Mother In-Law Issues | After The Vows - Episode 5 | Season 1 | Full Episode
Вставка
- Опубліковано 18 жов 2024
- When people get married, they don’t just marry their partners, but they also marry into their extended families. In-laws can be a blessing or a curse in a marriage. Our host sits down with different guests who have experienced different mother-in-law issues in their current or past marriages to share their views on the issue. Guests also touch on some of their experiences and how they’ve managed the situation to date. Amongst our guests is also a mother-in-law who also shares views on why she does what she does as a mother-in-law.
Content produced by Rise Up Productions for SABC 2.
Follow us on all social media platforms for more:
/ atv_sabc2
/ afterthevows_sabc2
/ afterthevowstvshow
/ afterthevows_sabc2
linktr.ee/atvs...
I don't know if these episodes are cut and made shorter, if they are please don't. I'm sure most of us here would love to watch longer episodes. They really are great!
Its made for sabc2 . I wish it could be longer aswell
Even the sister in-laws are a problem
@@KhatazaMbhombhi tm.
Kim
@@KhatazaMbhombhi tm.
Kim
I agree.
Mme Ranaka is so wise.
If i were keen to get married, that is the kind of woman i could be praying for to be my mother in law. God bless and give her a looooong life.
Yesses Mpho Popps is killing these conversations🔥🔥🔥❤ It's so good to see this side of him👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾. Great show
The lady in Golds expression are giving me life everytime Tebogo speaks😭😭😭
I was cringing 😬 the whole time...iyooh
Pure cringe
He is putting the blame of his (assumed) failed marriage on his ex wife. I don’t like the words he uses to describe her and the woman he dated after the ex wife
I was also ☹, he seems to be the problem here. He needs counselling indoda ekhuluma kanje!
I used to work with Tebogo u mite wanna delay ur judgements until u hear his full story da guy is strong yet he needs to heal... 🙌🙌
I really truly love you Mme Ranaka 💓💓💓 i saw her from last season of the Ranakas her love for Michelle its immeasurable this is what we need from Mother in laws not what we are getting because most of them are so bitter
I have the best mother-in-law. She regards me as her daughter and i regard her as my mother. The same as my husband and my own mother. Respecting each other is crucial.
I have the best mother in-law ever I will choose her again and again, God bless u mama,
You very lucky ❤❤
Please also discuss toxic BoMokoti and BoMokgonyana. It would be very interesting to hear that side too. Learning a lot.
i like how pops addressed Ntate Tebogo he is truly hurt and you can hear how he talks about his previous partners uguthi he is still bitter. I don't think anyone can be this disrespectful to others nje
I'm not understanding how Tebogo has been in 2 failed marriages and he fully believes the women were the problem when he is the common denominator 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
red billboards
Have u noticed he said his wife was a child and not matured only to find out she was killed.
If her death hurt him i don't think he would say negative things about her
Makes sense why he was accused of killing his wife
I honestly believe he's a narcissist
Because he's a narcissist
exactly something in him is attracting children he might have the same traits himself or trauma there or seeking childish women because they are the ones to accept him.
I some how don’t believe the man with a cap😅. If everyone around you is the problem even when you meet new people then there’s a common denominator. Self reflection leads to growth
100% he is so degrading of his previous partners. That alone was distasteful.
What i thought too
He can't even explain what really went wrong in his relationships.
He can't even mention one instance Nthabiseng Mokwene
that's not always the case. This is life and sometimes history repeats itself but that doesn't mean you're the problem
This show needs to be an hour long please.
Enjoying this but the edits are robbing us if the conversation. Feels like important details were cut out. There's no flow🥺 kindly share full version
I match Mamanese's facial expressions towards Tebogo
Yhooo,,thats me😫
😂 akere. The cringing bathong🙆♀️
🙆🙆🙆
She couldn’t believe what she was hearing😂🤣
@@booairmow 😂😂😂😂 yazin.... She was shocked
If he knew his wife couldn't cook, why didn't he cook or hire someone who can, aai that guy is something else
Thank you 😊
Toxic man
More than that he knew she couldnt cook like his mom yet he married her anyway. There is no reason for him to remind her of her shortcomings bcoz if his wife would do the same he would be very angry about it!!!
Please consider making the discussions longer for maximum benefits. Too much has been left hanging. Thank you though for these talks.
It's the facial expressions of the guests for me🤣🤣
We as women don't need a man like Tebogo... Noh shame 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
He is a danger!
Very dangerous
🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
LOL...Seems like hes feeling the same about yall too.... FACE TO FACE
Can we get an uncut version of this please, I feel like guests said a lot but we only got a short version of it 🙏PLEASE
I feel like Tebogo needs a whole episode on his own.
Especially here on UA-cam they should just play the whole thing
Tjooo I agree with everyone who is asking for longer version,I'm learning a lot here...
Well I am glad to say my relationship with my mum in law is awesome, it takes respect and communicating
The guy who spoke in the beginning 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Hey mtase... he is scary!
The levels of him thinking he's Mr. Right 🚩🚩
Mrs Ranaka ❤👊👊 Mitchell is truly blessed to have you 🤞
The family should also be briefed about the person they are yet to meet, the wife
@@tondaniraluswinga2590 A relationship is being established so it cannot be one-sided. Again, We can't be the only ones to serve and walk on eggshells all the time, there is no authenticity there. The family also has to accommodate us and know what kind of a person is coming.
Yes , most times people only see the in-laws as the problem le bona ele diproblem.
Say that again. Hhayibo they do...
Me too I was never gonna marry Tebogo even if he was a last man available, he sounds like nguzwi lakhe.
Ndimve xa ethetha nge gravy ndabona ba no ubrothers is the problem for some odd reason I wondered(before) he actually confirmed they broke up and I was like yep thought as much... I'm sure he would talk down on her re the gravy stuff possibly nezinye and would later praise his moms cooking in front of her.... triangulation at its best
😆 🤣 😂 the lady in gold doek 😆 🤣 😂 she is shocked of the things Tebogo said are "shuu"
He gives me ama vibes ka mamas boy nje naye.
Tebogo was or is definitely the problem, I mean he is the common denominator as married 2 people, who don't know anything about each other.
There is absolutely no need for him to humiliate them like that, I didn’t like the way he spoke about them.
@@joycemasusu2315 exactly he forgets it takes 2 to tango, he has a hand in the failure as much as they do. One thing I have come to realise is that the people who bad mouth other people are trying to cover up their own guilt
I wanted to hear the nuggets of wisdom from Mme Ranaka and it seems to have been cut out.🥲
I had the worst experience with my mamazala but I promised myself to raise my son to be man not a boy like his dad,when I think of her I get awful nightmares,she was the worst
The cutting of episodes is breaking my heart.
Came running because i saw Mam Siba 💕
So we all agree they invited a psychopath to the conversation and he had the least airtime probably because he must have said more alarming things that had to be edited out for our viewing...
The uncut version would have us all in more shock it seems
This man is insulting his ex wives but he is actually insulting himself he chose these women out of many!! If he chose 2 children than that means he is the problem shame!!
@@morpheus6394 who said that?
Too short hle. Please take this to 157 Moja love
4:29 that’s my physics and chemistry teacher😭😭😂
When Tebogo "especially in a society that we're living in, where women are being killed"... all I heard was "walk away before you kill someone" 🥴🥴🥴 This guy is dangerous!
This guy is a narcissist. The way he speaks of his ex wife 🤨
Thank you my centiments exactly and he convinced himself that whatever he is saying makes sense
I saw that too I was like ehhhh
@@summadaze2546 twice he was in a relationship with a child 😂😂…
No mahn quit playing with us
Here we go again with armchair psychotherapists with their rampant labels 🤦🏾♀️
You are like my son am so worried
Very insightful episode, this revealed that there's more to marriage than "i do"
Mme Ranaka ❤️ would've loved to hear more from here I feel like she has got gems to throw
I love this show and this topic was great.
There are mother in laws who will never ever accept any wife for their children. The wife can be loving, understanding and submissive to the point of breaking their own backs for acceptance. There are mother in laws who are just demons nje.
Then we have wives who also have a mentality that their are marrying the husband and not the family and they are tempted to take over instead of building. These wives are also toxic.
Then we have husband's or son's that have no back bone and are old in age but very young in leadership and decision making. These men are not ready to be men, let alone husband's.
I loved what Mme Ranaka and the other lady said, the man must set the tone.
Husband knows his family and mother best, he must set the tone and this tone is not set after the wedding. It's set the day he decides to have you as his wife and introduce's you to his parents or parent.
If he has a stubborn and unreasonable mother then he must be prepared to stand by you as the wife at all cost.
That's part of leadership. He sets the tone and the standard since he is the one bringing you into his territory, otherwise it is bound to fall apart.
Tebogo please heal, you’re partially the problem.
He needs to work on himself that one
@@summadaze2546 very much so, he can’t keep saying the women where the problem. It takes two to break a relationship. He’s a narcissist 🤨
He is the problem 😩😩 how he speaks i am glad that woman left
Tebogo you r de problem find healing n hav peace
100%
No wonder mme ranakas children treat their sister in law as their own. They were raised by a force
But that one who is divorced doesn't like the Makoti but they put her in her all the time
I know the show is made for SABC, a 30 min program but can you also send myb digital exclusuves wt more scenes,,, the topics are very good, engaging but so abrupt. Good show,, keep it up...
This is the type of mothers we need indeed .
Did Tebogo just say he was accused of killing his wife or he was just giving an example? 😱, he's bitterness is so chilling
Ndiyamoyika sana.
“Finish & Klaar” 😂😭!
Mme Ranaka is amazing 🙌
I love how this show sheds light on real issues with some humor. I wish it was longer.
I'm here for Mama Ranaka. That Lady is a true Mother. The wisdom is extraordinary..
The Cap guy gives me abusive woman basher vibes and crips. Something is very uneasy about him.
Please don't cut the conversations, it's so empty
You can tell the woman in the gold doek is afraid of the guy in the cap...her expressions in the last minutes of the vid show it
The guests are being cut short. The conversations are being cut short. Let them speak and not for 5 seconds.💔
We deserve mother in laws like Mme Ranaka 🙏🏾❤
Tebogo you are a child wena 😂😂😂
Want to watch this series with my partner... 👌🏽
This didn’t feel like an episode but an advertisement. Hopefully they will release the full episodes
Mme Ranaka's love for Michelle is unmatched❤
Michelle is blessed 🙌💖
I am a mother to one boy, eish, i hope i dont fall into these traps of ill treating his partner. We are very close
let him Go
Amazing Show and quite a powerful impact
That daddy with a cap...he failed because he is so belittling!!!
He keeps attacking his partners maturity and saying that they children... and it’s very clear that he wants exactly what he is attracting...
Someone who will move to his tune.
But he is not ready to look in the mirror .... and that’s why Mpho said... he needs healing!
First thing is to be at a place where he can use better adjectives for his previous partners....
Incompatible vs. maturity of a child
What's funny is that he married the children while he knew they were children. He should have went for the matured ones
Thank you so much for this episode and l really appreciate and luv mama Ranaka and straight talk
This guy with the hat Tebogo is making me cringe each time he speaks...Like WTH man 🤨
I feel like his not getting that Marriage is not about what you bring its about working together to the success if it...Like the pettiness of my Wife could not cook...Why could he not also teach himself to and how to make the so called gravy
Me too, he married children twice. He can’t see he’s the problem 😅😑
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣me too, yoooh this guy his the problem
Like am sitting here and watching the Lady in the Doek just forgot her name almost collapse in shock as he was speaking 😐
A narcissist of note. My eyes popped everytime he spoke. So much growing up and healing he still needs to do. It’s so sad that he doesn’t see anything wrong with him; which is supposed to be the foundation of bettering himself. You could tell the host and the other man were indirectly throwing advise without sounding like they are insulting him
That one must stay single nje 🚮
But this show is good waitse. I'm single but this is great content. We are all learning and equipping ourselves.
I just love Mme Ranaka ...Michelle you are blessed 🙌🏽
May we have more mothers in law like Mme Ranaka, May God bless mme 👏🏽🙌🏽
Please post the unedited video
I will always love my wife and honor my mother. I cannot by any means sleep with my mother, but at anytime with my wife. Simply put, there are kinds of love and so, in the case of a wife and mother, the both love given cannot be labeled the same. Men who say “I love my mother than my wife” are nepeos (children).You’ve got to be a husband which means you should have the right values and be straightforward and unbiased! Two-way street. I love my wife!!! I honor my mother.
In which street did they pick up Tebogo cause hayini???!!!! I’m so embarrassed for his wife
🤣🤣🤣😅
😂😂 I can’t. It’s like you are sitting beside me. I’m laughing hard!
This episode was over too soon☹. The edits really cut the flow of the conversation & I think they only scratched the surface. It would've helped for us to 1st get an introduction and more insightful story about all the guests, coz the bits & pieces they gave us throughout this edited version left me with so many unanswered questions. The questions could've been more planned & structured for such an interesting and rather deep topic. Otherwise, thank you all for your time and insights.
Love the show big up sabc
The host did a brilliant job 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Love this programme 👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿
My mom-in-law kicked me out of my marital home and changed the locks after giving birth, holding a 2 week old baby with a c-section. As we speak I have need to go to court because his son stands by her. I lost my job, hubby paid lobola and a celebration was done but now I am being told I am not his wife and because he purchased the house, therefore i want him to marry me because of the house. This is the same man I stood with in a rented cottage with only cold water during lockdown and now I'm a gold digger. I need a good lawyer, I have a approached the court and mominlaw decided to bring lawyers as she is monied, very controlling too. I need urgent help...
This is evil, I am so sorry that you are going through this.
@@gontsephaloane1530 Thank you. Your words give me strength. After giving birth via c section, she came to my house insisting that I was supposed to be in her house since returning from hospital, for peace sake I went there, I cooked, cleaned washed and hanged laundry even the sheets that I slept on for those 5 days that I was there but she had the audacity to tell my family that she expected me to wash the blankets too, imagine. The infant was a week old. She is a retired nurse.
He paid lobola for you. You are legally married, I pray you find a good lawyer soon. So sorry for what has happened to you🙏🏿
@@Star26900 Thank you. We had our first appearance and the judged ruled that I be granted access to the house once again till the next hearing. I need to get a lawyer that's willing to help me pro bono, perhaps they can claim back the money from him once we win the case. First night back here with the kids, I can't sleep. It's clear some one was residing here. The mominlaw was here removing everything, together with the son.
So sorry that you’re going through this . Prayer strengthens us during hard time . When God Jehovah is doing the background work, miracles happen . All the best
14:34 Abuti Tebogo needs to do a bit of an introspection. You can't have the same exact experience with two different individuals and yet all the blame lies on them. There's certainly something he wasn't getting right on his end as wel. And that's my two cents.
The lady on a gold head scarf left home for 2 years because of a piece of meat. I think the meat was just a tipping point, there was a brewing problem way before the meat.
She was pregnant as well but I think she was supposed to be fine after she gave birth and should've gone back to show them the child at least 🤷♀️
@@nyashajay85 what is they also were equally mad and not interested in seeing the child?
Lungile Ringani some women will convince men that they donot want to have any sort of communication with their relatives until they are ready to and they include the kids in the whole equation as well because the feel they are not welcome in the family....
2 yrs sounds too long and too extreme but I respect a husband who stands by his wife and hides her nakedness
@@thakirams6914 true
Mine was okay for awesome 10 years 💝🌹💝🌹.. Until my eldest sister in law came back from he matrimonial home (passing of he bubby) 🤕... She influenced both mother in law and my husband.. 💔.. My husband chose the over me and our children. It's unfortunate that we had to part ways. 🎁🎁🎁
Yho tebogo we don't speak like that when the person is dead
Entlek you are the problem
This was too short!! I wish you could have explored this topic longer and in greater detail.
Tebogo🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
From the first minute he opened his mouth enje!
😂😂 that first skit😂
Bhuti here will continue blaming women and labelling them as kids until he deals with the common denominator in the situation. He sounds like a heartbroken man that actually needs a professional to guide him through that which is causing him pain. Love and light kubhuti bakithi🕯️
Moreeeee episodes please 🙏🏾
The relationship of mother inlaw and daughter in-law must start before the marriage,the son is the one who suppose to support this relationship for both women to work.
This show is nice and i love the conversations, I just feel that they cut the guests passively while they still talking and we don't get to connect fully with guest on their commentary. Pls editor do best.
I wish I could have a mother in law a tshwanang le mme MaRanaka hleng joh... Shez loving and o bontsha bomme ba hae and kgetholle
I would like to hear Tebogo’s ex wife give her side of the story
Someone needs to look into this dude with the cap, he has a very sinister vibe to him😩
Being married to a breadwinner, sho! 😭😭
ryt
Mme Ranaka we need a conference le wena you are an epitome of a great mother inlaw you need to teach more women how to deal with their makotis. Nna am raising a son and I prayed to God to release him when the time comes. I need understand that am not loosing him he just doing what was meant to be. I was entrusted with rearing him only no ownership.
Is it me or was this too short
Ai cha shame you know it’s real when the therapist gave Tebogo a look 😂 we might not know the full story but the little he said was 🚩
Tebogo is the problem. Two marriages down the drain. And he keeps on blaming the ex wives. Tgeres nowhere where he is taking ownership of his faults. It takes two to tango.
There's
so what is Tebogo Story? i feel like we need a whole session with him and a psychologist in the room
So Tebogo calls his wives children?
Like really maybe he is the boy in the relationship
@@kokimothoagae9533 he probably is the boy, it sounds like he is projecting (making his insecurities look like what is wrong with the other people)
Can you guys please stop cutting episodes. The show is deeper but is served to us in a surface level because there some deep parts that are being cut out.
They want you to watch the show live this is just to entice us!!!
Tebogo needs therapy... lol
No doubt
Mme Ranaka God bless u... Keep it up
Why are the subtitles not so clear?
Owu i love my mother inlaw, my man made things clear from the beginning. I'm a Xhosa lady and they are Pedi's. One of the sister inlaw tried to do funny staff but my man wayilungisa immediately and in front of everyone.
Yoooh Guys #Tebogo🏃♂️🏃♀️🏃♂️🏃♀️🏃♂️🏃♀️🏃♂️🏃♀️ #wow
I'm shocked #toxic
Not your daughter being an extra💀
His own blood 👀
Lalela ngiyasukuma ngiyahlala l wish they can see this one
What channel does this play in?
Sabc 2, 19:30 hrs on sundays
Hhayi uTebogo, he made me laugh more than Mpho Pops 😹🤞🏾