@@pookvalo6855 dude I'm ripped. In fact my biggest obstacle seems to be that, oddly, broads lose interest when they realize I won't go dick first into a relationship
@@pookvalo6855 It's more than about muscles. If you're buff but think like a Simp it's over with. There are guys that weigh 120 pounds that are players.
I can't express how sorry I feel for you guys. I'm just glad I'm 61 and did all this dating in the 70's / 80's. And still I expatriated 20 years ago for better pastures. Forget the apps gentlemen, go out and forge a life.
Tinder is not for the Average male.... It never was.......... Move on fellas.......... You deserve better than this depressing $hit......... God bless....
Fellas your best bet is to just stay out of it. Just live your best life. Women and society won't tell you this but I will... YOU DESERVE IT. Once you get over the fact that women and dating isn't what you thought it was or what it used to be and fill your time w more experiences, friendships, caring about your family members, making money, getting in shape, etc. you'll wonder why you ever cared about all that stuff to begin with.
I definitely agree once you stop 'caring' what women think they'll want to get to know you and find out anything and everything about you, but give them nothing and stay aloof...
Cause I want to reproduce. I swear the black pill sounds like some gay man would say. So you hate pussy is what you're saying? Black Pill sound like loners who don't know how to keep women in place but expect them to be 100 percent like men. Red Pill is the best pill.
@@NunYaBiz1313 That's the deal. At the end of the day, A heterosexual man with strong values wants to start a family. That's how you live a legacy. Through your children. The problem is there are just not many women with strong values, self awareness, empathy and accountability. There may be some of them, but they are few and far between. Most have been ran through by so many dicks, some even go both ways. I do believe tinder, social media in general and smartphones were the beginning of the end for traditional relationships. It did a good job exposing female nature and gave them the illusion of having more options. Cause there were always so many desperate simps gassing them up on social media. So now even the ugly and fat women are entitled and delusional.
@@nostalgicbliss5547 yeah dude no shit. The point is to not revolve your life around getting women. Especially when your in your late teens and early twenties. It’s the hard truth because guys like you with no purpose tend to just chase pleasure. Wake up big dog.
6 figure income, at least 6 feet tall, in shape, social network, a good career, good face and overall health. A man needs everything in order to not be completely ignored by the average woman.
You honestly just have to find the right girl. The dating apps are a shit place for that because you’re judged strictly on looks. Even if the hottest guy has shitty pics, it’s going to hurt him
Exceptions aside, you're better off just avoiding the dating scene all together. Trust me when I say that it is virtually ruined for most guys. I know too many, TOO MANY, basic girls who legit think men on their level are not worth the time. These girls are out here getting the attention of guys you'd think would be with girls much hotter, so you're an afterthought to her. Remember, if she likes you, it's easy af. Every joke you make becomes funny, all your hobbies are suddenly cool, SHE tries to make plans with you, SHE hits you up, etc. If that isn't happening, you best believe you ain't her type.
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Facts. If girls aren’t chasing and making an effort to chill with you, you’re most likely average looking. And in today’s world, average looking isn’t good enough when you’re a man.
It isn’t tinder that started this change in dynamic, it is the internet in general. I’ve personally met women on MySpace and Tagged in the early 2000’s. This has been a slow burn for the last 30 years or so. The disconnect between men and women these days will have serious repercussions in the future. All I have to say is invest in a body pillow business and pet shop, you’ll be rich.
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100% i started going out properly as an adult, you know drinking partying etc about 2004 and can vouch for your comment though i would add tinder and Instagram have made 5,6,7s think they are 8,9,10s, girls obviously, whereas before they maybe still knew their level....well most anyway
@@leeking2462 Actually they only want monogamy with chad until he expresses interest and attachment. Then they want to bounce around from chad to chad.
@@perzonne6302 ironically they actually hook up with chads and date people who care for her instead. If she cares for him too, then you shouldn't give up on it so easily. Just keep it genuine and healthy and communicate
Considering that almost every serious relationship I've been in, I've been cheated on, I have to agree. Not true in my experience either. And it's getting worse.
It's not just 5 or 6's. It's the full spectrum of women that now think they are 10's. Chad and Tyrone destroy these women, and then the everyday man is expected to pick up the pieces afterwards. Dating apps have made this far worse than ever. The women get emotionally destroyed because no one is meant to just sleep around. It just used to be a select group of women that exercised this mentality, but they all do it now. Any excuse to "be like a man." They think that men sleep around like that, why cant I? Not realizing it destroys said man as well. In reality, it's not dating apps for me, it's the fact I got a false #metoo allegation thrown at me, and it destroyed me emotionally. I dont trust women, and i doubt i ever will again until the laws change.
I think it’s good to self reflect sometimes. There’s so many things that both genders do wrong & all you did was complain about women. Men want perfect women a 10 on looks as well as some women when some men are 3 or 4. Some men don’t know natural boundaries perhaps you. Both genders lack communication & commitment.
@@nancerod7193 ... he literally didn't speak against that he said that sleeping around isn't a good thing for men and yet they participate did you read or just get your feelings hurt
I got hit with a #metoo in real life; just a couple years before the movement started. I'm glad I did too; that false accusation was a goddamn wake up call; and if it hadn't happened I'm not convinced I wouldn't have ended up a blue pilled simp. when it happened I had to go do research and friends in the redpill community educated me about things that were happening back then (namely title 9 tribunals in colleges); that was a real culture shock but it woke me up fast. Thank you crazy chick who falsely accused me!
Just cuz you claim some “chads” aren’t as confident as one might think they are, doesn’t change the fact that women 99/100 times would rather wait for that gigachad to approach them eventually than to give any other the guy the time of day.
Oh no they do. They usually just emotionally manipulate men for something else. Sure he isn't the gigachad she wants (and will likely never have) but he might have a big dick. So she'll do what she has to, to have fun for that time. Even if it's only a one night stand
@@alphaprimer Women and men are just wired differently. For instance, a woman won't really care if a guy has a high body count, so long as he doesn't have any STDs or kids out of wedlock. She'll be jealous, but also turned on that his looks, game or dick was that good to get that many women. Men on the other hand, at least heterosexual men will be disgusted. That's the reason that even in this liberal and progressive female empowerment society we live in, most women will lie about their body count or other disgusting sexual things they have done to a guy they find truly attractive and want to date long-term.
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Wrong. Everyone has become more judgmental and drowned into a fiction of ideas about someone cos they didn't meet them irl. All you know Is based on what is interpretation and the vast layers of personality under it is something you only see when you meet someone irl . Irl socialisation speeds up the getting to know someone. Cos yo have no time to rethink or turn off every bad side of you so easily when they see and hear you. It makes things so much clearer too. And rejection will also be less scary the faster you know of it by ya know, just approaching your crush instead of starting your inner monologue of what ifs. Speaking from experience
Let’s not forget on tinder, most people are talking to multiple people at the same time. It takes the term “casual dating” to another level of casual. I also think that people can really formulate a character based on their profile pics - angles, filters, clout pics. When meeting people organically, you observe their mannerisms, their vocal tone, pheromones are released, etc. bypassing the whole “is this person really as attractive as their pictures?” question from the start.
It's best to keep a small circle of interest and talk to those people first before you head on to new people to try a Convo with. Many love coaches with a good degree of knowledge have said this to be true due to human focus and attention span. We can only focus on few things at once
I deleted all my dating apps over 2 years ago and haven't looked back. Ever since I did that my mental health and self esteem have tremendously improved. I was constantly getting frustrated and feeling like shit when I wasn't getting matches or girls kept ignoring/flaking on me, and I'm not even a bad looking guy because I can get numbers and successful encounters in person. Guys, get off the dating apps. If you aren't a 10/10 Chad with top notch pictures, it probably isn't for you.
I was actually thinking of using one, since I never before. I can't find women in my area in an appropriate setting to approach them. I feel that the apps are my only chance now, even though I know they will be terrible to use.
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lol, I originally got off back in 2014 after coming to the same conclusion. But after I turned 35 last month...i confess, part of me felt like i had no reason to complain if i don't even try something. I can't do the cold approach because I'm 6'3, 235lbs, and I simply don't believe in spitting game and putting on a performance (knowing how to talk to women), so my boss literally paid for first 3 months for me. He called it the "Find Rock a Wife" fund. And I think...part of me needed to get back into online dating...to see for myself that ain't ish changed. In fact, it's gotten worse with dating sites being more expensive and women my age being dumber despite being so educated.
Looks is all that matters. You see guys chadfishing on tinder and you got girls inviting them over to sorority parties and secret shit almost immediately. It’s over for you. If you aren’t good looking, you either cope with “self improvement” or rope
Big facts. The difference is night and day to how women treat men they truly desire vs men they’re just settling for. If you have to “self improve” just to get attention then it never began for you. And after all the self improvement, all that’s left is chads leftovers and they don’t even really want you. Your just a back up and last resort option. And only now that you’ve “put in the work” do you deserve chads leftovers. Screw that
This is what people aren't willing to admit women will accept A LOT of bad shit from a guy as long as he's good looking doesn't matter if he's got a criminal record or history of abuse, that doesn't matter to them as much as having a good-looking man
Facts lol. I chadfished on Tinder last year as an experiment after getting little-to-no matches on my real profile and the results shocked me and I’ll actually admit it kinda destroyed my self esteem for a while. I woke up to over 100 girls that had swiped right on my good looking fake profile over night. Almost every right swipe was a match and when I did match with them, they would message ME first. I even got them to send me nudes and provocative pics, and they were also willing to drive to my house when I told them I had no car. I realized that women thirst over chads the way average men thirst over women. I’m not ugly but I stopped putting in effort after that experience, cause I realized that if women find you attractive, you really don’t have to try. THEY will make the first move on you or make it painfully obvious that they are interested.
1000% right - i have money, i am tall, i have a great work ethic, i am confident but i am also overweight and therefore I have no chance at a decent girl on Tinder I am working on losing weight - but of course it takes time - so youre 100% right
@@milesmorales5271 bingo. A lot of people think women don’t chase. No, women don’t chase most men. They don’t initiate with most men. Infact, the way they treat certain men is so astronomically different, it’s shameful to accept any less. Even as I self improved I noticed the quality of girls who were actually into me was pretty low. And even ones I would consider less than my looksmatch, would often see me as a backup or treat me disposable. Even the ones who did stick, ended up cheating in the end. You can’t win unless you are chad, and you know it from an early age if you are.
Even if you get a ton of matches it’s a waste of time. The women are extremely flakey and expect you completely dominate the conversation. Between hinge, tinder and bumble I have close to 6000 matches and it legit means jack shit
@@JonnyBeoulve So much for feminism, huh? They revert back to traditionalism real quick when it regards courtship. Men have to pay on the first date, lead her 24/7, withstand her shit tests, make her feel safe and protected. It's garbage, better to redirect our energy and effort elsewhere.
It's pretty bad out there. I'm the same build as Kevin and dated lots of women in the past especially pre dating apps. Though tinder was great between 2013-2015 before it become mainstream. What i really hate in the real world is that girls dont give you signals anymore. It used to be all in the eyes, and actually, quite simple. If she's looking at you in a certain way with a long haze then she's interested. It was easy you then have about 5 seconds to approach without seeming creepy and waiting it out. Now..they are all in their phones in public all the time. You have no openings and have to do approaches that catch them with their guard up. Completely unnatural and you come across as a creep. I miss cold approaching so much. It was fun and you could try it as a fun game. Now, it's just a job interview where you are being compared to thousands of guys online. Your chances are slim to have a real connection
Not sure where you live, but I still get signals all the time especially at the gym. At least everyday other day, I’ll get a long stare, and it’s up to me to do something. Sometimes I do approach and sometimes I don’t care to do anything. So from my experience, it hasn’t changed much. Only thing I’d say is , the masks kinda added a little difficulty a bit. Where I live [NYC] is still mask heavy, so it’s kinda annoying get a convo started. But even with that, the signals remain.
Signals still exist, but i get the face in the phone, but reality still exists, people want that easy tinder shit, but that's exactly what easy is...shit
All valid points, we live in a immediate society where an Amazon package is expected the next day due to social media. The best benefit of all this, female nature has been exposed where men can truly know if she’s wifey material. Keep up the content, subscribed
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The female nature idea you got is.... Wrong. Very judgemental if say. I'm sick of comments blaming women and men and whatnot for things you have in your control. Not theirs
My Dad had a few things to say to me regarding women over the years. Once while I was dating a single mother he said, "It may be good right now, but a woman will choose her child's bad behavior over you 100% of the time." "Look at her feet when she's talking to friends. If her foot is turned out any more than a 45 degree angle? Stay away. She's catty and vain." "Don't chase women. Makes you look weak and ineffectual. Do what you do and do it well? They'll be crawling out of the woodwork." "Women are like camels. They can go a long time without sex, but maybe 2 hours without conversation." "They have no coping mechanism for rejection. Indifference is power." "They hate us and we hate them. But, they don't fight fair." "Love isn't a feeling it's an act of your will. Love will vary. Loyalty is far more important." "Take a pass on a good looking woman once in a while. Lets them know they're human." "Take a second look at a woman you wouldn't look at twice. You'll see what you may have missed the first time." There are a couple dozen more. Everything he ever told me ended up being true.
@@cm-pr2ys "Never try to smooth talk. They'll sniff you out in a split second." "Don't whistle or catcall women. Guys think they like it. They don't." "Always have a backup plan. They always do." "On the first date. Open her door. If she doesn't unlock your side? Don't go out with her again." "Don't TRY to impress women. Just be who you are. If that's not impressive enough? She's a status seeker. Let her make somebody else miserable." "A little vanity looks good on a woman. It looks like sht on a man." "Women are attracted to movement. They'll do everything they can to slow it down. If she can bring you to a full stop? She'll lose respect for you." "They say they want a man who's in touch with his emotions. They don't. Thry want a man who's in touch with THEIR emotions. Don't take the bait." "If she needs to do anymore than wash her face and brush her hair to get ready then leave her to it and leave. The juice will never be worth the squeeze " "If she looks good in button fly jeans, a white tee and sneakers? She'll look good in anything." "In a choice between butterface and pretty face? Go with the butterface. They look better with their clothes off than on." "Stay away from women obsessed with horses. They always want control." "Beauty without grace is never pretty." "Strong legs, great calves and a solid behind means everything else will look good, too." "Never try to attract a woman. If she's attracted she'll let you know." "A woman who has a passion means she'll be passionate. About EVERYTHING." "Pass on a woman who's IN style. Go for a woman who HAS style." "A feminist is a woman who's still pissed off at her father for some reason." "A classy woman with average looks is far better than a looker with no class." "Don't talk too much. She'll fill the gaps. That's what they do." "A beautiful woman who lacks discretion is like a ring of gold in the snout of a hog." "Solomon said that not me. He had 700 wives and 300 concubines. So, I think he knew a thing or two about women." "Let her go. It's not worth the aggravation" "If she ever says she has to put on her face? Put on the brakes." "When women claim the wedding day is their day? What they really mean is the marriage belongs to them, too."
Your dad sounds dope.... My dad didn't tell me shit about women.. ive had to come to all the same conclusions above via in person experience and trial and error with women. One id like to add as I've realized this to be true after being with around 30 women. They will always say or do things that reveal who they truly are over time. It's subtle.. but if you pay attention.. you'll see it.
Uni kinda black pilled me. Tbf it wasn't THAT bad, but things didn't come easy, and online dating was the nail in the coffin. I'm going to focus on money and fitness goals. Take each day as it comes.
Great video. One minor correction: all of this started 17 years earlier than Tinder's 2012 launch date. Match started in 1995. I remember dating women in the late 1990s, and a woman who was a 6 or 7 would have hundreds of messages in her Match inbox. A 9 that I dated had thousands of unopened messages. I had no idea at the time, the red pill implications of what I was seeing.
@@jefrreyjeffery2192 apps returned humanity to tribal relational dynamics. The illusion was every man could have a partner and family. Biology always overcomes the pretensions of culture.
@@donragnar8430 i mean yes. Even as a leftist, i want to ban Dating apps. We're humans are supposed to live in smaller pool of community, these apps provide us with worldwide of choices which would make humanity disasterous. Also movement of body positivity (not fat positivity, but positivity for unconventionally attractive men or short men) is much more needed. These two are pretty good solutions.
Tried Tinder a few months ago. After 15 matches of fake accounts that vanished when I started a conversation, I deleted it. If they're trying to get people to use their app, it has the opposite effect on me.
I can 100% confirm. Once I got into aesthetics and women started looking my way, my approach anxiety increased. After having so many experiences validating the idea that women like you, your ego wants to guard that persona with it's life. It feels as if 1 little rejection could shatter you to pieces. The problem is this is the very same reason women don't approach guys the same way. When you optimize your looks, you're often also essentially becoming more like a female in terms of ego fragility. Because of this the game needs to be modified a bit. Instead of the "numbers game" approach that many are used to in the pick up community, you up in coming Chads need to take a much softer more subtle approach. This is how it goes. When you're in a populated environment, get into a relaxed grounded state and simply observe. Become present to the moment. Notice which girls are "noticing" you. Girls will rarely "approach" in the way men do, but if you stand in one place feeling yourself you will notice girls relocating themselves to be closer to you. The girls doing this are yours and all you need to do is find an excuse to talk. She's already preselected you, so simply start talking with her. Here's the secret magic opener that has proven effective hundreds of times. Are you ready for it....? Here it goes. You walk over to her or wait until she has come to you (which does happen if you followed the previous steps and you have optimized your looks.) "Hi, my name is ......."
@@victorvaldez760 Thats what I said. You have to optimize your aesthetics if you want it to happen to you though. If you don't see yourself as one of the "good looking guys", that's what you've gotta fix.
self improvement does become a double edged sword. When you are average and you decide to improve your appearance, learn a new language, take jiu jitsu, or somehow improve your overall financial situation you are not going to settle for average women either. As a guy you aint gonna go through all the trouble of making your life substantially better just to date average once you hit women they are even say a 6 with all the thirsty guys out there the competition is really fierce. 6 has become the new 7
I’m a good looking guy and I don’t waste my time anymore. The apps gave average girls an ego. Ppl don’t even hook up on tinder anymore. It’s all validation. They’ll laugh at you for approaching them in person because they have a simp army online.
1) Women aren't monogamous. They are willing to sleep with as many Chads as they can. Chads are just so high value they're lucky if they ever get to share one. 2) Chad validation is not why women's ego's are ludicrous right now. Chad gives them very little validation actually; it's part of what makes a Chad a Chad. Regular men simping over regular women is the problem.
yes and no women think if they can sleep with someone they are equal to them and if chad hit and runs them they think they deserve chad in a relationship
@@thedarkestknight8381 exactly!!!! I had all those things and still struggled with women for many years. As soon as I improved my attractiveness, it was very easy to get women . What was really shocking to me was that i had married women Willing to risk their relationship just to have pleasures with me.
@African American Guy my face became very good looking when I dropped down to single digit body fat. I had a chiseled jawline hiding under all that fat.
All I have to say, is this: Paying for Plus, Gold (or probably even Platinum) in my experience was an absolute waste of money. When you first sign up, you get that "nooby boost" that everyone talks about where you get a positive amount of matches in the first week or so before it crashes hard. Overtime my likes and matches became once a week/fornight. I'm no Brad Pitt, but in real life I get attention. What I'm most disappointed AND disgusted in, is that when paying for a premium service, you expect that you get the full benefits of that cost. I experienced no further bump whatsoever. The only perks were "see who likes you", travel mode, weekly boost (lmao which is now once a month), and rewind etc. Once free utilities, are now part of paid services. Not only were there no extra push of my profile upon paying a ridiculous amount, those once free utilities cost double a gym membership just to use. That purple boost that used give me on average 10-20 likes in that 30 minute period, averages out to 0 matches that day, and 2 boost matches over the next 3 weeks. I mean wtf? I used the boost weeks ago and now getting matches from it. That superlike that was once 1 free daily, 3x chance to match? I see the same chick I superliked pop up again days later, sometimes multiple times. Those chicks you swiped left OR right on? Keep popping up multiple times. Not only is Tinders prices over the top, but other more scum apps are ridiculous in price too. Chicks just don't reply, to anything. Gifs, tailored comment, witty jokes (I swear most chicks have 0 humour), pick up lines. I mean yea I get replies, but it's 1/5-8. How many of those conversations actually pick up in to something more? 1/20. From that, how many turn out to be me carrying the conversation? 9/10 times. Say what you want about "I'm not attractive enough" blah blah nonsense, I'm above average looking, online dating is just whack for all. Why don't I date in person? Who the fuck is going out nowadays? Exactly. Women have too many options, and no accountability to improve themselves. These dating apps extort money from hopeful men, while destroying the dating game at the same time. It used to be the top 20% of men got the women. That % is getting smaller and smaller while womens standards shoot up as their options increase.
@TaxEvasion I don't know how tinder works, too much effort trying to "entertain" woman. Have you tried "peacocking" ever wondered why guys even if just average from another country get lots of attention? They stand out from the crowd.
Im late 20s average looking but i always had a good bio and sortha okay pictures, and i was getting between 5-10 matches a week, with maybe one to none dates wise.. but even that was okay, i had a weekend girl most weekends. But this was a few years ago, i signed up last week just to try it out since i moved cities and omg.. they put everything behind a paywall and now all the girls have children and want a real man.. its super weird to see the same people, few who I’ve met with before say they want a real man now.. luckily the very young ones are still into hookups which will just make the next time i join tinder, even more depressing, but thats life i guess..
Yeah I got rid of plus. I can't remember if I had tinder gold or plus but it didn't help too much. I just canceled it a couple months ago, and I get the same amount of matches and attention. I'm pretty done with it though.
women at 20: i want to be a whore and men who want wives are creeps oppressing me women at 30: i want to be a wife and men who want whores are abusers oppressing me women at 40: time for my mid-life crisis divorce where i steal a house and kidnap children
I’ve been on and off tinder for a while, and never had any success. But I went out and pulled a pretty hot girl, going out solo, within about 20 minutes if being at the bar. Moral of the story...go out, and just do it.
That’s what I been saying. Regardless of how ugly or handsome you are , the tinder algorithm puts lots of mens profiles at the bottom and since girls don’t be swiping that much , they barely get to see it
Yeah that sounds accurate. 18-23 I would go to concerts an festivals alone. Pulled in so many hot chicks meeting them face to face. Iam good looking . On tinder I get matches out of 20 I’ll hangout with 1 . Stopped using it for the last 6 months bc I have a girlfriend but I definitely don’t miss that game
@@cwill6491 what works for me is when you catch a weeman looking at you, look at her in the eyes deeply, almost through her like, you've known her for a long time , like she's the only one you see, and mix it with a little bet of lust, and lower your eyes a little, then give her a slight smile, usually if she's receptive which more often than not they are, she'll give you a little smile back and the only way I can describe it is they get smaller in energy like a weight was lifted off her, and after that all you got to do is go up to her and talk, ask her how's she's doing, what are her hobbies etc, also once you guys are comfortable together tease her a little in a playful way, that shows her your not afraid of what she thinks which adds value most guys play it safe because there afraid of fing up or having to be right all the time because there afraid to lose her or whatever. Have an abundance mindset never go into a situation with a lose lose mentality when you have the mindset of every girl is in my league, your already winning does wonders for your self esteem, own who you are be comfortable in your skin that's all it is, it also helps to bring friends along as well if it gets awkward. And then close the deal ask her for her number and set up a date. And if she ghosts or whatever no loss for you, on to the next.
This! It was top 20% about 15 years ago. I would say it's the top 5% (Chads) getting the pretty women online. As a chad-lite, I seen my numbers begin to dwindle about 3 years ago til now. I can make excuses and say C-19 was the reason, but I think that's a weak cope alot of guys are using for lack of success.
So true, and closer to 5% like others have said. I started online dating a decade ago. I killed it at first, but over the years I've gone down to nothing but a drip feed of matches in my age range. Time to pull the plug.
Best way to win a losing game is not to play. I've never been happier since I started focusing on my hobbies and getting in shape, there is absolutely no drama in my life and I do what I want when I want.
I feel really sorry for the younger guys today. I don't date at all, that shit is over for me, i just learned to enjoy my hobbies and interests on my own. If you can you do that yourself while being young, then it allows you to observe your environment without having to interfere and see it for what it really is.. Yes, it is a shitshow of hormones and people overvaluing themselves.
Agreed young guys don’t think about settling down until you mid to late twenties all the relationships I had from 18-24 didn’t mean anything now I’m 26 and the woman I’m dating is 27, we’ve known eachother for a decade but never dated until this year, and once we started dating it works well because we know each other and we know how our past relationships over the years where, so we skip the get to know faze so to speak, but she actually wanted me the whole time and said I’ve been waiting to kiss and sleep with you since high school, mean while we put our energy in relationships that yielded nothing, until now I asked her out and said fuck it why aren’t we dating, our friends even said it’s about god damn time you too got together lmao, and it’s honestly the most truthful honest relationship I’ve ever been in our level of understanding with each other and our emotions, and communication!!!!! But yeah young guys go to trade school or college build your money up/credit and yeah date but it’s better to put your head down and don’t waste time on shitty toxic relationships, just build yourself as an individual and let the universe/god whatever you wanna call it the force bring a woman into your life when it’s right and it will feel right and it will feel different from ever other ship you’ve ever had
im very glad my early 20's were in the 2000s. these younger dudes have it ROUGH. the amount of girls whose brains have been spoiled by social media is multiplying by the day. i am so glad im not gen z.
Cold water shower, lifting weights, read good books, meditating, yoga, try to make as much money I can without breaking my back. Look good and sharp, but not for women but for my own self respect. I have giving up "dating" a long time ago. Will I ever meet my future wife? I seriously doubt that, but I don't care anymore. All this "feminism, strong independent women, sexual liberation and... yadi yada yada" has destroyed their souls, any many of them are damaged goods and over the hill before they hit 25.
It's your mentality. You expect a woman to to to you cos you did all that. Yet you all call woman judgmental and sour when look at these comments. The exact same problem 😂 sulking and just negativity throughout. I thought i had it bad but jeez
Men need self control over how thirsty they are which is the main reason why dating apps brought about large dating inequality amongst the sexes. Supply and Demand rule all economic systems.
@Ciggies After Church Woah now, don't get carried away. Being sexually promiscuous isnt an issue if both parties are honest with each other and themselves. Many men's uncontrollable thirst made them be very dishonest with women (The rise of the fuckbois). Meanwhile women continued to chase and try to change men that they knew weren't interested in them long term. Personally I was always honest, and still had girls trying to trap me and control me, and while I ran for the hills my friends allowed themselves to be in bad long term relationships strictly bc of access to sex. I settled down in a 50/50 relationship for 7 years with a woman of lateral attractiveness I slept with night 1. She ended up being abusive but was not successful in being controlling (attempts were made due to her dating history). Since then I have had only short term girlfriends, but not without intending for the long term. Unfortunately the dating economy is littered with too many broken and/or dishonest people who carry a lot of baggage and refuse to address their issues. At the same time single parent households are rampant. I choose to be healthily alone if I cant find quality instead of lowering standards out of desperation. Men and women both contribute to this problem (lack of self control) but the origin of the exacerbation felt in the last decade is men's lack of self control on dating apps.
Alpha widowed chicks are honestly depressing. You want to get a woman’s attention reject her, tell her NO…goodluck keeping her from seeking your validation. They spend all day hearing “yes” and being fawned over, don’t be afraid to take a loss to stand out from the crowd.
Not just Tinder, Instagram and Snapchat too. These 3 apps combined have destroyed the mindset of all modern women when it comes to dating and relationships
Women got black pilled from Tinder also… for many Tinder was the experience that taught them that guys just want sex, and they started dating accordingly. It’s a cycle that causes jadedness on both sides.
I gave up on dating apps years ago and actually found the girl I married out in the real world. Dating apps destroyed my self-esteem and made me feel worthless at one point. I suggest for guys to find a greater purpose and forget about dating apps or if you do use them know that the majority of guys have issues on there as well.
@@hunterthompson6737 Thanks bro. I spent a lot of time in the gym and improving myself in other aspects def helped, but with that said even for me when I was doing the dating app thing wasn't worth. I'm 5'10 and for a lot of women on dating apps that alone was a turn off lol
@@victorsoto4821 my god dude......You are clearly above average don't pay attention to those thots , most of them are unattractive anyways specially on dating apps at least from what i have seen , you didn't miss much.
Me and my brother recently talked about the issues with online dating and our number one complaint is that we would get to know a woman for a few days and then she just ghosts us. It get's exhausting when you have to start over and over. You eventually hit someone who'll stick around for a little bit but man the ghosting is just brutal these days. For whatever reason, women will just flip a switch and forget you ever existed. This type of dating practice then leads men to just bang women and forget about them as well, I don't see how this is sustainable long term.
@@cookiegirl891 I personally try to avoid ghosting. If I'm really NOT in the mood to text someone, I'll just not open their messages or check it out and unread it (a lot of apps gives you that option nowadays) so I can reply to it later when I have the time or energy to do so.
This has happened to me many times too, and I am a woman. I think if woman and men exchanged online dating stories together, we'd find that the experiences are virtually the same, with much more similarities than differences. I think the biggest difference between the sexes when it comes to dating is how sex is viewed. For a man, having sex with a woman is a win: whether or not a relationship comes out of it. For woman, simply having sex is not viewed as a win, as woman's societal value goes down each time she has sex with a different man. For men it's the opposite: their societal value goes up. As a result, men tend to be much more eager and happy with just having sex, where as us woman are less eager and more hesitant , and only satisfied if sex results( or is in result) to a relationship.
nah, cold approaching is dead, when she is sitting there at a bar with her friends, she is texting the guy that she actually wants to be with. You're just her entertainment before her texting buddy gets to enjoy her.
@@Chelseaaa626 depressing? that's reality. modern vvomen are never fully single. Even you have several men in your phone you could call right now to hook up, so lets not pretend here.
@@alphaprimer you need to find women from more traditional two parent homes. They exist bud. You need to sift through a lot of women but they are out there
@@notlookinforahug they need to add that as a filter on dating apps then. lol. "What type of relationship do you want? Traditional/Modern" "Did you grow up with both biological parents in the home? Yes/No" "Were your parents married? Yes/No" "Are your parents still married? Yes/No"
the fact tinder uses physical appearance as YOU ARE GOOD OR BAD just blows my mind when ppl claim that fatphobia is a thing , so women would rather a rich ,tall, with six abs 10/10 man and shaming short ppl 24/7 on insta, tiktok , snap etc ,but the moment a man asks for a girl with nice body and not fat ,it become wrong and the man is fatphobic , it doesnt make any sense to me
From my point of view, it's not really worth it anymore, because the vast majority of the girls just aren't pleasant to be around. I don't feel like I'm having fun, or that I like being with them. Sure, they might be nice to look at, but that's about it, and that's really not enough for a relationship.
I've dated 5 woman over tinder and omfg they were so entitled and horrible to be around them. I think woman nowadays don't really care about their personalities because society empowers them to act the way they please meanwhile man are always pressured to be a proper person and "man up"
Great video sir, however, I think you’re underestimating how many women won’t settle for anything less than a Chad. And even after the majority of Chads are off the market, many women will be single, lonely, and asking “where have all the good men gone?! Some women may settle once they’ve hit the wall, and/or had a couple kids, but, I believe many women will be single forever because they’re not “settling” for anything less than their dream guy.
@@jefrreyjeffery2192 “Chads” are the really good looking guys who have no problems getting beautiful women. Whether the Chad has a successful career, or he’s unemployed, good guy or bad guy, he’ll always have many options of women to choose from.
First of, it's the internet's first impressions usually. Second, many creeps are visible online and it are sadly mainly male people. They'd stalk women so easily online it's redicilous, and third: the chads have confidence and they talk to women. Is it cos they look good facade or cos they just have it? Either way, if you don't try, you'll never know
Tinder just showed men where most women rank them when given the ease to do so. Most women don't "want" most men and will go to certain lengths to all get a piece of a man they deserve i.e polygamy.
I don't think it's that simple. Yea on dating apps it's all superficial and shallow. In the real world, your energy, personality and financial success plays a major role. Knowing how to make a women laugh, playing a musical instrument, poetry etc even the way you dress, the way you smell, grooming and style etc all those things are very important. People are too lazy and trying to make dating black and white, nice guy vs bad boy, but that is not real life. The problem is that most people now live in virtual reality and lack social skills.
@@nostalgicbliss5547 I don't agree. If you are not socially awkward then it's pretty easy to hang out with someone. Woman make excuses for Chads. A friend of mine dates a mini Chad and he is so awkward socially, doesn't know how to hold a conversation, barely speaks and you feel awkward around him yet my friend is in love with him and she says stuff like "my bf is so shy it's so cute". You are coping. I've seen this with my own eyes
I've watched hundreds of red pill and Pua videos and this is my first time coming across your channel and let me just say I've never heard someone successfully break down the BTS and the ' why ' where the root of approach anxiety comes from. You just earned a new subscriber brother. Hit the nail on the head with this one
The entire premise that women on dating apps are looking for a long term relationship is completely wrong. The only women looking for that are the ones no one wants, the ones past the wall IE; 30+. If a woman is on apps between 20 and 30 years old they are just looking for chads or foodie dates.
I'm single, 25 & a virgin. I've been realizing since 2011 or so...that woman aren't taking relationships seriously. I think it's because they think they have an endless amount dating options. Men are constantly looking for a 7 or 8 & just to bond through sex. However, I think both genders forget the "purpose " of a relationship and don't state such standards from the beginning. What are both individuals looking for? Marriage minded...just casual....a hook up...etc,. It's obviously a problem for both.
nope, vvomen forget the purpose of a relationship, they are the ones perpetuating this hookup culture and having babies out of wedlock so they can focus on their career. if more vvomen wanted to be wives and to stay with their husbands, then we wouldn't have this problem.
@@alphaprimer both genders perpetuate hook up culture. Women just have it much easier on the sex market than the average man. Social media has made even ugly and fat woman to have an edge on average joes as they get gassed up everyday by desperate simps.
@@nostalgicbliss5547 men will always want zex but hookup culture, en masse, didnt exist until vvomen fought to remove the shame and stigma of random zexual encounters. When men had control, they required marriage before zex and you had to court their daughter; funny how that's no longer a thing.
I live in nyc and I am a pretty handsome guy. I get tons and tons of passive aggressive attention from women but very little communication. I personally think that social status and material wealth are far more important to women here. You underestimate how insecure so many women are nowadays. Alot of them would rather get with a guy that makes the experience entirely about her then get with a guy that requires them to step up or take some accountability for their behavior.
@@davidregi7571 Yeah as another guy with success, I would have to disagree with their assessment. I suppose it's true if the woman is looking for a long-term relationship.
Well even if that is so, you can communicate to a woman why you feel the way you do and why it bothers but not always cod you dislike her. Give her the idea, unless she did it intentional, that her mistakes are what makes you human and that she isn't a bad person for being shy. I'll bring it like this. I have called people out for their shit. Also women. And I have also discussed with women about issues as well as with men. I talk to both as a friend and coworker. And I have to say, women around me are themselves and loose cos i treat them as a friend. I don't expect them nor myself to be anything but alive and as long as we can talk about our problems, we are good. I spoke to all ages too. And I see no difference here except that older people both men and women give less FS about what others think. If they like someone, they ask them out. If they hate something , they say it. Of they want fun, they do. The fact they admire young people for doing it is very visible. They always say the same: why are young people so obsessed about what someone else thinks. Just go for it and see then. Your time is valued. Especially when you age. Don't waste it
The white pill in this video is " Chad won't steal your girl in person but has probably smashed her off tinder" The only option is to find a women who has never had internet access.
Idk if sex is a bigger deal for girls, as I’ve seen tons of dudes get depressed cause the girl they liked or thought was different was passed around more than a blunt.
Also this video is spot on. I graduated from high school in 2012. My first few yrs of college I remember tinder being amazing. Back when the gender ratio was pretty much on par and everything was new. I used to get 6-10 matches a day and would go on dates regularly. But overtime women dropped off and the app got worse
@@trevorruth3318 No, because looks are also a factor in the equation. Also there were more social punishment for being a playboy back then than today. I’d say today there is more access to being a Chad but you have to be committed to doing that work.
Actually men are just straight up walking away because we are far over the limit of what women are worth. This is also caused by the fact that women are not loyal or wives anymore. And you can't build anything, let alone a home, on "public property".
I sort of agree, peace, quiet, no hassles and the freedom to do as you want or need to. The further you row onto that lake the more you enjoy nature and your own company. One does from time to time think about a relationship but one look at the dating situation the ghosting and the high expectations and it is Nah. I'm 61 that's just in my age bracket. I pity the young guys in this dystopian reality all I can say is take an interest in Serendipity because strange and interesting things do happen by chance.
Another part of this that I rarely see talked about is that no one is ever really "done" dating. Back in the day these "Chad" type guys would stop going out when in a relationship and only a few would be in any one area. Now everyone is on every app and anyone can pick anyone from anywhere.
Also women in LTR's with high value men are increasingly more comfortable with threesomes and willing to accept "side chicks". So when that rich actor gets married in his 30's/40's he can still fish for hot 20 somethings to bang with his wife.
Chad not needing a relationship keeps him single. Which in turn means his harem all stays single. All possible because women no longer demand relationships for intimacy.
Tinder gave YOUR generation (and more importantly women) some real BS. I'm 43, and i would say it started with cellphones, then to facebook etc, THEN to Tinder.
I just wanted to say I like this new set up. Not sure why, but aesthetically it is very pleasing. I hope all is going well. Thanks for making these informative videos hehe
Kevin I love your message brother! I’m 44 got divorced a couple of years ago. I’m not in the best shape but I’ve always been a strong dude even when I was a lot fatter. I’m definitely a people person and I can talk to just about anything with anybody. It’s so funny I saw this show today. It was like synchronicity lol. I stayed at an FWBs house this weekend she’s a pretty cool chick. She’s 40 but has a friend of hers living at her house as a roommate she’s 25 and really attractive however my interactions with her have always been like she’s a little sister or like my eldest niece. Getting to the point we all hang out a lot. She’s dating this 35 year old Chad. Everyone was drinking a lot my FWB was passing me a lot of shots because I don’t drink a lot anymore but I can put it down lol. So Chad always talks down to the roommate establishing what I see as “Rollo frame”. Getting to the point I called the roommate hun. I call women I’m farmilliar with hon all the time I call female relatives hon all the time too. Well things were winding the roommate gave me a half hug and went to bed. FWB was crashed on the couch. I take my last shot and I’m getting ready to take FWB to bed so we can sleep. Just as I do that Chad goes off on me accusing me of trying to steal his woman ROFL! Hi m like bro! You are so outta line. But he was like wanting to throw down. I’m not ugly. I’m not super fit. I’m a good guy though. This video though was perfect. I’ve known a lot of Chads some cool some not. This dude though cracked me up. Really insecure keeps his girl(s) insecure trying to keep her in line. There was absolutely no need for anything that happened. It just created a really embarrassing and uncomfortable situation. And I’m betting that roommate is going to dump him. Basically I thought this monologue was a really good one. It’s great to be aware of the dating world around you. Guys don’t just pack it in though if you want relationships.
@@sanctuaryism If an adult acts rationally and with empathy according to their goals, whilst taking full responsibility for eventual consequences - yeah, they're real men, or women. Get fucking real, dude.
@@stroemsten "dude"... swearing profanity like some emotional moron lol... thanks you just proved my point and if you are a woman then you REALLY proved my point. and no people don't exhibit what you just stated... people of the past did.
As you said it feels hopeless if we spend all our time online. But the bar in real life is set way lower than before so if you focus on getting your shit together and actually seem like a coherent human being you'll have a way easier time standing out where it counts.
Literally having a better fashion sense, well groomed and smelling good will make a massive difference. A lot of men are not great with their hygiene at all. Smell plays such an important role in attraction. Even the way you cut your hair, actually having a sense of humor and taking every little thing too serious or overanalyzing things.
It also doesn't help with the tinder algorithm pushing your profile down if it doesn't get many yes swipes. Then encouraging subscription and add ons just to give it a chance
I like to point out an optimistic side of feminism and social media - it exposed men to the dangers of what it's like to commit to a typical modern western woman and feminism, social media and the toxic dating / marriage culture that women wanted to control actually freed men in the long run. This is my optimistic spin on the situation out here. Women have the fun when it comes to the sex but men ultimately decide when the relationship starts and ends.
I used Tinder up until recently and it was so frustrating. Not that I couldn't get any dates but the ones I got were almost always women with either very old pictures on there (like looking 10 years younger) or they were just plain crazy. So thank you - no more dating apps for me. Gotta focus on me and be successful in life.
I disagree with you on one point; most women nowadays are more Left learning and Liberal women are definitely NOT into monogamy because they want sexual empowerment. If you haven't noticed, there are more and more women who put in their profile they are into polyamory and open relationships. The average looking guy can definitely have sex with average looking women (given it will just be one night stand). You only have to be a Chad to score with the 8's, 9's and 10's, but it's always been like that and it's nothing new.
Where you live plays a huge part in your potential for success. It makes me crazy driving 30 minutes to a lively area only to see that a bar or restaurant I like is empty that night. Like you said, less people are out or it's all couples. Throw in expensive gas now and it's even less enticing.
Let's not put the poonany on a pedestal. Let "Chad" and "Tyrone" risk pregnancy and STDs while the rest of us maintain peace of mind. A quiet life can be very nice. If you feel socially hopeless, get some kinda customer service side gig and that will cure itself REAL quick.
Good points man! I like that supported argument of hope. I'd also add that all the pretty girls ALSO have a vicious approach anxiety. I know it might be a given already, but the inflated ego and its side affects is with EVERY girl too, so every man's opportunity is to own the approach with power; taking charge and asserting yourself with confidence while developing the thickest skin with the inevitable rejection along the way. You're the admirable one for even approaching. At that point it's just a numbers game.
So, Tinder is a great place for a man to exercise his monologue skills
yeah... to himself.
@@sanctuaryism hence monologue
@@avar1c357 hence irrelevant.
@Alicia Brady alicia, work on yourself. but yes because of your daily actions and weak men enabling you end up with this...
@Alicia Brady u are one of them too. Takes one to know one.
I refuse to use a dating app. Dating apps are a huge problem with society.
I got off dating apps years ago. I tell all my friends to do the same
It’s not a problem if you a Chad or Tyrone.
@@pookvalo6855 dude I'm ripped. In fact my biggest obstacle seems to be that, oddly, broads lose interest when they realize I won't go dick first into a relationship
@@pookvalo6855 It's more than about muscles. If you're buff but think like a Simp it's over with. There are guys that weigh 120 pounds that are players.
I can't express how sorry I feel for you guys. I'm just glad I'm 61 and did all this dating in the 70's / 80's. And still I expatriated 20 years ago for better pastures. Forget the apps gentlemen, go out and forge a life.
Exactly.
ahh the 1970s-1980s the end of a halycon era.
Aren’t you like a dad now?
Mike Tyson says this about it ua-cam.com/users/shortsQP2Br8n1H5E?feature=share
Other people have to be going our for that to work. Luckily ppl my age still are but the bar crowds def aren’t getting any younger.
Tinder is not for the Average male....
It never was..........
Move on fellas..........
You deserve better than this depressing $hit.........
God bless....
Short and to the point. I like your comment.
Tinder was designed for girls to have access to Chad meat. Consequences be damned
Tinder was designed for below average women to hook up with above average men and for average men to waste their time, money and energy.
@@menopillion9853 ok
@@mikesantos011 facts
Fellas your best bet is to just stay out of it. Just live your best life. Women and society won't tell you this but I will...
YOU DESERVE IT.
Once you get over the fact that women and dating isn't what you thought it was or what it used to be and fill your time w more experiences, friendships, caring about your family members, making money, getting in shape, etc. you'll wonder why you ever cared about all that stuff to begin with.
I definitely agree once you stop 'caring' what women think they'll want to get to know you and find out anything and everything about you, but give them nothing and stay aloof...
@@snatchadams69 This is the way! and travel outside the West as well, different culture including the women brings new hope. Stay strong Kings!
Cause I want to reproduce. I swear the black pill sounds like some gay man would say. So you hate pussy is what you're saying? Black Pill sound like loners who don't know how to keep women in place but expect them to be 100 percent like men. Red Pill is the best pill.
@@NunYaBiz1313 That's the deal. At the end of the day, A heterosexual man with strong values wants to start a family.
That's how you live a legacy. Through your children.
The problem is there are just not many women with strong values, self awareness, empathy and accountability.
There may be some of them, but they are few and far between. Most have been ran through by so many dicks, some even go both ways.
I do believe tinder, social media in general and smartphones were the beginning of the end for traditional relationships.
It did a good job exposing female nature and gave them the illusion of having more options.
Cause there were always so many desperate simps gassing them up on social media. So now even the ugly and fat women are entitled and delusional.
@@nostalgicbliss5547 yeah dude no shit. The point is to not revolve your life around getting women. Especially when your in your late teens and early twenties. It’s the hard truth because guys like you with no purpose tend to just chase pleasure. Wake up big dog.
I've been saying this for almost 10 years. The balance is way off. And all girls have high expectations in every aspect. Not just looks.
Which wouldn’t be so bad if they brought something valuable to the table but they really don’t. That’s the kicker.
6 figure income, at least 6 feet tall, in shape, social network, a good career, good face and overall health. A man needs everything in order to not be completely ignored by the average woman.
@@JonnyBeoulve Women are living memes
You honestly just have to find the right girl. The dating apps are a shit place for that because you’re judged strictly on looks. Even if the hottest guy has shitty pics, it’s going to hurt him
Well shit
Exceptions aside, you're better off just avoiding the dating scene all together. Trust me when I say that it is virtually ruined for most guys. I know too many, TOO MANY, basic girls who legit think men on their level are not worth the time. These girls are out here getting the attention of guys you'd think would be with girls much hotter, so you're an afterthought to her. Remember, if she likes you, it's easy af. Every joke you make becomes funny, all your hobbies are suddenly cool, SHE tries to make plans with you, SHE hits you up, etc. If that isn't happening, you best believe you ain't her type.
I think ‘if she likes you’ should be replaced with ‘if shes dealing with guys out of her league’.
women at 20: i want to be a whore and men who want wives are creeps oppressing me
women at 30: i want to be a wife and men who want whores and abusers oppressing me
women at 40: time for my mid-life crisis divorce where i steal a house and kidnap children
Facts. If girls aren’t chasing and making an effort to chill with you, you’re most likely average looking. And in today’s world, average looking isn’t good enough when you’re a man.
@@hanalala3164 fr
@@milesmorales5271 average looking is ugly af to women In 2022.
It isn’t tinder that started this change in dynamic, it is the internet in general. I’ve personally met women on MySpace and Tagged in the early 2000’s. This has been a slow burn for the last 30 years or so. The disconnect between men and women these days will have serious repercussions in the future. All I have to say is invest in a body pillow business and pet shop, you’ll be rich.
women at 20: i want to be a whore and men who want wives are creeps oppressing me
women at 30: i want to be a wife and men who want whores and abusers oppressing me
women at 40: time for my mid-life crisis divorce where i steal a house and kidnap children
Exactly. It started 20 years ago: MySpace, aol online, pof, ok Cupid, etc.
100% i started going out properly as an adult, you know drinking partying etc about 2004 and can vouch for your comment though i would add tinder and Instagram have made 5,6,7s think they are 8,9,10s, girls obviously, whereas before they maybe still knew their level....well most anyway
@Delta 8 are you white and your wife is asian?
It's by design.... The Elite Globalists want people to stop reproducing... Divide and conquer is the best strategy.
"The majority of girls want something monogamous"
This is not true actually in my experience
@@leeking2462 Actually they only want monogamy with chad until he expresses interest and attachment. Then they want to bounce around from chad to chad.
@@perzonne6302 ironically they actually hook up with chads and date people who care for her instead. If she cares for him too, then you shouldn't give up on it so easily. Just keep it genuine and healthy and communicate
only with chads and if they are over 30 lol
@@perzonne6302 Who hurt you bro what happened
Considering that almost every serious relationship I've been in, I've been cheated on, I have to agree. Not true in my experience either. And it's getting worse.
It's not just 5 or 6's. It's the full spectrum of women that now think they are 10's. Chad and Tyrone destroy these women, and then the everyday man is expected to pick up the pieces afterwards. Dating apps have made this far worse than ever. The women get emotionally destroyed because no one is meant to just sleep around. It just used to be a select group of women that exercised this mentality, but they all do it now. Any excuse to "be like a man." They think that men sleep around like that, why cant I? Not realizing it destroys said man as well.
In reality, it's not dating apps for me, it's the fact I got a false #metoo allegation thrown at me, and it destroyed me emotionally. I dont trust women, and i doubt i ever will again until the laws change.
I think it’s good to self reflect sometimes. There’s so many things that both genders do wrong & all you did was complain about women. Men want perfect women a 10 on looks as well as some women when some men are 3 or 4. Some men don’t know natural boundaries perhaps you. Both genders lack communication & commitment.
@@nancerod7193 ... he literally didn't speak against that
he said that sleeping around isn't a good thing for men and yet they participate
did you read or just get your feelings hurt
I got hit with a #metoo in real life; just a couple years before the movement started.
I'm glad I did too; that false accusation was a goddamn wake up call; and if it hadn't happened I'm not convinced I wouldn't have ended up a blue pilled simp.
when it happened I had to go do research and friends in the redpill community educated me about things that were happening back then (namely title 9 tribunals in colleges); that was a real culture shock but it woke me up fast.
Thank you crazy chick who falsely accused me!
The proper term for those women are 49ers; 4s who think they are 9s 🤣
I'm not surprised that you're alone. You have a shit mentality
Just cuz you claim some “chads” aren’t as confident as one might think they are, doesn’t change the fact that women 99/100 times would rather wait for that gigachad to approach them eventually than to give any other the guy the time of day.
facts, vvomen would rather share a winner then stay with a loser.
I know 2 women who are sharing a guy just because he is good looking
Oh no they do. They usually just emotionally manipulate men for something else. Sure he isn't the gigachad she wants (and will likely never have) but he might have a big dick. So she'll do what she has to, to have fun for that time. Even if it's only a one night stand
@@alphaprimer Women and men are just wired differently. For instance, a woman won't really care if a guy has a high body count, so long as he doesn't have any STDs or kids out of wedlock. She'll be jealous, but also turned on that his looks, game or dick was that good to get that many women. Men on the other hand, at least heterosexual men will be disgusted. That's the reason that even in this liberal and progressive female empowerment society we live in, most women will lie about their body count or other disgusting sexual things they have done to a guy they find truly attractive and want to date long-term.
Exactly. Unconfident Chad > any other guy in the bar that's not also a Chad
Summary: Tinder has exaggerated a woman's natural inclination for self delusion.
thats why the digital revolution was opening the pandoras box pretty much
women at 20: i want to be a whore and men who want wives are creeps oppressing me
women at 30: i want to be a wife and men who want whores and abusers oppressing me
women at 40: time for my mid-life crisis divorce where i steal a house and kidnap children
Average women thinking they are above average and wanting above average men
The definition of a deluded women
@@estrellaipc hypergamy. women trying to date someone better than them. then they get used. stupidity.
Wrong. Everyone has become more judgmental and drowned into a fiction of ideas about someone cos they didn't meet them irl. All you know Is based on what is interpretation and the vast layers of personality under it is something you only see when you meet someone irl . Irl socialisation speeds up the getting to know someone. Cos yo have no time to rethink or turn off every bad side of you so easily when they see and hear you. It makes things so much clearer too. And rejection will also be less scary the faster you know of it by ya know, just approaching your crush instead of starting your inner monologue of what ifs. Speaking from experience
Let’s not forget on tinder, most people are talking to multiple people at the same time. It takes the term “casual dating” to another level of casual. I also think that people can really formulate a character based on their profile pics - angles, filters, clout pics. When meeting people organically, you observe their mannerisms, their vocal tone, pheromones are released, etc. bypassing the whole “is this person really as attractive as their pictures?” question from the start.
It's best to keep a small circle of interest and talk to those people first before you head on to new people to try a Convo with. Many love coaches with a good degree of knowledge have said this to be true due to human focus and attention span. We can only focus on few things at once
I deleted all my dating apps over 2 years ago and haven't looked back. Ever since I did that my mental health and self esteem have tremendously improved. I was constantly getting frustrated and feeling like shit when I wasn't getting matches or girls kept ignoring/flaking on me, and I'm not even a bad looking guy because I can get numbers and successful encounters in person.
Guys, get off the dating apps. If you aren't a 10/10 Chad with top notch pictures, it probably isn't for you.
I was actually thinking of using one, since I never before. I can't find women in my area in an appropriate setting to approach them. I feel that the apps are my only chance now, even though I know they will be terrible to use.
This was my experience as well
Not a 10/10 chad but dating apps have been great, way too many options. Actually hard to pick someone to date because of that
women at 20: i want to be a whore and men who want wives are creeps oppressing me
women at 30: i want to be a wife and men who want whores and abusers oppressing me
women at 40: time for my mid-life crisis divorce where i steal a house and kidnap children
lol, I originally got off back in 2014 after coming to the same conclusion. But after I turned 35 last month...i confess, part of me felt like i had no reason to complain if i don't even try something. I can't do the cold approach because I'm 6'3, 235lbs, and I simply don't believe in spitting game and putting on a performance (knowing how to talk to women), so my boss literally paid for first 3 months for me. He called it the "Find Rock a Wife" fund. And I think...part of me needed to get back into online dating...to see for myself that ain't ish changed. In fact, it's gotten worse with dating sites being more expensive and women my age being dumber despite being so educated.
Looks is all that matters. You see guys chadfishing on tinder and you got girls inviting them over to sorority parties and secret shit almost immediately. It’s over for you. If you aren’t good looking, you either cope with “self improvement” or rope
Big facts. The difference is night and day to how women treat men they truly desire vs men they’re just settling for. If you have to “self improve” just to get attention then it never began for you. And after all the self improvement, all that’s left is chads leftovers and they don’t even really want you. Your just a back up and last resort option. And only now that you’ve “put in the work” do you deserve chads leftovers. Screw that
This is what people aren't willing to admit
women will accept A LOT of bad shit from a guy as long as he's good looking
doesn't matter if he's got a criminal record or history of abuse, that doesn't matter to them as much as having a good-looking man
Facts lol. I chadfished on Tinder last year as an experiment after getting little-to-no matches on my real profile and the results shocked me and I’ll actually admit it kinda destroyed my self esteem for a while. I woke up to over 100 girls that had swiped right on my good looking fake profile over night. Almost every right swipe was a match and when I did match with them, they would message ME first. I even got them to send me nudes and provocative pics, and they were also willing to drive to my house when I told them I had no car. I realized that women thirst over chads the way average men thirst over women. I’m not ugly but I stopped putting in effort after that experience, cause I realized that if women find you attractive, you really don’t have to try. THEY will make the first move on you or make it painfully obvious that they are interested.
1000% right - i have money, i am tall, i have a great work ethic, i am confident but i am also overweight and therefore I have no chance at a decent girl on Tinder
I am working on losing weight - but of course it takes time - so youre 100% right
@@milesmorales5271 bingo. A lot of people think women don’t chase. No, women don’t chase most men. They don’t initiate with most men. Infact, the way they treat certain men is so astronomically different, it’s shameful to accept any less. Even as I self improved I noticed the quality of girls who were actually into me was pretty low. And even ones I would consider less than my looksmatch, would often see me as a backup or treat me disposable. Even the ones who did stick, ended up cheating in the end. You can’t win unless you are chad, and you know it from an early age if you are.
Even if you get a ton of matches it’s a waste of time. The women are extremely flakey and expect you completely dominate the conversation.
Between hinge, tinder and bumble I have close to 6000 matches and it legit means jack shit
Most women make absolutely no effort. They don't try to come up with date ideas, drive conversation, or show interest.
@@JonnyBeoulve So much for feminism, huh? They revert back to traditionalism real quick when it regards courtship. Men have to pay on the first date, lead her 24/7, withstand her shit tests, make her feel safe and protected. It's garbage, better to redirect our energy and effort elsewhere.
@@TheRealJonster They revert back to traditionalism when it benefits them, not just during courtship.
Same here..the shit is worthless.
@@JonnyBeoulve maybe you're going after the wrong women
It's pretty bad out there. I'm the same build as Kevin and dated lots of women in the past especially pre dating apps. Though tinder was great between 2013-2015 before it become mainstream.
What i really hate in the real world is that girls dont give you signals anymore. It used to be all in the eyes, and actually, quite simple. If she's looking at you in a certain way with a long haze then she's interested. It was easy you then have about 5 seconds to approach without seeming creepy and waiting it out.
Now..they are all in their phones in public all the time. You have no openings and have to do approaches that catch them with their guard up. Completely unnatural and you come across as a creep.
I miss cold approaching so much. It was fun and you could try it as a fun game. Now, it's just a job interview where you are being compared to thousands of guys online. Your chances are slim to have a real connection
Not sure where you live, but I still get signals all the time especially at the gym. At least everyday other day, I’ll get a long stare, and it’s up to me to do something. Sometimes I do approach and sometimes I don’t care to do anything.
So from my experience, it hasn’t changed much. Only thing I’d say is , the masks kinda added a little difficulty a bit. Where I live [NYC] is still mask heavy, so it’s kinda annoying get a convo started. But even with that, the signals remain.
@@solodolo_mma3971 you don't think you may have something to do with that?
@@frblaze2 What do you mean by that?
Signals still exist, but i get the face in the phone, but reality still exists, people want that easy tinder shit, but that's exactly what easy is...shit
@@solodolo_mma3971 maybe you're good enough that this remains your experience... It's not always true across the board
All valid points, we live in a immediate society where an Amazon package is expected the next day due to social media. The best benefit of all this, female nature has been exposed where men can truly know if she’s wifey material. Keep up the content, subscribed
women at 20: i want to be a whore and men who want wives are creeps oppressing me
women at 30: i want to be a wife and men who want whores and abusers oppressing me
women at 40: time for my mid-life crisis divorce where i steal a house and kidnap children
The female nature idea you got is.... Wrong. Very judgemental if say. I'm sick of comments blaming women and men and whatnot for things you have in your control. Not theirs
the downside is that almost none of them are wifey material anymore
@@impudentdomain a lot of nice girls got corrupted in the process, sad shit.
My Dad had a few things to say to me regarding women over the years. Once while I was dating a single mother he said, "It may be good right now, but a woman will choose her child's bad behavior over you 100% of the time."
"Look at her feet when she's talking to friends. If her foot is turned out any more than a 45 degree angle? Stay away. She's catty and vain."
"Don't chase women. Makes you look weak and ineffectual. Do what you do and do it well? They'll be crawling out of the woodwork."
"Women are like camels. They can go a long time without sex, but maybe 2 hours without conversation."
"They have no coping mechanism for rejection. Indifference is power."
"They hate us and we hate them. But, they don't fight fair."
"Love isn't a feeling it's an act of your will. Love will vary. Loyalty is far more important."
"Take a pass on a good looking woman once in a while. Lets them know they're human."
"Take a second look at a woman you wouldn't look at twice. You'll see what you may have missed the first time."
There are a couple dozen more. Everything he ever told me ended up being true.
Love that wisdom from your Dad!!!!
What are the rest?
@@cm-pr2ys
"Never try to smooth talk. They'll sniff you out in a split second."
"Don't whistle or catcall women. Guys think they like it. They don't."
"Always have a backup plan. They always do."
"On the first date. Open her door. If she doesn't unlock your side? Don't go out with her again."
"Don't TRY to impress women. Just be who you are. If that's not impressive enough? She's a status seeker. Let her make somebody else miserable."
"A little vanity looks good on a woman. It looks like sht on a man."
"Women are attracted to movement. They'll do everything they can to slow it down. If she can bring you to a full stop? She'll lose respect for you."
"They say they want a man who's in touch with his emotions. They don't. Thry want a man who's in touch with THEIR emotions. Don't take the bait."
"If she needs to do anymore than wash her face and brush her hair to get ready then leave her to it and leave. The juice will never be worth the squeeze "
"If she looks good in button fly jeans, a white tee and sneakers? She'll look good in anything."
"In a choice between butterface and pretty face? Go with the butterface. They look better with their clothes off than on."
"Stay away from women obsessed with horses. They always want control."
"Beauty without grace is never pretty."
"Strong legs, great calves and a solid behind means everything else will look good, too."
"Never try to attract a woman. If she's attracted she'll let you know."
"A woman who has a passion means she'll be passionate. About EVERYTHING."
"Pass on a woman who's IN style. Go for a woman who HAS style."
"A feminist is a woman who's still pissed off at her father for some reason."
"A classy woman with average looks is far better than a looker with no class."
"Don't talk too much. She'll fill the gaps. That's what they do."
"A beautiful woman who lacks discretion is like a ring of gold in the snout of a hog." "Solomon said that not me. He had 700 wives and 300 concubines. So, I think he knew a thing or two about women."
"Let her go. It's not worth the aggravation"
"If she ever says she has to put on her face? Put on the brakes."
"When women claim the wedding day is their day? What they really mean is the marriage belongs to them, too."
dang you should put these somewhere online like reddit not just in some random youtube comments
Your dad sounds dope.... My dad didn't tell me shit about women.. ive had to come to all the same conclusions above via in person experience and trial and error with women. One id like to add as I've realized this to be true after being with around 30 women.
They will always say or do things that reveal who they truly are over time. It's subtle.. but if you pay attention.. you'll see it.
Uni kinda black pilled me. Tbf it wasn't THAT bad, but things didn't come easy, and online dating was the nail in the coffin.
I'm going to focus on money and fitness goals. Take each day as it comes.
Same brah
Same here bro😂 I got mine here and there but goddam its not easy
Smart man. I’m literally bout to do my workout rn.
Cope. i thought this was the way but it eventually gets to you
eon001 ok
Great video. One minor correction: all of this started 17 years earlier than Tinder's 2012 launch date. Match started in 1995. I remember dating women in the late 1990s, and a woman who was a 6 or 7 would have hundreds of messages in her Match inbox. A 9 that I dated had thousands of unopened messages. I had no idea at the time, the red pill implications of what I was seeing.
oh dang i posted the same thing you did. a lot of this started in the 1990s. it just snowballed from there lol
The only solution is banning dating apps. Capitalism commodified love and dating.
@@jefrreyjeffery2192 apps returned humanity to tribal relational dynamics. The illusion was every man could have a partner and family. Biology always overcomes the pretensions of culture.
@@donragnar8430 i mean yes. Even as a leftist, i want to ban Dating apps. We're humans are supposed to live in smaller pool of community, these apps provide us with worldwide of choices which would make humanity disasterous. Also movement of body positivity (not fat positivity, but positivity for unconventionally attractive men or short men) is much more needed. These two are pretty good solutions.
@@jefrreyjeffery2192 lol
Tried Tinder a few months ago. After 15 matches of fake accounts that vanished when I started a conversation, I deleted it.
If they're trying to get people to use their app, it has the opposite effect on me.
I can 100% confirm. Once I got into aesthetics and women started looking my way, my approach anxiety increased. After having so many experiences validating the idea that women like you, your ego wants to guard that persona with it's life. It feels as if 1 little rejection could shatter you to pieces. The problem is this is the very same reason women don't approach guys the same way. When you optimize your looks, you're often also essentially becoming more like a female in terms of ego fragility. Because of this the game needs to be modified a bit. Instead of the "numbers game" approach that many are used to in the pick up community, you up in coming Chads need to take a much softer more subtle approach. This is how it goes. When you're in a populated environment, get into a relaxed grounded state and simply observe. Become present to the moment. Notice which girls are "noticing" you. Girls will rarely "approach" in the way men do, but if you stand in one place feeling yourself you will notice girls relocating themselves to be closer to you. The girls doing this are yours and all you need to do is find an excuse to talk. She's already preselected you, so simply start talking with her. Here's the secret magic opener that has proven effective hundreds of times. Are you ready for it....? Here it goes. You walk over to her or wait until she has come to you (which does happen if you followed the previous steps and you have optimized your looks.) "Hi, my name is ......."
You are coping… women approach good looking men and I have seen it few times
@Stefon / Educated Tyrone Yeah you can literally say anything at that point. Guys put way too much thought into "openers".
@@victorvaldez760 Thats what I said. You have to optimize your aesthetics if you want it to happen to you though. If you don't see yourself as one of the "good looking guys", that's what you've gotta fix.
self improvement does become a double edged sword. When you are average and you decide to improve your appearance, learn a new language, take jiu jitsu, or somehow improve your overall financial situation you are not going to settle for average women either.
As a guy you aint gonna go through all the trouble of making your life substantially better just to date average once you hit women they are even say a 6 with all the thirsty guys out there the competition is really fierce. 6 has become the new 7
If she doesn’t respond “Wicky, wicky, Slim Shady!”
She’s not the one
I’m a good looking guy and I don’t waste my time anymore. The apps gave average girls an ego. Ppl don’t even hook up on tinder anymore. It’s all validation. They’ll laugh at you for approaching them in person because they have a simp army online.
so how are people meeting then if everything is dead?
They aren't...marriage and birth rates are at historic low.
Only the people who live life dangerously are scuessful, meaning approach even if u think u are gnna be rejected, fortune favors the bold,
Simp army online!!😄🎖🏅
1) Women aren't monogamous. They are willing to sleep with as many Chads as they can. Chads are just so high value they're lucky if they ever get to share one.
2) Chad validation is not why women's ego's are ludicrous right now. Chad gives them very little validation actually; it's part of what makes a Chad a Chad. Regular men simping over regular women is the problem.
Yes
yes and no women think if they can sleep with someone they are equal to them and if chad hit and runs them they think they deserve chad in a relationship
@@vitality4004 lol we don't need him in a relationship. I'm satisfied being friend with benefits with hot guys
Looks maxxing is the only thing that saved me . Money, personality and game was all small adjusting screws.
If you need money or status or some other transactional thing like that you’ve already lost it’s no different than prostitution
@@thedarkestknight8381 exactly!!!! I had all those things and still struggled with women for many years. As soon as I improved my attractiveness, it was very easy to get women . What was really shocking to me was that i had married women Willing to risk their relationship just to have pleasures with me.
@@thedarkestknight8381 the majority of women get with men because of “security” which is code for transactional…. Welcome to life
@African American Guy my face became very good looking when I dropped down to single digit body fat. I had a chiseled jawline hiding under all that fat.
@@kevinwilson3337 it's amazing what losing weight can do for certain ppl
All I have to say, is this: Paying for Plus, Gold (or probably even Platinum) in my experience was an absolute waste of money. When you first sign up, you get that "nooby boost" that everyone talks about where you get a positive amount of matches in the first week or so before it crashes hard. Overtime my likes and matches became once a week/fornight. I'm no Brad Pitt, but in real life I get attention. What I'm most disappointed AND disgusted in, is that when paying for a premium service, you expect that you get the full benefits of that cost. I experienced no further bump whatsoever. The only perks were "see who likes you", travel mode, weekly boost (lmao which is now once a month), and rewind etc. Once free utilities, are now part of paid services. Not only were there no extra push of my profile upon paying a ridiculous amount, those once free utilities cost double a gym membership just to use. That purple boost that used give me on average 10-20 likes in that 30 minute period, averages out to 0 matches that day, and 2 boost matches over the next 3 weeks. I mean wtf? I used the boost weeks ago and now getting matches from it. That superlike that was once 1 free daily, 3x chance to match? I see the same chick I superliked pop up again days later, sometimes multiple times. Those chicks you swiped left OR right on? Keep popping up multiple times.
Not only is Tinders prices over the top, but other more scum apps are ridiculous in price too.
Chicks just don't reply, to anything. Gifs, tailored comment, witty jokes (I swear most chicks have 0 humour), pick up lines. I mean yea I get replies, but it's 1/5-8. How many of those conversations actually pick up in to something more? 1/20. From that, how many turn out to be me carrying the conversation? 9/10 times. Say what you want about "I'm not attractive enough" blah blah nonsense, I'm above average looking, online dating is just whack for all. Why don't I date in person? Who the fuck is going out nowadays? Exactly.
Women have too many options, and no accountability to improve themselves. These dating apps extort money from hopeful men, while destroying the dating game at the same time.
It used to be the top 20% of men got the women. That % is getting smaller and smaller while womens standards shoot up as their options increase.
@TaxEvasion I don't know how tinder works, too much effort trying to "entertain" woman. Have you tried "peacocking" ever wondered why guys even if just average from another country get lots of attention?
They stand out from the crowd.
Im late 20s average looking but i always had a good bio and sortha okay pictures, and i was getting between 5-10 matches a week, with maybe one to none dates wise.. but even that was okay, i had a weekend girl most weekends.
But this was a few years ago, i signed up last week just to try it out since i moved cities and omg.. they put everything behind a paywall and now all the girls have children and want a real man.. its super weird to see the same people, few who I’ve met with before say they want a real man now.. luckily the very young ones are still into hookups which will just make the next time i join tinder, even more depressing, but thats life i guess..
Plus is worth it...
You can set your location to the Ukrainian border. 🤣
Yeah I got rid of plus. I can't remember if I had tinder gold or plus but it didn't help too much. I just canceled it a couple months ago, and I get the same amount of matches and attention. I'm pretty done with it though.
women at 20: i want to be a whore and men who want wives are creeps oppressing me
women at 30: i want to be a wife and men who want whores are abusers oppressing me
women at 40: time for my mid-life crisis divorce where i steal a house and kidnap children
Guys checklist-
1.) looks maxing
2.) prestigious career
3.) high status
*Girls*
1.) be present
Yeah bro I HOPE men find better things to do. 😅🙏
it really is that simple
Social media in general spoiled a lot of women
I’ve been on and off tinder for a while, and never had any success. But I went out and pulled a pretty hot girl, going out solo, within about 20 minutes if being at the bar. Moral of the story...go out, and just do it.
There's certainly a lot less competition now, thanks to everyone flocking to social media for hook-ups. Starting to see opportunities now.
That’s what I been saying. Regardless of how ugly or handsome you are , the tinder algorithm puts lots of mens profiles at the bottom and since girls don’t be swiping that much , they barely get to see it
htf did you do that?
Yeah that sounds accurate. 18-23 I would go to concerts an festivals alone. Pulled in so many hot chicks meeting them face to face. Iam good looking . On tinder I get matches out of 20 I’ll hangout with 1 . Stopped using it for the last 6 months bc I have a girlfriend but I definitely don’t miss that game
@@cwill6491 what works for me is when you catch a weeman looking at you, look at her in the eyes deeply, almost through her like, you've known her for a long time , like she's the only one you see, and mix it with a little bet of lust, and lower your eyes a little, then give her a slight smile, usually if she's receptive which more often than not they are, she'll give you a little smile back and the only way I can describe it is they get smaller in energy like a weight was lifted off her, and after that all you got to do is go up to her and talk, ask her how's she's doing, what are her hobbies etc, also once you guys are comfortable together tease her a little in a playful way, that shows her your not afraid of what she thinks which adds value most guys play it safe because there afraid of fing up or having to be right all the time because there afraid to lose her or whatever. Have an abundance mindset never go into a situation with a lose lose mentality when you have the mindset of every girl is in my league, your already winning does wonders for your self esteem, own who you are be comfortable in your skin that's all it is, it also helps to bring friends along as well if it gets awkward. And then close the deal ask her for her number and set up a date. And if she ghosts or whatever no loss for you, on to the next.
20% of men do not even know there is a problem with modern dating. In fact things have been getting better for them.
please everybody stop pretending that the best out of 5 dudes is a chad. upper 20% is a meme. its upper 5% AT MOST.
@@bunny.bunbob yes but with so many women they are settling for the other 15%
This! It was top 20% about 15 years ago. I would say it's the top 5% (Chads) getting the pretty women online. As a chad-lite, I seen my numbers begin to dwindle about 3 years ago til now. I can make excuses and say C-19 was the reason, but I think that's a weak cope alot of guys are using for lack of success.
It's 5% or less. 20% is BS.
So true, and closer to 5% like others have said. I started online dating a decade ago. I killed it at first, but over the years I've gone down to nothing but a drip feed of matches in my age range. Time to pull the plug.
Best way to win a losing game is not to play. I've never been happier since I started focusing on my hobbies and getting in shape, there is absolutely no drama in my life and I do what I want when I want.
Ahhh! truly the Sweet Life, ain't it?
I feel really sorry for the younger guys today.
I don't date at all, that shit is over for me, i just learned to enjoy my hobbies and interests on my own.
If you can you do that yourself while being young, then it allows you to observe your environment without having to interfere and see it for what it really is..
Yes, it is a shitshow of hormones and people overvaluing themselves.
Agreed young guys don’t think about settling down until you mid to late twenties all the relationships I had from 18-24 didn’t mean anything now I’m 26 and the woman I’m dating is 27, we’ve known eachother for a decade but never dated until this year, and once we started dating it works well because we know each other and we know how our past relationships over the years where, so we skip the get to know faze so to speak, but she actually wanted me the whole time and said I’ve been waiting to kiss and sleep with you since high school, mean while we put our energy in relationships that yielded nothing, until now I asked her out and said fuck it why aren’t we dating, our friends even said it’s about god damn time you too got together lmao, and it’s honestly the most truthful honest relationship I’ve ever been in our level of understanding with each other and our emotions, and communication!!!!! But yeah young guys go to trade school or college build your money up/credit and yeah date but it’s better to put your head down and don’t waste time on shitty toxic relationships, just build yourself as an individual and let the universe/god whatever you wanna call it the force bring a woman into your life when it’s right and it will feel right and it will feel different from ever other ship you’ve ever had
im very glad my early 20's were in the 2000s. these younger dudes have it ROUGH. the amount of girls whose brains have been spoiled by social media is multiplying by the day. i am so glad im not gen z.
Cold water shower, lifting weights, read good books, meditating, yoga, try to make as much money I can without breaking my back. Look good and sharp, but not for women but for my own self respect. I have giving up "dating" a long time ago. Will I ever meet my future wife? I seriously doubt that, but I don't care anymore. All this "feminism, strong independent women, sexual liberation and... yadi yada yada" has destroyed their souls, any many of them are damaged goods and over the hill before they hit 25.
Amen, brother. Only chance of finding a decent wife is abroad
I’m just waiting for the next generation of women hopefully they will be better Edit(I’m 19)
@@LowkeySnappin they won't, the same reasons women became this way still exist and are only getting worse
It's your mentality. You expect a woman to to to you cos you did all that. Yet you all call woman judgmental and sour when look at these comments. The exact same problem 😂 sulking and just negativity throughout. I thought i had it bad but jeez
@@myrkflinn4331 Learn how to write properly first. My gosh, what are you even saying bro? w t f
Men need self control over how thirsty they are which is the main reason why dating apps brought about large dating inequality amongst the sexes.
Supply and Demand rule all economic systems.
Been saying this forever. We’re the source of every red and blackpill problem
@@iLuvMisaell No doubt, unfortunately too many red pill/black pill guys spent the last decade in the "feminism ruined everything" circle jerk.
@Ciggies After Church Woah now, don't get carried away.
Being sexually promiscuous isnt an issue if both parties are honest with each other and themselves.
Many men's uncontrollable thirst made them be very dishonest with women (The rise of the fuckbois).
Meanwhile women continued to chase and try to change men that they knew weren't interested in them long term.
Personally I was always honest, and still had girls trying to trap me and control me, and while I ran for the hills my friends allowed themselves to be in bad long term relationships strictly bc of access to sex.
I settled down in a 50/50 relationship for 7 years with a woman of lateral attractiveness I slept with night 1. She ended up being abusive but was not successful in being controlling (attempts were made due to her dating history).
Since then I have had only short term girlfriends, but not without intending for the long term.
Unfortunately the dating economy is littered with too many broken and/or dishonest people who carry a lot of baggage and refuse to address their issues. At the same time single parent households are rampant.
I choose to be healthily alone if I cant find quality instead of lowering standards out of desperation.
Men and women both contribute to this problem (lack of self control) but the origin of the exacerbation felt in the last decade is men's lack of self control on dating apps.
Well said man. No balance in this instant gratification culture, slow the hell down.
@Ciggies After Church Most people who created broken homes are Christians....
Alpha widowed chicks are honestly depressing.
You want to get a woman’s attention reject her, tell her NO…goodluck keeping her from seeking your validation.
They spend all day hearing “yes” and being fawned over, don’t be afraid to take a loss to stand out from the crowd.
Damn right
Not just Tinder, Instagram and Snapchat too. These 3 apps combined have destroyed the mindset of all modern women when it comes to dating and relationships
Women got black pilled from Tinder also… for many Tinder was the experience that taught them that guys just want sex, and they started dating accordingly. It’s a cycle that causes jadedness on both sides.
I gave up on dating apps years ago and actually found the girl I married out in the real world. Dating apps destroyed my self-esteem and made me feel worthless at one point. I suggest for guys to find a greater purpose and forget about dating apps or if you do use them know that the majority of guys have issues on there as well.
where did you meet your wife?
strange because if that's you in the youtube picture you look like a chad to me mate you are good looking.
@@hunterthompson6737 Thanks bro. I spent a lot of time in the gym and improving myself in other aspects def helped, but with that said even for me when I was doing the dating app thing wasn't worth. I'm 5'10 and for a lot of women on dating apps that alone was a turn off lol
@@victorsoto4821 my god dude......You are clearly above average don't pay attention to those thots , most of them are unattractive anyways specially on dating apps at least from what i have seen , you didn't miss much.
hello chad!
COPE video,
Many chads were successful at parties, discos and hooked up with many girls before they signed up for dating apps.
Exactly. They've been conditioned with positive reinforcement their entire lives. Chads always get attention online and in real life.
You telling me white guys are having a hard time dating women? wow. Imaging what black, asian, indian men are going through
Thanks, Kevin! I'm going to keep going! I refuse to give up!
Me and my brother recently talked about the issues with online dating and our number one complaint is that we would get to know a woman for a few days and then she just ghosts us. It get's exhausting when you have to start over and over. You eventually hit someone who'll stick around for a little bit but man the ghosting is just brutal these days. For whatever reason, women will just flip a switch and forget you ever existed. This type of dating practice then leads men to just bang women and forget about them as well, I don't see how this is sustainable long term.
Men do the same thing 🥺
@@cookiegirl891 I personally try to avoid ghosting. If I'm really NOT in the mood to text someone, I'll just not open their messages or check it out and unread it (a lot of apps gives you that option nowadays) so I can reply to it later when I have the time or energy to do so.
This has happened to me many times too, and I am a woman. I think if woman and men exchanged online dating stories together, we'd find that the experiences are virtually the same, with much more similarities than differences.
I think the biggest difference between the sexes when it comes to dating is how sex is viewed. For a man, having sex with a woman is a win: whether or not a relationship comes out of it. For woman, simply having sex is not viewed as a win, as woman's societal value goes down each time she has sex with a different man. For men it's the opposite: their societal value goes up. As a result, men tend to be much more eager and happy with just having sex, where as us woman are less eager and more hesitant , and only satisfied if sex results( or is in result) to a relationship.
nah, cold approaching is dead, when she is sitting there at a bar with her friends, she is texting the guy that she actually wants to be with.
You're just her entertainment before her texting buddy gets to enjoy her.
Geez. What a depressing outlook. Definitely makes people want to be around you.
@@Chelseaaa626 depressing? that's reality.
modern vvomen are never fully single.
Even you have several men in your phone you could call right now to hook up, so lets not pretend here.
@@alphaprimer you need to find women from more traditional two parent homes. They exist bud. You need to sift through a lot of women but they are out there
@@notlookinforahug they need to add that as a filter on dating apps then. lol.
"What type of relationship do you want? Traditional/Modern"
"Did you grow up with both biological parents in the home? Yes/No"
"Were your parents married? Yes/No"
"Are your parents still married? Yes/No"
@@alphaprimer If she never fully single then cold approach is far from dead
Get your money right and get your passports fellas I’m serious.
the fact tinder uses physical appearance as YOU ARE GOOD OR BAD just blows my mind when ppl claim that fatphobia is a thing , so women would rather a rich ,tall, with six abs 10/10 man and shaming short ppl 24/7 on insta, tiktok , snap etc ,but the moment a man asks for a girl with nice body and not fat ,it become wrong and the man is fatphobic , it doesnt make any sense to me
I’m thin and in shape and 80% of the chicks I’d match with were obese. It’s frustrating.
Looking forward to future videos! Keep going.
From my point of view, it's not really worth it anymore, because the vast majority of the girls just aren't pleasant to be around. I don't feel like I'm having fun, or that I like being with them. Sure, they might be nice to look at, but that's about it, and that's really not enough for a relationship.
I've dated 5 woman over tinder and omfg they were so entitled and horrible to be around them. I think woman nowadays don't really care about their personalities because society empowers them to act the way they please meanwhile man are always pressured to be a proper person and "man up"
Great video sir, however, I think you’re underestimating how many women won’t settle for anything less than a Chad. And even after the majority of Chads are off the market, many women will be single, lonely, and asking “where have all the good men gone?! Some women may settle once they’ve hit the wall, and/or had a couple kids, but, I believe many women will be single forever because they’re not “settling” for anything less than their dream guy.
What makes a guy chad?
@@jefrreyjeffery2192 “Chads” are the really good looking guys who have no problems getting beautiful women. Whether the Chad has a successful career, or he’s unemployed, good guy or bad guy, he’ll always have many options of women to choose from.
@@moonlit85 Very true, he’ll get starfish sex at best.
CGA is Very Consistent on this subject, go check him out!
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First of, it's the internet's first impressions usually. Second, many creeps are visible online and it are sadly mainly male people. They'd stalk women so easily online it's redicilous, and third: the chads have confidence and they talk to women. Is it cos they look good facade or cos they just have it? Either way, if you don't try, you'll never know
This was ironically a very positive video lol! Good job bro 👌🏿
So what are you trying me to say is that I should be a tryhard for some damaged goods?
Tinder just showed men where most women rank them when given the ease to do so. Most women don't "want" most men and will go to certain lengths to all get a piece of a man they deserve i.e polygamy.
That's what I'm saying. If you want to verify how your looks rate with women. Go on Tinder.
@@s1n4m1n Yep found out what I already know. I'm in the mid bottom percentile.
I don't think it's that simple. Yea on dating apps it's all superficial and shallow. In the real world, your energy, personality and financial success plays a major role. Knowing how to make a women laugh, playing a musical instrument, poetry etc even the way you dress, the way you smell, grooming and style etc all those things are very important. People are too lazy and trying to make dating black and white, nice guy vs bad boy, but that is not real life. The problem is that most people now live in virtual reality and lack social skills.
@@theezenriarinze9203 Same brother
@@nostalgicbliss5547 I don't agree. If you are not socially awkward then it's pretty easy to hang out with someone. Woman make excuses for Chads. A friend of mine dates a mini Chad and he is so awkward socially, doesn't know how to hold a conversation, barely speaks and you feel awkward around him yet my friend is in love with him and she says stuff like "my bf is so shy it's so cute". You are coping. I've seen this with my own eyes
I've watched hundreds of red pill and Pua videos and this is my first time coming across your channel and let me just say I've never heard someone successfully break down the BTS and the ' why ' where the root of approach anxiety comes from. You just earned a new subscriber brother. Hit the nail on the head with this one
Thanks bro!
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The entire premise that women on dating apps are looking for a long term relationship is completely wrong. The only women looking for that are the ones no one wants, the ones past the wall IE; 30+.
If a woman is on apps between 20 and 30 years old they are just looking for chads or foodie dates.
EXACTLY and why are some MARRIED women look for friends on APPS ????
I'm single, 25 & a virgin.
I've been realizing since 2011 or so...that woman aren't taking relationships seriously. I think it's because they think they have an endless amount dating options. Men are constantly looking for a 7 or 8 & just to bond through sex.
However, I think both genders forget the "purpose " of a relationship and don't state such standards from the beginning. What are both individuals looking for? Marriage minded...just casual....a hook up...etc,.
It's obviously a problem for both.
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nope, vvomen forget the purpose of a relationship, they are the ones perpetuating this hookup culture and having babies out of wedlock so they can focus on their career.
if more vvomen wanted to be wives and to stay with their husbands, then we wouldn't have this problem.
@@alphaprimer both genders perpetuate hook up culture. Women just have it much easier on the sex market than the average man. Social media has made even ugly and fat woman to have an edge on average joes as they get gassed up everyday by desperate simps.
Have you heard the song , 'Marlene' by Jackson C. Frank? Imagine something with so much heart and sincere longing being wrote now. Impossible.
@@nostalgicbliss5547 men will always want zex but hookup culture, en masse, didnt exist until vvomen fought to remove the shame and stigma of random zexual encounters.
When men had control, they required marriage before zex and you had to court their daughter; funny how that's no longer a thing.
I live in nyc and I am a pretty handsome guy. I get tons and tons of passive aggressive attention from women but very little communication. I personally think that social status and material wealth are far more important to women here. You underestimate how insecure so many women are nowadays. Alot of them would rather get with a guy that makes the experience entirely about her then get with a guy that requires them to step up or take some accountability for their behavior.
That's me out then!
You are not handsome
@@davidregi7571 Yeah as another guy with success, I would have to disagree with their assessment. I suppose it's true if the woman is looking for a long-term relationship.
Well even if that is so, you can communicate to a woman why you feel the way you do and why it bothers but not always cod you dislike her. Give her the idea, unless she did it intentional, that her mistakes are what makes you human and that she isn't a bad person for being shy. I'll bring it like this. I have called people out for their shit. Also women. And I have also discussed with women about issues as well as with men. I talk to both as a friend and coworker. And I have to say, women around me are themselves and loose cos i treat them as a friend. I don't expect them nor myself to be anything but alive and as long as we can talk about our problems, we are good. I spoke to all ages too. And I see no difference here except that older people both men and women give less FS about what others think. If they like someone, they ask them out. If they hate something , they say it. Of they want fun, they do. The fact they admire young people for doing it is very visible. They always say the same: why are young people so obsessed about what someone else thinks. Just go for it and see then. Your time is valued. Especially when you age. Don't waste it
accountability is female kryptonite
Great message!
I needed to hear this
Basically, what you look like in a picture is more important that who you are as a person…
Kevin beside keeping doing vids like that, are you also going to do live streams?
This is an excellent video!
My will is unbreakable.
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The white pill in this video is " Chad won't steal your girl in person but has probably smashed her off tinder"
The only option is to find a women who has never had internet access.
Idk if sex is a bigger deal for girls, as I’ve seen tons of dudes get depressed cause the girl they liked or thought was different was passed around more than a blunt.
Also this video is spot on. I graduated from high school in 2012. My first few yrs of college I remember tinder being amazing. Back when the gender ratio was pretty much on par and everything was new. I used to get 6-10 matches a day and would go on dates regularly. But overtime women dropped off and the app got worse
yes 2012-2014 i recall was when the apps were still functioning as intended...
The fact is it takes more to be a “Chad” today in 2022 than 30 years ago. So men need to think - is doing the bare minimum enough to stand out?
It takes 100x more today. In 5 years 1000x. Pu$$y ain't worth shit.
The average man today would have been considered a chad 30 years ago
@@trevorruth3318 No, because looks are also a factor in the equation. Also there were more social punishment for being a playboy back then than today. I’d say today there is more access to being a Chad but you have to be committed to doing that work.
Actually men are just straight up walking away because we are far over the limit of what women are worth.
This is also caused by the fact that women are not loyal or wives anymore.
And you can't build anything, let alone a home, on "public property".
The best times in my life were with my male friends (the brotherhood). Laughing and building on things we mutually cared about.
this new set up is probably the best so far
Thank you for acknowledging the worsening marketplace the increasing black pill
I've learned to love solitude and It's so fucking peaceful.
I sort of agree, peace, quiet, no hassles and the freedom to do as you want or need to. The further you row onto that lake the more you enjoy nature and your own company. One does from time to time think about a relationship but one look at the dating situation the ghosting and the high expectations and it is Nah. I'm 61 that's just in my age bracket. I pity the young guys in this dystopian reality all I can say is take an interest in Serendipity because strange and interesting things do happen by chance.
Kev is back!
Another part of this that I rarely see talked about is that no one is ever really "done" dating. Back in the day these "Chad" type guys would stop going out when in a relationship and only a few would be in any one area. Now everyone is on every app and anyone can pick anyone from anywhere.
Also women in LTR's with high value men are increasingly more comfortable with threesomes and willing to accept "side chicks". So when that rich actor gets married in his 30's/40's he can still fish for hot 20 somethings to bang with his wife.
Chad not needing a relationship keeps him single. Which in turn means his harem all stays single.
All possible because women no longer demand relationships for intimacy.
Well said Kevin thank you for this
Tinder gave YOUR generation (and more importantly women) some real BS. I'm 43, and i would say it started with cellphones, then to facebook etc, THEN to Tinder.
I just wanted to say I like this new set up. Not sure why, but aesthetically it is very pleasing. I hope all is going well. Thanks for making these informative videos hehe
Kevin I love your message brother! I’m 44 got divorced a couple of years ago. I’m not in the best shape but I’ve always been a strong dude even when I was a lot fatter. I’m definitely a people person and I can talk to just about anything with anybody.
It’s so funny I saw this show today. It was like synchronicity lol. I stayed at an FWBs house this weekend she’s a pretty cool chick. She’s 40 but has a friend of hers living at her house as a roommate she’s 25 and really attractive however my interactions with her have always been like she’s a little sister or like my eldest niece.
Getting to the point we all hang out a lot. She’s dating this 35 year old Chad. Everyone was drinking a lot my FWB was passing me a lot of shots because I don’t drink a lot anymore but I can put it down lol. So Chad always talks down to the roommate establishing what I see as “Rollo frame”.
Getting to the point I called the roommate hun. I call women I’m farmilliar with hon all the time I call female relatives hon all the time too. Well things were winding the roommate gave me a half hug and went to bed. FWB was crashed on the couch. I take my last shot and I’m getting ready to take FWB to bed so we can sleep. Just as I do that Chad goes off on me accusing me of trying to steal his woman ROFL! Hi m like bro! You are so outta line. But he was like wanting to throw down.
I’m not ugly. I’m not super fit. I’m a good guy though. This video though was perfect. I’ve known a lot of Chads some cool some not. This dude though cracked me up. Really insecure keeps his girl(s) insecure trying to keep her in line. There was absolutely no need for anything that happened. It just created a really embarrassing and uncomfortable situation. And I’m betting that roommate is going to dump him.
Basically I thought this monologue was a really good one. It’s great to be aware of the dating world around you. Guys don’t just pack it in though if you want relationships.
(This monologue was equally good. Thanks, buddy.)
@@stroemsten do 44 year old men actually act like men anymore... seems not...
@@sanctuaryism If an adult acts rationally and with empathy according to their goals, whilst taking full responsibility for eventual consequences - yeah, they're real men, or women.
Get fucking real, dude.
@@stroemsten "dude"... swearing profanity like some emotional moron lol...
thanks you just proved my point and if you are a woman then you REALLY proved my point.
and no people don't exhibit what you just stated... people of the past did.
@@stroemsten or are you talking about the modern man or woman.. if you are be specific...
there are differences after all wise one...
Great video..
Who cares if Chad's have approach anxiety? How does that make it easier for you as a man ? Lol
Looks are everything it's over if your average looking, why would the Chad's have to have a approach at a club anyway the women come to them?
As you said it feels hopeless if we spend all our time online. But the bar in real life is set way lower than before so if you focus on getting your shit together and actually seem like a coherent human being you'll have a way easier time standing out where it counts.
Isn't that liges principle the people that get their shit together will always rose above laziness of mediocrity
Literally having a better fashion sense, well groomed and smelling good will make a massive difference. A lot of men are not great with their hygiene at all. Smell plays such an important role in attraction. Even the way you cut your hair, actually having a sense of humor and taking every little thing too serious or overanalyzing things.
awesome video
I don't know about Chads having approach anxiety since they receive female validation in real life too.
Exactly. I have a Chad friend and most of the time he has girls approaching HIM when we go out. It's insane.
Dude it’s not just 6s and 7s. Fucking 3s and 4s are hooking up with dudes who are 7s…
One thing I know for certain is that this "bubble" will eventually burst and the effects will be disastrous.
We're only just now beginning to see the adverse effects from this
You're right though, because it's going to get even worse before it gets better
It also doesn't help with the tinder algorithm pushing your profile down if it doesn't get many yes swipes. Then encouraging subscription and add ons just to give it a chance
Very very very solid points.
Once I started seeing girls I knew with boyfriends on tinder it really woke me up
yeah it's trippy. like bruh
I like to point out an optimistic side of feminism and social media - it exposed men to the dangers of what it's like to commit to a typical modern western woman and feminism, social media and the toxic dating / marriage culture that women wanted to control actually freed men in the long run. This is my optimistic spin on the situation out here. Women have the fun when it comes to the sex but men ultimately decide when the relationship starts and ends.
I used Tinder up until recently and it was so frustrating. Not that I couldn't get any dates but the ones I got were almost always women with either very old pictures on there (like looking 10 years younger) or they were just plain crazy.
So thank you - no more dating apps for me. Gotta focus on me and be successful in life.
I just want that ambient light. How i get that?
I disagree with you on one point; most women nowadays are more Left learning and Liberal women are definitely NOT into monogamy because they want sexual empowerment. If you haven't noticed, there are more and more women who put in their profile they are into polyamory and open relationships. The average looking guy can definitely have sex with average looking women (given it will just be one night stand). You only have to be a Chad to score with the 8's, 9's and 10's, but it's always been like that and it's nothing new.
Agree. If you are a conservative man looking for a conservative woman, it’s easy to find a monogamous woman.
The dating scene will get a lot better in the smoking ruins of WW3.
Very interesting video brother
Where you live plays a huge part in your potential for success. It makes me crazy driving 30 minutes to a lively area only to see that a bar or restaurant I like is empty that night. Like you said, less people are out or it's all couples. Throw in expensive gas now and it's even less enticing.
Let's not put the poonany on a pedestal. Let "Chad" and "Tyrone" risk pregnancy and STDs while the rest of us maintain peace of mind. A quiet life can be very nice. If you feel socially hopeless, get some kinda customer service side gig and that will cure itself REAL quick.
you'll never see chad or tyrone get stuck with child support
Cope
@@MylesKillis the greatest cope of all copes
I like you tried to balance out the black pill but you nailed it with women’s increased expectations these days. It’s over boys.
Good points man! I like that supported argument of hope. I'd also add that all the pretty girls ALSO have a vicious approach anxiety. I know it might be a given already, but the inflated ego and its side affects is with EVERY girl too, so every man's opportunity is to own the approach with power; taking charge and asserting yourself with confidence while developing the thickest skin with the inevitable rejection along the way. You're the admirable one for even approaching. At that point it's just a numbers game.
Solution; become a chad