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This tag is about keeping it real within the Witchcraft community. We talk a lot about what we excel at, but rarely to we admit about not being able to do something. So let's do just that, so that we can collectively feel better about our own struggles.
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There is a name for people who don't regularly track moon phases, don't write everything in their grimoires, and don't have perfect outcomes for all their spells, we are called Human Beings. Thanks for sharing and hopefully more folks will be brave enough to add to your hashtag. 😀
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Gonna jump in here and just say, your struggles with motivation sound more like executive dysfunction and not a lack of discipline. Source: I have really bad executive dysfunction, and have spent years thinking i was just undisciplined, when in reality its because something in my brain is messed up a bit
I agree with this as someone with ADHD. However I think that meditation greatly helps with my impulse control and could kind of be associated with discipline.
I really struggle with "traditional" meditation due to my ADHD, and prefer to use active forms of getting into a trance state. Nature walks with rhythmic breathwork, trying to induce dreams, wild dancing or even heavy workouts - all of these are 200% more tolerable than just sitting still. 😆
I totally feel you on this issue. ADHD makes me either just sit there and squirm and struggle to focus on nothing, or I fall right asleep.
I can't do silent meditation, but I have other dorms that work for me too ❤
The simple moon phase calendar app has a widget that shows the phases and astrological data. I'd be lost if I didn't have that sitting on my phone background so I could see it every time I open my phone.
I also struggle with grimoires, but I've been using a binder for the last six months-ish and have found that the best because I can just print and add whenever I have something new I want to keep as part of my practice, and I can rearrange the order whenever I need to.
You are definitely not alone; I struggle with Motivation when it comes to my practice. And Moon phases...ugh I am horrible at remembering them! lol!
I responded aloud to your statement about the altars part, YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE ITS OKAY. 😭 we’re all doing our best here.
Something Id recommend for the divination aspect since you’re good with pendulums is to use a pendulum alongside a spirit board. I’d use one that has the numbers and letters in a circle on the board and then hold the pendulum in the middle and ask your questions. The pendulum will move towards specific letters and numbers helping get more specific answers 😊
I have been using the happy planner system for my Grimmore. I can change the order anytime I want and add pages.
I am a lot like this, too. Small steps, and don't beat yourself up.
It's very humbling to say out in the open "I messed up" or "I could use more practice with this and that"
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I wish more people did!
I have an autoimmune disease, PTSD, migraines, chronic fatigue. It's HARD to not let offerings get moldy, dust things. This is so relatable. One thing that helps is Dialectical Behavioral Therapy or Cognative Behavioral Therapy. I ask myself frequently, did I do my best? Usually the answer is, yes. And your best is enough! I feel like any kindred spirits know what things I struggle with because I ask the universe for help with my health conditions A LOT. I get overwhelmed with life and just look up at the stars and say, "Is anyone there? If you're there, PLEASE send help. Help me!" I like to think the spirits we communicate with, for the most part understand the human condition and give us more grace than we give ourselves.
You just named everything I worry about doing or not doing. Thank you!! I don't feel so bad or alone now.
I love you so much for sharing this! I laughed and cringed so much because every single point you made applied to me too! I'm thinking we need to stop beating ourselves up about these things, we are practicing the practice and learning from our mishaps. We are all good ❤ I had a slate plate break on my altar and set my altar cloth on fire. Good old table salt saved the day so always keep it handy. I am also guilty of having about 50 notebooks with scribbles in them that are meaningful and when I want to reference back, it takes me aaaaages to find what I'm looking for. I also wish I was organised enough to keep a proper grimoire but ain't nobody got time for that 😂 I don't think there is such a thing as perfect here. We are all doing our best and we all have mundane lives we have to wade through so we can pay our bills and keep food on our tables and a roof over our heads. Thank you for admitting you have the same struggles as we all do, that is so refreshing and appreciated! Sending you all the blessings, you keep doing you because you are doing great 😊❤
Someone in here probably said but a lot of the "i just need more self discipline" and "i can only do it when i have the motivation" sounds very much like ADHD. It's been much easier for me to take advantage of the motivation when it comes, and forgive myself for not keeping up with the things I feel I "should", after recognizing that it's the ADHD.
I also HEAVILY identify with the half-a-million started and abandoned grimoires - and the "I cycle around to a couple times a year" for a project
have you ever watched rachael stephen’s videos? hearing you talk about doubt and skepticism creeping in made me think of the way she talks about witchcraft. she’s a skeptic, and a witch, and she refers to witchcraft as “a helpful fiction”. she honors her house spirits and reads cards and says that even though she knows that she doesn’t believe in spirits, it doesn’t matter to her because her practice helps her work out a problem, ground herself, provides her life structure. imo, things don’t necessarily have to be real to matter 🤷🏻
That’s so interesting! I actually started my craft that way. It definitely has merit.
Everyone has things in their practice that they struggle with. But its a learning process and not everything works for everyone. Great video! ❤
Oh man cleaning my spaces and even overall is just HARD for me. I just started trimming candle wicks as well! I started my practice in late March or early April so I'm still very new but I do a lot of deity work, divination, and charming so there's a lot of candles involved! I have to write down everything the moment I do it or I forget! I usually get "urges" to practice like you. I've been overwhelmed and stressed recently so right now I have my altar going (it's on my dresser next to my computer desk at the moment) but I haven't done my tarot readings in a hot minute because I just can't get myself to. Sometimes it's about expecting the unexpected as well. I'm working on my clair senses. I have clairsentience and occasionally claircognizance/clairintellect but that's about it.
Love this! I have busted so many plates and things form getting too hot, set off fire alarms in my house a number of times and my Alters stay with dust lol. I also work a full time job that is pretty demanding. Thank the Gods and Goddesses they love me unconditionally or else I would be grounded for not doing my Alter chores on a regular basis. This was awesome! Sometimes it feels like we have way too many exactions put on us by parts of the spiritual community. But all we really should be worried about is our own personal divinity and connection with our Spirit Families which looks different for every unique individual soul being. 🖤🐺
First of all, thank you for this video ❤
When I don't have a proper candle holder I like to use a bowl filled with sand and put the candle on top. The bowl doesn't get as hot, because the sand acts like a buffer and the sand can also absorb spilling wax if needed.
Thank you for this because I definitely relate. Have you explored whether you might have ADHD? Because I do and I struggle with all the same things you do 👀🙏🏻
I hope you realize how meaningful this video and this thread is!! For years I’ve been attracted to magic but I’ve always told myself: if I forget moons, if I start a new grimoire every now and then, if I cannot be regular in my practice and if I’m not able to keep a proper altar, maybe this is just not the right spiritual path for me. With this video you showed me a very new perspective, thank you 🌹
I don't meditate. I can't do a routine of any kind becausei forget to do it. I absolutely can not understand Astrology. I don't clean good and I hate cleaning so I embrace the dust 🤣. I love poetic beautiful rhyming intentions... I basically yell at my spell because words are hard but it still works😊. I don't journal. I don't plan for safety I roll with the chaos 😂 my feet melted too all the way down cause they were puter 😮 it is OK the working tray contained it and I learned 🤷🏻♀️
I really enjoyed this video and related a lot. I used to not feel legit because I am clumsy in my practice. Almost set fire to my place twice by accident by not using the right materials and being careless. Everything is experimental with me, even spells and rituals I already practiced. Also, I used to feel so bad for not being able to practice as much as I'd like because of my mental health. I would feel guilty and think my deities are most certainly mad at me, projecting my fears of rejection on to them. But I wasn't on the right path for me. I figured spiritual things shouldn't feel like a place of shame, it's meant for us to feel better in our lives and understand ourselves and the world. I think expecting productivity from the spiritual practice is not the right way, for me at least. I should remember instead the importance of intentions rather than productivity. It's okay to mess up (even tho, yeah, don't put yourself in danger lol) sometimes, it's okay not to be a witch 24/7 if it puts you in dark places. You should always prioritize your own well being because it is your life. Also, don't compare yourself to others, choose the ways that always feel right to you.
I have a hard time following traditional meditation. I always end up distracted and anxious. I meditate in the bath best, but I’m always looking for more alternative ways to meditate.
I also have a hard time reading rune casts, with my dyslexia looking at runes in a jumble is confusing and just leaves me to frustrate because I can’t focus on my intuition when I can’t even tell what I’m looking at.
Fire safety is a BIG struggle for me. I worked as a barista for a long time and I lost a lot of sensitivity on my hands and fingers so I will burn myself without even noticing while moving hot cauldrons or candle holders, and I've been in the "candle holder broke" situation more times than I admit (the burn marks on my altar are proof of that)
If you have a small ceramic plate--think like the ones used for fancy tea cups--you can use that as a candle holder. Before you light the candle, warm the bottom a candle with a match (let the candle bottom get softened, but not liquid) and then stick the candle in the middle of the small plate. The candle should stay standing, and after it cools to the plate, you can light the candle. Then, just carry the plate by it's edge!
Benta, this is fabulous.
You're right, we hardly speak to the fails. I'm excited to think about this and possibly play along. ❤❤❤
I burned a lovely Round in my floor during a little Hoodoo Miracle Spell 😅
I struggle with so many of the same things Bente. I doubt myself a lot when it comes to feeling or those moments of knowing too, it can be so frustrating. 😢
I've made all the same mistakes with candles lol, I almost had an emergency once due to leaving a tea light candle on my dad's mantelpiece out of a container and it burnt down until it started lighting the mantle wood on fire. If you look for Hurricane glass it's graded for candle heat, it's usually labeled 😊
As someone who is just starting out I feel so much better hearing this. Thank you sincerely ❤
oils. i'm able to use olive oil well and can mix and add oils to sprays. however, using mixed oils to anoint oneself has been a complete fail. at first i didn't know about carrier oils (yup, burned skin aaaannnnd took varnish off furniture!), then i just got it everywhere. so, i have paired that down a lot. you can get a moon phase widget for your phone. i have a grimoire, but find that having an electronic copy on a flash drive (or whatever) is the best for me since one can type in a search for a topic and find it very easily.
Hello Bente! I don't feel so bad now to forget everything 😅😅. I struggle with altars, I really prefer spiritual stuff. Thanks for the video. Greetings from Argentina ❤
I suck at the same things. But when am in the groove, my stuff works. I did cause a fire in my home in 20’s. Lesson learned. I live in wildfire land so I am super careful.
I feel you on the grimoire stuff. I have some, but most of my ritual work is fly by the seat of your pants and the invocations are extemporaneous. I think my most recent example is after I had already done a return to sender candle and had it going along with the protection ones, I kept having annoying little things happen and I walked by my return to sender candles shouted knock it the eff off and some spicy explicative and then gave it the finger and walked off. Not the most eloquent oration or ritual, but that energy directed straight at it definitely worked.
I have an app called lunar phase, even goes as far to tell you the degrees and zodiac for the moon phase. Its awesome because i use it as a widget on my lockscreen. So a little moon sits under my time clock and always reminds me the phase!
Thanks for this video. I think it's good to talk about the things we struggle with. Like you, I also struggle with the discipline and motivation to do things on a daily basis. I do have one very short and easy daily practice but that is all I can manage in the long run. I have done a "Fail Tales" blog on my Facebook page and am going to also put it in the Fediverse and on Tumblr. And maybe I'll do a text based video here on UA-cam (I do not want to film myself).
MOON TRACKING: widget on my phone!! Tells me whenever i look at it!!
When using a Ouija board I can't use a planchet, I use a pendulum instead. Im also clairsentient and claircognizant, i struggle with doubting as well. If someone asks me a question i can just quick respond but anytime i have time to think about the answer i second guess everything.
Automatic writing is terrible for me, for the same reason, and I doubt where the words are coming from lol😂. What I tell myself is, it’s ok not be good at that, it’s just not my thing ❤ I also don’t journal, keep forgetting to track the moon and have absolutely no discipline or rhyme or reason to what I do! There’s nothing wrong with your skills or practice bente this is just how you do things and you’re perfect! Talking of fire safety I broke a handcrafted Turkish bowl when I used it as a smudge bowl, the heat cracked it. To make things worse, I went to throw the ashes out my window and threw the bowl out top lol😂
Wow. You and I are very similar. .. . So have the same struggles!
Hello, Nice to meet you 😊I struggle with reading crystal balls. I can read a marble wall or clouds, bark of a tree but i just don't seem to have the ability to read a crystal ball. I know when something is going to happen but not exactly what. I have trouble keeping my altar up to date and clean also. Love the pendulum though, i talk to my cat who passed a couple of years ago with a special pendulum just for her made of rose quartz. Thank you so much for this. It was very refreshing.
For the moon phases stuff, I have widgets on my home screen and lock screen to remind me AND I have reminders in my calendar through a free subscription. I always forget. Still sometimes I'm surprised it is a full moon or new moon 🤷♀
my altar is so cluttered, though i clean it frequently lol!
i’ll take everything off and wipe it down then put everything back on cause i feel like it all belongs there, but it looks so messy :/
I am the same way with myself discipline!
I've got a whiteboard on the back of my office door - where I do my work from home stuff and also all the PC gaming and crafts happens. I note down the moon phases and their zodiac signs on that. Its not perfect, but I do see it every day so that helps.
It would be stellar if I could add it into Teams which I check week-daily for work but I would have to explain the weird additions to my very Christian boss.
All this just makes you human. My practice is all over the place, but I’m all over the place, so it’s just reflective of me. I’m only good at moon phases because I feed my pet carpet python by the moon phases. And I’ve added in an offering to the local spirits on the days when I’m home. I’m clairsentient & also clairaudient, but I do need to work on both. I definitely need to meditate a lot more. I love my pendulum, just make up an alphabet semicircle card, if you want spirit to be able to spell something out. At the moment I’m doing a fair bit of shadow work, so I’m more consumed with that.
First off, I love the idea of this tag! Second, I struggle with pretty much everything you do and probably more. Though I am good about fire safety since this is not my home and I promised not to burn it down. 😂
I think I struggled with that to when I am connecting with my ancestors or spirits I feel energy, but it's almost like I don't know if it's my thoughts coming through or if it's them talking to me sometimes it's hard to separate, I have received messages from my ancestors , but definitely not like you hear people talk about, a lot of times you herar practitioners talk about how they receive all of these messages from their guides their ancestors, spirit and I'm just over here like okay what am I doing wrong ??? I absolutely love this video
😂 my teenage son recently told me about the cutting the wick ! I’ve never even heard of that but he saw it on TikTok and ran to let me know ❤ Since I’m commenting I just want to say you are awesome and thank you for your content !!!!
I have Executive Dysfunction and feel like I procrastinate, then my Imposter Syndrome kicks in telling me it doesn't matter that I want to be more disaplined and study/ learn more, or practice because I'm not a "real Witch" any way, so why even try? I try to keep up with the Dark, New, and Full moons even if it's just looking at my calendar and noticing the day. I'm horrible at Grimoir keeping. I print things off to try to help organize myself, but nope. It would help though because I now have memory problems. Maybe if I had someone to keep me accountable I would do better with things and feel some motivation. It's hard for me being a solitary witch. I don't like journaling at all! So that's not an option for me either.
I struggle with clairvoyant/audio as well. I get a lot of messages in my dreams (no problems there), but once I had a spirit flat out say, "wake up, I have something to tell you"...then I got nothing once awake. This happened 2 years ago and I'm STILL bothered I don't know what they wanted to say lol. It was the spirit attached to my old apartment, so I don't think I'll ever know...
Hello from Austria. You are definitely not alone, I have the same issues 😅😊
I wonder if the wax in your candle had sugar in it. That will burn faster. Also a lot of bees qaxes are mixed niw, which creates smoje and very flamable conditions. Love this vudeo. We all need to laugh at purselves and recognize our humanity. I can't wait to do this tag. Thank you. ❤
I made a video for this hashtag ❤ it was so fun!
I feel seen lol I can totally relate to a lot of this.
AWESOME! I love this so much! Such an amazing idea Benta! I’ve been slacking a lot lately so I think I may try this tag myself.
Have you ever tried doing a pendulum over a ouija board? Maybe try that?
When doing anything spiritual I always try to remove the words, if, maybe, I can’t think of the others right now lol sorry my ADHD brain 😂 any words that have to do with doubt I guess 😂
I am with you on forcing myself to do something; I have never ever had a set schedule 😂 sorry for all the comments 😂but commenting as watching otherwise I’ll forget what I was going to say by the end of your video 😂
Glad I’m not the only one who forgets 😂 I do the same with moon phases
For divination I don't see them as coincidences. I see them as guided by my Gods, Guides, Guardians, and Ancestors.
What I meant by coincidences was that I couldn’t have influenced it ☺️
Idk if you’ve ever specified if you’re neurodivergent , but this is so relatable as an Audhd witch
I don’t have a diagnosis but I definitely display quite a lot of symptoms of both autism and adhd…
@@TheNorseWitch I’m diagnosed adhd and currently self diagnosed autistic, but have researched for years and years. There are many reasons in my country to not pursue an official diagnosis, so if you put in the time to research, you can arrive at a conclusion that is still valid ❤️
Lol you keep describing ADHD symptoms. Have you been checked for it?
Nope… I actually display quite a few symptoms of both ADHD and Autism but well… I’ve survived this far without a diagnosis and I don’t think a diagnosis would change anything for me so…😅 I guess I learned to live with it
But I do sometimes wonder if my Social Anxiety was misdiagnosed Autism, to be fair 🤣
@@TheNorseWitchi used to think this exact same way and this video is 100000% me pre (and sometimes post lol) medications. it’s made such a difference. i put it off for so long bc i thought the same thing “i made it this far” and then cried uncontrollably when i took my meds for the first time bc it was literally like putting on glasses after being blind for so long. i was never lazy, my brain just needed help making the chemicals that made me feel and seem lazy to everyone around me
I had to laugh at your fire safety. I have my own horrow stories 😂I had fun doing this tag, thanks for bringing this forward to the community ❤ I
Loved this, I’ll definitely try and make a video, it’s so important that we share this kind of stuff and remind each other that we’re all human with strengths and weaknesses!
Yeay ☺️☺️
I have a pain disorder, and the moon changes do make things worse - so I don't respect the moon at all.
I have a bunch of chronic health issues and Full Moons make me feel TERRIBLE. No way can I even consider doing anything on or around the Full Moon
I needed this video. I suck at all the things you suck at! Everything!! Oh by the way, good trick for wax is taking a hair dryer and melting it. Works like a charm.
The discussion on the Claire's really resonated with me! I’ve noticed that my connection with each one seems to ebb and flow. Interestingly, the ones I feel aren’t as developed often end up giving me an unexpected intuitive boost. When that happens, I find myself pausing to ask, 'Why am I experiencing this, and what is this connected to?' That curiosity has led me to gather a ton of notes and voice memos-some are organized, but honestly, many aren’t! Having that reflective practice has been super helpful, though, and it even inspired me to develop a class focused on getting to know your Claire's through tarot. It’s been a rewarding experience in my own journey. I appreciate you bringing up this topic-it’s such an important aspect to explore!
I have been wanting to do something with wards for well over a year now. Nope! Hasn’t happened. I keep pushing it back or forgetting about it. Protection magick; not my strong suit.
I would worry less about your altar's cleanliness. Remember that Freyja praised Ottar for his horgr always being wet with sacrifice. I don't think she at least is worried about leftovers being around.
For moon phases: I use My Moon Phase Pro (I have an android, so idk if it's available for iPhone). I paid for the full version since I've been using it for so long, but I'm pretty sure the free version still alerts you when the new and full moon phases begin! It also has a homescreen widget, which tells me the current moon phase each day! Hope this helps :)
Nice I’ll check it out, thank you! ☺️
I just downloaded the app on your recommendation. The notification settings are amazing!
For the moon tracking - I literally had to put a widget on my phone home screen that always looks like the current moon phase (Deluxe Moon on android, if anyone is interested) to have any chance of keeping track 😅🙈
why 90 percent of the time I do a spell or a ritual right where I did my stuff the next day I wake up there are dead spiders or a fly or 🐝 are on my area am I doing something wrong and other insects as well like a silverfish or I have had a primantis crickets I keep my area super clean and I spray evey 5 months it's just where and when I do my activities
I struggle with the discipline to start a ritual or to just do something
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I’m the world’s worst to block my blessings because I doubt that spirit is “real” maybe???? So signs 🪧 or communication from my spiritual team often is like a phone or beeping from the microwave that goes on far longer than it would otherwise.