How having a 'work spouse' can ruin your real relationship
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- Опубліковано 5 тра 2016
- Psychotherapist M. Gary Neuman dropped by Business Insider to discuss the dangerous effects of having a "work spouse" and what to do to avoid these sometimes harmful relationships.
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I hate the term work spouse (I don't mind work buddy or work sibling) but never call anybody you Work Spouse, unless it's your actual Spouse. Especially when you or they are in a relationship. The person you get into a Relationship or Marry is suppose to be treated as your equal but above everyone else and will always be you're Work Spouse.
I agree. You might as well say your having sex too since they bonded so closely to call each other work spouse and feel comfortable with publicly saying it. If your spouse dont feel some kinda a way then Im assuming they too must have a work spouse as well.
@@texasmade2719 The reason I hate the term because work spouse is too intimidate nobody should ever know you more than your spouse or have their full trust and attention. It just makes it sound like it's ok for your husband or wife to have another person in their life who is of the opposite sex doesn't matter how old they are on how attractive they are, it is just like opening a can of worms. I read and hear way too many stories of spouses neglecting and emotionally abusing their marriage so they can be with the work spouse. If they are just a friend then why not just call them your work buddy?
@@CynderSpirit I agree with your view. Even work buddy is too close cause many infidelities happen in the work place and your work buddy is the number 1 suspect.
I find it extremely unprofessional. No one at work is your friend. I’ve seen people burned so many times believing that lol
Flirting with and giving attention to another person is a choice. A choice a person makes knowing it is wrong and disrespectful. It is also cheating. Anyone giving another person the opportunity and signs of availability means they are not yours. Let them go. Let him have her. Walk away and never look back.
A person who values you would never put themselves in a position to loose you.
The only man that gets to refer to my wife as his *anything* wife is me, and only me.
R u still married
@@minceraftfornite4334 You let other men refer to your wife as his wife?
@@victorcreed8856 I’m not married but that wasn’t question I asked are u still married
@@minceraftfornite4334 yes
@@minceraftfornite4334 and if any man ever had the balls to tell me my wife was his wife to my face, he'll be taking a dirt nap real quick.
I'm just hapy to see there still are smart profesionals out there.
This may have just saved my marriage.
This guy is 100 percent right. Why?
Cause i fell in love with my married co-worker. It effected both of us.
@@texasmade2719 what happened. I suspect my wife appreciates work guy more than me
@@amtonio5602 It destroys families and leads to heartbreak.
@@amtonio5602 You spend more or equal amount of time at work as you do at home. The fact you bonded with someone else spouse can and will lead to pain and disaster. Your not just hurting ones marriage but the children and extended family. Those invested in that family. Respect people marriages relationships and families.
I'm currently dealing with it right now...I noticed my attitude towards my girlfriend changes after an especially engaging interaction with the "work wife" and I become hostile to my girlfriend. Then I feel bad I mistreated her, yet I have to go back and see my work wife again. It's a brutal cycle...
Very nice. This guidance is really important. so many thanks for creating this video.
A third person makes NO DIFFERENCE AT ALL. It's just covering it up... It's still happening. Most times the other employees know anyway... They just don't care.
meaningful lesson learnt
No . Not okay at ALL.
I got a coworker that flirts with me she'll just say things like "since you didn't talk to me" wanting my attention etc. She got a bangin body but I do my best to not straight say things like that but I do care about her well being more than the other chicks. It's natural to be attracted to attractive people but I often remind myself I wouldn't want a dude at work outright flirting with my girl but I'd like to think I wouldn't date a girl who flirts with guys at work. The thing is two people may spend more time with coworkers than their actual partners so what do you expect
I just want to point out that it's possible to cheat on your spouse with someone of the same sex, it doesn't need to be opposite.
He is talking about straight people. Straight people don't get romantic emotional feelings for the same sex, that would make them bisexual or gay if they did.
@@NowIknow24345 doesn't change the fact what he is true
This happens especially one person happens to be in position of power...it happened with me and you just can't focus in your personal life... decide and move on...
People are going to do what they want to do, so this video is really only useful to the individuals that despise infidelity by all means. Really good tips however, thanks.
Very true.
Wow. I watched this video too late. I broke all those rules and I’m madly in love with my work wife. I’ve been on this emotional roller coaster for over a month now. Nothing physical has happened but I am head over heels in love. What do I do now?
Stop
Leave your wife because if you’re that easily tempted then you obviously don’t love her. I hope she finds happiness and real love in the future. And I hope that this fantasy idea of your co worker also works out. It would be a shame to throw away the life and family you’ve built with your existing wife and then find out the new bit of stuff isn’t what you thought it was. Good luck
@@Sarah-ft8jr Wait, so you’re saying to leave my wife or don’t leave my wife?
@@Maryland_KulakDon’t leave your wife for somebody temporary in your life.
Start treating your real wife with the respect she deserves and leave the work slapper alone!
Employers should stop fraternizing at all cost really how have we came to the point that this term is even a topic
What if I am bisexual?
I would think the same thing. They chose you as a partner, didn't they?
Yeah, the “member of the opposite sex” spiel is so old.
Lol
acting like it cant be possible with same sex
🏳️🌈
Actually it's way better than a "real" wife who cannot care less about shit you're doing all day. We aint going to live long, do what suit you most.
I appreciate this perspective too. I’m madly in love with my boss. I want to be her work husband; I just need to tone my emotions down a notch.
@@Maryland_Kulakthen get together with her. Leave you're wife or go for an open relationship and tell your wife.
Oof what miserable advice
Can we avoid heteronormativity? It isn't always members of the opposite sex, but simply someone you are attracted to. Inclusion is everything
I hope you're like me and eventually grow out of all this political correct liberal nonsense and see it for the bullshit that it really is
Look how young he is! Sickening how this world has completely blinded and brainwashed him. UGH. His children will never know the truth. Every generation will prove blinder than the one before. Sick sick sick.... evil. 😔😔😔😔😔
Jesse Desrosiers, heterosexuality IS the only "normal". I feel so bad for you. Clearly, you have been greatly deceived. This is so sad. Anything outside of hetero is perverse. UGH. I can't. ☹☹☹☹☹
No. Notice "norm" in that word.
boom boom 🙄 in case you didn’t know sexuality is a spectrum
Uhm why does he always specify "Member of the opposite sex"? it just felt weird. Why not say "member of preferred sex"?
+TheonlyHoneyBadger Yeah, I was gonna say.
Why? uses less syllables.
Hey guys, might wanna grab a ba-ba and blankie because here comes this free thinker's earth shaking Independent Thought: Not everyone accepts the homosexual - or ANY "sexual" outside of hetero - lifestyle, nor do they have to. Ahem. I said, NOR DO THEY HAVE TO. Should all humans be treated courteously and w/compassion, regardless of their beliefs? OH HELL YES. Should any human be attacked for holding an opposing view? OH HELL NO. So dolls, find that safe space and have a good cry if necessary. There's no shame in being upset. Working through our feelings is crucial to healthy growth. Now here comes the hard part, tho... next step on the road of Adulting is getting the hell over others' disagreement, yeah? Only spoiled brats believe it's their right to stomp anyone who disagrees. I *WILL NEVER* endorse perverted sexuality. And you *WILL NEVER* make me. Understand? 😚😚😚 💋💋💋
Sniwflakes
Because in NATURE opposite sex attraction is the norm what happens 90% of the time. Why do people need to mention exceptions to the norm. You folks are going to be really sad when pushing this shit down our throats instead of just living your life backfires. ENOUGH.
Seriously?!
Who needs this video??
"Emotional Infidelity?!" 😂😂 turn it on, what a load...
How old were you when u wrote this? This is very much a real thing.
You're so wrong LOL Actually, the most cheatings always happened when the wife is home all day, she gets frustrated and lonely because her husband is always working so, she brings over some random guy so he can give her what her husband doesn't have time to give her LOL
What a weird way to tell everyone you're a cheater.
@@the_lab_rat Don't get it twisted, I was never married and I don't plan getting married any day soon LOL I'm just telling the truth about the so called House wives. I've seen it time and time again, some even planned murder on their husbands because they wanted to keep the boyfriend but, didn't want to get divorced. These are FACTS.....
Lol no
Can you spell ACCOUNTABILITY?
Because wives don't work?! Come off it!