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@@wolfchan_1997 ofc!! A very big one is difference in food in culture. In my culture ( I’m west African) we eat stuff like jollof, fufu, Gari, waakye, and we eat a lot of animals like duck, rabbit, snail, snake, and some even eat Guinea pig. And some people when being told this have been like “oh I could never” or “ I don’t think I could stomach that” or I’m just met with disbelief/disgust like “ really??? Wow” before I’m told about how their parent ( usually mom) makes meals of burgers and fries , green beans and Mac, or steak and potatoes. When I was younger it made me very self conscious/made me feel different from my peers being raised on different food but now I accept it as a part of me💗
listening to this song as a native american is an experience. i am the american girl but because i’m not white and america’s perception of “american” isn’t connected with being indigenous, i feel very alienated.
The American perception and beauty standards were made for WHITE WOMEN you should accept that you’re not part of its toxicity and feel relieved. Trust me you ARE a unique, exotic kind of beauty not atypical copy of outdated standards
I hate that I’ll always be too indigenous for my white side but too white for my Native American side, I may not relate to the song the way most do but it still resonates
im so sorry :( i couldn’t imagine having my country robbed and being stigmatized all over the media as a predominantly white country. those thieves don’t deserve patriotism for a country they stole and wiped clean of culture, they don’t deserve to be what ppl think of when they think america. i wish people would stop portraying america the way they do, some white country that poc just play in like it’s a sandbox. it belongs to the natives and i hate that any other ideal is implied so frequently today.
my heart goes out to all the woc who have had to face racism and hatred because of your looks and not being “the beauty standard”. you are beautiful. you are amazing. you are so pretty and your culture and features are perfect. i understand how the blonde hair and blue eyes beauty standard gets pushed on you from a young age and it breaks my heart just knowing you were forced to think you had to be white to get approval. im so so sorry.
I’m black so obviously I’m not connected to my original culture that was stolen from me. I don’t even know what it is. but what really hurts is that I don’t even feel connected to my black culture because of my dad treats anything having to do with black culture as “inappropriate”. and I was homeschooled my whole life so I was never really around people. I feel like I don’t 100% fit in with my own people but when I’m around white people I don’t feel like a person. I feel like a *black* person. I love being black and wouldn’t change it for the world though :)
I know how you feel. I'm actually Nigerian American but I'm not even able to connect with being Nigerian because me and my sibling are the only ones who've been raised in America in our family. My mom tried to teach us the culture but my dad didn't want her to. So I'm just the white washed/americanized one out of my family :-(
i feel guilty listening to this song, i’m mexican american but i get told i don’t look “mexican enough” and that i’m white passing bc of my pale skin but when i was a kid i remember avoiding the sun and crying bc of my tan skin and getting called white passing even tho i went through the bs every little brown girl did sucks
no please don’t listen to them :( white people always do the most to invalidate others but i promise you that “you’re not mexican enough” is a whole lie and you’re still mexican and your culture still remains even after everything :( don’t let them get to you and i’m so sorry that they invalidate your experiences like that
i’m mexican and i was tan. i’m 14 and now i’m pale due to quarantine..tbh i felt good about my pale skin bc i looked more white. I wanted blue eyes, and blonde hair. now i want my skin back, because people don’t see me as a mexican anymore. i’m just stuck.
I always feel guilty when i listen to this song, i’m a 2nd generation Mexican American but i feel so whitewashed, like i don’t feel Mexican enough but at the same time i’ll never be white enough for the US hi i’ve noticed this comment has gotten a lot of attention over the past few months, when i commented this i didn’t expect anyone to see it. for me it was just a vent/rant post, but i’m so happy to see that i’m not alone and my feelings and thoughts are valid and i’m allowed to feel like this, i’ve read and liked every single one of y’all’s comments, new and old and i’m so sorry for everything y’all have been through, you are all valid and i’m so happy this comment has become a safe place for some of you ! i love and appreciate all of you. Also y’all I am indigenous
You will always be mexican enough, there is no enough or not enough. You love your country and your heritage and being mexican is in your blood thats what makes you mexican :)
Fellow 3rd gen feeling white washed!!!! yeah sometimes i feel too "Americanized" (i feel like living in america will do that to you hmmm who knew) but then ill look at my face and family or do something that my white friends never did growing up and be looked at weirdly and then I'm reminded im different.... it's tough out there for us 😔👊🏽
yes, i’m dominican and after being on tik tok and seeing everyone embrace themselves and their cultures it has made me feel a bit whitewashed bc i know nothing about my culture and i don’t appreciate my features as a poc.
I'm 1st generation Nicaraguan, my mother left the rest of my family for man after man, all of which white, and I'm half white, so I'm in the same boat as my own mom never taught me anything about my own culture or even language because she white washed herself to fit in better with the men she wanted, and I still can't feel Latino or White enough to fit in any demographic
I’m a Salvadoran indigenous First generation girl and it really has been hard. I have extremely curly hair and brown skin. I couldn’t speak English until I was around 5 or 6. My nose is the nose of my grandmothers. The blood that runs through my veins is purely pipil. I’ve experienced racism and it really does feel like hell. I couldn’t help that I was born with my mothers skin and eyes, or my fathers nose and lips. I am me ,the best American girl
I’m a first gen immigrant poc I’m crying so much whenever I hear this, I never heard someone having the same struggles as me. I live in a majority white country and town, my whole friend group os white too so it feels weird to talk and vent about my struggles because they can’t relate or comfort and it feels like they just try their best to change the topic so I just keep it all in and cry to myself This song just feels like a person is actually comforting me for once and relating
this song makes me cry everytime. as a black child who has a white family, i’ve never had access to my culture as the only black family i even KNOW is my father and i barely know him. i feel robbed. and at times i get so jealous of other BPOC bc i wish I got to experience my culture, even just a little.
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. Although I am white and never experienced something like this before I could only imagine the feeling. Never forget your worth sweetie and again I’m sorry :(
im a brown latina but i feel so disconnected from my culture- i cant speak spanish at all and i barely know anything about my ethnic background. my family calls me whitewashed and it feels like hell
Ik exactly how you feel. I’m Bengali and ik nothing abt my culture except for the basics and I can’t speak my mother language that well. My family back home make fun of me for it but at the same time I’ll never be American enough for the people here. So where do I lay?
I remember being 10 years old and being bullied for my arms and skin color. I used to be so ashamed that I would cry and shave my arms to look like the other kids. This song hits hard.
I WOULD SHAVE BECAUSE I SAW THAT EVERY WHITE KID IN MY SCHOOL LOOKED LIKE THEY DIDNT HAVE ANY BODY HAIR BECAUSE THEIR HAIR WASNT AS DARK AS MINE and i get bullied for having a mustache
This song is for the girls who chose the character with blue eyes, pale skin, and blond hair just to feel prettier. For the girls who where jealous of the “prettiest girl in the world”. For the girls who tried anything and everything to have lighter skin. For the girls who wanted to dye, or straighten their hair for it to look “good”. For the girls who could never find a Barbie that looked like them. For the girls who where ashamed of their culture. This song is for the girls who wanted be everything but themselves.
I'm a first generation immigrant, my parents are from South Africa and it feels so weird trying to white wash myself to date people here, but at the same time I don't feel any connection to my parents' culture, it's just feels like the way I was raised is so different from everyone else that it almost feels taboo to date someone who wasn't raised the same way.
@@Lol-zs5wh RIGHT and it's so weird being inbetween two different cultures with very different ideals. Like a west vs. east thing. No matter what I do, I'm seen as not enough by both cultures.
i heavily resonate with mitski, we're both half asian (on our mother's side) and half american (on our father's side), and we both don't really fully identify with either. i've felt a alot of the feelings and what she talks about in her songs. sometimes its kind of surreal though, since she's been through things i haven't yet like actually dating someone, and her songs are like a look into the future of what i might feel. even if she doesn't want to do music anymore, i'm really grateful she's published her songs and they're still up so someone like me has someone to look up to.
I can relate. I am also half white and half asian but I never felt connected to my asian side. The worlds beauty standard is all euro-centric and everyone loves to praise others for having those. I hardly ever tell ppl im asian because it feels so embarassing
im half chinese on my moms side and half on my dad's. I definitely dont feel chinese enough to fully identify as being asian but i also didnt have a traditional american childhood
Happy Indigenous Day! I wish all Native Americans a pleasant evening. ~a Native American Edit (10/16/22) I forgot about this comment after Indigenous Peoples Day, but I wish you all a wonderful November!
Verse 1] If I could, I'd be your little spoon And kiss your fingers forevermore But, big spoon, you have so much to do And I have nothing ahead of me [Verse 2] You're the sun, you've never seen the night But you hear its song from the morning birds Well, I'm not the moon, I'm not even a star But awake at night I'll be singing to the birds [Pre-Chorus] Don't wait for me, I can't come [Chorus] Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me But I do, I think I do And you're an all-American boy I guess I couldn't help trying to be your best American girl [Bridge] You're the one You're all I ever wanted I think I'll regret this [Chorus] Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me But I do, I finally do And you're an all-American boy I guess I couldn't help trying to be the best American girl [Outro] Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me But I do, I think I do
I'm a mixed with black and white but I'm being raised by my white mom so I never experienced black culture outside of AAVE and I never realized how hard it is being a person of color, I was oblivious to racism growing up, but I'm realizing microaggressions and subtle and blatant fetishization towards mixed people
“Your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me.. but I do I finally do” I spent the longest time hating my background because it was so pathetic and weird in my eyes. Going to a school with middle class white kids i perceived them as normal and rich. I always wanted to be like that and I was ashamed when I had to discuss anything regarding my parents because we were poor and they only spoke Spanish. I’m finally starting to appreciate and accept my background. It’s made me the person I am today and I’m so grateful for mt parents. If I could have a talk with my younger self, oh I wish I could.
i'm so whitewashed i won't ever be white enough for americans nor will i ever be desi enough. i don't feel connected to either american or bangladeshi culture. i'm a first gen/immigrant bangladeshi. no matter how hard i try, i won't fit in anywhere. i feel out of please when i'm with white people and with bengalis. the majority of my friends are white. i can't relate to them and their lives. This song makes me feel safe.
im a first gen bangladeshi too!! im in canada though n i kinda had a sudden deep realization about how some things i face are because of how i look and it sucks. you are not alone:((
this is exactly how i feel. my dad immigrated here from pakistan, and my moms fully white so i've never fit in anywhere. im too asian for the white people and im too white for the asian people
the lyrics ; “but big spoon, you have so much to do and i have nothing ahead of me. youre the sun, youve never seen the night, but you hear its song from the morning birds. well im not the moon, im not even a star.” really hit me. i feel like a burden to all of my friends, and i didnt even expect to even live this long to decide my path in life. i quite literally have nothing ahead of me because i thought id be dead by now and i have never thought about a future because of it. i feel so lost and disgusted with myself. while i want to stay with my only friend, but i only feel as if im a burden to her and it hurts bad.
“Your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me” THIS. I am a Salvadoran girl and my family has raised me to be the woman of the house at such a young age. They always yell and me and compare me to other women and tell me I should cook and clean like them. And if I don’t I get hit with the belt so many time or I get yelled at.. I’m tired of this household, always trying to make me grow up at a young age.
this song is so good that even as someone who can’t relate to the song (as a non-woc) i can appreciate the emotional depth and appeal it has. the melody and lyrics are gorgeous
i'm an african girl living in europe. i was the only black girl in my town for 8 years until we moved. when i got into the new school, i looked at the black girls hanging around together and i wanted to join them so bad. i'm a black girl with no black friends and sometimes I wish i had people with similar cultures and struggles to talk to.
God...being mixed and never fitting anywhere and never being enough of something and wanting to be the American dream I hated myself and now I'm embracing myself and my differences, self love comes with time, you are all so worth it
Im half asian and half white so this song hurts so much. I just want to feel asian, im so white-washed at this point. Ever since I was little, all I wanted was friends who were viet so we could talk but then I had to learn english for school. I forgotten most of my viet, so forget that...
never too late!! i'm korean but the only people i speak korean with is my family,,, i feel like i'm drifting away from my culture and i've been living in america for only about 4 years but i feel more american than asian,, you're not alone
I'm white, so I never had to experience anything WOC have to go through. my heart goes out to all of you for being treated like you weren't beautiful because you're not White. I'm so sorry you had to be taught that having blonde hair and Blue eyes was the only acceptable thing for the Beauty Standard. All of you are beautiful, amazing and loved
this really hurts because i'm also first generation. my mom won a lottery visa and had me in america, i'm half cuban half mexican indigenous (otomi tribe). i miss my mom's country desperately but i also feel like i don't belong there because of me being raised here in the states. i don't know anything about my indigenous roots, my father left when I was 9. i'm glad i'm not the only one who feels this way
this hits dif being a mexican american girl, bc i feel like i dont embrace my culture enough, and my mom always gets mad at me how im sooo obsessed with rock music, kpop, indie pop/rock, and anime, but i never listen or watch anything mexican, and i understand that shes right but... its not my fault im more interested in other stuff. its not like i hate being mexican, i love it actually and im so happy i am mexican american but i feel like its not enough. yet ive been told that i should be called anna instead of annaya, or that i need to speak in all english instead of mixing languages when im talking TO MY OWN FAMILY BECAUSE ITS AMERICA. i just want to be both mexican and american enough for everyones standards...
i felt this so badly. i am half puerto rican and i feel i was robbed of my culture in a way. i am more interested by my asian side as i've felt more accepted by it but it makes my mom so angry and she always thinks i'm rejecting my latino side. it's not me not accepting my latino side, i just don't feel connected to it.
Having kids is such a scary thought bc I know there’s no way I can raise them with the culture I grew up with or the language you know? There gonna be so disconnected and I already feel guilty
It's odd because when I first listened to this song I didn't assume it was about ethnicity and race. Now I do understand and it's a beautiful song about that (as a native canadian I can very much relate). However, I first associated it with abuse. "Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me." I just automatically thought of my mother and what was been done to me which almost every parent, adult, teenager alike would think is wrong and horrifying.
Since most of our parents had to migrate from a harsher country to america. They want us to experience the things they had to experiment in their country
This song makes me so sad. I can’t identify with this song because I am obviously white, but when I think about all the people that have suffered through this I want to cry. And when I realize that I never noticed things like this I feel so disappointed in myself. I hope that everyone in the comments who suffered because of a stupid guy can find someone who loves you for you and love yourself
Honestly the “American boy” doesn’t even really literally mean a boy broke some woc heart, “American boy” figuratively to a lot of people means American society and trying to assimilate while also not losing your cultural roots.
it’s good to educate yourself on the problems of the marginalized !! im glad you’re societally aware and i hope you’re pitching in to support poc in dire times
I'm yt as well and it's really eye opening to learn about these things, and how we'll never truly know the struggle or the experience. It's sad, I cant imagine how that would feel I just know it would be painful.
I’m an immigrant and I’m having to live out my teen years & become an adult in a foreign country. I’m starting to lose my connection with my home country, but at the same time I’m struggling to befriend people here because of cultural differences, and my innate feeling that it’s wrong for someone who was raised how I was to date someone with a completely different experience and perspective with life in my new country, because I’d have to completely change myself & my culture to adapt to how they see things. I’m not sure if it will ever get better, and I’m starting to feel like a stranger to both my homes. This song honestly hits me so hard I cry every time I hear it.
This song reminds me where my mom had to leave Bosnia because of a war and when she got to a school everyone where so racist at my mom just because she was born in Bosnia. She keeps on living in Austria but people keep on being disrespectful. It's not of a skin color (she's white) it's because she is from a country where there is war. When she wanted to find a job to help her family the people where like "wow you have good grates and your german is really good! What's your nationality?" My mom: "Oh I'm from Bosnia" Person: "Oh.. we want people who are full Austrian" but when my mother lied and said she is from Austria.. it was easier and got accepted... The past was so horrible. I cried hearing that story, but my mom's fine now she has a job and has other friends who are from different countries and different religion. And she is all friends with them :) (I'm half Austrian and half Bosnian since I'm born in Austria but my bloodline is from Bosnia)
im not sure if any of y'all are still watching this, but this song is made for people of color. and although i'm not black, i listen to this, and if you're also a white person listening, then keep in mind that we should not ignore the message of this song. the fact that it's meant for black people and other people of color. you're allowed to enjoy it, but don't stem away from the truth.
mi padre es ecuatoriano y mi madre chilena, nací en ecuador pero la mayoría de mi vida la viví en chile y no se de ninguna de sus dos culturas. me siento más conectado con ecuador porque en chile pase por todo lo malo y no sé nada de su cultura. quiero llorar.
i really hate being who i am. im so disconnected from my culture, i can speak spanish but barely, my parents dont celebrate traditional stuff in my mexican household, and my older siblings make fun of me for not knowing the culture or being a “no sabo” kid. same with my cousin too. everyone makes fun of me for being “whitewashed” meanwhile all the people i go to school with are white, and they make fun of me for being mexican. the line “your mother wouldnt approve of how my mother raised me” hits hard. i had white friends, and their mothers let them go out everywhere without any parents tagging along, and their mothers would let them do basically anything. meanwhile, my mom wouldn’t let me go out anywhere without her or my dad. they’d always follow behind me and my friends whenever we went somewhere and i would be so embarrassed but i would understand why they would always follow behind. i remember my white friends mom said, “Your parents are so strict, why?” and i just laughed and shrugged it off. i somewhat agree with why my parents are so protective. anyways, i feel so guilty listening to this song since i cant identify with being mexican nor white.
this song hits so hard really, i am indigenous african (amazigh) but my parents moved to spain when i was born and i never got the chance to learn about my culture. i wish to learn my language but its too difficult since its a mostly spoken language with almost no written documents. also my parents never made an effort to teach me or to like my culture and i feel sad when going around with my relatives because they will be speaking tamazight and i just cant. i know a lot of people from my culture too but i always find myself a little bit left out because i cannot connect with my background as well as they do. but i still love my people and pride and trying my best to learn about it so i can finally understand who i am :)
I'm a WOC who grew up in Germany but I don't even remember my trauma. Something definitely happened tho because I rejected my culture, my ethnicity, my race, my language, my EVERYTHING. I just wanted to be German so badly. I started hating people of my ethnicity. I started hating people of other ethnicities. I feel so ashamed of myself. I wanted to be German so badly that I became a racist. Obviously I'm not a racist anymore and I don't want to be German nowadays but. The trauma and shame didn't just vanish. I forgot my language and I'm too embarrassed and ashamed to speak what little I know of it. Or feel happy about my culture
I usually listen to this on a daily basis without sulking but today was different. So I’m half white half Filipino and today a person on the internet told me “to go back to where I came from” I usually get comments like these so it doesn’t affect me that much but it hurt. I’m too Filipino for America but too American for the Philippines. And my heart hurts because of how little I know of my culture. I want to be close with it but I can never seem to reach it. Sorry if it was hard to read TLDR : person told me to go back to where I came from I had a break down
Sorry that happened to you, racist comments like that are so disheartening, but you deserve to be here, because you are from here. Also It’s never too late to learn about cultures; perhaps if there is a club at your school about Filipino culture you can learn!! Or perhaps you can research about it online. Either way, be proud of your identities!! You can live the best of both worlds :)
I feel that...as a fellow asian, im thai/american, i feel that. It sucks and hurts alot. Hearing words like that doesnt go away. The stickyness of it doesnt want to wash away. I myself silently scream how proud i am of my asian culture even if I feel like a cow in a herd of sheep. Yet everyone still treats you like a sheep. No matter how much you say, "im actually a cow". Crap analogy? Sorry....
Hi there, I'm a fellow asian too (born and raised in Germany but I'm Indonesian) and I'm glad that I know a lot about my culture. You can acknowledge your culture by asking your mom about the Philippines and maybe you‘ll learn more
I just wanna feel like i'm enough. why cant i be as pretty as the girls at my school? why cant i have pale skin, blond hair and a tiny nose? life makes me tired
first gen poc and the oldest sibling I feel so much is expected from both sides so much and so much weight and not even knowing where to go or whats ahead of you and then how you’re viewed in a country who only has one perception of what’s American or being to disconnected with your sides but also not wanted in a place like America this song makes me cry so much.
“Your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me, but I do, I finally do.” it’s talking to your white, privileged friends about how you grew up, and them passing judgement and saying, “oh your mom sucks.” it’s them telling you to “just sneak out”, or to “just paint your walls before they come home! They can’t do anything about it then.” they don’t see it. my parents ran away to america with nothing but a suitcase and each other. they did what they had to do to survive. no, I don’t think I was treated the best that I could’ve been while growing up, but god, they tried their hardest. they did what they did because they thought it was right. they thought it was love. they grew up in a more traumatic environment than I could ever imagine-how can I blame them for what they’ve said? my friends don’t see how this house, its walls, and the rules within it, is the first nice thing in America that my parents have ever owned. they don’t understand what that even means. they don’t get “making it”. their parents have a long line of graduates and phd students, vacation houses and zero debt, and they just don’t get it. my parents worked tirelessly all their lives to feed me and my siblings, to give us a childhood they should’ve had, something that they’ll never get to experience. it’s knowing that your family is fucked up. it’s knowing that you would’ve done the same.
i'm a mixed white, mexican and asian girl and this song makes me feel like i'm not alone in how i feel. i feel like i don't look mexican enough or asian enough but i also don't look white enough to be considered a white girl. i struggle so hard to feel like i fit in anywhere but this song makes things a little less hard :(
i am a white woman but i still really love listening to mitskis songs. It breaks my heart to see how people only think beauty standarts are pretty or people who got raised into thinking that while not being a beauty standart ( i hope i worded that right), but you are all so damn beautiful and i hope you know that. Be proud of your culture and who you are. You are loved ♡
I’m a first generation immigrant who’s half asian (filipino) and half white (american) and I relate to this song not bc of a significant other but bc my own white father doesn’t like or approve of many asian things. The only things he is ok w is food pretty much. It just hurts that I can’t even openly appreciate or accept part of my own culture in the house that I was raised in without being judged and ridiculed.
i’m exactly the same half asian (filipino) and half white (british) and i relate to this song too i never feel asian enough to fit in with my culture or white enough (sometimes) i just feel so white washed. i completely understand you
i know this song talks about being an immigrant and feeling invalid when it comes to cultural aspects but i relate this song to my mental illness and the fact that my loved ones will never completely understand me :(
As some one whos mixed black indigenous norwegian and more i like this song cause i can relate to not feeling like i fit in anywhere, im not black enough im not native enough etc 👴
Nací en suecia y mi padre es uruguayo, pero vivo desde los 3 años en Uruguay . Por lo tanto mi segundo idioma es español pero soy mejor en español q en sueco.
I’m not poc but I’m Albanian and I can relate to all of these comments, since I was born in America it’s made it hard for me to speak Albanian and I’ve always never been a fan of the culture that Albanians have and every single time I reject to dance with them just breaks my heart because every single time it happens it just made my parents sad or mad at me just because of the way I was born and of how shy I am, I’m different from all my other family members and half of them understand what’s going on but my parents don’t.
vent: i don’t compare to first generations listening to this song but im a mexican american, and a 3rd gen, so it’s a little hard for me when it comes to my culture. whenever im in a mexican area i feel so excluded, compared to every other mexican its easy to realize im whitewashed. i don’t even know spanish, i cant even talk to my grandparents because all they speak is spanish. i live in a full mexican family but my mom and brother are pale and since I don’t live with my dad it makes us look like a white family. my mom and brother could pass as white but im a little darker than them so i don’t seem white or mexican. im not the standard girl for america, and im not the standard girl for mexico. it’s like choosing sports teams in grade school, one team is just white kids and another team is just hispanic kids, in the end I’ll be the one nobody wants to pick.
@@mimi-yg8se if ur a first generation, u came to america from a foreign country. if ur second, ur parent(s) were immigrants but u were born in america :)
for me, the line "your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me" i think of when my ex told me i wasn't raised right and this song always makes me cry because im first generation mexican and before him I never thought i was raised wrong
Both of my parents are fully Mexican but I was born and raised in America, as someone who's too white for latinos and too latino for whites I really connect to this song
as a polish person of colour I've always felt alienated. my whole family was white and family friends were too. i speak polish but its never good enough for my mother since it can be broken at times. me being polish shocked people and most people deny it even saying that i "don't look polish enough." i understand but it hurts sometimes yk? school in england didn't help either with only a couple of other kids being coloured. hopefully college will being more diversity into my life.
we are the same person. a polish mother yet not white enough to look polish. people have denied me being polish too whats worse is the fact that im not connected to my other culture, constantly feels like you dont beling anywhere, right?? sorry i just had to comment bcs meeting a polish poc is all i ever wanted tbh
listening to this as an immigrant who immigrated from easten europe to england. i relate to this, every single bit of it. i dont care if im white, i know ill never understand woc struggles but as an immigrant i can still relate to this song, especially as a slavic immigrant
i rly wish i was born white yk? sumtimes i feel like i'm proud of being asian. but i will always feel insecure of my skin tone. seeing those fair n pale skinned yt girls, rly made me question my whole existence. i feel like having tanned skin stopped me from getting into certain aesthetic. like soft girl or fairycore aesthetic. all the fairies has fair/pale skin tone, it made me feel like i can't get into that aesthetic bcs i'm ugly n have tanned skin. all the soft girls are represented as feminine right? having tan skinned made me feel masculine. it made me feel like i'm not girly or feminine enough bcs i have tanned skin. in my country, having pale or fair skin tone is considered rly attractive while having dark/tanned skin tone is considered "ugly". idk why i feel dirty with my own skin color. it made me feel like i need to have fair/pale skin to feel pretty n clean. i remember saying "idc if i'm gonna get sick or die, as long as i can get white skin." when i was a kid.
Being white doesn't mean you're required to feel guilty, none of us could help what we were born with in any sense. The only thing anyone can really do is to not add to problems, but that doesn't mean anyone should feel ashamed because of the past or individuals in the present that you have no control over
i’m so afraid of marrying my current boyfriend he’s American. i love him i truly do he’s an absolute sweetheart he’s so bright and lovely he have so much potential in life while i’m just a girl that’s chasing dreams. i know financially speaking marrying him is a good idea but the thought of living with him in America still terrifies me i’m scared to lose my culture and i’m scared i won’t be able to pass it down to my children. i cant bare the thought of being his “best American girl”
"well im not the moon, im not even a star" I Cannot Do This
you’re so beautiful
o k :(( tysm angel
You are. Youre so beautiful.
Nes m. im going to Cry ahh you are beautiful too
It'll be okay coochie destroyer, it'll be okay 😖
y’know, the “your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me” could mean multiple things and each one makes me sad
I don't really understand the lyric, if you don't mind could you explain it
@@thzuyu4401 the difference in poc parenting in comparison to white parenting
@@thzuyu4401 it’s about a difference in culture between POC and people who aren’t POC
@@teencrisis4750 can you gave àn example
@@wolfchan_1997 ofc!! A very big one is difference in food in culture. In my culture ( I’m west African) we eat stuff like jollof, fufu, Gari, waakye, and we eat a lot of animals like duck, rabbit, snail, snake, and some even eat Guinea pig.
And some people when being told this have been like “oh I could never” or “ I don’t think I could stomach that” or I’m just met with disbelief/disgust like “ really??? Wow” before I’m told about how their parent ( usually mom) makes meals of burgers and fries , green beans and Mac, or steak and potatoes. When I was younger it made me very self conscious/made me feel different from my peers being raised on different food but now I accept it as a part of me💗
listening to this song as a native american is an experience. i am the american girl but because i’m not white and america’s perception of “american” isn’t connected with being indigenous, i feel very alienated.
That’s truly awful, the face of America should be people like you, it shouldn’t have ever became whitewashed in the way it did
same, it really feels weird, im not white enough to be white but I'm worried I'm not involved in the culture enough to be seen as indigenous
The American perception and beauty standards were made for WHITE WOMEN you should accept that you’re not part of its toxicity and feel relieved. Trust me you ARE a unique, exotic kind of beauty not atypical copy of outdated standards
I hate that I’ll always be too indigenous for my white side but too white for my Native American side, I may not relate to the song the way most do but it still resonates
im so sorry :( i couldn’t imagine having my country robbed and being stigmatized all over the media as a predominantly white country. those thieves don’t deserve patriotism for a country they stole and wiped clean of culture, they don’t deserve to be what ppl think of when they think america. i wish people would stop portraying america the way they do, some white country that poc just play in like it’s a sandbox. it belongs to the natives and i hate that any other ideal is implied so frequently today.
my heart goes out to all the woc who have had to face racism and hatred because of your looks and not being “the beauty standard”. you are beautiful. you are amazing. you are so pretty and your culture and features are perfect. i understand how the blonde hair and blue eyes beauty standard gets pushed on you from a young age and it breaks my heart just knowing you were forced to think you had to be white to get approval. im so so sorry.
What os WOC ?
I love u so much
SMH YA'LL ARE SO BEAUTIFUL AND PRETTY I DON'T KNOW HOW TO EXPRESS MY FEELINGS OF SORROW FOR THE THINGS THAT HAPPENED IN THE PAST ADNKDMAKDBSH
@@thatonemoominfan tysm bru :( u r so beautiful too i hope u have a good day/night :)
@@thatonemoominfan these things aren’t just in the past
I’m black so obviously I’m not connected to my original culture that was stolen from me. I don’t even know what it is. but what really hurts is that I don’t even feel connected to my black culture because of my dad treats anything having to do with black culture as “inappropriate”. and I was homeschooled my whole life so I was never really around people. I feel like I don’t 100% fit in with my own people but when I’m around white people I don’t feel like a person. I feel like a *black* person. I love being black and wouldn’t change it for the world though :)
Yo if u need a black female friend lmk I can give u my insta 😭
this is beautifully written; im so sorry to hear this..you’ll find your people it just takes patience
@@cherrys.8195 bae give me your snap!!
i’m african.. if you need any help reconnecting with your culture please reach out to me
I know how you feel. I'm actually Nigerian American but I'm not even able to connect with being Nigerian because me and my sibling are the only ones who've been raised in America in our family. My mom tried to teach us the culture but my dad didn't want her to. So I'm just the white washed/americanized one out of my family :-(
How we feeling my first genz poc women😞
good o7 to all my poc women
Very sad 🥳
Not good
Weird.
lonely and bitchy(◕ᴗ◕✿)
In my opinion, i think we can appreciate a song even more when we can see the lyrics, or it's just me.
yes!!
Oh, definetly!
yes very much
yesss!!!!!
i feel guilty listening to this song, i’m mexican american but i get told i don’t look “mexican enough” and that i’m white passing bc of my pale skin but when i was a kid i remember avoiding the sun and crying bc of my tan skin and getting called white passing even tho i went through the bs every little brown girl did sucks
no please don’t listen to them :( white people always do the most to invalidate others but i promise you that “you’re not mexican enough” is a whole lie and you’re still mexican and your culture still remains even after everything :( don’t let them get to you and i’m so sorry that they invalidate your experiences like that
me too. it rlly sucks.
i’m mexican and i was tan. i’m 14 and now i’m pale due to quarantine..tbh i felt good about my pale skin bc i looked more white. I wanted blue eyes, and blonde hair. now i want my skin back, because people don’t see me as a mexican anymore. i’m just stuck.
I can relate you’re not alone.
IM LITERALLY FUCKING ON THE VERGE OF TEARS NOW !!! ITS ALL UR FAULT OH MY GOD!!! I THOUGHT I WAS ALONE 😭😭😭😭😭
I always feel guilty when i listen to this song, i’m a 2nd generation Mexican American but i feel so whitewashed, like i don’t feel Mexican enough but at the same time i’ll never be white enough for the US
hi i’ve noticed this comment has gotten a lot of attention over the past few months, when i commented this i didn’t expect anyone to see it.
for me it was just a vent/rant post, but i’m so happy to see that i’m not alone and my feelings and thoughts are valid and i’m allowed to feel like this, i’ve read and liked every single one of y’all’s comments, new and old and i’m so sorry for everything y’all have been through, you are all valid and i’m so happy this comment has become a safe place for some of you ! i love and appreciate all of you.
Also y’all I am indigenous
You will always be mexican enough, there is no enough or not enough. You love your country and your heritage and being mexican is in your blood thats what makes you mexican :)
Fellow 3rd gen feeling white washed!!!! yeah sometimes i feel too "Americanized" (i feel like living in america will do that to you hmmm who knew) but then ill look at my face and family or do something that my white friends never did growing up and be looked at weirdly and then I'm reminded im different.... it's tough out there for us 😔👊🏽
yes, i’m dominican and after being on tik tok and seeing everyone embrace themselves and their cultures it has made me feel a bit whitewashed bc i know nothing about my culture and i don’t appreciate my features as a poc.
I'm 1st generation Nicaraguan, my mother left the rest of my family for man after man, all of which white, and I'm half white, so I'm in the same boat as my own mom never taught me anything about my own culture or even language because she white washed herself to fit in better with the men she wanted, and I still can't feel Latino or White enough to fit in any demographic
i’m a pale hispanic:/
my partner being white, shinny, blonde, tall blue eyed as I'm a big, tall, brown skinned, with an afro, the difference between us I feel in this song
Ur partner chose u for a reason babe, being a woc we may feel insecure, but it’s the fact he chose u for ur character
he chose you because he loves you for who you are. Don't push yourself
I’m a first generation African American and this song upsets me so much. I’m going to love myself now.
keep it up !!
same 🇰🇪. You’re beautiful and valid I love you
@@thedarkertheberrythesweete7125 thanks 💗
I’m a Salvadoran indigenous First generation girl and it really has been hard. I have extremely curly hair and brown skin. I couldn’t speak English until I was around 5 or 6. My nose is the nose of my grandmothers. The blood that runs through my veins is purely pipil. I’ve experienced racism and it really does feel like hell. I couldn’t help that I was born with my mothers skin and eyes, or my fathers nose and lips. I am me ,the best American girl
same
I tried to be the best American girl even though I wasn’t even born here, I just wanted to have what the gringas have
Im so sorry man,ppl are so disgusting😔😔😔 but i bet ur beautiful and deserving of everything beautiful!!! Hope u have a great day💕
The bestest love
i’m an indigenous guatemalan and i’m really disconnected from my culture
I’m a first gen immigrant poc
I’m crying so much whenever I hear this, I never heard someone having the same struggles as me.
I live in a majority white country and town, my whole friend group os white too so it feels weird to talk and vent about my struggles because they can’t relate or comfort and it feels like they just try their best to change the topic so I just keep it all in and cry to myself
This song just feels like a person is actually comforting me for once and relating
I feel you.
god i felt this sm
this song makes me cry everytime. as a black child who has a white family, i’ve never had access to my culture as the only black family i even KNOW is my father and i barely know him. i feel robbed. and at times i get so jealous of other BPOC bc i wish I got to experience my culture, even just a little.
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. Although I am white and never experienced something like this before I could only imagine the feeling. Never forget your worth sweetie and again I’m sorry :(
im a brown latina but i feel so disconnected from my culture- i cant speak spanish at all and i barely know anything about my ethnic background. my family calls me whitewashed and it feels like hell
same
i feel you sm. always called a gringa bc my spanish isnt perfect and my skin is a little too pale
Ik exactly how you feel. I’m Bengali and ik nothing abt my culture except for the basics and I can’t speak my mother language that well. My family back home make fun of me for it but at the same time I’ll never be American enough for the people here. So where do I lay?
same here, i feel so disconnected from my family. not enough for them, not enough for anyone here.
God me too :(
These comments are all so sad :( I'm really sorry that you all feel this way and I hope you know you all have so much value
I remember being 10 years old and being bullied for my arms and skin color. I used to be so ashamed that I would cry and shave my arms to look like the other kids. This song hits hard.
I WOULD SHAVE BECAUSE I SAW THAT EVERY WHITE KID IN MY SCHOOL LOOKED LIKE THEY DIDNT HAVE ANY BODY HAIR BECAUSE THEIR HAIR WASNT AS DARK AS MINE and i get bullied for having a mustache
This song is for the girls who chose the character with blue eyes, pale skin, and blond hair just to feel prettier. For the girls who where jealous of the “prettiest girl in the world”. For the girls who tried anything and everything to have lighter skin. For the girls who wanted to dye, or straighten their hair for it to look “good”. For the girls who could never find a Barbie that looked like them. For the girls who where ashamed of their culture. This song is for the girls who wanted be everything but themselves.
I'm a first generation immigrant, my parents are from South Africa and it feels so weird trying to white wash myself to date people here, but at the same time I don't feel any connection to my parents' culture, it's just feels like the way I was raised is so different from everyone else that it almost feels taboo to date someone who wasn't raised the same way.
I felt this but my parents are Bengali. I feel so disconnected. I’m not Bengali enough for my people but I’m not American enough for the people here.
@@Lol-zs5wh RIGHT and it's so weird being inbetween two different cultures with very different ideals. Like a west vs. east thing. No matter what I do, I'm seen as not enough by both cultures.
exactly thats why I never like going to other peoples houses or I never want to make new friends other than the one I made a long time ago
i heavily resonate with mitski, we're both half asian (on our mother's side) and half american (on our father's side), and we both don't really fully identify with either. i've felt a alot of the feelings and what she talks about in her songs. sometimes its kind of surreal though, since she's been through things i haven't yet like actually dating someone, and her songs are like a look into the future of what i might feel. even if she doesn't want to do music anymore, i'm really grateful she's published her songs and they're still up so someone like me has someone to look up to.
I can relate. I am also half white and half asian but I never felt connected to my asian side. The worlds beauty standard is all euro-centric and everyone loves to praise others for having those. I hardly ever tell ppl im asian because it feels so embarassing
im half chinese on my moms side and half on my dad's. I definitely dont feel chinese enough to fully identify as being asian but i also didnt have a traditional american childhood
"awake at night i'll be singing to the birds" の部分が特に大好き。mitskiは慈愛に満ちている。
Happy Indigenous Day! I wish all Native Americans a pleasant evening.
~a Native American
Edit (10/16/22)
I forgot about this comment after Indigenous Peoples Day, but I wish you all a wonderful November!
Verse 1]
If I could, I'd be your little spoon
And kiss your fingers forevermore
But, big spoon, you have so much to do
And I have nothing ahead of me
[Verse 2]
You're the sun, you've never seen the night
But you hear its song from the morning birds
Well, I'm not the moon, I'm not even a star
But awake at night I'll be singing to the birds
[Pre-Chorus]
Don't wait for me, I can't come
[Chorus]
Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me
But I do, I think I do
And you're an all-American boy
I guess I couldn't help trying to be your best American girl
[Bridge]
You're the one
You're all I ever wanted
I think I'll regret this
[Chorus]
Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me
But I do, I finally do
And you're an all-American boy
I guess I couldn't help trying to be the best American girl
[Outro]
Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me
But I do, I think I do
miss mitski rlly went for our throats huh.. we do stan
I'm a mixed with black and white but I'm being raised by my white mom so I never experienced black culture outside of AAVE and I never realized how hard it is being a person of color, I was oblivious to racism growing up, but I'm realizing microaggressions and subtle and blatant fetishization towards mixed people
❤️❤️
hi
"Don't wait for me..I can't come.." oh mitski I love you
I feel overwhelmed.
The most advanced American songwriter.
“Your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me.. but I do I finally do” I spent the longest time hating my background because it was so pathetic and weird in my eyes. Going to a school with middle class white kids i perceived them as normal and rich. I always wanted to be like that and I was ashamed when I had to discuss anything regarding my parents because we were poor and they only spoke Spanish. I’m finally starting to appreciate and accept my background. It’s made me the person I am today and I’m so grateful for mt parents. If I could have a talk with my younger self, oh I wish I could.
i'm so whitewashed i won't ever be white enough for americans nor will i ever be desi enough. i don't feel connected to either american or bangladeshi culture. i'm a first gen/immigrant bangladeshi. no matter how hard i try, i won't fit in anywhere. i feel out of please when i'm with white people and with bengalis. the majority of my friends are white. i can't relate to them and their lives. This song makes me feel safe.
im a first gen bangladeshi too!! im in canada though n i kinda had a sudden deep realization about how some things i face are because of how i look and it sucks. you are not alone:((
@@riti7824 i'm so sorry you're going through that. i'm also going through the same thing. it really sucks.
Me too I’ll never be enough
@@iman-7309 sweetheart, you're enough. trust me. society is so fucking flawed.
this is exactly how i feel. my dad immigrated here from pakistan, and my moms fully white so i've never fit in anywhere. im too asian for the white people and im too white for the asian people
the lyrics ; “but big spoon, you have so much to do and i have nothing ahead of me. youre the sun, youve never seen the night, but you hear its song from the morning birds. well im not the moon, im not even a star.” really hit me. i feel like a burden to all of my friends, and i didnt even expect to even live this long to decide my path in life. i quite literally have nothing ahead of me because i thought id be dead by now and i have never thought about a future because of it. i feel so lost and disgusted with myself. while i want to stay with my only friend, but i only feel as if im a burden to her and it hurts bad.
You're the one, you're all I ever wanted but I think I will regret this... 💔
I read this comment along with the song. :O
first gen immigrant poc , how we feeling?
currently crying
Big sad 😭😭🤣🤣😭😭
ok i think 🤒🤒
i CANT-
i dont know if im poc or not. but i did move permanently to another country. but what does first gen immigrant mean?
Listening to this as a WOC just hits differently. This song gets me emotional every single time.
:( it’s sad how almost all of mitskis songs are relatable, she makes no bad songs they all are amazing
best song ever written?
yes
Definitivamente
“Your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me” THIS. I am a Salvadoran girl and my family has raised me to be the woman of the house at such a young age. They always yell and me and compare me to other women and tell me I should cook and clean like them. And if I don’t I get hit with the belt so many time or I get yelled at.. I’m tired of this household, always trying to make me grow up at a young age.
this song is so good that even as someone who can’t relate to the song (as a non-woc) i can appreciate the emotional depth and appeal it has. the melody and lyrics are gorgeous
i'm an african girl living in europe.
i was the only black girl in my town for 8 years until we moved. when i got into the new school, i looked at the black girls hanging around together and i wanted to join them so bad. i'm a black girl with no black friends and sometimes I wish i had people with similar cultures and struggles to talk to.
I am full european girl and I just want you say that you are beautiful and you can talk with them or with everyone
Are u me?
God...being mixed and never fitting anywhere and never being enough of something and wanting to be the American dream I hated myself and now I'm embracing myself and my differences, self love comes with time, you are all so worth it
this song makes me cry but I still listen to itt😟😟
Watch Someone Great on Netflix the songs on there you’ll feel 10x depressed lol
@@91Definite I will thanks!
Same here bestie 😕🤞🤞🤞🤚
Fr 😦
@@iamjood9955 how u felt after u watched it?
Im half asian and half white so this song hurts so much. I just want to feel asian, im so white-washed at this point. Ever since I was little, all I wanted was friends who were viet so we could talk but then I had to learn english for school. I forgotten most of my viet, so forget that...
It’s never too late to reconnect with your culture!! I speak viet so if you ever need a viet friend, you have me :)
never too late!! i'm korean but the only people i speak korean with is my family,,, i feel like i'm drifting away from my culture and i've been living in america for only about 4 years but i feel more american than asian,, you're not alone
Not an immigrant child but coming from a mixed indigenous background I relate to this so much
I'm white, so I never had to experience anything WOC have to go through. my heart goes out to all of you for being treated like you weren't beautiful because you're not White. I'm so sorry you had to be taught that having blonde hair and Blue eyes was the only acceptable thing for the Beauty Standard. All of you are beautiful, amazing and loved
You’re really kind! Times have been hard for me.
mixed ppl who have troubles with their identity, how u feeling?
bad
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
not great wbu
currently crying
everything is confusing and scary aaa
this really hurts because i'm also first generation. my mom won a lottery visa and had me in america, i'm half cuban half mexican indigenous (otomi tribe). i miss my mom's country desperately but i also feel like i don't belong there because of me being raised here in the states. i don't know anything about my indigenous roots, my father left when I was 9. i'm glad i'm not the only one who feels this way
this hits dif being a mexican american girl, bc i feel like i dont embrace my culture enough, and my mom always gets mad at me how im sooo obsessed with rock music, kpop, indie pop/rock, and anime, but i never listen or watch anything mexican, and i understand that shes right but... its not my fault im more interested in other stuff. its not like i hate being mexican, i love it actually and im so happy i am mexican american but i feel like its not enough. yet ive been told that i should be called anna instead of annaya, or that i need to speak in all english instead of mixing languages when im talking TO MY OWN FAMILY BECAUSE ITS AMERICA. i just want to be both mexican and american enough for everyones standards...
i felt this so badly. i am half puerto rican and i feel i was robbed of my culture in a way. i am more interested by my asian side as i've felt more accepted by it but it makes my mom so angry and she always thinks i'm rejecting my latino side. it's not me not accepting my latino side, i just don't feel connected to it.
Me too it's like I'm drowning in what I wanted to be as a white woman, but I just wasn't:(
Real
how i feel being mexican at a pwi 🤧 "youre the sun, youve never seen the night sky" it hits 😟
STOP this comment hit me lol💔
Having kids is such a scary thought bc I know there’s no way I can raise them with the culture I grew up with or the language you know? There gonna be so disconnected and I already feel guilty
It's odd because when I first listened to this song I didn't assume it was about ethnicity and race. Now I do understand and it's a beautiful song about that (as a native canadian I can very much relate). However, I first associated it with abuse. "Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me." I just automatically thought of my mother and what was been done to me which almost every parent, adult, teenager alike would think is wrong and horrifying.
Since most of our parents had to migrate from a harsher country to america. They want us to experience the things they had to experiment in their country
This song makes me so sad. I can’t identify with this song because I am obviously white, but when I think about all the people that have suffered through this I want to cry. And when I realize that I never noticed things like this I feel so disappointed in myself. I hope that everyone in the comments who suffered because of a stupid guy can find someone who loves you for you and love yourself
Honestly the “American boy” doesn’t even really literally mean a boy broke some woc heart, “American boy” figuratively to a lot of people means American society and trying to assimilate while also not losing your cultural roots.
it’s good to educate yourself on the problems of the marginalized !! im glad you’re societally aware and i hope you’re pitching in to support poc in dire times
I'm yt as well and it's really eye opening to learn about these things, and how we'll never truly know the struggle or the experience. It's sad, I cant imagine how that would feel I just know it would be painful.
im glad you're not like that one racist person who commented here
I love WOC☹️Let's all stay strong shall we? 🤞🏽
^^ seeing all these comments make me feel so sad for everyone :(
I’m an immigrant and I’m having to live out my teen years & become an adult in a foreign country. I’m starting to lose my connection with my home country, but at the same time I’m struggling to befriend people here because of cultural differences, and my innate feeling that it’s wrong for someone who was raised how I was to date someone with a completely different experience and perspective with life in my new country, because I’d have to completely change myself & my culture to adapt to how they see things. I’m not sure if it will ever get better, and I’m starting to feel like a stranger to both my homes. This song honestly hits me so hard I cry every time I hear it.
This song reminds me where my mom had to leave Bosnia because of a war and when she got to a school everyone where so racist at my mom just because she was born in Bosnia. She keeps on living in Austria but people keep on being disrespectful. It's not of a skin color (she's white) it's because she is from a country where there is war. When she wanted to find a job to help her family the people where like "wow you have good grates and your german is really good! What's your nationality?"
My mom: "Oh I'm from Bosnia"
Person: "Oh.. we want people who are full Austrian"
but when my mother lied and said she is from Austria.. it was easier and got accepted...
The past was so horrible. I cried hearing that story, but my mom's fine now she has a job and has other friends who are from different countries and different religion. And she is all friends with them :)
(I'm half Austrian and half Bosnian since I'm born in Austria but my bloodline is from Bosnia)
im not sure if any of y'all are still watching this, but this song is made for people of color. and although i'm not black, i listen to this, and if you're also a white person listening, then keep in mind that we should not ignore the message of this song. the fact that it's meant for black people and other people of color. you're allowed to enjoy it, but don't stem away from the truth.
mi padre es ecuatoriano y mi madre chilena, nací en ecuador pero la mayoría de mi vida la viví en chile y no se de ninguna de sus dos culturas. me siento más conectado con ecuador porque en chile pase por todo lo malo y no sé nada de su cultura. quiero llorar.
i really hate being who i am.
im so disconnected from my culture, i can speak spanish but barely, my parents dont celebrate traditional stuff in my mexican household, and my older siblings make fun of me for not knowing the culture or being a “no sabo” kid. same with my cousin too. everyone makes fun of me for being “whitewashed” meanwhile all the people i go to school with are white, and they make fun of me for being mexican.
the line “your mother wouldnt approve of how my mother raised me” hits hard.
i had white friends, and their mothers let them go out everywhere without any parents tagging along, and their mothers would let them do basically anything. meanwhile, my mom wouldn’t let me go out anywhere without her or my dad. they’d always follow behind me and my friends whenever we went somewhere and i would be so embarrassed but i would understand why they would always follow behind. i remember my white friends mom said, “Your parents are so strict, why?” and i just laughed and shrugged it off. i somewhat agree with why my parents are so protective.
anyways, i feel so guilty listening to this song since i cant identify with being mexican nor white.
this song hits so hard really, i am indigenous african (amazigh) but my parents moved to spain when i was born and i never got the chance to learn about my culture. i wish to learn my language but its too difficult since its a mostly spoken language with almost no written documents. also my parents never made an effort to teach me or to like my culture and i feel sad when going around with my relatives because they will be speaking tamazight and i just cant. i know a lot of people from my culture too but i always find myself a little bit left out because i cannot connect with my background as well as they do. but i still love my people and pride and trying my best to learn about it so i can finally understand who i am :)
Iʼm a moroccan Amazigh too. Sending love
I'm a WOC who grew up in Germany but I don't even remember my trauma. Something definitely happened tho because I rejected my culture, my ethnicity, my race, my language, my EVERYTHING. I just wanted to be German so badly. I started hating people of my ethnicity. I started hating people of other ethnicities. I feel so ashamed of myself. I wanted to be German so badly that I became a racist. Obviously I'm not a racist anymore and I don't want to be German nowadays but. The trauma and shame didn't just vanish. I forgot my language and I'm too embarrassed and ashamed to speak what little I know of it. Or feel happy about my culture
I usually listen to this on a daily basis without sulking but today was different. So I’m half white half Filipino and today a person on the internet told me “to go back to where I came from” I usually get comments like these so it doesn’t affect me that much but it hurt. I’m too Filipino for America but too American for the Philippines. And my heart hurts because of how little I know of my culture. I want to be close with it but I can never seem to reach it.
Sorry if it was hard to read
TLDR : person told me to go back to where I came from I had a break down
Sorry that happened to you, racist comments like that are so disheartening, but you deserve to be here, because you are from here. Also It’s never too late to learn about cultures; perhaps if there is a club at your school
about Filipino culture you can learn!! Or perhaps you can research about it online. Either way, be proud of your identities!! You can live the best of both worlds :)
@@clarissjacob6415 thank you :) I hope you have a wonderful day/night
I feel that...as a fellow asian, im thai/american, i feel that. It sucks and hurts alot. Hearing words like that doesnt go away. The stickyness of it doesnt want to wash away. I myself silently scream how proud i am of my asian culture even if I feel like a cow in a herd of sheep. Yet everyone still treats you like a sheep. No matter how much you say, "im actually a cow".
Crap analogy? Sorry....
Hi there, I'm a fellow asian too (born and raised in Germany but I'm Indonesian) and I'm glad that I know a lot about my culture. You can acknowledge your culture by asking your mom about the Philippines and maybe you‘ll learn more
Not ashamed to say I cried to this. I'm serious.
I just wanna feel like i'm enough. why cant i be as pretty as the girls at my school? why cant i have pale skin, blond hair and a tiny nose? life makes me tired
u r beautiful
Genetics. the people in Sweden are better looking than the people from the Congo for example.
@@YourTurnCutie thats so backhanded????
@@YourTurnCutie mmm yeah, the "people of Congo" are more beautiful than majority of others simply b/c they are less hateful. You on the other hand...
@@YourTurnCutie Congo people are beautiful what are you on!? 😑😐
im sobbing, thowing up, fainting, waking up, dying, falling down the stairs, ascending
This song makes so much sense to me as a native. I don’t even know my tribe because colonizers stripped it away from my family :/
mitski tugs at our heartstrings :(
first gen poc and the oldest sibling I feel so much is expected from both sides so much and so much weight and not even knowing where to go or whats ahead of you and then how you’re viewed in a country who only has one perception of what’s American or being to disconnected with your sides but also not wanted in a place like America this song makes me cry so much.
“Your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me, but I do, I finally do.”
it’s talking to your white, privileged friends about how you grew up, and them passing judgement and saying, “oh your mom sucks.” it’s them telling you to “just sneak out”, or to “just paint your walls before they come home! They can’t do anything about it then.”
they don’t see it. my parents ran away to america with nothing but a suitcase and each other. they did what they had to do to survive. no, I don’t think I was treated the best that I could’ve been while growing up, but god, they tried their hardest. they did what they did because they thought it was right. they thought it was love. they grew up in a more traumatic environment than I could ever imagine-how can I blame them for what they’ve said?
my friends don’t see how this house, its walls, and the rules within it, is the first nice thing in America that my parents have ever owned. they don’t understand what that even means. they don’t get “making it”. their parents have a long line of graduates and phd students, vacation houses and zero debt, and they just don’t get it. my parents worked tirelessly all their lives to feed me and my siblings, to give us a childhood they should’ve had, something that they’ll never get to experience.
it’s knowing that your family is fucked up. it’s knowing that you would’ve done the same.
Jaw-droppingly succinct you’ve truly encapsulated the immigrant child experience
i'm a mixed white, mexican and asian girl and this song makes me feel like i'm not alone in how i feel. i feel like i don't look mexican enough or asian enough but i also don't look white enough to be considered a white girl. i struggle so hard to feel like i fit in anywhere but this song makes things a little less hard :(
"Youre the sun, you've never seen the night" I feel so disconnected and whitewashed from my native genes
Same☹️☹️☹️
I want to hug all of you .
shitting. vomiting. crying.
I CANNOT DO THIS ANYMORE
I can’t stop coming back to this
LITERALLY COMFORT SONG RIGHT HERE
"but I do I *THINK* I do" and "but I *FINALLY* do" there's just something that hurts me there, I don't know what it is
mitski... i cant do this rn
i am a white woman but i still really love listening to mitskis songs. It breaks my heart to see how people only think beauty standarts are pretty or people who got raised into thinking that while not being a beauty standart ( i hope i worded that right), but you are all so damn beautiful and i hope you know that. Be proud of your culture and who you are. You are loved ♡
I’m a first generation immigrant who’s half asian (filipino) and half white (american) and I relate to this song not bc of a significant other but bc my own white father doesn’t like or approve of many asian things. The only things he is ok w is food pretty much. It just hurts that I can’t even openly appreciate or accept part of my own culture in the house that I was raised in without being judged and ridiculed.
i’m exactly the same half asian (filipino) and half white (british) and i relate to this song too
i never feel asian enough to fit in with my culture or white enough (sometimes) i just feel so white washed. i completely understand you
love mitski
i know this song talks about being an immigrant and feeling invalid when it comes to cultural aspects but i relate this song to my mental illness and the fact that my loved ones will never completely understand me :(
"well I'm not the moon, I'm not even a star"
To the person reading this, you're not either of these because your the whole damn universe❤️❤️❤️
aww
As some one whos mixed black indigenous norwegian and more i like this song cause i can relate to not feeling like i fit in anywhere, im not black enough im not native enough etc 👴
Im a white latina but this song is absolutely beautiful, and to all my woc queens never forget u are beautiful .♥♥
Also sorry is I made any mistake, english is my third language and I'm still learning
Nací en suecia y mi padre es uruguayo, pero vivo desde los 3 años en Uruguay . Por lo tanto mi segundo idioma es español pero soy mejor en español q en sueco.
I’m not poc but I’m Albanian and I can relate to all of these comments, since I was born in America it’s made it hard for me to speak Albanian and I’ve always never been a fan of the culture that Albanians have and every single time I reject to dance with them just breaks my heart because every single time it happens it just made my parents sad or mad at me just because of the way I was born and of how shy I am, I’m different from all my other family members and half of them understand what’s going on but my parents don’t.
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i don’t compare to first generations listening to this song but im a mexican american, and a 3rd gen, so it’s a little hard for me when it comes to my culture. whenever im in a mexican area i feel so excluded, compared to every other mexican its easy to realize im whitewashed. i don’t even know spanish, i cant even talk to my grandparents because all they speak is spanish. i live in a full mexican family but my mom and brother are pale and since I don’t live with my dad it makes us look like a white family. my mom and brother could pass as white but im a little darker than them so i don’t seem white or mexican. im not the standard girl for america, and im not the standard girl for mexico. it’s like choosing sports teams in grade school, one team is just white kids and another team is just hispanic kids, in the end I’ll be the one nobody wants to pick.
How do u know if ur a first gen or a 2 gen
@@mimi-yg8se if ur a first generation, u came to america from a foreign country. if ur second, ur parent(s) were immigrants but u were born in america :)
for me, the line "your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me" i think of when my ex told me i wasn't raised right and this song always makes me cry because im first generation mexican and before him I never thought i was raised wrong
hello fellow poc's 🥰
hello
hope you're doing good today, i'm currently crying because i don't feel poc or american enough 😁wbu??
Hello
Shit hits different when your mixed
Wonderful lyric video of my favorite song! 🥀🇺🇸♥️
Both of my parents are fully Mexican but I was born and raised in America, as someone who's too white for latinos and too latino for whites I really connect to this song
YOUR MOTHER WOULDN'T APPROVED OF HOW MY MOTHER RAISED ME! bye i love this part
This song will forever be my favourite mitski song.
omg is that Xie Lian on your pfp
@@larasbigmac77 yes! it’s rare seeing tgcf fans tbh 😄
as a polish person of colour I've always felt alienated. my whole family was white and family friends were too. i speak polish but its never good enough for my mother since it can be broken at times. me being polish shocked people and most people deny it even saying that i "don't look polish enough." i understand but it hurts sometimes yk? school in england didn't help either with only a couple of other kids being coloured. hopefully college will being more diversity into my life.
we are the same person. a polish mother yet not white enough to look polish.
people have denied me being polish too
whats worse is the fact that im not connected to my other culture, constantly feels like you dont beling anywhere, right??
sorry i just had to comment bcs meeting a polish poc is all i ever wanted tbh
@@user-fx5tv2nu6y no its fine jo worries. ive never met a polish poc so its nice to meet another one.
listening to this as an immigrant who immigrated from easten europe to england. i relate to this, every single bit of it. i dont care if im white, i know ill never understand woc struggles but as an immigrant i can still relate to this song, especially as a slavic immigrant
" but big spoon you have so much to do and *i have nothing ahead of me* "
I always wanted to be white be pretty I always thought my skin color was so bad I wanted blonde hair and blue eyes
Hello I’m not a person of color but I’m here to say that y’all are amazing and valid
Plus drink water when you need to!
The way you glow through my blinds in the morning it makes me feel like you missed me
i rly wish i was born white yk? sumtimes i feel like i'm proud of being asian. but i will always feel insecure of my skin tone. seeing those fair n pale skinned yt girls, rly made me question my whole existence. i feel like having tanned skin stopped me from getting into certain aesthetic. like soft girl or fairycore aesthetic. all the fairies has fair/pale skin tone, it made me feel like i can't get into that aesthetic bcs i'm ugly n have tanned skin. all the soft girls are represented as feminine right? having tan skinned made me feel masculine. it made me feel like i'm not girly or feminine enough bcs i have tanned skin. in my country, having pale or fair skin tone is considered rly attractive while having dark/tanned skin tone is considered "ugly". idk why i feel dirty with my own skin color. it made me feel like i need to have fair/pale skin to feel pretty n clean. i remember saying "idc if i'm gonna get sick or die, as long as i can get white skin." when i was a kid.
"Don't wait for me, I can't come" I am not okay and probably won't ever be, why did that BREAK me?
I’m a white women but I feel so guilty to listne to this song I don’t know why . This song gives me goosebumps.
It’s 100% okay to listen as long as you don’t whitewash the lyrics
Being white doesn't mean you're required to feel guilty, none of us could help what we were born with in any sense. The only thing anyone can really do is to not add to problems, but that doesn't mean anyone should feel ashamed because of the past or individuals in the present that you have no control over
the sob i let out whenever i hear the "i do, i finally do" part
i’m so afraid of marrying my current boyfriend he’s American. i love him i truly do he’s an absolute sweetheart he’s so bright and lovely he have so much potential in life while i’m just a girl that’s chasing dreams. i know financially speaking marrying him is a good idea but the thought of living with him in America still terrifies me i’m scared to lose my culture and i’m scared i won’t be able to pass it down to my children. i cant bare the thought of being his “best American girl”