How To Deal With The Friend Zone
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- Опубліковано 23 лис 2019
- Cuppy gives advice on how to deal with being accused of “friend-zoning” your guy friends.
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Look, at the end of the day, if a guy had his heart set on someone, it may even be better for him to stay away. Yes you loose a friend, but if you force him by your side, he will hold onto those feelings. If a guy cant see you in anyother way, it is honestly wrong to try and force them to stay your friend. Youll be putting them into an unhealthy relationship were they may never get over you. This video said that no friend owes you anything, and that you don't have to see them how he sees you (which is true) but then goes to say that the man still owes you their friendship and has to see you the way you see him (which is not true). There will be times were you can stay friends, but only if he can actually see you as just a friend. Overall, this is setting up the people who watch this for unhealthy relationships.
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BlitzS facts
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Literally going through this rn
Cant be in the friendzone if you dont have any friends.
Just confess your undying love for someone & wait
Big Fax, no printer
That's the idea behind, cutting off the ties.
Actually you can. If you don't have friends and your friends with the girl , she may ask for dating advice or friend advice
@@mrpostive6891 then you have friends and this rule does not apply.
“I’d rather have you close as a friend, than not having you at all”
I know u mean well, but my past experiences say the person Ur going to say this is not going feel that well
Girls who are like this deserve to rot in hell.
Constructive Criticism: The voice audio needs to be louder or on the same volume as the sound FX. I can't hear the voices so I turn up my volume and the sound FX blows my speakers.
LingLing same hear
I feel like this "advice" is too self-serving and doesn't convey empathy or healthy communication. For a video that included the term "female-identifying" in the first minute or so and ending it with, "are you MAN enough to just be friends" really seems to indicate to me that whoever or whomever wrote this is a bit too one sided. In this scenario someone who you consider you "best friend" confesses that they want to pursue something more than just a platonic relationship, whether that individual thought it through or just decided to blurt it out, and the other party declined such invitation. Well wouldn't you be a bit sad and morose about the rejection? How do you just go back being "friends" like nothing happened? Hurt goes both ways and with it time to reflect and heal. Sometimes this dissolves relationships or it strengthens them and that is the reality. I'm not saying that the female-identifying cookie should have just been pressured into a relationship that they didn't want, but I am saying that it is a bit selfish for this individual to not think about that purple macaron's feelings as well, especially after that cookie told it to man up, stuff your feelings down your throat, and give me (the cookie) my sense of stability back. At this point it's not about the friend-zone, at this point I say stop projecting blatant gender roles.
Virginia Shih facts
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Preach
Virginia Shih you’re right and of course they’re one sided cause I mean it’s buzzfeed man and from what I’ve seen buzzfeed is really just a bunch of sexist feminists who think all men are rapeists and think that anyone who doesn’t agree with them is sexist and hates all women
Girls complain about being friend zoned too I do feel it was a bit one sided but so often women are guilty into relationships afraid of hurting their friend too especially when they react bad and take their friendship away. Which is unfortunate. Id say whichever end you are on if it was a real friendship first the friendship will survive. If it was started in order to get into someone's pants or a dating relationship then its manipulation. However there needs to be an understanding for needing time to heal those feelings need a healthy outlet and need to be sorted out. It did take a long while before she found him though. And he just up and disappeared. Part of being mature is being honest about needing that time too not just disappearing or being cruel or name calling because they didnt get their way. That kind of behavior is toxic. Its worth letting that friendship go if thats how a person reacts to the other person not feeling the same. We are entitled to our feelings not entitled to be abusive because of them. Cool guy represents toxic guys who claim to be nice. Manipultive guys who were never really a friend to begin with who had alterior motives. Cookie looked all over because she had no clue what happened to him. If he had been honest then she would have waited for him.
I feel like this video makes great points, like how nobody should ever be expected to have feelings for someone just because that person wants them to, however calling them “cowards” just because they don’t feel comfortable hanging out with you after being rejected is also unfair. Like, being around someone you know doesn’t feel the same way as you on a regular basis is really hard, and just like you have the right to reject someone because you don’t feel romantically towards them, they have the right to stay away from that uncomfortable situation. The idea of the friendzone is silly and immature, but it’s also immature to expect that things will stay the same after one person has told the other that their feelings are one-sided.
FACTS
Hell yeah, preach!
Yeah the people who run buzzfeed are some inhuman crechents
From my own person experience this video gives terrible advise.
Ok so I have been "friendzoned" by this girl I had been friends with for some time and after awhile I came to the realization that I wanted more from the relationship, she didn't and I cannot force her to feel the same way towards me. So the best thing to do was go our separate paths. I tried just being her friend for awhile but my feeling for her never changed. Being around her I kept seeing and experiencing the things about her that made me feel that way in the first place. And it is frustrating to know that no matter how much you wanted it, it wasn't going to change. So I just told her how it was, that I don't hold it against her that she didn't return the feelings but being around her was too frustrating to continue. This was abut two years ago and by being away from her, I was able to move on, find someone else and now I am happily engaged. It was hard to cut her out completely back then but ultimately I feel it was the right decision for me and I have no regrets.
No man should ever take advice from this channel.
The friend of the girl who called in probably just felt awkward after getting rejected. This is normal. Why do you have to instantly assume he's a bad person who's blaming the girl for friendzoning him? BuzzFeed always manages to preach against judgement while being judgey.
Keep in mind it works both ways, I have tried to progress a relationship from platonic/friends to a romantic one with several women over the years and they ghosted me with no warning. I got rejected yes, but when I tried to reach out to continue the friendship I never got a response. Each time it happened it did hurt but I figured they wanted space so I left it alone, none of them ever reached out to me again. Women are just as capable of ghosting a man as men are at ghosting a woman, not saying that's what happened with the girl that asked the question but just saying that it can happen.
In this example the guy wasn't bothering her in any way, I guess totally ghosting someone isn't the nicest but it's not harassment, so what's the problem? If he chose not to be in the friendship anymore that's totally valid, you're allowed to decide not to be friends with someone if it isn't working for you.
So let them know.
He was hurting her by rejecting her completely from his life. If he would have communicated and said " Hey, I really need some time alone to deal with this", that would have been different and understandable. He stopped being her friend at all because she didn't have romantic feelings for him, what kind of friend does that? Just go be away from the situation for a time, let your friend know you need time away so they don't worry about you, and then get over the romantic feelings in a month or 3 and then get back to being best friends.
@@heatherwanderer777 I agree communication is way better than ignoring someone, but saying take some time away and get over your feelings I don't agree with. It's like saying take three months to think about it and then decide to be my girlfriend. In both cases you're telling someone how they should respond and if he wants to respond by not being friends I think you should respect that choice as much as he should respect you not wanting to be romantic.
I completely agree this video is trash. Maybe the guy is working on himself,or getting his mental health together or checking someone else. Like ladies let's not be so selfish
@@TheWibachinski agree to a degree with that.
"She doesn't owe him the feelings he gave her, if he isn't a man enough to face that he isn't a friend worth having."
"He doesn't owe her friendship if he can't stand to have it as JUST friendship. If you aren't a woman enough to face that YOU aren't a friend worth having." left that part out did you. if he can't handle the fact that you don't love him he doesn't have to stay there and suffer just so you can keep him as a friend.
Ian Skrivarnik yup, this was stupidly gendered and biased too.
Yes
Maybe the friend zone isn’t real but that doesn’t mean rejection doesn’t hurt.
No ones saying it doesn't, we have a lot a media on that but not enough showing how to DEAL with rejection to move on or media focusing on people with the expectation that someone should date them because they're a "nice" guy.
Of course, putting yourself out there brings that risk.
But this is about the entitlement of the concept.
It doesn't exist, weak men too weak to move on make it an issue. I usually just stop talking and interacting with the girl if I'm rejected.
wiseguy 26 xd u so missunderstood a huge chunck of the video tho
@@crazydragy4233 Na I just don't prefer that method. In this case of the video it made sense because they had a friendship since the beginning but I mean a girl you started talking to or liked for a week or a couple months to a year at most.😆
Yes but what if you just need time to heal from rejection and just get over the person ? Isn’t it also ok ? Idk
That's what the video says. It's fine to take time and space from people. And if they can't work after then they arnt compatable friends.
FaithPixel Good point ! However I understood it as “he isn’t a great friend because he is not able to bring you good and love you without wanting more” so I was just saying that sometimes it’s not because you don’t want to but it’s just safer for you to let the friendship go (sometimes just temporary) in order to recover and it doesn’t mean you can’t be a good friend idk if that’s clear
Constance B nah that’s pretty clear
"are you man enough to be my friend?" and this video is supposed to have a feminist connotation? Yeah, ok 😂
Is it really friendzoning if the guy rightfully steps out of the friendship because he can't get past his feelings?
The friend zone is a self-identified state
Crys Dragon The point is that for some people being around the person who they know doesn’t return their feelings only makes them miserable. And it’s not the fault of the person who turned them down. It’s just better for their mental health to not put themselves through that, because the friendship is now just making their life worse. I mean, people don’t have to stay friends with their exes do they? Some feelings are just too difficult to get over even if you want to.
@Crys Dragon honestly, this is different because its leading you into an unhealthy relationship. If the guy cant get over those feelings, and was set on the idea of you two, then it is very likely he wont get over that. IMO, it is better sometimes to just let the friendship go.
I mean honestly bro, there is no friendzone. She's either interested or she's not
@@wav3rid3r Well yes and no. You make it sound like a women either rloves or hates you, when she could want to be your friend. We are talking about a women turning you down and asking to stay friends. Hence the name, friendzone
Yeah, this is genuinely bad advice. It is self serving and un-empathetic to the other party. Just because he stops talking to you or disappears from your life doesn't mean hes not "man enough" to be your friend. It also does not mean he/she does not care for you. That feeling of rejection is tough, he (or she) could even be embarrassed. Even though its on them for not making their intentions more clear from the get go , they've built a reality of them being with you romantically for a long time and it just came to an end, cut them some slack... Sometimes that person needs space in order to re categorize you as only a friend. And just how they don't deserve a romantic relationship from you, you don't deserve a friendship from them.
The honest to God BEST advice from the perspective of a guy that's been in the friend-zone, and grown from it. Give the person space and then reach out to them sometime later down the line. Chances are if they really enjoyed that relationship with you they will be down to be just friends. But if not let them be. and move that energy into finding another friend.
A girls perspective.. dudes dont have to settle into being friends if they dont want to
aestheticsounds. Good point
I have friend zoned myself at the start of all my friendships cause I am afraid of losing them as a friend if we take it any further than that, and that applies to both sexes. So I am a 27 year old virgin cause I am a coward.
There, confession over, I feel better now.
Exactly only weak men put themselves in the "friendzone". It depends on how long or meaningful the friendship was to keep it but in most cases I cut all ties and connections with the girl if rejected.
@@wiseguy240Winston Strong men can accept she doesn't feel that way. Doesn't mean you cut ties, it's actually harder to maintain a good friendship than it is to cut ties.
@@Skenjin That's why I said depending on how long and meaningful the relationship was.
Why are the sound effects so loud?
And Mac lived in an emotionally abusive relationship forever.
Men, this what you do to get out of the friendzone:
Instead of making yourselves miserable by staying friends with her as this dude did with that cookie chick, tell the girl you value their friendship but want it to be something more. If she rejects that, tell her that you are not interested in just being friends and if she ever wants something more, you'll be there. Then man up and leave. Dont allow her to convince you to be "just friends" because it will make you miserable. Pretending to like being just friends isnt "manning up." Going after what you want and rejecting what you dont is being a man.
This video is BS. Just goes to show that men should never take relationship advice from women.
I think in this scenario the important thing was that they used to be best friends before the whole situation. If they used to be just friends and the guy caught feelings afterwards, of course the girl expected him to still be friends with her. The rejection doesn't have to change their already existing relationship. No one said that if you ask out a girl and she says no then you should agree to just be her friend.
This wasnt advice from women, it was advice from someone who obviously felt entitled to their friendship lmao. So hypocritical of them
Buzzfeed is mostly feminists so it probably was
Lucille Moulin yeah except for you know the video
DougDog feminazis*
"Are you man enough to be just my friend" Wow! Great word choice. Ending one toxic problem by creating another. You don't have to be in a relationship with some if you don't want to. In saying that you don't have to be friends because some princess cupcake wants to keep a friendship alive. Jesus buzzfeed is absolute cancer sometimes.
Sometimes?!?!
Advice on the friendzone, de-friend the person who friend zoned you
A girl can be in the friend zone too🙁
Uncommon and pretty rare
nobody can be in a friendzone, because it doesn't exist, and people who believe in that concept don't respect other people feelings and decisions, nobody is obligated to answer to your feelings positively.
MasterJazz09 lmao uncommon and rare or because girls don’t complain about it as much as boys because we don’t feel as if we were owed something??
This video isnt about whether girls or boys are the only ones who get friendzoned. The friendzone doesn't EXIST and the BELIEF in it can be very toxic and ruin your relationships whether it be a friend or acquaintance. However, there is something to the concept that a lot of guys feel entitled to having a romantic partner, just look at all the prince/Knight in shining armor fairytales/Disney movies/teen romance movies that have this concept.
Anna P. Factssssss
I’ve never intentionally put anyone in the friend zone... the chemistry just wasn’t there 🙂
I like how Jackie is the voice over of cookie too cute.
i swear the universe is always hinting me about this
tori :3 Like everything that happens somehow relates to something
It is so hilarious when the narrator cusses like "and she was sexy as f**k"
Like...😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
I just watched this and thank you thank you thank you i was just friendzoned by my would be parent and this helped me see the error of my ways :')
I love that the vocal track is insanely quiet
It can happen to girls but it’s uncommon as guys are the ones expected do all the work approach, gota ask out etc etc I mean friends for 3 years y’all both single and you don’t feel anything? That’s crushing and feels like wasted time and effort more so when the same girl goes and dates some douce bag she has known for like a week but you the friend nah you get rejected 🤷♂️ his video is clearly bias to one side and highly inaccurate to the other.
Guys are expected? xD right, nearly all my female friends were the ones to ask their partners out in the first place. Maybe those girls around arnt that interested if they never ask.
FaithPixel I don’t believe you I’m sorry lol rarely is it the girls that make the first move that almost never happens not saying it does not happen but that is highly rare an not the norm all a women really has to do is just wait most of the time and a guy will come
@@MasterJazz09 seems you might have things to sort out but I hope you get what you need. Sending good vibes.
Personally Im gay so don't have this issue. I have asked out my gf and been asked out. Maybe where you live the culture is different.
When he treats her like a princess but gets nothing in return, it's normal if he cuts her loose. Even if there aren't romantic feelings involved it's ok to end a friendship that isn't quid pro quo.
Dafuq did I just watched? Oh boy...
Also something the “cupcake” missed here is that anyone and since there’s so many snowflakes here I feel obligated to say men/women or whatever you identify as, who respects themselves will find that it is extremely demeaning to be in a relationship where your feelings are not reciprocated. It’s actually quite hypocritical and manipulative since you’re not being your true self with that person. The friendship isn’t really a friendship anymore, you don’t have romantic feelings for your friends. You usually don’t want to cuddle, kiss, make out and make sweet love to your friends and you sure as heck don’t envision a potential future fantasy with a friend. Not only that but usually your interactions after just become awkward AF.
You’re better off cutting contact, working on yourself, become a better person and go on with your life. If that person comes back in your life they’ll not only respect you for it but you may be able to work on certain aspect of yourself that might make you more desirable as a potential love interest to that person. Or better yet just find someone who reciprocate your feelings.
And that is coming from a guy who got out of the so called “friend zone”. It’s not real in the sense that it is your actions that put you in that situation in the first place so it’s up to you take actions and be more assertive in the future.
Buzzfeed sure has its way to make this Friendzone thing seem a male issue.
Just a friendly reminder, that leaving friendship in which you don't feel good doesn't make you a coward. Your psychic health is important, and it will be easier for you to move on that way.
DID YOU JUST ASUMED I HAD FRIENDS... I don’t lol😂
The audio seems all over the place with this show and it's a bit off putting.
I feel you Mac. I'm with you my guy...😥
This gave me so much head aches
When your sound effects are louder than your voice... the content is good but it’s distracting.
bothered me as well voice should always be clear and louder than the effects
Ladies, some advice
1)If you friendzone a guy, Dating his friend is adding insult to injury
2) do not sabotage a potential relationship for him, if you don't want him, he is free to date anyone else
3)don't worry about ruining the friendship by taking things further, HIS developing feelings for you have already ruined the friendship
Wait, why do I get this shown?
UA-cam stop, I can escape.
I never thought I'd be enjoying a buzzfeed video
all my solid relationships have been grown out of friendships. It feels kind of limiting to stick people into categories as if a relationship couldn't change and grow.
idk i think relationships should be portrayed as something more, you know, open
One of few comments I agree with here. If someone is ever to become my boy friend they must first have a long probation time as friend. And if a relationship does not bloom even if we are no longer besties to still be able to function around the other person and be there if each other gets into a bind.
there is a difference between being genuine friends and pretending to be friends, act like a nice guy just so you could get closer to a girl and then be hateful and angry when you get rejected. The latter is what a lot of guys do and that's the problem not the first one. In the latter case, the friendship wasn't genuine and the girl feels lied to and rightfully so.
Hah, losers. You can’t get friend zoned if your crush doesn’t even want to be your friend ;D
Your too loud 😂
So we're just gonna ignore the girls who DEFINITELY know their guy friends have strong feelings for them but pretend they dont know to keep the advantages of those strong feelings coming?
I had a friend back in college who was a female but had a male best friend. He was head over heels in love with her for a decade. She purposely would string him along. She admitted when she was cornered by me one day that she uses the fact he was crazy about her to her advantage. I always knew it, but her admitting it was still crazy to me. This video was made by some psycho feminist who was ABSOLUTELY doing the same thing as my friend. The truth is ladies, we don't want to be your friend. We want to be in your pants. You can't get mad at the guy for not wanting to be a doormat.
@@davekay9113 absolute power corrupts absolutely
Of course because it's BuzzFeed
@dil oreo Yea but do those guys call up those girls to help them move a couch or bring them snacks at 1am? The to-do list of the friendzoned man can be more extensive than the boyfriend/crush to-do list. 🤣 That's the point here.
@tmntransformer I'll agree that guys need to be more up front. Rejection however, is an underrated hardship that most single men have to learn how to get comfortable with and that's not an easy task.
The friendzone also exist for girls, is not exclusive for guys, when girls want to confess love to some guy and the guy refuses and treat her as a friend, that also can happen
I needed this
This video is an absolute joke. Y'all clearly don't understand how seeing your friend who rejected you is a constant reminder of how they'll never like you romantically while that's all you ever wanted. Seclusion helps you move on from allat
Don’t know how I managed to watch 47 seconds of this
I’m a coward I guess
Ladies if a guy wants to be your friend assume it’s out of intonation to be your boyfriend because being friend zoned sucks and happens to the best of us even me
Bruh at least u guys have friends
i regret watching the video even tho i just watched 10 secs
Ok but what do I do if I'm the snail tossed in to the wishing well
please help it is very dark
y'all are lucky you got friendzoned. im not even close as an acquintance.
I don’t even got friends
I want more The good advice Cupcake show!!!
Is it wrong to get some space from the friend you loved, with the purpose of trying to get rid of those feelings??
One thing. A girl could friend zone many guys in her life, but just how many would remain her life long friend? It's not friendship if the other party doesnt want to be just friends.
Totally friend zoned
Biology is a hard thing to ignore. Can't blame a dude getting twisted in those chemicals can't blame a girl not feeling the same way. That said I think some dudes who are disgruntled and bitter about females have good reasons to be that way, same goes for females who feel they can't trust men. People manipulate platonic relationships all the time, in every way.
As an asexual I can't tell if I want a boyfriend or best friend. All the hate and shaming around the friend zone makes me not even have the guts to seek a life partner. And the common thought that asexuals don't exist or are just lying to themselves complicates things further.
great now my recommendations are filled with kids channels. even though it has cussing in it ._.
Some people can and some people can’t. Either side shouldn’t place pressure because one of them can’t deal. It is best to continue down another path. Happiness starts individually
Buh, I friendzoned a friend. I'm been friendozed recently. That only means you stay friends
When buszfeed tries is to give u advice 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄😖😖😖😖😖😖😖😖😤😤😤😤😤😤
Being friendzoned isnt as bad as being girlfriend zoned.
I want more the good advice cupcake!!!
Very skewed video. If a guy likes a girl and gets friend zoned, they were never truly friends in the first place.
My (straight) friend and me are always flirting as a joke I guess. but I’m catching feelings .....
Shoot man good luck on that
Can relate, except it wasn't me who got the feelings, it was my friend. RIP
Get out of there soldier, I've been through the same thing. It's not wort it
There’s no such thing. Being nice to someone does not entitle you to sex.
At the end what matters is how both sides perceive things. I confessed my feelings to my best friend we had an awkward phase n faught fr a month but now it's been 5 months n we're closer than ever and as best friends only BCuz i accepted the truth as it was. Do that guys it helps
I've been friend zone so many times and I'm still friends with girls that friend zone me so I'm still happy
Make a clean cut or otherwise you will be unhappy no doubt about it.
@@MixolydianMode yea i guess
@tmntransformer really?
@tmntransformer thanks for explaining it to me even though I'm a guy
Alex Lazcano i have been there, your love will not be answered, get out of this situation and look for somebody else.
this is actually so enjoyable. pls make more videos like this
*Young Amazz wants to learn your location*
I love your vids continue the hard work bro🔥😬
The good advice cupcake can lowkey get it
I have a problem with this since I'm a guy. I think this is biased in the fact that this doesn't just happen to girls. I unwantedly lost 3 friends who were my very good friends that told me they wanted more and couldn't bear to be around me since. I miss them all the time.
OMG we get it BuzzFeed you hate men not stfu about it. There is a such thing a a friend zone and men do it too and it sucks no matter who does it.
As long as you keep believing that you're gonna be miserable
I friend zoned my old crush. I found out that he liked me after I friend zoned him...he could’ve confessed to me sooner...
If a woman can't accept that you were only ever interested in her in a romantic way, then she doesn't deserve YOUR friendship in the first place. Don't stay in an abusive relationship with a woman who doesn't care about your feelings. There's no such thing as a freindzone. If a woman tells you doesn't want a relationship with you, cut her off. Emtional abuse of men is still abuse.
Yeah I’ve been in this type of zone since sophomore year and I’m in my senior year now and I try my best to avoid this girl even though this has definitely effected my friendships at school but now I don’t care because my family, Art, cars, and my sports keeps me happy anyway
Don't allow this relationship to dictate your happiness. It's easy to feel like this in high school. Don't worry. In college it will be ABSOLUTELY LIT! You will have a great time and make lasting relationships. "Friends" in college have sex with each other. Just make sure to give off the vibe off top that you are not looking to be friends. March forward with confidence my young friend!
The Friendzone doesn't exist instead of projecting those feelings on other things and to cope with it heathily its important to understand you were never in it to begin with
This episode hurts.
I learned something from this
Did draw off stop?
5:50 Ok that hurts
Right it’s so cringey
What tf is this ?
This is probably BuzzFeed's fault.
They gave Cuppy a defective script, she'd NEVER say these things.
...okay, she'd say SOME of these things, but the actual ADVICE is something she'd never say.
No wonder why it was cancelled
friendzone doesn't exist
In the real world, romantic relationships don't come first. They start as friendships, and develop. Sometimes that process is quick, sometimes it's not. But the idea that friendship and romantic relationships represent boundaries that can never cross is a lie. The thing is, the idea that drastically uneven relationships are normal and healthy is ALSO a lie. If one person just want to remain a friend, and the other wants much, much more than that, it can't work. It causes daggering emotional pain to the person who developed the feelings, to see someone all the time, and not be with them in a meaningfully romantic way. Telling the person "BE MY FRIEND OR YOU'RE A COWARD" is an immature and frankly selfish move. Often times, this sort of uneven relationship develops into manipulation, as one person is much more willing to do more for the other.
This video is incredibly patronizing, and full of bad advice and representations of the people involved. The representation of friendship shows a more pre-school look at it. Friends are only friends to have 'fun' together. This isn't true. The fun is icing on the cake. You want the other person to have fun because you care about them, not the other way around. If you only care about them because you have fun with them, congratulations, you have a personal clown, not a friend. Friendship is about forming bonds and increasing understanding among people with a level of shared ideals and priorities. It takes a bit of empathy to realize that those are also qualities some people search for in a romantic partner. This is why familiarity can breed romantic attraction.
When a friendship dials back or ends because of the uneven nature of it, it's tragic. That doesn't mean it's anybody's fault. It's a part of growing up. Eventually, people care less about making friends with the opposite sex and prioritize monogamous romantic relationships. You start a family, and start caring about family MUCH more than staying friends with someone who has feelings for you, which you don't echo.
Just because something happens often doesn't mean it's healthy. These are the same people who wonder where all their friends went after a divorce or their children growing up and feel offended that they are lonely and don't have any support. Or the ones who feel entitled to the friends they didn't have time for years/decades but suddenly want them back when they need companionship. It's funny you talk about uneven relationships, because it's usually these 'family only' type people who abuse those. Like 'help me, and be there for me when I need you, but I can't do anything for you because I have a family and have no time for your little problems.'
Not having any close relationships besides your family is not healthy. It also completely disregards all the people who don't want to marry or have kids (which is a growing number) or people who are not straight. Some people like all genders. I guess they should have no friends at all ever in case they catch feelings? Please...
watching at 1.5x speed makes it so much more interesting!!!
How do you deal with the family zone?
You’re getting the like that’s in the middle the confused like
I just staybfriends with my crush although he did rejected me, i dont want that to change our relationship as a chaotic friend, why should i cut him when we can bond really well anyway? It's just that sometimes it might hurt but I agreed to be his friend and I should be there to help him when he needs me c:
what about when she tells you that she likes you, but she's afraid of loosing your friendship if the romantic relacionship goes wrong? that's fucked up hahah
AUDIO IS OFF WITH THE SHOW! THE INTRO IS SO LOUD ALONG WITH THE SOUND EFFECTS AND THE CHARACTERS ARE NOT AS LOUD.
My daughter put me in the friendzone...
'are you man enough' what happened to combating toxic masculinity? BuzzFeed should really look over their videos before they upload them, lest they come off as being rather hypocritical (which many will claim they are)
She doesn't need to speak to him again EVER, he wasn't your real friend to begin with.
From the story they been friends sense they were kids years and years he developed feelings for her and she rejected him
Cause reasons? He has every right to be disappointed.
@@MasterJazz09 She told him she cares for him but as a friend. He can be disappointed, but he disappeared for 4 WEEKS!! Not mature at all.
Love you Kira