From BLOCKED & NO-CONTACT To "I can't get enough of you!" - John's Story
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- Опубліковано 3 лип 2024
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INITIAL SITUATION & HOW THINGS ARE LIKE NOW
00:00 - Why She LEFT Me (Real Reasons Why Women Leave)
06:31 - Toxic Mindsets That Will DESTROY Your Marriage (Blind Victim Cycles)
12:01 - Why She BLOCKED Me & Had ZERO Contact (Dangers of Manipulative “Tactics")
18:02 - How AMAZING Things Are Now (Anti-Fragile & Bulletproof Relationship)
EXPERIENCE IN THE PROGRAM
27:02 - Why The Program is “DIFFERENT” & “TOUGH"
33:14 - Is the Program a Scam & a Money-Trap?
36:32 - What Makes the Program SPECIAL (Turning LOVE & ART Into a SCIENCE)
40:50 - How I REGAINED HOPE in a HOPELESS Situation
LEARNING LESSONS
48:04 - #1: Why “No Contact” is a DUMB Strategy | Is Attachment Style Theory BS?
54:34 - #2: Partner Giving Up & Doesn’t Even Want to TRY? (Is There ANY Hope For Me?)
57:57 - #3: "Mind Viruses" That Will SILENTLY DESTROY Your Marriage
1:03:45 - #4: Why “It Takes 2 to Tango” Is Complete BS! (You CAN Save Your Marriage ALONE)
1:09:32 - #5: Why She Will TEST YOU When You Show Changes (Paradox of Change)
1:15:48 - #6: Why She Won’t Trust Your Changes (Untetheredness is CRUCIAL)
1:19:33 - #7: Why Most are SO BLIND to Their Flaws/Problems / Why You’re Growing SLOWLY
1:29:06 - #8: Reconciliation is IMPOSSIBLE With These Mindsets (Perfect Process vs. Product)
1:40:11 - #9: Want a RICH & FULFILLING Marriage? This is KEY!
1:54:19 - #10: High-Value Men: Is Your Definition of it WRONG?
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I am shocked, this guy has only been in the program for 2 months, yet provided such a rich interview.
Seeing all these success stories where I can say "that's basically what I'm going through" gives me hope. As you say, basically we all seem to go through the same patterns and making the same mistakes in our relationships. Makes me feel like we all missed a class or a software patch somewhere.
I just commented on @vin3913's comment with the same message. As I always say, no story is unique or special. :)
Also, it is not as if we were born missing something; many of us go through life thinking these skills are inherent. But can you think of any inherent skills? Or do life skills require effort to learn not only conceptually but experientially?
@@GeoffreySetiawan totally, especially since so many of us learn better by doing and practicing rather than reading a book. However I feel there should be a class up there with "learning how to do your taxes" :D
I’m 20 seconds in and I know this will be mind blowing!! Geoffrey bro you are amazing keep this up!! I love these videos
I love it! Please return in a couple hours to share your biggest takeaways from another amazing interview!
The no contact rule for situations where your relationship was short resonates with me. Me and my ex dated for about 3 months and we've on and off talked for 3 months now, i've implemented your YT teachings but realized the other day that i was being to passive and all i did was listen but not say my side of the story, i'm at a point where i've shared my side of the story and then i've got stonewalled but i don't know how to explain it, i'm kind of excited in the sense that this just means i have so much work to do in myself and this relationship if i do continue to want it. Thank You Geoffrey
🙏 I loved this one, the topics, mind-bending nuances & details
Geoffrey this video is so important and eye opening. Thank you for all your advice!
Antithetic thinking is such a mind bending concept . Geoffrey was talking about how being antithetical would mean being self critical in certain situations and I was just nodding my head along thinking about how I am self critical in certain situations and then I realized woah shouldn’t I also be thinking about how I’m not self critical in some other certain situations too aka being really antithetic. Would love an indepth video on this because this seems to be an amazing tool to have once you properly wrap your head around it
The success stories validate that I’m on the right track. Thanks man.
Great, my guy. Feel free to share any realizations you make along the way.
50:35 through 55:45
Whenever faced a problem, we have to recognize we DO have a problem/flaws with self, that disables making win-wins, which is the goal/solution!
We have a choice to DO or be lazy when faced a problem. & usually we choose the lazy route to NOT do the work, which we make excuses & subconscious negative narratives that are an opinion not the truth
We need to create (MacGyver/Hero) better hero/non-lazy narratives to create (MacGyver/Hero) better environments!
The energy you give is what you get!
Victim mindset!!
Thank You So Much Geoffrey !!!
The truth is there's no way to get an ex back. There are always exceptions and sometimes and ex will come back because they feel comfortable with you and they tried dating someone else and got burned. My ex girlfriend left me for her ex boyfriend two years ago. I went no contact and she sent me a letter in the mail when she heard I won a hospital lottery. I emailed her since she reached out to me and all she said was that she couldn't communicate with me because her boyfriend is jealous. 99% of the time, they're not coming back because they've moved on and they found someone that will do more for them.
Incredible insights. Just doing the one of the exercise of what have been doing wrong brought up a list of so many things where she was trying to tell me and I just basically ignored them and end up doing things my way and then paying for it later, just to be combative with her when she brought it up
Earlier than expected...i like this. Nah how I'm I obsessed with your videos Geff? 😂
I'm glad I can help! Feel free to share with me anything you found to be eye-opening.
You know I introduced 4 of my friends to your videos and taught all I've learnt from you.
They all having positive movements...all of them lol. And massive changes from their partners that were in seperation or wanting space, that shocks everyone.
But the dip just gets dipper for me. Stonewalled to my bones.
This mirrors my situation.
Well I'll keep growing. 😅
@@GeoffreySetiawanUnderstanding the fly wheel of confirmation bias in no contact.
Broken through stonewalling.
Need to grow massively. Current growth is shit! I can do way much better.
Thank you Geoffrey!
Thanks again Geoff, im only 10 minutes in and already a new way in which the victem mindset diguises itself.
It still never ceases to amaze me how simple it is, yet we have to go so deep to truly understand what we are doing. It all stems from the victim mindset, which is often the result of being tethered. This has had me going for some time now because it disguises itself in so many forms that it feels like everything you do is being a victim once you are aware.
Hey Geoff. Jason kicked my ass during our 15min talk the other day. Doing my homework and excited to talk to him or you again
Where do you register? I've clicked the link for the masterclass, but it just pops up I need to register.
1:23:55 really important. Ask what caused the machine to break down? What can cause the machine to malfunction?
My partner decided to give me one last chance after she said that she was not longer in love. The next morning, we had a conversation from which she wanted to give it another chance. How can the change happen so quick?
Geoffrey will probably have a better answer, but the biggest thing that will make the biggest difference is being untethered. I've seen so many other comments like yours, and I think the number 1 thing that changes everything is being untethered. Being focused on the process and not the outcome.
1:13:50 take this point to heart.
Been following your videos for a while and the good thing it has actually helped me get to a point of reconciliation! The bad is that I made the same mistake/mistakes again that led to the initiatial break up. I can’t recall the exact video, but I remember you saying something along the lines of if I break safety again in a massive way it will be massively harder to get her back again. I may have went In too soon without completely adopting the frameworks, but what am I to do now? Do I start over from square one with the videos teachings (I can’t afford the program)? Do I start over with someone else ? Have I lost her for good ?
Any response Is appreciated.
Been in a relationship 6.5 years we separated almost 2 months and im blocked on everything.. I've been doing no contact, but if that is a dumb idea then what route should I take ?
We had a pretty bad break up and I thought giving her space was the right thing to do.
Hey Geoffrey I've been trying to sign up for the Masterclass, but don't see where to register. I could really use the help.
My wife and I have been together for 14 years total, 7 dating, 7 married. We have 2 kids, and she just dropped she needed space. Im staying at a family members house because all of her family lives across the country. Working on managing my emotions and tones when talking to her, Im sure I'm messing up a lot because I'm reeling right now. I need to get into this class for myself and my children.
This sounds so similar to what I have going on.
The best part about realizing our situations are not unique or special is that we begin to realize the solutions aren't either. :)
Geoffrey, I have been working with the information from your videos to the best of my capabilities without using the actual program. It has been almost 3 months since my wife approached me. And man, I was typical and didn't even realize. I just had a breakthrough in the form of conversation last night and because your videos as well as all the people you have helped and they're stories, my wife and i . found common ground. I had to break it down for her to explain that my mindset is not what it use to be, and I'm working hard to change. It was a huge bump forward. my paradoxes lined up exactly how your videos state. The program must be powerful because simply listening to your words has impacted me hugely. What your doing here is just beautiful.
Geoff, thanks for the great advice and tools, I've been watching your videos since September. Unfortunately I've tried it all, and she is still waking away. I'm at the stage of trying my best to let go, you simply can't make someone forgive/love you. Keep working on yourselves guys, I wish you all better luck than I!
I'm nearly reaching same point. Got closer, up then down, then lots of up then back to near zero. So sad, she screamed she doesn't want to be with me and is dating a childhood friend several months now
This is very timely for me. Almost as if I am in John's situation. But nevertheless, I won't fall for toxic voices in my head and instead double down on my progress. There is literally no reason for me to stop wanting to work on myself. The top of the mountain is still too far up, but regardless of the outcome always enjoy the journey and progress.
I love it! You now are seeing the bigger picture.
You said it is almost as if you are in John's situation. Isn't it wild that these interviews come out each week and are like the same story and situation but with different faces?
As I always say, no story is unique or special. :)
Couldn't aggree more. These stories only solidified that no situation is unique, all it boils down on destroying the 5 pillars of the relationship and the process of REBUILDING not just fixing the relationships, is to work on yourself. Just tells you that be humble that you don't always know what's right and wrong because maybe you are viewing things with your victim mindset.
What is FAE bias. It’s mentioned several times. Did I miss the explanation?
FAE = Fundamental Attribution Error. I have many videos talking about this.
@@GeoffreySetiawan Thanks Geoffrey! I've watched many of your videos and I keep looking for the ones on FAE. Your UA-cam videos have been helpful, as that's all I can do at this time - as much as I need to apply for RR right away.
I’m in a valley now where it went to three weeks of constant contact from her to again wanting to sign papers and no response. I mean it has happened before it is just these dips are rough man.
My question…I am not in a rush, so I am thinking to sign divorce papers as she wants and continue working on me while working on safety with her (she has been way more open). Any thoughts?
I will allow you to answer your question.
What do you think? Should you work with your partner on what she wants versus fighting against her for what you want? Which do you feel will further erode safety? Which will have long-term consequences?
Oh I will definitely sign, because if that’s what she finds best for her life then that is what is best right now no questions asked. I guess my question was more on if I should continue to build trust back up despite it but that’s foolish thinking. Why wouldn’t I right?
I can see why it took you years to get you and your wife back on track. You a genius bud, for doing it without…well…you lol