Mama Tot you help SO many people are are there for all of us. So it’s okay to let us help you and grieve with you when you’re hurting and needing a shoulder to cry on. You deserve nothing but love my dear. You cry all you want to, off camera or on, we’re here for you and love you no matter what! ❤️❤️❤️
Mama tot sometimes it's our turn to make u feel better. I've followed u for a while now. I love u. I can't begin to imagine how ur feeling. We love u mama tot.
People DO come to your page for laughs and to see your sweet smile, but it's also okay to share that there's nothing wrong with raw emotion and that it's okay to have a good cleansing cry! THAT helps a lot of 'us' more than you'll ever know! You are "relatable content" on every level, and you are worthy, you are loved! Grief has NO timeline & it's different for every person. Lifting you in prayers of comfort on your hard days hun!💕
Mama Tot, you're human! Showing us your raw emotions sometimes helps remind us that it's ok. We love you for all that you are! Thank you so much for being you! Your loving, funny, emotional, sweet, amazing self! It's ok to feel, and you've been here for all of us, so we are here for you too!
Mama Tot let it out love. This is real people need to see how grief really is. I went through really bad grief after losing my husband. I know losing a child is by far the hardest. Sending prayers love. God bless you and your family. 🙏💜🙏💜🙏
Mama Tot… you are so amazing and positive. We know you must grieve so deeply the loss of your son. I found you on TikTok during the pandemic quarantine in 2020, and I loved you. I became a faithful Tater Tot that day. I love you, faults and all. Keep the happy memories close to help you work thru your moments of extreme grief.❤️❤️❤️🥰
Hugs Mama Tot! You’re REAL and human and losing a child is THE worst, most painful, awful, horrible thing EVER!! You are amazing! You are strong and fantastic! Sending you so much love and Light and healing. Jesus loves you and so do we. 🤗🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Awwww mama Tot 😢 this doesn’t ruin anyone’s day! We want to be here for you too like you are for everyone else! You’re such a beautiful soul and my hope and prayers for you is that you’ll feel the comfort, strength and peace of Jesus!!! Much love and hugs to you beautiful!!!
I would rather you be real with us than fake. There are so many fake content creators nowadays that don't show what being a real human is like. Our days are not sunshine and rainbows. We have to deal with real emotions. I can't imagine what you are going through, but please know you are only human. Your emotions are real! Your tears are real! Never apologize for being real! Hugs to you and your family! ❤
You have EVERY RIGHT ON THIS PLANET EARTH to grieve. You are your own person. You do not owe anyone anything and yet you still HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH and make other people's days better even going through what you are going through. That takes a strong person to do that. Remember, you come first. Because you can't take care of everyone else while pouring from an empty cup. Love you❤
MamaTot, I would hug you so big right now. Grief is so hard to deal with and as mothers we learn to mask our feelings as to not hurt others. My mom had major depressive disorder and it turns out I have it too, along with PTSD. I learned to mask well, but when my aunt passed in 2017 (she was a mother to me) I had NO ONE. You are loved.❤❤❤
Mama Tot please try to ignore the haters. They don't like their life and want to try and ruin others. I love you and your videos! You post or don't post what ever you feel like posting. I'm here for you either way. Everybody grieves in their own way.
I lost my big brother this year. I had a family member, in their own grief of his loss, try to judge how others were grieving or not. I wish everyone would understand that we all grieve differently and that some of us choose to do so privately. Not everything has to be a social media post to mean something. One thing I've learned about grief through the years... It never goes away. You don't just go through the stages, and then you're done. You will go through some of them over and over. But they start to destroy you less and less. And one day, even through the pain, you find yourself able to smile again. And that's a beautiful thing because no one who loved you would want you to be sad forever. Thank you for sharing with us, Mamatot.
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Mama Tot - you are a human being! With all that you have been through, we know that it is impossible for you to be all "love and light" 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We are here because you are a "real" person... We are here to support you as much as you help us. When you have these days and you share them, I want you to know that you are still helping us out here. It shows us that we are okay, even though we can't get out of bed some days... We need these videos, and you need them as well. You for "getting it out and teaching us" and us for seeing that we are not the only ones going through these things... God bless you Mama Tot!
Your soul radiates light and love, under the pain. Your words comfort so many people, going through so many things. Never doubt it and never stop being you- happy, sad, mourning, encouraging, beautiful, full of light, funny, inspiring, and all the things you are. Sending love ❤
Love you Mama Tot. Because you are "real" is the reason I follow you. I don't need to be entertained. I love the love you create on your platform. Be YOU!! Big hug.
Thank you…….truly thank you for being so real in this video. A very strong woman to admit that you’re human. Know that you can have your days to just be by yourself & survive moment by moment. Prayers to you sweet lady 🙏
You're a beautiful doll, Mama Tot; but you're not made of plastic. You're human, as we all are, made of flesh and blood and lots of heart! God bless you in your grief and joy. We love you, and we appreciate your gift to bring love and laughter to others. I appreciate your realness and authenticity. Much love to you. ❤❤
Mama Tot, you are an angel and you bring people, me included so mych happiness and joy ♥Grief is something we all have to deal with from time to time and it's ok. We all need time to work through our own grief be it with whatever amount of tears needed. Take your time Mama Tot. No one is going anywhere. Heaps of love from Sweden, honeypie ♥
Mama Tot, you are such an inspiration to so many people. Loved by many people as well. I have to say you make my day brighter. You are fine if you show that you are struggling day to day. That is what grief is about. If people cannot understand the grief you show they have never experienced losing a child. You grieve the way you need. Do not let the keyboard warriors try to tell you how to cope day to day. Love you so much, May God lay his hands on you daily.
Mamatot you are strong! God bless you honey as you navigate your way through your grief. You are 💯% correct, it's your grief & live through it the best way you know how. Everyone griefs differently. There is no right or wrong way. You NEVER get over it, you learn how to live through it. God bless you 🙏 ❤
Mama you are human and I'm sure everyone agrees! You cant be strong all the time and not take care of your feelings too! You sit with us all the time please let us sit with you too. Wish i could give you a huge Hug but since i cant im sending love and prayers your way and a virtual Hug! YOU HAVE US!!!!!
Thinking of you Mama tot ❤ You are human and can only do so much but I hope you know how badass and strong you are!! ❤ I can’t imagine the heart break you go through every second of everyday but by pushing on you truly change MANY peoples lives daily with your kindness/laughter/wisdom. But we also understand needing breaks and taking breaks. Sending all the love to Alabama! ❤️❤️❤️
I’m a self soother too. I hid in the closet and prayed or thought. Or read by a flashlight. My mother had major depression and severe anxiety. I got myself up everyday and to the school bus. Made my own lunch. I know that pain. But I cannot imagine losing my daughter. You are a good person and you deserve to grieve too in your own way. There is a lot of love out here for you.
“It’s okay, to not be okay” Eeyore We love you! In all forms of your love laughter and sadness Thanks for being real as always from one bama to another
Mama Tot you have helped more people then you know. Everyone deals with grief in different ways. When I lost my dad I was the one who made sure everyone was ok and comfort them. I was crushed when I lost him and when my siblings went back home to their families and lives I was left to try to deal with my grief alone. I was always the one to be strong for everyone. People don’t understand that those of us who are that way have a very hard time showing emotions. I totally understand how you feel and I Admire you, but I also am very greatful for the fact that you are showing a side that you have a hard time with dealing with your loss. I Love You Mama Tot!!! ❤️❤️❤️
We all go thru good times and bad times. That's part of life. It's ok to cry. You are human and tears are healing to the soul. We will love each other thru good and bad times. We love you!❤❤⚘️⚘️
Mama Tot!! HUUGGGSSSS! I admire your honesty and bravery in showing that not every minute is filled with joy. BUT - even with tears falling, there is so much love. We cry because our hearts are overflowing with longing to see, hear, touch, hug our loved ones. We just have to remember that when we think that they’re not here, we MUST remember when they were! We create memories so we will LIVE with each other forever! Sending you lots of hugs and love
My daughter was also murdered at 19. We never know when our heart needs to grieve. Ride the waves the best you can and don’t feel bad for having feelings. 🥰🥰🥰. Stay strong mama!
Oh Mama Tot, I love you so very much. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you for being you. You are so very strong. Thank you for making me laugh and feel loved. You are one of the most amazing women I know and we have never met. You keep doing you. You way!! Thank you for your channel and sharing your beautiful family with all of us. Please know that you are in my prayers always. And No, I hope never have to live with the lose of one of my boys. But I am one of those who will stay in my room and just be alone. But, we never give up. We just take a time out. And that is okay. God is with us and uses that time to make us stronger so that we can face the next day. My love and peace are always with you.
You are amazing. Yea we come for the laughs and comfort but we can be here for you too. You are real and that's what we love most about you. Love you momma tot❤❤❤❤️❤️
I am so very sorry for your loss of your son. You are always in my prayers. You can not go around worrying about what other people say, there are so many mean people in this world. You do what you have to do for you, and grieve the way you want to and I pray that you have peace of mind knowing you are an inspiration to us all. Grief is a hard thing to go through. I miss my Mama and Daddy every single day. I love you for all that you do to lift up others. We are all here for you always ! 🙏💙♥
It's ok momma tot i had a child murdered also but I got no justice you have your good days and your bad days and it's ok nit to be ok we love u ❤️ 💗 ❤❤😊😊😊😊
Mama you are such a beautiful soul. I hope that you find catharsis in sharing your story with us. Your videos have helped me to get through some terrible days. I'm thankful that you exist. Sending all my love and good thoughts to you💕
Keep doing what you're doing Ophelia. You are a blessing to my life with your videos. How many times I was just about to give up when everything felt lost and all hope was gone. And then I stumbled onto one of your videos saying "it's going to be okay, everything is going to be alright". And that keeps me going, you with your videos and encouragement keeps me going. And I am forever grateful for that. So keep going, you are not alone. You are in our hearts and prayers. You are loved.
I was just thinking yesterday how you were. I pray you find some solace in every thing you do. I know how much you hurt and it breaks my heart. We each must handle heartache in our own way. I will pray for you, sweet Moma. Loving you from Tennessee♥️🙏🏻♥️
Miss Ophelia, I started watching you on TikTok a few years ago. I instantly fell in love with your spirit, brilliance and resilience. Your ability to find sunshine in times of adversity(to the 9th degree), caring more about others than your Beautiful self! Not only physical beauty but true inner beauty that very few have these days. Please know that not only are You Loved, You Are Love! I Love You and hope that this reaches You. You're allowed to grieve, your way and in your time!
Mama Tot You are So Special... We Love You ❣️... Never Let That Evil Woman Back In Your Life 😭 A Snake Only Shed's It's Skin To Be a Bigger Snake 🐍 My Heart Goes Out To You 💞 Derrick You Have An Awesome Wife Be Love Her Forever ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your life with us. It means so much we are going through grief alone. All we can do is shareable that we have in what makes us the person we are. God bless you and your family and when you pray 🙏 and you run out of things to pray about,pray for me and my sons,covid killed my only daughter and I can't wait to be with her and her daddy ❤️ I love e you Mama Tot. I have no words of wisdom for you except just keep doing what you are doing and keep keeping on.🎉
Sending you my love and prayers MamaTot. Do you, that's all we can do. I am so sorry for your loss and can't even imagine the grief you feel. May God continue to guide you and strengthen you.
Mama Tot we all love you so much. You don't have to share your grief, but know we're all here for you. You're a person and a mom to millions. We're here for you whether you're willing to share your pain or decide to keep it private. You're never alone even if many of us can't understand what you're going through❤
Thank you so much for being so open and honest about grief. I relate to this so very deeply. I’m all by myself. My mother passed away when I was 25, she died in her sleep, my father just died three years ago from lung cancer, when I was 39, and my only brother committed suicide when I was 40, the only person I have left in my life is a stepdad that is verbally abusive, I can’t go to him for anything, he is a hardware store and I need bread. I can’t go to anybody. I have to self soothe myself too as a 42 yr old. But I’ll tell you one thing thing that gives me a lot of comfort. And that’s the Lord Jesus Christ!!!! Knowing I have a Heavenly Father that watches over me, even as I live life with a broken heart, I don’t have a husband or children and none of my extended family out-of-state rarely call to check on me. It’s just me against the world. And my relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. And I’m so grateful to have him. Without that relationship, I probably would have committed suicide too.
It’s okay to be yourself sometimes too… we love you Mama Tot. You deserve our love and support for everything you give us. You are an amazing human being and if you need us we’re here for you ❤
I now know and feel your pain. My Son passed on Mothers day this year. He is always on my mind everyday and sometimes I just can't hold in the tears. My hands are shaking writing this to you. Your heart is breaking but it is not broken. The empathy you have for others is God given and is a gift you share with others. Bless you Mama Tot
I lost my dad last year to cancer and I loved him so deeply, he was a huge part of my world. I still hurt so bad and I cry about it almost every day a year and a half later. I keep it private because I don't feel anyone gets it or maybe they'll judge me still missing him. I KNOW HOW YOU'RE FEELING mama tot. I know that pain, it doesn't even get any damn better. I feel it all the time. I'm so sorry for the hole in your heart. I love you so much.
Sharing your grief IS loving on people. There are people who are going thru this and have NO ONE to talk to. They think they are in this alone. YOU show them they are NOT. ❤❤❤❤
Mama Tot you are so strong for so many people.. its ok to cry and allow someone to be strong for you ❤ I always say be kind because everyone is fighting a battle that no one knows about.
Love you Mama T. From the day your Tok crossed my news feed almost 2yrs ago, I've been following you ever since till my account was banned, but so glad to have found you here. Sending big hugs your way. You are a blessing to me and have definitely made my day by making me laugh and see how love and family really are. You and Papa T are good peoples.
@@ophelianichols9249 Thank you Mama T. Just letting you know, you are not a lone. When you are grieving, your extended family grieves with you. When you are smiling, we smile with you. When you are at your favorite spot grabbing some tasty food, we are grabbing it with you. When you have that "Tea", we love listening. Stay encouraged Mama T.
I am sitting here crying with you.. I can't imagine what your going threw. No parent should ever have to bury a child. I know you always put on a smile and try to make everyone else have a good. You have to take care of you ! We all need mental health days and if anyone deserves a few that's definitely you!
I lost a dear friend and mentor this summer and it’s wrecked me. I can hardly cope sometimes. And all I can think of “holy shit how does ANYONE deal with losing a child? Or a spouse….” I have NO clue. Sincerely. Death and grief SUCKS. It’s horrible. Grief has NO timeline and no rules. You do you Mama Tot. Love and hugs and blessings.
You just showed up in my feed today. Just want to say I’m so sorry and also so impressed by you. I did the same thing in my childhood because of my mom.. went to my room and ate dinner by myself and listened to music. I now have no family and am alone. You are absolutely right. You push forward and you do the best you can and no one can tell you how to feel or how to get through it. You are a very strong woman.
It's ok to cry. It's part of healing. We love you and are here for you. You have lots of shoulders to lean on. We are all here for each other. Sending love and hugs.
Mamatot...I am also a self soother...I had to be. I had an evil evil man for a father and a mom who didn't protect me. I spent alot of time in my room also but mostly because I wasn't allowed out of my room. I'm 57 yrs old and still trying to figure life out. And then to make it worse I lost my husband, 4 yrs ago, the man who loved me like no one else had. And accepted me, all the flaws and scars, for me. And now it's just me again and it is still a daily struggle going thru life without him and we never know when that wave of grief will hit us. So it's ok to be human in front of people who care for us. Thank you mamatot for always being a bright spot in my very sad life.
No thank you for this. This and the other day you made about grieve has really helped me. I understand how you feel and I’m right there with you. My baby was at from me at only two months old. We all appreciate your realness and never ever change
Mama Tot October 10th will be the 3 years since I lost two of my nieces in a horrific car accident, they were 33 years old and 8 years old. It hasn’t gotten easier, but, my family is learning to live our new normal. I completely understand your feelings. Your videos help me so much more than you know. Sending Love and Hugs to you
Sometimes it's ok for US to help YOU feel better. Sending you tons of love and hugs!! I do the self soothing thing myself... sometimes we just need to be left alone, work thru the pain, and then when we feel strong enough again, we can put on our face, and show ourselves to the world. ANYONE who tells you that you aren't grieving, is trying to force you to grieve "their way"... that's not right. That's never right. That's bullying and it's disgusting behavior. You are a beautiful soul, and my belief is, sometimes the most beautiful souls have been thru the worst trials. I cried with you today, and I thank you for that... I needed to cry, but couldn't. Thank you for all you do, and please dont let the haters make you feel like you have to change, because even then, they will find another reason and another. I pray that you feel the love, support, healing vibes and well wishes from us... and when you are feeling down, come back and read some of these... We are here for you.
Honey you are never making anyone have a bad day we all love you and care if you need to vent girl go for it it’s okay to have feelings and to cry and talk about it hang in there everyday is a better and new day to have a fresh start. Love you ❤😊
We love you no matter what ! Grief is hard and everyone handles it differently you grieve the way you need to . sending you love hugs and prayers 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💕
I am so sorry for your loss and your grief. I lost my 28 year old daughter 9 years ago to a freak accident. I have 3 other children. So I understand your feeling cursed and blessed at the same time. Do your best to take care of you. Time doesn’t heal somethings, but only time can make the hurt less heavy. Love and hugs.
I love you because you are honest and genuine. Your grief is real and honest. You've been a beacon of hope for so many. Sharing your grief is not something you should have to apologize for. You have to get through every day, the best way you can. Grief does not have a timeline. You are entitled to your privacy. Wishing you love and peaceful happy memories. I'm so deeply sorry for the hurt your heart feels.
I have just now come across you on UA-cam. I am so sorry for the loss of your son and suffering that you have endured in your lifetime. Sending you hugs from east Texas. I will pray that God brings you His comfort and peace, and enough sweet memories to ease your pain to give you strength. ❤ Thank you for having the courage to make this video.
You are allowed to feel your feelings, good or bad. You don't have to share the bad times, but thank you for doing it to help others who may be going through what you are going through. And your community (us) is here for you no matter what. ❤
3 years later and I feel that deep grief. I can’t even talk about it without breaking down. But there are things to be done.. so I just keep it pushing.
I am so sorry. Thank you for being you and sharing. You are a beautiful person inside and out. There are stages of grief and everyone hadles theirs differently. For me, griebing the loss from a suicide has brought me closer to God as i turned to Him and He was there to listen and comfort me as i morned. I pray you feel peace and love now and always. God bless you 💜
So sorry, Opie. I am sorry for the pain you are enduring because of losing your son. I understand your pain. My self soothing is sound. I have to either listen to TV, or things on my phone. You’re one of them. Thank you🥺
I lost my husband in April, please know Mama Tot, I understand what you're going thru, All I can say is I love you, you have helped me so much. I wish I could be there to hold you and hug you right now!!!!
You are human and still greiving for your loss of your son, and its ok to cry and take care of yourself fist. You are not ruining my day. ❤ I am always thinking of you and papatot praying for you both.
You are helping more people then you know, grief is the hardest thing to deal with, I just lost my dad and knowing I’m not alone in my break downs and that it is ok not to be ok. I can relate so much to this so thank you for sharing
I am so sad for you. I wish we could show you how much we truly love and appreciate you. You are so special to so many people. You are loved! ((HUGS)) ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Mama Tot you help SO many people are are there for all of us. So it’s okay to let us help you and grieve with you when you’re hurting and needing a shoulder to cry on. You deserve nothing but love my dear. You cry all you want to, off camera or on, we’re here for you and love you no matter what! ❤️❤️❤️
Love you Mamatot...I pray for you EVERY DAY 🙏
Mama tot sometimes it's our turn to make u feel better. I've followed u for a while now. I love u. I can't begin to imagine how ur feeling. We love u mama tot.
People DO come to your page for laughs and to see your sweet smile, but it's also okay to share that there's nothing wrong with raw emotion and that it's okay to have a good cleansing cry! THAT helps a lot of 'us' more than you'll ever know! You are "relatable content" on every level, and you are worthy, you are loved! Grief has NO timeline & it's different for every person. Lifting you in prayers of comfort on your hard days hun!💕
Mama Tot, you're human! Showing us your raw emotions sometimes helps remind us that it's ok. We love you for all that you are! Thank you so much for being you! Your loving, funny, emotional, sweet, amazing self! It's ok to feel, and you've been here for all of us, so we are here for you too!
Mama Tot let it out love. This is real people need to see how grief really is. I went through really bad grief after losing my husband. I know losing a child is by far the hardest. Sending prayers love. God bless you and your family. 🙏💜🙏💜🙏
Mama Tot… you are so amazing and positive. We know you must grieve so deeply the loss of your son. I found you on TikTok during the pandemic quarantine in 2020, and I loved you. I became a faithful Tater Tot that day. I love you, faults and all. Keep the happy memories close to help you work thru your moments of extreme grief.❤️❤️❤️🥰
Thank you Momma Tot for just being you. I pray God takes your pain and helps you to keep fighting. We love you!!!!
Amen Momma Tot. Keep doing you. You said that very well.
Hugs Mama Tot! You’re REAL and human and losing a child is THE worst, most painful, awful, horrible thing EVER!! You are amazing! You are strong and fantastic! Sending you so much love and Light and healing. Jesus loves you and so do we. 🤗🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Awwww mama Tot 😢 this doesn’t ruin anyone’s day! We want to be here for you too like you are for everyone else! You’re such a beautiful soul and my hope and prayers for you is that you’ll feel the comfort, strength and peace of Jesus!!! Much love and hugs to you beautiful!!!
I would rather you be real with us than fake. There are so many fake content creators nowadays that don't show what being a real human is like. Our days are not sunshine and rainbows. We have to deal with real emotions. I can't imagine what you are going through, but please know you are only human. Your emotions are real! Your tears are real! Never apologize for being real! Hugs to you and your family! ❤
Mama Tot there is no right way to grieve. Everyone grieves differently. Your lifht shines in even the darkest of places ❤
You have EVERY RIGHT ON THIS PLANET EARTH to grieve. You are your own person. You do not owe anyone anything and yet you still HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH and make other people's days better even going through what you are going through. That takes a strong person to do that. Remember, you come first. Because you can't take care of everyone else while pouring from an empty cup. Love you❤
MamaTot, I would hug you so big right now. Grief is so hard to deal with and as mothers we learn to mask our feelings as to not hurt others. My mom had major depressive disorder and it turns out I have it too, along with PTSD. I learned to mask well, but when my aunt passed in 2017 (she was a mother to me) I had NO ONE. You are loved.❤❤❤
Mama Tot please try to ignore the haters. They don't like their life and want to try and ruin others. I love you and your videos! You post or don't post what ever you feel like posting. I'm here for you either way. Everybody grieves in their own way.
I lost my big brother this year. I had a family member, in their own grief of his loss, try to judge how others were grieving or not. I wish everyone would understand that we all grieve differently and that some of us choose to do so privately. Not everything has to be a social media post to mean something.
One thing I've learned about grief through the years... It never goes away. You don't just go through the stages, and then you're done. You will go through some of them over and over. But they start to destroy you less and less. And one day, even through the pain, you find yourself able to smile again. And that's a beautiful thing because no one who loved you would want you to be sad forever.
Thank you for sharing with us, Mamatot.
@@mimsydreams I’m so very sorry to hear about your brother 🥹💔
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Some of us can hold your grief too, if you need so. You do what's best for you, but you are never a burden to others with your griefs and your sorrows. Darling, you deserve to be comforted too, like you do for others.
We love you, Mama Tot. With your joys, your sorrows, your shine, your pain, your grace and all. ❤🍀🤗
Grief is a part of love, MamaTot. We need this too.
Mama Tot - you are a human being! With all that you have been through, we know that it is impossible for you to be all "love and light" 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We are here because you are a "real" person... We are here to support you as much as you help us. When you have these days and you share them, I want you to know that you are still helping us out here. It shows us that we are okay, even though we can't get out of bed some days... We need these videos, and you need them as well. You for "getting it out and teaching us" and us for seeing that we are not the only ones going through these things...
God bless you Mama Tot!
Your soul radiates light and love, under the pain. Your words comfort so many people, going through so many things. Never doubt it and never stop being you- happy, sad, mourning, encouraging, beautiful, full of light, funny, inspiring, and all the things you are. Sending love ❤
Love you Mama Tot. Because you are "real" is the reason I follow you. I don't need to be entertained. I love the love you create on your platform. Be YOU!! Big hug.
You could NEVER ruin my day! Even in your dark times your are a shining light for us! You show us that creators are real people! Love you Mama Tot!
Thank you…….truly thank you for being so real in this video. A very strong woman to admit that you’re human. Know that you can have your days to just be by yourself & survive moment by moment. Prayers to you sweet lady 🙏
You're a beautiful doll, Mama Tot; but you're not made of plastic. You're human, as we all are, made of flesh and blood and lots of heart! God bless you in your grief and joy. We love you, and we appreciate your gift to bring love and laughter to others. I appreciate your realness and authenticity. Much love to you. ❤❤
Mama Tot, you are an angel and you bring people, me included so mych happiness and joy ♥Grief is something we all have to deal with from time to time and it's ok. We all need time to work through our own grief be it with whatever amount of tears needed. Take your time Mama Tot. No one is going anywhere. Heaps of love from Sweden, honeypie ♥
Mama Tot is absolutely an amazing, strong women and I look up to you in sooo many ways. Xoxo
Mama Tot, you are such an inspiration to so many people. Loved by many people as well. I have to say you make my day brighter. You are fine if you show that you are struggling day to day. That is what grief is about. If people cannot understand the grief you show they have never experienced losing a child. You grieve the way you need. Do not let the keyboard warriors try to tell you how to cope day to day. Love you so much, May God lay his hands on you daily.
Mamatot you are strong! God bless you honey as you navigate your way through your grief. You are 💯% correct, it's your grief & live through it the best way you know how. Everyone griefs differently. There is no right or wrong way. You NEVER get over it, you learn how to live through it. God bless you 🙏 ❤
My daughter passed 4 years ago. I still cry everyday. It’s very helpful knowing I’m not alone with these feelings and emotions. Thank you.
Mama you are human and I'm sure everyone agrees! You cant be strong all the time and not take care of your feelings too! You sit with us all the time please let us sit with you too. Wish i could give you a huge Hug but since i cant im sending love and prayers your way and a virtual Hug! YOU HAVE US!!!!!
Thinking of you Mama tot ❤ You are human and can only do so much but I hope you know how badass and strong you are!! ❤ I can’t imagine the heart break you go through every second of everyday but by pushing on you truly change MANY peoples lives daily with your kindness/laughter/wisdom. But we also understand needing breaks and taking breaks. Sending all the love to Alabama! ❤️❤️❤️
I’m a self soother too. I hid in the closet and prayed or thought. Or read by a flashlight. My mother had major depression and severe anxiety. I got myself up everyday and to the school bus. Made my own lunch. I know that pain. But I cannot imagine losing my daughter. You are a good person and you deserve to grieve too in your own way. There is a lot of love out here for you.
“It’s okay, to not be okay”
Eeyore
We love you!
In all forms of your love laughter and sadness
Thanks for being real as always from one bama to another
Bless your heart momma tot I hope I never know your grief I send you all my love
Mama Tot you have helped more people then you know. Everyone deals with grief in different ways. When I lost my dad I was the one who made sure everyone was ok and comfort them. I was crushed when I lost him and when my siblings went back home to their families and lives I was left to try to deal with my grief alone. I was always the one to be strong for everyone. People don’t understand that those of us who are that way have a very hard time showing emotions. I totally understand how you feel and I Admire you, but I also am very greatful for the fact that you are showing a side that you have a hard time with dealing with your loss. I Love You Mama Tot!!! ❤️❤️❤️
We all go thru good times and bad times. That's part of life. It's ok to cry. You are human and tears are healing to the soul. We will love each other thru good and bad times. We love you!❤❤⚘️⚘️
Mama Tot, god speed my friend, you are loved. Grateful everyday for the lives of my children, I can’t even imagine your grief.
Mama Tot and Papa Tot, he sees your grief.
We love you. We are blessed to have you.
Mama Tot!! HUUGGGSSSS!
I admire your honesty and bravery in showing that not every minute is filled with joy.
BUT - even with tears falling, there is so much love. We cry because our hearts are overflowing with longing to see, hear, touch, hug our loved ones. We just have to remember that when we think that they’re not here, we MUST remember when they were! We create memories so we will LIVE with each other forever! Sending you lots of hugs and love
My daughter was also murdered at 19. We never know when our heart needs to grieve. Ride the waves the best you can and don’t feel bad for having feelings. 🥰🥰🥰. Stay strong mama!
Oh Mama Tot, I love you so very much. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you for being you. You are so very strong. Thank you for making me laugh and feel loved. You are one of the most amazing women I know and we have never met. You keep doing you. You way!! Thank you for your channel and sharing your beautiful family with all of us. Please know that you are in my prayers always. And No, I hope never have to live with the lose of one of my boys. But I am one of those who will stay in my room and just be alone. But, we never give up. We just take a time out. And that is okay. God is with us and uses that time to make us stronger so that we can face the next day. My love and peace are always with you.
Mama Tot listen... we love you and nobody is judging you, you have lived through the worst possible thing that a human can endure. You are so loved
You are amazing. Yea we come for the laughs and comfort but we can be here for you too. You are real and that's what we love most about you. Love you momma tot❤❤❤❤️❤️
I am so very sorry for your loss of your son. You are always in my prayers. You can not go around worrying about what other people say, there are so many mean people in this world. You do what you have to do for you, and grieve the way you want to and I pray that you have peace of mind knowing you are an inspiration to us all. Grief is a hard thing to go through. I miss my Mama and Daddy every single day. I love you for all that you do to lift up others. We are all here for you always ! 🙏💙♥
It's ok momma tot i had a child murdered also but I got no justice you have your good days and your bad days and it's ok nit to be ok we love u ❤️ 💗 ❤❤😊😊😊😊
Mama you are such a beautiful soul. I hope that you find catharsis in sharing your story with us. Your videos have helped me to get through some terrible days. I'm thankful that you exist. Sending all my love and good thoughts to you💕
Keep doing what you're doing Ophelia. You are a blessing to my life with your videos. How many times I was just about to give up when everything felt lost and all hope was gone. And then I stumbled onto one of your videos saying "it's going to be okay, everything is going to be alright". And that keeps me going, you with your videos and encouragement keeps me going. And I am forever grateful for that. So keep going, you are not alone. You are in our hearts and prayers. You are loved.
I was just thinking yesterday how you were. I pray you find some solace in every thing you do. I know how much you hurt and it breaks my heart. We each must handle heartache in our own way. I will pray for you, sweet Moma. Loving you from Tennessee♥️🙏🏻♥️
Miss Ophelia, I started watching you on TikTok a few years ago. I instantly fell in love with your spirit, brilliance and resilience. Your ability to find sunshine in times of adversity(to the 9th degree), caring more about others than your Beautiful self! Not only physical beauty but true inner beauty that very few have these days. Please know that not only are You Loved, You Are Love! I Love You and hope that this reaches You. You're allowed to grieve, your way and in your time!
Praying for you ❤. Thank you for being vulnerable and honest. Isolation is where the devil gets ya. You're loved, Mama Tot ❤
Mama Tot You are So Special... We Love You ❣️... Never Let That Evil Woman Back In Your Life 😭 A Snake Only Shed's It's Skin To Be a Bigger Snake 🐍 My Heart Goes Out To You 💞 Derrick You Have An Awesome Wife Be Love Her Forever ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your life with us. It means so much we are going through grief alone. All we can do is shareable that we have in what makes us the person we are. God bless you and your family and when you pray 🙏 and you run out of things to pray about,pray for me and my sons,covid killed my only daughter and I can't wait to be with her and her daddy ❤️
I love e you Mama Tot. I have no words of wisdom for you except just keep doing what you are doing and keep keeping on.🎉
Sending you my love and prayers MamaTot. Do you, that's all we can do. I am so sorry for your loss and can't even imagine the grief you feel. May God continue to guide you and strengthen you.
You have all of our love and support worldwide.
We love you Mama ToT! ❤
You're the best, Mama♡ Your grief is what we all fear. You are stronger than anyone❤❤❤
Mama Tot we all love you so much. You don't have to share your grief, but know we're all here for you. You're a person and a mom to millions. We're here for you whether you're willing to share your pain or decide to keep it private. You're never alone even if many of us can't understand what you're going through❤
Thank you so much for being so open and honest about grief. I relate to this so very deeply. I’m all by myself. My mother passed away when I was 25, she died in her sleep, my father just died three years ago from lung cancer, when I was 39, and my only brother committed suicide when I was 40, the only person I have left in my life is a stepdad that is verbally abusive, I can’t go to him for anything, he is a hardware store and I need bread. I can’t go to anybody. I have to self soothe myself too as a 42 yr old. But I’ll tell you one thing thing that gives me a lot of comfort. And that’s the Lord Jesus Christ!!!! Knowing I have a Heavenly Father that watches over me, even as I live life with a broken heart, I don’t have a husband or children and none of my extended family out-of-state rarely call to check on me. It’s just me against the world. And my relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. And I’m so grateful to have him. Without that relationship, I probably would have committed suicide too.
It’s okay to be yourself sometimes too… we love you Mama Tot. You deserve our love and support for everything you give us. You are an amazing human being and if you need us we’re here for you ❤
U do u momma u are a Rockstar 😊😊😊
I now know and feel your pain. My Son passed on Mothers day this year. He is always on my mind everyday and sometimes I just can't hold in the tears. My hands are shaking writing this to you. Your heart is breaking but it is not broken. The empathy you have for others is God given and is a gift you share with others. Bless you Mama Tot
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@@erincorbin9438 my heart is so big for your right now Erin. We are in this together. It’s so unfair. It truly is
@@ophelianichols9249 thank you for your reply. God bless you
I lost my dad last year to cancer and I loved him so deeply, he was a huge part of my world. I still hurt so bad and I cry about it almost every day a year and a half later. I keep it private because I don't feel anyone gets it or maybe they'll judge me still missing him. I KNOW HOW YOU'RE FEELING mama tot. I know that pain, it doesn't even get any damn better. I feel it all the time. I'm so sorry for the hole in your heart. I love you so much.
Bless you mama tot.... im so sorry for your loss
Sharing your grief IS loving on people. There are people who are going thru this and have NO ONE to talk to. They think they are in this alone. YOU show them they are NOT. ❤❤❤❤
Yes, hurt and blessed at the same time. They coexist.
Mama Tot you are so strong for so many people.. its ok to cry and allow someone to be strong for you ❤ I always say be kind because everyone is fighting a battle that no one knows about.
Love you Mama T. From the day your Tok crossed my news feed almost 2yrs ago, I've been following you ever since till my account was banned, but so glad to have found you here. Sending big hugs your way. You are a blessing to me and have definitely made my day by making me laugh and see how love and family really are. You and Papa T are good peoples.
It’s good to see you angel ❤
@@ophelianichols9249 Thank you Mama T. Just letting you know, you are not a lone. When you are grieving, your extended family grieves with you. When you are smiling, we smile with you. When you are at your favorite spot grabbing some tasty food, we are grabbing it with you. When you have that "Tea", we love listening. Stay encouraged Mama T.
I am sitting here crying with you.. I can't imagine what your going threw. No parent should ever have to bury a child. I know you always put on a smile and try to make everyone else have a good. You have to take care of you ! We all need mental health days and if anyone deserves a few that's definitely you!
I lost a dear friend and mentor this summer and it’s wrecked me. I can hardly cope sometimes. And all I can think of “holy shit how does ANYONE deal with losing a child? Or a spouse….” I have NO clue. Sincerely. Death and grief SUCKS. It’s horrible. Grief has NO timeline and no rules. You do you Mama Tot. Love and hugs and blessings.
Please take care of yourself love before trying to take care of anyone else. I had to learn this myself. God Bless.🙏💜🙏💜🙏
Oh I want to jump through this scene and hug you! You are the most important kind of beautiful!!!!!
You just showed up in my feed today. Just want to say I’m so sorry and also so impressed by you. I did the same thing in my childhood because of my mom.. went to my room and ate dinner by myself and listened to music. I now have no family and am alone. You are absolutely right. You push forward and you do the best you can and no one can tell you how to feel or how to get through it. You are a very strong woman.
It's ok to cry. It's part of healing. We love you and are here for you. You have lots of shoulders to lean on. We are all here for each other. Sending love and hugs.
I love you Mama Tot 💔 You are a blessing to many 🤍 XOXO
Mamatot...I am also a self soother...I had to be. I had an evil evil man for a father and a mom who didn't protect me. I spent alot of time in my room also but mostly because I wasn't allowed out of my room. I'm 57 yrs old and still trying to figure life out. And then to make it worse I lost my husband, 4 yrs ago, the man who loved me like no one else had. And accepted me, all the flaws and scars, for me. And now it's just me again and it is still a daily struggle going thru life without him and we never know when that wave of grief will hit us. So it's ok to be human in front of people who care for us. Thank you mamatot for always being a bright spot in my very sad life.
No thank you for this. This and the other day you made about grieve has really helped me. I understand how you feel and I’m right there with you. My baby was at from me at only two months old. We all appreciate your realness and never ever change
Mama tott! I’m so happy to see you on UA-cam! Thank you for sharing this with us! I love u!
You are amazing! Praying for you and all of us that grieve every day. Hugs❤
Oh sweetheart.
Sending a hug.
Mama Tot October 10th will be the 3 years since I lost two of my nieces in a horrific car accident, they were 33 years old and 8 years old. It hasn’t gotten easier, but, my family is learning to live our new normal. I completely understand your feelings. Your videos help me so much more than you know. Sending Love and Hugs to you
Sometimes it's ok for US to help YOU feel better. Sending you tons of love and hugs!!
I do the self soothing thing myself... sometimes we just need to be left alone, work thru the pain, and then when we feel strong enough again, we can put on our face, and show ourselves to the world. ANYONE who tells you that you aren't grieving, is trying to force you to grieve "their way"... that's not right. That's never right. That's bullying and it's disgusting behavior.
You are a beautiful soul, and my belief is, sometimes the most beautiful souls have been thru the worst trials. I cried with you today, and I thank you for that... I needed to cry, but couldn't. Thank you for all you do, and please dont let the haters make you feel like you have to change, because even then, they will find another reason and another. I pray that you feel the love, support, healing vibes and well wishes from us... and when you are feeling down, come back and read some of these... We are here for you.
You have been theough so much your entire life. Praying for peace for you.
Honey you are never making anyone have a bad day we all love you and care if you need to vent girl go for it it’s okay to have feelings and to cry and talk about it hang in there everyday is a better and new day to have a fresh start. Love you ❤😊
We love you no matter what ! Grief is hard and everyone handles it differently you grieve the way you need to . sending you love hugs and prayers 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💕
Please don't worry about being judged. You're helping me with your transparency ❤
We love all parts of your life. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Your life has changed since you started your platform and we are here for you. ❤
I am so sorry for your loss and your grief. I lost my 28 year old daughter 9 years ago to a freak accident. I have 3 other children. So I understand your feeling cursed and blessed at the same time. Do your best to take care of you. Time doesn’t heal somethings, but only time can make the hurt less heavy. Love and hugs.
I love you because you are honest and genuine. Your grief is real and honest. You've been a beacon of hope for so many. Sharing your grief is not something you should have to apologize for. You have to get through every day, the best way you can. Grief does not have a timeline. You are entitled to your privacy. Wishing you love and peaceful happy memories. I'm so deeply sorry for the hurt your heart feels.
I have just now come across you on UA-cam. I am so sorry for the loss of your son and suffering that you have endured in your lifetime. Sending you hugs from east Texas. I will pray that God brings you His comfort and peace, and enough sweet memories to ease your pain to give you strength. ❤ Thank you for having the courage to make this video.
I also lost my brother and Daddy. You are stronger than you think. I think you are wonderful and have no reason to explain yourself. ❤
You are allowed to feel your feelings, good or bad. You don't have to share the bad times, but thank you for doing it to help others who may be going through what you are going through. And your community (us) is here for you no matter what. ❤
3 years later and I feel that deep grief. I can’t even talk about it without breaking down. But there are things to be done.. so I just keep it pushing.
I am so sorry. Thank you for being you and sharing. You are a beautiful person inside and out. There are stages of grief and everyone hadles theirs differently. For me, griebing the loss from a suicide has brought me closer to God as i turned to Him and He was there to listen and comfort me as i morned. I pray you feel peace and love now and always. God bless you 💜
So sorry, Opie. I am sorry for the pain you are enduring because of losing your son. I understand your pain. My self soothing is sound. I have to either listen to TV, or things on my phone. You’re one of them. Thank you🥺
You're a gift for others!!! I love you!!! ❤️
I lost my husband in April, please know Mama Tot, I understand what you're going thru, All I can say is I love you, you have helped me so much. I wish I could be there to hold you and hug you right now!!!!
You are human and still greiving for your loss of your son, and its ok to cry and take care of yourself fist. You are not ruining my day. ❤ I am always thinking of you and papatot praying for you both.
You are helping more people then you know, grief is the hardest thing to deal with, I just lost my dad and knowing I’m not alone in my break downs and that it is ok not to be ok. I can relate so much to this so thank you for sharing
Been (am) there Mama, I know that no matter what others do and say, we all still walk the path alone and its a bummer. Huge hug to you xxx
I am so sad for you. I wish we could show you how much we truly love and appreciate you. You are so special to so many people. You are loved! ((HUGS)) ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing your strength.