Sex Series: Birth Control, Advice, and Honeymoon Hookups | You Can Sit With Us Ep. 159
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- Опубліковано 7 сер 2023
- Maggie, Matt, and Becky whittle down the best movie sex scene, talk birth control, birds and the bees, and an Am I the Asshole that'll make you CRINGE.
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Maggie's a blowjob "is a job, doesn't have to be your passion" line is golden lmfaaoo 🤣🤣
45:27 "Doesn't have to be your passion" had me CACKLING. 😂
I am a little older than Becky and Maggie, slightly younger than Matt, but I grew up in Rhode Island. We had a pretty progressive sex ed program, had a free clinic in our school (aside from the regular nurse), and one thing that stuck out in my mind is that our health teacher brought in a friend to speak to us. That friend was not only openly gay, but he was diagnosed with HIV, it may have been AIDS at that point, but he was very candid with what his life was like living with it. This was back in the early 2000s, so I can only hope we've continued to lead the way with a little more progressive discussions with our high school students. I also think it's so wild how different sex ed is depending on where you live and I understand why that is, but I do wish it was a little more of a national standard across the board to be honest with teenagers about the technical health aspects.
The contrast of both the ladies in white tops (glowing and beautiful) and Matt's black top is giving me vibes that I adore.
It's a bit "Eugene rubbed off on him" vibes. Hehe.
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Omg baby tummy was there this whole time😭🥹❤️ Congratulations!
I'm watching this back after Becky's announcement, AND THE WAY MAGGIE LOOKED AT BECKY A LITTLE AFTER 15:20 I feel so blind 😂😂😂😂 but CONGRATULATIONS 🎊
In NYC they told me in 8th grade. The teacher introduced us to OPTIONS, not just abstinence. He made it clear to ALWAYS use condoms and practice abstinence if youre ever unsure. In college I also opted to take sex Ed which DID cover every kind of sex, in including gay.. we also learned in depth about birth and we were taught about sexual orientation as it relates to a spectrum. I feel like that really made it easy to enter into adulthood with the correct tools.
episodes like this make me miss ariel. I bet she would’ve had great stories and insight
She’s never coming back, huh? 😢
Honestly if I was her I wouldn’t come back. She’s not a try wife anymore and it would just be so awkward
@cassidybrewer I don't want to gossip but she's staying with Ned so no. I wish her all the best
@@kenna163she unfortunately can’t have the best if she’s staying with that sad excuse of a man
@@andreayg0 you shouldn't judge people for the choices they make. A lot of women stay with men who cheated on them
For the Honeymoon Quandary - the husband needs to smooth this over with his mom. His mom shouldn't have tried to pressure wifey when he already said no - and he can lead with that. "Mom, I am upset that you tried to go behind my back to convince my wife to allow you to stay with us on our honeymoon. That was inappropriate. I told you no, and my wife told you no, but you kept asking her questions and put my wife in an awkward position. She regrets how she handled it and apologizes for the language she used, but we still want our privacy as a newly married couple on our honeymoon. This is our time together to celebrate this new stage in our lives, it is *not* a family vacation. We would be happy to have dinner with you one night, but if this is pushed again, that will be off the table."
Okay so my mind was BLOWN by the AITA story! Like no ma'am, they probably just spent plenty of time with you in preparation for the wedding/during the wedding and it is so intrusive to invite yourself on your son's honeymoon. The DIL went too far for sure, but also don't ask if you're not gonna like the answer 🤷♀️ it's totally okay for it to be about sex AND about privacy in general. We all know what a honeymoon is for 😂 come on now.
Keith and Becky are going to be amazing parents !!!❤
Aged so WELL OH MY GODDDDDD
They announced it yesterday!!!
I got the same American Girl book!!! I also gave it to every one of my friends when I finished reading it. I spread all the news from there! 😂
Matt just repeating “smooth operator” is KILLING ME
Just got my tonsils out and this is really making my day, and going back and listening to past pods is as well. Love you guys sm! Thank you for being another big sister for me to turn to
I was having such a bad day and listening to this brought me right out of it. Love you all ❤
I distinctly remember being SO disappointed that I was home sick on sex ed day in 5th grade. I really thought i missed out on a lot of important info. They did give me the brown paper bag with a pad, mini deodorant and pamphlet on toxic shock syndrome at least 😂 my own child just went through sex ed day at school and despite living in a progressive state not much has changed in the last few decades. It's up to us, parents!
In regards to the AITA: why is the mother in law pushing the issue to begin with? Like is she looking to sneak in a quick free vacation in this nice place they are renting? And what if it IS about the sex?? Like it’s a HONEYMOON!! Yeah it’s definitely about sex (though I wouldn’t have phrased it that way to his mom…)
thank you for this series!!
They did a lesson in health class in 5th grade and when I got home my mom gave me an illustrated book. I had actually found it in a drawer of hers months earlier!
I have PCOS and had similar period issues as Becky where they were irregular and sometimes continuous and at 32 I have only JUST found a pill that works for me.
Honestly, Matt saying that Titanic makes him think of s*x first was the funniest moment in the pod, but I’m obviously with Becky and Maggie. #Team📜
I just fell down the YCSWU rabbit hole and have watched multiple episodes, the last one being Henry's birth story. Now seeing her cute little bump is so beautiful! 💙
the appropriate cheeky answer to the mom asking if it's about sex would habe been: i mean it's our honeymoon. cheeky but respectful and making obvious that she's asking questions she doesn't want an answer to
i really hope asexual and aromantic identities are discussed in this sex series!
Why would they?
@@mills2075 why wouldn’t they?
Honestly, as a fellow asexual, everyone's too sexual to even think about us re: representation. It's why we get excluded from a lot of the LGBTQ+ things and there's as much division as it is. Hell I know of a lot of fellow A's that are harassed by the LGBTQ because they don't think we should even be included. Unless they already have someone A on staff it probably won't get included. There's more of us around than it seems, though, so you definitely aren't alone! There's a great comic called Oh Joy Sex Toy that does a great job at representing everybody.
@@spiercephotography i know but i’m still holding out a sliver of hope
@@patiencekillz Just means a few upcoming episodes that we can skip for a bit! And completely fair, I totally get it.
In the UK we had a hyperrealistic seatbelt ad growing up where the teenage kid in the backseat kills his mum by not wearing his seatbelt. It was very disturbing 😞
I absolutely love Maggie’s outfit this pod! 💖
The fact that Atonement was not in the sex scene bracket makes this whole thing a sham. The library scene HELLO!
My grandparents had separate beds until I was about 5 years old. So throughout my mom and her siblings' entire childhood their parents had separate beds. Them fools had seven kids. Those separate beds didn't do shit. And I have one couple friends now who have separate bedrooms. At first I thought it was weird but the longer I am with my bf the more genius I think it is. I love sleeping in the bed with him but somedays separate beds would be nice.
My grandparents had separate rooms, too. They couldn't sleep with each others' snoring and the rooms only had space for double beds which wasn't comfortable. One day I discovered something that indicated that they definitely still had a sex life, which my Memere laughed really hard about when she bragged about it.
I've always been really open with my Mum and some people think its weird cos we talk and joke about sex a lot, we've been accused of incesting it up lol but its helped our relationship because if you can talk about sex, you can talk about body issues and other issues more easily I feel.
What a great topic to bring up.
As I was growing up in California what scared me about drugs was seeing Beetle Juice and the charred man that passed away because of smoking. I thought that's what happened to people who smoke when I saw beetle juice.
I was 5 years old when I watched Beetle Juice, and of course, my school would teach us "Say no to drugs" This is elementary. There was one time when my friend invited me to a baby shower for her mother's friend and all the young girls went to a car and I thought, "Why are we going to a car?"
I see my friend lighting a cigarette and I get scared and call my dad to come to pick up! Drugs for me were a huge NO-NO and still are.
Now for middle school and high school, I knew my body was changing, and plus I had 1 older brother and three older sisters they all had their moments when they were tough by the school but I was so confused about how babies were made.
Sadly the kids near where I lived had magazines of porn and they would show all the kids laughing and smiling with their friends. I would be grossed out and scared I was 6 damn it!
I didn't know what I was looking at
My mom never spoke about this because she was never touched either by my grandmother. yea, she had five children but she was Mexican Catholic (Yes I have to say Mexican Catholic because in my mom's view "Mexicans and Catholics don't talk about this nastiness")and just knew that sex and the human body are hush-hush.
The only one who can see your body is a doctor when giving birth, your husband-wife, and nobody else. That was my mom's teaching.
Of course, high school health touches us, students. My mom still doesn't like talking about this subject. she says it discusses her.
I took a health class as a Gen Ed in college. During the sex ed portion of the course, we discussed it for about 3 weeks worth of classes, I believe. For 2 days out of the course, we had people come in and speak to the class. The first week we had people come in from Planned Parenthood. The second week we had people come in from a Crisis Pregnancy center (don't get me started on the terrible and misleading practices of these centers). They forced us to pass around a tiny rubber fetus that was supposedly what a fetus looks like at 3ish months or something of that sort. They then passed out individual fetuses to take home with us. It was very strange to see other adults discard their fetuses as you walked up the stairs to the next floor. Anyway, I kept mine, because it was freaking weird. I lived with my parents at the time because I went to community college. My brother is a couple years younger than me. I hid the fetus in the pocket of the pair of pants my brother planned to wear to school the next day. As he got ready in the next room the next morning, I could hear him giggling and giggling, because "what the hell". That night, I went to feed my goldfish before bed. I opened the fish food, and the fetus was inside. Later that week, I hid the fetus again somewhere in my brother's room. This went on throughout college. He would visit me or I would visit him, and whenever we went to each other's homes we would hide the fetus somewhere in the house. I even hid it in his apartment when he moved to California and I visited him over a long weekend. This ended somewhat abruptly once he moved back home from Cali about a year later. We would still visit each other, but I think we sort of forgot about the funny and strange tradition until it eventually fizzled out. But for at least 7 years, that fetus went on a hell of an adventure. Probably the most well- traveled fetus to date. That's my favorite sex ed story. I clearly retained a lot of information from the experience.
Damn I'm definitely grateful for my sex ED now, I'm and from the UK. when i was in school we learned about same sex intercourse safety, we were taught about dental dams, as well as the wooden penises to correctly learn to put on a condom, taught all about different birth control types, as well as STDs and they were surprisingly factual and not vilified.
(We only got separated by gender maybe once when i was 13-14)
AITA; Daught in law did not go far. Mother in law straight up asked, "is this about sex?" She was crossing the line first, especially because it was their honeymoon she was trying to invite herself to!
SO EXCITED FOR THIS EPISODE
The scare tactic car accident videos kept me from driving...I still have massive panic attacks
That mother in law was asking for it. I would have said the same thing. I don't think it was going too far lmao it's their honey moon leave them alone ! 😂
I took health in high school, MN, 2004-2008. We had an awesome teacher she passed around all types of birth control, we practiced putting on condoms on wooden penises, and we did see pictures of STI’s. They said that “the only 100% safe birth control is abstinence but here’s all these other options.” We also had to watch a childbirth video. It’s so interesting to hear how everyone’s experiences were varied.
Which also to say, I read my older sister’s book “Where Do Babies Come From?” At age five to my younger sister 😮 So my parents were forced to be open with sex from a young age.
we had a hyper realistic thing in drivers' ed of texting and driving - a fence post went thru a girl's head 🥴 i definitely didn't have to go have a panic attack in the hallway
I've never seen Bridgerton and think of it as a sex show. Titanic, I think "I'm the King of the world!"
Those hyper-realistic videos Becky mentioned were the anti-drink driving ads here.
Suprsingly I went to school in MA and we didn't get ANY sex education till 10th/11th grade. Maybe because it's a rural community but I remember learning stuff that I already knew from the internet in class. (Graduated in 2019)
I think we had “reproductive health” for like three days in biology class in 9th grade and we didn’t really touch sex anything just anatomy and the miracle of life
I didn’t get a proper sex ed until college cause my anatomy prof said she wanted us to be safe and have fun so she taught like more in depth anatomy and pleasure zones but that was like sophomore year of college
I remember how our sex education included a talk about ectopic pregnancies and how it can kill you and a friend of mine was so traumatised she burst into tears.
My brother is married to a Brazilian. This could very much be a difference in cultures. When they got married in Brazil, they stayed with his family and his brother, sister-in-law, and nephew came over frequently. I was also the only American to come over and attend the wedding. So I hung out with his family a lot. It was very much more a family-oriented visit than simply a vacation. When they went back to Brazil to visit this year, it was very much the same. They had multiple family dinners with extended family, stayed with his parents and all of that (they sent us pictures). He is simply much closer with his family than I am with mine. This seems to be the case with most Latin American families I come across. They are much closer with each other than other demographics of people. Because the couple is going to the husband's home country for their honeymoon, his parents and potentially also other family members are likely ecstatic that he is coming home. They want to see both of them and spend time with them. If they wanted to have a relaxing honeymoon without other family present, they probably should have chosen somewhere else or decided to vacation in an area of Brazil where his family could not easily visit. I certainly understand why they want their honeymoon to be their own time together. It just doesn't seem that outlandish that his family also wants to spend time with him since they likely do not get to see him often in person.
Pap exams before 21 years old aren't recommended. The invasiveness of the procedure far outweighs the extremely low probability that someone that age will develop cervical cancer. If you have normal results, the current recommendation is every 3 years from 21 years old and onward. The more you know.
The recommendation wasn't as clear 10-15 years ago.
Hahaha I was surprised that Becky knew Salt-N-Pepa and then Maggie outed them both for being too young to know that song word for word 😂
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After the MIL’s “so it’s about sex?” Text I would’ve just replied “well would you have wanted your in-law’s with you at your honeymoon?” And just left it at that.
📜 for becky’s poll (iykyk)
I also never got any type of sex talk from my parents and honestly it fuuuuxked me up. My relationship with sex still isn’t the best. Parents, please teach your kids about sex before they grow up and leave the house 😭 Please. They are going to grow up and they needdddd the information.
Lol I am giving everyone in there the homework of watching some WLW content…it is so rarely featured!
In 2023 we cannot keep saying that being tan makes you hot 😭😭
Skin cancer is real! Not to mention your skin will age way quicker so you won't be "hot" for as long... and none of the products that give you a fake tan really work all that well.
If that's what you wanna do, then do you, but we gotta stop spreading the message that tan = hot
Becky’s bump is so cute in this episode
The AITA story is so backwards because the in laws are trying to say she’s disrespectful, when they’re being disrespectful to continue pushing to come on the honeymoon. Ask stupid questions, get stupid answers. I don’t blame the OP at all, and her husband should be upset with his parents pushing the boundaries rather than his wife for how she responded.
"IT'S ABOUT BUOYANCY NOT SPACE!!! anyways......"-Rainie
Call me by your name also involved an under age character 🙃. I want to love that film but i hate their relationship
THIS I have such a proble with call me by your name for that!
@@feraguilar4175 people really gloss over that fact for some reason. Like it's not just the age gap, it's a literal minor being essentially taken advantage of by an older man who was already in a relationship and had previously gone after another minor while in Italy.
Also most of my street smarts/sex education came from religiously watching SVU with my mom
Wow, I talk sex with my parents all the time. We're very open and maybe don't feel as much shame as we should, but its good to get a different perspective.
titanic: iceberg, bridgerton: sex
My mom swears she gave me and my brother "the talk" when i waa in 1st grade and he was in 2nd. In a Jewel Osco parking lot. In the car.
Why? Because who knows. But she did. And i dont remember it 😂
18 seconds ago.. I’ve never been this early 😬🫣
I thought Matt was speaking Yiddish or Russian at 40:50 for some reason
Hiii. So early 😂
its 12:22 AM here in the Philippines 🇵🇭
comfort podcast🥹
No Matt is so wrong about Bridgerton lol
Bridgerton = Costumes.... Then hot booty. Titanic= doors... then painting.
Love how she would be considered "cheap", but he isn't. 🙄 Also, smelling good is important!
Ahhh❤ matt your megawatt smile loveit
i didnt find out about it till 9 grade
maggie plz where is ur top from
Come on Becky you're really drinking raspberry leaf tea in front of us now 😅
And at 25:32 “you were a baby”….eyes fly downward. 😉
Did she announce something?! I didn’t want to be rude and assume or make a comment but I’ve seen a couple people talking about it now and I don’t know if I missed something!
@@emkov1163 No she hasn't announced anything. People are just being super disrespectful and making assumptions even though she has gone on record soooo many times saying that she finds those comments highly offensive and rude.
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I also thought necking was just kissing each others necks
As culturally iconic as the peach scene is, I just can’t get behind it since it involves an underage teen and an adult. I feel like that part is glossed over a bit…
In relation to the AITA, Brazilian parents are INVASIVE. Culturally they are more in their children’s lives than American parents. I should know, I have a Brazilian husband. This tracks that they would want to visit l, especially if they live in Brazil and don’t see their kid a lot. Don’t agree with the in laws, and honestly, you have to put boundaries down, so I’m all for that bride and her reaction lol.
Titanic all the way!
This comment is a little late, but I couldn't help to notice something in a few other TG vids with Becky. So I know some ppl really don't like when it when others make a announcement before they do, but I just have to say.....Congrats!! Becky & Keith 👶💞💛💛
When I was a sub back in 2016, I filled in for a high school science teacher and I had to show the Miracle of Life video 5 times that day. Awful awful awful.
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I guess we aren't having a 'traditional' honeymoon (because we are having a baby a few months before our wedding, so we are doing a 'family moon'). So I would be fine with someone joining us for part of our honeymoon.
You invited them but the mother in law was told no and than still insisted.
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Per the Lion King animators, the "SEX" in the clouds was supposed to be SFX for Special Effects buuuuuut idk how much I believe that lol
Also, Nala and Simba pushing each other over and when she gives him THE EYES that is supposed to be sex
Maggie is a plum girl.
AITA ; I think it’s really likely that the mother-in-law is a narcissist. The couple should just go no-contact with the guy’s side of the family. And even though the i will f* his brains out text was a little inappropriate- the MIL deserved it.
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Out of genuine curiosity, is Becks pregs?
Hmmmmm I wonder
Totally
Update: yes she was
lol yeah @@andreayg0
Something different about Becky?
She’s 7000000% pregs you can’t change my mind
@@caseyequalslegit that is so rude to comment when Becky has said multiple times that she is uncomfortable with people commenting on her body and making assumptions like that.
@@reyfairburn5023well it was true so 😂
@@reyfairburn5023 everyone could tell and we just found out she had a baby, it was really obvious
@@caseyequalslegit i knew it but i was trying to be kind of vague in case i was wrong lol
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Maggie's latin mother was super progressive. My latin mom told me she never took me to get the hpv vaccine because it would have given me a reason to have sex.
Also if sex was ever mentioned around my parents we would get spanked.
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