Who looks after the old folk? | Andrew Miller | TEDxPerth
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- Опубліковано 8 гру 2023
- Caring for his elderly mother changed the way Dr Andrew thought about the practice of medicine and advocacy and shaped his view that defeating ageism starts with seeing the elderly as people.
An anaesthetist, columnist, and former President of Australian Medical Association WA, Andrew's entertaining manner and ingrained habit of direct speech helped set WA on a path to a world-leading response to COVID-19.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
"Not everything is Kumbaya at our place at times, believe me." On the cusp of 70, and with little wheels falling of hither and thither, concern about an unknown future is never far away. This is an excellent presentation that, with a sprinkling of levity and a dash of the personal, makes the subject and inevitability of matters intrinsic to agism proximate and accessible for us all. It covers a great deal of territory for its 18 minutes length and helps us realise and/ or discover how difficult and challenging the aging process is or can be for parents and their children. While it isn't always possible or tenable even, if people are able to rub along together or circumstances are malleable enough, the pleasures amidst the tough times will reward with moments of joy that benefits the elderly person/s and their families all round. Well done Dr Miller... 🤗
One of the best TEDx talks I have ever had the pleasure to see and hear. One of seven girls, spread across several US states, we promised never to put our parents in a nursing home or let them die alone in a hospital. We kept that promise, although for some I know that could be difficult or close to impossible. They both died at home, even with some of their grandchildren helping with care. But, I am truly grateful we were able to work it out. We all didn't always agree on things but we made it work. Our parents were not perfect but I am glad we were raised with compassion and love which I passed on to my only son. I have already loss my husband, I only hope my son will help care for me remembering how he cared for my father and mother. A fine lecture, thank you.
Well done. I'm a rehab RN(56yr) (was) and now care for my mom(85yr) 24/7, with the assistance of my son(18yr). I promised that we would care for her as long as possible because she deserves our help. Most (70%?) of the long term care patients did not receive family/friend visitors. Everyone is still learning, giving and should be valued.
Always remember; We are twice the parent, and twice the child.
Andrew I am so proud of you - and for having the opportunity to work with you to craft and deliver this talk. Congratulations, I hope millions of people watch this talk and embrace your idea, because it’s worth spreading! 🙂
Thank you. Such a profound message. I have so many things I would like to write. To express my gratitude for this presentation. A list too long to write. What I will say is “thank you. I feel heard”. I have chronic illness. And though I’m young in age. I’m in wheelchair and dependent on others for most of my care. And I often feel that though I am young I have overstayed my welcome taking up space and time and resources and energy. Thank you for verbalizing the plight of the elderly. And inadvertently the plight of the sick and disabled.
"In the future, there will have to be great emphasis on caring for the elderly, who will be much more vulnerable than they are today. The requirements for selfless activity, service to humanity, will be so overwhelming that this should consume the thoughts and the goals of the wealthy, particularly, but also [be] the emphasis for people everywhere."
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Very good points Dr. Andrew and yes, we have a lot to learn from other cultures when it comes to treating our elderly. I also think that some of these conversations between parents and children about care preferences should happen earlier in life before some issues arise. Every person has a right to dignity, regardless of their age. When we choose the humane approach, it is so much easier to come up with new solutions. Let us not forget that every person we meet is someone else's parent or child, sister or brother. Thank you so much for sharing about your family situation, it exemplifies what many of us have to consider when making these very important decisions. I think family doctors should also help with starting these conversations because doctors may be able to influence their patients to some degree. Also a great use of sense of humor in your presentation.
Love your work Dr Millar - both here and on Twitter! And I’ve heard from friends that you’re not a bad anaesthetist too !!! 😘😘😘
Excellent talk. As I sit in my assisted living and wonder how I can breakout of here without any support.
. thank you . i am going to be 78 this year .
Lovely talk! Loved the funny bits 😅
Great. Thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️♥️
My children will not look after me. I don’t want them to. I’m 44. I hope to live to double this and more.
But I am not raising my kids to have a good life only to steam roll it later on.
We all have to make our own way as couples. Children must always be given the number one gift. Their own life.
You won't get to 50, don't worry you will not burden your children.
It seems you didn’t listen to what he said. Life is a circle, parent to child until the circle is complete.
Wonderful
What about all the people who dont have children
Another 1.5+ speed TED.^^
Yes but some parents are toxic to their children so children cannot be their caretakers, unfortunately. It might be detrimental to the childs health.
💯💯 as is my case with extremely manipulative elderly parents (ALWAYS they've been this way). 🥺
@@midwestern925 it happens
I have been the carer of my 97 year old grandfather for 15 years,
It's the standard in Islam to take care of our elders.
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From Bangladesh
In a christian family with the love of God, family takes care of family . We used to be a christian nation
That is such a huge load of BS 😂 never was but they did have some level of standard living but hey lets forget the genocides and hideous slavery 😂😂 u are too funny fr
Also in case u haven’t noticed; morality is just a trend to most humans. Religion and morals go out the window when survival instincts kick in. This will always triumph and naturally. I mean u have a need to poop, sleep, eat more than anything your feelings may possess. Be real. Look at what has been going on long before
Themselves and their family.
Islam solved this
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I sense that not too far in the future, the elderly will be entrusted to robots. I don't know if that will be for the best.
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I needed this talk today. Thanks a lot!🥲
No one cares since they didn’t care about anyone when they didn’t need looking after.
I need tosee hear this but will only read it. Annoying accent. Speak american eng. 😎
So nice.
Who's gonna look after the elderly in this modern era where we may have sickness and disease more wide spread than ever in history, and the young folk are so busy with keeping up with bills, if they can even find good work, if so young folk are busy with 50+ hour work week, really, seriously, as the years go by, who is going to help? Because somebody has to do something for them.