You're right & that's a beautiful sentiment. But there are those us who feel that being a teenager is supposed to be one of *the* happiest times in your life. (I was literally told this by my grandmother one day before school, "This is supposed to be the happiest time of your life & you're miserable") You're supposed to be discovering & embracing yourself & living a life relatively unburndened by adulthood while simultaneously preparing for it. It's supposed to be a time of fun. But instead, for some of us, it was a non-stop slog of a 24/7 charade where we have to play a caricature of ourselves to feel safe while everyone else grows & has fun. Money can but alot of things but it cannot buy time & milestones lost. This is why someone posted on Twitter (and it got 20,000 likes in two days) "The reason gay men act like teenagers in their 30s is because our teenage years weren't ours to live."
There are so many words, but I’ll leave it at this….. we love you Jake! Thank you for showing your authentic self and can’t wait to see the true Jake and you living your best life! ❤
@@jakeeldridgeIt takes a lot of courage to be who you are: an authentic, honest,wise and brave “old soul “ I believe you help & inspire more people than you ever thought 🤗
Jake first and foremost I am proud of you ! I am proud of you for coming out so you can be who you truly are, I am proud of you for having the courage to come out ! Those who left you were not meant to go to the altitude and places you will go in life but those of us who love you for you will always stand by your side no matter what. Also for what it’s worth as a gay man myself I am proud of you for coming out at a young age as I am 32 now and for 31 years of my life I was closeted and not living to be who I truly was ! Just know you have so many of us who are behind you fully and always will be ! NOW keep your head up and go be YOU and don’t apologize for nothing because we are who we are and will always be !! Much love Jake 💙🫶🏻 !
This is why I'm still on social media, finding true people I can relate too. I'm also very private and not one too leave comments but here it goes (hopefully not a long ramble) I have held back, kept my self restricted and watched myself around others, weather it was out of respect or fear but I also try not to have any regrets or resentment on any of my pass decisions. I've always been the type to plan ahead but with what I experienced, it really is day by day because you never know how the next day is going to effect your life. I felt this video, so many feelings and I hope for nothing but strength and love for you bud❤❤❤
I came out to my family in the 70’s when I was 17 years old. Lived in a very rural area where homophobia flourished. Played football in high school and was totally closeted. Was closeted in the Air National Guard for 7 years. I left the Guard as I was fed up with the homophobia, misogyny, and politics. From that point on I was totally out. Being in the medical field made being out and gay tolerable. I never thought I could and would get married in my lifetime. Today, it is easier to be out, but not completely devoid of discrimination or prejudice. I just know from the experiences of others and myself that it gets immensely better with time. I wish the same for you. Thanks for sharing your story and the emotions that go with it. Some man is going to sweep you off your feet and capture your heart. And you will do the same to him.
Me and my husband have been together for 45 years. It can be done... Many of my (other gay couple) friends have been together since the early eighties. Just try hard to be yourself, no matter what other folks think. Stay strong.
You are an inspiration. Keep the faith, brother! You have a marvelous life ahead of you. Don’t ever lose sight of that fact. It was my experience over many years that as you progressively come out to more and more people, it’s as if a weight is lifted off your shoulders. Hang in there! You’re going to be fine.
Just found this video and your channel today. Thank you for sharing your story. You are brave! You didn't waste a lot of your life. I just came out at almost 28, and I'm excited about this new chapter where I can be myself. You have a lot to look forward to.
Courage is your strength - cherish it. I’m 62 and can assure you there will be more ups and downs but stay true to yourself. And keep laughing - it’s the best elixir.
This was so beautiful. You are wonderful and kind. You make the world better. You give me hope. And your Christmas tree is lovely too. Stay strong. Be happy. Be you.
A big shout out to you, for being your true self. Now the hardest thing is done, and now your life really begins 😊 I’m so sorry to hear that you had such a hard time, and got sick, do to stress and anxiety. Please surround yourself with people who only want all the good for you and who loves you no matter what ❤ And if people can’t accept you for who you are, please keep them out of your life, so they don’t poison your life 🙏 Lots of positivity, love, hugs and peace from Denmark ❤
Jake, thanks for sharing your story with us! You have no idea how much courage you have shown by sharing and posting your story on this venue!! Kudos to you, and please keep sharing. I look forward to future posts.
I am enjoying watching your videos. The older you get, the more you will care less about what others think of you (while also realizing how infrequently they do think of you). Years ago I adopted this phrase - “Your opinion of me is none of my business.” It serves me well! 😊
Great vid, Jake! Coming out is an amazing process. It is both an emotionally strengthening and vulnerable condition. With coming out, you will never feel stronger, it is power no one can take away. And that's saying a lot, especially for a toughened footballer like yourself. Follow your dreams, live your life, and be happy with all the spoils (like true love) that honesty and truth bring,
God bless you Jake, I feel your pain. Growing up in the 1970’s was no picnic….i still feel the pain. But enough about me. Please be yourself, grow and continue to be the best you can be. Remember a smile and kind word goes a long way. We never know what is happening with the other person we are talking with. May you have the best life, and I hope you will find a wonderful person to be by your side!!!!
Jake, you are amazing, so brave, and so strong. I've been following you for a while and I've been so proud to watch your journey. It hurts my heart to hear all of the struggles that you've gone through. You don't know anyone an explanation and it warms my heart to know that you're able to do things you truly enjoy now. I totally understand you on the UC too - I have Crohn's and it sucks. Glad to know there's someone else who gets that :) Sending all my love
You did not waste 19 years of your life. You did what you had to do, or thought you had to do, to make you happy. You MIGHT have some regrets about your high school times, in the future. Don't let those regrets bog you down. After hearing these stories, I'm so proud of who you are, and what you've been. Keep on keeping it real.❤
I loved this story. I’m currently a 17 year old junior in high school and completely understand everything you went through. Being a “retired” varsity hockey athlete, it was so hard being my authentic self. I basically had to fake who I truly was, similarly to you. To be completely honest, I’m still terrified to officially come out, my whole family is religious and neither my town or school is necessarily accepting. I feel like people might suspect I’m gay, but who knows at this point🤷♂️ Thankfully, someone came into my life this year who made me feel comfortable, allowing me to come out to her, despite me still being terrified of what people may think of me after I come out. This video gives me hope though, hopefully by the time I go to college I can feel comfortable to be who I really am🥹💕
Same with me. Same story. I waited to come out until I was 24 and out of college. I wanted to be my own independent man before I told my folks who were supporting me and paying for my college. I knew their opinions don’t matter once I make my own way in the world. My dad is a preacher. They accept me now. We just don’t go into details about my dating / social life. Lmk if you have any questions or want any advice.
It's hard to admit it but it gets easier. I was outed at the end of my freshmen year. I am finishing up my last high school year of hockey now. I got lucky with my team. They will protect me (I'm the goalie) and they know who I am on the inside. Senior year is such a breeze unless you got concussions like me lol. Enough about me. You will find people who will have your back. It takes time. I'm still figuring things out but I have people to guide me. Note that your identity matters and stay true to yourself. I prob been in your place before in hockey locker rooms and heard the same things. I grew resilience which is the best virtue I learned so far. Reading your story made me feel emotional and I had to type smth (1st time I did this too lol) Thank you and I wish the best of luck!!!
@@travismodzelewski21 cute but try being bi sexual in Africa , you see the whole support structure hockey team protecting you thats a fantasy here people hate you for being anything else than straight , lve had people i dont even know telling me i have homosexuality demons and that i will corrupt other kids .... also i wasnt wanted in the soccer team never played soccer in my life , some family memebers also dont like the way i act or talk its literal hell on earth for me and the worst part is day by day it gets worse .I wish i hav what u have at the moment cause i cant even make a friend thats how sad it is .
This is incredible! Young people struggling need to watch this and know it’s ok to be their true selves. It does get better. You are enough. Waiting to read your book! Thank you! ❤
This was real and perfect and made me cry 😭. I like this format too aside from vlogs where you just talk and have a dialogue. I’ve been out for less than a year and I’m 27 and seeing your videos really gave me courage and you’re only 19! You are some brave guy! You deserve to be happy and yes it really does suck at times and it’s tough but it just makes you that much of a tougher person. We need good role models in our community and I can’t wait to see what’s ahead for you!!
Awhh Jake 😭 I want to give you a big hug and hold you and tell you it’s all going to be ok! But you know this because you’re already living your best life! ❤️
I also totally understand the “hook up” culture and wanting that real authentic genuine connection that is very absent in the community. It totally sucks. And the unrealistic beauty standards. It’s just a long list of things.
I went through the same thing as you growing up and in private school and college except I was a ice hockey goalie. I had to let alot of stuff roll off my back. Move foreward and don't look back or dwell on things from the past You have so much love and goodness and compassion. You are loved and I care about you too. I wish you an awesome Christmas and blessings. 🎄🎄
You are so incredibly emotionally intelligent and such a beautiful human being. You dont have to be part of a 'culture', just be you. And wait for someone who deserves you. You are a light in a world that can be very dark. Don’t let anyone extinguish your light. God bless you. Sending you love.💙
Thank you fro sharing your story, Jake. You're incredibly brave and courageous for doing this, especially given the pressure from a sport. Thank you for sharing and inspiring others to be their true selves.
Awww I just want to hug you 💙😥 I'm so happy you can live your life for you now, its never too late to come out, I'm still struggling as well whenever I meet new people I'm afraid of what their reaction would be, sadly this world isn't fully accepting as we should be, I hope everyone can just eventually live their life without being afraid and everyone can be comfortable and accepting no matter who you are. All the best to you Jake 💙💙 also I love your Christmas display and outfit!
Jake ,you will do well in life. Though it is a strange comparison, I lost loved ones this year and I feel miserable. The point is, by you coming out, you freed yourself out of that unhappiness . I have to free myself of pain like you did. You are an inspiration for people who don't feel free to express themselves. Keep up your helping others out and be the guiding light for the world. More than anything else, look in the mirror, and be very proud of yourself. Take care and have a wonderful Christmas and a healthy, prosperous 2025.
Clearly, you are an amazing person; you certainly have my respect. Keep being happy. Yeah, there's still a lot of crap out there, but please don't let it mess you up. Truly awesome video. Thanks! Had to subscribe.
This video definitely hit close to heart for me. I felt some of the things you went through, and I’m so happy to see you embracing your true self! Love the song-definitely adding it to my playlist.
Let all the chaff fall away! It is the gift of clarity. You are an amazing guy Jake! You’re going to be better than fine! Here if you ever need me! Anytime!
You have not wasted a second of your life. It got you to where you are today with the lesson that you must live every day as though it may be your last. Don’t waste time on the toxic. You have a beautiful sout. Now is your time to shine! Go for it!❤
This video popped up in my recommended. Having those strict religious environments growing up really does leave a lasting impact. I came out to my family when I was 19, and while I didn't have that super macho environment adding extra pressure to conform, my entire sense of what's right and what's wrong has shackled me for so many years. But it's really inspiring to see you openly and unashamedly share a piece of your story with us. I know you'll be very popular with the boys, so take care and keep your head on your shoulders. Best of luck on your new journey--the future is bright!
I understand exactly what you are sharing about your life. Ive been through somewhat of the same thing. Just be yourself and people will love you for being you baby. Ive been out now 35 years and have enjoyed a life happy, joyous and free❤
You have Incredible insight for your youth. Keep being your authentic self and thank you for sharing your journey. Your parents must be very proud of you. I know I would.
Proud of you - you are free and you got time to figure yourself out and then try to get what you want from life ❤ - Texas and Florida are definitely not the easiest places to grow up either so I can see why you were “hiding yourself” to avoid hate.
I am so glad I found your video tonight. My heart goes out to you and I completely understand what you are saying. I've been living a lifetime of what you are saying. I'm so happy you found your voice and you are so open and honest. I can understand and feel your tears, they are what makes you so relatable. I just found someone who is finally helping me realize I have to be honest about who I am in order to find happiness. Thank you for your honesty and compassion. I am going to be watching for more of your videos. I pray you find real happiness in your life. ❤
Hey man, I’ve been following you for about a year or so and just wanna say I’m so happy you’re able to live your true authentic self now! This really inspired me because even though I came out 5 years ago, I still feel that I’m not the most connected to the community and find myself hiding this part of myself in certain situations. Thanks for showing me it’s cool to be proud of who you are unapologetically! ❤❤
I came out in Jan at 35. I could not keep lying. Since I came out I am exactly what you said, doing everything I couldn’t do while in the closet because I feel like I’ve waste so much of my life. Since coming out it’s been an amazing year, & I hope everyone can find the courage to do so. Love you Jake proud of you for coming out.
The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are. It could take a lifetime to get there. Anyway, I played, then I coached and didn't comeout to myself until I was over 30!! Then to some friends and family by 35. It's hard, life is hard, life is beautiful. Thank You for sharing!
Congratulations on your coming out story Jake!! I'm sure it's a very chaotic and scary and welcoming time. Just choose your community carefully and you should be fine. There are so many amazing people in the world, especially in the Northeast corridor!!!! :)
Jake: Your story is so so much like my own. I don’t know how to get in touch with you but my heart goes to you. Would love to chat with you somehow. But if we don’t connect, you’re on the right path. My only advice is to know, accept and love yourself. When you do, you are fully free to love someone else. Passion is my favorite word too. Much love.
So much of what you say here is amazingly on point. It took me until I was 31 to acknowledge even though I knew pretty much all along. I felt to have a good career and be successful I just couldn’t. Finally I came to that realization that you describe midway through the video, I simply saw that if someone didn’t accept me for who I was, then I didn’t need to pretend they were my friend or even need them in my life. My family was quite supportive, my friends were all supportive, and I realized that all my worry was really just my own. Didn’t lose any true friends, on the contrary gained some, and my family stands by me. You telling your story does help and although maybe hard is totally amazing. If I had seen something like what you said here 30+ years ago (I’m 50 now) it would have been amazing. But we do each move at our own pace.
I'm guessing I watched you play against the Buckeyes. 😀 I got your 19 years in hiding beat by a few, 61 to be exact. I grew up in a different time and different place. You are far braver than I and I'm so glad you are. Enjoy your life for all of those who were just too scared to live our own. I think your generation will make our country and world a better place.
I’m happy that you’re able to be your true self. I can relate to your issue at boarding school. I was in the Navy in the mid 1980s. It was an awful 4 years.
You inspire me man. I’m so scared to come out and I’m not even in a masculine sport like football, I’m in marching band where there are other gays lol. It’s just so hard and your courage truly inspires me.
Thank you for sharing your journey! It will continue to get better in time. You keep tuning out the noise and the negativity. Much love and respect to you!
Do not regret what you were living before, it was part of you growing up and you will be even better because of those growing years.Those years were the foundation of your character and self. Now you have started a new phase of life and you will still have to learn and grow all the rest of you life. Never stop growing and be better.
Thank you for being so brave in making this video and telling your story! My coming out was over 38 years ago and it’s still not easy for anyone to come out! I hope you are feeling some relief in being your true self now. I agree you will keep the real friends and family and you will find the chosen family who will stick by you! 🫶🏽🫶🏽
Congratulations, your a beautiful man. I’m sure your going to have a beautiful life and coming out can have a huge impact on other men who are struggling to come to terms with their sexuality. So thank you for being a voice.
You are such a beautiful guy and your emotions are beautiful too. I cry a lot too so don't be embarrassed lol. I gotta say, your story makes me both hopeful and sad. I'm hopeful for you because you already know what you want and have the drive to achieve it! I'm also sad though because I'm 27 and I really wish I had that clarity you have now when I was 19. I'm not sure when or if I'll find love, all I know is that you are on a better track to find it than I am. Reach for the stars dude and find that love you're looking for! Always be yourself and remember there are people around you who love you unconditionally!
Hi Jake, I liked your video! I just found your channel but this video was amazing! Thank you for your coming out story and believing in yourself. I think you made the right choice to come out and live the life you are happy with. I am so inspired by this and grateful you decided to share this with the world. People are going to be people but screw them life is too precious to waste time on b/s. There's nothing worse than that imo! I am looking forward to more of your videos! Take care and I wish you well...😀
Oh Jake! I just want to hug you. I was diagnosed with crohns disease in 1997 and hide who I was until 1999. As soon as I came out, the crohns went into remission. Be who you are. You are beautiful! You are not alone. Take care and continue to provide us with great videos. ❤
those who have the problem in this case mainly are the problem As you can only walk down your life's path your own way no one else's Such courage to say what you need to say how you need to say it Much love from UK and thanks for sharing
Im so proud that you are able to finally be yourself and be comfortable enough to do things like this video. I can’t wait to see who you become in this new era 🫶🏼
I love it when beautiful men share their coming out story with the world, making it a little easier for all those who will follow. Thanks Jake! And congrats for having the balls to be to be honest
Hi Jake! I came upon your channel watching real estate and wanted to share a couple of my thoughts with you and whoever decided to read this. I am a parent of a straight 19 yr old, BUT with that being said, it's hard enough for a straight child to adjust in today's society, especially with all the passing of judgements. It's unfortunate that a person can't be themselves without being ridiculed for their beliefs. Yes, we all have judged, but there are limits of passing judgement and boundaries not to cross. I thought it was hard growing up back in my day, but I see him struggle with wanting to be successful and trying to figure out his life. (I tell him there is no manual stating you have to have life figured out at 19). I commend you Jake for having the strength to share your story with us all. It doesn't matter what others think, they're not perfect and I'm sure they have a few skeletons in their closet as well. Not to get spiritual, but the big man upstairs loves you for who you are❤. I'm so excited to follow your story and apartment you get!!!
My bf has a teenage son who was varsity state-champ captain his senior year. I’ll never forget the first game I went to after months of being together. ALL EYES in the entire field were on ME! It was so intense. But his dad was proud, and his son made a point of being super cool to me and so did his teammates. I was very careful not to act effeminate. It was the longest 2 hours of my life, but I’m glad we did it. After that, I went to EVERY game and learned to ignore all the staring. He eventually got into college with a football scholarship and I’ve never been more proud. Be strong buddy- life is long. You’ll be surprised how strong you can be. It’s a real skill you’ll need to deal with the idiots you’ll encounter. Just stay focused and you’ll be just fine. I’m rooting for you 💫 🇺🇸
Jake be strong! Through all the challenges you are facing it will get better. Coming out is beautiful and freeing! I am here for you if you need me. Jeff
Even now, we can hear the pain in your voice, see how you hold back the tears. WE are with YOU. WE understand YOU. YOU are safe with US. I was forced out in 1977 when I was 17 in high school in southern rural Illinois. I survived. You will, too. No one should have to deal with all of what you have, but that is not the world in which we live. Please know that now you get to be your own true self. You have started your journey to setting yourself free. None of your life is wasted. It's part of who you are and if - if - you've learned from it and grown as a person ... then you've accomplished so much! You're right that gay people have a loyalty test when we come out. People do leave. You are so brave and strong. I love how you've shared your emotions. YOU DO NOT NEED TO STOP CRYING. I wish you the very best as you grow in your journey!
What you need is a big hug. Don't worry how the video turned out. It was great and your message is important. Please take care of yourself. Look forward to seeing your continuing adventures.
Thank you for sharing your story with us here! You gave me the words that made all the difference. I wish you the very best on your path! It took me over 50 years to come out. I am not focused on those years, but rather, I am focused on living each day to its fullest. I live in a rural community, and there's not many gay men. But, I am okay as long as I am loved by others. Thanks again!
Thanks for hanging in there. You are awesome. And very cute I might add I know where you’re coming from because I am a bi guy, you’re doing a great job. Still young got a long way to go but you got a good head. It just took you a while to screw it on.
You are VERY courageous young fella Jake... 🎉😊 Keep talking it out ob your channel because you are likely some younger person's first/ only example of someone who's no longer afraid to stand up and shine ✨️ 😉 Cry all you want this year dude because next year you become fierce!! 🦁 2025 🎊🎇🎇🎇🎉👏👏👏
Jake you have a beautiful spirit and you have the best life to live now. I understand the putting to much of yourself into someone you love. You have amazing energy and passion live life to the fullest. ❤❤❤
Hey Jake, I wish the very best for you. You will be a better man with each challenge in life. Be proud for bravely being you. I have been there. It gets better. You are very admirable.
I don't believe everything happens for a reason, but I definitely believe we can find reason from everything that happens to us. That is healing. Sorry you been through it and glad you are getting through.
Jake you seem like an amazing person and I’m so happy you were able to come out and live as your true self! :D You did not waste the first 19 years of your life because it is so hard to be yourself in an environment that feels like it’s actively against you being different. I recently came out at age 19 to my friends and family after being in denial about my sexuality for so long. I grew up in a fairly conservative area and played volleyball for all of high school. Even though volleyball isn’t really a masculine sport like football is, I still felt pressured to not be different and it wasn’t really until I was a year into college on the east coast that I finally accepted myself. Sometimes I wish I had came out sooner because it would’ve saved me so many years of hating a huge part of myself. But if I had, then I probably wouldn’t have met some of the people I know today and I’m so happy to be where I am, even if it took longer than I would’ve liked. You have so many great years ahead of you and you can’t let your regrets weigh you down. You were able to come out which is such a difficult thing to do and should be proud about how strong you are for doing that! Now you don’t have to hide who you are anymore and i know you’re going to find someone amazing and live a great life!!!
Jake! You are so awesome for sharing this. So awesome, so brave. Thank you for illustrating that, even this so-called hallowed age of acceptance, well, it’s still excruciatingly hard to reconcile who you are against what so many others feel you’re supposed to be. Thank you so much for sharing this. My own story of coming out was in a different era, yet in some ways the same, in others different. You are an inspirational man who shows that there are countless guys like you forced into suffering the pressures and stress of being told to be one thing that is counter to your soul. That you broke through that crap and are brave, I salute you!
Jake, you've been through an incredible amount of pain. You are now coming to terms with your life. I want to say one thing: You have your whole life before you. Live your life to the fullest.
Jake i relate to your story....ru alumnus....keep up the good work....have a great holiday and new year...peace brother.....too bad rutgers football tends to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory
Jake, I am sending you so much love and support as you continue your journey to live your life authentically. Being close in age, I take a lot of inspiration from you and am amazed by the courage you’ve had to come out in front of thousands of people. While I know none of this was easy, you will continue inspiring many people to live their lives for themselves, and I have no doubt about that. You’re such a beautiful soul, and I’m so glad I’ve gotten to be part of this journey ❣️
Hi Jake, thank you for your courage. I am a fellow Rutgers grad ('02) and I also struggled with ulcerative colitis. I was diagnosed and hospitalized at 18 years old when I was beginning to understand my sexuality. I did not come out for another 15 years however, simply out of fear of what others would think of me. I only wish I had a role model to guide me through the process. I am very grateful for people like you who give me hope for the future of our community. I wish you all the best in your future endeavors. 🙏🏾❤
Jake, you didn’t waste 19 years because it lead to this place in your life! You are a beautiful person!
Yes, for Pete's sake. 19 is just the beginning of your life!
@@atmostud39❤ you're 100% right and I agree with your thoughts. An amen for that. Take care. Bi, JayR ❤️
you got the support from your buddies here in Canada :--)
You're right & that's a beautiful sentiment. But there are those us who feel that being a teenager is supposed to be one of *the* happiest times in your life. (I was literally told this by my grandmother one day before school, "This is supposed to be the happiest time of your life & you're miserable") You're supposed to be discovering & embracing yourself & living a life relatively unburndened by adulthood while simultaneously preparing for it. It's supposed to be a time of fun. But instead, for some of us, it was a non-stop slog of a 24/7 charade where we have to play a caricature of ourselves to feel safe while everyone else grows & has fun. Money can but alot of things but it cannot buy time & milestones lost. This is why someone posted on Twitter (and it got 20,000 likes in two days) "The reason gay men act like teenagers in their 30s is because our teenage years weren't ours to live."
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There are so many words, but I’ll leave it at this….. we love you Jake! Thank you for showing your authentic self and can’t wait to see the true Jake and you living your best life! ❤
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@@jakeeldridgeIt takes a lot of courage to be who you are: an authentic, honest,wise and brave “old soul “ I believe you help & inspire more people than you ever thought 🤗
Jake first and foremost I am proud of you ! I am proud of you for coming out so you can be who you truly are, I am proud of you for having the courage to come out ! Those who left you were not meant to go to the altitude and places you will go in life but those of us who love you for you will always stand by your side no matter what. Also for what it’s worth as a gay man myself I am proud of you for coming out at a young age as I am 32 now and for 31 years of my life I was closeted and not living to be who I truly was ! Just know you have so many of us who are behind you fully and always will be ! NOW keep your head up and go be YOU and don’t apologize for nothing because we are who we are and will always be !! Much love Jake 💙🫶🏻 !
This is why I'm still on social media, finding true people I can relate too. I'm also very private and not one too leave comments but here it goes (hopefully not a long ramble) I have held back, kept my self restricted and watched myself around others, weather it was out of respect or fear but I also try not to have any regrets or resentment on any of my pass decisions. I've always been the type to plan ahead but with what I experienced, it really is day by day because you never know how the next day is going to effect your life. I felt this video, so many feelings and I hope for nothing but strength and love for you bud❤❤❤
You are a brave, caring and gentle soul. You have more people wishing you well and being there to support you, than you know.
Aw you are too kind thank you!
I came out to my family in the 70’s when I was 17 years old. Lived in a very rural area where homophobia flourished. Played football in high school and was totally closeted. Was closeted in the Air National Guard for 7 years. I left the Guard as I was fed up with the homophobia, misogyny, and politics. From that point on I was totally out. Being in the medical field made being out and gay tolerable. I never thought I could and would get married in my lifetime. Today, it is easier to be out, but not completely devoid of discrimination or prejudice. I just know from the experiences of others and myself that it gets immensely better with time. I wish the same for you. Thanks for sharing your story and the emotions that go with it. Some man is going to sweep you off your feet and capture your heart. And you will do the same to him.
@@kd8199 Wishing you all the Best! Kind words with a totally meaningful message. 💙💙
@ - thank you so much. Wishing you the same.
You no doubt are a beautiful person!! Be who YOU are!! Nothing wrong with a emotional person!! LOVE and HUGS!
(Helps when you ARE a *physically* beautiful person too lol.) But yes, hang in there dude! 🫂
Jake you will survive, keep looking for that one partner!! Me and my husband together 54 years ago
Me and my husband have been together for 45 years. It can be done... Many of my (other gay couple) friends have been together since the early eighties.
Just try hard to be yourself, no matter what other folks think. Stay strong.
Hi good nite blessing to see length of years but not everyone have that luck man enjoy .
You are an inspiration. Keep the faith, brother! You have a marvelous life ahead of you. Don’t ever lose sight of that fact. It was my experience over many years that as you progressively come out to more and more people, it’s as if a weight is lifted off your shoulders. Hang in there! You’re going to be fine.
Just found this video and your channel today. Thank you for sharing your story. You are brave! You didn't waste a lot of your life. I just came out at almost 28, and I'm excited about this new chapter where I can be myself. You have a lot to look forward to.
Hugs. My husband and I have been together for 33 years. I was 30 when we met….
You keep being you and your life will be amazing. 🎉🎉
Amazing,congrats & all the best ❤
Courage is your strength - cherish it. I’m 62 and can assure you there will be more ups and downs but stay true to yourself. And keep laughing - it’s the best elixir.
This was so beautiful. You are wonderful and kind. You make the world better. You give me hope. And your Christmas tree is lovely too. Stay strong. Be happy. Be you.
Poor guy. Here's a virtual hug. You have a full life ahead of you, leaving all this in the past. You'll find love and that someone eventually.
Love this. I came out at 28 and I wish I had the courage to come out sooner. Sending you love, light and positivity. Thank you for sharing your story.
A big shout out to you, for being your true self. Now the hardest thing is done, and now your life really begins 😊
I’m so sorry to hear that you had such a hard time, and got sick, do to stress and anxiety. Please surround yourself with people who only want all the good for you and who loves you no matter what ❤
And if people can’t accept you for who you are, please keep them out of your life, so they don’t poison your life 🙏
Lots of positivity, love, hugs and peace from Denmark ❤
Jake, thanks for sharing your story with us! You have no idea how much courage you have shown by sharing and posting your story on this venue!! Kudos to you, and please keep sharing. I look forward to future posts.
I wish you well Jake. You deserve to find that special someone in your life. Good luck. Look forward and keep smiling.
Thanks for being so honest. You are amazing and brave.
Even through the tears, you found humour in it and made me laugh 😂 The Duolingo comment while recounting a harrowing experience in Paris was gold
I am enjoying watching your videos. The older you get, the more you will care less about what others think of you (while also realizing how infrequently they do think of you). Years ago I adopted this phrase - “Your opinion of me is none of my business.” It serves me well! 😊
I love your phrase. Everyone should adopt it in all walks of life. We probably all could live a much happier and less angry and confrontational life.
Great vid, Jake! Coming out is an amazing process. It is both an emotionally strengthening and vulnerable condition. With coming out, you will never feel stronger, it is power no one can take away. And that's saying a lot, especially for a toughened footballer like yourself. Follow your dreams, live your life, and be happy with all the spoils (like true love) that honesty and truth bring,
God bless you Jake, I feel your pain. Growing up in the 1970’s was no picnic….i still feel the pain. But enough about me. Please be yourself, grow and continue to be the best you can be. Remember a smile and kind word goes a long way. We never know what is happening with the other person we are talking with. May you have the best life, and I hope you will find a wonderful person to be by your side!!!!
Jake, you are amazing, so brave, and so strong. I've been following you for a while and I've been so proud to watch your journey. It hurts my heart to hear all of the struggles that you've gone through. You don't know anyone an explanation and it warms my heart to know that you're able to do things you truly enjoy now. I totally understand you on the UC too - I have Crohn's and it sucks. Glad to know there's someone else who gets that :) Sending all my love
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You did not waste 19 years of your life. You did what you had to do, or thought you had to do, to make you happy. You MIGHT have some regrets about your high school times, in the future. Don't let those regrets bog you down. After hearing these stories, I'm so proud of who you are, and what you've been. Keep on keeping it real.❤
I loved this story. I’m currently a 17 year old junior in high school and completely understand everything you went through. Being a “retired” varsity hockey athlete, it was so hard being my authentic self. I basically had to fake who I truly was, similarly to you. To be completely honest, I’m still terrified to officially come out, my whole family is religious and neither my town or school is necessarily accepting. I feel like people might suspect I’m gay, but who knows at this point🤷♂️ Thankfully, someone came into my life this year who made me feel comfortable, allowing me to come out to her, despite me still being terrified of what people may think of me after I come out. This video gives me hope though, hopefully by the time I go to college I can feel comfortable to be who I really am🥹💕
Same with me. Same story. I waited to come out until I was 24 and out of college. I wanted to be my own independent man before I told my folks who were supporting me and paying for my college. I knew their opinions don’t matter once I make my own way in the world. My dad is a preacher. They accept me now. We just don’t go into details about my dating / social life. Lmk if you have any questions or want any advice.
@ thank you I appreciate it, and glad it all worked out for you🙏 I have the exact same plan
It's hard to admit it but it gets easier. I was outed at the end of my freshmen year. I am finishing up my last high school year of hockey now. I got lucky with my team. They will protect me (I'm the goalie) and they know who I am on the inside. Senior year is such a breeze unless you got concussions like me lol. Enough about me. You will find people who will have your back. It takes time. I'm still figuring things out but I have people to guide me. Note that your identity matters and stay true to yourself. I prob been in your place before in hockey locker rooms and heard the same things. I grew resilience which is the best virtue I learned so far. Reading your story made me feel emotional and I had to type smth (1st time I did this too lol) Thank you and I wish the best of luck!!!
@@travismodzelewski21 refreshing to hear it’s not just me, we likely had a similar experience lol and thank you!
@@travismodzelewski21 cute but try being bi sexual in Africa , you see the whole support structure hockey team protecting you thats a fantasy here people hate you for being anything else than straight , lve had people i dont even know telling me i have homosexuality demons and that i will corrupt other kids .... also i wasnt wanted in the soccer team never played soccer in my life , some family memebers also dont like the way i act or talk its literal hell on earth for me and the worst part is day by day it gets worse .I wish i hav what u have at the moment cause i cant even make a friend thats how sad it is .
This is incredible! Young people struggling need to watch this and know it’s ok to be their true selves. It does get better. You are enough. Waiting to read your book! Thank you! ❤
This was real and perfect and made me cry 😭. I like this format too aside from vlogs where you just talk and have a dialogue.
I’ve been out for less than a year and I’m 27 and seeing your videos really gave me courage and you’re only 19! You are some brave guy!
You deserve to be happy and yes it really does suck at times and it’s tough but it just makes you that much of a tougher person. We need good role models in our community and I can’t wait to see what’s ahead for you!!
Aw thank you! So proud of you!
You have so much passion and love bout who you really are. It's simply amazing because you and you and thats the best thing of all.
Definitely congrats on coming out, chief and best wishes on loving the true you. But more importantly, good job getting Christmas going so fast!
Awhh Jake 😭 I want to give you a big hug and hold you and tell you it’s all going to be ok! But you know this because you’re already living your best life! ❤️
I also totally understand the “hook up” culture and wanting that real authentic genuine connection that is very absent in the community. It totally sucks. And the unrealistic beauty standards. It’s just a long list of things.
I went through the same thing as you growing up and in private school and college except I was a ice hockey goalie. I had to let alot of stuff roll off my back. Move foreward and don't look back or dwell on things from the past You have so much love and goodness and compassion. You are loved and I care about you too. I wish you an awesome Christmas and blessings. 🎄🎄
You are so incredibly emotionally intelligent and such a beautiful human being. You dont have to be part of a 'culture', just be you. And wait for someone who deserves you. You are a light in a world that can be very dark. Don’t let anyone extinguish your light. God bless you. Sending you love.💙
Thank you fro sharing your story, Jake. You're incredibly brave and courageous for doing this, especially given the pressure from a sport. Thank you for sharing and inspiring others to be their true selves.
Awww I just want to hug you 💙😥 I'm so happy you can live your life for you now, its never too late to come out, I'm still struggling as well whenever I meet new people I'm afraid of what their reaction would be, sadly this world isn't fully accepting as we should be, I hope everyone can just eventually live their life without being afraid and everyone can be comfortable and accepting no matter who you are. All the best to you Jake 💙💙 also I love your Christmas display and outfit!
Jake, so proud of your journey and living your authentic life. You are loved! Sending you love always!
Jake ,you will do well in life. Though it is a strange comparison, I lost loved ones this year and I feel miserable. The point is, by you coming out, you freed yourself out of that unhappiness . I have to free myself of pain like you did. You are an inspiration for people who don't feel free to express themselves. Keep up your helping others out and be the guiding light for the world. More than anything else, look in the mirror, and be very proud of yourself. Take care and have a wonderful Christmas and a healthy, prosperous 2025.
Clearly, you are an amazing person; you certainly have my respect. Keep being happy. Yeah, there's still a lot of crap out there, but please don't let it mess you up. Truly awesome video. Thanks! Had to subscribe.
This video definitely hit close to heart for me. I felt some of the things you went through, and I’m so happy to see you embracing your true self! Love the song-definitely adding it to my playlist.
Let all the chaff fall away! It is the gift of clarity. You are an amazing guy Jake! You’re going to be better than fine! Here if you ever need me! Anytime!
You have not wasted a second of your life. It got you to where you are today with the lesson that you must live every day as though it may be your last. Don’t waste time on the toxic. You have a beautiful sout. Now is your time to shine! Go for it!❤
This video popped up in my recommended. Having those strict religious environments growing up really does leave a lasting impact. I came out to my family when I was 19, and while I didn't have that super macho environment adding extra pressure to conform, my entire sense of what's right and what's wrong has shackled me for so many years. But it's really inspiring to see you openly and unashamedly share a piece of your story with us. I know you'll be very popular with the boys, so take care and keep your head on your shoulders. Best of luck on your new journey--the future is bright!
I understand exactly what you are sharing about your life. Ive been through somewhat of the same thing. Just be yourself and people will love you for being you baby. Ive been out now 35 years and have enjoyed a life happy, joyous and free❤
Thank you so much for being you. You are a star my child! Keep shining ✨️
You have Incredible insight for your youth. Keep being your authentic self and thank you for sharing your journey. Your parents must be very proud of you. I know I would.
Proud of you - you are free and you got time to figure yourself out and then try to get what you want from life ❤ - Texas and Florida are definitely not the easiest places to grow up either so I can see why you were “hiding yourself” to avoid hate.
Even if I don’t know you personally, proud of you, kind of gone through the same situation. Following your journey
I am so glad I found your video tonight. My heart goes out to you and I completely understand what you are saying. I've been living a lifetime of what you are saying. I'm so happy you found your voice and you are so open and honest. I can understand and feel your tears, they are what makes you so relatable. I just found someone who is finally helping me realize I have to be honest about who I am in order to find happiness. Thank you for your honesty and compassion. I am going to be watching for more of your videos. I pray you find real happiness in your life. ❤
So happy to see you living authentically! It will only go up from here on out! Proud of you! ❤
Hey man, I’ve been following you for about a year or so and just wanna say I’m so happy you’re able to live your true authentic self now! This really inspired me because even though I came out 5 years ago, I still feel that I’m not the most connected to the community and find myself hiding this part of myself in certain situations. Thanks for showing me it’s cool to be proud of who you are unapologetically! ❤❤
I came out in Jan at 35. I could not keep lying. Since I came out I am exactly what you said, doing everything I couldn’t do while in the closet because I feel like I’ve waste so much of my life. Since coming out it’s been an amazing year, & I hope everyone can find the courage to do so. Love you Jake proud of you for coming out.
So happy to hear you can be your true self! Lots of love
The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are. It could take a lifetime to get there. Anyway, I played, then I coached and didn't comeout to myself until I was over 30!! Then to some friends and family by 35. It's hard, life is hard, life is beautiful. Thank You for sharing!
Congratulations on your coming out story Jake!! I'm sure it's a very chaotic and scary and welcoming time. Just choose your community carefully and you should be fine. There are so many amazing people in the world, especially in the Northeast corridor!!!! :)
Coming out is a huge part of living authentically; the road isn't always smooth, but life is much less stressful being yourself.
Hugs to you! 🫂
You deserve happiness. Remember that! ❤
Jake: Your story is so so much like my own. I don’t know how to get in touch with you but my heart goes to you. Would love to chat with you somehow. But if we don’t connect, you’re on the right path. My only advice is to know, accept and love yourself. When you do, you are fully free to love someone else. Passion is my favorite word too. Much love.
So much of what you say here is amazingly on point. It took me until I was 31 to acknowledge even though I knew pretty much all along. I felt to have a good career and be successful I just couldn’t. Finally I came to that realization that you describe midway through the video, I simply saw that if someone didn’t accept me for who I was, then I didn’t need to pretend they were my friend or even need them in my life. My family was quite supportive, my friends were all supportive, and I realized that all my worry was really just my own. Didn’t lose any true friends, on the contrary gained some, and my family stands by me.
You telling your story does help and although maybe hard is totally amazing. If I had seen something like what you said here 30+ years ago (I’m 50 now) it would have been amazing. But we do each move at our own pace.
I'm guessing I watched you play against the Buckeyes. 😀 I got your 19 years in hiding beat by a few, 61 to be exact. I grew up in a different time and different place. You are far braver than I and I'm so glad you are. Enjoy your life for all of those who were just too scared to live our own. I think your generation will make our country and world a better place.
I’m happy that you’re able to be your true self. I can relate to your issue at boarding school. I was in the Navy in the mid 1980s. It was an awful 4 years.
Well done, very well done! Cheers to the new and very special you! Cheers 🥂
You inspire me man. I’m so scared to come out and I’m not even in a masculine sport like football, I’m in marching band where there are other gays lol. It’s just so hard and your courage truly inspires me.
I went through similar but with hockey, it’s really tough, you’re amazing for speaking up
Thank you for sharing your journey! It will continue to get better in time. You keep tuning out the noise and the negativity. Much love and respect to you!
Do not regret what you were living before, it was part of you growing up and you will be even better because of those growing years.Those years were the foundation of your character and self. Now you have started a new phase of life and you will still have to learn and grow all the rest of you life. Never stop growing and be better.
Love and support from your friend in Germany. What an emotional and positive story. Thank you so much for sharing this. All the best!
Thank you for being so brave in making this video and telling your story! My coming out was over 38 years ago and it’s still not easy for anyone to come out! I hope you are feeling some relief in being your true self now. I agree you will keep the real friends and family and you will find the chosen family who will stick by you! 🫶🏽🫶🏽
Congratulations, your a beautiful man. I’m sure your going to have a beautiful life and coming out can have a huge impact on other men who are struggling to come to terms with their sexuality. So thank you for being a voice.
You are such a beautiful guy and your emotions are beautiful too. I cry a lot too so don't be embarrassed lol. I gotta say, your story makes me both hopeful and sad. I'm hopeful for you because you already know what you want and have the drive to achieve it! I'm also sad though because I'm 27 and I really wish I had that clarity you have now when I was 19. I'm not sure when or if I'll find love, all I know is that you are on a better track to find it than I am. Reach for the stars dude and find that love you're looking for! Always be yourself and remember there are people around you who love you unconditionally!
Hi Jake, I liked your video! I just found your channel but this video was amazing! Thank you for your coming out story and believing in yourself. I think you made the right choice to come out and live the life you are happy with. I am so inspired by this and grateful you decided to share this with the world. People are going to be people but screw them life is too precious to waste time on b/s. There's nothing worse than that imo! I am looking forward to more of your videos! Take care and I wish you well...😀
Oh Jake! I just want to hug you. I was diagnosed with crohns disease in 1997 and hide who I was until 1999. As soon as I came out, the crohns went into remission. Be who you are. You are beautiful! You are not alone. Take care and continue to provide us with great videos. ❤
Well said young man you said it well thank you . And you be strong you got this ...
those who have the problem in this case mainly are the problem
As you can only walk down your life's path your own way no one else's
Such courage to say what you need to say how you need to say it
Much love from UK and thanks for sharing
So so so proud of you Jake! We all love and support you ❤️
Im so proud that you are able to finally be yourself and be comfortable enough to do things like this video. I can’t wait to see who you become in this new era 🫶🏼
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Thank you for sharing your story Jake! Please know that you are awesome and an inspiration ❤!
Thank you so much!
Jake. I understand. And I know that you understand, too. It really IS hard. You’re an impressive young man. Thank you.
I love it when beautiful men share their coming out story with the world, making it a little easier for all those who will follow. Thanks Jake! And congrats for having the balls to be to be honest
wishing u the best Jake, I know u will find your happiness, u are loved by many, God Bless !
Beautifully expressed, Jake. Proud of you. ❤
Love ya man! Spot on! Best Wishes Always♥️😉😎
Hi Jake! I came upon your channel watching real estate and wanted to share a couple of my thoughts with you and whoever decided to read this. I am a parent of a straight 19 yr old, BUT with that being said, it's hard enough for a straight child to adjust in today's society, especially with all the passing of judgements. It's unfortunate that a person can't be themselves without being ridiculed for their beliefs. Yes, we all have judged, but there are limits of passing judgement and boundaries not to cross. I thought it was hard growing up back in my day, but I see him struggle with wanting to be successful and trying to figure out his life. (I tell him there is no manual stating you have to have life figured out at 19). I commend you Jake for having the strength to share your story with us all. It doesn't matter what others think, they're not perfect and I'm sure they have a few skeletons in their closet as well. Not to get spiritual, but the big man upstairs loves you for who you are❤. I'm so excited to follow your story and apartment you get!!!
My bf has a teenage son who was varsity state-champ captain his senior year. I’ll never forget the first game I went to after months of being together. ALL EYES in the entire field were on ME! It was so intense. But his dad was proud, and his son made a point of being super cool to me and so did his teammates. I was very careful not to act effeminate. It was the longest 2 hours of my life, but I’m glad we did it. After that, I went to EVERY game and learned to ignore all the staring. He eventually got into college with a football scholarship and I’ve never been more proud. Be strong buddy- life is long. You’ll be surprised how strong you can be. It’s a real skill you’ll need to deal with the idiots you’ll encounter. Just stay focused and you’ll be just fine. I’m rooting for you 💫 🇺🇸
Jake be strong! Through all the challenges you are facing it will get better. Coming out is beautiful and freeing! I am here for you if you need me. Jeff
Thank you!
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Thanks!
Even now, we can hear the pain in your voice, see how you hold back the tears. WE are with YOU. WE understand YOU. YOU are safe with US.
I was forced out in 1977 when I was 17 in high school in southern rural Illinois. I survived. You will, too.
No one should have to deal with all of what you have, but that is not the world in which we live.
Please know that now you get to be your own true self. You have started your journey to setting yourself free.
None of your life is wasted. It's part of who you are and if - if - you've learned from it and grown as a person ... then you've accomplished so much!
You're right that gay people have a loyalty test when we come out. People do leave.
You are so brave and strong. I love how you've shared your emotions. YOU DO NOT NEED TO STOP CRYING.
I wish you the very best as you grow in your journey!
What you need is a big hug. Don't worry how the video turned out. It was great and your message is important. Please take care of yourself. Look forward to seeing your continuing adventures.
Thank you for sharing your story with us here! You gave me the words that made all the difference. I wish you the very best on your path! It took me over 50 years to come out. I am not focused on those years, but rather, I am focused on living each day to its fullest. I live in a rural community, and there's not many gay men. But, I am okay as long as I am loved by others. Thanks again!
Thanks for hanging in there. You are awesome. And very cute I might add I know where you’re coming from because I am a bi guy, you’re doing a great job. Still young got a long way to go but you got a good head. It just took you a while to screw it on.
You are VERY courageous young fella Jake... 🎉😊
Keep talking it out ob your channel because you are likely some younger person's first/ only example of someone who's no longer afraid to stand up and shine ✨️ 😉
Cry all you want this year dude because next year you become fierce!! 🦁
2025 🎊🎇🎇🎇🎉👏👏👏
Jake you have a beautiful spirit and you have the best life to live now. I understand the putting to much of yourself into someone you love. You have amazing energy and passion live life to the fullest. ❤❤❤
Hey Jake, I wish the very best for you. You will be a better man with each challenge in life. Be proud for bravely being you. I have been there. It gets better. You are very admirable.
Hang in there buddy… it does get better…. New follower…. Can’t wait to see your journey.
I don't believe everything happens for a reason, but I definitely believe we can find reason from everything that happens to us. That is healing. Sorry you been through it and glad you are getting through.
This is a great video. I'm pretty sure you're the best. You're a true inspiration for me.
Luv u brother ❤
Aw thank you!
Jake you seem like an amazing person and I’m so happy you were able to come out and live as your true self! :D
You did not waste the first 19 years of your life because it is so hard to be yourself in an environment that feels like it’s actively against you being different. I recently came out at age 19 to my friends and family after being in denial about my sexuality for so long. I grew up in a fairly conservative area and played volleyball for all of high school. Even though volleyball isn’t really a masculine sport like football is, I still felt pressured to not be different and it wasn’t really until I was a year into college on the east coast that I finally accepted myself. Sometimes I wish I had came out sooner because it would’ve saved me so many years of hating a huge part of myself. But if I had, then I probably wouldn’t have met some of the people I know today and I’m so happy to be where I am, even if it took longer than I would’ve liked.
You have so many great years ahead of you and you can’t let your regrets weigh you down. You were able to come out which is such a difficult thing to do and should be proud about how strong you are for doing that! Now you don’t have to hide who you are anymore and i know you’re going to find someone amazing and live a great life!!!
I am very happy for you. I was 40 when I came out and life has been so much better (29 years later)
Jake! You are so awesome for sharing this. So awesome, so brave. Thank you for illustrating that, even this so-called hallowed age of acceptance, well, it’s still excruciatingly hard to reconcile who you are against what so many others feel you’re supposed to be. Thank you so much for sharing this. My own story of coming out was in a different era, yet in some ways the same, in others different. You are an inspirational man who shows that there are countless guys like you forced into suffering the pressures and stress of being told to be one thing that is counter to your soul. That you broke through that crap and are brave, I salute you!
Jake, you've been through an incredible amount of pain. You are now coming to terms with your life. I want to say one thing: You have your whole life before you. Live your life to the fullest.
Very cool. Hang in there. Many people care for you as you can tell. Kudos that you’re giving back.
Jake i relate to your story....ru alumnus....keep up the good work....have a great holiday and new year...peace brother.....too bad rutgers football tends to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory
Jake,
I am sending you so much love and support as you continue your journey to live your life authentically. Being close in age, I take a lot of inspiration from you and am amazed by the courage you’ve had to come out in front of thousands of people. While I know none of this was easy, you will continue inspiring many people to live their lives for themselves, and I have no doubt about that. You’re such a beautiful soul, and I’m so glad I’ve gotten to be part of this journey ❣️
Aw thank you so much!
Hi Jake, thank you for your courage. I am a fellow Rutgers grad ('02) and I also struggled with ulcerative colitis. I was diagnosed and hospitalized at 18 years old when I was beginning to understand my sexuality. I did not come out for another 15 years however, simply out of fear of what others would think of me. I only wish I had a role model to guide me through the process. I am very grateful for people like you who give me hope for the future of our community. I wish you all the best in your future endeavors.
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