EmJ, thank you for this. I've been diagnosed just over a year. I still haven't told my family. I keep asking myself what I hope to get out of it. It feels like asking to be more known than Im comfortable with, honestly. Hearing your reasons helps me imagine reasons for myself. Thanks again. Kirsten
@@beautyactivist hi Kristen. Everyone's journey is different. I'm glad what iv said has been helpful but I also understand it's not going to be the same for everyone. I haven't told some of my family members due to lack of relationship. It's just about gaging those convos.
I totally relate to your experience of wanting others to know that you are autistic. Most of the people who know me have been informed now about my autism awakening journey but it has been more of drawn out process taking over two years to tell my family and friends. Your video was a great idea and you explained your experience in the best way possible. I believe that other people who are learning about their own autism will be greatly helped by watching your sharing video. I love your wonderful attitude! God bless.
Thank you. I know everyone's journey is different and everyone's reaction to sharing such news is unknown and can be scary. I was petrified to post my video and kept off FB for a long time after posting because I was so afraid of what reactions I might have gotten. But I think whatever we share, as long as we share from a place of 'being real' and honest then it will generally an most of the time be received well by the people in our lives.
Thank you EmJ! You are a brave soul. :) It has taken me a long time to tell people. I started with my immediate family and then I've worked my way outwards. LOL you've gotta a lot of views on this! It's exciting when a channel grows! I enjoy your content.
I don't feel brave, most of the time I feel frustrated because I expect people to have better understanding of autism then constantly reminded of outdated language and misconceptions about autism that people today still have/use. But I love talking about autism so it is still a win. This video did get a surprising amount of views. I like that my channel is growing and doing so at a manageable level. I just wish I had more time to create content. Do you find that a hard balance?
Thank you for being brave and sharing! I've struggled with knowing who is safe to disclose my diagnosis with, including close family members. It feels scary. But your video gave me hope I could do something similar! Maybe for my 1 year mark in November.
@@actually.amanda Not all my close people know iv got my UA-cam channel. It's bit scary thinking they could come across it by accident. But I'll face that when I have to.
I can relate to so much of what you have said, understanding what is happening is liberating and being able to understand past events. You're so fantastic for sharing what you are experiencing and have experienced. I am not diagnosed and I am still deciding on whether I will get assessed, I probably will but right now I feel a bit overwhelmed by it all. I did tell my close friend that I was pretty sure I am autistic and her response was "no sh*t sherlock"! Hahaha! Maybe that's all the validation I need right now, but I'll see how I feel in the near future. Keep sharing! x
Yeah validation is so important. I was self diagnosed for a few years before going for official assesment and I was fine with that but there was just always a niggle at the back of my mind saying I needed to know, even though I did know 🤔😅 I'm glad we have connected. I have an insta page too, if you wanted to connect privately at some point. Ps. You are my 100th subscriber 🙏🥰💃🏼🎉
It will be different for everyone. I personally didn't tell anyone other than my husband and mum before formal diagnosis, I was too fearful I had got it wrong. Have the formal diagnosis gave me a back bone, it was something reliable and trustworthy that people could argue against. I do honestly admire self diagnosis individuals who tell people they are autistic. I'm not sure how people would have responded to me if I didn't have my diagnosis. But then I didn't know how they were gonna respond with it either, but with it - it wasn't just 'my truth' if you know what I mean.
Great video and I relate to much of what you expressed. I just recently started a channel as well for the same reasons after receiving my diagnosis this year! I would love to connect with you!
@@AuthenticallyMeAuDHD I love this. I really enjoy when autistic creators come together. Well done on starting your channel, hope you enjoy this creative journey. I love mine. Wish I had more time to make videos but I do the best I can.
Love the video😻😻. I have a question since you have the diagnosis do you feel so tired every day. Since my diagnosis I've been so tired and want to sleep, and I realized that I have been masking for 54 years🤦♀🤦♀. I'm done masking.
Yes, when I first got diagnosed I was always tired. But I felt the whole assesment process was so full on that it took me a while to recover just from that. Then I did a complete deep dive into other newly diagnosed creators and listened to many stories. That process although totally amazing and exciting was also quite draining. Then just spending the 1st year figuring out who I am and which part is a mask. I also went through the process of getting accommodations made at work which was a lot of talking to different professionals and repeating my struggles which is very tiring. I have recently applied for the UK government Access To Work Scheme and that is so overwhelming to me so everything just continues to be exhausting. You're right though, the main reason we are so exhausted is a lifetime of masking. It could also be your going through autistic burnout. I talk about that in another one of my videos. ua-cam.com/video/GNLLU4wxNcY/v-deo.htmlsi=Sga64CKMBt7-qUGU
EmJ, thank you for this. I've been diagnosed just over a year. I still haven't told my family. I keep asking myself what I hope to get out of it. It feels like asking to be more known than Im comfortable with, honestly. Hearing your reasons helps me imagine reasons for myself. Thanks again. Kirsten
@@beautyactivist hi Kristen. Everyone's journey is different. I'm glad what iv said has been helpful but I also understand it's not going to be the same for everyone. I haven't told some of my family members due to lack of relationship. It's just about gaging those convos.
I totally relate to your experience of wanting others to know that you are autistic. Most of the people who know me have been informed now about my autism awakening journey but it has been more of drawn out process taking over two years to tell my family and friends. Your video was a great idea and you explained your experience in the best way possible. I believe that other people who are learning about their own autism will be greatly helped by watching your sharing video. I love your wonderful attitude! God bless.
Thank you. I know everyone's journey is different and everyone's reaction to sharing such news is unknown and can be scary. I was petrified to post my video and kept off FB for a long time after posting because I was so afraid of what reactions I might have gotten. But I think whatever we share, as long as we share from a place of 'being real' and honest then it will generally an most of the time be received well by the people in our lives.
Thank you EmJ! You are a brave soul. :) It has taken me a long time to tell people. I started with my immediate family and then I've worked my way outwards. LOL you've gotta a lot of views on this! It's exciting when a channel grows! I enjoy your content.
I don't feel brave, most of the time I feel frustrated because I expect people to have better understanding of autism then constantly reminded of outdated language and misconceptions about autism that people today still have/use. But I love talking about autism so it is still a win.
This video did get a surprising amount of views. I like that my channel is growing and doing so at a manageable level. I just wish I had more time to create content. Do you find that a hard balance?
Thank you for being brave and sharing! I've struggled with knowing who is safe to disclose my diagnosis with, including close family members. It feels scary. But your video gave me hope I could do something similar! Maybe for my 1 year mark in November.
@@actually.amanda Not all my close people know iv got my UA-cam channel. It's bit scary thinking they could come across it by accident. But I'll face that when I have to.
I can relate to so much of what you have said, understanding what is happening is liberating and being able to understand past events. You're so fantastic for sharing what you are experiencing and have experienced. I am not diagnosed and I am still deciding on whether I will get assessed, I probably will but right now I feel a bit overwhelmed by it all. I did tell my close friend that I was pretty sure I am autistic and her response was "no sh*t sherlock"! Hahaha! Maybe that's all the validation I need right now, but I'll see how I feel in the near future. Keep sharing! x
Yeah validation is so important. I was self diagnosed for a few years before going for official assesment and I was fine with that but there was just always a niggle at the back of my mind saying I needed to know, even though I did know 🤔😅 I'm glad we have connected. I have an insta page too, if you wanted to connect privately at some point.
Ps. You are my 100th subscriber 🙏🥰💃🏼🎉
@@zebranothorse-EmJ yay!!!! I LOVE that I'm your 100 subscriber! So glad we've connected too ❤️
Thank you for the video EmJ . Such a shame how girls and women go under the radar so much regarding diagnosis.🙌🙋♂️
It really is. I'm hoping the future will be better for the next generations.
Very insightful. Is it harder for people without formal diagnosis to disclose?
It will be different for everyone. I personally didn't tell anyone other than my husband and mum before formal diagnosis, I was too fearful I had got it wrong. Have the formal diagnosis gave me a back bone, it was something reliable and trustworthy that people could argue against. I do honestly admire self diagnosis individuals who tell people they are autistic. I'm not sure how people would have responded to me if I didn't have my diagnosis. But then I didn't know how they were gonna respond with it either, but with it - it wasn't just 'my truth' if you know what I mean.
Great video and I relate to much of what you expressed. I just recently started a channel as well for the same reasons after receiving my diagnosis this year! I would love to connect with you!
@@AuthenticallyMeAuDHD I love this. I really enjoy when autistic creators come together. Well done on starting your channel, hope you enjoy this creative journey. I love mine. Wish I had more time to make videos but I do the best I can.
@@zebranothorse-EmJ you're doing a great job! Here to support you on your journey. ❤️
Love the video😻😻. I have a question since you have the diagnosis do you feel so tired every day. Since my diagnosis I've been so tired and want to sleep, and I realized that I have been masking for 54 years🤦♀🤦♀. I'm done masking.
Yes, when I first got diagnosed I was always tired. But I felt the whole assesment process was so full on that it took me a while to recover just from that. Then I did a complete deep dive into other newly diagnosed creators and listened to many stories. That process although totally amazing and exciting was also quite draining. Then just spending the 1st year figuring out who I am and which part is a mask. I also went through the process of getting accommodations made at work which was a lot of talking to different professionals and repeating my struggles which is very tiring. I have recently applied for the UK government Access To Work Scheme and that is so overwhelming to me so everything just continues to be exhausting.
You're right though, the main reason we are so exhausted is a lifetime of masking. It could also be your going through autistic burnout. I talk about that in another one of my videos. ua-cam.com/video/GNLLU4wxNcY/v-deo.htmlsi=Sga64CKMBt7-qUGU
I told my bestie and her husband said of course she has Autism and ADHD it's so obvious😲😲😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂.
🤗 I mean yey for been seen but also 😳 gosh I thought I was acting just like everyone else 😱🤔
@zebranothorse-EmJ I thought so, too.