Let me put it this way: Some people who hike in the mountains without a shirt will get more attention here than a couple who intensely exchanges intimacies in a park.
hey, thank you for this video. I am an elderly german woman, and it was my generation who faught for that PDA freedom. Our parents and grandparents didn't like it. That was in the sixties and seventies. Our cheeky answer to their critisism was: you made war, we make love. if you don't like it, do not look at it, if you can. You do not have to do PDA yourself. But I get it, we feel uncomfortable in different cultures, when we are confronted with taboos from our own culture. As a young woman I went on a road trip to the US. I was shocked and deeply embaressed with public bathroom stalls. There was too much insight. People could see my face, my legs, could hear and smell. For me the most intimate private things are what we do in a bathroom. Unfortunately I am a human and had to use such bathrooms! it seemed to me to be in a country of ... As to free usage of public bathrooms: in the US i would have been happy to pay, even 20 dollars, to have a bathroom with privacy what you feel about PDA might also be similar to what I felt about openly carrying guns, things with the only purpose to kill! As a german I prefere affection exposed to arms and intimate bathroom stuff in public. Make love, not war My parents got used to it, and maybe so will you
In india we dont have toilet in many villages, i had gone to poo with friends in fields, many school going girls and boys saw me doing poo, it was embarasing but it was common thing to do. Now most of villagers have toliets.
Hi Bea, I am not your generation but I am super glad you fought for PDA here in Germany. What a shame it would be to miss out on a romantic moment and be ashamed. Your comment made me really happy! Thank you! (I also want bathroom privacy, I‘m British and it‘s non-negotiable for me 😝)
There's America and then there's New York City. We do as we please, all hours. And be careful where you walk in Central Park on a summer's evening. If you walk off the paths, don't be surprised if you walk behand a bush or into tall grass.
You don't see people carrying guns in public here like its the Old West. There's really nothing to be "uncomfortable" about for visiting Europeans. I've lived in large cities and small towns all over California and I don't know of anyone who's been the victim of gun violence nor have seen gun battles in public.
@@jeffmorse645 If we're pinning it down to personal stories then: i lived in Phoenix (AZ) for a year (so not thet long) in that timeframe I remember ~8 fatal shootings within a few blocks of where I lived and when asked about roughly half of the people I knew said they had a loaded gun at home or in the car. And I lived near the Uni Campus where I assume the population is younger and more liberal than in other parts of town. So simply speaking from the perspective of such a European in the US, yeah I did felt uncomfortable about that. Maybe Cali is very differnt idk. Just wanted to add a personal story to your personal story.
@@jeffmorse645 Check the stats (www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-41488081). It is deeply uncomfortable for a lot of europeans knowing, every screwed mind walking around in the states, could potentially wear a gun.
@@jeffmorse645 Sadly I have to agree with FelKor ... to have the D.C. Sniper in the same city while you are on a few days vacation at the east coast could be called bad luck or 'adventure holidays'. But, no reason to feel uncomfortable ;)
Good observations, NALF: PDA, nudity and sex are more relaxed topics in Germany. Clearly seen by the movie ratings. We are shocked more by death, war and destruction in films than nudity and sex.
Just saw an interview with Sharon Stone, after Basic Instinct, her mother was asked what she thinks of the nudity in the movie? And she replied Oh that's nothing, she worried more as she portrait a serial killer. ua-cam.com/video/mJruUkzwi8U/v-deo.html
Intro: when two people are really flirtatious with each other, they're called Turteltauben, literally "flirting pigeons". So, even though at first glance they might seem disconnected from the video's main topic, the beautiful pictures of the pecking pigeon (pecking meaning both "picking on the ground" and "giving a little kiss") and the lonely, single pigeon at 0:37 are a metaphor for the PDA couple in the park and Nalf. Which is also why your facial expression is equally shocked as the pigeon's at 0:37.
Years ago I attended a language course in the US in which mainly Europeans participated. In the evenings we went to bars and clubs and were often told by locals that the easiest way to spot Europeans is that they are shy and reserved during the day, but once the evening starts, they will lose all their inhibitions and make out wildly with each other. :D It was only when the "Amis" pointed this out to us that we actually became aware of it too. While Europeans were showing their affection for others so publicly, Americans were more likely to say something subtle like: "Let's have breakfast together". I didn't understand these hints at that time. Europeans are apparently more straightforward and direct in this matter :D However, I also have to say that just because some people make out with each other doesn't necissarily mean that they‘re going to be intimate with each other. In my experience Europeans often just like to kiss for fun (without any ulterior motives). 😅So I guess there might also be a cutural misconception of „PDA“.
"extended passionate make-out session" That made me laugh...I think most Germans just don't care and even watch long enough to even notice an extended make-out session :)
As no one else has commented about this great intro ( so far) i have to say you did a really great job and it shows that you put a lot of effort in cutting this video :) Nice done!
We often only perceive the things which are occupying our mind. My younger brother used to see drug sellers everywhere, at the very same spots where I used to walk to school. I never saw one. I always saw dogs and cats everywhere, he not. We have such good filters over our perception, that every person will see different things at the same spot and time. And if you do not feel comfortable with something you see, you can choose to look away. I wish you a loving partner so that you can display your affections in or outdoors, when and wherever you like!
So true! When I was younger I never paid any attention to pregnant women nor kids, but then when I got over 30 I started to see just THAT everywhere 😁 I got a 14 year old son meanwhile 😊 and don't only see pregnant women everywhere anymore 😂🙋♀️
The Intro of course gives us the unofficial title of the video, "Nalf and the Mistery of the Lovebirds in the Park". It could also be "Nalf widmet Vögeln im Park seine Aufmerksamkeit", but I doubt that your German would be advanced enough for that, so I stay with my first idea.
It is also an acronym fot Public Display of Affection, however, I would argue that the participants in his story were displaying more exhibitionist tendancies and less displaying affection.
@@CosmicKungFu Oh, thanks, that's just not a topic in Germany, to have a word for this. It's just called living. We don't know what he means by "making out", maybe just intense kissing ? I get no idea what level he as an American might have. He has too many taboos to speak it out loud. Sex in public might happen in a Park in summer, but at least they try to hide, I guess. It's not in busy places like Nalf is currently sitting in.
I honestly don’t notice it. If I see people kiss I don’t take any more notice of it than of someone eating an ice cream or walking a dog. It’s not like it harms anyone.
I look at people with their dogs with more suspicion. I wanna know if they pick up their dogs' poop. If a couple would do the same...well, that's for sure gonna get my attention.
For a second there, I thought this was gonna be a video about epidurals in Germany 🤣 The fact that there's even an abbreviation for "Public Displays of Affection" is so weird to me. Let couples make out all they want, I just don't wanna see them get naked and doing the devil's tango right beside me, for all I care. I feel like this might also be an age thing. When I was younger and in my first ever serious relationship, I couldn't wait to show the world my affection for my partner at the time. Now at 32, my fiancé and I usually don't spiral into wild make out sessions in public (espcially not during a pandemic, but you get the gist).
PDA? There was something.... PDA: Personal Digital Assistant. Was used like a smartphone without SIM-card and mobile access to the internet. Palm was one of the companies producing PDAs. NALF is not old enough to know this.
@@Ulrich.Bierwisch That's amusing, because that was the first thing that came to my mind. I wondered why anyone would be making a video about personal digital assistants. Public Displays of Affection never occurred to me!
I mean, just the fact that we Germans don't have a concept of PDA (i.e. there being a certain behaviour regarding intimacy that's different from normal/expected behaviour) should tell you that we largely don't mind showing intimacy in public.
I really need a visual here. What does intense make out session mean for you? I have never seen anyone in Germany make out in public. But I was called out in the US for hugging my boyfriend at a pool because "there are children here". So, maybe what I would consider an innocent hug would mean making out for you?
naa, he didnt seem that prudish here (like the Karen telling you off for hugging another) - he did say that he was not talking about a simple kiss, but a intense make out session. My interpretation of that is like kissing at a bench for 5+ min. - maybe even with him or her crouched over the other like a sitting cowgirl position (clothed). In case you wanted another view =D
I've never heard of "Public Displays of Affection". First I thought this is people and PDAs (Personal Digital Assistents), but when you enter PDA in a (German) search engine, most results will be for Periduralanästhesie...
Please demonstrate the different stages of making out and up to what stage making out is accaptable for Americans in one of your upcoming videos. For science!
I am Presbyterian (a Protestant Christian denomination). Our church has a national organization called PDA: Presbyterian Disaster Assistance. However, I first learned the acronym PDA for Public Display of Affection over 30 years ago when it was used in my middle school and high school Student Handbooks in the USA.
Reminds me of waiting at the doctor's office. 2 Spanish people kissing madly. I wasn't annoyed by them kissing or almost making out. It was the fact they spoke so LOUD! Kiss all you want but please don't yell at each other talking.
I like this Hitchcockian new direction of the vlogs, menacing pigeon footage, dramatic suspense music, etc. Birds are much more terrifying than PDA. They're basically dinosaurs with wings and they cannot fool me! What's a little PDA compared to those killing machines who live to eat?!
I understand people objecting publicly committed violence - but love, affection and happiness? Please everybody get someone for hugging, kissing and display of affection - this world will be more happy and much more relaxed! 😀
@@jeffmorse645 As a German, it is more shocking to observe a "Nordic go all out" on a public beach, with families around you. And then find an age-appropriate explanation for 5 to 7 year olds;)
There’s a difference between love n affection, I’d say foreplay. I was in a restaurant around Stuttgart eating with my kids and a couple next table over were practically dry humping. They would stop and look around to see if anyone was watching and step up their game so maybe it’s for attention too. Lost my appetite and my kids were uncomfortable
In Germany, many women give birth with epidural anesthesia (or epidural anesthesia, or PDA for short). The pregnant woman is so anesthetized by a syringe in the spine that she often hardly notices the pain of childbirth. But critics also warn of side effects. The German translation for PDA!
and there i was wondering what you could possibly know about painless birth. and about the kissing in public like this, i mean we all were young at some point so ... who didnt do that at least once ?
For someone who complains about Germans staring at other people, you seem to do a lot of careful observing yourself. Becoming more and more German I guess!
If you want to keep your affections private, that's ok with me. If you don't like what you see, if you're feeling uncomfortable, just look the other way. Romance, kissing and more are just normal human behaviour. As long as the people doing it don't feel uncomfortable, it's ok for them and it should be ok for you - live and let live. See: You don't need to look.
I honestly never thought about this until I started watching american youtubers, who talked about public displays of affection. I don't know if there even is a german word for it. And the american word made me smile, because it sounds very analytic and almost clinical as if the word itself was trying to distance itself from anything too passionate. But that was just my personal impression. Maybe the different perception of pda has sth to do with the stronger puritan/evangelical influence in the US.
Ich würd das auf deutsch einfach mit „rumknutschen“ beschreiben. Wobei es das natürlich nicht ganz trifft. Beim „ Fummeln“ würde es dann auch schonmal zwischen die Beine gehn. Aber das passiert doch eher nicht auf der Parkbank🤔
@@karinland8533 ich würde es rummachen nennen. Parkbank in der Regel nicht, aber im Park hab ich schon mal ein Pärchen gesehen, das sich ziemlich eindeutig unter nem darüber liegenden pulli befummelt hat :/ hätte jetzt auch meiner Meinung nach nicht sein müssen😅
An interpretation of the cinematic intro; “Sinister bird life strikes fear & terror into good SHA citizen & premier cross-cultural ambassador Nalf”. A filmic metaphor for his concerns on the hilarious yet terrifying comments regarding the topic of this video ;-)
This time I answer in English. Seems to be an American problem only. I'm still shaking my head in disbelief about what has bothered you there. When I first read the video title with PDA I already suspected that you wouldn't be talking about anaesthesia when giving birth ( Periduralanästhesie) nor about the precursor of smartphones ( personal digital assistant) , so I looked it up with Google and I only found 'pathological demand avoidance'. So I started your video and finally watched your explanation 'public display of affection'. I've never heard of this before and I can't imagine that any European country has a term for this let alone even an abbreviation. And the Wikipedia article about this meaning of PDA was very complicated and difficult to understand. But the whole thing is just kissing and hugging in public. ( I suppose no couple would have real sex openly.) So nothing to make such a fuss about. 😄 Nalf, if you had looked up Wikipedia yourself this video would have been unneccessary. There you can find: In most of the Western world, such as Western Europe, Australia, New Zealand, Canada and the United States, it is very common to see people holding hands, hugging and sometimes kissing in public. ... Although in the United States people are more repressed so even kissing in public is considered not acceptable whereas in (Western) Europe it's quite normal." So there's the explanation. Here in Germany kissing and hugging in public is absolutely normal. When I was younger it was more common than nowadays, the young generation now is a lot more prude and reserved than we were in days before AIDS and with the hippies and sexual revolution.
I can’t speak for Nalf but I’m close to the same area as him and have stayed in Germany for many yrs so I guess he meant more than simple hugging and kissing. That’s considered normal in US/Canada but we’re uncomfortable with the fondling genitalia and grinding in public that we see in EU
I might be wrong here but wasn't there an incident in America where a cardriver hit and injured a passionatly hugging couple under a broken traffic light on a parking spot? The couple sued him for medical bills and pain compensation money and won. The verdict of the judge: the driver should have anticipated someone could "make out" beneath broken spotlights. The couple did get a fine too though. PDA I also assumed some electronic device at first ;) learned a new abbreviation today.
@@beatrixpastoors1104 :) gern geschehen. Auf amerikanisch geführten Internetplattformen muss man sehr einfallsreich werden, wenn es um Synonyme für Geschlechtsverkehr (oder ums Fluchen) geht 🤷♀️
I really assumed it's about Personal Digital Assistants (the trusty old Palm Pilot) and why germans always plan weeks ahead instead of being spontaneous. These two people in the thumbnail are clearly whispering calendar dates into their ears to find an acceptable date for the annual 'Angrillen' session.
It seems I haven't been around much lately because I have never seen anything like that in public. I would differentiate between 'affection' and 'sexual intimacy'. There is nothing wrong with hugging and kissing in public I'd say but when it comes to sexual intimacy there is even a law prohibiting that, the offence being " Erregung öffentlichen Ärgernisses" ( causing public annoyance ). Watching something like that would make me feel uncomfortable not because of prudery but because I would feel that I wasn't supposed to see something as private as that. The question is do those people want others to watch or are they so overwhelmed with passion that there is no time to get home, lol.
I don't have a problem with PDA's. So what if a couple shows their affection for one another in public? If someone doesn't like them there's always the option to look away. Or to take a quick look, be happy that the single society hasn't completely taken over and leave them to themselves.
do you have a German word that would be universal? like the word is telling of an significant other, but not the gender of the boy/girl-friend? I know we have in danish, like its the norm word to use, but that word is not telling the gender of the significant other like boy/girl-friend does =)
@@TainDK (mein) Schatz = (my) darling The German word "Schatz" is "genderless" and can be used on both girls and boys. You should know who is calling each other "Schatz" or "Schatzi" in the NALF universe, don't you? 😉
@@andrep.3774 that's a pet name though, not really a replacement for girlfriend or boyfriend. I don't think we have anything gender neutral. Partner/Partnerin, Lebensgefährte/Lebensgefährtin, Freund/Freundin are all gendered.
Well, as a Village-Child I don't rly see that Stuff in Pools or Parks but when there is a good old "Schützenfest" or any kind of Village-Party involving (high) Amounts of Alcohol I see the Stuff I'd like to unsee sometimes
We stare at everyone and this is just possible becouse we don´t care if other stare at us. You have to learn to stare like a German, without shame than you will notice, that you don´t notice the PDA enymore.
I haven't noticed PDAs in public places in Germany, but I was shocked to see it happening in a work environment and a training center. At work PDA: in the TV room at the "guard house" (not sure in English, Wache in German). The medics weren't just watching TV, they were giving each other massages. In training: In-between class sessions on a hot non-AC day the students were lying on the carpet touching each other. They were all in their early 20s, but apparently no one had taught them what behavior is appropriate at the workplace/school.
I don't know I always find with the cultural differences you and German Girl in America bring up that my experience being born and living in the UK is usually somewhere in the middle. I think here you would normally expect to see this from teenagers/students less likely from older people. But I would say that I wouldn't be shocked or surprised to see a couple of any age making out in a park on a bench, the wondering hands part I'd say was a bit far for public really. I guess in Germany it's kinda like the nudity thing they don't really make much of a fuss about it at all, where as here I would normally expect most people to wear a towel in a sauna for example .
"Nehmt euch 'en Zimmer" (get a room) is also very common here, if it get's too crazy but I guess, yeah, it is more out and about here and in mostly south EU/France too. I also have to tick the box for some personal smooch action in the public bath...but mostly in more secluded spots and no bedroom stuff.
Hey Nick, when reading PDA I first thought of Periduralanästhesie which is some kind of pain treatment manly used when giving birth. Then I thought of a Personal Digital Assistent used in the early 2000s. But what you meant never came to my mind. There we go with the cultural differences ;-) Keep up the great work! Cheers Peer
My interpretation of the intro at 5 in the morning: Nalf is wondering if Hogwarts letters are delivered by mail pigeon instead of owls in Germany while he's editing the footage.
Hey NALF! I think I have the best explanation for your video material with the pigeons in the beginning. It simply just shows your grade of germanification: So in Germany we say to a fresh and loving couple 'Turteltäubchen' (turtle doves, lovebirds). So that association was in your mind when you filmed that material. Can I win something now?
The ubiquity of art, at risk from looming predators (:38)...and by weather that won't cooperate. No shot of your fascination with water today. PDA - a small handheld device equipped with a microprocessor that is used especially for storing and organizing personal information; Personal Digital Assistant. It's your duty to observe cultural differences...and read about them in the comments section. Sigh. The very best part starts at 2:22. Oh, and Party Hard. TSGO
We are oviously working on our "Germans are cold and unfriendly" habits :) So just stay true to the "Americans don't stare"-habit and everyone is happy :)
The fact that Americans invented the term "PDA" says a lot.
I thought it was an anaesthetic used for women who are in labour.😂🤣
The Americans prefer PDF - Public Display of Firearms.
I thought PDA was like a test/exam or something ^^
@@JBdiGriz this comment needs way more respect XD
LOL
Let me put it this way: Some people who hike in the mountains without a shirt will get more attention here than a couple who intensely exchanges intimacies in a park.
what kind of psycho would hike in the mountains without a shirt?
@@NALFVLOGS See, you're becoming more and more German - recognizing the real issues!
@@NALFVLOGS lol
@@NALFVLOGS LOL
@@NALFVLOGS Nobody would do that. And if someone did, it could cause cows to run away.
hey, thank you for this video.
I am an elderly german woman, and it was my generation who faught for that PDA freedom. Our parents and grandparents didn't like it. That was in the sixties and seventies. Our cheeky answer to their critisism was: you made war, we make love.
if you don't like it, do not look at it, if you can. You do not have to do PDA yourself.
But I get it, we feel uncomfortable in different cultures, when we are confronted with taboos from our own culture.
As a young woman I went on a road trip to the US.
I was shocked and deeply embaressed with public bathroom stalls. There was too much insight. People could see my face, my legs, could hear and smell. For me the most intimate private things are what we do in a bathroom. Unfortunately I am a human and had to use such bathrooms! it seemed to me to be in a country of ...
As to free usage of public bathrooms: in the US i would have been happy to pay, even 20 dollars, to have a bathroom with privacy
what you feel about PDA might also be similar to what I felt about openly carrying guns, things with the only purpose to kill!
As a german I prefere affection exposed to arms and intimate bathroom stuff in public.
Make love, not war
My parents got used to it, and maybe so will you
I like to read older peoples comments, thanks for the perspective.
In india we dont have toilet in many villages, i had gone to poo with friends in fields, many school going girls and boys saw me doing poo, it was embarasing but it was common thing to do.
Now most of villagers have toliets.
Hi Bea, I am not your generation but I am super glad you fought for PDA here in Germany. What a shame it would be to miss out on a romantic moment and be ashamed. Your comment made me really happy! Thank you! (I also want bathroom privacy, I‘m British and it‘s non-negotiable for me 😝)
There's America and then there's New York City. We do as we please, all hours. And be careful where you walk in Central Park on a summer's evening. If you walk off the paths, don't be surprised if you walk behand a bush or into tall grass.
I think Europeans have the same discomfort with guns as Americans have with overt sexuality
Seems true so. I'd rather have people around me making out than a couple who unloads their weapons with the same intense affection.
You don't see people carrying guns in public here like its the Old West. There's really nothing to be "uncomfortable" about for visiting Europeans. I've lived in large cities and small towns all over California and I don't know of anyone who's been the victim of gun violence nor have seen gun battles in public.
@@jeffmorse645 If we're pinning it down to personal stories then:
i lived in Phoenix (AZ) for a year (so not thet long) in that timeframe I remember ~8 fatal shootings within a few blocks of where I lived and when asked about roughly half of the people I knew said they had a loaded gun at home or in the car. And I lived near the Uni Campus where I assume the population is younger and more liberal than in other parts of town.
So simply speaking from the perspective of such a European in the US, yeah I did felt uncomfortable about that.
Maybe Cali is very differnt idk. Just wanted to add a personal story to your personal story.
@@jeffmorse645 Check the stats (www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-41488081).
It is deeply uncomfortable for a lot of europeans knowing, every screwed mind walking around in the states, could potentially wear a gun.
@@jeffmorse645 Sadly I have to agree with FelKor ... to have the D.C. Sniper in the same city while you are on a few days vacation at the east coast could be called bad luck or 'adventure holidays'. But, no reason to feel uncomfortable ;)
Good observations, NALF: PDA, nudity and sex are more relaxed topics in Germany. Clearly seen by the movie ratings. We are shocked more by death, war and destruction in films than nudity and sex.
As it should be.
Create, dont destroy =)
Make love, not war!
Just saw an interview with Sharon Stone, after Basic Instinct, her mother was asked what she thinks of the nudity in the movie?
And she replied Oh that's nothing, she worried more as she portrait a serial killer.
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And I'm glad about it! :)
PDA, Pidgeon Documentary Advertisement, that's what the intro was for, no? Am I missing something here?
Clever. Very clever.
Nalf 2019: summer in Germany ... "It's too hoooooooooooot"
Nalf 2021: PDA in Germany ... "It's too hoooooooooooot"
Get A/C: all cool.
Nice One! :)
Intro: when two people are really flirtatious with each other, they're called Turteltauben, literally "flirting pigeons". So, even though at first glance they might seem disconnected from the video's main topic, the beautiful pictures of the pecking pigeon (pecking meaning both "picking on the ground" and "giving a little kiss") and the lonely, single pigeon at 0:37 are a metaphor for the PDA couple in the park and Nalf. Which is also why your facial expression is equally shocked as the pigeon's at 0:37.
I think this it.
Agreed, and further elaborating the cinematic setting of the intro is the scene at 3:24 with two pigeons in the throes of a mating dance.
There's "lovey-dovey" in English too. I thought the theme was quite obvious.
@@scelestion Yep! "Two turtledoves ... and a partridge in a pear tree!"
That's Art .
If you are surprised by this you might be surprised if you observe people in France, Italy, Spain etc. :D
Oh yes, I barely ever see it in Germany compared to Spain or Portugal
@@flopunkt3665 even I haven't seen it in Germany
For me PDA is Periduralanästhesie
And I was so curious what you have to add to this topic 🤣🤣🤣
That comes way after the kind of PDA he is talking about...
Years ago I attended a language course in the US in which mainly Europeans participated. In the evenings we went to bars and clubs and were often told by locals that the easiest way to spot Europeans is that they are shy and reserved during the day, but once the evening starts, they will lose all their inhibitions and make out wildly with each other. :D
It was only when the "Amis" pointed this out to us that we actually became aware of it too. While Europeans were showing their affection for others so publicly, Americans were more likely to say something subtle like: "Let's have breakfast together". I didn't understand these hints at that time. Europeans are apparently more straightforward and direct in this matter :D
However, I also have to say that just because some people make out with each other doesn't necissarily mean that they‘re going to be intimate with each other. In my experience Europeans often just like to kiss for fun (without any ulterior motives). 😅So I guess there might also be a cutural misconception of „PDA“.
"extended passionate make-out session" That made me laugh...I think most Germans just don't care and even watch long enough to even notice an extended make-out session :)
Na, he's just envious ;)
simple: Make Love Not War !
or just less cancel culture
@Mane Name And? Back then the germans where same prudish and religios as murica, See the way it goes.
Make Love or Make Babies and not war!!
@Mane Name germany started the 2nd WW. The first one just happen because everyone joined the war between austria and serbia.
make love like war
As no one else has commented about this great intro ( so far) i have to say you did a really great job and it shows that you put a lot of effort in cutting this video :)
Nice done!
thank you i really appreciate that!
You didn't see the cutouts....the pigeon was PDAing with its partner seconds before ;-)
I prefer PDA over PDG (Public Displays of Guns)!
Agreed, though in Canada we have neither😂
We often only perceive the things which are occupying our mind. My younger brother used to see drug sellers everywhere, at the very same spots where I used to walk to school. I never saw one. I always saw dogs and cats everywhere, he not. We have such good filters over our perception, that every person will see different things at the same spot and time. And if you do not feel comfortable with something you see, you can choose to look away. I wish you a loving partner so that you can display your affections in or outdoors, when and wherever you like!
Wisely spoken!
Großartiger Kommentar! 😀
Bam...finally somebody said so! And Nalf avoid lakes in summertime. There‘s a lot more going on, you might even see somebody naked...😎
So true! When I was younger I never paid any attention to pregnant women nor kids, but then when I got over 30 I started to see just THAT everywhere 😁 I got a 14 year old son meanwhile 😊 and don't only see pregnant women everywhere anymore 😂🙋♀️
The Intro of course gives us the unofficial title of the video, "Nalf and the Mistery of the Lovebirds in the Park". It could also be "Nalf widmet Vögeln im Park seine Aufmerksamkeit", but I doubt that your German would be advanced enough for that, so I stay with my first idea.
"NALF widmet Vögeln im Park seine Aufmerksamkeit" 😂😂😂😂😂
PDA is a Personal Digital Assistent, like Siri, or its peridural anesthesia, something you get when you get a baby.
It is also an acronym fot Public Display of Affection, however, I would argue that the participants in his story were displaying more exhibitionist tendancies and less displaying affection.
@@CosmicKungFu Oh, thanks, that's just not a topic in Germany, to have a word for this. It's just called living.
We don't know what he means by "making out", maybe just intense kissing ? I get no idea what level he as an American might have. He has too many taboos to speak it out loud.
Sex in public might happen in a Park in summer, but at least they try to hide, I guess. It's not in busy places like Nalf is currently sitting in.
I honestly don’t notice it. If I see people kiss I don’t take any more notice of it than of someone eating an ice cream or walking a dog. It’s not like it harms anyone.
I look at people with their dogs with more suspicion. I wanna know if they pick up their dogs' poop.
If a couple would do the same...well, that's for sure gonna get my attention.
For a second there, I thought this was gonna be a video about epidurals in Germany 🤣 The fact that there's even an abbreviation for "Public Displays of Affection" is so weird to me. Let couples make out all they want, I just don't wanna see them get naked and doing the devil's tango right beside me, for all I care. I feel like this might also be an age thing. When I was younger and in my first ever serious relationship, I couldn't wait to show the world my affection for my partner at the time. Now at 32, my fiancé and I usually don't spiral into wild make out sessions in public (espcially not during a pandemic, but you get the gist).
*Public. The p in PDA stands for public. Not trying to be annoying I just think that way it makes more sense.
@@alinac5512 Oh yeah, my bad 😅
@@D0MiN0ChAn lol, np
PDA? There was something....
PDA: Personal Digital Assistant.
Was used like a smartphone without SIM-card and mobile access to the internet. Palm was one of the companies producing PDAs. NALF is not old enough to know this.
@@Ulrich.Bierwisch That's amusing, because that was the first thing that came to my mind. I wondered why anyone would be making a video about personal digital assistants. Public Displays of Affection never occurred to me!
I mean, just the fact that we Germans don't have a concept of PDA (i.e. there being a certain behaviour regarding intimacy that's different from normal/expected behaviour) should tell you that we largely don't mind showing intimacy in public.
I really need a visual here. What does intense make out session mean for you? I have never seen anyone in Germany make out in public. But I was called out in the US for hugging my boyfriend at a pool because "there are children here". So, maybe what I would consider an innocent hug would mean making out for you?
naa, he didnt seem that prudish here (like the Karen telling you off for hugging another) - he did say that he was not talking about a simple kiss, but a intense make out session. My interpretation of that is like kissing at a bench for 5+ min. - maybe even with him or her crouched over the other like a sitting cowgirl position (clothed). In case you wanted another view =D
Yeah He should've demonstrated.
I've never heard of "Public Displays of Affection". First I thought this is people and PDAs (Personal Digital Assistents), but when you enter PDA in a (German) search engine, most results will be for Periduralanästhesie...
Please demonstrate the different stages of making out and up to what stage making out is accaptable for Americans in one of your upcoming videos. For science!
😅😂🤣
he just did... He was talking to his roommate in public, and up till that point is acceptable PDA in America =P
I think the threshold is when buttons or zippers get undone.
@@ericminch Sweat pants FTW? =P
It's indoors versus outdoors, you plonker.
"The umbrella".... Given the funny weather "habits" here, one would think you guys each owned one of them by now 😂😂
But it's big enough for at least two people. LOL
@@mojojim6458 Yah-ah, but not big enough if those two walk seperate routes... even in a small town :D
@@mojojim6458 Carefull, huddling together under one of those umbrellas could be seen as PDA... :D :D
I rather expected tough guys don't worry, when they get wet. A football game isn't stopped either in the rain.
@@matthiaskalupner6041 my first thought too - then I saw you already answered it for me - Thank you =D
Its Spring 💁♂️
" Veronica, der Spargel wächst".
PDA as a librarian: patron driven acquisition
PDA as a woman: epidural
PDA as nalf: PEOPLE KISSY KISSY HELP
😂
As an old school nerd: Personal Digital Assistant.
@@finestPlugins That was my 1st thought too. Am I too old?! 😄😄😄 Hope not, and it's just prof deformation.
I am Presbyterian (a Protestant Christian denomination). Our church has a national organization called PDA: Presbyterian Disaster Assistance. However, I first learned the acronym PDA for Public Display of Affection over 30 years ago when it was used in my middle school and high school Student Handbooks in the USA.
With that title, I thought for sure that pigeon in the intro was about to get some action. 🐦🐦
Me too!
No action for the pigeons :D LOL
😊 best thing in the evening after a long day of work in the hospital and three kids... preparing dinner and watching a new NALF video!
Reminds me of waiting at the doctor's office. 2 Spanish people kissing madly. I wasn't annoyed by them kissing or almost making out. It was the fact they spoke so LOUD! Kiss all you want but please don't yell at each other talking.
😂
He’s obviously never been in cologne for Karneval..!! It’s just drunk people getting it on all over the place... or being sick - eins vom beiden 🙈😂
Karneval ist ja auch Lateinisch für "besoffen Fremdgehen zu schlechter Musik" 😂😂🧐
Well I’m single so I’d take nalf there - just for the shit music of course 😂
Ja, hatte ich auch eben gepostet, aber wieder gelöscht, als ich dann deinen Beitrag gelesen habe... 😆
I like this Hitchcockian new direction of the vlogs, menacing pigeon footage, dramatic suspense music, etc. Birds are much more terrifying than PDA. They're basically dinosaurs with wings and they cannot fool me! What's a little PDA compared to those killing machines who live to eat?!
I loved the PDA I saw in Berlin. Both straight and gay couples were very handsy.
I liked it.
Stunned by dread, he stared at the picking pigeon on his screen, as the faces on the wall did nothing but stare. They were his. And the pigeon knew.
I really really really missed your videos, Nick!
One of our two daughters where made in a "public environment", soo... 🤷
Too much Information.
"Dad? Why is my middle name Interregio?"
@@K__a__M__I Or Waldemar?
Eww 😅😅
@@susanreichelt1868 Why?
"get yourselves a room ... for the umbrella - so you guys always know where to look for
it"
The intro: The Prequel to Alfred Hitchcock's birds.. What drove them crazy.
no: What DOVE - them crazy!
Haha, think this is my favourite.
He's so obsessed with them.😄
The question is: why not? 🤔
Because there's a beautiful thing called intimacy.
@@user-bj2lu9qt3o and there's no law to do that in private
I got THE solution for you: The german stare.
Good one.
@@mojojim6458 Means a lot coming from you, Mojo. lol
LOL !!!
In Germany the one watching the "extended passionate make-out session" is considered anti social (Spanner!) not the one doing it.
I understand people objecting publicly committed violence - but love, affection and happiness? Please everybody get someone for hugging, kissing and display of affection - this world will be more happy and much more relaxed! 😀
Its not hugging and kissing (you see that all the time in the US), its full-on public sexual foreplay.
@@jeffmorse645 As a German, it is more shocking to observe a "Nordic go all out" on a public beach, with families around you.
And then find an age-appropriate explanation for 5 to 7 year olds;)
There’s a difference between love n affection, I’d say foreplay. I was in a restaurant around Stuttgart eating with my kids and a couple next table over were practically dry humping. They would stop and look around to see if anyone was watching and step up their game so maybe it’s for attention too. Lost my appetite and my kids were uncomfortable
@@manub.3847Ha nice try. In Denmark its the Germans who go all out on normal beaches. And kids don't care if you don't make a big deal out of it.
@@RealTeaforTv Pst-> it was on a Danish beach, but neither a Danish nor a German couple;)
In Germany, many women give birth with epidural anesthesia (or epidural anesthesia, or PDA for short). The pregnant woman is so anesthetized by a syringe in the spine that she often hardly notices the pain of childbirth. But critics also warn of side effects. The German translation for PDA!
doesn't the p stand for peridural ?
and there i was wondering what you could possibly know about painless birth. and about the kissing in public like this, i mean we all were young at some point so ... who didnt do that at least once ?
For someone who complains about Germans staring at other people, you seem to do a lot of careful observing yourself. Becoming more and more German I guess!
Haha I just always love your dramatic music and shots that have nothing to do with the topic of this video 😂😂😂
If you want to keep your affections private, that's ok with me. If you don't like what you see, if you're feeling uncomfortable, just look the other way. Romance, kissing and more are just normal human behaviour. As long as the people doing it don't feel uncomfortable, it's ok for them and it should be ok for you - live and let live. See: You don't need to look.
When love becomes a problem, the world is in big trouble.
I don't know what you mean. You should demonstrate it!
the music you're using at 3.19 is just *GREAT* 🤠🎵💗 For a hardcore country fan as I am, it's just right. I love it.
I honestly never thought about this until I started watching american youtubers, who talked about public displays of affection. I don't know if there even is a german word for it. And the american word made me smile, because it sounds very analytic and almost clinical as if the word itself was trying to distance itself from anything too passionate. But that was just my personal impression.
Maybe the different perception of pda has sth to do with the stronger puritan/evangelical influence in the US.
Ich würd das auf deutsch einfach mit „rumknutschen“ beschreiben. Wobei es das natürlich nicht ganz trifft. Beim „ Fummeln“ würde es dann auch schonmal zwischen die Beine gehn. Aber das passiert doch eher nicht auf der Parkbank🤔
@@karinland8533 ich würde es rummachen nennen. Parkbank in der Regel nicht, aber im Park hab ich schon mal ein Pärchen gesehen, das sich ziemlich eindeutig unter nem darüber liegenden pulli befummelt hat :/ hätte jetzt auch meiner Meinung nach nicht sein müssen😅
@@lulus8122 ehrlich gesagt wissen wir es nicht, es war ja garnicht eindeutig was er meint🤷♀️
Vielleicht waren es ja auch nur bisschen Zungenküsse...
opening interpretation thoughts: "why do love birds suddenly appear, every time nalf is near?"
Hahaha
My Favorite thing about Europe in general
Men with bouquets 💐 of flowers on bicycles and people of all ages making out.
💯💯💯💯💯🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊💕💕💕👍🏽
better you shouldn't have said anything xD @Mane Name
There is only a small gap between observing and starring... guess you´re getting more and more german every single day...
Great response 🤣
Poor Nalficorns stuck in a wardrobe 🤦🏻♀️ *Harry Potter vibes*
LOL
Haha 😊
You need a girlffriend, Baby :-)
This one is my favorite interpretation of the into.
@@TommyCrossen ROLFMAO! Thank you for that - I didn't know i needed that, but turns out, I did =D
😂😂😂
I love the using of memes in the recent videos 😅👍
I was missing that EXAMPLE MATERIAL! ;D
An interpretation of the cinematic intro; “Sinister bird life strikes fear & terror into good SHA citizen & premier cross-cultural ambassador Nalf”.
A filmic metaphor for his concerns on the hilarious yet terrifying comments regarding the topic of this video ;-)
This time I answer in English. Seems to be an American problem only. I'm still shaking my head in disbelief about what has bothered you there. When I first read the video title with PDA I already suspected that you wouldn't be talking about anaesthesia when giving birth ( Periduralanästhesie) nor about the precursor of smartphones ( personal digital assistant) , so I looked it up with Google and I only found 'pathological demand avoidance'.
So I started your video and finally watched your explanation 'public display of affection'. I've never heard of this before and I can't imagine that any European country has a term for this let alone even an abbreviation. And the Wikipedia article about this meaning of PDA was very complicated and difficult to understand.
But the whole thing is just kissing and hugging in public. ( I suppose no couple would have real sex openly.)
So nothing to make such a fuss about. 😄
Nalf, if you had looked up Wikipedia yourself this video would have been unneccessary.
There you can find:
In most of the Western world, such as Western Europe, Australia, New Zealand, Canada and the United States, it is very common to see people holding hands, hugging and sometimes kissing in public. ... Although in the United States people are more repressed so even kissing in public is considered not acceptable whereas in (Western) Europe it's quite normal."
So there's the explanation. Here in Germany kissing and hugging in public is absolutely normal. When I was younger it was more common than nowadays, the young generation now is a lot more prude and reserved than we were in days before AIDS and with the hippies and sexual revolution.
Ein sehr schöner Kommentar! 😀
I can’t speak for Nalf but I’m close to the same area as him and have stayed in Germany for many yrs so I guess he meant more than simple hugging and kissing. That’s considered normal in US/Canada but we’re uncomfortable with the fondling genitalia and grinding in public that we see in EU
I might be wrong here but wasn't there an incident in America where a cardriver hit and injured a passionatly hugging couple under a broken traffic light on a parking spot? The couple sued him for medical bills and pain compensation money and won. The verdict of the judge: the driver should have anticipated someone could "make out" beneath broken spotlights. The couple did get a fine too though.
PDA I also assumed some electronic device at first ;) learned a new abbreviation today.
@@naneneunmalklug4032 Habe gerade 'making out' nachgeschlagen. Wieder was dazugelernt. 😁
@@beatrixpastoors1104 :) gern geschehen. Auf amerikanisch geführten Internetplattformen muss man sehr einfallsreich werden, wenn es um Synonyme für Geschlechtsverkehr (oder ums Fluchen) geht 🤷♀️
Its great watching your videos
Intro: "Psycho" meets "The Birds" to the music of Harry Potter!
Nalf ! That huge umbrella is perfect for making out under ;-)
one handed ?
@@grandmak. three handed =)
@@a.b.1103 I see.
@@grandmak. You don't sound convinced... But it makes me think of Gene Kelly and "Singing in the Rain" - so very romantic!
I really assumed it's about Personal Digital Assistants (the trusty old Palm Pilot) and why germans always plan weeks ahead instead of being spontaneous. These two people in the thumbnail are clearly whispering calendar dates into their ears to find an acceptable date for the annual 'Angrillen' session.
Wasn't it John Legend (US citizen the last time I looked) who sang "let's go to the park ..."?
Hehe...😏
It seems I haven't been around much lately because I have never seen anything like that in public.
I would differentiate between 'affection' and 'sexual intimacy'. There is nothing wrong with hugging and kissing in public I'd say but when it comes to sexual intimacy there is even a law prohibiting that, the offence being " Erregung öffentlichen Ärgernisses" ( causing public annoyance ). Watching something like that would make me feel uncomfortable not because of prudery but because I would feel that I wasn't supposed to see something as private as that.
The question is do those people want others to watch or are they so overwhelmed with passion that there is no time to get home, lol.
Probably the hands were wondering deep underneath the shirt....
@@karinland8533 hm, lively imagination, huh ?
@@grandmak. he is so unspecific what he saw... what does „ making out“ mean for him
@@grandmak. i think he Even mentioned wandering hands
@@karinland8533 As I understood him he was talking about more than hugging and kissing.
Come on, Dude, there is nothing to be seen in Germany compered to the 70s and 80s!
The line "come on, get a room" tells, that germans have more self control: french kissing just must not lead to sex 😄
It's more like, "I'm happy to see you happy" and give a smile.
Creepy guy stalking innocent pigeon.
I don't have a problem with PDA's. So what if a couple shows their affection for one another in public? If someone doesn't like them there's always the option to look away. Or to take a quick look, be happy that the single society hasn't completely taken over and leave them to themselves.
Greetings from Budapest. I too am originally from Oregon (Springfield/Eugene). Appreciate the 500 Hungarian Forint on the wall. Nice detail.
Glad you noticed that.
I love, love, your intro 😊👍😄
Iam always impressed with your High Budged Background :)
LOL, I look forward to watching your videos...LOL...Ben in SW Florida
You should get a passionate german girlfriend (or boyfriend, whatever you prefer) and find out the benefits of not being a prude
do you have a German word that would be universal? like the word is telling of an significant other, but not the gender of the boy/girl-friend? I know we have in danish, like its the norm word to use, but that word is not telling the gender of the significant other like boy/girl-friend does =)
@@TainDK (mein) Schatz = (my) darling
The German word "Schatz" is "genderless" and can be used on both girls and boys. You should know who is calling each other "Schatz" or "Schatzi" in the NALF universe, don't you? 😉
@@andrep.3774 that's a pet name though, not really a replacement for girlfriend or boyfriend. I don't think we have anything gender neutral. Partner/Partnerin, Lebensgefährte/Lebensgefährtin, Freund/Freundin are all gendered.
@@j.a.1721 the closest I can think of is “wir sind zusammen/wir sind ein Paar”. But that’s not really it either.
@@j.a.1721 "Meine Steuerklasse 4"
Well, as a Village-Child I don't rly see that Stuff in Pools or Parks but when there is a good old "Schützenfest" or any kind of Village-Party involving (high) Amounts of Alcohol I see the Stuff I'd like to unsee sometimes
The intro is just *chef's kiss*
edit : lmao, the pigeons
I feel for the female pigeon.
Nalf needs to find that European partner that introduces him to so much levels of PDA. It will rock his World!
alternative title: "I need a girlfriend"
Oh, and I first thought „why on earth is he into PDA (peridural anesthesia)?“ 😳
Since there is a Taube in the intro, you probably don't want to hear people making out.
🤣
@@karinland8533 Nice word play =P took me a sec or two to get the deaf part =P
We stare at everyone and this is just possible becouse we don´t care if other stare at us. You have to learn to stare like a German, without shame than you will notice, that you don´t notice the PDA enymore.
I haven't noticed PDAs in public places in Germany, but I was shocked to see it happening in a work environment and a training center. At work PDA: in the TV room at the "guard house" (not sure in English, Wache in German). The medics weren't just watching TV, they were giving each other massages. In training: In-between class sessions on a hot non-AC day the students were lying on the carpet touching each other. They were all in their early 20s, but apparently no one had taught them what behavior is appropriate at the workplace/school.
maybe the culture where men and women never touch each other is the sick one: ever think of that?
The recreational park used creational! Sensational!
I don't know I always find with the cultural differences you and German Girl in America bring up that my experience being born and living in the UK is usually somewhere in the middle.
I think here you would normally expect to see this from teenagers/students less likely from older people. But I would say that I wouldn't be shocked or surprised to see a couple of any age making out in a park on a bench, the wondering hands part I'd say was a bit far for public really.
I guess in Germany it's kinda like the nudity thing they don't really make much of a fuss about it at all, where as here I would normally expect most people to wear a towel in a sauna for example .
You need the Ostsee-FKK Experience.
"Nehmt euch 'en Zimmer" (get a room) is also very common here, if it get's too crazy but I guess, yeah, it is more out and about here and in mostly south EU/France too. I also have to tick the box for some personal smooch action in the public bath...but mostly in more secluded spots and no bedroom stuff.
Having a word like PDA which sounds more like a diagnoses or disease shows the approach to it.
I knew pda as personal digital assistant, like the Apple Newton.
Hey Nick, when reading PDA I first thought of Periduralanästhesie which is some kind of pain treatment manly used when giving birth. Then I thought of a Personal Digital Assistent used in the early 2000s. But what you meant never came to my mind. There we go with the cultural differences ;-) Keep up the great work! Cheers Peer
PDA: Personal Digital Assistant...
My interpretation of the intro at 5 in the morning: Nalf is wondering if Hogwarts letters are delivered by mail pigeon instead of owls in Germany while he's editing the footage.
Hey NALF!
I think I have the best explanation for your video material with the pigeons in the beginning.
It simply just shows your grade of germanification: So in Germany we say to a fresh and loving
couple 'Turteltäubchen' (turtle doves, lovebirds). So that association was in your mind when you filmed
that material.
Can I win something now?
And you tell us we are staring .... yeah right .... good one
The ubiquity of art, at risk from looming predators (:38)...and by weather that won't cooperate. No shot of your fascination with water today.
PDA - a small handheld device equipped with a microprocessor that is used especially for storing and organizing personal information; Personal Digital Assistant.
It's your duty to observe cultural differences...and read about them in the comments section. Sigh.
The very best part starts at 2:22.
Oh, and Party Hard.
TSGO
" What's with the pigeon ", nice German horror series.
Personal Deputy Assistant!
Man, you gotta live!
I think, I have never observed any of that in public.
Lucky you.
We are oviously working on our "Germans are cold and unfriendly" habits :) So just stay true to the "Americans don't stare"-habit and everyone is happy :)