You’re describing my narcissistic mother who also gossips behind everyone’s back, tries to bait me into arguments and bellyaches about everything under the sun. I’m kind of amazed that I turned out okay considering the mother who “raised” me.
Last night I prayed for patience and wisdom to deal with my difficult person. This morning I woke up to this video in my feed. Perfect timing. Thank you!
Prayer works! I'm sorry to say that I often forget to pray when I know I'm going to be around difficult people, but listen the the gremlins in my head. Thank you for the reminder.
Tracy, you hit it right on the head the inner dialogue "this person thinks I am incompetent"... I am so guilty of over-analyzing what people's intentions are with their words, but you are so right the idea that it's all about them and has little to do with me.
As a person who plans my day down to the last minute, I prepare for interactions with people who might be negative. I’ve learned to limit the interaction as much as possible.
Great video. My experience is that the freedom of being far away from difficult people is far greater than any benefits you may inherit from associating with them.Don't even think of making a team with them. Avoid if you can. They will damage you if you ever challenge them.
EQ is so needed in the world!! I thought of you last weekend when my husband and I went hiking. The trail we chose was a creek bed and was basically covered in ice for the first part of the hike. Many hikers were using poles or had boots with small spikes on them, we did not. No problem; we maneuvered our way around and slided/shuffled through the challenging icy parts, the rest of the hike was flat and fine. Near the end there was a more challenging icy upwards part. There were two women hiking towards us on the way down. Without skipping a beat as she passed me, she said: "You can't do that without spikes." It's like her thoughts just came out, almost under her breath. It was so funny to hear her say that. As in "just because it was challenging for me or because I couldn't, neither can you!!!" Just matter of factly - YOU CAN'T. We continued on and this part of the trail was not an issue for us. Just very interesting....they're all around us! Don't let others EVER limit you!!! 🙌👊
LOL, reminds me of the hike I just went on in the Smoky Mountains. TN is my home state and I have grown up surrounded by woods my whole life. We have a 400 acre farm but brown bears are just slightly out of territory here, by about an hour. So needless to say I was excited for the chance to see one in nature. I came around a bend on the most popular trail in the smokies and right smack dab walked in front of me a juvenile bear. Not a baby and small enough to be worried about mama being behind, but a small timid young adult. I stuck my arm out to stop my travel partner, and stepped about one step closer and pointed in a hushed tone so we coule stay a safe distance away to observe without scarring the animal away. A scared idiot tourist with his family was standing on the other side of the trail wide eyed. He immediately looked at me and shouted BEAR, BEAR, freaking completely out. I had already stopped and was clearly very aware of the creature. The man behind me on the trail did the exact same thing as us, stopped quitely and watched as we warned him. The typical idiot tourist family was the only one making any fuss. The funny thing is the man was walking past and saying wow thay was close that was a pretty good sized bear lol, when it was very small and 100% minding its own business. Some people are just clueless and out of their element in nature, and that woman you spoke of and the man probably both walked away thinking wow I really saved their skin when they were the ones over estimating their own abilities.
Don't allow anyone to manipulate your emotions...be in charge of your faculties! We can't control all the situations around us, so we definitely need to keep our inner dimensions the way we want them...no more huffing and puffing! Coach yourself out of that!!! :) Be Happy!!!!!!
Karen, I agree. Hold tight to that inner strength and if possible get away from them. Mine is the big wedding or bridal showers. Ugg, who will I have to be seated with? A thing I do is, I stand up, to head to restroom just as they start a difficult, boring conversation. My child is now an adult and busy with college. She told me, "I'm not going to those things. Twice at showers, she was told she had to sit with cousins....that weren't her cousins or was so much older. She 16, they 30 yr w/ infant. She was outraged, furious. I had to sit w/ the table I was assigned to. Hmm. It was ok with me, yet I kept going over to her. I wish I knew this info back then. She told me she will not attend this coming summer and nor does she want these family members to know where she is or what she is doing.
Tracy, this is golden advice and extremely liberating. And the beautiful thing is there is a shift happening in our schools! I teach second grade and even at this age social emotional skills are now a part of our standards and even on our grade cards. We have daily lessons. Good things are coming!
I love the emotional delivery you express behind your truly impactful messages. It really resonates with me. Thank you so much for doing what you do, every day!
Today is really a special day and should always be celebrated with joy and admiration. Gradually we understand the incredible values of women. Regardless of social class, culture or region, women have a fantastic, necessary and unparalleled value in the society around them. In addition to the natural gifts of the human being, the woman has a feminine natural intuition, feeling, she can see where we men cannot see. The woman positively impacts the environments where she passes, with wisdom and knowledge, brings life to light. Happy International Women's Day!
Dear Tracy, please do a video on Emotional Intelligence and how to avoid ppl who have low EQ. Thanks. Also can you please do a video on quiet shutdown when the other person is scolding or condeming you. I tend to shutdown when my spouse is being verbal and he hates being interrupted but interrupts me when I say something. Thanks dear. Stay blessed and stay safe. From, Marilyn from Malaysia.
I know that feeling. I took the ELI Assessment with Tracy and it's an eye opener. It helped me to figure out what I need to do on how I show up, how I can improve and follow Tracy on Instagram to see her stories. She has so many nuggets to share if you are unable to afford coaching. I will get to a point financially so that I can reach out to Tracy for coaching she is the real deal. There is nothing better than having someone directly coaching you, setting goals to maintain positive growth in dealing with every aspect of ones life.
After having a run in with one of those people in my life just this weekend and having been badly derailed by it emotionally because I wasn't prepared, I really needed to hear this today.
I’m trying to implement these principles with parents who don’t respect boundaries and come from a authoritative parenting lens even though I’m 30 years old. It’s been a struggle but I know it’s worth it.
The way you talk about it with grace is much appreciated. So encouraging and helpful! I would love to have this making into a series ("how to deal with" for example)
I don't know why I'm not smart like you are in all these topics you discuss! 😅 But I'm not, so I need you to help. I've prayed to let go of a woman's mean comments to me about my socially struggling 15 year old son who has health issues he suffers from daily. And have had a hard time. It happened 2 weeks ago, I did not respond in an unlady-like way, but my heart hurts. And I know as a Christian that I am to forgive. You may be an answer to help me let go. God bless.
Thanks Tracy, loved this video! Felt like you were talking about one of my colleagues hitting every nail on the head!! I found this so helpful and would love a video on Emotional Intelligence.
Yes, loving them but believing and accepting them for who they are...I know when I get to that place it reflects my level of emotional intelligence....it's always a work in progress for me though...I'm getting there because of people like you Tracy that remind us! Thank You for sharing your emotional intelligence.....😇
Thank you for this video. Unfortunately, my biggest critic is my dad. Dealing with him is an exercise in futility. Always heavy and alway uncomfortable. Working through it and knowing i will be stronger from the experience. Yes, please do a video on EQ. How about not taking on the emotions of someone else when they are in a bad mood or expressing negative energy? Is it the same thing? Love your sweater and 💄 lippie..
Thank you! Very common to hear a parent. While they mean well, generally their advice is coming from their own experiences, not yours. It's their negative inner voice and GAIL's showing up. GAILS: Gremlin / Assumptions / Interpretations / Limited Beliefs from their life, not yours. Once you recognize this, you will be less bothered when he offers you advice and you will know what to retain and what to let go in one ear and out the other. Same with a person's bad mood and negative energy - it's about them, not you. Good Luck!
So true. Good food for thought. I think sometimes, as people are different, so are peoples intentions. I think intent is I important when forming opinions of others. I think there are those that “are” know it all’s, who can come at you from a judging point of view, or skewed. I think there are also those who truly think they are being helpful by giving advise, or their opinions. They may feel that they are just being friendly and truly mean you no harm. I think some people really are not aware , that it may be something to hold back on in regard to giving advice. Some are really innocent in offering unsolicited advice, while some people are really sizing you up in an inconsiderate judge mental kind of way, eager to get their point across. So, I think intent, or knowing how someone is, if you have that opportunity, is helpful in deciphering interactions and relationships. Sometimes it can be hard to tell, until we get to know someone. It can be a slippery slope sometimes.
You’re describing my narcissistic mother who also gossips behind everyone’s back, tries to bait me into arguments and bellyaches about everything under the sun. I’m kind of amazed that I turned out okay considering the mother who “raised” me.
You’re describing me as well and I feel it has made me ‘needy’ -yuck--I talk too much and want others to like me far too much and ….ugh
I would love a video about emotional intelligence
Me too!
Same here!
Yaassss please
Yes a video about EI would be great
Yes
Please create a video on emotional intelligence!! Thank you for all of your amazing guidance Tracy.❤❤❤
This video is amazing. Please create a video on EQ, so many low EQ people I interact with on a daily basis and I need your guidance!❤
Last night I prayed for patience and wisdom to deal with my difficult person. This morning I woke up to this video in my feed. Perfect timing. Thank you!
Prayer works! I'm sorry to say that I often forget to pray when I know I'm going to be around difficult people, but listen the the gremlins in my head. Thank you for the reminder.
Tracy, you hit it right on the head the inner dialogue "this person thinks I am incompetent"... I am so guilty of over-analyzing what people's intentions are with their words, but you are so right the idea that it's all about them and has little to do with me.
As a person who plans my day down to the last minute, I prepare for interactions with people who might be negative. I’ve learned to limit the interaction as much as possible.
Great video. My experience is that the freedom of being far away from difficult people is far greater than any benefits you may inherit from associating with them.Don't even think of making a team with them. Avoid if you can. They will damage you if you ever challenge them.
EQ is so needed in the world!! I thought of you last weekend when my husband and I went hiking. The trail we chose was a creek bed and was basically covered in ice for the first part of the hike. Many hikers were using poles or had boots with small spikes on them, we did not. No problem; we maneuvered our way around and slided/shuffled through the challenging icy parts, the rest of the hike was flat and fine. Near the end there was a more challenging icy upwards part. There were two women hiking towards us on the way down. Without skipping a beat as she passed me, she said: "You can't do that without spikes." It's like her thoughts just came out, almost under her breath. It was so funny to hear her say that. As in "just because it was challenging for me or because I couldn't, neither can you!!!" Just matter of factly - YOU CAN'T. We continued on and this part of the trail was not an issue for us. Just very interesting....they're all around us! Don't let others EVER limit you!!! 🙌👊
Perfect example of low Emotional Intelligence. Thanks for sharing!
LOL, reminds me of the hike I just went on in the Smoky Mountains. TN is my home state and I have grown up surrounded by woods my whole life. We have a 400 acre farm but brown bears are just slightly out of territory here, by about an hour. So needless to say I was excited for the chance to see one in nature. I came around a bend on the most popular trail in the smokies and right smack dab walked in front of me a juvenile bear. Not a baby and small enough to be worried about mama being behind, but a small timid young adult. I stuck my arm out to stop my travel partner, and stepped about one step closer and pointed in a hushed tone so we coule stay a safe distance away to observe without scarring the animal away. A scared idiot tourist with his family was standing on the other side of the trail wide eyed. He immediately looked at me and shouted BEAR, BEAR, freaking completely out. I had already stopped and was clearly very aware of the creature. The man behind me on the trail did the exact same thing as us, stopped quitely and watched as we warned him. The typical idiot tourist family was the only one making any fuss. The funny thing is the man was walking past and saying wow thay was close that was a pretty good sized bear lol, when it was very small and 100% minding its own business. Some people are just clueless and out of their element in nature, and that woman you spoke of and the man probably both walked away thinking wow I really saved their skin when they were the ones over estimating their own abilities.
Don't allow anyone to manipulate your emotions...be in charge of your faculties! We can't control all the situations around us, so we definitely need to keep our inner dimensions the way we want them...no more huffing and puffing! Coach yourself out of that!!! :) Be Happy!!!!!!
Karen, I agree. Hold tight to that inner strength and if possible get away from them. Mine is the big wedding or bridal showers. Ugg, who will I have
to be seated with? A thing I do is, I stand up, to head to restroom just as they start a difficult, boring conversation. My child is now an adult and busy with college.
She told me, "I'm not going to those things. Twice at showers, she was told she had to sit with cousins....that weren't her cousins or was so much older. She 16, they 30 yr w/ infant.
She was outraged, furious. I had to sit w/ the table I was assigned to. Hmm. It was ok with me, yet I kept going over to her.
I wish I knew this info back then. She told me she will not attend this coming summer and nor does she want these family members to know where she is or what she is doing.
Tracy, this is golden advice and extremely liberating. And the beautiful thing is there is a shift happening in our schools! I teach second grade and even at this age social emotional skills are now a part of our standards and even on our grade cards. We have daily lessons. Good things are coming!
So happy to hear this!
Thank you for the technique of changing the subject. Moving them on or shorting the exposure to their boundary invasions.
This is one of those repeat videos for me. Days like today, I need Tracy’s pep talks, thank you so much for this! ❤
I love the emotional delivery you express behind your truly impactful messages. It really
resonates with me. Thank you so much for doing what you do, every day!
Today is really a special day and should always be celebrated with joy and admiration. Gradually we understand the incredible values of women. Regardless of social class, culture or region, women have a fantastic, necessary and unparalleled value in the society around them. In addition to the natural gifts of the human being, the woman has a feminine natural intuition, feeling, she can see where we men cannot see. The woman positively impacts the environments where she passes, with wisdom and knowledge, brings life to light. Happy International Women's Day!
Thank you Antonio!
Yes sometimeswe cant really move on
And here I am now doig the best I can.
Dear Tracy, please do a video on Emotional Intelligence and how to avoid ppl who have low EQ. Thanks. Also can you please do a video on quiet shutdown when the other person is scolding or condeming you. I tend to shutdown when my spouse is being verbal and he hates being interrupted but interrupts me when I say something. Thanks dear.
Stay blessed and stay safe.
From,
Marilyn from Malaysia.
I know that feeling. I took the ELI Assessment with Tracy and it's an eye opener. It helped me to figure out what I need to do on how I show up, how I can improve and follow Tracy on Instagram to see her stories. She has so many nuggets to share if you are unable to afford coaching. I will get to a point financially so that I can reach out to Tracy for coaching she is the real deal. There is nothing better than having someone directly coaching you, setting goals to maintain positive growth in dealing with every aspect of ones life.
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Amazing video! Thank you so much, Tracy! 💕
If they show you who they are believe it! 👏
My most favorite video of you Maam Tracy! Thank you thank you thank you!
After having a run in with one of those people in my life just this weekend and having been badly derailed by it emotionally because I wasn't prepared, I really needed to hear this today.
Your tips are a God send!!!!
I wanna be a classy lady, even in the difficult situations💃
QTIP is one of my favorite acronyms. Love these nuggets Tracy. Best use of my morning break to listen to Tracy.
I will just say Thank you to them now (and do what I decide to).
I was looking for this target advice and I knew you could address it somewhere! Perfect! Thank you!
Wish I could like every word a million times!
Such a strong amazing woman. Thank you for your words
great great great video!!! So many insights! I’m loving your videos, Tracy, just found you, so glad I did!
I love you so much, Tracy,, for all the good that you bring into my Life ! 💕
Take them for who they are..💜😍
You know it just hurts so bad, because it’s your family you know! (Mom &dad)
Outstanding Great Stories Tracy For Beautiful Day
I’m trying to implement these principles with parents who don’t respect boundaries and come from a authoritative parenting lens even though I’m 30 years old. It’s been a struggle but I know it’s worth it.
Yes, please tell us more about Emotional Intelligence.
We all need to hear this, thank you ❤️
Thank you from Slovakia.
This is a fantastic video! I have watched it several times depending on which relationships I need help with.
I love my Tracy friend!!!!
Helpful video. Very helpful. Thank you
The way you talk about it with grace is much appreciated. So encouraging and helpful! I would love to have this making into a series ("how to deal with" for example)
I can’t tell you how much I needed this video this morning. Thank you!
I don't know why I'm not smart like you are in all these topics you discuss! 😅 But I'm not, so I need you to help. I've prayed to let go of a woman's mean comments to me about my socially struggling 15 year old son who has health issues he suffers from daily. And have had a hard time. It happened 2 weeks ago, I did not respond in an unlady-like way, but my heart hurts. And I know as a Christian that I am to forgive. You may be an answer to help me let go. God bless.
It’s also how they talk to us. My mom talks to me in a hateful way and tone. Her sister even asks why she treats me that way.
Yes!!! A video on emotional intelligence
Oh! How I needed this!?! Perfect timing!
Happy International Women’s Day, Tracy!!!! Thank you for the video!😍😍🥰
Thank you Julia!
Tracy I found this video at the right time! I know this advice will help me at work thank you.
I need it now , but really needed it when I worked
Love your hair in this video!
I needed this video. Thank you
Would love to see more low EQ videos!
This has to be the best video you have done. Your advice is gold. Thank you 🙏 🙏🙏🙏
I always come back to this video when I need some dose of motivation. Please continue do to this kind of videos.
Ugh. This video is so good and what I needed.
Thank goodness for you! Grew up with out EQ people now I’m eating this up like candy !!
WoW what an amazing video!
Thanks Tracy! 🙂
❤what an amazing video thank you 🙏 friend
Outstanding clarity. Great video
Love your advise
Thank you for reminding me that I still need to work on myself, I needed this! xo
I love that- “would you go to that person for advice?” No! #1believe #2 Q-T-I-P love this needed this... God bless 👩🏽💻
This was right on! Love watching and learning from your videos
Love you Tracey
Thanks Tracy, loved this video! Felt like you were talking about one of my colleagues hitting every nail on the head!! I found this so helpful and would love a video on Emotional Intelligence.
I have learned so much from you!
You’re such a classy beautiful lady! ❤️
Thank you, Tracy. Always appreciate your keeping it real.
Excellent video 💕
Also, thank you for all the links to other videos!
Love this type of video! Thank you Tracy!
Thank you!!!!
Thank you for this video 🥰 Definitely video about EQ please!!!!
Kind regards from London
OMG! Love this topic. So much to think about. Thank you Tracy. Another great video.
Thank you
Thank you for this very helpful video!🙌
Great information Tracy! Yes I would love to see a video about emotional intelligence. Thanks! Cindy 💗🌻
Yes, videos on EQ!!
This came just in time. Thanks Tracy. You are always the voice of reason. 💕
EXCELLENT!!!!
This was mind blowing! Thank you!
Amazing 🗣
Great topic! Would love to see more videos on EQ. Thanks Tracy 😊.
Yet another gem of a video to add to your amazing library. #goals Thank you Tracy for all you do!
Yes, loving them but believing and accepting them for who they are...I know when I get to that place it reflects my level of emotional intelligence....it's always a work in progress for me though...I'm getting there because of people like you Tracy that remind us! Thank You for sharing your emotional intelligence.....😇
Hi Tracy, this was an amazing video today! I got so much out of it and would love to see a video on low emotional intelligence.
Thank you!! 😘
Hi Tracy, Good topic i would like to know more about emotional intelligence.
I am new to your channel, I love it 😍 very much. This video for me is one of the best. However, I have watch only a few.🌹
Thank you for this video. Unfortunately, my biggest critic is my dad. Dealing with him is an exercise in futility. Always heavy and alway uncomfortable. Working through it and knowing i will be stronger from the experience. Yes, please do a video on EQ. How about not taking on the emotions of someone else when they are in a bad mood or expressing negative energy? Is it the same thing? Love your sweater and 💄 lippie..
Thank you!
Very common to hear a parent. While they mean well, generally their advice is coming from their own experiences, not yours. It's their negative inner voice and GAIL's showing up. GAILS: Gremlin / Assumptions / Interpretations / Limited Beliefs from their life, not yours. Once you recognize this, you will be less bothered when he offers you advice and you will know what to retain and what to let go in one ear and out the other. Same with a person's bad mood and negative energy - it's about them, not you. Good Luck!
Tracy, thank you so much for the uplifting video! Yes please, we are interested in EQ video. Thank you for bringing it up.
Thank you Tracy for this video, it's very helpful.❤️
I just love the final phrase " you can’t move on if you are renting a real estate’’ 😁 this is hilarious and very true👍🏻
I can’t tell you how great this was to hear! Yes please do more videos on this.
I would love a video about EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE also..
So true. Good food for thought. I think sometimes, as people are different, so are peoples intentions. I think intent is I important when forming opinions of others. I think there are those that “are” know it all’s, who can come at you from a judging point of view, or skewed. I think there are also those who truly think they are being helpful by giving advise, or their opinions. They may feel that they are just being friendly and truly mean you no harm. I think some people really are not aware , that it may be something to hold back on in regard to giving advice. Some are really innocent in offering unsolicited advice, while some people are really sizing you up in an inconsiderate judge mental kind of way, eager to get their point across. So, I think intent, or knowing how someone is, if you have that opportunity, is helpful in deciphering interactions and relationships. Sometimes it can be hard to tell, until we get to know someone. It can be a slippery slope sometimes.
This video was so helpful, today. Thank you, Tracy. ❤️
I would also love to know more about emotional intelligence.
Thank you!
A video about eq, pleaaaase. From Romania, thank you very much!
Thank you so much and I think I’m going to sign up for a consultation!
Great content.... please vid on emotional intellj gence
Yes, please do a video on the areas of low EQ.
Great advice, thanks a lot!