The woman who reported her friend to the school board is AN ANGEL!!! She potentially saved SO many children from being victimized. The wife could've eventually been persuaded to supply his sick addiction. Spouses of sex offenders need to have laws restricting them as well. If you bind yourself to a monster, no one should have mercy.
@@wadecollins907 I think in the cases were a adult with cp/sa especially csa where another adult is married to the adult with the charges, they should at least be looked into, because supporting and covering for abusers/assaulters especially of children/vulnerable people, is how these criminals get away with stuff for years. If you for example thought your husband had done no wrong, helped him do the crime, knew of the crimes and said nothing, then yeah you should also be punished. Being married to a 'monster' isn't as simple as you should be held accountable for their actions, so i disagree with op for that, because many people are in marriages they don't want to be. But the lady in the original story was getting divorced... but chose to fire the divorce attorney because her cp collecting husband would get a lighter sentence. Shows she doesn't care about the kids, which makes her choice of work suspicious.
@@wadecollins907 the person after your comment said it perfectly. I'm not talking about innocent bystanders. I'm talking about people who CHOOSE to be with a predator . They're just as dangerous.
The woman who got her ex friends job taken away in order to protect young disabled children is not even a little bit petty, it was simply the only right thing to do. It would have been worse had she turned a blind eye.
As a disabled woman myself, I 100 percent agree. I’m amazed and how efficiently op was to be able to go about it and also that the school listened. If anything happened, a lot of those children would not be able to speak up about it due to being nonverbal. Preventing anything from happening is not petty, it was the right thing to do
100% agree! If you look up a lot these cases, very very often their partners not only know about what they’re doing, but often help their partners. Sometimes they’re even into it themselves. Like the friend said she would be around non verbal children helping them in the bathroom/ change etc. She could have been taking pictures for her husband or what not. Sure that could be a bit far fetched, but in situations like this, giving the benefit of the doubt is NOT the right thing to do! Anyone who truly genuinely cares about children wouldn’t stay with a man like that.
My oldest grandson has several mental illnesses. The man who was assigned to their family to provide counsel to both grandsons, turned out to have a long list of sexual offenses. He was abusing my oldest grandson and was grooming his little brother to be his next victim. Finally the truth came out. The organization that placed the creep in my daughters house knew that he had a history of questionable actions involving children. The man's own family had reported him to the local police station. Turned out that the local police had been trying to get him for a number of years. But the creep messed up this time, my daughter was not intimidated by him and he finally went to jail. For years everyone turned a blind eye to what was going on. My daughter sued the agency that he had worked for, and won a large settlement on behalf of my grandsons. Sadly though, it will never fix the damage done to my oldest grandson 😢
That’s honestly fair of her though 😭 sometimes you have to act and it’s not her fault that she acted first 😂 I would’ve done the same thing tbh No reason for both of us to get bit 🤷♀️
About the lady that got her ex-friend fired bcs her husband is a sex offender ; she did what was right. If you allow someone like that in your life and defend a 10 counts CP offender, proven guilty, who knows what you could allow or do to children ? The fact she kept the husband in her life shows how little she cares about kids and their security. If I found out someone I love and trust is a sex offender, guilty of CP, I wouldn't EVER want to talk or see that person ever again. I wouldn't trust them again. So the fact the ex-friend didn't divorce and tried to hide her husband's crimes is TELLING
@@StrangeFacinations I juste checked what it was ; sickening how they explain that most of the time, predators work around kids, in schools or social services. I'm happy some people investigate to find those predators.
I know someone on my partner's side who is merely accused, never proven, just accused. I trust the accusers, one of them being my partner. Despite there never having been prosecution or even enough evidence now or then to be CERTAIN of it, I still count that the same as convicted. I feel that anyone who can just "Get over" that is likely a problem (or potential one) too... If hearing even just accusations of it about someone you know doesn't give you instant ick, there is something wrong. It's one thing to bounce back from the ick with a desire to get PROOF of the bad, entirely another to bounce back and pretend it never happened. People who are with the convicted ones, with multiple offences under their belts, who are absolutely guilty and the partner KNOWS they are guilty... Those are the people who really worry me. They're the ones who just watch evil happen and say nothing.
You'd think everyone would agree. But I know a woman who married a convicted child s*x offender and let him move in with her and her young daughter. That daughter is one of my dearest friends. You can imagine what that girl went through. I'll never understand or forgive what that woman did.
As a mother of a non verbal autistic child you absolutely did the right thing. If I was to discover this for myself later on and questioned if anything untoward had happened, I would have blood on my hands.
But the wife wasn’t the perpetrator! I don’t understand this whatsoever. Someone with a perfect record and evidence that ONLY supports a job well done should NOT be held accountable for what their spouse does! This is typical cancel culture and you ruin people’s lives when they’ve done nothing wrong themselves. She’s a freaking victim, too, and being already married to someone who does something bad shouldn’t make you guilty also. Society is so 🚮
That story of the sex offender husband is very scary . The age range the wife wanted to be a teacher in and non verbal could have been a way to get children for the husband and they won't speak. It's a sick world. Anyone staying with a pedo is just as bad . Throw the lot away !
I had a childhood friend that broke up our friendship with me through her father. She had her father tell me that I was a Burden. I did everything for this girl to the point where I was used. I guess that's why I have trust issues. Quite frankly I'm glad it happened because it made me realized she was a burden.
I had gastric bypass surgery about 12 years ago. I’m not embarrassed about it now (although I gained a lot back after having my second kid) but when I was younger, I was more embarrassed. People judge you for having it, think you’re lazy and so forth. She is not required to share her private medical information with you. You’d hate eating with me, as I fill up super fast and always take left overs home that I will eat over the next several days. I still enjoy going to restaurants, as eating out is not just about food. It’s about atmosphere and good company. I honestly think that creator was so petty. I understand getting on peoples nerves…I’m 100% positive that went both ways…
13:05 as a survivor of csa, absolutely I am passionate about this issue! That OP did the right thing. 100% did the right thing in reporting this. The fact that her former friend *did not disclose* this information is disturbing af.
Also a survivor, and I agree completely. People like this former friend don't care about protecting children and can be willing to victimize children to appease an abuser. It's for the best that she's not working with nonverbal kids
This story about the woman working in childcare hit way too close to home. I was taken out of my mothers care at 12 due to SA from my stepfather (yes she stayed with him & continued to live her “happy life”) But she also works in childcare, this inspires me to woman up & take that step to report her to her job no matter the torment it brings me. The safety of little ones are so much more important.
I am sooooo sorry this has happened to you😢 what happened to you was WRONG 100% & is NOT your fault❤ also, you might be surprised & find that repeating her might be healing for you❤ I know the fear of doing it is bc doing it, would kind of force you to deal with the feelings of what happened to you😢❤ but think of the little girl you once were, the little girl who is still inside of you & is still hurting, & how there are other little girls & boys in there & save them the way you needed saving❤ it might help you if you could somehow report it anonymously maybe?
I'm sorry that happened to you, their gross actions aren't your fault. I hope you did report her to protect the children. And I hope you are doing well.
You’re so strong for taking this step and stopping an enabler!! Even if we’re strangers on the internet, I’m proud of you! My brother and many other little boys were taken advantage of by one disgusting man in their daycare, where we thought they were safe. They found so many pictures and chats of him texting younger boys and they still did not put him in prison but gave him probation!!!! I will not be quiet about it and tell everyone I know about him, full name and everything and hopefully get this man behind bars. I’m so sick of the state enabling those disgusting “human beings” who take advantage of the most vulnerable and important part of our society, the children.
As a fellow survivor of childhood SA I support whatever you decide (my abuser was protected by my own family as well) it’s extremely hard, and sometimes seemingly impossible to recover from at times but I’m so proud of you and the strength you exhibit I bet reporting her would help you mend… I wanted to report mine but by the time I got away from my family and had the ability to do anything there was nothing that could be done about it… the laws regarding these matters no where near match the offense sadly… something I would love to see change in the future
Another good book to read is Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. It's not just about people-pleasers, but for all aspects of overactive 4F reaction (Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn). Good stuff for psychoeducation.
I’m pretty sure sex offenders (and anyone really with a conviction) aren’t allowed anywhere near school grounds, but if this woman was willing to stay with a man with 10 counts of child p*rnography and hide it from her closest friends, she was going to hide it from the school board as well. Not only was it the right thing to do by getting her fired, it was also a legal obligation to protect the children that would have been in her care. I only hope this woman and her husband don’t try for kids.
It’s not that far believe it or not I lived by a school and went on the website where you can see where they live and there were a couple between me and the school obvi they were in the ok legally but yea it’s not that far I wanna say like 500 ft something
Sex offenders deserve less grace and more restrictions. Like, oh I don't know- staying in jail (especially under age of consent relationships). Technically they aren't allowed to have social media or phones n what not but they don't keep up with it and it seems that some of these offenders can just be forgotten about. I have a relative whos an offender and has been on a 'wanted list' for not renewing his status yet no one has done anything for 2+ years and it unnerves me.
@@shawnariggs2485also have to remember that not all SO’s in that registry have anything to do with kids. Plenty of young men get put on that list from protective parents of their ‘not quite 18y’old’ daughters who the guy is prob 6months older than her etc. I have a cousin who’s on it who had what he believed was a consensual encounter with his wife while they were separating- she decided a week later that she hadn’t wanted to do it. He pled guilty because he didn’t want to cause any further issues or upset her (he’s still in love with her) he did 4 years in prison and is on the registry for life. The SO registry is a good tool don’t get me wrong. But presuming that everyone on there has limitations of school areas is not correct either.
Ended a friendship recently because in 9th grade I met a girl who was so outgoing and everyone's friend, and I thought she was cool. We became friends, stayed friends for years. I moved to another state, got married, had a kid. She had ALWAYS talked about how much she hated the guy I was with "never liked him." Me and the guy ended up divorcing, worked out for the best, but have stated friends for the kid. When we were first split up, I remember telling her about it and she was all "screw him, never liked him anyway, he's a dog," blah, blah, blah... Me and my ex end up doing a co-parent Disney trip, which was really great! I'm taking pictures with our kid and posting them, all good vibes.... SHE MESSAGES HIM ... and asks him "what's wrong with her? why did she cut her hair so short?" blah, blah, blah... talking to him, about me. She's done shady shit behind my back before, but, that just took the cake. Of course, he showed me her texts to him while we were on the trip, asking me in real time why she was messaging him. Yeah, screw her. All of her vague-Booking BS lol. So done with her. And all the better for it!
Good on ya for cutting out the dead weight of that friendship. I'm glad he was upfront about her to you and everything is going well with co-parenting.
I have a messy one! A friend and I used to be inseparable. We did cosplay together, worked together, hung out after work, partied, etc. We even looked alike! I was unhappily married at the time, so hanging out with her was my escape. I noticed that she started to get jealous any time I hung out with my husband or other friends. One day, she took me aside in a cubicle at work to tell me that she was in love with me and wanted to leave my husband. I turned her down because I was like... I'm not gay. The rejection definitely broke our relationship, and we never talked again. Years later, she's married to a man and I'm married to a woman. I guess she knew before I did!
As someone with disabilities, I agree with you 100%! Children with disabilities, especially non-verbal are at higher risk of being targeted and SA'ed. My heart goes out to anyone who endure such horrid experiences. Because there are people who have fetishes for people like myself, I have to be careful. I always check the offender list anytime I'm considering meeting someone that I'm interested in. There is nothing I can do to defend myself and fortunately I haven't been in any bad situations to date.
Agreeance. I’m glad the school had their serious face on. Would not have been pretty if they decided to keep her there and the media found out after she had a complaint against her.
As soon as I heard “non-verbal” my heart dropped. Those kids wouldn’t be able to speak to anyone if something happened! They are even more defenseless than an average child.
Exactly lol I was like "this isn't petty, it's just morally correct." Especially with the fact that ex-bestie KNEW the OP wouldn't put up with it and tried to HIDE her husband's arrest record from her!!
@@Ana-385 Inclusivity of whom? Creeps. Nah, YT just has weird rules. Can't talk about CP even if it's just in an informative way, and yet they have videos that can harm children.
@Ana-385 because the think they protect children that way and prevent people from falsely accusing others from child (or sex) related crimes (and making money on those videos). Which is nonsense since people simply learn to use other words to get the point across if that's what they wanna do. So basically YT is going overboard with the rules for nothing.
Standing ovation for the school board, who ACTUALLY LISTENED!! And TOOK ACTION!! Too often these things are ignored, but these lovely people did the right thing! I wouldn't feel guilty at all, that is some miracle shit right there! 👏👏👏
The last woman had gastric bypass surgery and wouldn't admit it. That's why she could only eat tiny portions of her meal, and yet was constantly hungry. If only she could have been honest, this trip might have gone better for the both of them. As soon as she started describing her eating habits, I knew exactly what she had done. It's actually kind of sad such a silly reason to end a friendship. 🤷🏾♀️
Yes as soon as she described her friend weight loss and eating habits I knew what her issue was and they have no choice but to eat small amounts, they will get sick if she ate to much as well I bet
The woman telling the story was extremely annoying. Why can't people nowadays just tell a story without a bunch of "whatevers", "likes", repeating everything etc. I just get physically sick when I have to listen to somebody like that.
@@crysb8051 Yeah, my mom had a Gastic Bypass and if she eats too much or too fast she'll throw it right back up... her pouch (it's not really a stomach anymore) is very sensitive and sometimes she'll take a couple bites of something and go... nope... pouch not happy. But it was worth it to not lose her eyesight to diabetic retinopathy
Yep- Bypass girlie here. It hurt my heart hearing the way she was talking about her- she was the villain and no wonder her friend didn't want to tell her with as judgemental as she is.
My mom always used to say the best way to find out what “your friend” is, is to either live with them or go on a vacation with them. It can make or break a friendship. I’ve seen it and experienced it
Your Mom must be related to my Grandmother. Hey there, Cousin! P.s. Also, loan a "friend" a substantial amount of money....that's a surefire way to see where people REALLY stand! I know of what I speak!😅
Except it doesn't work. You can go and have a great holiday. And then two years later one of you gets an autism diagnosis and THAT breaks everything. I thought we were doing great, we'd know eachother over 5 years at that point.
@@SonjaElizabethTeal I have a hard and fast rule. I never, ever loan a friend or family member money. Never. Not for a cup of coffee, not for a tank of gas nor for back rent. You will most likely never get it back. And when you ask for it you look like the b*tch. It usually ruins the relationship. I tell people to never ask me because I will always say no. No exceptions. Period. Nobody asks. Keep your friendships stable. Don't introduce chaos.
@@sunflowerbaby1853 I'm going to follow your lead on that one! I had a situation where I lent money to get a friend out of jail (traffic tickets)... not only did it take them three years to start to pay back 1,200... they only paid half of the money and when I saw they were not going to make any effort to pay the balance I mentioned it which in turn I was told..."You don't need it. You don't have children, I do!" This from the mouth of a "friend".... At that point I dusted off my hands of that "friendship" and chalked it up to being a very expensive lesson.
I know, right? The guy who mugged my father over 10 years ago got 3 years probation. I am not even starting to think, I know you can plan around the ways to break the law and pretty much don’t meet justice. And the husband from the story participated in hurting 10 different children. I can’t even imagine how hard was that for parents or caretakers - knowing you did everything you could but it still wasn’t enough.
This woman married and stayed with this man. A REGISTERED CHILD S×$ OFFERED!!! And she has the nerve to work in a school district for special needs kids who can't fight or use their words against people like that monster she married to!? GTFO, how the hell she have on the biggest rose tinted glass eyes with the darkest tint of a car window, Crack she smoking to stay and hide this?! You can't hide shet like this forever. And to work with kids? Lady, your husband abused kids! 10 different cases! Guilty sp he doesn't go to prison where he will die (should have gone anyways) just to stay in society as a monster. What if she needs to be picked up by this man from school? What's stopping him from going after those kids you talk about teaching? What's stopping him from getting you knocked up and touching his online kids? Not you apparently! Good job destroying her teaching career with small children, and no this isn't petty, this is pro revenge.
This is the first and only comment I have ever posted so you know it's important. The friend who went to Paris; all her behaviours are indicative of someone struggling with an eating disorder, I can say from experience that the disease completely takes over your life and makes your brain work differently. Ive have friends give up on me because they didn't understand what was happening and I wish that people could think twice before assuming others reasons. If she had stopped for a second and thought 'could there be something else going on here' she might have ended up providing a well needed support. Care and compassion means a lot in the world of mental health ❤
The story with disgusting husband and she works at school. It wasn’t petty at all. It was THE RIGHT THING TO DO!!! As a mother with a handicapped son, the world is not safe. Thank God she notified the school. Honestly, if she is ok with her husband … I would be wondering about her too.
By experience those kind of men... are good people over... THAT huge issue, so she was probably hoping. Unfortunately most dont srop with age if they have a way tp keep going... like an easy access to mon verbal kids
And the fact that some of the kids were non verbal... imagine if something happened to a non verbal special needs kid. I just know he would show up at the school to drop off lunch for her or whatever excuse he could find to be around the kids...
I had a friend who practically felt like a sister to me. Back in 2020 We got into an argument over text about how she never sees me anymore, accused me of being a bad friend because I was basically living with my boyfriend. She even blasted me publicly on her Facebook, without directly naming me. The kicker to this whole thing was it was covid lockdown here in the UK at the time, I was living with my boyfriend because my mum was considered high risk and she told me I couldn't come home, the day I was going to return home. Because of this I was part of my boyfriends family 'bubble' and at the time you could not see people outside of your bubble due to social distancing. And this so called friend was breaking covid rules, going out into London for onlyfan shoots. To summarize, this girl accused me of being a terrible friend because I followed Covid rules and would not break them just to see her 😅
Friendship and relationship breakups are extremely taxing and heartbreaking. I had both happen a year apart. Needless to say it took me 3-4 years to recover completely and move on. I still think about it but it does not affect me like those few years did. Thank you for this video
As an assistant in an Ed support school I had to report the bullying of non verbal students by 3 staff. After a year long investigation it was a case of my word against theirs, except for 1 incident a visiting teacher witnessed it. I got bullied out of the school and it took me 10 years to recover. But I’d do it again just to keep the students safe.
I personally want to thank you very much! I would love for you to look out for my daughter!💙💛 Sadly you can't trust everyone to have your children's back
Similar thing happened to my brother. He was one of the newest teachers hired at a school for children on the autism spectrum and that place turned out to be horrible. Everything started out great for the first year, then most of the staff started showing their true colors and being awful to the kids. My brother had a meeting with the head of the school and made a report of what all he witnessed. They told him it would be taken care of but when my brother asked for a follow up, they told him "after a thorough investigation, no major violations have been found and the matter is closed" which was complete BS. Then the harassment and bullying towards him started. It got so bad he was ready to quit. Instead, he and some of the good teachers told the parents to check in on their children more often at the school without notice. A group of them took him seriously and did just that. Next thing you know, those parents reported to the police for the entire school to be investigated and has since been shut down.
As a victim of csa I couldn’t tell anyone, I didn’t have the strength because he was close to my immediate family. He threatened me and told me no one would believe me. The FACT that you raised your voice, it makes me tear up. When I finally told mine it was a couple of years ago when I was 23 and while my immediate family believed me and you are told there are people that may not believe you-you’re never prepared for people you’ve known your whole life say such egregious things about yourself. Those that did believe started bringing up all these different issues he’s had. It is sad to me that no one looked before letting him around children. I know I’ll be a hawk and terrified to even have children because of what happened. However, educators like yourself make me hopeful.
I was such a people pleaser for so long that people just expected that behaviour of me. When I became disabled and was no longer physically able to do normal hangout stuff or mentally capable to shoulder the responsibility of other people's mental health it really kinda forced me to learn how to say 'No'. This is how more than one friendship of mine ended, which is sad but I'm glad that I learned this skill.
I am so sorry to hear about your struggles. I have a chronic illness that has limited my social life. It's hard to make/keep friends under the circumstances.
My "best friend" ghosted me when i got engaged to my fiancée. She doesn't like him. One door closed, and many more opened. I still miss her, but she was toxic. She told me I was having a miscarriage because i went to my ultrasound, and it was too early to see anything. Love you, Charlotte!!! 🥰
@marije8562 i have a healthy baby and a great life now! I have a new friend that sticks by my side when things get rough. She isnt toxic at all, she pushes me to be better, she is my hype girl. I love her. 🥰
Seems to me that she didn't like that he was a positive impact in your life and wanted you to be broken so she could feel butter about herself and available for her bs 24/7.
FYI - In reference to the woman who went with a friend to Paris… People who have weight loss surgery are usually strongly encouraged by their doctors to eat less more frequently and by ‘less’ I mean only a portion the equivalent size of a tablespoon to a 1/4 cup of food each sitting. The person who has this procedure done is ALWAYS hungry and lives in a constant struggle with this restriction. It is very, very hard. Just putting this out there.
@youmakemehappy7 eventually, the brain & hormones (ghrelin, I think) recalibrate to the new stomach size (or restricted size if using a band) and so the hunger cues calm down. Over time, the stomach shrinks because it's not getting filled with so much food. But it's not a quick change, same as trying to lose weight & control your eating without surgery.
@@yolosotoph1152Gastric bypass. Doesn't that mean that the stomach is cut and the food goes directly ibto the intestants? I mean nothing shrinks, it is literally shrunk by the surgery?
@@sofiajohansson8537 that's true, that is the procedure for gastric bypass. Those ghrelin levels are still higher than the new tiny stomach can handle. The come down faster, but it's still an adjustment period.
My mother in law had gastric bypass before I met her. I think it was probably about 15 years ago or more. She always wants to go to different restaurants and then can hardly eat anything, or she can't digest it, or something happens where she up chucks it. I don't make an issue of it. My issue is that she always talks about how she can't digest certain types of food, particularly meats, and how it'll make her up. She tells servers as much when ordering food. That's my issue. Now, I don't get grossed out by things being talked about while I am eating. But it's just not proper etiquette to talk about such things when eating with others.
my little sister jumped in front of me when a huge dog ran towards me. I yelled at her afterwards because as a big sister it's my job to protect her, not the other way around. but I'm not going to lie, I'm so proud of how kind, brave and protective she is.
I’ve been blessed to have my best friend for 53 years and counting. While we had a few arguments when we were younger and a couple of major knock down, drag out fights, we’ve remained friends. My mom would always make me call and apologize (even if I wasn’t in the wrong 😉) because I’d be so lost and miserable without my friend. She moved to a different state quite a few years ago, but whenever we talk or text, the miles melt away. Love my bestie, Cheryl! 🤗❤️
I've had a friend a friend for 53 years too. Amazing. We're forbidden to see each other several times. But we stayed friends, shared our first apartment. She was a nun for a while, quit that and married a monk. She's in another state now too.
50 years ago when I was a Girl Scout, we used to sing "The Friendship Song": "Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold. A circle is round, it has no end. That’s how long, I will be your friend. A fire burns bright, it warms the heart. We’ve been friends, from the very start. You have one hand, I have the other. Put them together, we have each other."
You know someone is more than a surface level friend when you can survive frustration and anger with each other with no resentment. I've had friends for years where we supported each other through issues with other people or other external problems, but as soon as we had an argument where we were on opposing sides, we couldn't come out of it. Those weren't true friendships. I'm so glad you have a really real friend!
Some people just are not your friend. True friends are rare and we need to care them like a treasure. I know my best friend for 20 years now and she's like a sister to me. A friend like that is really precious.
My husband and I went to Holland with our "couple friends". Every single morning we had to knock on their hotel door again and again over the course of 3 hours or more, just to get them out so we could go enjoy the "coffee". It made what should have been a really chilled out holiday into a frustrating week of hanging around every day for them. And we didn't get up super early or anything. We'd knock on their door starting around 10am and if we were lucky we might leave the hotel around 12/1pm or later! Wasted so much time that we never went with them again. We're still friends but we wouldn't go on holiday with them again after that!
I had a forced friend breakup when my parents found out she was taking advantage of my imagination and planting weird almost cult like bullshit into my head. I wish I was exaggerating. She made me believe for a whole day that my parents were actually spirit beings and I mentioned this to them. They were PISSED as they are a pair of hippies that narrowly avoided joining a cult and knew the red flags, and forbade me from ever seeing her again, or at least for an extended period as they explained cult conditioning to an 8 year old. I was allowed to see her again once I could show I had a solid grasp of reality. But the close bond I had felt we had formed would never be as strong again, and that was for the better.
Dang this brought back memories of my messed up childhood. I’m sorry you went through that. And it was good of your parents to separate. This Sounds like something I once did to a very good friend when I was a child. I had an active imagination and had terrible things happen to me as a kid, so I used my imagination and play time as maybe self therapy and would reenact how the bad thing felt with the dolls we played with.. I made the bad thing a demon in my play.. it really harmed my friendship as she got terrified of the things I told them about demons visiting me… I honestly had no clue it terrified her. Her parents told me we couldn’t play anymore because I gave her nightmares from our play dates. I had no idea she was so scared of the things that I said and did.. I thought it was normal. I apologized profusely to her parents and to her. And I understood I was the bad friend. It was nothing about cults though.. just demons and bad men and spirits and imaginary friends that I thought were very real at the time. It broke out very strong friendship. I’ve never had a strong friendship after this even with a toxic friend that recently broke off our friendship recently… But I do hope she is doing better and has forgotten about my messed up brain…
Okay Charlotte, here's a best friend story for you. I'd been friends with this girl practically since we were in kindergarten. We occasionally got into petty fights but it was always something that we could later talk through and get over. After high school we didn't hang out as much but we still talked all the time. Skipping forward a little bit, a ball python I adopted suddenly passed away after I had him for about a year. About a week later my other friends decided to pitch in to get me another snake for my birthday. (Had her 5 years and she's doing amazing btw) I mentioned it to my ex-best friend that I had another snake and she replied with "is it going to survive long enough for me to meet it this time?" I have yet to forgive her for that comment even after she apologized.
For the ex-friend married to the offender, what OP did was not petty, it was the right thing to do, I also wouldn't feel safe having special needs kids, especially non-verbal ones, being taught by someone who is married to someone like that with no intention of leaving them.
Agreed! I find it really alarming that the ex-friend tried to hide it from the OP. Makes you wonder if she was hiding it because she knew the OP would kick off, or whether something worse was going on, considering that OP was the parent of one of those non-verbal disabled children she was caring for... Women like the ex-friend are enablers. If she's prepared to lie for him, what else if she prepared to do for him? Procure victims? (shudder) And if the SO's punishment was 5 years probation and he still had his wife and family, that is not a deterrent... I imagine they'll both be back in court in a few years, on worse charges. OP absolutely did the right thing by protecting her child and their classmates from a predator's assistant like that. If the ex-friend has kids, I hope someone is keeping a close eye on them...
There’s a small percentage of women who are also p*dos, maybe she’s one of them and that’s the reason why she stays. I’d rather die alone than be with someone disgusting like that, I won’t even try to understand her bcs it’s so unreasonable
It's just crazy to me, a women who used to work with me started dating a guy who also worked with us who was being investigated for CA she had a 10 year old at the time. He later had undercover police come in to arrest him on CP chargers , work couldn't fire him but when no1 would talk to him anymore he had to be let go, he's now in prison on a 21 year sentence.
Had a friendship of over 12 years, helped move her from New Jersey to Florida and despite the fact she had promised to pay for my flight back home she refused to pay the full amount and ended up saying horrible things about myself and my family on Facebook. I immediately blocked her on everything and a week later she had sent me a letter with an apology note and a check for the full amount along with a CD of my favorite band. I cashed that check immediately, gave my brother the CD, and threw away that letter as soon as I finished reading it. You don't say those things about my family and expect to stay in my life. 🖕
Not making excuses. Did she say why she did what she did? My sister had a psychotic breakdown due to having to move to escape her abusive ex. She really went off the cliff. She was subsequently diagnosed as bi-poplar and her son as autistic. Both are doing well now, but definitely burned many relationships during that train wreak / dumpster fire phase.
The Paris lady was resentful BEFORE she went to Paris. That was what was going on with her gut! Was perfectly happy to go along with what her friend offered re parties and stuff.
@@MB-uy5khI don't think that she was feeling this way to be honest. We had exchanged a couple messages before I had asked for the money and she was perfectly fine. It was only when I did ask was there an issue. Throughout the whole time we were driving down to Florida she was saying how excited she was that she lived within a mile of a mall and she couldn't wait to buy a whole bunch of new furniture for her new house so I truly could not understand why she couldn't work up a couple more dollars to pay for my ticket back. Mind you this is also the same girl that once told me that she spends $200 before noon everyday so . . . By the way, I hope your sister continues to do well with her condition.
One of my "best friends" for 10 years was going through a divorce. She messed her kids up and my husband (who's been her friend for 20 years) and I, did all we could to help her. My husband was hitting rock bottom with stress at the same time. Turns out she did EVERYTHING she could to seduce him, telling him I was the reason he was miserable. A week before I found out, she was in my house telling me how much she loved me, I was her closest friend. So not only was she destroying her own marriage, but tried to destroy mine as well. And when my husband didn't fall for her bullshit, she spread rumors that I was destroying her life. Yeah that friendship was over and done.
@@6_checkmate_9um.. how? CPS taking children away is a serious thing. Not excusing any of the mother's behaviors, but what does that have to do with her children & CPS taking them away from her? Maybe I'm just missing something in the story, so I'm curious what your thoughts are on it. 😊
The woman around 13 minutes in who exposed her friend who wad going to be a teacher. Kudos to her because protecting children is always the responsibility of all of us. I know it probably cost her a friendship but I am certain that by the time she found out about the friend man and what he did that friendship was over anyway.
As the mother of a non-verbal (though she’s making strides in her communication skills🎉) elementary school kiddo - I 109% commend her for what she did. One of my worst fears is something will happen to my kiddo and they won’t be able to tell me
One of my best friends was in a toxic af home situation, was basically a cross between Rapunzel and Cinderella, never got out of the house because she was basically her family’s live-in slave and her family was basically in a cult. The second I found out her situation I remotely planned an extraction heist with our friend group and we got her the heck out of there many states away without detection just before the airports closed at the start of COVID. She was a grown adult and kept prisoner in her own home to raise her siblings for her narc mother! Anyway, spent hundreds of dollars to help get her situated and even helped her and her now-husband get together. Now she won’t even speak to me and has even accused me of some awful things. That hurt because I literally put my safety on the line to help her escape. We were besties and tbh 3 years later it still hurts so much. 😢😢😢
Its infortune but she is probably gone be like her mother. What matter you must know that you helped in saving a soul from abusive situations and you are great person for that. I constantly stand up for women with abusive husbands even though they spared rumors' about me to please their husbands. I still stand up when the situation seems to be serious and I am proud of myself for that. They don't hate me, I hate them, but I would never see abuse in front of me and be quite about it. You are an awesome human being, who did a very noble act. Know that you did this because you are kind and not because of her. Please don't let this ungrateful entitle scum of human make you feel bad. These people actions are delusional beyond imagination so please block all the ways that you could hear from her or her situation, because she only gone disturb your peace. Sending you love.
This is so much bigger than her friend, not wanting to leave her demented husband. From an outside perspective she wasn’t being petty. She did the right thing to protect the children.
As someone who has had gastric sleeve surgery ( they turned my stomach in to the shape of a small banana, I didn't want the surgery but, because of health issues that make most exercises extremely painful or impossible I had it done ) the reason the woman's friend probably didn't tell people she had the surgery, was because of that reaction she had to it in the first place just judging her for doing it, it is also why at first when I was doing all the things before my surgery ( there is a lot of prep work you have to do beforehand ) I didn't want to really tell anyone yet because I didn't know if I would want to ( I had my choice taken away from me by a very loud mouthed family member that I now know to never tell anything to but that is a different story ) because people always judge you either 1. thinking your lazy when in reality getting the surgery is THE HARD WAY TO LOSE WEIGHT, if I was still able I would be working out instead and be back to being as muscular and active as I used to be. 2. They judge and pick at you about everything you eat and how you eat just like she was in the video when in reality normal sized portions ( depending on how long it has been from your surgery ) are way too big now to eat the entire portion, I will put it this way, after surgery for a few weeks you are eating next to nothing, in the hospital after they gave me the juice form of Boost and I could barely have a few sips and that was it. You don't really have normal food until at least a month after, and by then you can maybe eat the equivalent of 1 boiled egg, and then up to 2 and a half as close to the new normal portion size, you also can't drink anything for 30 minutes before or after eating ( most people can never drink anything carbonated again since now it will move too fast in to your intestines and cause moderate to severe pain ) drinking liquids during a meal will make you gain weight from making food go into your intestines too fast. You also can no longer 'gulp' liquids, you can only take small sips or risk being in pain/suffering from dumping syndrome from your stomach filling up way too fast. 3. The minute you put on even a little weight after ( and everyone does, everyone will settle in to a size after the initial weight loss and some also end up gaining the weight back ) they are judging you and ridiculing you for getting the surgery in the first place, you find out very fast who your real friends and family are. TD;LR people who had weight loss surgery have small stomachs and can't eat normal portion sizes and people need to stop judging people who get the surgery they are just trying to get healthier, worry about yourself. All the rest of it being late is rude though. Edit: I forgot to add that I do not blame the friend whatsoever for blocking her, I probably would have done the same thing but, I would have left a lengthy ass rant because I can imagine even though the friend was being rude for being late, she was probably being much worse, hence why she blocked her.
I felt pretty annoyed at that woman for being annoyed at her friend for not eating. I mean.... That's her journey, and she should just be happy that her friend was making good changes for her health. After hearing how people judge those who takes the weight-loss shots, I totally understand those who wont tell others about that or surgery. It's none of their business anyway, and if they cant be happy for their friends/family/cooworkers/neighbours/strangers, then they can shut the fuck up. I actually wrote a full 4 pages "article" once about this to just to get it out of my head, because it's so emotionally draining that even thinking about my own weight-loss journey makes me cry. And I have a wonderful sypport-system. Especially my mom who knows all about my eating disorders, all the diets I've tried, my round with the psychologist and nutritionist, and that helped about zilch. (Counting calories once proved I gained weight at 1600kcal. And yes. I counted EVERYTHING. Including the oil I brushed on the veggies I grilled and the butter I cooked the fish in.) The only thing that's given me any kind of results is mysimba, and I will fight anyone who would dare to say that is "the easy way out".
Is it normal though that the 'annoying' friend was hungry and wanted to go to a restaurant every two hours? I'd think maybe it would have helped if she had been open and honest about the surgery (it's not clear if she even had one) so her friend could have been able to understand her odd behavior. It's definitely unusual for someone to want to go out to eat every two hours.
@@333-u9owhy is it anyone elses business though? It's no ones business if she had surgery or not, the big issue here is that this woman who doesnt look small herself (pay attention to her face) is shaming someone for doing their damned best to be healthy and yes, when you have gastric surgery you are told to eat regularly and in small, manageable portions (I'm in the process of getting gastric surgery myself as I have hypothyroidism and hypoprolactinemia and a pituitary tumour which means I cant lose weight on my own)
i thought this too, but if you know you can't eat a lot then bring small snacks so you aren't wasting food (AND MONEY) going to restaurants when you know you can't eat everything on your plate 🤷
The food thing too can become a coping mechanism. Where because she can’t eat, she develops a complex a living through others. It’s very common with bariatric surgery and something you are warned about. Both of these friends could’ve just had a simple sit down and explain their feelings to each other.
Post gastric bypass surgery patient here… we do get hungry a lot but I’ll get something early in the day then nibble on it throughout the day. FYI… when you get that surgery… they take 85% of your stomach which officially is equivalent to an egg 🥚 and heaven forbid she had liquid with it too… that makes you full quicker. Not taking her side she was absolutely wrong but just giving info for those who don’t know
My mom's good friend of around 40 years recently ended. We did a lot of things together. We were there for her during her 2 divorces; we went on several vacations together, one even to Jamaica; my son calls her ”aunt"; she was there for me when my husband died; and we have spent countless of holidays together. Last year, we stayed with her at her vacation rental in Orlando. Things seemed off. We included her in our activities, but she was too embarrassed to have my mom tag along in her walker with her activity to bingo. It was hurtful, but I let it slide until a few months back. We had made plans to go to lunch for my mom's birthday. She called my mom the day before to cancel. Her other friend asked her to go to Costco. The friend canceled birthday lunch to go grocery shopping! I looked up to her as an "aunt" myself, but I can't bring myself to talk to her ever again. I even baby sat her kids as a teenager. I am hurt, but hurts me more the way she treated my mom.
😢😢❤ I am so sorry for your mum and you guys 😢 especially since you've pretty much grown up around this shallow bish 😢 she sounds cruel. she's not worth any more of your or your precious mamas energy ❤
The CP case, she absolutely did the right thing because she knows he’s into it so she could be taking these children to the bathroom with her phone and take pics and video for him. She’s now kinda his accomplice
So true. I listen to a lot of true crime and there are several cases where the woman will help their partner because that's his preference, and she wants to satisfy him. Very creepy
Sadly there are way too many stories about mothers moving in their drug addict predator boyfriend and letting them harm their children, so someone of that mentality would likely care even less about children who aren't theirs
Here’s my 20-year friendship-ending story: Three years ago this week I had a gynecological procedure at the hospital that did not go well and I bled out. In fact, I almost needed a blood transfusion. It was extremely traumatic (I ended up with PTSD). I texted my close friend the next day to tell her I had been in the ER after the procedure. She TEXTED me back but never called. During this time, I couldn't even get out of bed due to blood loss. I called her and asked her to call me, and she still never called. I called her maybe three times. Finally she called me and was talking as though nothing happened. When I asked her in a weak voice why she didn't call me she got angry, told me she didn't have time for my BS, and hung up. Radio silence for THREE WEEKS! I called her to talk and she wanted to end our 20-year friendship because she didn't like my so-called ‘tone.’ In reality, it was my weak voice from blood loss. To this day, she has no idea what happened. I needed therapy to deal with everything because it is part of my trauma from the incident now. Good riddance, biatch! Who needs a friend with zero empathy?
this is so messed up i swear, i hope you are doing better focus on your health and eat good meals please, and when the pain comes don't ignore it it's okay if you feel sad at a random time of the day just let it in and out and remember to nurture your inner child because twenty years is one hell of a period and you need to grief it properly
ThiS FRiend who has Zero empathy hve dealt with a lot of bs from u throughout 22 years. At some point she has has enuf and let u go. It is more like a cry wolf situation u basically haven't been honest with her ans she caught up on that and when u finally got in a shit situation she did not believe u. Who needs a cry wolf attention seeking manifesting in help me help me be there for me friend? Even though u think u were there for her, most likely she was the one who used to drop things Nd be there for u. When u really needed u she was done with u😂 ur loss and fault
@@HoneyQuint only bad people can conclude to thinking the way you are doing right now, you really read her comment and her distress and trauma and wrote this stupid full of grammar mistakes comment and sat back like you just scored an amazing achievement ? talking about empathy when you really aren't showing any ? go and reassess yourself and your brain cause only someone with a brain damage can comment what you just did
Had a friend of 15 years absolutely eviscerate me verbally/emotionally the same day I found out my kitten has to be out down and had been dealing with seeing him insanely sick for weeks. Really messed me up bad, not as severe as your situation in terms of the original trauma event, but I can relate. They said every horrible thing they could think of, after I told them the cat had died. I'm sorry you had to go through that, better off and I hope you're healing from the trauma and the loss
Ended a couple friendships because I told a friend's husband about her cheating and the terrible things she'd say about his children, her family, every other woman we knew behind their backs. She went out of her way to tell people I was crazy and a liar. Luckily for me, people know I'm not a liar and I keep receipts.
I had a really good friend that lived around the corner from me a few years back. We hung out everyday. Her kids and my oldest got on the same bus across the street from her house. We would hang out and have coffee after they left for school, and talk for hours. I would even buy creamer and leave it at her house just because she was always sharing coffee with me. I would bring smoothie stuff over and make smoothies. I would help her with her dishes and cleaning her kitchen. I house sat her house one week when her family left for vacation one summer. We talked about everything. Also, she used to talk about her husband, who I never got any red flags from, and hoe he is emotionally abusive and financially abusive. She started cheating on him, and she started acting weird towards me. I noticed strsnge behaviour from her on her fb and took screenshoots of everything. She eventually blocked me on fb and instagram and just flat out stopped talking to me. Her husband actually came to me for advice and just to confide in someone close to her to try to understand why she did what she did. I was totally shocked by her actions. I showed him the screenshots because she had blockedmhim leading up to her actually cheating. Still haven't talked since then. We were practically like sisters. It hurt a lot. I think she knew I wouldn't condone her cheating behavior, unlike her trashy cousin and friend who came up from Florida to visit and only talked shit about her husband when they were all together.
I once had a friend named John who sounds like the African lady's "friend." Always late, never had his wallet, or money, yet never finished his food when I did pay for it. The thing was, I was never out a lot of money, or massively inconvenienced by his lateness - though I don't recall him ever being an hour late. The other thing was, he was so personable, so gregarious, that everyone, including me, loved John. We did have a blow-out over him ordering food, me paying for it, and him not eating it, or even taking it home. John and I still remained friends, however. Eventually, he met some guy and they moved in together. While John was the sweetest guy, his boyfriend was a narcissistic, controlling, A-hole. When a friend and I discovered that his boyfriend was physically abusing him, that friend and I paid a visit to the boyfriend when John wasn't around. Now my friend who went with me had been in martial arts since he'd been in the Navy, which was 10 years before I was (for both the Navy and martial arts), and I was currently studying martial arts. We were close friends, shipmates, and we made a formidable team. I don't remember what we told the boyfriend, but it boiled down to a threat of a beat-down, as well as my friend threatening to throw him out a window, and not the 1st floor, either. The funny thing about my friend was that he was vocally anti-gay. However, he loved John, and he was the kind to stand by a friend; the kind of friend all of us hope to have. John and his boyfriend broke up after that, but reports from mutual friends said that as far as anyone could tell, the guy never laid a hand on John after our "pep" talk. We all drifted apart after that, but I still wonder how John is, if in fact, he's still with us (I have my doubts).
My best friend took my job. I worked as a vet tech/kennel manager at a animal hospital/shelter. I absolutely LOVED my job. My best friend would come and hang out with me when I had to stay evenings with very sick animals that we were afraid to leave alone so she learned a lot about my job. Well, my disabled son went into a coma and I had to practically live at the hospital with him. My "best friend" not only was she stealing vet meds while she hung with me (Yes, dogs take many meds we humans take and they are the same ones human get addicted to) but convinced the staff while I was gone it was me stealing them while stealing my job because she had experience from hanging with me. Only time I took pills from the clinic was antibiotics when a cat bit me and it got infected. When my son came out of his coma and done with his dialysis because he got his new kidney, I no longer had a job. That's okay, they'll figure it out when I am no longer there and their drugs will still come up missing. Apparently we weren't as close as I thought we was because I never knew she had a problem with pills. It hurt so bad along with made me so angry all in one.
OMG I'm so sorry you went through that. You were already going through such a stressful time and she just made it harder! So glad your son got a transplant and I hope he's doing well now. Do you know what ever came about with her job at the clinic?
I think I can explain about the Paris trip girl that would always be hungry but never eat. The OP mentioned her sudden weight loss and certain behaviors that make me think she had a Gastric banding surgery. It's where they basically limit your stomach capacity, so you can only hold a very tiny amount of food. As a previously much bigger person, the eating habbits remain, so one is constantly hungry, while unable to eat. This also leads to very low energy levels, constant oversleeping and often anemia. It's really quite hellish, I had a friend suffer through that. That girl was probably ashamed to admit it so she hid it and it came across as having a bad attitude. She might have also just had a bad attitude on top of it 😅, but I just wanted to bring some awareness to this, it's a tough process to go through, especially in secret and often comes across as a weird and confusing behavior.
The lady who got her friend fired, is absolutely justified! If what was happening in her personal life wasn’t severe enough to make people question her ability to work with children, she wouldn’t of gotten fired
I had a work friend for many years. I looked after her cats, even gave her one of her cats that I had rescued off the freeway. I found out she had never had a birthday party. I planned a big party, and her other friends all showed , cooked food, got cake and gifts... I thought it went well. Afterwards someone in her new group decided that 'something was wrong with me spiritually' and thought our friendship had run its course. But before telling me, they all wanted my recipe for spinach risotto casserole, which I supplied in email. Then the leader of that group started picking my recipe apart (they all loved it) but she kept making suggestions for different ingredients. I said, that sounds good too. Finally, they wanted to know what was wrong with me...I had been really cold at the party, they decided I wason drugs. Finally I just gave a BS statement...some people are friends for a reason, some for a season, blah blah. I lost no sleep over it, they were just weirdos.
that child offender story really hit a nerve, an ex of mine after about a year or being split i find out from his then current girlfriend about what he had done, girl to stay with him after that you gotta have something loose in the head i wanted to bleach my entire body, id scrub mysefl clean that hard in the shower id turned into a living cooked lobster (hella creamed up after), and it was one (from my knowledge) how could you stay with him after you found out he had dont that 10 TIMES seriously she deserved more than what she got, good on the op for sticking up for those unable to *round of applause* , as awful as these stories are some times, Charlotte you make them entertaining with your reactions and honesty, your brilliant *happy/ish brit*
That first girls story about being taken advantage of by someone she thought was her best friend… felt that… I had a best friend for over 10 years, we did everything together… I always let her borrow my clothes and bought her shoes to go out bc she refused to meet dress codes, I got her in for free at every club and bar, bc I told the bouncers if I went in she had to come in, I left a Steve Aoki concert in AC bc my guy friends didn’t want her there, and said I could stay but she had to go, so I left and drove over an hour to seaside and got her into another club… anywhere we went I got her free drinks, like I was always thinking and looking out for her… I had my daughter, and was completely alone during my pregnancy… but then she got pregnant, and popped back into my life bc the guy she was with left, the reason she vanished from my life when I needed her most… then my fiancé passed in 2016, and she treated me like absolute dog crap. Before he passed, he would always tell me she was taking advantage of me, alone with my other friends, and my mom, but I never listened, I always defended her… but how she absolutely not only abandoned me when he passed, but treated me like crap and talked shit about me and him, that was it for me. I even tried to give her another chance after, I did her hair, and offered to drive her for a girls night out, and she tried to bail… I ended up talking to her sister, and she told me some of the most hurtful things she said about me, most not even true… so it took that for me to be done. Moral of the story? Sometimes the people around you know best, and see things you can’t see bc you are blinded by thinking someone is your friend, and the horrible way they treat you is “just how they are”. Listen to your loved ones when they warn you…
@@gregorysmitham7961 Well yeah. It's not like she was saying "I have nothing to say" and then said it, it's "I have to get this off my chest because it's about to explode" because that happens a lot. At least with me. The kettle just keeps reboiling again and again.
Ive lost a ton of friends lately. After years of people pleasing i woke up and saw how so many of my friendships were based on me doing all the support and recieving nothing in return. I'd rather be alone than surrounded by people who take advantage and don't cheer me on. It sucks when you realise you're loved for what you do for someone and not who you are.
A good amount of the time, it’s due to rejection in early childhood, so as a result we want to surround ourselves with people *no matter the cost* because we’re terrified (deep down) of the possibility of being alone. Except thing is, there’s a big difference between being alone and being lonely, and being alone and happy far outweighs being surrounded by people and feeling so lonely. Anyone who’s a people pleaser knows what I’m talking about- and you don’t discover it until you find your spine for one reason or another, and suddenly, you’re just not a PP anymore:)
The effort Charlotte's editor has to go through her various different expressions to copy-paste onto so many faces within and between different stock images. Kudos. 👏
right they're so hilarious, the one w the pilates dancer in white workout pants holding her legs in the air + charlotte's face on mark zuckerberg's face had me cackling in this episode
When it comes to SA or CP there is no level of petty too high, too wide, or too far. This is a lifelong endeavor to stop these people who are no longer human.
This nugget OR These nuggets Not this nuggets! Kids today have the grammatically and snytax of a pre-schooler, we're a doomed society surrounded by nitwits
Over time, all the friend groups shifting, burning bridges, and breaking away really takes a toll. It feels like something between a Housewives series and a Dystopian drama.
I had a friendship breakup with someone I knew for 10 years because her partner tried to kill me. We were the soulmate kind of friends like the OP was talking about, like people questioned if we were dating because we were just so in love with each other as friends and inseparable. Unfortunately, she chose a partner who would end up trying to kill me one night after he knocked her unconscious. She didn't believe me when I told her the next morning. He had gotten to her first to explain it away. And him hurting her wasn't enough to convince her that he was too dangerous to be around. At first, I just distanced myself, but then we wrote each other letters and essentially told each other that as much as we loved each other, we wouldn't be able to mend this rift. There were other toxic traits, of course, that wasn't the first sign of our friendship being rocked, but it was the final straw. Trust had been broken, and it wasn't the kind that could be fixed.
I had to divorce my best friend of 14 years. I helped raise her son from birth. I'm still close with her grown daughter, and through her, my Godson. It was really hard, but necessary. She went really toxic, and just wanted to use everyone. Our third mutual fried also cut her off. You've got to draw the line for your own sake sometimes. Even if they are like family.
The 2nd one triggered a memory. When I was first dating my future ex-wife, living in Sydney, we encountered a Funnel Web spider (highly poisonous and aggressive Australian spider) in the patio area of my house and I went out with a broom to encourage it to leave. I was brushing at it to move it along, which it did NOT appreciate and my then my gf pushed me towards this now angry venemous beast as she ran back into the house for no reason. I should have seen this as a clear sign that she didn't genuinely care for me and dumped her immediately. So never ignore red flags!!!
Every other day, twice a week, whatever works for you, honestly. I really felt happy to hear you say there's been an improvement in your mental and physical health. I'll still watch whenever your videos are available. Make the most of your free time, you deserve it!
The CP story: it wasn't petty. It was right. In the state I live in that would mean an immediate termination in a teaching or childcare job. You are required to report those situations.
My best friend from the age of like 2 broke up with me over a hug. It wasn't until years later that I found out her crazy ass thought I was banging her boyfriend. That was when I realized how banana-pants she was. I'm sorry you're still hurting 🪷🪷 stay strong
@@yootubetrollpatrolwtf? I highly doubt that's it. She is probably struggling with some mental health issues. I have gone for long periods of time where I don't talk to people due to my anxiety and OCD.
That lady had an absolute moral duty to ensure that former friend would not be around children, specially non-verbal kids. Child abuse takes a heavy toll on a person's life. He should have got jail.
Yes! I really love Charlotte's originality and personality, she isn't copying others, she's got her own style. It seems almost impossible for most female content creators to speak on camera without also putting on makeup (or just smearing stuff on their face unnecessarily because they already had full makeup on before they started). I don't get why so many do that. There are thousands of women who do that in their videos, so it's extremely unoriginal. Be yourself! Everyone else is already taken! Just something that's become a pet peeve of mine, I guess. I make an exception when it comes to Bailey Sarian, though, because she's a professional makeup artist who starts bare-faced and shows every step to the finished look, and I've learned some techniques from her. Mostly she gets a pass because I love Bailey's unique, funny personality, she doesn't do makeup in every video, and her stories are fascinating. Her Murder Makeup Mondays are always entertaining.
My worst friendship breakup was with a really close friend of mine in high school who told me that me having a seizure was a "convenient" way to explain my behavior at a school dance. Basically I wandered off the dance floor away from my date because I was having what's called a complex partial seizure. I like to call them "Jesus take the wheel seizures" because I essentially stumbled around like a zombie for several minutes because I was no longer in control of my body. My friends were mad at me for ditching my date, but backed off once I figured out it was a seizure. Ex-friend didn't. She doubled down in her efforts to get the group to hate me, even going as far as cyber bullying and threats. She kept telling me to stop lying and that "seizures don't do that". This was after we consulted my neurologist and he explained that different types of seizures look different and not all seizures are convulsive. Finally I blocked her on everything and stopped talking to that friend group when they continued to talk to her and try and excuse her craziness. Lost about 5 friends all in one go just because one psycho believed she knew better than a trained doctor and and me about when I did or didn't have a seizure.
I had a BFF on and off about 5 years or more. She was extremely toxic and it took me ages to work out she was gaslighting me. I finally got wise and broke it off. She begged me for another chance, and then we both broke it off after about a year. Just glad she is out of my life.
I´m so sorry you had to go through that drama while also going through the health worries. I hope you have good friends now because those definitely weren´t that.
I don't understand why your friends were mad that you walked away from your date. Even if your actions had been intentional--which I absolutely believe they were not, as seizure activity can look like pretty much anything, and even after the seizure is over, there can be a post-ictal period of confusion and unusual behavior that isn't in the patient's control--maybe you needed to use the restroom or get some fresh air. Maybe your date said or did something that you weren't okay with, and you needed to get away. Going to a dance with a date doesn't mean you have to glue yourself to that person's side. It's bizarre that _this_ is what set your ex close friend off. Once you understood what happened and told your ex-friends, they should have been terrified that you could have gotten hurt during your seizure. I'm a stranger, and my first thought was to worry that you could have wandered into traffic, fallen down stairs, headed outside and ended up with hypothermia or heat stroke (depending on the climate where you live), or gone somewhere dangerous. The people who care about you should have prioritized your safety. If they were concerned about your actions that night, someone could have just followed you to ask why you'd left so abruptly; they could have gotten you help when you didn't respond, seemed vacant, and continued to aimlessly wander around. I hope you know now that you deserve so much better than your ex-friend and her apologists. You deserve friends who will look out for you if you start behaving oddly. You deserve to be protected when you're unable to protect yourself. You deserve to have people in your life who want the best for you, and would never cut you down. I hope that you and your medical team have gotten appropriate control of your seizures, and that the seizures aren't connected to anything more disruptive to your life. I hope you have unwavering support from people who love you. It's terrifying to lose control of the body. I'm a fellow Spoonie, also with invisible illnesses that aren't well understood. One of the worst parts of invisible, chronic illness is finding out how many people can't accept health issues that they don't--and often choose not to--understand. I'm sorry that you had to learn the hard way how shallow your former friends were. I've often wondered if people behave that way because they can't stand to admit that horrible things happen to decent people, as it means that they're vulnerable, too. I'm sending internet love and hugs your way (if you want them, of course). 💙🤗
@@katie6731 Thank you so much for the support! I'm in a much better place now. Got the seizures under control and am trying to live a somewhat normal life. Have much better friends too. My ex friend was mad at first because she was trying to set me up with my date, even though I wasn't interested. He got mad that I ditched him, and went all nice guy on me. Though he was the first to apologize when everything came to light. He told me that he didn't follow me because he thought I just got sick of dancing with him and wanted to leave. He wanted to give me space. I had one friend try to stop me. She was the one who told me I looked like a zombie. She thought I was upset which was why I didn't answer when she tried talking to me. She was the only one that defended me. Worst part was that the day after I had no memory of any of it. In fact I had a false memory, so I had no idea why all my friends were mad at me.
Just a week ago I saw an acquaintance of mine stop in front of the store where I work and just go blank. I know he has a seizure disorder but had never seen it happen before. I just stepped outside and took his hand and told him to hang on and stay with me and held his hand until he looked more aware. Seemed like a long time but was probably just 3-4 minutes. Following his seizure, he sat down on the sidewalk and had a short fit of temper where he ranted about things. Once this passed he got up and hugged me and thanked me and left. I was a little shook so I texted his neighbour that used to work with me so I could let someone know about his seizure ( they are close friends). The neighbour texted me after work to let me know the friend had gone to feed his Mom’s dog and that the temper thing happens after the seizure so never to take any of it personally it’s just kind of a fugue state that happens when he’s coming out of it. I’m really glad that I went out to him that day, the idea of some one being in such a vulnerable state alone scares me. I wish you had a better friend with you when it happened.
I lost whatever "friends" I thought I had after a traumatic event, as well. Haven't made another close friend since. You really do learn who actually cares for you during something like that, which really doesn't help the situation, but I guess at least you know..
This still sticks with me today. One of my "besties" who I knew since elementary school suddenly became distant with me during our senior year of high school. I never knew why, but I had my suspicions. One girl she was friends was SUPER jealous of me and my other bestie, and she would spend a lot of time with my ex best friend. When I told her how I felt, she said there was nothing she could do and it's best to go our separate ways. I was devastated and cried for days. I'd also lose my friend group at that point. However, my best friend and I are still going strong at 13 years of friendship ❤
I had a childhood best friend who 'dumped' me. I was hurt. She and her mom were obsessed with everything being 'the best' and they looked down on my family, even though my dad had a white collar job. I found out a couple years ago she had been shot by her husband. She survived. I mailed her a note, but she never responded.
I had a best friend for approximately 11 years of my life but she moved and we lost contact for 2-3 years and we gained back contact around a year ago we aren’t best friends like we were before but it’s still nice to message her whenever I think about it, and invite her over every so often :) But I still miss when our friendship felt effortless like it was just there, and we didn’t have to feel so awkward.
There was this girl. We were best friends for 9 years. Then she suddenly stopped talking to me because a guy she liked liked me. She knew I've never even talked to him or anything. Made me realize how easily friendships can break apart lol
Me and my childhood best friend had a "breakup" because I started dating a guy she liked, even though she only started liking him after I said I liked him. We've been married for a year and a half now 😁❤ Those friendships ain't worth it!!
That has happened to me too lol. It's sooo ridiculous! You can't help it!😂 I understand your friend being disappointed, but it's not like you ended up marrying him or anything lol!
@@floralmaggiee3265One of my old best friends tossed our friendship for a guy too. Get this though..I was talking to him first. I still had feelings for my ex though and I basically had to choose. I chose the new guy and when I told my friend she got pissed and stormed off..that is when I found out she liked him. So, I broke up with him and went back to my ex instead so that she could have the new guy. Well..the new guy would follow me around like a puppy and laugh at everything I said making it so mad obvious to my friend that he liked me more than her. So she friend dumped me and told him to be mean to me at school and at work. Guess what ? They lasted 3 months. Never even had sex or anything. I ended up dating him later on and we lasted 5.5 years and even got married, I also took his virginity. Oh ! And I found out from my ex that she tried to get with him too. Lol ((btw, we divorced though. I'm remarried happily. He remarried too but they also divorced.))
One Thing that holds the friendship between me and my best friend together is that we are both chronically late, so anytime we meet I'm very happy that I don't have to be stressed bc I know she'll be late too.. were also both severely depressed so we're often unable to communicate long stretches of time, which is a good thing bc that takes away the anxiety and guilt I feel when I'm not being able to consistently stay in contact with people
So somehow this has come at the exact time I needed it. 2 of my oldest friends recently betrayed me so badly I tried to end the pain by taking my own life. It helps so much to know that I'm not alone and thank you for the book recommendation Charlotte
Awh, i hope you're doing great! You deserve to be happy, I'm proud of you for being strong and trying to get through what you had to experience. Remember that you are worthy and don't let anybody tell you otherwise! Sending hugs!
My heart goes out to you. My best friend’s betrayal, among a bunch of other horrible shit and my sister calling me a burden, sent me to a mental health facility. Insurance kicked me out too early so I went through like 2.5 rounds of outpatient. It was pure hell. Her parents felt like the only people in the world who cared about me (there were other people but they were mutual friends with my ex friend and I felt like I couldn’t talk to them.)
side note: paris girl's story - can we just appreciate that eyeshadow? girl has me over here wanting to know the brand because it just pops so beautifully. especially as she moves her head back and forth.
I vibe with the first girl so much. I'm aroace and my best friend of 9 years was the closest thing to a love relationship I ever had. I also considered her my soulmate, we were talking all day everyday and sharing everything, I figured a lot of things about myself thanks to her, and I hope I helped her through some of the traumatic shit she went through. Unfortunately at some point said traumatic shit made her very toxic and abusive in turn. She would make very passive-agressive comments on how "I was not vegan yet" (when I had told her multiple times why it was a dumb choice for me, she knew very well about my eating disorder), and she would create drama for the most mundane things just for the sake of being a sjw. We had a two-months-long fight over text (we live opposite sides of the country)... And at some point I realized that I was the only one making efforts to better myself in the situation. She was saying that she was the perfect friend, that she was there for me even when I acted so out of place etc... And she never even entertained the idea to acknowledge that I wasn't the only one in the wrong in this situation. So I sent her a last "You're hurting me like you've been hurt before but unlike you I know when to bail out, so I'll block you and don't contact me ever again". This was three years ago almost exactly. I miss the relationship we had, but I certainly don't miss her. I do hope she is in a healthier place mentally
5:32 Pushing the friend in front of the dog reminded me of that Seinfeld episode where a fire breaks out and George loses it and starts yelling and pushing everyone out of his way to get out of the building first.
The one who got the one fired wasn't petty at all. That is safety for the kids. If her ex friend can stay with a man who pled guilty to all of that cannot be trusted around kids. Hope that woman never finds another job dealing with kids as long as she's with that guy.
Agreed! This situation kept getting so much worse that I gasped. She would be working with not just children, but special needs non verbal? My hackles are up.
Oh man, I feel the whole dumb miscommunication thing. After falling out with my best friend/soul mate of 13 years, I tried so desperately to get back in touch and have a real conversation about what happened, each talking about our own sides and trying to figure things out from there. She was having none of it. It hurt learning that I cared more about us than she did, but I guess it was never meant to be. I hope she's doing well and genuinely wish her the best, but I'm glad she showed me how little she cared so I could stop fruitlessly trying to glue our cracking friendship back together.
I can’t imagine after that long. My best friendship of all time lasted 5 years before she just started spontaneously bullying me and ignoring when her boyfriend would bully me. Weirdly I’m very very close to her parents still. Like I wouldn’t be alive without them literally. But her betrayal sent me to a mental health facility. Fourteen years I think I would just disintegrate.
@@thaloblue it definitely hasn't been easy. This was almost 4 years ago now and it still hurts and shows no sign of stopping soon. I'm sorry about your friendship, though it sounds like you are definitely better off without her! I hope it gets easier for you soon, and I'm glad you have her parents to look out for you. Take care of yourself ♥
@@twistedxredxribbon thank you! You too. I wish you the best on your healing journey. Take opportunities to be kind to yourself. Just because she iced you out doesn’t mean you’re not worthy of people’s time. There are people out there who will love you for you consistently.
My biggest therapy work is on how many toxic friendships I've been in where I've been frenemied HARD and betrayed by people I believed to be closer than actually were. I actually cannot get close to other women as friends as a result of multiple harms. I'll definitely be reading the book recommendation, "The disease to please".❤
I ended a friendship last year and it really made me question wanting to start new friendships. She was so selfish, took advantage of others, inconsiderate of others feelings and a huge gossiper. I saw the red flags but tried to accept her. But when I tried to bring up my feelings, she’d make excuses and blame me. I had a feeling she was gossiping about me to her “friends” and I no longer could consider her a friend. Know your worth and what you deserve.
My best friendship collapsed in 2021. It sent me to a mental health facility and No way I’m not fucking okay or eager to make new friendships. Some days it’s all I think about and its been two years. I was supposed to be at her wedding. She had men standing on her side of the aisle because she cannot maintain a relationship with any woman long enough to have more than like 3 distant friends show up.
@@thaloblue Sorry to hear how bad your friend hurt you. Seems like my ex friend could be friends with yours, they sound like they have a lot in common. Doesn’t it make you feel betrayed and like you wasted so much time on them? Time that you could never get back.
@@ArtzieGal most of my life feels wasted, i guess, so the time with her doesn’t necessarily feel wasted specifically. She’s actually the reason I ever left the house outside of college classes. I think my affection and emotional investment certainly feel wasted and thrown back in my face. I wept as she wept over her tragedies in life. I believed us to be “brethren” through everything. In the end, her racist bully boyfriend meant more to her. During the George Floyd movement at that.
@@ArtzieGal I know concretely that I spent the last five years on an unbalanced emotional scale. She told me my mother was toxic and weighing me down, but she wasn’t much better of a person. Just better enough to notice and say something. Still evil enough to use me the same way.
i love that your close freind edits your videos for you and just gets to watch you and probably laugh her ass off at the fact that you just be yourself lmao and be like yep...thats just charlotte XD
I have absolutely NO sympathy for chomos or those who willing interact (especially in an intimate capacity) with them knowing what they are. That friend did the RIGHT thing in bringing her “friend’s” connection to light with that POS to the school board!
The woman who reported her friend to the school board is AN ANGEL!!! She potentially saved SO many children from being victimized.
The wife could've eventually been persuaded to supply his sick addiction.
Spouses of sex offenders need to have laws restricting them as well.
If you bind yourself to a monster, no one should have mercy.
Exactly what I was thinking
That's just stupid. Then that should apply to all crimes ,well my husband rob a bank plead guilty so I be punished too. That's idiotic
@@wadecollins907 I think in the cases were a adult with cp/sa especially csa where another adult is married to the adult with the charges, they should at least be looked into, because supporting and covering for abusers/assaulters especially of children/vulnerable people, is how these criminals get away with stuff for years. If you for example thought your husband had done no wrong, helped him do the crime, knew of the crimes and said nothing, then yeah you should also be punished. Being married to a 'monster' isn't as simple as you should be held accountable for their actions, so i disagree with op for that, because many people are in marriages they don't want to be. But the lady in the original story was getting divorced... but chose to fire the divorce attorney because her cp collecting husband would get a lighter sentence. Shows she doesn't care about the kids, which makes her choice of work suspicious.
@@wadecollins907 the person after your comment said it perfectly. I'm not talking about innocent bystanders. I'm talking about people who CHOOSE to be with a predator . They're just as dangerous.
Right? She was not petty. That's the right thing to do
The woman who got her ex friends job taken away in order to protect young disabled children is not even a little bit petty, it was simply the only right thing to do. It would have been worse had she turned a blind eye.
Agreed
As a disabled woman myself, I 100 percent agree. I’m amazed and how efficiently op was to be able to go about it and also that the school listened.
If anything happened, a lot of those children would not be able to speak up about it due to being nonverbal. Preventing anything from happening is not petty, it was the right thing to do
100% agree! If you look up a lot these cases, very very often their partners not only know about what they’re doing, but often help their partners. Sometimes they’re even into it themselves. Like the friend said she would be around non verbal children helping them in the bathroom/ change etc. She could have been taking pictures for her husband or what not. Sure that could be a bit far fetched, but in situations like this, giving the benefit of the doubt is NOT the right thing to do! Anyone who truly genuinely cares about children wouldn’t stay with a man like that.
100%. If she chooses to stay with him, she doesn't care enough about children to be trusted to take care of kids.
My oldest grandson has several mental illnesses. The man who was assigned to their family to provide counsel to both grandsons, turned out to have a long list of sexual offenses. He was abusing my oldest grandson and was grooming his little brother to be his next victim. Finally the truth came out. The organization that placed the creep in my daughters house knew that he had a history of questionable actions involving children. The man's own family had reported him to the local police station. Turned out that the local police had been trying to get him for a number of years. But the creep messed up this time, my daughter was not intimidated by him and he finally went to jail. For years everyone turned a blind eye to what was going on. My daughter sued the agency that he had worked for, and won a large settlement on behalf of my grandsons. Sadly though, it will never fix the damage done to my oldest grandson 😢
That one girls friend took 'i don't have to run faster than the bear, just you' too a new level.
i feel terrible for laughing at that story but the friend was a straight up mercenary 😂
That’s honestly fair of her though 😭 sometimes you have to act and it’s not her fault that she acted first 😂 I would’ve done the same thing tbh
No reason for both of us to get bit 🤷♀️
Right 😂
Yep😅 at least apologise fight or flight is a thing but to double done is nasty
About the lady that got her ex-friend fired bcs her husband is a sex offender ; she did what was right. If you allow someone like that in your life and defend a 10 counts CP offender, proven guilty, who knows what you could allow or do to children ? The fact she kept the husband in her life shows how little she cares about kids and their security. If I found out someone I love and trust is a sex offender, guilty of CP, I wouldn't EVER want to talk or see that person ever again. I wouldn't trust them again. So the fact the ex-friend didn't divorce and tried to hide her husband's crimes is TELLING
Sounds like that show Undercover Underage. They have stopped quite a few creeps.
@@StrangeFacinations I juste checked what it was ; sickening how they explain that most of the time, predators work around kids, in schools or social services. I'm happy some people investigate to find those predators.
I know someone on my partner's side who is merely accused, never proven, just accused. I trust the accusers, one of them being my partner. Despite there never having been prosecution or even enough evidence now or then to be CERTAIN of it, I still count that the same as convicted. I feel that anyone who can just "Get over" that is likely a problem (or potential one) too... If hearing even just accusations of it about someone you know doesn't give you instant ick, there is something wrong. It's one thing to bounce back from the ick with a desire to get PROOF of the bad, entirely another to bounce back and pretend it never happened.
People who are with the convicted ones, with multiple offences under their belts, who are absolutely guilty and the partner KNOWS they are guilty... Those are the people who really worry me. They're the ones who just watch evil happen and say nothing.
You'd think everyone would agree. But I know a woman who married a convicted child s*x offender and let him move in with her and her young daughter. That daughter is one of my dearest friends. You can imagine what that girl went through. I'll never understand or forgive what that woman did.
@@bakaichigo agreed with everything you said
As a mother of a non verbal autistic child you absolutely did the right thing. If I was to discover this for myself later on and questioned if anything untoward had happened, I would have blood on my hands.
It was the vax
As a mother of a verbal ASD child - so would I. Wouldn't even have to be my own kiddo... 😡
My daughter (18q Deletion Syndrome) is nonverbal, and I approve this message.
Our family has a lot of autistic members. I'd probably have blood in my hands too.
But the wife wasn’t the perpetrator! I don’t understand this whatsoever. Someone with a perfect record and evidence that ONLY supports a job well done should NOT be held accountable for what their spouse does! This is typical cancel culture and you ruin people’s lives when they’ve done nothing wrong themselves. She’s a freaking victim, too, and being already married to someone who does something bad shouldn’t make you guilty also. Society is so 🚮
Breaking up with a friend is heartbreaking and incredibly liberating at the same time
That story of the sex offender husband is very scary . The age range the wife wanted to be a teacher in and non verbal could have been a way to get children for the husband and they won't speak. It's a sick world. Anyone staying with a pedo is just as bad . Throw the lot away !
Right 💯
Send in that meteor...
I had a childhood friend that broke up our friendship with me through her father. She had her father tell me that I was a Burden. I did everything for this girl to the point where I was used. I guess that's why I have trust issues. Quite frankly I'm glad it happened because it made me realized she was a burden.
The woman who works with non verbal children is a HERO! Thank god there are people like her who stand up for those who can’t stand up for themselves!
I had gastric bypass surgery about 12 years ago. I’m not embarrassed about it now (although I gained a lot back after having my second kid) but when I was younger, I was more embarrassed. People judge you for having it, think you’re lazy and so forth. She is not required to share her private medical information with you. You’d hate eating with me, as I fill up super fast and always take left overs home that I will eat over the next several days. I still enjoy going to restaurants, as eating out is not just about food. It’s about atmosphere and good company. I honestly think that creator was so petty. I understand getting on peoples nerves…I’m 100% positive that went both ways…
13:05 as a survivor of csa, absolutely I am passionate about this issue! That OP did the right thing. 100% did the right thing in reporting this. The fact that her former friend *did not disclose* this information is disturbing af.
I agree, also a survivor, she is just as conplicet by staying with him
Also a survivor, and I agree completely. People like this former friend don't care about protecting children and can be willing to victimize children to appease an abuser. It's for the best that she's not working with nonverbal kids
And working with NON VERBAL children when your spouse has ADMITTED to CP. I wouldn't be surprised if she was sick like him
This story about the woman working in childcare hit way too close to home. I was taken out of my mothers care at 12 due to SA from my stepfather (yes she stayed with him & continued to live her “happy life”)
But she also works in childcare, this inspires me to woman up & take that step to report her to her job no matter the torment it brings me. The safety of little ones are so much more important.
I am sooooo sorry this has happened to you😢 what happened to you was WRONG 100% & is NOT your fault❤ also, you might be surprised & find that repeating her might be healing for you❤ I know the fear of doing it is bc doing it, would kind of force you to deal with the feelings of what happened to you😢❤ but think of the little girl you once were, the little girl who is still inside of you & is still hurting, & how there are other little girls & boys in there & save them the way you needed saving❤ it might help you if you could somehow report it anonymously maybe?
I'm sorry that happened to you, their gross actions aren't your fault. I hope you did report her to protect the children. And I hope you are doing well.
You’re so strong for taking this step and stopping an enabler!! Even if we’re strangers on the internet, I’m proud of you! My brother and many other little boys were taken advantage of by one disgusting man in their daycare, where we thought they were safe. They found so many pictures and chats of him texting younger boys and they still did not put him in prison but gave him probation!!!! I will not be quiet about it and tell everyone I know about him, full name and everything and hopefully get this man behind bars. I’m so sick of the state enabling those disgusting “human beings” who take advantage of the most vulnerable and important part of our society, the children.
@Lottaria555 I hope the creep gets arrested. How the heck is he still able to be around children?
As a fellow survivor of childhood SA I support whatever you decide (my abuser was protected by my own family as well) it’s extremely hard, and sometimes seemingly impossible to recover from at times but I’m so proud of you and the strength you exhibit I bet reporting her would help you mend… I wanted to report mine but by the time I got away from my family and had the ability to do anything there was nothing that could be done about it… the laws regarding these matters no where near match the offense sadly… something I would love to see change in the future
Another good book to read is Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. It's not just about people-pleasers, but for all aspects of overactive 4F reaction (Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn). Good stuff for psychoeducation.
Thank you for this! I've recently had my C-PTSD diagnosis confirmed, and reading about it really helps
I’m pretty sure sex offenders (and anyone really with a conviction) aren’t allowed anywhere near school grounds, but if this woman was willing to stay with a man with 10 counts of child p*rnography and hide it from her closest friends, she was going to hide it from the school board as well. Not only was it the right thing to do by getting her fired, it was also a legal obligation to protect the children that would have been in her care. I only hope this woman and her husband don’t try for kids.
Oh my God, I never even thought of that. Would she be willing to have kids with such a person?? That's terrifying
Exactly. That was my first thought. Are they having children?!
It’s not that far believe it or not I lived by a school and went on the website where you can see where they live and there were a couple between me and the school obvi they were in the ok legally but yea it’s not that far I wanna say like 500 ft something
Sex offenders deserve less grace and more restrictions. Like, oh I don't know- staying in jail (especially under age of consent relationships). Technically they aren't allowed to have social media or phones n what not but they don't keep up with it and it seems that some of these offenders can just be forgotten about. I have a relative whos an offender and has been on a 'wanted list' for not renewing his status yet no one has done anything for 2+ years and it unnerves me.
@@shawnariggs2485also have to remember that not all SO’s in that registry have anything to do with kids.
Plenty of young men get put on that list from protective parents of their ‘not quite 18y’old’ daughters who the guy is prob 6months older than her etc.
I have a cousin who’s on it who had what he believed was a consensual encounter with his wife while they were separating- she decided a week later that she hadn’t wanted to do it. He pled guilty because he didn’t want to cause any further issues or upset her (he’s still in love with her) he did 4 years in prison and is on the registry for life.
The SO registry is a good tool don’t get me wrong. But presuming that everyone on there has limitations of school areas is not correct either.
Ended a friendship recently because in 9th grade I met a girl who was so outgoing and everyone's friend, and I thought she was cool. We became friends, stayed friends for years. I moved to another state, got married, had a kid. She had ALWAYS talked about how much she hated the guy I was with "never liked him." Me and the guy ended up divorcing, worked out for the best, but have stated friends for the kid. When we were first split up, I remember telling her about it and she was all "screw him, never liked him anyway, he's a dog," blah, blah, blah... Me and my ex end up doing a co-parent Disney trip, which was really great! I'm taking pictures with our kid and posting them, all good vibes.... SHE MESSAGES HIM ... and asks him "what's wrong with her? why did she cut her hair so short?" blah, blah, blah... talking to him, about me. She's done shady shit behind my back before, but, that just took the cake. Of course, he showed me her texts to him while we were on the trip, asking me in real time why she was messaging him. Yeah, screw her. All of her vague-Booking BS lol. So done with her. And all the better for it!
Good on ya for cutting out the dead weight of that friendship. I'm glad he was upfront about her to you and everything is going well with co-parenting.
I have a messy one! A friend and I used to be inseparable. We did cosplay together, worked together, hung out after work, partied, etc. We even looked alike! I was unhappily married at the time, so hanging out with her was my escape. I noticed that she started to get jealous any time I hung out with my husband or other friends. One day, she took me aside in a cubicle at work to tell me that she was in love with me and wanted to leave my husband. I turned her down because I was like... I'm not gay. The rejection definitely broke our relationship, and we never talked again. Years later, she's married to a man and I'm married to a woman. I guess she knew before I did!
You're not gay but you married a woman?
Guess being gay IS sometimes a choice.
Oh man, that's crazy!
As someone who was non-verbal growing up, I am very happy that woman was stopped from being near those children. Definitely not petty or over the top.
As someone with disabilities, I agree with you 100%! Children with disabilities, especially non-verbal are at higher risk of being targeted and SA'ed. My heart goes out to anyone who endure such horrid experiences. Because there are people who have fetishes for people like myself, I have to be careful. I always check the offender list anytime I'm considering meeting someone that I'm interested in. There is nothing I can do to defend myself and fortunately I haven't been in any bad situations to date.
I totally agree.
Agreeance. I’m glad the school had their serious face on. Would not have been pretty if they decided to keep her there and the media found out after she had a complaint against her.
Yeah, I wonder if she's in on it with her sicko husband. It's strange to me that she's working with kids who can't speak.
As soon as I heard “non-verbal” my heart dropped. Those kids wouldn’t be able to speak to anyone if something happened!
They are even more defenseless than an average child.
The lady whose ex best friend married a registered s.o. 100% did the right thing. Her actions were not even remotely petty.
Exactly lol I was like "this isn't petty, it's just morally correct." Especially with the fact that ex-bestie KNEW the OP wouldn't put up with it and tried to HIDE her husband's arrest record from her!!
Why is it forbidden to talk about CP on YT? Inclusivity or?
@@Ana-385 Inclusivity of whom? Creeps. Nah, YT just has weird rules. Can't talk about CP even if it's just in an informative way, and yet they have videos that can harm children.
@Ana-385 because the think they protect children that way and prevent people from falsely accusing others from child (or sex) related crimes (and making money on those videos). Which is nonsense since people simply learn to use other words to get the point across if that's what they wanna do. So basically YT is going overboard with the rules for nothing.
Not petty but responsible
The women who got her friend fired is an absolute hero! Not petty, not vindictive, she was protecting innocent children.
Standing ovation for the school board, who ACTUALLY LISTENED!! And TOOK ACTION!! Too often these things are ignored, but these lovely people did the right thing! I wouldn't feel guilty at all, that is some miracle shit right there! 👏👏👏
The last woman had gastric bypass surgery and wouldn't admit it. That's why she could only eat tiny portions of her meal, and yet was constantly hungry. If only she could have been honest, this trip might have gone better for the both of them. As soon as she started describing her eating habits, I knew exactly what she had done. It's actually kind of sad such a silly reason to end a friendship. 🤷🏾♀️
Yeah, the woman telling the story was so judgmental. I don’t understand that one at all. She sounds like the villain of that story.
Yes as soon as she described her friend weight loss and eating habits I knew what her issue was and they have no choice but to eat small amounts, they will get sick if she ate to much as well I bet
The woman telling the story was extremely annoying. Why can't people nowadays just tell a story without a bunch of "whatevers", "likes", repeating everything etc. I just get physically sick when I have to listen to somebody like that.
@@crysb8051 Yeah, my mom had a Gastic Bypass and if she eats too much or too fast she'll throw it right back up... her pouch (it's not really a stomach anymore) is very sensitive and sometimes she'll take a couple bites of something and go... nope... pouch not happy. But it was worth it to not lose her eyesight to diabetic retinopathy
Yep- Bypass girlie here. It hurt my heart hearing the way she was talking about her- she was the villain and no wonder her friend didn't want to tell her with as judgemental as she is.
😂 the dog one is just instinct. My wife did this to her lil bro, don’t have to be fast just faster than you 😭
My mom always used to say the best way to find out what “your friend” is, is to either live with them or go on a vacation with them. It can make or break a friendship. I’ve seen it and experienced it
Relationships too. If a couple doesn’t live together before getting married, they definitely need to take some trips together.
Your Mom must be related to my Grandmother.
Hey there, Cousin!
P.s. Also, loan a "friend" a substantial amount of money....that's a surefire way to see where people REALLY stand! I know of what I speak!😅
Except it doesn't work. You can go and have a great holiday. And then two years later one of you gets an autism diagnosis and THAT breaks everything. I thought we were doing great, we'd know eachother over 5 years at that point.
@@SonjaElizabethTeal
I have a hard and fast rule.
I never, ever loan a friend or family member money. Never. Not for a cup of coffee, not for a tank of gas nor for back rent. You will most likely never get it back. And when you ask for it you look like the b*tch.
It usually ruins the relationship. I tell people to never ask me because I will always say no. No exceptions. Period. Nobody asks. Keep your friendships stable. Don't introduce chaos.
@@sunflowerbaby1853 I'm going to follow your lead on that one!
I had a situation where I lent money to get a friend out of jail (traffic tickets)... not only did it take them three years to start to pay back 1,200... they only paid half of the money and when I saw they were not going to make any effort to pay the balance I mentioned it which in turn I was told..."You don't need it. You don't have children, I do!"
This from the mouth of a "friend"....
At that point I dusted off my hands of that "friendship"
and chalked it up to being a very expensive lesson.
5 years probation because he admitted to doing it. Nice to see how much children matter to some of the judges in the world
Sadly, you get more time for stealing money than a child's innocence. 😥
Because either the judges are doing it, or one of their family members is.
I know, right? The guy who mugged my father over 10 years ago got 3 years probation. I am not even starting to think, I know you can plan around the ways to break the law and pretty much don’t meet justice. And the husband from the story participated in hurting 10 different children. I can’t even imagine how hard was that for parents or caretakers - knowing you did everything you could but it still wasn’t enough.
Kate living out loud is a great story teller, that was funny as hell, go sharklot on that room mate !!
This woman married and stayed with this man. A REGISTERED CHILD S×$ OFFERED!!! And she has the nerve to work in a school district for special needs kids who can't fight or use their words against people like that monster she married to!?
GTFO, how the hell she have on the biggest rose tinted glass eyes with the darkest tint of a car window, Crack she smoking to stay and hide this?! You can't hide shet like this forever. And to work with kids? Lady, your husband abused kids! 10 different cases! Guilty sp he doesn't go to prison where he will die (should have gone anyways) just to stay in society as a monster.
What if she needs to be picked up by this man from school? What's stopping him from going after those kids you talk about teaching? What's stopping him from getting you knocked up and touching his online kids? Not you apparently!
Good job destroying her teaching career with small children, and no this isn't petty, this is pro revenge.
This is the first and only comment I have ever posted so you know it's important.
The friend who went to Paris; all her behaviours are indicative of someone struggling with an eating disorder, I can say from experience that the disease completely takes over your life and makes your brain work differently. Ive have friends give up on me because they didn't understand what was happening and I wish that people could think twice before assuming others reasons.
If she had stopped for a second and thought 'could there be something else going on here' she might have ended up providing a well needed support.
Care and compassion means a lot in the world of mental health ❤
The story with disgusting husband and she works at school. It wasn’t petty at all. It was THE RIGHT THING TO DO!!! As a mother with a handicapped son, the world is not safe. Thank God she notified the school. Honestly, if she is ok with her husband … I would be wondering about her too.
By experience those kind of men... are good people over... THAT huge issue, so she was probably hoping. Unfortunately most dont srop with age if they have a way tp keep going... like an easy access to mon verbal kids
And the fact that some of the kids were non verbal... imagine if something happened to a non verbal special needs kid.
I just know he would show up at the school to drop off lunch for her or whatever excuse he could find to be around the kids...
So many red flags with this women and her behavior towards her husband that It's scary. The poster was not petty she was doing the lord's work.
She's either ignoring it, enabling it, or actively participating.
She shouldn't be able to work with children if she's married to a registered child sex offender!!
I had a friend who practically felt like a sister to me. Back in 2020 We got into an argument over text about how she never sees me anymore, accused me of being a bad friend because I was basically living with my boyfriend. She even blasted me publicly on her Facebook, without directly naming me.
The kicker to this whole thing was it was covid lockdown here in the UK at the time, I was living with my boyfriend because my mum was considered high risk and she told me I couldn't come home, the day I was going to return home. Because of this I was part of my boyfriends family 'bubble' and at the time you could not see people outside of your bubble due to social distancing. And this so called friend was breaking covid rules, going out into London for onlyfan shoots.
To summarize, this girl accused me of being a terrible friend because I followed Covid rules and would not break them just to see her 😅
I lost a friend for the same reasons.
how stupid I hope you're not too sad about it.
You stuck to your guns and did the right thing. She was the bad friend.
Friendship and relationship breakups are extremely taxing and heartbreaking. I had both happen a year apart. Needless to say it took me 3-4 years to recover completely and move on. I still think about it but it does not affect me like those few years did. Thank you for this video
As an assistant in an Ed support school I had to report the bullying of non verbal students by 3 staff. After a year long investigation it was a case of my word against theirs, except for 1 incident a visiting teacher witnessed it. I got bullied out of the school and it took me 10 years to recover. But I’d do it again just to keep the students safe.
I personally want to thank you very much! I would love for you to look out for my daughter!💙💛 Sadly you can't trust everyone to have your children's back
Similar thing happened to my brother. He was one of the newest teachers hired at a school for children on the autism spectrum and that place turned out to be horrible. Everything started out great for the first year, then most of the staff started showing their true colors and being awful to the kids. My brother had a meeting with the head of the school and made a report of what all he witnessed. They told him it would be taken care of but when my brother asked for a follow up, they told him "after a thorough investigation, no major violations have been found and the matter is closed" which was complete BS. Then the harassment and bullying towards him started. It got so bad he was ready to quit. Instead, he and some of the good teachers told the parents to check in on their children more often at the school without notice. A group of them took him seriously and did just that. Next thing you know, those parents reported to the police for the entire school to be investigated and has since been shut down.
@@Fe-be that’s great 😁
@@caramama1731 thank you 🥰
As a victim of csa I couldn’t tell anyone, I didn’t have the strength because he was close to my immediate family. He threatened me and told me no one would believe me. The FACT that you raised your voice, it makes me tear up. When I finally told mine it was a couple of years ago when I was 23 and while my immediate family believed me and you are told there are people that may not believe you-you’re never prepared for people you’ve known your whole life say such egregious things about yourself. Those that did believe started bringing up all these different issues he’s had. It is sad to me that no one looked before letting him around children. I know I’ll be a hawk and terrified to even have children because of what happened. However, educators like yourself make me hopeful.
I was such a people pleaser for so long that people just expected that behaviour of me. When I became disabled and was no longer physically able to do normal hangout stuff or mentally capable to shoulder the responsibility of other people's mental health it really kinda forced me to learn how to say 'No'. This is how more than one friendship of mine ended, which is sad but I'm glad that I learned this skill.
I am so sorry to hear about your struggles. I have a chronic illness that has limited my social life. It's hard to make/keep friends under the circumstances.
But you found out who your friends were, the real ones that will be there for you.
Out of all the crazy stories.. I’m just obsessed with that beautiful purple eye shadow look on her! It makes her eyes pop and I am here for it!!🤩
My "best friend" ghosted me when i got engaged to my fiancée. She doesn't like him. One door closed, and many more opened. I still miss her, but she was toxic. She told me I was having a miscarriage because i went to my ultrasound, and it was too early to see anything.
Love you, Charlotte!!! 🥰
Wtf! Who does that??? I hope you have a healthy baby and a good life.
@marije8562 i have a healthy baby and a great life now! I have a new friend that sticks by my side when things get rough. She isnt toxic at all, she pushes me to be better, she is my hype girl. I love her. 🥰
@@jamilynno Great job getting rid of her (shudder) and finding a much better replacement 😊
I’m finding that this time frame we are in is a shedding of narcissistic, parasitic “people” in our lives.
Blessings to you and yours 💖✨
Seems to me that she didn't like that he was a positive impact in your life and wanted you to be broken so she could feel butter about herself and available for her bs 24/7.
FYI - In reference to the woman who went with a friend to Paris… People who have weight loss surgery are usually strongly encouraged by their doctors to eat less more frequently and by ‘less’ I mean only a portion the equivalent size of a tablespoon to a 1/4 cup of food each sitting. The person who has this procedure done is ALWAYS hungry and lives in a constant struggle with this restriction. It is very, very hard. Just putting this out there.
Is it always like that forever after having the surgery? I didn't know that. That sounds soo difficult 😢❤
@youmakemehappy7 eventually, the brain & hormones (ghrelin, I think) recalibrate to the new stomach size (or restricted size if using a band) and so the hunger cues calm down. Over time, the stomach shrinks because it's not getting filled with so much food. But it's not a quick change, same as trying to lose weight & control your eating without surgery.
@@yolosotoph1152Gastric bypass. Doesn't that mean that the stomach is cut and the food goes directly ibto the intestants? I mean nothing shrinks, it is literally shrunk by the surgery?
@@sofiajohansson8537 that's true, that is the procedure for gastric bypass. Those ghrelin levels are still higher than the new tiny stomach can handle. The come down faster, but it's still an adjustment period.
My mother in law had gastric bypass before I met her. I think it was probably about 15 years ago or more. She always wants to go to different restaurants and then can hardly eat anything, or she can't digest it, or something happens where she up chucks it. I don't make an issue of it. My issue is that she always talks about how she can't digest certain types of food, particularly meats, and how it'll make her up. She tells servers as much when ordering food. That's my issue. Now, I don't get grossed out by things being talked about while I am eating. But it's just not proper etiquette to talk about such things when eating with others.
my little sister jumped in front of me when a huge dog ran towards me. I yelled at her afterwards because as a big sister it's my job to protect her, not the other way around. but I'm not going to lie, I'm so proud of how kind, brave and protective she is.
I’ve been blessed to have my best friend for 53 years and counting. While we had a few arguments when we were younger and a couple of major knock down, drag out fights, we’ve remained friends. My mom would always make me call and apologize (even if I wasn’t in the wrong 😉) because I’d be so lost and miserable without my friend. She moved to a different state quite a few years ago, but whenever we talk or text, the miles melt away. Love my bestie, Cheryl! 🤗❤️
I've had a friend a friend for 53 years too. Amazing. We're forbidden to see each other several times. But we stayed friends, shared our first apartment. She was a nun for a while, quit that and married a monk. She's in another state now too.
50 years ago when I was a Girl Scout, we used to sing "The Friendship Song":
"Make new friends, but keep the old.
One is silver, the other is gold.
A circle is round, it has no end.
That’s how long, I will be your friend.
A fire burns bright, it warms the heart.
We’ve been friends, from the very start.
You have one hand, I have the other.
Put them together, we have each other."
@LazyIRanch I didn't know it had all those lyrics. Thank you. I was a Brownie, but when we "flew up' there was no Girl Scout Troop for us.
You know someone is more than a surface level friend when you can survive frustration and anger with each other with no resentment. I've had friends for years where we supported each other through issues with other people or other external problems, but as soon as we had an argument where we were on opposing sides, we couldn't come out of it. Those weren't true friendships.
I'm so glad you have a really real friend!
Some people just are not your friend.
True friends are rare and we need to care them like a treasure. I know my best friend for 20 years now and she's like a sister to me. A friend like that is really precious.
My husband and I went to Holland with our "couple friends". Every single morning we had to knock on their hotel door again and again over the course of 3 hours or more, just to get them out so we could go enjoy the "coffee". It made what should have been a really chilled out holiday into a frustrating week of hanging around every day for them. And we didn't get up super early or anything. We'd knock on their door starting around 10am and if we were lucky we might leave the hotel around 12/1pm or later! Wasted so much time that we never went with them again. We're still friends but we wouldn't go on holiday with them again after that!
As a mother of a 7yr old with ASD and delayed speach, I am eternally grateful for what she did.
I had a forced friend breakup when my parents found out she was taking advantage of my imagination and planting weird almost cult like bullshit into my head. I wish I was exaggerating. She made me believe for a whole day that my parents were actually spirit beings and I mentioned this to them. They were PISSED as they are a pair of hippies that narrowly avoided joining a cult and knew the red flags, and forbade me from ever seeing her again, or at least for an extended period as they explained cult conditioning to an 8 year old. I was allowed to see her again once I could show I had a solid grasp of reality. But the close bond I had felt we had formed would never be as strong again, and that was for the better.
Was she Cheryl blossom 😂
I’m sure you know, but your parents are amazing and they handled that so perfectly.
Dang this brought back memories of my messed up childhood. I’m sorry you went through that. And it was good of your parents to separate.
This Sounds like something I once did to a very good friend when I was a child. I had an active imagination and had terrible things happen to me as a kid, so I used my imagination and play time as maybe self therapy and would reenact how the bad thing felt with the dolls we played with..
I made the bad thing a demon in my play..
it really harmed my friendship as she got terrified of the things I told them about demons visiting me… I honestly had no clue it terrified her.
Her parents told me we couldn’t play anymore because I gave her nightmares from our play dates.
I had no idea she was so scared of the things that I said and did..
I thought it was normal.
I apologized profusely to her parents and to her.
And I understood I was the bad friend. It was nothing about cults though.. just demons and bad men and spirits and imaginary friends that I thought were very real at the time. It broke out very strong friendship. I’ve never had a strong friendship after this even with a toxic friend that recently broke off our friendship recently…
But I do hope she is doing better and has forgotten about my messed up brain…
@@_Chessa_I'm so sorry you lost your friend due to the abuse you suffered at the hands of others🫂
Damn, did your parents ever report that maybe that child was in danger as well?
Okay Charlotte, here's a best friend story for you.
I'd been friends with this girl practically since we were in kindergarten. We occasionally got into petty fights but it was always something that we could later talk through and get over. After high school we didn't hang out as much but we still talked all the time.
Skipping forward a little bit, a ball python I adopted suddenly passed away after I had him for about a year. About a week later my other friends decided to pitch in to get me another snake for my birthday. (Had her 5 years and she's doing amazing btw)
I mentioned it to my ex-best friend that I had another snake and she replied with
"is it going to survive long enough for me to meet it this time?"
I have yet to forgive her for that comment even after she apologized.
For the ex-friend married to the offender, what OP did was not petty, it was the right thing to do, I also wouldn't feel safe having special needs kids, especially non-verbal ones, being taught by someone who is married to someone like that with no intention of leaving them.
Agree 100%! You never know what might trigger a guy like that to take his, um, proclivities from the computer screen to real life!
Agreed! I find it really alarming that the ex-friend tried to hide it from the OP. Makes you wonder if she was hiding it because she knew the OP would kick off, or whether something worse was going on, considering that OP was the parent of one of those non-verbal disabled children she was caring for...
Women like the ex-friend are enablers. If she's prepared to lie for him, what else if she prepared to do for him? Procure victims? (shudder)
And if the SO's punishment was 5 years probation and he still had his wife and family, that is not a deterrent... I imagine they'll both be back in court in a few years, on worse charges. OP absolutely did the right thing by protecting her child and their classmates from a predator's assistant like that. If the ex-friend has kids, I hope someone is keeping a close eye on them...
There’s a small percentage of women who are also p*dos, maybe she’s one of them and that’s the reason why she stays. I’d rather die alone than be with someone disgusting like that, I won’t even try to understand her bcs it’s so unreasonable
It's just crazy to me, a women who used to work with me started dating a guy who also worked with us who was being investigated for CA she had a 10 year old at the time. He later had undercover police come in to arrest him on CP chargers , work couldn't fire him but when no1 would talk to him anymore he had to be let go, he's now in prison on a 21 year sentence.
Had a friendship of over 12 years, helped move her from New Jersey to Florida and despite the fact she had promised to pay for my flight back home she refused to pay the full amount and ended up saying horrible things about myself and my family on Facebook.
I immediately blocked her on everything and a week later she had sent me a letter with an apology note and a check for the full amount along with a CD of my favorite band.
I cashed that check immediately, gave my brother the CD, and threw away that letter as soon as I finished reading it. You don't say those things about my family and expect to stay in my life. 🖕
F*cking eh’ darling, f*cking eh’ ❤
Good for you.
Not making excuses. Did she say why she did what she did? My sister had a psychotic breakdown due to having to move to escape her abusive ex. She really went off the cliff. She was subsequently diagnosed as bi-poplar and her son as autistic. Both are doing well now, but definitely burned many relationships during that train wreak / dumpster fire phase.
The Paris lady was resentful BEFORE she went to Paris. That was what was going on with her gut! Was perfectly happy to go along with what her friend offered re parties and stuff.
@@MB-uy5khI don't think that she was feeling this way to be honest. We had exchanged a couple messages before I had asked for the money and she was perfectly fine. It was only when I did ask was there an issue.
Throughout the whole time we were driving down to Florida she was saying how excited she was that she lived within a mile of a mall and she couldn't wait to buy a whole bunch of new furniture for her new house so I truly could not understand why she couldn't work up a couple more dollars to pay for my ticket back. Mind you this is also the same girl that once told me that she spends $200 before noon everyday so . . .
By the way, I hope your sister continues to do well with her condition.
Sharklotte biting Charlotte was the funniest part of the whole video😂😅
One of my "best friends" for 10 years was going through a divorce. She messed her kids up and my husband (who's been her friend for 20 years) and I, did all we could to help her. My husband was hitting rock bottom with stress at the same time. Turns out she did EVERYTHING she could to seduce him, telling him I was the reason he was miserable. A week before I found out, she was in my house telling me how much she loved me, I was her closest friend.
So not only was she destroying her own marriage, but tried to destroy mine as well. And when my husband didn't fall for her bullshit, she spread rumors that I was destroying her life.
Yeah that friendship was over and done.
Tbh, that is good grounds for the cps to take her kids.
@@6_checkmate_9um.. how? CPS taking children away is a serious thing. Not excusing any of the mother's behaviors, but what does that have to do with her children & CPS taking them away from her? Maybe I'm just missing something in the story, so I'm curious what your thoughts are on it. 😊
Sounds like your ex friend is a literal sociopath
Misery loves company
The woman around 13 minutes in who exposed her friend who wad going to be a teacher. Kudos to her because protecting children is always the responsibility of all of us. I know it probably cost her a friendship but I am certain that by the time she found out about the friend man and what he did that friendship was over anyway.
As the mother of a non-verbal (though she’s making strides in her communication skills🎉) elementary school kiddo - I 109% commend her for what she did. One of my worst fears is something will happen to my kiddo and they won’t be able to tell me
One of my best friends was in a toxic af home situation, was basically a cross between Rapunzel and Cinderella, never got out of the house because she was basically her family’s live-in slave and her family was basically in a cult. The second I found out her situation I remotely planned an extraction heist with our friend group and we got her the heck out of there many states away without detection just before the airports closed at the start of COVID. She was a grown adult and kept prisoner in her own home to raise her siblings for her narc mother! Anyway, spent hundreds of dollars to help get her situated and even helped her and her now-husband get together.
Now she won’t even speak to me and has even accused me of some awful things. That hurt because I literally put my safety on the line to help her escape. We were besties and tbh 3 years later it still hurts so much. 😢😢😢
That sucks. She probably has issues stemming from her former home life but it's no excuse for her to act like that.
Its infortune but she is probably gone be like her mother. What matter you must know that you helped in saving a soul from abusive situations and you are great person for that. I constantly stand up for women with abusive husbands even though they spared rumors' about me to please their husbands. I still stand up when the situation seems to be serious and I am proud of myself for that. They don't hate me, I hate them, but I would never see abuse in front of me and be quite about it. You are an awesome human being, who did a very noble act. Know that you did this because you are kind and not because of her. Please don't let this ungrateful entitle scum of human make you feel bad. These people actions are delusional beyond imagination so please block all the ways that you could hear from her or her situation, because she only gone disturb your peace. Sending you love.
This is so much bigger than her friend, not wanting to leave her demented husband. From an outside perspective she wasn’t being petty. She did the right thing to protect the children.
4:56 well no the dog was obviously running away. How else do you stop a runaway dog 😂😂😂
As someone who has had gastric sleeve surgery ( they turned my stomach in to the shape of a small banana, I didn't want the surgery but, because of health issues that make most exercises extremely painful or impossible I had it done ) the reason the woman's friend probably didn't tell people she had the surgery, was because of that reaction she had to it in the first place just judging her for doing it, it is also why at first when I was doing all the things before my surgery ( there is a lot of prep work you have to do beforehand ) I didn't want to really tell anyone yet because I didn't know if I would want to ( I had my choice taken away from me by a very loud mouthed family member that I now know to never tell anything to but that is a different story ) because people always judge you either 1. thinking your lazy when in reality getting the surgery is THE HARD WAY TO LOSE WEIGHT, if I was still able I would be working out instead and be back to being as muscular and active as I used to be. 2. They judge and pick at you about everything you eat and how you eat just like she was in the video when in reality normal sized portions ( depending on how long it has been from your surgery ) are way too big now to eat the entire portion, I will put it this way, after surgery for a few weeks you are eating next to nothing, in the hospital after they gave me the juice form of Boost and I could barely have a few sips and that was it. You don't really have normal food until at least a month after, and by then you can maybe eat the equivalent of 1 boiled egg, and then up to 2 and a half as close to the new normal portion size, you also can't drink anything for 30 minutes before or after eating ( most people can never drink anything carbonated again since now it will move too fast in to your intestines and cause moderate to severe pain ) drinking liquids during a meal will make you gain weight from making food go into your intestines too fast. You also can no longer 'gulp' liquids, you can only take small sips or risk being in pain/suffering from dumping syndrome from your stomach filling up way too fast. 3. The minute you put on even a little weight after ( and everyone does, everyone will settle in to a size after the initial weight loss and some also end up gaining the weight back ) they are judging you and ridiculing you for getting the surgery in the first place, you find out very fast who your real friends and family are.
TD;LR people who had weight loss surgery have small stomachs and can't eat normal portion sizes and people need to stop judging people who get the surgery they are just trying to get healthier, worry about yourself.
All the rest of it being late is rude though.
Edit: I forgot to add that I do not blame the friend whatsoever for blocking her, I probably would have done the same thing but, I would have left a lengthy ass rant because I can imagine even though the friend was being rude for being late, she was probably being much worse, hence why she blocked her.
I felt pretty annoyed at that woman for being annoyed at her friend for not eating. I mean.... That's her journey, and she should just be happy that her friend was making good changes for her health. After hearing how people judge those who takes the weight-loss shots, I totally understand those who wont tell others about that or surgery. It's none of their business anyway, and if they cant be happy for their friends/family/cooworkers/neighbours/strangers, then they can shut the fuck up.
I actually wrote a full 4 pages "article" once about this to just to get it out of my head, because it's so emotionally draining that even thinking about my own weight-loss journey makes me cry. And I have a wonderful sypport-system. Especially my mom who knows all about my eating disorders, all the diets I've tried, my round with the psychologist and nutritionist, and that helped about zilch. (Counting calories once proved I gained weight at 1600kcal. And yes. I counted EVERYTHING. Including the oil I brushed on the veggies I grilled and the butter I cooked the fish in.)
The only thing that's given me any kind of results is mysimba, and I will fight anyone who would dare to say that is "the easy way out".
Is it normal though that the 'annoying' friend was hungry and wanted to go to a restaurant every two hours?
I'd think maybe it would have helped if she had been open and honest about the surgery (it's not clear if she even had one) so her friend could have been able to understand her odd behavior.
It's definitely unusual for someone to want to go out to eat every two hours.
@@333-u9owhy is it anyone elses business though? It's no ones business if she had surgery or not, the big issue here is that this woman who doesnt look small herself (pay attention to her face) is shaming someone for doing their damned best to be healthy and yes, when you have gastric surgery you are told to eat regularly and in small, manageable portions (I'm in the process of getting gastric surgery myself as I have hypothyroidism and hypoprolactinemia and a pituitary tumour which means I cant lose weight on my own)
i thought this too, but if you know you can't eat a lot then bring small snacks so you aren't wasting food (AND MONEY) going to restaurants when you know you can't eat everything on your plate 🤷
The food thing too can become a coping mechanism. Where because she can’t eat, she develops a complex a living through others. It’s very common with bariatric surgery and something you are warned about. Both of these friends could’ve just had a simple sit down and explain their feelings to each other.
The relationship between Sharklotte and Charlotte is literally me vs myself every day 😂
So fucking true 😂
Post gastric bypass surgery patient here… we do get hungry a lot but I’ll get something early in the day then nibble on it throughout the day. FYI… when you get that surgery… they take 85% of your stomach which officially is equivalent to an egg 🥚 and heaven forbid she had liquid with it too… that makes you full quicker. Not taking her side she was absolutely wrong but just giving info for those who don’t know
My mom's good friend of around 40 years recently ended. We did a lot of things together. We were there for her during her 2 divorces; we went on several vacations together, one even to Jamaica; my son calls her ”aunt"; she was there for me when my husband died; and we have spent countless of holidays together. Last year, we stayed with her at her vacation rental in Orlando. Things seemed off. We included her in our activities, but she was too embarrassed to have my mom tag along in her walker with her activity to bingo. It was hurtful, but I let it slide until a few months back. We had made plans to go to lunch for my mom's birthday. She called my mom the day before to cancel. Her other friend asked her to go to Costco. The friend canceled birthday lunch to go grocery shopping! I looked up to her as an "aunt" myself, but I can't bring myself to talk to her ever again. I even baby sat her kids as a teenager. I am hurt, but hurts me more the way she treated my mom.
😢😢❤ I am so sorry for your mum and you guys 😢 especially since you've pretty much grown up around this shallow bish 😢 she sounds cruel. she's not worth any more of your or your precious mamas energy ❤
I'm sorry to hear this, how hurtful. 😞
The CP case, she absolutely did the right thing because she knows he’s into it so she could be taking these children to the bathroom with her phone and take pics and video for him. She’s now kinda his accomplice
Holy crap, I didn't even consider that. Regardless, the woman who told the school absolutely did the right thing!!
So true. I listen to a lot of true crime and there are several cases where the woman will help their partner because that's his preference, and she wants to satisfy him. Very creepy
Sadly there are way too many stories about mothers moving in their drug addict predator boyfriend and letting them harm their children, so someone of that mentality would likely care even less about children who aren't theirs
Charlotte's face changing from wholesomeness to straight-up scandal at the first story is what I needed to see today❤😂
Here’s my 20-year friendship-ending story: Three years ago this week I had a gynecological procedure at the hospital that did not go well and I bled out. In fact, I almost needed a blood transfusion. It was extremely traumatic (I ended up with PTSD). I texted my close friend the next day to tell her I had been in the ER after the procedure. She TEXTED me back but never called. During this time, I couldn't even get out of bed due to blood loss. I called her and asked her to call me, and she still never called. I called her maybe three times. Finally she called me and was talking as though nothing happened. When I asked her in a weak voice why she didn't call me she got angry, told me she didn't have time for my BS, and hung up. Radio silence for THREE WEEKS! I called her to talk and she wanted to end our 20-year friendship because she didn't like my so-called ‘tone.’ In reality, it was my weak voice from blood loss. To this day, she has no idea what happened. I needed therapy to deal with everything because it is part of my trauma from the incident now. Good riddance, biatch! Who needs a friend with zero empathy?
this is so messed up i swear, i hope you are doing better focus on your health and eat good meals please, and when the pain comes don't ignore it it's okay if you feel sad at a random time of the day just let it in and out and remember to nurture your inner child because twenty years is one hell of a period and you need to grief it properly
ThiS FRiend who has Zero empathy hve dealt with a lot of bs from u throughout 22 years. At some point she has has enuf and let u go. It is more like a cry wolf situation u basically haven't been honest with her ans she caught up on that and when u finally got in a shit situation she did not believe u. Who needs a cry wolf attention seeking manifesting in help me help me be there for me friend? Even though u think u were there for her, most likely she was the one who used to drop things Nd be there for u. When u really needed u she was done with u😂 ur loss and fault
@@HoneyQuint only bad people can conclude to thinking the way you are doing right now, you really read her comment and her distress and trauma and wrote this stupid full of grammar mistakes comment and sat back like you just scored an amazing achievement ? talking about empathy when you really aren't showing any ? go and reassess yourself and your brain cause only someone with a brain damage can comment what you just did
Had a friend of 15 years absolutely eviscerate me verbally/emotionally the same day I found out my kitten has to be out down and had been dealing with seeing him insanely sick for weeks. Really messed me up bad, not as severe as your situation in terms of the original trauma event, but I can relate. They said every horrible thing they could think of, after I told them the cat had died. I'm sorry you had to go through that, better off and I hope you're healing from the trauma and the loss
@@HoneyQuintDo you know these people? Just curious.
Ended a couple friendships because I told a friend's husband about her cheating and the terrible things she'd say about his children, her family, every other woman we knew behind their backs. She went out of her way to tell people I was crazy and a liar. Luckily for me, people know I'm not a liar and I keep receipts.
I had a really good friend that lived around the corner from me a few years back. We hung out everyday. Her kids and my oldest got on the same bus across the street from her house. We would hang out and have coffee after they left for school, and talk for hours. I would even buy creamer and leave it at her house just because she was always sharing coffee with me. I would bring smoothie stuff over and make smoothies. I would help her with her dishes and cleaning her kitchen. I house sat her house one week when her family left for vacation one summer. We talked about everything. Also, she used to talk about her husband, who I never got any red flags from, and hoe he is emotionally abusive and financially abusive. She started cheating on him, and she started acting weird towards me. I noticed strsnge behaviour from her on her fb and took screenshoots of everything. She eventually blocked me on fb and instagram and just flat out stopped talking to me. Her husband actually came to me for advice and just to confide in someone close to her to try to understand why she did what she did. I was totally shocked by her actions. I showed him the screenshots because she had blockedmhim leading up to her actually cheating. Still haven't talked since then. We were practically like sisters. It hurt a lot. I think she knew I wouldn't condone her cheating behavior, unlike her trashy cousin and friend who came up from Florida to visit and only talked shit about her husband when they were all together.
lolol 😂 the roomate pushing her in front of the dog 😂😂😂 thats some shit id do, and yell good luck 😂😂
I once had a friend named John who sounds like the African lady's "friend." Always late, never had his wallet, or money, yet never finished his food when I did pay for it.
The thing was, I was never out a lot of money, or massively inconvenienced by his lateness - though I don't recall him ever being an hour late.
The other thing was, he was so personable, so gregarious, that everyone, including me, loved John.
We did have a blow-out over him ordering food, me paying for it, and him not eating it, or even taking it home. John and I still remained friends, however.
Eventually, he met some guy and they moved in together. While John was the sweetest guy, his boyfriend was a narcissistic, controlling, A-hole. When a friend and I discovered that his boyfriend was physically abusing him, that friend and I paid a visit to the boyfriend when John wasn't around.
Now my friend who went with me had been in martial arts since he'd been in the Navy, which was 10 years before I was (for both the Navy and martial arts), and I was currently studying martial arts. We were close friends, shipmates, and we made a formidable team.
I don't remember what we told the boyfriend, but it boiled down to a threat of a beat-down, as well as my friend threatening to throw him out a window, and not the 1st floor, either.
The funny thing about my friend was that he was vocally anti-gay. However, he loved John, and he was the kind to stand by a friend; the kind of friend all of us hope to have.
John and his boyfriend broke up after that, but reports from mutual friends said that as far as anyone could tell, the guy never laid a hand on John after our "pep" talk. We all drifted apart after that, but I still wonder how John is, if in fact, he's still with us (I have my doubts).
My best friend took my job. I worked as a vet tech/kennel manager at a animal hospital/shelter. I absolutely LOVED my job. My best friend would come and hang out with me when I had to stay evenings with very sick animals that we were afraid to leave alone so she learned a lot about my job. Well, my disabled son went into a coma and I had to practically live at the hospital with him. My "best friend" not only was she stealing vet meds while she hung with me (Yes, dogs take many meds we humans take and they are the same ones human get addicted to) but convinced the staff while I was gone it was me stealing them while stealing my job because she had experience from hanging with me. Only time I took pills from the clinic was antibiotics when a cat bit me and it got infected. When my son came out of his coma and done with his dialysis because he got his new kidney, I no longer had a job. That's okay, they'll figure it out when I am no longer there and their drugs will still come up missing. Apparently we weren't as close as I thought we was because I never knew she had a problem with pills. It hurt so bad along with made me so angry all in one.
OMG I'm so sorry you went through that. You were already going through such a stressful time and she just made it harder! So glad your son got a transplant and I hope he's doing well now. Do you know what ever came about with her job at the clinic?
I think I can explain about the Paris trip girl that would always be hungry but never eat. The OP mentioned her sudden weight loss and certain behaviors that make me think she had a Gastric banding surgery. It's where they basically limit your stomach capacity, so you can only hold a very tiny amount of food. As a previously much bigger person, the eating habbits remain, so one is constantly hungry, while unable to eat. This also leads to very low energy levels, constant oversleeping and often anemia. It's really quite hellish, I had a friend suffer through that. That girl was probably ashamed to admit it so she hid it and it came across as having a bad attitude. She might have also just had a bad attitude on top of it 😅, but I just wanted to bring some awareness to this, it's a tough process to go through, especially in secret and often comes across as a weird and confusing behavior.
The lady who got her friend fired, is absolutely justified! If what was happening in her personal life wasn’t severe enough to make people question her ability to work with children, she wouldn’t of gotten fired
I had a work friend for many years. I looked after her cats, even gave her one of her cats that I had rescued off the freeway. I found out she had never had a birthday party. I planned a big party, and her other friends all showed , cooked food, got cake and gifts... I thought it went well. Afterwards someone in her new group decided that 'something was wrong with me spiritually' and thought our friendship had run its course. But before telling me, they all wanted my recipe for spinach risotto casserole, which I supplied in email. Then the leader of that group started picking my recipe apart (they all loved it) but she kept making suggestions for different ingredients. I said, that sounds good too. Finally, they wanted to know what was wrong with me...I had been really cold at the party, they decided I wason drugs. Finally I just gave a BS statement...some people are friends for a reason, some for a season, blah blah. I lost no sleep over it, they were just weirdos.
😂😂 omg they sound like complete nut jobs
that child offender story really hit a nerve, an ex of mine after about a year or being split i find out from his then current girlfriend about what he had done, girl to stay with him after that you gotta have something loose in the head i wanted to bleach my entire body, id scrub mysefl clean that hard in the shower id turned into a living cooked lobster (hella creamed up after), and it was one (from my knowledge) how could you stay with him after you found out he had dont that 10 TIMES seriously she deserved more than what she got, good on the op for sticking up for those unable to *round of applause* , as awful as these stories are some times, Charlotte you make them entertaining with your reactions and honesty, your brilliant *happy/ish brit*
That first girls story about being taken advantage of by someone she thought was her best friend… felt that… I had a best friend for over 10 years, we did everything together… I always let her borrow my clothes and bought her shoes to go out bc she refused to meet dress codes, I got her in for free at every club and bar, bc I told the bouncers if I went in she had to come in, I left a Steve Aoki concert in AC bc my guy friends didn’t want her there, and said I could stay but she had to go, so I left and drove over an hour to seaside and got her into another club… anywhere we went I got her free drinks, like I was always thinking and looking out for her… I had my daughter, and was completely alone during my pregnancy… but then she got pregnant, and popped back into my life bc the guy she was with left, the reason she vanished from my life when I needed her most… then my fiancé passed in 2016, and she treated me like absolute dog crap. Before he passed, he would always tell me she was taking advantage of me, alone with my other friends, and my mom, but I never listened, I always defended her… but how she absolutely not only abandoned me when he passed, but treated me like crap and talked shit about me and him, that was it for me. I even tried to give her another chance after, I did her hair, and offered to drive her for a girls night out, and she tried to bail… I ended up talking to her sister, and she told me some of the most hurtful things she said about me, most not even true… so it took that for me to be done. Moral of the story? Sometimes the people around you know best, and see things you can’t see bc you are blinded by thinking someone is your friend, and the horrible way they treat you is “just how they are”. Listen to your loved ones when they warn you…
@@gregorysmitham7961 Well yeah. It's not like she was saying "I have nothing to say" and then said it, it's "I have to get this off my chest because it's about to explode" because that happens a lot. At least with me. The kettle just keeps reboiling again and again.
People really show who they are when you're experiencing a loss. I'm so sorry you went through that!
The dog chick is a natural story teller.. Hilarious and the "right amount of dramatic"! Love it!
So on the SP video absolutely did the right thing!! You probably saved another child if not several children!!! God bless!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Ive lost a ton of friends lately. After years of people pleasing i woke up and saw how so many of my friendships were based on me doing all the support and recieving nothing in return. I'd rather be alone than surrounded by people who take advantage and don't cheer me on. It sucks when you realise you're loved for what you do for someone and not who you are.
I agree with you. I was dumped by all my friends so fast when I didn't want to leave my then boyfriend when they asked. So I decided I was better off
A good amount of the time, it’s due to rejection in early childhood, so as a result we want to surround ourselves with people *no matter the cost* because we’re terrified (deep down) of the possibility of being alone. Except thing is, there’s a big difference between being alone and being lonely, and being alone and happy far outweighs being surrounded by people and feeling so lonely. Anyone who’s a people pleaser knows what I’m talking about- and you don’t discover it until you find your spine for one reason or another, and suddenly, you’re just not a PP anymore:)
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It really hurts when you’re putting so much effort into a friendship and the other person is just stringing you along
Yep, this comment sounds like me. 👏
The effort Charlotte's editor has to go through her various different expressions to copy-paste onto so many faces within and between different stock images. Kudos. 👏
right they're so hilarious, the one w the pilates dancer in white workout pants holding her legs in the air + charlotte's face on mark zuckerberg's face had me cackling in this episode
When it comes to SA or CP there is no level of petty too high, too wide, or too far. This is a lifelong endeavor to stop these people who are no longer human.
I cannot stress this enough: friendship breakups are WAY worse than other relationships...Thanks for this nuggets Charlotte!
This nugget
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These nuggets
Not this nuggets! Kids today have the grammatically and snytax of a pre-schooler, we're a doomed society surrounded by nitwits
Over time, all the friend groups shifting, burning bridges, and breaking away really takes a toll. It feels like something between a Housewives series and a Dystopian drama.
I had a friendship breakup with someone I knew for 10 years because her partner tried to kill me.
We were the soulmate kind of friends like the OP was talking about, like people questioned if we were dating because we were just so in love with each other as friends and inseparable.
Unfortunately, she chose a partner who would end up trying to kill me one night after he knocked her unconscious.
She didn't believe me when I told her the next morning. He had gotten to her first to explain it away. And him hurting her wasn't enough to convince her that he was too dangerous to be around.
At first, I just distanced myself, but then we wrote each other letters and essentially told each other that as much as we loved each other, we wouldn't be able to mend this rift.
There were other toxic traits, of course, that wasn't the first sign of our friendship being rocked, but it was the final straw.
Trust had been broken, and it wasn't the kind that could be fixed.
I had to divorce my best friend of 14 years. I helped raise her son from birth. I'm still close with her grown daughter, and through her, my Godson. It was really hard, but necessary. She went really toxic, and just wanted to use everyone. Our third mutual fried also cut her off. You've got to draw the line for your own sake sometimes. Even if they are like family.
The 2nd one triggered a memory. When I was first dating my future ex-wife, living in Sydney, we encountered a Funnel Web spider (highly poisonous and aggressive Australian spider) in the patio area of my house and I went out with a broom to encourage it to leave. I was brushing at it to move it along, which it did NOT appreciate and my then my gf pushed me towards this now angry venemous beast as she ran back into the house for no reason.
I should have seen this as a clear sign that she didn't genuinely care for me and dumped her immediately. So never ignore red flags!!!
Wait, you married her anyway? That's like attempted murder, Australian beasties and no joke!
@@StrangeFacinationsI was a complete moron when it came to women, I believed in the dream despite many actual experiences with them.
@@sangfroidian5451 I'm guilty of that too, I wish I had left my high school boyfriend instead of marrying him... live and learn.
@@Cynophileandavianenthusiast yeah, even when 'love' gives you a black eye you don't open those eyes right away.
Every other day, twice a week, whatever works for you, honestly. I really felt happy to hear you say there's been an improvement in your mental and physical health. I'll still watch whenever your videos are available. Make the most of your free time, you deserve it!
The CP story: it wasn't petty. It was right. In the state I live in that would mean an immediate termination in a teaching or childcare job. You are required to report those situations.
My ex best friend of nearly 20 years ghosted me out of nowhere. It’s been 3 years and it still hurts. And yes I know she’s not dead.
she slept with your partner and is too guilty to face you. it was easier to just walk away
My best friend from the age of like 2 broke up with me over a hug. It wasn't until years later that I found out her crazy ass thought I was banging her boyfriend. That was when I realized how banana-pants she was.
I'm sorry you're still hurting 🪷🪷 stay strong
@@yootubetrollpatrolwtf? I highly doubt that's it. She is probably struggling with some mental health issues. I have gone for long periods of time where I don't talk to people due to my anxiety and OCD.
That sounds horrible...my condolences ❤
Wat did you do
That lady had an absolute moral duty to ensure that former friend would not be around children, specially non-verbal kids. Child abuse takes a heavy toll on a person's life. He should have got jail.
Can we take a minute to appreciate Charlotte and the editors for giving us non stop content!
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Yes! I really love Charlotte's originality and personality, she isn't copying others, she's got her own style. It seems almost impossible for most female content creators to speak on camera without also putting on makeup (or just smearing stuff on their face unnecessarily because they already had full makeup on before they started). I don't get why so many do that. There are thousands of women who do that in their videos, so it's extremely unoriginal.
Be yourself! Everyone else is already taken! Just something that's become a pet peeve of mine, I guess.
I make an exception when it comes to Bailey Sarian, though, because she's a professional makeup artist who starts bare-faced and shows every step to the finished look, and I've learned some techniques from her. Mostly she gets a pass because I love Bailey's unique, funny personality, she doesn't do makeup in every video, and her stories are fascinating. Her Murder Makeup Mondays are always entertaining.
Best part of my day!!!
@@LazyIRanch Charlotte is funny, compassionate, and very honest about her life.
Her channel is very entertaining and she has a fantastic singing voice.
My worst friendship breakup was with a really close friend of mine in high school who told me that me having a seizure was a "convenient" way to explain my behavior at a school dance. Basically I wandered off the dance floor away from my date because I was having what's called a complex partial seizure. I like to call them "Jesus take the wheel seizures" because I essentially stumbled around like a zombie for several minutes because I was no longer in control of my body. My friends were mad at me for ditching my date, but backed off once I figured out it was a seizure. Ex-friend didn't. She doubled down in her efforts to get the group to hate me, even going as far as cyber bullying and threats. She kept telling me to stop lying and that "seizures don't do that". This was after we consulted my neurologist and he explained that different types of seizures look different and not all seizures are convulsive. Finally I blocked her on everything and stopped talking to that friend group when they continued to talk to her and try and excuse her craziness. Lost about 5 friends all in one go just because one psycho believed she knew better than a trained doctor and and me about when I did or didn't have a seizure.
I had a BFF on and off about 5 years or more. She was extremely toxic and it took me ages to work out she was gaslighting me. I finally got wise and broke it off. She begged me for another chance, and then we both broke it off after about a year. Just glad she is out of my life.
I´m so sorry you had to go through that drama while also going through the health worries. I hope you have good friends now because those definitely weren´t that.
I don't understand why your friends were mad that you walked away from your date. Even if your actions had been intentional--which I absolutely believe they were not, as seizure activity can look like pretty much anything, and even after the seizure is over, there can be a post-ictal period of confusion and unusual behavior that isn't in the patient's control--maybe you needed to use the restroom or get some fresh air. Maybe your date said or did something that you weren't okay with, and you needed to get away. Going to a dance with a date doesn't mean you have to glue yourself to that person's side. It's bizarre that _this_ is what set your ex close friend off.
Once you understood what happened and told your ex-friends, they should have been terrified that you could have gotten hurt during your seizure. I'm a stranger, and my first thought was to worry that you could have wandered into traffic, fallen down stairs, headed outside and ended up with hypothermia or heat stroke (depending on the climate where you live), or gone somewhere dangerous. The people who care about you should have prioritized your safety. If they were concerned about your actions that night, someone could have just followed you to ask why you'd left so abruptly; they could have gotten you help when you didn't respond, seemed vacant, and continued to aimlessly wander around.
I hope you know now that you deserve so much better than your ex-friend and her apologists. You deserve friends who will look out for you if you start behaving oddly. You deserve to be protected when you're unable to protect yourself. You deserve to have people in your life who want the best for you, and would never cut you down.
I hope that you and your medical team have gotten appropriate control of your seizures, and that the seizures aren't connected to anything more disruptive to your life. I hope you have unwavering support from people who love you. It's terrifying to lose control of the body. I'm a fellow Spoonie, also with invisible illnesses that aren't well understood. One of the worst parts of invisible, chronic illness is finding out how many people can't accept health issues that they don't--and often choose not to--understand. I'm sorry that you had to learn the hard way how shallow your former friends were. I've often wondered if people behave that way because they can't stand to admit that horrible things happen to decent people, as it means that they're vulnerable, too.
I'm sending internet love and hugs your way (if you want them, of course). 💙🤗
@@katie6731 Thank you so much for the support! I'm in a much better place now. Got the seizures under control and am trying to live a somewhat normal life. Have much better friends too.
My ex friend was mad at first because she was trying to set me up with my date, even though I wasn't interested. He got mad that I ditched him, and went all nice guy on me. Though he was the first to apologize when everything came to light. He told me that he didn't follow me because he thought I just got sick of dancing with him and wanted to leave. He wanted to give me space. I had one friend try to stop me. She was the one who told me I looked like a zombie. She thought I was upset which was why I didn't answer when she tried talking to me. She was the only one that defended me. Worst part was that the day after I had no memory of any of it. In fact I had a false memory, so I had no idea why all my friends were mad at me.
Just a week ago I saw an acquaintance of mine stop in front of the store where I work and just go blank. I know he has a seizure disorder but had never seen it happen before. I just stepped outside and took his hand and told him to hang on and stay with me and held his hand until he looked more aware. Seemed like a long time but was probably just 3-4 minutes. Following his seizure, he sat down on the sidewalk and had a short fit of temper where he ranted about things. Once this passed he got up and hugged me and thanked me and left. I was a little shook so I texted his neighbour that used to work with me so I could let someone know about his seizure ( they are close friends). The neighbour texted me after work to let me know the friend had gone to feed his Mom’s dog and that the temper thing happens after the seizure so never to take any of it personally it’s just kind of a fugue state that happens when he’s coming out of it. I’m really glad that I went out to him that day, the idea of some one being in such a vulnerable state alone scares me. I wish you had a better friend with you when it happened.
I agree it’s super rude to be late. I make it a habit to be early because my anxiety can’t take being late
And if I am running late. I'm letting you know in advance and giving you an ETA 😂
@@heatherlowe7330 exactly! A quick text takes just a second, and is so considerate to whoever you are meeting with.
After losing my mom, I lost long friendships too. You really find out who are your real family and friends during a traumatic event.
why did you lose your friendships? did you retreat due to depression?
I lost whatever "friends" I thought I had after a traumatic event, as well. Haven't made another close friend since.
You really do learn who actually cares for you during something like that, which really doesn't help the situation, but I guess at least you know..
Same here, all except one, my boyfriend and best friend at the time.
This still sticks with me today. One of my "besties" who I knew since elementary school suddenly became distant with me during our senior year of high school. I never knew why, but I had my suspicions. One girl she was friends was SUPER jealous of me and my other bestie, and she would spend a lot of time with my ex best friend. When I told her how I felt, she said there was nothing she could do and it's best to go our separate ways.
I was devastated and cried for days. I'd also lose my friend group at that point.
However, my best friend and I are still going strong at 13 years of friendship ❤
I had a childhood best friend who 'dumped' me. I was hurt. She and her mom were obsessed with everything being 'the best' and they looked down on my family, even though my dad had a white collar job. I found out a couple years ago she had been shot by her husband. She survived. I mailed her a note, but she never responded.
@@StrangeFacinations oh geez! I'm so sorry you went through that
YEESSS!!! Besties stick together no matter what. I am happy for you.
@@StrangeFacinations You are kind, don't worry about her not responding she either has a lot going on or embarrassed to answer you.
@@houski4242564 thank you! It might help that my BFF and I are both Pisces lmao
For the last part of the video.... I like how you left the girls face up long enough to notice how good her make up was ❤
I had a best friend for approximately 11 years of my life but she moved and we lost contact for 2-3 years and we gained back contact around a year ago we aren’t best friends like we were before but it’s still nice to message her whenever I think about it, and invite her over every so often :)
But I still miss when our friendship felt effortless like it was just there, and we didn’t have to feel so awkward.
There was this girl. We were best friends for 9 years. Then she suddenly stopped talking to me because a guy she liked liked me. She knew I've never even talked to him or anything. Made me realize how easily friendships can break apart lol
Me and my childhood best friend had a "breakup" because I started dating a guy she liked, even though she only started liking him after I said I liked him. We've been married for a year and a half now 😁❤
Those friendships ain't worth it!!
That has happened to me too lol. It's sooo ridiculous! You can't help it!😂 I understand your friend being disappointed, but it's not like you ended up marrying him or anything lol!
@@floralmaggiee3265One of my old best friends tossed our friendship for a guy too. Get this though..I was talking to him first. I still had feelings for my ex though and I basically had to choose. I chose the new guy and when I told my friend she got pissed and stormed off..that is when I found out she liked him. So, I broke up with him and went back to my ex instead so that she could have the new guy. Well..the new guy would follow me around like a puppy and laugh at everything I said making it so mad obvious to my friend that he liked me more than her. So she friend dumped me and told him to be mean to me at school and at work. Guess what ? They lasted 3 months. Never even had sex or anything. I ended up dating him later on and we lasted 5.5 years and even got married, I also took his virginity. Oh ! And I found out from my ex that she tried to get with him too. Lol ((btw, we divorced though. I'm remarried happily. He remarried too but they also divorced.))
One Thing that holds the friendship between me and my best friend together is that we are both chronically late, so anytime we meet I'm very happy that I don't have to be stressed bc I know she'll be late too.. were also both severely depressed so we're often unable to communicate long stretches of time, which is a good thing bc that takes away the anxiety and guilt I feel when I'm not being able to consistently stay in contact with people
No, the one with CP is not wrong. She’s a hero.
So somehow this has come at the exact time I needed it. 2 of my oldest friends recently betrayed me so badly I tried to end the pain by taking my own life. It helps so much to know that I'm not alone and thank you for the book recommendation Charlotte
Awh, i hope you're doing great! You deserve to be happy, I'm proud of you for being strong and trying to get through what you had to experience. Remember that you are worthy and don't let anybody tell you otherwise! Sending hugs!
You're value is not determined how people treat you!
@@natsuhi7768 thank you 🥹
My heart goes out to you. My best friend’s betrayal, among a bunch of other horrible shit and my sister calling me a burden, sent me to a mental health facility. Insurance kicked me out too early so I went through like 2.5 rounds of outpatient. It was pure hell. Her parents felt like the only people in the world who cared about me (there were other people but they were mutual friends with my ex friend and I felt like I couldn’t talk to them.)
Omg, purple eyeshadow on dark skin is so stunningly beautiful 😍😍😍
side note: paris girl's story - can we just appreciate that eyeshadow? girl has me over here wanting to know the brand because it just pops so beautifully. especially as she moves her head back and forth.
I vibe with the first girl so much. I'm aroace and my best friend of 9 years was the closest thing to a love relationship I ever had. I also considered her my soulmate, we were talking all day everyday and sharing everything, I figured a lot of things about myself thanks to her, and I hope I helped her through some of the traumatic shit she went through. Unfortunately at some point said traumatic shit made her very toxic and abusive in turn. She would make very passive-agressive comments on how "I was not vegan yet" (when I had told her multiple times why it was a dumb choice for me, she knew very well about my eating disorder), and she would create drama for the most mundane things just for the sake of being a sjw. We had a two-months-long fight over text (we live opposite sides of the country)... And at some point I realized that I was the only one making efforts to better myself in the situation. She was saying that she was the perfect friend, that she was there for me even when I acted so out of place etc... And she never even entertained the idea to acknowledge that I wasn't the only one in the wrong in this situation. So I sent her a last "You're hurting me like you've been hurt before but unlike you I know when to bail out, so I'll block you and don't contact me ever again". This was three years ago almost exactly. I miss the relationship we had, but I certainly don't miss her. I do hope she is in a healthier place mentally
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Pushing the friend in front of the dog reminded me of that Seinfeld episode where a fire breaks out and George loses it and starts yelling and pushing everyone out of his way to get out of the building first.
The one who got the one fired wasn't petty at all. That is safety for the kids. If her ex friend can stay with a man who pled guilty to all of that cannot be trusted around kids. Hope that woman never finds another job dealing with kids as long as she's with that guy.
Agreed! This situation kept getting so much worse that I gasped. She would be working with not just children, but special needs non verbal?
My hackles are up.
Oh man, I feel the whole dumb miscommunication thing. After falling out with my best friend/soul mate of 13 years, I tried so desperately to get back in touch and have a real conversation about what happened, each talking about our own sides and trying to figure things out from there. She was having none of it. It hurt learning that I cared more about us than she did, but I guess it was never meant to be. I hope she's doing well and genuinely wish her the best, but I'm glad she showed me how little she cared so I could stop fruitlessly trying to glue our cracking friendship back together.
I can’t imagine after that long. My best friendship of all time lasted 5 years before she just started spontaneously bullying me and ignoring when her boyfriend would bully me. Weirdly I’m very very close to her parents still. Like I wouldn’t be alive without them literally. But her betrayal sent me to a mental health facility. Fourteen years I think I would just disintegrate.
@@thaloblue it definitely hasn't been easy. This was almost 4 years ago now and it still hurts and shows no sign of stopping soon. I'm sorry about your friendship, though it sounds like you are definitely better off without her! I hope it gets easier for you soon, and I'm glad you have her parents to look out for you. Take care of yourself ♥
@@twistedxredxribbon thank you! You too. I wish you the best on your healing journey. Take opportunities to be kind to yourself. Just because she iced you out doesn’t mean you’re not worthy of people’s time. There are people out there who will love you for you consistently.
Recently found your channel. I love it! You really do make me laugh out loud. Awesome. Too funny!
My biggest therapy work is on how many toxic friendships I've been in where I've been frenemied HARD and betrayed by people I believed to be closer than actually were.
I actually cannot get close to other women as friends as a result of multiple harms. I'll definitely be reading the book recommendation, "The disease to please".❤
I ended a friendship last year and it really made me question wanting to start new friendships. She was so selfish, took advantage of others, inconsiderate of others feelings and a huge gossiper. I saw the red flags but tried to accept her. But when I tried to bring up my feelings, she’d make excuses and blame me. I had a feeling she was gossiping about me to her “friends” and I no longer could consider her a friend. Know your worth and what you deserve.
My best friendship collapsed in 2021. It sent me to a mental health facility and No way I’m not fucking okay or eager to make new friendships. Some days it’s all I think about and its been two years. I was supposed to be at her wedding.
She had men standing on her side of the aisle because she cannot maintain a relationship with any woman long enough to have more than like 3 distant friends show up.
@@thaloblue Sorry to hear how bad your friend hurt you. Seems like my ex friend could be friends with yours, they sound like they have a lot in common. Doesn’t it make you feel betrayed and like you wasted so much time on them? Time that you could never get back.
They say about a gossiper if you're enjoying the tea then don't be surprised if the tea gets spilled about you somewhere else.
@@ArtzieGal most of my life feels wasted, i guess, so the time with her doesn’t necessarily feel wasted specifically. She’s actually the reason I ever left the house outside of college classes. I think my affection and emotional investment certainly feel wasted and thrown back in my face. I wept as she wept over her tragedies in life. I believed us to be “brethren” through everything. In the end, her racist bully boyfriend meant more to her. During the George Floyd movement at that.
@@ArtzieGal I know concretely that I spent the last five years on an unbalanced emotional scale. She told me my mother was toxic and weighing me down, but she wasn’t much better of a person. Just better enough to notice and say something. Still evil enough to use me the same way.
i love that your close freind edits your videos for you and just gets to watch you and probably laugh her ass off at the fact that you just be yourself lmao and be like yep...thats just charlotte XD
I have absolutely NO sympathy for chomos or those who willing interact (especially in an intimate capacity) with them knowing what they are. That friend did the RIGHT thing in bringing her “friend’s” connection to light with that POS to the school board!
No sympathy for whom?
@genevievebonneau09 I looked it up, it's slang for child m*lesters.
@@genevievebonneau09CHOMOS
@@MaynardsSpaceshipWhat's a chomos?
@@genevievebonneau09 I believe it is shorthand for 'child m*lesters'