences pre-marriage that I regret, it’s been incredible to see the sex life in my marriage evolve over time. Yea we didn’t have it all figured out on our honeymoon, but we’ve grown together. 7 years in and the sex has gotten better every year. It’s not suppose to peak on your honeymoon, that’s the genesis of the journey together and I promise it’s worth the wait.
I'm 21 and definitely determined to wait but it's really discouraging when everyone wants sex on the 1st date and you don't even know if you love me or not. But I know the wait will be worth it when I find my wife.
Me and my partner are 21 and 23, we are virgins and are waiting for marriage. God brought us together. He is Christian and I was a Catholic my whole life. Within 3 months of him talking to me about God, I was convinced. At first I thought about it like another religion, I would reject God’s word but I am now a changed woman, My partner made me let go of everything, things I thought I would never not do. Through my partner, God transformed me and it’s the best feeling ever. I accepted Jesus and continue to accept him everyday. Our relationship is beautiful and I never imagined something like it but I pray me and him glorify God for the rest of our lives🙏❤️
Being reborn again last year, coming to obedience in abstaining until marriage isn't easy but I think about the benefits of waiting and growing with my future wife and lettin the Lord build my self control for the flesh more and more
I’m feeling a lot- but mainly destroyed, crippled and depressed when it comes to women these days and to protect whatever is left of my heart I stopped hoping and looking for decent women. It may suck but there’s not much else to do sadly.
I thought you were married? I am 49 and a single virgin. I am in a loving and strong Christian family and Church. I won't shop and settle and I surround myself by truthful people who help me to make good choices and I see nobody out my way and I know God is in control but it has been hard especially as I approach 50 😮 But it is about Jesus and not myself and my feelings. Marriage is overrated and Paul says will make it harder to live life for God. I fell for a man that went to church but wouldn't give his life to Jesus. I was so disappointed at how I let my guard down and was falling for him. He saved my by my family saying - did you save yourself for that person. No. I was so blinded but He saves.
15 years of marriage and intimacy is amazing but we had to learn. God doesn’t make mistakes, it helps you be patient with each other, less selfish, more humble, caring etc these generations are so foolish 😢
9:35 i'm only 15 so i've never been in a relationship, but i have been involved in years and years of sexual sin ( which i'm free from now, praise God), but after being exposed to that realm for so long, I think that it gives false expectations for intimacy, maybe even violent ones. It's more than just another sin, and it's very detrimental. The idea of just give and take in the bedroom is super prominent as well, but that's not realistic in any other branch of life, apart from maybe a business transaction. The idea of idealisation of your partner is another thing, but of course, all of this is very toxic and anti biblical. I would want my husband to put God before me, to love him more than me, even if it means sacrifice sometimes.
Wow! If only I had this wisdom and thoughtfulness at your age. Praise God that you are saved before the more sexually expectant years of highschool and college. Please never fall out of faith! I am so happy for you ❤🤗
As a follower of christ I dont think just because someone is willing to wait for marriage means you should date or marry them. That should not be the standard, because they are people outside the faith of christ who wait for marriage to have sex( different religous views, conservative views). The standard is a fellow brother or sister in christ who serves the lord Jesus Christ with their words and actions. They should love God AND be of obediance by waiting till marriage. I have seen fellow brothers and sisters of Christ date or marry someone soley on the basis that their partner would wait for them and not because they show fruits evident of the holy spirit inhabiting in them and having a relationship with Christ . We are to be equally yoked.
My wife and I waited and were the first people we dated at 26, waiting until our marriage for both the first kiss and everything beyond, besides holding hands. It was beautiful. We just spend time catching up. We are thankful that we each are the definition of human beauty to each other and that we had no other comparison/conflict of interest. 1. We took the approach based on God's word and the desire to save as much as possible for the one we would marry (no loss when that was decided on our wedding day). 2. We also were both of the mindset that if we gave in to the temptation to cheat with each other before marriage, we would likely be more tempted to cheat on each other during marriage. With an eternal perspective, the idea of instant gratification and shortcuts is repulsive. Evil and sin always work to twist the good because they have no power or authority to create anything of their own.
My husband and I dated for 3 years before we got married. We both saved ourselves for our wedding night and let me tell you, nothing can describe that intimate feeling you have for the first time with your partner. I cannot imagine doing that with someone else. Scripture describes sex as two souls becoming one. The problem is that society normalizes sex as just another thing that you do and you move on to the next. Also one of the reasons that divorce rates are so high.
Thats sounds wonderful I'm 21 and trying to do the same it's hard to find a woman who wants to wait even some Christian women are fine with doing anything that doesn't penetrate them.
@@connorcreegan Obviously to become one flesh means to become united physically and sexually, but it is far more than that! It is a symbol of a man and a woman bound and melted together, heart, body, and soul, in mutual giving and total oneness. When husband and wife become one flesh, they are no longer two, but actually one.
@@audacity9740 I appreciate your enthusiasm for the gift of marriage. My only point was that Scripture doesn't actually say there is soul-unity, it refers to unity of flesh and of will. I don't mean to be pedantic, but the literary expression of souls becoming one is kind of dangerous, because taken in a literal sense it would require a false, almost kabbalistic, understanding of what the soul is. Soul-unity does not properly contextualize the meaning of earthly marriage, which is a flesh union with the primary end of procreation.
I normally keep this to myself, but I take pride in my celibacy. Nowadays with all the media influence and societal pressure, it is _harder_ to abstain than not to. For that reason, I have deep respect for those who keep their faith in God and steadily walk on His path, in spite of all the distracting "noise." God knows best what's right for us.
I agree I take pride in being a virgin waiting til I'm married but these days it's definitely hard when everything is sexualized and sex is basically thrown In your face everywhere.
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that “what God wants us to do” lines up with the pragmatic reality. In fact, I would say that is strong evidence to support theological teachings.
"If this is the girl of my dreams, the sex isnt what is making me stay."
This. This is what love looks like.
I once had a conversation with my Mom about this, saying how I want to wait until marriage to do that with a woman. My mom's response was "shouldn't you take a car for a test drive before regretting your choice?" My response was "A woman is not a car. It's God's word vs. yours." She immediately admitted defeat in that debate, choosing to respect what God wants. A conflict of views in my life was never settled so quickly😂
Respect +++
👏👏👏 well said. As a single Mom to a teenager boy, I raised him to wait. He truly believes in it. I on the other hand was not instructed this way although was kinda told to do so yet it was not modeled. Long story short... I chose the wrong person and had wonderful children with someone that is not God fearing. This led to letting go when my son was a child. Long story short… when you dedicate your beginning to God he will take care of the present moment as you give it to him as offering therefore ordering yours and your spouse’s step for the future. Keep it Godly. It is worth it and hey, you and your future wife are worth it.
@IlenElla - Thanks for that. I'm grateful for the positive encouragement and I wish you and your son the best.
@jekesus - thanks ^_^
Wow, I just realized how dehumanizing the "test a car" statement is. Like straight up. I already knew it was a bad argument but I never thought about how this argument kinda objectifies the person like they're some sort of machine only meant to give you sexual gratification and if it isn't working out you gotta return them to Amazon before that 30 day return window is over😅 funny enough you think progressivism would hate this considering that but at the same time how could they if sexuality is rampant?
What these girls fail to realize is:
You wouldn't know the sex is "bad" if you have nothing to compare it to, and if you're with someone one you genuinely love; it won't ever be "bad" even if its unskilled.
truuuue
@@LovingLifeasEmma thank you.
not only that but with the person you experience it with, wouldn't it get better over time? Isn't that a great thing about marriage?
That’s the perfect wording I was looking for. Just bc it’s unskilled at first doesn’t make it bad. Especially if you both are aiming to please one another.
@@unsolosirviente546 indeed
Me and the wife waited until marriage. We both had to learn what each other liked. Who better to learn with than the love of your life?? Better than a complete stranger. Of all the reasons marriages failed I have never heard, “I wish my spouse had more sex with other people before me” as reason.
I know right!
I do think that has been a reason for relationship failure, but not because it was legitimate but rather because (in particular with women) the person saying that probably had attachment issues that interfered with their ability to be fulfilled sexually that they then went and blamed on their partner having a “lack of sexual experience”
@@terranceramirez4816sometimes if a man has some really bad sexual experiences then that can crush his confidence and self esteem, but if you wait until marriage then that reduces so much of the anxiety as opposed to having sex with a random stranger. I couldn’t imagine trying to be intimate with a girl while wondering in the back of my mind if she has a STD. I wouldn’t be able to relax and enjoy the moment.
😂😂. Right.
Unfortunately there are a lot of people these days who believe being promiscuous teaches people what they should know. So they can even look at not being sexually active as a bad thing because then people don’t have the experience they supposedly should have.
“sex outside of marriage is always a detriment”. I couldn’t agree more. It is a true corruption and I wish i never partook of this offense
Same😓 God’s way is always best and right and He gives us His commands out of LOVE for us😊
If I could go back in time, I’d stop myself from seeing porn for the first time at 8 and I’d stop myself from losing my virginity at 16. Regret both of those decisions.
Thank God that he gave us his son to die for our sins so that we can be forgiven. As long as we truly repent and turn away from that sin, we do not need to beat ourselves about it forever.
Don’t worry about your mistakes. God loves you and has forgiven you.
Even if I wasn’t a Christian, I think I would still wait. The idea of being with one person in that way forever just sounds super romantic.
It really does..
Same I'm a Christian but always try to think from different perspectives and even if i wasn't I'd probably still wait because if my very shy/introverted personality plus its romantic only being with 1 person
Yup. Not to mention, there are scientific reasons to wait as well. Studies have shown that premarital, promiscuous sex results in higher risks in STDs and cancers, higher rates of depression and suicide, and higher rates of unplanned pregnancies leading to abortions many women and even men regret.
I'm an atheist and I had no problem using waiting as a strategy. It filters out the girls who aren't serious and aren't around for the right reasons. It should seem obvious, but I wouldn't waste my time with anyone who wasn't a virgin, too. From my perspective, the car shibboleth is just degenerate propaganda for demoralization. I take a hard moral stance of "action must be justified" instead of "not doing something must be justified" and it is why I don't drink or do drugs, either. I think various religions have caught on to these concepts because they work, but they don't go far enough for my standards. I think, for example, drinking wine cannot be justified because it is bad for your brain in any amount, proportional to how much you drink.
@@khfan4life365Marriages are more likely to fail as the number of sexual and romantic partners goes up.
My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night and don’t regret at all. No previous baggage and we had definitely had to learn what we do and don’t like but marital intimacy is just a beautiful gift from God. Sex and intimacy should be treated as such and when it is, it’s truly amazing. You get to learn each other’s body, communicate and intentionally seek to know what you can do to please each other. There was also no pressure from either of us to not wait and just do it. We both wanted to wait because we wanted to glorify God in the marriage bed. It’s been 2 years and God also blessed us with a baby boy. God is good!!!
Beautiful! God bless
Amen, same. Lord willing, one's marriage will offer many decades of time to learn and grow closer in that way (and many others) over your life together!
This is beautiful.
Pray for me ☝️ I need a man.
I've grown in my faith in Christ and I can say I 100% percent regret not waiting and never thought I'd feel this way but jealous (in a good way) of people who are virgins and waited til marriage, God bless you and your Union
I waited. My husband tried to wait, but failed, and was happy to wait for me.
However, He brought so much more sexual baggage into our marriage than I did. It took him decades to fully sort and heal completely.
I really want to urge anyone considering whether to wait - WAIT! Please wait.
How did you handle a man who had so much sexual baggage? How did his sexual baggage affect you? And how were you able to work with someone who was struggling and still healing from his sexual baggages without it affecting you too?
@baryl3969 it did affect me. And the answer to the rest of your questions would depend on the decade. We have been married 25 years now. The short answer is, I spent a lot of time consulting with God.
@@rachelrasmussen1101thank you for the honesty. Considering all the turmoil you went through in your relationship, would you recommend a woman to marry a man with sexual baggages and is still sorting through them? How did God help you? Did you think it was gonna be a struggle before you married him? Knowing all that you went through, would you NOW 25 years in, decide never to marry the person if you had known how difficult his sexual baggages would be in your relationship? Perhaps I am asking because as a single woman, I want to know if it’s better to marry a man with no sexual baggage and do without all the psychological baggages from his sexual past. But if God has shown you it’s the person He has handpicked for you but I have free will, would I still want to choose such a man who did have a sexual past and is still trying to heal.
Everyone that has sex outside of marriage does not have sexual baggage I know I do not. It’s more so a toss up. Glory be to God that he healed that part of your marriage. ❤
@baryl3969 I would NEVER try to give you advice on this subject. I can only answer for myself. I'm only here because I chose to stand by God and my husband ultimately decided to do the same. I am currently very very happily married, and by God's grace, my husband would say the same. But I wasn't in charge of his choices, and was given no guarantees.
Ughhh I hate when they say " if you are on your honeymoon and it sucks. " That's not what it's about! Its about 2 people loving each other and the sex is a reflection of that love. Ridiculous.
People don’t know how to love anymore. Attachment issues are rampant nowadays thanks to divorce/unwed relationships creating abandoned children and hardass parents creating avoidant children. 🤪
And the funny thing about that is if you have nothing to compare it to, it doesn't suck 😂. I look back on my honeymoon now and realize how unskilled we were, but I now have 13 years of marriage and intimacy to compare it with. In the moment, we were just having fun and learning about each other and we thought it was great! That's the beauty of waiting! You don't even know it wasn't great sex until after years of marriage when the sex gets really really good lol. But it's all about the journey!
Absolutely INSANE how degenerate society has become 😭😭 Growing up (as someone who's waiting for marriage) I witnessed so many girls getting torn apart because they were sleeping with guys. Some got pregnant and struggled to raise the child, one had an abortion and it broke her heart, others were used and discarded, many were lied to by guys who just wanted to take their virginity, and one got an STD. But because I was waiting 1) it filtered out all the selfish players and meant the only guys I dated were serious and committed and cared about me as a person 2) I was protected from all the drama. If someone truly loves you (man or woman) they will wait 💗 Anyone who tries to push or bully you into sleeping with them is selfish.
Yeah as a teenage boy... Even though i am currently in the process of NoFap. I hate the idea of sex before marriage, I wish the best to avoid it at ALL cost.
Sex is for marriage between a man and woman, period :D
@@SulfGenesis "Sex is for marriage between a man and a woman", so gay people can't marry each other and have a bonding relationship either? Well, that's unfortunate.
@@ScienceNerd3336Gay persons can't marry marriage is only between a man and a women it not that they can't but more so that it isn't actually possible.
@@kylemckinney_22 Spot on
@@kylemckinney_22 they can actually marry each other under legal marriages. Traditional marriages vs legal marriages. If that upsets you, then that’s your problem.
As 36 years old virgin women I’m glad I made this decision. I didn’t make this decision for anyone, I made it because I wanna to honor God in the first place. And to anyone out there who feels ashamed for this I’ll tell you Don’t.. God will honor your commitment to him. ☺️
Amen!
Keep up the Good fight
@@AchillesLeonidas Thank you 🙏🏾.
@@i6tir 🙏🏾☺️
What the heck are you doing for 36 years then You know your running out of time to have kids as well, your body wont allow you to have children unless you don't want any in the first place. And if this is also the case there's a chance you must be lying.
Trying to wait til marriage as a 21yr old man is hard but I'm deternined to stay strong and only share that experience with whoever becomes my wife
Take it from a 22 year old man who lost his virginity at 13, and slept with a few women through school because it was considered “cool”. It is not cool. At all. It takes a piece of your soul. Every ended relationship, every one night stand. Until you’re broken, shattered, and empty inside. Ad all the risk of STDs (praise Jesus I didn’t get one), and broken homes for your children. I highly encourage you to wait for your wife. Make sure she is in the Lord. Unequal yoke is a no go to. Been there. I have now finally healed from my experiences in Christ and now am waiting for when God grants me a wife. I just hope that I won’t compare or am tormented by my past every time I’m in bed with her. And that I will give her what I was made for. True Godly sacrificial love. All things are made new in Christ. I don’t care if she isn’t a virgin either. I just hope we will be new together. And Christ recognizes our union as pure and unadulterated.
Take it from a man that has been with dozens of women and struggles with lust, please wait. It’s worth it. God bless you.
Hey man, I'm 26 I know how it is. I've been addicted to adult material and gone to my fair share of adult clubs before I found faith. Nothing fruitful comes from it. All it's done for me is destroy my mind and now I've spent the last year fighting myself.
It's all a vicious lie and one in all honesty I still sometimes think I wish was true, but I know that's the old me talking because every time since I've trusted God I see it bring me nothing but pain and regret.
I worry constantly that if I am called to marriage that the state of my mind will cause problems for her. It is hard, terrible to feel alone and see others who *seem* happy, but it's a wonderful experience to know He's given you freedom.
@moeotaru425 God bless you as well thank you very much for the encouragement 🙏.
@eradian1 Thank you for sharing your story and words of encouragement 🙏.
My husband and I have been married for 6 years. Both of us were virgins when we got married. Best. Decision. Ever.
"Ahhh Paul's a good guy" she says that like its still a criticism. What is wrong with my generation?
fr tho, it's as bad as when they virgin shame.
Isn't that already virgin shaming tho?
@@albertjames804 true💀💀
"What if you go on a honeymoon and the sex is bad"
"How would you know what bad sex is if you never had sex"
That is why God created sex to be in the context and form of marriage. It was never something to be exploring outside of God/marriage. If both parties decided to wait, the term "bad sex" wouldn't be applicable because both the husband and the wife are unaware of how to go about it which is the beautiful part of saving yourself for God and marriage. This way you both can learn together, create memories together in the process, and overall grow together.
In the Bible it says, "we are God's masterpiece, that we are His workmanship." He is the creator and we are His creation, therefore we have His DNA, His signature. When we have sex outside of marriage, what we are really doing is giving away God's signature (which is us) to others/the devil. We are taking the paintbrush out of God's hand and giving it to strangers to paint over God's original painting which is us. So the painting God initially created is now tainted because we decided to abuse our free will by not waiting on the Lord because we wanted to explore rather than be obedient. So now the artwork/painting the artist created is not the original and its value goes down because we are walking around with signatures of people/strangers instead of God's. So now the painting's value is depreciated and is not worth its original price because now we are living life and seeing ourselves through the eyes of another creation rather than the One who is the Creator. So we as His paintings (His creation) are getting STD's, pregnancies outside of marriage, soul ties, and many more things that God didn't want for us because it would pull us away from Him and taint our image.
So God sent His son who is Jesus to die for us so we can have and do life through Him and be reconciled with God. He restored our value by paying the ultimate price with His life by dying a criminal's death on a cross due to us giving away the paintbrush. He died for our sins and rose 3 days later due to us being disobedient and exploring and diving into what isn't good. But the beauty is that for those that gave away the paintbrush, they can always run back to the painter (God) because what Jesus did on the cross repaints over your sins, mistakes, and mess because that's what He died for, so you're able to be free now. So God gave His son, and sex should be the same, it should be giving to your spouse. Yes receiving as well, but giving first because God first gave.
As long as you do it God's way there's no such thing as bad sex because God deems it good in the context of marriage. It may not be the best at first, but that revelation will only come as time goes by because you won't know the difference between bad and good until you and your spouse learn and grow together in that area, but it's still good regardless because God is in it.
Also can't you like, talk during sex? Can't you tell, hopefully your spouse, what you like??? For a sex positive culture these people seem kinda clueless.
My wife and I both waited until marriage. And that is one thing that we are so proud of. Young ones out there reading this, it’s so worth the wait. You’ll have a connection with your wife that you don’t have with anyone else. And that’s so important in ways you won’t understand until your married
U were both virgins?
You illiterate? Did you not read the first sentence?
*you’re
I did the whole hook up culture in college. I felt disgusted with myself every time but i somehow convinced myself that it was my christian upbringing causing me to feel that way. Nah, its just human nature.
I agree as even though I'm christan I still try to see things from other perspectives and I just don't see the appeal in hookup culture like sex with someone you don't know just doesn't sound appealing. I feel even if I wasn't a christan I would probably still wait for marriage or atleast for a serious relationship after a few months.
This happend to me!
I got denied because i'm a christian that wants to wait.
Yes this is a clear sign she is not my wife but it still hurts.
God bless you soldier of Christ. Brother, do NOT compromise no matter how much attraction you may feel for a woman. If she’s not committed to upholding God’s standard, she has to go. I pray God brings you a good, godly woman.
@@jaymkz3225 Thank you my brother.
I needed this more then i could ever tell you!
Well, the guy I was so attached to laughed in my face about getting married, not even talking about waiting till marriage. so yeah, it hurts a lot but I believe God is going to reward us.
I didn't think men like you existed
@@kimberlyturner820We're out there. The sad thing is that most of us have the same feeling towards women too. It's just rare to see *anyone,* whether they're male or female, following the ways of God these days.
I am a 20 year old woman and i cant wait to save myself for marriage ❤❤ i am so excited to God willing someday find an amazing godly man who loves me and leads me through life. I only became Christian 2 years ago but I love being a member of God's flock ❤❤😊😊😄
You mean you aren't already saving yourself for marriage?? 😕
@@ModelJames13 no I am lol, luckily I became Christian before I had the opportunity to sleep with someone. I guess I phrased that wrong but I just mean it in the way "I'm excited to be doing this"
@@t.n.1116😎 👍
I bet you're pretty on top of all that too. Not that it matters to me, we haven't met. 🙂
If you find a partner that will wait until marriage, you found a keeper. It's a great test to see if you should pursue the relationship or not.
Agreed. Shows discipline, loyalty and self control
I can speak from experience with this one. I've been married now for 9 years and in a relationship with my wife for 11.Neither my wife nor I were virgins when we met. In fact although we both professed faith in Christ we both were seeking sexual relationships at the time. Both due to brokenness and but we both knew we were not being consistent in acting out our faith. 9 years later there are things about that time in our lives that we still work through. There are pain points, hurt, brokenness that we have spent a large part of our marriage working through because of our sexual experiences outside of marriage. We both struggled with retroactive jealousy for different reasons. Ultimately we have come to forgive and accept and love each other for who we are but it would have been FAR better and easier if we only knew each other. We plan on teaching our children as they become age appropriate why its important to wait. Not just that they should wait. I have found that for everything that God has directly spoken on about sin and how we should live our lives the reasoning is far deeper than we could understand. Often its not until we already are knee deep in the hole we dug with our disobedience that we look up and realize, ah, this is why God said this. Trust me young people, wait for your spouse. It's worth it.
Sex feels so much better after marriage too. God made it a reward, but the most important thing I learned is before marriage, sex, etc, the Lord should be your number 1.
Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾
Same for me and my husband. We regret having sex before each other. It has created so many problems in our minds having those memories haunting us. It was difficult in the beginning on comparing ourselves.
Preach! Fiance and I have been together for 4.5 years. We met a later on into adulthood than either of us would have liked. And we weren't saved until well into adulthood either. That past history we each have has hurt our current relationship badly. If we could go back, we wouldn't have been with anybody prior to marriage. We would have loved to just be each other's one and only.
We cannot undo what has been done, but by the grace and mercy of God we still have this opportunity to build a marriage and family with Christ as the foundation. And this period of abstinence we've had as a couple, submitting to the design the Lord intended, has been wonderful for building a deeper relationship that is tied to Christ, instead of tied to just the physical.
Thank you for sharing your truth and experiences with the rest of us who are waiting in faith and for those who are contemplating in submitting to the secular world and the Devil’s lies.
As a married man, let me tell you it's never going to be perfect the first time, or the second time either, necessarily. It takes work to grow in knowing how to give and receive that in a way that you both enjoy, and you are not the authority on what makes it good based on what you like or what makes it good for yourself. In a godly (marriage) relationship, you are to love your partner as Christ loved the church, who gave himself for her. So what I am saying is it's not just to get what you want, but to be a servant to the other. It's about both giving and receiving.
I can also tell you that you are best to wait until marriage to give that to someone else, you only get to have that 'first' with one person and if it's not the person you end up married to, you have that with you for the rest of your life and it can affect your future relationship with your spouse, and your relationship with God. It's a dangerous road to have that connection with someone outside of marriage for your faith and your future marriage as well. Forget the temporal fleeting pleasure, it's actually poison and it will not be worth it in the long run. Be strong and very courageous and run the race with endurance. It's worth it to wait brothers.
Thanks for sharing 🙏🏽
The people following Jesus here are helping renew my faith. I’ve never met a guy who is ok with waiting or wants to wait and honour God and treat me with love and respect out of love for Christ, not even men who say they are Christians, and I’m 35.. I’ve started to lose hope and faith that a godly, faithful relationship and marriage is possible in this world, but anything is possible with God!❤
Amen🙏🏾🤍 God will bring the right man who is a real Christian to love the way Christ loves.
As the other commenter said, God will lead you to someone if it is His plan for you. I've had the same doubts and concerns before as well, as a man who has decided to follow God and wait until marriage. I've been rejected so many times by girls pretending to be women and all because they saw that I refused to have sex unless I was married.
I just thank God that I didn't get stuck in relationships with them and have to handle that baggage and rejection. It's a very easy method to sort whether someone is legit or not
Love your positive attitude, don’t give up and don’t give into the weird modern dating culture either. I personally know a Christian couple who met in their late 30s and are just so happy, anything is possible with God
I’m a 27 year old Christian girl and I feel the same way… but I know ANYTHING is possible for God ❤
I agree, so many Christian men are having sex begore marriage, no different from non-Christian men.
I’ve heard it before that “sex is the perfect gift of self.” It’s the closest and most intimate gift you could ever give. It’s the most meaningful because it’s all of you that you’re giving. It’s binding, it’s loving, it’s building, and done right will add a wonderful romance to your life.
When you’re throwing that around, I don’t want any part. You have fun with everyone else and build those searing memories into your mind and heart and now I have to compete with exes? People you practically hate? Or strangers even?
It’s so much less meaningful. It’s heartbreaking. It’s horrendous when you’re cheated on especially in that way; but even to know that that’s the past you’re coming out of… I want no part in that.
Like a new car depreciates as soon as it’s driven off the lot. You sell that again, it’s not worth what you bought it for. If you give it to one person only, it only appreciates in value, and it’s something that can last a lifetime if taken care of properly. Sex outside of marriage is incredibly improper. Unfortunately so many people have to learn that the hard way, and the ones who wait often times take up the crumbs and piece what once was there back together.
Big ups to you.
Turning the car analogy on its head....... I like that.
People are incredibly selfish today. Relationships are supposed to be equal and beneficial to both parties. Not wanting to be with someone just because they want to wait is incredibly selfish. You are just admitting that you don’t care about them, apart from what pleasure they can give you.
People are not brought up that way they used to be, society propagates wrong values to the people like a lot of śèx and cheap pleasures, "smoking weed and having lot's of women is cool, live one life so enjoy" instead of "live one life, so live it decent, not to regret your bad decisions"
Its rather gross, our culture is in the dumps
@@OleksandrSe yah, I see this all the time. I got into college at the age of 16 with a bunch of supposedly “smart” kids in the same situation. But most of them just took the opportunity to smoke weed (it’s still illegal in my state) and have underage, premarital sex! I just don’t understand.
I'll be honest. Hearing that, these women aren't worth it. This is to be something we do between us. We shouldn't even do it outside of marriage. I oppose doing something that is so important before honoring my spouse and her and my future father in-law. This is incredible that people are encouraging something so wrong. The invention contraception has completely destroyed the definition of what sex is meant for. Bringing forth life as God has designed. It's made for the sanctity of marriage to do so outside of marriage is wrong.
God said us to wait (not only women, but especially men also) to protect us, to look out for us. Sex is too glorified, too prioritized these days and leads to immorality such as cheating and what not. A lot of PREGNANT women get cheated on because men do not get "fucked enough" during these months when women are carrying their offspring 😐
It wasn't the invention of contraception, it was feminism and it "champion-ing" female sexual liberation.
There’s nothing “wrong” with having sex so long as both parties are of age and it’s consensual. You can have your beliefs on sex and marriage, that’s fine. But don’t try and act like you’re high and mighty and the rest of us are sinners heading for eternal damnation lol. Mind your own business.
@@DWLADS A society with hook up culture is looking pretty bad right now. At least when people involved God in their lives, they behaved better and more responsibly. Just compare the 50s to today. Less divorce and stronger family values and stronger communities.
And realize, crazy religious people are a minority, and wife beating was never culturally accepted in times like the 50s. Using either of those points as a rebuttal won't work.
@@DWLADShe's just talking about what God said.. Yes Pride is a sin but if what he said offended you so much maybe it would be better to reflect on why
My unbelieving wife of almost 5 years wants a divorce after I’ve gone all in on the gospel and for Jesus. She looks at my relationship with Jesus as me judging everything that she says and does, but not once have I ever condemned her. I’ve only showed love, grace and mercy. She wants nothing to do with the church at the moment. She refuses to really talk about what makes her want a divorce and she won’t go see any form of counselor with me. When I say being unequally yoked is hard, I mean it. Unfortunately she will never understand why I’ve changed and why I continue to show grace and mercy even when she’s breaking my heart until she realizes that she is also a sinner just like me, in need of a perfect savior. Until she calls upon the name of Jesus and has that true transforming power of the Holy Spirit in her life then she won’t understand.
I am thankful for a God who is sovereign and in complete control. I’ve given this situation over to Him. I pray for her every single second of the day. I don’t necessarily pray for the marriage as much as I do her soul. I want her to have eternal life.
1 Corinthians 7
For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
God bless you brother and your family in Jesus name, for He works all things good for those who love Him. Blessed by the work done in you, God is faithful to complete what He started in you and your wife, and your future family to come.
Keep lifting up Jesus, and He will draw the men to Him. It is His battle, continue to be still and know He is God. Be strengthened and encouraged, I can already imagine the witness she’d be for Christ. And the power team you’d be for the kingdom of Christ, the devil is shaking at this plan.
Keep praying about it, ask God if there’s anything to repent for,,, or to show you things happening in the spirit, we have control over the unclean and lying spirits also at work through our Lord Jesus Christ.
God knows your love for your wife.. i too always desire my unbelieving family’s salvation.. its so precious to me and you and those who really know reality
I was firmly in the "I need to have sex before marrying a girl to make sure we're compatible" when I was a liberal in my late teens and early twenties.
I'm conservative now and am 180 degrees from almost everything I used to believe. I'm not technically a Christian yet, I suppose, though I want to start going to church again (did as a kid). I'm definitely down with waiting until marriage if I somehow (lol) manage to find a nice girl.
Like that podcast guy in the first clip said, sex isn't everything. I know the majority of people seem to think that if they don't have sex every week they'll immediately explode and die but that's ridiculous. People just don't want to control themselves anymore and don't think they can. They've been told for many decades to "do what feels good" and it's gotten to the point they don't think they can act elsewise.
If you want to learn more about Christianity, the UA-cam channels Kaci Nicole and Tony Evans are really good! Also, reading the Bible is awesome lol! For beginners, the easiest translations to understand are NIV or maybe ESV or TLV 😊😊❤❤ if you have any questions I'd be glad to try to help you with answers as well 😁
Read the gospel of John, you won’t regret it
@@t.n.1116 Thanks very much for the info! Yeah I've bought a couple Bibles (one kinda like a study one with additional info in it) and have been listening to Father Mike's Bible in a Year podcast.
@@clamum9648why don’t you feel like a Christian ?
@@clamum9648 Awesome! I second the Gospel of John! It is (almost) the whole story of Jesus' life, if you want to start there and see what it's all about. The Bible is awesome, both for its historical and story value but most importantly as a guide post for the Christian 😊 I personally do recommend starting in Genesis and reading front to back because there are so many tiebacks in the New Testament to events in the OT. But reading it is most important overall! 😄 I hope you enjoy it!
11 years and 5 kids later. Sex is great in marriage because you are safe and loved! It just keeps getting better, because you love the person more than yourself! Christian Marriage sex is the best way. Designed by a Glorious God!
I fully expect my wedding night to not be the best sex ever(not that I have a basis for comparison), but I expect for sex to be a thing we work on together to make it better for both of us (along with all the other parts of the marriage).
Gotta find someone willing to marry me(and who I'm willing to marry) first though... 💁♂️
I agree with that so much, I see a lot of people thinking it'll be amazing the first time but it's not a guarantee, it's like a skill that you and your partner can work on to improve during your marriage.
God bless. As someone who’s virgin and practising holiness as a whole too, think it’s really tuff of you how strong you are and that you’re willing to wait. I’m sure the Lord will bless you with a relationship and marriage if it’s His will too. ❤
@@avengerboy2171indeed and it’s freeing to see it as that because having expectations can lead only to disappointments
I'm going to say this as someone who came to the Lord at the age of 29 and partook is grotesque sexual sin before being forgiven of my filthy past, I will say this. I have had sex with multiple people (too many that I care to admit) and honestly the man I lost my virginity to (who was also a virgin at the time) was probably the best sex. Just because it's will be your first time with each other doesn't automatically mean it will be bad or not the best. I know you have no comparison but I may not be as bad as you think it will be. Definitely enjoy the moment when it does happen. I wish so much that I was still with that man, he's the father of my child and not a bad man. I was just stupid and selfish. God bless my friend :)
Absolutely correct!
Hubs and I waited 5 yrs and while we had temptations, on our wedding night we both cried at having waited. It was the best most sublime feeling in the world. Like God himself rejoicing with us. And it wasn't even about sex the first night. We went over our loved ones' cards and just reminisced on our 5 yr journey and the beginning of our new life together. If you wait you won't regret it! ❤
My fiancé didn't wait and regret having done it with his ex, she hurt him badly so those few times aren't his best memories. I'm waiting till marriage but knowing that he didn't make me kind of jealous. I would've wanted to be his first, it feels as if I'm missing a piece of him... but I trust him, he's waiting again, for me, and that makes me really proud of him. I can't wait to marry him this summer ! Pray for us please
@@elkq0 Yeah I did grew up in church, him not so much so I understand that we don't have the same experience. But it's also because I know the girl he did it with, we were friends before he met her so it feels really weird to me.
Ive been married 10 years now. The sex gets better as you get to know them better physically, mentally and emotionally. We had an awkward wedding night. Its supposed to be new and a bit awkward.
Im so glad I don’t have to deal with dating anymore. I love my husband. I wish I would have waited to get married until I found him. (Married previously, but Gods grace is amazing!)
Why was it akward if you’ve done it before?
@@saymynamejk4409Different people have different preferences. It takes a while to get to know the other person’s body. If she was used to her former husband, it may have been difficult to learn someone else’s preferences.
Man this hits different. My ex girlfriend was pushing a breakup because she compared our relationship with that of her wordly friend's. We've been doing long distance and it had been tough but it takes sacrifices. Just cut my losses and accepted her wish. I know she is likely not the woman God intended for me but it hurts on another level when she was the girl God used to introduce me to Him and the girl I thought I was going to marry.
I'm very sorry for you but hopefully there is Godly christan women waiting for you
Better for you
@@nowthatsrank I did the same and I they completely stop talking to me
For anyone who sees this and is struggling to wait, I promise it is so worth it.
My husband and I waited. And yes it is very awkward in the beginning and neither of you know what you are doing. But because you are dedicated to each other for the rest of your life, you learn together how to make it the most enjoyable experience. It has only gotten better the longer we have been married.
That's really nice to hear im 21 male and currently struggling it's really hard waiting when everyone promotes hookup culture and sleeping on the 1st date. But I'm determined to wait til marriage so i can only share that experience with whoever becomes my wife
I’m single and abstinent for many years. I’m waiting for marriage because it’s what God says is good for me and the man I marry someday. 🙏🏻💕✝️
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Make sure you don’t reject a good man of God
This is a very good and healthy video as a 16 year old.
I’ve been married and divorced twice both marriages only lasted for three years each neither one was based on love just sex so naturally they didn’t last long so I’ve been completely single for the past almost 14 years figuring out who I am as an individual and raising my two boys on my own.
I am sorry for what happened to you. I hope one day you meet someone who appreciates you as a person. God bless you and your children. At least you can teach your sons to have good values.
We all make mistakes but God forgives the repentant sinners! I hope it doesn’t affect your boys or you too much and that your little family grows closer to God with each passing day. God bless you in your journey to Him!
May God be with you.
This is a really tough topic. I didn’t wait and it led me down a road where now I’m 30 and have no real prospects for marriage. All the women I meet are liberal that want to have sex on the second or third date. It literally has zero meaning. What sucks even more is when you are with a really cool beautiful girl that you could see yourself marrying but she moves on super quick because she’s totally broken by her past relationships. I don’t see myself marrying because a lot of these women are broken. They have major pair bonding problems and have been ran through by multiple dudes. I’m trying to put my faith in Jesus to help me with all my problems and pray that I meet a nice Christian girl that wants to wait for marriage. Learn from my mistake and wait young boys and girls.
Not only women are broken, all humans have some sort of brokenness. Reflect on your own life, you too I assure have some something that has happened in your past that you carry some baggage over. Sin is what ultimates brakes us, it destroys what God has for us. Sounds like you are aren't a Christian yet so I recommend you place your faith in Christ first and allow him to work on you before you meet that Christian girl. We aren't unicorns, I'm a Christian female who has been abstinence since Jesus saved me, so we are out here. Sounds like you are going after worldy girls who desire worldy things.
If you want to be saved call out to the Lord, there is no works that you can do to save yourself, it is God giving you grace which you don't deserve.
Why do I need to be saved?
We are all infected with sin (Romans 3:23). We are born with sin (Psalm 51:5), and we all personally choose to sin (Ecclesiastes 7:20; 1 John 1:8). Sin is what makes us unsaved. Sin is what separates us from God. Sin is what has us on the path to eternal destruction.
Saved from what?
Because of our sin, we all deserve death (Romans 6:23). While the physical consequence of sin is physical death, that is not the only kind of death that results from sin. All sin is ultimately committed against an eternal and infinite God (Psalm 51:4). Because of that, the just penalty for our sin is also eternal and infinite. What we need to be saved from is eternal destruction (Matthew 25:46; Revelation 20:15).
How did God provide salvation?
Because the just penalty for sin is infinite and eternal, only God could pay the penalty, because only He is infinite and eternal. But God, in His divine nature, could not die. So God became a human being in the person of Jesus Christ. God took on human flesh, lived among us, and taught us. When the people rejected Him and His message, and sought to kill Him, He willingly sacrificed Himself for us, allowing Himself to be crucified (John 10:15). Because Jesus Christ was human, He could die; and because Jesus Christ was God, His death had an eternal and infinite value. Jesus’ death on the cross was the perfect and complete payment for our sin (1 John 2:2). He took the consequences we deserved. Jesus’ resurrection from the dead demonstrated that His death was indeed the perfectly sufficient sacrifice for sin.
How can I be saved? What do I need to do?
You must confess that Jesus is Lord, which signifies you realization that Christ must have full rule over your life with all of His righteous requirements. This confession of Christ as Lord also assumes that it is Christ who will work and fulfill His own righteousness within you.
Next, you must believe that God has raised Jesus Christ from the dead. This belief in the death and resurrection of Jesus carries with it the realization that the penalty has been paid for sin and power is provided for man to live a life free from sin. “For if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is by believing in your heart that you are made right with God, and it is by confessing with your mouth that you are saved.
I have waited for marriage and I’m 41 and in more or less the same boat as you. It’s tough when the Christian church gets down hard on men but takes it easy on women. 🤪🫠
Hey if it makes you feel any better I'm older than you, did wait, and I still don't have a wife or any prospects either. Even if a person does things the right way they can still end up in the same bad way. So don't feel bad it's probably not your fault. 😎
He he if it makes you feel better, I'm just a bit older than you. Been waiting, a lady, and still single.
The Lord does have a particular path for each one. So don't compare and don't despair, everything will come in good time.
Good sex is the easiest part of marriage. Respect of boundaries is crucial to a healthy relationship and it starts with honoring your girlfriend or boyfriend before having that entering the picture. It’s easy to wait if you both want to, my husband and I waited and he treats me with respect even in sex now that we’re married.
You’re my favorite youtuber that spreads Christian content me and my fiancé watch you all the time keep up the good work ❤
I wanted to wait till marriage, but I made some poor choices and put myself in a vulnerable situation where I was raped by my best friend (there were red flags and I should’ve known). After escaping that hell by God’s grace, I waited again and it felt like the first time with my husband. So for those of you who feel like they’ve fallen or had something precious taken from them, Christ truly will give you a new experience if you ask. I waited 7 years after that terrible year. It was a wonderful healing experience to find my husband. Jesus rescued me and then gave me back what I had lost. 7 years feel like a long time in your twenties. But waiting is worth it.
Sorry to ask this. It's ok if your not comfortable asking but what are some of the red flags. I'm 18 and I really don't have any guidance and I have some slight paranoia.
Hey, I just wanted to let you know, you should never feel like it was your fault with what happened. Sometimes the red flags just aren't seen unless in hindsight. At the end of the day, it is their responsibility and their fault for what they did to you. God does not hold that on you so please don't hold it on yourself.
Still not your fault. I pray you heal from that mess ❤🙏🏼
Its so funny how often my own family will tell me that maybe God wants me to date a non-believer to end up converting them and I’m just like NOOO.
First off, don’t date to change.
Second, as a prodigal daughter I’ve done my time in unbelief and it was painful. I don’t want to deal with that pain again via my love interest. Like, yikes! I’d be in so much pain for him and he’d probably get sick of me talking about God all the time.
Thirdly, as you pointed out, God even says its not a good idea.
If at any point I date an unbeliever, it’ll be after he’s converted to Christianity. At which point he won’t be an unbeliever anymore, he’ll be a Christian.
Yeah like my mom kinda suggested the same thing and it's like trying to date at 21 is hard enough but now I'm expected to try to change someone worldview no thanks, I've heard plenty of stories of people trying that and it rarely working or the non beleiever convincing them to have sex.
I love your videos, always insightful and God leading you. I am waiting until marrige, currently I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for a year. It has taught me so much about myself and how i can grow spiritual. For my first real relationship i feel so blessed to be equally yoked. I just pray that God will lead me in his own time.
May God continue to lead you, that it blesses not only those you reach but that he blesses your life and your wife abundantly.❤
Women like this are Blessing the Men of God who are dedicated to The Lord and Are willing to wait on His plan and Timing, (more than they realize). Fellas if she dumps you for your integrity, Hallelujah!! 🙌🙌🙌 Our Heavenly Father has Much Greater for you. No room for Compromise. Thank you Jesus for Discernment ❤
The girls statement was shockingly shallow! Shout out to "Paul" for waiting!
The "Till death do us apart" has been ignored for a while really long time
You're setup, editing style, tonal inflections, and titles are amazing. I aspire to be a UA-camr like you
You as a man, must have the self control. She wants a better person than her. Its not just height, wealth, status. Its be a superior moral person, so she can trust you with herself, so she doesnt go astray. ❤❤❤
Thank you for this. This is true.
Amen!
Im 61, and STILL? No Wife. I've given up hoping and have just accepted it. God's Plan for my life. And, thats OK at this point.
Whatever God's plan is, He is working out all things for your good. Keep trusting in God brother.
Society demonises people who remain single. But to me it's not really a bad thing. Some people can handle it.
Society demonises people who remain single. But to me it's not really a bad thing. Some people can handle it.
Blessings @@Heisrisenindeed
Sex with a stranger will always be "bad" compared to someone you love. Because you're not committed. You can be as sloppy and terrible as you want because you don't give a damn about the person. Use and abuse mindset. So the argument of "test drive" has no ground to stand on. As much as people say that. There is no foundation with that statement.
Exactly I'll never understand hookup culiture like getting naked and vulnerable with a complete stranger is just gross and weird especislly with all the risk of stds and pregnancy why would anyone risk that with someone they didn't love or could see raising their kids.
I do regret not being a virgin on my wedding night, it kinda felt "less special" I guess cause we did fall to sexual immorality before we were married. At least he was my first but still, I should've listened to my mother who was listening to the Bible and I wasn't really at the time. We did wait about 6 months though, the longest he had ever waited (he was an agnostic at the time) so he really cares for me and now that we're married we're no longer living in sin
What people dont realize is that both partners have to keep pure. If you do that, its all fine, you will learn together how to be intimate to each other. The BIG PROBLEM is if both of you have sexual relationships before marriage, then you will always compare your partner with someone else and youll not be happy.
"If the person couldn't keep it in their pants before meeting you, what's gonna stop them from doing the same after you?"
That's my advice.
I'm not sorry for waiting on God to guide me towards the relationship He wants me to have. I'm not missing out on anything by not having sex with random hustlers and diseased flesh.
I might not have my husband now, but I know it'll be worth it for us as man & wife whenever I am joined to him, whoever he may be. I've come to understand that I am not ready just yet for becoming a wife or even a mother, but when the time comes, it'll happen just as God wants it - not how I want it. Because if I had gone out at a time I wanted, I could've started at 16 during a time where I thought I wanted to become a mother, and instead would have been used, abused, left alone feeling disgusted and miserable.
definitely needed to read this today thank you!
I will say, even before I was saved, I always found it more appealing when a guy wanted to actually wait till marriage and valued that. I don’t really get this debate at all, the world is so backwards and demonic. These girls also fail to realize, you’ll never truly know if a guy likes you if y’all start having sex opposed to waiting. It’s very easy for a guy to want to cuddle up and be all around you if he’s intimate with you and knows he can get that. It truly shows if a man and woman value eachother when they both wait, actually do activities, truly get to know eachother, and seek the lord. I wish I was still a virgin, sexual sin is like poison.
Exactly like I told someone I was waiting for marriage and they called me immature "an adult relationship involves sex" and I'm like what's wrong with waiting for a geuine connection and marrying that person.
@@dannyphantom3090 Exactly, sex is an intimate and private thing, shouldn’t be doing it with just anybody at all. Waiting till marriage is the way to go. It’s so much deeper than people realize with all these stds out, unwanted pregnancies, broken homes, and let’s not forget the demonic bondage and soul ties that come with it. Waiting is the way to go, Gods way is always the best way.
Absolutely, it's really weird how many people want to just do it. I truly do not understand.
I remember a pastor telling
A guy "women aren't cars
You can't take them for a
Test drive to see if you like
Them first"
People who say "What if we aren't sexually compatible?" act like you can't learn and grow and develop a good sexual relationship with the person you're with... And like the guy on the podcast said, sex is not the end all be all of the relationship, it's an important aspect, but it's not the *most* important aspect.
Exactly like i never understood that outlook because they make it sound like it's going to be magically good if you do it before marriage. Also it makes relationships completely selfish if the sex is bad we're breaking up
Worldly relationships are selfish. “If you can’t offer me anything you’re worthless”
I just watch people I have not seen one person who has had sex out side of marriage, happy or fulfilled in may aspects to their life. The only people who have sex after marriage are more satisfied that I’ve seen that are generally happy
I was on a low carb diet for 4 months. When I got off the diet, I had a piece of bread. It was the greatest thing I'd ever eaten. Now, that bread means very little to me since I eat it every day.
Sex isn't much different. And the longer you go without it, the less you think about it.
My fiancé and I are waiting, and it wasn't really as difficult as people think.
I’m a 41 year old virgin and that’s… definitely not true for me 😳
@@terranceramirez4816 I'm not saying you'll stop thinking about it entirely, but if you stop watching porn and masturbating all the time, your brain will adjust.
Practice makes perfect! It is so beautiful for two, unskilled, holy people, to practice intimacy together for a lifetime. They know what the other likes and they have no one to compare the other to. There is no one they run into that will be comparing them to someone else. I've heard adultery sex is the worst because it is all hormones and heat and no true knowledge of the other partner or their likes or dislikes. Give a couple 50 years of practice with only eachother, and you willl have something special. Of course, marriage is way more than sex. 50 years of shared memories and the ability to laugh and play together are priceless. Sex can't beat true love and friendship and years of shared history!
If both people wait until marriage then there's no way to know if they're "good" or "bad"
Finding another person like that who isn’t already married these days is like shooting the moon in hearts though
@@terranceramirez4816 For sure! I unfortunately fell into that sin, but having a renewed heart also strips away comparing to previous partners. "Good" and "bad" are just preferences, so even if you have sinned in that way, learn to be "good" for your spouse. Work together. Repent and be renewed in Christ and with your spouse
@@zjshafe not many people sitting in pews today actually have renewed hearts.
Honestly I’m glad you brought up the fact people will blatantly ignore the fact dating non Christians is a bad idea and expect to be the exception. I’ve seen so many guys asking for dating advice because they really like this girl, but she isn’t a Christian and it’s already been some time so they are emotionally attached. Like, bro, you know better.
Finally a good response! I was looking for a comment like this! Why should a Christian hold a nonbeliever to biblical standards. Of course an atheist or some agnostic isn’t going to have the same morals and values that god commands us to have…so why bother dating them!!!
I never worry about it being “bad” after marriage bc practice makes perfect 😂
I wish I could find someone that wants to wait but I have no hope or expectation I will find that
Also praise God Im glad to hear you guys still exist on the planet!
Some women will use waiting as leverage or as a means to exert their dominance, on their terms. But when a man does it it’s seen as weird or suspect. A woman that would break up with a man for respecting or affirming their stance on abstinence and waiting until marriage is a huge red flag.
It's sad that standards are so low
Some of the best advice i've heard on the internet. ❤
Commenting on this video to get more videos like this on my feed, God bless. 🙏
If sex is such a determining factor in dicing whether to get married, you can imagine what happens if the sex gets old and the novelty wares off, as it always does. If that's all that held you two together, guess what happens next! Two people who tell each other that they would wait and risk them not being totally "sexually compatible" but is willing to work through whatever happens in that department is a MUCH stronger bond in all areas of marriage and companionship. Even if they find themselves to be "sexually incompatible" (what a silly thing to think), they both know they are ready to work at, problem solve together, fix it and make it work because they like each other as a person!!
Yeah like testing for compatibility just makes relationships and marriage sound so gross and transactional. Like I'm only good for sex when in the long run sex is like 10% of a marriage when you throw in communication, commitment, love, kids, family etc...
As if everybody is born with a fixed skill for the deed. That's how a car is made, that's not how intercourse skill works. It's like dancing, you can learn it and it's best learnt together. The first time time doesn't tell you anything.
0:59 - I am confused.
Is this a re-upload? Didn't Isaac show us pics from his and his wife's wedding reception? Am I missing something?!? 😶
Same
Video was probably made before the wedding.
Thank you both. 😊
Lol glad I'm not the only one who questioned this! When he said "I'm not married" I had to rewind to make sure I heard correctly 😂
What I don't get is when people get into a relationship how they think it doesn't have to be worked on. People think they get in, it's just gonna be easy that's not how relationships are. It's two people coming together to work on every issue two together with the same goals
If ur both virgins, how would you know it's bad? It would be something special, intimacy between the two, Male and female. True intimacy is the actual connection before the physical relation. People are wrong to only think about lusts.
I appreciate this. I participated in hook up culture a bit in my early 20s. Felt so boring and purposeless. I slept with a dozen women but I haven’t slept with anyone in 5 years. I want to wait now until marriage and find a sweet wife who wants double digit children.
I love this 😄 so cute. I hope I find a husband who has the same idea
😅😂
@@t.n.1116 you can do it! My great grandma had 8 children and she’s still alive and 101 years old 💪
@@TheJacali awesome! My great grandma lived till she was 103, she had 5 kids and lived as an immigrant subsistence farmer in Canada. I'm named after her 😄. I love to hear stories of the strong women in my family
@@t.n.1116 god favours the bold as they say 😃
I consider the women whom i scare off when i vocally state my intentions for marriage to be easily disqualified.
At least I would if there were any 😂
I absolutely believe that waiting for marriage is the best and healthiest way to approach sex, but I do think that sexual compatibility is relevant in certain cases. There will always be two different libido levels, sure, but what about someone with a fairly high sex drive and another who is borderline asexual? One may end up feeling pent up and stressed and the other could often feel like they're performing "duty sex" and then both are miserable. This kind of thing can be fairly well detected without having sex at least
Yes I agree that can be detected without actually having sex and that can also be worked out as well!
Well if the couple truly loves one another they will be willing to sacrafice their individual desires for their spouse and be willing to compromise. For the one with greater desire, they need to learn to control that and for the person with less desire, they need to learn to understand their spouse's needs and desires and work all that out in a God honoring way.
But you can ask about libido, how would sex help you find out someone’s libido, you can just ask
Yes I think about those sort of things, plus physical anomalies. I hear the stories of micro appendages and I think I would be kind of horrified if I only discovered that after marriage. I heard an article of a guy who waited until marriage with a woman but only did it so he could hide his anomaly and trick someone into marrying him, not for religious purposes. But those things can definitely be discussed, no need to find out the hard way lol
“Don’t fear Death. Fear Death not knowing True Love.”
~Phinehas~
I thought he got married but he's saying he's not married. I'm confused 😕
Same! Maybe this is a re-recorded vid that he released beforehand. @phi4721
I’m a Christian woman (31) who’s kept my virginity. I’m courting a Christian man (34) who’s also kept his virginity.
We want to become best friends and grow in our intimacy of knowledge of each other first. The goal is to marry with divorce not being an option. We’re taking our time to develop love prior to physical intimacy.
I’m not worried about the honeymoon. It’ll probably be fun because it’ll just be more that we get to learn about each other.
Good for you. Too bad none of your fellow women will wait.
Agree! I am a woman who is saving herself for marriage. I am looking forward to being naive on my wedding night 😂 I can't wait to learn with my husband
@@t.n.1116 Are you from Wisconsin by chance?
@@Woodsman_797 no I am in Virginia, why?
I’ve been married going on 5 years now (neither hubby or I were virgins sadly) and looking back we both wished we would have waited - because of how much more fulfilling it would have been, and it would have been pleasing to God. We both agreed we weren’t in alignment with God’s word, only what our flesh wanted, but now we have the arsenal to help guide, direct, and advise our future children.
I pray for all of you who are struggling with this, please cling onto the Word of God, because He is never wrong and He will never lead you into sin! ❤
This is 100% truth and wisdom
The people that say that waiting for marriage for sex have a few false ideas of what "good sex" is.
In a proper marriage, it's about being completely vulnerable with someone you love and trust so much. To want to love them with your heart, soul, mind, and body, and to want to please them as much as they want to please you. To be fully able to let go of all inhibitions, and give in to pure passion with someone else because you each love and trust each other that much.
Before that lifelong commitment is made, you can never fully trust or love another person, and that sinking feeling of fear of them leaving you one day, or having a child together you may not want, will always be lingering. Because true love and trust is fully proven in action and not just emotions. Until someone is fully ready to commit their entire lives to you, you can never have that same relationship married couples can share.
Anyone who has had sex with multiple people will all say that the sex you have with the person you are in love is the best sex. Compared to just hooking up.
Agreed literally everyone I know who did hookups regrets it and says they wish they waited for love.
This video was so good! On a side note, who is the guy in the black and white photo in the thumbnail? He's really cute ngl lol
As someone who sorta waited and had only unfulfilling sexual experiences pre-marriage that I regret, it’s been incredible to see the sex life in my marriage evolve over time. Yea we didn’t have it all figured out on our honeymoon, but we’ve grown together. 7 years in and the sex has gotten better every year. It’s not suppose to peak on your honeymoon, that’s the genesis of the journey together and I promise it’s worth the wait.
I'm 21 and definitely determined to wait but it's really discouraging when everyone wants sex on the 1st date and you don't even know if you love me or not. But I know the wait will be worth it when I find my wife.
Me and my partner are 21 and 23, we are virgins and are waiting for marriage. God brought us together. He is Christian and I was a Catholic my whole life. Within 3 months of him talking to me about God, I was convinced. At first I thought about it like another religion, I would reject God’s word but I am now a changed woman, My partner made me let go of everything, things I thought I would never not do. Through my partner, God transformed me and it’s the best feeling ever. I accepted Jesus and continue to accept him everyday. Our relationship is beautiful and I never imagined something like it but I pray me and him glorify God for the rest of our lives🙏❤️
So God brought you together huh? Why hasn't He done anything for me?
@@Woodsman_797 if you are bitter towards God you haven't learned enough to be blessed
Im not bitter, I just know that God predestined couples to be together, and it's probably His will for me not to find anyone.
Humans: *wait until marriage for generations.
Humans now: "that's impossible I decided."
I would ask someone this what are your values is values are such a big deal
Amen brother l. As a brother that has been marriages for 7 years. You know what u are talking about with being married.
Being reborn again last year, coming to obedience in abstaining until marriage isn't easy but I think about the benefits of waiting and growing with my future wife and lettin the Lord build my self control for the flesh more and more
I’m feeling a lot- but mainly destroyed, crippled and depressed when it comes to women these days and to protect whatever is left of my heart I stopped hoping and looking for decent women. It may suck but there’s not much else to do sadly.
There are plenty of good women out there, but they aren't going to show up in convenient places.
@@frqubitWell then they won't be found. 😎
You should keep trying until you hit 30. Then it's time to give up.
@@ModelJames13 Look harder.
@@frqubitBeen there done that. For far too long. It's over.
I thought you were married? I am 49 and a single virgin. I am in a loving and strong Christian family and Church. I won't shop and settle and I surround myself by truthful people who help me to make good choices and I see nobody out my way and I know God is in control but it has been hard especially as I approach 50 😮 But it is about Jesus and not myself and my feelings. Marriage is overrated and Paul says will make it harder to live life for God. I fell for a man that went to church but wouldn't give his life to Jesus. I was so disappointed at how I let my guard down and was falling for him. He saved my by my family saying - did you save yourself for that person. No. I was so blinded but He saves.
He is married, but I think he created this video before he got married.
@@user-in5ru2cd9l Thanks. I was like wait a minute
@@user-in5ru2cd9l I thought he got married a few months ago
15 years of marriage and intimacy is amazing but we had to learn. God doesn’t make mistakes, it helps you be patient with each other, less selfish, more humble, caring etc these generations are so foolish 😢
9:35 i'm only 15 so i've never been in a relationship, but i have been involved in years and years of sexual sin ( which i'm free from now, praise God), but after being exposed to that realm for so long, I think that it gives false expectations for intimacy, maybe even violent ones. It's more than just another sin, and it's very detrimental. The idea of just give and take in the bedroom is super prominent as well, but that's not realistic in any other branch of life, apart from maybe a business transaction. The idea of idealisation of your partner is another thing, but of course, all of this is very toxic and anti biblical. I would want my husband to put God before me, to love him more than me, even if it means sacrifice sometimes.
Wow! If only I had this wisdom and thoughtfulness at your age. Praise God that you are saved before the more sexually expectant years of highschool and college. Please never fall out of faith! I am so happy for you ❤🤗
As a follower of christ I dont think just because someone is willing to wait for marriage means you should date or marry them. That should not be the standard, because they are people outside the faith of christ who wait for marriage to have sex( different religous views, conservative views). The standard is a fellow brother or sister in christ who serves the lord Jesus Christ with their words and actions. They should love God AND be of obediance by waiting till marriage. I have seen fellow brothers and sisters of Christ date or marry someone soley on the basis that their partner would wait for them and not because they show fruits evident of the holy spirit inhabiting in them and having a relationship with Christ . We are to be equally yoked.
My wife and I waited and were the first people we dated at 26, waiting until our marriage for both the first kiss and everything beyond, besides holding hands. It was beautiful. We just spend time catching up. We are thankful that we each are the definition of human beauty to each other and that we had no other comparison/conflict of interest.
1. We took the approach based on God's word and the desire to save as much as possible for the one we would marry (no loss when that was decided on our wedding day).
2. We also were both of the mindset that if we gave in to the temptation to cheat with each other before marriage, we would likely be more tempted to cheat on each other during marriage.
With an eternal perspective, the idea of instant gratification and shortcuts is repulsive. Evil and sin always work to twist the good because they have no power or authority to create anything of their own.
My husband and I dated for 3 years before we got married. We both saved ourselves for our wedding night and let me tell you, nothing can describe that intimate feeling you have for the first time with your partner. I cannot imagine doing that with someone else. Scripture describes sex as two souls becoming one. The problem is that society normalizes sex as just another thing that you do and you move on to the next. Also one of the reasons that divorce rates are so high.
Thats sounds wonderful I'm 21 and trying to do the same it's hard to find a woman who wants to wait even some Christian women are fine with doing anything that doesn't penetrate them.
Man and wife become one in flesh, not soul.
@@connorcreegan Obviously to become one flesh means to become united physically and sexually, but it is far more than that! It is a symbol of a man and a woman bound and melted together, heart, body, and soul, in mutual giving and total oneness. When husband and wife become one flesh, they are no longer two, but actually one.
@@audacity9740 I appreciate your enthusiasm for the gift of marriage. My only point was that Scripture doesn't actually say there is soul-unity, it refers to unity of flesh and of will. I don't mean to be pedantic, but the literary expression of souls becoming one is kind of dangerous, because taken in a literal sense it would require a false, almost kabbalistic, understanding of what the soul is. Soul-unity does not properly contextualize the meaning of earthly marriage, which is a flesh union with the primary end of procreation.
GOOD VIDEO..KEEP UP THIS KINGDOM WORK...
I normally keep this to myself, but I take pride in my celibacy. Nowadays with all the media influence and societal pressure, it is _harder_ to abstain than not to. For that reason, I have deep respect for those who keep their faith in God and steadily walk on His path, in spite of all the distracting "noise." God knows best what's right for us.
It's only that: noise. It's 1000x more fulfilling to stay celibate.
I agree I take pride in being a virgin waiting til I'm married but these days it's definitely hard when everything is sexualized and sex is basically thrown In your face everywhere.
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that “what God wants us to do” lines up with the pragmatic reality. In fact, I would say that is strong evidence to support theological teachings.