I loved watching the table manners! Things are so different than when I was a kid. Manners were not an option growing up in our house. You never took a bite of food until everyone was seated. Elbows NEVER touched the table. No reaching across in front of someone. You asked for food to be passed. When you were done, would have to wait until everyone was done eating. Then you asked for permission to leave the table! May I please be excused? Chewed with mouth shut. And quietly! Now that I am in my 60’s, I am happy for this memory. This was a very important lesson for your family today! ❤️
Same here and our meals were always eaten at the table not in front of a TV. My family had conversation about our day at the table. When I was living in England with my family I had to learn a completely different way to hold a knife and fork. Your fork was held in your left hand with the back of the fork facing up and you would hold the knife in the right hand and only cut one bite at a time. Also for things like peas you would use your knife to squish them against the back of the fork.
In the U.K. you never switch hands. You can place your knife down but even that’s unusual between mouthfuls. Additionally the fork prongs should always remain facing down. It’s a fork not a shovel.
When you are done eating, knife and the fork goes face down at 5 o’clock. ( the sharp side of the fork goes down) Napkin goes beside the plate. Good luck with them keeping there elbows off the table.
Interesting, I’ve never heard of putting the fork down at the top of the plate before. Even at fancy restaurants (I’m in Canada). Seems like a waste of time to have to keep putting it down and picking it back up for each cut/bite.
There were 3 things we were supposed to do at dinner time in our house when growing up. (My father's parents were Brits). We had to wash our hands, comb our hair and never EVER put your elbows on the table.
I’m so confused about the swapping hands with the fork! In Australia where I grew up and Uk where I live now we stab with right hand saw with left and put it straight in your mouth holding both knife and fork!
That’s so interesting as I’m from England and all I’ve ever known is the fork in the left hand and knife in the right hand. That’s why tables are laid out with the fork on the left, knife on the right even if you are right handed.
Every fancy restaurant I’ve been to the server puts the napkin on the plate before taking it away. I guess so others don’t have to see the food not eaten.
I went to a restaurant once it wasn't even a super nice restaurant they didn't want to seat us because we were wearing gym shorts. I was like bruh this is not a fancy place.
Wait so use cut the food then put the knife down then switch your hands with the fork to eat? Live in Scotland and have always left the knife in your hand
Shaking a ladies hand is different. It’s with her fingertips. Definitely need to work on elbows and talking with the mouthful!! The hardest part for me was silverware placement and usage!! Also no passing gas excuse yourself to the restroom. Also when a lady starts to get up the gentleman should immediately get up and help her out! There’s more I’m sure! The etiquette is very proper compared to anywhere else in the US too. 🥰
The “putting knife down and switching hands” seem ridiculous actually… Simple proper manners is not something for just a once in a while thing at restaurants, it’s and every day thing, and to be able to do that it has to be easy enough. Just skip that hand switch thing, use the knife and fork as you did while cutting/putting the food on and then put it in your mouth 😊 Where I live this is something you just do (even though most people are quite relaxed about it), so kids from first grade and up do know how to do it even though many still just cut it all an shove it in with the fork in their dominant hand 😉
In Sweden, we hold our silverwears like they do in Italy. And we NEVER eat with only the fork. No no no. When we make a toast, we never rase the glas above chesthight, take a small sip and look at the one who made the toast and then on everyone else, then we put our glass down. Never reach over someone, to grab the salt or anything. No one leave the table until anyone has finnished. Then when we are done, we say thank you for the food. So great that you teach your lovely children the right manners❤️❤️❤️
In Australia, 56years old and brought up by my grandparents. We had table manners taught at every meal. We were taught the European style. No elbows on the table. Wrists on table when resting. Never put cutlery down while eating. Fork remains facing down even for mashed potatoes and peas (with peas you pierced the peas and pushed them onto the prongs). Fork remains in the same hand (never swapped). Soup spoon scooped away from you. Cutlery from outside in. Wait till everyone has been served before you begin eating. Never reach across the table for salt etc. , ask someone to pass it to you.
i live in uk and i always remember mom and dad saying when i was younger , keep your elbows off the table and no slouching at the table d if we went to friends homes we was told to always take our shoes off at the door and address the adults by mr or mrs and there last names until they said it was ok to use there first names
as a British person it was shocking to see how little they knew!! a lot of this is second nature to me, even not in a fancy restaurant, but its super cool you taught them this and they were so eager to learn! you are amazing parents
Tbh it depends on where you’re raised in the south I can attest we learn manners and etiquette at a very young age and it is drilled into us. Yes ma’am no ma’am yes sir no sir. Calling the host or other members of the table by Mr./Mrs./Miss and their last name until told it’s ok to use first name. Please and thank you. Opening doors and pulling chairs. Asking for things to be passed to you. No elbows on the table etc etc it’s very common in the south to teach young children manners and proper etiquette (very very big on manners in Texas where I’m from. You’ll have 2 year olds saying yes sir and no sir etc)
In our neck of the woods,New Zealand,the fork always stays in the left hand,the knife in the right. The knife is never sat down on the plate until you are finished. Knife and fork are put together when finished unless you want more,then they are kept apart. With peas you either spike them with the prongs or turn your fork over so you can scoup the peas onto the fork with the help of your knife. The napkin goes on the table after eating.
Same at my house in Australia. I've been told by one of my daughter's ( I have 5) teachers that my girls have to much manners. I'm like they can never use too much lol
In the U.K., we don't swap over the fork after cutting and use the opposite hand. Prongs are down when you eat, Knife and fork remain in your hands until your food is finished on your plate. If you are left handed prominent your knife and fork can be swapped. This is the way we eat at all times, not only at fancy restaurants. If eating peas, beans, etc, fork is not to be used as a shovel. Saying please and thank you. Mobile phones switched off or on mute. Lovely that you are teaching the children etiquette.
According to some etiquette rules, you should place your napkin on your lap while eating, on your chair if you need to leave the table during the meal, and on the table beside your plate when you're finished. You should not wad up your napkin, leave it on the chair, or put it in a plate with remnants of your meal.
Love the video! I lowkey needed a table manners refresher lol but one thing I learned when giving a handshake at least in the west coast (not sure if it is done elsewhere), is that if you are seated and going to greet and shake hands with anyone, you have to get out of you seat and give the handshake standing up. Love yall!
With your napkin, I was taught to keep it on your lap (obvs.) but have the opening of the fold facing you. Then, when you wipe your mouth you just use the top flap this way you don’t end up with food all over yourself. I took a class in college and this was probably one of the only thing I remember from it 😂
For me, it is the use the knives and forks in North America. In North America what I have noticed is the fact that they cut up the food and put the knife down on the plate and then use the fork. In the Uk and in South Africa we use both Utensils and do not put one utensil down.
Not all of North America in Canada we use continental etiquette also. So as the UK and South Africa we would not place our knife down as well. Seems to be just more of a U.S thing.
I’m right handed, but I don’t think it is fair to make a left handed person switch hands with the fork or spoon, especially if there is room at the table.🤷🏽♀️ If you’re at a fancy restaurant, then waiters could ask if anybody is left handed and set the table accordingly.
I love that you did this with your children! When I was in 4th grade my mom made me read every book that Emily Post wrote on manners and etiquette and at the time I thought it was silly, but I have used it ever since. More parents need to bring this back! Thank You for taking the time out to do this for them.
The one thing I noticed is definitely a no no is what Jacob done is very wrong never put your knife in your mouth to take the excess off his knife it's giving wrong signals especially to young children
Love this video…how fun! Trey was more correct because he pushed the chair as she sat. The person sits as the chair is being pushed in. If not close enough the person in the chair slightly rises and the gentleman pushes the chair again and the lady sits again. Not so much of the weight on the chair. Either would work but it the lady doesn’t help a bit it would be hard the push the chair in. So fun….
I loved this!! In my family, 5 kiddos, we learned table manners as soon as we learned to eat with utensils. Every night at dinner, my dad insisted we use ptoper table manners. He was often entertaining clients, we often had friends for dinner and we joined our parents at really nice restaurants. Good manners were engrained in us at an early age! So many young people have no table manners or even just basic social manners. This is great.
I'm German and I know that in the U.S. it is considered rude to put your second hand on the table while you eat. Here it is the opposite, it's considered rude not to put it on the table. However I totally get why it is done the way it's done in the U.S.
I am from the US and I know I shouldn't put my non dominant hand on the table but I use both hands due to having an injury to my dominant hand when I was young so I got used to using my utensils with my left hand more then my right. So my brain gets confused
Love that you're teaching this! Napkins go on the left side of your plate when finished eating. Not talking over people or being loud is included in manners 😂 Please & thank yous, waiting until everyone is served before eating.
We learned table etiquette in food class in grade 9. Always a great thing for kids to know and practice. Good job Shelly and Jared in raising these wonderful kids.
People usually don't handshake in my country, they usually do a kiss on the cheek (between 1-3 depending on the region) when is female/female or female/male, and between guys they do whatever.
Cutlery in the uk starts from the outside in, so soup/salad to start, then fish course, then main, then the inside is dessert/cheese course. Never put bags on the floor as that is germy. My great grandma always said if putting milk on the table it should be in a jug. Sauces like ketchup or mustard should be in little bowls with a spoon, as should sugar. Also if drinking tea, coffee or any hot beverage never stick your pinky finger in the air as that is vulgar.
A cruise (like a Disney Cruise) has rotational dining and is "fancy" meals for each night... this might be a way to bond with kids and practice the etiquette at the same time.. (maybe like 2-3 kids with a parent)
My mom, "Forks and spoons are not shovels!" Also, after many reminders, you may get a little poke with her fork if your elbows were on the table, and if you talked with your mouth full she would pretend like she couldn't hear you. I was reminded when I was younger that some in the older generations may judge on your hand shake. And last, it was my brothers that learned in home ec that very old etiquette says, when you set the table, if the knife blade is facing out it could be a declaration of war or battle...It has been a running joke in our house for years.
It was fun watching you teach table manners to the kids. It seems that many people have forgot basic manners. The only one I am not sure about is eating off the back of a fork. That seems difficult and easier to drop food and make a mess. Love watching your family and your openness about every day life, ❤
In Canada where I am from, we don't switch hands, the fork is both down and up depending on what you are eating, we don't eat our food if the other person hasn't been served, we eat at the same time. It is changing and people eat without a thought, which is sad.
Lol dont wanna take 3 hrs to eat my meal ,😂 😂 😂 switch fork hand to eat after cutting, knife for mashpotatos ? Addison is right, mashpotatos that thick ? 😂 😂 😂 😂 table manners & drink i can see , silverwear, crazy utter nonsence 😂
In New Zealand we don’t switch hands when cutting meat. The knife is in the right hand and the fork in the left hand facing down (unless you are left-handed in which case it is the other way around), and stays down regardless of what you are eating whether it be potato, peas, or anything else. When finished knife and fork are put together about the middle of the plate.
My mum would tap the table if anyone had elbows on the table goes for everyone even if you were done eating and others were still eating no elbows or if you need to cough turn away from the table and definitely no hats on and men always wore a t shirt and no eating with your mouth open or you would be removed from the table talking with your mouth full was also a big no no and legs up on chairs nope removed from the table or warned once only once my mum and Nanna were very strict on table manners.
Hello guys love watching you, im from SE london uk, near tower bridge area and when i eat pie n mash with liquir which is a parsley sauce or sausage and mash with gravy we use a spoon along with the knife and fork at the end to get the sauce or gravy...
Hey i live in Norway (i’m not norwegian though just born here nor do i date, i’m Addisons age) but manners was definitely a big thing back in the day as my teacher always says i could never do that when i was your age…. but i do think men and women respect each other more here compared to America. Like being extra nice to elderly people saying thank you for the food and bringing to the sink when your done etc. It really depends on how your raised not everyone has the manners like our elders had😅
I love the hand shaking you taught them. So important in business. Unfortunately I don’t know if everyone likes to shake hands anymore because of virus’s. Like The Cov
I think they did amazing, except sitting. I saw some plops onto the chair. I understand its how kids do things, but that wouldn't look good at a fancy place. Love you all❤❤❤
Here in ireland you always have your knife and fork in your hand while your eating until you are finished then they go on the plate at 6.00 we also never leave the table until everyone has finshed eating and drinking and everyone is ready to leave the table, and the men would pull out the chairs for the women to help them get up, we never stretch across the table for anything salt/pepper/condements we ask the person closest to it to pass it so that might mean it passes several people til it gets to you. My dad was alwas very big on us learning this from a very early age so we always did this at home aswell as any restaurant also we do scoop our peas onto our fork and depending on the level of fancy restaurant (not black tie but shirt and slacks, you would call them pants and shoes not sandles flip flops or runners i think you call them trainers) you can also scoop your mashed potatoes but not for black tie restaurants. Your serviette goes on the table beside your plate never on it when your finished.
One thing we were taught that most people don’t do now days. You don’t play or mess with your hair at the table or around food or while you’re cooking. Because hair could fall out and go into the food. Which I know you all know because of the spaghetti bake. Or if the have flakes on their head it could fly into someone’s food or food your cooking. And never to speak over top of food your cooking because you sometimes have little bits of spit that comes out and can go into it.
To train posture while eating, have a book under each arm in your armpit and balance one book on your head. You can't drop any of the books. Also in Denmark if you have to put your fork and knife down but you are not done eating, or waiting for more of the same food, you place your fork at 10 and your knife at 2. If you are done eating we place fork and knife at 3.
I will be turning 57 this October n let me just say that wen we were younger, we always had to mind our manners whether it’s at home or out. We were NEVER allowed to talk with food in our mouths, put our elbows on the table while eating, nor cuss in any way, shape or form. I had raised my daughter that way n she is 32 years old now n have 4 children all of whom are raised the way I raised my daughter about having manners at home or away. I understand children will be children but if they don’t have manners now, then they probably won’t have good manners as adults. Blessings to all… Aloha from Hawaii 🤙🏽
I'm an old lady and when I was young I was taught to shake hands the gentleman takes the ladies fingers and gently shake. You seem to be teaching the girls to shake like a man but maybe it has changed now.
Aubrey, as a fellow lefty, You do not need to switch to your right hand. Life is built for righties and us lefties are made to stand out. I am one of 4 lefties in my immediate family.
What a cool thing to teach them and I bet in years to come, whether at a meeting or wedding or whatever they will remember these fun lessons-I remember my Mother teaching me all this and I am.......OLD lol :)
My parents sent me to a class called White Gloves and Party Manners in 1971 when I was 6 years old. The lessons have stuck with me my entire life. This is a wonderful lesson to teach the kids! Much love from Wilsonville Oregon
Jacob already knowing politics can immediately ruin a first date 😂😂 he’s spot on there!! Anaveah answering we don’t talk about - where babies come from 😂 she ain’t wrong, some people haven’t learnt that 😝👀 I would say for mashed potatoes and peas and things it’s fine to use the fork ‘upside down’ and you don’t have to switch hands or put the knife down unless necessary. I’ve lived in the UK & Australia. But otherwise great manners class 👏
this to me back to my middle school days in home economics class we did the fancy dining also in class, lord my 40th high school reunion is this year, lol glad someone is still teaching the kids proper manners ty
The American way to use cutlery is so wild to me 😅 with all the switching and putting down the knife. Why?! I get that it's different everywhere but I don't understand how it got to this 😄
Can I just give a shout out to Landon at 7:21. Without being asked he did a very chivalrous thing of getting up and standing so Addison could sit down and that is prime example of etiquette and chivalry and he didn’t even have to be told. That just made me so happy to see and I felt so proud of him. Bravo Landon 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
that's great for learning, have you thought about a practice run or two and then take them all out to a fancy dinner ? that would be a learning experience for sure .
I love you videos, but always cringe with how you allow them to act in stores doing cartwheels etc. Pulling out a chair is boyfriend status. At their age just open doors. BTW Landon, good job on your fitness journey. Can u please do a Juneteenth video. Yes with the purse carrying. I was adopted and my amom went to etiquette lessons by Robert H powers. She was a pediatrician. Please hire an etiquette coach, but not to meet with the queen. Some can be too extreme. As a child it is OK for a CHILD to tuck the napkin in. ADults no. One thing I was taught about posture is act like there is an umbrella in your back. Cut meat with the steak knife Not 30 second rule, it is 3 second which isn't true but we are not telling anyone. This is a great start. Yes no politic. No mac n cheese. Talk about work. In all fairness I switch hands. I'm not perfect. If u do do it, have love over
I do it as the “Italian” way but I’m from England - so maybe it’s more the European way.. all countries in Europe I’ve visited have done it the same way at least!
In Ghana, you don't switch your fork from left to right, you eat with the left. No reaching/stretching across the table. Wrist on the table. Good job teaching your kids. Love from Ghana 🇬🇭
I loved watching the table manners! Things are so different than when I was a kid. Manners were not an option growing up in our house. You never took a bite of food until everyone was seated. Elbows NEVER touched the table. No reaching across in front of someone. You asked for food to be passed. When you were done, would have to wait until everyone was done eating. Then you asked for permission to leave the table! May I please be excused? Chewed with mouth shut. And quietly! Now that I am in my 60’s, I am happy for this memory. This was a very important lesson for your family today! ❤️
I can still hear- Mable, Mable strong and able, keep your elbows off the table!
Those are normal table rules.
Same here and our meals were always eaten at the table not in front of a TV. My family had conversation about our day at the table. When I was living in England with my family I had to learn a completely different way to hold a knife and fork. Your fork was held in your left hand with the back of the fork facing up and you would hold the knife in the right hand and only cut one bite at a time. Also for things like peas you would use your knife to squish them against the back of the fork.
In the U.K. you never switch hands. You can place your knife down but even that’s unusual between mouthfuls. Additionally the fork prongs should always remain facing down. It’s a fork not a shovel.
When you are done eating, knife and the fork goes face down at 5 o’clock. ( the sharp side of the fork goes down) Napkin goes beside the plate. Good luck with them keeping there elbows off the table.
mean while in the back ground Jacob is licking potato off his knife hahaha
It's a good idea to practice table manners even at home and non fancy restaurants. This is awesome and more people need to kearn these skills
Interesting, I’ve never heard of putting the fork down at the top of the plate before. Even at fancy restaurants (I’m in Canada). Seems like a waste of time to have to keep putting it down and picking it back up for each cut/bite.
There were 3 things we were supposed to do at dinner time in our house when growing up. (My father's parents were Brits). We had to wash our hands, comb our hair and never EVER put your elbows on the table.
I’m so confused about the swapping hands with the fork! In Australia where I grew up and Uk where I live now we stab with right hand saw with left and put it straight in your mouth holding both knife and fork!
That’s so interesting as I’m from England and all I’ve ever known is the fork in the left hand and knife in the right hand. That’s why tables are laid out with the fork on the left, knife on the right even if you are right handed.
Every fancy restaurant I’ve been to the server puts the napkin on the plate before taking it away. I guess so others don’t have to see the food not eaten.
I went to a restaurant once it wasn't even a super nice restaurant they didn't want to seat us because we were wearing gym shorts. I was like bruh this is not a fancy place.
Wait so use cut the food then put the knife down then switch your hands with the fork to eat? Live in Scotland and have always left the knife in your hand
No joints on the table unless they are rosted
Shaking a ladies hand is different. It’s with her fingertips. Definitely need to work on elbows and talking with the mouthful!! The hardest part for me was silverware placement and usage!! Also no passing gas excuse yourself to the restroom. Also when a lady starts to get up the gentleman should immediately get up and help her out! There’s more I’m sure! The etiquette is very proper compared to anywhere else in the US too. 🥰
wait.. I am Italian, how do Italians eat? lol please Jared answer, I am confused!! And a bit self conscious now lol
They didn’t say thank you lol jk your awesome
The “putting knife down and switching hands” seem ridiculous actually… Simple proper manners is not something for just a once in a while thing at restaurants, it’s and every day thing, and to be able to do that it has to be easy enough. Just skip that hand switch thing, use the knife and fork as you did while cutting/putting the food on and then put it in your mouth 😊
Where I live this is something you just do (even though most people are quite relaxed about it), so kids from first grade and up do know how to do it even though many still just cut it all an shove it in with the fork in their dominant hand 😉
Now you gotta take them somewhere fancy and put their new skills to the test ❤
Hi crazy middles how are you doing today
Or open the door
When you eat internationally, after cutting your meat you keep your knife in your right hand and eat with the fork in your left hand
In my country some people either change the fork to the hand they used to cut it, or eat with the other hand.
What if your right handed
Why
@@LeahPothastthen you do it with the opposite hands but you still don’t put the knife down
I love how they take the time out to teach all the kids a skill or lesson
In Sweden, we hold our silverwears like they do in Italy. And we NEVER eat with only the fork. No no no. When we make a toast, we never rase the glas above chesthight, take a small sip and look at the one who made the toast and then on everyone else, then we put our glass down.
Never reach over someone, to grab the salt or anything.
No one leave the table until anyone has finnished. Then when we are done, we say thank you for the food.
So great that you teach your lovely children the right manners❤️❤️❤️
oh another one from sweden watching crazy middles
@@Renado009 Are you from Sweden too? Hi :)
In Australia, 56years old and brought up by my grandparents. We had table manners taught at every meal. We were taught the European style. No elbows on the table. Wrists on table when resting. Never put cutlery down while eating. Fork remains facing down even for mashed potatoes and peas (with peas you pierced the peas and pushed them onto the prongs). Fork remains in the same hand (never swapped). Soup spoon scooped away from you. Cutlery from outside in. Wait till everyone has been served before you begin eating. Never reach across the table for salt etc. , ask someone to pass it to you.
i live in uk and i always remember mom and dad saying when i was younger , keep your elbows off the table and no slouching at the table
d if we went to friends homes we was told to always take our shoes off at the door and address the adults by mr or mrs and there last names until they said it was ok to use there first names
as a British person it was shocking to see how little they knew!! a lot of this is second nature to me, even not in a fancy restaurant, but its super cool you taught them this and they were so eager to learn! you are amazing parents
Tbh it depends on where you’re raised in the south I can attest we learn manners and etiquette at a very young age and it is drilled into us. Yes ma’am no ma’am yes sir no sir. Calling the host or other members of the table by Mr./Mrs./Miss and their last name until told it’s ok to use first name. Please and thank you. Opening doors and pulling chairs. Asking for things to be passed to you. No elbows on the table etc etc it’s very common in the south to teach young children manners and proper etiquette (very very big on manners in Texas where I’m from. You’ll have 2 year olds saying yes sir and no sir etc)
In our neck of the woods,New Zealand,the fork always stays in the left hand,the knife in the right. The knife is never sat down on the plate until you are finished.
Knife and fork are put together when finished unless you want more,then they are kept apart.
With peas you either spike them with the prongs or turn your fork over so you can scoup the peas onto the fork with the help of your knife.
The napkin goes on the table after eating.
Same at my house in Australia. I've been told by one of my daughter's ( I have 5) teachers that my girls have to much manners. I'm like they can never use too much lol
In the U.K., we don't swap over the fork after cutting and use the opposite hand. Prongs are down when you eat, Knife and fork remain in your hands until your food is finished on your plate. If you are left handed prominent your knife and fork can be swapped. This is the way we eat at all times, not only at fancy restaurants. If eating peas, beans, etc, fork is not to be used as a shovel. Saying please and thank you. Mobile phones switched off or on mute. Lovely that you are teaching the children etiquette.
I was brought up with all these but the extra is chewing with your mouth closed and never talk with food in your mouth.
According to some etiquette rules, you should place your napkin on your lap while eating, on your chair if you need to leave the table during the meal, and on the table beside your plate when you're finished. You should not wad up your napkin, leave it on the chair, or put it in a plate with remnants of your meal.
Love the video! I lowkey needed a table manners refresher lol but one thing I learned when giving a handshake at least in the west coast (not sure if it is done elsewhere), is that if you are seated and going to greet and shake hands with anyone, you have to get out of you seat and give the handshake standing up. Love yall!
Absolutely correct
Yes! Stand up to shake hands ❤
You should also always go round the desk/table before you shake hands so you're not doing it with something inbetween
Here in Ohio we don't put our elbows on the table and we don't chew with our mouths open and say please and thank you
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With your napkin, I was taught to keep it on your lap (obvs.) but have the opening of the fold facing you. Then, when you wipe your mouth you just use the top flap this way you don’t end up with food all over yourself. I took a class in college and this was probably one of the only thing I remember from it 😂
Without them knowing I would love to see a fantasy meal served. Soup, salad and so forth. Thank you for sharing.
For me, it is the use the knives and forks in North America. In North America what I have noticed is the fact that they cut up the food and put the knife down on the plate and then use the fork. In the Uk and in South Africa we use both Utensils and do not put one utensil down.
Not all of North America in Canada we use continental etiquette also. So as the UK and South Africa we would not place our knife down as well. Seems to be just more of a U.S thing.
We never put the knife down either in Australia.
Same for the rest of Europe
I’m right handed, but I don’t think it is fair to make a left handed person switch hands with the fork or spoon, especially if there is room at the table.🤷🏽♀️ If you’re at a fancy restaurant, then waiters could ask if anybody is left handed and set the table accordingly.
As a left handed person if you can choose your seat I choose a left handed seat. So no one is on my left unless they're also left handed!
I love that you did this with your children! When I was in 4th grade my mom made me read every book that Emily Post wrote on manners and etiquette and at the time I thought it was silly, but I have used it ever since. More parents need to bring this back! Thank You for taking the time out to do this for them.
The one thing I noticed is definitely a no no is what Jacob done is very wrong never put your knife in your mouth to take the excess off his knife it's giving wrong signals especially to young children
Luckily, I think the younger kids seem old enough to know better. I do understand what you mean, though.
Love this video…how fun!
Trey was more correct because he pushed the chair as she sat. The person sits as the chair is being pushed in. If not close enough the person in the chair slightly rises and the gentleman pushes the chair again and the lady sits again. Not so much of the weight on the chair. Either would work but it the lady doesn’t help a bit it would be hard the push the chair in. So fun….
I am so impressed. I love the fact that you are teaching your children manners.
I feel manners have been lost, which is sad.
Wonderful!
I hope crazy in live is going to be on youtube for years. Love both channels.
Yes manners today don't existe 90% of the time
I loved this!! In my family, 5 kiddos, we learned table manners as soon as we learned to eat with utensils. Every night at dinner, my dad insisted we use ptoper table manners. He was often entertaining clients, we often had friends for dinner and we joined our parents at really nice restaurants. Good manners were engrained in us at an early age! So many young people have no table manners or even just basic social manners. This is great.
I'm German and I know that in the U.S. it is considered rude to put your second hand on the table while you eat. Here it is the opposite, it's considered rude not to put it on the table. However I totally get why it is done the way it's done in the U.S.
I am from the US and I know I shouldn't put my non dominant hand on the table but I use both hands due to having an injury to my dominant hand when I was young so I got used to using my utensils with my left hand more then my right. So my brain gets confused
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Love that you're teaching this!
Napkins go on the left side of your plate when finished eating.
Not talking over people or being loud is included in manners 😂
Please & thank yous, waiting until everyone is served before eating.
now to take them out to eat & let the restaurant know❤️🥰
We learned table etiquette in food class in grade 9. Always a great thing for kids to know and practice. Good job Shelly and Jared in raising these wonderful kids.
People usually don't handshake in my country, they usually do a kiss on the cheek (between 1-3 depending on the region) when is female/female or female/male, and between guys they do whatever.
Cutlery in the uk starts from the outside in, so soup/salad to start, then fish course, then main, then the inside is dessert/cheese course. Never put bags on the floor as that is germy. My great grandma always said if putting milk on the table it should be in a jug. Sauces like ketchup or mustard should be in little bowls with a spoon, as should sugar. Also if drinking tea, coffee or any hot beverage never stick your pinky finger in the air as that is vulgar.
A cruise (like a Disney Cruise) has rotational dining and is "fancy" meals for each night... this might be a way to bond with kids and practice the etiquette at the same time.. (maybe like 2-3 kids with a parent)
My mom, "Forks and spoons are not shovels!" Also, after many reminders, you may get a little poke with her fork if your elbows were on the table, and if you talked with your mouth full she would pretend like she couldn't hear you. I was reminded when I was younger that some in the older generations may judge on your hand shake. And last, it was my brothers that learned in home ec that very old etiquette says, when you set the table, if the knife blade is facing out it could be a declaration of war or battle...It has been a running joke in our house for years.
It was fun watching you teach table manners to the kids. It seems that many people have forgot basic manners. The only one I am not sure about is eating off the back of a fork. That seems difficult and easier to drop food and make a mess. Love watching your family and your openness about every day life, ❤
In Canada where I am from, we don't switch hands, the fork is both down and up depending on what you are eating, we don't eat our food if the other person hasn't been served, we eat at the same time. It is changing and people eat without a thought, which is sad.
True yes. Canadian from Ontario here
Just wanted to add to the handshake 🤝.. it’s important to make eye contact and sometimes maybe a little smile or expression of hello/ welcoming
Love seeing Cynthia there😊
I'm in the UK and you would NEVER put your knife down and switch hands for your fork that is considered very bad manners
Lol dont wanna take 3 hrs to eat my meal ,😂 😂 😂 switch fork hand to eat after cutting, knife for mashpotatos ? Addison is right, mashpotatos that thick ? 😂 😂 😂 😂 table manners & drink i can see , silverwear, crazy utter nonsence 😂
In New Zealand we don’t switch hands when cutting meat. The knife is in the right hand and the fork in the left hand facing down (unless you are left-handed in which case it is the other way around), and stays down regardless of what you are eating whether it be potato, peas, or anything else. When finished knife and fork are put together about the middle of the plate.
In Canada hands above table, we do not switch hands with our fork, knife if put down goes on side of plate
I’m with Brinley! Pulling out a chair for someone doesn’t have to be so much about gender
My mum would tap the table if anyone had elbows on the table goes for everyone even if you were done eating and others were still eating no elbows or if you need to cough turn away from the table and definitely no hats on and men always wore a t shirt and no eating with your mouth open or you would be removed from the table talking with your mouth full was also a big no no and legs up on chairs nope removed from the table or warned once only once my mum and Nanna were very strict on table manners.
Hello guys love watching you, im from SE london uk, near tower bridge area and when i eat pie n mash with liquir which is a parsley sauce or sausage and mash with gravy we use a spoon along with the knife and fork at the end to get the sauce or gravy...
So Glad you're showing the children table manners..
Its a Lost art..
Much love and Be Blessed Wallace Family.
When I was a child, after every meal, we would have to say may I leave the table, please, and your parents would either say yes or no
I'm with Addison on the mashed potatoes. Ridiculous!! 😂
Hey i live in Norway (i’m not norwegian though just born here nor do i date, i’m Addisons age) but manners was definitely a big thing back in the day as my teacher always says i could never do that when i was your age…. but i do think men and women respect each other more here compared to America. Like being extra nice to elderly people saying thank you for the food and bringing to the sink when your done etc. It really depends on how your raised not everyone has the manners like our elders had😅
I love the hand shaking you taught them. So important in business. Unfortunately I don’t know if everyone likes to shake hands anymore because of virus’s. Like The Cov
Yea i dont like touchin no one as is lol i will just say hello but i am not a hand shaker or hugger lol. No physical contact pls
Manners never go out of style and style varies across contexts, including personal style. 😉
Dress up dinner at home.
I think they did amazing, except sitting. I saw some plops onto the chair. I understand its how kids do things, but that wouldn't look good at a fancy place. Love you all❤❤❤
I Australia we cut and hold our knife and fork like Jarrod.
Here in ireland you always have your knife and fork in your hand while your eating until you are finished then they go on the plate at 6.00 we also never leave the table until everyone has finshed eating and drinking and everyone is ready to leave the table, and the men would pull out the chairs for the women to help them get up, we never stretch across the table for anything salt/pepper/condements we ask the person closest to it to pass it so that might mean it passes several people til it gets to you. My dad was alwas very big on us learning this from a very early age so we always did this at home aswell as any restaurant also we do scoop our peas onto our fork and depending on the level of fancy restaurant (not black tie but shirt and slacks, you would call them pants and shoes not sandles flip flops or runners i think you call them trainers) you can also scoop your mashed potatoes but not for black tie restaurants. Your serviette goes on the table beside your plate never on it when your finished.
In Canada we leave shoes at the door and no outside footwear in house. You’d wear slippers 🇨🇦
Also the purse you should fold your arm an it it in front of you when in crowded restaurants so your purse isn’t hitting people as you walk by.
When the fork or food falls on the ground, in Germany we have the unicorn-rule. You can use or eat the fallen stuff until you see a unicorn.
One thing we were taught that most people don’t do now days. You don’t play or mess with your hair at the table or around food or while you’re cooking. Because hair could fall out and go into the food. Which I know you all know because of the spaghetti bake. Or if the have flakes on their head it could fly into someone’s food or food your cooking. And never to speak over top of food your cooking because you sometimes have little bits of spit that comes out and can go into it.
Some of their comments were so funny!!
This was a really good teaching opportunity for all.
Good manners should always be used at home. When you are out good manners come automatically.
Good skills to learn. 🥰🎶❤️🎶🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦
To train posture while eating, have a book under each arm in your armpit and balance one book on your head. You can't drop any of the books. Also in Denmark if you have to put your fork and knife down but you are not done eating, or waiting for more of the same food, you place your fork at 10 and your knife at 2. If you are done eating we place fork and knife at 3.
Elbows off the table was something I heard so much lol
You should shake hands with every person you greet. Even if you like them or not. That is proper Etiquette.
Love how you guys teach your kids life skills and every video isn’t about shopping or a room makeover ! 😅
I will be turning 57 this October n let me just say that wen we were younger, we always had to mind our manners whether it’s at home or out. We were NEVER allowed to talk with food in our mouths, put our elbows on the table while eating, nor cuss in any way, shape or form.
I had raised my daughter that way n she is 32 years old now n have 4 children all of whom are raised the way I raised my daughter about having manners at home or away.
I understand children will be children but if they don’t have manners now, then they probably won’t have good manners as adults.
Blessings to all…
Aloha from Hawaii 🤙🏽
I'm an old lady and when I was young I was taught to shake hands the gentleman takes the ladies fingers and gently shake. You seem to be teaching the girls to shake like a man but maybe it has changed now.
Aubrey, as a fellow lefty, You do not need to switch to your right hand. Life is built for righties and us lefties are made to stand out. I am one of 4 lefties in my immediate family.
What a cool thing to teach them and I bet in years to come, whether at a meeting or wedding or whatever they will remember these fun lessons-I remember my Mother teaching me all this and I am.......OLD lol :)
My parents sent me to a class called White Gloves and Party Manners in 1971 when I was 6 years old. The lessons have stuck with me my entire life. This is a wonderful lesson to teach the kids! Much love from Wilsonville Oregon
In the Uk you don’t talk about Politics and religion.
I am 52 and did not pass the test❤️🤣🤣
Don't drink with food in your mouth.
Jacob already knowing politics can immediately ruin a first date 😂😂 he’s spot on there!! Anaveah answering we don’t talk about - where babies come from 😂 she ain’t wrong, some people haven’t learnt that 😝👀
I would say for mashed potatoes and peas and things it’s fine to use the fork ‘upside down’ and you don’t have to switch hands or put the knife down unless necessary. I’ve lived in the UK & Australia.
But otherwise great manners class 👏
Not me at 28 years old taking notes 😂❤
Parents don't teach this anymore, great job Jared and Shelly, your amazing parents! And all your kids are so great. Blessings 🙌
this to me back to my middle school days in home economics class we did the fancy dining also in class, lord my 40th high school reunion is this year, lol glad someone is still teaching the kids proper manners ty
Also no no no to elbows on table when eating meal.
The American way to use cutlery is so wild to me 😅 with all the switching and putting down the knife. Why?! I get that it's different everywhere but I don't understand how it got to this 😄
Can I just give a shout out to Landon at 7:21. Without being asked he did a very chivalrous thing of getting up and standing so Addison could sit down and that is prime example of etiquette and chivalry and he didn’t even have to be told. That just made me so happy to see and I felt so proud of him. Bravo Landon 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
that's great for learning, have you thought about a practice run or two and then take them all out to a fancy dinner ? that would be a learning experience for sure .
I love you videos, but always cringe with how you allow them to act in stores doing cartwheels etc.
Pulling out a chair is boyfriend status. At their age just open doors.
BTW Landon, good job on your fitness journey.
Can u please do a Juneteenth video.
Yes with the purse carrying.
I was adopted and my amom went to etiquette lessons by Robert H powers. She was a pediatrician.
Please hire an etiquette coach, but not to meet with the queen.
Some can be too extreme.
As a child it is OK for a CHILD to tuck the napkin in. ADults no.
One thing I was taught about posture is act like there is an umbrella in your back.
Cut meat with the steak knife
Not 30 second rule, it is 3 second which isn't true but we are not telling anyone.
This is a great start.
Yes no politic.
No mac n cheese.
Talk about work.
In all fairness I switch hands. I'm not perfect. If u do do it, have love over
I do it as the “Italian” way but I’m from England - so maybe it’s more the European way.. all countries in Europe I’ve visited have done it the same way at least!
In Ghana, you don't switch your fork from left to right, you eat with the left. No reaching/stretching across the table. Wrist on the table. Good job teaching your kids. Love from Ghana 🇬🇭