Attachment types explains the behavior and dynamics between people so well. It's something not many ppl know about, but every1 has a type and once u understand this stuff, u empathize with others on another level.
My first real girlfriend was in my last year of high school, and she had previously been a friend for about two years. Back then (in 1997), chatgroups were a big thing and she was a founder of one, so I got into it too. She had organised to travel to Sydney for new year's eve to meet up with a bunch of her friends, and to stay at male friend's place, so I wasn't worried as his girlfriend lived with him. In my earnestness, I suggested I go too, and she didn't protest. I couldn't afford to fly, so I caught the bus, while she flew as her dad was loaded, so we met there. She proceeded to spend the next couple of days being hot and cold to me, and then on New Year's Eve she hooked up with another guy in front of me. Needless to say, I was shattered and couldn't believe it, and I bawled like a little b!tch. Talking to one of her (former) best friends a year or two later at uni, it turned out she was a serial wh0re and had hooked up with her boyfriend at a party. This was an eye-opening experience for me, as this girl was meant to be a nerd/geek like me, and she was my friend, and I didn't see it coming. I learned a lot from this, but it took a few more bad experiences for me to really firm up what I would tolerate in a relationship and the behaviours I accept. My current partner of 5+ years has told me that I'm the only person who has ever been mean to her. My response was to tell her that expressing my displeasure at the things she does wrong calmly isn't being mean and is completely reasonable, and that I am not going to change. I also mentioned that she's still here despite my "meanness". She's a great partner overall, but it is strange to me that she had never had a relationship where they had arguments, which usually means someone is keeping quiet.
I don't think having no arguments me means someone's keeping quiet necessarily... I'm an actual autistic woman who is very straightforward and up front. I thought this was an okay quality and no harm with being truthful. But eventually my husband did tell me that I do hurt his feelings sometimes with my straightforwardness... Which I don't want to ever do, is to make my significant other feel belittled. I realized the way I was doing it could be perceived as unapologetically critical . I realized I needed to change my approach with it, I don't like viewing as argument rather then a conversation. You don't have to change, but maybe be if she perceived it as "meanness"- there can be a different- more reassuring approach. Or maybe just have a conversation on why it hurts her feelings and to possibly work around that as it's very essential to have a relationship that has open communication
My red pill awakening is when I girl I liked at work, was having an affair with the CEO. I understood from that point on what women want and what hypergamy is.
My criticism of your statements is that they sound a bit too precisely "constructed" to the point of being an artificial shield against the sad/brutal reality, still only barely covering your natural, sensitive core. I think you were "simp" just a bit too long to unlearn some things, and RedPilled just a bit too short, to be really in the middle. That's why you need some "structure" to keep you from falling down into the simping again. Hence the superficial usage of avoidance strategy. You probably belong the the group I call "Simps with IQ", your natural sensitivity puts you low on energetical hierarchy between males - so it puts you at the disadvantage when dating, but... you also are intelligent enough to realize that simping is a failed strategy in modern world, women does not respect that. So, with regret and sadness, you artificially "re-learned" yourself to a point of being less sensitive and avoiding - but I can feel you almost regret life wasn't different, am I right? In you energy, in the way how you speak, I can feel STILL unhealed trauma after that women. You speak about it a lot, and you try to distance yourself from RedPill movement, but I think you don't realize the "middle ground" in modern world is very hard to sustain. You either fall again into being too tuned to women, to understanding them just a bit too much - just for the sake of having them on your side, or you will remain distanced and in the process lonely and bitter. Examine yourself, do you believe in all what is considered "women issues" - the right to be fat, the right to be slut, the right to kill unborns? If you do, you were never truly Red Pilled. It's only superficial thin layer or grudge against that women, that was your so-called "Red Pill awakening".... but really wasn't! You were just hurt, but you didn't learn that much. You took one strategy - avoidance - and implemented it in a not-so-perfect way, and you think you are done with Red Pills guys, and you even want to "save" them? I fully understand you don't want to be that radical red-pilled person like guys from Fresh and Fit! Believe me! I also think they are totally on the extreme spectrum of red pill, but you understand that just nowadays women are in some regard beyond saving, with low or zero levels of accountability. So where to find yourself, in the middle? Is it the middle ground even possible? Or is it a fairy tale of "live balanced and secure life" but what it really is - is "hurt simps try another strategy at simping". I think you are sadly only 30% red pilled and 70% still blue-pilled. You should probably dig a bit more in Redpill before you can claim you know enough to SAVE these poor guys. What you want to offer them? You are not 100% healed yourself and that is pretty obvious from that clip, please don't preach hurt and "women rights" for Red Pilled guys. They believed in that far too long and it wasn't good for them. Please forgive me my errors as I am not native English.
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Please, please please, turn off the MUSIC!!
It's so anoying. Aside from that, good video.
damn that story played out the whole phrase she's not yours it's just your turn.Being the side piece is something that no guy ever wants to be.
Attachment types explains the behavior and dynamics between people so well. It's something not many ppl know about, but every1 has a type and once u understand this stuff, u empathize with others on another level.
Damn the cheating arc
Damn homie when did you get all yoked up like WWE
Never really took the red pill, but understand why others do. Also, I don’t subscribe to Rollo’s ideology.
I think Rollo spot on about 70% of the time
@@brianmeen2158 so 70% of women are solipsistic and/or cheaters? 🤣
My first real girlfriend was in my last year of high school, and she had previously been a friend for about two years.
Back then (in 1997), chatgroups were a big thing and she was a founder of one, so I got into it too. She had organised to travel to Sydney for new year's eve to meet up with a bunch of her friends, and to stay at male friend's place, so I wasn't worried as his girlfriend lived with him. In my earnestness, I suggested I go too, and she didn't protest. I couldn't afford to fly, so I caught the bus, while she flew as her dad was loaded, so we met there. She proceeded to spend the next couple of days being hot and cold to me, and then on New Year's Eve she hooked up with another guy in front of me. Needless to say, I was shattered and couldn't believe it, and I bawled like a little b!tch. Talking to one of her (former) best friends a year or two later at uni, it turned out she was a serial wh0re and had hooked up with her boyfriend at a party.
This was an eye-opening experience for me, as this girl was meant to be a nerd/geek like me, and she was my friend, and I didn't see it coming. I learned a lot from this, but it took a few more bad experiences for me to really firm up what I would tolerate in a relationship and the behaviours I accept.
My current partner of 5+ years has told me that I'm the only person who has ever been mean to her. My response was to tell her that expressing my displeasure at the things she does wrong calmly isn't being mean and is completely reasonable, and that I am not going to change. I also mentioned that she's still here despite my "meanness". She's a great partner overall, but it is strange to me that she had never had a relationship where they had arguments, which usually means someone is keeping quiet.
I don't think having no arguments me means someone's keeping quiet necessarily... I'm an actual autistic woman who is very straightforward and up front. I thought this was an okay quality and no harm with being truthful. But eventually my husband did tell me that I do hurt his feelings sometimes with my straightforwardness... Which I don't want to ever do, is to make my significant other feel belittled. I realized the way I was doing it could be perceived as unapologetically critical . I realized I needed to change my approach with it, I don't like viewing as argument rather then a conversation. You don't have to change, but maybe be if she perceived it as "meanness"- there can be a different- more reassuring approach. Or maybe just have a conversation on why it hurts her feelings and to possibly work around that as it's very essential to have a relationship that has open communication
Attachment theory and red pill really make sense together. Apex mindset has some pretty good videos on the topic
Do you have the explanations in the description?
The video will be posted tonight.
My red pill awakening is when I girl I liked at work, was having an affair with the CEO. I understood from that point on what women want and what hypergamy is.
My criticism of your statements is that they sound a bit too precisely "constructed" to the point of being an artificial shield against the sad/brutal reality, still only barely covering your natural, sensitive core.
I think you were "simp" just a bit too long to unlearn some things, and RedPilled just a bit too short, to be really in the middle.
That's why you need some "structure" to keep you from falling down into the simping again. Hence the superficial usage of avoidance strategy.
You probably belong the the group I call "Simps with IQ", your natural sensitivity puts you low on energetical hierarchy between males - so it puts you at the disadvantage when dating, but... you also are intelligent enough to realize that simping is a failed strategy in modern world, women does not respect that.
So, with regret and sadness, you artificially "re-learned" yourself to a point of being less sensitive and avoiding - but I can feel you almost regret life wasn't different, am I right? In you energy, in the way how you speak, I can feel STILL unhealed trauma after that women. You speak about it a lot, and you try to distance yourself from RedPill movement, but I think you don't realize the "middle ground" in modern world is very hard to sustain. You either fall again into being too tuned to women, to understanding them just a bit too much - just for the sake of having them on your side, or you will remain distanced and in the process lonely and bitter. Examine yourself, do you believe in all what is considered "women issues" - the right to be fat, the right to be slut, the right to kill unborns? If you do, you were never truly Red Pilled.
It's only superficial thin layer or grudge against that women, that was your so-called "Red Pill awakening".... but really wasn't!
You were just hurt, but you didn't learn that much. You took one strategy - avoidance - and implemented it in a not-so-perfect way, and you think you are done with Red Pills guys, and you even want to "save" them?
I fully understand you don't want to be that radical red-pilled person like guys from Fresh and Fit! Believe me!
I also think they are totally on the extreme spectrum of red pill, but you understand that just nowadays women are in some regard beyond saving, with low or zero levels of accountability. So where to find yourself, in the middle? Is it the middle ground even possible? Or is it a fairy tale of "live balanced and secure life" but what it really is - is "hurt simps try another strategy at simping".
I think you are sadly only 30% red pilled and 70% still blue-pilled. You should probably dig a bit more in Redpill before you can claim you know enough to SAVE these poor guys.
What you want to offer them? You are not 100% healed yourself and that is pretty obvious from that clip, please don't preach hurt and "women rights" for Red Pilled guys. They believed in that far too long and it wasn't good for them.
Please forgive me my errors as I am not native English.
Food for thought, for sure. Some great questions and opinions dude.
you're projecting. like very hard lmao