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- Nora McInerny's first husband died from brain cancer. While still grieving him, she fell in love again.
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Woman Shares Story Of Loss And Finding Love Again: ‘I Am A Widow And A Wife’ | TODAY
Wonderful. She needs a bigger platform. Her style of storytelling is amazing
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I lost my wife 3 years ago from brain cancer, she was 45. I completely relate to what Nora says. I have fallen in love again and it feels good. Every day I miss my wife but she is gone and there is nothing I can do about it. I was fortunate to have a loving marriage for 20 years and perhaps I may be lucky enough to be married again for another 20 years or more.
Oh I so needed to hear Nora's testimony my wife passed not brain cancer.Aug 14 2019 I am looking again no one could ever replace her but that would be her and wouldn't be replacing my wife and I would love her for her.Nora you so Helped me thank you for sharing your story I forgot to mention we were married 42 yrs and I have adult children and grandchildren.but God will work it out when God brings that new woman in my life
I wish you that 😊
Nora, thank you for putting into words that we, widows/widowers, can't explain to others. It touched me deeply. I lost my husband in 2015 to heart failure. He was 38. Today, I'm dating again, coincidentally, with a divorced father of 2 amazing kids. Also, you're right, my marriage was great and I want to honor and reaffirm my marriage by "trying that again!" Because marriage is a good thing!
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Hello Mary Xiong.! Do you still have the intention of re-getting married again ? Just asking ... greetings from New Zealand 🇳🇿 and you?
i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
Inspiring!!!! Love the way you told your experience.. I’m a young widow mom of 3 who lost my husband March 2017. Still trying to understand and get through this stage but it’s beautiful to see you & your family happy and whole again!!
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Hello monalisa good morning I'm sorry for bothering you with my texts just came across your comments and decided to say hi
Due to my own life story I see that you and I have the same story to tell
Life ends when we lose our lover our happiness it breaks the heart and make us think life is nothing but moving forward because we have our children to make us see the beautiful side of life so much to say but thanks any way keep moving Monalisa good day🎈
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i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
Wow. Beautiful. I needed to hear this. At 21 months out. Ring still on left hand. Age 61. Was trying to forget to move on for peace of mind but... my heart is big enough to hold him and others. Love it. Uplifting. Thanks
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John Fayan I saw your comment in response to another widow’s comment. I’m newly widowed. One month out tomorrow. The pain I feel from my loss is paralyzing. I’m 67. I don’t feel like there’s any hope short of our Blessed Hope. Reaching out for new friends and prayers.
@@truthinlove2342 I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer.
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I sometimes notice the small things - the way her Son put his Hand on her Back at 7:15 - almost as a Hug - now that's a very special little Guy - and his Mom is a Wonderful Person.
Wow, I just lost my wife to Glioblastoma in Feb 2023. She was 60 and and we we married for 39 years. I just cannot see myself being alone for the rest of my life. I loved my wife but she is gone and there is nothing on this earth that I can do to bring her back. I just want to fall in love again with someone to share my life with.
This is a gut-wrenching, yet beautiful story.
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I saw this whole video in tears. I still am grieving my husband of 32 years. He died a year and a half ago.
Hello, sorry for your lost. I'm widower for 3years now and i will love to know you well. Please reply and if you don't mind here is also my hangout id: devis.us.contact@gmail.com
I'm so sorry for your lost, i'm also a widowed looking for love this is my email bryantylerbio@gmail.com
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Don't worry dear things are going to be okay with me and you let forget about the past and put things together
I lost my husband February 2015 and met someone March 2016. 1 day after my what would have been our 18th anniversary. I still love my husband and I'm now in love with my new fiance! It's a blessing to have been loved by my first husband. And, it's a blessing to be loved by my soon to be husband. I was the same way. Would never fall in love again. But, I was happy for the ladies I know, who had lost their husbands, yet found true love again. Never say Never!!! Beautiful story and congratulations, Nora and Matthew!!! May God bless you all!!!
Shannon Smith I came across this video cause from time to time I watch today show on UA-cam. I lost my partner last year suddenly after 12 years he was my best friend we went through so much together and always had each other backs he was such a good person I don’t understand why this happened. I am totally broken still cry daily miss him terribly. This video made me sad but a little glimpse of light and your message nice to know that you could go on with your life. Thank you
Basia Tyrkalska, I'm so sorry for your lost and the pain you are going through. Sometimes, I still find myself missing my husband. Especially on days that he should be here, enjoying milestones in the lives of our daughters. (14 and 12) Yes, I have met and fell in love. We don't have a date for the wedding. But, I can tell you that the moment I knew I was in love with him, my husband showed up in my dreams. It was so surreal!! He was sitting at the foot of our bed, telling me he couldn't be happier that I have found someone else. That he knows the new man in our lives would be there, for the special moments of their lives. And, that he knew, as a family, we will never let his love or memory die. My fiance really goes out of his way to show the girls how much he loves and care for them. I can still feel my husband around all of the time!! That's something that only the people who experience, will understand. My fiance didn't only ask me, but also my girls, if we would marry him. A moment I will NEVER forget. I swear, I could see my husband's face in the clouds, that day on the beach. I couldn't be more blessed!!! And, one day, you will have that blessing, too. Just when you least expect it. God will bless you with the other man He made, just for you!! You take all the time you need to mourn and grieve the loss of your husband. May God bless and keep you!!!
@@basiatyrkalska It happened because that's the way life is. I lost my husband 5 months ago after a 32-year marriage. He had cirrhosis of the liver. I miss him so much however I promised him I would go on and live a full life. I'm getting ready to travel to the Middle East and Europe in October. With God's help I will go forward and live my life.
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So your new guy knows he gets 50% of you and is good with it?
Nora, thank you 🙏 for this video. I needed to hear your words. I lost my husband in December 2014 and while I haven’t found another love yet, I live in hope, and I needed to hear what another person’s experience of second love is like.
I completely get what you say when you mention that people don’t want you to grieve for too long and that there are time limits imposed on the bereaved by others. I also understand that sense you had that people sort of wanted you to be happy again but not too happy. Or perhaps it’s linked to the time limit thing. Perhaps people expect us to be happy according in their timeframe.
It’s been over 4 years now and recently, someone very tearfully said to me, “I don’t know why you’re not bursting into tears every time you mention his name or think about him.” I had to explain that I’ve lived without him every day since he died, so I had no choice but to deal with my grief. I was left feeling judged and as if I had to justify myself to this person.
I haven’t found new love yet, but I hope that I do find love again. If I do, I will grab it with both hands and ignore the naysayers who have yet to learn that loss expands the heart, and that it is entirely possible to grieve the loss of one person whilst loving another. You are so right - we are capable of so much more than we realise. It’s a shame that it took the death of my husband for me to fully understand this.
Thank you 🙏 for a perfect video. I found it at just the right time.
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All are not like so. There is some wanna living till end
I'm so sorry for your loss, such is life we've all lost our loved ones in death, but life goes on, I lost my partner 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054 😇
i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
3 weeks ago I lost my husband 😔.. we been together for 14yrs. Have 4 kids together, he passed on when our baby was 4months 😔... I pray one day God send an amazing person again..My Ronald was a great husband and dad..he was an amazing loving man🥰
Hello dear a so sorry for the lost but not worry thing are going to be good and together we can start a new life you will always be the love of my life forever
So very sorry for your loss, sending you hugs and prayers and warm vibes to hopefully help you get through this journey. ❤️🙏🫂
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i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
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Hello, sorry for your lost. I'm widower for 3years now and i will love to know you well. Please reply and if you don't mind here is also my hangout id: devis.us.contact@gmail.com
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Hello
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She gets it. She gets me.
Recently lost my wife after 41 years of marriage but this situation would be so much more difficult because they're both so young and there are children involved. Happy outcome
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This is an amazing story that made me feel so much better!!!
This really hit home. I lost my hubby in July. I moved away from my life..to a new place for a new beginning. I felt people wanted me to be strong the way I was being and to stop grieving...but not too strong or too.smiley or too happy because heaven forbid I continue to live
i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
Thank you for sharing your perspective
The key words here “Our hearts are bigger than we think they are.” I believe what we fall in love with is the spark of God in each person’s soul. That’s how she can be so in love with these two men simultaneously. That simple.
I hear you
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Thank you Nora
This really hit home for me. My husband also died of cancer when I was 39. People are very judgmental and it is heartbreaking. Even people close to you sometimes judge you. But you need to move on. It’s the healthy thing to do!
Hi Kim,sorry for your lost please be strong and do not listen to what any else gonna say because people and really funny, just be yourself
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DINESH GURJAR I’m not looking for a date. I don’t even know you. Good luck to you though on your journey.
John Fayan I just saw your message. Thank you for such a kind message. You are an amazing human to send a supportive message to a stranger. I appreciate it greatly.
Hello Kim sorry for your loss how are you doing
Marriage is until death parts us. Then we are free to marry or stay single. It is up to the individual widow/er. I chose single. My choice even now 10 years later, and turning down dates.
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My husband of 21 years pass away 3 months ago of heart attack.Thank you for you testimony,🙏😇I glad you are happy 😃
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Thanks for sharing
Strength and hope in the flesh. 🙏💜
Love Hoda!!! Have t watched video but about to!!! Congrats on your beautiful baby Hoda!!! I’ve never seen you happier!!! Looking forward to this video!!!!
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My husband died 4/11/19. Today is his birthday. Other than just feeling kind of grumpy today it's been okay. I had gone into this day steadfast that I would just honor him today by doing a couple of things that he liked. I have no interest at this point in finding another person but at 49 it's likely to happen. What do I do about the in-law family if that does happen? I virtually have no family of my own so my in-law family is the only family I really have. What does Christmas look like after your husband has died and you've now remarried? How do you blend your old life with a new life? If somebody knows please tell me.
Sheila I wonder the same thing. My husband passed away just April 15, 2019. I am only looking for videos for support on now living life as a widow and I came across this one. I am 55 and it scares me to be alone for the rest of my life, and occasionally it just crosses your mind, you can’t help it, whether I’ll have somebody else some day. I do wonder how do you blend the in laws. How awkward that would be. Would they want me to be happy or would they be mad at me for it. I miss my husband so much and was not prepared for it as he died suddenly of a heart attack, but I can’t help when laying in bed and thinking of everything from the past, the present and what the future will look like. I have three sons, my youngest is going into his second year of college. These boys will be on their own some day in the not too distant future. How can I live without my husband my partner of 30 years. 😔
Sweetheart, I totally understand you. I lost my husband in January 4, 2019. I was married to him for 32 years. We had two children together. You most likely will go on and remarry. What will you do with your original in-laws? You will continue loving them, you will continue communicating with them, you will not exclude them from your life. If your new spouse does not understand that then he would not be worthy of you. We don't exclude our love for the people that became our family just because our spouse dies. On the contrary they continue being a part of our lives. Hope this helps.
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@@margzero8840 Hi Margaret can we be friends??
I love your story so inspiring for me that I just lost my husband 2 months ago.
I am watching this on my husband's angel day. It's been 2 years sense his passing. We were married 33 .5 years. I have not started dating yet
I'm glad we have a choice to date or not and to only accept what we desire in a person.
Am so sorry dear but you must be treated like a queen I could treat you like no one ever does
Dear please can I know you?
I’m 53, too old to worry about another relationship; but I’m glad you found happiness again since you’re so young and have young children.
Hello friend you are not too old and I like to know more about you
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REALLY?
@@maryann7619 yes really
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MEMORY is a marvellous god given thing were we can sometimes quiatly reflect fondly of those who was a big part of lives and who we loved deeply, and the presence and the future is something where we can enjoy the company and presence of those we deeply love now and move forward with into the future, hopefully without many tragic events keep positive and keep well , I do wish your family all the best 😊👍👏
Thanks a lot for this Nora ❤
Hope you’re living happily again?
Thanks for video loss my hubby April 2021 of 23years❤️💔🙏
i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
Hi 💞👍
I lost my husband two years ago. He was so young 😭 but it's time to moving on
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Sorry for your lost be happy and someday everything will fall in place
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So your new husband will always be either 2nd best or 50%....lovely.
You don't remove their shoes from the fireplace just because they're gone when you meet someone. You add the new people shoes to yours and your deceased mates shoes. Because you are who you are because of the first mate and you're just adding to what you are with the second mate. I still have my husband's ashes in my living room and if I should ever get married again they will remain in my house because he will always be a part of me.
That’s really nice Kathryn and I respect you for that keeping the memories of your husband like that. 😊
Hello Kathryn sure some things can not be forgotten if I'm right please..
@@tonyliman8402 my husband was 19 years older than me and when I met him he was in his fifties and I was in my thirties. His first wife had died four years prior and when we got close to getting married he all of a sudden just start talking about her a lot. I never minded him talkin about her but he went way overboard. I talked to my mother about it and she explained to me he was about to close the door on his life and open another with me and so memories started flooding his mind and it came out in his mouth. I understood so I worked with him On It. But I understood more after 23 years of marriage to him and going through his death what he felt like during that time. Grieving is a process and one that should be taken in your own time. I don't think I'll ever get remarried because I'm pretty set in my life but if I ever should date someone that has lost a mate I will have no problem in sharing their memories.
@@kathrynnard2133 hello Kathryn I understand what you say it is just that life changes every seconds of the day you have beautiful memories and sad memories with this both they make life more lovely to stay.
You may not want to remarry that is your choice for me I live 10 years of my life with out any woman in my life sometimes it is lonely sometimes it is OK but no matter what we deserve someone who we can grow old with..
Thanks for sharing your experience of life with me Kathryn you're friendly kind and easy to talk to if you're free sometimes text me OK I wish you a blessed day.
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Any time I think about my wife it make me feel so bad cause she died I a car accident I Can't believe it 😭😭😭😭😭 I just hope if I can see someone to replace her .
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i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
Are you able to start a network here in Kenya for widows?
I can't relate to the dating scene. I lost my spouse in April 2022 to Glioblastoma brain cancer at only 42 years old. We were together for 20 years. Not sure how or where you met him but the dating app's are a joke, people tell you whatever they think you want you to hear. I refuse to buy into these app's as the only resort to find someone. I also dated a narcissist for 4 months in which I left after finding text messages/phones./sexting. So yeah I'll stay alone.
July will be 3 yrs that my husband I had been with for 26 yrs passed away he had been sick for 5 yrs he needed a organ transplant , and I would marry again
Hello Kimberly Hello greetings from 🇺🇸 am robert chatting from Baltimore Maryland I could be a friend trust me I mean no harm
i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
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How did u meet him?
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Men, my advice is RUN from a widow. She will pine for her dead husband, you will be 2nd best, you were settled for. Like the Ronnie Millsap songs goes..." Is loving him in her mind whiles she lying here in my bed". RUN gentleman.
Men, NEVER EVER MARRY A widow. Like this video plainly shows how women tend to cling to her dead husband and you will NEVER be as special or loved as her dead husband. Women want it both ways, love more than one man but demand exclusivity in return. Guys, RUN lol.
Truth sad truth
You sound like a very insecure man (boy).
@@Chase55tx its incredible how those people who have negative experience of dating a widower/widow, put tons of negative comments out here! This is a success story of a woman who lost her husband and found love again. A great example of being strong women, a great mother and a stepmother, and an amazing wife. Example that love and grieve sometimes coexist in 1 heart. Her husband is not # 2, or second best. He is her loving husband! Her late husband no longer on this earth. This a very inspiring story! Only because some of you had a bad experience, doesn't mean all the widowers and widows are bad, don't deserve love and remarry, treat their current spouses like a second bests, and so on! It doesn't mean those widowers and widows bring up the late spouses every 5 minutes. Occassionally its totally fine. It's part of life! I really don't get how the mature people in their 40th and 50th making such a big deal of the memories of late spouses. As a widower's wife, I don't feel second best, or #2. I am his current wife, who respect his past, and we have the rest of our lives to be happy together. We are, the people who married to a widowed are not in competition with a late spouses, we don't live with a ghoasts or something like that, we are happy people, who gave those widowers a chance to be loved, who have a big heart to blend a family and to be happy. To all the widowed people out there, please don't lose hope, and may the Lord heal and open your heart ❤ Bible says to be kind to a Widows and Widowers!
Very happy wife to a wonderful, loving, kind Man, who happened to be a Widower, and with Lord's grace have found love and peace again. And I am just proud to be that woman in his life he found love in ❤❤❤🙏
The new husband to a widow is the very definition of a CHUMP.
If you husband or wife dies you shouldn't go and get re-married.
AeropathX well people fall in love. Their old spouse would want them to be happy
Why?
Who says you can’t get re married and fall in love again? Who are you god?
Agreed. Because you will ALWAYS be second best, the after thought. Never seen as the only love if her life. Why do women think they can have both men in their hearts but demand exclusivity when it's the other way around?
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you're wrong. You might have had a bad experience but that does not.mean that's the case all over. I hope you or whoever you know that went through this heals and is able to find true love that works.
Men, NEVER EVER MARRY A widow. You will be second best at best, you never be seen as nothing more then the "sweet guy" who does things for her. The bar has been raised and you will not even come close. In short, her man was Prime USDA steak and you are 70-30% ground beef whose only redeeming quality is used for Hamburger Helper.
I don't think you're right. You're not every widow neither are you every man who has dated a widow.
Every relationship is different so you can't make general statements.
I am a widow and I don't know if I'll find love again but if I do, I know it will be different and there will be no competition cos the truth is my late husband is gone and my current love or husband is who I need to build with.
I know people have had bad experiences in relationships and that is not only restricted to relationships with widows. My thing is if you open up to love the right way, the right kind of love will find you. I'm a widow a mum, I look forward to being a wife and a stepmother soon and I hope to give love all I've got with whomever I'm in it with.
@@viellak Tell me this when your new man calls this dead wife's name in bed, cries and is depressed for days on her birthday,their anniversary and date of her death. When he longs for her and you find out he tells his friends about it, if he gets upset and blurts out "I wish she were still alive and not you". Easy to pontificate when you have not had that.
I guess you missed the only point she was making. Not everyone is going to have the same experience that you had this one time
Fake news
How u know? Are U widow?