The 5 Levels of Self-Discipline
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- Опубліковано 10 чер 2024
- Today we'll go over five levels of self-discipline, each tied to a different type of accountability.
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About the first level, I'd like to add something my therapist once told me:
I told him I was having trouble keeping my promises to myself because there was no accountability, because if I didn't do something I promised myself I would do, "no one would know".
He stopped me and said: "what do you mean no one? You would know. You ARE someone."
So just a friendly reminder. You ARE someone, and keeping your promises to yourself matters, because you matter.
whoa
dang
That’s deep
very true , and it helps you build self-trust which is feral important
@@TheEncouragementKid It's SO important to start keeping the promises you make to yourself, as you said it builds trust in yourself, and you start making it a habit to actually DO the things you want to do, because it's almost like making plans with a friend, except that friend is yourself.
summary of the vid,
level 1 : accountability to yourself 2:10
level 2 : accountability partners 3:50
level 3 : coaches and teachers 5:50
level 4 : teams & organizations 7:20
level 5 : leadership 9:10
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thanks for reading, have a great day guys!
Many Thanks dear stay blessed
I wish every video starts with something like that.
@@atherquadir you're welcome bro :)
@@donaldli4755 haha yes 😂
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"I don't want your filthy failure money Tom" 🤯I want a Martin in my life too
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Well... Important is whether he would actually took the money, despite not wanting them, if the daily goal would fail. As if not, he would be too nice to keep you accountable. Still good person, but not fitting the requirements.
:O
got both the Tom and Martin 😈
@@tommartin911 Hats off bro
Who stopped studying... just to see this video on how to be self-discipline
Me 😂
HOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT IM DOING DUDE?!?!?!?!
yessir procrastination time
Me
@@johnx140 skill ma man😂😂😂
Some years ago, while I was in a deep rut, I wasn't able to get out of bed before 10AM. So I made a commitment with two of my friends: I had to send them everyday a selfie of me out of bed before 8AM, or else I would pay them 1€. It lasted 6months, I ended up with a regular wake up schedule and owing them 20€. I used them to buy them drink as a thank you, and it was worth every cent.
I saw the same variation of this on reddit, and its pretty cool! Someone did the same bet too, but they have to send themsekves selfies of them brushing their teeth. Really awesome
Europe= L
Was one of your friends called… Martin? Haha Inspirational story tho
Let's gooooo. Inspirational story. Accountability is so key. Thanks for sharing so much.
Thanks for the idea I am going to try this one
Should’ve had a self discipline class in high school 😭
They did, it was called “homework”
If you did it, you practiced self discipline and were rewarded with good grades.
If you didn’t do it, you failed yourself and payed for it with poor grades.
@@Thatguyujustmet Wouldn't that just be .-. doing the work you're told? I did all my homework and I still have bad self discipline.
We can't only blame high school, because i don't think students would even understand the importance of self-discipline at that age. During that time, they would think about enjoying their life. Plus, since school is basically rote learning and getting good grades, if anyone introduces self-discipline as a subject, then they might just do it for the grades and not actually practice the basic principles.
Something that really helped me learn a foreign language was committing to teach it to my children. I feel a pressure that I have to get good or it wouldn’t have just been a waste of time for me but for them as well.
The best way to learn is teaching :)
@@aa0000 Very true
That's a great way to do level 5
Good one Mathias - very practical and effective
As someone who has his first child due any day now, this drive is so powerful and real. I’m study psychology and get top marks because of study habits from Tom, Ali, and other UA-camrs but becoming a father has made me want to truly become that well rounded, grounded, effective across multiple domains performer. Not for myself, but for them. I hate the thought of being a hypocrite to them
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." - Robert Collier
You guys got this! I believe in you! 💪😊
"I dont want your filthy failure money Tom😴"
😂😂😂omg im ded.
right 🤣
i came to the comments looking for this
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Yeah I came looking for this too, it was awesome XD
Loving the 5 levels. Being accountable to others is being responsible. But accountable to yourself changes your life.
Best tip for self-discipline “If you wish to be out front, then act as if you were behind.” - Lao Tzu
saving this for sure
"Deal with the big while it is still small.”
-Lao Tzu
@@AyushJaz 🙏🏻👍🏼
@@yahyazitane3785 👍🏼👋🏼
I major in Chinese literature, and I'm trying to figure out what the original sentence in Chinese this was 🤣 (not in an ironic way, simply out of curiousity
Level 1 - stop watching this and get back to work
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Shhhhh
Unless youre overworked
guys, I am the smartest man alive! I was doing my work while watching this video! >:)
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This is what I love about Frank, enhancing the ideas of a book -- adding value! The cohesiveness and relevance of the model is too valuable not to share!
Gosh... Even WHEN I told my IT teacher that I was going to make a game this summer, or when I told a number of friends that I'm going to write a comic, I STILL can't get myself to do it!
That's some great hair lighting. Others may not notice, but I appreciate the lighting in your vids - great content and great form. Thank you, Thomas!
I reall recommend reading "Atomic Habits" just after reading the power of habit .. Power of habit is the theory, and you need to readi it and understand it, atomic habits is the practice ..
I read atomic habits but it's so hard to actually put the things into practice , do you have any suggestions that could help?
@@bec_Divyansh keep practicing. There is no shortcut
@@derickpaultolentino4274 On it!
‘Tiny habits’ is great as well ✨✨
Being able to hold yourself accountable is such an underrated skill! It is definitely not easy however for those who can I am proud of you❤️
Your editing is getting better and better!! btw nice to see 3 vids uploaded every 2 days this week
I was just searching for self-discipline last evening and you've uploaded one. Thank you. It gave me some true insights.
The key to self-discipline is accountability.
When your boss tells you to be to work at a specific time,
you are there at a specific time because your boss is relying on you.
When your little brother asks you to pick them up from school, you do it because he is relying on you.
The obligations we have to each other is what makes us disciplined.
But what about our personal goals?
What about that instrument you've been meaning to learn or the workout routine you're trying to stick to?
With these personal goals,
there's nobody else really relying on us.
So we can't really tap accountability to improve our self-discipline, can we?
Actually we can, there are five levels of self-discipline.
Each levels in this model has to do with a different type of accountability that can be applied to augment and improve your levels of self-discipline.
level 1 : accountability to yourself
Make a plan, write down what are you going to do specifically, and what conditions may cause you to fail.
level 2 : accountability partners
One person in specific, don't tell everybody.
Create consequences for failing.
level 3 : coaches and teachers
Someone who is invested in your success.
level 4 : teams & organizations
Your personal goal becomes aligned with a common goal.
Have other people
who are relying on you to do your part.
level 5 : leadership
Instead of people rely on you just to do your part, now everyone is relying on you to guide them as well.
When you're a leader,
the accountability is at its highest point, but also the responsibility and the consequences for failure are as well.
Good Luck, stay strong!
5:15 That's really kind, it shows that really cares about you.
Great video. The only thing I would add is making changes to your environment(which can include an accountability buddy) to make it easier to do the things that you want to do and succeed, and more difficult to do the things you'd like to avoid or fail.
Your videos are always so calming dude
Huge like for the cat! 😺
That was a really well developed idea and video! That’s why I’ve been following you for at least 5 years now. Keep up the great work!!
This is one of the best videos on self-discipline I’ve ever seen.
“There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you.”
-David Burns
Having an accountability buddy definitely helps - especially when we can both go to the same gym class at 7am together 😅 PS. Awwww your kitty!! 😻
Why your video come out on time when I am struggling with self-discipline lately. I barely can't do anything and being not productive at all until this video pops out at my homepage. Thankkss for sharing, sure it back to our execution once again, but I find out this as a reminder for me to back on track again. Your video is amazingg! Keep inspiring!
Great vid as always! Sorta wierd how you always upload exactly the type of video I need...
Nice to see you are uploading regularly 🤘🤘
I'm so incredibly happy for you Thomas I'm so proud of the website you've created with other creators you are one of my favourite productivity UA-camrs and you deserve all the best🤗
"doing what you said you were going to do" is a powerful accountability. "doing what you said you were going to do when you said you were going to do it" is more powerful.
Thank you Frank. Looking forward to order the book 📖.
Understand myself is very important, we or me tend to procrastinate in life. I need a eye opener. Thank you 🙏🏼
So I've been doing the whole self reflecting thing lately, and realized something very important that has to do with number one.
I was having issues with self worth and self respect. Then I took a third person inventory of my relationship with myself. I looked and said if someone I was friends with or in a relationship with did what I do(flake on the things you promise you'll do, not move towards your goals, chase short term pleasure as a distraction from the relationship with yourself), would you like that person? Emphatically no.
As soon as you realize self accountability is an aspect of your relationship with yourself, which determines how you feel about yourself, which impacts how you treat others, you immediately see its importance. At least that's been my experience
I really love this video, thank you Thomas!
Man i just luvvv your amazing, high quality content!
This is one of your best videos.
Thank you for this video and the surprise at the end!
The highest level is being a mother or father in a family. Having to care for that family in all aspects and raise your own children has such an unbelievable impact on an individual that someone who's never experienced this will never understand it.
True, one thing I noticed about popular productivity youtubers like Thomas and Ali Abdaal, is they tend to focus more on the productivity on self or work place. Which it isn’t wrong, it’s their content and their audience after all.
But, I would love to find more gurus that speak about family productivity as well since I would like to have my own family one day.
Brilliant video Thomas. Potentially life changing. I’ll give it a try 🙏🏾
love the vid mate, i summarised some of what you said on paper. Can feel myself sticking to these tasks and also i feel more productive as a result, thanks.
You're on fire this week Thomas! Three awesome videos. But the cat appearance at the end made this the best of the week!
I realised that recently I stopped working out and chasing my dream because of a lack of will power and consistency .. Right before I found this video, I got the motivation to start doing what I love again but as they say motivation comes and goes so I need to replace it with discipline. You are 1000% correct about the accountability part..
Thanks for helping me change and grow as a person
Thank you, Thomas, for this insightful video. I procrastinated watching it for weeks leaving it in watch later, but I'm content that I did now because of how relevant it is.
Great content! Thank you.
Self discipline imo is an emergent property from keeping yourself focused on a single thought and not having that thought displaced. How you get that thought to stay and not be distracted is the hard part. Accountability and having others is one way. But I think the common factor is keeping a single thought in your head and not letting it be replaced by another.
This is a very well put together video.
Hi, I would love to hear your advice on building a habit for ADHD persons. Thank you
@@schoolworkaccount3887 downloaded the app and it’s exactly what i’ve been looking for in a routine builder. have no experience working with it yet, but im looking forward to starting, thanks for sharing the recommendation :)
I have adhd and I am certainly no expert in the subject but for me the trick was to just really force myself to focus on one habit at a time, for x amount of days, and use the usual habit building techniques. That, and focus on the foundations first. People with ADHD cannot get away with eating poorly, sleeping bad, and not exercising.
I loved the background music , thanks for the great video
Love your videos man
Yay new video! Thanks! I APPRECIATE YOU!
Oh yeah, I’ll be coming back to this one for a while. I like the connection between self discipline and leadership, that’s new to me.
You missed the perfect chance to use Butters excellent word "Accountabilibuddy"
I just want to say that I love your videos 🎈❤️ You always do a great job.
Truly amazing editing
Its funny how often people stop what they are doing to watch a video about discipline lol.
Good video
That the most important thing you said today. Focused and taking action is important. Your explanation is better. Thanks brother.
"I dont want your filthy failure money."
Yes.
amazing video, keep it up!
Thanks Tom 🖖
This video motivates me so much! I just need to start somehow...
Wow. Always briliant
Best video thank you so much
Love this topic. That is why I love having accountability partners, one or two people that have similar goals. Self discipline is hard but it can be done
🙌🏻 yes!!
Man, thanks! 💪
thank you, i was asking this around but nobody had idea about steps. so this really helps.
Ehh, was that message a light prank by someone?
Many Thanks; I appreciate the video
i already have the habit of clicking fast every video of yours i see!
Great video! so useful
Very useful 👍🏾🙌🏾
Thank you Thomas. Great information.🍵
Great tips.💰👍
Number 5 really spoke to me.
I feel like self discipline to consistently produce content on UA-cam is on a whole other level 🙌🏽
I read "HOW TO GET THINGS DONE ?" and everysingle thing u said is right inside that book too
5:27 "I Don't want your filthy Failure money."
OUCH!! THAT BURNS HOT!!!! I gotta use that!
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Thanks for this it is actually amazing. Hats off ♥️👌
This is why you are my favorite youtuber
great video!!
Well done again
Exactly what I needed now that I've been studying programming so THANK YOU!!! 🙏🌻😊
@@krypton1142 JAVA, but right now I've decided to get some basic knowledge on Linux, since it'll probably be something I will work with. And I'm also having to work on my Math skills bc I've forgotten some parts oops
Thank you
Level 2 was so true. The moments I tell people my goals, I fail myself, and just lead to being a disappointment. I’ll keep trying.
I’m only 3:45 minutes in and I had to stop to comment how awesome and useful of a video this is. Thank you!
“Just remember, you can’t climb the ladder of success with your hands in your pockets. You will have to get out of your comfort zone ..
HAVE A NICE DAY TO ALL
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What if your disabled
Or maybe just take the stairs sir.
I love this ☺️ thank you
Uggggh needed this
Thank you ❤️
This is so true. I’ve never worked harder than when I was in the weight room with my teammates. It’s a lot easier when you’re doing it for something bigger than you.
I don'y know how you do it, but each video is better than before 📚❤
I use to have SO much discipline, life happened and caused so many changes I HATE ab myself. I want to change ways and be different but jus couldn’t get myself to do it - BUT when it comes to work.. I can get myself to get up and get dressed and do my job which is long hours and very stressful.. so one may think much harder than cleaning, or eating better, etc.. yet getting myself to do anything positive for myself seems impossible. Recently I tried to trick my mind into thinking I HAD to do those certain things for work, or Bc my big boss said so or make up something like that in my head hoping I’d be able to find the whatever to actually do it... ugh I hate it. I hate this. I hate not even remembering what it feels like to be.. heck to even be content.. but especially happy.. tired of it being so rare for me to genuinely smile over anything at all.. no idea what my real laugh sounds like anymore. It’s so so lonely. “Surrounded by people, but feeling so alone” is such a real, miserable thing. 💔💔
Me just realizing you have sooo many subscribers and will prob not see/reply to this lol is this relatable at all?
1:05 I love this story
The thumbnail tells you that Thomas' is still waiting for his PS5
Same
Or he hasn't ordered one like me🙂 I might get the series x for emulation but that's it
ya'll are going to make fun of me but the only game I play right now is Crossy Road
@@Thomasfrank still better than doing crack
@@Zetraxes now that's self discipline
Love that you have a kitty friend! You discuss some great strategies for setting and meeting goals, along with staying accountable. I will say, though, for people who are perfectionists, have anxiety, or are particularly hard on themselves, ruminate on "failure" when they don't meet their goals, having a flexible mindset. Even if you set a personal goal of doing something 7 days a week, maybe doing that thing 5 or 6 out of 7 days a week can be considered a success.
Awesome video and an even better discussion. Imagine being able to explain to someone how to breath. That is honestly funny but that's a great way to explain the expert paradox.
Added to watch later
My favorite video today
Just finished this book today
well done