Trying to Conceive with an Ostomy after a Proctocolectomy | TTC with an Ostomy #1 | Let's Talk IBD
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I am so grateful for all of the kind comments & messages. If you're going through something similar and want to chat, my Instagram is MaggieTretton! I'm going through messages now and realize I am very much not alone on the proctocolectomy/pregnancy pathway and also very sad so many are struggling.
The whole time I watched this I just wanted to give you a hug! You are stronger than you know. I personally didn’t have experience with fertility clinics but I have several close friends who do. I am a good listener if you ever need an ear! 🥰 you are not alone in this! ❤️
You are absolutely an amazing woman. To share something SO incredibly hard for you to talk about, because it might help others...that takes a person who is the biggest giver in life.
I’m hoping the best for you both. My best friend of 33 years had Crohn’s disease too. She was told she could never have children. She found out she was pregnant the day of a scheduled surgery. So please don’t give up hope. The stress of your whole situation is preventing you from getting pregnant right now. I’m sure of it. I really feel you’re going to be able to have a baby. Best wishes and tons of hugs.
💗thank you for being you.💗
I’m currently 18 weeks pregnant and have had a proctocolectomy, I would be so happy to connect if you ever want to. Sending so much love your way ❤️
I hope she ended up contacting you 😊
I would suggest IVF. I had a very regular cycle and normal hormones but could not get pregnant. They checked my husband and he was fine. I have ulcerative colitis. After 3 years of unsuccessful attempts, I did one IVF cycle and had my son 9 months later. I later learned that the position of the intestines, (and certainly the lack thereof) can affect the fallopian tubes’ ability to pick up the egg from the ovary at the right time. Removing that barrier and having the embryo put right into my uterus was all it took. You will get there Maggie!!! Hang in there. 🙏🙏
I've wanted children since I was really young, but I am now 28, chronically ill, and single, and I am devastated. All I want is a husband and children and I do not know how to cope watching everyone around me getting married and having babies. I am heartbroken. So I just wanted to say that although we are obviously in very different situations, I can empathise with having to try and somehow accept your life isn't going the way you had planned or hoped for... and there is nothing you can immediately do to "fix" it. (I have been on so many dates and have tried so hard to find "the one" for so many endless years now, but it just has never happened.) It hurts so deeply and I am sending you so much love on this journey. ❤️
Sending a small hug, I hear you and I relate so much to what you've said. Much love
Sending you a hug. I have many of the same feelings. I’m 28 and had to have a hysterectomy at age 26 due to cancer. I also have many other health conditions and am single. It’s soooo hard seeing so many of my friends having a family and having the joy I always longed for. 🙏🏼❤️
I am so crushed and sad for you. Words don't mean much but my heart is for you
I am praying for you. I have chronic illnesses and I know when things don't happen like you have planned due to your body it's a pain a lot of people don't understand. God has a plan for you and sometimes things happen on his timelines. I have seen why things didn't happen for me due to God needing things to further his will to be done.
Sending you good vibes and positive prayers your way. 💕 If it helps, I was where you were at 27. My husband didn't show up till I turned 33. We started trying immediately upon moving in with eachother (it was a quick conversation but we knew what we wanted) to get pregnant and it still took 2 years to conceive our son. It's now 3 years later, and still haven't conceived our next child. 😓 I'm about to turn 39 and started infertility treatments already. Don't know if it's going to happen a second time for us but super hopeful!!! And just as much as I pray for us to get the life we want, I pray for anyone who wants the same to get it to. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Wishing you your perfect love and baby dust in the nearest future. 💖💖💖
Dear Maggie, i think you are a very strong and inspiring woman. I admire your courage and wishing you to be blessed with a child. Love and greeting from germany
You and Zak will make wonderful parents, natural or adoptive. Some of us just aren't able to conceive, so we adapt and do what works for us. You guys have a lot of love to give. If you do adopt, that will be one very happy kid, or kids! And you two will be the angels that save that child. So yes, one way or the other, it's a win-win.
A lovely thing to say and so true I think they will be fantastic parents which ever way they achieve it
Beautiful statement.
maggie ,your young ,it will happen when you least expect it to ,and when you have your own baby ,your life will change again so relax enjoy life together with your hubby i will say a prayer for you guys ,, dont give up .
Very special, brave and open for you to share in such an honest way. You made yourself vulnerable and I honer you for doing so. This video has finally kicked me to subscribe. I've watched many of your videos for over a year. I'm a 76 year old man that over a year ago had surgery to remove my bladder because of cancer. So I now have a Urostomy. Was looking for info on ostomy's and found your channel. I'm so impressed my your willingness to share. I'm doing very well now, cancer free. Thank you.
You are so amazing. I just start watching your videos and I never had the the strength to talk openly like you do. A lot of what you talk about I been thru an you talk about way worse things. By the way I have an iliostomy too. Stay strong an you def have made feel alittle different about myself…but in a good way😂
I'm sending you so many virtual hugs. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
It's hard to wait for something you want, especially when other people make it look easy or go into it unprepared. Wishing you happy babies-no matter how you get them.
Well said!!!
Yes, but you never know their storied either. Many couples go through issues during conceiving. I know very few couples were everything was easy. My sister got pregant after one year of trying, had a hellish pregancy being most of the time in the hospital and thinking that she will lose the baby constantly; she also lost any other baby that she tried to conceive. And everyone thinks she is so lucky to have a beautiful girl without knowing that this was not an easy path. One friend had to have surgery to be able to conceive and had a child later in life because it didn't work until then, another had many years IVFs before getting pregnant, another never managed to have a child, unless you count the little boy that survived 3 days after being born (that after other 3 unsuccessful pregnancy). Life is f.ing hard. The only reason we think others have it better or easier is because we only know what we go through.
Thank-you for making this video and being honest. You are an inspiration and you are helping alot of people.🙏💜
Oh Maggie- my heart goes out to you. You are not alone. I will keep you and Zak in my prayers! 🙏🏻
Hey Maggie,
sending some strength your way!
Even if they do the surgery etc, what’s next then? IUI (10% Chance per cycle)? Maybe it’s better to do IVF directly (30%/cycle) before they put more trauma to your body and soul. Your can freeze all the embryos and recover for some month. It’s all a hard decision, but don’t let them drain all the energy out of you with endless examinations. Take the option with the highest chance ❤
Maggie sending lots of love. It took me two years and four miscarriages to have my daughter. I didn’t have the medical issues you do. It’s called the miracle of birth for a reason. We are all here for you. It’s so hard when it’s something you really want and you have some huge obstacles ahead of you. You are not alone. Big big big hugs💕
I stumbled across your videos and I must say that even though I (thankfully) don't have any health problems (knock on wood) I find your story so moving. You are so inspiring and have such a wonderful attitude. I hope you get everything you want and my heart goes out to you.
Please keep the faith I can’t even count all the times I have heard “I got pregnant right when we gave up” in the meantime, I (and many others) will be wishing you the very best possible outcome XOXO 🙏🏻💕
You have the strength of your father, and your own inner strength. I have never met a person with such determination and resolve....😇😇😇
Just so you know, your videos are impacting so many lives around the world. You're putting your whole life out there for the world to view, and you do a tremendous job at explaining/sharing what life is(can be) like living with an ostomy. I don't have an ostomy, but I've had many patients who do. So long story short, UA-cam must've recognized something from my search history and it recommended one of your videos. So i watched that... then clicked on your profile to see if you had any other videos... now 4hrs later I'm still watching them. You fill my heart with so much love and gratitude when i see you being so vulnerable in front of millions of people watching your every move. The world is a better place because of you. I will continue following your journey to motherhood and Zak's to the day he becomes a father. There's no greater ride in this world than being a parent! Best wishes and thank you for inspiring 🙏 all the people who watch these videos. Keep your head up kiddo... you've got a huge following that's there for you.
Thank you for this video! I had a proctocolectomy a year ago because no medication was working enough, I was dependent on prednisone, I had chronic c-diff, and was declining rapidly. After spending 4 years in a UC flare I finally said I'd had enough, and had the surgeries even though I had intended to put it off until after I had children. My husband and I started discussing trying to get pregnant soon but I'm terrified to get my hopes up because none of my doctors have the same opinion when it comes to me getting pregnant. But the fact that I know your trying gives me hope for me too. I wish you the best of luck on your journey!
I really feel for you. So much of your life is related to your condition. I wish you could be carefree but that’s just my pie in the sky, rose-colored glasses thinking. All the best with everything you are going through. You are such a nice person and I wish you well!
You’re strength, determination, and dedication is beyond amazing. A true warrior 💖
Said it in the chat, will say it here also: Thank you for sharing ❤ Fingers crossed for many happy and healthy babies in your future, whichever way they will join your lives :)
😭 thank you ❤
We've been trying to get pregnant for a year as well with little success (one miscarriage on my birthday which... was terrible). I felt this video so much--your tone, your efforts to stay positive and brave in the face of disappointment. It is SO heartbreaking to see those negatives month after month. I wish the absolute best for you and your husband and hope you get that positive very soon.
I wish I could give you a hug…my daughter had a hard time too…but she DID conceive so I will pray for you…it’s SO stinking hard…God bless you…and God will give you strength to have the life you wish for.
Maggie, I have a feeling, from what I've heard you say over all those videos, that you know best. So, maybe, don't let anyone commenting push you in any direction?!
With all this said, I am pretty confident you'd be a wonderful mother, if that's what your heart desires, and wish you all the best.
And, by the way, women who want babies sometimes in the end don't have babies, for a VARIETY of circumstances, most often not medical at all. And there is a way to be happy, and let your maternal drives flourish, despite this. I am here as a witness to that reality.
Best xx
Maggie I am sorry for your struggles I will continue to keep and Zack in my prayers 🙏🙏🥰
You are the most honest and wholesome person I've know. I wish you the best in life. I've had my ileostomy for 19 years with multiple parastoma hernia repairs since. Love you.❤
You are so kind
I admire you. I had the same surgeries you speak of. Through IVF, I was able to conceive one time. Adoption was always a consideration, of course, but the desire to have our own kids is strong. Explore every avenue together. You’ll get there! Your passion is palpable. I admire you for sharing this journey.
Know that there are so many ways to grow your family….. never give up. Adoption is a beautiful thing and so happy your are open….. what an blessing… so happy for your future. It’s all positive:)))
It took me 8.5 years between my 2 boys. The Dr told me I couldn't have anymore because of all the scar tissue. Don't give up.
My heart is breaking for you nbecause I know the feeling of disappointment. I have been shedding tears over this video
So much love and admiration for you Maggie. I have a proctocolectomy also, but as an older guy, this was never an issue for me. My wonderful loving wife and I were beyond childbearing years when we met and married. I hope you and Zak are able to fulfill your dreams.
While I don't have any children myself ( I'm 32 ) and also don't have similar health issues, I can say that I really sympathize with the awkwardness of people asking if you're going to have children. At 32 I am honestly still very undecided on if I want kids or not. Pretty much every year since I was about 22 there has always been relatives who ask when will you get married ( still not married lol) and when will I have kids. It even got to the point that the same relative was not only asking me but pushing the issue with my mom. It's just not respectful or appropriate to be asking people when they will have children. Not only do a lot of women/couples have trouble getting pregnant but not all couples want to have kids. I wish you guys the best of luck and when you become parents either through pregnancy or adoption I know you guys will be amazing parents. XoX keep your head up
Just hearing your voice rattle at some points break my heart. Your are such a strong person.i started following when I found out my daughter had crohns. And could not find much about young kids with it. But I seen you were diagnosed young so decided to go ahead and follow. I have been hooked ever since between preparing my self with stuff she could go thorough and just watching you grow in life in general has been great. I wish you all the luck with this new journey
You and Zac are in my prayers. You are so strong and I get a lot of comfort by watching you and that we are never alone. 🐻
Please don’t give up hope Maggie - sending you so much love. Regardless of how it happens, you and Zak will be amazing parents whether it’s natural or adoptive or foster. So please keep persevering and knowing you aren’t alone in this journey and that there’s so many people walking alongside you. Sometimes the road to parenthood is more difficult than we could’ve imagined and we just have to keep taking one step forward, one after another. Xx
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story. 🤗🤗
God bless you and Zak! You have such a sweet and supportive relationship. No matter how your family happens, you will be such a loving family!
Sending you so much compassion. Fertility issues are no joke. I struggled with diminished ovarian reserve and have a blocked tube. After 6 month of trying like you we went to a reproductive endocrinologist. She helped us find answers and gave us possible solutions. No guarantee but at least it was a plan. I I had a minor procedure to remove a polyp. I went through three rounds of retrievals. And did one fresh transfer. Luckily that embryo stuck and am 23 weeks. Infertility is so much mentally and emotionally and it takes so much time. For me Facebook support groups helped a lot. And repeating “what ever the outcome is, I will get through this” was the only thing I could tell myself to provide comfort. I wish you the best and you will get through this.
Oh Maggie....my heart goes out to you. I want to say that be accepting of what life has for you but that doesn't really help does it. You are such a lovely sweet person you deserve what you desire but life sometimes gives us crap instead. ❤❤
So sorry Maggie I can't imagine how hard this is. I know sharing your story can't be easy. Praying for your family hanging in there. Sending a lot of love. ❤
Sending so much love to you and Zak. I have IBD and I love your channel. You sharing your story is going to help so many people in this exact position. Not enough people talk about this stuff because of how hard it is. I admire your strength and your heart.
I am so sorry! You were so brave to open up and share your experience! Having a child or becoming a parent is different for everyone - NOBODY can tell you how to feel. What is right for one person, may not be right for the next and it is nobody’s business to tell you how to feel. I do not have IBD, I stumbled across your story and think you and your husband are amazing, brave and have a lovely story to tell. I spent five years trying to conceive my child. Each story as well as each person is different. It’s ok to feel how YOU feel. My heart goes out to you both. ❤️
I am old enough to be your Grammy and remember feeling and going through all of this…exactly for the same reason! Yes, I had an ileostomy including rectum removal at 18 years old, married a wonderful “Zac like” man who has walked this journey with me and continues still today. My final diagnosis left my heart broken, no biological children, ever. But, had that happened I would not have my 2 absolutely precious sons in my life nor the granddaughters that are mine. Our sons were infants that grew into wonderful men who know “I couldn’t grow you in my heart … but under it.” Cry your tears and then keep moving forward. You will be awesome parents who will have children who really really wanted them.
it's hard to see you suffer this part of your journey. it is so heart wrenching😔but it is important you shared and can help so many
Aw hun...i hope you find others similar to your unique situation so that you feel supported xoxoxoxo
Doing this video you will never know how many people you reach that will get so much from your sharing!!!!!!
What a brave, beautiful and real woman you are. All my prayers that you are successful in your journey.
saying many prayers for you ! You are helping so many people sharing this.
Gah I was on the verge of tears along with you while watching this. Sending so much love! 💜
While I don’t have your same body issues, my husband and I were trying for over 5.5 years. We did the infertility treatments without any success. I remember being mad at my body for the first time. Eventually I grew to simply not get pregnant. The Lord has a plan, I’ll be praying for y’all’s hearts during this time! You have taught me so much that I have used as an ER nurse so while I cannot imagine sharing my heart with the world, thank you for doing it and giving us a glimpse into your world!
Thank you for being brave and sharing this journey. My heart is with you, I'm praying you and your wonderful husband are blessed with a healthy family. You have a beautiful heart and a kind soul you will make the most awesome mama!!
Thanks for sharing your story. It’s so personal but can help all sorts of people. You’re very brave😊
You a brave lady Maggie doing these vlogs about your problems but your helping so many more people and they can hopefully help you.take care both Barbara U.K xxxx
Praying for you both. God has a plan for you both. You are an amazing young lady. 😊
Nah I saw that line too. You’re not crazy. I also firmly believe you’ll get pregnant when you least expect it (unless you go with IVF). ❤
Oh, Maggie, you are such an inspiration. Your honesty and openness are impressive. I went off birth control pills after a pap smear showed abnormal cell growths. It took 3 years for my perios became regular. During this time, no birth control was used and no pregnancy resulted. I did, with my next husband get pregnant have 2successful pregnancies. Try not trying to get pregnant and just have, "fun". I know people who had a child then couldn't get pregnant & adopted 2 boys. About a month after the the 2nd adoption, they got pregnant, you just never know. Best wishes & positive thoughts from Canada.
Sending prayers for you... Remember how important you are and if anything were to happen, it would break hearts. There are so many unwanted children that need love too. You both will make great parents either way.
Thank you for sharing. I can see how much this is affecting you, and I’m sending hugs and baby dust. You will be great parents and your baby(ies) will be loved, no matter how they come into this world.
Love you so much Mags!!! You can do this, it may not look like any body else’s journey but if it’s what you and Zak want you fight til the end. Your a fighter and you got this! We all believe in you, you and Zak have so much love to give! ❤️🥰
You are so brave to share this journey while you are knee deep in it. I haven't been through the negative pregnancy test hell that you went through. My husband and I have not even started trying because we are both so ill. What you said at 18:34 makes total sense to me. I'm in my late 30's and you are right. It only gets stronger and more painful the longer time goes on. I am praying for you and again you are so brave for sharing.
It was very brave of you to share this. I could see how hard it is for you to talk about it. I hope in doing so, someone who is in the same position, reaches out to you so that you have some support.
Thank you for sharing. Wish you the best on your journey and whatever decision you both make.
Thank you for opening up and talking about the hard stuff! I admire you for that. Praying for you guys and your future kid(s)!
All I can really say is you are such a beautiful person...sending hugs and love as you are on this journey.
You will make amazing parents naturally or adoptive. Its a hard subject. Sending you both love and light.
So sorry this is where you are at going through this. My heart is with you as well as my prayers that you come out the other side with a precious little one. ❤️❤️
Love your openness vulnerability. you are an inspiration no matter what your family be what you make it
You are so brave to share this Maggie. I'm sure you will help many others in a similar position. You and Zac will make wonderful parents no matter how the child comes into your lives. Love and hugs to you both ❤🌷❤🌷
Holding space for you as you journey this difficult season of waiting & disappointment
I'm so sorry for what you're going thru. I hope you keep your heart and your arms wide open to hug that special someone in whichever way they come. 🥰💖
Thank you so much for sharing. It’s hard to be vulnerable with people especially about topics like this. Don’t give up.
I had my proctocolectomy in September and that is when they found endometriosis all around my colon. I will be in the same boat as you as soon as I am fully healed from surgery.
So sorry you are going through this. I'm sure your sharing is helping many. Sending love!
Hey Maggie, thanks so much for sharing this! I think it will help a lot of people on the proctocolectomy/pregnancy pathway as well as people who are not but can relate to what you're going through, feeling and experiencing. Thanks for being real in the video and for sharing what you have chosen to share with us. I can totally relate to when someone asks you in public when you're going to have kids and you're like "we would really love to have kids..." or "we have a puppy :P" My heart goes out to you in what you're going through
Keep the faith sweet girl. You and Zak are so special. 🙏💕
I am hoping that you guys can conceive and have at least one kid. You both deserve it. I have watched you now for almost 10 years... one of your videos of you decorating your bags for the beach came up right after I had major surgery #4 related to crohn's... you honestly helped me in so many ways with your videos. Especially at the point I was at with my own journey... I have always wondered how it all would affect me... I have so many adhesions and hydrosalpinx that nothing would make it to the point I could conceive. It is rough. I was depressed about it for a long while, and it still hurts... I hear you. This video hit home while I was watching it... it is hard to not be angry when something is snatched away before being ready to say yes or no to trying for kids. How you worded it is a better explanation.
I hurts. It hurts so deep on so many levels.
I will be rooting for you guys 💙 you would be awesome parents.
I can't imagine how difficult this has been for you and Zak. God has a plan. Try to stay positive and hold onto hope. We are all behind you and care deeply about you and Zak. We love you Maggie.
I saw the line too on your test at 7 months of trying!!! it’s definitely there!!
I wish I could just hug you and help in anyway. You have helped so many with your openness about your disease. I wish I could be there for you.
Stay strong! I can’t imagine how you are feeling. I had my twins (through IUI) before I even had my total colectomy. It took 4 tries at the fertility clinic. Once I had many surgeries and my colectomy I started to stop getting my period. It’s so hard. If you ever want to chat about fertility stuff with someone who was chronically sick and dealt with a high risk pregnancy I’m here! 💗
Sending you and Zak hugs and prayers!❤️ I was diagnosed with endometriosis and PCOS. It took us three years to get pregnant. I know how frustrating it can be. It will happen, hopefully soon!💐
My parents were trying for 3 years and mum miscarried once a couple of years before I was on the way. Mum doesn’t have any health issues, but dad was diagnosed with high blood pressure a few years before I was born. They went as far as fertility clinic type appointments to investigate why they were struggling to conceive. Apparently the blood pressure medicines dad had to take at the time were affecting the amount. And they were also told to try to relax, mum got some tape with mindfulness type exercises on it to not tense up so much about the situation. It took them 3 years of trying and tracking and trying some more, but eventually I was on the way and was born in October 1985. My parents and I can even know with high certainty when I was made.
It’s tough but just don’t give up! Maybe your body is just not ready at this very moment for one reason or another, it could even be such a thing as stress (mental stress or a physical stress as in an injury or something that your body needs to heal) or whatever. Just don’t give up, and don’t be afraid to accept whatever help you’re offered to see why you’re struggling, maybe even give IVF a try if you really want to try everything to have a biological child. But if you just can’t get pregnant or they find something that would make pregnancy very complicated or outright dangerous for you, there are so many children out there who need a loving home, with adults to call their own. One doesn’t have to give birth to a child to love him or her unconditionally.
I opted to not have children, partly because I’ve just never had the desire to have children, but also because of how badly my body reacted to progesterone type contraceptives (I have hEDS and my joint issues accelerated by a lot within just months when I had a Mirena IUD) so I just felt that if I got that bad from the low levels of hormones from contraceptives, then what wouldn’t a pregnancy do to me with a lot more hormones and over a longer time? (I only had the IUD for 7 months and it ruined me for life)
Should I ever want to be a mother other than having pets or spoiling the neighbors dogs, I’d love a stepchild, foster child or adopted child as if it was a child of my own genes. I don’t have to give birth to a child to love him or her and that mindset gives me peace.
I had a hysterectomy little over 8 years ago now and my only regret about it was that it wasn’t done sooner because of the issues I was having. I turned 28 just weeks after my surgery so pretty young at the time, but for me it was the right choice for many reasons
I really do hope you and Zak will soon see the magic lines on those pregnancy tests! Don’t give up hope ❤️
I don't have the ostomy but I can hear in your voice how you feel about talking about trying and taking test after test. My husband and I have been married going on 7 years and he has 2 kids from a previous relationship. We have tried to get pregnant and I have taken many tests and thought my body felt different that this month could be it but nothing has happened. I hope and pray that you are able to conceive or that in the future you can adopt. I hear your pain. Thank you for being so real and honest.
My heart goes out to you Maggie, this is obviously and understandably very painful for you, I just want to hug you tight, hang in there, my son and daughter in law had huge problems due to her endometriosis and various other issues but they now have my beautiful granddaughter after ivf, never give up!! I'm sending love and keeping my fingers crossed for you from across the pond ❤️❤️🤞 xx
Love you Maggie and Zak and I am spinning prayer wheels for you both. Thank you for sharing your journey. Know that you give the world so much.
I’m so so sorry Maggie. I understand how you feel my journey is very similar. Sending love to you and Zach 💓💓
Wishing you all the best. Everyone's fertility is unique to them and their feelings about it are just as unique. I know exactly how you feel, it's so difficult to articulate to someone who hasn't experienced it. You and Zac will find a way. ❤️
Wishing you all the best…Prayers coming your way…..✝️
I'm sorry you're struggling. Wishing you and Zak all the best. Thank you for sharing.
Sister, we are in year 3 of trying. I feel every bit of what you are feeling. I did get pregnant one time which was ectopic, it ruptured and ended with emergency surgery and blood transfusions. I switched gynecologists with my appointment yesterday and we are starting clomid (hopefully my remaining Fallopian tube is still functioning and not impacted by all my surgeries causing scar tissue). Stay positive. It’s hard, so hard but you are not alone!!
Nothing but best thoughts for you and your family's future. I really wish people would stop asking personal questions about family planning. I suffered years of the "when are you getting married" questions and I along with many friends suffered the "when are you having kids/giving that kid a sibling" interrogation. Some did not want kids, some where struggling to conceive or carry to term, one was in an abusive relationship and one was going through infidelity in their marriage. Stop asking these questions. No one is owed an answer.
Oh Maggie my heart goes out to you. You so wanted this to be thing that you’re body could do right. You have put up with so much and been so brave. What an amazing mother you’ll be to your children (however they arrive). Thank you for sharing your story. We understand that there are times and parts of your journey that you don’t want to share and that’s completely fine, you are entitled to your privacy. I hope you can have a relaxing holiday season and spend lots of time with your lovely husband.
I am praying for you both as you continue on your journey to build a family together. Hugs and love to you both.
You hang in there, Maggie! I'll be sending good vibes your way! It's okay to be sad about it.
Maggie....I love your ability to share this with us. You & Zak are an amazing couple and you're going to be awesome parents. I know two couples who adopted their 1st child only to get pregnant naturally with their 2nd. The most important thing is your health so you'll be able to be
a healthy, active mom. God bless you both and your future family. 🙂
I can’t relate to the reasons for your fertility problems but very much understand the feelings you go through every time you get a negative test. My husband I spent 8 years dealing with that roller coaster.
You get mixed between feeling hopeful during the middle of your cycle and then the crushing heartbreak when your period shows up or you have yet another negative pregnancy test. You swear you’re just done, you can’t do it again. Then a week goes by and those little needles of hope sneak in…maybe this month it will work. And so the cycle repeats…every month.
I feel your pain, it sucks. It’s also normal and ok to feel angry when you hear of others getting pregnant by shaking hands with someone, even family and friends. You can be happy for them but feel so sad for yourself that it’s hard to even fake being joyful for them.
For anyone else who has not gone through infertility…NEVER EVER tell someone to “just relax and stop trying”…it is well meaning but it is the most condescending and hurtful thing to hear when someone is going through infertility. I promise you…we already all did that.
It took me a Yr to fall for my 1st, 3yrs for 2nd, 7 yrs for 3rd. Perhaps a lovely weekend away for you both, with not thinking about getting pregnant but just relaxing in others company may do you good.
Oh little one. I hear the sadness in your sweet voice. The thought of undergoing yet another surgery has to be the last thing you want to hear😞
Praying for positive news for you and Zack. Much love to both...❤
Everything is mourning a loss..... The loss of becoming a parent the way you wanted, the loss of realizing you need help to become one, the loss of having negative outcomes or getting close to only realize you have a blighted ovum, failed IUI's, failed IVF..... Needing an egg donor - yes you grieve not being able to use your own eggs, then just being happy to become pregnant regardless.... Hopefully no complications, and and and. The only way I got through my many medical issues, you mourn for a bit, then dust your self off and come up with plan b, c, d etc. Trying to control the things you can and having a plan is helpful. I hope your wishes are granted no matter how you become a mom. No IBS here but had endo, adeno, stage IV melanoma (13 years ago and now clear!) and and and.
Sending prayers and love to you and Zak. My heart breaks for what you're going through. You and Zak will be parents one day.
Well I’m not sure anything I say here will be helpful. In looking back I can say things work out the way they are supposed to, but going through sad and stressful times is not easy. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage. I then had a baby boy, and then another miscarriage and then lost a full term pregnancy. We then adopted. My sons are now 60 and 65. You can get through difficult times as you know. Just hang in there, and know things will work out. I love watching you on Utube, and wish you both all the best!
dont worry this is a process. Is part of every couple, patience is key!
From Uruguay!!