It cost me $50 in 1980 getting married ( she 19.. me 30 ) two years later $75 for divorce... we still communicate on the media.. God is she a boring prude. .:)
Rule 1: Unless the laws and the way the courts treat men change, do not get married. Rule #2: If you don't buy Rule #1, have a sit-down Q&A lunch with a single, divorced man before you make the worst mistake of your life.
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Divorce rules for men. Don't get married. There are no other rules. That's from someone divorced, who lost most of his assets he'd worked hard for. There is nothing in marriage for men. If you must get married, marry someone with the same, or more assets than you.
@@rangerwhite5165 What if you both did not want to sell the house? Anyway, I am feeling your pain and I am in a world of hurt. After 24 years of marriage, I am losing everything. A quarter century down the tubes. Well, almost: I did have lots of fun. Times like this moment seem like life, marriage, kids, are all not worth it. I don't really see much light at the end of the tunnel. 70/30? Did the judge give a reason? Kids?
@@rangerwhite5165 PS. 1. Was the judge female? 2. Did the judge give a reason for the 70/30 split? 3. What state are you in? 4. Were there kids, ie. did she "need" the house for the kids? Sole custody? 5. And finally... thank you for responding. Talking to someone helps.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
They have some great lawyers at this firm. That being said, stay focused on what you need to do. Cry as much as you need to. Reaching out to freinds and family literally saved my sanity. Keep your eyes open and keep setting goals. It sucks. Period. And is very survivable. You can make it
divorce rules 1. If you want, keep it. 2.Do not waste time with your attorney 3.Think and plan 4.File first 5.Temporary orders become permanent 6.Do not say anything to your wife you don't want repeated to the judge 7.Lead the life that you say you lead 8.Do not lie 9.Let it go 10.Keep it to yourself 11.Think before you re-marry
12. Number 6 is irrelevant as the wife will use mental or verbal abuse as a reason to garner empathy and to fill in gaps of testimony or lack of evidence and you cannot defend against these accusations as statute grants no room for defense.
Every time I had a sit down with my attorney he would ask me if I wanted coffee, I would reply I can't afford it. It would always evoke a smile on his face.
@Eric Anonymous I strongly disagree. We a re talking about property, lots of money that you can loose in case of a divorce. Preparing for a possible future event which has about 50% chance of occurring is a step a nut job would not take. Bill gates signed a prenuptial Agreement with Melinda before they got married.
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
I tried that after the B&E's and the poisoning and the Judge said only MEN stalk and WOMEN observe. It was tossed because of being a Male. This allowed more B&E's and she knew it as it was open season on me. I had to live with friends for the Harassment to stop.
@@yoyonevertheless7226 Understood. The RO serves a few functions, in my opinion... to get you some sane distance from the aggressor. It pauses the madness and the fear that they will just show up in your life and cause more chaos. The RO also shows you're done messing around! Many of us men find ourself down some madhouse tunnel we've been holding off for years and are just treading water day to day hoping it will get better. At this point it's critical. Five years is a long time and should give some breathing room to gain a sober, clear game plan to navigate forward. Men, be safe!
Heh, I was around when men were talking about how to keep your woman in check during marriage. I was telling them don't get married that's all you needed to know.
Marriage is good. Children are good. If you marry and she doesn't make as much as you, then get a prenup. I was the breadwinner and spent 200 grand supporting her over 5 years and paying her tuition. At the end she robbed me blind. A decade of hard work and assets flushed.
After nineteen years of marriage and going through divorce,. One day she wakes up and leave, she takes you kids, your house, your hard earned income and your pension. The only woman I trust is my mama. Period. No wonder why men don’t want to get married.
You can't get a divorce if you're not married to begin with. Checkmate. Don't play a game you can't win. Do not participate in a game that is rigged from the start.
This is definitely a sign from Heaven given my current situation with my wife who has a green card we have a 2 year old daughter together. She took advantage of the 2020 pandemic and brought her son and daughter from her previous marriage this is when everything started changing plus a year after she started doing many things behind my back, for example: she got a house, a vehicle and some loans without my knowledge or consent while also keeping secrets.
There are a TON of Rules. I agree with ALL of them, BUT It makes me realize how much I should think about and should have. For me Rule #11 doesnt apply. I'll NEVER re-marry
1. 0:17 2. 1:04 3. 2:39 4. 4:11 5. 5:03 6. 6:00 7. 6:53 8. 7:55 9. 8:41 10. 9:07 11. 10:03 Or try to convince your soon to be ex-wife to go to a mediator and save $40k-$60k each...
He is right about the keeping your mouth shut part. You never know when you are being recorded. I'm thinking about divorce, all I really care about is my kids. That is oddly why I am still married, but I'm starting to realize that me staying married may be damaging them. I worry about my oldest at the moment, he is getting to the age where he feels the tension in the room.
@@derekc4919 That's a tough situation. If you go to court and the court gives primary custody to the mother, Then the kids grow up without their dad... And which situation is worse? Hard to know...
@@FatherX2022 It's a tough call, hard to know for sure. Depending on who you are dealing with staying for the kids in a toxic environment doesn't benefit the kids much. It isn't the best solution to leave but it may be lesser of two evils. Everyone's situation is different.
When there's a start, there will be an end. The start is short and sweet but the end can be very long and painful one. Think thrice before you kneel down.
My wife cheated and left me with 4 young kids. The divorce cost me €120,000. Marriage used to be something good years ago but it's just a huge con job now if you are a man.
My wife left by persuasion of her family, tried to get her custody that failed miserably. Lucky for me they were gunning for child support, they will get it but in reverse. Now, I need a plan to make the divorce official. And to move on with my kids properly. Karma will catch up with them, I know it..
here is the best advice: dont marry, just be together with her and stay with her, but dont marry her. i mean you can stay with her until you die but you dont need to marry her.
One and done for me if this one ends. For all of you out there, don't do it to begin with! My kids will absolutely be shown not to be concerned with marriage, and before that, the prom, etc. I wasted my time going to two of those back in the day
In hindsight I wish I had been focused on experiences n memories not getting serious ending this serious relationship when the conversation of kids n marriage came up. I feel like the child laws plus the marriage laws the last 50 years have been for destroying the husband's n giving all the husband's stuff to the female. My ex quit to make 4 times what I did traveling I should've filed while she was mia narcissistic instead I tried to make it work. Live life without women instead for friends n family n memories
Don't get married in the first place. Its is a rip off. I am not regretting my marriage but I am regretting the decision to move my wife to the US. the family law sux here.
Even without the issue of finances divorces are tough. I talk about this on my own channel as I share my experiences going through my own divorce. Life can really suck sometimes.
I kept a fair share of the assets and pay no alimony to my ex wife. We had no kids so good there. Getting divorced was still the worst experience of my life.
@@JB-kx9bx I've heard this sentiment from so many others as well. Some were married for a year, others for 20+ years. Either way it's a terrible experience for us all. Thanks for sharing brother.
Getting married is fine, but realizing it is a contract that if broken is controlled ENTIRELY by your state is vital. Contracts should never be indefinite - marriage contracts should be renewed annually as to what each participant should receive should the contract be voided. It is absolutely ridiculous.
Our first year of marriage was pretty contentious as we both were learning to live with one another. She packed a bag and went home to her mother a number of times declaring she could not live with me. Her mother, bless her heart, would not let her in the door. She told her daughter 'You've made your choice, now you need to return and work it out with him.' And by & by we did. That was 49years ago & we are still together. !
These are solid tips especially before you actually get to court. I found that once you get to court and you are fighting for child custody... Judges usually favor the mother And prefer the father to be a child support atm machine. If you want any intelligent thought in that courtroom about the future of your children... You have to bring in that intelligent thought yourself. Do not assume the judge can create intelligent solutions for you and your children.
Thank you for your time and consideration. You truly are wanting just people to do well. Your soul an Time! Which no one can afford was visible on display! I'm thinking about going through a divorce. Instruction an guidance is rear in any time through history. Thank you sir!! My love an blessings go with you an yours!
I was married 9 years put the house in her name to carry out a business transaction She started laying down the rules and said she was selling the house to move closer to her mother but that wrecked my business plan so eventually I just walked away she tried getting back But I was in another relationship and noticed exact same traits although it broke my heart I walked away from that one also and it won't change never
@@allysonhanks9159 I know what you mean they come all different shapes sizes and hair nails but it's the brain all one target one goal same brain and if not they soon get doctoranated men are same but a different directive same as bird create a nest as where a woman will wreck the nest if not about to lay eggs a bit like Amber Heard wrecked Johnny Depp career instead of just walking away women can't live with them and you can't live with them huhh women
About the significance of letting go: take the age you will probably live for and subtract your current age. Now times 12. That is the number of months left in your viable life. Seeing the number of months you have left is sobering and focuses the mind. Everything in your past that troubled you is now forgotten and forward is your only interest.
Just happened to me last weekend...she was being combative and I was trying to escape....I went to jail and can't go to my home which I work out of and have farm animals to tend to....asked about tending to animals (at least) and was told "assume she will take care of it"...when in reality I would do all the outside chores and 90%of inside choirs...including dishes etc. Definitely Not a fair situation.
A friends wife lied about his sons paternity for 17 years and even with evidence she is still getting everything she asked for because she clames to be homeless. Nothing helps!!! And layers are making thousands
Yeah, I can't afford a lawyer and yet she has one somehow and is asking I pay all that and more...after I pay 99% of the bills and her entire paycheck would just go to her...yet of course she claims I chose to pay the bills to be controlling...hahaha...Yeah...I was sooo controlling I would clean the kitchen instead of telling her to do it...or anything else. Ugh.. this is gonna be rough.
There is too much miscarriage of justice for the men in divorce cases. It is destroying the credibility of the courts. If a man divorces and moves on, in most cases the woman should have no say what successes a man enjoys after that. Women initiate the divorce the vast majority of the time. They are the ones breaking the bond. They shouldn't be allowed after the fact to hound him for the rest of his life.
I wish I saw this earlier I never knew they would just leave without any explanation but right now I can’t even contact my wife or soon to be ex wife after she left to visit her parents . What was supposed to be 3 months stay turned out to be 6, now it may be for good and I had no idea all along been married 11 years since
I've been with the same woman for 5 years. I have kids with her and we also have a house. The only thing that is missing is marriage. She wants it but I don't. I've given her everything she ever wanted including kids. Is not wanting to get married being Fajr? In my part.
Depending on the state you are in, if you are living together and sharing bills, she may still be able to claim that you are common law married and take over half of everything you own. Be careful.
Sooooo glad i got a prenup. Only thing he got besides his own personal property was the car I bought for his use. (And all his retirement/checking/saving accounts, we never co-mingled funds, I didn't ask for a penny). No alimony, no child support. The house is mine because I bought it before we married, and it was completely paid off.
People Change… One day you wake up from what you think is a awesome 11 year marriage with 2 beautiful kids… You think you have the life but next time your spouse has flipped a random switch and has filed papers… My advice for anyone still married is don’t get comfortable with where you are in the relationship and always keep it fresh in a sense or else you will end up in my same boots trying to gtfo!
What about, if you all move overseas as a family (military service), and then due to COVID she asks for her and the kids to move back stateside temporarily; but then after six months she files for divorce? Currently in that situation. How does that affect your house and assets? I am from WA.
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Wonderful video, it was a privilege to get so much relevant and pertinent information. It made me re-evaluate several aspects of how I thought about my marriage difficulties! Thank you so much for posting this video.
The best way to avoid divorce is not to get married. That's true for both genders. But the family courts typically side with women and when there is an allegation of abuse, men are toast. So stay single. It's not a crime.
Rule 1: If you have half a brain, forget marrying anybody, regardless of gender. This advice applies 100% for men, not for women, who generally make out pretty well and so they still have interest in getting married.
Rule #4 file first: this makes you the Applicant the Court THANKS you for bringing in the case to the system so all involved can make big bucks. In the last year of my case I became the Applicant and won every time so the Ex was to pay the costs. How strange this works.
I don’t agree with who filing first is having the upper hand- bottom line it come down to the rule for spousal and child supports. Be level head states what you want!! Remember anytime there a third party involved it harder to STOP so think twice before filing a divorce. It will cause lots of money to yourself even yourself unable to stop it due to the attorney bills up to the eyeballs. The attorney always win and everyone else lost. Children suffer the most!!
Never got married ,it’s never ,ever been something I have wanted to do ,anything for an easy life ,I actually made my mind up when I was 7 lol (what a smart kid I was ;)although children are a blessing ,but people need to go in eyes open ps I look frickin great aiming to run marathon under 4 hours when 60
I am getting divorce get served las week and never see it comming. I am more worried about my assets than anything else you have some advice I just get s
#2 is difficult if you are low income during COVID. If you are receiving free legal aid (i.e., consultation, not representation) and are the respondent, and your petitioning spouse has resources and a paid attorney, you are likely going to be responding to a high number of disgraceful and scurrilous allegations, much like you would see in a SLAPP suit. Don’t let the allegations overwhelm your emotions. Make an ordered list of these allegations, with bullet points of your side, then gather evidence to disprove them. You might start to see that these allegations are more quantity, rather than quality. I struggled with this, when I was painted as a volatile, impulsive, brain-damaged, mentally-ill, child-neglecting, angry-man; however, I knew different, and so did others. I still remained open to the fact that I may fall short in some areas, and even have blind spots, and began to work on those areas with a therapist. If you can show the court that you are open to taking a look at the bad behaviors your spouse accuses you of exhibiting, and are proactive about addressing them, then you have shown that you are human, that you care about your spouses concerns, even if they are exaggerated or untrue. My wife never once said to me that I was any of those things I listed in the beginning of this paragraph until I read about it in her declarations. The cognitive dissonance I felt from that turned me into an emotional puddle of sad on the one hand, and then opposite of that on the other. Don’t try to talk to her about any of those feelings, even if you are trying to demonstrate to her positive changes, because they will just be used against you.
That's exactly my situation Today...she has painted me as a ranting dangerous lunitic.. it's kinda funny buy also scary that they might just take her side ...they already arrested me when I only tried getting away from her physically attacking me ...I really don't want to end up losing my small business and mini farm over this. Praying and ask that if ya'll pray to add me in yours. Have a wonderful day.
NEVER. EVER, EVER get married!!!!! The state has total control of your life if things go south. a) The state will tell you where you can live ( or rather where you can not live) b) The state will tell you what you can and mostly can not have of your own property c) The state will tell you if , how, and when you can see your children d) The state will tell you how much money from your paycheck belongs to her e) The state will tell you if you can have certain people in your life f) Anything else the state deems appropriate to make your life miserable g) The state will throw your ASS in JAIL if you break any of their rules. NEVER. EVER, EVER get married!!!!!
Lol most of these _RULES_ are just how to mildly read people on a fundamental level and not be an awful person. I remember learning these _RULES_ as a toddler. This may be the funniest video of all time.
My divorce rules: 1. Do NOT marry a western feminist woman, who will likely divorce you for ANY reason. 2. If you want to marry, look at Eastern Europe or Asia. 3. I you decide to marry, get an ironclad prenup. Since the divorce laws favor women, you need to balance this out with a prenup.
It cost me $70 to get married in 09, 40k+ to get divorced in 14, and yes I filed first... Do not get married
The 70$ and the 40k+ are unrelated...
@@jonmacdonald2193 , not hardly, a loss is a loss
It cost me $50 in 1980 getting married ( she 19.. me 30 ) two years later $75 for divorce... we still communicate on the media.. God is she a boring prude. .:)
gee, you got off light...
Filing first is meaningless.
Rule 1: Unless the laws and the way the courts treat men change, do not get married. Rule #2: If you don't buy Rule #1, have a sit-down Q&A lunch with a single, divorced man before you make the worst mistake of your life.
I wish you were around 11 years ago
@@fishinmagician3960 I know right!!! I wish someone told me this 14 years ago!
I agree 100%. I wish sb told me this 10 years ago.
Could have used reading this 26 years ago.
So don’t get a divorce? Marriage is for people when the life expectancy was 30ish.
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father Akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Women cry at the wedding. Men cry after the wedding.
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Divorce rules for men. Don't get married. There are no other rules. That's from someone divorced, who lost most of his assets he'd worked hard for. There is nothing in marriage for men. If you must get married, marry someone with the same, or more assets than you.
You didn't split the equity in the marital home 50/50?
@@basicprogrammer6147 Judge went 70/30 in her favour.
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What if you both did not want to sell the house?
Anyway, I am feeling your pain and I am in a world of hurt. After 24 years of marriage, I am losing everything.
A quarter century down the tubes. Well, almost: I did have lots of fun. Times like this moment seem like life, marriage, kids, are all not worth it.
I don't really see much light at the end of the tunnel.
70/30? Did the judge give a reason? Kids?
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1. Was the judge female?
2. Did the judge give a reason for the 70/30 split?
3. What state are you in?
4. Were there kids, ie. did she "need" the house for the kids? Sole custody?
5. And finally... thank you for responding. Talking to someone helps.
@@basicprogrammer6147 UK based. Equity split on the basis of childrens needs and ex wife's ability to borrow.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
They have some great lawyers at this firm. That being said, stay focused on what you need to do. Cry as much as you need to. Reaching out to freinds and family literally saved my sanity. Keep your eyes open and keep setting goals. It sucks. Period. And is very survivable. You can make it
Thank you.
divorce rules
1. If you want, keep it.
2.Do not waste time with your attorney
3.Think and plan
4.File first
5.Temporary orders become permanent
6.Do not say anything to your wife you don't want repeated to the judge
7.Lead the life that you say you lead
8.Do not lie
9.Let it go
10.Keep it to yourself
11.Think before you re-marry
this is way too low - thank you!
Basically have to have attorney level knowledge
@@athletetic After 10+ years of finding all that out do you really want to do the dance again?
12. Number 6 is irrelevant as the wife will use mental or verbal abuse as a reason to garner empathy and to fill in gaps of testimony or lack of evidence and you cannot defend against these accusations as statute grants no room for defense.
Every time I had a sit down with my attorney he would ask me if I wanted coffee, I would reply I can't afford it. It would always evoke a smile on his face.
Every boy should be taught this in school before they are eligible for marriage.
Yes, I think you have to see a divorce lawyer before getting married, especially if you are a male.
Yea it's bent too far past what the laws were designed for. Thanks to lawyers...
Absolutely
Eligibility shouldn’t even be an issue what happened to natural selection look at how far we’ve fallen
@Eric Anonymous I strongly disagree. We a re talking about property, lots of money that you can loose in case of a divorce.
Preparing for a possible future event which has about 50% chance of occurring is a step a nut job would not take.
Bill gates signed a prenuptial Agreement with Melinda before they got married.
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
Please explain
I tried that after the B&E's and the poisoning and the Judge said only MEN stalk and WOMEN observe. It was tossed because of being a Male. This allowed more B&E's and she knew it as it was open season on me. I had to live with friends for the Harassment to stop.
I agree, but the court only give protection order for max 5 year's in WA.
@@yoyonevertheless7226 Understood. The RO serves a few functions, in my opinion... to get you some sane distance from the aggressor. It pauses the madness and the fear that they will just show up in your life and cause more chaos. The RO also shows you're done messing around!
Many of us men find ourself down some madhouse tunnel we've been holding off for years and are just treading water day to day hoping it will get better. At this point it's critical. Five years is a long time and should give some breathing room to gain a sober, clear game plan to navigate forward. Men, be safe!
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This can be all summed up into one questions for men: "Which part of DO NOT GET MARRIED don't your understand?".
Heh, I was around when men were talking about how to keep your woman in check during marriage. I was telling them don't get married that's all you needed to know.
Wow, I'm glad I'm single.
Be very glad!
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Fr stay single
Marriage is good. Children are good.
If you marry and she doesn't make as much as you, then get a prenup. I was the breadwinner and spent 200 grand supporting her over 5 years and paying her tuition. At the end she robbed me blind. A decade of hard work and assets flushed.
MARRIAGE BLOWS!
Very sad but you will get it back some how
At least you didn’t blow 20years like me .
Wow, I was just happy with the food my husband was buying. Some women are smart.
After nineteen years of marriage and going through divorce,. One day she wakes up and leave, she takes you kids, your house, your hard earned income and your pension. The only woman I trust is my mama. Period. No wonder why men don’t want to get married.
Amen Bro!
Hi Galaxy! How're you doing?
The biggest divorce rule of all -- never get married in the first place!
You can't get a divorce if you're not married to begin with. Checkmate.
Don't play a game you can't win. Do not participate in a game that is rigged from the start.
This is definitely a sign from Heaven given my current situation with my wife who has a green card we have a 2 year old daughter together. She took advantage of the 2020 pandemic and brought her son and daughter from her previous marriage this is when everything started changing plus a year after she started doing many things behind my back, for example: she got a house, a vehicle and some loans without my knowledge or consent while also keeping secrets.
oh man, that's why dont get married with a divorced woman. she knows more than you!
If this was showed in high school, many mens lives would be salvaged
Never get married
There are a TON of Rules. I agree with ALL of them, BUT It makes me realize how much I should think about and should have. For me Rule #11 doesnt apply. I'll NEVER re-marry
That's for chumps that are thinking of it.
A marriage is a contract, the divorce is the expiration date! Can't wait to be FREE!!!!
Don't get married :) - Problem "solved" (or should I say: AVOIDED!) :)
That's going to be extremely difficult keeping that females in the long run..
She has an early expiration date..!
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Or try to convince your soon to be ex-wife to go to a mediator and save $40k-$60k each...
He is right about the keeping your mouth shut part. You never know when you are being recorded. I'm thinking about divorce, all I really care about is my kids. That is oddly why I am still married, but I'm starting to realize that me staying married may be damaging them. I worry about my oldest at the moment, he is getting to the age where he feels the tension in the room.
Yeah staying together for the sake of the kids makes everyone miserable
Sorry to hear that. But if you break up and you have to go to family court to decide custody, Get ready for the battle of a lifetime.
@@derekc4919 That's a tough situation. If you go to court and the court gives primary custody to the mother, Then the kids grow up without their dad... And which situation is worse? Hard to know...
@@FatherX2022 It's a tough call, hard to know for sure. Depending on who you are dealing with staying for the kids in a toxic environment doesn't benefit the kids much. It isn't the best solution to leave but it may be lesser of two evils. Everyone's situation is different.
Divorce rules for men...number 1 NEVER GET MARRIED. Number 2...SEE RULE 1
End of story.
When there's a start, there will be an end. The start is short and sweet but the end can be very long and painful one. Think thrice before you kneel down.
My wife cheated and left me with 4 young kids. The divorce cost me €120,000. Marriage used to be something good years ago but it's just a huge con job now if you are a man.
Aren't we surposed to be on top why are we losing
My wife left by persuasion of her family, tried to get her custody that failed miserably. Lucky for me they were gunning for child support, they will get it but in reverse. Now, I need a plan to make the divorce official. And to move on with my kids properly. Karma will catch up with them, I know it..
@@sparta23dh any updates?
@@Avi-tq6fd Nope, no movement on her side. Because they know I got the advantage, no story they have could beat the custody ruling in divorce court.
Cost me a million dollars US. It's nice to be female these days.
Marriage. Not even once.
here is the best advice: dont marry, just be together with her and stay with her, but dont marry her. i mean you can stay with her until you die but you dont need to marry her.
One and done for me if this one ends. For all of you out there, don't do it to begin with! My kids will absolutely be shown not to be concerned with marriage, and before that, the prom, etc. I wasted my time going to two of those back in the day
In hindsight I wish I had been focused on experiences n memories not getting serious ending this serious relationship when the conversation of kids n marriage came up.
I feel like the child laws plus the marriage laws the last 50 years have been for destroying the husband's n giving all the husband's stuff to the female.
My ex quit to make 4 times what I did traveling I should've filed while she was mia narcissistic instead I tried to make it work.
Live life without women instead for friends n family n memories
divorce rate for first time marriage is 50 pct for second time marriage its 67pct and third is 75pct ,men please wise the frig up
Don't get married in the first place. Its is a rip off. I am not regretting my marriage but I am regretting the decision to move my wife to the US. the family law sux here.
Do not move your wife to the US. Wherever you are keep her there. Trust me on this.
Correction: the family law sucks for men here. For women, it's awesome.
@@jeffrichey3623Why don't you try to change the rule??
Sitting here watching this unmarried smoking a bowl
Even without the issue of finances divorces are tough. I talk about this on my own channel as I share my experiences going through my own divorce. Life can really suck sometimes.
I kept a fair share of the assets and pay no alimony to my ex wife. We had no kids so good there. Getting divorced was still the worst experience of my life.
@@JB-kx9bx I've heard this sentiment from so many others as well. Some were married for a year, others for 20+ years. Either way it's a terrible experience for us all. Thanks for sharing brother.
@@JB-kx9bxoh men, you should let her give birth babies for you as more as possibke. than you divorce immediately.
Getting married is fine, but realizing it is a contract that if broken is controlled ENTIRELY by your state is vital. Contracts should never be indefinite - marriage contracts should be renewed annually as to what each participant should receive should the contract be voided. It is absolutely ridiculous.
This rules should apply in school text book, period
I'm 17 and it is 1:38 in the morning... what am I doing with my life 😂
You’re saving your life 😂🤟🏽
Doing what most men dont even think about until it's too late. Just saved your life bro.
You're doing the most important thing in your life other than avoiding going to prison.
Do not jump out of an airplane, with a parachute that opens 40% of the time
Thanks for the advice.
Rule one: don't get married
First and only rule.
Rule 2: Repeat Rule 1
Agreed
Those who get married once they are fool those who get married 2nd time have lack of memory
"Pat would like to solve the puzzle!"
"Dont get married?"
Our first year of marriage was pretty contentious as we both were learning to live with one another. She packed a bag
and went home to her mother a number of times declaring she could not live with me. Her mother, bless her heart,
would not let her in the door. She told her daughter 'You've made your choice, now you need to return and work it
out with him.' And by & by we did. That was 49years ago & we are still together.
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These are solid tips especially before you actually get to court. I found that once you get to court and you are fighting for child custody... Judges usually favor the mother And prefer the father to be a child support atm machine. If you want any intelligent thought in that courtroom about the future of your children... You have to bring in that intelligent thought yourself. Do not assume the judge can create intelligent solutions for you and your children.
Uhhhhh.... have you ever seen TITANIC??? How is that surprising to you? These comments are blowing me away lol
Thank you for your time and consideration. You truly are wanting just people to do well. Your soul an Time! Which no one can afford was visible on display! I'm thinking about going through a divorce. Instruction an guidance is rear in any time through history. Thank you sir!! My love an blessings go with you an yours!
how is this a fair system? why would anyone want to live in such a system?
I was married 9 years put the house in her name to carry out a business transaction She started laying down the rules and said she was selling the house to move closer to her mother but that wrecked my business plan so eventually I just walked away she tried getting back
But I was in another relationship and noticed exact same traits although it broke my heart I walked away from that one also and it won't change never
Not all women are the same. Hello Brian. I hope you’re doing good 😊
@@allysonhanks9159 I know what you mean they come all different shapes sizes and hair nails but it's the brain all one target one goal same brain and if not they soon get doctoranated men are same but a different directive same as bird create a nest as where a woman will wreck the nest if not about to lay eggs a bit like Amber Heard wrecked Johnny Depp career instead of just walking away women can't live with them and you can't live with them huhh women
@@allysonhanks9159 any thing to Tom hanks he can't smile or laugh with Ricky Gervais golden globes
@@brianmilligan1787 Are you still with your wife
@@allysonhanks9159 he'll no I think I will start living like Ricky Gervais
He keeps his bird in coach.
First class isn't it.
About the significance of letting go: take the age you will probably live for and subtract your current age. Now times 12. That is the number of months left in your viable life. Seeing the number of months you have left is sobering and focuses the mind. Everything in your past that troubled you is now forgotten and forward is your only interest.
I just did that math and it is sobering to say the least. Wow. And a month passes by so fast.
Wow...yep kinda put some things in perspective for me there. Thnx
#1 rule: don't get married.
Rule #1, don’t get married. Your soon to be ex-wife’s priority is to make your life as miserable as she can.
😢sad as fuck. Women just cheat and lie these days
Soon to be 42 years old never married and never be happier seen too many horror stories
With a phone call and no evidence the man is in jail. Now what?
Just happened to me last weekend...she was being combative and I was trying to escape....I went to jail and can't go to my home which I work out of and have farm animals to tend to....asked about tending to animals (at least) and was told "assume she will take care of it"...when in reality I would do all the outside chores and 90%of inside choirs...including dishes etc. Definitely Not a fair situation.
A friends wife lied about his sons paternity for 17 years and even with evidence she is still getting everything she asked for because she clames to be homeless. Nothing helps!!! And layers are making thousands
What state
@@universalservicetechust3578 New York
Yeah, I can't afford a lawyer and yet she has one somehow and is asking I pay all that and more...after I pay 99% of the bills and her entire paycheck would just go to her...yet of course she claims I chose to pay the bills to be controlling...hahaha...Yeah...I was sooo controlling I would clean the kitchen instead of telling her to do it...or anything else. Ugh.. this is gonna be rough.
and the #1 rule should be: DONT EVER EVER EVER GET MARRIED!!!!!
There is too much miscarriage of justice for the men in divorce cases. It is destroying the credibility of the courts. If a man divorces and moves on, in most cases the woman should have no say what successes a man enjoys after that. Women initiate the divorce the vast majority of the time. They are the ones breaking the bond. They shouldn't be allowed after the fact to hound him for the rest of his life.
I wish I saw this earlier I never knew they would just leave without any explanation but right now I can’t even contact my wife or soon to be ex wife after she left to visit her parents . What was supposed to be 3 months stay turned out to be 6, now it may be for good and I had no idea all along been married 11 years since
Did you say re-marry - NEVER!!!
Never never
Research the judges and court system in your area. If it looks like trouble, file in a different area.
Thank you for the good sound advice. You seem to be really be on point.
Right now 👉🏾 You are my favorite channel! Great advice and thank you.
hello how are you doing today😊
I JUST FILED FIRST 😇
How did that turn out for you?
guys never get married watch the lykies show or dr hellen smith
I've been with the same woman for 5 years. I have kids with her and we also have a house. The only thing that is missing is marriage. She wants it but I don't. I've given her everything she ever wanted including kids. Is not wanting to get married being Fajr? In my part.
Depending on the state you are in, if you are living together and sharing bills, she may still be able to claim that you are common law married and take over half of everything you own. Be careful.
Don’t do it bro , learn from my mistake
Sooooo glad i got a prenup. Only thing he got besides his own personal property was the car I bought for his use. (And all his retirement/checking/saving accounts, we never co-mingled funds, I didn't ask for a penny). No alimony, no child support. The house is mine because I bought it before we married, and it was completely paid off.
You are one in a million..
Mens prenup is just thrown out
People Change… One day you wake up from what you think is a awesome 11 year marriage with 2 beautiful kids… You think you have the life but next time your spouse has flipped a random switch and has filed papers… My advice for anyone still married is don’t get comfortable with where you are in the relationship and always keep it fresh in a sense or else you will end up in my same boots trying to gtfo!
No, it doesn’t work that way, let her keep it fresh if she wants too.
hello how are you doing today😊
What about, if you all move overseas as a family (military service), and then due to COVID she asks for her and the kids to move back stateside temporarily; but then after six months she files for divorce? Currently in that situation. How does that affect your house and assets? I am from WA.
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Could you give me an update on the case
The first and most important divorce rule for men is DO NOT GET MARRIED TO BEGIN WITH.
Wonderful video, it was a privilege to get so much relevant and pertinent information. It made me re-evaluate several aspects of how I thought about my marriage difficulties! Thank you so much for posting this video.
RULE #1: If you dont get married, you cant get divorced.
I am here for the comments
Why men always lose this is inaquality
Great advice, thx
Thank you for this advice, I needed to hear this.
hello James how are you doing today😊
The best way to avoid divorce is not to get married. That's true for both genders. But the family courts typically side with women and when there is an allegation of abuse, men are toast. So stay single. It's not a crime.
Rule 1: If you have half a brain, forget marrying anybody, regardless of gender. This advice applies 100% for men, not for women, who generally make out pretty well and so they still have interest in getting married.
Excellent rules! Thank you!!🙏
Rule #4 file first: this makes you the Applicant the Court THANKS you for bringing in the case to the system so all involved can make big bucks. In the last year of my case I became the Applicant and won every time so the Ex was to pay the costs. How strange this works.
Possaion is 9-10 Tenths of the Law!
I don’t agree with who filing first is having the upper hand- bottom line it come down to the rule for spousal and child supports. Be level head states what you want!!
Remember anytime there a third party involved it harder to STOP so think twice before filing a divorce. It will cause lots of money to yourself even yourself unable to stop it due to the attorney bills up to the eyeballs. The attorney always win and everyone else lost. Children suffer the most!!
Never got married ,it’s never ,ever been something I have wanted to do ,anything for an easy life ,I actually made my mind up when I was 7 lol (what a smart kid I was ;)although children are a blessing ,but people need to go in eyes open ps I look frickin great aiming to run marathon under 4 hours when 60
I am getting divorce get served las week and never see it comming. I am more worried about my assets than anything else you have some advice I just get s
#2 is difficult if you are low income during COVID. If you are receiving free legal aid (i.e., consultation, not representation) and are the respondent, and your petitioning spouse has resources and a paid attorney, you are likely going to be responding to a high number of disgraceful and scurrilous allegations, much like you would see in a SLAPP suit. Don’t let the allegations overwhelm your emotions. Make an ordered list of these allegations, with bullet points of your side, then gather evidence to disprove them. You might start to see that these allegations are more quantity, rather than quality.
I struggled with this, when I was painted as a volatile, impulsive, brain-damaged, mentally-ill, child-neglecting, angry-man; however, I knew different, and so did others. I still remained open to the fact that I may fall short in some areas, and even have blind spots, and began to work on those areas with a therapist. If you can show the court that you are open to taking a look at the bad behaviors your spouse accuses you of exhibiting, and are proactive about addressing them, then you have shown that you are human, that you care about your spouses concerns, even if they are exaggerated or untrue. My wife never once said to me that I was any of those things I listed in the beginning of this paragraph until I read about it in her declarations. The cognitive dissonance I felt from that turned me into an emotional puddle of sad on the one hand, and then opposite of that on the other. Don’t try to talk to her about any of those feelings, even if you are trying to demonstrate to her positive changes, because they will just be used against you.
That’s exactly what my husband did to me
That's exactly my situation Today...she has painted me as a ranting dangerous lunitic.. it's kinda funny buy also scary that they might just take her side ...they already arrested me when I only tried getting away from her physically attacking me ...I really don't want to end up losing my small business and mini farm over this. Praying and ask that if ya'll pray to add me in yours. Have a wonderful day.
NEVER. EVER, EVER get married!!!!!
The state has total control of your life if things go south.
a) The state will tell you where you can live ( or rather where you can not live)
b) The state will tell you what you can and mostly can not have of your own property
c) The state will tell you if , how, and when you can see your children
d) The state will tell you how much money from your paycheck belongs to her
e) The state will tell you if you can have certain people in your life
f) Anything else the state deems appropriate to make your life miserable
g) The state will throw your ASS in JAIL if you break any of their rules.
NEVER. EVER, EVER get married!!!!!
I once considered being a divorce lawyer. I'd probably be filthy rich now.
Don't get married is the only survival tactic
FILE FIRST, BOYS
Who would marry again ?
Sir, Great Video. Thank you.
That subconscious wink is telling us to not marry. Got the point chief!
I hate to have divorce in my life but I get it in my life
Thx for your honesty!
The word permanent is spelled wrong in divorce rule 5. Thank you for the tidbits of information though.
Gentlemen: Never. Get. Married.
How do you prevent loosing your assets like your money ?
don't get married DONT GET MARRIED YOU HERE ME DONT GET MARRIED
Am 18 but I just have to ask, is it that bad for men out there. Is marriage that bad? Seems every old man is advicing every young man not to marry
@@floridakorir7631 it's true in the USA, i don't know about other countries
I need help in getting electronic evidence
I really wish someone can help with a recommendation that's legit because i got scamme by recommendation on the comments.
How does this work if she is facing criminal felony charges?
Rule #11: You just got your fingers off the stove - don't put them back there!
I hav a better advise for men: DO NOT MARRY, DO NOT HAVE KIDS.
Lol most of these _RULES_ are just how to mildly read people on a fundamental level and not be an awful person. I remember learning these _RULES_ as a toddler. This may be the funniest video of all time.
My divorce rules:
1. Do NOT marry a western feminist woman, who will likely divorce you for ANY reason.
2. If you want to marry, look at Eastern Europe or Asia.
3. I you decide to marry, get an ironclad prenup. Since the divorce laws favor women, you need to balance this out with a prenup.
就你这样的我们亚洲女性也不会碰啊
There should be a set criteria legally that is all based around the kids
Excellent!
Great advice thank you