Totally agree. She was saved from a heartbreak far worse than she's had so far. She'll be okay. I totally believe she will win over this heartache and deception.
I knew a girl who dated a guy who had cancer. She stuck by his side through months of chemotherapy. He eventually died. After his death she found out he cheated with multiple women and he had HIV for years and never told her. She later got tested and she was positive. I wish people would be honest.
My fiancé passed away three years ago, the way she was describing how the days after felt was very accurate. “We’ll figure that out tomorrow” is such a great response to someone wanting to die. Just keep waiting until tomorrow and when tomorrow comes, wait until the next day. One day at a time.
Condolences. 🫂 A little bit at a time. A day at a time helps get through difficult situations without giving up too quickly. From work, breastfeeding, battling addiction, & relationships.
Idk I think that would almost make it worse for me because there would then be 2 things that I would have no kind closure on. And I would feel so conflicted and I’d want to say things to him and ask questions and never get the chance to. And if it was me and my husband specifically I wouldn’t be able to talk 💩 about him if he died no matter what I found out. speaking ill of the dead feels taboo to me. I’m not judging her for doing it just saying I personally couldn’t. But I’ve been married to him forever so maybe that changes it. Idk but for me it wouldn’t stop the grief process so much as warp it into something harder.
@@sonnystephens3753 so true. I knew of a couple back home that were so lovely with each other and you could clearly see the love and chemistry between them. He died in a freaky accident and she was clearly grieving and depressed. And later on found out about his cheatings adventures
I love that her family didn’t leave her alone, and took shifts for weeks, during her shock and grieving. That was so important, it likely saved her life. I wish everyone had a family like that.
I lost someone after 20 years together due to “ unaliveing” himself. My Friends and Family were crucial in helping me recover from the loss. When I was going through his things while Preparing our Home for Rental I found a cards dated during our time together referring to very intimate things from a Woman he claimed was only A friend. I can honestly say it felt like a punch in the gut but after that next shock wore off i barely felt anything for him again.
I did that for my father when my mom died of cancer when I was 14 and I regret it. there should’ve been adults to listen to him, he told me such sad and awful things about how he really feels about my mom and his kids and life in general. I know it’s how he really feels too, so it still hurts. I have no parents because of loss & grief.
She’s very very lucky. I married the creep. And 42 years later, discovered the truth. Divorced now, but I still struggle with stress, anxiety, depression.
Every " victim " in a relationship always minimize their input in the relationship, the fact it took you 42years to know that someone close to you is a creep is troubling. Victims typically encourage or allow things they say they hate in their partner and only call them out after removed from the situation
I think 'very very lucky' is a ridiculous thing to say. Yes - I get that it's fortunate that she didn't marry him, but she's had an exceptional amount of trauma in her life, especially for someone so young. This woman is strong, but she will be dealing with mental health issues for the rest of her life. Good on her for choosing happiness. 💜
I know of a couple who were dating, and committed, but didn't want to marry until they decided to marry so one would be covered under the other's insurance. Not quite the romantic reason, you know??
Let me offer some insight from a man's perspective. I would bet my house on the fact that he wanted to marry her and only her... However, he ALSO wanted sexual connections with other women. This may not make sense to most women, but men can more readily compartmentalize sex and relationship. If it is just about the sex, men will do whatever is necessary to sleep with a woman, even while genuinely caring for the other women he has chosen for long term relationship - it's just a matter of whether he man wants to explore sex outside of his relationship (obviously, not all men choose to do so) To the other women involved it may have seemed he was dating them, but from his perspective it was likely just sex.
And exactly how has this "truth" improved her life? Either way, he was dead and it changes nothing, other than her being more angry and bitter, and replacing any good memories she had with him with that ugly fact. He will never be able to defend himself or explain. Honestly, I'd rather not know about a dead loved one's dirty secrets, because there is nothing you can do to change it.
Better than marrying the jerk. I did….cheating lasted on and off for years. YEARS. AND I found out his MOTHER knew all along. And he had a separate house from us, and it was his MOTHER’s idea……I hate them all.
So sorry your mother in law did that to you goes to show you what kind of toxic people he was raised around. I hope you heal and find someone who genuinely enjoys your time and company.
My ex fiance passed away from a drug overdose. I dont think I would still be sober if he was alive. I loved him but he brought out the worst in me. 6 1/2 years sober.
My ex husband and I were together ten years. I found out he had been with countless other women the entire time, including the night before our wedding. While he was overseas, he was copying letters and sending them to myself and multiple other women. Letters I had saved for my daughter's to have they now will never see. Love, memories, life, years. Taken away from us. I get it girl. This is tragic. Sending love.
Or sometimes they're just selfish SOB's who want what they want. This is Mrs. Rick. I knew a guy who flat out told his wife that he didn't feel he should withold his wonderful self from women who wanted him.
Most women do not.remarry after hubbys death but men remarry after wife dies usually..I am 56 and I will not remarry .My hubby is much older and i will be free.
I'm 51, dumbed my boyfriend out of no where. He still my friend, just from different States🙏🏼 Your not alone and your right 👍 Best kinda Peace EVER! ✌️☮️ I took care of my dad's mother, kept her out of the nursing home, now I'm preparing to take care of my mom and my dad.period.🙏🏼 😇Self Preservation 😇
Unfortunately I find myself saddled with a lot that makes it difficult to get out. He’s cheated at least twice, and I realize this is who he was all along.
I had a friend whose husband took his boyfriend, unbeknownst to her, on their honeymoon to Hawaii. He would leave saying he was going to have a smoke or to get a bottle of wine. One time she followed him and saw him with the other man. Needless to say, she flew right home and filed for an annulment. It took her years to get over this.
Man this woman has been THROUGH IT. You were spared a lifetime of heartache from a man who was a serial cheater. He wouldn't have ever stopped. I hope you heal and can find the love you deserve
@@gone.golfingI’m glad to see your comment. I had to stop listening to her after the relatively lengthy description about how she felt when called about the fiancé death. That vocal freeze style that females began using so long ago (25 years?) deserves to be ceased like all annoying trends. It does not make them sound like more of an authority about anything. It’s unnatural and distracting.
@sewwfffyhjijuishe didn't mention that in the video. We don't know whether she didn't know his family or not. And even if she did, there's a large chance even they didn't know about his affairs
This girl is also a manipulator. The way she talked and disrespected her mom. If she said that to me then I’d say fine stay in your room I’m not telling you anything. Ps, she keeps saying how she lost control and she didn’t like not having control. Also I like how she keeps saying she didn’t even know him… so because he cheated and managed to keep that a secret suddenly she knew nothing about him. That’s not how it works.
I'm super young and had lots of chest pains and odd "attacks" for a year. No matter the tests done by hospitals and doctors, everything kept coming back normal. Now I don't have it nearly as much but it only stopped finally once my grandfather passed from cancer. I believe it was the stress. Still terrified to die young of a heart attack though 😕
This also happened to me and it’s the worse possible feeling. When my boyfriend and son’s father died it was so many women posting msgs on social media & even at his funeral. Grieving and finding out you’ve been betrayed is beyond heartbreak.
My boyfriend passed away, I broke down and was taken to hospital because of grief, a week later found out he had been cheating, I snapped out of the depression that same day, and never looked back. God knows if I hadn’t found out where I would be now, 2 years later and I’m fine, don’t care about closure or anything, he would have lied.
Love bombers love the fanfare of weddings, and problematic men love the status of having a wife and children. The status distracts from their bad acts and double lives.
Well, if such people were capable of caring about others in a way the creates concern, they wouldn't do it, so your advice is moot; it's like telling a serial killer that when they feel like killing, just don't do it.
Over 6K comments so this must be a topic that grabs many. I understand your shock, pain, anger, and relief. I've never talked about this, but my husband died when I was 27 and he was 34. We were only married 1.5 years. Shortly after his death I was cleaning things out and came across info that confirmed he had been having an affair/fling - whatever. And...not exactly a friend, but someone I was in school with. Someone who had offered condolences. I sat next to her every day!! In that instant, all the shock/horror at his early/sudden death left me but I was consumed with shock/horror at what he had done to me. I never shed another tear, never visited his grave again. Nothing. He was truly dead to me and still is. Fifty years later I've never remarried and I've been happy ever since. I wish you happiness in your future.
@@frisc0strangler207 😂 Actually, I'm 75 but at this age, who's counting? I rounded up a bit for simplicity. It's truly been 47 years. And PS: at this age I'm happy to remember how old I am! Happy day wishes for you!
Thank you for sharing such an intimate and horrifying time in your life. I am awed by the strength you and others find in yourselves when traumatic events take place. Keep enjoying life my dear.
She fell for typical narcissist love bombing in the beginning. They detect and give you everything you want/need in the beginning then pull away and function as their truer selves. You spend the rest of your time trying to get that back.
Yeah she's not being honest. Not saying the circumstances won't alleviate the majority of the grief, and I do think cheating is unacceptable and he's terrible etc.. but he was still a human and you had some good experiences, there is still some loss there to process, even if it's just what she thought she had going on her life and the future. I like sense like a little bit of like denial with this lady.
And not to mention all his other gfs or lovers who didn’t even get the support she got as unexpected side chicks, their grief is real too but they didn’t get closure. Cheating hurts so many people.
So was he. She said “like” 5,765 times in this video and her vocal fry was pure, unadulterated torture. In Hell, they play an eternity of her, just talking. Who could live with that for the rest of their lives? Five minutes was bad enough.
Thank for the diagnosis, doctor. You figured it all out. Did you notice that the story is about two young men who died mysteriously around this woman, and it's all about "me me me me"?
I am in the process of divorcing my narcissistic husband of six years. The entire marriage he was on dating sites and meeting up with other women. During our separation, I found out that he was seeing his ex-wife over 20 years ago. I had met her a couple of times and I was very nice to her only for her to stab me in the back. I am on permanent disability due to his abuse, major anxiety/depressive disorder, PTSD and I developed ME/CFS from the trauma. I know that it will take years for me to heal from the damage he caused me and my children. I am so sorry for all that you have endured. I pray that you find your happy ending.
I hope you find peace, sorry for what you endured. Many beautiful women (like you) unfortunately end up with narcs because narcs prefer the most attractive partners.
I was married for 30 years to a man who turned into a voracious cheater. When I found out so many of our “friends “ said “Oh we just thought you two were Swingers!” I was heartbroken and in shock that so many people knew what he was doing and I was a fool. Now married to a fantastic faithful man who worships me. Very grateful to be free from his emotional abuse and his drinking & cheating.
I don’t understand friends that do that and dont have convos about it. My friend only just realised her boyfriend is a racist and homophobic, he hid it for almost a year but all her other friends knew he was like that and thought she was ok with it.
You wasn’t a fool! He never showed you who he truly was and no one never said anything to you cos they jus assumed that that’s the way you guys were. That doesn’t make you a fool tho. You cant react to information you never knew about. That must have been devastating tho, I’m sry that happened to you ❤ just remember time humbles everyone, he will get his
Let’s be honest, even if someone said something earlier, many women refuse to acknowledge it or end up staying anyways. I lost a friendship after telling my friend about her husband possibly cheating and she accused me of being jealous and that he would never and still stayed. Less than 3 years later and much more cheating, I heard from a mutual that she posted on Facebook about finally leaving the abusive relationship. Some women really don’t want to hear the truth about their husbands until they see it for themselves. Getting involved as the 3rd party only makes you look like the bad guy or a scapegoat for the husband to call you jealous and further isolate that woman from her friends/loved ones
He hated her! Stop allowing females to believe this behavior is because someone loves you. It’s bad enough someone in the comments suggested he loved her the most! 😂 You don’t set out to destroy someone you “love” or even like. She wants to turn her pain into empowering women yet she’s still using heavy medication to get through what he did to her. She still hasn’t healed but he didn’t hate her?!?
I had a similar experience. I dated him for 9 years and he was killed in a car accident. Found out he was in another relationship for over a year with a girl he went to college with. She found out about me reading his Obit. Later on, I learned about other women. It's a horrible feeling as she explains. So many emotions all at once; it's really debilitating. All his friends knew about her which was a double whammy because I was close to them. They told me they talked to him all the time about ending it with her. Honestly, finding out was the best thing that happened for me because I would have mourned him for years. Looking back, there were signs of infidelity but he was such a manipulator that he'd make me think I was overreacting. Always trust and believe your intuition.
Thats actually the worst thing u can say to someone who is suicidal, if someone is suicidal you don't wait till tomorrow they can un alive themselves that same day don't ignore their feelings by saying yea wait for tomorrow... There might be no tomorrow .
“Okay, we’ll figure that out tomorrow.” WOW. What an incredible mother. As someone who has struggled with suicidal ideation, I can’t imagine a more comforting, empathetic and validating response. It’s impossible to see the light or any type of end when you’re in the depths of despair, and the well intentioned “things will get better” lines of encouragement often mean nothing. But pushing through one more day at a time feels possible.
I love your comment .. ! Very deep and so true!! Sorry to hear about your struggles.. hope you feel better ! ? Sending you a virtual hug from ireland .. :)
I have had suicidal ideation since I was 9. I have had at least a dozen attempts 1st time when I was 9, and 2 X really close to working. I haven’t attempted in over 15 years but it’s always there . I don’t have that support I deeply need and fight it every day. She’s lucky she had family that actually cared about her well being. I completely agree she has an incredible mother just for saying that to her.
@@CatCatlady-ox5on this is so very sweet 🥹❤️ thank you! Fortunately it isn’t something I’ve struggled with for a long time. But I’m very blessed to have a good support system around me 🙏🏼
I've met a clinically diagnosed sociopath aka clinically diagnosed with anti-social personality disorder. They can love and they do have feelings. The problem is that their intense feelings combine with dysfunctional thinking and result is the empathy being overriden and them exhibiting behaviour that harms other people. Most have been emotionally abused emotionally neglected and didn't receive extra emotional support to cope with their intense feelings.
I feel empathy for her enduring his physical loss and the betrayal he left her with. What a warrior to have the self-confidence and awareness to press on so well.
I think money must have been involved, fiance looks put together, probably had high earning potential. He wanted sex, and a lifestyle that alone or with other side chicks was not going to happen.
I think some people aren’t happy with normal. Normal is boring to narcissists. They love drama and doing wrong thrills them. Everything is a challenge to them. It’s sickening. True psychopaths.
A friend of mine went through a very similar story. Once he died she was able to access his social media and found out about another girlfriend. He had opened a store with this other girl, and they name it with their initials. People can be really shady.
I went through this twice with no friend or family support. My mom was just like “be grateful, you dodged a bullet”. Friends were just wide eyed and in shock and eventually disappeared. No babysitters, no sympathy. I just wanted anyone to understand my pain.
Wow same. I try not to feel that it’s not fair victim mentality but thats the truth and it was unfair. Sucked. But better to know than not know with or without support. Truth always comes out sooner or later. Just would have made it easier to deal with having support. Oh well.
I'm sorry you didn't have support or a way to release your pain and loss. It's not an easy thing to navigate difficult situations like this on your own.
@@RadiUzunovacreepy? Creepy is marrying someone while having multiple girlfriends. She's grieving while also dealing with the heartbreak and trauma of what she discovered. She seems pretty composed to me despite what she's dealing with
Exactly. It is such a simple thing to solve, but people prefer to complicate everything. However, this envolves more than we can see. Who knows what’s inside one’s heart 🤷🏻♀️
It's a game. Conquer one, establish a fake life, and juggle control over all these relationships. Get the house, the wife, the kids to create a charming facade of the perfect life to go with your charming personality, when all of it is a lie, even your personality. There's an advantage to them in creating illusions to hide their true selves and what they're really doing. It's all about image management and control.
What’s most unfair in situations with cheaters, is that the victim is almost always left with emotional trauma . Meanwhile the cheater is enjoying their life or in this case, dead with no emotions to give at all. If you’ve been cheated on and it’s affected you to any extent, please take care of yourself. 🌼
This right here. When I found out my ex was cheating on me the entire relationship (Four years) with his ex, it felt like my brain did an emergency reset. I still struggle with taking care of myself, but I'm a long way from where I started in this mess.
That’s what we always think but I believe in what you put out will come back to you. So cheaters do get it-it comes back to them 10x harder. Just let God take in control of it.
My son's father who I was with for 5 years cheated on me when I was 5 months pregnant I came home to a notice on our apartment door that we were being evicted when I knew that I had given him the money to pay the rent? Anyway that led to us moving out I moved in with my grandmother he moved in with his ex brother-in-law and while I was out looking for a house for us since we were about to have our new baby he secretly moved in with the woman that he was cheating on me with for over a year. And our son was planned that was the hardest part for me to get over. He scared me for my whole life. We would still be together often for over 10 years. Which was only holding me back. 29 years old about to be 30 and those wounds never go away.
So grateful that you found healing and a way forward from the darkness of your grief. I had a similar revelation about my husband after being married for one year. Due to his public job, the entire events were plastered all over the media, there were questions about his actions on the job, and I had to testify in court about details of our marriage on several occasions. I heard people whispering about me as I tried to grocery shop. Even now, some news stories still mention it in news stories about his former employer. I never know when it will be on the front page of a newspaper or the first thing I see in my feed on social media (which was all shutdown for at least 2 years) . I lost so much of myself through that time and experience. I have never really had a chance to openly discuss it because we both have children from previous marriages. I have never shared my truth because I have chosen to protect our children from any further exposure or pain related to the ordeal. I admire this beautiful (stunningly beautiful) young woman for her courage and honesty, and I may even envy her healing (but in a good way… good for her!) I pray she has a long and happy life filled with the love she deserves. 🙏🏼
@@thevestalvirginspeaks3847 How do you know there was any insurance money? Money doesn't heal her heart from betrayal and lies. She still has to grieve and go through that traumatic hell. Your comment is extremely insensitive and superficial.
My husband left when I was 9 months pregnant with our 3rd child. It was devastating. But I have to say, I understand how finding things out, getting more info...can help you heal and go from grief into anger and then finally move on and reclaim your beautiful life.
You were. lucky to be able to move on. I am stuck literally stuck. I am documenting my story on my channel. The depression and anxiety is debilitating.
I dated a guy when I was in my early 20s who turned out to be three-timing. I became friends with one of the other women, and he married the third. I think men having multiple, simultaneous relationships is much more common than most women realise.
Yes. It is very common. You're absolutely correct. If they can get away with it, why would they stop? I'm old fashioned. One man woman and always have been.
Shes lucky to have such a good support system. When my four year old son died of cancer, my own mother told me I was looking for attention because I confided to her that I was suicidal. Shes a nurse.
Talk about traumatic! I'm so sorry Sara. Here you go through the soul shattering loss of your son and your mom selfishly criticizes you. A good support system can make or break you ❤️
I don't understand why tf they propose and then decide to spend time with another woman instead of just breaking up and making up their mind before a huge commitment 🤦♀️
@@queenicedcoffee4217 A tale as old as time aka benefits. Free $ e x , maid, cook, caregiver, nanny, all the above lol You really can't know someones true intentions but you can learn to be strong enough to leave if it were to happen. Just a risk you decide to take in life, as with all things.
Because that is something that a person would do if they had consideration for their spouses feelings. He didn't have consideration for her feelings, because he only thought of himself. He wanted to have everything @@queenicedcoffee4217
@@queenicedcoffee4217 Oh many reasons, feeling bored, not committed, excitement, long-distance relationships, mental illness such as narcissism, psychopathy, sociopathy etc.
Never planning on getting married again , but I think before committing to a long term relationship I think I’d need to hire someone to do a total background check
I recently divorced my narcissistic ex-husband. I will never get married again, either. However, should someone come along, they will get a full background check across multiple sites. I will never, ever fall for anyone just based on who they present themselves to be!
A background check won't tell you if a person is cheating. A private investigator on the other hand, might. But how many people have that kind of money to spend?
It's called "reenactment." Quite common. When a person goes through a traumatic experience, if they don't fully process the trauma, they often repeat it, unconsciously attracting a very similar situation.
Especially with multiple people like this loser? A good friend of my parents had a daughter who dated a guy for about 2 years and almost marriedhim, she broke it when she found out he had an entire family and was already married! How long does a person think they can have 2 families and not get found out? And why the heck would you want 2 wives / husbands, isn’t one enough trouble? 😂
My wife asked me one time if I would cheat. I said one woman is enough for me. Your already of enough of a pain in the a$$ why would I want another pain in the a$$
I’m so sorry. You deserve so much better. Being cheated on was the worst experience of my life. Not being able to confront her about it, or let her see the pain she caused would’ve made it even worse. If you haven’t already, I hope you find someone who loves you and your child more than anything, and you have a beautiful life together. ❤
This is a great example of the idea that sometimes when something happens that we think is absolutely terrible, it turns out to be a blessing in disguise.
My husband died in 2018. We had a 3 yr old daughter he was 42. Not only did he cheat on me he betrayed me in ways that ill never ever recover from because it concerns my child. I stopped grieving him almost right away. I realized him dying was the best thing that could happen to both me and my child. He was abusive in every way. He said terrible things to our landlord our friends my family. Yeah so him dying was a blessing, even tho at first i was crushed. But im ok now. I wish her the best!
I know so many people who have good, long-term marriages either people who met in a dating app. I also know people who met each other in more traditional ways (school, work, through friends) and there was trauma involved in the relationship before divorce.
I am sorry you were left with the depression and insomnia but sweet lady look at this as a BLESSING IN DISGUISE ❤ I am sending love and light and all great things to come into your life. God Bless you always❤
Hardest part is forgiving yourself. I stayed way too long. Many emotional affairs . I was taught to turn the other cheek. That didn’t work ! I still get angry when I think of all the clues I missed because of my innocence. 34 years later I was starting my journey of freedom and he died alone of a heart attack. I was grateful actually. He could have been dangerous to me. I lived with that fear. Many of us could write a book as they say ❤. The trauma surfaces in the oddest times and ways. Watch utube videos on narcissism. 14 years later and I’m still learning and unraveling .. but from a heathy space. You can do this. 😊
She thought she was robbed of a life of happiness but really she was gifted a life without misery and heartbreak.
Well put
Whatever you were saved from. Give God the glory
Absolutely! 💯
@@mrbrave29Stupid comment; It was because a life with a cheater and liar such as he was would have been horrible.
@@mrbrave29absolutely 🎉
His death saved you from a life full of affairs and a divorce.
Totally agree. She was saved from a heartbreak far worse than she's had so far. She'll be okay. I totally believe she will win over this heartache and deception.
I agree. He died because of divine intervention. The Creator of the universe did her a huge favor
Lady, Amen.
@@GouKaNaAi Nope. It was myocardial infarction.
@homertangler9529 and the good Lord saw fit to save her!
I knew a girl who dated a guy who had cancer. She stuck by his side through months of chemotherapy. He eventually died. After his death she found out he cheated with multiple women and he had HIV for years and never told her. She later got tested and she was positive. I wish people would be honest.
Omg 😢💔 I cannot imagine.
Lorddd I’m
So sorry :(
Wow😢
…who said he had cancer
I’m so sorry that happen to you sending many blessings
She lost two men in her life and she's under 40, that's rough and yet she still puts on a smile. She's stronger than she thinks.
Especially when she was talking about the first guy. Almost like she was somehow involved.
@@listey I'm glad I'm not the only one. It's weird that two men in her life died in weird circumstances..
@@swiles59not once but twice idk..
Black Widow vibes for sure.
@suphx Who cares- the dude was worthless .
I dated someone for 2 years and met his other girlfriend at the hospital when he had a heart attack. At least neither of us married the loser.
Wow what a jerk. Sorry you had to endure that.
LOL
Why they always getting heart attacks???
@@miss_kolissaapparently living a lie is stressful
Did he have another heart attack when he saw you two together?
I don't know what's scarier, the idea of losing someone you love, finding out your loved one is a stranger, or dying in your 30s from a heart attack.
I legit just turned 30 and when I heard he was 33 and had a heart attack my mind instantly was like yup I have 3 years left to live😅
@@anlyncenters94 🤣
@@anlyncenters94i turned 30 this year. And this guy looks so healthy, i feel the need to do get a check up
He possibly died because of his lifestyle choices.
@@ladyt3182 Double, triple life can be stressful.. dude was going around like an adhd hamster..
Moral of the story…cheating is stressful and leads to heart attacks. 😬
The real moral of the story is "20% of the men get 80% of the women", and most women would rather share the 20% then lower their standards....
That’s actually the smartest and most sympathetic take I’ve seen in the comments… 💯
Is that this Eric guy's cause of death? Somehow I missed what caused him to die so young (33yo?)
Exactly!!🎉🎉🎉
Another moral of the story is that this lady was involved with two young, healthy men, and they both died, so stay away from her...
My fiancé passed away three years ago, the way she was describing how the days after felt was very accurate. “We’ll figure that out tomorrow” is such a great response to someone wanting to die. Just keep waiting until tomorrow and when tomorrow comes, wait until the next day. One day at a time.
So sorry for your loss !!😢
Condolences. 🫂
A little bit at a time. A day at a time helps get through difficult situations without giving up too quickly. From work, breastfeeding, battling addiction, & relationships.
This sounds even more depressing than the depression itself 😢
🎯 Hold strong.❤
It's like she lost Eric twice.
Lost him in the obvious sense, then lost who she thought he was.
lost him once and found the real him later.
Cringe
Why women go to dating sites, cant trust none of that sorry, to each its own, to many evil people..fr
@@pistolpete8231 no u
Don't make cry please
Nothing stops the grieving process like finding out the person you loved was a total scummy loser.
Well put
Idk I think that would almost make it worse for me because there would then be 2 things that I would have no kind closure on. And I would feel so conflicted and I’d want to say things to him and ask questions and never get the chance to. And if it was me and my husband specifically I wouldn’t be able to talk 💩 about him if he died no matter what I found out. speaking ill of the dead feels taboo to me. I’m not judging her for doing it just saying I personally couldn’t. But I’ve been married to him forever so maybe that changes it. Idk but for me it wouldn’t stop the grief process so much as warp it into something harder.
@@sonnystephens3753 so true. I knew of a couple back home that were so lovely with each other and you could clearly see the love and chemistry between them. He died in a freaky accident and she was clearly grieving and depressed. And later on found out about his cheatings adventures
@@mel999. oh no. I hate that for her. I hope she was able to get past all that and have a good life. 😞🙏🏼
Men lie.... the end.
I love that her family didn’t leave her alone, and took shifts for weeks, during her shock and grieving. That was so important, it likely saved her life. I wish everyone had a family like that.
Yeah. I have nothing like that in my life.
I lost someone after 20 years together due to “ unaliveing” himself. My Friends and Family were crucial in helping me recover from the loss. When I was going through his things while
Preparing our Home for Rental I found a cards dated during our time together referring to very intimate things from a Woman he claimed was only
A friend. I can honestly say it felt like a punch in the gut but after that next shock wore off i barely felt anything for him again.
Sorry to hear that, hope things have picked up for you.
@@michellemcgill9328 *UNALIVING
I did that for my father when my mom died of cancer when I was 14 and I regret it. there should’ve been adults to listen to him, he told me such sad and awful things about how he really feels about my mom and his kids and life in general. I know it’s how he really feels too, so it still hurts. I have no parents because of loss & grief.
She’s very very lucky. I married the creep. And 42 years later, discovered the truth. Divorced now, but I still struggle with stress, anxiety, depression.
Why did it take you 42 years to figure out that your husband was cheating on you!?..... 😮 😮😮😮
Every " victim " in a relationship always minimize their input in the relationship, the fact it took you 42years to know that someone close to you is a creep is troubling. Victims typically encourage or allow things they say they hate in their partner and only call them out after removed from the situation
I think 'very very lucky' is a ridiculous thing to say. Yes - I get that it's fortunate that she didn't marry him, but she's had an exceptional amount of trauma in her life, especially for someone so young. This woman is strong, but she will be dealing with mental health issues for the rest of her life. Good on her for choosing happiness. 💜
She needs to get sober
@@SinkistStudios-yc4etwhat do you mean
This guy left the worst version of himself as his legacy.
Good thing she didn't marry him.
Wow, I hadn't thought of that, how awful.
Cringe. I wonder how his family copes seeing his "legacy" shared 👀
@@Davewutsup Don't mean to be insensitive but, he passed just in time.
Not really, he seemed like a nice guy that just wanted to spread the love around
I'll never understand why people get married if they want to date.
I know of a couple who were dating, and committed, but didn't want to marry until they decided to marry so one would be covered under the other's insurance. Not quite the romantic reason, you know??
Because having a wife is so convenient: laundry, meals, bedroom stuff. Where else can a guy get all that?
Let me offer some insight from a man's perspective. I would bet my house on the fact that he wanted to marry her and only her... However, he ALSO wanted sexual connections with other women. This may not make sense to most women, but men can more readily compartmentalize sex and relationship. If it is just about the sex, men will do whatever is necessary to sleep with a woman, even while genuinely caring for the other women he has chosen for long term relationship - it's just a matter of whether he man wants to explore sex outside of his relationship (obviously, not all men choose to do so)
To the other women involved it may have seemed he was dating them, but from his perspective it was likely just sex.
@@user-pp6bp7vp5uI suspect this is the reason. Good analysis
@@cynthiabelknap8655 See? This is why I chose to stay single 🙄.
Girl this was the best wedding gift you could ever get. The truth…
I went through 2 yrs of heartache before escape! People need the courage for boundaries!
It's the logic result of women chasing the most attractive men. They shouldn't complain.
@@jankaufmann4305
That's hilarious. He was only average looking.
@@Democracydoll well she seemed to find him attractive
And exactly how has this "truth" improved her life? Either way, he was dead and it changes nothing, other than her being more angry and bitter, and replacing any good memories she had with him with that ugly fact. He will never be able to defend himself or explain. Honestly, I'd rather not know about a dead loved one's dirty secrets, because there is nothing you can do to change it.
Better than marrying the jerk. I did….cheating lasted on and off for years. YEARS. AND I found out his MOTHER knew all along. And he had a separate house from us, and it was his MOTHER’s idea……I hate them all.
If he bought that other house while married to you, then half of it is your's.
So sorry your mother in law did that to you goes to show you what kind of toxic people he was raised around. I hope you heal and find someone who genuinely enjoys your time and company.
Hate is a hard word for me
As you should, so terrible
I believe that behind every toxic man, there is a mother who enabled this type of behavior .
sounds like she dodged a bullet. the stress of what he was doing may have contributed to his demise.
Fr
@@thisisme3238what a silly comment. He proposed to her. He could have walked away. Juggling multiple women he caused his own stress.
I hope the fil...th he was involved with didn't know he had a fiancee.
@@johnnycage3881 HE was the filth. And he wasn't married.
She sucks too - No wonder he cheated. He dodged a bullet.
My ex fiance passed away from a drug overdose. I dont think I would still be sober if he was alive. I loved him but he brought out the worst in me. 6 1/2 years sober.
Congratulations on your sobriety. Stay strong.❤❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊
All the best to you!
🥰 😎👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
That's raw. I'm going through a divorce bc my wife cheated. Your comment makes me think. Thank you
Congratulations!!!🎉🙏👏❤
Wow, no wonder he had a heart attack, I’m sure the stress of keeping all those secrets was a contributing factor.😮
Facts!!!!!!
Nah, narcissists don’t care. Maybe he did cocaine or had a heart defect
It’s no coincidence that it was his heart that gave out either…there’s a theme here…likely karma and prebirth planning…
@@M_SC Or graped several children. I have no idea but my stomach tells me it is something like that
Right
My ex husband and I were together ten years.
I found out he had been with countless other women the entire time, including the night before our wedding.
While he was overseas, he was copying letters and sending them to myself and multiple other women.
Letters I had saved for my daughter's to have they now will never see.
Love, memories, life, years. Taken away from us.
I get it girl. This is tragic. Sending love.
I'm so glad you decided to shield your girls from those phoney letters. I'm so sorry for what you went through ❤
Were there seriously no signs of this?
He possible was a narcicist. 😢
Ask God to heal your heart ❤️ He really does 💕 saying a prayer for you
The stress of keeping all these secrets probably killed him. 🤦🏾♀️
Yes, he was so stressed out about the wedding and everything that he did, his heart couldn't take it.
I was just about to say that. Stress can kill you and he knew full well that he was being dishonest and deceiving this woman and others.
Absolutely this. What a horrible man. No one has suffered a loss with him, sadly.
Good
😂
Cheating and betrayal is about the person cheating, not about you. They need external validation because they have an internal emptiness.
truth!
Absolutely, this was me before recovery
Or sometimes they're just selfish SOB's who want what they want. This is Mrs. Rick. I knew a guy who flat out told his wife that he didn't feel he should withold his wonderful self from women who wanted him.
It is about you: no one cheats really hot people
@@NT-lq3lq Wrong. Cheating is only about the cheater.
I just turned 59 but I gave up dating 9 years ago. I'm just done with all of it. I don't have any regrets. I have inner peace.
Same!
Yes indeed…inner peace and lots of wonderful freedom.
Most women do not.remarry after hubbys death but men remarry after wife dies usually..I am 56 and I will not remarry .My hubby is much older and i will be free.
I'm 51, dumbed my boyfriend out of no where. He still my friend, just from different States🙏🏼
Your not alone and your right 👍
Best kinda Peace EVER!
✌️☮️ I took care of my dad's mother, kept her out of the nursing home, now I'm preparing to take care of my mom and my dad.period.🙏🏼
😇Self Preservation 😇
Unfortunately I find myself saddled with a lot that makes it difficult to get out. He’s cheated at least twice, and I realize this is who he was all along.
What a brilliant stroke of good fortune for her that he died, saving her from a marriage of betrayal and heartache.
I had a friend whose husband took his boyfriend, unbeknownst to her, on their honeymoon to Hawaii. He would leave saying he was going to have a smoke or to get a bottle of wine. One time she followed him and saw him with the other man. Needless to say, she flew right home and filed for an annulment. It took her years to get over this.
Oh my gosh, we definitely must listen to our intuition. Good for her 👏
I could imagine!!! That's terrible!!!
My goodness thank God she got out!
Sounds like a lifetime movie...to be left for another women ...it happens...for another man...that stings...lol
Lol 😂
Man this woman has been THROUGH IT. You were spared a lifetime of heartache from a man who was a serial cheater. He wouldn't have ever stopped. I hope you heal and can find the love you deserve
She’s so annoying. My God my ears hurt.
@@gone.golfingI’m glad to see your comment. I had to stop listening to her after the relatively lengthy description about how she felt when called about the fiancé death. That vocal freeze style that females began using so long ago (25 years?) deserves to be ceased like all annoying trends. It does not make them sound like more of an authority about anything. It’s unnatural and distracting.
@@gone.golfing the grating voice?
@@tessangelabeck8958 yep
Honestly, had that man not died, we may have heard a story about both of them going on a hike one day and only him returning.🥴
Narcissists require a LOT of attention. He wouldn’t have stopped having affairs. He was a POS. Glad she’s getting past it.
@sewwfffyhjijuishe didn't mention that in the video. We don't know whether she didn't know his family or not. And even if she did, there's a large chance even they didn't know about his affairs
They can choose who to show you as family, @sewwfffyhjijui
This girl is also a manipulator. The way she talked and disrespected her mom. If she said that to me then I’d say fine stay in your room I’m not telling you anything. Ps, she keeps saying how she lost control and she didn’t like not having control. Also I like how she keeps saying she didn’t even know him… so because he cheated and managed to keep that a secret suddenly she knew nothing about him. That’s not how it works.
Making things up should be a diagnosis itself. Is the narcissist talking with you know?
I sure hope the fil...th he was involved with didn't know he had a fiancee as the affairs took place.
I always get heartburn. Im 38. Sometimes I get chest pains. After this video, im going to get checked out.
EEG
See you you need magnesium. Like almonds. I craved almonds when my heart was acting up. Learned later it has to do with deficiency.
I'm super young and had lots of chest pains and odd "attacks" for a year. No matter the tests done by hospitals and doctors, everything kept coming back normal. Now I don't have it nearly as much but it only stopped finally once my grandfather passed from cancer. I believe it was the stress.
Still terrified to die young of a heart attack though 😕
@realcapers Do you cheat? LOL
Get checked out. I was 53 when I had a heart attack. I thought I had heartburn. It was a wake up call cause it's genetic.
This also happened to me and it’s the worse possible feeling. When my boyfriend and son’s father died it was so many women posting msgs on social media & even at his funeral. Grieving and finding out you’ve been betrayed is beyond heartbreak.
Especially at the funeral. I am so sorry that you had to go through this.
That is awful. Double heartache. You're beautiful and will find someone better.
Where is a posting site for these moe foes? Without exposing true names maybe just locations or county?
@@MyMuse1111 a lot of cities have facebook groups for women to expose men they've met on dating sites that have been abusive etc.
🙏💜
My boyfriend passed away, I broke down and was taken to hospital because of grief, a week later found out he had been cheating, I snapped out of the depression that same day, and never looked back. God knows if I hadn’t found out where I would be now, 2 years later and I’m fine, don’t care about closure or anything, he would have lied.
A lot of women don't understand how their man cheating is actually helping them.
@@Shadowman-1960what???
@@Shadowman-1960 Want to elaborate?
@wesleytwiggs7687 I think she meant it's easier to live with, if I didn't find out he cheated, I would still be mourning, and that kills
😂
He didn’t hate you, he had no morals and was just selfish.
EXACTLY. He didn’t like himself.
He just doesn't have a grasp on how to self-discipline himself yet.
He was just 33
@@adeogi1904??? So?
I mean… he certainly didn’t like, love or respect her so 🤷🏾♀️
Online dating is really not safe.
You would have married a liar and a cheater. You basically got lucky that you didn't get married.
R
5
God works in mysterious ways.
Yes. It’s like god was looking out for her
Forget that. Who would want to be with this lady that has had two BF's die at young ages.
Why propose to a woman if you can't even stay loyal...break up instead of a long divorce
They want a home and house keeper. Not ABOUT the others feelings or caring for them.
I don't get it at all. Just be single and date and have your fun. But nope, gotta lie and hurt innocent people.
because he loved her the most but he also needs a side chick
The "high" the thrill, adrenaline rush...
@@doccan3848he didn’t love her at all, that is why he is willing to lie and use her like this
“He went dark and it gave everything light.” Pure clarity.
222 on the likes. Message!
He was blocking the light
222
Poor woman. She will never trust anyone. Many people fall victim to being cheated on and it’s almost impossible to regain trust in a new relationship.
And to think she almost took her life over this cheater. She dodged a bullet
My comment exactly!
Big time
Did she say she wanted to take her life?I didn't hear that?
@@AriMarleyyea around 4:40
Exactly 100
If you know you can't stay faithful don't get married. why put someone through this stress and heartache?
Love bombers love the fanfare of weddings, and problematic men love the status of having a wife and children. The status distracts from their bad acts and double lives.
Well, if such people were capable of caring about others in a way the creates concern, they wouldn't do it, so your advice is moot; it's like telling a serial killer that when they feel like killing, just don't do it.
They do it for narcissistic supply.....ALL about them, not the ones they supposedly love. They're incapable of love or empathy.
Where is the fun in that! Is what they would say
Most likely sex addiction?
Over 6K comments so this must be a topic that grabs many. I understand your shock, pain, anger, and relief. I've never talked about this, but my husband died when I was 27 and he was 34. We were only married 1.5 years. Shortly after his death I was cleaning things out and came across info that confirmed he had been having an affair/fling - whatever. And...not exactly a friend, but someone I was in school with. Someone who had offered condolences. I sat next to her every day!! In that instant, all the shock/horror at his early/sudden death left me but I was consumed with shock/horror at what he had done to me. I never shed another tear, never visited his grave again. Nothing. He was truly dead to me and still is. Fifty years later I've never remarried and I've been happy ever since. I wish you happiness in your future.
Jeez you’re 77? Good work
@@frisc0strangler207 😂 Actually, I'm 75 but at this age, who's counting? I rounded up a bit for simplicity. It's truly been 47 years. And PS: at this age I'm happy to remember how old I am! Happy day wishes for you!
oh my, thank you for sharing this. Did you have kids?
Thank you for sharing such an intimate and horrifying time in your life. I am awed by the strength you and others find in yourselves when traumatic events take place. Keep enjoying life my dear.
@@susanb.3363 haha! Have a great day
She fell for typical narcissist love bombing in the beginning.
They detect and give you everything you want/need in the beginning then pull away and function as their truer selves. You spend the rest of your time trying to get that back.
Absolutely, just like Prince Harry and Megain Malarkey!
You still suffer from the heartbreak of the man you THOUGHT he was.
Not really. Once you realize that person never existed, those feelings disappear FAST AF
💯
@NomadicIslanders speak for urself
Yeah she's not being honest. Not saying the circumstances won't alleviate the majority of the grief, and I do think cheating is unacceptable and he's terrible etc.. but he was still a human and you had some good experiences, there is still some loss there to process, even if it's just what she thought she had going on her life and the future. I like sense like a little bit of like denial with this lady.
And not to mention all his other gfs or lovers who didn’t even get the support she got as unexpected side chicks, their grief is real too but they didn’t get closure. Cheating hurts so many people.
She was saved from the biggest mistake of her life!!
Praise God 🙏
Yes, just image if she found out after the wedding! She dodged a major red flag....she's actually blessed that this happened.
So was he. She said “like” 5,765 times in this video and her vocal fry was pure, unadulterated torture. In Hell, they play an eternity of her, just talking. Who could live with that for the rest of their lives? Five minutes was bad enough.
Divine intervention!
She's a liar.
99% of the time when you hear someone is "charismatic" they turn out to be narcissistic.
Yep, my dad was like that.
Isn't that the truth.
Looking for a boring man 🙋🏻♀️
I always date the “confident” man when in actuality it’s arrogance
🏃♀️😳 Yup. Red flag.
Now THAT’S TRUE!!!
The way she speaks about grief is so eloquent and important for people to hear 😢
Trusting people is extremely difficult these days.
STAY AWAY FROM GUYS ON APPS!
@@SomeOne-ji8ny 👍 ABSOLUTELY AGREE
People have always been shady. It's just easier to discover their shadiness these days.
It's always been the same, we just didn't hear about it
You can never truelly fully trust another person, sad but true
He was a narcissist. His death saved you from a life full of abuse and pain.
Bingo
And she puts him openly through the dirt on a "news" channel after his death for revenge....
What is she then?..
2 men, 2 mysterious deaths, 1 common denominator (her).
Thank for the diagnosis, doctor. You figured it all out. Did you notice that the story is about two young men who died mysteriously around this woman, and it's all about "me me me me"?
The man was for the streets, not the sheets.
She is SO LUCKY. It took me decades to realize I married a sadistic, depraved psychopath.
That is not lucky it’s traumatizing
You choose bad ppl.
Hope you’re doing well now.
@@BridgetLouise still, traumatizing but lucky.
Your fault...
I am in the process of divorcing my narcissistic husband of six years. The entire marriage he was on dating sites and meeting up with other women. During our separation, I found out that he was seeing his ex-wife over 20 years ago. I had met her a couple of times and I was very nice to her only for her to stab me in the back. I am on permanent disability due to his abuse, major anxiety/depressive disorder, PTSD and I developed ME/CFS from the trauma. I know that it will take years for me to heal from the damage he caused me and my children. I am so sorry for all that you have endured. I pray that you find your happy ending.
I hope you find peace, sorry for what you endured. Many beautiful women (like you) unfortunately end up with narcs because narcs prefer the most attractive partners.
I know what you mean. See if you can look into Bob proctor and how to change your paradigm. Joe dispenza is also very good
@@gamerwhiz6847Many times they don't cheat with the prettier one, they cheat with the easier one.
PTSD.. ??? Ok
@@rmull26 Yes PTSD...were you in the relationship with my husband? Were you there at all?
I was married for 30 years to a man who turned into a voracious cheater. When I found out so many of our “friends “ said “Oh we just thought you two were Swingers!” I was heartbroken and in shock that so many people knew what he was doing and I was a fool. Now married to a fantastic faithful man who worships me. Very grateful to be free from his emotional abuse and his drinking & cheating.
I was married for 28 years to lying, cheating, cruel narcissist. They never stop cheating.
You dodged a bullet. Live your best life. ❤
I don’t understand friends that do that and dont have convos about it. My friend only just realised her boyfriend is a racist and homophobic, he hid it for almost a year but all her other friends knew he was like that and thought she was ok with it.
You wasn’t a fool! He never showed you who he truly was and no one never said anything to you cos they jus assumed that that’s the way you guys were. That doesn’t make you a fool tho. You cant react to information you never knew about.
That must have been devastating tho, I’m sry that happened to you ❤ just remember time humbles everyone, he will get his
Let’s be honest, even if someone said something earlier, many women refuse to acknowledge it or end up staying anyways. I lost a friendship after telling my friend about her husband possibly cheating and she accused me of being jealous and that he would never and still stayed. Less than 3 years later and much more cheating, I heard from a mutual that she posted on Facebook about finally leaving the abusive relationship. Some women really don’t want to hear the truth about their husbands until they see it for themselves. Getting involved as the 3rd party only makes you look like the bad guy or a scapegoat for the husband to call you jealous and further isolate that woman from her friends/loved ones
Did you let yourself go?
He didn't hate her, he only loved himself.
No he hated himself. He was self destructive.
That's exactly why those men who do that, do that.
Well said 👏
trump..trump..trump
He hated her! Stop allowing females to believe this behavior is because someone loves you. It’s bad enough someone in the comments suggested he loved her the most! 😂 You don’t set out to destroy someone you “love” or even like. She wants to turn her pain into empowering women yet she’s still using heavy medication to get through what he did to her. She still hasn’t healed but he didn’t hate her?!?
I had a similar experience. I dated him for 9 years and he was killed in a car accident. Found out he was in another relationship for over a year with a girl he went to college with. She found out about me reading his Obit. Later on, I learned about other women. It's a horrible feeling as she explains. So many emotions all at once; it's really debilitating. All his friends knew about her which was a double whammy because I was close to them. They told me they talked to him all the time about ending it with her. Honestly, finding out was the best thing that happened for me because I would have mourned him for years. Looking back, there were signs of infidelity but he was such a manipulator that he'd make me think I was overreacting. Always trust and believe your intuition.
He was gaslighting you. Pure NARC.
Wow the fact they told him to break up with her rather than to tell you he was cheating is crazy.
@@margielopez9741 he definitely had some type of antisocial personality disorder-not sure which one.
Honey, if you don't have a ring by 3 years MAX you know a man is not going to fully commit. How many red flags did you ignore?
Bless you woman. You absolutely deserve better. ❤
This woman is so strong, wise, and beautiful too. And she seems like such a genuine and nice person. I hope she has a happy life.
Talk about dodging bullets! His death saved her from years of pain and hurt.
There goes the saying..." things happen for a reason "...
Karma is a real thing.
And possibly disease
definitely dodged a bullet. how do you think the last two men she dated that were found mysteriously dead out of nowhere?? oh wait. they're dead
@@ajj9694she doesn't care 😂 she loves this attention
How sane and clever of her mom to say “ ok, we’ll figure that out tomorrow”, instead of panicking or not validating her feelings.
An amazing parenting moment
I know I love that
If there was ever the perfect response, that would be it. ❤️
Thats actually the worst thing u can say to someone who is suicidal,
if someone is suicidal you don't wait till tomorrow they can un alive themselves that same day
don't ignore their feelings by saying yea wait for tomorrow... There might be no tomorrow .
and also that the family worked together to have her never be alone while she felt so bad…
Him dying saved her life and her finding out who he truly was is a blessing. It gave her the freedom and detachment she needed to thrive.
That's a great attitude! Another positive is the marriage hadn't taken place yet.
@@cdes1776 Yup.That’s even better!!
@SweetieTiffany There's nothing sweet about you, that is for sure !!!!
@@christineraines4673 A stranger on the internet don’t think I’m sweet, my life is ruined 😭🙃.
Poor thing!! How does this happen to a person twice?? I feel awful for her, for losing the first man, the real love of her life!
She doesn't seem that in love with him tho
“Okay, we’ll figure that out tomorrow.” WOW. What an incredible mother. As someone who has struggled with suicidal ideation, I can’t imagine a more comforting, empathetic and validating response. It’s impossible to see the light or any type of end when you’re in the depths of despair, and the well intentioned “things will get better” lines of encouragement often mean nothing. But pushing through one more day at a time feels possible.
I love your comment .. ! Very deep and so true!! Sorry to hear about your struggles.. hope you feel better ! ? Sending you a virtual hug from ireland .. :)
@@CatCatlady-ox5on Lovely comment! Can I have an Irish hug too please, they sound so comforting! Love from Australia ❤
I have had suicidal ideation since I was 9. I have had at least a dozen attempts 1st time when I was 9, and 2 X really close to working. I haven’t attempted in over 15 years but it’s always there . I don’t have that support I deeply need and fight it every day. She’s lucky she had family that actually cared about her well being. I completely agree she has an incredible mother just for saying that to her.
@@bonniedeaves422 right?! How nice does an Irish hug sound! Thank you so very much ❤️ sending love right back from your Australian neighbor ☺️
@@CatCatlady-ox5on this is so very sweet 🥹❤️ thank you! Fortunately it isn’t something I’ve struggled with for a long time. But I’m very blessed to have a good support system around me 🙏🏼
A man who used many women has been taken off the market, permently. Karma
His body his choice 😂
Don Juan goes to hell like the opera
More like his bones his grave
Cant say RIP
No
He didn’t hate you. He was a sociopath. He had no ability to love you. Big difference.
Yes a sociopath. He couldn’t live the way she wanted. She’s lucky
I've met a clinically diagnosed sociopath aka clinically diagnosed with anti-social personality disorder. They can love and they do have feelings. The problem is that their intense feelings combine with dysfunctional thinking and result is the empathy being overriden and them exhibiting behaviour that harms other people. Most have been emotionally abused emotionally neglected and didn't receive extra emotional support to cope with their intense feelings.
She loved him as a person,she wasn't in love with him
💯
Right on point!!
I feel empathy for her enduring his physical loss and the betrayal he left her with. What a warrior to have the self-confidence and awareness to press on so well.
Cheating on a fiancé is so strange. Cheating on a spouse is bad, but the person feels trapped. Why cheat on a fiancé? Just break up!
He wanted both women. Its as simple as that.
I think money must have been involved, fiance looks put together, probably had high earning potential. He wanted sex, and a lifestyle that alone or with other side chicks was not going to happen.
Period
I think some people aren’t happy with normal. Normal is boring to narcissists. They love drama and doing wrong thrills them. Everything is a challenge to them. It’s sickening. True psychopaths.
The expression "he wants his 'cake' and to eat it, too," comes to mind.
She dodged the whole Freight train💀💀😭😭
Hopefully, she will have enough sense to realize that.
@@gracie1598 I have an inkling she does know that. 🎯👍
She dodged a bullet, the rifle, and the whole damn gun store.
😭🗣
So she dodged the bullet…train?
A friend of mine went through a very similar story. Once he died she was able to access his social media and found out about another girlfriend. He had opened a store with this other girl, and they name it with their initials. People can be really shady.
That’s awful. A whole different life on the side. That’s a lot of extra work to maintain.
@@Subliminalmessage78Who can understand why they like to complicate their own lives...
lmao.
@@rogerrtewwr4723what’s funny? Please elaborate for us.
@@Sigyn26the sheer audacity.
Heart attack at 33 cheating on his future wife. Dude was on drugs.
Thanks, watching the first two minutes of her babbling, I just want to get to the point of the story!!
@@t.j.7789she is annoying no wonder he cheated 😂
Her mom sounds great. Nothing better for a child than being completely seen and heard by a parent even in our darkest moments. Well done mama!
This woman is creepy. I won't be surprised if there was a drug at his drink.
You were saved from a life of torment, betrayal, and horrible pain. You don't know it, but you were SAVED!!!!
Yes! God interviened!
nope. She loved him because he was cool and was getting other women easily. He wasn't clingy etc. He was cool and thats why she loved him
@@salihbbas Yeah… serial killers get chicks, too. Neither one should be exactly ‘aspirational.’
I think she does know it.
I'm 48. My wife is the most beautiful woman in the world. We have been together for a very long time. I really don't understand these guys.
God bless you!
Beta males have difficulties putting themselves in the shoes of an alpha male.
You have integrity.
NICE......
Talk to the 80 percent of men these women don't want. Chad can't handle em all.
I went through this twice with no friend or family support. My mom was just like “be grateful, you dodged a bullet”. Friends were just wide eyed and in shock and eventually disappeared. No babysitters, no sympathy.
I just wanted anyone to understand my pain.
I’m so sorry you had to go through that, especially alone! No one deserves that
Wow same. I try not to feel that it’s not fair victim mentality but thats the truth and it was unfair. Sucked. But better to know than not know with or without support. Truth always comes out sooner or later. Just would have made it easier to deal with having support. Oh well.
I'm sorry you didn't have support or a way to release your pain and loss. It's not an easy thing to navigate difficult situations like this on your own.
I hope you've been able to do self care and take care of you and feel a little less alone .
❤❤❤❤❤❤
She dodged a big bullet when that he passed. What a jerk
This woman is creepy. I won't be surprise if there was a drug at his drink.
@@RadiUzunovacreepy? Creepy is marrying someone while having multiple girlfriends. She's grieving while also dealing with the heartbreak and trauma of what she discovered. She seems pretty composed to me despite what she's dealing with
@@RadiUzunovahow is this woman creepy?
@@RadiUzunova 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
@@RadiUzunovasome help would be beneficial for your hate problems
What's wrong with people? Why get married if you don't want to be committed?
Exactly. It is such a simple thing to solve, but people prefer to complicate everything. However, this envolves more than we can see. Who knows what’s inside one’s heart 🤷🏻♀️
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For some, for thousands of years, it is a game and free money ride. Easier to play with another's mind than to get up and make an honest days living.
It's a game. Conquer one, establish a fake life, and juggle control over all these relationships. Get the house, the wife, the kids to create a charming facade of the perfect life to go with your charming personality, when all of it is a lie, even your personality. There's an advantage to them in creating illusions to hide their true selves and what they're really doing. It's all about image management and control.
It’s simple. They LOVE the feeling of doing something wrong…
They should have gone to her room rather than phoning her very sad
They probably wouldn’t let them
She should’ve came to the lobby instead of acting like a baby.
@@gone.golfingpsycho
@@gone.golfingRight!!! What a stubborn old lady
@@gone.golfingdo you normally like shaming women because there not a good look bro!
Your heart took a pounding. Thank you for being willing to share and help others.
What’s most unfair in situations with cheaters, is that the victim is almost always left with emotional trauma . Meanwhile the cheater is enjoying their life or in this case, dead with no emotions to give at all. If you’ve been cheated on and it’s affected you to any extent, please take care of yourself. 🌼
This right here. When I found out my ex was cheating on me the entire relationship (Four years) with his ex, it felt like my brain did an emergency reset.
I still struggle with taking care of myself, but I'm a long way from where I started in this mess.
That’s what we always think but I believe in what you put out will come back to you. So cheaters do get it-it comes back to them 10x harder. Just let God take in control of it.
That is a major need to take care of yourself.
Lol Not here
He's DEAD
My son's father who I was with for 5 years cheated on me when I was 5 months pregnant I came home to a notice on our apartment door that we were being evicted when I knew that I had given him the money to pay the rent? Anyway that led to us moving out I moved in with my grandmother he moved in with his ex brother-in-law and while I was out looking for a house for us since we were about to have our new baby he secretly moved in with the woman that he was cheating on me with for over a year. And our son was planned that was the hardest part for me to get over. He scared me for my whole life. We would still be together often for over 10 years. Which was only holding me back. 29 years old about to be 30 and those wounds never go away.
And this is why I like my single life. No drama and it's peaceful 😊
Yea, but at what cost?
Absolutely agree 😌
Agreed!
@@Prometheus_43 Nothing is as precious as peace and tranquility. It costs more to be in a relationship.
Sometimes there is no cost. It's the next progression to avoid a hassle.
That heart attack saved her from heart ache. Seriously.
So grateful that you found healing and a way forward from the darkness of your grief. I had a similar revelation about my husband after being married for one year. Due to his public job, the entire events were plastered all over the media, there were questions about his actions on the job, and I had to testify in court about details of our marriage on several occasions. I heard people whispering about me as I tried to grocery shop. Even now, some news stories still mention it in news stories about his former employer. I never know when it will be on the front page of a newspaper or the first thing I see in my feed on social media (which was all shutdown for at least 2 years) . I lost so much of myself through that time and experience. I have never really had a chance to openly discuss it because we both have children from previous marriages. I have never shared my truth because I have chosen to protect our children from any further exposure or pain related to the ordeal. I admire this beautiful (stunningly beautiful) young woman for her courage and honesty, and I may even envy her healing (but in a good way… good for her!) I pray she has a long and happy life filled with the love she deserves. 🙏🏼
it’s just sad how common cheating is… I always feel sad for people who don’t cheat and got cheated on 😢
When my husband died I also found out things I had no idea about. It's shocking. I felt a lot of anger. And alot of guilt for feeling angry
Exact emotions I'm going through right now. Everyone is confused I'm grieving him. God bless you.
At least you got that insurance money!
@@thevestalvirginspeaks3847 How do you know there was any insurance money? Money doesn't heal her heart from betrayal and lies. She still has to grieve and go through that traumatic hell. Your comment is extremely insensitive and superficial.
Don't feel guilty for that!
Same here but what can a person do ....
My husband left when I was 9 months pregnant with our 3rd child. It was devastating. But I have to say, I understand how finding things out, getting more info...can help you heal and go from grief into anger and then finally move on and reclaim your beautiful life.
You were. lucky to be able to move on. I am stuck literally stuck. I am documenting my story on my channel. The depression and anxiety is debilitating.
life sucks, be strong, bless you
He should have stayed with you and his new girl friend. Only women can cheat. Men can have as many women as they can handle.
@LatterDaisySaint hope you have healed. And, super cute name ;)
I dated a guy when I was in my early 20s who turned out to be three-timing. I became friends with one of the other women, and he married the third. I think men having multiple, simultaneous relationships is much more common than most women realise.
Yes. It is very common. You're absolutely correct. If they can get away with it, why would they stop? I'm old fashioned. One man woman and always have been.
Most men aren’t monogamous. I wish they would just be honest about it.
Shes lucky to have such a good support system. When my four year old son died of cancer, my own mother told me I was looking for attention because I confided to her that I was suicidal. Shes a nurse.
I am sorry you have had to go through all of this. Blessings to you!
Talk about traumatic! I'm so sorry Sara. Here you go through the soul shattering loss of your son and your mom selfishly criticizes you. A good support system can make or break you ❤️
Your Mom needs counseling IMO - you felt safe confiding in her and she has no compassion gene. A lot of nurses get desensitized to emotions.
She is so insensitive horrible nurse im
Sure
Im so sorry for your tragic loss 😢
This happened to me too! 5 months into the marriage. He had a double life. It’s still shocking 7 years later.
I don't understand why tf they propose and then decide to spend time with another woman instead of just breaking up and making up their mind before a huge commitment 🤦♀️
@@queenicedcoffee4217 A tale as old as time aka benefits. Free $ e x , maid, cook, caregiver, nanny, all the above lol You really can't know someones true intentions but you can learn to be strong enough to leave if it were to happen. Just a risk you decide to take in life, as with all things.
Because that is something that a person would do if they had consideration for their spouses feelings. He didn't have consideration for her feelings, because he only thought of himself. He wanted to have everything @@queenicedcoffee4217
@@queenicedcoffee4217The buzz...
@@queenicedcoffee4217 Oh many reasons, feeling bored, not committed, excitement, long-distance relationships, mental illness such as narcissism, psychopathy, sociopathy etc.
The universe saved her from that marriage.
💯🌌
God saved her
Amen to that!
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Who....the one from planet Fantasy 😂
@@SUGAR_XYLERHYUUUUUUUCK
THIS IS WHY YOU LOVE YOUR SELF FIRST. SHE DONT SEEM LIKE SHE DID.
Really? What clues did you get from this video to led you to believe that she lacked self love?
so glad she had a support system omggg, the way she said she was never alone when grieving is so beautiful.
That made me tear up.
I’m so lucky!
I’m so lucky!
This poor woman has suffered unimaginable loss and heartbreak.
Never planning on getting married again , but I think before committing to a long term relationship I think I’d need to hire someone to do a total background check
I recently divorced my narcissistic ex-husband. I will never get married again, either. However, should someone come along, they will get a full background check across multiple sites. I will never, ever fall for anyone just based on who they present themselves to be!
Same here. My thoughts exactly 💯
I thought that was standard practice these days.
A background check won't tell you if a person is cheating. A private investigator on the other hand, might. But how many people have that kind of money to spend?
He didn't have a criminal record.
Is it just me or don't you all think it is very strange that both her boyfriends/husbands died in mysterious ways at relatively young ages?
She is cursed
It's called "reenactment." Quite common. When a person goes through a traumatic experience, if they don't fully process the trauma, they often repeat it, unconsciously attracting a very similar situation.
The stress of his double life caused his demise.
No. He obviously had a heart condition that was undiagnosed. Men like that don't feel stress. They enjoy the sneaking around.
He slept just fine at night.
@user-jy6vp1zm9m now he is sleeping in a pine box 😂
Luckily
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I don't understand how people have time to cheat. Who has the time?
Especially with multiple people like this loser? A good friend of my parents had a daughter who dated a guy for about 2 years and almost marriedhim, she broke it when she found out he had an entire family and was already married! How long does a person think they can have 2 families and not get found out? And why the heck would you want 2 wives / husbands, isn’t one enough trouble? 😂
I honestly couldn't be bothered 😂
?? Takes all of no time at all to cheat on someone
Depends on the region, the landscape, the environment, Windows of opportunity. And no, I have never cheated and never will.
My wife asked me one time if I would cheat. I said one woman is enough for me. Your already of enough of a pain in the a$$ why would I want another pain in the a$$
I lost my son's father when my son was six months old. I also found out he had cheated. It made it easier to grieve.
That comment says a lot more about you than you think.
@@CanVultus Get over your judgemental self. There is nothing wrong with her feeling that way. Nor do you know the reason behind her feelings.
@@CanVultus and your comment speaks volumes as well.
@@lichiehrb thank you. It was still hard, it only made things easier than if I hadn't known.
I’m so sorry. You deserve so much better.
Being cheated on was the worst experience of my life. Not being able to confront her about it, or let her see the pain she caused would’ve made it even worse.
If you haven’t already, I hope you find someone who loves you and your child more than anything, and you have a beautiful life together. ❤
Not to be mean him passing is sad but karma got him she dodged a bullet
Cheating equals death?
@@NoOneHere2Dayyes
@@NoOneHere2Daycheating does bring death to trust, self-confidence and future dreams for many
@@aegigiaebe careful😊
@@yourmedicalupdatepodcast7256 ???
This is a great example of the idea that sometimes when something happens that we think is absolutely terrible, it turns out to be a blessing in disguise.
My husband died in 2018. We had a 3 yr old daughter he was 42. Not only did he cheat on me he betrayed me in ways that ill never ever recover from because it concerns my child. I stopped grieving him almost right away. I realized him dying was the best thing that could happen to both me and my child. He was abusive in every way. He said terrible things to our landlord our friends my family. Yeah so him dying was a blessing, even tho at first i was crushed. But im ok now. I wish her the best!
Bless you and your child. Some men can be disgraceful.
Wow sad
How did he pass? What happened to him?
@@Autumn-RainI am guessing his brakes went out or he "fell" down the stairs 🫣
It's not about you
"We met on a dating app..." First red flag.
I know so many people who have good, long-term marriages either people who met in a dating app. I also know people who met each other in more traditional ways (school, work, through friends) and there was trauma involved in the relationship before divorce.
I’m so sorry for all the deep emotional trauma you suffered. Wishing you a happier future, you deserve to be happy.
I lost my man to a heart attack, he was 35.. i was 26. i did not enjoy the messages i saw on his phone 😢 i hate how common this is
I'm so sorry.
That’s rough. Sorry you went through that but it could have been a lifetime of being cheated on.
I'm sorry 😢
😢😢
I’m m so very sorry been there praying for you
OMG, this is like a real-life drama 😱💔 Can't believe what she went through! Stay strong, girl!
I am sorry you were left with the depression and insomnia but sweet lady look at this as a BLESSING IN DISGUISE ❤ I am sending love and light and all great things to come into your life. God Bless you always❤
I can understand the rage of knowing you wasted your time, health and care, grieving for a man that lied to you the entire time.
She was borderline ready to jump off a cliff ?! What if she did ? What a nightmare
What else did she have going on?
@@dastreet615her life!!!! What a silly question
Hardest part is forgiving yourself. I stayed way too long. Many emotional affairs . I was taught to turn the other cheek. That didn’t work ! I still get angry when I think of all the clues I missed because of my innocence. 34 years later I was starting my journey of freedom and he died alone of a heart attack. I was grateful actually. He could have been dangerous to me. I lived with that fear. Many of us could write a book as they say ❤. The trauma surfaces in the oddest times and ways. Watch utube videos on narcissism. 14 years later and I’m still learning and unraveling .. but from a heathy space. You can do this. 😊