My high school bf threatened to end himself if I ever left him. Anytime I tried to convey my own emotions it turned into me having to console him and worry he would hurt himself so I just shut down. No emotions just went through the motions. Eventually he broke up with me because "you don't express any emotions and you've changed" the second he was out of view I literally did a happy dance.
Not sure entirely what to comment on here. My current relationship _is_ my first relationship, and my only and last one. Not speaking out of naivety but out of pure trust. I witnessed how bad relationships can be, my mother's were never phenomenal. Eventually she just didn't bother anymore. And I grew up thinking "yeah, I do know what I DON'T want in life". Someone else already had the bad experiences for me, so I already knew what wasn't normal before getting into anything. And falling in love, dating, giving myself up for them, only to notice red flags later on and be heartbroken and destroyed, is something I didn't ever want to go through. My partner knows about all this. We talked about my past and my fear about serious commitments with other people long before we got together. He does everything in the world to make sure I won't ever feel like I'm trapped or not good enough.
That one hit me hard, I do small things for my mom and my mom liked spending time with me. We’re both bad at communication and shut down when we but heads
I actually have a story. It's not me but my ex. One day, pretty early on in the relationship I forget what it was but I did something nice for her and she just kind of, assumed the position. I asked what she was doing and she said something to the effect of "I'm getting ready." I said "you don't have to if you don't want to" and we had a bit of back and forth. I remember saying something like "you should have sex if you want it and not do it if you don't" and she had this kind of revelation on her face. I think she teared up a little. Turned out her ex was coercing her to have sex everyday, I think the logic he gave was "if you love me" bs. It was me, on that day, having this conversation that made her realize, she was never in the mood because it wasn't done out of love but a feeling of obligation. To close this out, me and her aren't together anymore, but we had a great relationship, with love and chemistry. There was a lot of sex, but I made sure to learn what turns her on. I called her "coach" and "teach" on a couple of occasions early on while I was still learning. She was my second relationship, but also my first serious relationship. My 1st was a girl who was really just trying to sleep with me and wasn't looking for anything deeper but in her defense, she didn't lie about it, she was very upfront. So this relationship, by comparison, was very genuine and I sometimes think back fondly on it. Also that 1 line from Story 42, the one about having his hair stroked. I had a similar reaction with this gf. 1 for 1 reaction.
For all those who find themselves similar to story 9 i.e breaking up because of he/she's problems without doing much to actually help him/her. How did it go for you guys? Did you guys break up? For those whose continued with it how did it go? I just find myself in this situation as well and, me and her did break up although with a turn of events after that day we both decided to try and fix things back.
Remembering quotes of your ex after you rejected intimacy with them isn't really fair. Both men and women have a fear of rejection and intimate rejection from your partner will still trigger this fear. It's better to keep your cool in that moment if you are rejected but also understand rejecting intimacy from a partner is likely to make them emotionally triggered and feel abandoned/unwanted
Omg thank you. Sometimes it’s hard to see that love. But the little things my mom does makes my life easier and I should appreciate that more. ❤
You appreciate the things your parents do more as you get older.
My high school bf threatened to end himself if I ever left him. Anytime I tried to convey my own emotions it turned into me having to console him and worry he would hurt himself so I just shut down. No emotions just went through the motions. Eventually he broke up with me because "you don't express any emotions and you've changed" the second he was out of view I literally did a happy dance.
Not sure entirely what to comment on here. My current relationship _is_ my first relationship, and my only and last one. Not speaking out of naivety but out of pure trust.
I witnessed how bad relationships can be, my mother's were never phenomenal. Eventually she just didn't bother anymore. And I grew up thinking "yeah, I do know what I DON'T want in life". Someone else already had the bad experiences for me, so I already knew what wasn't normal before getting into anything. And falling in love, dating, giving myself up for them, only to notice red flags later on and be heartbroken and destroyed, is something I didn't ever want to go through. My partner knows about all this. We talked about my past and my fear about serious commitments with other people long before we got together. He does everything in the world to make sure I won't ever feel like I'm trapped or not good enough.
Of course those parents never fought, the dad just used all of his anger at the kids and the mom was just cool with it
No. She was an accomplice.
Oof. Sounds exactly like my not-yet "parents" in law.
That was a pretty horrifying story. Those poor kids turned adults
Story 6. This is called the 5 languages of love. Essential to know and use in relationships!
That one hit me hard, I do small things for my mom and my mom liked spending time with me. We’re both bad at communication and shut down when we but heads
This whole video has opened my eyes. Has me thinking real hard.
I hope you are in a safe place.
@@JayLeeBeanz I like to think I am. I know my marriage is toxic on both sides but I guess we make it work.
5:10, I'm sure it's at least half a PTSD thing, the guy needs therapy
pre-marital relations before marriage, as opposed to pre-marital relations AFTER marriage?
Well you technically can still have premarital relations once you're married.
@@Nym146wouldn’t it be extramarital, instead of premarital?
@abbywolf9701 Yes but that wouldn't have made a stupid dad joke lol
I actually have a story. It's not me but my ex. One day, pretty early on in the relationship I forget what it was but I did something nice for her and she just kind of, assumed the position. I asked what she was doing and she said something to the effect of "I'm getting ready." I said "you don't have to if you don't want to" and we had a bit of back and forth. I remember saying something like "you should have sex if you want it and not do it if you don't" and she had this kind of revelation on her face. I think she teared up a little. Turned out her ex was coercing her to have sex everyday, I think the logic he gave was "if you love me" bs. It was me, on that day, having this conversation that made her realize, she was never in the mood because it wasn't done out of love but a feeling of obligation. To close this out, me and her aren't together anymore, but we had a great relationship, with love and chemistry. There was a lot of sex, but I made sure to learn what turns her on. I called her "coach" and "teach" on a couple of occasions early on while I was still learning. She was my second relationship, but also my first serious relationship. My 1st was a girl who was really just trying to sleep with me and wasn't looking for anything deeper but in her defense, she didn't lie about it, she was very upfront. So this relationship, by comparison, was very genuine and I sometimes think back fondly on it. Also that 1 line from Story 42, the one about having his hair stroked. I had a similar reaction with this gf. 1 for 1 reaction.
For all those who find themselves similar to story 9 i.e breaking up because of he/she's problems without doing much to actually help him/her.
How did it go for you guys? Did you guys break up? For those whose continued with it how did it go?
I just find myself in this situation as well and, me and her did break up although with a turn of events after that day we both decided to try and fix things back.
How old are you guys?
Remembering quotes of your ex after you rejected intimacy with them isn't really fair. Both men and women have a fear of rejection and intimate rejection from your partner will still trigger this fear. It's better to keep your cool in that moment if you are rejected but also understand rejecting intimacy from a partner is likely to make them emotionally triggered and feel abandoned/unwanted
Is it me or is it difficult to trust the new partner in life after being cheated on in the previous one?
Which is this game guys
Fighting constantly.
Is that the fuckinh monkey king game😐
Hot water bottles for bed? What weird relationship was that like lol
What's wrong with a hot water bottle though?
@@Nym146 Who drinks hot water ?
@@DjDoomtrain it's not the kind of bottle.
It's made of rubber with a plastic cap and is to warm up your bed and to keep you warm.
@@Nym146 thats dumb. Just put on more clothes
@@DjDoomtrain 🙄
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