I'm not going to lie pyrion and sips that was actually a really beautiful conversation you guys had about love and what you value. I have a profound respect for all three of you guys thank you for all the entertainment over the years!
51:13 Honestly, hearing that Pflax enjoys Jingle Jam more than TI shocked me for a second, but then it hit me that the size of the event doesn't matter as much as the cause and spending that event with close friends.
Like any other personality categorization, the love languages can be useful when you don't take it too far. The book itself tells you that pretty much everyone needs some of everything and that it's a generalization. But these five categories cover most of it, and most people have one or two of them that matter more than the others. It's always nice to pay attention to what makes someone feel loved, and how they try to communicate their love to you, whether or not you categorize them this way. Having these named gives people a framework for thinking and talking about it. Here's an example. Acts of service are number one for me by far, and my husband most values words of affirmation. People hear this as, "I do all the work, then thank him and call it even," but that's not even close. They work both ways, right? I default to showing love through service. My husband, on the other hand, hates chores more than most. Plus, he's a man of routine, so he particularly despises doing chores outside of his regular schedule. Acts of service generally aren't natural for him. Luckily, it's natural for me to appreciate what he does accordingly. But he doesn't mind small, quick tasks. So he makes a point of doing things like making tea for me. Little things mean a ton to me. I know to express my appreciation appropriately, and then he feels like a hero. No, you don't need the love languages to learn about each other, but they can make it easier. The book helped my husband understand me _and_ himself, which helped our communication overall. It's meant to be used as a tool, not as a perfect relationship fixer. For a lot of people, it can help when it's used that way.
Agree completely- I'd not heard of it before but recently I've had an argument with my partner and the content of our problem was essentially the love language idea, I see love as service, my partner wants explicit affirmations.
Yeah I agree with lots of people in the comments. Love languages is just about understanding more about them and their partner. You don’t have to change much, but it helps to know how your partner tries to express their love for you and vice versa; it helps both parties feel appreciated more often and can help stop resentment from building up, just a little but
the lads start by saying love languages are bogus... then proceed to describe how being brought a cup of tea makes them so very happy. Which would be their love language 🤣🤣
This was honestly one of the most wholesome of every episode the three of you have done together. It was informative and you're all just so supportive of each other and I love that.
My friend recently broke up with her boyfriend, both my guy friend and I were trying to console her. Me: It's okay to cry, let it out. Guy: stop crying, forget him
Its really funny listening to them saying that love language stuffs bollocks and then basically saying their Love languages are acts of service and quality time. Also its not just something to fix a relationship and can be really useful for starting new ones. Hannah Wittons got some really good videos on this stuff.
The whole love languages thing has actually helped me in my relationships, I am autistic and have trouble reading people and what people want unprompted and reading all this pseudoscientific love language stuff has worked for me as it gives me scripts I can use to express how I feel about my partner. For example I really do not like people touching me and vice versa so even if I feel overstimulated I caress their arm to show that I am not upset with them but with how my skin feels. They care very much about physical touch so I make that compromise and am happy with it. In this way our love languages do not interact
I was an absolute and compulsive liar as a kid over everything for no reason at all. I still vividly remember telling a friend's family during a sleepover that prior to moving to my then-current town that we lived in a town full of ancient Greek pagans worshipping Zeus in the same state. Still have no idea what the 8ish year-old me was doing spinning that yarn.
I really do like listening to these guys but boy can I tell they are dads. I mean everyone appreciates all the love languages but the point is that some people appreciate one over another and knowing that can make the relationship stronger. This knowledge is also a perfect way of understanding your partner and show appreciation in a way that will be more meaningful instead of buying flowers for a partner that would enjoy it but might enjoy back rub or a clean house.
Flax talking about how he’s never had to cheer up/talk down a mate who’s reached out to him in tears about something was funny. It does happen from time to time Flax, you’re just not the one they call 😂
@@aripocki yeah, I did say from time to time, men obviously don’t do that kind of thing very often, but they also already know when it comes down to it who they gonna call. Don’t get me wrong, I like Mr P. Flax, but even if he was my good friend I know he wouldn’t give a monkeys about my problems 😂 he a man’s man 💪🏼
bit of a mean spirited interpretation of his comment don't you think? he had something to say and it certainly wasn't that those interactions never happen, he even started out by saying he was generalising. I get that you're having a laugh, but still, bit of a dog thing to say right?
Pyrion you say your wife pranks you by giving you vegan varieties of sausages rolls... its really a sign of love and trying to care for your health :) she wants you by her side as long as possible
I'm sorry pflax but what? Of course you can alter your behaviour to suit someone's patterns better. The love languages suffer from being vague for sure but how is an awareness and attempt at better communication ever going to be a bad idea? Love languages are just a simplistic way of getting the message that different people like different forms of affection across and being aware of that is only a good thing.
I think he meant that some people are just really set in their ways, and some people just aren't capable of changing, and if you want someone to change a very significant part of themselves in order to stay with them, maybe you should just move on? It is incredibly vague, and he took it to its extreme interpretation, which is very valid, however.
I wish me and my husband could communicate the Python and his wife can. Been with him 30 odd years and he has always struggled to explain how he feels and it has always annoyed me!
The dad's totally missed the point of love languages and dismissed them, and then perfectly described acts of service and quality time. They're not strategies for fixing a broken relationship or changing your personality, they're just a thing that can help a couple understand and learn about each other and yourself more, which can then be used to be better to each other. Particularly about something that can be difficult to put into words like trying to explain the reasons you love someone
Pyrion desperate to be the only wise sage in the room as always. Thank god for PP (Yogpod mk2), I like hearing Lewis wax on about stuff without a Karen interrupting.
I'm not going to lie pyrion and sips that was actually a really beautiful conversation you guys had about love and what you value. I have a profound respect for all three of you guys thank you for all the entertainment over the years!
sweaty loud and smelly sex is what true love is.
I completely agree, I've watched and listened for 10 years and my respect continues to grow.
51:13 Honestly, hearing that Pflax enjoys Jingle Jam more than TI shocked me for a second, but then it hit me that the size of the event doesn't matter as much as the cause and spending that event with close friends.
God I want that thumbnail of Sips on my valentines card
Too many people would get pregnant
There's a very realy danger that everyone's tiny pps would become too erect if that were possible
Pyrions Brian Blessed impersonation was spot on. I couldn't place his face until he done the impression lol.
I don't think I've laughed so hard in a long time
Like any other personality categorization, the love languages can be useful when you don't take it too far. The book itself tells you that pretty much everyone needs some of everything and that it's a generalization. But these five categories cover most of it, and most people have one or two of them that matter more than the others. It's always nice to pay attention to what makes someone feel loved, and how they try to communicate their love to you, whether or not you categorize them this way. Having these named gives people a framework for thinking and talking about it.
Here's an example. Acts of service are number one for me by far, and my husband most values words of affirmation. People hear this as, "I do all the work, then thank him and call it even," but that's not even close. They work both ways, right? I default to showing love through service. My husband, on the other hand, hates chores more than most. Plus, he's a man of routine, so he particularly despises doing chores outside of his regular schedule. Acts of service generally aren't natural for him. Luckily, it's natural for me to appreciate what he does accordingly.
But he doesn't mind small, quick tasks. So he makes a point of doing things like making tea for me. Little things mean a ton to me. I know to express my appreciation appropriately, and then he feels like a hero.
No, you don't need the love languages to learn about each other, but they can make it easier. The book helped my husband understand me _and_ himself, which helped our communication overall. It's meant to be used as a tool, not as a perfect relationship fixer. For a lot of people, it can help when it's used that way.
Agree completely- I'd not heard of it before but recently I've had an argument with my partner and the content of our problem was essentially the love language idea, I see love as service, my partner wants explicit affirmations.
Sips to Lewis (half of team double-awkward): “I don’t think your awkward” 😂
Congratulations you have one a prize quickly sent me a direct message to acknowledge your reward 🤡🤡
@@RCGamex wut
Yeah I agree with lots of people in the comments. Love languages is just about understanding more about them and their partner. You don’t have to change much, but it helps to know how your partner tries to express their love for you and vice versa; it helps both parties feel appreciated more often and can help stop resentment from building up, just a little but
the lads start by saying love languages are bogus... then proceed to describe how being brought a cup of tea makes them so very happy. Which would be their love language 🤣🤣
The poor girl who vomitted at Yogcon from Sips' backwash story's going in for a rough ride at 46:57
This was honestly one of the most wholesome of every episode the three of you have done together. It was informative and you're all just so supportive of each other and I love that.
"I can fix them, I can change them"........"youre not the person i fell in love with anymore"
I'm so interested in Lewis' love life but I know it's his business 🤯 Gosh I wanna know more though
@@hateinclination5356 clearly it’s in shambles if he’s learning about love languages
hearing pyrion's brian blessed impression makes me miss simon and the yogpod
You may have already seen it, but Lewis and Simon saw Brian Blessed in person and talked about it in the most recent Peculiar Portions
TERRIBLE NAME FOR A TERRIBLE WOMAN
I am Dave Yognaught and I have the balls!
@@user-vj3rg2jo9b i should listen to that episode! thank you!
@@hateinclination5356 was waiting for pyrion to yell “SCRAMBLED!”
My friend recently broke up with her boyfriend, both my guy friend and I were trying to console her.
Me: It's okay to cry, let it out.
Guy: stop crying, forget him
Oh man, I love some of Pyrion's royalty accent right at the top of the podcast. 😂
Give me the bathplug story every day of the week over that fucking colonoscopy horror story.
Now that's what I call a thumbnail baby!
Seems like we’ve come full circle on the brian blessed talk after all these years lol
Wholesome episode
except the last part with the blood pee and poo and jizzm. Couldn't stand up for a good while after hearing that
Its really funny listening to them saying that love language stuffs bollocks and then basically saying their Love languages are acts of service and quality time. Also its not just something to fix a relationship and can be really useful for starting new ones. Hannah Wittons got some really good videos on this stuff.
Pretty good episode actually, covered a good bunch of topics.
Great video as always.
The whole love languages thing has actually helped me in my relationships, I am autistic and have trouble reading people and what people want unprompted and reading all this pseudoscientific love language stuff has worked for me as it gives me scripts I can use to express how I feel about my partner. For example I really do not like people touching me and vice versa so even if I feel overstimulated I caress their arm to show that I am not upset with them but with how my skin feels. They care very much about physical touch so I make that compromise and am happy with it. In this way our love languages do not interact
it's not pseudoscience because it's not trying to be scientific, it's just a framing of a way of good communication in relationships!
I feel like Sips and Pyrion completely misread the love language concept.... Ah well.
I love the "thanks man" story from Flax, I was hoping Sips was going to tell his blockbuster card running "joke" with his wife.
For anyone who hasn't seen it yet. I highly recommend watching Welcome to Wrexham.
I didn't know gandalf made an appearance
I've drank a bottle of wine and I'm very drunk
we need keith on the podcast
"be good to each other. we love you " - lewis
I was an absolute and compulsive liar as a kid over everything for no reason at all. I still vividly remember telling a friend's family during a sleepover that prior to moving to my then-current town that we lived in a town full of ancient Greek pagans worshipping Zeus in the same state.
Still have no idea what the 8ish year-old me was doing spinning that yarn.
Flash Gordon: BRIAN BLESSED'S ALIVE!?
I have seen some pretty big podcasts, that my friends was a big podcast. Not long, but boy was is big.
Solasta: Crown of the Magister bops fr
Diggy Diggy Hole plays on my DragonForce Pandora station!
Gimornous podcast today guys well done
I freaking love you guys
damn that was a good one.
I really do like listening to these guys but boy can I tell they are dads. I mean everyone appreciates all the love languages but the point is that some people appreciate one over another and knowing that can make the relationship stronger. This knowledge is also a perfect way of understanding your partner and show appreciation in a way that will be more meaningful instead of buying flowers for a partner that would enjoy it but might enjoy back rub or a clean house.
Flax talking about how he’s never had to cheer up/talk down a mate who’s reached out to him in tears about something was funny. It does happen from time to time Flax, you’re just not the one they call 😂
It really just depends on the friend group. Also it's been documented that men are more likely to bottle their emotions (often societal pressures).
@@aripocki yeah, I did say from time to time, men obviously don’t do that kind of thing very often, but they also already know when it comes down to it who they gonna call.
Don’t get me wrong, I like Mr P. Flax, but even if he was my good friend I know he wouldn’t give a monkeys about my problems 😂 he a man’s man 💪🏼
On a previous ep he told a story of doing just that tho
bit of a mean spirited interpretation of his comment don't you think? he had something to say and it certainly wasn't that those interactions never happen, he even started out by saying he was generalising. I get that you're having a laugh, but still, bit of a dog thing to say right?
@@Shosty No, I don’t. I’m just poking fun lad 💀 lighten the heck 🆙
woohoo triforce time
IHATP
if anyone ever asks me what a third wheel is i’ll show them this episode and point at the red triangle
The unfortunate result of not being married with kids, which I think sucks
@@KuueenKumi honestly thats a life goal lol
LETS GOOOO
YEAAAAH
Pyrion you say your wife pranks you by giving you vegan varieties of sausages rolls... its really a sign of love and trying to care for your health :) she wants you by her side as long as possible
"I'd rather go and wash my ass out than play this game"
Fuck yeah
I'm sorry pflax but what? Of course you can alter your behaviour to suit someone's patterns better. The love languages suffer from being vague for sure but how is an awareness and attempt at better communication ever going to be a bad idea? Love languages are just a simplistic way of getting the message that different people like different forms of affection across and being aware of that is only a good thing.
I think he meant that some people are just really set in their ways, and some people just aren't capable of changing, and if you want someone to change a very significant part of themselves in order to stay with them, maybe you should just move on? It is incredibly vague, and he took it to its extreme interpretation, which is very valid, however.
His been married and has 2 kids dude...I think he knows better than most what works.
The reall jaffa factory wtf simon why
I wish me and my husband could communicate the Python and his wife can. Been with him 30 odd years and he has always struggled to explain how he feels and it has always annoyed me!
Did Brian ask you if you have any jam sandwiches?
of course the moment i prepare food is the moment they start talking about shit falling out your ass.
it more about understanding not everyone are like you
Awesomeness
The dad's totally missed the point of love languages and dismissed them, and then perfectly described acts of service and quality time. They're not strategies for fixing a broken relationship or changing your personality, they're just a thing that can help a couple understand and learn about each other and yourself more, which can then be used to be better to each other. Particularly about something that can be difficult to put into words like trying to explain the reasons you love someone
Am I insane or did they already talk about Brian and the Jaffa thing?
Yeah on Simons peepee
Was that on Simon's PP?
Pp
Dont think understanding love languages recquires change per se. Just having that insight could be meaningfull, no?
their description of Barotrauma as like Among Us tilted me
Oh shit... Lewlew read the 5 languages of love.
Pyrion desperate to be the only wise sage in the room as always. Thank god for PP (Yogpod mk2), I like hearing Lewis wax on about stuff without a Karen interrupting.
😅
Simon's PP is absolute bliss
dam so far terrible relationship advice from the married ppl