I could not agree more. My 17 year old will me moving across the country this summer to start college. Someone asked if I was ok with it because “people say” kids aren’t ready nowadays 🙄 I’m so excited for her, she is ready because she’s had responsibilities. Seventeen year olds can (and should) do almost everything mom or dad do around the house. Thanks for putting your knowledge into the world. ❤
Tracy, thank you for sharing your wisdom! I have learned that my two year old is much more capable than I thought. I’ve since started giving him chores (suitable for his age) and I’ve notice how proud he is when he completes them. It is not easy for me to let him go and grow up but I know it will only benefit him and the world when he gets older. Thank you from a mom trying to figure it out, Ashley ❤
Amen! When I was a nanny in the mid-90's I learned this from the Mom I worked for. My oldest is in their mid-20's now and has so much better coping skills when there's a household issue due to chores & the mishaps that occurred.
My brother raised me for my teen years (I'm currently 27) and we usually based our chores on who was tall enough to reach certain things haha. I wasn't tall enough to reach the top shelves in our kitchen so he usually took care of the dishwasher for example haha.
Tracy! This video had so much practical, informative and important information. You are truly mentoring generations of women and men to be productive and responsible. We don’t hear much of this - and we should!! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Yes yes and yes. A briliant video. It just confirmed me in my opionion that it is important for the kids to get involved in house chores and I believe that when they get involved and it is an everyday and usual activity, it does not feel as something forced and unpleasant but rather a natural thing that is simply done and we can move on. I never understood people who had opinion “she should not help you, you are taking her childhood away from her, she should just play with toys and enjoy the young age”. Of course, the help must be adjusted to the age but why should children not help with the dishes or laundry? The chorelist is a great tip for the future when the kids can read but I will try to start preparing it for my husband who is a team player and I am sure will be thankful that we will save time and will be able to communicate about other things. Have a wonderful weekend, Tracy!
Thank you so much for this Video. My daughter is 15 now and i have big troubles with her about Chores. My Boy 4 years old do more chores as my daughter😂. I was not consequent by my daughter. This Video helps me so much💖. Bye from Vienna 👋
Thank you for this informative video. I’m implementing this for my almost 15-year old. We just haven’t been using a list. My first thought was what happens when she leaves home and doesn’t have the list telling her what to do….it then dawned on me that this will be cementing her use of a to-do list to accomplish tasks.
Great video! Please consider making a video about consequences when chores aren’t completed. My children fuss and moan every time I ask for help. They are 12,9,8 years old.
No, Paul and I nor our kids are receiving financial reimbursement for household duties. Wouldn't it be nice to get a bi-weekly check for chores? Sign me up.
Powerful message. Going to implement a communication document for each member of the household. My husband would appreciate having this data in writing and my children will benefit from a structured system with clear expectations. Thank you!
I am taking care of my 15 month old grandson and I plan implementing these guidelines with him,and I do agree with starting early we are working on putting thins back already lol .Great video Tracy.I will be forwarding it to my daughter and son in law💙
Hi Tracy, I thoroughly enjoy what you share on your videos and IG. I was wondering if you could also share what type of consequences you and Paul would implement? Thank you 😊
Hi Karen. Thank you. Paul and I would take away the privilege the child receiving the consequences would be most impacted by. You hit them where it hurts. If that was a cell phone, you take that. If it's the car privileges, that goes. Every child's privileged will look different depending on age and interests.
Hello Tracy, love this video I love making list and having systems. Would love a video where you talk about how to be well spoken, English is my second language and I would say I am not well spoken on both of the languages I speak.
I am the child of a working mom and I was a working mom! I had chores to do before my mom went to work in 1960. My sister and I did the dishes every night. She washed, I dried. We were responsible for keeping our room clean, to her standards, not ours. After she started working, we did all the housework and laundry. I worked from the time I married (and before!) until I retired 7 years ago. My children, husband, and me all had chores. And as soon as ours were tall enough to reach the controls on the washer, they did their own laundry, including my husband! I implemented this when our children, all girls, were 12, 8, and 2! I did do the youngest one’s laundry until she was about 8, but then she did it! All 3 told me later on how grateful they were that I taught them these basic skills. They now have their own houses and families, and 2 are immaculate housekeepers and the other one at least has the skills 😂!
Thank you for sharing, Debbie. What a beautiful testament to being raised well and passing that gift on to your children. I can relate everything from how I was raised to how we raised our girls. The first four didn't do their own laundry until age 13, but our youngest, Chloe, started at 11. Paul does his laundry, and I do mine. If I am washing my towels, I ask him if he needs his washed, and he will do the same. The Team, The Team, The Team!
I never gave my kids chores and I pay for it now!!! My 22 yo son lives with me and I gave him a chore list yesterday (from hearing your IG stories) and he sure did do all that I asked❤ thank you for all you do for your viewers for free everyday.
Thank you Tracy for this lovely video.. I will start to implement chores for my 2 year old.. Tracy have you ever experienced a fussy eater? My 2 year old is refusing food she will literally take a bite or just say no 😭 and she was a good eater before..tips would be great.. thank you 💖
Hi Tracy, I enjoyed the extra details you included here. I’ve tried implementing this and my girls are pretty good at doing their chore responsibilities, but one of my daughters (11 years old) has said that seeing the “list” stresses her out. Did any of your girls respond that way? I think she gets overwhelmed until she actually looks at it and realizes it is not unreasonable or too time consuming like clean out the garage.
Glad you enjoyed the video. That's to bad your daughter is experiencing stress when seeing the list. It makes sense that at the age of 11 if she is not used to seeing something of this nature, it feels foreign to her. Acknowledge and validate her emotions and in a tender and loving way explain to her exactly what you shared here - You see where she can initially feel overwhelmed seeing such a long list of information, but understand that the information is more than just chores. Understand it's important kids learn how to adult well. This will serve them later in life and build confidence in their abilities. Lists will always be in her life. The earlier she gets comfortable with them the better. On your end, make sure her lists are categorized for ease of reading and feel free to get creative adding color, using highlighters, etc. Good Luck.
Great video! I will definitely be implementing this in the future. How do you avoid mothering your husband or babying your children? When do chores just become a part of an everyday routine?
Thank you. I need to know what 'mothering' and 'babying' look like for you to answer the question. I feel that I do neither, but I have many years under my belt, but that doesn't mean someone else may not see it that way. There are always responsibilities. They are there daily. The routine is you either do them, or avoid them. This is another question that is hard to answer because I am not sure what you are looking for. If you make your bed daily, you probably don't need to task it.
I could not agree more. My 17 year old will me moving across the country this summer to start college. Someone asked if I was ok with it because “people say” kids aren’t ready nowadays 🙄 I’m so excited for her, she is ready because she’s had responsibilities. Seventeen year olds can (and should) do almost everything mom or dad do around the house. Thanks for putting your knowledge into the world. ❤
So on point, Tracy! Your video is so helpful! Thank you
I wish I had found you earlier but glad I can utilize your videos now and keep building on personal growth.
Tracy, thank you for sharing your wisdom! I have learned that my two year old is much more capable than I thought. I’ve since started giving him chores (suitable for his age) and I’ve notice how proud he is when he completes them. It is not easy for me to let him go and grow up but I know it will only benefit him and the world when he gets older.
Thank you from a mom trying to figure it out,
Ashley ❤
As a new mom (my baby, a few days older than June bug), I have come to enjoy and appreciate so much your parenting videos, thank you.
When I left home at 22, I could clean, but I didn’t know how to do laundry or cook well. I was babied my my parents!
Amen! When I was a nanny in the mid-90's I learned this from the Mom I worked for. My oldest is in their mid-20's now and has so much better coping skills when there's a household issue due to chores & the mishaps that occurred.
This is a great video & your hair looks beautiful ❤
Great tips!
I already wrote a comment and kept watching the video to the end but I have to add the following: “What a great video” my hat goes off to you. 🤷🏻♀️
I just adore you, Tracy! Nice work here! We desperately need woman to own their leadership role and responsibilities in their own families!
Thank you. What a great way of putting it. Love this! It's so true.
My brother raised me for my teen years (I'm currently 27) and we usually based our chores on who was tall enough to reach certain things haha. I wasn't tall enough to reach the top shelves in our kitchen so he usually took care of the dishwasher for example haha.
Tracy! This video had so much practical, informative and important information. You are truly mentoring generations of women and men to be productive and responsible. We don’t hear much of this - and we should!! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Thank you, Beth. I appreciate your wonderful message.
Yes yes and yes. A briliant video. It just confirmed me in my opionion that it is important for the kids to get involved in house chores and I believe that when they get involved and it is an everyday and usual activity, it does not feel as something forced and unpleasant but rather a natural thing that is simply done and we can move on. I never understood people who had opinion “she should not help you, you are taking her childhood away from her, she should just play with toys and enjoy the young age”. Of course, the help must be adjusted to the age but why should children not help with the dishes or laundry? The chorelist is a great tip for the future when the kids can read but I will try to start preparing it for my husband who is a team player and I am sure will be thankful that we will save time and will be able to communicate about other things. Have a wonderful weekend, Tracy!
Thank you so much for this Video. My daughter is 15 now and i have big troubles with her about Chores. My Boy 4 years old do more chores as my daughter😂. I was not consequent by my daughter. This Video helps me so much💖. Bye from Vienna 👋
Thank you for this informative video. I’m implementing this for my almost 15-year old. We just haven’t been using a list. My first thought was what happens when she leaves home and doesn’t have the list telling her what to do….it then dawned on me that this will be cementing her use of a to-do list to accomplish tasks.
Hi Tracy, I really like the B Roll addition :) Have a great weekend!
Thx Tracy! My daughter and I were just actually mentioning you last eve! I think of you in certain situations of life! No nonsense!
I’m so happy that someone is talking about this very important issue. Very, very important subject. Thank you so much ❤
Great video! Please consider making a video about consequences when chores aren’t completed. My children fuss and moan every time I ask for help. They are 12,9,8 years old.
Also, do you pay your kids for doing chores?
No, Paul and I nor our kids are receiving financial reimbursement for household duties. Wouldn't it be nice to get a bi-weekly check for chores? Sign me up.
Thank you, Vanessa.
If the children are getting away with fussing and moaning, it makes sense they are doing it.
Brilliant!!!!
Powerful message. Going to implement a communication document for each member of the household. My husband would appreciate having this data in writing and my children will benefit from a structured system with clear expectations. Thank you!
I am taking care of my 15 month old grandson and I plan implementing these guidelines with him,and
I do agree with starting early we are working on putting thins back already lol .Great video Tracy.I will be forwarding it to my daughter and son in law💙
I’m watching this and breastfeeding my 5 months old ,while my 6& 4 years old daughters are setting up our dinner table .
YES.
Happy Friday Everyone
Hi Tracy, I thoroughly enjoy what you share on your videos and IG. I was wondering if you could also share what type of consequences you and Paul would implement?
Thank you 😊
Hi Karen. Thank you.
Paul and I would take away the privilege the child receiving the consequences would be most impacted by. You hit them where it hurts. If that was a cell phone, you take that. If it's the car privileges, that goes. Every child's privileged will look different depending on age and interests.
@@TracyHensel Thank you! 💕
Amazing Video Tracy And Good Luck Too
Excellent video, this has motivated me to do the same with my 7 and 4 year old. I can also see how I will help communication with my hubby!!
Love this content. Ive got three littles 5 and under.
P.s. This is a flawless look on you 🥰
Outstanding Great Choice
Dear Tracy, thank you so much for all your inspiring videos! I just wish I had received such great advice decades ago… kind regards from Austria 🌸🌸
You are such an amazing inspiration. ❤️🙌👏🤩
Hello Tracy, love this video I love making list and having systems. Would love a video where you talk about how to be well spoken, English is my second language and I would say I am not well spoken on both of the languages I speak.
I am the child of a working mom and I was a working mom! I had chores to do before my mom went to work in 1960. My sister and I did the dishes every night. She washed, I dried. We were responsible for keeping our room clean, to her standards, not ours. After she started working, we did all the housework and laundry. I worked from the time I married (and before!) until I retired 7 years ago. My children, husband, and me all had chores. And as soon as ours were tall enough to reach the controls on the washer, they did their own laundry, including my husband! I implemented this when our children, all girls, were 12, 8, and 2! I did do the youngest one’s laundry until she was about 8, but then she did it! All 3 told me later on how grateful they were that I taught them these basic skills. They now have their own houses and families, and 2 are immaculate housekeepers and the other one at least has the skills 😂!
Thank you for sharing, Debbie. What a beautiful testament to being raised well and passing that gift on to your children.
I can relate everything from how I was raised to how we raised our girls. The first four didn't do their own laundry until age 13, but our youngest, Chloe, started at 11. Paul does his laundry, and I do mine. If I am washing my towels, I ask him if he needs his washed, and he will do the same. The Team, The Team, The Team!
I never gave my kids chores and I pay for it now!!! My 22 yo son lives with me and I gave him a chore list yesterday (from hearing your IG stories) and he sure did do all that I asked❤ thank you for all you do for your viewers for free everyday.
Always got my son to do chores and he
Thank you Tracy for this lovely video.. I will start to implement chores for my 2 year old.. Tracy have you ever experienced a fussy eater? My 2 year old is refusing food she will literally take a bite or just say no 😭 and she was a good eater before..tips would be great.. thank you 💖
Hi Tracy, I enjoyed the extra details you included here. I’ve tried implementing this and my girls are pretty good at doing their chore responsibilities, but one of my daughters (11 years old) has said that seeing the “list” stresses her out. Did any of your girls respond that way? I think she gets overwhelmed until she actually looks at it and realizes it is not unreasonable or too time consuming like clean out the garage.
Glad you enjoyed the video. That's to bad your daughter is experiencing stress when seeing the list. It makes sense that at the age of 11 if she is not used to seeing something of this nature, it feels foreign to her. Acknowledge and validate her emotions and in a tender and loving way explain to her exactly what you shared here - You see where she can initially feel overwhelmed seeing such a long list of information, but understand that the information is more than just chores. Understand it's important kids learn how to adult well. This will serve them later in life and build confidence in their abilities. Lists will always be in her life. The earlier she gets comfortable with them the better.
On your end, make sure her lists are categorized for ease of reading and feel free to get creative adding color, using highlighters, etc. Good Luck.
Great video! I will definitely be implementing this in the future. How do you avoid mothering your husband or babying your children? When do chores just become a part of an everyday routine?
Thank you. I need to know what 'mothering' and 'babying' look like for you to answer the question. I feel that I do neither, but I have many years under my belt, but that doesn't mean someone else may not see it that way.
There are always responsibilities. They are there daily. The routine is you either do them, or avoid them. This is another question that is hard to answer because I am not sure what you are looking for. If you make your bed daily, you probably don't need to task it.
LOL! I tried what you ate during the day for only one day, and I lost two pounds.
Haha, I love it. You must have a higher BMR than I do. Thanks for sharing!
What is your spouse has a different philosophy for training and chores?
Hopefully, the two of you can come to a common ground to work together as a team.