WHEN THE PLANS OF THE NARCISSIST BACKFIRE
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- When the plans of the narcissist backfire. The narcissist thinks the grass is always greener on the other side. The narcissist gets played more than you would think. The narcissist encounters other toxic individuals that they enter relationships with. The narcissist had the best thing in you. My hope is you I’ve gone no contact blocked these people and are healing or have healed. The narcissist needs to take advantage of other people and have other people do the work for them. The narcissist is lazy and hollow And cowards and bullies. Namaste
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😢Bob Marley said " The biggest coward is man who awakens a women's love with no intention of loving her". Excellent video hitting all points❤
Thank you..😌🙌🙏💜
My life got stole from me not anymore the gravy train done 🎉
Wow, indeed! Cowards..
@@sunupkite definitely 🙏 namaste
@@rorober.1423 I still think that’s someone who isn’t ready for love but those can still be good ppl who can still feel compassion empathy remorse etc a narc is a diabolical creature from the slums of hell.
They hate you cause they aint you.
Godsmack song lyric, "I'm everything that you could never be." The song is called "I effing hate you!" Great song.
@@purplesprigs gonna go jam out to it now! Lovely community 💗
@purplesprigs I'm going to check that out too. Im obviously much older than you but the song I like is
Sometimes when the journey to being healed gets hard, I tell myself this... “I have everything that he has always wanted. I have a good job, great medical coverage, own a nice home and car, have a wonderful relationship with my son, family, and even my ex-husband.” He has none of these things by his own doing. He was on the right path to attaining stability and even had it for a short time, but he ruined it by having affairs. His affairs caused him to lose a good job and two marriages. He has left behind a path of heartache and destruction in every relationship he has had. He wanted me to be his 3rd wife, but I was too smart for that. Shortly after I asked him to leave, he found someone online (from out of state none- the-less) and married her within a few months. She has 6 adopted children and her husband passed a year before they met. She moved her brood to our state and they now live five minutes away from me. He is way too self centered and selfish for 6 children (he has 3 of his own, for a total of 9!)
THIS is KARMA!
Thats to weird.
Narcissists are vengful children with adult rights. Plan accordingly.
@@patjones2082 PERFECTLY STATED.
Well put.
Great way to put it lol
And thats what makes them so dangerous
Toddlers in old, adult bodies.
Can be confusing.
The Narcissist never wins in the long run, they end up playing themselves.
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Very good observation!!!! So true!!
Wow they sure do talk to themselves..it's all those multiple personalities, ( demons) that are talking to them. They are seeing you as the bad guy when you finally realize what you're dealing with and then act accordingly.
And yes they never know how to do anything for themselves, and they are the laziest ever unless they are trying to get the big prize in the end.
100 percent!
You're so right!
No other way other than to block, delete, and go full no-contact with these demonic creatures.
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Yep, agree!
It works👍
@@maureenhouston2813 definitely does. Never accept the hoover from any narc Idc who it is because if they can’t respect your boundaries well that goes to show what think of you- or us, rather…just doormats and doormen and ppl-pleasers.. no more though!
@@Mike_Cosentino Silence is Golden!
When the narcissists plans backfires you know you've won
Are we there yet?
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Soo.right.wow
Soo right
All tru
wow
Great episode, Andrew! I am currently going through a divorce, after 32 years of marriage. My mother is a narcissist, as well. My parents have completely betrayed me. I was crushed by this. However, it has been the best worst time, of my life! I have realized, who they are. I have gone no contact, and I I am healing, for the first time in my life. Keep educating us! We need you!🙏
Congratulations on breaking free ❤❤
I recently blocked my mom. Dad is next. Was on his family plan and got a new phone and my own line. Moving everything over
" ... the best worst time, of my life!" You've just articulated what so many here feel or will feel! Bravo!👍👍👍👍
Same for me but 42years.
My story exactly. The divorce process is exhausting and triggering but it hopefully can't last forever!
Divorcing the narcissist is the toughest thing I've ever done. Prepare for the biggest attempts at deception and hurtful acts, particularly if you have children.
But it is SO worth it!!!! I've never been happier since I became free!!
Please share any advice you have
@Amazinglilflowers Arm yourself with as much knowledge as you can. Do not expect any fairness - they want everything, and will lie easily in court to get it. Think of the worst things they can do - because they will do just that. And if you have children, they will be used as pawns too. Sorry it sounds soo bleak, but it's best to be aware ❤️
@@sallyirvine9720 thank you for replying
@@sallyirvine9720thanks for sharing. Any tactics you employed to get to them? I'm preparing and it's incredibly frightening😢bc I now see him for what he is- a real and true demon
Starting my divorce tomorrow, wish me luck. It will be worth it in the end
The narcissist can only give you what they really have the most, CHAOS !
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@@edwardspriggs5076 👏truth!
@@edwardspriggs5076 🎯Nailed it!
Their plans backfire a lot because greed is their guiding force. And they cannot resist the temptation of a bigger score. This seems to work for them up to a point but eventually they meet their match. Another narc or an educated empath. Both are capable of taking a greedy narc down 🙃
High Five 👍💥👍💥👍
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which narc take the other down?
15:00
This is what happened to my narc brother. He tried to steal my half of our inheritance when my mom died. It wasn’t enough to get his own, he demanded mine too. It didn’t work though, now he’s having a complete meltdown and lashing out at my husband and I.
The price we pay for love - is grief...
A narc will never feel either of these..
Empty shells in their empty world..
What we feel makes us real..
That's the beautiful journey...
They'll never understand...
They lose...🐬✨
You say it perfectly.
He discarded, didn’t end divorce, became the victim, got a new supply hiding her, comes back lying crying that he’s alone. Only to find out he’s in a new relationship. Cheating on her already she has no clue. They lie until they drop ! 😅
Amazing how they all use the same tactics
They always overplay their own hand and games. It’s actually really funny.
They do and why? Because they have no clue who they are and so they do not only not know their strengths but they don’t know their weaknesses and THAT is what gets them. They are truly delusional. Coo coo birds. How you gonna fix your leak in the pool if you don’t even realize you got one on the first place? I actually pity them.
When he tried to gaslight me being crazy and mental ill I finally recognized that there is no way to deal with him any longer. So I thanked him for showing me my "instabilty" and left him telling that I dont want to be a burden for him any more Whishing him good luck in finding a better woman. He was shocked and tried to hoover multiple times until I blocked him. Heading month 11 of freedom now 🎉
This is SO BEAUTIFUL! Well done! ♥️💫 Congratulations on your new, more peaceful life.
Good for you🎉
Beautifully strategic
they know what they are, the love you give disgusts them. They know they are trash.
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They can't understand. They only project/deflect as a built-in defense. If they are faking it and can't really feel that, also that in itself gets projected. You are faking that love, you're not really meaning it. They can't even understand what it means to mean it, because they cannot feel that empathy, complete inability to put themselves in your shoes. They only understand the reactions from you and they do it as a second nature.... from when they are 3-5 they learn to manipulate you luring you through that ''empathy'' that they cannot feel, but they can use yours to get your attention. They're very childish so they always assume you must be like them. You are being nice to manipulate and get what you want, they can't understand or believe you are just being nice and expecting nothing in return. That's the root of how the disorder is caused, receiving no unconditional love in the formative years. It all makes a lot of sense when you look at the whole picture.
But, even abstracted from all blame = get out immediately it's not something you or anyone can fix. It's a sinking ship
100%
My ex narc had made up a great scenario in his pea brain for after he discarded me like yesterday's news but he miscalculated big time because nothing of his plans worked out. He fell flat on his face having to start all over. That is so pathetic but often that's how it ends for narcs. The boomrang effect. Have a great evening Andrew 😊🙌💜❤️
The petulant child narc is always on the hunt for the next best thing, causing chaos and havoc constantly, whatever they use to fill the empty hole inside, whatever they use to sedate themselves never works, so off they go on their quest for the next best whatever, never to be satisfied, constant frustration that they project onto you. So happy I removed myself from that nightmare of evil. When you live in the darkness, nothing ever good comes from it. Stay in the light and follow it. ✨✨SHINE ON ✨✨
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Powerful messages Sweetie, 👍
Blessings 🙏💥💥💥💥💥❤
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The narc always talked to himself. Always running bing banging around expecting you to believe their ridiculous stories about where they were. Pathetic pieces of 💩!!
Thank you Andrew for your daily page of hope!❤
Nobody reinforces the narcissists poor behavior more than themselves. They love one way conversations where they ask themselves the question and also answer it. They blurt through excuses and puke words all over the place... it's the voice inside their head coming outside of their head.
The talking to himself was CONSTANT. And it was my “duty” to ask him every time if he was talking to me or himself. He would say awful things about me to himself out loud and then lie and pretend he didn’t.
Wow omg mine did to
💯. I’m going through a divorce right now with the narcissist ex-wife. And it’s been going on for about a year and some change now. And one thing I can honestly say is since I’ve stayed away a lot has been growing on my side. My faith in God has increased. My finances have increased. I’ve been healing. My health has increased. My life in general has increased.
Hi. I'm. Leslie. And I believe in having a peaceful relationship.
Im struggling with self esteem but I will get there .. good for you
You’re the best for explaining narcissism 🙌
I didn’t know the label for triangulation but I experienced it the whole time.
Me too
@@ladyvirgo013 I’m sorry you went through that.
@@JFish-df2ep you too
In my case the narc's timing to discard me, seriously worked against him. I received a HUGE amount of $$$$$$$$$$$ almost immediately after he discarded me! He found out and wanted to be "FRIENDS" !!!! My answer was NO and still NO! No way in HEL& NO!! Bye loser! Be strong do not walk backwards! Blessings!❤
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@@lourdesecheverria6209 love it! ❤️
@@lourdesecheverria6209 I love it! That's so cool. And good on you for not caving in👏
Great video Andrew!!
Everything a narcissist does will backfire eventually.
If you are thinking about seeking revenge, dont do it. 🙏 That is not the person you are, that is a reaction from the person the narcissist is trying to turn you into. The biggest backfire the narcissist ever had, was you ruining the plan they had for you.
Wishing everyone clarity and peace...
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Great wisdom Chaz, God's job! 👍
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I agree totally, I turned the tables on him and know it damaged his ego.
Not a word was said... just silent action!
@@marieeakin8534😊 ❤
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Excellent!👍👍👍👍
When nobody else deals with them. Run.
I like how you think and how you explained that empaths exist. "Case closed!"
Without much philosophizing.
You are simply unbeatable. I admire you!
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Yin & Yang
@@rustyshackleford4299 Yup, dualism.
@@TanjaT-od4nw Once you realize evil is just a form of inversion, everything you see starts to make sense.
Yes and amen. I'm now free and rebuilding. It's still a lot of tormenting memories but a lesson we'll learned. Never again.
Amen! 👍❤🙏
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Exactly as you say. The narcissist is the one who has a failed life by spending their entire life on the Dark Side. Since you mentioned the aging narcissist, Andrew, when the day arrives that they slip away into eternity, the actions and words are unchanged and even more ugly than before.
Their Words are terrible, swears all time and hurt people badly
Some narcissists have careers and their own money and still use you for yours, amongst other things.
WHEN THE PLANS OF THE NARCISSIST BACKFIRE:
1. They wonder what went wrong
2. They spend countless hours talking to themselves.... calculating how they are going to "get you back" or "make you pay"
3. They scream like a banshee
4. They rock back and forth like a maniac
5. They always spit
6. They curse constantly
7. They dig further into "the new supply"
8. They recognize what they lost in you
9. They know that you were too good for them, figured them out, and ran for your life!
10. They get twitching eyes and their head twitches
11. Repeat 1-10 🤨
😅👍👍👍 You were too good to be true!
Yes this is accurate!! 😂😂
Oh my God, yes, the twitching eyes! And the twitching head! Until you see it, you wouldn't believe it could happen! I wouldn't be surprised if they went full Reagan (The Exorcist) and started head spinning and levitating 😂😂😂😂
@@EmmaPeacock-cc9fl : Yes! I just added the twitching head too! Once you see the twitchiness of their eyes and head, you cannot UNSEE this! You got me choking about them going full Reagan from the Exorcist with their spinning heads and levitating! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@wickedwisdom6088Ha ha I am so glad I made you laugh! 😂 You've made my day. 😅 I am honoured that you've added twitching head to the list! A friend of mine met my narcissistic sister-in-law and afterwards said to me, "Why does her head bob like that? Poor lady, does she have a disability?" I replied, "No, it's what she does if someone says no to her." 😂😂😂😂 Take care and be well! ❤
When the narcissist devalued me, she planned to have more control of me? But it backfired and I left. I leave whenever I felt someone pulling me down coz I think real friends support each other.
l LOVE that you used the word 'slither'
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Sending love and blessings to all of us survivors.❣️
Hi Roslyn 🙏❤💥
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Have a blessed day, Marie and tribe.❣️
I was his mother, servant, and provided him a very nice house. He also wanted me to raise the grandbabies.
Hello From - Ft. Worth, Texas
I was married for 8.5 years to a Narcissist
2014 - 2024
I'm 50, she is 53
Just an Fyi.....
Hi. I'm. Leslie. I live in
Princeton
Texas. And. I like peaceful relationships.😊
I'm. 52. But look alot younger.. and I was married almost thirty years. But my husband passed away on. February 9th. 2021.pf. colon cancer.
Andrew conveys the agony of narcissistic abuse better than anyone else have ever listened to. I really needed to hear this today after another sleppless night. Maybe it is a character weakness in me but I am waiting for karma, justice, or whatever you want to call it to catch up with years of mistreatment, triangulation, and abuse from the narcissist. I guess I feel that if there is some type of consequence for his actions he will stop hurting me. I feel so desperate for others to see the light and how supressed my life has been. Sometimes I feel helpless and hopeless that I can heal and have a happy heart again. I just want to EXHALE again and be loved and valued for me... and not what I can do for him or his (sadly) entitled budding narcissistic children who I have raised since they were 1,3, and 4. If only I knew 30 years ago what I know now. Praying for others whose heart may be hurting too. (I love that Andrew always says you are loved and a beauitful bright light - a great truth filled reminder so many of us need to hear!)
They have karma every day because they have a hellscape in their brain. They are disgusting losers who have no internal worth. Imagine failing at anything you ever were or wanted to be. Imagine all your friends, family, your children, your former coworkers (because you can’t hold a job), people at the gym, etc., hate you. It is total karma. They even get physically gross.
Every thing happens in its time. The ex narc ( not my, he belongs to whatever/ Whoever available. I had to reprogram myself on that). I’m keeping the focus in me. The only thing I can control are: My thoughts and actions 🙏💜💐
I feel your words today, thank you. Yes, this channel is so helpful.
It’s not a character flaw to want justice.
Yes they rush things so desperately to replace me knowing he finds out I’m done with him 😂😂
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Good evening Andrew and friends! Hope everyone enjoyed their weekend! Received a HUUUUUGE miracle today after praying for it for almost a YEAR! BEYOND grateful, and I hope things are going just as amazingly for all of you, my friends! 🙌🙏😇🎉🎉🎉☀️🫂🫂💜❤️💜❤️
P.S.- LOVE your shirt Andrew! 😉😘💜
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
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Great Jennifer! How about a hint of what that miracle is, if I might kindly ask? 🙂
@@jhavajoe3792 Hey Jhava! Thanks! I’m not sure if I should…. 😬😛 I don’t know how these things work. I just know that a specific person whose name I’ve mentioned many times here is probably STILL stalking me looking for an opportunity like this to insert herself and say even MORE terrible things because, apparently, that IS what she likes to do with her free time 🙄🙄 But that’s okay Jhava. It’s okay. If you see her here, you’ll know it’s her, and nothing she says or does can reverse my miracle 😉👍👍 As, always, have a good one!!! 🙌🙏😇😁🫂💜❤️
@@jennifernewton4637 Totally cool. Choices are yours and yours alone, especially here in this channel!👍
When you're out of it, and just observe them from the outside, you see them for the messy disaster that they are, and all the things they do to try to distract themselves and anyone else from it.
It's like seeing a movie set in person rather than through the camera and editing which are the narcissist's will.
Thank you, Andrew!
Yes,IAM going through a divorce,and he's dragging it out. He tried to get me out of our home,and things didn't go his way. He's so angry,been together 32 years,and he wanted it all,and IAM still here waiting to sell the house,and still with the lawyer,but almost over with the lawyer. But it has been going on sfor a year and 5 months.Its crazy,it hurts still today knowing I have to find me a new safe home,when IAM all alone. But it will be better when I get out of here. God bless u Andrew and all of us
It’s better to be alone than be with someone and feel lonely and miserable. That is slow torture. Maybe! It’s time to get to rediscover yourself? Eat when you want to eat. Tell a joke and everyone laughs. Every thing will works out. Faith! 🙏💜💐
17 months is a lawyer wanting a 2 year salary. 🚩
Im in exactly the same place you are but today, for the first time, when his daughter was being used to Hoover me I was able to easily without remorse or anger or emotion ltruly not care. Im no responsible to fix him. He chose this path. This is what happens when you choose to betray, abuse, and devalue others. They leave you in the dust. Thank you Andrew for helping me on my journey to the pinnacle of indifference and thank you JESUS for saving me in every way.
I got tipped off from a friend the EX Narc was looking for a rich person... He was telling old ladies they are so pretty...and asking what kind of car they drive...
😂😂 what a loser
😂😂 sounds about right 🤦♀️
@@palapalak.8907 😅😅 so desperate
Typical sick narc…sickening
@BeTheLight624 while he tells me he loves me...
The girls is a millionaire. She's clueless he's after her MONEY.
'What goes around...comes around'...no intervention is required...imho. Excellent piece...many thanx.
I get my son for full custody next month.
Andrew saved me. The 1st video watched by me was "Why your silence wins"
Andrew I would not have my evidence stacked and got custody if it was not for you against NARC MUM-IN-LAW.
THANK YOU ANDREW ❤
Congratulations 🎈🎊🎉 Great news! Best of wishes to you and your Son🙏💜
"Trick, Trap or Manipulate-" Andrew, once again, pure gold. I can't imagine living in their (narc) skin.
No doubt- you're a heaven-sent voice of wisdom and encouragement for a multitude of beaten-down & confused people. Your posts help to free so many trapped souls. What a beautiful GIFT you are to humanity.
Yes, what a blessing to be here 👍🌈🎀😘
Serpent skin
Merci beaucoup for your daily pep talks. I just celebrated my 4th year narc free 😁
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Congratulations 🎊
Just got a hoover😮. I am not allowing him no power!
My narcissistic sibling tried to get as much as they could. They dragged the inheritance legal battle for four years, I never gave up. At the end, they got less than what they would have gotten had they given up four years earlier.
I’m going through this now
Andrew, watching your videos makes me feel less alone. That’s invaluable. Thank you for all you do for this community. We love and appreciate you!
Spot on Andrew. We start healing and growing strong when we no longer give our energy to the narcisist. It’s all about stealing our energy. The narcissist disappears with the energy they get from us. They are hollow black holes which need external sources of power. We must not supply evil. Thank you 🙏 God bless you ❤
Low vibe creatures. Another fantastic video. So well said.
I graduated the hellschool, and now live up at that Pinnacle of indifference. (Great name for it!)
Quick story: my younger sister Is one of the first narcissists I endured. I spent so many years trying to figure out why the relationship was so hard. When I finally understood that she wasn't trying to have a relationship with me, but she wanted power over me and she wanted slaves surrounding her, I got away from her. I didn't know about narcissism, but I figured out that first puzzle piece at least. Later relationships taught me the rest.
She has been out of my life for 2 decades, and it's been so peaceful without her. But my mom died recently, and she was able to get my information somehow through extended family. And she reached out and tried to mess up my ability to do my mom's funeral. She hasn't talked to my mom in a decade, she lives several states away, but she started calling the hospice people, and the funeral director, and telling them terrible lies about me, and tried to use legal means to stop me from being able to bury her. She didn't want to do it herself, she just wanted to block my ability to do it. I'm so proud of myself, because what I did was just let her have her rant out there in La La Land, the funeral director couldn't proceed, but he was a kind man and kept me mom's remains at no charge for me while we waited. The hospice nurse had been working with me for a year so she knew I wasn't abusing my mom, like she was telling people. She knew that wasn't true, thank goodness, and she is the one who told me what was happening. So I just sat back, and waited.
Every time she sent someone from extended family to contact me and threaten me that if I didn't contact her, she wouldn't allow the funeral to proceed, I either ignored them or blocked them too.
I went on with my life, had a funeral without her body, and started processing the loss with my kids. We have to pick our battles. It wasn't ideal, it wasn't what my mom wanted, but that's life.
I JUST KEPT LIVING. I didn't let her derail me or upset me, the only power she had over me was to put a pause on the funeral plans. Small price to pay to not get entangled with a snake again. The funeral director was a saint, and just worked with me.
Eventually (9 months later!) she gave up, and I was able to proceed with the burial. And I never had to talk to her once, or anybody associated with her!!! 🎆🎇⚡👍
It kinda shocked me, that after all these years, she is still as toxic, and still as dangerous to me. But I protected myself, and was awakened again to how much they want to bomb your life. For no reason at all!
What hell would she have put me through over the last two decades if I hadn't gone no contact?👀🤨🫣💣🔥🔥🔥
Thank you for what you are doing! I still need to hear it, as there will always be a new snake to target us if we let our guard down. It's just a truth about living on the planet... Trust must be earned. 🪷
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Indifference really is a safe spot to keep us from entanglement with a snake. 🫶
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You should be proud of yourself
Welcome..💜🙏😌💯🙌
Terrific insight, overview of the situation and attitude! That is one flaky sister and person. I feel good for your
kids with a parent like you!
@@SilentThundersnow This is masterclass level strength. Sorry for your loss.
@@user-jo1de4po6dthank you so much! 🤗
It's a relief when others see them without their mask. Then others see what you went through.
You’ll never know their plans though, because that is always a deep dark secret…
I finally put 2+2 together and realized that (in a romantic relationship) your love-bomb is another person’s discard; and your discard is another person’s love-bomb. I realized I was in a relationship with a man who was never once honest about his feelings, his intentions, or his plans.
Thank you for another daily pep talk Andrew! This has been so helpful in my healing. ❤️🙏🏻
When you've reported them to the FBI for human trafficking and larsonsy theft over $100k..........then, their mommy calls 🤙😂😂😂😂. Don't be scared. You will win. It's your path/destiny. Master it . I love you all. You were always right 👍 😉
I love your message..." its your path destiny" ...to win. Really resonates. Tough though.
Yes they always called his mommy....
Headed towards a year and a half(?) on this channel, watching your videos and reading comments nearly every day. Has it cooled on the healing impact it had on me? NO. It still shines light. I never felt alone and isolated in dealing with these puzzling Narcs when I found this channel.. Much Appreciated!🙏
Hey, you're not alone, we're right here with you Joe Joe! 😘☕
Yet you always write positive comments to others. I feel alone too sometimes but we are not. Good & bad days we all have.
Your kindness doesn't go unnoticed Joe .🙏
@@Becca-367 Thanks, Becca and Marie! Andrew and commenters like you folks make this channel something special.
Agree Joe , Andrew and this channel are a huge support base. We are lucky to have found it. Keep your chin up and have a good day/night 💎
It happens Joe & will come, go & pass & may repeat.Wish we could all live closer & hang out. We'd have a great time. Glad you are being real & not holding it in. People care, just let us know. You are precious & valuable! 👍❤
Love the content!❤
It took almost 3 yrs to finalize my divorce. Still dealing with parental alienation
You’re speaking the pure truth Andrew, this is exactly what occurred to me, thank God I left before he caused more damage & pain to me! He is a straight up thief & evil! When I left he told me that I’d always go back to him & put up with his BS, this got me so mad, enough to help me leave along with his physical, emotional & drug abuse! I had to leave to save myself! Thank you 🙏🏼
You made the right move when you left. It never gets better, it only gets worse....much worse.
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Tc run
Evil people. Andrew thank you so much for opening my eyes
Hello from Australia 🦘🦘🦘 thank you for saving what's left of my life 🧬 💋💓🌹
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There comes a point when it's best to move forward with your own life & that can’t really be done by dwelling on a relationship that wasn't fair
Talk of divorce will give the narcissist beach ball eyes - it dawned on me that this response was actual joy at the thought of being relevant one grandiose last time, albeit with lawyers as paid friends. Sickening.
…greetings from Barbados 🇧🇧
From Barbados as well, hope you didn't run into the same narcissist as me.
OMG!!!! The mumbling!!! Even sitting next to him in a car. I couldn't understand why he did that lol. And you hit EVERYTHING!!!
Thank you Andrew. Your words have "galvanized" my resolve. I have lost my son in this mess in the hope that someday he'll realise the truth. You are awesome!!!! I have been in thiis fight for 14 years and have had no contact for 3 years. Please keep doing what you do.
Back when my mom was young and attractive, all of her plans worked out. She was so good at manipulation to get what she wanted. Now she's old and alone, and any plan she makes blows up in her face. I can't help but pity her because she is my mom and she has no one anymore, but it's her own damn fault.
Powerful video my friend. 🙌🔥✨️
Greetings from Switzerland
Such beautiful and truthful podcast may God continue to bless you and give you wisdom
Thanks for this content Andrew.
They think they know you better than you know yourself.
Its a huge narcissistic injury when you turn the tables on them, simply and silently.
Sometimes, they think they know enough. It's moot when they don't know themselves and have zero knowledge
of a person's resilience. It's an super ultra marathon in Life, Narcs, not a 100 yd.sprint.for temporary supply.
I had to repeat to myself, despite the fact that my narc is my own dad, I will NOT become ill, abused, or involved with any human who refuses to be thoughtful of my life. I'm a father. I'd never cross that line with my adult kids.
The overwhelming lack of kindness combined with the audacity to tell me what to do and how to feel about myself, is sinister. Kindness escapes the narc. A sense of lightness and just being "chill" escapes the narc.
So, yeah, if you are anything like myself, this game of superiority via abuse and zero concern for my life consequences doing the narcissists bidding is going to blow up in their face. My limit switch broke years ago. It's especially difficult to accept that a persons whose job in life is to be a parent, decides no, I'm going to game you, cross boundaries, verbal abuse, financially drain, suck up your time.
RUN! No explanation required. The narc knows exactly why I disappeared.
My father and mother are thee ! I've cut my mom off , but as my dad ages it's becoming even worse then I can remember ! After the 4th of July I think it's getting time. My father was trying to instigate an outburst from me and trying to provoke me , often saying things that he knows would hurt my feelings . I stayed silent and or would ask a question about an unrelated topic to throw my dad off his train of thought. For the first time that little voice in my head was saying these are not your people just pick up and leave. So I did .
Good decision. You will flourish.
It's really tough at first, meaning after months, because it goes against everything we're sold as families. I've crawled my way out of chronic depression about 4 years ago, and I ain't going back for anybody. Crossing my boundaries, lectures, half baked ideas are over... I'm not going beyond helpless, that's where it all stops immediately. Once hopelessness creeps in I'm cooked. I gray rocked most of my 6 decades here on earth. I do not think it helped anything at all. Narcissism is progressive and soul sucking. No Thanks.
Andrew, I love how you just allow source to flow through you, as you deliver these messages. So grateful to have found your Channel❤
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Wow this is powerful ! Tell it like it is!!!!
Yes, the new supply didn't know she was being played!
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I had to send my son's mother to jail for domestic violence. What a difficult woman to deal with. Glad she is out of my life. Everything you said is on point. 12 years of her bull crap is over. Will never see her again.
I just closed my eyes and tried to imagine the narcissist as less than myself and a scary foreign feeling came over me. That was dark and empty. I wonder if that's what the narcissist feels like all the time. That thought is heartbreaking. No wonder their behavior is poison and destroys every bit of goodness in it's path. I don't want narc behavior wrecking havoc in my life anymore. Parents please love and guide your children properly. And, for goodness sake, take a course or two, or get counseling if you need to.
I too remember just a darkness over the narc from the first moment we met but I talked myself out of it. I felt like I was being strangled and suffocated over time and really couldn’t figure out why. On the surface it looked like someone was just really interested in getting to know me. But I almost died from the heaviness. I gained so much weight, aged and lost sleep and even one point I developed a freaking stress rash!!! I never in my life had that!! I even started to go to therapy and put on meds because they were that good at making me the bad guy. Looking back I can’t believe I didn’t realize what was going on and thank god everyday it was only 1 year. All that happened in 1 freaking year! This narc was good at what he did but I just feel and know he’s gotten away with these things for far too long and any day now, any day, he will get what’s coming to him. I feel it and I will be so happy when it does. I’m happy now that I’m free!!!! I almost died in the relationship from the stress and almost died from the discard because it was so fucking excruciating and now I am so grateful to have survived and how I see him for exactly who he is. I’m so grateful he discarded me! And when he comes back I will be so grateful to have this knowledge so I can stonewall /discard/ silence . He’s blocked but he will call with a blocked number or somehow contact me I know it and I’ll laugh and laugh and 🤣. Demon!
This education really helps...today I met someone new and within 10 minutes I knew the red flags....I will never contact them again ...now I see these people it's an amazing education thanks andrew
By the way I’M INDIFFERENT !
I just enjoy listening to you knowing I’ve healed❤
I actually saw the narcissist the other week. Two leg casts that went up to the narcissist's knees. What happened? Don't know, don't care. Car wreck. Baseball bat? Who knows?
Karma! The ex narc looked like crap !
@@Jessecraft1954 yes but you know, Ted Bundy did that kind of thing with a cast for sympathy and to attract people to attack. I don’t believe a narcissist even if they showed me x-rays that they had broken bones.
They met their match...probably got ran over by the new supply🤭
I love this story 😂
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✨💖🙏We are not supply.
We are beautiful bright shining lights! Thank you Andrew🙏💖✨
P.S. amen that the case is closed on the argument of empaths existence 🙌 💪 ❤️
You know what’s fun? Going to counseling with a narcissist, they’re hoping the counselor will talk some sense not you or mine took over the entire conversation like he was the counselor. They had him figured out real quick.
I relate to this so much. My narcissistic sister-in-law used to do this sort of thing so much, too. When my husband died (her brother), she insisted on coming to every single thing I had to do following his death.....appointment with hospital to collect his belongings, appointments with priest and undertaker. She completely took over and spoke over me. I remember at one of the meetings, the person I had gone to see actually thought that SHE was his wife. It was all about her. This was two years ago and now she is out of my life, it is only now that I feel that I am starting to grieve. She wouldn't let me grieve. These people are so conceited and arrogant and HAVE to be the centre of attention or they become very angry. Wishing you all the best. ❤
They don't want anyone to have their own identity. This is so very true. Thank you for recognising it and for all your videos, Andrew. ❤
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100% Correct. Love your videos 🎉🎉❤! My ex Covert Narcissist threatened to discard me and I called his bluff and left. Never to return. It's been 3 months since I left and since I did everything for him, everything fell apart for him after I left. He texted me to please call a tow truck for him!! SMH. Yes they always over play their hand. I am almost there at the Pinnacle of indifference you refer to.
Thank You Andrew for this episode! Truly heartbreaking when you realize the narcissists are your own two daughters! My ex-husband and my mother are both Narcissists and I broke the cycle with my mom and ex husband but never realized till now how my two daughter’s 24 and 27 have inherited theses toxic patterns! I am praying that my two daughter’s have the ability to break this cycle! I’m heartbroken and finally taking this precious energy to nurture and Love myself unapologetically!!!
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Going no contact with my daughters has been the hardest decision of my life! At 55 years old seeing that my life has been void of Love is a hard pill to swallow! What I can say is I now know my worth and value and I love myself even with a broken heart!!!
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Thank you for this video. It is right on time. I am working on being honest with myself with forgiveness. Forgiveness is for self. But I am still hurt by the betrayal and manipulation and financial abuse. But I know God is bigger than this Anger so I work daily on forgiving myself for not knowing, I extend so much grace to others before but on this journey i was really taught humility and grace towards myself and self acceptance as well as trust in my instincts and relationship with the creator. I am forever changed. Again Thank you for your videos they have been so impactful.
10 Months no contact and divorced 1 month. And I only knew him for a little over 2 years. What a whirlwind these last 2.5 years. But I am free. I thought I was losing my mind. Keep pushing everyone there is light on the other side. Sending Peace Love and Joy to all. I value these things more than anything now. ❤❤
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You guide me Andrew and give me such self belief.....on those days of doubt....and I have them, listening to you inspires me and gives me strength. He's left me with this fallout....🤷it's lessening as time passes but the reinforcement Andrew is essential 🙏💜
Your videos are really helpful man !! Appreciate every video helping me get thru my narrasscist sychdelic forced fog!!!! Thank you!!!
Andrew
Thankyou
I found your channel yesterday 🙏
You are such a powerful force and generous heart
Your words are echoing in my soul
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I watched you with my daughter..for 2 years online..Then I threw my husband out of our new place and all his stuff on the lawn..Life is sweeter now..even tho he still jabs me with his evil heart constantly..however I need his money..he pays all the bills.. and we are better off now that we don’t live together..but we still married..In the End he was a Bisexual Nightmare.. Winning.. 😊
@@DeborahKinard 🏆 💯, we won!!
Mine lied about their sexual orientation because it thought I was going to buy it a house. Um no get a job.
Wow. I'm just amazed at all the stories about wives finding out their hubby of 20+ years is bisexual. More and more of this secret sexual preference. Scary. I mean, just be honest.
I too think my ex narc was in the closet bc he hated women but submitted to men and he was in and out of jail and even said many times he was in his element there.welp he is headed back to jail soon considering he has violated probation he got for abusing me.i think my gut feeling was correct.
You are amazing Andrew ...
You nailed it man.. your wisdom is no less than a creator of world himself.. ❤❤❤
Thank you brother..
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Súper episode 🙌🏻✨ Thank you so much 😌🙏🏻
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Thank you I’m still on the struggle bus 😢 good days and bad days today just one of those bad days ❤but your absolutely right waste of time and energy I keep forgetting that and I keep forgetting some people don’t want to know the truth and others want to stop people from telling the truth and in the end the truth doesn’t change the past my only hope is the truth can help save the future for everyone’s kids and loved ones 😢❤
Thank you for helping me get the healing that I needed so badly and it came just in time. After divorcing him 2 years ago I just relocated. Had it not been for your teachings I would have not found my way❤❤❤
This is a NARC 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
A payday is their jackpot
Always looking for a nurse and purse or somebody with money
Looking for all that....
This is an EXCELLENT VIDEO
With women, the male narc exploits the maternal instinct. (besides the free food & money etc)
My X Narc (3 degrees) didn't know how to use an electronic coffee pot! Either these people are lazy, clueless, or just plain needy! OK, all of the above. I am so grateful for Andrew and this community. Knowing that there is a name for the craziness is a comfort. I am forever grateful. 🙏❤️💯☮️💪☕️
Thank you Andrew. This video is excellent! Take care and God bless you.
I'm kind and loving but not stable yet. So much self doubt and fear.
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Overcoming fear and self doubt is a big part of the healing process.
You're on the right path , keep moving forward.
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Andrew I love you brother I could not do it without you thank you so much peace to you from the u.k
TOP NOTCH !
Thank you so much Andrew..
That was so powerful Andrew!! Love you & Thank you for all you do!!❤🎉
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