I dont see why anything needs to be done about single black women. Black men have been told for years how worthless they are and all men heard you. Yall are strong and independent and dont need no man. As men, we heard you loud and clear. We are either dating outside or remaining single. If you as a group were better at honestly asking what a man truly wants, then you would be more successful. I dont see that happening. Maybe its best that youre all sinlgle, because if you were as desirable as you say you are, you wouldnt have to ask for help finding the men you say you want.
@@splouffy this episode was actually supporting our Black men. I don’t tear down Black men. I’m a mom to THREE adult Black men. And hun.. I’m not single. 🩷. My goal is to bridge the gap in our relationships. I love Black men.
@@Vee_Mindfuli hear you but ......its good to repair. The other thing is teaching women to be feminine despite how much he makes. Now , im not saying date a guy at McDonald's but women....black.....try to back hand the fact that im an elementary teacher (degree) that i need to make more. So you inferred he was a good guy but you didn't want to date him because he had young kids.......so its fair for me to do the same....?
@@butchsmith-rt1ok If a woman has to turn her femininity on and off, then she has a personal problem that needs to be remedied before she even entertains the idea of dealing with men.
@@butchsmith-rt1ok Heck yeah, it's 100% fair for you to do the same if you're not interested in dealing with young kids. No need to waste time with folks that you know don't align with your wants. I agree with you. Are you ok with a woman making more? Women sooooo badly WANT to be feminine.. we do. How can we do a better job with being more feminine when we might make more financially. Im open to suggestions. It might help someone out here.
Black women have been told why they are single. Their response has been to reject what they have been told, and to dig their heels in deeper. I have moved on..
@@Vee_Mindful I agree that we all have issues, but here's the problem: time. If a man meets two women and one has a ton of issues and the other one is supportive and is easier to get along with...which woman do you think is going to win the prize? Too often, the Black woman is the one who has all the baggage so the brothas don't want to spend all this time trying to "heal" someone of their problems.
@@Vee_MindfulI'm in a relationship with a black woman. I have been with her for over 15 years. I can say this. Other races of women are far easier to be with. They are more compatible with me and we have more in common. But I get bored of pale skin. I am more sxuallly attracted to black skin. So I keep having long term situations with my sistas but I'm still dating other races of women on the side. If I was monogamous I wouldn't be able to be with a sista that long.
How do women date hundreds of men of all races and can’t find a relationship? Then say that black men need to do better. The perfect man doesn’t exist. And women love the nice guy in their 30s after they have had a baby or two for the bad boy.
Easy.. heck.. I went on a couple hundred dates.. and I had issues. LOL . Avoidant Attachment style. I admit it in a few of my videos. Once I got professional help (whom I still meet with every week for over 5 years), I've been in a relationship ever since. We all have demons that we have to deal with. No one is perfect. But we can get the help we need.
Black men....I am an older black man....Listen to me and listen to me well. We have given grace the last two generations. Amazing how therapy comes into play once Black women have been ran through and aged out. There are 54% of black men, single and childless in the Middle Class. Where was that insight when they were creating children with 19% of the Black Male population? And having 1.2 million children with non black men. They can miss me with all that "Let's Hold Hands".....nonsense. Not happening......
blind leading the blind! Instead of taking advice from people who are successful in love themselves, you take advice from divorced single mothers. Listen to the aunts and uncles who where successful in love. And next time just interview a guy, let him tell you want a man really wants.
@painfulprodcutions the average bw that's unsuccessful in love isngenerally uncountable and doesn't truly care what a man wants. She knows that here and won't risk her fan base to actually help them. Oh well, back to the Becky's.
Sorry you feel that way.. There are a LOT of unhappy people in relationships. Being in a relationship just for the sake of saying, "At least I'm not single" is a piss pot poor excuse. I coach these people who are absolutely miserable in their marriages. The goal is to stay connected.. but heck.. a relationship takes TWO people.. not one. I don't teach people to stay together just because the optics look better that way.. I teach people to find the internal peace within themselves because that's where we all need to start. And I am not single. Sheesh... check my other videos.. I clearly spell that out. Please research before you judge two strangers who simply were trying to HELP other women. I hope your day gets better.
@@Vee_Mindful It's too easy to talk about not being happy in a relationship. The couples I know who have been together for over 30 years and are still happy. Have also had their phase where they were not happy at all. But you fight through that. Once you have children together, it's not just about you anymore. That is never discussed. There is too much advertising with ow you are not happy, leave the father of your child and continue looking. In the meantime, the child also suffers damage and so the story keeps repeating itself. But keep on motivating each other, apparently judging by the numbers It keeps on getting better. 👍🏽
The biggest problems of most black women over 40 is that, most black men over 40 are single & childless. So please tell me how do you expect most black men over 40 are just starting to get in their prime with no kids, & want to start a family expect to go get women over 40s with babies, & can't even have babies anymore is that a fair deal for black men?
LOL.. this is not a true statistic.. Most Black men over 40 are not single and childless. I literally could care less if Black men date an 18 year old woman. None of that was discussed. This video was to provide insight and encouragement to both Black men and women. Not one single bashing of Black men took place. We focused strictly on facts. She even said she thought the system was keeping Black men down. So to all these toxic fools who hate Black women found this video and left a lot of negative comments.. heck.. Thank yall! I will still stand on truth and wish nothing but the best for all of us.💚
@Vee_Mindful well if this is not true when do you think most well put together black men , apart of those whom are born to a wealthy family hit their prime? Please tell us black men? It's 35, to 40. By then most black women can't have kids anymore by that age
We need to start telling the truth to our young black daughters, men & women are not the same. My daughter is 20 years old now, I already start talking to her to start thinking of getting married, to a man of 35 or 40 to start a family in the next 3 to 4 years
As a married man, I hate to be the bearer of bad news. Everyone isn’t cut out for marriage regardless of gender. It takes an exceptional person to get married and remain successfully married. The marriage and divorce rate numbers are accurate and it takes a special person to indefinitely pair-bond with another person. I pray for the best outcome for everyone. Each person has to be extremely disciplined and selfless within the relationship. Honestly, there are some great people out there, but they are not great for marriage. God bless 🙏🏾
BS BECAUSE THATS NOT WHAT GOD SAID . THE PROBLEM IS BLACK WOMEN FORGOT WHY THEY WERE CREATED IN THE FURST PLACE. GOD SAID I WILL MAKE FOR HIM A HELP MEET FOR HIM SO THE BLACK WOMAN WERE CREATED FOR THE MAN AND HER DESIRES IS FOR HER HUSBAND. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A MAN DUPPOSE TO BE COMPATIBLE AND SUITABLE FOR NO WOMAN. THIS BLACK WOMAN IS DIVORCED AND IS NOT QUALIFIED TO TEACH . SHE IS AGAINST GOD AND A JOKE. WIMEN WHO ARE MARRIED AND NEVER DIVORCED OR TOKEN OF VIRGINITY IS THE WOMEN GOD HONORED . BLACK WOMEN ARE LEARNING FROM FAILURES AND WOMEN WHO ARE FAILURES . TITUS 2 TELLS THE WOMAN TO TEACH EOMEN HOW TO OBEY THEIR HUSBANDS SO SHE HAS TO BE MARRIED .
@@UpdatedView It is mind boggling how many people do not understand the simple truth of your statement. Family has pressed me to marry my entire life. It is beyond their comprehension when I tell them it is not for me. I get statements like, “you just haven’t found the right girl”.
@@riffraff521 it’s the truth and most people fight it. I’m a top earner and met my wife in our early 20s. I’m extremely blessed to have my wife, because most men have never encountered a woman like her. She is a high earner as well, but is feminine, cooperative, submissive, selfless and inspirational. Women like her are taking off the dating market immediately and they gone on with life in their bubble. I would say if you just so happen to meet one, go for it. Good luck to you 🙏🏾
Sad to say black men don't want to deal with black women, black men have moved on. Black women have to many rules. When I dated white women, Jewish women, and Asian women it was totally different. With a ton of attitude black women will act like I don't need you; the other cultures will at least talk to you without a thousand miles of attitude. Black women are single for a reason. White women chased me, they always have, I just wanted to be with a black woman but I gave up and moved on, and I am happy with children.
@@jaydrich8115 I am 6'-3" tall, ex world class track athlete, above average looks, BA, MA, professional my own firm, nice house and still not good enough. I ended up marrying a white doctor. Married 30 years, very little drama. I moved on. Women of other cultures want to be with men.
Our BW need to be more friendly, welcoming, pleasant and feminine. I'm not bashing BW but most BM encounter the same problems and can tell the same stories about their experiences with BW. Women of other races are much more friendly and pleasant to interact with. Lowest married for a reason. Losing the masculine energy would be a good place to start. Sorry but that is the truth.
That's bs stereotype unless ur talking about 17yrs chewing gum. Black men most hood are not friendly rude w no manner. I stick to foreign men or latinos welcome white men too
@@Vee_Mindful "Pew Research - Key facts about Black Americans" dated January, 18 2024 Section 8 it says "Black men in the US are married to someone who is non-black at 21% and BW at 13%" So In the context of marriage other races marry black women the least but as the example of your white male client shows they DO have alot of "Extramarital FUN" with them.
@@Vee_Mindful - At the end of the day, Black women marrying out is half of that of Black men. And as the women's numbers climb, so does the men, while still staying double. Last Note: I played ice and roller hockey for over 40 years as a Black man. And during those years I ran across my share of Black men who played also, but the facts remain, when you look at the numbers of people who play in the US and even Canada as a whole, the number of Blacks who play are still low. Antidotal accounts here and there matters for zero in the grand scope of things.
I am a black woman engaged to an affluent well-educated non-black man. Had no problems getting a ring. Sorry to break it to you but that is not and has never been true.
Ladies, this is part of your problem you are taking advice from women and not men a good man is what you want you should be asking MEN!!! A single woman, single mother or divorced woman in her 40s is not attractive to men that says to a man you are STRESS and a man just want RESPECT AND PEACE. I am 47 and a woman past 28 is not on my radar.
lol.. good luck with those young women. Because when you want someone to roll over and hand you your teeth, CPAP machine, and reading glasses, them young chics will not be interested. Love who you love!! We literally are ok with that.. I coach men and women.. and there are a LOT of men would love to date mature women. If that's not you... no love lost at all. You're free to love who you love hun.
@@Vee_Mindful What I have found is that when a woman has slept with multiple men she has completely lost the ability be submissive to a GOOD MAN who has boundaries, older women should not be single in her 40s, she has failed, and a lot of times still tend to think she has a high value you CANNOT get an older woman to be submissive, pure problem. 95% of women like bad boys and bad men so what a man is looking for really is that 5% woman and if you have passed say 30 ma'am I am sorry a woman in her 40s is not it.
@@Vee_Mindful I find this comment is short sighted. Your comment reaches a logically shaky conclusion that age-gap relationships will necessarily have a younger woman taking care of an older man and being disinterested. Aside from the obvious problems with this outcome being an assumed given, there are also life events for non-age gap couples where one partner takes care of the other by necessity. The desire to do this therefore is based on the person and their motivations...not their age. I thought better of you than this comment and was disappointed when I read it.
I am a veteran and work in the medical field. So I work with a lot of females. Lots of BLACK females tend to act hard to get even when they are feeling you. They tend to treat every interaction as a perpetual covert and sometimes overt move for dominance and judgment for insignificant things. More of them were lazy or judgmental in bed. LASTLY, more BLACK females tend to purposely be defiant putting us in a difficult and unwinnable situation. Too much trouble. Also the ex from the streets.
As a 52 year old divorced childless black man who checks all the "boxes" black women SAY they want in a partner. I regret to say domestic black women over 40 are very poor prospects for dating / relationship for high value men. The common background of domestic black women over 40 is they made very poor date / marriage choices in their prime dating years. Another issue is single motherhood which over 60% have one or more children. For a single childless black man who lives an active, top tier lifestyle dating a black woman with child care responsibilities is problematic at best. And yes, the few top tier black men over 40 really don't have to pursue women. Since I've become 50+ my social circles are more populated with white asian Latina women. There were comments about black men I need to address. Black women with college degrees are 32%. Black men with college degrees are 26%. Another impediment are black women who may make significantly more money and make an issue with a black man. But, women in other countries are comparably educated and professionally employed at higher incomes and are happily married to men who are significantly less accomplished than themselves. Several times in my initial dates with domestic black women I have experienced black women presuming I'm marginally employed /educated when I am highly educated and semi retired with a top 5% income. Another presumption black women have about top tier black men is we are on the down low /gay just because we speak standard English, collegiate / post graduate educated, well dressed and groomed, athletic build, socially and emotionally accomplished. Black women presume if a black man isn't broke or or a thug and single / divorced he must gay. It's almost as if black women have preconceived notions that all black men are substandard and the black men who are competent and capable black women socially marginalize because of pegorative assumptions. Yes, HEALTHY black women want top tier black men. The challenge is a miniscule percentage of black women over 30 are emotionally and mentally healthy.
I am 60 years old Black man that net worth is in the Top 10% of American. I only have a High School diploma but made my money working hard and investing. I agree wholeheartedly with your message. I heard the same things in the last generation of black women that they didn't want a "NICE MAN".....and when they got the opposite man. All of a sudden "All Black Men" ain't shyt. Nope....that type of mentality is borderline institutional. Older black men are not saving these women who continuously chose wrong until their clock ran out. Not doing it....
I will not give up helping my Black women become better partners to men (all men). The only way we can attract a connection is to become the connection you're trying to attract.
@@Vee_Mindful I have three nieces ranging in age from 26 -32 two are married and one just got engaged. At our last family dinner all three surrounded me and very respectfully but definitely asserted their influence in favor of black women. The most seminal comment came from my recently engaged niece strongly suggesting a ratio of 2-3 to 1 meaning I should date to 2 - 3 over 40 black women for every women under 40. My niece emphasized her suggestion applied to first dates / encounters. All were unequivocally opposed to men my age dating women their age.
@@p9a9r21 I respect their opinions and your choices. My partner is older than me.. Black HIGHLY intelligent successful man.. and we're just living our best lives. 💚 I'm not opposed to people finding love wherever they find it.
I too am a divorcee. I was a full-time assistant pastor and when my ex-wife left and the divorce was final I was asked to resign by the church. I then went back to school and earned a Masters in Marriage and Family Counseling to help couples in ways that I couldn't get.
9:25 if this whole point were valid and it’s challenging for Highly educated BW to be equally yoked with BM, wouldn’t every bruh with a degree be taken FIRST?!? That’s the case with every other race of women. But somehow most sistahs wanna disqualify the highly educated BM or even the Good bruh who’s stable, gainfully employed or maybe blue collar for these superficial reasons that don’t match this unequally yoked argument.
People thought Kevin Samuels was a liar when he was trying to tell women what men want. They still hate him til this day even though he's in heaven. He lives rent free in their minds. He wasn't lying from what he was preaching. Salute to him and others who share a similar message. Men control access to relationships at the end of the day. Women especially our sistas need to get on board with the program especially when it comes to structure in a relationship.
I’ve been married for 12 years to a beautiful Black woman who is educated, hardworking, and healthy. We’re both 58 years old and making it through life together. When I met her, she saw something in me that no other woman had seen-a potential and strength that I hadn’t even realized in myself. When other women doubted me, she saw the best in me. While many wanted to use me for financial gain, she saw an opportunity for my growth, and most importantly, she made me feel like I was the only one for her! The challenge for Black women in finding a suitable partner often lies in understanding who they truly are. If a woman has a sense of entitlement and believes in finding a “perfect” fairytale man, she’ll be setting herself up for disappointment. Real relationships require compromise, growth, and a realistic view of love and partnership. It’s not about something temporary, where every man comes through just to pump and dump! When you waste your time and effort on men who only want to use you, you miss the chance to focus on a man who has character and genuine intentions. You must take accountability, or you’ll never know what feels like to be truly loved!❤
I used to really wanted to get married and have a family so bad. I really wanted that, but the women i tried to take serious did not want that. Now THEY are ALL single mothers.
@Vee_Mindful yeah I hope so too but sometimes idk. Anyway congrats to you and your significant other. And thank you for even doing this show. Lol @ "best grandparenting lives" 😄
Ok, I made it 8 minutes. Here's the bottom line ladies: 1 Sx 2. Sandwich 3. Silence And of course I want my lady's perspective but the Silence refers more to not engaging in S.I.G.N language. Problem solved, do with that what you will...
According to U.S. Labor Statistics 2024, less than 1% of black women earn the type of money these women are talking about. The average black woman in U.S. earns around $40,000. So the financial requirements these ladies are speaking about is a non-factor. You are doing your listeners a disservice. Your "standards" / "requirements" are way out of bounds. Money, looks, height and weight: why would any man jump through all of these hoops to be with middle-aged women with children when they could be with younger women who have no children??
I respect that.. the number figure is close to the Black Women I know in their professional careers. My close friend/ soror is the head of a very well known company and she makes that much money and I coach her around this very concern. One of my other girlfriends is a VP for a very large company. So these numbers are very realistic for me. $40K in my area is definitely not as common as I live in a metropolitan area. Every man has a right to date whom they want. Those are your standards... and Black women also have a right to date to their standards. Just so you know.. married men live longer by ten years on average than single men.. Married women on the other hand do not. Not every woman desires a man. Some just desire peace.
@@Vee_Mindful Actually that’s not true for BLK ppl. Research from the National Library of Medicine stated marriage DOES NOT increase the life expectancy of Blk ppl in general. This was done in Sep 2019.
A reason so many black women are single is because in the Black community as a whole, we have a lot of self hate and hate for each other. It is so common for black people to disrespect each other at home, work or out and about. When a black man meets a black woman, many times she compares him vs. every single black man she's ever met in life. When a black man meets a non-black woman the energy is entirely different because she judges you by a different standard because you may have been her first "brotha." Black women miss out on educated black men because when we're in college struggling to get that degree...a lot of sistas will criticize you for being broke. The non-black women see your future and know after graduation, you will have the means that they're seeking.
I can understand your perspective.. that's why I'm trying to help our Black queens. There are a lot of great Black women out here with beautiful hearts.
I'm a 26 year old black man, in my last year of medical school. I was out with my school on a bar crawl yesterday and two black women, first year students who i never met, came up to me and my other two black male classmates. They told me i look educated (great), but they also told me i seem like i wasn't raised around black people, and i look like i only date white women. That rubbed me the wrong way, but I've heard this countless times from black women. And to be true, I have mainly dated white women, but I prefer to marry black. However, i will marry whoever treats me best, regardless of race. No wonder a lot of black women are single. Y'all are losing great men because of similar behaviors.
I appreciate this conversation. My wife passed away in 2016 and I had two teenage children at the time. I think dating with children is incredibly irresponsible when your children should be your prime directive...not hooking up/dating for your selfish ambitions. So I waited until my youngest daughter left home in spring of 2024. My first month of dating resulted in meeting women who had children, and unfortunately putting their children at risk by introducing strange men to them. These women often leading with their religion as a standardbearer but their lives don't remotely reflect it. Constantly announcing their education despite the declaration being unprompted and unsolicited. I have a JD, and NEVER announce this to women in early conversations. But it seems as if they treat their education as a competitive bargaining chip, even during a simple meet and greet encounter. Like a "I don't need you" proclamation before the relationship gets off the ground. I never once cared about a woman's upper education or even if she's a high earner. That's not what I'm remotely looking for and it's a turn off to most masculine men who hears this. In fact, I would caution women to stop announcing their earning power on initial dates and conversations. Because the men that they would likely attract are the losers and men they would have to take care of. Speaking of which, 90% of the women I met were in financial dire straits. This range from having enormous student loan debt, credit cards with high balances, and struggling to pay their rent/mortgage and utilities every month. These poor economic situations can be a pain to any man trying to put himself in favorable conditions for the next 20 to 30 years. There's a narrative that black American women are blowing black men out of the water regarding income. This is a falsehood, as most women (no matter the demographic) make less than their men. Nevertheless, I frankly don't want to take on such financial burdens that many of our sisters have found themselves in. We're not talking about being a few thousand dollars in debt. Many of these ladies are hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt. And there is a strong consensus among men no matter the race regarding this issue. I see some of the brothers in this comment section being pretty harsh. But to me there's nothing better than a black woman. Perhaps I have my bias because I spent 15 years with one. Black American women are finding their dating lives difficult for a variety of reasons. Some of it is weight, negative stereotypes, their apparel, third-wave feminism, and children from other men. I heard a reference to gay men....Actually, there's more black women who are LGBTQ than there are black men. However, there are so many women out here. (Which is a good thing for me) My issue is that I ONLY want and DESIRE a black woman. (I could never be with a Becky) Unfortunately, this phenomenon have black men like myself, being forced to consider black women from other nations. At any rate great episode have a wonderful day.
Finally a mature actual Man's response.. Thank you for watching and commenting.. and not being toxic.. This is why so many women are done with dating.. Sigh. This entire video never dissed our Black men.. But the toxic male audience is a real and I pray your daughters never meet these fools.
@@Vee_Mindful Oh no. You two didn't diss us and your conversation was civil in regards to the black man/black woman dynamic. In fact, the guest pointed out the system in play to leave black men behind. Demonstrating there was no ill intent towards us. I just think anytime women AREN'T being ravenous female versions of Fresh and Fit, becomes radioactive towards men. In their defense, us black men have been hearing these negative things about us for decades from our women. Whether it was on Donahue, Oprah, Ricki Lake, Rolanda, or Sally Jesse Raphael (Lol I'm really showing my age) we've heard it. But because of platforms like UA-cam, black men have only been openly hostile for about 6 years or so. But none of it (no matter who does it) is enriching or healthy. I hope my daughters don't come into contact with these men either. Something I've noticed watching dating and marriage videos between black people are: Most of the comment section is filled with divisive and disingenuous claims. These claims either come from frustrated and angry men from the red pill community...Or claims from a lovelorn and disappointed divestor sect. Both sides make some valid points but most of it is vile and harmful. I see more tearing down instead of understanding the other side and making cogent arguments. An argument that would foster an environment of respect, love, and reunification. I know I'm probably going to get a simp label for this (and I don't care) but I love that you ladies didn't go full throttle on us. But of course I give black women more latitude. Something that both sides of this issue should be seeking opportunities to do. If more positive overtures were made, I think the gap between us, will narrow by a thousand fold. Again, I appreciate the lively conversation and keep up the great work.
During the whole dialogue not once did I hear. What the woman has to offer a man? Once I heard catch phrases like, "on my level + equally yoked". I knew there was going to be a lot of filter and word salad. Women actions,decisions and talking points have consistantly shown they prefer men of higher status. Equally yoke is not a true standard woman adhere to. Lady this confidence talk is one of the biggest hurdle for bw. "The sistahs are overly confident!!😮😮" The host even said she brought her dyck to ever date. Too many bw claiming to be 9s and 10s walking around 250lb+ Slay Queen,sllaaaayyyy! Over confidence blinds you to your flaws. And prevents one from being receptive to outside criticism. One ends up with a flawed sense of reality. Women talking to women about fixing their dating lives. Isn't as productive as them talking to men and getting their perspective. No workable solution was provided to enhance a woman's chance. All I kept hearing was therapy to make you feel better? No real strategy to get the ladies to do better? Never did I hear the questions what would make or how to make the bw a better catch? The whole open your option was never closed to bw it has always been there. Most men from other races and ethnicity just are not biting. According to the numbers based on dating sites and marriages. When my associates of other races comment on their experience with bw. They pretty much say the same things bm crtique the sistas on. Which is: 1) overly aggressive/assertive/ combative demeanor aka..nasty attitude. 2) lack of attention to prioritze physical health. (obesity epidemic) 3)dv... the ladies like to throw hands 4)Promiscuity: multiple partners..children from previous relations..high cases of venerial issues😮😮 sexual fluidity the whole girl on girl action..according to outsiders. Blaque ghirlz are easy😢 I can go on but those are the top 4 the brothas and the others have commonly stayed on topic about. What I picked on that was very troubling was many of the talking is geared towards older women 35 plus. Not young ladies in their twenties. Which is the age group when they are most desired and have the advatage in the mating game.
NOT one single relationship will be healthy if we ourselves are NOT internally healthy. We can work thru our issues together.. but if there is no growth and understanding.. then you can preach til you're blue in the face.. that relationship will not make it. We spoke about self love because that's where all relationships start.
4:39 how do you go on 100 dates or more with that many men and none of them fit your criteria you guys do not want. You can't possibly want a man in your life. No matter what fairy tale description of a man you think you should have, they simply don't exist. And even more so today than 40 years ago. Men are proud of the fact that we're not women. We know we're not perfect and we don't care. Many of us have spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to make women happy and give them what they want and then ultimately they want something else. We know you're confused creatures. We're not going to sit around trying to adjust ourselves anymore. We're done with that. That's not just from the older generation. The younger fellas get it too. Ultimately you women just want to be with other women or you want a woman in a man's body because you certainly don't want all the traits that real men have!
Thank you... and heck how could I go on 100+ dates and not find love back then... Easily.. I had issues!! 😩 I speak openly about my struggles on my channel. Def not ashamed about being in a toxic marriage and it caused me to fear a whole lot.. mainly intimacy. I met some GREAT guys on those dates.. and I don't regret a thing. Once I got professional help.. I was able to finally be open to love.
i am a black man, i have my own as i always has since i was 20..ummm i am single because my fiance cheated with her ex. so i dismissed the engagement etc.. to keep a long story short they didnt work out and she want me back in which i denied of course. so now i been single for 3 years because women i have met in this day and age wooooooooo!!!! aint ready to settle down because they had relationship issues or going through divorces, or they like women and men etc...🤣🤣 i love um but nahhhhhh i may leave AMERICA but yeah keep doing ya thang vee 💯❤💋
I am so sorry she cheated on you. Cheating sucks for sure. Been there in my marriage.. but I learned from it for sure. I'm biracial (Asian and Black).. I won't knock anyone who wants to date outside their race.
Great video, here is the challenge that women must face. Most of the attractive, successful, monogamous and disciplined men are married. It is very rare to find a man like this on the market. I’m a top 5% earner that married early and my wife is as well. In addition, my diverse counterparts in corporate America are mostly married. If you expand, you are competing with women of that group and they are having the same conversation being held on this podcast. This isn’t a Black issue, this is simple macroeconomics and logic. More women being successful reduces the level of opportunity on the male side based on America’s GDP. There are limited resources with economic pressures added.
This is true.. I do a speech on Love and Money and you're right. That's why when we're talking about economics only.. folks say "don't date down." But heck.. you're going to have to be open to it. Cant discriminate based on economics alone because we're severely limiting ourselves. I'm all for concentrating on how someone makes you FEEL.
I respect your opinion, but here's why I respectfully disagree with it. Like me, you probably have a ton of non-black relatives on your family tree and for different reasons. In my case, my father was 41% European. So I have some that DNA in me. If my ancestors prescribed to your thought, I wouldn't be here.
@@buicklincoln i do not have European dna, and if my ancestors thought like you I would not be here. Btw alot of Geechi and Gullah descendents are 100% African based on dna. Black people are the ONLY people who actively and aggressively discuss and seek out being in interracial unions. I and my friends do not date women who do interracial unions.
@@Vee_Mindful no need to feel sorry. It does not mean you are hated, just means that I wouldnt' deal with women who date interaciially. They do not have the same respect for black men that they give other men.
Men are being left behind in terms of education and career advancement compared to Black women. (8:44-9:07) This disparity creates challenges for Black women in the dating market, as there are fewer Black men who meet their criteria for a partner. (9:08-9:15) How are we ignoring this fact for the purposes of uplifting women and not fighting against the system that is destroying the potential of the men that they are seeking. Most women are becoming the men they want to marry hence why they are more masculin. I'm order to correct this there needs to be a flip in how we invest in or men and boys future, otherwise we won't have a future to look forward to.
I can completely understand your stance because as a mom to three Black adult sons- I see it from both sides. I love how Marshaun mentions this disparity and you're right; this needs to be addressed so that our Black men don't continue to be left behind.
@cwillmail - You all need to stop repeating this stupid narrative about, "most women are becoming the men they want to marry:, because the women are not out here cutting their own grass (they hire lawn care survives or have family or male friends do it), they are not turning wrenches on their cars (you'll be hard pressed finding one who will change their own tire), nor turning a wrench within their apartment or homes (they make a spectacle out of having changed out a smoke detector battery). Even the gifts they will buy themselves this Christmas is a far cry from what they will demand from the man in their lives, if they had one. If you think the behavior women are projecting as being "masculine", then it's clear you have no idea what masculinity actually is, because what the women are projecting is nothing close. Anyone can emulate something for a short period of time and be clueless about where it's generated from. Because for all this projection women are putting on, it's amazing who when it's time to face the consequences and punishment of their acts and speech they are quick to remind people they are women.
@@butchsmith-rt1ok - You don't need a college degree to land a good to decent paying job. But what you need is a marketable skill. There is enough researchable data that shows women, notably BW are not getting a decent return on their investment when it comes to the degrees they have obtained, and the student debt they are carrying. Many of these call centers, and customer service centers for people like ATT, a health insurance company, and others are full of women, notably Black women, with degrees in Marketing, Psychology, Business, and others, crying student loan debts, and are 2 missed paychecks away from having to live in their automobiles. Lastly, with the large number of Black girls and Black young women walking around fat, for you to say that boys need to get away from playing sports, then it's clear you don't understand the need for sports for boys and girls, and if remaining physically active through their early adult years and into their later stages, the physical and mental health benefits that are maintained. It's obvious.....You are not one of them.
In an Ideal world I would love to date my black women here in America. That being said, too many of them are controlled by their trauma and unrealistic expectations. They can't bring peace because they don't have peace within themselves. Sad to say it's not worth dating them here , much less marrying them. Especially since men have more to lose in the event of a divorce. Not worth it no matter the age. Way more Sista's on the planet than in the just here. Sadly it's come to that.
I still love my Black men... and I love my own Black man.. lol.. I want my Black women to know that love is out here and they should focus on themselves first and foremost.
May the energy you put out find you and deal you a painful heartbreak. Because one thing I can promise you.. karma doesn't skip anyone. Good luck to you in your search.
@Vee_Mindful I been doing this for 40 years dear. Nope won't happen. I'll just keep doing the same thing. May I always have an over abundance of new women. I can cheat on with much younger women. I command it. All power manifest my desires
All of my black aunties are married. Most of my first cousins are married My brother's have been married Some of my lil cousins are married The thing is this, there are lots of sistas not single. But none of single black women are asking them questions. Why are married women staying married.
As a 60 year old Black man who net worth is in the Top 10% of America. I personally would not date older black women who I heard all my life tell me that "I wasn't Shyt!"............Nope! Winter is here and I say let them FREEZE.
@@dman221 I hear ya…I’m 54 divorced and similar to you in terms of net worth. I date black women in my age group but I doubt I will marry again. Of course they hit me with the “I’m dating with intentions…”
@@HumesDeliveryService : You and I saw the disrespect, disdain and malice towards productive Black men all our entire lives. Personally I wouldn't save not a one...........they deserve all the misery that they can muster. Most of them claim to be this and that. Let me tell you a quick story: I was at a conference last week. This black woman around 55 years old was complaining about divorcing her husband who was 40 years old. She said he wasn't being the man she expected him to be. Do the math the man was 25 years old when they met and she was 40 years old. But in her mind he was at fault for not being the man she wanted him to be. Hell, you were the GRANDMA when you first met. And had a 9 year old with that man. The delusion is real with them......reality is nonexistent.
lol.. I have no shame in going on that many dates.. lol.. I never had a BAD date.. some not so great, but not one single bad date. I had issues and I admit it on my channel. I worked on myself a LOT so that I could become the best version of myself.
They need to be having this conversation with her 8 year old daughter now not 25 and 30 years from now. The best protection is prevention. This lesson and discussion is supposed to be taught to young girls not middle age women. Its like a criminal deciding to change his life after he’s already been sentenced to 30 years in prison. Too little too late
Why is it that black men who date women of all races are seen as having some type of complex, but black women eho date men of all races are just looking for love. Many black women are just more attracted to non-black men, just like many black men are more attracted to non-black women.
There’s a difference in these situations. Some men (clearly in these comments) absolutely hate Black women and would never date one. There are some Black women who feel the same way. I fully support ANYONE finding love. But I absolutely do NOT support degrading others because of their preference. Love who you love. I’m biracial myself. Chinese and Black and proud of it.
All these things need to be addressed with women so that they can be made aware of how they come off when the shoe is on the other foot. All of these examples are things men are shamed for not being accepting and understanding about.
Black women like yourself miss our on good men with good jobs who's single. Would you talk to a Police Officer, Fireman , Postal Worker, Railroad worker, school teacher, welder or a truck driver. Tou have s lot of single black men in these professional jobs. Who's not making six figures.
PS. i am a journyman painter , retired at 58 from the city and county of SAN FRANCISCO CA 30 yrs service, i made 80,000 a year and my woman at the time was a doctor she made more and we was a TEAM❤ unfortunately she passed in car accident years ago🙏but yea money is never an issue for KINGS 👑 i love my woman to make money the more the better 💯💯
This concept that 'dating' is the appropriate method to modify natural principles, well, is wrong. Historically, 'Courting' was a cultural requirement based in value, not volume. 'Dating' is not congruent to what is a natural occurrence of truth in expectations and satisfaction. 'Dating' is a commercial activity advertised and designed to excite temporal desires of quantity, not quality. Thereby, misleading members of society by selling a 'dream-person' is a swipe or click away. Thus, developing a society of people that do not value one another and are imbued with hedonistic egotistical expectations of outcomes for commercial gratification. In closing, 'dating' is the wrong approach to the natural experience of contentment with others. Sure, some people are going to meet, that does not set the rule of satisfaction; it only highlights the law of probability. I suggest, Men and Women stop dating, stop procreating, and stop lying to one another. Instead study natural law, learn about there own sexual natures and desires, get control over themselves, and stop looking for satisfaction based in quantity and be courageous and mature enough to choose one suitable life partner.
Vee, I respect your effort. But, it’s far too late for correction! Because, there’s not only severe damage that women carry around with them, each day. But, we, black men have deep emotional and mental damage as wel as a result of the harmful effects of the things that black women have directed towards black men. Moreover, black men, as myself find it impossible to excuse the intentional harm that they have caused by their torturous words and actions which were intended to destroy us! For instance, women have made statements that white men, who we deem as our oppressors, are far better than black men!! Yeah!!!! That hit different. It’s one of those unforgettable and inexcusable things! And, there’s no amount of therapy in the world that could help excuse that! And, this is just one example of the many destructive statements and actions that black men have endured from black women. And, knowing that not all of you are bad, it doesn’t lessen the blows! So, although your effort is respected, I know that it’s a waste of your time & energy. And, that’s not to discourage you in any way. But, the truth is the truth! And, If K.Samuels was here, today, I’m pretty sure that he’d say the same thing.
Thank you for watching and commenting. I respect your perspective.. I'm not going to give up.. nope lol.. I have three Black adult sons.. and I want nothing more for them than to find a GOOD woman who can be in their corner to uplift them and motivate them to be the Kings they are meant to be. I def do not believe that White men are better than our Black men. Heck no. I'm still daddy's little girl at my old age and my Black father has shown and taught me nothing but love.
Be honest???? Women over 40 ...the only way a black man have a chance he got to be able to provide a beautiful life.... a great home, black women r in the travel culture now(they want to travel more)... also she like to drive decent... Let's keep it real that's what makes black women( women in general) in 2024 that's happiness🥺
I know a woman who earns $500K.. and she 's married to a HS track and field coach. It's not about the money for everyone. Not every woman is one sided.. Lots of women just want to feel special to that one loyal and honest man.
@Vee_Mindful I believe they want honesty and a caring man.... but what he can do for you is where it needs to start at ...what he does for u is happiness ...as you said everybody selfish... making 500k ain't normal for 99% of people,she is blessed)... I enjoyed your show have a blessed day
I believe it's better to be single. Why go out your way to care for someone with your resources who not going to reciprocate rewarding behavior? I don't make millions but don't live check to check either! Being single is peaceful no stress. Men we are not here to please and provide a lifestyle for women! The love u seek only comes from God so chase God!
They abused the men for soooooo man centuries (with the aid of the enemy) it is hard to go back. They wear blond hair, tattoos, 304 costume's to audition for non-black men they are democrat's & they are Christian as well as feminist. How can a good character warrior choose this as there first option. Are yaw getting tired of being stabbed in the back, aren't the BM getting tired of performing. Aren't BM tired of trying to be perfect just to get death do us part & still fail at it 🤔
The dating coach is saying all the right things but I'd really like to know what her statistics are. Not because I think that she's not good at what she does, but because I don't believe that women can be coached, they're like trying to herd cats. It can't be done! 36:09 I totally disagree that you guys want a man to come in and take control. That's all cap. It's just not true and you guys need to stop saying that. It sounds way better than what it plays out in in real life. I'm going to say this just straight up! Grow up! The first thing any woman should do when she finds a man that she likes is think about how she can nurture and take care of that man. If she can't do that she's not ready for a relationship because I can tell you right now none of us are getting that from women and we all need it and we're not getting it because you're not willing to give it, so we take what we can get and keep it moving! 38:54 Y'all may love nice men but you also fall out of love with them. You will stay in love with a good man and those are a little bit more difficult to find!
Well i love a nice man.. lol.. A man who can communicate and hear me out.. if there is nothing else a man could learn .. it's how to emotional connect with his woman. And I've successfully coached many women into loving on their partners. I do a whole course on "Ladies, Leave Your D*cks at Home" and it goes into honoring your feminine side..
@@Vee_Mindful This is a good thing that you advise this for women because trust me, the longer men are out here in the wild without women to temper us. We're not going to become more available and easier to deal with. We realize that we built this world and we can do it without women, but we don't want to! Yes, women are needed for procreation but you're also needed for nurturing us. We need that for our mind, our body and our spirit and if women are just choosing to parse that out when they're in the mood or feeling feminine based on the man's behavior. Then it's an unfair exchange and men will recognize it quickly and typically they will turn out to be something that you didn't think he was that he was when you first met him. I enjoy the conversation and the dialogue between your ladies. It inspired me to respond and very few do that. But I am one of those men that fits the description of my dialogue. I have no issue attracting beautiful women even today, but I'm tired of the quid pro quo! Because there's always a lot more give than take for the man! Despite that, I still have had a difficult time finding one that isn't confused about who she is and what she wants and what her true role is with regards to a man. They've been able to accept and receive everything I've given with no problem, but reciprocity is a big problem! So you guys keep doing good work. Just remember the young men are running to where I'm at quicker because they have more knowledge! I started out with women in the '80s and '90s putting them on pedestals and have come to realize those were mistakes! Young men know that already!
I think the hard part for divorced womn is looking for similar or better attributes in the next man vs the man she divorced. Hear me out - there was a divorced friend of my wife, who asked me to hook her up with one of the single Blk wall street guys i know(i work capital markets risk management at an investment firm) - she had a problem with every single guy i introduced her to (too short, too tall and big, too light, too dark, not funny, i didn't like his smile, his shoes,etc)- i mean she's Blk and they were blk (there is literally very few BM managing director on wall street ). I asked my wife what was her problem- my wife told me this womn is trying to find a man who would out do her ex; I mean on every level- physically, financially, personality, etc. This womn was now 8yrs into her divorce and her ex was an abusive cheater, but she still wanted the next man to be him and more , without the abuse and cheating. Meanwhile her ex remarried 😮. Once you let go of your past , i mean totally, your eyes will open up.
Hand her my contact info.. lol.. she needs a reality check. This is why I don't bash men or women.. We both have issues! Neither are perfect.. she needs to truly heal her wounds before she dates anyone because all she's going to do is bring her issues with her to every man and these men don't deserve that.
@@Vee_Mindful: Nope....Black men ain't falling for the "BOTH". Tell me one thing in his story where the majority of one black man means "BOTH". I will wait.....Black men had their judgement several generations ago. Then it wasn't "BOTH"......so why is it now. Oh yeah, you are a pretender who doesn't want to alienate getting the bag from "BOTH". Money is your driven force and not seeing truth have the consequences it deserves.
I literally see nothing wrong with finding someone you love in a different race, but don't go over there and experience the exact same thing that you experienced with men in your own race and give them a pass! Because the truth is, regardless of race, people are people and if you're drawing a certain kind of person into your life, shifting to another race doesn't change the people you're going to attract. You take you with you no matter where you go! 18:28 Men don't have an issue necessarily with women who make more money but when women who make more money than men believe that they can direct the man is where the issue begins! If you make all of that money can you please tell me what do you need a man for other than sex and companionship? If you're already financially set in your life, then why can't you just think like a man and bring a man into your life who fits what you want? That's what men do. We have everything we want and when we decide we want a woman. We don't expect her to bring everything that we have to the table. We just want her to bring the things that we like that we can't get ourselves!
They say a wealthy man has no need for marriage. so I can def see your point about when a woman makes that much money and I know women who make that much money and more. The thing is.. we are human.. and we need each other. It's not about finances.. it's about connection and companionship, and life is just that much better when you experience it with someone you love.🩷
I found my person, I was divorced with 2 adult sons from a previous marriage, and had a set of twin daughters that were under 2 years old. My soon to be husband had no kids, never married, financially secure, and he was much taller than a leprechaun 😂. It's definitely possible & these conversations help. Love this conversations.
@@G43X saying they are masculine is insult to men. There is another word. It starts with the letter B...it's not masculine. We need to stop calling them masculine. They want to be equal to us so bad an they not. Masculinity uses logic and reason. None of them have masculine qualities.
What a good question.. I would tell my younger self to focus on being the love you want to attract. Becoming a nurturing queen who loves herself the most.. because that love will show up on the outside.
But yet you are here in comment section full of black men. How come you are not over in the white people's comment section professing your love? Typical....the real reason you are over here is because you know that white people don't want you nor do they care about what you think or have to say. So you SLITHERED over here because you have black skin. Nope...you are not ONE of US. Never has been.....
Again this person prove the mens point. It is not a flex for a BW to date or marry a non-BM. It is the same behavior BW African women have always demonstrated. These people destroyed the earth & they destroyed the black & African race, ethnicity and cultural groups around the globe. So for a BW to say I/she is going to date or marry one of them is basically saying "Since I am afraid to fight, struggle, endure, or dy, I am going to do what is safe/best for me (the individual) & pair off with the tribe as to stay safe /alive while the rest of you struggle/dy". They lie to us and say its preference or proximity as to not get that race traitors (Scarlet letter) branding. Let them divest. BM you didn't break it & it's not your job to fix it.
1:17 The biggest challenge is honesty HOW HONESTY can they be abkit who they are an where they are in life and their choices made along the way but yal would rather lie See bw make it a goal that their spouse be super duper fine whos a ceo and a thug at the same time 😂😂😂😂😂😂 while MANIPULATING non sexual companionship from men they dont want because they cant manipulate the type of men they casually sleep with
lol.. CEO and a thug? where he at!? lol.. naw.. That thug life for me was 30 years ago.. I'm almost 50. My partner is corny and I love it. Because heck.. I'm corny too.
Agreed. you do not have to be married like my mother who has been married to my father for 53 years, to give good advice to other young women. My mother has ONLY been with my father and me him at 16 and were married at 18 and then I came.
AGREED.. because so many people are in unhappy relationships and they think relationships should last thru everything.. and that's not true. I promote self love and that love will show up in your relationships.
@@Vee_Mindful The relationship should last thru everything. what are you talking about? if the woman is feminine and knows her duty AND the man knows his duty, the marriage and relationship lasts.
26:40 - LOL My Sisters... How can we tell men to take hats off but shame a man who ask a woman to take her makeup off, LOL I'm all for it if it works both ways
lol.. yall have every right to ask a woman to take off her makeup.. in just about ALL of my videos.. I'm literally wearing no make up and no filters. I'm almost 50 and still looking good. No shame over here whatsoever.
lol.. over a hundred.. over 8 years time span. I met many great men during that time period.. But I wasn't ready to receive the love. My marriage did a number on me.. and I'm transparent about it on my channel. I got the professional help and am now in a long standing stable relationship.
@ I can definitely respect your honesty. Sorry if my original post took on a judgmental tone. Sounds like you’ve done the work many are not fully prepared for. The video statement struck a nerve lol Most well adjusted single men don’t go on a fraction of that date count with that many women over an extended time period without coming up for air and reflecting on what’s not working. Not picking at you lol so much as kinda being humbled by how many sistahs take this disposable approach to dating. Assuming they have endless options and can find the right man who will check all her boxes top to bottom. It’s definitely different from the male perspective because we have to be more mindful of our resources for dating. 🤷🏾♂️
Engagement is engagement.. So I thank ya'll..❤️.. None of ya'll comments could hurt my feelings. Try being raised by an Asian mom! They tell you you're fat all day every day in MANY different ways!! LOL. And heck.. I ain't fat at all!
@ I was raised in a house full of single black mothers. Before I was 5, I knew I was too Black, too smart, too corny, too skinny, couldn’t dance, couldn’t sing, could have the black sl@pped off me and could be knocked into the middle of next week. I’ll trade with you.
@@Deez276 I'm so sorry that they took their disdain and hurt out on you.. That was not fair to you at all. You deserve love.. and I pray a healthy love finds you.
Might be a consequence of a number if things. 1. Black men (culturally speaking) feel entitled to cheat on and betray their women, whilst simultaneously demanding absolute devotion from the women themselves. Sure, women cheat too but I think black men certainly feel no shame about it and encourage one another to do it. That has (over time) caused women to completely mistrust men in their lives (and in the wider community) and well...a relationship cannot thrive, let alone stabilise without trust and transparency. Not only that, but black men (it seems) are willing to walk out of a relationship...EVEN when there are kids involved. Baby momma culture doesn't exist in a vacuum. 2. Are these women simply looking for sex or are they looking for companionship. And if the ARE looking for companionship? What changes are they making in themselves to help the relationship flourish? Are they willing to be wrong sometimes? Can they regulate their own emotions? Etc, etc. There's obvs so much more (and more that I'm unaware of) but I think that those two things contribute massively to the problem.
I thank you for taking the time to provide your input.. and sigh.. yesh the conversation is definitely bigger than the one we had. That's why she and I work with people (I coach men and women of all races) to help them resolve their own issues.. because that's where the relationships start..
I dont see why anything needs to be done about single black women. Black men have been told for years how worthless they are and all men heard you. Yall are strong and independent and dont need no man. As men, we heard you loud and clear. We are either dating outside or remaining single. If you as a group were better at honestly asking what a man truly wants, then you would be more successful. I dont see that happening. Maybe its best that youre all sinlgle, because if you were as desirable as you say you are, you wouldnt have to ask for help finding the men you say you want.
@@splouffy this episode was actually supporting our Black men. I don’t tear down Black men. I’m a mom to THREE adult Black men. And hun.. I’m not single. 🩷. My goal is to bridge the gap in our relationships. I love Black men.
@Vee_Mindful then I wasn't talking to you. Congratulations.
@@Vee_Mindfuli hear you but ......its good to repair. The other thing is teaching women to be feminine despite how much he makes. Now , im not saying date a guy at McDonald's but women....black.....try to back hand the fact that im an elementary teacher (degree) that i need to make more.
So you inferred he was a good guy but you didn't want to date him because he had young kids.......so its fair for me to do the same....?
@@butchsmith-rt1ok If a woman has to turn her femininity on and off, then she has a personal problem that needs to be remedied before she even entertains the idea of dealing with men.
@@butchsmith-rt1ok Heck yeah, it's 100% fair for you to do the same if you're not interested in dealing with young kids. No need to waste time with folks that you know don't align with your wants. I agree with you. Are you ok with a woman making more? Women sooooo badly WANT to be feminine.. we do. How can we do a better job with being more feminine when we might make more financially. Im open to suggestions. It might help someone out here.
Black women have been told why they are single. Their response has been to reject what they have been told, and to dig their heels in deeper. I have moved on..
@@riffraff521 I refuse to date another black woman.
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I coach men and women.. white and black.. Heck.. African, Middle Eastern, European.. We ALL have issues.. trust me on that one.
@@Vee_Mindful I agree that we all have issues, but here's the problem: time. If a man meets two women and one has a ton of issues and the other one is supportive and is easier to get along with...which woman do you think is going to win the prize? Too often, the Black woman is the one who has all the baggage so the brothas don't want to spend all this time trying to "heal" someone of their problems.
@@Vee_MindfulI'm in a relationship with a black woman. I have been with her for over 15 years.
I can say this. Other races of women are far easier to be with. They are more compatible with me and we have more in common.
But I get bored of pale skin. I am more sxuallly attracted to black skin. So I keep having long term situations with my sistas but I'm still dating other races of women on the side.
If I was monogamous I wouldn't be able to be with a sista that long.
How do women date hundreds of men of all races and can’t find a relationship? Then say that black men need to do better. The perfect man doesn’t exist. And women love the nice guy in their 30s after they have had a baby or two for the bad boy.
Easy.. heck.. I went on a couple hundred dates.. and I had issues. LOL . Avoidant Attachment style. I admit it in a few of my videos. Once I got professional help (whom I still meet with every week for over 5 years), I've been in a relationship ever since. We all have demons that we have to deal with. No one is perfect. But we can get the help we need.
@ Agreed 👍🏾 I am happy things are working out for you. I prey more black women find relationships and stop blaming black men.
@@shawn_and_one thank you for the kind words
@@Vee_Mindful the bad boy argument is not just stated in the black community. It is ubiquitous
Black men....I am an older black man....Listen to me and listen to me well. We have given grace the last two generations. Amazing how therapy comes into play once Black women have been ran through and aged out. There are 54% of black men, single and childless in the Middle Class. Where was that insight when they were creating children with 19% of the Black Male population? And having 1.2 million children with non black men. They can miss me with all that "Let's Hold Hands".....nonsense. Not happening......
I’m in my mid 50s, men like myself just aren’t interested in dealing with women today who are problematic. They’re just not worth the trouble anymore.
Very True
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Shame Insults Guilt & the NEEED to be right. That's why black women in there 40s are single🤷🏿
I'm sorry you feel that way. We still love you even if you don't love us back.
blind leading the blind! Instead of taking advice from people who are successful in love themselves, you take advice from divorced single mothers. Listen to the aunts and uncles who where successful in love. And next time just interview a guy, let him tell you want a man really wants.
@painfulprodcutions the average bw that's unsuccessful in love isngenerally uncountable and doesn't truly care what a man wants. She knows that here and won't risk her fan base to actually help them. Oh well, back to the Becky's.
Sorry you feel that way.. There are a LOT of unhappy people in relationships. Being in a relationship just for the sake of saying, "At least I'm not single" is a piss pot poor excuse. I coach these people who are absolutely miserable in their marriages. The goal is to stay connected.. but heck.. a relationship takes TWO people.. not one. I don't teach people to stay together just because the optics look better that way.. I teach people to find the internal peace within themselves because that's where we all need to start. And I am not single. Sheesh... check my other videos.. I clearly spell that out. Please research before you judge two strangers who simply were trying to HELP other women. I hope your day gets better.
@@Vee_Mindfulhow long have you happily married?
Blind leading the blind is a good way to put it.
@@Vee_Mindful It's too easy to talk about not being happy in a relationship. The couples I know who have been together for over 30 years and are still happy. Have also had their phase where they were not happy at all. But you fight through that. Once you have children together, it's not just about you anymore. That is never discussed. There is too much advertising with ow you are not happy, leave the father of your child and continue looking. In the meantime, the child also suffers damage and so the story keeps repeating itself.
But keep on motivating each other, apparently judging by the numbers It keeps on getting better. 👍🏽
The biggest problems of most black women over 40 is that, most black men over 40 are single & childless. So please tell me how do you expect most black men over 40 are just starting to get in their prime with no kids, & want to start a family expect to go get women over 40s with babies, & can't even have babies anymore is that a fair deal for black men?
LOL.. this is not a true statistic.. Most Black men over 40 are not single and childless. I literally could care less if Black men date an 18 year old woman. None of that was discussed. This video was to provide insight and encouragement to both Black men and women. Not one single bashing of Black men took place. We focused strictly on facts. She even said she thought the system was keeping Black men down. So to all these toxic fools who hate Black women found this video and left a lot of negative comments.. heck.. Thank yall! I will still stand on truth and wish nothing but the best for all of us.💚
@Vee_Mindful well if this is not true when do you think most well put together black men , apart of those whom are born to a wealthy family hit their prime? Please tell us black men? It's 35, to 40. By then most black women can't have kids anymore by that age
We need to start telling the truth to our young black daughters, men & women are not the same. My daughter is 20 years old now, I already start talking to her to start thinking of getting married, to a man of 35 or 40 to start a family in the next 3 to 4 years
As a married man, I hate to be the bearer of bad news. Everyone isn’t cut out for marriage regardless of gender. It takes an exceptional person to get married and remain successfully married. The marriage and divorce rate numbers are accurate and it takes a special person to indefinitely pair-bond with another person. I pray for the best outcome for everyone. Each person has to be extremely disciplined and selfless within the relationship. Honestly, there are some great people out there, but they are not great for marriage. God bless 🙏🏾
Whew! You are telling the truth.. Thank you for sharing.
BS BECAUSE THATS NOT WHAT GOD SAID . THE PROBLEM IS BLACK WOMEN FORGOT WHY THEY WERE CREATED IN THE FURST PLACE. GOD SAID I WILL MAKE FOR HIM A HELP MEET FOR HIM SO THE BLACK WOMAN WERE CREATED FOR THE MAN AND HER DESIRES IS FOR HER HUSBAND. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A MAN DUPPOSE TO BE COMPATIBLE AND SUITABLE FOR NO WOMAN. THIS BLACK WOMAN IS DIVORCED AND IS NOT QUALIFIED TO TEACH . SHE IS AGAINST GOD AND A JOKE. WIMEN WHO ARE MARRIED AND NEVER DIVORCED OR TOKEN OF VIRGINITY IS THE WOMEN GOD HONORED . BLACK WOMEN ARE LEARNING FROM FAILURES AND WOMEN WHO ARE FAILURES . TITUS 2 TELLS THE WOMAN TO TEACH EOMEN HOW TO OBEY THEIR HUSBANDS SO SHE HAS TO BE MARRIED .
@@UpdatedView It is mind boggling how many people do not understand the simple truth of your statement. Family has pressed me to marry my entire life. It is beyond their comprehension when I tell them it is not for me. I get statements like, “you just haven’t found the right girl”.
@@riffraff521 it’s the truth and most people fight it. I’m a top earner and met my wife in our early 20s. I’m extremely blessed to have my wife, because most men have never encountered a woman like her. She is a high earner as well, but is feminine, cooperative, submissive, selfless and inspirational. Women like her are taking off the dating market immediately and they gone on with life in their bubble. I would say if you just so happen to meet one, go for it. Good luck to you 🙏🏾
Well said.
It's not a mystery, it's their antagonistic attitude towards the black man🙄🙄🙄
Sad to say black men don't want to deal with black women, black men have moved on. Black women have to many rules. When I dated white women, Jewish women, and Asian women it was totally different. With a ton of attitude black women will act like I don't need you; the other cultures will at least talk to you without a thousand miles of attitude.
Black women are single for a reason. White women chased me, they always have, I just wanted to be with a black woman but I gave up and moved on, and I am happy with children.
I am with a non-black man and he is the masculine pursuer. I prefer that type of man not the one who wants to be passive and in his feminine energy.
Any woman has rules for men shes not PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED to
Overall non black women treat men better. Here in Hawaii you see a lot of Polynesian and asian women with blk husbands. Pretty common out here
@@jaydrich8115 I am 6'-3" tall, ex world class track athlete, above average looks, BA, MA, professional my own firm, nice house and still not good enough. I ended up marrying a white doctor. Married 30 years, very little drama. I moved on. Women of other cultures want to be with men.
@@BOBBOB-tx7ox as far as your accolades i commend you brother i do but as far as your description of yourself thats up to a woman to speak on
Our BW need to be more friendly, welcoming, pleasant and feminine. I'm not bashing BW but most BM encounter the same problems and can tell the same stories about their experiences with BW. Women of other races are much more friendly and pleasant to interact with. Lowest married for a reason. Losing the masculine energy would be a good place to start. Sorry but that is the truth.
Amen 😮
Great points for sure. I do a whole course on this..
@@Vee_Mindful I just found your channel. I will be binge watching this week.
That's bs stereotype unless ur talking about 17yrs chewing gum. Black men most hood are not friendly rude w no manner. I stick to foreign men or latinos welcome white men too
The men have spoken. Buy a dog and settle in with eternal singleness.
This is the only fate
good luck to you too!! No hate on this channel whatsoever. May the algorithm find the sensible and intelligent crowd again. Cuz sheesh.
@Vee_Mindful I think men are speaking their truth and reality of the left overs future
Other races are not looking for black women like that sorry to break it out, but it is really not new news.
I have a white male client.. handsome man. He’s on a date right this very moment with a Black woman. It’s his preference.
@@Vee_Mindful BW are married interracially at 12%. Not good stats.
@@Vee_Mindful "Pew Research - Key facts about Black Americans" dated January, 18 2024
Section 8 it says "Black men in the US are married to someone who is non-black at 21% and BW at 13%"
So In the context of marriage other races marry black women the least but as the example of your white male client shows they DO have alot of "Extramarital FUN" with them.
@@Vee_Mindful -
At the end of the day, Black women marrying out is half of that of Black men. And as the women's numbers climb, so does the men, while still staying double.
Last Note: I played ice and roller hockey for over 40 years as a Black man. And during those years I ran across my share of Black men who played also, but the facts remain, when you look at the numbers of people who play in the US and even Canada as a whole, the number of Blacks who play are still low. Antidotal accounts here and there matters for zero in the grand scope of things.
I am a black woman engaged to an affluent well-educated non-black man. Had no problems getting a ring. Sorry to break it to you but that is not and has never been true.
Ladies, this is part of your problem you are taking advice from women and not men a good man is what you want you should be asking MEN!!! A single woman, single mother or divorced woman in her 40s is not attractive to men that says to a man you are STRESS and a man just want RESPECT AND PEACE. I am 47 and a woman past 28 is not on my radar.
lol.. good luck with those young women. Because when you want someone to roll over and hand you your teeth, CPAP machine, and reading glasses, them young chics will not be interested. Love who you love!! We literally are ok with that.. I coach men and women.. and there are a LOT of men would love to date mature women. If that's not you... no love lost at all. You're free to love who you love hun.
@@Vee_Mindful What I have found is that when a woman has slept with multiple men she has completely lost the ability be submissive to a GOOD MAN who has boundaries, older women should not be single in her 40s, she has failed, and a lot of times still tend to think she has a high value you CANNOT get an older woman to be submissive, pure problem. 95% of women like bad boys and bad men so what a man is looking for really is that 5% woman and if you have passed say 30 ma'am I am sorry a woman in her 40s is not it.
@@Vee_MindfulNo women are interested in doing that. Age irrelevant
@@Vee_Mindful I find this comment is short sighted. Your comment reaches a logically shaky conclusion that age-gap relationships will necessarily have a younger woman taking care of an older man and being disinterested. Aside from the obvious problems with this outcome being an assumed given, there are also life events for non-age gap couples where one partner takes care of the other by necessity. The desire to do this therefore is based on the person and their motivations...not their age. I thought better of you than this comment and was disappointed when I read it.
I am a veteran and work in the medical field. So I work with a lot of females. Lots of BLACK females tend to act hard to get even when they are feeling you. They tend to treat every interaction as a perpetual covert and sometimes overt move for dominance and judgment for insignificant things. More of them were lazy or judgmental in bed. LASTLY, more BLACK females tend to purposely be defiant putting us in a difficult and unwinnable situation. Too much trouble. Also the ex from the streets.
As another Air Force Veteran that has traveled, your so right Sir.
Thank you for your service.. my dad and partner are retired Air Force veterans.
As a 52 year old divorced childless black man who checks all the "boxes" black women SAY they want in a partner. I regret to say domestic black women over 40 are very poor prospects for dating / relationship for high value men.
The common background of domestic black women over 40 is they made very poor date / marriage choices in their prime dating years.
Another issue is single motherhood which over 60% have one or more children. For a single childless black man who lives an active, top tier lifestyle dating a black woman with child care responsibilities is problematic at best.
And yes, the few top tier black men over 40 really don't have to pursue women. Since I've become 50+ my social circles are more populated with white asian Latina women.
There were comments about black men I need to address. Black women with college degrees are 32%. Black men with college degrees are 26%. Another impediment are black women who may make significantly more money and make an issue with a black man.
But, women in other countries are comparably educated and professionally employed at higher incomes and are happily married to men who are significantly less accomplished than themselves.
Several times in my initial dates with domestic black women I have experienced black women presuming I'm marginally employed /educated when I am highly educated and semi retired with a top 5% income. Another presumption black women have about top tier black men is we are on the down low /gay just because we speak standard English, collegiate / post graduate educated, well dressed and groomed, athletic build, socially and emotionally accomplished. Black women presume if a black man isn't broke or or a thug and single / divorced he must gay.
It's almost as if black women have preconceived notions that all black men are substandard and the black men who are competent and capable black women socially marginalize because of pegorative assumptions.
Yes, HEALTHY black women want top tier black men. The challenge is a miniscule percentage of black women over 30 are emotionally and mentally healthy.
I am 60 years old Black man that net worth is in the Top 10% of American. I only have a High School diploma but made my money working hard and investing. I agree wholeheartedly with your message. I heard the same things in the last generation of black women that they didn't want a "NICE MAN".....and when they got the opposite man. All of a sudden "All Black Men" ain't shyt. Nope....that type of mentality is borderline institutional. Older black men are not saving these women who continuously chose wrong until their clock ran out. Not doing it....
I will not give up helping my Black women become better partners to men (all men). The only way we can attract a connection is to become the connection you're trying to attract.
@@Vee_Mindful I have three nieces ranging in age from 26 -32 two are married and one just got engaged. At our last family dinner all three surrounded me and very respectfully but definitely asserted their influence in favor of black women. The most seminal comment came from my recently engaged niece strongly suggesting a ratio of 2-3 to 1 meaning I should date to 2 - 3 over 40 black women for every women under 40. My niece emphasized her suggestion applied to first dates / encounters. All were unequivocally opposed to men my age dating women their age.
@@p9a9r21 I respect their opinions and your choices. My partner is older than me.. Black HIGHLY intelligent successful man.. and we're just living our best lives. 💚 I'm not opposed to people finding love wherever they find it.
I too am a divorcee. I was a full-time assistant pastor and when my ex-wife left and the divorce was final I was asked to resign by the church. I then went back to school and earned a Masters in Marriage and Family Counseling to help couples in ways that I couldn't get.
This is why the church is dying. Divorce should not make a pastor lose their job.
You're doing God's work. Experience is key.
Unequally yoked is cold that I left for a bullshit reason. Now you're old trying to date again. But that magic is been gone
9:25 if this whole point were valid and it’s challenging for Highly educated BW to be equally yoked with BM, wouldn’t every bruh with a degree be taken FIRST?!? That’s the case with every other race of women. But somehow most sistahs wanna disqualify the highly educated BM or even the Good bruh who’s stable, gainfully employed or maybe blue collar for these superficial reasons that don’t match this unequally yoked argument.
People thought Kevin Samuels was a liar when he was trying to tell women what men want. They still hate him til this day even though he's in heaven. He lives rent free in their minds. He wasn't lying from what he was preaching. Salute to him and others who share a similar message. Men control access to relationships at the end of the day. Women especially our sistas need to get on board with the program especially when it comes to structure in a relationship.
Negative, not hating the brother, he's not in heaven. Cut it out with that garbage understanding.
"Self Deceivers later become their own Consequence Grievers!"
I’ve been married for 12 years to a beautiful Black woman who is educated, hardworking, and healthy. We’re both 58 years old and making it through life together. When I met her, she saw something in me that no other woman had seen-a potential and strength that I hadn’t even realized in myself. When other women doubted me, she saw the best in me. While many wanted to use me for financial gain, she saw an opportunity for my growth, and most importantly, she made me feel like I was the only one for her!
The challenge for Black women in finding a suitable partner often lies in understanding who they truly are. If a woman has a sense of entitlement and believes in finding a “perfect” fairytale man, she’ll be setting herself up for disappointment. Real relationships require compromise, growth, and a realistic view of love and partnership.
It’s not about something temporary, where every man comes through just to pump and dump! When you waste your time and effort on men who only want to use you, you miss the chance to focus on a man who has character and genuine intentions.
You must take accountability, or you’ll never know what feels like to be truly loved!❤
Congrats on attracting a love that aligns with you. What a beautiful blessing. And I agree.. we women have to understand who we truly are..
I used to really wanted to get married and have a family so bad. I really wanted that, but the women i tried to take serious did not want that. Now THEY are ALL single mothers.
@@Mrdonny908 as they should be.
I still have hope for you.. My sons are grown.. and my partner and I are living our best grandparenting lives❤️
@Vee_Mindful yeah I hope so too but sometimes idk. Anyway congrats to you and your significant other. And thank you for even doing this show.
Lol @ "best grandparenting lives" 😄
@@Mrdonny908 Thank you and you too!!
@Vee_Mindful 😊
Ok, I made it 8 minutes. Here's the bottom line ladies:
1 Sx
2. Sandwich
3. Silence
And of course I want my lady's perspective but the Silence refers more to not engaging in S.I.G.N language.
Problem solved, do with that what you will...
According to U.S. Labor Statistics 2024, less than 1% of black women earn the type of money these women are talking about. The average black woman in U.S. earns around $40,000. So the financial requirements these ladies are speaking about is a non-factor. You are doing your listeners a disservice.
Your "standards" / "requirements" are way out of bounds. Money, looks, height and weight: why would any man jump through all of these hoops to be with middle-aged women with children when they could be with younger women who have no children??
I respect that.. the number figure is close to the Black Women I know in their professional careers. My close friend/ soror is the head of a very well known company and she makes that much money and I coach her around this very concern. One of my other girlfriends is a VP for a very large company. So these numbers are very realistic for me. $40K in my area is definitely not as common as I live in a metropolitan area. Every man has a right to date whom they want. Those are your standards... and Black women also have a right to date to their standards. Just so you know.. married men live longer by ten years on average than single men.. Married women on the other hand do not. Not every woman desires a man. Some just desire peace.
@@Vee_Mindful
Actually that’s not true for BLK ppl. Research from the National Library of Medicine stated marriage DOES NOT increase the life expectancy of Blk ppl in general. This was done in Sep 2019.
A reason so many black women are single is because in the Black community as a whole, we have a lot of self hate and hate for each other. It is so common for black people to disrespect each other at home, work or out and about. When a black man meets a black woman, many times she compares him vs. every single black man she's ever met in life. When a black man meets a non-black woman the energy is entirely different because she judges you by a different standard because you may have been her first "brotha." Black women miss out on educated black men because when we're in college struggling to get that degree...a lot of sistas will criticize you for being broke. The non-black women see your future and know after graduation, you will have the means that they're seeking.
I imagine it’s because black men are being more selective and don’t really find the behavior a lot of black women in America display as desirable…..
I can understand your perspective.. that's why I'm trying to help our Black queens. There are a lot of great Black women out here with beautiful hearts.
@@Vee_Mindful oh absolutely!! I’ll never lose hope in the black woman !! The black woman is the love of my life !!
@@kadarmuhammad5059 we love you too boo!!
I'm a 26 year old black man, in my last year of medical school. I was out with my school on a bar crawl yesterday and two black women, first year students who i never met, came up to me and my other two black male classmates. They told me i look educated (great), but they also told me i seem like i wasn't raised around black people, and i look like i only date white women. That rubbed me the wrong way, but I've heard this countless times from black women. And to be true, I have mainly dated white women, but I prefer to marry black. However, i will marry whoever treats me best, regardless of race. No wonder a lot of black women are single. Y'all are losing great men because of similar behaviors.
I'm so sorry that that was your experience. Sometimes, people can be so shallow. Congrats on becoming a Doctor!! Aww shucks! Get it boo!!
"Modern women love the FANTASY of a Marriage and the REALITY of a Divorce!"
I appreciate this conversation. My wife passed away in 2016 and I had two teenage children at the time. I think dating with children is incredibly irresponsible when your children should be your prime directive...not hooking up/dating for your selfish ambitions. So I waited until my youngest daughter left home in spring of 2024. My first month of dating resulted in meeting women who had children, and unfortunately putting their children at risk by introducing strange men to them.
These women often leading with their religion as a standardbearer but their lives don't remotely reflect it. Constantly announcing their education despite the declaration being unprompted and unsolicited. I have a JD, and NEVER announce this to women in early conversations. But it seems as if they treat their education as a competitive bargaining chip, even during a simple meet and greet encounter. Like a "I don't need you" proclamation before the relationship gets off the ground.
I never once cared about a woman's upper education or even if she's a high earner. That's not what I'm remotely looking for and it's a turn off to most masculine men who hears this. In fact, I would caution women to stop announcing their earning power on initial dates and conversations. Because the men that they would likely attract are the losers and men they would have to take care of. Speaking of which, 90% of the women I met were in financial dire straits. This range from having enormous student loan debt, credit cards with high balances, and struggling to pay their rent/mortgage and utilities every month.
These poor economic situations can be a pain to any man trying to put himself in favorable conditions for the next 20 to 30 years. There's a narrative that black American women are blowing black men out of the water regarding income. This is a falsehood, as most women (no matter the demographic) make less than their men. Nevertheless, I frankly don't want to take on such financial burdens that many of our sisters have found themselves in. We're not talking about being a few thousand dollars in debt. Many of these ladies are hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt. And there is a strong consensus among men no matter the race regarding this issue.
I see some of the brothers in this comment section being pretty harsh. But to me there's nothing better than a black woman. Perhaps I have my bias because I spent 15 years with one. Black American women are finding their dating lives difficult for a variety of reasons. Some of it is weight, negative stereotypes, their apparel, third-wave feminism, and children from other men.
I heard a reference to gay men....Actually, there's more black women who are LGBTQ than there are black men. However, there are so many women out here. (Which is a good thing for me) My issue is that I ONLY want and DESIRE a black woman. (I could never be with a Becky) Unfortunately, this phenomenon have black men like myself, being forced to consider black women from other nations. At any rate great episode have a wonderful day.
Finally a mature actual Man's response.. Thank you for watching and commenting.. and not being toxic.. This is why so many women are done with dating.. Sigh. This entire video never dissed our Black men.. But the toxic male audience is a real and I pray your daughters never meet these fools.
@@Vee_Mindful Oh no. You two didn't diss us and your conversation was civil in regards to the black man/black woman dynamic. In fact, the guest pointed out the system in play to leave black men behind. Demonstrating there was no ill intent towards us. I just think anytime women AREN'T being ravenous female versions of Fresh and Fit, becomes radioactive towards men. In their defense, us black men have been hearing these negative things about us for decades from our women. Whether it was on Donahue, Oprah, Ricki Lake, Rolanda, or Sally Jesse Raphael (Lol I'm really showing my age) we've heard it.
But because of platforms like UA-cam, black men have only been openly hostile for about 6 years or so. But none of it (no matter who does it) is enriching or healthy. I hope my daughters don't come into contact with these men either. Something I've noticed watching dating and marriage videos between black people are: Most of the comment section is filled with divisive and disingenuous claims. These claims either come from frustrated and angry men from the red pill community...Or claims from a lovelorn and disappointed divestor sect. Both sides make some valid points but most of it is vile and harmful.
I see more tearing down instead of understanding the other side and making cogent arguments. An argument that would foster an environment of respect, love, and reunification. I know I'm probably going to get a simp label for this (and I don't care) but I love that you ladies didn't go full throttle on us. But of course I give black women more latitude. Something that both sides of this issue should be seeking opportunities to do. If more positive overtures were made, I think the gap between us, will narrow by a thousand fold. Again, I appreciate the lively conversation and keep up the great work.
During the whole dialogue not once did I hear.
What the woman has to offer a man?
Once I heard catch phrases like,
"on my level + equally yoked".
I knew there was going to be a lot of filter and word salad.
Women actions,decisions and talking points have consistantly shown they prefer men of higher status.
Equally yoke is not a true standard woman adhere to.
Lady this confidence talk is one of the biggest hurdle for bw.
"The sistahs are overly confident!!😮😮"
The host even said she brought her dyck to ever date.
Too many bw claiming to be 9s and 10s walking around 250lb+
Slay Queen,sllaaaayyyy!
Over confidence blinds you to your flaws.
And prevents one from being receptive to outside criticism.
One ends up with a flawed sense of reality.
Women talking to women about fixing their dating lives.
Isn't as productive as them talking to men and getting their perspective.
No workable solution was provided to enhance a woman's chance.
All I kept hearing was therapy to make you feel better?
No real strategy to get the ladies to do better?
Never did I hear the questions what would make or how to make the bw a better catch?
The whole open your option was never closed to bw it has always been there.
Most men from other races and ethnicity just are not biting.
According to the numbers based on dating sites and marriages.
When my associates of other races comment on their experience with bw.
They pretty much say the same things bm crtique the sistas on.
Which is:
1) overly aggressive/assertive/
combative demeanor
aka..nasty attitude.
2) lack of attention to prioritze physical health.
(obesity epidemic)
3)dv... the ladies like to throw hands
4)Promiscuity:
multiple partners..children from previous relations..high cases of venerial issues😮😮
sexual fluidity the whole girl on girl action..according to outsiders.
Blaque ghirlz are easy😢
I can go on but those are the top 4 the brothas and the others have commonly stayed on topic about.
What I picked on that was very troubling was many of the talking is geared towards older women 35 plus.
Not young ladies in their twenties.
Which is the age group when they are most desired and have the advatage in the mating game.
NOT one single relationship will be healthy if we ourselves are NOT internally healthy. We can work thru our issues together.. but if there is no growth and understanding.. then you can preach til you're blue in the face.. that relationship will not make it. We spoke about self love because that's where all relationships start.
This was & is a sad conversation to any sane man. Wow. A reprobate mind is a real thing.
We are living in an era of "Tribulational Times with Reprobate Minds"!
Nonetheless.. thank you for watching and commenting. I wish you nothing but the best.
4:39 how do you go on 100 dates or more with that many men and none of them fit your criteria you guys do not want. You can't possibly want a man in your life. No matter what fairy tale description of a man you think you should have, they simply don't exist. And even more so today than 40 years ago. Men are proud of the fact that we're not women. We know we're not perfect and we don't care. Many of us have spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to make women happy and give them what they want and then ultimately they want something else. We know you're confused creatures. We're not going to sit around trying to adjust ourselves anymore. We're done with that. That's not just from the older generation. The younger fellas get it too. Ultimately you women just want to be with other women or you want a woman in a man's body because you certainly don't want all the traits that real men have!
Thank you... and heck how could I go on 100+ dates and not find love back then... Easily.. I had issues!! 😩 I speak openly about my struggles on my channel. Def not ashamed about being in a toxic marriage and it caused me to fear a whole lot.. mainly intimacy. I met some GREAT guys on those dates.. and I don't regret a thing. Once I got professional help.. I was able to finally be open to love.
i am a black man, i have my own as i always has since i was 20..ummm i am single because my fiance cheated with her ex. so i dismissed the engagement etc.. to keep a long story short they didnt work out and she want me back in which i denied of course. so now i been single for 3 years because women i have met in this day and age wooooooooo!!!! aint ready to settle down because they had relationship issues or going through divorces, or they like women and men etc...🤣🤣 i love um but nahhhhhh i may leave AMERICA but yeah keep doing ya thang vee 💯❤💋
I am so sorry she cheated on you. Cheating sucks for sure. Been there in my marriage.. but I learned from it for sure. I'm biracial (Asian and Black).. I won't knock anyone who wants to date outside their race.
Thank you. And wow u Asian and black😮. Fine fine 🥰 are you married🙃?@@Vee_Mindful
As a single guy I don't even look that way because I can see a hard time coming from the corner of my eyes 😅
Great video, here is the challenge that women must face. Most of the attractive, successful, monogamous and disciplined men are married. It is very rare to find a man like this on the market. I’m a top 5% earner that married early and my wife is as well. In addition, my diverse counterparts in corporate America are mostly married. If you expand, you are competing with women of that group and they are having the same conversation being held on this podcast. This isn’t a Black issue, this is simple macroeconomics and logic. More women being successful reduces the level of opportunity on the male side based on America’s GDP. There are limited resources with economic pressures added.
This is true.. I do a speech on Love and Money and you're right. That's why when we're talking about economics only.. folks say "don't date down." But heck.. you're going to have to be open to it. Cant discriminate based on economics alone because we're severely limiting ourselves. I'm all for concentrating on how someone makes you FEEL.
They're single cuz they don't know what to look for
They know what to look for. It’s just not entertaining enough. Let them pop out a few kids from random men and they will come around.
As A black man I would not get involved with a black woman who interracial dates or has dated interracially in the past.
I'm sorry you feel that way.. but I respect your stance. I don't discriminate against love. My partner is Black.
I respect your opinion, but here's why I respectfully disagree with it. Like me, you probably have a ton of non-black relatives on your family tree and for different reasons. In my case, my father was 41% European. So I have some that DNA in me. If my ancestors prescribed to your thought, I wouldn't be here.
@@buicklincoln i do not have European dna, and if my ancestors thought like you I would not be here. Btw alot of Geechi and Gullah descendents are 100% African based on dna. Black people are the ONLY people who actively and aggressively discuss and seek out being in interracial unions. I and my friends do not date women who do interracial unions.
@@Vee_Mindful no need to feel sorry. It does not mean you are hated, just means that I wouldnt' deal with women who date interaciially. They do not have the same respect for black men that they give other men.
Men are being left behind in terms of education and career advancement compared to Black women.
(8:44-9:07)
This disparity creates challenges for Black women in the dating market, as there are fewer Black men who meet their criteria for a partner. (9:08-9:15)
How are we ignoring this fact for the purposes of uplifting women and not fighting against the system that is destroying the potential of the men that they are seeking.
Most women are becoming the men they want to marry hence why they are more masculin.
I'm order to correct this there needs to be a flip in how we invest in or men and boys future, otherwise we won't have a future to look forward to.
@@cwillmail men need to teach their sons to be more serious about education than sports and they will not be left behind
That's completely ridiculous American women are the 12th most overweight women in the world..Women don't meet the men's standards either...
I can completely understand your stance because as a mom to three Black adult sons- I see it from both sides. I love how Marshaun mentions this disparity and you're right; this needs to be addressed so that our Black men don't continue to be left behind.
@cwillmail -
You all need to stop repeating this stupid narrative about, "most women are becoming the men they want to marry:, because the women are not out here cutting their own grass (they hire lawn care survives or have family or male friends do it), they are not turning wrenches on their cars (you'll be hard pressed finding one who will change their own tire), nor turning a wrench within their apartment or homes (they make a spectacle out of having changed out a smoke detector battery).
Even the gifts they will buy themselves this Christmas is a far cry from what they will demand from the man in their lives, if they had one.
If you think the behavior women are projecting as being "masculine", then it's clear you have no idea what masculinity actually is, because what the women are projecting is nothing close. Anyone can emulate something for a short period of time and be clueless about where it's generated from. Because for all this projection women are putting on, it's amazing who when it's time to face the consequences and punishment of their acts and speech they are quick to remind people they are women.
@@butchsmith-rt1ok -
You don't need a college degree to land a good to decent paying job. But what you need is a marketable skill. There is enough researchable data that shows women, notably BW are not getting a decent return on their investment when it comes to the degrees they have obtained, and the student debt they are carrying. Many of these call centers, and customer service centers for people like ATT, a health insurance company, and others are full of women, notably Black women, with degrees in Marketing, Psychology, Business, and others, crying student loan debts, and are 2 missed paychecks away from having to live in their automobiles.
Lastly, with the large number of Black girls and Black young women walking around fat, for you to say that boys need to get away from playing sports, then it's clear you don't understand the need for sports for boys and girls, and if remaining physically active through their early adult years and into their later stages, the physical and mental health benefits that are maintained.
It's obvious.....You are not one of them.
You really don't know why? Do what Michael Jackson's "Man In The Mirror" song instructed. Only make it applicable to black women.
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In an Ideal world I would love to date my black women here in America. That being said, too many of them are controlled by their trauma and unrealistic expectations. They can't bring peace because they don't have peace within themselves. Sad to say it's not worth dating them here , much less marrying them. Especially since men have more to lose in the event of a divorce. Not worth it no matter the age. Way more Sista's on the planet than in the just here. Sadly it's come to that.
I still love my Black men... and I love my own Black man.. lol.. I want my Black women to know that love is out here and they should focus on themselves first and foremost.
Im divorced too.
I will only have situationships with sistas. I will lead them on but never marry them.
May the energy you put out find you and deal you a painful heartbreak. Because one thing I can promise you.. karma doesn't skip anyone. Good luck to you in your search.
@Vee_Mindful I been doing this for 40 years dear. Nope won't happen. I'll just keep doing the same thing. May I always have an over abundance of new women. I can cheat on with much younger women. I command it. All power manifest my desires
All of my black aunties are married.
Most of my first cousins are married
My brother's have been married
Some of my lil cousins are married
The thing is this, there are lots of sistas not single.
But none of single black women are asking them questions. Why are married women staying married.
Please look at the divorce rate with black couples whose is actually filing for divorce men or women ?................
That's all races. Women file for divorce much more often than men. That's across the board.. not a Black/white thing at all.
@@Vee_Mindful it's actually higher with black African-American women than between any other racewithin the United States
that's also with all other races
As a 60 year old Black man who net worth is in the Top 10% of America. I personally would not date older black women who I heard all my life tell me that "I wasn't Shyt!"............Nope! Winter is here and I say let them FREEZE.
lol..really…can’t be that bad bro.
@ : I will take my type of "Bad" any day of the year bro. 👍. My life is better than most.....believe that.
@@dman221 I hear ya…I’m 54 divorced and similar to you in terms of net worth. I date black women in my age group but I doubt I will marry again. Of course they hit me with the “I’m dating with intentions…”
@@HumesDeliveryService : You and I saw the disrespect, disdain and malice towards productive Black men all our entire lives. Personally I wouldn't save not a one...........they deserve all the misery that they can muster. Most of them claim to be this and that. Let me tell you a quick story: I was at a conference last week. This black woman around 55 years old was complaining about divorcing her husband who was 40 years old. She said he wasn't being the man she expected him to be. Do the math the man was 25 years old when they met and she was 40 years old. But in her mind he was at fault for not being the man she wanted him to be. Hell, you were the GRANDMA when you first met. And had a 9 year old with that man. The delusion is real with them......reality is nonexistent.
Amen....its only only way they will learn.
A few hundred dates?! Umm, ok. I wish men had that abundance of women to date.
lol.. I have no shame in going on that many dates.. lol.. I never had a BAD date.. some not so great, but not one single bad date. I had issues and I admit it on my channel. I worked on myself a LOT so that I could become the best version of myself.
They need to be having this conversation with her 8 year old daughter now not 25 and 30 years from now. The best protection is prevention. This lesson and discussion is supposed to be taught to young girls not middle age women. Its like a criminal deciding to change his life after he’s already been sentenced to 30 years in prison. Too little too late
Makes sense for sure
"Beware of false doctrines and false ideology, for it may lead you down towards an Abyss of Destruction & Damnation!"
Why is it that black men who date women of all races are seen as having some type of complex, but black women eho date men of all races are just looking for love. Many black women are just more attracted to non-black men, just like many black men are more attracted to non-black women.
There’s a difference in these situations. Some men (clearly in these comments) absolutely hate Black women and would never date one. There are some Black women who feel the same way. I fully support ANYONE finding love. But I absolutely do NOT support degrading others because of their preference. Love who you love. I’m biracial myself. Chinese and Black and proud of it.
All these things need to be addressed with women so that they can be made aware of how they come off when the shoe is on the other foot. All of these examples are things men are shamed for not being accepting and understanding about.
Black women like yourself miss our on good men with good jobs who's single. Would you talk to a Police Officer, Fireman , Postal Worker, Railroad worker, school teacher, welder or a truck driver. Tou have s lot of single black men in these professional jobs. Who's not making six figures.
Question is can they attract those type of men. Because men have to approach them. Are they with those men want
LOL.. When I was single.. hun.. I went out with a felon landscaper. I literally did not discriminate.
@@Vee_Mindful you will attract more of what you are..
PS. i am a journyman painter , retired at 58 from the city and county of SAN FRANCISCO CA 30 yrs service, i made 80,000 a year and my woman at the time was a doctor she made more and we was a TEAM❤ unfortunately she passed in car accident years ago🙏but yea money is never an issue for KINGS 👑 i love my woman to make money the more the better 💯💯
Say it again for those who have issues with women earning more! I am sooooo sorry to hear of her passing away so tragically. So very sorry.
@Vee_Mindful i always do let my bros know the more she makes, the better life would be 💯
@@raymondhenderson1750 Yes because we are a TEAM
This concept that 'dating' is the appropriate method to modify natural principles, well, is wrong. Historically, 'Courting' was a cultural requirement based in value, not volume. 'Dating' is not congruent to what is a natural occurrence of truth in expectations and satisfaction. 'Dating' is a commercial activity advertised and designed to excite temporal desires of quantity, not quality. Thereby, misleading members of society by selling a 'dream-person' is a swipe or click away. Thus, developing a society of people that do not value one another and are imbued with hedonistic egotistical expectations of outcomes for commercial gratification.
In closing, 'dating' is the wrong approach to the natural experience of contentment with others. Sure, some people are going to meet, that does not set the rule of satisfaction; it only highlights the law of probability. I suggest, Men and Women stop dating, stop procreating, and stop lying to one another. Instead study natural law, learn about there own sexual natures and desires, get control over themselves, and stop looking for satisfaction based in quantity and be courageous and mature enough to choose one suitable life partner.
Great show ladies! It’s great to hear the prospectives of middle-aged ladies concerning the dating scene!😉👊🏾👍🏾
Thank you so much for watching!
"Modern-day Wife, lifetime of Strife!"
This was a great conversation with a lovely vibe! Thanks to you both
@@hotchipandphilosophy thank you so much for watching!! Thank you for the compliment.
Vee, I respect your effort. But, it’s far too late for correction! Because, there’s not only severe damage that women carry around with them, each day. But, we, black men have deep emotional and mental damage as wel as a result of the harmful effects of the things that black women have directed towards black men. Moreover, black men, as myself find it impossible to excuse the intentional harm that they have caused by their torturous words and actions which were intended to destroy us! For instance, women have made statements that white men, who we deem as our oppressors, are far better than black men!! Yeah!!!! That hit different. It’s one of those unforgettable and inexcusable things! And, there’s no amount of therapy in the world that could help excuse that! And, this is just one example of the many destructive statements and actions that black men have endured from black women. And, knowing that not all of you are bad, it doesn’t lessen the blows! So, although your effort is respected, I know that it’s a waste of your time & energy. And, that’s not to discourage you in any way. But, the truth is the truth! And, If K.Samuels was here, today, I’m pretty sure that he’d say the same thing.
Thank you for watching and commenting. I respect your perspective.. I'm not going to give up.. nope lol.. I have three Black adult sons.. and I want nothing more for them than to find a GOOD woman who can be in their corner to uplift them and motivate them to be the Kings they are meant to be. I def do not believe that White men are better than our Black men. Heck no. I'm still daddy's little girl at my old age and my Black father has shown and taught me nothing but love.
@@Vee_Mindfulare you open to your black sons marry white women
Be honest???? Women over 40 ...the only way a black man have a chance he got to be able to provide a beautiful life.... a great home, black women r in the travel culture now(they want to travel more)... also she like to drive decent... Let's keep it real that's what makes black women( women in general) in 2024 that's happiness🥺
I know a woman who earns $500K.. and she 's married to a HS track and field coach. It's not about the money for everyone. Not every woman is one sided.. Lots of women just want to feel special to that one loyal and honest man.
@Vee_Mindful I believe they want honesty and a caring man.... but what he can do for you is where it needs to start at ...what he does for u is happiness ...as you said everybody selfish... making 500k ain't normal for 99% of people,she is blessed)... I enjoyed your show have a blessed day
@@dionbrooks4981 Thank you very much.. and an honest caring man is definitely what we want.
I believe it's better to be single. Why go out your way to care for someone with your resources who not going to reciprocate rewarding behavior? I don't make millions but don't live check to check either! Being single is peaceful no stress. Men we are not here to please and provide a lifestyle for women! The love u seek only comes from God so chase God!
They abused the men for soooooo man centuries (with the aid of the enemy) it is hard to go back. They wear blond hair, tattoos, 304 costume's to audition for non-black men they are democrat's & they are Christian as well as feminist. How can a good character warrior choose this as there first option. Are yaw getting tired of being stabbed in the back, aren't the BM getting tired of performing. Aren't BM tired of trying to be perfect just to get death do us part & still fail at it 🤔
Too many single people will collapse a society
Sometimes single is by far a better choice.
The dating coach is saying all the right things but I'd really like to know what her statistics are. Not because I think that she's not good at what she does, but because I don't believe that women can be coached, they're like trying to herd cats. It can't be done! 36:09 I totally disagree that you guys want a man to come in and take control. That's all cap. It's just not true and you guys need to stop saying that. It sounds way better than what it plays out in in real life. I'm going to say this just straight up! Grow up!
The first thing any woman should do when she finds a man that she likes is think about how she can nurture and take care of that man. If she can't do that she's not ready for a relationship because I can tell you right now none of us are getting that from women and we all need it and we're not getting it because you're not willing to give it, so we take what we can get and keep it moving! 38:54 Y'all may love nice men but you also fall out of love with them. You will stay in love with a good man and those are a little bit more difficult to find!
Well i love a nice man.. lol.. A man who can communicate and hear me out.. if there is nothing else a man could learn .. it's how to emotional connect with his woman. And I've successfully coached many women into loving on their partners. I do a whole course on "Ladies, Leave Your D*cks at Home" and it goes into honoring your feminine side..
@@Vee_Mindful This is a good thing that you advise this for women because trust me, the longer men are out here in the wild without women to temper us. We're not going to become more available and easier to deal with. We realize that we built this world and we can do it without women, but we don't want to! Yes, women are needed for procreation but you're also needed for nurturing us. We need that for our mind, our body and our spirit and if women are just choosing to parse that out when they're in the mood or feeling feminine based on the man's behavior. Then it's an unfair exchange and men will recognize it quickly and typically they will turn out to be something that you didn't think he was that he was when you first met him. I enjoy the conversation and the dialogue between your ladies. It inspired me to respond and very few do that. But I am one of those men that fits the description of my dialogue. I have no issue attracting beautiful women even today, but I'm tired of the quid pro quo! Because there's always a lot more give than take for the man! Despite that, I still have had a difficult time finding one that isn't confused about who she is and what she wants and what her true role is with regards to a man. They've been able to accept and receive everything I've given with no problem, but reciprocity is a big problem! So you guys keep doing good work. Just remember the young men are running to where I'm at quicker because they have more knowledge! I started out with women in the '80s and '90s putting them on pedestals and have come to realize those were mistakes! Young men know that already!
I think the hard part for divorced womn is looking for similar or better attributes in the next man vs the man she divorced. Hear me out - there was a divorced friend of my wife, who asked me to hook her up with one of the single Blk wall street guys i know(i work capital markets risk management at an investment firm) - she had a problem with every single guy i introduced her to (too short, too tall and big, too light, too dark, not funny, i didn't like his smile, his shoes,etc)- i mean she's Blk and they were blk (there is literally very few BM managing director on wall street ). I asked my wife what was her problem- my wife told me this womn is trying to find a man who would out do her ex; I mean on every level- physically, financially, personality, etc. This womn was now 8yrs into her divorce and her ex was an abusive cheater, but she still wanted the next man to be him and more , without the abuse and cheating. Meanwhile her ex remarried 😮. Once you let go of your past , i mean totally, your eyes will open up.
Hand her my contact info.. lol.. she needs a reality check. This is why I don't bash men or women.. We both have issues! Neither are perfect.. she needs to truly heal her wounds before she dates anyone because all she's going to do is bring her issues with her to every man and these men don't deserve that.
@@Vee_Mindful: Nope....Black men ain't falling for the "BOTH". Tell me one thing in his story where the majority of one black man means "BOTH". I will wait.....Black men had their judgement several generations ago. Then it wasn't "BOTH"......so why is it now. Oh yeah, you are a pretender who doesn't want to alienate getting the bag from "BOTH". Money is your driven force and not seeing truth have the consequences it deserves.
I literally see nothing wrong with finding someone you love in a different race, but don't go over there and experience the exact same thing that you experienced with men in your own race and give them a pass! Because the truth is, regardless of race, people are people and if you're drawing a certain kind of person into your life, shifting to another race doesn't change the people you're going to attract. You take you with you no matter where you go! 18:28 Men don't have an issue necessarily with women who make more money but when women who make more money than men believe that they can direct the man is where the issue begins!
If you make all of that money can you please tell me what do you need a man for other than sex and companionship? If you're already financially set in your life, then why can't you just think like a man and bring a man into your life who fits what you want? That's what men do. We have everything we want and when we decide we want a woman. We don't expect her to bring everything that we have to the table. We just want her to bring the things that we like that we can't get ourselves!
They say a wealthy man has no need for marriage. so I can def see your point about when a woman makes that much money and I know women who make that much money and more. The thing is.. we are human.. and we need each other. It's not about finances.. it's about connection and companionship, and life is just that much better when you experience it with someone you love.🩷
I found my person, I was divorced with 2 adult sons from a previous marriage, and had a set of twin daughters that were under 2 years old. My soon to be husband had no kids, never married, financially secure, and he was much taller than a leprechaun 😂. It's definitely possible & these conversations help. Love this conversations.
@@ebonymoore7207 lmao. Girl you didn’t have to get a leprechaun!! This is inspirational to hear for many women out here
Well those finances made him taller. 😂
@@Vee_Mindfulwell it would've been nice if it was because he was kind and loving but ok. 😅
At the end of the day... we all want someone who is kind and loving (sure hope so! lol) Because without either, a relationship will not last.🩷
@@Vee_Mindfulim just messing with you. I get that. We have to laugh at this sometimes.
Women are masculine due to poor decisions. But it’s not brought up even a little bit.
If they were masculine we wouldn't have to deal with mood swings, emotional instability, the crying, the anxiety and depression
They aren't masculine.
@@genovasquez8361 Then tell women to stop getting knocked up by them. Once again bad decisions.
@@G43X saying they are masculine is insult to men.
There is another word. It starts with the letter B...it's not masculine. We need to stop calling them masculine. They want to be equal to us so bad an they not.
Masculinity uses logic and reason. None of them have masculine qualities.
What would you tell your younger self?
What a good question.. I would tell my younger self to focus on being the love you want to attract. Becoming a nurturing queen who loves herself the most.. because that love will show up on the outside.
I am a bw who will be marrying interracially next month. He is a wonderful man. I couldn't be happier!
But yet you are here in comment section full of black men. How come you are not over in the white people's comment section professing your love? Typical....the real reason you are over here is because you know that white people don't want you nor do they care about what you think or have to say. So you SLITHERED over here because you have black skin. Nope...you are not ONE of US. Never has been.....
Again this person prove the mens point. It is not a flex for a BW to date or marry a non-BM. It is the same behavior BW African women have always demonstrated. These people destroyed the earth & they destroyed the black & African race, ethnicity and cultural groups around the globe. So for a BW to say I/she is going to date or marry one of them is basically saying "Since I am afraid to fight, struggle, endure, or dy, I am going to do what is safe/best for me (the individual) & pair off with the tribe as to stay safe /alive while the rest of you struggle/dy". They lie to us and say its preference or proximity as to not get that race traitors (Scarlet letter) branding. Let them divest. BM you didn't break it & it's not your job to fix it.
congratulations
Congrats!
I ain't mad at that! Love who you LOVE!!!❤️ And who loves you back!
Am I missing something? This woman keeps talking about women who make 400k and 500k. How many women are out here making 500k per year?
A lot of women I know. 🤷🏽♀️. Several women actually.
1:17 The biggest challenge is honesty HOW HONESTY can they be abkit who they are an where they are in life and their choices made along the way but yal would rather lie
See bw make it a goal that their spouse be super duper fine whos a ceo and a thug at the same time 😂😂😂😂😂😂 while MANIPULATING non sexual companionship from men they dont want because they cant manipulate the type of men they casually sleep with
lol.. CEO and a thug? where he at!? lol.. naw.. That thug life for me was 30 years ago.. I'm almost 50. My partner is corny and I love it. Because heck.. I'm corny too.
Agreed. you do not have to be married like my mother who has been married to my father for 53 years, to give good advice to other young women. My mother has ONLY been with my father and me him at 16 and were married at 18 and then I came.
AGREED.. because so many people are in unhappy relationships and they think relationships should last thru everything.. and that's not true. I promote self love and that love will show up in your relationships.
@@Vee_Mindful The relationship should last thru everything. what are you talking about?
if the woman is feminine and knows her duty AND the man knows his duty, the marriage and relationship lasts.
26:40 - LOL My Sisters... How can we tell men to take hats off but shame a man who ask a woman to take her makeup off, LOL I'm all for it if it works both ways
lol.. yall have every right to ask a woman to take off her makeup.. in just about ALL of my videos.. I'm literally wearing no make up and no filters. I'm almost 50 and still looking good. No shame over here whatsoever.
Wait, wait, how many hundreds of dates AFTER your divorce?!?!???
lol.. over a hundred.. over 8 years time span. I met many great men during that time period.. But I wasn't ready to receive the love. My marriage did a number on me.. and I'm transparent about it on my channel. I got the professional help and am now in a long standing stable relationship.
@ I can definitely respect your honesty. Sorry if my original post took on a judgmental tone. Sounds like you’ve done the work many are not fully prepared for. The video statement struck a nerve lol Most well adjusted single men don’t go on a fraction of that date count with that many women over an extended time period without coming up for air and reflecting on what’s not working. Not picking at you lol so much as kinda being humbled by how many sistahs take this disposable approach to dating. Assuming they have endless options and can find the right man who will check all her boxes top to bottom. It’s definitely different from the male perspective because we have to be more mindful of our resources for dating. 🤷🏾♂️
Interesting topic
This comment section is brutal 🤣🤣. Not going to change anything though.
Engagement is engagement.. So I thank ya'll..❤️.. None of ya'll comments could hurt my feelings. Try being raised by an Asian mom! They tell you you're fat all day every day in MANY different ways!! LOL. And heck.. I ain't fat at all!
@ I was raised in a house full of single black mothers. Before I was 5, I knew I was too Black, too smart, too corny, too skinny, couldn’t dance, couldn’t sing, could have the black sl@pped off me and could be knocked into the middle of next week. I’ll trade with you.
@@Deez276 I'm so sorry that they took their disdain and hurt out on you.. That was not fair to you at all. You deserve love.. and I pray a healthy love finds you.
@ It found me. I was a little peeved that I had to leave my people to get it.
Believe it, or not ?
Im. Black latina fate other men they tend have more money are fiancually stable not doing 50/50or building a man
Do you teach black women to be submissive snd obedient..
At best...at *best!*
Might be a consequence of a number if things.
1. Black men (culturally speaking) feel entitled to cheat on and betray their women, whilst simultaneously demanding absolute devotion from the women themselves. Sure, women cheat too but I think black men certainly feel no shame about it and encourage one another to do it. That has (over time) caused women to completely mistrust men in their lives (and in the wider community) and well...a relationship cannot thrive, let alone stabilise without trust and transparency. Not only that, but black men (it seems) are willing to walk out of a relationship...EVEN when there are kids involved. Baby momma culture doesn't exist in a vacuum.
2. Are these women simply looking for sex or are they looking for companionship. And if the ARE looking for companionship? What changes are they making in themselves to help the relationship flourish? Are they willing to be wrong sometimes? Can they regulate their own emotions? Etc, etc.
There's obvs so much more (and more that I'm unaware of) but I think that those two things contribute massively to the problem.
Blk women cheat more than any race of women though
I thank you for taking the time to provide your input.. and sigh.. yesh the conversation is definitely bigger than the one we had. That's why she and I work with people (I coach men and women of all races) to help them resolve their own issues.. because that's where the relationships start..
Good ep. I enjoyed the convo. Do you have contact info? I'd like to have you on my show sometime.
THANK YOU! I absolutely do. I would love to be on your show. -> veemindful@gmail.com
Simple go marry nonblk men
They have to want you first...
You can try. Maybe they will learn to be better women
Well if its real the dialogue on these topics are open to hear .. Rock on ✊🏾👍🏾👌🏾
thank you boo..
Damn Vee beautiful 👀
THANK YOU!!!