+Laura L Mcneil Yes, grieving is a natural process that leads to healing and growth. The ability to grieve is a core skill of emotional intelligence. Best wishes on your journey to wholeness and your True Self!
This was a great video. It is very sad when we live in a glass castle of our own creation to protect ourselves but once it is shattered, we have the opportunity to rebuild ourselves while having healthy boundaries instead of distractions from our own trauma and pain. Victor Frankl said that life is suffering but surviving is finding a lesson in the suffering. It’s never too late to find that child inside of us and rescue them ourselves instead of waiting for someone else to save them.
I just watched this realising I was holding onto a fantasy that was protecting me from pain and fear I know how to feel now without the fantasy and dreaming I used to use to protect myself
This "Shattered" poem depicts my experience of a breakdown in which I self-imploded. Ever since then, I have had to face some of the most heart-wrenching truths of my childhood that lead to the ultimate heart-wrenching truths of today. The Scapegoat never allowed the right to exist. A lifetime of extreme invalidation. A journey in which one must walk alone apart from family so that the lifetime of accumulated, unexpressed, invalidated, unacknowledged, pain can be lifted and life can become more than the burden of pain. It is the saddest thing ever.
Because, as Carl Jung wrote, "there's no coming to consciousness without pain." Childhood illusions are often brilliant ways for powerless children to fend off pain. However, as a powerless child becomes empowered as an adult, they no longer need those illusions, but until they are aware they are illusions and not facts, there's nothing they can do about them.
No I was not bad but I married an alcoholic and now have 2 adult alcoholic children. I can't change them either. There are many other people I can enjoy in life, I am not hopeless. Thank you.
I saw the man inside my head disintegrate in front of me, He lie awake while in my head and yet just stood with me, So I made a place where he could stay and say no more to me, His cage went far into the ground I don’t even know the sound of his own voice, I don’t remember the last rejoice nothing of value that voice that voice. Argumentative at choice, I don’t want or need -it whatever that thing even is and nothing would makle me morer happy 0th anm 0to I saw more men inside my head they’re me they’re me they’re me, Beat them good and now they should be what I can be, They needn’t worry about their soul it’s just me after all, I’m good anyway, the rotten doctrine that rules us has him good, I know this is the only way, it doesn’t make much sense any other way, That old way I can’t see it means nothing to me I should say I should say I should say, Wait that wasn’t me, but he’s looking at me in this cage far away, I must escape through words I’ll erase what he’s done what he’s done to me, Who let him in, don’t blame don’t blame don’t blame, It’s just me the one that can see through these eyes. Me and only me.
This is the first visdeo I don´t like, i think that you can do better that this and adress this important issue in a more possitive way, because we need hope, no distress
I think it is really important for our inner child to SEE that the things we told ourselves are not really the truth(as illustrated by the poem). ....they were just self protective. To me, that is the very first step of healing, because, you see, if we are still insistent on staying in that glass castle, things will never really change. Wishing you the best on your healing journey.
This resounds. Letting go and grieving is part of my healing process. Hope is on the horizon...this stage doesn't last forever :)
+Laura L Mcneil Yes, grieving is a natural process that leads to healing and growth. The ability to grieve is a core skill of emotional intelligence. Best wishes on your journey to wholeness and your True Self!
This was a great video. It is very sad when we live in a glass castle of our own creation to protect ourselves but once it is shattered, we have the opportunity to rebuild ourselves while having healthy boundaries instead of distractions from our own trauma and pain. Victor Frankl said that life is suffering but surviving is finding a lesson in the suffering. It’s never too late to find that child inside of us and rescue them ourselves instead of waiting for someone else to save them.
Borinquena1973 Thank you for your insightful comment! Best wishes!
Stunning poetry
It's so helpful to know that there are others who had similar experiences. Thank you.
+Cindy Ortiz-Bartley I agree! A stunning poem!
It was helpful to identify the pain so that we can confront where the illusions come from. Thank you, very helpful.
Renee Moncrief ....Thank you! Best wishes!
Thanks Counselor Carl. 💙💫✨
I just watched this realising I was holding onto a fantasy that was protecting me from pain and fear I know how to feel now without the fantasy and dreaming I used to use to protect myself
That's an important part of the grieving and healing process necessary for recovery from childhood abuse and dysfunction. Best wishes!
This "Shattered" poem depicts my experience of a breakdown in which I self-imploded. Ever since then, I have had to face some of the most heart-wrenching truths of my childhood that lead to the ultimate heart-wrenching truths of today. The Scapegoat never allowed the right to exist. A lifetime of extreme invalidation. A journey in which one must walk alone apart from family so that the lifetime of accumulated, unexpressed, invalidated, unacknowledged, pain can be lifted and life can become more than the burden of pain. It is the saddest thing ever.
Yes, it does involve a lot of grieving, but it's a journey one must take to heal from past trauma. Best wishes!
@@Serenityonlinetherapy I agree. Thank you, Carl,, much appreciated!
@@snoopy-mf7nv You're welcome!
I am not grieving. I am healing.
Hello...what a beautiful and powerful poem. Why do you think most are afraid to let go from their childhood?
Because, as Carl Jung wrote, "there's no coming to consciousness without pain." Childhood illusions are often brilliant ways for powerless children to fend off pain. However, as a powerless child becomes empowered as an adult, they no longer need those illusions, but until they are aware they are illusions and not facts, there's nothing they can do about them.
i can identify with what you are saying but just like the poem.. i do not know what to do with it..
No I was not bad but I married an alcoholic and now have 2 adult alcoholic children. I can't change them either. There are many other people I can enjoy in life, I am not hopeless. Thank you.
You're welcome, Sunshine!
@@Serenityonlinetherapy looking at reality, wont let my adult children treat me mean like their Dad did, wont let anyone treat me like that again.
@@sunshine-sm6nf Absolutely!
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I saw the man inside my head disintegrate in front of me,
He lie awake while in my head and yet just stood with me,
So I made a place where he could stay and say no more to me,
His cage went far into the ground I don’t even know the sound of his own voice,
I don’t remember the last rejoice nothing of value that voice that voice. Argumentative at choice, I don’t want or need -it whatever that thing even is and nothing would makle me morer happy 0th anm 0to
I saw more men inside my head they’re me they’re me they’re me,
Beat them good and now they should be what I can be,
They needn’t worry about their soul it’s just me after all,
I’m good anyway, the rotten doctrine that rules us has him good,
I know this is the only way, it doesn’t make much sense any other way,
That old way I can’t see it means nothing to me I should say I should say I should say,
Wait that wasn’t me, but he’s looking at me in this cage far away, I must escape through words I’ll erase what he’s done what he’s done to me,
Who let him in, don’t blame don’t blame don’t blame,
It’s just me the one that can see through these eyes.
Me and only me.
This is the first visdeo I don´t like, i think that you can do better that this and adress this important issue in a more possitive way, because we need hope, no distress
I'm sorry that you didn't find this video helpful.
don't they say we're not a glum lot Carl? many are miserable 🤣
I think it is really important for our inner child to SEE that the things we told ourselves are not really the truth(as illustrated by the poem). ....they were just self protective. To me, that is the very first step of healing, because, you see, if we are still insistent on staying in that glass castle, things will never really change. Wishing you the best on your healing journey.