Woman here: I had an issue like this with my Ex about calling. I make the effort to call when I miss him. Sat down and had a conversation that we both should be doing more calling since we do text alot and he agreed. He's made NO effort to call me and I don't want to force him to do it either. I want it to come from a genuine place. I know he's very busy with his work and business he's running but if you don't have 10 to 15 mins to just check in say a lot. I was disappointed and hurt but maybe he's just not that into me.
I get those way with my grown boys after a long day. The call is a lot of energy. Consider this closely. In the same house it would be equivalent to a conversation with emotion. I do not believe you are asking a lot and if you settle. Well...
Just in case you want my opinion, I’ll leave it here 🙃 Of course he has 2 mins to call. No one is honestly that busy. Dexter Morgan, for instance. He solved mur*ders, committed mur*ders, and still had time to call “what’s her face”. Work on yourself, babes! Allow him the space to do what he chooses. 🤍
me too, with the calling... i don't understand why it's so hard to reach out and say "good morning, i hope you have a wonderful day" .... just went no contact over him not being able to call on a consistent basis... you wanna get inside me, but you can't call just to see how i'm doing?... nah, brotha... i'm tired of the okey-doke!
YEEESSSSS!!! Woman here (Quality time is my #1 love language) And yes BEING FULLY PRESENT WHEN HES WITH ME …. Even 10 min vs all day and he’s not paying much attention to me …. Means ALL THE WORLD to me! ❤ Getting in tuned!!! Yes!!
HEY STEPH!!!!! MY BDAY WAS A FEW DAYS AGO... THE 1ST ONE YOU MENTIONED SPEAKS ABOUT ALEX HALEY...HE LOST BOTH HIS WIVES BECUZ HE WAS SO CAUGHT UP IN HIS WRITING AND SEARCHING FOR HIS "ROOTS" HE GOT CONSUMMED..
Hi Stephan, do you have any advice on how to develop emotional intimacy with a woman at the very beginning of a relationship and even the initiation of a potential relationship? I'm guilty of just getting straight down to business, so to speak. I'm not sure how I can better have a woman emotionally invested in me first.
Intimacy is a 2 way street, you have to be willing to be vulnerable and the other person does too. The problem both men and women face is we let our past experience close us off to loving or being in love. You have to allow the person in front of you to show their true self. You develop an emotionally intimate connection with a woman through sharing dreams, ideas, opinions deeper than surface level. You can ask questions like "Where do you see yourself in 5 years?" or "Do you have a favorite childhood memory?" These show you are interested beyond physical attraction. In my opinion, you have to know the lady a bit before you ask deeper questions. Regardless, be genuine. For example, I'm a kind, attentive gentleman and I've had bad experiences but that hasn't made me mistreat any women I've dated/been in a relationship with. I'll always be a gentleman regardless if anyone appreciates it or not. I just know to not waste time, energy, resources on someone who is unappreciative/nonreciprocal. Lastly, I believe being direct and intentional is the best course of action for us as men.
If you completely give a woman what she 'requires' and 'needs' from you, then she is done with you because you are no longer a challenge for her. It's the same when a woman gives a man what he needs -- aka sex. As soon as it's over, he's done with her and ready to leave. BOTTOM LINE : You always have to give them just enough to keep them around, but never so much that they don't need anything more from you.
I don't know if it's modern men or just mine, but it seems like men have become lazy and depend on the woman. When I was in school full time 40 hours a week and doing part-time work, he was so resentful. Complained about money all the time, he was doing nothing to make more. Always telling me that when I graduate, I can rest. I felt complete disgust. Now I have my masters degree and I love what I do. I tell him I like what I do but I wish he made enough where it wasn't out of nesccesity or else. Maybe I'm in the wrong here I don't really know.
I think if women would make themselves more useful in the home and stay busy, they would be less bored, and then when the man got home, he would not be so unimpressed. Having worked all day and coming home to a dirty house, but able to give her the attention she would like. Having shown that she’s part of the whole picture. Men would love this.
Woman here: I had an issue like this with my Ex about calling. I make the effort to call when I miss him. Sat down and had a conversation that we both should be doing more calling since we do text alot and he agreed. He's made NO effort to call me and I don't want to force him to do it either. I want it to come from a genuine place. I know he's very busy with his work and business he's running but if you don't have 10 to 15 mins to just check in say a lot. I was disappointed and hurt but maybe he's just not that into me.
I get those way with my grown boys after a long day. The call is a lot of energy. Consider this closely. In the same house it would be equivalent to a conversation with emotion. I do not believe you are asking a lot and if you settle. Well...
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
Just in case you want my opinion, I’ll leave it here 🙃 Of course he has 2 mins to call. No one is honestly that busy. Dexter Morgan, for instance. He solved mur*ders, committed mur*ders, and still had time to call “what’s her face”. Work on yourself, babes! Allow him the space to do what he chooses. 🤍
me too, with the calling... i don't understand why it's so hard to reach out and say "good morning, i hope you have a wonderful day" .... just went no contact over him not being able to call on a consistent basis... you wanna get inside me, but you can't call just to see how i'm doing?... nah, brotha... i'm tired of the okey-doke!
As a woman (with quality time love language), I agree time and the emotional intimacy is what I crave. This is so true!!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
YEEESSSSS!!!
Woman here (Quality time is my #1 love language)
And yes BEING FULLY PRESENT WHEN HES WITH ME …. Even 10 min vs all day and he’s not paying much attention to me …. Means ALL THE WORLD to me! ❤
Getting in tuned!!! Yes!!
HEY STEPH!!!!!
MY BDAY WAS A FEW DAYS AGO...
THE 1ST ONE YOU MENTIONED SPEAKS ABOUT ALEX HALEY...HE LOST BOTH HIS WIVES BECUZ HE WAS SO CAUGHT UP IN HIS WRITING AND SEARCHING FOR HIS "ROOTS" HE GOT CONSUMMED..
Belated happy birthday and thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Hi Stephan, do you have any advice on how to develop emotional intimacy with a woman at the very beginning of a relationship and even the initiation of a potential relationship? I'm guilty of just getting straight down to business, so to speak. I'm not sure how I can better have a woman emotionally invested in me first.
Me too bro, I don’t like to beat around the bush, I tell my intentions out the bat
Intimacy is a 2 way street, you have to be willing to be vulnerable and the other person does too. The problem both men and women face is we let our past experience close us off to loving or being in love. You have to allow the person in front of you to show their true self.
You develop an emotionally intimate connection with a woman through sharing dreams, ideas, opinions deeper than surface level. You can ask questions like "Where do you see yourself in 5 years?" or "Do you have a favorite childhood memory?" These show you are interested beyond physical attraction. In my opinion, you have to know the lady a bit before you ask deeper questions.
Regardless, be genuine. For example, I'm a kind, attentive gentleman and I've had bad experiences but that hasn't made me mistreat any women I've dated/been in a relationship with. I'll always be a gentleman regardless if anyone appreciates it or not. I just know to not waste time, energy, resources on someone who is unappreciative/nonreciprocal.
Lastly, I believe being direct and intentional is the best course of action for us as men.
Try being genuine friends with no benefits first…get to know her and value her as a human being instead of a wet hole
Hi Stephan where is the rest of the video. Love how u explained this❤❤
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Great content really spoke to me brother. Thank you!
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Stephan thanks 🙏
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Yesssss you be nailing it 💯💯 I say this alotttt
Typically, the more important one aspect (sex, attention, etc.) is in a relationship, the less important are all other characteristics.
Video cut off early?
For a loving connected relationship a mutual interest and passion other than sex deepens love
If you completely give a woman what she 'requires' and 'needs' from you, then she is done with you because you are no longer a challenge for her.
It's the same when a woman gives a man what he needs -- aka sex. As soon as it's over, he's done with her and ready to leave.
BOTTOM LINE : You always have to give them just enough to keep them around, but never so much that they don't need anything more from you.
Hmmm 🤔 well I want to 9:19 work. I love my job and I love being financially independent. I guess I’m the exception…
Thank you for sharing I appreciate your feedback 🙏🏼
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I don't know if it's modern men or just mine, but it seems like men have become lazy and depend on the woman. When I was in school full time 40 hours a week and doing part-time work, he was so resentful. Complained about money all the time, he was doing nothing to make more. Always telling me that when I graduate, I can rest. I felt complete disgust. Now I have my masters degree and I love what I do. I tell him I like what I do but I wish he made enough where it wasn't out of nesccesity or else. Maybe I'm in the wrong here I don't really know.
I think if women would make themselves more useful in the home and stay busy, they would be less bored, and then when the man got home, he would not be so unimpressed. Having worked all day and coming home to a dirty house, but able to give her the attention she would like. Having shown that she’s part of the whole picture. Men would love this.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤