Advantages And Disadvantages In Dating Older Men/How To Handle Them -TheNextDoor Podcast
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- Опубліковано 26 лип 2023
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In this episode we discuss the pros and cons of dating older men and how to handle them.
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If you have to resort to 'asking for money' means you haven't brought or done anything he truly values. A man, especially older who's been working hard to get his life together has no problems making sure the people that add value to his life, not just subtract from it are well looked after.
The problem is most women dont want to hear this. Im not women bashing but when you see things from a one sided selfish point a view you will always have problems in your life
I agree with wat she says. Although there are young women genuinely attracted to older men. Another thing regardless of age relationships are transactional because true gender equality does not exist. Its such a deep rabbit hole but if you travel to Iceland or the Nordics the sexual dynamic and expectations between genders differs to the point where transactional relationships or sex do not exist. Women go after what they want and men accept that in their society.
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Adding value is not givng you money...
Helping you be more financial stable yes butt...
If a older man has to give you money?
He's expecting a return on that investment. And if you don't offer something in tribute to that investment then He will ghost you...
Nothing is free butt..
Being grateful for having someone willing to help will assure more chances to ask again...
Older Men will not give you anything for nothing for very long.
Treat them nice and they will treat you better. Try to get over on them and they will ghost you or play you.
Be advised...lol
No lie told here !!!
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There is only one problem with your philosophy. You are setting the stage for a transactional relationship, a young woman can never win if she is playing that game. You are setting the stage to get traded out when something better comes along and remember, there is a young girl turning 24 year of age every day. Don't focus on the money, focus on the heart and the money will come automatically. Playing your transactional game will get you pennies, play the heart game and you will get dollars without even asking.
SO TRUE THOUGH! build genuine connection, money comes after
You speaking facts
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@@radicalgrrrl true but also - if a man is stingy with monwy and not keen n to spoil you - he's not that into you. Heart and wallet are connected. With my money i show how I feel about you!!
@@AmericanDreamer I have been and ALWAYS will be “stingy” with my money! And unlike a lot of the sad low self-esteem beta males who fall for this low IQ crap ….I actually HAVE money.
I didn’t become a multimillionaire until AFTER I married my much younger wife. But regardless of how much wealth I had I NEVER would have moved any differently.
If ANY of the much younger women I dealt with EVER asked me for anywhere even close to a thousand dollars …she would have gotten put in her place with a stern lecture, a reminder that she can NOT match me intellectually or play me …EVER and that’s where she gets DUMPED!😂
Love this ! I prefer older men anyways.
Why? What do you find appealing?
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I’m an older man in my mid 60’s and financially well off. There is nothing a woman can offer me that I have already experienced. I know she is after my money and resources so hell no! I know the game too well and never be a sugar daddy as well. I get what I want and just buy it.
Thank you for posting this bestie ❤
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Thanks Beautiful, I wish I knew this stuff when I was in my 20s dating older men.
Useful to listen, but I’m 26 years older than my wife. We struggle in some areas but it is working for now
TY. Please try to always be understanding of her POV as her generation is different. Don’t force her to mature faster than she needs as she is still maturing & growing 💗
@@bestienextdoor yeah I get that. But in some areas I got no choice as it is for her own good 😊. Specially money management. As you said I’ll be gone long before her and I want her to be in a good place going forward after that
@@cmsacademy1673 In that aspect you’re absolutely correct
All that axing will leave a man bloody
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bestie thank you so much
Ywc sis ❤️❤️❤️
I don’t believe in using men for their money no matter what ageS I thought this was going to be good content. Iam dating a man who is 20 years older but he had a young mindset and we are very compatible!!!I don’t need to ask him for anything cause he sees my worth … he just provides in every way!
i’ve been with my older man for 3 years and i’m all realizing all this. I think i should end the relationship it’s all hitting me now
i never ask him for everything and he doesn’t ask me he thinks i have everything together.
What is it that he does? Is he not adding to your life ?
5:01 you're the funniest girl this the first video I ever saw and I love you already
This is devaluing yourself as a woman. What we need to be and work on is to be a woman of value and integrity.
Umm, we talk about that here. HOWEVER, older men usually go after YOUNG girls and want to take advantage. This is just the truth, and this is a judgment-free freezone, my dear.
I think the way to learn how to handle older men is to start talking to women their age. They'll tell you. I used to call them "other women's throwaways". Just my two cents, lol
Women (not girls), women in their 20's or in their 50's, doesn't mater what age, shouldn't have to ask their man for money.
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Is that an Aquafina bottle, 9ja way
A message from a father to his Daughter: This is simple 304 talk...... Cat for sale to whom ever will pay the most. A man knows your sex is up for sale so he will never claim you, FU but not love you, because you have place a price on what is priceless to whomever is willing to pay that price. Remember what she said at(11:45) "If he's not giving it to you he will be giving it to the next girl" Same can be said of a woman selling her body and a man knows this and will treat you like a object, brought, used and discarded. I have a continuing car note, so every 30 months I buy a new car, why keep paying on the old one when I can AFFORD a new one.....just a thought.
There’s nothing 304 about it. If a man is in your life before he can even touch you he should show he’s worthy and can provide it’s just that simple. All men want sex REGARDLESS. So saying “cat for sale” we all know a man will do whatever to sleep with the one he finds attractive. You can teach your daughter to be cheap that’s you. The message remains.
@@bestienextdoor ok, time for me to buy a new car.
haha. sounds like women in strip clubs or prostitutes. "ask him for some money" so you gave it away for free in your 20s and now you trying to charge for it lol. guys dont fall in this trap.
Did you have fun in your early 20s ? if yes don't stop other women let them enjoy too
I miss you bestie.
My girllll Rizaaaa miss you tooo ❤️❤️❤️
what about dating a younger guy who has money but don’t give you any at all not for hair or clothes or support simply because he thinks you are doing a good job yourself he is the you are so matured kind of guy with money but keeps taking sex… next caller?
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Ladies if you love a man and hes making sure hes taking care of hes business and your hes number one Priority he will take care of you im 20 years older then my girl do i give her money no i make sure that shes getting her school done getting her to work building her up so she can stand on her own to feet with or with a man all this asking man for money is kinda sad
So asking a man that you fucking is sad? Okayyyyy
Lol. But it’s not sad he’s definitely going to ask for sex?
I can tell you were raised by a woman, I bet she’s sleeping with and you doing the damn bare minimum some of y’all be going after the young ones who are dumb because you know they don’t require anything
It seriously is. This is why the majority of these women are surely destined to die alone with nothing but some stray alley cats 🐈⬛ to accompany them. As a single older man I dated a plethora of young women. Many of them came to me first. “Money” was NEVER a factor in our relationships. One 25-year-old woman was rich while I was just middle class. Even some of the BROKE girls weren’t after my money and they liked being able to take care of their own issues just as they were doing before they met me.
The super beautiful 25-year-old woman that I married at 47 is now married to a multimillionaire. If she was ANYTHING like this woman is telling young women to be, she would definitely NOT be.
We miss you bestie where are you 🥺
Aww I miss y’all tooo 😭 I’m post the pre recording and then I’m transitioning into live streaming by the end of this month
Maybe the title of this video should be “ How to find an older sugar daddy?”
Relationship between two people is not all about money or what can be gained from the other.
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Why are you so beautiful ❤
yesss okay so i’m messing with an older guy and it’s pretty recent like a month in , i haven’t asked for any large amounts yet but he been coming thru with gifts and luxury dinners and some pocket change & even planning to travel with me .. when should i start asking for the large amounts ?
Not more than 30 minutes after good sex
Same imma start asking for bigger amounts as we spend more time
Both of you are only in transactional relationships. The answer is simple do not ask.
its a wonderful experience to run across the older fine sista's who has aged 'very' well (38-60's plus) mature mind still have tight beautiful skin, nice body, eats healthy, smell good, and believe me, the you know what is still good and tight. then your money will not be in that sugah daddy bracket, and you can enjoy each other together for whatever you plan for. these older sista's given them youngin's run for the beggin money. yep its true!
I’m an older guy . You teaching young girls wrong in my opinion…. You telling girls to play on older guys that’s not going to workout to well sorry .
I can agree with a few notions here but a lot of this just feels like financial objectification to my ears _(I understand logically it may not be I’m speaking from the emotional stand point because of my values so I still respect your viewpoints and gave your video a “like” ❤)_
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I agree wholeheartedly
This is so Toxic all I hear is money. Women give women bad advice. It makes sense why passport bro's community is growing.
Then you’re deaf. You think international women aren’t on money timing. Girl BYE
You are 100% RIGHT! My much younger foreign WIFE was a professional woman and expecting to work her entire life and she was fine with that. She talked about us building together and building a family. I purposely downplayed my income and we NEVER talked about finances.
She married for love as did I. It was only on our wedding day that I showed her my last paycheck. She couldn’t believe how much money I made …and she thought it was for one month. I then told her that was only for two weeks. Only then that I reveal to her that she would never ever have to work a job again for the rest of her life.
This is all TERRIBLE advice!
Mamn sorry but I completely disagree with you. If you’re dating an older man and say you’re a high value woman who knows her worth and is independent… you shouldn’t have to be asking him for money… he will just provide!!!! A man loves an independent woman and that will drive him to give. That’s what my man does at least!!!
You are describing a totally different minor league of older men and younger women.The more sophisticated,wealthier,secured,astute older men and younger women operates at a totally different level you are obviously unfamiliar with.Example, the Trumps of the world,most celebrities and many others.Older men,younger women relationships was never designed for the demographics you address.
50% of this is good the other is rubbish.
If the guy ain’t doing nothing for the new life …why is he there?
He taking up space 😂