Does Permission to Eat What You Want Lead to "Bad" Choices? Therapist Responds
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- Опубліковано 19 вер 2023
- DOES PERMISSION TO EAT WHAT YOU WANT LEAD TO "BAD" CHOICES?
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Disclaimer: This video is for information purposes only and my content should not be used as a substitute for seeking treatment from a healthcare provider. My content is not going to be suitable for everyone, so please use your self discernment before applying any video content in your own life.
In this UA-cam video, Sarah, also known as the Binge Eating Therapist, addresses the criticism often directed at the idea of giving oneself permission to eat what they want in the intuitive eating framework. She explores the misconception that granting such permission equates to making bad decisions and neglecting one's health. Sarah emphasizes the importance of understanding that permission to eat is a mindset shift, not just a behavioral change.
She draws parallels between healing one's relationship with food and recovering from an injury, acknowledging that different individuals may have varying degrees of "injury" caused by societal, familial, and personal pressures related to food and body image.
Sarah explains how permission to eat can help eliminate the concept of "last supper eating" and the vicious cycle of promising to be "good" tomorrow after perceived failures today. She discusses the significance of habituating oneself to challenging or emotionally charged foods and how it can help shift the psychological and emotional responses to those foods.
The video highlights the need for trust and self-regulation, acknowledging that healing doesn't happen overnight but requires a shift in mindset over time. Sarah encourages viewers to consider whether they are approaching permission to eat as solely a behavioral change or a broader shift in their relationship with food.
She addresses the moralization of food decisions and suggests using every decision as a tool for learning and healing. Sarah concludes by emphasizing that for many, permission is just the first step in a more comprehensive healing journey and offers support through her communities and groups for those seeking assistance.
Overall, the video underscores the importance of shifting one's mindset around food and self-trust while dispelling the misconception that permission equates to making "bad" decisions. It promotes a more compassionate and flexible approach to eating and healing from disordered eating habits.
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I will try to have my "trigger" foods more often....will get a small bag of mini snickers bars and will have about 1 or 2 a day and remind myself the food is always available...usually I end up eating the whole bag of minis but I'm going to tune into my body sensations and stop eating when I'm satisfied...even if it takes a few attempts...because I'm tired of feeling out of control...I give myself permission to eat the chocolates as long as I sit down to eat them mindfully and without distractions! Wish me luck haha!
Your videos have been a life saver for me, I’m on a journey now to something better after 25 years of yo-yo dieting. Loving your passion in this video, very inspiring. Keep up the great work.
Another great video. Hard lesson to hear, eating something “bad” when I’m not desperate for it… that mindset seems impossible right now. Can’t even remember getting a treat without it being an unreasonable amount and part of a planned over eating session.
I know ❤️🩹 The mind resists the idea and resistance is usually fear driven. The part that feels like it’s impossible could be trying to protect you from something that sounds dangerous. Just honour the resistance, notice it and meet it with curiosity. Doing this from a panicked place probably wouldn’t be as helpful anyway ❤️❤️❤️
This last week I actually decided, that eating what I felt like was permitted, like from deep down in my heart: permitted, "legal"...And I ended up snacking way less than usual. I went to a birthday party, and for the first time ever I went to bed that night, not having over eated, not being overfed with both physic and psychologically discomfort. This weekend I'm going to the cinema, and I will treat myself with a box of pop corn, and enjoy it guilt free...because I very rarerly go to the cinema, so I will permit me that pleasure...your videos might be what save me from my eating chaos
Yay she’s back
Heyyyy! 🙋🏻♀️
I’ve come to see a pattern that you described here. When I am in a calmer place around food, I don’t seem to crave anything. So I will buy some sweet stuff and in theory give myself permission to eat it. But only if I really really want it. And in those times, I don’t. But if I hit a hard patch, those are the foods that get wolfed down.
So I’m thinking that for now, I might want to add sweets every day so that I know I really have permission to eat them. And, of course, what keeps me nervous about that decision is…🥁🥁🥁… fear of weight gain. It’s a hard thing to shake! And I know that eating compulsively will also lead to weight gain.
Yes, self-trust takes time, but it gets weary after decades
I like the wise choice concept. That is very helpful to me. Thank you ❤
I love these videos. I almost feel like I'm getting free counseling. Thank you so much!
So true! Thank you so much for all your videos, so incredibly helpful
Another great vid, thank you. And love the flowers!
God bless you, I have learned a lot from you, a nd your a humble and honest soul, bless ❤
i am from small state of india kerala….i wish you get more viewers and you make frequent videos and you always stay happy and healthy❤❤❤❤ love you❤
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Love this!
The eat anything you want in moderation movement never works for me. I have to remove certain foods to keep my sanity.
I am all for people doing whatever they need to create peace and sanity ❤
What about BUYING it in moderation. Buying a scoop of ice cream instead of a pint. Buying a single serving bag of chips instead of the large bag, eating it at home. Have you tried moderating at the store instead of at home?
@@massages_for_world_peace8909 I will try that, if I want ice cream, go and get a scoop or two and move on with the day. Instead of eating a whole carton. Thank you for the comment.
Great video. This is so me.
Thank you ! ❤️
Thank you ❤
Great video Sarah!!! Helpful as always!
P.S.😱 What a lovely kitchen + kitchen island! ⚘️⚘️🥀🌹😮 It is so perfect that it seems a zoom background 😂.
It looks nice doesn’t it? I maybe should’ve batch recorded a few videos before I left! 😂
cuando me doy "permiso para comer" practicamente me obligo a comer puros alimentos "arriesgados" y a veces ni siquiera los quiero tanto pero es como si los tuviera que aprovechar, o si creyera que es aburrido si me voy por una dieta balanceada, o que mi alimentación tiene que ser saludable, o no saludable y punto :::
For me I recognize that I can eat what I want but I have trigger foods that if I have multiple servings of my favorite binge foods they’d be gone in a day so these foods I limit not to restrict but rather because I recognize my lack of control. I can only have my binge foods if I have only one portion available to me like I buy the single portion of it. If it’s in multiple portion pack I will eat them all. I’d rather not keep the food triggers around because I don’t miss that food, but if that food is at a party or at a restaurant I give myself permission. So far that’s working for me it’s not a restriction it’s recognizing I have an addiction and am powerless so I put a hurdle there to slow me down.
For example today I went out to brunch. I replaced my normal soda with unsweetened iced tea. It felt good to make a better choice .
Yep! This is me! 😵💫
Hello , thank you for your videos, i want to ask you advise about that i binge eating on healthy food, i eat much more my calories i need in day that i can eat alot of fruits,air popped popcorn, dates , lentils , i feel like i must finish the food all in house to feel comfortable , I don't know when iam not hungry or not i just eat i try to drink much water before food but it doesn't work , please reply to me it's effect on my life specially my education
Most of my content will apply regardless of the types of food you feel out of control around. There is no quick fix piece of advice I can offer in one UA-cam comment. My whole channel (and my book, which you can listen to for free on my channel) is dedicated to sharing all the information I have about binge eating recovery. Without knowing you or your history, I wouldn’t know what personalised advice I could offer ❤️❤️
You are well beyond your years facilitating this topic. Your information is so insightful for my food addictions. I have struggled all my life binging and restrictive eating. You have helped me tremendously. I have recently learned of your videos. Do you have e-mail or a phone number to contact you? Thank you for sharing your experience! ❤
Allowing myself to eat what I wand doesn't work for me, at all, unfortunately. But I wish it did as I love food too much :) I tend to eat more processed carbs, when I'm stressed out, and I could eat all the time, when I feel bored. After this kind of eating my insuline spikes, I couldn't stop craving, until I stop myself with a prolonged fasting or a metphormine.
I made a list of my most frequent binge foods. I give myself permission but with some restraint. I don’t want my binge trigger foods around because I’ll eat them fast and first. It’s not worth it having them around. However I don’t completely avoid either if I’m with other people I do give myself permission to have a portion of my trigger foods while I try to be mindful. I just don’t want to have very easy access all the time to my trigger foods. So far so good
I ended up eating the whole bag of snickers mini bars...I really don't trust myself when I give myself permission to eat things...I don't know what to do. I see no other choice but to avoid buying these triggering foods. I know the food will be there later if I don't eat it now, but I still feel the need to compulsively eat the whole bag. I guess I waited too long to eat these and built up a desire? Maybe I am not restricting physiologically but I am restricting mentally and emotionally? I don't know! This is too confusing and frustrating! Why can't I avoid eating the whole bag?
I can't really try to eat these every day because I'll just eat a bag a day and spend money and gain tons of weight...how am I supposed to trust myself with food? My therapist says intuitive eating is the best bet for me but didn't really tell/show me what to do....
We have recorded an episode on having these foods around for the podcast and it will be out in a few weeks. There’s too much to say on it for a UA-cam comment as it is a complex, nuanced subject.
Hey, I can only tell you my experience so I don‘t know if you‘ll find it helpful or not. Your comment resonated with me because I was in a similar situation about a year ago. I also had these trigger foods that I tried to avoid but I was often „failing“ and overeating. Then I would beat myself up about it and swear to never buy them again. I also listened to a lot of binge eating recovery content because I felt so out of control around certain foods (mostly chocolate). I then wanted to try to stop restricting myself. In the beginnig it was so frightening. It was insane to me how much I overate on chocolates but also other foods. I was horrified that I would gain „a ton of weight“. After about 4-5 weeks I started to feel like my body was slowly getting enough of all these foods. The „ton of weight“ that I would gain turned out to be 2-3 kilos. I wasn‘t thrilled about that but for the first time my desire to overeat was declining. Since I went through this phase I‘ve never overeaten so much on my trigger foods. It is still an ongoing process but my relationship with food improved a lot. I slowly started to trust my body with it‘s choices again. There are still times where I crave a lot of chocolate but then I just give myself permission to as much of it as I want and don‘t be angry at myself because of it. I noticed how I‘m not as hungry later in the day so I don‘t gain that much weight even on those days. On other days I just eat when I‘m hungry and stop when I‘m not anymore. Apparently I‘m in a deficit on most of the days because I did end up loosing weight and I‘m back to what I feel is my set point weight. I realized that my body doesn‘t actually want to be heavy and eat chocolate all the time. Only when I interfere and try to control what satisfies me I feel like my body gets panicked and wants to overeat. I guess after years of restriction my body also needed some time to trust me again to never restrict like that again. Although it was scary and I did gain weight in the beginning I‘m glad that I went through my overeating phase because I never felt as hungry ever again.
I wish you all the best and good luck on your journey!
Thank you :) I will look for it! I appreciate your work!@@TheBingeEatingTherapist
@@nataliasegal8674 It’s here: ua-cam.com/video/M0-yUtCvDbM/v-deo.htmlsi=OqnnMK7bsXDUKY44
knowing the psycho-neuro-emotive behind the ongoing impulse processed food eating doesn't help me to do the wise need at the moment
What a great new background🫶🏻🤩
I’m in an Airbnb in Norfolk! It kinda looks like one of those fake Zoom backgrounds, but it’s real (although sadly temporary)!
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist fake zoom backgrounds is very accurate 🤣