Explaining Asperger's/Autism - Christian A. Stewart-Ferrer (PART 1/2)
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Christian Stewart-Ferrer is a clinical psychologist in private practice ("Tidens Psykologer") in Odense, Denmark - and an adjunct clinical instructor at the University of Southern Denmark.
He has worked extensively with people with Autism Spectrum Conditions for a number of years, and is himself diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome.
Christian does counseling, therapy, assessments, and supervision, both nationally and internationally, also via video connection. Read more at:
autismepsykologen.dk/in-engli...
eng-psych.dk/ - Наука та технологія
I am age 72, and was diagnosed with Asperger's on 7 April 2017. Had to live all of my life with this cross, not knowing what the problem was. Good to see more attention being paid to this syndrome.
Harry Andruschak Hi - I'm 52 and was diagnosed 2 years ago. I wish I had known all this sooner.
Indeed - especially since adult diagnosis is still lagging behind, so many people still don't know why they have a feeling of not fitting in, of falling short of other people's expectations (which end up becoming their own expectations toward themselves), etc. - and the enormous inner costs of energy and desperation that people on the outside cannot see! I'm glad you found the answer, but sad that you had to wait so long for it :-( ! My very best wishes for you - C.
Harry Andruschak you are an inspiration & I was diagnosed at 50 years with functional autism with vision & know why my life became for good or bad! Advice those who been diagnosed later not to have regrets but live life to the fullest & continue to work within in living with autism. Today, I am a professional artist in California & have made many accomplishments & is continuing to do so! Thank you.
Good to hear that you made it through! All the best, C.
Diane
Same here
;~)
You cracked a lot of good jokes and nobody laughed, but I was smiling or laughing. I wondered if those were perfect examples of neurotypicals not getting people on the autism spectrum.
Lisa Wallace -I’m neurotypical, but with a son with an Aspergers profile. I too was laughing and smiling at the jokes.
I think it's already a good thing that you wonder about this. Many employers don't (for various reasons, I don't mean to blame them). If I may offer a suggestion, I think it is best to ask the person directly what they can / can't handle. Every aspie's different. If you can establish some sort of trust, I think they will gladly tell you what they can manage and what needs to be adjusted.
@ Charity Comments - There may be exceptions, but it’s likely a person with autism will tell you what they need if you ask. If you’re not sure whether or not an employee has autism or not, but you suspect he does, you can still ask if he what his best work environment would be without specifically addressing autism. If you can accommodate him, you’ve lost nothing whether he is autistic or not. Most people are more effective and efficient at work when they can work in an environment suited to their preferences and personalities anyway.
People with autism are just balanced out a little differently - what neurotypicals consider “limitations” in people with autism are just differences is their wiring. If you look at what they can actually do, they typically excel many times over and beyond neurotypicals.
@ Charity Comments - the Dr. put out another UA-cam video on his own channel. Look at his replies to my comment - he was gracious enough to give some reference material.
I thought that was entirely weird as well.
As an autistic person, I'm learning things about neurotypicals watching that video...
The obsession with truth I definitely have and have had all my life. I could easily have been the child who corrected his teacher on the subject of Russian access to the sea and to this day I sometimes find it necessary to nitpick people's statements (though I do often forbear). But I also feel for the poor teacher who probably thought he was making a perfectly valid generalization.
I have in the past been accused of always wanting to be right, which struck me as an odd statement as I can't think of a single reason why I would ever want to be wrong.
Because I have the same tendency, I learned from your comment that "forbear" and "forebear" are both words and have different definitions. I'm the type to look up things when I'm not sure, so the internet is a blessing. My teachers were also annoyed. :)
NT communication is cryptic and even manipulative, autists communicate much more directly allowing our true intentions to be understood, and as we all well know when people don’t understand something, Like an autistic person speaking their true intentions in every sentence unlike many NTs they hate what they fail to understand if anything it’s NTs that lack Empathy( I’m generalizing this isn’t applicable to all of these people)
It’s quite painful when I see the erected dressed human animal primate in front of me accusing me of using behavioural psychology and biology to explain his own behaviour… NT’s most of the time are like open book that I don’t even want to read. I’ve been accused many times “ You always want to be correct aren’t you bstrd “. Actually no, I just stating an opinion and their competitive nature kicks in and they think I’m fighting for social status… so yeah not a big fan NT…
I got kicked out of a college class for correcting and arguing with the instructor after he stated, quite matter of factly, that the Roman empire, pre-Christianity, was atheist in nature.
Well, the previous term I had just taken a history course and learned that that was indeed untrue. So I corrected him. The citizens of the roman empire were very diverse in religious beliefs, and further the emperor, or Caesar, was to be regarded as a god in his own right.
In fact, there was a time when Christians (pre-fall of the empire, when it was not yet Christian) were persecuted on the basis of refusing to worship the emperor and the Roman gods in any way, shape, or form, even though they would be allowed to continue practicing Christianity, they simply had to pay homage to the Roman gods along with it.
He did not take the correction kindly, it devolved into an argument (argument is a strong word, he was arguing with me, I simply continued to repeat the facts) over the religious beliefs of the Roman empire, and in the end I was labeled as unruly and disruptive. I was then excused from attending further sessions without receiving the demerit of losing attendance credit, much to my approval seeing as I did not need to listen to him ramble for three hours to obtain the information I could learn in less than one from reading the assigned texts.
@@BasedZoomer Absolutely Brilliant🙂 Well done for standing your ground.
I had a similar experience in a college setting.
I couldn’t understand a tutor explaining how a chimney on a house in a scale drawing, was a certain height.
Then adding this to the height of the house, came to a certain measurement.
I disagreed because it didn’t compute.
It took me the rest of the lesson to get my point across, meanwhile annoying most of the class.
In the end once everyone had left.
I walked up to the board and physically showed the tutor what I could see from the back of the class.
He finally got it😇😇😇
This could be called “Explaining neurotypicals” just as well. I definitely gained some useful knowledge about NTs from this. :)
William Stewart "national everyone society" or "national Nero typical society"
Since we've all been hanging around NTs all our lives, understanding our own condition makes it much easier to understand those who don't have it.
Its amazing what happens when someone isn't forced into a mold. He's brilliant. He is giving the best real world examples. He's found the words and how to use them to break the communication barrier, as well as illustrate it perfectly.
Hello, my name is Omar I am from Mexico and I am diagnosed with asperger or spectrum as you wish, this video was really helpful, it's being 2 weeks since I diagnosed myself and a week since a professional did, it's a shame this condition is almost unknown in countries like mine, Mexico, great work
Hey Omar, I am in Mexico too. And self diagnosed autistic after many years of having to live in a world with weird expectations. I would LOVE to talk to you. We need to make good information about autism available to help our kind here!
@@dyctiostelium Pero por supuesto, si quieres envíame un mensaje por FB, Omar Skill Barba
I loved the first 53 years of my life not knowing I am autistic, and when I found out the relief was huge.
Before that I thought I was cursed for something I had done in a former life, and to make it worse I was encouraged to believe this by people who thought they were spiritualists.
Now I live happily in my own space and I know why I am different.
I have had to explain to my wife several times that saying I will do something and then not being able to do it is not lying. Nor is it breaking a promise if I forget to take the trash out.
Both being Aspie, we still bump heads over misunderstandings.
This happens with my daughter
You need to set alarms with reminders.Just as it's not their fault they don't understand you,and you don't understand them.Things like trash are germs in your house.And is very important to get into the habit of.I do things as rewards to myself.After I do norm things I look up stuff I'm interested in.And only allot a certain amount of time on reward for the work I had to do.We need to learn that others needs are as important as our own.If not we're running others off.They don't want to be our mom or dad,they want to be our mate.Took me a while to get into that habit!Oh geeze its hard,but doable after building a habit of it.
I can't believe how someone can summarize my social life in a one hour presentation. Great work, sir.
maskeagle that’s awesome! And I’m in full agreement. But...
You did listen to the remaining two hours, right?
Cheers!
it is actually an hour and 24 minutes.
David Yes, and when you add the running time of part two... together, it’s roughly three hours.
NTs in my experience lie to end phone conversations. Got to run, so and so says it's dinner time, just pulled into my driveway, my phone battery is at 1%, etc. I don't need an excuse. I didn't want to have a phone conversation to begin with.
White lies,small talk and all that other annoying pleasantries is merely to have the facade of being a polite,friendly and in-touch indivdual. Not all NTs really enjoy this stuff (in fact many hate it) but it's kind of engrained and we feel obligated to follow certain customs and worry about what others think.
Even NTs can have trouble understanding other people, other NTs and their intent- it can be exhausting and frustrating too. I think most of the interactions between NTs and Autistic people are just minor misunderstandings/frustrations not getting across as well as it should. Like for instance, I dislike lots of eye-contact unless I am very familiar with the person (but not always) but I do it because it is expected- usually more intensely if its like.. a doctor's appointment or something 'serious'. But I can also see how such lack of eye contact may come across as 'not paying attention' too.
So yeah, TL;DR I dont think we are too different in minor social annoyances, we just handle them differently.
This is excellent and Stewart-Ferrer even looks like he's having a good time doing it.
He is. We seem to all really enjoy imparting knowledge (sometimes even when nobody is really listening, or even cares to hear it). I know I do. He is doubly blessed in that his information is extremely valuable & useful.
I'm forcing my wife to watch the whole presentation (which, in all, is 3 hours 4 minutes & 27 seconds long). Anyone who must have to communicate with or to a person on the spectrum should really watch this & comprehend it!
Yes !! Indeed . He reminds me of my friend “Geeves “ 🤣
I appreciate this so much! Most literature/talks explain the autistic mind but it really helps me to have some insight into how NTs experience life.
Yes! I've found neurotypicals, for the most part, think that their feelings are facts. So if there's a misunderstanding between two people and the non-autistic person becomes very angry, even if the misunderstanding is made clear and the non-autistic accepts that it was a misunderstanding (or says they do), the non-autistic person often seems to require an apology anyway because those feelings must be assuaged. This is not true with everyone of course. Meanwhile, I'm laughing at myself because I continue to have trouble figuring out how to extricate myself from a conversation.
I was told by a psychologist recently it may be beneficial for me to explore an Asperger Diagnosis. I was recently diagnosed ASD Level 1. I'm 52. In all honesty, it was seeing Dr. Stewart-Ferrer's video that made me pursue the diagnosis. I now feel more relieved, liberated and positive than ever. Dr. Stewart-Ferrer calls himself "Autistic And Proud" and now so do I. Dr. Christian - My sincerest thanks for your inspiration.
Two years later from a random commenter: I hope things are going well for you and that the diagnosis continues to help!
Nice, I'm so glad there is a part 2. Stellar work. As an Asperger, this is hyper-accurate (and precise).
This is brilliant! I love how this Professor is turning the tables and discussing NT too. Very informative on ND and NT brains and behaviours etc. He explains it so well, thank you! I have tried to explain this to NT ie about how it is shed with groups in social situations as I have to process their thoughts, feelings, facial expressions, body language, who they are, what they are about. It’s overwhelming and I want to leave the situation and end up sitting there quiet and appearing un interested.
This presentation is amazing. I'm making my wife watch it at gunpoint (okay, not really, I don't even own a gun). Everyone who must need to communicate with someone on the spectrum (being everyone who isn't a forrest-dwelling cave hermit) needs to watch this presentation & absorb it completely. It's worth every bit of the 3 hours, 4 minutes, & 27 seconds invested in watching the entire presentation!
The length & breadth of his presentation just goes to show how many & myriad our differences are. Watching it all in one presentation, I suddenly realized why NTs have so much trouble translating us. Even though there is little physical difference between us, we are wired very differently. I myself am still "stumbling for the words" since I only recently realized that I was on the spectrum at 35 (I'm 37 now). I can tell you I would have liked to have this information many years & many traumas (physical & mental) ago, it would have spared me so much pain & anguish.
It's also no wonder that is hard for NTs to process our differences since, in many societies, they are taught that everyone is either the same or meant to be. While total conformity to an ideal has been very societally useful (at a higher level anyway), it has also ingrained the perception of "different" as "less", which is terribly unfortunate. If people were taught to accept neurological differences as they are to accept racial differences (in theory anyway) we would see a lot less unintentional discrimination.
Thank you!
P.S.: another amazing presentation, one which honestly made break down crying, is this one:
ua-cam.com/video/cF2dhWWUyQ4/v-deo.html
Carrie Beckwith-Fellowes almost describes my life verbatim, even down to the exact age at which I realized I was on the spectrum.
Durham Bell Thank you for the link to the other presentation. I Found it very interesting.
The forest-dwelling cave hermit is probably autistic.
I never felt so special in all my life xx amazing
Finally true recognition in my diagnosis as an autist! This is by far the best video/lecture I have seen so far on this subject. Thank you so much!
Thank you - I am very glad that this was helpful! All the best, C.
Christian Stewart-Ferrer I just recently found out I have aspergers syndrome. This explain alot of stuff that I have been struggling with. I also wondered why I was so different from everyone else. I tried my hardest to fit in and recently I have been going through what is called autistic burnout and I swear I thought I was legitimately going crazy. Someone would talk to me And I would just blank out and completely miss all the information the person was saying to me.
I read alot about the symptoms I was having and I saw alot of parallel with autistic burnout.
Thank you for this lecture; I was recently diagnosed at 36, watching this has been enlightening.
Thank you - I am very happy to have been of service! My very best wishes, C.
I've recently been diagnosed with Aspergers at the age of 40. This is the most informative and educational information I have dug up yet. You Sir, are fantastic.
Tusind tak Christian. Vi mangler fokus og gensidig forståelse, os og de neurotypiske imellem. Du hjælper med lige netop det.
The most difficult part of trying to be comfortable in an autistic world (being a neuro-typical) is the uncomfortable (for me) silence. I feel a need to fill silence with small talk. My Aspie is perfectly happy with silence.
Boo hoo.
@@reginawarburton3255 ? Elaborate
@@wldncrzy1971 you speak of your discomfort of being NT in an autistic world as you having to fill silence. You have no consideration for the actual problems and downright suffering the ND community goes through. Stop being so selfish.
Excellent! So insightful... I am sharing it with everyone I can... Thank you for giving me such a wonderful resource. I love your sense of humor!
I am enjoying this thoroughly so far. I Appreciate how you are presenting this, and the effort it takes to do this. Thank you.
"Certain aspects of the world might improve"... I love it! Yes, let's change the focus of Autism Speaks from curing autism to curing neurotypicals.
Loved this, you have a great sense of humour.loved the depth of your insight. Waiting for diagnosis but certain I have Aspergers at 57 yrs of age.why aren't people laughing?
Leigh Mason I am 57 and just discovered I have Aspergers too. All the questions and puzzle pieces of my life have finally come together. It’s been a long ride, the last half of my life will definitely be different.... in a good way.
Thank you very much for your insight on neurotypicals' functionning. I have been "scrutinizing" their behavior my whole life (not knowing I was an aspie until recently) and some stuff I never was able to explain. This is VERY helpful! (and as already mentioned below, I too thought your jokes were very funny) Thank you.
Thanks for this video. My son is autist. He is 3 years old. Thank you from Russia!
so who is the autistic parent? you or the father? or someone else from the family?
@@lizvlx I m a mom of autistic son
@@eugeniya5406 yes, i understand. but autism is genetic. so either you, or the child's father or at least 1 of the grandparents must be autistic.
@@lizvlx do you think so? I am a left hand, me and my husband are introvert persons. 🙄Maybe.... But son is doesn't verbal yet.... It's so sad😔
@@eugeniya5406 oh it must be so frustrating for you and your son to be non-verbal at age 3. how are you doing with non-verbal communication?
Also, both you and your husband should assess yourselves online for autism. there are some very good online tools and basically - if you score high on them, it is accurate.
i am sure your son is an awesome kid - do you have a dog or a cat?
This was a fantastic talk! Thank you very much for this valuable insight.
I’m just ecstatic that he’s using the correct form of the word ‘regard’.
i was your 1000 th subscriber because 1. i wanted you to feel happy 2. i have ocd
I loved your presentation. It makes so much sense to me! Very well explained. I laughed about many points bc they are relevant to much frustration and arguments I've been in before with NT
This lecture is magnificent. Thank you.
Rather than saying all autistics just don't understand non-verbal communication my personal experience is that I have always believed it unreliable and therefore required verbal confirmation of person's feelings. There are so many variables to be taken into consideration when processing everything at once that I couldn't possibly assume what someone's emotion is. A sad face might mean anger, fear, disappointment, disapproval etc. how am I supposed to know for sure? I was often told what my emotions were by NT parent (and not allowed to contradict) and he was mostly dead wrong, especially about my motives. It was extremely painful. I wouldn't do that to anyone. I can make a guess at how they feel but will always feel unsure and try to verbally confirm. I actually think I am better at reading people than many others but just can't make up my mind and assume because it might hurt someone. This hesitancy impairs my ability to react in sympathy (as does my no-touchy bubble). I sometimes feel physically sick from others' pain, I will just not show it as it's not my place to highjack that attention, I find that so arrogant. I do agree though that I have been extremely naive and terrible at reading the motives of snake oil salesmen/wolves in sheep's clothing. It took me to age 30 to comprehend that people can be inauthentic and intentionally use or harm people whilst still acting like they are the good guys above everyone else. It's not a safe world for innocent minds.
miss nomer Thank you for expressing thoughts I hold but have not seen expressed elsewhere. Non verbal communication is so unreliable, it feels like guess-work half the time, how can you act with confidence if you don't know exactly what someone's body language is saying?
Very right. I had acid reflux (heartburn) for a while and NTs were always getting cross with me because they assumed from the look on my face that I was thinking rude things about what they were saying. I think the big difference is that auties will ask you while NTs assume they know how you're feeling.
@@clarsamcelhaney9853 I think the only people that can read body language successfully are females with very high empathy. Fear and anxiety are destructive to the individual, and those close to them, but it is psychopaths, that have no anxiety, which is destructive to our species. Things will change when we all have an exaflop computer (human-level intelligence) as a personal assistant. Our world will be more computational. We will have a better understanding of how our genes control cortisol (low levels decrease anxiety) and serotonin (low levels increase anxiety). No more Miss Diagnosed or Miss Understood we will soon know everything.
luv your name btw 👍🏻
Thank you for such an insightful and educational comment. As a neurotypical I find it very helpful.
I am sorry that you were not given your voice as a youngster - that is something I genuinely can relate to in my own family of origin. My Mum would not allow me to explain myself and my feelings.
I wish that other people i might send this to would find the time to watch it, and understand it. It’s a guide to understanding me
Upon my 6 year old son being diagnosed, I have inadvertently diagnosed myself, as well
Once I dug into the research, I have discovered that I very much am an exceptional human myself.
Exciting times as we now learn to navigate this world knowing why we may no be completely understood.
Thanks for your information.
Going strong this many years later!.
I totally get your sense of humour 😊🙏🏻
Teaching my 13yo son nuances is the hardest part of parenting, as an autistic and with an autistic child.
Your lecture encouraged me do get diagnosed. Thank you so much. Felt 50+ years like a sociopathic asshole.
Thank you thank you Christian! You explain my everyday life so clearly and eloquently. I must say that what one of the biggest causes of my depression and anxiety is that I always seem to disappoint employers. I have had more than 10 jobs, and the majority of them has ended with extremely disappointed gazez from my employers and me not knowing what in the world went wrong. I was friendly, did my job, volunteered and so on, but still I didnt fit in and felt that I was doing something wrong. I dont tell them that I have aspergers, I dont think they would understand anyway. Thank you again.
They're just Social leeches, don't worry about it.
Great, great lecture!
That was a really fascinating talk. Your mention of BPD made me wonder how is it expressed differently in autistics than neurotypicals. All my BPD friends are autistic, and they all seem more rational and less dramatic than what I read about borderlines. Their BPD is more like invisble poison they are painfully aware of, rather than a erupting vulcano neurotypical borderlines seem to be blind to or deny.
Wow, auties with BPD...that has to be quite a challenge for them and others. Show them this video!
What a wonderful talk.
48:35 i really had to laugh at this point because this is so true (and really well explained! )
Absolutely fantastic lecture, can't express how much this helped me, thank you so much!! Also I would like to make a submission for "most ASC comment/observation" in that the picture of the guitar at 21.44 really bugged me because for some reason there are only 5 bridge pins and not 6!!!! (this was the only fault i could find so that tells you how much I enjoyed the talk!) Thank you once again!! :)
Such an insightful lecture - thank you so much the information explained has been very useful in understanding the human brain whether autistic or not.
Just excellent
I like studio ghibli animated films also like Grave Of The Fireflies. I am sure there are also people who like the similar disney animated films.
Thank you for this video a great insight into - well - me
Happy to hear that it's useful :-) ! Wishing you all the best, C.
Christian you have such a posh accent it is wonderful. The reason I am listening to your video is because one of my female colleagues has had issues at work and I feel she may have some element of aspergers. I thought your video may give me a greater understandng of her circumstances and why she interacts the way she does. Best wishes from Ireland.
Wonderful talk. My son is 11, so we are dealing with major social issues from his asbergers/spectrum symptoms really showing up.
This was anazing! I wish I could share this with my loved ones who do not speak english.
Thank you for this enlightening information!
I like the triangles idea But I did it a completely different way. I really love how this was thought through though with the triangles, and then boiled down into something so simplistic it's beautiful
Tak bror
I have trouble understanding how people feel but I'm not terrible at it either. It takes conscious effort though. I'm sure I could train myself to do it automatically.
Excellent! emotionizing and systemizing aspect was very close (at least the way I feel) and had some details. I think I can explain that in great detail. Autistics can teach themselves. It's more of a disconnection it's not that they don't have something that's ridiculous . I know from experience and that's, I have dealt with it personally that's why I discovered how To align your thoughts . Remember all of this starts from the need to organize.
All of these things are there the problem is organizing them all and being able to Correlate effectively
But remember everything is changed depending on the scale and the broadness of view.
After your last brilliant speech i Greve, DK - I had an anxiety attack on my way home, which proves. your speech hit home! However - I was diagnosed.
Thank you!
Very enlightening lecture there. Many don’t know if they haven’t had an Apocalypse of the Parousia that they WONT see the Erkamiah !!
There should be more Aspie shrinks like Christian. I've been to two NT shrinks and they were both worse than useless to me.
I got diagnosed autistic at 28 and I decided to obtain a master's degree in educational psychology and I'm wondering what you think about the fact that those with lesser symptoms often go underdiagnosed. I can look people in the eye just fine, if I concentrate hard enough. A lot of the problems such as needing to be right and knowing the Truth is something I used to struggle with but eventually I think I grew out of because I'm much more lenient and tolerant of other people's mistakes and opinions (even though I'm right!)
Yes you could envision it that way definitely. I would say the colour picker is actually a more precise description of the same gradient. It produces nice mental imagery for me of an object sitting somewhere in 3D space and I would further add that inclusion of time would be a good next-step. If you add time, you get a spherical gradient that changes over time. This could symbolize your growth and change in preferences over time. I think we are on the same page here. I recommend try to be yourself always, and without anxiety about being yourself. Biodiversity should always be celebrated.
The best way to consider it, is that it is just a label. If a person is familiar with the symptoms, they would understand many things about you instantly, but ASD labels also tend to bring negative connotation. I would note for you that many people over history that are wildly successful have what they call "autistic or asperger traits". Traits is a good word because it allows you to borrow what you need and leave the rest. I have an article for you: hkage.org.hk/en/events/080714%20APCG/01-%20Keynotes%20&%20Invited%20Addresses/1.6%20Geake_The%20Neurobiology%20of%20Giftedness.pdf
Basically, there is a gray area between asperger and mentally gifted. I am one of those people. I have never had issues with social cues or making friends, but it is possible that my intellect is high enough to allow me to have learned at a young age how the system works and learn how to appear normal using only first principles reasoning. That's why the gray area I just mentioned is so significant. It may be the same for you, but at the end of the day, it doesn't matter. All that matters is I just let you know that mentally gifted shares a lot of the same traits as asperger, so you will release more positive chemicals in your brain by believing you are gifted rather than asperger. That's my opinion anyway. I scored a 15 or so last time I did one of those AQ tests. A couple years ago someone told me I may have asperger, so I started extensively researching it LOL. I also did the mensa sampler test and got the same result as you, but I've always been extremely fast at identifying patterns. I am a software engineer. I would recommend the profession to anyone similar: constant unique puzzles 24/7, make mince meat out of math and logic.
This is an extremely good video as well to give yourself some logical fuel: ua-cam.com/video/4ACWHS_G9GI/v-deo.html
Quick mention. You said 30 on the AQ and I said 15. Maybe that is just a fancy way of saying we have different personalities. I could easily jump 10 points if I preferred one thing differently than I do.
Likewise thanks. My only real reply to that is that a person is like a snowflake, with an infinite combination of preferences, so basically there is no catch-all solution. Temple helps in that direction, and I really love how she steers such minds towards technical jobs. I would recommend the same to you. There is something critically important about highly technical jobs, especially computer-related because the ambient noise levels are low 24/7 and brain usage is sky high along with constantly unique challenges to solve. It's like getting paid a lot of money to drive to a random location and complete a sudoku puzzle for someone. People like us love routines, not usually because we are afraid of change but because we like specific known parameters. Unpredictable unknowns cause anxiety because we are constantly processing every individual piece of stimulus we encounter AND extrapolating that with everything we know. It's mentally taxing and usually avoided if possible. That's how I would describe it anyway. many ASD people might not be able to articulate it that way. I love changes and crazy stuff happening if I have permission to do what I feel is objectively correct. We are not optimized for quick decisions and top-down thinking. We are optimized for maximally thorough analysis and detail work and bottom-up thinking. Keep in mind also that something like 99% of all technological innovations in history were made by people that exhibited Asperger traits. I have derived great power in understanding how the brain-type works.
This made me laugh and I loved everything that was said🙌🏽
On, my GOD! He's been following me around for 40 years. I feel so violated.
What are you talking about?
Omg i do the leg twisting thing! In fact I have aggravated my nerves in my knees and ankles
This is very interesting. Thank you.
8:10 - I was aware of that, though it's still really interesting. A communication experiment/study between neurotypical's (Nt's) and those on the Spectrum (S) where they did a sort of Chinese whispers thing. The message to be conveyed returned correct in the all Nt group and in the S group, but when there was a mixture of the two groups, miscommunication was clear and present!
15:20 - As a kid/teenager I'd often annoy my mother with repetitive leg movements, some 25-30yrs later we now both know what or why I was doing what I was doing! Looking back at your life, post-diagnosis, there's a lot of 'Oh yeah, that makes sense' or is at least somewhat explained. My 4th & 5thyr primary school teacher reported he's highly intelligent, but he's always day-dreaming, staring out the window, though seemingly not paying attention could still answer, and wouldn't willingly interact unless it was a subject of interest; that started a trend. Academically gifted, socially lacking!
16:20 - I think our social thinking and behaviour explains why many of us don't gravitate towards religion. -we believe- I know, give me science and fact any day! > 48:40
Autist's are funny. I know I've got a wicked* sense of humour, * in both senses of the word!
I'm not crazy*, I'm just operating at a level beyond your (their) comprehension!
I am.. Insane with a Capital 5... but why complicate things for them!! >XD
42:40 - Yes! I'm HFA, interacting is possible but it is tiring, moreso with Nt's, brain's working 2 or 3x faster to keep up, analyzing gestures, tones, body language words and contexts and translate it NT - S - NT
53:01 - Funny, I find my Eyes logo on my T-shirt which says 'No Fear'.
Bunch of people running down the road, one guy says what's going on? A lion's escaped from the zoo!! Which way did it go? You don't think we're chaFsing it!!
1:00:00 - I do have emotions, but much like my self, they don't much of the light. I've always valued logic, it's a contributing factor to, as well as a result of, reasoned thought, scientific in its nature, it is what it is regardless of emotions, feelings; logic is the same for all, NT or AS. Truth is a location, logic is a map, if the logic is sound and based on truth all conclusions should be true. I have at times been thought of as cold-hearted or uncaring when in fact I was just being logical; not on Spock's level; maybe a Proto-Vulcan! >XD
1:00:24 - Joke was under appreciated!
So I enjoy Horror films so much cause they're my people!
1:01:44 - Ha!! Speak of the pointy-eared Devil
This was a really interesting video!
I had a large frontal brain tumour removed @45 yrs Old, my behaviour & attitude have changed so noticeable even I'm aware of IT, but honestly I wasn't aware DAT the traits U speak Of wAs Me My whole Life YeT I thought it was normal, I was socially acceptable to myself and others, Now I can so relate to autism on a level, IT feels like a disability...I have not been diagnosed.
21 July 2019
I think it's a little more accurate to say that auties need *context* to interact rather than that we require "purpose". It's like visualizing an object. NTs are more able to envision an object hanging in non-space as an "idea", while auties see it in a context. That's why an autie stresses about going to new places, or knowing what people will be doing when they get together. We can't really imagine existing without a context to exist in. There's a degree of trust in NTs, I think, that they'll be alright in any context. I don't have that. I know how to interact in a croquet game or a choral rehearsal. But at break, when people are getting snacks, there are too many variables, too many unspoken social/hierarchical rules, not to mention random movements and bumping into each other and other unpredictable stimuli.
I love watching videos about autism and Aspergers and reading the comments as compared to other subjects on UA-cam. The 'fights' here seem to be much more thoughtful and well written, and considerate of all points of view, stating their argument and the reasons for or against their point, without dumb insults or non productive banter. I find it frustrating when the neuro-typical persons in positions of worldly change make decisions based on emotions versus the logical conclusion based on history and science or mathematical models. I see how arguments here often have a structured way of being stated, countered, explained, solved and finally concluded in an almost professional manner, with the feeling of respect towards the opponent. I feel because we hold the value of our underestimated emotions so highly, we respect that others have a point as view as well and hopefully try to understand their side before letting biased emotion cloud our thought process. Plus we tend to be picky about grammar and vocabulary so it's pleasant to read literate and cohesive conversation as well. The speaker says it well halfway into the video (39:20) about systemizing vs. emotionizing, about "what is right" vs "WHO is right". Well said.
a genious talk! smart and funny
I have Aspergers. It is wonderful to be with other Aspies. It is neurotypicals that are the odd and difficult people. I am so glad to be Aspie, and in many ways I pity neurotypicals and their morass of emotional thinking, and their need for excessive human companionship.
Not all NTs require "excessive human companionship". That's a generalisation.
Well fall into many different groups in the way we process information and situations. This includes the fact that some of us are extroverts who do enjoy, and are energised by, being with other people, and some are introverts who enjoy and are energised by spending time alone. :-)
More of this should be done
To quote the well known film "you look as shitty to us as we do to you", sums things up very nicely. Extra points to those who know the film :)
Ohhhh...this is such a great explanation of much of my autistic experience that I want to send it to all my NT friends who struggle to understand. But...of course...they don't possess the attention span to actually get through it ;)
Also: have you noticed how you often sniff directly after making an amusing or particularly pointed point? I've been doing it all my life, and my wife and daughter only remarked on it recently.
Oops s forgot the subtitles, can someone add them please
*When you're on the spectrum trying to watch a video about being on the spectrum but every 5 seconds you lose focus and forget what's happening*
The situation with the "autistic Truth" with big T fits me perfectly. I always tell the truth because i look after everything in details but nobody cares about it. Everyone think I have ridiculous opinions. Wether it is politilogist, historic fact, or sociological, scientific. Doesn't matter to anyone, only what they "like". Normal people are incredibly selfish and narrow minded. Even a friend who is a special education teacher (who spotted my odd traits) said I am annoying when I do these fact and advices, because nobody says the truth but their truth. And even when I say "so flat earthers are right?" she said " well, they said their truths".
Cognitive dissonance to protect her stupid selfish ego. Despite I only want to aid her.
And it is incredibly frustrating that people make up truths based on their childish egoistic feelings. Imagine like talking to a person who says "Holocaust never happened". Would that be okay to say that he / she is right just because truth is based only on emotional perspective?
Normal people feel before think, I think before feeling anything. And mostly annoyed and tired, that's what i feel toward people. Like in kindergarden where I was the only one who could read and check after maps, countries, and ecology. No one believed in me, even kindergarden teachers were like " what's wrong with this one?". "You were supposed to sing with the others and learn that Nemes Nagy Ágnes poem about "childish blabla".
Dogs listen to me with more curiosity and admire, despite they only understand my tone and like 1-200 word commands.
And even after applying for a test, still waiting with one message saying "wait for your turn" It happened 6 months ago. Diagnosis for adults can be applied at 2 places in my country.
Rafinho32
The earth is a plane with zero evidence of its sphericity. Try and debunk flat earth and you'll join the movement. There us no discernible curve without using a fish eye lens.
charging7, correct.
people talking about the audience not laughing, i heard laughter, it could be that the purpose of the lecture was to hear the speaker and not the audience, unlike a comedy show the audience probably didnt have mics all around them.
What a nicely fitted suit.
22:50 dang, I wish he’d talked a little more about that “small number of people.” I need to know more about this, and how it works so I can try to harness it somehow. I need to, because that would be preferable to how I’m coping with it currently, which is spending as much time alone as possible. As the doctor so aptly put it here... no, it does not help me very much.
Tough crowd.
Spock has emotions but suppresses them. Vulcans are, by nature, highly emotional and passionate. They were destroying themselves with constant wars until a philosophy of emotionless logic spread.
A bunch of Vulcans left the planet and became the Romulans.
The subtitles disappeared suddenly early on. I have difficulties following without them. Wondering if it's the video or my phone there is something wrong with
Hard to listen to but good information 🙊
I've seen this video before. I like it. Thanks
I'm laughing hysterically!!
English subtitles doesn't work, please fix it
I think i have asbergers because i dont have language problems and i dont have problems with cracking jokes and i can read body language.
However,i have some of the rare symptoms like hating walking on my feet without socks.ive been walking on my tippy toes.i also have the sharing info too much symptom. I will constsntly research narrow information and never see the whole picture,so to say.
Also,i do tell everyone what i learn all the time,cuz im a documentary addict.i sent my mom videos every day. But im no genius.in fact i have zero skills,since i suck at talking to people. But i read you can get better by changing your diet.i dont know the specifics yet...see i constantly share a lot of info in the comments section A LOT
The way you speak reminds me so much of Oliver Sacks. I'm not exactly sure what it is that I am hearing that makes me think this but I wonder if you have heard this before?
As a Dane, it always amazes me how many of my fellow Danes don't know that they pay the churches. I myself am nowhere near being a believer in God, but I'll still happily pay to the churches because they're a part of our history, and I like the aesthetic of the architecture and the quiet. I've never heard anyone else having the same reasons why to pay as myself and I can't help to wonder if it's because of my autism? Because it seems to be a much more "logical choice" rather than the typical emotional reasons such as "that it's how it always has been in my family",
The natives... I love it
Ha! What he just said about crucifying the teacher, my brain did indeed go to literally, physically doing so immediately followed by thinking probably not or he'd have told the story different. Sigh.
Also, there are Autistic ppl, particularly women, that are referred to as chameleons - oddly enough.
And manipulators. My experience is that what people accuse me of is about them, not me. When I hear, "You always think you're right," I laugh out loud. I always question everything, including my own name. What makes me think I *know* that? Of course we try to observe, imitate, and fit in - and it's exhausting! How others perceive that (chameleon, manipulative, arrogant, etc.) is all about them. One can't be diagnosed or cleared based on some NTs projections.
The part where he is like oh the student got obsessed by the idea that the teacher is misinforming their students and needs to correct it.. Me in a nutshell
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"Club Membership Dues"
(Interesting perspective)
Christian, how did Aspergers affect your training in Aikido?
is it possible not to be diagnosed all your life?
In principle, yes; but that is because diagnosis is based on observable symptoms, so while you may learn to control certain symptoms, you will remain autistic all your life, but get rid of your formal diagnosis.
You may e.g. learn not to "stim" (such as having one leg vibrate when seated), just as you may learn how to perform "small talk" (having an inner list of subjects, or even an inner procedure similar to that of a friendly journalist interviewing someone about her/his life) - but your mind will spend a lot of energy controlling stimming (or redirecting in a socially acceptable manner - if you are an elderly gentleman living in Greece, fingering "prayer beads" is almost expected!), or administering the "small talk procedure" to fit in, even though you would actually prefer talking about [insert special interest], or even going away from one person and trying to find someone with whom you share interests.
In Denmark, where I live, alcohol consumption among youths is disconcertingly high, and between the ages of around 15 and 25, you really stand out if you don't drink, or just drink moderately! One of my clients was a wonderful young lady in her early twenties who had made this fact work for her: She was actually extrovert (yes, extrovert autistics do exist ;-) ), and when going to parties she pretended to be somewhat drunk, because this permitted her to search for mental peers simply by appearing a little unstable in her footing and asking, "So - do you like Jane Austen?"
If people answered "No", she would smile sweetly, say "OK", and move on to the next person, without anyone being offended because this would be in character of a somewhat wasted but still likeable person. If people answered "Yes", she would start talking to them and fade out her pretended intoxication over a few minutes.
So yes, we become more skilled at pretending to fit in over the years - which does reduce our stress level - but we do not actually become neurotypicals. :-)
All the best, C.
Christian Stewart-Ferrer It took me a few years after high school to relearn how to socialize like that. Thanks for this wonderful explanation.
Of course. For example, there were "autistic" people before 1945, but since nobody had identified autism, they weren't diagnosed. If you're relatively high functioning and have never been to a qualified diagnostician who recognizes higher functioning autism in adults, you wouldn't ever be diagnosed, would you?
I’ve got aspergers and it turns out that every first child on my mom’s side of the family has some form of autism and/or aspergers. My therory is that it comes from the Dutch genes from my grandfather’s side of the family.
hello, i have a Question, could you imagine, that a Person, with autism lost its Spezial skills, when i get into conversation, with the expectations, from the normally People, and try to be "normal", i mean, when this Person, Needs all its autistic intelligence, for beeing like the usually People? , this is often a Risk for developing psychiatric Problems, like schizophrenia and Paranoia, because the person, lost its real personality, in a second world, or from the beginning of its life, when the parents, dont have enough thime, for developing, Special autistic skills? for example, when they are traumatised thanks.
Would you please enable "auto caption" in the settings of the video? It would make it easier to translate to it other languages! Here's the 'How To' help: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6373554?hl=en
Neurodivergent ought to be applied unto the relationship betwixt neuromajority and neurominority. Comparatively, neurotypical ought to be applied unto relationships involving only neuromajority.