The Psychology of Entitlement
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- Опубліковано 12 лип 2018
- This video explores the theme of entitlement, especially in terms of the psychological idea of a "locus of control." This video then applies those insights to the phenomena of mass murder in American high schools, as well as quasi-political virtue-signaling behavior.
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I'm 20 and I think I'm a narcissist. I've started looking into changing my responses, because I have a bad habit of saying/behaving in a way that I believe will result in others reacting in a certain way, and if they don't, I get very frustrated. The more I think about it, the more I realise how fake I've been. Nice until things don't go my way. So I'm reading up on how to just accept things as they come as a start. I don't want to hurt people around me anymore.
Same. We can do this!
U gotta embrace the pain…. There is no joy without pain
The fact that you are self aware enough to ask yourself if you are a narcissistic person is proof that you are not.
You aren't a narcissist. Trust me, they do not look at themselves.
Maybe bpd
My father always judged peoples worthiness and decided pretty early on who was more or less worthy among his 4 children. He did nothing to hide this and everyone now agrees, I was definitely the least favorite and my older sister the most. His other 3 children took full advantage of my lowly status knowing full well he’d always take their side and he would even discuss with my older siblings that I d amount to nothing and was stupid. Therefore I formed a degree of self reliance and 30 years later I’ve been far more successful than them and have even helped the 3 of them out financially at different times. The only reason I mention this is because the dynamics between us has now completely changed through their resentment and instead of being called a loser I’m now accused of being unbelievably lucky. So in reality nothing has changed.
Awesome. I’d say you’re entitled to a lot more subs and views
LOL
I guess it is pretty randomly asking but do anyone know of a good website to stream new series online ?
@Grant Sage try flixzone. Just search on google for it =)
No one deserves anything. From a kantian perspective do the best you can and accept the consequences.
From a utilitarian perspective enjoy any gains and let go of any loss
This notion belies the vulnerability of bourgeois philosophy. On the surface it sounds, and for the most part is, rational. However, consider serious loss and catastrophic disaster. For instance, your family is illegally driven off its land which was its only means of income. There is no recourse because the prevailing authorities are beneficiaries of the theft from your family.
Kevin Hornbuckle yes. If you do or dont you still made a choice. What led you to that choice does not matter. You made it ..own it. If it means your own death, incarceration or ostracism...so be it
The problem with this video is that the locus of control is just about your perception and how that affects emotions and decisions good or bad.
You do not "fall somewhere in the middle" it's very hard to determine your actual control in your life and how much you feel can be just a philosophical or existential. Like is your life predetermined by god or do you have so much freedom that contemplating it causes existential stress?
This dude is pitching his own rhetoric, not actual psychology.
BUT WE DESERVE BETTER LIFE WE ARE LIFE CREATURES AND WE DESERVE TO LIVE BETTER SO THE GOVERNMENT IS ACTUALLY IN BIG DEBT TOWARD PEOPLE AS ALWAYS CAUSE WE DON'T VOTE THEM TO EAT OUR MONEY SPENDING WORTHLESSLY ,THEY OWE USS!
@ototurmanidze5578 we don't deserve anything....
Happiness comes from wanting less and serving others more.
What you are asking is the opposite.
The sources of entitlement are not fully understood, but researchers have pointed to factors such as how people are treated by their parents and other authority figures, messages from the media, and other life events, especially those that make people feel that they are special.
Self-entitlement is when an individual perceives themselves as deserving of unearned privileges. These are the people who believe life owes them something; a reward, a measure of success, a particular standard of living.
THIS HITS HARD!!
thank you!
Wow! Just wow! I’m glad I stumbled upon your channel. Very wise words. I’m still digesting all the valuable information. I would say this discussion can be really life-changing. Thank you sir!
More people need to see your videos.
Well, thanks for that. I must confess that I'm not so great at self-promotion, which I'm sure limits my outreach quite a bit. But my faith is that the people who watch my videos will be the right people, and they'll get out of them exactly what they need to get out of them. Anyhow, thanks for those warm words. Eric D.
Thank you for posting this. Understanding the thought process in some of the people around me make it much easier to go forward and improoveing my own interactions with the world at large.
Mr. Dodson, thank you, you have helped a lot, discovering your channel is the best thing happened to me this year.
How can I stop being so entitled and being addicted to instant gratification? I’m 27 I need help I think 😫
You have to get comfortable being uncomfortable. Get used to hearing the word 'no' and realise that life gives you what you earn by the effort you put into it. There is a relationship between effort and reward, meaning and responsibility that far supersedes instant gratification and surface level pleasure.
Yeah I'm like this as well, idk how you practice a different mindset tho? How do you break out of the habits? Do you do mental exercises or like what?
Just keep growing intellectually and learn that no one owns you anything. Not the world not your parents . When u learn this you will become happier and whole.
@@EH-vzzy One way is to travel, visit or even live in a less developed country for a while, it will humble a person very quickly once you see how some others live IN PERSON. You'll began to appreciate life even more and your attitude will change.
Just appreciate what little you do have and give to others who have less; and work toward achieving something that is way above yourself.
Excellent! I agree with your analysis.
In order for one to maintain their sense of entitlement, one must have a willing public. Therein lies the problem with so many of the interactions we see daily in the news and other sites. Not many folks are willing to let the 'exterior locus' effect their 'interior locus'. LOL
Thank you!
Su
Great video and thank you so much for your help all the best. Much love ❤️
Great video, Really enjoyed yoir perspective and insight on everything and your non-biased opinions… 🙏🏽 Came from the internet to youtube App just to praise this video.. Thanks again Sir.
Profound ! Thank you for the vocabulary and framework to understand this. Would you happen to have a transcript?
How do I learn and just accept what my world is? I’m 27 and I feel there’s so many narcissistic people around.
Well, maybe part of it has to do with realizing that the limitations of other people's narcissism don't necessarily have to be your own limitations. In other words, maybe you're freer than it seems like at first. With regard to accepting the world as it is... the biggest challenge is learning that ugliness and pain are also part of the larger totality of things... also part of the human adventure. And beyond that, the larger reality is that the world will continue to be the world regardless of how you and I are reacting to it. Just a thought. Eric D.
Eric Dodson thank you so much for replying, I will take this advice 😊
@@hsedo2126 Well, just experiment with it a bit. See if it fits you. If not, feel free to leave all or part of it behind. Life is far too short for us to be carrying around a lot of excess baggage. Anyhow... good luck with the adventure of your 27th year. I remember that year in my own life; it was amazing... Eric D.
Eric Dodson thank you! I will be looking at this video over and over 😊
Here is how I personally feel about that: those people are also responsible for how they treat people around them and should be treated as such, if they will not improve you are responsible for recognizing that and either avoiding those people, finding better people, or moving to a different place altogether with different people if at all possible.
You make the best videos Dr. Doddy.
Well, thanks, Sr. Pendejo. I try to give the best of myself. Of course, all of that's bound to be interwoven with my own personal faults and shortcomings. But in my view, such is the nature of human generosity. Anyhow, thanks for tuning-in to my videos, and for commenting. Mucho agradecimiento. Eric D.
Very insightful. Appreciate your wisdom.
A clear and concise analysis of modern entitlement mentality and good normative advice!
I love you, Eric Dodson.
I love you, too, Rob... Hope you're well and thriving...
Very insightful. 🙏🏻
What is your professional background and expertise? Thx
These last few days have been mediocre. I've been unconsciously asking myself "why is this happening to me" and "why aren't good things happening to me". I wondered if God is trying to send me a sign.
Currently work in customer service and lost my cool with a seemingly entitled guest.
This video is a sign! I have been relying too heavily on the external locus of control. Been to entitled myself that the events will work out.
This and a Stoic mindset. Appreciate your insight!
So if I understood this correctly, the core issue of someone feeling entitled towards others, is them not being generous to themselves and pursuing what they truly want/need/desire??
I agree 👍 good video. I feel like things can happen in life that are out of your control, but its up to you to make sure that its a temporary state I guess.
17:23 why do I feel this line contradicts your earlier statement in the previous video or maybe it was this, that a man grows out of his comfort zone?
Wow...I am at a loss for words at the moment, and in a good way.
Cool. Sometimes we understand things best when we're not in the process of generating more words. Sometimes, silence is our best teacher. Anyhow, thanks for saying that. Gratitude. Eric D.
I love this
Great Video!
Thanks. Hmm... I have a nephew who's really into Minecraft. He's 12 years old and loves Karate.
Great video!
Thanks. And thanks for taking the time and energy to watch it. Eric D.
Love your channel
Well, thanks, Tim. I think that finding things that we really love is one of the most important challenges we face as human beings. So, it makes me happy to hear that my own efforts have provided at least a little something for you in that area. Much gratitude to you for engaging what I'm doing so deeply. Eric D.
>no school shootings in 70s
"Oh, oh, oh tell me why
I don't like Mondays
Tell me why
I don't like Mondays
Tell me why
I don't like Mondays
I want to shoot
The whole day down"
You literally had a top song about a school shooter.
Well, in the video I'm referring to the period in the 70's when my generation was attending high school. The Brenda Spencer shooting (and the subsequent song to which you're referring) happened in 1979 -- after my cohort had already graduated and gone to college.
@@ericdodson2644 Is 1979 not in the 70s?
@@troy3423 Yes, but it wasn't in the period during the 70's when my generation was attending high school (see previous comment). By 1979 my cohort had already graduated and gone to college (see previous comment).
I am in a ton of trouble for should I adapt my favorite things that I loved as a kid or not?
Outstanding
Awesome video! Subscribed
Experienced entitlement at my shop today, posted the experience. It’s hard to get over the immorality
Great video
Karen would like to speak to your manager.
Unfortunately, I *am* the manager.
😆🤣😂
The interesting thing about the idea that teenagers in the 70's weren't as entitled as kids are today is that the original of the phrase "The Me Generation" was coined by parents of baby boomers to describe their self-entitled attitude. The information here is pretty good but I would personally hesitate to claim that something as multi-faceted as the rationale (or lack thereof) for school shootings is somehow simply distilled to only entitlement.
I would also say that while I know the age of this video makes comments like this moot in retrospect I still think it's important to look back at media like this and question if claiming people fighting for equality or higher degrees of emotional intelligence in public discourse is, again, a bit of an over-simplification.
Good comment. Of course, some teenagers in the 1970's felt as entitled as do many Millennials today. Yes. The real difference between late Boomer teenagers and today's Millennials / Zoomers has to do with degrees of civilization, meaning the civilized social structure including our ever-advancing technologies. N.B. Ever-advancing technology is NOT an indication of human progress which is another highly-civilized illusion. At its core, the civilized social structure separates people from themselves, from one another and from what's real and true. Ultimately, we did not evolve to live amongst hordes of strangers in a filthy, noisy and purely consumeristic habitat.
What about parents that push their kids ahead even if they didn't work for it? Aka nepotism. This is a great video.
Thx for the vid
It opened my eyes a lil bit more
But how could a person or better a young person of this generation stop with feeling entiltled?
Hmm... of course, the answer to that probably varies somewhat from person to person. One way would be, to put it in the words of Spongebob, to practice an attitude of gratitude. That kind of practice helps shift our center away from an entitled, complaining attitude and toward an appreciative, thanking attitude. However, another path might involve realizing that life doesn't center itself around what we think we're owed, or what we think we deserve, or any of our excuses for not improving ourselves. Of course, there are probably other paths, and the optimal one for any given person probably involves a composite of different approaches. But anyhow, thanks for the excellent question, Rayzek. I hope this helps, or at least is unhelpful in an interesting way. Eric D.
@@ericdodson2644 thx for taking the time to answer :D
The idea that you have to be "deserving" in order to get things has terrible implications. I recall being a child trying my hardest to get love and be loving toward my sexually abusive and neglectful father, and later my emotionally unavailable, verbally, and physically abusive mother, and feeling like I was inherently unlovable because I just couldn't be good enough.
The world of humanity did not and does not accept me for who I am because they simultaneously wish that "I", evidence to the proof of painful humanity did not exist. I guess I could be "entitled", even though I do not believe in deserving. But at what point do I admit that I am emotionally and psychologically starving and desperate for feeling, while others have what even fantasizing about having can only bring excruciating pain for me, cuz that reality is so far out of my reach? It hurts to see them supposedly "alive" while I feel dead. My overall lack of humanity and emotional enjoyment rotting me from the inside out, only for me to halt its call to emergency action - violent commitments.
I agree. I am and have been since the day I was born entitled to nothing, but this lends itself to taking things from others like things were taken from me in a desperate attempt to make something, anything, feel better. Why can't I reduce people to nothing, if I am nothing? If I am only capable of no good for anyone, is my only home the suffering I carry and perpetuate?
I think we can go back and forth between who's deserving and who isn't, but one thing that is undeniable is we NEED(ed) things whether we "deserve" them or not and depravity of those things causes more suffering.
Pastel Panda thanks for sharing. The question of “Who am I”, you’ve answered, but I think you can change you view of yourself, by doing good deeds and improving society where you can. You don’t have to be a perpetual victim of your past.
I don’t understand why it has to be either an internal OR an external locus of control. Why can’t it be both? Why can’t people believe in a middle ground? Let’s say I work really hard all my life, get my Ph.D., work 20 years for a company, and give back to the community as much as I can in my spare time. By 50 years-old, I would think that I had earned the right to deserve more material things and better treatment by people in our society. But, that is not my reality.
To continue this thought experiment, let’s say that due to corporate greed (and ageism), I have been down-sized and now I can’t find an employer willing to hire me. Then (suppose as a scientist working in climate change), the current government halts all funding and my entire job field is gone. I have lost my job, my status (as well as job seniority) and am destitute as I have now burned through all of my savings. I keep trying to re-invent myself into new careers, but no one is hiring except Wal-Mart (and I need benefits due to health reasons so working there does not help). These are all things I tried to keep in my control. But, in reality, these circumstances are completely out of my control.
This was an example of a Gen-Xer having both internal and external locus of control. But, according to theory, this can not be true. Please explain why not.
Sounds like a policy issue
It comes down to this : in life, one doesn’t get what one deserves. One gets what one gets. And that is a very harsh reality to learn to live with. Especially if one has worked so hard to achieve something and then that’s taken away from one solely because of some external cause like politics, health issues, economic difficulties. And to top it off, there will always be people that will put the blame on you, because that makes them feel better in some very sick way. Life really sucks at times. But then it owes us nothing. We can only be grateful for having had the opportunity to live through it.
1:24 2 of those things are inarguably out of anyone's control. And I can argue that hardwork is too. The brain chemistry, wiring, and experiences in a "hard worker's" brain, as well as their energy level are completely different than that of a more sedentary individual. Regardless, expecting someone to bake a successful cake with with any missing ingredients is ridiculous. It is unreasonable to expect any individual to rise above their situation when luck and talent are 2 of the key ingredients. Therefore, you (plural) can take your internal locus of control and shove it up your behind.
The Egg in the past I would agree with you, but then I was out of work for a while and was frustrated. I came across a youtube video by Grant Cardonne called “How to Get a Job”. The first time I watched it I hated it. But after I forced myself to rewatch about 20 times, I switched to being proactive and got a job 3 days later. I think I hated it because I believed I deserved a job.
one of the best psych vid!
anyone born after 1995 should totally watch this
Even ppl older than 1995 are like this..
"Deserve's got nothing to do with it." - William Munny in Unforgiven.
Hi Eric. What area of psychology do you specialise in?
Existential-Phenomenological Psychology... hence my recurrent emphasis on the primacy of experience.
What is your specialist?
i feel terrible for it but I busted out laughing at hermaphrodite it up. Its a bit outdated but holy crap that was great.
I find this to be thoughtful and generally persuasive. It is incumbent upon us to take our rights and obligations of citizenship seriously. This is not an admonition to remember to get out and vote. Quite the contrary: the election system is based upon narcissism as is the economy and economic structure. Maybe psychological resilience was greater in the 1970s because there was then still a chance at having a decent life even if you encountered a serious set-back or injury. Now the falling standard of living proceeds in pace with a generalized meanness that is amplified by social media. You see it if you have your eyes open. Every school shooting results in augmentation of the means of alienation which motivated the shooter. That's right. The effect is the cause. And so on.
Kevin Hornbuckle it wasn't greater. They had school shootings in the 70s, it was less common but they also had a smaller population. Also he actually says that the current reason for school shootings was caused by partially because of "psychoactive drugs" because.. ya know.. Nobody was doing psychoactive drugs in the 70s!
This dude is selling rhetoric and disguising it as psychology.
Thanks, Kevin, for your usual thoughtful reply. Thanks also for tuning-in and responding to my videos. I appreciate that. You're right that I'm trying to point to the glorified narcissism (cast as entitlement) that runs through a lot of our political process -- on both sides of the divide. Yes, people's psychological resilience might have been better 40 years ago because there were more viable opportunities for young people. But it seems to me that it's also a matter of the perception of opportunities, which in turn is inevitably shaped by the set of meanings offered to us by the previous generation. I suppose that I'm more inclined to put emphasis on the perceptual processes, partly because I see things from a psychological perspective, and partly because it seems like a more direct conduit for people's personal empowerment. Anyhow, thanks again. Gratitude. Eric.
Eric Dodson, I’m sorry but I also have to disagree with you. Maslow is just really known for his hierarchy of needs. Carl Rogers is the main man of humanistic psychology through the 1970’s.
I also grew up in the 1970’s in the bible belt. There were so many words I couldn’t use and opinions that could never be said out loud without fear of physical violence - both in school and out of school. Growing up in the bible belt meant at public school you either adhered strictly to Methodist, Protestant, or Catholic ideology or there was literal blood to be paid. You’d also be relentlessly bullied and ostracized by teachers, staff, and your student peers. Anyone who wasn’t a Christian denomination, or not the right denomination, was constantly told that they were less than others, were going to hell, and most would not befriend or date you since you’re going to hell. We were beat at home and school. We didn’t shoot up schools because we were told that everyone goes through this and we are not alone. No. Instead we were too broken and had serious learned helplessness. Plus, most of us growing up in the financially depressed “Rust” belt couldn’t afford a high-capacity magazine, let alone the gun to match it.
So, yeah, we didn’t shoot up schools back in the 1970’s. Instead we internalized it. Now, our generation has the highest “deaths of despair.” We are committing suicide at alarmingly high numbers. We also suffer from so much addiction.
I don’t believe either way is best or better. Honestly, most of the entitled people I have come in contact with were Yuppies in the 1980’s. That greedy, everyone-out-for-themselves, mentality, is what I believe has made the difference and destroyed our society.
This was definitely a huge missing piece in my puzzle. Holy shit. Thank you!
Thanks
You're welcome.
Every League of Legends ranked player needs to see this.
Professor, will you consider making video of a list of top five books for various categories, i.e, to be a genuine intellectual; authenticity; understanding ourselves and human nature; how to be no one's fool, etc?
Sr. Pendejo... Yes, this is an excellent suggestion. Probably my next video will be on meditation and its relation to psychology. But after that, I think I'll take up your suggestion about, "Top books." Thanks for the idea! Hope all is well in Texas. Eric D.
With all due respect to Mr. Dodson. ( he gives a great overview here, for the most part) But there's something else I'm noticing a lot more of these days, which is a sense of entitlement in most men over 60, an often frustrated insistence that things should remain the way they always were, where most younger people are evolving psychologically towards a much more diverse, empathetic and all inclusive worldview; one that only frustrates older people because it wasn't that way "when they were kids." He makes a great point that the hope were were given, with an internal locus of control, while growing up in such unconscious, un-empathetic times, is what got us through, but it's not necessarily where we're headed as fully developed human beings. This perspective echos many other popular psychology professors these days, with droves of older male followers who are very frustrated about this new sense of entitlement and overblown political correctness coming from our youth. Meanwhile, it's obvious the jig is up with many of our old behaviors, which I think is a good thing. And I'm 54. Most of us just need to accept it - the times they are a changin'.
Fortunate One I’m in my 50’s and do see it too, but not every women (mainly the good looking ones). I discussed the topic with a woman, who suggested it was that they had successfully capitalised on their sexual attraction, so maybe their sense of entitlement is well founded (although I would argue unjust).
Apparently you don’t recall Charles Whitman. However that was one instance. But on the whole, I agree with your opinion.
I live in a country where none of this applies. Even if you have all of the aforementioned qualities, the end of the road will make you feel like a failure and entitled rather than achieving your personal goals. I have seen many people fail because of the corrupt system and fools around them.
Love your sense of humor! Great video.
At 4:42 you said internal locus of control people make excuses for failures but that's external locus problem.
Well, when I say "The rest..." I'm referring to what lies outside of an internal locus of control. So, I agree that excuse-making is mostly a function of an external locus of control.
Whos this guy? His words are gold
An entitlement is that one has a right by a legal title. Title 7, Title 9 whatever. It was never a feeling until it became a political weapon. By goal post moving a privilege of legal title to a feeling or locus.
The world owes us death.
good
The world does owe us at least the resources we need to thrive, food, clothes, shelter, and basic safety just for us being human. Our mothers and fathers were the ones to have built the world we have today over centuries, providing us all with infinitely more wealth than we could ever need! However, the rich think they are entitled to all that wealth for themselves? Does the CEO of Amazon work 100 000+ times harder than any of us? Of course he doesn't, quite the opposite. Indeed, such incredible entitlement from him, and all the "elite" to think he can take all that wealth from his workers just because he "owns" the buisness.
Could you make a video on gender?
You mentioned that we shouldn’t expect everyone to live by our own set of morals, are you saying there is no truth, only opinions? What about science - is stealing ok if your parents said it was?
We are entitled to suffering despite our level of control or not.
My man... Common Sense put very eloquently
Well, thanks. Of course, one of the ironies of our current era seems to be that simple common sense is actually ... one of the most *uncommon* things in our world. So it goes, I guess...
@@ericdodson2644 it's symptomatic of the greater problem of the acquisition of knowledge that the internet has influenced. Even though it's one of the most important and powerful tools of all mankind, having unbridled and a controlled access to knowledge has hurt us deeply. No longer are we consumed with the quest and people don't know what to do with themselves.
@@deanlisterene6593 Yeah, and I'd say that all things considered, knowledge is a pretty poor substitute for actual wisdom. And in turn, I'd say that entitlement is basically a form of anti-wisdom. Sure, it's common to think that what our world needs these days is more and more knowledge. But what we really need is the ability to live well with what we already know.
I came here because I was worried I may have a sense of entitlement. Now that I actually hear what this entitlement means. I can not agree with it for myself so now I have to look into exploitative behavior.
I agree that the upbringing was definitely different, and teaching children agency is totally effective. However, I do wonder *why* the people who were raised with this mentality have taught their children otherwise. It's funny.
I agree mostly, but the school shootings, well, I think that is much more complicated than just that the shooter feels entitled. Maybe you would agree but just didn't get into it deeper in this video. There are other important factors such as alienation caused by among other things the rootlessness of American life; there is often little sense of community. Perhaps the glorification of violence in entertainment plays a role as well.
The picture explains entitlement well
The narrative of the 70s was this word salad? "Yeah, you're going through a pretty tough period of life right now and actually, that's true for most people going through their adolescence so you're definitely not alone in your suffering but if you just stay the course, just keep working hard to discover and actualize your own unique potential and eventually become your own unique person. Then... With a little luck things will get easier with time-"
That's not even the end, just let that clusterfuck of a paragraph sit with you
Hmm... I'm not sure why that seems like "word salad" to you. It might be because you're not used to that kind of message and that kind of language in your own experience (which is actually the point I'm trying to make... that that sort of message seems incomprehensible to a lot of people these days). Nonetheless, it was definitely part of the message I heard as an adolescent. And I sense that I'm not the only one in my cohort to take it to heart. But, of course, your experience may be different.
I know people who grew up in the 70s and there is plenty of media from the 70s to get an idea of what the vernacular was like. No one used "actualize your own unique potential" in a sentence.
From what I gather, something similar "do what you love, and success will follow with hard work" was advice I received in the 80s/90s and it was bad advice. Tons of young people eventually learned that everyone wants to study something like art, no one wants to do math. You ended up with a bunch of people stuck with expertise in the same low demand, low paying fields and stuck with debt following the advice of their piers and no one cared about yourself as a unique individual. Although no one talked actual the mutual experience of suffering more then "if this is the worst pain you experience, you should be thankful" but the negativity didn't decrease after highschool, your fear of a bully was just replaced with adult fears of threats of terrorism, potential homelessness, assisting your parents finance burdens, ruined credit. The bullies and harassers of your childhood you would think about fondly since at least they were corporeal with a malice intent. Rather then the new existential threat of poverty and recessions which seemingly targets you indirectly.
So, your advice and opinion seem to originate from someone whom grew up in a very low risk safe environment, which I don't think reflects the experience of most younger people.
Actually, I'm taking the "actualize your own unique potential" bit from Abraham Maslow's 1971 book, The Farther Reaches of Human Nature. Maslow was one of the most influential humanistic psychologists of that period. As for the "Do what you love" advice you received during the 80's and 90's... yeah, that's not terribly realistic. Much better would be to find a way of doing what you love that also meets the world's needs. That way, you get to live the life you want while simultaneously paying your bills. Of course, this is a lot harder than just doing what you love, or on the other hand, just becoming a mindless, passionless robot. And finally... yeah, especially with respect to mass murder in high schools, I definitely DID grow up in a relatively safe environment. And that's exactly my point... something's changed to make life a lot more dangerous since then.
"Much better would be to find a way of doing what you love that also meets the world's needs."
I swear you made a video with theme along these lines Dr. Dodson.
@@ericdodson2644 because it generalized bullshit
“Just a thought”... 😆😆😆😆
I know your right and I'm trying to understand this. But I know deep down I dont believe what your saying. A pice of my wants to run away from this type of thinking cause it will hold be accountable.
The world doesn't owe anyone shit, except for what they've EARNED. The phrase "I deserve" irritates me.....nobody "deserves" anything.
So why did the 70's have so many cereal killers?
Probably because there were so many brands of cereal. Think about it: Lucky Charms, Froot Loops, Cap'n Crunch, Cheerios, Count Chocula... people were bound to be upset by at least one of them.
After taking the shower I needed to take, I realized that since you really don't know me, you should know a few other things before judging me or writing me off. I did not receive more "gifts" than the children of my parents' friends, from the same or relative economic class. My best friend was from a n economically disadvantaged family, and to spare her the pain and anguish of being bullied over that which she had no control, I got jobs as a kid, and helped her out during appropriate gift giving times (birthday and Christmas) with clothing I purchased new, to the styles that were in at the time. I did this out of empathy and love for a friend.
I don't think kids today are any different than kids from my generation, other than that their parents have taught them that bullying pays. The main difference is the technology that makes bullying and stalking that much easier-- and easier to get away with.
I scream at my kids grown kids I don’t owe them anything
If you think I owe you something, anything, and you're reading this, speak up. On here. Plead your case. Respond to the comment. Don't be scared. We live in a free country with free speech...
This is why the natives didn't have land "stolen" from them, despite the sad circumstances.
How should I deal with my post 4 years of potus Trump PTSD?
I think you're biased. I grew up being beaten by my parents from a very young age, and they bought me things afterwards to alleviate their own guilt. I did not grow up believing that the world owed me anything other than to leave me alone (I became a target of gang stalking, a very real, horrifically evil practice of deliberately debilitating and intentionally destroying a human being's life and soul through the relentless application of psychosocial and psychological stressors well above and beyond the natural and normal realms of reality that occur normally in life, until it destroys the target, they snap, or commit suicide). I wanted a chance, like anyone else. THAT IS NOT ENTITLEMENT. I CONTRAST THAT WITH THE ENTITLEMENT OF THOSE WHO MAKE IT THEIR MISSION TO COVERTLY DRIVE OTHERS' LIVES INTO THE GROUND, AND I SEE THAT EVIL MISSION AS A VERY HATEFUL, WARPED AND TRUE SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT.
Husband feels entitled my kids are worse
No one on this planet is entitled to anything, weather you work hard or not, why ? Because of the natural mechanics that dictate the reality of this existence. Nothing is guaranteed regardless of your hard work. The concept of entitlement is an empty dead-end, it is very closely related to expectations. I do this, so I expect that, this sort of thinking only sets you up for disappointment. Disappointment is the end result of expectations and also entitlement. It is an ignorant endeavor to pursue, when this concept is analyzed to it's core you should start to realize that there is zero logic behind it..
Isn't this clip just about critical theory ?
Welcome to r/entitledparents...
I searched for "what entitlement is explained by an entitled person" and this was the first video. I guess YT really does know what it's doing.
Errogance =entitled
Let's extrapolate entitlement with economics:
Internal Locus = Capitalism
External Locus = Socialism/Communism
@Gabriela n Internal Locus of Control is what entrepreneurs utilize. What they can achieve comes from within them, and not "externally" so-to-speak. Sure, entrepreneurs will be helped by others/external forces, but this is because they've started and envisioned such projects. Internal LoC, are self starters who use their abilities to make great things for themselves. From the External LoC, the attitude is opposite, and they expect that they don't have to venture thru a process to achieve gratification, it's rather just expected. Think about it like this, the Internal minded are business owners, while External minded are employees. External minded are like the spoiled kids who don't have to work for their gratification because mommy will give it to them regardless.
Obviously im being hyperbolic to make this point very obvious, as this is not a hard rule, rather an analogous way to understand this using familiar concepts.
This is a good video, 95% of it, but I'm not sure how you ignored all the religious extremism, for one, as being massive examples of entitlement (my religion is right, yours is wrong, die), I'm not sure how you ignored the fact that Stephen Paddock who killed 58 and injured 851 was of YOUR generation and I'm not sure how you ignored the countless examples of mass murder that happened in the 70s (Charles Manson, The Zebra Killings). You make it a generational thing and to a small extent it is, but entitlement has always existed.
You are wrong! I’m entitled to things by virtue of being me!
I’m obviously joking, for those that don’t get sarcasm
I speak sarcasm as a second language, too.
Eric Dodson for US President 2020!!!
I had young parents I don’t feel
Entitled o have to work hard my kids don’t they use my husband
Also, how the hell are you arguing there were less psychoactive drugs in the 70s???
Well, if you re-watch that part of the video, you'll probably notice that I'm talking specifically about prescription drugs, not psychoactive drugs in general (look for the word, "prescribed").
I feel entitled to watch a video with a denoiser
Sure, but… we have failed to give kids life skills and killed their brain with chemicals, so I feel sorry for most bc they are struggling
My mom is 80 and so entitled that she 'offs'family members that fail to meet her neverending demands ,she feels ,
that she is owed and entitled to
She mayn't have taken an assault rifle and shot up a ctowd, but she did commit covert psychological murder a couple of times
These shootings are a generational curse and the parents of these mass shooters, should go to jail too
Why?
Because the sins of the parents, will be taken out on their children, for four generations
The Bible didn't lie
This is what the world is witnessing
Generational curses
you can't imprison innocent people for the crimes of their children. What the actual fuck.
You sound way too anylitical and scientific. Could you please explain in lay terms? I didn't understand one thing you said in this video?
BTW I'M NOT A KID. THIS STARTED WITH ME THRU A COVERT BREAK IN OF MY APARTMENT (NO SIGNS OF FORCED ENTRY) THAT I DISCOVERED IN THE MID-1990'S AFTER I CAME HOME FROM WORK, AND SLOWLY DISCOVERED THAT SOMEONE HAD BEEN IN MY APARTMENT WHILE I WAS AT WORK. THE SCREENSAVER HAD BEEN CHANGED TO THE "VERTIGO" SETTING, AND VARIOUS ITEMS I DIDN'T UNDERSTAND THE IMPORT OF AT THE TIME HAD BEEN STOLEN. ONE OF THEM WAS MY PASSPORT. THESE PSYCHOPATHS ARE REAL, THEY DO GRIEVOUS HARM, AND THEY KNOW HOW TO RUIN EVERY ASPECT OF A TARGET'S LIFE, DESTROYING RELATIONSHIPS FIRST, SO AS TO ISOLATE YOU FOR MORE OF WHAT THEY LET ME KNOW THEY THINK ARE "GAMES" (WITH MY INVOLUNTARY LIFE). I KNOW WHAT EVIL IS, AND IT IS ORGANIZED. YOU SIT BACK AND SEEM TO JUDGE EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE IN A VERY WIDE SWATH. I HAVE LOST DECADES AND OPPORTUNITIES WHILE BEING OSTRACIZED, BULLIED BY STRANGERS WHO ONLY THINK THEY KNOW ME, AND A HOST OF OTHER "TECHNIQUES" TOO BIZARRE TO GO INTO IN SUCH A SMALL SPACE AND AMOUNT OF TIME. JUDGE NOT, LEST YEE BE JUDGED. WHILE WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY IS REFRESHING, IN THAT IT DEALS WITH CONTROL AND PERCEIVED LOCUS OF CONTROL, YOU TRULY HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THIS KIND OF SLOW KILL ABUSE AND TORTURE IS LIKE, AND I'M HAVING A HARD TIME TRYING NOT TO WISH IT ON YOU, AND OTHERS LIKE YOU. I AND MY INVOLUNTARY LIFE HAVE BEEN BROKERED, BOUGHT, AND RESOLD ON THE DARK WEB AND PUT THRU LEGITIMATE CHANNELS, AS IF "DESERVING" OF BEING TORTURED TO DEATH, AND THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH "MY" ENTITLEMENT, BUT RATHER THOSE WHO TARGETED ME AND WILL NEVER LET ME GO UNTIL I AM COLD AND IN THE GROUND.
it sounds to me like you might be a bit paranoid about people around you, thinking they are conspiring against you.
@@alexanderking9462 The thing is: You are entitled to your opinion, but you aren't entitled to share it as "fact."
From what I know, Karen love entitlement