With all the sensational and ridiculous advice online that is either one extreme or the other, Corey has always been the healthy logical middle ground and is the best in the game.
I agree this why I cut off red pill content, for the inception of 2 other channel I enjoy listening, and corey ways is top notch the basic way to go and have a healthy easy going relationship.
Second comment. Man, somewhere along the line I forgot everything you're talking about. What a great reminder, I am the prize. I really appreciate you putting this out there. It's a slap in the back of the head my old man would have given me 40 years ago lol. Don't simp! Be a Fecking man and give them the gift of missing you for sure, always did it in the past and some reason with this lady I was totally memorized and forgot my value in the relationship. Again, great talk Coach.
Tbh most women hate their lives..hate routine..hate familiarity..remember they are still little girls in a woman’s body..they constantly want to be stimulated..go on adventures..ride on the roller coaster..as a man(not creepy) ask yourself what would I do to make my little girl excited or happy…even if it’s listening to her about her day..say “Aye baby let’s go for a night ride”..then surprise her by grabbing a bucket of ice cream spoons & cones drive up to a spot overlooking the city..sit with her and say alright let’s see who can make the best looking & biggest cones..let’s race…then I wanna hear about ya day..if I lose you gotta tell me about it but if I win you still gotta tell me bout it lol…you could’ve talked in the house on a couch right? But it’s about being spontaneous..turning boring regular situations into fun activities..women want to escape..want to be in a fantasy…be creative with the smallest things..she’ll love it
This is what’s going on with me minus the breakup. We’re back on the upswing on things but I have got to stop this needy behavior. Thanks Coach! Back to the book I go…
Needed to hear this and regroup. Completely fell in love with a lady at 57, she's 47. Head over heels, gotta see her every day kind've thing. Had a conversation last night about slowing down. I'm a man's man, I've never chased after one before this one. Hard reality check, let them chase you my guys. If you give to much they will think less of you. We are slowing down at her request. I'm going no contact unless she reaches out. I screwed up, won't happen again. Good talk Coach!!!
Wow, such clear and poignant advise. I have focussed so much on attracting the right person that I have not really thought much about situations like these when you are in them I realise I must have been a pushover like this guy in some of my last relationships. It's been so eye opening to hear about how you should actually deal with these situations... and I suppose the level of respect you should give yourself. Really appreciate the content Corey!
Idk if i believe or disbelieve this stuff anymore. There's a weird shift where women want to be chased but in a manner where it's like validation seeking and the guys would have to be "needy". I don't do it because I other things to do all day but literally have been told that by women. Thought I wasn't interested because I wasn't "chasing" enough. I guess they aren't the ones for me because it wouldn't kill them to reach out every now and then. Many women feel being in their feminine and wanting a masculine means the guy does all the work and initiation which is counter to a lot of this advice.
I totally understand what the guy who wrote in is asking. Aside from reading the book 10 to 15 times. I think what he is asking is. How does one overcome the feeling one has to always want assurance. Yes I know this comes from not getting strokes as a child. Believe me I got 0 strokes from my parents. Aside from reading the book over 15 times, the feelings are there. Are they any tools to overcome these feelings when the start to arise? Corey, Love your books and content!
Those feelings will always be there - just takes repetition of not acting on them and feeling them, and letting them pass. I think we all can suffer from this. One thing I do now is just reflect on what has always had a positive effect on my relationship, and what behavior has lead to negative effects. Also try to think what is actually true and what might be my insecurities and fears I’m creating in my head. Look at the reality. What are her actions recently. Have we been together a lot and she is just being a cat/bored. And if you do act on your neediness, recognize it and stop immediately. The longer your with a girl and the more she is in love with you, one bad time or day won’t totally ruin everything - so stopping it when it happens is key. Case in point - i probably have like 1 moment every month or 2 i can revert back to this. Happened just recently where I called her later in evening after busy day (she had called me earlier) and she didn’t answer (and recently she always answered or called back quickly). Once the time I “expected” her to call passed I started to feel doubt, insecurity etc. I called again a few hours later, and she was just out with a friend, and said ok call me back later if you want when your home, then like 2 hours later I called again. Complete lack of calmness and centeredness I’ve had for over a year almost consistently. It didn’t ruin anything, but she was a little meh when I called - but by next day she was back to pursuing me her usual way. However, if I continue this needy actions over a short period of time, it will drive her attraction down. It’s recognizing and stopping as soon as you see it. Think “will this have a positive or negative effect on her attraction”. Am i asking her to be my mommy etc etc. To get over the feelings - get busy, call your friend instead, go to gym, read a book, read Corey’s book, just do anything and eventually it goes away. Your the prize, your the best thing in your girls life, and she loves the shit out of you. Believe it and conquer those feelings.
I had a stepfather who broke my confidence with lectures growing up and a father that was never there for me. No we don't all suffer from this if I hit the tennis ball to the women, I will always wait for her to call or text back, I am never going to continue to call like Chris. I left my family home, learned martial arts and gained confidence. I have never displayed unattractive behaviour calling/texting and hitting the tennis ball to her several times, while not waiting for her to hit back. Just do something that helps you guys gain confidence and all the needy behaviour should evaporate.
@@AndrewAung1992 ya seems like your practiced enough to get over what you needed too. Happy for you and your right that’s the best move. I spent 30+ years being needy and it doesn’t go away overnight. But from a past of doing this a lot and chasing good woman away, to very rarely now I’ve progressed and am working on always one contact and that’s it (and usually that’s the case). Your right tho - best thing is to do things for yourself and worry about yourself.
@@edwinalmanza1427 A friend of mine is friends with a beautiful girl with blonde hair and blue eyes, whose father is 90. I also know a 65 year old who had a child recently.
It sounds to me like the woman in this story is done...checked out. He needs to stay away and start not returning her calls or racing over to help her. And dropping what he was doing is on him. She asked him to help her with something in the house, right? She did not ask him to come over to take a shower. If she had asked him to come over for sex, and THEN "flipped out", then yes, thats wrong... but thats not what he said happened. Anyone saying no to sex (a woman or a man) doesn't make them a bad person or an "insufferable c**t". If he said yes to helping her and expected sex as payment, thats on him.
This is pretty powerful. Even when I am around women who are out of my league, the fact that I’m not serving them hand and foot or kissing their ass makes them look at me with a certain level of respect. I guess that’s much better than contempt.
So, what if I left my gf becasue she was toxic, should she still try an get me back even tho I left? But I had good reason to leave, but I miss her at the samentime, I just don't want toxicity
Being weak and needy is definitely a turn off towards women however she was very disrespectful,sounded quite boring and stressed.If your knees aren’t getting met, just say thanks for the good times and move on to the next bus stop.
NEVER focus on the sex, l won't end well for you no matter what her age or kid situation. This takes a good amount of dicipline for a guy,especially if you're really into her. Learned from experience
It's ok if you saw her first but she has to want you more. Don't be needy and over-pursue. If you want her that bad and it's based on attraction not need she'll eventually feel your energy.
Corey my ex came back but insisted that we're not exclusive. She saw a girl call my cell and now she won't talk to me or meet up. It's not fair how entitled shes acting. I pushed to meet and talk and she ignored me.. what does this mean now?
Depending on who ended things they must fix it, so pushing to meet and talk to her may not be a great idea. She has no right to be mad, you are a free agent and it's great to have your opinions open like this that is a great idea. She even said you're not exclusive, so she basically gave you the green light and has no right to be mad.
Where can I send in an email for you to go over in a video? I have a situation that I think would help myself and a lot of other viewers out by you going over it. Thanks for all you do!
IT ALSO SOUNDS LIKE THIS BROAD GOT FULL OF HERSELF, AND AFTER AWHILE KIND OF STARTED ACTING LIKE SHE CAN TREAT THE GUY ANY OL KIND OF WAY. PROCEEDING TO BITE HIS HEAD OFF ABOUT THE COMMENT AFTER HE WENT OUT OF HIS WAY THAT NIGHT TO DROP WHAT HE WAS DOING TO HELP HER? WOW. HE MAY HAVE DISPLAYED SOME BEHAVIOR, BUT SHE LOWKEY HAS SOME ISSUES AND OR THINGS SHE HAS TO WORK OUT FOR HERSELF AS WELL. I ALSO WONDER WAS SHE CHEATING ON HIM WITH SOMEBODY ELSE. HE NEEDS TO CHARGE HER TO THE GAME AND KEEP IT MOVING.
And then when you find a super banger 10/10 and she's smart and funny.. and you start slipping into limerence then you act like a bitch and kill attraction.. it's a hard battle. Stay strong guyd
I was a jerk to this girl who liked Me n was keen to see me we met over facebook and she wanted see me I was a dick to her she removed me as friend I apologise for being a dick not sure if she will come back
@@edwinalmanza1427I have had hobbies like golf , working out etc but then eventually I’m told I’m selfish and self centered and that I only think of myself. I can’t win it feels like.
@@dr_3968 It generally happens when she does not have hobbies of her own, so she's jealous. Have some hobbies of your own, go see your buddies without het but DO NOT neglect her.
@@Cowkillso she has hobbies but she wants to do them together and I do them with her but I think she expects my hobbies to include her as well. Also she doesn’t have many friends unlike me a have a bunch of buddies.
With all the sensational and ridiculous advice online that is either one extreme or the other, Corey has always been the healthy logical middle ground and is the best in the game.
I agree this why I cut off red pill content, for the inception of 2 other channel I enjoy listening, and corey ways is top notch the basic way to go and have a healthy easy going relationship.
@@CeeT-wg3hz No doubt the RP works if you want to be a degenerate F-boy however your not going to keep a good girl with it.
Corey Wayne FTW!!!!!!
I agree...His game is the most wholesome and fully functioning I have ever found. Changed my whole life and me . Har Har Mahadev🔥
Respection - respect and attraction; coach out here inventing words and I’m here for
It.
Neediness is universally unattractive. But in most cases, it comes from over-compensating for the other person's lack of effort and interest.
I dont act needy and i prefer women think i dont care.They never truly leave me even when they eventually leave
Second comment.
Man, somewhere along the line I forgot everything you're talking about. What a great reminder, I am the prize. I really appreciate you putting this out there. It's a slap in the back of the head my old man would have given me 40 years ago lol. Don't simp!
Be a Fecking man and give them the gift of missing you for sure, always did it in the past and some reason with this lady I was totally memorized and forgot my value in the relationship. Again, great talk Coach.
Tbh most women hate their lives..hate routine..hate familiarity..remember they are still little girls in a woman’s body..they constantly want to be stimulated..go on adventures..ride on the roller coaster..as a man(not creepy) ask yourself what would I do to make my little girl excited or happy…even if it’s listening to her about her day..say “Aye baby let’s go for a night ride”..then surprise her by grabbing a bucket of ice cream spoons & cones drive up to a spot overlooking the city..sit with her and say alright let’s see who can make the best looking & biggest cones..let’s race…then I wanna hear about ya day..if I lose you gotta tell me about it but if I win you still gotta tell me bout it lol…you could’ve talked in the house on a couch right? But it’s about being spontaneous..turning boring regular situations into fun activities..women want to escape..want to be in a fantasy…be creative with the smallest things..she’ll love it
Good man right here! Amen.
This is what’s going on with me minus the breakup. We’re back on the upswing on things but I have got to stop this needy behavior. Thanks Coach! Back to the book I go…
She doesn't want sex because her interest is low. He's made too many mistakes that turned her off
If you don’t stand up TO her, how can she trust you to stand up FOR her? Not my line but it makes sense.
Aggravating thing about women is a lot of them WANT to be told no
Coach of the century !
Needed to hear this and regroup. Completely fell in love with a lady at 57, she's 47. Head over heels, gotta see her every day kind've thing. Had a conversation last night about slowing down. I'm a man's man, I've never chased after one before this one. Hard reality check, let them chase you my guys. If you give to much they will think less of you. We are slowing down at her request. I'm going no contact unless she reaches out. I screwed up, won't happen again. Good talk Coach!!!
She lost respection for you bro.
Him: what does that mean?
She lost respect and attraction
🤣
Wow, such clear and poignant advise. I have focussed so much on attracting the right person that I have not really thought much about situations like these when you are in them I realise I must have been a pushover like this guy in some of my last relationships. It's been so eye opening to hear about how you should actually deal with these situations... and I suppose the level of respect you should give yourself. Really appreciate the content Corey!
Idk if i believe or disbelieve this stuff anymore. There's a weird shift where women want to be chased but in a manner where it's like validation seeking and the guys would have to be "needy". I don't do it because I other things to do all day but literally have been told that by women. Thought I wasn't interested because I wasn't "chasing" enough. I guess they aren't the ones for me because it wouldn't kill them to reach out every now and then. Many women feel being in their feminine and wanting a masculine means the guy does all the work and initiation which is counter to a lot of this advice.
I totally understand what the guy who wrote in is asking. Aside from reading the book 10 to 15 times. I think what he is asking is. How does one overcome the feeling one has to always want assurance. Yes I know this comes from not getting strokes as a child. Believe me I got 0 strokes from my parents. Aside from reading the book over 15 times, the feelings are there. Are they any tools to overcome these feelings when the start to arise? Corey, Love your books and content!
Those feelings will always be there - just takes repetition of not acting on them and feeling them, and letting them pass. I think we all can suffer from this. One thing I do now is just reflect on what has always had a positive effect on my relationship, and what behavior has lead to negative effects. Also try to think what is actually true and what might be my insecurities and fears I’m creating in my head. Look at the reality. What are her actions recently. Have we been together a lot and she is just being a cat/bored. And if you do act on your neediness, recognize it and stop immediately.
The longer your with a girl and the more she is in love with you, one bad time or day won’t totally ruin everything - so stopping it when it happens is key.
Case in point - i probably have like 1 moment every month or 2 i can revert back to this. Happened just recently where I called her later in evening after busy day (she had called me earlier) and she didn’t answer (and recently she always answered or called back quickly). Once the time I “expected” her to call passed I started to feel doubt, insecurity etc. I called again a few hours later, and she was just out with a friend, and said ok call me back later if you want when your home, then like 2 hours later I called again. Complete lack of calmness and centeredness I’ve had for over a year almost consistently.
It didn’t ruin anything, but she was a little meh when I called - but by next day she was back to pursuing me her usual way. However, if I continue this needy actions over a short period of time, it will drive her attraction down. It’s recognizing and stopping as soon as you see it. Think “will this have a positive or negative effect on her attraction”. Am i asking her to be my mommy etc etc.
To get over the feelings - get busy, call your friend instead, go to gym, read a book, read Corey’s book, just do anything and eventually it goes away.
Your the prize, your the best thing in your girls life, and she loves the shit out of you. Believe it and conquer those feelings.
@@chrisclow3441 From what you said and from what I understand is basically try to redirect when those feelings hit.
I had a stepfather who broke my confidence with lectures growing up and a father that was never there for me. No we don't all suffer from this if I hit the tennis ball to the women, I will always wait for her to call or text back, I am never going to continue to call like Chris. I left my family home, learned martial arts and gained confidence. I have never displayed unattractive behaviour calling/texting and hitting the tennis ball to her several times, while not waiting for her to hit back. Just do something that helps you guys gain confidence and all the needy behaviour should evaporate.
@@AndrewAung1992 ya seems like your practiced enough to get over what you needed too. Happy for you and your right that’s the best move.
I spent 30+ years being needy and it doesn’t go away overnight. But from a past of doing this a lot and chasing good woman away, to very rarely now I’ve progressed and am working on always one contact and that’s it (and usually that’s the case).
Your right tho - best thing is to do things for yourself and worry about yourself.
@@bobbysmith4238 yes, redirect your feelings - do things you enjoy and it will pass and overtime it will go away naturally.
I notice from Corey's newsletters, it's always men over 50 that come across as needy.
They don’t have time I’m 28 and came across his work at 24
@@edwinalmanza1427 A friend of mine is friends with a beautiful girl with blonde hair and blue eyes, whose father is 90. I also know a 65 year old who had a child recently.
It sounds to me like the woman in this story is done...checked out. He needs to stay away and start not returning her calls or racing over to help her. And dropping what he was doing is on him. She asked him to help her with something in the house, right? She did not ask him to come over to take a shower. If she had asked him to come over for sex, and THEN "flipped out", then yes, thats wrong... but thats not what he said happened. Anyone saying no to sex (a woman or a man) doesn't make them a bad person or an "insufferable c**t". If he said yes to helping her and expected sex as payment, thats on him.
This is pretty powerful. Even when I am around women who are out of my league, the fact that I’m not serving them hand and foot or kissing their ass makes them look at me with a certain level of respect. I guess that’s much better than contempt.
If a woman loses respect then, it's game over. Nothing can be done about it.
Giving space helps but it depends on how bad you’ve messed up
I see the join button, Corey. Thanks for the video 👍
Thanks coach your work is a blessing! Thanks to your book I’m dating a really sweet girl right now!
The join button is on here now!
So, what if I left my gf becasue she was toxic, should she still try an get me back even tho I left? But I had good reason to leave, but I miss her at the samentime, I just don't want toxicity
Being weak and needy is definitely a turn off towards women however she was very disrespectful,sounded quite boring and stressed.If your knees aren’t getting met, just say thanks for the good times and move on to the next bus stop.
My favorite video so far. Thanks.
Wish I could send this to my buddy without him knowing I sent it😂 I’ve tried telling him already
Why? You afraid he's gonna get butt-hurt? Who cares.
Send it to him man. You'll most likely save him a lot of pain.
Just send it! What kind of friend would you be if you didn't?
Just send it! 💪🏾
Do it, send it, don't let him suffer longer than he has to!
NEVER focus on the sex, l won't end well for you no matter what her age or kid situation. This takes a good amount of dicipline for a guy,especially if you're really into her. Learned from experience
Instituting from a place of power is different than initiating from a position of weakness. Aka neediness.
Best video yet!
2:25 Respection 😂
Corey baba!
Great video 100%
It's ok if you saw her first but she has to want you more. Don't be needy and over-pursue. If you want her that bad and it's based on attraction not need she'll eventually feel your energy.
Give her the gift of missing you, bro
Corey my ex came back but insisted that we're not exclusive. She saw a girl call my cell and now she won't talk to me or meet up. It's not fair how entitled shes acting. I pushed to meet and talk and she ignored me.. what does this mean now?
Depending on who ended things they must fix it, so pushing to meet and talk to her may not be a great idea. She has no right to be mad, you are a free agent and it's great to have your opinions open like this that is a great idea. She even said you're not exclusive, so she basically gave you the green light and has no right to be mad.
Ya thanks man appreciate your words. I'm not going to contact her again.
She’s toxic
Where can I send in an email for you to go over in a video? I have a situation that I think would help myself and a lot of other viewers out by you going over it. Thanks for all you do!
questions@understandingrelationships.com
The person emailed you that the sex was kinky and great
What does he mean by kinky?
Is this possibly about kinky sex that includes abusing him?
11:48 end of relationship. Everything else is cope.
IT ALSO SOUNDS LIKE THIS BROAD GOT FULL OF HERSELF, AND AFTER AWHILE KIND OF STARTED ACTING LIKE SHE CAN TREAT THE GUY ANY OL KIND OF WAY. PROCEEDING TO BITE HIS HEAD OFF ABOUT THE COMMENT AFTER HE WENT OUT OF HIS WAY THAT NIGHT TO DROP WHAT HE WAS DOING TO HELP HER? WOW. HE MAY HAVE DISPLAYED SOME BEHAVIOR, BUT SHE LOWKEY HAS SOME ISSUES AND OR THINGS SHE HAS TO WORK OUT FOR HERSELF AS WELL. I ALSO WONDER WAS SHE CHEATING ON HIM WITH SOMEBODY ELSE. HE NEEDS TO CHARGE HER TO THE GAME AND KEEP IT MOVING.
I miss the intro music.
Respection .. a great word you invented
And then when you find a super banger 10/10 and she's smart and funny.. and you start slipping into limerence then you act like a bitch and kill attraction.. it's a hard battle. Stay strong guyd
I was a jerk to this girl who liked Me n was keen to see me we met over facebook and she wanted see me I was a dick to her she removed me as friend I apologise for being a dick not sure if she will come back
If you apologized, just let it go, the only thing you can do now is move on, and if she hits you up down the line, ask her to get together
I was seeing this gorgeous chick for about 3 years until my binoculars broke!
How do you give the gift of missing you if you live together?
Get a hobby and do it with out her that’s how
@@edwinalmanza1427I have had hobbies like golf , working out etc but then eventually I’m told I’m selfish and self centered and that I only think of myself. I can’t win it feels like.
@@dr_3968 It generally happens when she does not have hobbies of her own, so she's jealous. Have some hobbies of your own, go see your buddies without het but DO NOT neglect her.
@@Cowkillso she has hobbies but she wants to do them together and I do them with her but I think she expects my hobbies to include her as well. Also she doesn’t have many friends unlike me a have a bunch of buddies.
Miss the intro
Stop simping bro