That’s so true, even now in Muslim countries we see a rise in Zina. I don’t even need to mention the west, here in America I’ve seen hijab wearing Muslim women holding hands with men (not married this was in high school AND middle school) there was a Muslim girl that always wears a hijab but was know in the school as a w”ore to the point where she needed to move to new school before her parents find out.
I think This statement couldn’t be further from the truth, as a matter of fact zina was always easy in any era you’ll always be able to find a Zania who would give you the S-deed for free but the difference is that marriage was equally cheap so people went with the more logical and halal option but right now ? Even good muslims have fallen for the trap because they just can’t stay their whole lives without marriage
@@alali4459I see nothing wrong with middle school children holding hands, though it can be a concern after they pass the appropriate age (puberty). Western muslims are indeed too tolerant of somethings, but we must not hate or be blinded, we are all servants of Allah and thus we must remain diplomatic and non-violent.
unfortunately he's right... i've been thinking this myself. I know a lot of "hipster" white girls who lack what our sisters have - but are content with a lot less. That said, many muslim girls are happy with less - but their families are not.
And if we follow religion and that how it should be, a girl is the one who chose to her husband to be how much he can pay or give to her or her family, if she demands more than you can afford well you might as well leave her! Is not mandatory to go marry her! None Muslim woman or man that is haram, no married!
The non muslims ask for less and ain't staying long , even tho they do u won't live a proper life cuz u leave ur kids with a non Muslim so she won't teach them something she doesn't believe in !..so think of akhira this Dunia isn't lasting and u'll be asked about ur children
people are saying "women ask for expensive mehrs in ____ country not ____ " there are good women and bad women every where. there is no country that only "produces" good women
He’s right, but there are plenty of us who got married to men that didn’t have a lot of money. My husband was still a student and practically unemployed when we got married! My parents gave him a chance. Take a look at the girl… Does she dress fancy? Does she drive a luxury car? Expensive handbags?
As a man, ill give you the perspective of us men. We go to the gym daily, save ourselves for marriage, try to lower our gaze the best we can. I don’t have tiktok or any social media besides youtube and discord to communicate with friends. We play playstation from time to time to chill, and make plans to go places. Our fathers are growing old, our mothers are growing sick, the urge to help them and take them to safety increases. We go to college for 4 years, some continue education, others get a job. Either engineers or computer science or doctors or even lawyers, we work hard for our positions. We try to maintain 5 prayers a day, try to read quran, try to study day and night. On the other side we see muslims girls doing tiktok dances, having temporary boyfriends and relationships. Many go to college but with easy majors like nursing compared to computer science and engineering. They are on social media looking at gym videos, men with their shirts off, women with their shirts off. No care in the world. We simply expect a women who also saved herself and never been in a relationship, who wears hijab, prays as frequently as possible and has good character. Girls want a decently wealthy man, whose 6 feet tall, with 6 packs, making 6 figures or more, while also somehow being single the entire time even with all the success and easy access to any girl they want. They want the man to be loyal, pray 5 times a day, be a hafiz or try to be, with also an amazing character. Some of us men realized life is truly unfair, but allah doesn’t burden a soul more than it can withstand. Me and all my friends just keep quiet and focus on ourselves now, a small brotherhood. We realize men seem to be putting in atleast 10 times the effort women seem to be putting in, but the women seems to feel entitled to more. Accurate how prophet muhammed said most of hell is women who were ungrateful to their husbands
You got married to them in hopes that they would be well off after finishing school and getting a job. If they don’t end up that way or meet your expectations, you will divorce him - as so many sisters have today, thinking they can go find a made man.
I saw this brother praying at Masjid Ar-Rahman in Orlando Fl. And all he says is the truth, then people ask why so many Muslims women single? Well you got the answer from this brother. Wallahi the majority of the cases are the parents making such nonsense conditions. My experience was with a Palestinian her dad was asking $40,000 dollars for Mahar ( Dawry ) and he told me that’s is a insurance in case you divorce her. I told him listen Hajj I’m not even marry your daughter and you’re talking about divorce? I just turned around and leave that house.
@@BQ900 I got married 5 years ago with a wonderful Moroccan Princess 👸 Alhamdoli’llah. That’s was my experience before my marriage, but thank you for your wishes may Allāh subhanahu wa ta’ala rewards you ameen.
@@Issa_AlkubiWhat Race Are you No Offense brother I’m just Wondering How Fathers look at Other Muslims Like South Asian or East African… I understand when you Goto a Arab Father with your own Arab Father and you all Speak Arabic Everything is Khaiyr but if you are a Foreign ethnicity how did they treat you?
@@Maxwellhanes I’m from Cuba Alhamdoli’llah ethnicity or language should not determinate if a person can marry you or not but how fearful can be a servant to Allāh subhanahu wa ta’ala.
The brother wants to live within his means. Sounds responsible to me. His reply does not need to satisfy anybody. He's not required to explain himself to you or anybody else.
Fax. It’s fine that we as men have to provide…I accept that. As a Muslim young man, I accept that…but to have to pay the $50k (MINIMUM) dowry that I was told, plus the lavish wedding when I’m still in school and working at a warehouse, Naw. In Islam, money shouldn’t be a reason to postpone marriage and these sisters (mainly their parents) are brainwashed to believe you have to be like an American, make $70k minimum per year before you apply to marry
No idea about the mahr for Muslim women. I didn’t know my husband had any money. All he needed was a job that he could support himself and a family. He said since I was interested in him and his religion; not his money then he was willing to give me everything. Some Muslim men make good husbands. ❤
That wasn't a reasonable answer to marry a non Muslim.. he could've just said I liked her ..cuz there are sooo many sisters who are willing to marry with less' mahr' [majority of them are practicing Muslims] that's why the prophet Mohammed pbuh advised men to choose a practicing muslimah The non muslims ask for less and ain't staying long , even tho they do u won't live a proper life cuz u leave ur kids with a non Muslim so she won't teach them something she doesn't believe in !..so think of akhira this Dunia isn't lasting and u'll be asked about ur children
i think if you actually count the number of young "practising women" on quran and sunnah then the number would be no more then a couple thousbands in the whole world cuz sadly women just dont care about the deen as much as men
@@user-ue4fh5mv9sit depends on what you mean by practising. But even then, your claim is inaccurate. Although we both have no statistics, to claim out of 2 billion muslims, there are only a few thousands who are actually practising is false. Anyone who abandons prayer completely becomes a kaffir so if you want to measure it by that standard, there'll still be millions of sisters left who are practicing
I accepted Islam last year, but there is a special woman in my life that I plan on marrying in the bear future. She is a Christian and I know a lot of Muslims are against it, but Allah said it’s permissible
I just converted to Islam. My dowry: don’t abuse me. Treat me fairly according to the Sunnah. Be willing to give mw children. Keep your money. I want a family. A community. A support system. Protection. I want want money can’t buy. I’m a western woman. I want what no Christian man would ever give a woman. And I want the freedom to BE a woman. A housewife. I’m done with western Christian men wanting me to be the man.
Girl, muslim men can leave you any time as well for a younger version or if he wants another wife, but you don't allow. Has nothing to do with religion. There are even non religious men out their that want a typical house wife and don't mind paying for the women. Muslim girls really believe they are spared from cheating or being replaced. You either get lucky or not doesn't matter what religion. Simple.
If you’re talking about south Asian Muslims you should see their parents asking unrealistic demands…it’s reason why so many single sisters….its not that complex yet our culture decided to do it.
I’m Muslim but I have a big issue regrading this topic,it becoming more complicated to marry this days when I can afford easily a western women without any problem,oh God give us saber.
its completely his choice to marry a non Muslim. no one should get mad at him for doing so. but id also add that there are definitely muslim sisters who would only ask for a $100 ring.
Great…can you offer a service to help connect these women to men who are looking? Because I’m tired of hearing ‘but there are so many women out there..’ Then find them and get them connected to men! Otherwise it’s pointless to raise this topic
@@sophysofff3723men don’t have time or money to fly around the world for decades on end looking for a wife. Men will look for a wife for a certain number of years (usually between mid 20s to early 30s) before they throw in the towel and marry whichever girl satisfies them. I’ve been to both Muslim and non-Muslim majority countries during my younger years. I chased Muslim women who ended being the ones this brother described, and finally I ended up marrying a Christian woman who was happy with a tiny ring and a simple court marriage. Seven years later, she blessed me with a son and is now looking to convert to Islam herself. Meanwhile, over half of the brothers I personally know of are either divorced, still single, or unhappily married to women who they were pressured to marry for the sake that she was Muslim. So yeah…I’ll take my situation over their’s any day
It is the sad truth, but again their are many women who don’t ask for anything and are just happy to be married. I think it is more of a cultural issue rather then areligious one. I know that some people may argue that their is nothing wrong with wanting some stability but if it’s meant for you you will get it and if not you won’t. Have some twakul! Allah is the best of providers.
A hige dowry is definitely not the norm. there are so many sisters who ask for nothing, many even ask for a 1 dollar and most don't get anything. I live in America not sure about other places. I remember seeing some sisters start removing their hijabs so they could compete with none muslims and find husband's and I thought that was very sad. Myself all I ever asked for was kidness,for that person to be a good leader and to be kept safe, not to be harmed or disrespected or humiliated and I never got those things....until my husband now and I'm 50. So he's misrepresenting thousands of sisters.
I’m currently in talks with a Muslim man and don’t have the foggiest clue what to ask for mahr. I’m widowed and was raised Christian with no remaining male relatives to speak of. I know that I’m supposed to ask for something but am clueless-jewelry isn’t a big thing for me and I already own property. I’m just interested in a partner who I can share my life with.
@@Jumjah the only thing I could think of was a well. I own the property we will live on but it doesn’t have a well-there’s a fairly shallow aquifer under ledge that is adequate but it it hasn’t been properly drilled yet. We’ll need a well anyway but since I own the land and it would be considered an improvement that would become part of my property I’m pretty sure it will count enough as “mine”.
Its only in saudia that girls demand alot of mehr but in pakistan or india it is opposite girls ready to marry but boy family asks for too much of dowry which a father of girl cant pay sadly this culture wasnt ours and because our ancestors all lived with hindus so when pakistan got freedom they still carried this jehaz dowry thing may Allah help us get rid of hindusim culture and follow islam perfectly
It's not just Saudi women aur Arab women that demand a lot of mahr, many south Asian (Indian/Pakistani/Bangladeshi) families settled in the UK,US and Europe also demand exorbitant mahr from the men, making marriage very difficult.
Amen. You are a real man of God. Some do it . And that’s so sad. Just because she’s from a different religion doesn’t mean one should take advantage of her.
@isabellopes890 it's something a sister asks for in islam in return of marrying them like they have the right to ask for what they want whether that's a car, house etc..
not to generalize but he is right, tried to get married to muslim women snd was constantly asked for how much money i made, job, etc never once was my personality or other non monetary qualities were brought up, my current wife never once asked how much $ I made, she knew I had a job and graduated university
Don’t forget, that woman that is asking for a $100 ring is also the same woman that’s probably been with several different men making it a risk to your health by being with her. That Muslim girl who is asking for a $5000 ring has probably never been with any man and has been saving herself for her husband. Give her what she deserves.
So someone who refrains from sin, they do it for money instead of for Allah? If one asks for less money for mahr, does that mean they are less in value than the one who asks for more? It is nonsense to say such and such person deserves this much mahr. They are fine to ask how much they want but to say they deserve it, this is wrong. If a man wills to give that much then fine but it is not good to vilify a man who does not want to pay that much.
Not in 2024 majority of Muslim women whom have attended college in the west have engaged in premarital intercourse thus diminishing their value and therefore not worth the $50k mahar they are demanding. You can see this is the case by the astounding amount of divorces initiated by those same college educated Muslim women on reasons that their husbands aren’t experienced enough in the bedroom on social media.
@@gunjanoberoi3137The majority of hellfire will be filled with women whom were unjust towards their husbands or divorced their husbands for an illegitimate reason.
Especially in the Palestinian and Egyptian community. They are brought up to be gold diggers , asking six figure mahr and other nonsense. I’m ashamed of my fellow muslim sisters
They might be ignorant or misguided on realities, but they’re not sinning. Using the term “gold digger” has effectively gained you more sins than they have, because you’re slandering them and assuming the worst in them. We have to do better brother, we can’t act better in dean then steep to throwing around words like “gold digger” which is usually extremely insulting
@@AArrad a righteous Muslim woman would not look at a marriage as an opportunity to exploit someone’s resources. This is the textbook definition of a gold digger , and it should not offend you that we are calling out an evil. As Muslims we are commanded to enjoin good and forbid evil. Sometimes it means calling out the bad amongst us.
@@TheMrpalid forbidding women to set their mahr high is a bigger crime. And it’s within her right to ask for the wealth of this entire world if she wanted to. Listen to yourself and listen to how the men in the video discuss it. There’s a huge difference in respect. You don’t get to subtract from the rights Allah has given someone. Watch yourself and tread carefully I don’t think you realise how serious of an accusation you’re making. Let’s look at it from a different perspective. Someone of sound mind and passed the age of puberty is what is required for marriage. Correct? Now that means an extremely high mahr could be someone not of sound mind. Men will naturally not pay that mahr and these women will accept lower mahr or never get married due to deficient mentality. I’m ashamed of you to call these sisters “evil” for literally practising their right. The Sunnah is to ask for low mahr. The Sunnah is non obligatory. If any Muslim men asked for any of my sisters hand in marriage and spoke like you do I would instantly reject them.
@@AArrad You said it yourself, the Sunnah is mahr that is low and modest. Allah gave the right to women , yet he also gave them the free will to choose and he gave them the example of humility to follow. Similarly Allah gave more rights to a man, yet if he exploited those rights he could be oppressive and unfair. Life is a test. Allah gave each gender their own rights, and gave us examples of who to follow and how to exercise those rights. All the Sahabbiyat were modest when it came to the mahr. This tradition of asking for higher dowry mahr actually originated from Pre-Islam Jahiliya Arabs.
So sister I don't know if your a Muslim but do you realize he makes us women look bad. He is generalizing all Muslim women and make us look like we are golddiggers. He is trying to convince himself for what he did. Allah swt clearly said in the Quran to not marry a non Muslim women/ man until they believe.
I thought I was the only one brother. So many of our muslim sister's are materialistic and selfish and lazy. Now I ask Allah for the wife that He has for me. It's ridiculous out here.
Those muslim girls who are virgins and expect more than £10,000 even though the man can afford to give £30,000 is pathetic... us men are not buying a car or an item nor is her father selling his daughter the bride and her family need to understand the man will protect, provide and sacrifice for her anyway... if that is still thier mindset they should contact someone who is sitting on thier millions
Perhaps wait and marry the woman that God has revealed to be your wife. “Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, But a prudent wife is from the Lord.” Proverbs 19:14 NKJV
Allah swt said it is permitted to marry Christian and Jewish woman. Therefore, it is not our place to make judgements on anybody who does so. I know of many marriages between Muslims that ended in divorce! Anybody could say they “know somebody” who got divorced in any kind of marriage. If your values align, regardless of the theology you use to get to those values, it can work out. Everybody is different, and we shouldn’t make generalizations. Some people make interfaith marriages work, and some people don’t.
Have to disagree there are plenty of Muslim women who don't care about the money. It's his fault for going for women and families that demand that. Thr brother should concentrate on being happy not adding wives if it causes you stress.
He liked this one girl, so he's trying to rationalize by calling out sisters. I'm pretty sure there are many muslimas out there who doesnt demand like he said.
Yeah same here! I was “dating” this hijabi Yemeni-American woman; but after meeting all her family I was like i humbly bow out lol they were loaded 😐!! 💵 💵
Of all the places you could of have went, you decided on an expensive Saudi place. Lol Go to countries were there were wars, plenty sisters there. Also, I have been seeing way to many posts in secular forums about Muslim brother or sister dating a non-Muslim and the relationship doesn’t work out. Recently a husband converter to Islam and his wife was an atheist. Even though he kept it to himself and restricted drinking, etc. and didn’t bother her, she still started hating on him and wanted a divorced. Smh lol Oh if you living in the wester countries be carful of STIs. Lol Seen a post of a Muslim sister catching an STI from her non-Muslim bf. Smh 🤦♂️
Ok the only sharia related law when it comes to Muslim non Muslim relationships is a Muslim man marrying a Christian or Jewish woman. Shariah dictates that there is nothing wrong for a Muslim man marrying a Christian or Jewish woman so if he was married to either or Muslims have no right to speak against that, otherwise yea it’s wrong
@@geomatricfilms4015I don’t know about Christians Women since they worship Jesus and how would you marry a woman who worship other than Allāh? And by the way the problem marrying a non Muslim woman is that your kids will spend more time with her mom while you are working so your kids will adopt their mom believes if she didn’t decide to accept Islam.
@@Issa_Alkubi obviously it is not encouraged to marry Christian or Jewish women because raising a child would be difficult in such environment, but I’m talking about the legality of a Muslim man marrying people of the book. According to most scholars it is permissible
Terrible excuse. Because 1 Muslim wants a rich lifestyle doesn't mean others want that. If you have opposite in partner then your marriage will not stand. A cup of water will be bad once a drop of venom gets in, the water will never be good you have to throw it out
@@RumziFanboy yea stay away from bible that’s the only book where they teach violence. To kill babies and just to leave virgins. Yea it’s sad but true.
@@thatpakiguy3445yea remember used cars cause a lot of problems down the road and can break down and strand you. Kids from these marriages are always so confused
Not in America! Few and Far between and majority of college educated sisters have already experienced premarital sex with non Muslim boyfriends and those are the same ones demanding $50k plus mahars. Either hold your fellow sisters accountable or step aside and stop downplaying the complaints of brothers wanting to get married as is part of the deen.
Marrying a non muslim is a high chance a recipe for disaster, the least that could happen is fighting over naming your children she wants to name your son Christian but you want to name hi Muhammad because you believe that you are muslim and the religion of the children and their names should align accordingly with islam, another issue is that when you go to work, do you 100% truat your wife not to take the children to the church with her and be okay with them doing all their ceremonies? And aanother problem, are you okay with your children going to their grandparents house and get fed with idolatry worship ideas ? Get fed haram food? Celebrate Christmas? New year? Halloween? Thanks giving? Im not, and i live among christians majority, its really a rare sight to spot a muslim and im prepared to die a virgin rather than marry a non muslim knowing that there is a chance that my children might get misguided this way
So your saying treat non-muslim women less because you think you can?? I don't know what kind of god would think highly of any man to do this to any women. This makes Muslim men look weak and embarrassing. shame
Funny how you equate good treatment to receiving huge sums of money up front. While the sunna mahr is less than $2000. You think you deserve more than the wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him). This is the real shame.
Kind of get his point, but that doesn't make marrying a non-Muslim any less stupid, unless you both don't want kids. But even then, is the plan for her to eventually convert?
Find a woman not asking for much.. just an idea, how can you sleep next to a woman Who Will not raise your kids muslims or have the same mindset. Knowing if she died on kufr you would be separated forever. Where with a muslim Sister you Will inshallah be together forever..
There is nothing in the quran forbidding women from marrying non muslim men too of the people of the book,we too can say muslim men just want women to sit at home and be slaves and not be seen or have friends or do anything halaal so we might aswell marry nonmuslim men
It is explicitly forbidden. Maybe take a taleemul quran course in English and you will know. None of the sahabiyyah married a non muslim. None. There were jews sitting around in madinah. Quran is not just a book you look at the implementation of it.
You need to see what type of woman you after.. because a good Muslim sister will not ask for alot! Just a man who prays and fears Allah. Too many good girls who fear Allah, pray and need a good Muslim man, are waiting for marriage and noone knocks on their doors because you are all running after the modern Muslim girl who lives for brands and makeup. Or cheap non Muslim woman who have been around who says she would revert so a man can marry her. But when this ends in divorce.. you lose your kids! Becarful what you preach.
you must be a troll cuz this "fearing Allah and on quran and sunnah" stuff sounds good but most "muslim" women are greedy af and dont even care about the deen
Become muslim inshaAllah, may Allah guide you to Islam. Learn from br. Shamsi at DUS dawah channel. He has very conversations with jewish youll find some of them except the true path
@@bintz100 I don't think thats the case but sadly finding a young muslim women who actually takes the deen serious is like finding a needle in haystacks
Men need to view things from a different angle. Us Muslim women forgo a loooooot of offers from Non-Muslim men who are willing to sell a kidney and an arm to have a Virgin who has not slept around or shown off her beauty to every random person. Understand fellow brothers that if you dont take that responsibility to reward us in the halal way...that patient Muslim sisters waiting for marriage are not going to be encouraged to uphold these standards. Don't forget...we only receive HALF of inheritance of a man because things like MAHR are obligatory. Never shortsell your Muslim sisters for the dumb excuse of not being able to afford her then turn around and give her half of what you would get in inheritance. Its a two-way street and Allah swt is most just. Brother just saw a sister he wanted and is using every excuse. With his fanbase and resources, he could have easily crowdfunded for a decent wedding to award the Muslim bride for her chastity and sacrifices. If Muslims dont, the Shaytan will through other venues. Save your sisters before going looking at other women. Its an Amanah.
What? How would non muslim men even approach muslim women if they were fully covered and not free mixing. Being a virgin is not enough... following faraaidh and sunnah is.
Its an Amanah? You are talking about marrying non-Muslim men, which is forbidden in Islam, yet you say most of these men cannot afford the mahr because they have excuses? The average salary in the US is $30k per annum and £26k per annum in the UK. With rising costs of living, there is going to be a lot of single Muslim men and women until families and the women become more realistic in their perspective for marriage and it's cost. When nikah becomes expensive, zina becomes cheap. I know of sisters who are in their 40s abd late 30s who have never married. This is indeed a sad trend.
Allahuma Barik Sister WALLAHI you are RIGHT😍🕋☪️There is nothing Better than a Righteous Chaste Slave-Woman Who Worships Allah Just as it says in the Quran the Slave-Woman is By Far Wayyy Better than even the HOOR AL-AIN 😍🏝️🫶!! But sister ItaqiAllah you guys damn well know how hard it is especially in the west today Trying to Even Scrape by and Support Ones own Self But People Undermine how hard it is to ACTUALLY Live off of 1 Income provide for you and the Many Kids to Come In shaa Allah The Brother HAS to be Making Realistically No Less than 150-200 maybe even 100k at the Lowest in some States or Some Countries Around Europe to get By Comfortably, the Nabi Muhammad (SAW) said “ for the Best of Nikkah or Marriages is the Simple one.” And lets be honest A lot of Feminized Western Sisters Sometimes Look at things as an Entitlement from a Extreme Angle their Only a small minority but still that small minority’s Voice Echoes to and around the Masses and now every and anybody is literally demanding a MILLIONAIRE nothing less than 7 Figure with 100k wedding minimun 20k Mehr, 250k Minimum Brand New House, and a 250k G Wagon….. yeah let’s be a little realistic here sisters and not be Delulu…. If you truly loved the Man and Had some Rahma and just basic empathy put yourself in his shoes, already As a Man he has to Look after his whole family supoort and take care of his Parents, and it’s almost like Adding a Whole extra Load of Heavy Heavy Priorities Dumped on his Shoulder he has to PROVIDE and Be there for every Single person in his Community and around him and Cannot Ask or Expect for anything back especially not in any Monertary way, and the thing is ALHAMDULILAH we are MEN you will never ever SEE us Conplain not Once ALHAMDULILAH for Allah is Ar-Razzaq the Best of Providers and we Glady and Happily take on our Role and Position And Provide and Protect for the WHOLE VILLAGE and Community If we have too As we SHOULD!!! But the least you all could do Sisters is If you truly love that man, try to take some weight off his shoulders and Easen his Burden wallahi, and as Men you know we don’t talk, we’ll suck it up and do what we have to do as A Man there’s No Comfortabily or Rest in a Mans life unlike a Woman, our whole lives is To Struggle, Battle and Push to the Finish line non-stop and we don’t get any Sympathy nor do we want any!! We will take on our Priorities As Men and Fufill them Righteously, but all we ask is, have some basic empathy and Human Decency…. And Maybe put yourself in His Shoes and See what he has to go through and work thru for you to say you want 1M$ Mehr and All of the Sorts and as a Men we are Obliged to Comply there is no Complaining or Negotiations or Discounts, the Least you could do is try to put yourself in his shoes and try to make it easy for your Lifelong Partner that you’ll be spending the rest of your life with, it’ll only make both of your lives more fruitful and Easier, all those Resources will be going to you as the Wife one way or the Other, for the Nabi Muhammad (SAW) said “ the Best of Marriage or Nikkah is the Easy one” and if you Easen the Burden of your Spouse or a Muslim, Allah will Easen Many Burdens for you of this Dunya and Especially on the Day of Judgement where we need his Rahma and Mercy the Most. Wa JazakAllahu Khaiyr, Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatu.
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s bro, its good, the reason is this if you allow something like it, most non muslims will pretend to be Muslim and get married to them, I am not an Arab, but when you loosen the law it becomes easy to manipulate you, I have seen so many cases like this
Brothers in the chat complaining about Mehr - If you cant afford them in the west, marry them in the east. Marry someone in India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Somalia etc She might not be that fancy but you will find tons who will wear the niqab and the burqa and will be stead fast on religion. The problem is, yall want the fancy as well the Deen. If you do not want to make compromises then pay the mehr. If you cant afford it and dont want to marry someone in the east then fast as the Prophet SAW instructed in such conditions 🤷🏻♂️ The last thing we want is men simping and complaining.
My sister or brother listen. If most of the women demand high mehr then muslim men will be stay unmarried? Of course not. But it affect muslim society. And muslim is muslim Doesn't matter west - east, north- south. A practicing muslim gonna marry a good practicing muslim woman. And about high mehr be logical which stage a men gonna marry and age for example 26-28 men normally earn about 30-45 euro per year. With salary is very hard to makeup whole family, housing, food, child etc.. So what do you think muslim high value man gonna stuck their marriage life due to some high mehr woman..😂😅😂. They gonna find and get married to the right person at the right time. And mostly some muslim women become so picky and at the end of the age 30 - 35 become desperate to get married like western women (who used to we Don't need a man). We are muslim we should live in society supportively. We have to maintain our character. We can't embrace hook up culture. We have to embrace marriage.
If you can’t afford 20k in the west then you’re not ready to get married. How will you afford rent and food for the kids. No wonder they go on welfare lol
The sahabiyaat didn’t demand $20k mahars and they were the best of women. You modern day women are the absolute lowest of women and are demanding higher prices than Sahabiyaat. Are you trying to say you’re more valuable than them when y’all are mimicking kufr women? What a joke! lol 😂
I married an ex Muslim. I’m American and was baptized. My family wasn’t super religious by any means I was just the genie pig child and my Methodist great grandmother wanted me baptized. I moved to Switzerland in 2018 and when we met I immediately knew she was the one. I tried to hide the New Yorker in me as much as possible but I still have the accent. When I met some of her family members (the ones that didn’t cut her off) the look of disgust they had on their face was hilarious. The tattoos, the piercings and the accent was way too much for them. We had twins in 2020 and just had our 2nd girl in march. Let me tell you something. American women don’t stand a chance against women from countries with morality and strong respect.
Excuses. I think his issue was Saudi women who are accustomed to a certain lifestyle. Find a MUSLIM girl in your tax bracket there’s millions out there
They don’t like your hole that you came from her money is just to entertain but it’s not Islam simple always will be land or a devil body mind brother don’t remember that is a name for control with lost minds lost and found your soul take over for easy access to the sky
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Zina has become cheap because marriage has become expensive.
That’s so true, even now in Muslim countries we see a rise in Zina. I don’t even need to mention the west, here in America I’ve seen hijab wearing Muslim women holding hands with men (not married this was in high school AND middle school) there was a Muslim girl that always wears a hijab but was know in the school as a w”ore to the point where she needed to move to new school before her parents find out.
Wallahi this is 1000% the reality, may Allah take revenge on all who are the reason for this
I think This statement couldn’t be further from the truth, as a matter of fact zina was always easy in any era you’ll always be able to find a Zania who would give you the S-deed for free but the difference is that marriage was equally cheap so people went with the more logical and halal option but right now ? Even good muslims have fallen for the trap because they just can’t stay their whole lives without marriage
May Allah guide us all
@@alali4459I see nothing wrong with middle school children holding hands, though it can be a concern after they pass the appropriate age (puberty). Western muslims are indeed too tolerant of somethings, but we must not hate or be blinded, we are all servants of Allah and thus we must remain diplomatic and non-violent.
unfortunately he's right... i've been thinking this myself. I know a lot of "hipster" white girls who lack what our sisters have - but are content with a lot less. That said, many muslim girls are happy with less - but their families are not.
Yeah the hipster white girls also have STDs and 30 previous lovers.
Your high if the hijabis are horez nowadays y’all gonna take a kafirah instead??🤣🤣 I don’t want anyone lol
And if we follow religion and that how it should be, a girl is the one who chose to her husband to be how much he can pay or give to her or her family, if she demands more than you can afford well you might as well leave her! Is not mandatory to go marry her! None Muslim woman or man that is haram, no married!
@Ally Mapinda if they truly followed the religion, they wouldn't be asking for ridiculous amounts
The non muslims ask for less and ain't staying long , even tho they do u won't live a proper life cuz u leave ur kids with a non Muslim so she won't teach them something she doesn't believe in !..so think of akhira this Dunia isn't lasting and u'll be asked about ur children
people are saying "women ask for expensive mehrs in ____ country not ____ " there are good women and bad women every where. there is no country that only "produces" good women
He’s right, but there are plenty of us who got married to men that didn’t have a lot of money. My husband was still a student and practically unemployed when we got married! My parents gave him a chance. Take a look at the girl… Does she dress fancy? Does she drive a luxury car? Expensive handbags?
As a man, ill give you the perspective of us men. We go to the gym daily, save ourselves for marriage, try to lower our gaze the best we can. I don’t have tiktok or any social media besides youtube and discord to communicate with friends. We play playstation from time to time to chill, and make plans to go places. Our fathers are growing old, our mothers are growing sick, the urge to help them and take them to safety increases. We go to college for 4 years, some continue education, others get a job. Either engineers or computer science or doctors or even lawyers, we work hard for our positions. We try to maintain 5 prayers a day, try to read quran, try to study day and night.
On the other side we see muslims girls doing tiktok dances, having temporary boyfriends and relationships. Many go to college but with easy majors like nursing compared to computer science and engineering. They are on social media looking at gym videos, men with their shirts off, women with their shirts off. No care in the world.
We simply expect a women who also saved herself and never been in a relationship, who wears hijab, prays as frequently as possible and has good character.
Girls want a decently wealthy man, whose 6 feet tall, with 6 packs, making 6 figures or more, while also somehow being single the entire time even with all the success and easy access to any girl they want. They want the man to be loyal, pray 5 times a day, be a hafiz or try to be, with also an amazing character.
Some of us men realized life is truly unfair, but allah doesn’t burden a soul more than it can withstand. Me and all my friends just keep quiet and focus on ourselves now, a small brotherhood.
We realize men seem to be putting in atleast 10 times the effort women seem to be putting in, but the women seems to feel entitled to more.
Accurate how prophet muhammed said most of hell is women who were ungrateful to their husbands
These are just excuses
You got married to them in hopes that they would be well off after finishing school and getting a job. If they don’t end up that way or meet your expectations, you will divorce him - as so many sisters have today, thinking they can go find a made man.
@@littlenaro1700underrated comment
I saw this brother praying at Masjid Ar-Rahman in Orlando Fl. And all he says is the truth, then people ask why so many Muslims women single? Well you got the answer from this brother. Wallahi the majority of the cases are the parents making such nonsense conditions. My experience was with a Palestinian her dad was asking $40,000 dollars for Mahar ( Dawry ) and he told me that’s is a insurance in case you divorce her. I told him listen Hajj I’m not even marry your daughter and you’re talking about divorce? I just turned around and leave that house.
May Allah find you a wonderful wife. 🙏
@@BQ900 I got married 5 years ago with a wonderful Moroccan Princess 👸 Alhamdoli’llah. That’s was my experience before my marriage, but thank you for your wishes may Allāh subhanahu wa ta’ala rewards you ameen.
@@Issa_AlkubiWhat Race Are you No Offense brother I’m just Wondering How Fathers look at Other Muslims Like South Asian or East African… I understand when you Goto a Arab Father with your own Arab Father and you all Speak Arabic Everything is Khaiyr but if you are a Foreign ethnicity how did they treat you?
May Allah bless you with a beautiful wife & life.
@@Maxwellhanes I’m from Cuba Alhamdoli’llah ethnicity or language should not determinate if a person can marry you or not but how fearful can be a servant to Allāh subhanahu wa ta’ala.
The brother wants to live within his means. Sounds responsible to me. His reply does not need to satisfy anybody. He's not required to explain himself to you or anybody else.
Fax. It’s fine that we as men have to provide…I accept that. As a Muslim young man, I accept that…but to have to pay the $50k (MINIMUM) dowry that I was told, plus the lavish wedding when I’m still in school and working at a warehouse,
Naw.
In Islam, money shouldn’t be a reason to postpone marriage and these sisters (mainly their parents) are brainwashed to believe you have to be like an American, make $70k minimum per year before you apply to marry
Any mahr over $2000 USD is crazy in the United States for most regular people
Thank you! 2k is reasonable for middle class people
No idea about the mahr for Muslim women. I didn’t know my husband had any money. All he needed was a job that he could support himself and a family. He said since I was interested in him and his religion; not his money then he was willing to give me everything. Some Muslim men make good husbands. ❤
There are many poor muslim girls in developing countries,maybe visit some developing muslim country!
If Their family knows he is from America then the price will still be high.
@@isseabdirahmanweheliye9010 no brother.
Cant bring them back to Europe , k do not know the rules in The US, but immigration into Europe by marriage, we will have none of it
They will use him to come to America then break up after a while
It does happen
You have spoken the truth.
I agree with him...Muslim weddings are very expensive...and we wonder why porn is downloaded more in Muslim countries!
That wasn't a reasonable answer to marry a non Muslim.. he could've just said I liked her ..cuz there are sooo many sisters who are willing to marry with less' mahr' [majority of them are practicing Muslims] that's why the prophet Mohammed pbuh advised men to choose a practicing muslimah
The non muslims ask for less and ain't staying long , even tho they do u won't live a proper life cuz u leave ur kids with a non Muslim so she won't teach them something she doesn't believe in !..so think of akhira this Dunia isn't lasting and u'll be asked about ur children
i think if you actually count the number of young "practising women" on quran and sunnah then the number would be no more then a couple thousbands in the whole world cuz sadly women just dont care about the deen as much as men
Is true but after many years and day by day they start want it another thing
May Allah forgive me to say this in Ramadan
Yes .. he's just saying something with no sense that never exist in our society
He married to a convert Muslim
@@user-ue4fh5mv9sit depends on what you mean by practising. But even then, your claim is inaccurate. Although we both have no statistics, to claim out of 2 billion muslims, there are only a few thousands who are actually practising is false. Anyone who abandons prayer completely becomes a kaffir so if you want to measure it by that standard, there'll still be millions of sisters left who are practicing
This is true. Obviously it doesn't to everyone, but sisters and their family ask for too much in these times
I accepted Islam last year, but there is a special woman in my life that I plan on marrying in the bear future. She is a Christian and I know a lot of Muslims are against it, but Allah said it’s permissible
I just converted to Islam. My dowry: don’t abuse me. Treat me fairly according to the Sunnah. Be willing to give mw children. Keep your money. I want a family. A community. A support system. Protection. I want want money can’t buy. I’m a western woman. I want what no Christian man would ever give a woman. And I want the freedom to BE a woman. A housewife. I’m done with western Christian men wanting me to be the man.
Lots of brothers that would marry a sister that wants to be a housewife. Make sure they're right with their deen and are serious.
Girl, muslim men can leave you any time as well for a younger version or if he wants another wife, but you don't allow. Has nothing to do with religion.
There are even non religious men out their that want a typical house wife and don't mind paying for the women.
Muslim girls really believe they are spared from cheating or being replaced.
You either get lucky or not doesn't matter what religion. Simple.
If you’re talking about south Asian Muslims you should see their parents asking unrealistic demands…it’s reason why so many single sisters….its not that complex yet our culture decided to do it.
I’m Muslim but I have a big issue regrading this topic,it becoming more complicated to marry this days when I can afford easily a western women without any problem,oh God give us saber.
This is 100% accurate. There is too much ask from a decent Muslim man these days.
Dude he said "women"😐.. Women are the one's who is expensive.
@@Belmont1714, he's saying men are being asked too much to give and to be unrealistic standards.
its completely his choice to marry a non Muslim. no one should get mad at him for doing so. but id also add that there are definitely muslim sisters who would only ask for a $100 ring.
Brother there are so many Muslim sister that don’t even ask $100 ring you don’t know every sisters
İ agree brother they're just judging ppl and societes they never know
Great…can you offer a service to help connect these women to men who are looking?
Because I’m tired of hearing ‘but there are so many women out there..’ Then find them and get them connected to men! Otherwise it’s pointless to raise this topic
Like the divorcees and single mothers lol??
@@sophysofff3723men don’t have time or money to fly around the world for decades on end looking for a wife. Men will look for a wife for a certain number of years (usually between mid 20s to early 30s) before they throw in the towel and marry whichever girl satisfies them.
I’ve been to both Muslim and non-Muslim majority countries during my younger years. I chased Muslim women who ended being the ones this brother described, and finally I ended up marrying a Christian woman who was happy with a tiny ring and a simple court marriage. Seven years later, she blessed me with a son and is now looking to convert to Islam herself.
Meanwhile, over half of the brothers I personally know of are either divorced, still single, or unhappily married to women who they were pressured to marry for the sake that she was Muslim. So yeah…I’ll take my situation over their’s any day
Maybe on another planet. Where are those sisters who are willing to live with bare minimum? Show me and I'll give you a million dollars
It is the sad truth, but again their are many women who don’t ask for anything and are just happy to be married. I think it is more of a cultural issue rather then areligious one. I know that some people may argue that their is nothing wrong with wanting some stability but if it’s meant for you you will get it and if not you won’t. Have some twakul! Allah is the best of providers.
True they want 20 000 the marriage become a business average man can't afford today.
استغفراللّه
A hige dowry is definitely not the norm. there are so many sisters who ask for nothing, many even ask for a 1 dollar and most don't get anything. I live in America not sure about other places. I remember seeing some sisters start removing their hijabs so they could compete with none muslims and find husband's and I thought that was very sad.
Myself all I ever asked for was kidness,for that person to be a good leader and to be kept safe, not to be harmed or disrespected or humiliated and I never got those things....until my husband now and I'm 50. So he's misrepresenting thousands of sisters.
How can I watch the whole video, please?
He has a point, and it's unfortunate this is happen.
I’m currently in talks with a Muslim man and don’t have the foggiest clue what to ask for mahr. I’m widowed and was raised Christian with no remaining male relatives to speak of. I know that I’m supposed to ask for something but am clueless-jewelry isn’t a big thing for me and I already own property. I’m just interested in a partner who I can share my life with.
Just out of curiosity what did u end up selecting?
@@Jumjah the only thing I could think of was a well. I own the property we will live on but it doesn’t have a well-there’s a fairly shallow aquifer under ledge that is adequate but it it hasn’t been properly drilled yet. We’ll need a well anyway but since I own the land and it would be considered an improvement that would become part of my property I’m pretty sure it will count enough as “mine”.
Religious or traditional doesn’t mean modest/humble.
Its only in saudia that girls demand alot of mehr but in pakistan or india it is opposite girls ready to marry but boy family asks for too much of dowry which a father of girl cant pay sadly this culture wasnt ours and because our ancestors all lived with hindus so when pakistan got freedom they still carried this jehaz dowry thing may Allah help us get rid of hindusim culture and follow islam perfectly
are u Pakistani?
It's not just Saudi women aur Arab women that demand a lot of mahr, many south Asian (Indian/Pakistani/Bangladeshi) families settled in the UK,US and Europe also demand exorbitant mahr from the men, making marriage very difficult.
Honestly the desi culture demands the Muslim woman to pay for the weddings as well.😢 I hope I don’t get married with someone who demands money
in all GCC countries it is the same not for every muslima but a lot of them
What? The women pay the mehr 😂?
Bravo there’s goodness in your wife Mashaa’Allah
Those non muslims are people of the book which is allowed so chill
I think thats why id rather marry a non muslim woman than a muslim woman but that does not mean that ill abandon her...
Amen. You are a real man of God. Some do it . And that’s so sad. Just because she’s from a different religion doesn’t mean one should take advantage of her.
@@isabellopes890I don't mind her asking me for mahr at all long as it's reasonable and does not burden an individual is all...
@isabellopes890 it's something a sister asks for in islam in return of marrying them like they have the right to ask for what they want whether that's a car, house etc..
not to generalize but he is right, tried to get married to muslim women snd was constantly asked for how much money i made, job, etc never once was my personality or other non monetary qualities were brought up, my current wife never once asked how much $ I made, she knew I had a job and graduated university
Which religion is your current wife?
Absolutely right, they are getting more expensive as we speak, following the foot steps of dajjal
Don’t forget, that woman that is asking for a $100 ring is also the same woman that’s probably been with several different men making it a risk to your health by being with her. That Muslim girl who is asking for a $5000 ring has probably never been with any man and has been saving herself for her husband. Give her what she deserves.
It's not allowed to .marry unchaste christian women
So someone who refrains from sin, they do it for money instead of for Allah?
If one asks for less money for mahr, does that mean they are less in value than the one who asks for more?
It is nonsense to say such and such person deserves this much mahr. They are fine to ask how much they want but to say they deserve it, this is wrong. If a man wills to give that much then fine but it is not good to vilify a man who does not want to pay that much.
Not in 2024 majority of Muslim women whom have attended college in the west have engaged in premarital intercourse thus diminishing their value and therefore not worth the $50k mahar they are demanding. You can see this is the case by the astounding amount of divorces initiated by those same college educated Muslim women on reasons that their husbands aren’t experienced enough in the bedroom on social media.
Only if they could just be happy that we can take them to jannah
That's all I want
Take them to jannah ? Why you ? You gave the green card of jannah ? 😆😆😆
@@gunjanoberoi3137The majority of hellfire will be filled with women whom were unjust towards their husbands or divorced their husbands for an illegitimate reason.
If he's doing nothing haram who cares leave him be
Especially in the Palestinian and Egyptian community. They are brought up to be gold diggers , asking six figure mahr and other nonsense. I’m ashamed of my fellow muslim sisters
Yes because they come from nothing. It's the problem of both genders and all Muslims.
They might be ignorant or misguided on realities, but they’re not sinning.
Using the term “gold digger” has effectively gained you more sins than they have, because you’re slandering them and assuming the worst in them.
We have to do better brother, we can’t act better in dean then steep to throwing around words like “gold digger” which is usually extremely insulting
@@AArrad a righteous Muslim woman would not look at a marriage as an opportunity to exploit someone’s resources. This is the textbook definition of a gold digger , and it should not offend you that we are calling out an evil. As Muslims we are commanded to enjoin good and forbid evil. Sometimes it means calling out the bad amongst us.
@@TheMrpalid forbidding women to set their mahr high is a bigger crime. And it’s within her right to ask for the wealth of this entire world if she wanted to. Listen to yourself and listen to how the men in the video discuss it. There’s a huge difference in respect.
You don’t get to subtract from the rights Allah has given someone. Watch yourself and tread carefully I don’t think you realise how serious of an accusation you’re making.
Let’s look at it from a different perspective. Someone of sound mind and passed the age of puberty is what is required for marriage. Correct? Now that means an extremely high mahr could be someone not of sound mind. Men will naturally not pay that mahr and these women will accept lower mahr or never get married due to deficient mentality.
I’m ashamed of you to call these sisters “evil” for literally practising their right. The Sunnah is to ask for low mahr. The Sunnah is non obligatory. If any Muslim men asked for any of my sisters hand in marriage and spoke like you do I would instantly reject them.
@@AArrad You said it yourself, the Sunnah is mahr that is low and modest. Allah gave the right to women , yet he also gave them the free will to choose and he gave them the example of humility to follow. Similarly Allah gave more rights to a man, yet if he exploited those rights he could be oppressive and unfair. Life is a test. Allah gave each gender their own rights, and gave us examples of who to follow and how to exercise those rights. All the Sahabbiyat were modest when it came to the mahr. This tradition of asking for higher dowry mahr actually originated from Pre-Islam Jahiliya Arabs.
I’m currently seeking a bride. I want love insha Allah ❤❤❤
Either the ring is £5.000 or £20.000... Divorce rates keep going up; or weather sheets a virgin or not, divorce rates keep going up.
Nothing but the truth!!!!
So sister I don't know if your a Muslim but do you realize he makes us women look bad. He is generalizing all Muslim women and make us look like we are golddiggers. He is trying to convince himself for what he did. Allah swt clearly said in the Quran to not marry a non Muslim women/ man until they believe.
Real talk!
I thought I was the only one brother. So many of our muslim sister's are materialistic and selfish and lazy.
Now I ask Allah for the wife that He has for me. It's ridiculous out here.
Those muslim girls who are virgins and expect more than £10,000 even though the man can afford to give £30,000 is pathetic... us men are not buying a car or an item nor is her father selling his daughter the bride and her family need to understand the man will protect, provide and sacrifice for her anyway... if that is still thier mindset they should contact someone who is sitting on thier millions
Send those girls to the upper class Emiratis where the women are in short supply but they beat their wives there🤷🏻♀️
Perhaps wait and marry the woman that God has revealed to be your wife.
“Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, But a prudent wife is from the Lord.”
Proverbs 19:14 NKJV
Maybe this is his God given wife?
Maybe this is his God given wife?
Aanghel just🗿while the guy speaks...
Allah swt said it is permitted to marry Christian and Jewish woman. Therefore, it is not our place to make judgements on anybody who does so. I know of many marriages between Muslims that ended in divorce! Anybody could say they “know somebody” who got divorced in any kind of marriage. If your values align, regardless of the theology you use to get to those values, it can work out. Everybody is different, and we shouldn’t make generalizations. Some people make interfaith marriages work, and some people don’t.
Relatable
This is family matters not religious.
Have to disagree there are plenty of Muslim women who don't care about the money. It's his fault for going for women and families that demand that. Thr brother should concentrate on being happy not adding wives if it causes you stress.
are you a woman ? because no muslim woman ever said that
Exactly, he's making excuses
He liked this one girl, so he's trying to rationalize by calling out sisters. I'm pretty sure there are many muslimas out there who doesnt demand like he said.
There are such sisters, but they're very few and there's not a plenty of them.
I relate to that. 2 Muslim wives who didn’t asked for huge mahr, yet still managed to take non Muslim wife as third 😅
This is just sad
Yeah same here! I was “dating” this hijabi Yemeni-American woman; but after meeting all her family I was like i humbly bow out lol they were loaded 😐!! 💵 💵
At least a ring that is $2.500.
If you choose the one with inexpensive mahr, you're choosing the right one.
NEVER choose anyone with expensive mahr, even if you're rich.
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Of all the places you could of have went, you decided on an expensive Saudi place. Lol
Go to countries were there were wars, plenty sisters there.
Also, I have been seeing way to many posts in secular forums about Muslim brother or sister dating a non-Muslim and the relationship doesn’t work out. Recently a husband converter to Islam and his wife was an atheist. Even though he kept it to himself and restricted drinking, etc. and didn’t bother her, she still started hating on him and wanted a divorced. Smh lol
Oh if you living in the wester countries be carful of STIs. Lol Seen a post of a Muslim sister catching an STI from her non-Muslim bf. Smh 🤦♂️
Well-deserved. Filthy zaniya. Now she'll come back around and try to corrupt some good brother. Ka-fr's leftovers...
Ok the only sharia related law when it comes to Muslim non Muslim relationships is a Muslim man marrying a Christian or Jewish woman. Shariah dictates that there is nothing wrong for a Muslim man marrying a Christian or Jewish woman so if he was married to either or Muslims have no right to speak against that, otherwise yea it’s wrong
I tried Palestine and even they have war over there but guess what? Yes I ended up marrying a Moroccan.
@@geomatricfilms4015I don’t know about Christians Women since they worship Jesus and how would you marry a woman who worship other than Allāh? And by the way the problem marrying a non Muslim woman is that your kids will spend more time with her mom while you are working so your kids will adopt their mom believes if she didn’t decide to accept Islam.
@@Issa_Alkubi obviously it is not encouraged to marry Christian or Jewish women because raising a child would be difficult in such environment, but I’m talking about the legality of a Muslim man marrying people of the book. According to most scholars it is permissible
Terrible excuse. Because 1 Muslim wants a rich lifestyle doesn't mean others want that. If you have opposite in partner then your marriage will not stand. A cup of water will be bad once a drop of venom gets in, the water will never be good you have to throw it out
But raising kids with a non Muslim. Good luck.
Kids usually follow the father's religion
@@sluggishhollow2030 Maybe in the east but in the west it's not the case, there is a risk of identity loss.
@@sluggishhollow2030 interfaith kids are victims
@@CookiesNCreme-ty6wz then booom boom them and chop chop them
@@RumziFanboy yea stay away from bible that’s the only book where they teach violence. To kill babies and just to leave virgins. Yea it’s sad but true.
Of course you can buy a high mileage used car for a low price, same with a non Muslim woman.
Better than not having a car at all!
So I’m buying a woman?
When she gets old, do I sell her and get a younger one?
@@thatpakiguy3445yea remember used cars cause a lot of problems down the road and can break down and strand you. Kids from these marriages are always so confused
@@so9505Isn’t that why these women are demanding $50k mahars to advertise their price tags?😂
MashA Allah.
This. Is the. Sad. Truth
Yes and there are non muslim man who treat woman the way a muslim brother shoudl but you don’t but still we have no other choice
MashAllah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
No because respectfully I had to say that on behalf of my ummah parents have become greedy pimps
Agree🫡 all this western mentality has gotten to them
Western will come to every home and take over
As it should be but not too high so the guy gets to establish himself financially before he gets married
So a poor man should never be married? This is not in the deen, stop making up things about the religion.
@@BambinoGambino1 I’ve never said that poor should never get married relax brother
This is a cop out and load of BS. there are plenty of Muslim sisters that are more than happy to get married without money
Not in America! Few and Far between and majority of college educated sisters have already experienced premarital sex with non Muslim boyfriends and those are the same ones demanding $50k plus mahars. Either hold your fellow sisters accountable or step aside and stop downplaying the complaints of brothers wanting to get married as is part of the deen.
@@thechosenone2786 america is the most dangerous for muslim women.
what is nadr shareeas?
God forbid a man get on the internet and tell the world I was all he could afford and that’s why he chose me 😷
Most people can’t afford high mehrs Lol. Not rocket science
Nothing wrong with saying that. Don't be too sensitive.
There’s nothing wrong with that. In the west it would be called “true love”-loving somebody for who they are, not for what they can do for you
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U don’t have too pay it at once tho😂
He has the right to be happy ! He can’t afford it so he married a non Muslim women! And that isn’t haram
💎ما شاء الله
Marrying a non muslim is a high chance a recipe for disaster, the least that could happen is fighting over naming your children she wants to name your son Christian but you want to name hi Muhammad because you believe that you are muslim and the religion of the children and their names should align accordingly with islam, another issue is that when you go to work, do you 100% truat your wife not to take the children to the church with her and be okay with them doing all their ceremonies? And aanother problem, are you okay with your children going to their grandparents house and get fed with idolatry worship ideas ? Get fed haram food? Celebrate Christmas? New year? Halloween? Thanks giving?
Im not, and i live among christians majority, its really a rare sight to spot a muslim and im prepared to die a virgin rather than marry a non muslim knowing that there is a chance that my children might get misguided this way
So your saying treat non-muslim women less because you think you can?? I don't know what kind of god would think highly of any man to do this to any women. This makes Muslim men look weak and embarrassing. shame
Stop lying
Funny how you equate good treatment to receiving huge sums of money up front. While the sunna mahr is less than $2000. You think you deserve more than the wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him). This is the real shame.
He tripping 😂
This is hilarious.
Kind of get his point, but that doesn't make marrying a non-Muslim any less stupid, unless you both don't want kids. But even then, is the plan for her to eventually convert?
Muslims are so dumb. Let people marry who they love. Islam isnt superior to any other religion.
Find a woman not asking for much.. just an idea, how can you sleep next to a woman Who Will not raise your kids muslims or have the same mindset. Knowing if she died on kufr you would be separated forever. Where with a muslim Sister you Will inshallah be together forever..
If im not mistaken his wife ended up reverting to islam .
There is nothing in the quran forbidding women from marrying non muslim men too of the people of the book,we too can say muslim men just want women to sit at home and be slaves and not be seen or have friends or do anything halaal so we might aswell marry nonmuslim men
It is explicitly forbidden. Maybe take a taleemul quran course in English and you will know. None of the sahabiyyah married a non muslim. None. There were jews sitting around in madinah. Quran is not just a book you look at the implementation of it.
@@sammyjahanmunshi3555 you do know there are white muslim men too? Balkans, Caucus, Turkish....
Is he fr?
Must just have expensive taste.
#facts
You need to see what type of woman you after.. because a good Muslim sister will not ask for alot! Just a man who prays and fears Allah. Too many good girls who fear Allah, pray and need a good Muslim man, are waiting for marriage and noone knocks on their doors because you are all running after the modern Muslim girl who lives for brands and makeup. Or cheap non Muslim woman who have been around who says she would revert so a man can marry her. But when this ends in divorce.. you lose your kids! Becarful what you preach.
you must be a troll cuz this "fearing Allah and on quran and sunnah" stuff sounds good but most "muslim" women are greedy af and dont even care about the deen
Taking iman lightly leads to this
Wrong.
I’m Jewish love my Muslim man, we don’t have money but we have each other.
We also have respect.
Become muslim inshaAllah, may Allah guide you to Islam. Learn from br. Shamsi at DUS dawah channel. He has very conversations with jewish youll find some of them except the true path
Do you guys argue because of your differences?
Brother there are many muslim girls .
Where ? all i see is greedy disguting women who are never satisfied
@@bintz100 I don't think thats the case but sadly finding a young muslim women who actually takes the deen serious is like finding a needle in haystacks
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s do you take it seriously?
@@peacefulbrotherDo you only take the complaints of sisters seriously and disregard the complaints of brothers? This is injustice!
Honestly look at hypocrisy of this man
Honestly look at the ignorance, naïveté, and stupidity of an average Abdullah. 🥴
Men need to view things from a different angle. Us Muslim women forgo a loooooot of offers from Non-Muslim men who are willing to sell a kidney and an arm to have a Virgin who has not slept around or shown off her beauty to every random person. Understand fellow brothers that if you dont take that responsibility to reward us in the halal way...that patient Muslim sisters waiting for marriage are not going to be encouraged to uphold these standards. Don't forget...we only receive HALF of inheritance of a man because things like MAHR are obligatory. Never shortsell your Muslim sisters for the dumb excuse of not being able to afford her then turn around and give her half of what you would get in inheritance. Its a two-way street and Allah swt is most just. Brother just saw a sister he wanted and is using every excuse. With his fanbase and resources, he could have easily crowdfunded for a decent wedding to award the Muslim bride for her chastity and sacrifices. If Muslims dont, the Shaytan will through other venues. Save your sisters before going looking at other women. Its an Amanah.
What? How would non muslim men even approach muslim women if they were fully covered and not free mixing. Being a virgin is not enough... following faraaidh and sunnah is.
Its an Amanah? You are talking about marrying non-Muslim men, which is forbidden in Islam, yet you say most of these men cannot afford the mahr because they have excuses? The average salary in the US is $30k per annum and £26k per annum in the UK. With rising costs of living, there is going to be a lot of single Muslim men and women until families and the women become more realistic in their perspective for marriage and it's cost. When nikah becomes expensive, zina becomes cheap. I know of sisters who are in their 40s abd late 30s who have never married. This is indeed a sad trend.
Allahuma Barik Sister WALLAHI you are RIGHT😍🕋☪️There is nothing Better than a Righteous Chaste Slave-Woman Who Worships Allah Just as it says in the Quran the Slave-Woman is By Far Wayyy Better than even the HOOR AL-AIN 😍🏝️🫶!! But sister ItaqiAllah you guys damn well know how hard it is especially in the west today Trying to Even Scrape by and Support Ones own Self But People Undermine how hard it is to ACTUALLY Live off of 1 Income provide for you and the Many Kids to Come In shaa Allah The Brother HAS to be Making Realistically No Less than 150-200 maybe even 100k at the Lowest in some States or Some Countries Around Europe to get By Comfortably, the Nabi Muhammad (SAW) said “ for the Best of Nikkah or Marriages is the Simple one.” And lets be honest A lot of Feminized Western Sisters Sometimes Look at things as an Entitlement from a Extreme Angle their Only a small minority but still that small minority’s Voice Echoes to and around the Masses and now every and anybody is literally demanding a MILLIONAIRE nothing less than 7 Figure with 100k wedding minimun 20k Mehr, 250k Minimum Brand New House, and a 250k G Wagon….. yeah let’s be a little realistic here sisters and not be Delulu…. If you truly loved the Man and Had some Rahma and just basic empathy put yourself in his shoes, already As a Man he has to Look after his whole family supoort and take care of his Parents, and it’s almost like Adding a Whole extra Load of Heavy Heavy Priorities Dumped on his Shoulder he has to PROVIDE and Be there for every Single person in his Community and around him and Cannot Ask or Expect for anything back especially not in any Monertary way, and the thing is ALHAMDULILAH we are MEN you will never ever SEE us Conplain not Once ALHAMDULILAH for Allah is Ar-Razzaq the Best of Providers and we Glady and Happily take on our Role and Position And Provide and Protect for the WHOLE VILLAGE and Community If we have too As we SHOULD!!! But the least you all could do Sisters is If you truly love that man, try to take some weight off his shoulders and Easen his Burden wallahi, and as Men you know we don’t talk, we’ll suck it up and do what we have to do as A Man there’s No Comfortabily or Rest in a Mans life unlike a Woman, our whole lives is To Struggle, Battle and Push to the Finish line non-stop and we don’t get any Sympathy nor do we want any!! We will take on our Priorities As Men and Fufill them Righteously, but all we ask is, have some basic empathy and Human Decency…. And Maybe put yourself in His Shoes and See what he has to go through and work thru for you to say you want 1M$ Mehr and All of the Sorts and as a Men we are Obliged to Comply there is no Complaining or Negotiations or Discounts, the Least you could do is try to put yourself in his shoes and try to make it easy for your Lifelong Partner that you’ll be spending the rest of your life with, it’ll only make both of your lives more fruitful and Easier, all those Resources will be going to you as the Wife one way or the Other, for the Nabi Muhammad (SAW) said “ the Best of Marriage or Nikkah is the Easy one” and if you Easen the Burden of your Spouse or a Muslim, Allah will Easen Many Burdens for you of this Dunya and Especially on the Day of Judgement where we need his Rahma and Mercy the Most. Wa JazakAllahu Khaiyr,
Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatu.
I disagree
Sounds like a cop-out ngl. You're telling me you couldn't find a single reasonable sister willing to marry you especially in a country like Saudi?
ironically the saudi government doesn't allow saudi women to get married to non saudi men
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s Yeah I heard about that. Weird. Maybe they want to preserve their culture but to make a law for it is a bit much
@@keifer7813 what culture ?i see it as a practise of jahilliyah. every muslim man is halal to marry for a muslim women not just one ethnicity or group
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s I agree. If this is true then it is against Islam
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s bro, its good, the reason is this if you allow something like it, most non muslims will pretend to be Muslim and get married to them, I am not an Arab, but when you loosen the law it becomes easy to manipulate you, I have seen so many cases like this
Muta'h would destroy such fake prides on modern muslimahs....just saying😉
Brothers in the chat complaining about Mehr - If you cant afford them in the west, marry them in the east. Marry someone in India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Somalia etc
She might not be that fancy but you will find tons who will wear the niqab and the burqa and will be stead fast on religion.
The problem is, yall want the fancy as well the Deen. If you do not want to make compromises then pay the mehr.
If you cant afford it and dont want to marry someone in the east then fast as the Prophet SAW instructed in such conditions 🤷🏻♂️
The last thing we want is men simping and complaining.
My sister or brother listen. If most of the women demand high mehr then muslim men will be stay unmarried? Of course not. But it affect muslim society. And muslim is muslim Doesn't matter west - east, north- south. A practicing muslim gonna marry a good practicing muslim woman. And about high mehr be logical which stage a men gonna marry and age for example 26-28 men normally earn about 30-45 euro per year. With salary is very hard to makeup whole family, housing, food, child etc.. So what do you think muslim high value man gonna stuck their marriage life due to some high mehr woman..😂😅😂. They gonna find and get married to the right person at the right time. And mostly some muslim women become so picky and at the end of the age 30 - 35 become desperate to get married like western women (who used to we Don't need a man). We are muslim we should live in society supportively. We have to maintain our character. We can't embrace hook up culture. We have to embrace marriage.
Salam
😪 sad
If you can’t afford 20k in the west then you’re not ready to get married.
How will you afford rent and food for the kids. No wonder they go on welfare lol
You know your question is dumb
20k ? Almost every Arab Dads ask 40-50k these days
The sahabiyaat didn’t demand $20k mahars and they were the best of women. You modern day women are the absolute lowest of women and are demanding higher prices than Sahabiyaat. Are you trying to say you’re more valuable than them when y’all are mimicking kufr women? What a joke! lol 😂
Inshallah, I’ll find my virgin wife in the next 12 months
Good luck my man
May Allah make easy for you
Your marriage will be even better if your upon the sunnah of the messagenger ﷺ. Listen to abu khadeeja about marriage
I married an ex Muslim. I’m American and was baptized. My family wasn’t super religious by any means I was just the genie pig child and my Methodist great grandmother wanted me baptized. I moved to Switzerland in 2018 and when we met I immediately knew she was the one. I tried to hide the New Yorker in me as much as possible but I still have the accent. When I met some of her family members (the ones that didn’t cut her off) the look of disgust they had on their face was hilarious. The tattoos, the piercings and the accent was way too much for them. We had twins in 2020 and just had our 2nd girl in march. Let me tell you something. American women don’t stand a chance against women from countries with morality and strong respect.
@@Brandenuzis Did you guys get married or something?
I am a Christian American man and can marry a Muslim woman if I want and I don’t need your permission dude thank you 🙏
Excuses. I think his issue was Saudi women who are accustomed to a certain lifestyle. Find a MUSLIM girl in your tax bracket there’s millions out there
Feminism. Dont defend kuffar and be offended when you get called out for behaving like a kuffar. Do better and grow up! 🤡
The best mahr is the easy one
They don’t like your hole that you came from her money is just to entertain but it’s not Islam simple always will be land or a devil body mind brother don’t remember that is a name for control with lost minds lost and found your soul take over for easy access to the sky