Understanding The Way Men Think | Kingsley Okonkwo

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  • @AliveinChrist247
    @AliveinChrist247 Рік тому +144

    There's a king and a fool in every man. The one you talk to is the one that answers you 😮. Wow
    Casual sex will always have casualties. This hits me so hard 😅. Every sexual encounter doesn't always leave you the same. Men don't treat all women the same. Men learn from you how to treat you. You set the standards for a man, if he likes you, he will rise to it if not he will go and that is good for you. Most women have no idea how gifted and powerful they are. Don't limit yourself. People change when they want to. Ladies don't compromise your values. Make your money, na who get the bag fit set standards. A man should take care of you not because he has to but because he wants to. Women have the tendency to look for trouble where there is none. A woman compares herself to the best while men compares themselves to the worst, making a women to have the perfectionist mentality. Hunt the good stuff ladies. Praise your man for the little things that he does. Don't focus on what is not working but focus on the good he is doing. Scripture, science and statistics. Men are more sexual than women. A woman enjoy multiple sex with the same partner while men enjoy sex with multiple partner. A man can cheat for fun but women cheat for attention and emotional needs. It takes discipline and the God factor for a man to not cheat. I feel bad for my brother's wife and pray that she heals from this kind of pain 💔. The average man will respect you until you start disrespecting yourself. Ladies, we are helpers, we make the world go round. Don't let a man devalue you. Learn to build yourself outside of a man. Have a life before looking for a life partner.

    • @Blueangel559
      @Blueangel559 Рік тому +1

      Wow! This is a fact!

    • @AliveinChrist247
      @AliveinChrist247 Рік тому +1

      @@Blueangel559 yep. The video is a must watch. He's spiting facts 💯

    • @akinolaogunseitan
      @akinolaogunseitan Рік тому

      You are right for the most except when you said 'na who get the bag fit set standard' meaning you are implying that women should make money so they can set standards....does work that way with men because a man doesn't really think of financial security from a woman the way women do especially when he is looking for a wife.

    • @AliveinChrist247
      @AliveinChrist247 Рік тому +1

      @akinolaogunseitan got that point, but the point here is about a single independent lady as opposed to a lady who depends on a man to survive. When the later is the case, she has limited choice and can settle for any man as long as he can provide for her. That's the angle from which that is coming. Hope say e clear 😁😁

    • @joycegitura7119
      @joycegitura7119 10 місяців тому

      Waoh great piece

  • @noxolondlovu348
    @noxolondlovu348 Рік тому +140

    This is so good! I do however hope and pray that men are equally invested in understanding women as much as we women are at understanding them. I believe that a happy home starts with both parties seeking to understand each other and being selfless.

    • @oluwamuyiwaoreoluwa757
      @oluwamuyiwaoreoluwa757 Рік тому +5

      Balancing the teaching is Pastor Kay's ministry ....Manual is a book for the ladies and How to love a woman without touching her is a book for the men

    • @Hollygdorsey1
      @Hollygdorsey1 Рік тому +4

      Honestly, Women talk a lot so they know exactly what we tell them.

    • @moon20ful
      @moon20ful Рік тому +2

      I actually think it is women that don't understand men enough hehe, that is why there are apparently more teaches on that. My view though, but as you said as well both parties need to understand themselves, which is totallly true.

    • @oluwamuyiwaoreoluwa757
      @oluwamuyiwaoreoluwa757 Рік тому +1

      @@moon20ful yeah both parties need to understand each other because we were created differently ...there is a manual for everybody

    • @shashat.w.o7497
      @shashat.w.o7497 Рік тому

      😊

  • @ribaker822
    @ribaker822 Рік тому +91

    Can I just say that I really like the way the presenter presents. Kudos to her. And great insights shared by PK as always. Thank you.

  • @appiahopokuclinton6690
    @appiahopokuclinton6690 Рік тому +29

    I pray that my future wife is listening to pastor Kingsley

    • @oluwaseunodubote
      @oluwaseunodubote Рік тому +3

      I also pray that my future husband is listening to PK. Many men are not open to learning these things. They don't even know themselves.

    • @appiahopokuclinton6690
      @appiahopokuclinton6690 Рік тому +1

      @@oluwaseunodubote sure

    • @yemim8246
      @yemim8246 Рік тому +1

      And you're also listening to pastor Mildred to learn more about women

    • @abeekuworldchanger380
      @abeekuworldchanger380 6 місяців тому +1

      Bro me too. Praying for us Kingdom Brothers that our future will will listen to Pastor Kingsley and Mildred. The wisdom from their mouths is endlessly profound. People need this within this century.

    • @joyosaghae1578
      @joyosaghae1578 3 дні тому

      😂

  • @iamsurelyenya
    @iamsurelyenya 2 місяці тому

    A body of wisdom. A blessing to our generation.👏🏼👏🏼

  • @oluwadarekehinde8720
    @oluwadarekehinde8720 Рік тому +92

    When I start watching the video, I thought the duration was too long, but after few minutes into it, I wished it would last for 72 hours❤ this information is really going to help me in my marriage

  • @priscillatagoe525
    @priscillatagoe525 Рік тому +17

    Wow... "The average man respects you until you start disrespecting yourself" Great insight man of God. Thanks a lot for sharing, please.

  • @princehumble4268
    @princehumble4268 Рік тому +21

    My wife sent this video to me and i almost didn’t watch because i felt it is so long... but thank God i did watch...this is mind blowing. Thank you Pastor PK. God replenish you more abundantly

  • @teejayangel6638
    @teejayangel6638 Рік тому +6

    There are so many gems here, I've enjoyed this session immensely, and sometimes I would rewind to grasp these points. However, this is where I disagree with you Pastor Okonkwo, and not only you but Pastors who reason the way you do concerning infidelity in these modern times, what you fail to understand is that things changed a long time ago. The way baby boomers used to withstand the crap their husbands used to dish them concerning adultery is not the way Xenials, millennials and Gen Zs will withstand. Now there are more women who can cheat reciprocating what their husbands do without being emotional, they're intellectually, physically and financially VERY empowered. More and more women don't care about or for marriage because they've been hurt or have seen other women close to them being mistreated. These women in these generations I've mentioned are built very different.
    What you need to do is update your teachings, because when you tell these generations to pray for their husbands meanwhile the husband is busy enjoying different strokes, am afraid you're preaching to the crickets. That's why the word of God says the man is the high Priest, MEANING? He is the one to pray for his wife and family, but African preachers want to change what God has instructed man, and that's why the results never change -the man keeps on cheating no matter how many times the wife prays.
    God hates adultery, in fact loathes it, that's why idolatry is compared to adultery. So many instances the Israelites committed adultery and they suffered excruciatingly for their promiscuity. Why was Hosea commanded to marry a prostitute?
    God hates adultery, and because of this New age teaching that "men are sexual therefore can't stay with one woman" is NEW AGE WITCHCRAFT and it has destroyed Africa. Our men concentrate on being between women's legs more than concentrating on innovating, building families, creating new things, and changing the world progressively. They left that for the yt man and Asians. Stop it!
    I wish you would concentrate more on empowering men on becoming what God desires the to be, women don't need to be taught how to be in their position, they adopt naturally when they're with a man who understand and knows his position.

  • @akinolaogunseitan
    @akinolaogunseitan Рік тому +1

    Wooow....what really resonated with me is the part where he said men compare themselves to the worst while women compare themselves to the best.

  • @immaculateisaalex2213
    @immaculateisaalex2213 10 місяців тому +1

    This one hits hard… knowledge is key. I stumbled upon this on IG reels and somehow it pricked me cos I’m seriously in a journey to healing but somehow God pointed me to becoming more like Him other than focusing on my husband. Thank you PK for this message. It’s so timely for me.

  • @suzzyglowyy7473
    @suzzyglowyy7473 10 місяців тому

    Wowww this is sweet a man will rush if you don't need him.
    This is amazing pastor k

  • @ardeosthegodslover2.0
    @ardeosthegodslover2.0 Рік тому +34

    Let's clap this amazing man of GOD for his wise knowledge about relationships and marriage👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. Thank you so much Pastor #KingsleyOkonkwo🙏🏾🙂

  • @amutamercy143
    @amutamercy143 Рік тому +9

    Wow😮 " men need before they love and women love before they need"
    I've always admire you from afar sir. The very first day I came across your video on UA-cam was when I was searching for a particular video on UA-cam, that day became my very journey with you till date.
    God bless you sir and Chapters, God bless and increase you too for bringing him to the show..
    Manual🔥

  • @onyinyechicollete2862
    @onyinyechicollete2862 Рік тому +2

    Space replenishes the man, while companionship replenishes the woman.

  • @tinuadeadeyanju5296
    @tinuadeadeyanju5296 Рік тому +14

    Pastor kingsley is so humble!!!! And this is so insightful !!?

  • @onyinyechicollete2862
    @onyinyechicollete2862 Рік тому +2

    Men are moved by respect and admiration.

  • @miyobasikapoto8166
    @miyobasikapoto8166 Рік тому

    God doesn't talk to men emotionally, he speaks to them logically 🤔🤔 this right here makea a lot of sense

  • @tolanimary
    @tolanimary Рік тому +9

    I am mind blown 🤯
    I thank God that i am able to learn all these things very early in my 20s. I think everyone on earth needs to study human beings so we know how to manage our differences and arrive at a middle ground
    God help us o

  • @abiolabenjaminobayomi
    @abiolabenjaminobayomi Рік тому +4

    I think I should listen to Pastor Kingsley more oo. This book is highly recommended for every man out there. ❤

  • @marthachinyere351
    @marthachinyere351 Рік тому +5

    Pastor Kingsley You are a blessing to this world 🌎 God richly bless you in Jesus name Amen 🙏🏽
    Kudos sir

  • @ericanampweya2053
    @ericanampweya2053 Рік тому +9

    OMG! Thank you so much for opening my eyes, I've been in different relationships looking for Mr right, not knowing I was Mrs Wrong myself. At least this video helped me understand how men works. Thank you so much.

  • @chinwenduisigwe6694
    @chinwenduisigwe6694 Рік тому +3

    I learnt the about the importance of training in marriage, it cannot be overemphasised

  • @eloosiki5477
    @eloosiki5477 Рік тому +9

    Omo it's the way he was continuously dropping bars for me!! I will watch this video up to 10 times and it will still be sweet!!

  • @rutholusegun9328
    @rutholusegun9328 Рік тому +2

    Wow, I didn't know men compare themselves to the worst. This is helpful information at my work place.

  • @melforjesus
    @melforjesus 6 місяців тому

    This knowledge is a gem! Wow! I learned so much. Thank you sir.

  • @abbagoziemsylvia6568
    @abbagoziemsylvia6568 Рік тому +1

    I love you daddy. I receive your grace in my life.

  • @thandiwe5824
    @thandiwe5824 Рік тому +23

    This is by far the best educational podcast of relationship I've watched!!!! 👏🏽 I am headed to Amazon proto to purchase this book!

  • @Harrisonchristabel
    @Harrisonchristabel Рік тому +25

    How can I like this message more than once…this message is so powerful. I really learnt a lot…even if I thought I knew some of this things, but it just hits differently from another angle…Wow 🔥

  • @ADA-ASA
    @ADA-ASA Рік тому

    T
    his man is full of wisdom. God bless you sir.

  • @sharontaiwo7458
    @sharontaiwo7458 Рік тому +3

    Honestly my daddy you are a blessing to us, am always in line with your teachings .... If only you knew how much you have save thousand of thousands from getting into a doom life experience ....
    Daddy you are a heavenly package to us same am mummy your beautiful diamond sweet darling wife ....
    Am proud of you and mummy ....
    Cheers 💃💃💃💃💃

  • @Jennie-hw7bl
    @Jennie-hw7bl 10 місяців тому

    At the same time, I believe every man is uniquely different ❤

  • @cherish587
    @cherish587 8 місяців тому

    PK u're awesome. Thanks so much. Truly listen to this has given me the right idea on how to handle a pressing situation I'm facing now. God bless you Sir

  • @nnekakama5889
    @nnekakama5889 Рік тому +1

    Pastor K, God forever bless you Sir. You are indeed created for this

  • @laoluadegbesan9794
    @laoluadegbesan9794 Рік тому +14

    A good reader digging a good thinker... A seamless flow!
    The set is real amd relaxing to watch and listen. Time well invested. Thanks. 👍

  • @winstonk400
    @winstonk400 Рік тому +6

    My mind is BLOOOWWWWN!!!! WOW!!!! I'm getting as many books as possible on marriage now! Thank you so much Sir!!!!

  • @queenieokeke6036
    @queenieokeke6036 Рік тому +5

    Powerful.... VERY powerful teaching Pastor K. God bless you Sir for the wonderful works you do, and for allowing God use you to bless and save so many marriages. And for our beautiful tv host, you're amazing Ma'am. 💋💋💋

  • @angelamunega1915
    @angelamunega1915 Рік тому

    Awesome.
    Is there a man's guide to the way women think?
    It's greatly needed too...

  • @AkinsolaAdesola
    @AkinsolaAdesola 3 місяці тому

    Awesome. Thank you

  • @sylviaigwe-sv4ib
    @sylviaigwe-sv4ib Рік тому

    It was indeed great listening to you.... Thanks for the teachings...Your oil won't run dry sir!

  • @AkuomaUkonu-lg7yw
    @AkuomaUkonu-lg7yw 9 місяців тому

    Wow! Really got a lot of lessons!. THANK YOU SIR .

  • @corneliusngandwe293
    @corneliusngandwe293 6 місяців тому

    Mind blowing interview.
    Have learnt alot ❤

  • @ikelukaloveth7745
    @ikelukaloveth7745 Рік тому +2

    I can't just get enough of this message, I pause it from time to time to process what I have heard. Oh, My God! This is too much information to have in just a couple of hours. Pastor K your wisdom is in the archive we have not even started tapping from it, May God load you with more wisdom. I Love this Episode, will keep it for my daughters.

  • @Jg-fr
    @Jg-fr Рік тому +3

    OMG!! I love the presenter, she did an amazing job.
    And Pastor KIngsley also broke down the whole concept.
    Amazing vidoe guys.
    ❤❤❤

  • @leezisong8646
    @leezisong8646 9 місяців тому

    This is powerful! So many light bulb moments 💥

  • @GodskidUr1
    @GodskidUr1 Рік тому +5

    Listening and taking notes.✍️. I know no one fails when it’s God leading two people 🥰

  • @iyayidestiny3819
    @iyayidestiny3819 Рік тому

    Very insightful. God bless you Pastor K

  • @mwajuma3927
    @mwajuma3927 Рік тому

    This is the best ive ever heard God Bless you Pastor K. am equipped today

  • @Okehflorence
    @Okehflorence Рік тому

    Trust me pastor Kingsley has really helped change my whole life of how to do and take things in my relationship life and I pray cause I have faith that God will settle me with the right person soon Amen thank you so much pastor Kingsley Okonkwo🙏

  • @sharonadesewa
    @sharonadesewa Рік тому +5

    Sir please can you teach us on how to build or have the right standards, and the kind of standards to build, thank you very much sir❤

    • @fabulousswag6683
      @fabulousswag6683 Рік тому +1

      Standard is a stand or founding principles,values and rules of engagement that you build with and live your life on, simply foundation.
      To bring it to the basics and make it relatable to you in person.
      Your place of birth,plays the default setting of your mind,as that's what gives nature to your mind,ie nature of mind and or self.
      This is the set up for your self- discovery and build -up.
      Because in your nature of mind lies the need,your nature of mind's or self need for value and what it's lacks is revealed therefrom.
      What is it that you need,that you could not have due to lack of natural abilities and lack of access to resources and opportunities in the context of your nature or place of birth.
      That's your purpose and you without knowing it had already activated a search for it subconsciously.

  • @Natural_Nuturer
    @Natural_Nuturer Рік тому +2

    What a great show and an amazing presenter. Thank you also to the knowledgeable Pastor Kingsley. God bless you for building lasting relationships for those that are willing to learn ❤

  • @wilsonnaomi7000
    @wilsonnaomi7000 Рік тому

    I need to watch this 3 times to properly digest it 😊

  • @Jenken297
    @Jenken297 Рік тому +4

    Pastor K never disappoints 🙌🙌. Good one with Toyin Oyemade

  • @Jjjjjmnn2910
    @Jjjjjmnn2910 Рік тому

    You're too much sir!! You are the best therapy for marriage, l have ever listened to. Thank you so much sir. This is loaded....

  • @belindahmuripu7565
    @belindahmuripu7565 Рік тому +5

    This is so profound... thank you PK & the Lady Presenter🔥

  • @ellaa6055
    @ellaa6055 Рік тому

    God bless you Pastor K🙏🏽

  • @videocontent_creator7233
    @videocontent_creator7233 Рік тому

    This is empowering and helpful. Very refreshing. I need this book

  • @IniWrites
    @IniWrites Рік тому +2

    This was amazing 👏🎉. I've watched it before on Pst. Toyin's channel, but watching again today was a really great use of my time. Thank you very much, Pst. Kingsley and Pst. Toyin.

  • @stephanieonwuemenyi3685
    @stephanieonwuemenyi3685 Рік тому +3

    This is amazing... didn't know i could watch it all at once. I initially thought it was too long but once i started, it was life-giving nuggets. Thank you Pastor Kingsley, this is valuable. 💯💯

  • @keepingupwithfrancine
    @keepingupwithfrancine Рік тому +5

    I will watch this video over and over again wow❤❤

  • @Dami.A
    @Dami.A 4 місяці тому

    Men needs space, understood! But how then do we build intimacy? I understand this video is directed towards understanding men but I’m just really curious too. The men needs to understand women too so we can meet ourselves in the middle where the needs of both parties are met

  • @jeniphargernah1097
    @jeniphargernah1097 Рік тому +9

    This was really awesome to hear. Before I got married anytime time my boyfriend, now husband did something that I didn’t like and I tried to talk to my brother about it, all he’d say was ‘harden your heart’ 😅

    • @TeeAhhhna
      @TeeAhhhna Рік тому

      😂What would that entail ? Like get over it or

    • @myword2503
      @myword2503 Рік тому

      😂😂😂😂

  • @samuelbabalola4852
    @samuelbabalola4852 3 місяці тому

    Omo this is GOLD! ✨

  • @keepingupwithfrancine
    @keepingupwithfrancine Рік тому +3

    Pastor K is so right😂, my man is always worried about how his needs will be attended to than he can be able to think of love, he wants things solved not before you speak of any other thing

  • @benittasuccess2153
    @benittasuccess2153 Рік тому +1

    This teaching is light. 👌♥️♥️

  • @wangarililianjesus.
    @wangarililianjesus. Рік тому

    Very wise sir...... investment investment.......

  • @veroniqueokala5561
    @veroniqueokala5561 Рік тому +1

    Thank you! This level of wisdom is what I long for!

  • @bernicebaafi5056
    @bernicebaafi5056 Рік тому

    Wowww😂can we just appreciate the host. She’s so interesting and a good teammate 😍😅

  • @ugommaokorie1660
    @ugommaokorie1660 Рік тому +10

    Thank you Pst Kingsley - you're a gift to the Kingdom. 🙏🏾♥️

  • @Victorikem
    @Victorikem Рік тому +3

    That teaching grace! Thank You sir and ma

  • @EdithAsiegbu
    @EdithAsiegbu Рік тому +1

    Wow wow this is simply amazing I just learnt so much from this.thank you pastor k.

  • @umoesin5946
    @umoesin5946 Рік тому

    Wooooow😮 There are no right words 🙆🏻

  • @proudmom1022
    @proudmom1022 Рік тому

    I salute the Grace of God upon you

  • @ajayivivian4346
    @ajayivivian4346 Рік тому +2

    Thank you very much pastor. I am a very emotional person. And this issue affected me alot. To my surprise my son told me one day to stop being manipulative when I was feeling bad about his action. It downed on me that men are not moved with emotions.

  • @janim89
    @janim89 Рік тому

    Amazing! God bless you!

  • @stellathom5197
    @stellathom5197 Рік тому

    Thank you so much Pastor K, please I need hard copy , I am in Lagos.

  • @aminahtitilope7200
    @aminahtitilope7200 Рік тому

    So insightful 💯💥. Thank you so much for this teaching session sir.

  • @gistcookwithme
    @gistcookwithme Рік тому

    Omg! Have never lent so much in 51min. This is an eye opener..thank you pastor..

  • @NikkyNikkss
    @NikkyNikkss Рік тому +5

    Wow! This is straight GEMS 💎 very very insightful. These are the kinds of conversations we need to be having in the church.

  • @estheramendy9333
    @estheramendy9333 Рік тому +2

    This is amazing, I have learnt alot..
    Bravo pastor K

  • @herminembongo5898
    @herminembongo5898 Рік тому +1

    Paaaaaaastor!!!!!🙌🙌🙌 Thank you sar. Thank you. Thank you.🙏

  • @semakulapaul8063
    @semakulapaul8063 Рік тому +1

    WoW
    Knowledge is power

  • @chikaubajaka-ikpekedi_blaz6252

    Wooow, Pastor Kingsley... I am standing up oh... This video was just a perfect dose of what I needed in my marital relationship... Like... Hagh... I don't know where to begin🙏🙏🙏, God bless you Sir and Mrs Oyemade for this video.... Looking forward to a renewed me🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @Crystal_lines
    @Crystal_lines Рік тому

    How did I miss this?!!
    Incredibly insightful, so much apt information that every person needs to know. This will really help me a lot. May God continuously bless you PK. Amen

  • @Miracle-u3g
    @Miracle-u3g Рік тому

    Wow
    I love this..

  • @Kounouidoris-tp1hj
    @Kounouidoris-tp1hj Рік тому

    Thank you so much pastor 🎉more Grace

  • @tessymary8631
    @tessymary8631 Рік тому +1

    Wow... God bless you sir, this teaching has really taught me alot. This is exactly what am seeing in my relationship

  • @BrandonsPodcast
    @BrandonsPodcast Рік тому +3

    Thank You Pastor 🙏
    I thought I have learned a lot from you until listening to this one
    Much love from Uganda 🌹🙏🌹

  • @mbahsylvester8095
    @mbahsylvester8095 Рік тому +2

    You are a knowledgeable man sir 🙌🏽

  • @Sim-pb7cw
    @Sim-pb7cw Рік тому

    This has come at a very much needed time. Too many important points. I’m glad I found out about Pastor Kingsley def getting all his books. Kudos to the presenter job well done.

  • @elsie4163
    @elsie4163 Рік тому

    Wooow
    God bless you Pastor
    I have learnt alot
    Soooo Grateful!

  • @Kingboogie001
    @Kingboogie001 Рік тому

    I have learnt alot from pastor K God bless you sir

  • @faithosagie545
    @faithosagie545 Рік тому

    This is a wonderful and great message to women here

  • @ritabaanuo1938
    @ritabaanuo1938 Рік тому

    Don't compromise,well said

  • @ritakane2010
    @ritakane2010 Рік тому +4

    Thank you Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo, more grace 🙏

  • @obiohaannabel4620
    @obiohaannabel4620 Рік тому +1

    I like these message, hits differently 🔥

  • @udembaamaka4891
    @udembaamaka4891 Рік тому +3

    Wowwww to say I've learnt something is an understatement. So wonderful. I'm getting this book ASAP

  • @weyibukun3956
    @weyibukun3956 Рік тому

    I enjoyed and learnt alot when I read the book- Manual. Its so refreshing having to watch the review. Thank you PK for always being a blessing. God bless you Pst Toyin for facilitating the session.
    I must say that, I admire your energy Ma, it made me enjoy the session more.

  • @manelisinagarciavazquez4169

    Thank you sir for sharing knowledge 🙏

  • @ShepD-trending
    @ShepD-trending Рік тому

    My Pastor! Thank you so much Sir