This guy's message is indoctrination. He's implying that even if you think you don't want kids, you actually do... And you'll regret it if you don't have them. In reality, very few people who choose not to have children regret it later.
Strongly encouraged, pushed towards, manipulated by any psychological manipulation method ever dreamed up by accomplished malignant narcissists and psychopaths.
That's great! It's definitely more doable these days than in the past. Also, although most people would prefer a naturally-produced child, adopting, surrogacy, and other options are definitely out there. If the choice is between not having/raising children at all or adopting, go for the latter.
My wife and I have 4 children. Raising them has been expensive, time consuming, and at times, grueling, but those kids are the brightest stars in our lives. What they give back to us on a daily basis far outweighs the struggles we have gone through to raise them.
Needed to hear that right now, we had 4 in 4 years oldest is 5 right now. It’s been completely insane(for us) but God is our rock so we’re just fine in the grand sense. But looking forward to the future while trying to get better at appreciating where we are.
@@josephcrotty9553It gets easier. We had 3 kids. Two are out of the nest. I remember those toddler to kindergarten ages. Wow. lol That's when my first grey hairs appeared 😂
I was married at 19 and immediately wanted children. Twenty years went by with no kids. My marriage ended due to his alcoholism, and I married again…turns out it wasn’t me it was the ex who couldn’t have kids (he refused to get tested). I had my son at age 42, and it has been the best thing I ever did. My 3 careers pale in comparison to being a mom. He is 23 now and I thank God every night for the blessing of becoming my son’s mom.❤️
Well, after having 3 careers, being a mom may look like a blessing. But if one couldn't pursue a career because they have to take care of children , one may feel differently. My wife had to take a long break because of 2 children (with no support system), and she was eager to get back to work. But the job market looks at any break negatively. Finally she had to accept a position for less than half the pay she was getting earlier. She is obviously not happy.
@@MK-lh3xdencourage her to start her own business 😊 if she was able to take off that much time I'm assuming you make enough to help support the family.. so encourage her to pursue something she would love to do. I'm a mother of 3 and was looking forward to them all being in school so I could go back to work but then realized schools are just getting worse.. so I once again gave up my career aspirations to homeschool and still stay home. I also started my own eBay business. I love doing what I do, and I wouldn't change it. My kids are crazy but such a blessing, this stage is not forever enjoy it while you can❤
I remember being pregnant with my 2nd at 27 .. they said i was getting up there in years to have a baby an there were a few tests on offer .. what a crock of bs women have been having babies in their 40s an 50d since the beginning of time!!! I stopped at 2 an i so wish i had more!!! Congrats good for you x
Since having my daughter in my mid 30s I can hand on heart say she is the single best thing that has ever happened to me, seeing her little face light up, seeing her personality grow every day is utterly amazing. My only regret is not having her sooner.
why? We're on the edge of the abyss of overpopulation and all you seem interested in is your own gratification. One really significant way we can reduce the stress on the planet is by waiting before you have a family. It spreads out the generations to a more sustainable level, without the need to employ more radical authoritarian solutions like a one child policy.
@ben green We aren't on the abyss of over population at all, certainly not in the western world - we're headed for a population crash in the UK. Do not buy into the doom and gloom quasi religious cult that seems to be sweeping the young and easily impressionable middle classes within society.
@@bengreen171 Overpopulation is a myth pushed by elitists who want to reduce the world’s population by billions and enslave those who remain. It sounded like a crazy conspiracy theory a few years ago but now it explains a lot.
"Encouraged to forget about the things that really matter". Very elegantly put. Thank goodness I got there in time. My wife was 39 when she had our first son, and we now feel very fortunate to have 2 fine boys.
Very true. Nothing wrong with that decision. However, the large majority of childless women at age 40 do not share that belief, and the reality is that it is too late for most at that age.
well, could be. not all people ar3e the same. could also be you are one of the people who tell they are ok with this decision, but then cry when they see a cute little baby. its also kinda imposible to be in one situation and to know for sure an other situation would be better or worse. because imagination has some limits. i am 100% sure people without kids have no clue how it feels to raise your own kids
@@russelldevaney7001 How do you know? Any valuable statistics? Research shows, that unmarried women with no children are the happiest, healthiest women! Brainswash is, when women in the 21st century believe, they are happier when they get married and have kids.
A few years ago the top fertility expert in the country, a woman, wrote an article telling women , if possible, to have their children as early as they can and showed figures on how when they get to their late 20s /early 30s their chances of getting start to down turn and byvthe time they are mid to late 30s/ early 40s the chances start to go over a cliff. She explained she was writing the article because she was fed up sitting across a desk from disappointed couples, explaining the facts of lifevto them and she wanted them to have the facts before them so they could make an informed choice. Go earlier and stand a better chance or try later and chance disappointment but at least know that is what they are doing. Well, the skies fell in. Feminist lobby groups were calling for her head. She may be the expert in her field but the politics meant more than the facts
In the orthodox Jewish community women in their 40s get pregnant all the time and have for a long time now. Our diet plays a huge role in the functions of our bodies. The toxic food and water we're encouraged to ingest and told is safe is the largest cause of dis-ease, death and even women's difficulties conceiving.
@@alchemybyangela - that may be, but how many of them have their very first child in their 40s? Women who start having children in their 20s are more likely to conceive again throughout their 30s and even into their 40s.
This is an important conversation. I live in woke Canada. 3 days ago we had a young man, about 36, come to do an estimate for some work. As we were standing in the kitchen out of the blue he said, my wife and I don't want kids. No reason for such a statement. I told him having children is a life time commitment and if he felt he couldn't take that on, don't. I did tell him if he changes his mind time was running out for his wife who is older than him. Having children is never easy but nothing in life beats it. My husband and I married as teenagers but we have beat the stats and are in our 54th year of marriage. Our son is 50 and we have two grandsons, 26 and 22. God is good.
You are exist because ur parents was strong and lucky enough to become winners. So their parents and so on. Those who dont want children -already loose that life battle. All their branch will be trown away from Valhalla
@@alexgo1034 I love family history and you are correct. I am here in Canada because I was blessed with great great great grandparents that came and I was born.
@Cornel Kittell i just think it's wise to know all the risks before making a life decision. I'm glad your kids were born healthy. But did you go into it blind or did you get advised of complications that could arrise?
@@lorrieprothero2175 My wife and I are both highly experienced medical researchers and quite aware of the potential issues. But we are also people of faith and knew that our God said be fruitful. So there was no question that we would have children. And if I recall children of older couples have higher IQs so there is a scientific up side to late reproduction.
I was born when my mom was 40. My godmother was born when her mom was 45. I would still encourage women to have children when they're younger, because you grow up aware of your parents' approaching mortality. Both of my parents passed before I was out of high school, and I was on my own at 17.
I was talking about this last night with my husband. It was most certainly brainwashing from media and from older women. For some time I thought I was a failure because I didn’t prioritize career over marriage and kids. Some of my girl friends were tough on me too, like, I needed to be able to stand on my own financially. Now, I am close to 40s and have a beautiful family. Many of my friends have passed the age to have kids, some have been trying since they were 36, with no success…. I don’t feel like a failure anymore
Absolutely- I'm 32 with my first baby and plan to have as many as possible. None of my friends have children or even want to hold my baby. They have no view of the future
@@NadiaSeesItthank you for being a good mother. That's what children need, a mom to stay home and care for them, with a father that supports and cares for his family. I stayed home to raise 3 children. It was lonely at times and there was lots of pressure from, sadly, mostly women, to go get a 'job'. I realized I had the best and most important job, I'd ever do, staying home, raising my own children. Don't get me wrong, i was quite the feminist before my first born. Then he came. I tried to work for a bit after his birth but I hated being away from him. My husband supported me in staying home to raise him and the two daughters that followed. It was the happiest time in my life. The kids are all in college. Two are working on their master's degrees and the other on their bachelor's. I am so VERY blessed.
The amount of neglected/abused children in this world shows a different lens of what kind of purpose they hold to those that had them. Ain’t always a good thing.
I'm pregnant at 43, but the road was not easy and took longer than I'd hoped. Thankfully I had thr realization that I needed a family when I was still in my 30s, so I was able to have a son at 39 and soon a daughter. I used to teach college kids, and the amount of girls saying they didn't want kids was staggering. I just hoped they don't wait as long as I did if they change their mind.
A few years ago I met a 20 year old girl who had her tunes tied because she claimed she would never want kids. It's really sad knowing the tears she will have in the future when she grows up and realizes her mistake. Doctors should not be able to do life altering procedures when there is no medical benefit, especially on the young.
I fall into that category. I feel betrayed by my parent's, teachers, culture, the system. I live a sad life now because I realize its much too late to change course and live the life I really wanted.
@@southernbelle6838 Sadly, that's much easier said than done. Many couples find themselves stuck on a waiting list to adopt for years and years. It is a much more complex process than most people realise.
I am a 41 year old woman without children. I was molested at 7 years old by a teacher over the entire school year. I am possibly also on the spectrum as I have masculine personality traits but I have never been diagnosed but I don’t have a strong mothering urge for infants. They give me a lot of anxiety as I’m sensitive to noise. Constant noise is like torture to me. I like talking to older children and teenagers though. My husband and I tried to adopt a family member in need but it didn’t work out and it broke my heart. I never thought I should have children because I genuinely thought when I was younger that I would be a bad mother and I didn’t want to ruin someone else’s life because of the trauma I experienced and the resentment I may feel for them as babies. No child should have that. I would like to have grown children now though, but I’m not sure what else I could have done.
I am sorry the adoption didn't work out 😪 Thing is that is what people tell you. The negatives. Once upon a time you might (you collectively not individually) have been told this and thought well tough I'm still having kids but these days folks buy into it. Having your own children is absolutely nothing like dealing with other people's children. I hated being around kids when I was younger. My friend had 2 at 18 and 21 and I spent a lot of time with her. I remember thinking I'm never having kids! But then I did at 23 and it was completely different.
Reflecting on my negative views of humanity, I had a life changing realization. Remembering the awe inspiring words of Carl Sagan from my childhood, I realized those negative thoughts were not my own. It was a profound moment of self reflection that brought immense positive change in my out look. We must constantly question our beliefs because they might not be our own.
Although I do agree with Kisin on this topic, I have never felt the wants to have a child. And I haven't been indoctrinated or brainwashed, because in my family everybody has children. But I belong to that fenomena where some people lack the total desire of having children.
I hear you. I never had the desire for children, I guess I'm missing the mommy gene. But that's ok, I am now 66 and have no regrets about not having children. Some people aren't cut out for it, for whatever reason, and that's okay. And yes, I AM a Born Again Christian woman.
@@L.Fontein7 SAME!!!! it's crazy but Paul says "It's better to be single" the church criticizes you for it and so does the conservative moment but they don't understand that God doesn't care if you have kids or even marry and there's nothing wrong with you if you don't. Because you can focus on 'the things that actually matter' like prayer and building the kingdom,serving the poor, teaching, so many things.
You do belong to those people who do not have that bruning desire of having kids. Me the same and I am almost 40. I am not brainwashed. I do see the importance of kids, but I know I wouldn't be a good dad, cause I don't want children at all. And I had this feeling since always. Not my brother though. He is older than me and has two. And it's okay. So don't worry. There are people who want it but have been brainwashed and there are people like us who know that we don't want children.
@@Leprutz Right? When my newborn niece spit up on me at 11 years old, I Knew I didn't want kids!! Hahahahaha true story..I have always been the best aunt and great aunt though..and I love when they leave!! Lol
@@nobhill1991 I do love kids... But I can't cope with them, plus I like my freedom. I never wanted kids nor did I ever have the feeling of wanting some. Not like others. And I haven't been brainwashed by the media because I know how media and politics operate. Anyway... I do knoe the importance of having kids and I will always tell everybody to be careful cause it is a life changing decision.
@@Leprutz Honestly I don't think it's possible to brainwash anyone to not have kids! It's a calling or it's not, plain and simple. My first comment was completely sarcastic. You are a sweety pie and smart..that's all! We normal people will never be brainwashed by ANYONE! My husband of 26 years never wanted any snot lockers either..match made it heaven..lol
@@nobhill1991 lol you clearly missed modern feminism telling young women that careers > family. If you can't see the woke indoctrination taking place then you're clearly not privy to political mechanations..
I talk about this! Yes! I always tell people"Having kids has been the best and most fulfilling and rewarding thing I have ever done in my 61 yrs of life. Much Joy comes from them!
I had my first child at 42. That was 22 years ago. The medical industry treated me like a freak. They kept insisting I have amnio. Back then you could read your chart when they left it and it was in big block letters on every page that I refused. I refused because it didn't matter.. I wasn't going to abort no matter what. And frankly I was more healthy than the 25-year roads in the waiting room you had all kinds of ailments expecially gestational diabetes. Mine just graduated from college and is making a great career. Now I regret not having 2.
Brainwashing is the correct answer. What I have heard from family members, from people I thought were friends, classmates, teachers, doctors, nurses is disturbing, disgusting, disgraceful, shameful, and heart wrenchingly sad. I pray for the world to see the truth and wake up.
@@omelashomelas Look at video examples of people who adamantly don't want children. There are many nasty things they can say. Saying the children are a burden, are parasites, take away from your hustle, make you unable to live a free sexually liberated life, etc.
@Anne Ritchie Firstly, congratulations to them. I do wonder why are you tagging yourself and telling me this though? I am not your family and an anecdote that cannot be proven does not mean that the rule as a whole does not exist. Doesn't mean young women are not being brainwashed. In fact it doesn't address my point at all. 🤷♂️ Hopefully, if true (which I honestly do doubt), they live long and healthy lives without any of the complications known to occur with late age pregnancies. Also that they have godparents. For the inevitable.
We need to stop pushing higher education on our kids and push trades and encourage famimy and marriage we also need to buy multi family lands again i truly feel its our strength moving foward
42 and raising a 1 year old at the moment, and honestly have to say that it's true. If the insanity of the past few years hadn't opened my eyes, it would've never happened because the media had raised me.
@@MikaComments One of the reasons is because these Orphanages get funding from their Government for these orphans per head, similar to what schools get for students, so, if the process was easy, these orphanages would lose funding, with this being said the personnel running these orphanages would lose money n I'm sure somehow they pocket most of the money. You would think that they would welcome placing an orphan in a loving home with parents that desire to have a child in their home. IMO, the process stinks, I believe too many people are (illegally) profiting from this system...
plus you know. there's always that fact in the back of your mind.... they're not actually your kids. you can still love them and raise them. but your genetic line is going to end.
I had my first at 31 and second at 43. Not by choice that late, but these children have been the best gifts of my life. It’s been an honor to raise them. It is another job, but one of the most important one we can do as a society. Children are gifts from God. Raise them to be upstanding, honest, hard working, kind humans and it will be the best thing you ever do.
There are thousands of kids of all ages that are desperately awaiting adoption. 95% of the time it is because the biological parent(s) have abandoned them and are incarcerated for dealing drugs. There is deep fulfillment in adopting a child of any age.
Speaking from the UK this is not true. The children that are available for adoption have very high needs due to abuse or disability. Patenting adopted children is not substitute for a birth child
An additional contributing factor is it takes longer for a couple to get financially secure enough to believe they can support a child. I don't hear that discussed enough. You don't have to be financially secure to have children but most of the intelligent adults who actually plan things out will want to be in a good position before they start a family. Its harder to do now then it was in the past. Houses are much more expensive and wages haven't really kept up. Fortunately the cost of labour is going to have to go up unless AI makes a large amount of us redundant.
That's because at least since 1972 we've been sold down the river, more and more each year, at an ever accelerating rate. From the end of World War Two productivity has increased in a straight line. During the same time the renumeration gotten for that ever more efficient work increased in the same proportion. That is until 1972, when the formerly straight line show renumeration becomes a halting squiggle that falls away drastically from the straight line showing efficiency. Also in that year Breton-Woods, the last remnant of the gold standard was abolished, Nixon went to China. Just two years later National Security Memorandum 200 was published. Classified until 1996 it promoted the spreading of a myth of overpopulation and promotion of birth control and abortion as well as using famine and disease as a weapon in developing countries to stop them reaching the required population to industrialise, so America could get their minerals and energy cheaply. Pigeons which have now _all_ come home to roost.
I think that’s just an excuse for not wanting to give up a selfish lifestyle. That and not wanting kids because of climate change, or whatever other woke reason to push a depopulation agenda.
@@amarthurfurniture860 I agree with the woke stuff/agenda, but finances matter and it’s not about giving up lifestyle, it’s about giving the best care possible and opportunity for the children to succeed.
@@miamivlad yeah, maybe it’s a generational thing. My parents had very little, and raised 3 successful kids starting in their early twenties. Granted, they didn’t have $500,000 in student debt, payments on a $50,000 car, and $2,500 single room apartment rent.
I see lots of women on Tinder who are 34, 35, 36 years old, and under the Baby Basket they answer with the *Don't know yet* option. I can't help but shake my head as I swipe left.
I’m having the same experience myself on Tinder. Swiping left is saving yourself from hearing them babble almost incomprehensibly about how some men are useless, so they don’t want to risk becoming a mom. Unless some totally amazing guy comes along blah blah.
@@daem2237 Why should someone who wants to have children date people who don’t want/don’t know if they want to become parents. With the hope of after showing them what a great partner they are, that they will change their mind and want a baby?
@@daem2237 Wanting children or not wanting children is going to scare off half of potential long term partners for men and women. Wanting children and being in a long term relationship with the “not sure yet” people is a great way for men and women to be in position. Where they are good enough to be in a long term relationship, but not good enough to have children with. Deal breakers are deal breakers. From most women only wanting to date tall men, to employment status, educational achievements.
@Danica Michaels there are literally millions of single guys out there that are hard working amd would make great dad's but can't get a date (I am married with kids but this is what I've noticed) the first layer of brainwashing comes in the selection process, there very things society deems "cool" are usually antithetical to what makes a good husband, father, etc... women in modern society have the power in the dating market and if a woman is in her 30s and has been dating throughout her adult life and finds that most guys she dates are no good it is her selection process that is flawed.
Absolutely - we've been lied to! As someone who was career focused and at the top of my game but fell into motherhood, I can confirm it's the best thing I've done by a million miles. Living out our God given roles is the most satisfying thing.
100%! it is the hardest thing in life but I look back at my life before children and it all seems 100% pointless. Being a parent is what we were all built to do.
Practicing cafeteria Catholic here: I am happily married. As an adult, I never had any desire to have children. I do not regret this decision; not everyone is meant to be a parent and I am one of them. I do not have the desire nor the patience to raise a family. Most of my younger years in the family environment were not happy. I will never return to that dynamic. Let the thumbs down begin
I’m truly sorry that you where hurt in your younger years. As a Catholic I hope you turn to Jesus and his blessed mother. Please go to mass and receive the blessed sacrament, after going to reconciliation first of course. I wish you and your wife all the best,God bless you .
I feel the same. Never had nor have the desire, no regrets either. I have 3 gorgeous horses who i shower with love and affection, and who give me so much love in return. There are many who feel the way we do. I've heard at least 2 talk shows on the the topic in the past 6 months (i dont listen very much at all though, so there may have been more)
@@daem2237 True, the celibate life has been encouraged in the Catholic Church but that isn’t what I am concerned about, it is when society sees children as a burden , as if life can be summed up like a balance sheet and view children as a commodity not as a gift from God.
@@nitasheehan2704 So has fatherhood. Women have been made to feel like failures for not having careers and men are made to feel useless and superfluous in their child's life. This is 1960s feminism and what they said at the time that still resonates to this day. Look it all up.
@NickeyONickes Hey, you're preaching to the choir, and I was a victim of 60s' war on mommas and pappas. But I was better grounded and didn't fall for all their nonsense.
I have 4 children at 21 24 26 my youngest son was born when I was 45 luckily I conceived naturally had straightforward pregnancy and healthy child. The older I get the more I realise family for me are the greatest blessing to my life
Giving advice is so easy ... and life is sooo difficult. I had a child at 40 not because I was indoctrinated, simply because for the first time in my life I had a stable job. Even so I got chastised by my gynecologist for waiting for so long. I concieved very easily, had a great pregnancy and a healthy baby. Every life is different and sometimes following the "traditional way" is not an option. Sorry for my English... 😊
Please dont apologize for your language skills... I would like to apologize to you for any English speakers who have spoken down to you for learning the language and using it. Your english really is quite good, I wouldnt have known you were not a native English speaker 😊
You make a great point about your job allowing for you to be able to have kids,I’d argue that rising costs are the number 1 contributor to the declining birth rate
That’s what U often say - how can the 20year olds have kods, when they have no place to have them and no money to raise them. The system is so sick by now, that people have to give 100% (and more) of their incone for sustain day to day lives, so having money for mortgage, rent and then everything that comes with a baby (or two, three) is undoable in this economy. They first need to have decently paying jobs, which takes time and are happy if they can start having kids well after 30.
My sisters 41 and she just had her first beautiful baby! Yes advanced age to have a child but the one true god has blessed her and her husband and I couldn’t be prouder!
Adoption is difficult and doesn't always work out. You rarely get a newborn baby so have to take on a child who has a rough start. It's not as simple as saying if you're too old for children adopt as it's not the same.
@@-elliott-averagedragonenjo1812 If you want to adopt, adopt, but be aware of what the reality is. And if you want to have children then plan to have them when you can.
When you think about it. Spending your whole life chasing money is meaningless. You go buy a car you’ll replace in 10-15 years, you buy a new phone every year or two that you’re going to replace soon anyway. The only thing that’s truly ever lasting is a personal relationship between a parent and child. Things will only ever make you happy for a while
i am pretty sure many goverments want their people childless hunting for money. buying houses and so on. and once they die, the goverment gets most or even all of it.
I had ny son in my mid 30's. He has grown into a smart, compassionate & independant young man. My husband and I feel blessed to be his parents. Sure, there were tough times, but the good has far outweighed them! ❤
The correct term is programming or indoctrination. Brainwashing connotes the idea that something needed to be unlearned or re-educated. Programming is starting from a blank slate. The programming fills a gap where nothing was there to begin with. This IMO is why it is so readily received.
Very true during my youth and young adult years 70s,80s,90s I was told population growth was killing the planet. I live in GB we now have low birth rates.i manage 2 children last one at 39yrs I was lucky.
Ive got alot of time for this guy hes a breath of fresh air hes none biased and honest. I've got time for peeps like him shame majority of people are worlds away from him
I’m not brainwashed. I’ve just never wanted children. I know I would be terrible at it. If anything, everyone around me is trying to brainwash me to have them. It is possible to do (or not do) something with no underlying ideology behind it. People are different.
It's funny how you hear arguments about regrets of having no children so often but we barely ever hear of the women who regret having children. It's easy to conclude that there simply are few of them. I think the reality is that society deems it morally questionable for a mother to regret having her kids so most will suffer in silence. She can have a severe depression from the responsibilities or stress and people will expect her to deal with it. Yes there are those who make the decision based on ideology. Just as there are many women who feel they have to have children "or else". There are plenty of people who simply feel they are not up to the task or could not give the child what it needs. Mentally or financially. I don't think they should be shamed for it.
@@NadiaSeesItVery ignorant to flippantly call that decision narcissistic. Many people dont want kids because theyre scared they wont be good at it & it'll scar the child some way. They dont want to risk messing up a child's life. Also some people dont want kids because thwy have scary genetic/hereditary health issues they dont want to pass on to kids, since theyd hate to see them suffer like that. There are others who dont want children, because we've been told the dangers of how overpopulated our world is & that our kids & their kids might run out of resources or suffer a horrible demise from climate change. I could go on & on. Many people make this decision by being selfLESS, not selfISH.
Adoption is hard very hard and all those kids come with severe trauma unfortunatly. It’s hard being a parent but if that kid is a pain from day one it’s even harder.
Gave birth to my 3nd daughter...19 yrs after my first, when I was 45. ... My second child was a surprise as I thought I was premenopausal ! I'm absolutely blessed, I know..❤
I think brainwashed is the right word here. How can you be encouraged to forget something you never knew in the first place? So many people have never been taught (or learned from seeing it in person) the value of having a family. Women have also been led to believe that they have plenty of time to establish a career and then have kids later. They’re not told that the chances of conceiving go down while the chances of having a miscarriage or of the child having a birth defect increase the older a woman is. And they don’t realize that when they’re older it may be harder to pick up a squirmy two year old or keep up with the schedule of a busy parent. There’s a greater chance of having back or knee problems or other health issues by then.
That is the reason what you are doing for people Konstantin! That's why I do love you together with Jordan Peterson and all the others who want with there brilliant idea's to make te world better place!!!
I don't know how many times I've told people - DO NOT BE LONELY in your old age. To be able to watch a child change into an adult ... y'all have no idea. To watch them succeed .. to have their own families. To know you've done something good ...
Having children unfortunately is no guarantee of not being lonely in your old age. I live in Florida. So many retirees bought houses down here hoping children and grandchildren would come visit - but that rarely ever happens. My elderly mother lived with me for five years. The stories from the AIDES who took care of her were heartbreaking... So many elderly here whose children and grandchildren have forsaken them. Even children who live in the same town don't visit mom or dad in the nursing home, much less take an active part in overseeing their care. It's tragic. But please don't have children because you think you'll have someone in your old age to care for you or even be there, because chances are you will be barking up the wrong tree.
What percentage of women won’t become moms without shelling out loads of money for fertility treatments (which may include donor eggs), by waiting until 44/45 or even 47/48 to try to conceive? What percentage higher is it than say thirty year old women?
I had my first child at 42! I was sitting in the pediatrician’s office and there was a woman in her 60’s whose daughter was graduating high school. So yes it can happen at that age. It not easy but then what is. Adoption is also an important part.
I worked for a company that took care of elderly people. One of my clients was a 102 year old woman. Her biggest regret was not having kids. She said her husband wanted them, but she didn't want the responsibility. He passed away 40 or 50 years before her, and left her alone with no children or grandchildren to keep her company. She said there wasn't anything left of him after he was gone, and it saddened her that she was the reason. She lived about 50 years in regret.
There's always adoption. 7 years into marriage and we likely still will not want kids for another 5 years. We have talked about adopting older kids. It's sad people don't think about the kids in foster care systems. They matter too. And if you are pro life like I am, if couples are financially able, they should make every effort to adopt. Why have 5 bio kids when you can foster to adopt? This is what pro lifers need to promote, adoption and reforming the system so it is easier to adopt.
There is a need for foster parents, but there is huge competition to adopt children. The wait is like 7 years and most people get rejected on their home study. The goal for foster is reunification with their bio parents, so if you want children it is the wrong approach. The only area of adoption there is a need is embryo adoption. Internationally there is a need as well, but that has its own issues because children will be put up for adoption but they are in some cases just sold and trafficked or kidnapped to sell as adoptable children to westerners.
And sadly many in the foster care system have trauma. It takes a special kind of person to deal with the many issues they may have. If thats you than great! Hats off to you. But not every can. I know several families who have adopted out of foster care and it is HARD.
@@wendyhallgren3595exactly. its very different to take in a kid who knows they were completely rejected by their parents. they can end up as completely uncaring psychopaths. its not the same as adopting in a baby.
I'll be 44 next month and never started a family...yet..as much as I've considered myself as a free thinker and a strong lone wolf survivor type...I've been knowing for awhile now that a better life is passing me by...I've not been brainwashed I don't think..but then, it's a hard pill to swallow, as they say... Anyway, I've been really liking Konstantin for awhile now...hope we can get much more from him in the future, he's a smart dude!
This is to show you how much things have changed and how important those who influence us are. Even as a child, I knew with every fiber of my being that I wanted children. I come from a big family and I now have a big one of my own. I can recall so many people telling me to 'slow down' or that I was crazy or that my husband was crazy to give in to me. Now that my children have grown into young adults, I hear complements about how well they came out. Some say that I am 'lucky' they are so respectful, but I know it was the hard work my husband and I put into their lives. And I feel assured as to the future because they help me now with my own elderly mother (who lives with me). I'll be completely honest and admit that it wasn't easy, and there were hard times but if I was to do it again, I wouldn't change a thing. If fact when I'm asked if I wished to have more I say: If money and pain were not an issue (unfortunately, I had to have a C-section for each one), I would have had many more. I am grateful to God and my parents for leading me in the right way.
Im very glad i had my kids young 19 n 25 im still young an my kiddo is 3 years outta high school i wanted to be young enough to help them.out a lot more as they reach adulthood and i am able to ❤ thank God for being raised in a 2 parent family who still love each other and are married to this day.
It's one of the biggest lies. Women get told indirectly that having professional success trumps having a family. When you are old and grey, who will thank you that you have worked 40 years in a corporation and have never experienced the joy of motherhood and grandmotherhood?
Agree, it is so sad when I see how children are being used and treated these days, but there has always been a horrific history of children being treated poorly in past decades. Society needs to do better when it comes to the children of the World, but will it ever happen?
It has never really been a "good world" to be having children in. Would you rather have a child in a forest living off of daily hunting, no modern medicine? That lifestyle has it's beauty as well maybe it's easier for the mind than the modern world but it's very hard for the body. . If you are a good father you can raise children who will win in this world as well. . Find job for them that's filled with tasks they like to do and they will like their jobs. Don't look for a job with a nice title for them..
I remember thinking when I was a teen that the planet was over populated and that I should not have kids and that I would adopt instead. I put off having children until I was 30 and struggled for 6 years to get pregnant. I wish I'd started earlier. I definitely think I was brainwashed. My biggest regret in life is not having more children. I'm now 43 and am 8 days late! God willing my regret will change to not having children sooner, instead of having only one.
Doesn't sound like you're happy. Not good for her to be around if your goals aren't alined. It might breed resentment. Perhaps think about the possibility of letting her go alone or be with someone who shares her goals and maybe you can find a lady who wants a family? A win-win.
@@FriggaRedSkye I agree. Why do you think that lying cheater is 'ex'? Funny thing is, she was trying several times to reach out and gaslight/guilt-trip me. Guess she discovered the grass actually isn't greener on the other side. Oh well, I have learned many valuable lessons since then and am enjoying life. Hope you are doing well, too!
Just remember there are many of us who do not want children. I'm very happy for those who do love and want them and for whom it is a wonderful experience. Just be similarly happy for those of us who do not feel the same way. This is not brainwashing and it's incredibly insulting to phrase it in that way.
I like that this is in the context of you smoking. I feel like to some people, they would forget what you said and instead focus on the fact that you were being so naughty. (forgetting the things that matter and focusing on the wrong thing)
My cousin is 39 and pregnant for the first time. She used to say she didn’t want kids, and nobody in the family gave her a problem about it. But we are very happy to see she’s becoming a mother.
@@BWater-yq3jx Bible says a god many things that adversity doesn’t want ppl to know, thus they remove it from 4 corners of world then replace Truth with humanistic religions. As for having children, here or rather hear 👂 (listen) : “And God blessed them. And God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth." (Genesis 1:28, ESV) Since there was a great flood & YHWH knows how quick ppl are to forget, He said it again to Noah, who by Divine providence, survived flood: “And God blessed Noah and his sons and said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth. (Genesis 9:1, ESV) Hope that helps. Better yet, read & understand these written Words. Advise: Pray first, it can be a challenging Book.
Alcohol companies (among many others) make an awful lot more money off of childless people on average. We also have many powerful ideological “environmentalists” who are anti-natalists, but also bounce around on private jets and yachts.
I didn't hear him shaming those who don't want children. I heard him pointing out the biological reality that if you DO want them, you'll miss the boat if you put it off too long.
The same country that is importing millions from a culture where 5 and 6 kids is the norm and not long ago a female politician (short blinde hair) stood up in their Parliament and said, "Soon white indigenous Germans will be in the minority in our country and that is a good thing"
For those in power working against whom they believe to be lesser little men, it is an accomplishment for their evil agendas. Their bad ideas get worse & worse. My belief is that God van & does uses evil agendas /ideas /plans for His glory (Romans 8:28). Prayers for the lost. Some ppl do not need to have children. Like evil ppl who abuse them. Be of good cheer, all things are for Good!! ALL things! Amen
I had my first at 40, a very healthy baby at a healthy weight. Natural labour and wasn't crying when she came out. There was a woman in my over 40's pregnancy group who had a baby at 49. They want you to think it's impossible and they do everything they can (hormones, iuds etc etc) to make it impossible but it's not.
Young women are encouraged to run around, have a career and all of this and think that when they are older, mid 30s or so, suddenly can settle down and have a family. They ignore reality.
Why are you pointing out women, where is the men in your point? People can have families when they are ready and it is ok if they choose not to. There is always foster care and adoption. Older kids need homes too.
@@the1joyster Because its a woman who gets pregnant and when she reaches 35 it does become harder for her to become pregnant. A guy, well, I know a lot of guys who became a dad at age 40+ without adoption. One of them was 61, first time dad. Just biology. If she wants a family of her own (not adoption) then she really does need to start in her 20s. BTW, a woman who had a family in her 20s can still adopt later on. I know two couples who did that and adopted older teens after their own kids left. And she can still have that career later on. But I pointed out woman because that's what is being taught in today's society.
I got married at 19 and had my two girls at 22 and 25. I told everyone I having all my children before thirty and I did. I am so glad because my health started to go haywire in the years after. Everything worked out finally. But I am glad I did not wait. I love my family.❤️
Me too. Had my kids young at 20 and 21. One of each. I won't say they were planned, because I was in a terrible marriage but it was the life I had at the time. I'm glad though, because at 30 I developed fibroid tumors and had to have a hysterectomy. Even after having kids and knowing you don't plan on another one, a hysterectomy is a very sad and very traumatic experience. On the one hand there's no more pain but on the other hand there is the realization that you have lost the ability to create new life. That ability is a very precious gift. I would have missed having children had I waited for my life to get better and that to me is very sad to think about.
Indoctrinated is the correct word.
Yup
This guy's message is indoctrination. He's implying that even if you think you don't want kids, you actually do... And you'll regret it if you don't have them. In reality, very few people who choose not to have children regret it later.
Programmed works as well. It’s a cult.
@@RustyShackelford1554 word
Strongly encouraged, pushed towards, manipulated by any psychological manipulation method ever dreamed up by accomplished malignant narcissists and psychopaths.
My wife is 43, and now pregnant for the first time.
Only 14 years of trying!
That’s awesome. Congrats!
Children are a blessing, and hard work.
As a father of four... best wishes for the lot of you, warts and all!
Pray it's a boy! (I've got a 15 year old daughter 😂)
That's great! It's definitely more doable these days than in the past. Also, although most people would prefer a naturally-produced child, adopting, surrogacy, and other options are definitely out there. If the choice is between not having/raising children at all or adopting, go for the latter.
I would get a paternity test. I hope your dreams came true after 14 years but is just as likeley someting else changed...
My wife and I have 4 children. Raising them has been expensive, time consuming, and at times, grueling, but those kids are the brightest stars in our lives. What they give back to us on a daily basis far outweighs the struggles we have gone through to raise them.
Needed to hear that right now, we had 4 in 4 years oldest is 5 right now. It’s been completely insane(for us) but God is our rock so we’re just fine in the grand sense. But looking forward to the future while trying to get better at appreciating where we are.
@@troyisaac3611bro god bless you 🤣🤣🤣🤣. I only have 2 and I feel like I’m losing mind at times. My oldest is 5 as well. Good luck 👍
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@@josephcrotty9553It gets easier. We had 3 kids. Two are out of the nest. I remember those toddler to kindergarten ages. Wow. lol That's when my first grey hairs appeared 😂
I was married at 19 and immediately wanted children. Twenty years went by with no kids. My marriage ended due to his alcoholism, and I married again…turns out it wasn’t me it was the ex who couldn’t have kids (he refused to get tested). I had my son at age 42, and it has been the best thing I ever did. My 3 careers pale in comparison to being a mom. He is 23 now and I thank God every night for the blessing of becoming my son’s mom.❤️
I hope it's okay for me to ask this, but did you manage to conceive naturally or via IVF?
@AnneRitchie-po6rbprobably not their first babies.
Well, after having 3 careers, being a mom may look like a blessing. But if one couldn't pursue a career because they have to take care of children , one may feel differently. My wife had to take a long break because of 2 children (with no support system), and she was eager to get back to work. But the job market looks at any break negatively. Finally she had to accept a position for less than half the pay she was getting earlier. She is obviously not happy.
@@MK-lh3xdencourage her to start her own business 😊 if she was able to take off that much time I'm assuming you make enough to help support the family.. so encourage her to pursue something she would love to do. I'm a mother of 3 and was looking forward to them all being in school so I could go back to work but then realized schools are just getting worse.. so I once again gave up my career aspirations to homeschool and still stay home. I also started my own eBay business. I love doing what I do, and I wouldn't change it. My kids are crazy but such a blessing, this stage is not forever enjoy it while you can❤
I remember being pregnant with my 2nd at 27 .. they said i was getting up there in years to have a baby an there were a few tests on offer .. what a crock of bs women have been having babies in their 40s an 50d since the beginning of time!!! I stopped at 2 an i so wish i had more!!! Congrats good for you x
Since having my daughter in my mid 30s I can hand on heart say she is the single best thing that has ever happened to me, seeing her little face light up, seeing her personality grow every day is utterly amazing.
My only regret is not having her sooner.
why? We're on the edge of the abyss of overpopulation and all you seem interested in is your own gratification.
One really significant way we can reduce the stress on the planet is by waiting before you have a family. It spreads out the generations to a more sustainable level, without the need to employ more radical authoritarian solutions like a one child policy.
@ben green
We aren't on the abyss of over population at all, certainly not in the western world - we're headed for a population crash in the UK.
Do not buy into the doom and gloom quasi religious cult that seems to be sweeping the young and easily impressionable middle classes within society.
@@bengreen171 Overpopulation is a myth pushed by elitists who want to reduce the world’s population by billions and enslave those who remain. It sounded like a crazy conspiracy theory a few years ago but now it explains a lot.
Same here. I became a father with 39.
That's great for you! Plenty of people choose not to have children. The majority of them do not regret it.
"Encouraged to forget about the things that really matter". Very elegantly put. Thank goodness I got there in time. My wife was 39 when she had our first son, and we now feel very fortunate to have 2 fine boys.
I'm 65 and don't regret for one second not having children. Some people don't want them.
True and why isn't nobody talking about that!? Are we brainwashed because we don't want children?! 🤔 🤔 🤔 🤔 🤔
Very true. Nothing wrong with that decision. However, the large majority of childless women at age 40 do not share that belief, and the reality is that it is too late for most at that age.
thank you
well, could be. not all people ar3e the same. could also be you are one of the people who tell they are ok with this decision, but then cry when they see a cute little baby. its also kinda imposible to be in one situation and to know for sure an other situation would be better or worse. because imagination has some limits. i am 100% sure people without kids have no clue how it feels to raise your own kids
@@russelldevaney7001 How do you know? Any valuable statistics? Research shows, that unmarried women with no children are the happiest, healthiest women! Brainswash is, when women in the 21st century believe, they are happier when they get married and have kids.
A few years ago the top fertility expert in the country, a woman, wrote an article telling women , if possible, to have their children as early as they can and showed figures on how when they get to their late 20s /early 30s their chances of getting start to down turn and byvthe time they are mid to late 30s/ early 40s the chances start to go over a cliff.
She explained she was writing the article because she was fed up sitting across a desk from disappointed couples, explaining the facts of lifevto them and she wanted them to have the facts before them so they could make an informed choice. Go earlier and stand a better chance or try later and chance disappointment but at least know that is what they are doing.
Well, the skies fell in. Feminist lobby groups were calling for her head. She may be the expert in her field but the politics meant more than the facts
so sad, yet so true.
Well those facts are now gaining pride of place meaning said expert will soon be exonerated
In the orthodox Jewish community women in their 40s get pregnant all the time and have for a long time now. Our diet plays a huge role in the functions of our bodies. The toxic food and water we're encouraged to ingest and told is safe is the largest cause of dis-ease, death and even women's difficulties conceiving.
@@alchemybyangela - that may be, but how many of them have their very first child in their 40s? Women who start having children in their 20s are more likely to conceive again throughout their 30s and even into their 40s.
And now...look at the average feminist.
This is an important conversation. I live in woke Canada. 3 days ago we had a young man, about 36, come to do an estimate for some work. As we were standing in the kitchen out of the blue he said, my wife and I don't want kids. No reason for such a statement. I told him having children is a life time commitment and if he felt he couldn't take that on, don't. I did tell him if he changes his mind time was running out for his wife who is older than him. Having children is never easy but nothing in life beats it. My husband and I married as teenagers but we have beat the stats and are in our 54th year of marriage. Our son is 50 and we have two grandsons, 26 and 22. God is good.
Where is woke Canada? Is it far from Toronto? I want to go there. All I see is regular people here.😊😊
@@pjaworek6793 do not go to Ottawa or you will see our PM in his full glory.
Poor thing wants kids. And sucks you live in canada right now. Hopefully you guys can straighten that place back out. Blessings
You are exist because ur parents was strong and lucky enough to become winners. So their parents and so on. Those who dont want children -already loose that life battle. All their branch will be trown away from Valhalla
@@alexgo1034 I love family history and you are correct. I am here in Canada because I was blessed with great great great grandparents that came and I was born.
We married at 38 and had our first child at 40. It's harder, but not impossible. Good for them! I pray for their success.
Blessings ❤
But the older you are as a female the higher the risk of kids with health or brain issues. As you age your eggs age with you.
@@lorrieprothero2175 Mine are just fine. But being a people of faith we knew that their fate was in far greater hands than our own.
@Cornel Kittell i just think it's wise to know all the risks before making a life decision. I'm glad your kids were born healthy. But did you go into it blind or did you get advised of complications that could arrise?
@@lorrieprothero2175 My wife and I are both highly experienced medical researchers and quite aware of the potential issues. But we are also people of faith and knew that our God said be fruitful. So there was no question that we would have children. And if I recall children of older couples have higher IQs so there is a scientific up side to late reproduction.
I was born when my mom was 40. My godmother was born when her mom was 45. I would still encourage women to have children when they're younger, because you grow up aware of your parents' approaching mortality. Both of my parents passed before I was out of high school, and I was on my own at 17.
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That’s really tough for you I really really feel for you.
I knew a couple that adopted at 60! Hmmm what?? The system allowed it! Insanity.
That sounds incredibly difficult, I’m so sorry you experienced that. How did you survive?
I was talking about this last night with my husband. It was most certainly brainwashing from media and from older women. For some time I thought I was a failure because I didn’t prioritize career over marriage and kids. Some of my girl friends were tough on me too, like, I needed to be able to stand on my own financially. Now, I am close to 40s and have a beautiful family. Many of my friends have passed the age to have kids, some have been trying since they were 36, with no success….
I don’t feel like a failure anymore
Good for you😁
Absolutely- I'm 32 with my first baby and plan to have as many as possible. None of my friends have children or even want to hold my baby. They have no view of the future
It’s all part of the Kalergi Plan to make whites extinct.
@@NadiaSeesItthank you for being a good mother. That's what children need, a mom to stay home and care for them, with a father that supports and cares for his family. I stayed home to raise 3 children. It was lonely at times and there was lots of pressure from, sadly, mostly women, to go get a 'job'. I realized I had the best and most important job, I'd ever do, staying home, raising my own children. Don't get me wrong, i was quite the feminist before my first born. Then he came. I tried to work for a bit after his birth but I hated being away from him. My husband supported me in staying home to raise him and the two daughters that followed. It was the happiest time in my life. The kids are all in college. Two are working on their master's degrees and the other on their bachelor's.
I am so VERY blessed.
The amount of neglected/abused children in this world shows a different lens of what kind of purpose they hold to those that had them. Ain’t always a good thing.
"it's not 100% perfect all the time, therefore we should never try". do you see how moronic and anti-human this logic is?
I'm pregnant at 43, but the road was not easy and took longer than I'd hoped. Thankfully I had thr realization that I needed a family when I was still in my 30s, so I was able to have a son at 39 and soon a daughter. I used to teach college kids, and the amount of girls saying they didn't want kids was staggering. I just hoped they don't wait as long as I did if they change their mind.
A few years ago I met a 20 year old girl who had her tunes tied because she claimed she would never want kids. It's really sad knowing the tears she will have in the future when she grows up and realizes her mistake. Doctors should not be able to do life altering procedures when there is no medical benefit, especially on the young.
@Dave Weiss agreed! I knew people who changed their minds at 30 to have babies. Luckily they didn't take such a drastic measure
I fall into that category. I feel betrayed by my parent's, teachers, culture, the system. I live a sad life now because I realize its much too late to change course and live the life I really wanted.
Same here. I echo your sentiments exactly! (I'm a woman, age 41 and a half).
ADOPT!!!! Many children need a loving home🙏
@@southernbelle6838 Sadly, that's much easier said than done. Many couples find themselves stuck on a waiting list to adopt for years and years. It is a much more complex process than most people realise.
How about adoption? That has always been my plan. So many children without mothers or families.
@@ChyloeReece
There aren’t huge numbers of children waited to be adopted in western countries.
I am a 41 year old woman without children. I was molested at 7 years old by a teacher over the entire school year. I am possibly also on the spectrum as I have masculine personality traits but I have never been diagnosed but I don’t have a strong mothering urge for infants. They give me a lot of anxiety as I’m sensitive to noise. Constant noise is like torture to me. I like talking to older children and teenagers though. My husband and I tried to adopt a family member in need but it didn’t work out and it broke my heart. I never thought I should have children because I genuinely thought when I was younger that I would be a bad mother and I didn’t want to ruin someone else’s life because of the trauma I experienced and the resentment I may feel for them as babies. No child should have that. I would like to have grown children now though, but I’m not sure what else I could have done.
I am sorry the adoption didn't work out 😪
Thing is that is what people tell you. The negatives. Once upon a time you might (you collectively not individually) have been told this and thought well tough I'm still having kids but these days folks buy into it. Having your own children is absolutely nothing like dealing with other people's children. I hated being around kids when I was younger. My friend had 2 at 18 and 21 and I spent a lot of time with her. I remember thinking I'm never having kids! But then I did at 23 and it was completely different.
@@traceyjohns3490hormones change your feelings and behaviour when you have your own children.
Wow! I can relate to a lot of what you've been through. I'm 59.
@@MK-lh3xd Sometimes for the worse. Ever heard of post natal depression???
@@NickeyONickes true. Nature isn't perfect:( But most mothers develop more patience, attachment and affection for their newborns.
Reflecting on my negative views of humanity, I had a life changing realization. Remembering the awe inspiring words of Carl Sagan from my childhood, I realized those negative thoughts were not my own. It was a profound moment of self reflection that brought immense positive change in my out look. We must constantly question our beliefs because they might not be our own.
Although I do agree with Kisin on this topic, I have never felt the wants to have a child. And I haven't been indoctrinated or brainwashed, because in my family everybody has children. But I belong to that fenomena where some people lack the total desire of having children.
I'm with you, I just don't want kids. I don't like kids, I don't want kids, it's got nothing to do with any ideology.
I understand if you don't want kids than it's your choice
I hear you. I never had the desire for children, I guess I'm missing the mommy gene. But that's ok, I am now 66 and have no regrets about not having children. Some people aren't cut out for it, for whatever reason, and that's okay. And yes, I AM a Born Again Christian woman.
100,000 thank yous!
@@L.Fontein7 SAME!!!! it's crazy but Paul says "It's better to be single" the church criticizes you for it and so does the conservative moment but they don't understand that God doesn't care if you have kids or even marry and there's nothing wrong with you if you don't. Because you can focus on 'the things that actually matter' like prayer and building the kingdom,serving the poor, teaching, so many things.
I'm 50 no kids, never wanted kids, don't really like kids..what's up with that?
You do belong to those people who do not have that bruning desire of having kids. Me the same and I am almost 40. I am not brainwashed. I do see the importance of kids, but I know I wouldn't be a good dad, cause I don't want children at all. And I had this feeling since always. Not my brother though. He is older than me and has two. And it's okay.
So don't worry. There are people who want it but have been brainwashed and there are people like us who know that we don't want children.
@@Leprutz Right? When my newborn niece spit up on me at 11 years old, I Knew I didn't want kids!! Hahahahaha true story..I have always been the best aunt and great aunt though..and I love when they leave!! Lol
@@nobhill1991 I do love kids... But I can't cope with them, plus I like my freedom. I never wanted kids nor did I ever have the feeling of wanting some. Not like others.
And I haven't been brainwashed by the media because I know how media and politics operate.
Anyway... I do knoe the importance of having kids and I will always tell everybody to be careful cause it is a life changing decision.
@@Leprutz Honestly I don't think it's possible to brainwash anyone to not have kids! It's a calling or it's not, plain and simple. My first comment was completely sarcastic. You are a sweety pie and smart..that's all! We normal people will never be brainwashed by ANYONE! My husband of 26 years never wanted any snot lockers either..match made it heaven..lol
@@nobhill1991 lol you clearly missed modern feminism telling young women that careers > family. If you can't see the woke indoctrination taking place then you're clearly not privy to political mechanations..
I talk about this! Yes! I always tell people"Having kids has been the best and most fulfilling and rewarding thing I have ever done in my 61 yrs of life. Much Joy comes from them!
I had my first child at 42. That was 22 years ago. The medical industry treated me like a freak. They kept insisting I have amnio. Back then you could read your chart when they left it and it was in big block letters on every page that I refused. I refused because it didn't matter.. I wasn't going to abort no matter what. And frankly I was more healthy than the 25-year roads in the waiting room you had all kinds of ailments expecially gestational diabetes. Mine just graduated from college and is making a great career. Now I regret not having 2.
He had me at ‘naughty and smoking’! 😂
Brainwashing is the correct answer. What I have heard from family members, from people I thought were friends, classmates, teachers, doctors, nurses is disturbing, disgusting, disgraceful, shameful, and heart wrenchingly sad. I pray for the world to see the truth and wake up.
What have you heard?
You no longer consider them friends because they've decided not to have children? Yikes..
@@omelashomelas
...You don't know if the OP's peers don't just say they don't want children, but also attach additional disgusting context.
@@Un1234l Please provide an example
@@omelashomelas
Look at video examples of people who adamantly don't want children. There are many nasty things they can say.
Saying the children are a burden, are parasites, take away from your hustle, make you unable to live a free sexually liberated life, etc.
Thanks John and Konstantin. You're a force for good ❤
Brainwashed is 100% the right word.
@Anne Ritchie Firstly, congratulations to them.
I do wonder why are you tagging yourself and telling me this though?
I am not your family and an anecdote that cannot be proven does not mean that the rule as a whole does not exist.
Doesn't mean young women are not being brainwashed. In fact it doesn't address my point at all. 🤷♂️
Hopefully, if true (which I honestly do doubt), they live long and healthy lives without any of the complications known to occur with late age pregnancies. Also that they have godparents. For the inevitable.
We need to stop pushing higher education on our kids and push trades and encourage famimy and marriage we also need to buy multi family lands again i truly feel its our strength moving foward
@@LightLivingEst80 I am in full agreement with your sentiment.
42 and raising a 1 year old at the moment, and honestly have to say that it's true. If the insanity of the past few years hadn't opened my eyes, it would've never happened because the media had raised me.
@Anne Ritchie No one cares. Quit spamming, Anne.
if they wake up with regret remember to tell them: "your choices, your consequences."
There are kids in orphanages she can adopt or foster... There is always a way...
In my country, France, it is so hard to adopt... friends of mine did it, lot of time, lot of efforts...this must be adressed too.
The adoption system is set up in a such way that's extremely difficult
to adopt a child. 😖
@@MikaComments
One of the reasons is because these
Orphanages get funding from their
Government for these orphans per head, similar to what schools get for students,
so, if the process was easy, these orphanages
would lose funding, with this being said the
personnel running these orphanages would
lose money n I'm sure somehow they pocket
most of the money. You would think that they
would welcome placing an orphan in a loving
home with parents that desire to have a child in their home. IMO, the process stinks, I believe too many people are (illegally)
profiting from this system...
Adoption is expensive and emotionally exhausting
plus you know. there's always that fact in the back of your mind.... they're not actually your kids. you can still love them and raise them. but your genetic line is going to end.
Some people want children and some people don’t.. they end.
And the people that don't, don't matter to society
I had my son at 43. God is wonderful...
Dusty cooch
Did you conceive naturally or via IVF? I hope you don't mind me asking.
the first child?
Same they are blessing s
Oh wow god 😂
I had my first at 31 and second at 43. Not by choice that late, but these children have been the best gifts of my life. It’s been an honor to raise them. It is another job, but one of the most important one we can do as a society. Children are gifts from God. Raise them to be upstanding, honest, hard working, kind humans and it will be the best thing you ever do.
There are thousands of kids of all ages that are desperately awaiting adoption. 95% of the time it is because the biological parent(s) have abandoned them and are incarcerated for dealing drugs. There is deep fulfillment in adopting a child of any age.
It’s tens of thousands $$$ to adopt here.
Not everyone wants to adopt. I wanted my own biological children. People that adopt are Rockstars, but it isn't for everyone.
IF you're under 45 in the US for a US baby.
@@LilyGazouIt helps prevent human trafficking. If kids were cheap every kid for adoption would already be enslaved.
Speaking from the UK this is not true. The children that are available for adoption have very high needs due to abuse or disability. Patenting adopted children is not substitute for a birth child
An additional contributing factor is it takes longer for a couple to get financially secure enough to believe they can support a child. I don't hear that discussed enough. You don't have to be financially secure to have children but most of the intelligent adults who actually plan things out will want to be in a good position before they start a family. Its harder to do now then it was in the past. Houses are much more expensive and wages haven't really kept up. Fortunately the cost of labour is going to have to go up unless AI makes a large amount of us redundant.
it has never made economic sense to have a kid. we do tons of things that make no economic sense like posting on utube, but here we are.
That's because at least since 1972 we've been sold down the river, more and more each year, at an ever accelerating rate.
From the end of World War Two productivity has increased in a straight line. During the same time the renumeration gotten for that ever more efficient work increased in the same proportion.
That is until 1972, when the formerly straight line show renumeration becomes a halting squiggle that falls away drastically from the straight line showing efficiency.
Also in that year Breton-Woods, the last remnant of the gold standard was abolished, Nixon went to China.
Just two years later National Security Memorandum 200 was published. Classified until 1996 it promoted the spreading of a myth of overpopulation and promotion of birth control and abortion as well as using famine and disease as a weapon in developing countries to stop them reaching the required population to industrialise, so America could get their minerals and energy cheaply. Pigeons which have now _all_ come home to roost.
I think that’s just an excuse for not wanting to give up a selfish lifestyle. That and not wanting kids because of climate change, or whatever other woke reason to push a depopulation agenda.
@@amarthurfurniture860 I agree with the woke stuff/agenda, but finances matter and it’s not about giving up lifestyle, it’s about giving the best care possible and opportunity for the children to succeed.
@@miamivlad yeah, maybe it’s a generational thing. My parents had very little, and raised 3 successful kids starting in their early twenties. Granted, they didn’t have $500,000 in student debt, payments on a $50,000 car, and $2,500 single room apartment rent.
I see lots of women on Tinder who are 34, 35, 36 years old, and under the Baby Basket they answer with the *Don't know yet* option. I can't help but shake my head as I swipe left.
I’m having the same experience myself on Tinder. Swiping left is saving yourself from hearing them babble almost incomprehensibly about how some men are useless, so they don’t want to risk becoming a mom. Unless some totally amazing guy comes along blah blah.
@@daem2237 Why should someone who wants to have children date people who don’t want/don’t know if they want to become parents. With the hope of after showing them what a great partner they are, that they will change their mind and want a baby?
@@daem2237 Wanting children or not wanting children is going to scare off half of potential long term partners for men and women.
Wanting children and being in a long term relationship with the “not sure yet” people is a great way for men and women to be in position. Where they are good enough to be in a long term relationship, but not good enough to have children with.
Deal breakers are deal breakers. From most women only wanting to date tall men, to employment status, educational achievements.
@@daem2237 potential partners have rated me on all sorts of things, that they want in a partner.
@Danica Michaels there are literally millions of single guys out there that are hard working amd would make great dad's but can't get a date (I am married with kids but this is what I've noticed) the first layer of brainwashing comes in the selection process, there very things society deems "cool" are usually antithetical to what makes a good husband, father, etc... women in modern society have the power in the dating market and if a woman is in her 30s and has been dating throughout her adult life and finds that most guys she dates are no good it is her selection process that is flawed.
Absolutely - we've been lied to! As someone who was career focused and at the top of my game but fell into motherhood, I can confirm it's the best thing I've done by a million miles. Living out our God given roles is the most satisfying thing.
100%! it is the hardest thing in life but I look back at my life before children and it all seems 100% pointless. Being a parent is what we were all built to do.
@@daveweiss5647 yes - everything outside of God and parenthood pales into insignificance by comparison!
Practicing cafeteria Catholic here: I am happily married. As an adult, I never had any desire to have children. I do not regret this decision; not everyone is meant to be a parent and I am one of them. I do not have the desire nor the patience to raise a family. Most of my younger years in the family environment were not happy. I will never return to that dynamic. Let the thumbs down begin
I’m truly sorry that you where hurt in your younger years. As a Catholic I hope you turn to Jesus and his blessed mother. Please go to mass and receive the blessed sacrament, after going to reconciliation first of course. I wish you and your wife all the best,God bless you .
I feel the same. Never had nor have the desire, no regrets either. I have 3 gorgeous horses who i shower with love and affection, and who give me so much love in return. There are many who feel the way we do. I've heard at least 2 talk shows on the the topic in the past 6 months (i dont listen very much at all though, so there may have been more)
@@daem2237 True, the celibate life has been encouraged in the Catholic Church but that isn’t what I am concerned about, it is when society sees children as a burden , as if life can be summed up like a balance sheet and view children as a commodity not as a gift from God.
@@danielmeadows3712 If they are gifts from God, then would it not be an insult to deny his gift? Would not procreation be the riteous path?
@@Chris-es3wf I agree
That is totally true! I was brainwashed to be a successful business person and not a mommy. I had my first at 39 and my second at 43!
Motherhood has been mocked in the West for decades.
well tbf tptb rook mothers out of the home & into the factory
@@jamesdavison2416 Yes.
@@nitasheehan2704 So has fatherhood. Women have been made to feel like failures for not having careers and men are made to feel useless and superfluous in their child's life. This is 1960s feminism and what they said at the time that still resonates to this day. Look it all up.
@NickeyONickes Hey, you're preaching to the choir, and I was a victim of 60s' war on mommas and pappas. But I was better grounded and didn't fall for all their nonsense.
@@whatsMyNameAgainAgain True.
I have 4 children at 21 24 26 my youngest son was born when I was 45 luckily I conceived naturally had straightforward pregnancy and healthy child. The older I get the more I realise family for me are the greatest blessing to my life
My wife had our daughter at 43. Our daughter is 20 now and is a blessing to us
Giving advice is so easy ... and life is sooo difficult. I had a child at 40 not because I was indoctrinated, simply because for the first time in my life I had a stable job. Even so I got chastised by my gynecologist for waiting for so long. I concieved very easily, had a great pregnancy and a healthy baby. Every life is different and sometimes following the "traditional way" is not an option. Sorry for my English... 😊
Please dont apologize for your language skills...
I would like to apologize to you for any English speakers who have spoken down to you for learning the language and using it. Your english really is quite good, I wouldnt have known you were not a native English speaker 😊
Women don't need stable jobs to be loved by men.
You make a great point about your job allowing for you to be able to have kids,I’d argue that rising costs are the number 1 contributor to the declining birth rate
That’s what U often say - how can the 20year olds have kods, when they have no place to have them and no money to raise them. The system is so sick by now, that people have to give 100% (and more) of their incone for sustain day to day lives, so having money for mortgage, rent and then everything that comes with a baby (or two, three) is undoable in this economy. They first need to have decently paying jobs, which takes time and are happy if they can start having kids well after 30.
The Anti Humans are winning.
My sisters 41 and she just had her first beautiful baby! Yes advanced age to have a child but the one true god has blessed her and her husband and I couldn’t be prouder!
Happiness is what matters. If someone doesn’t want kids then they don’t want them. And if they do want them when they are older then they can adopt.
Adoption is difficult and doesn't always work out. You rarely get a newborn baby so have to take on a child who has a rough start. It's not as simple as saying if you're too old for children adopt as it's not the same.
@@michellej1372 so what do we do? Let them rot in the adoption system?
@@-elliott-averagedragonenjo1812 If you want to adopt, adopt, but be aware of what the reality is. And if you want to have children then plan to have them when you can.
@@euphoricbliss6699 I’m not having kids
Thank you so much for sharing this
When you think about it. Spending your whole life chasing money is meaningless. You go buy a car you’ll replace in 10-15 years, you buy a new phone every year or two that you’re going to replace soon anyway. The only thing that’s truly ever lasting is a personal relationship between a parent and child. Things will only ever make you happy for a while
@Ryan Chad Beautiful, accurate comment. Thank you for posting.
i am pretty sure many goverments want their people childless hunting for money. buying houses and so on. and once they die, the goverment gets most or even all of it.
I had ny son in my mid 30's.
He has grown into a smart, compassionate & independant young man.
My husband and I feel blessed to be his parents.
Sure, there were tough times, but the good has far outweighed them! ❤
The correct term is programming or indoctrination. Brainwashing connotes the idea that something needed to be unlearned or re-educated. Programming is starting from a blank slate.
The programming fills a gap where nothing was there to begin with. This IMO is why it is so readily received.
100%, I have 5 children. 2 X College grad, and quit to be a stay at home mom and taught my kids. They are quite successful!
Very true during my youth and young adult years 70s,80s,90s I was told population growth was killing the planet. I live in GB we now have low birth rates.i manage 2 children last one at 39yrs I was lucky.
UK population predicted to increase until 2056 (71M)
@@scottkennaird1704 yes by mass immigration
Not just babies-life goals too.
"the spirit of this world" John 17:10
Ive got alot of time for this guy hes a breath of fresh air hes none biased and honest. I've got time for peeps like him shame majority of people are worlds away from him
I’m not brainwashed. I’ve just never wanted children. I know I would be terrible at it. If anything, everyone around me is trying to brainwash me to have them. It is possible to do (or not do) something with no underlying ideology behind it. People are different.
It's funny how you hear arguments about regrets of having no children so often but we barely ever hear of the women who regret having children. It's easy to conclude that there simply are few of them. I think the reality is that society deems it morally questionable for a mother to regret having her kids so most will suffer in silence. She can have a severe depression from the responsibilities or stress and people will expect her to deal with it.
Yes there are those who make the decision based on ideology. Just as there are many women who feel they have to have children "or else".
There are plenty of people who simply feel they are not up to the task or could not give the child what it needs. Mentally or financially. I don't think they should be shamed for it.
@@toslverr having children means giving up something. Many people are too narcissistic to do that.
@@NadiaSeesIt bingo
@@NadiaSeesItVery ignorant to flippantly call that decision narcissistic. Many people dont want kids because theyre scared they wont be good at it & it'll scar the child some way. They dont want to risk messing up a child's life. Also some people dont want kids because thwy have scary genetic/hereditary health issues they dont want to pass on to kids, since theyd hate to see them suffer like that. There are others who dont want children, because we've been told the dangers of how overpopulated our world is & that our kids & their kids might run out of resources or suffer a horrible demise from climate change. I could go on & on. Many people make this decision by being selfLESS, not selfISH.
@@toslverr I can tell you're coping as to why you don't have kids. That was a loy of mental gymnastics there....
I'm the father of five, all grown. I miss them being little. I wish that I had fathered more.
People can always adopt !
They are children and need love too.
Adoption is hard very hard and all those kids come with severe trauma unfortunatly. It’s hard being a parent but if that kid is a pain from day one it’s even harder.
Gave birth to my 3nd daughter...19 yrs after my first, when I was 45. ... My second child was a surprise as I thought I was premenopausal !
I'm absolutely blessed, I know..❤
I think brainwashed is the right word here. How can you be encouraged to forget something you never knew in the first place? So many people have never been taught (or learned from seeing it in person) the value of having a family. Women have also been led to believe that they have plenty of time to establish a career and then have kids later. They’re not told that the chances of conceiving go down while the chances of having a miscarriage or of the child having a birth defect increase the older a woman is. And they don’t realize that when they’re older it may be harder to pick up a squirmy two year old or keep up with the schedule of a busy parent. There’s a greater chance of having back or knee problems or other health issues by then.
Are these people living in a box, underground, in Alaska? People aren't brainwashed, they're just not very observant.
That is the reason what you are doing for people Konstantin! That's why I do love you together with Jordan Peterson and all the others who want with there brilliant idea's to make te world better place!!!
I don't know how many times I've told people - DO NOT BE LONELY in your old age. To be able to watch a child change into an adult ... y'all have no idea. To watch them succeed .. to have their own families. To know you've done something good ...
Having children unfortunately is no guarantee of not being lonely in your old age. I live in Florida. So many retirees bought houses down here hoping children and grandchildren would come visit - but that rarely ever happens. My elderly mother lived with me for five years. The stories from the AIDES who took care of her were heartbreaking... So many elderly here whose children and grandchildren have forsaken them. Even children who live in the same town don't visit mom or dad in the nursing home, much less take an active part in overseeing their care. It's tragic. But please don't have children because you think you'll have someone in your old age to care for you or even be there, because chances are you will be barking up the wrong tree.
@@L.Fontein7 That is sad, really.
It is very lonely when you are old. Even if you have adult children.
Raising my son had been the best thing I've done in my life. And I've done many exciting and great things.
I had my last child when I was 45. I also knew someone who had a baby at 48.
What percentage of women won’t become moms without shelling out loads of money for fertility treatments (which may include donor eggs), by waiting until 44/45 or even 47/48 to try to conceive?
What percentage higher is it than say thirty year old women?
You’re a great man Konstantin
I had my first child at 42! I was sitting in the pediatrician’s office and there was a woman in her 60’s whose daughter was graduating high school. So yes it can happen at that age. It not easy but then what is. Adoption is also an important part.
I hope it's okay to ask but did you conceive naturally or via IVF?
Thank you John.
...why come UA-cam shows only six comments on the video, but in here there's actually dozens?
I worked for a company that took care of elderly people. One of my clients was a 102 year old woman. Her biggest regret was not having kids. She said her husband wanted them, but she didn't want the responsibility. He passed away 40 or 50 years before her, and left her alone with no children or grandchildren to keep her company. She said there wasn't anything left of him after he was gone, and it saddened her that she was the reason. She lived about 50 years in regret.
There's always adoption. 7 years into marriage and we likely still will not want kids for another 5 years. We have talked about adopting older kids. It's sad people don't think about the kids in foster care systems. They matter too. And if you are pro life like I am, if couples are financially able, they should make every effort to adopt. Why have 5 bio kids when you can foster to adopt? This is what pro lifers need to promote, adoption and reforming the system so it is easier to adopt.
I've always seen foster/adoption as the preferable option for myself if I ever do decide to have a family.
There is a need for foster parents, but there is huge competition to adopt children. The wait is like 7 years and most people get rejected on their home study. The goal for foster is reunification with their bio parents, so if you want children it is the wrong approach. The only area of adoption there is a need is embryo adoption. Internationally there is a need as well, but that has its own issues because children will be put up for adoption but they are in some cases just sold and trafficked or kidnapped to sell as adoptable children to westerners.
And sadly many in the foster care system have trauma. It takes a special kind of person to deal with the many issues they may have. If thats you than great! Hats off to you. But not every can. I know several families who have adopted out of foster care and it is HARD.
@@wendyhallgren3595exactly. its very different to take in a kid who knows they were completely rejected by their parents. they can end up as completely uncaring psychopaths. its not the same as adopting in a baby.
Absolutely! God bless you!
What a great example of a human. He is a great man
I'll be 44 next month and never started a family...yet..as much as I've considered myself as a free thinker and a strong lone wolf survivor type...I've been knowing for awhile now that a better life is passing me by...I've not been brainwashed I don't think..but then, it's a hard pill to swallow, as they say... Anyway, I've been really liking Konstantin for awhile now...hope we can get much more from him in the future, he's a smart dude!
This is to show you how much things have changed and how important those who influence us are. Even as a child, I knew with every fiber of my being that I wanted children. I come from a big family and I now have a big one of my own. I can recall so many people telling me to 'slow down' or that I was crazy or that my husband was crazy to give in to me. Now that my children have grown into young adults, I hear complements about how well they came out. Some say that I am 'lucky' they are so respectful, but I know it was the hard work my husband and I put into their lives. And I feel assured as to the future because they help me now with my own elderly mother (who lives with me). I'll be completely honest and admit that it wasn't easy, and there were hard times but if I was to do it again, I wouldn't change a thing. If fact when I'm asked if I wished to have more I say: If money and pain were not an issue (unfortunately, I had to have a C-section for each one), I would have had many more. I am grateful to God and my parents for leading me in the right way.
Im very glad i had my kids young 19 n 25 im still young an my kiddo is 3 years outta high school i wanted to be young enough to help them.out a lot more as they reach adulthood and i am able to ❤ thank God for being raised in a 2 parent family who still love each other and are married to this day.
It's one of the biggest lies. Women get told indirectly that having professional success trumps having a family. When you are old and grey, who will thank you that you have worked 40 years in a corporation and have never experienced the joy of motherhood and grandmotherhood?
Who comes and visits you in the care home? Your family or your former colleagues?
@@jongreen9171 Anyone who works in a nursing home will tell you that families often disappoint.
@@jongreen9171
sorry - is the need for having someone at your beck and call when you're old and sick the reason for having children?
@@bengreen171 nah dude, that is a tad shallow. My point is that family are more likely to visit than friends or colleagues.
@@---Dana---- I don't know how it is in the UK, but in my country most people who need care in their old age are cared for by family members.
My 3 children are without doubt my greatest achievement in life and my most significant contribution to society.
really, it's not a good world to be having children in these days...
"for the present distress" 1Cor. 7:26
Agree, it is so sad when I see how children are being used and treated these days, but there has always been a horrific history of children being treated poorly in past decades. Society needs to do better when it comes to the children of the World, but will it ever happen?
It has never really been a "good world" to be having children in. Would you rather have a child in a forest living off of daily hunting, no modern medicine? That lifestyle has it's beauty as well maybe it's easier for the mind than the modern world but it's very hard for the body. . If you are a good father you can raise children who will win in this world as well. . Find job for them that's filled with tasks they like to do and they will like their jobs. Don't look for a job with a nice title for them..
I remember thinking when I was a teen that the planet was over populated and that I should not have kids and that I would adopt instead. I put off having children until I was 30 and struggled for 6 years to get pregnant. I wish I'd started earlier. I definitely think I was brainwashed. My biggest regret in life is not having more children. I'm now 43 and am 8 days late! God willing my regret will change to not having children sooner, instead of having only one.
Yes. My ex decided that her career matters more right now and that 'she has time for a family later'.
That "career" won't be by her hospital bed or funeral...
Doesn't sound like you're happy. Not good for her to be around if your goals aren't alined. It might breed resentment. Perhaps think about the possibility of letting her go alone or be with someone who shares her goals and maybe you can find a lady who wants a family? A win-win.
@@FriggaRedSkye I agree. Why do you think that lying cheater is 'ex'? Funny thing is, she was trying several times to reach out and gaslight/guilt-trip me. Guess she discovered the grass actually isn't greener on the other side.
Oh well, I have learned many valuable lessons since then and am enjoying life.
Hope you are doing well, too!
@@alpinewolf7751 I misred, dang!! Glad life is good for you 👍
This guy knows the value of life .....and he has just the right intelligence to put it across in a manner that makes people listen ....bless him
Just remember there are many of us who do not want children. I'm very happy for those who do love and want them and for whom it is a wonderful experience. Just be similarly happy for those of us who do not feel the same way. This is not brainwashing and it's incredibly insulting to phrase it in that way.
@@EireenDanceWithDeath well said.
I had my son at 42 just naturally a blessing
I like that this is in the context of you smoking. I feel like to some people, they would forget what you said and instead focus on the fact that you were being so naughty. (forgetting the things that matter and focusing on the wrong thing)
That's the problem, you make arguments based on how you feel.
My cousin is 39 and pregnant for the first time. She used to say she didn’t want kids, and nobody in the family gave her a problem about it. But we are very happy to see she’s becoming a mother.
Brainwashed is accurate, especially when you take into consideration what the Bible says about those things that are the essential aspects of life.
And Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
It's a great thing to have a family
What does it say?
@@BWater-yq3jx Bible says a god many things that adversity doesn’t want ppl to know, thus they remove it from 4 corners of world then replace Truth with humanistic religions. As for having children, here or rather hear 👂 (listen) :
“And God blessed them. And God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth." (Genesis 1:28, ESV)
Since there was a great flood & YHWH knows how quick ppl are to forget, He said it again to Noah, who by Divine providence, survived flood:
“And God blessed Noah and his sons and said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth. (Genesis 9:1, ESV)
Hope that helps. Better yet, read & understand these written Words. Advise: Pray first, it can be a challenging Book.
@@donnat639, one problem: there never was a global flood, mate. Otherwise, I do appreciate being fruitful when I have time. Cheers.
That is heart wrenchingly sad.
Correct regarding brainwashing. Now ask yourselves"Why?"
brainwashed people are easier to control, point in fact
Idiocracy, to populate the nation with the opposite type of people
Alcohol companies (among many others) make an awful lot more money off of childless people on average.
We also have many powerful ideological “environmentalists” who are anti-natalists, but also bounce around on private jets and yachts.
Me and my wife both 43 ,our little George is five days old little miracle.I hope that lady has the luck we did .
Children are the meaning of life. Pure unconditional love
Stop shaming childfree people! Not everyone wants children and that's perfectly fine!
That wasn't the point at all. He wasn't shaming anyone. Get some thicker skin...
@@nerfytheclowncorrect! Accusers shame themself then gaslight (aka: spread poop all over place(s)). And that: IS shame!!!
@@donnat639 I appreciate you, Donna.
I didn't hear him shaming those who don't want children. I heard him pointing out the biological reality that if you DO want them, you'll miss the boat if you put it off too long.
The happiness they bring about in our lives is so precious...
The German public TV even has propaganda to celebrate not having children as if this were an accomplishment .😢
The same country that is importing millions from a culture where 5 and 6 kids is the norm and not long ago a female politician (short blinde hair) stood up in their Parliament and said, "Soon white indigenous Germans will be in the minority in our country and that is a good thing"
For those in power working against whom they believe to be lesser little men, it is an accomplishment for their evil agendas. Their bad ideas get worse & worse. My belief is that God van & does uses evil agendas /ideas /plans for His glory (Romans 8:28). Prayers for the lost. Some ppl do not need to have children. Like evil ppl who abuse them. Be of good cheer, all things are for Good!! ALL things! Amen
I had my first at 40, a very healthy baby at a healthy weight. Natural labour and wasn't crying when she came out. There was a woman in my over 40's pregnancy group who had a baby at 49. They want you to think it's impossible and they do everything they can (hormones, iuds etc etc) to make it impossible but it's not.
Young women are encouraged to run around, have a career and all of this and think that when they are older, mid 30s or so, suddenly can settle down and have a family. They ignore reality.
Why are you pointing out women, where is the men in your point? People can have families when they are ready and it is ok if they choose not to. There is always foster care and adoption. Older kids need homes too.
@@the1joyster Because its a woman who gets pregnant and when she reaches 35 it does become harder for her to become pregnant. A guy, well, I know a lot of guys who became a dad at age 40+ without adoption. One of them was 61, first time dad. Just biology.
If she wants a family of her own (not adoption) then she really does need to start in her 20s.
BTW, a woman who had a family in her 20s can still adopt later on. I know two couples who did that and adopted older teens after their own kids left. And she can still have that career later on.
But I pointed out woman because that's what is being taught in today's society.
My sis was 44 when she delivered her daughter. It’s often done w/ help, but it can be done.
No, *"Brainwashed"* is the right word.
I got married at 19 and had my two girls at 22 and 25. I told everyone I having all my children before thirty and I did. I am so glad because my health started to go haywire in the years after. Everything worked out finally. But I am glad I did not wait. I love my family.❤️
Me too. Had my kids young at 20 and 21. One of each. I won't say they were planned, because I was in a terrible marriage but it was the life I had at the time. I'm glad though, because at 30 I developed fibroid tumors and had to have a hysterectomy. Even after having kids and knowing you don't plan on another one, a hysterectomy is a very sad and very traumatic experience. On the one hand there's no more pain but on the other hand there is the realization that you have lost the ability to create new life. That ability is a very precious gift. I would have missed having children had I waited for my life to get better and that to me is very sad to think about.
And everyone started clapping. 🎉
Children can sometimes be a pain but grandchildren are absolutely wonderful. It's worth a shot lol
@Ralph Simeone Yeah because you get to send the grandkids back! 😅
Wow. Thats a quote that resonates with what I've been thinking about these past few generations
What’s the most effective, powerful, most easily accessible weapon an adversary had to use against us? Distraction, friends.
Family is important