Rachel Wiley - 10 Honest Thoughts on Being Loved by a Skinny Boy
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"He does not believe me when I tell him he is beautiful.
Sometimes I fear the day he does is the day he leaves."
that shit hits me the hardest.
ughhh the feelzsxz
same
John Smith Are you aware of how unoriginal you are? I feel embarrassed FOR you.
John Smith that was great John. Lol
Have some dignity.
When I heard
“He tells me he loves me with the lights on”
I had to throw my headphones off I bursted out into tears. So powerful.
Fat fetish
What is wrong with you? This is some obese woman who refuses to stop eating McDonalds every meal complaining about a guy who is treating her well. Wahhhhhhhh.
@@charliebrown4035 what is wrong with you
I burst out too.... Laughing.
"he tells me he loves me with the lights on" chills all over
that resonated within me
damn, loving a woman with the lights on is so hard
I KNOW I WAS S H O O K
@@bunnie2568 You're far from being smart then, dear...
Laszlo Sandor Well, considering this is emotion we're talking about, I'm sure it's easy for you to say i'm not very smart :) Maybe you interpreted this differently, but I felt there was a little more underlying in that specific part.
As a fat girl who memorised this before I even started dating my skinny boyfriend, this shit hits even harder when you compare it to your own relationship. I fear the day he does is the day he leaves...
Same….. same.
I just had a first date with a really cool guy and I was just overthinking all the physical reasons why he would not want a second date. It never occurred to me to overthink all the reason why he asked me out in the first place. Silly, we are just silly.
Wow! Strong words dat hit home! Beautifully said!
I'm 6 years to late for this comment. But how did it go after the date? Did you two go on a second date?
From your poem it sounds like he loves you so very much and you're so incredibly lucky for that.
My girlfriend sent this to me to explain what she felt about being with me, as I'm thinner than her.
I'm glad she could use this poem to express herself and I love her not despite nor because she's big. I just love her.
Sil Fir awe that's so sweet, i hope your love story will last long
Hey you still goin out with er?
Fellow Human Yep, I'm really interested in knowing that as well
You are awesome!
I hope you guys are well and still going strong. Good luck!🌹
I really like how this generation does not "glorify being overweight", and instead shows self-acceptance in the sense that we do not have to change who we are or what we look like to be loved. We do not have to change who we are or what we look like to be beautiful. I wish more girls could think like this. Further more, "fat" does not always mean unhealthy. "Skinny" or "thin" doesn't always mean healthy. But fat, skinny, and thin can all be beautiful.
You completely missed the point of my comment; that point being that being overweight is not healthy. You're right that being overweight does not necessarily mean unhealthy, but this girl in the video is not just overweight; she's obese. Her weight is unhealthy, and any doctor worth a cent would tell her that.
Nick Epstein You completely missed the point of the video so *bye*.
Nick Epstein
Are you her doctor? No? How do you know she's unhealthy, then? Can you tell just by looking at thin people whether or not they're unhealthy?
You completely missed the point of this entire video. You are exactly the kind of person that this video is talking about.
Nick Epstein And if she is? So what? Why is it any of your business what her health is? Let's ignore the fact that you don't know at all if she's healthy or not, and you're making unfounded assumptions on her life, and get down to , you have an obvious deep-seated problem with yourself in thinking that what you have to say should matter. It doesn't. You should have nothing to say about her body, because it's not yours to worry about. And let's face it, in the end, you aren't offended by her being unhealthy, you are offended that her body does not appeal to you, and it is sad that you believe that your preference warrants a degrading comment.
Holly H Because she's obese; it's obvious from her stature. There's a slim chance she has fine health as she is still young, but even in that case, unless she takes drastic measures to change her habits, then she will encounter health problems in the near future. There's a reason that the majority of over-sized caskets are sold to people in their 30s and 40s; obese people die young. It's a fact.
It's more difficult to tell with "skinny" people as clothing can be deceptive and it's easy to make yourself appear larger. Not so easy to hide 50 to 100 extra pounds.
he tells me he loves me with the lights on
+Sthephany Rangel What does that line mean?
+lisanna32 it means that he isn't telling her during sex when the lights are off, that she is beautiful. he calls her beautiful in broad daylight for everyone to see.
+lisanna32 My understanding is similar to that of what Brooke said: Having sex with someone with the lights on is supposed to mean you aren't ashamed of them, as opposed to having sex in the dark where you can't see them/their body. So by saying 'I love you' with the lights on is meant to be more genuine
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Best line, i think
I told my husband that I'm too fat. He replied "Too fat, for what?"
Stay with him
Congratulations
That’s beautiful
Forest Fawn Airplanes seats
Becky McLaughlin
Keeper!
I tell him he is beautiful. He doesn't believe me and I fear the day he does he will leave.....Yes. So much yes.
I think this poem applies to anyone who feels they are less than their partner in any aspects of their lives. A true lover/partner comes around and builds you up no matter how low or miserable you feel.
I wish I had a voice as powerful as hers holy wow
Would you use it to spew lies just like her
Its that strong tummy action
what you wish you sounded like and old harridan/battleaxe/fog horn. she sounds like she looks. awful, i mean really awful.
All these bitter comments are such tragic attempts at humour 😂 she’s got an awesome voice - she’s one of a few spoken word poets I can tolerate.
In singing terms, I believe she's a contralto or alto? Either way her voice is beautiful.
"Dear Cosmo, FUCK YOU" That's it I adore her!
Honestly I feel like this can apply to black girls too... or any woman who has felt like a fetish or novelty.
I disagree. Anyone who dates outside their race is thought to have a fetish, that goes for Black guys dating White girls, White guys dating Black girls, or any mixture thereof including a couple whose skin doesn't match.
Lolalambchop That's what we're saying, anyone who goes outside of what would be considered their sexual norm is said to have a fetish. Including (but not limited to) girls of color, white girls, and girls considered to be on the fat side. See, we're all on the same page.
Chloe King it would be great if people understood that there is no "normal", there is only what's common. What's common isn't automatically good, and what's uncommon isn't automatically bad. We need to just be ourselves regardless of what anyone expects of us or thinks is right.
Lolalambchop, yep... that's pretty much where I was going with my argument. Anything outside of the norm is considered a fetish.
I would love to see a response video done with that in mind and agree completely.
Im deffinetly a fat girl and my husband of eight years is tiny. He tells me he loves me 100 times a day and I do as well. I cant wait to come home to see him and he the same. He tells me Im the most important person in his life and that he cant imagine what his life would be like if he hadnt met me. The man raises me up when Im sinking. That is what a relationship should be like. And this is a man whos girlfriend before me was a tiny asian woman. It took me a long while to get to grips that this was real, this was forever and this was perfectly imperfect love.
I love this so much! Thanks for sharing your story 😊
No matter what physical or mental imperfection someone has no one should be cruel. No one is saying or trying to force you to be attracted to someone but you should treat everyone with some respect. You wouldn't like people to point out your imperfections and make you feel like you are worthless, you wouldn't stand idly by as your friends or family are subjected to it so why do it to anyone? That person has feelings is someone's child, sibling, spouse, or friend. No one is forcing you to like them but at least show enough respect to keep it to yourself.
Preach
Yes we should keep our mouths shut and let those fat pigs die young so we dont need to support them.
Too bad we don't live in a fairy tale. We can never change people, there will always be trolls, meanies, poopoo heads and stinkie willies.
Grow a thick hide and learn to deal with mean shiT. Stop making excuses ffs.
I actually agree with your sentiment most of the time, but when so many people are tripping over themselves to tell some woman how inspiring and brave and beautiful she is for essentially rattling off a laundry list of complaints to society about being fat, I just can't help chipping my two cents in.
She came to speak and slam at my college and dear god, she was so amazing. Chills everywhere.
I think this is technically ham poetry not slam poetry.
I love how, like many people have said, this promotes self-acceptance and loving everyone for what's on the inside, rather than just loving people despite their weight or appearance. No matter what someone is like on the outside, whether they're fat or skinny, tan or pale, blonde or brunette, it doesn't matter. And if it doesn't matter, you need to stop reading your Cosmo magazines and watch this video.
Did what only good poetry can do, brought me to tears. Fuck yes.
"Loving me is not a fetish", that was definitely my favorite line. I wish people could just stop thinking that a guy dating a fat girl is just because of porn.
Los viajes de Rebe My mother (who has her own mental issues and self esteem issues regarding her own weight) has told me that a guy who found me attractive has a fat fetish... when I got in my first relationship (as well any sexual experience with men) and the guy has been so amazing to wash away my insecurities. Like it is possible to have someone like bigger people! Ha
It is though.....
It 100% is
everything is a fetish. if sum douche seeks out a fat girl its because he wants 2 bang a fat girl. same if a fat guy seeks out a skinny broad.
But of course it is! Of cooooourse!
Whoever this man is that is keeping her happy.. BLESS HIM. No guy in my life has EVER given me such motivation and happiness, I'm so happy she's found someone that doesn't judge her for being herself
"For being herself" --> Implying being obese is the way she expresses herself, like her clothes, hairstyle, etc.? Obesity is not who you are. It's a disease. It puts your health at risk and lowers your quality of life. The fat stored in her body is not "who she is".
@Quasi Stellar Primate what the hell?
"You're not fat you're beautiful. Why can't I be both"
John Smith how is calling anyone a whale helping in any way? If anything it might bring some people closer to death or to finding another way to slowly kill their self
John Smith NO shaming is not a good thing, maybe some people need that but I almost killed someone over that shit, this is probably the reason for mass murderers and school shooters, you can't just constantly verbally abuse somone and think that's ok. Especially when that person has issues, I had some very severe anger and still my anger can get out of hand. I was the happiest person ever until someone like you thought saying some disrespectful ass shit was gonna change me for the better. I started to starve myself for months, I lost weight, but it was like I was outta control and wanted to hurt everybody and not give a fuck. I had my issues, but I was always the quiet nice person, until the anorexia. I just wanted everyone to fucking die
John Smith you need help
@@BenSmith-jw8zy you wanna hear a secret.... ur gonna die alone with that attitude
because lack of health is not attractive.
everyones commenting "Yeah, shes gorgeous on the inside" or "Its whats on the inside that matters"
Well, I think shes gorgeous on the outside too.
yeah i think the people commenting those things are TRYING to be nice but have missed almost the entire point of what she was trying to say.
She's not though...
chazzatheninja & Deven Bottiaux, you might think she doesn't but I think she's beautiful. We think different things, that's our opinion
But she isnt
i bet her turds look like family size cans of refried beans.
I'm a skinny girl. Watching this, realising that I have been guilty of treating 'fat' girls as so different than me. Of seeing those number ten couples in disbelief. That he must have a fetish. Makes me realise that from childhood, us women have always been judged by our number on the pretty scale. Deciding whether we're higher or lower than the girl next to us. Making a decision on our worth based on our looks. So I thank you for your story. For opening my eyes and helping me see what an absolute ass I have been. And as women, how we can be so nasty to each other. I'll never tell a little girl that she's pretty ever again. It makes her think that it's what truly matters.
Awesome reflection! My gf is bigger than me and these are her worries
Love this. I can see both perspectives, because I have been both multiple times. I was chubby until about 2nd grade then I was rail thin until I was about 23. I was chubby for about 2 years again. Then I was rail thin again until about 30 when I had my second child, started school again and went through a divorce. I ballooned up. 50 lbs over weigh. Now down 15 lbs and counting, but wow, being fat is a whole new world. I have been treated like such crap by women and men alike. Everyone and their dog seems to think it's their business to let me know that I'm fat. Like I don't know. Like I don't have a scale. I went to a friends birthday party, (most of the people I know are skinny yuppies :/ )and I was the only one who wasn't offered birthday cake. The host just assumed that i must be on a diet, since I'm fat. I was so depressed that I went to the store after and bought a whole cake and ate so much that I felt sick. No one seems to wonder why I'm obviously self medicating with food. Judging people for being overweight only makes the problem worse. I am convinced of that. I don't know what is worse though that, or being constantly oogled at and sexually harassed by men when I'm skinny.
My story is the other way. I'm also a slim girl, but I've never actually been rude or nasty with fat women. My family taught me to respect people and not judge by the way they look, and so I grew up not even thinking about these matters. However, I had a couple of fat girl friends who treated me very badly, made my life a living hell to the point where I ended up taking an overdose, simply because they secretly hated me for the fact that I'm tiny and they weren't. I have little sympathy for fat women, although I respect them anyway and have no problem interacting with them and such. What I know for sure is that they aren't as innocent and helpless as they like to make themselves seem. Many of them are vicious and vile about slim women and incredibly sly and mean. I don't look down on them, why should I? And I also don't give them compassion, pity, nor do I reinforce their victimhood. They are not victims. To treat them like victims is to acknowledge that they have no power over their circumtances and that they are completely helpless, but they aren't. They have all the power in the world to be whatever they want, do whatever they want, all it takes is willpower and persistence. So, I don't feel any pity or empathy for them when I know that they have the power to change whatever it is that they are not happy with/about. Everyone has the right to feel happy with themselves, but women such as the lady in the video are clearly not happy with themselves and they deep down know that the only way for them to get happy is to put in the effort to change what it is they really want to change, and they know it, and that's what makes them bitter. They refuse to acknowledge the reality of their problem and choose to blame everyone else for their inner issues. Overall, I have no problems with them and I'm happy to make friends with them, but if they project their insecurities onto me and somehow make me feel guilty for the fact that they are fat and what not, then that's where I start having a problem with them. Yes, women do treat each other badly in general, and the reasons for which they treat each other badly are very stupid and trivial. I have a feeling of sisterhood with women in general. I'll always jump and defend other women where the case makes it possible and I always stay by my girl friends' side. Problem is, fat women have always seemed to have a problem with me and tried to make my days a little less than happy. So, it's not always us, skinny girls, the ones who are vile. They are, too.
ninjakid6
sorry, when I try to form a paragraph, it posts. lol
Tell her she has a pretty mind and she'll aim for that instead of always focusing on outer beauty but im glad that you could open your eyes, I dont hate people that used to make fat jokes. We all make mistakes and I too have probably said some shit even if I don't remember (i'm very skinny to the point where its not neccisarly good) but you have to look forward and be a better person, we all have our flaws :p love this post
It's a fact that she's fat. It's also a fact that she is indeed so much more.. such as: beautiful, smart, nice etc. she seems amazing and her weight shouldnt even be a factor in that.
i love comments like these :)
But it is, tell Ms. Piggy to lose a few pounds.
Morbidly obese, smart and beautiful? K. Gotta love these morons who believe they can change the world with empty, false compliments.
Maik Emanuel Noro there's a difference between being morbidly obese, and just being overweight. dumbass.
Don't care :D
I remember this speech from a tumblr post, and I wondered what it would sound like when it was read out. Now I know, and it touches me even deeper. Thank you, Rachel Wiley, for this wonderful and beautiful poetry.
Oh so not only is everything she said wrong but also plagiarized from somewhere else
everytime I listen or watch this performance, I end up sobbing. Thank you Rachel.
It's 2020 & I'm sobbing. I didn't know I needed this.
I once had a skinny friend, one could place one hand on either side of her waist and touch thumb to thumb fingers to fingers. She was watched like she was sick, she was glared at when she ate, when she said she was too skinny she was told to eat more, when she dated a large man she was dumped when he said he was afraid he'd break her, she padded her jeans to give some appearance of shape and wore baggy shirts to hide her children's sized waistline and no bra necessary cup size. She never had friends and was too shy and scared to develop the skills to make friends. She was mercilessly teased. I was her fat friend and shield but I learned early, skinny, fat, black, red headed, short, tall, or green, beauty is always and forever in the eye of the beholder.
I only pity those who find beauty in making others feel ugly.
that SUCKS. I hate assholes. and I hope she found her beauty!
"Fucking me does not require and asterisk. Loving me is not a fetish. Finding me beautiful is not a novelty. I am not a novelty."
tears...
oh man, I'm typing this has i have tears rolling down my cheeks,
I've never felt beautiful, I never have and i don't know if i will. I used to be bigger, I've lost weight. Funnily enough, I'm still unhappy now as I was before. I thought if i lost the weight id be happy, guy's would like me more, I'd finally consider myself beautiful.
But what I've finally realized is I need to accept my inner beauty, that its the inside that counts.
But i am still finding it difficult to love myself, my body, my personality, everything.
Your name was what caught my attention, but I really hope you're happy with yourself now, and if not, I hope you are someday soon.
Thank you, I have somewhat imroved since then...
+Bad Wolf Be proud of that.
Star Whale Thanks! It hasn't been much progress at all- I just don't hate my reflection sometimes.
+Bad Wolf you're going in the right direction (: I hope someday you look in the mirror and know that you're happy with yourself
Someday, I hope to see the world through this light. I often feel as if nobody sees anything in me but my outer appearance, and this gives me hope that perhaps that will not always be the case. Thank you. I really need that reminder.
Ohh, why did I decide to read the comments? -.- This is just beautiful poetry and literature; she is telling her story. She is not making a statement about what is healthy and what isn't. She isn't assuming a posture about what is good or bad. That is all subjective. She is talking about love and all about her insecurities usually imposed by this kind of hateful thinking. Health and worth are two totally DIFFERENT things so please separate those concepts. She says it herself people think just because she is "fat" she doesn't "deserve" to be with her love and that just isn't true. I think we should all appreciate her beautiful words and stop the hate. Whichever your human condition (poor, black, white, fat, skinny, gay, women, men, religious, atheist, deaf, blind, tall short, sick, healthy, etc.) you DESERVED to be love. Respect, worth and love are inherent to the human condition and are not things to be "gained" or "earned". STOP THE HATE. :)
weight and health are also separate :)
Exactly. :) You can't generalize. Everyone's situation is different.
I was thinking the same things! "Don't read the comments, they'll only make you mad" so, very nicely put :)
I loved this poem when I saw it when it first came out and I cry every time I listen. First because I thought I could never have this kind of love or acceptance from someone else. Now because a year after this I met the man who'd be my husband, who supported me through building a relationship with myself that makes it wild to think back on when I ever believed I deserved less. You deserve to love and be loved, especially by yourself.
This doesn't glorify 'fatness', nor does it even remotely suggest that she thinks being fat is beautiful. It tells a story about her insecurities and about how her lover thinks she's more than what he sees, which is right. You can be the most fattest, unattractive and unappealing person in the entire world, but someone is going to love you regardless of what you look like.
Robin Bat How would I know? lol
YOU GO GIRL
You go girl!! Regardless of the trajectory of our health, we all deserve to be loved, right now, just the way we are. Thanks for the gift of this poem.
still get the chills after seeing this wonderful performance for the fifth time!
😭😭😭😭
You should try watching something that gives you an opinion from the other point of view you know for educational purposes to have a full view of the situation understand the details
@@mikemorgan2211 or they can just enjoy the video...
Rachel, you give me hope. Hope that someone will someday love me, even though I'm fat, even though I have inflammatory arthritis of the spine and am hunched over, even though I am goth, wiccan, vegetarian, an artist, a 'crazy cat lady.' You give me hope that someday, someone will love me for who I am, inside and out, and you give me faith that I am justified in loving myself.
Bullshit. With all due respect, love for oneself is a process that takes an enormous amount of inner effort spanning years. Your superficial contrivances of identity are merely decoys, not real effort. Do something real for yourself, and you will find self love, after which, if you're lucky, someone will love you for who you are, not who you portray. This isn't Hollywood, doll.
Why does no one read the "faith that I am justified in loving myself" part? It took me YEARS AND YEARS AND YEARS to learn to love myself, unconditionally, for who I am, inside and out. The point that I was trying to make was that Rachel's poem and self confident performance tells me that that there is HOPE that there realy ARE people out there who can see past superficiality, that I am justified in WAITING for the right person instead of being embarrassed (as so many jerks think I should be) of my weight and my illness, etc. It reminds me of how proud I am that I am confident, with or without a relationship.
Also, please keep this in mind: In our society today, people with chronic illness are treated as if we were gross and crazy. I have been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Sjögren's Syndrome, IBS, and Ankylosing Spondylitis. That list right there is enough to make most healthy people think, "hypochondriac!!!" It's just as much of a predjudicial thing as weight in our society. "No one can be THAT sick," has been said to me by family members and friends. My doctors gave me those diagnoses, not me. Now imagine telling someone about those illnesses on a first date, the whole list. How many guys would end the date there? And, of course I know that the guys who would end the date weren't worth my time to begin with, but that doesn't keep it from stinging, no matter how confident you are!
One last thing: My "superficial contrivances" ARE PART OF WHO I AM. And I don't give a rat's @$$ or a rodent's rectum who you are, 99.9% of people are judged every day by their "superficial contrivances," whether they know it or not. Even you. You can either love those parts of yourself or hate them. I choose to love them.
i just got the book "nothing is okay" and I love it, I'm in battle with my weight daily, I'm over 220 and hate being fat. I am a mother of 3 and have a thyroid issue ever since I had my left thyroid taken out. so listing to her makes me feel so much better and knowing I'm not the only one filling the way I do. also what book is this poem in cuz I would love to pick it upthanks u Rachel for making us feel so good bout ourself
I teared up, and I laughed. Beautifully written and appreciated from my Soul.
Wonderful. She made me cry.
literally bawling my eyes out. never cried so much at a poem. and i listen to a lot of them.
I love this poem and for all of you talking about how you hate fat acceptance: She is not asking you to accept her just because she's over weight, she is saying that it's bogus for society to tell us what is beautful. she isn't saying preaching anunhealthy lifestyle. Not everyone can be the skinny you see in magazines (which skinny doesn't mean healthy) and not all overweight people can lose weight by regular diet and exercise, some people lose weight by going to weight watchers or using one of those weight loss programs, some people can't afford that, some people don't know how to lose weight in a healthy way, they need a personal nutritionist and trainer, maybe they can't afford that, some people can't just diet and exercise alone and need a lapband surgery, and some people might not be able to afford that, or aren't healthy enough to go into surgery, and these are SOME reasons why people are overweight or aren't the "ideal skinny" and also some peoples healthy body weight isn't what you would consider "skinny" so she's not saying it's okay to be unhealthy she's saying when people come in all shapes an sizes (some that cannot be controlled) why are we determining what is beautiful if that standard is not obtainable by everyone, I wasn't born thinking skinny people were more beautiful, growing up in a society that said it was had convinced me of that, now of course some people are just more attracted to someone skinnier, but then others are told what they should like,and shamed if they don't like it.
four words.
my.
mad.
fat.
diary.
THIS SHOW MADE ME LAUGH AND CRY SO MUCH
Stefani Hall love that show so damn hard
I have been watching the Button Poetry page for about 4 hours now. And I hadn't cried until Number 8. And I lost it. This was beautiful. Thank you
"I say I am fat. He says No, you’re beautiful. I wonder why I cannot be both."
I like how she isn't satisfied that someone appreciates her. Why does she expect so much more from him?
Milktube it's nearly 2014, you idiot. grow up
Milktube //-:
Or, "she has a really pretty face if only...."
Milktube
bravo. just stop being fat and there wouldnt be these problems. calories in, calories out. a fat person who actively is trying to lose weight is going to get a lot more respect than a fat person who yells at people for finding her lifestyle unhealthy.
Being fat is not beautiful, being skinny is not beautiful, being "fit" is not beautiful. Being happy is beautiful, being human is beautiful, being healthy is beautiful, being loved is beautiful. What I find attractive is different than what you find attractive, and that is Okay. It doesn't mean I'm a bad person if I'm not attracted to your body type or physical attributes. If you don't find me attractive that doesn't mean your a bad person.
Preach Emily, preach! Lol. Jk:)
preach! what a lovely comment, I couldn't agree more! :)
Being fit is being healthy. Being fat is pretty much always unhealthy. It is like if you cut off your own arm. Don't do something obviously unhealthy and complain when people don't find you attractive.
I dont want to be with a fat person for the same reasons I wont date a smoker. I want my partner to be as healthy and live as long as possible with me.
Being fit is pretty attractive to me, though
Everyone is beautiful no matter what shape, size, color or anything else that society defines us by. This made me shed a few tears because of how beautiful the words were, how beautiful you looked when you recited them. Poetry is so empowering, one of my greatest passions because of the emotions it emits, just like the emotion i just saw from you. ♥
That would make the word "beautiful" meaningless, and I don't know why anyone would care about having that kind of "beauty" if it's something everyone has. What word would you then use to distinguish people who are physically attractive and can get many girlfriends/boyfriends from people who are physically repulsive and cannot get a date?
This poem, Names by Rachel Rostad, and B by Sarah Kaye, I have memorized unintentionally.
this girl was born to write. I freaking love every word that comes out of her mouth, she gives me chills. Keep going strong Rachel! your words are too beautiful to ever cease!
In reading these comments, I think a lot of people miss the point. It's not just about fat or overweight, it's about not reducing yourself to a label in your mind. It's easy for people to just dismiss each other as fat, black, skinny, ugly, pretty, etc. when we are all humans and we are all so much more than those labels. If you think constantly of being ashamed of who you are, you will never be likely to achieve who you want to be. Yes you can argue that obesity itself is something one can change when other things like race are not changeable. But if you hate yourself just because others don't see the beauty in you, you won't get the motivation to do much of anything. All change takes time, so why not love yourself in the meantime?
The point is she found someone who sees past those labels and recognizes her, the real her and who she is, beyond all stereotypes. That is true love. We should all be so lucky to find such love. That is the point.
This made me cry, it was beautiful. Thank you c:
NUMBER 9!!!!! I FUCKING LOVE NUMBER 9!!! IT GIVES ME LIFE!!!
THIS IS SO BEAUTIFUL IN EVERY WAY
These comments that imply hate towards these beautiful poets makes me sick to my stomach. People are forgetting what the poems are about and focusing on a whole other issue. This poem is about her personal life, something she wants to share with the world because it makes her happy that a boy finds her so beautiful. She is willing to share her deepest emotions and concerns (which all people have). This poem ISN'T about how overweight/obese people should be accepted and found beautiful. And it ISN'T about being unhealthy. I have known many very thin people who are unhealthy as well as unhappy. Before you post a rude comment please rethink your decision.
You gotta watch the Gavin McInnes take on this. Perfect. Crazy this was 5 years ago and still nothing has changed
This is the most beautiful poem I have come across in a long long time. My boyfriend is skinnier than I am and it makes me insecure on the daily. This poem speaks VOLUMES!! So beautiful.
This is beautiful. Raw and moving words, and this woman is gorgeous. You go girl!!! Shame on anyone criticizing her size. Why are you even on here wasting everyone's time? Every single body needs love..shape, size, color, wrinkled, dimpled, freckled, who gives a crap? All bodies are beautiful. A body is not a democracy. It's a dictatorship. You don't get an input.
I love this, not only because of her and her or even her msg about beautiful women but also the msg about skinny guys, i realise that there are worse things than being skinny, that i should not be ashamed or feel so fragile! but i do, again i realise women are shamed so much in this world, and it makes me sick! i am so fucking disgusted by it! however some boys take alot of shit too! the fact that i feel physically incapable of protecting a girl or any person that i love is terrifying, and i feel so much pressure to be able to handle a situation if needed to be the "Man". i am insecure! I am called gay although not very often it still happens because of my "feminine figure". and let me tell you its really fucking hard to gain muscle when i only weigh 120pounds and i am 6ft! i have tried to buff up and i have had abs i can bench my weight but i see no improvement! its like telling a bigger person to just work out and the weight will fall off i cant just work out and become bigger! thats not my body! and i would have to work so hard for so little and i still would see my ribs, my spine will still be visible, i will still look "sickly" unhealthy, i will be judged everytime i take off my shirt i will always have to buy pants that are too big and buy a belt with them because my waist size is under 30 but i am so tall everything looks awkward and i just cant even look at myself and feel okay with my body! i know i shouldnt care what others think but i do! i desperately do. anyway thta was my 2 cents for what its worth, its like 3 am so sorry if i didnt make any sense.... i just have really bad body issues and i cant except it.
Go to the gym dude. There's newbs beginning every year. Just start off with once a week and make that a routine.
She died the next day... the doctor said "Unfortunately there was nothing we could do although we would love to know how she beached herself this far inland."
LOL. I haven't heard that one before. Much more creative than just calling her a whale. Gotta be subtle.
@@BobSmith-pm3wx They don't call me The Creative Douche for nothing.
"i fear the day that he realises he's beautiful is the day he leave"
*coughs* u hit me right in my relatableness 😭👏
i AM LEAPING WITH JOY. THE SLAYAGE THAT THIS POEM HAS GIVEN ME IS EVERYTINGGG
"...he doesn't believe me when I tell him he is beautiful"
Tis true. And no, I won't leave her if I ever do.
I always believed that as a rule, a short fat girl is stronger than a tall skinny guy. And as a tall skinny guy myself, I still believe it based on my own experiences such as: I once encountered a short fat girl who was extremely large, standing a mere 4-foot-10 but weighing a massive 257 pounds with incredibly huge upper arms. She flexed them for me while we were both standing in front of each other and I was both amazed and fascinated at how rock solid they felt (underneath all of that "cushion") while I stood there, towering way over her at 6-foot-1 while, at the same time, weighing less than half what she weighed!!! She told me she bench pressed 175 pounds fifteen times (FAR MORE THAN WHAT I WEIGH!!!). I knew that if she really wanted to, she could easily have picked me up and thrown me right there on the spot!!! I had no trouble at all admitting to myself that I would be no match for her if I were ever foolish enough to pick a fight with her. We continued standing in front of each other and talking. While she was looking way up at me, I looked way down at her and then I simply said to her: I KNOW YOU CAN TAKE ME!!! Because she didn't become my girlfriend like some of the other such ladies did (that was the first and last time I saw her), she had no idea that I became highly aroused (REALLY TURNED ON!!!) while I stood there, towering way over her (and feeling like an insect compared to her!!!) especially while I was feeling those huge upper arms of hers!!!
+Ron W That's because she needs more muscle to keep herself from falling over or breaking their legs from the sheer weight.
+Jackal bro how much energy do you expend on finding people just to be negative to them? like just the effort? are you ok like do you need to talk to someone about all that negativity or something because bro, dude that can't be healthy.
Nymph Blood Nor is being obese. I'm the healthier one in this case.
+Jackal are you happy in your life? I'm actually curious, like a happy person probably wouldn't be so negative to people they don't know. so are you happy?
Nymph Blood No, not knowing that idiots think being obese or overweight is healthy exist on the same planet as me.
slam poetry and poetry have become two different things. i love it!! the raw bare "I'm here and I don't care" vibe is one that cannot be replicated
Pure raw power of words, I seriously started tearing up at this.
I am crying my eyes out. I’m in love with a skinny man and this is exactly what I feel all the time. Thank you for voicing it!
Are you attracted to equally obese men?
This was awesome. I loved it.
And to all the people here criticizing Rachel for her weight and saying how unhealthy she is, take a look at yourselves, because you know what REALLY isn't healthy? Cultivating a mental attitude that compels you to publicly denigrate someone for no other reason than their physical appearance, that's what. If you really care about your friends, families, and loved ones, you will try to change that mindset to truly be worthy of their love.
Fatness and skinniness actually happen to be some of the few aspects of physical appearance that can be EASILY CHANGED WITH SUFFICIENT WILLPOWER.
Now, I know there is a genetic disorder that causes some people to be fat, but you really can't expect us to believe that even a MAJORITY of fat people are suffering from that, given the statistics of obesity in the U.S. versus the rest of the world, right? Fatness or non-fatness is therefore not JUST a "physical appearance". It can be an indicator of: Motivation/determination, willpower, caring about health, caring for oneself, etc.
What really makes my blood boil is how there's so much focus on this obviously changeable and unhealthy trait (fatness) while the TRUE LEGITIMATE CAUSES OF INSECURITY ARE OVERLOOKED. What about ugly people? People with noses too big, eyes too small? Short men (who receive on average less salary than tall people, and can't keep any girlfriend)? Girls with less curvy bodies? Guys who work out a lot but can't get toned muscles? These UNCHANGEABLE, NON-UNHEALTHY CHARACTERISTICS go on being judged while you people sit on this video and scream "JUSTICE FOR FAT PEOPLE"
*****
1. Obesity cannot be "easily changed". Yes, of course people can lose weight through diet and exercise, but it is a long and difficult process; don't pretend it's "easy".
2. You seem to think that skinny people shouldn't be expected to have enough willpower to simply refrain from insulting fat people, but fat people should have enough willpower to dramatically change their bodies simply for your approval. Logic Fail.
2. Why focus so much on the supposed insecurity of fat people while giving a free pass to the OBVIOUS insecurity of those who are motivated to publicly denigrate them?
3. I am not screaming "Justice for fat people". I am screaming "Respect for ALL people!"
WhyNotSing247
1. It may not be "easy", but it sure is a lot easier than changing one's height, sex, sexual orientation, or color of skin. As well, being overweight is probably the only attribute society makes fun of that's actually proven to be UNHEALTHY. Drastic differences of obesity rates between different cultures (particularly the fact that everywhere other than America has lower obesity rates) proves that maintaining healthy weight is in fact quite doable with willpower.
2. I don't think anyone should be insulting anyone. But I do think fat people should have enough willpower to dramatically change their bodies if they care about their own health. Just look around you: College students have the lowest obesity rates. They care about health and dating. The evidence is clear that when there's a will there's a way. For "our approval", you say? No one is requiring them to change for "our approval". It's their choice. If they care about how people perceive them, especially as potential dates, they should in fact be working towards a goal of maintaining a non-unhealthy weight. If they don't care, then that's okay too.
I don't have ANY problem with fat people who simply don't give a shit about how fat they are. I do have a problem with people who feel ENTITLED. That doesn't mean I think they should be INSULTED.
***** Anyone who gets up on a stage and attempts to manipulate an audience into thinking that being obese is "in the eye of the beholder," and is therefore normal, is begging to be insulted by anyone with a modicum of sense. It's a psychological problem, and a disaster for entitled cultures. What this really is is a cry for help. Someone needs to help this poor woman if her only respite is the love of some scrawny, desperate virgin.
My uncle showed me this a while ago, im glad I found it again.
Being a bigger young woman myself without having had any relationships, I found this to be one of the most amazing poems I have ever had the chance of listening to. She made me feel for the first time that, someday, I will actually find someone who truly cares for me not matter my weight. Her words made me feel like I was beautiful for who I am and that when I meet the right person, he will love me for me. Absolutely amazing work Rachel Wiley!!!!
I don't believe she's asking for anyone's permission to feel good enough about herself to accept someone's love. For me this poem is about self-acceptance and being secure and comfortable enough in your own skin to and allow someone to love you without doubt or suspicion.
I'd leave anyone who referred to me as "skinny boy".
Omg babe! You rock! But you brought tears to my eyes as I felt your words piercing my heart, but in a good way. Thank you! I'm going to share this with everyone I know. You're incredible and THAT IS BEAUTIFUL!!
This poem honestly made me get it like you've changed my view on a lot of things i love thissss oh my you go girl
You know, the majority of people will not find fatness attractive, so I don't see the point of "I say I'm fat, he says I'm pretty" as an insult, yeah cause probably not everyone thinks being fat is beautiful. Even tho someone tells you "You're beautiful", there's always someone who will not be satisfied with it.
Except...it's literally the same for every other physical trait? Let's try this with some different words:
"I say I'm blonde. He says no, you're beautiful,"
"I say I'm short. He says no, you're beautiful."
Interesting fact about body weight and attractiveness: larger people used to be considered more attractive, and still are- in some cultures. Beauty also isn't defined in a mathematical equation of "okay, who wants to f**k me?! Now round the 'k' to the nearest whole number..."
'The majority of people' is an abstract concept at best and 'the majority of people' tend to change their mind as quickly as they change out a roll of toilet paper.
Change the word 'FAT' in this to any other human insecurity !
'heroin addiction'
I respect her for speaking this out. Very, very good.
when I watched this a year ago, I didn't relate to it all that much. But now that I have a boyfriend and tells me he loves me every single morning, afternoon, Day and night. I can relate to this more than I want to. But I can relate to this because he does love me. And no matter how big or small I get that is the only satisfaction I need, that is the only comfort I need.
Are you guys fucking joking me, she's like 400 pounds that is not healthy. It's completely her fault and not only is she complaining about it, but she's DEMANDING that she be treated like she's beautiful.
Jesus is is amazing how peoples' naive sympathy completely undermines their ability to think clearly.
NO ONE'S TALKING ABOUT HEALTHY OR UNHEALTHY!!!!!!!!!!!! WHAT MAKES YOU BEAUTIFUL IS THE CONTENT OF YOUR HEART NOT YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE!!!!!! ANYWAY, "BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER". AND PERSONALLY, I FIND HER BEAUTIFUL, AND SO DOES HER BOYFRIEND.....
Linda Fúnez hahaha this dude is right and you proved his point. You are naively sympathising. So in denial. Amazing.
The thing about fat shaming that I don't get is people getting defensive... YES, fat people are people too, but being fat isn't a healthy thing to be. Most of the time, it IS something you can change. And people who are insecure just complain and whine, but don't do anything.
That's nice, I don't think it should be grouped in with problems like LGBT shaming and homophobia.
You know, those problems where people don't have a choice and can't change their situation?
I work in retail and a man came into our tiny store a few weeks ago and screamed at me bacause we don't carry a size 5x. That's a XXXXXL. And continued to scream at ME because not enough stores carry his size. That is NOT my problem to deal with. It's his.
Saoirse Elizabeth
it's nobody's problem, just like your lack of empathy is not his.
But when someone comes in and screams at me because I respond with "I'm sorry sir, we only carry up to a 3X, I can show you those if you'd like to see them? You could also try the store down the street, they may have what you're looking for."
And someone's response is to scream at me? I can't do anything.
What would you respond with?
I would say the same thing to anyone else if we didn't have what they were looking for. Why should someone deserve special treatment?
then you did what you could, politely, and that's that, he was probably frustrated and mad, and he took it out on you, regardless of the size, douches are everywhere.
I love this poem more than I love myself.
We are what we are, and nothing should prevent us from loving and being loved...
Beautiful thoughts, from a beautiful girl.
Sip wine from his collarbone YESSS GAWD!
.,I actually cried to this... wow, i'm so melodramatic...
I love the sound of her voice,her beautiful voice and words,she's really something!!
I love poems that take the air from your lungs! At the very end I just stopped and held my breath..So amazing! True talent!
At the end of the day, what matters is not about looking beautiful while fat. What matters is your health. Lose weight so you become healthy. No amount of talk and rationalization can ever change that fact. Talk less, eat less crap and instead exercise more.
Couldn't have said it better myself.
Keep in mind that skinny and healthy are not the same thing.
No but obesity is always unhealthy.
I'm not excusing obesity, but I know plenty of people who are naturally thin but never exercise or eat right.
One friend was already underweight and had a weight goal that she wouldn't tell anyone because it was so low.
True but that is hardly relevant.
BOOOOOMM mad respect for this lady right here.
This is really inspiring. Thank you Rachel Wiley. For helping us all see our beauty.
One of the best poems I have ever listened to ❤️❤️
I am a tall woman, 5'9, 160 pounds. Used to weigh 200. I still feel now that I am thin and I have not found a man because of my height. All through high-school they would go for short girls. Some bigger than me. It's not me. Its them. It's their insecurities. I even heard a guy telling his friend "shes so sweet and pretty, but I could never date a girl taller than me" I can't control my height. I have an amazing funny, whitty personality. But I'm still waiting for that one secure guy.
Candace Higgins lmao you’re actually insulting every man who isn’t attracted to you by stating it’s their fault, their “insecurities”.
Do you realise the narcissism in that statement? As if you are some perfect girl. Perhaps you are not so sweet, hun, because it seems to me you have some flaws in your personality to say shit like that.
Be humble, do good, and love yourself.
Do not kiss your own ass, blame others, and insult an entire selection of people.
Make those changes, and a man will love you soon enough. It is not about your height whatsoever.
"I fear the day he does is the day he leaves". I feel this with my skinny boyfriend.
Ash McCartney same ;-;
Amazing. She says what so many if us feel. Puts it out there, open and honest and unafraid. I applaud you and thank you for giving others a glimpse into our lives!!
Poem is making me cry and laugh. Thank you for sharing this with the world
Oh, man. At the end, I got shivers.
I told myself I wasn't going to cry.
I lied.
I love this poem so much.
Making me cry in 2015 too, Rachel. God I love you! Thank you for making this!