20 Something Diaries | a couple days in my life, chit chat on fulfillment & anxiety
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- Опубліковано 27 сер 2024
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Hi Friends,
I haven't been vlogging much recently but I wanted to share a couple of days in my life w/ y'all! I also wanted to share my thoughts about anxiety, expectations, and fulfillment so hope y'all like this little chit-chat vlog!
xx,
Jules
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Hi Julia-I just have to let you know that I really enjoy your videos even though I’m old enough to be your grandmother! The main thing I wanted to say is that your moods are completely natural. There will be lows but soon there will be highs. And for what it’s worth, I think you are so brave making it on your own in NYC. That is something a lot of us can’t say. I’m in Colorado which is basically the opposite of New York and I admire you so much. Keep talking to your friends and family and you’re going to be fine. Looking forward to your next video. Love from Colorado-Sue
Thank you for the kind comment & reassurance Sue! It truly means so much ♥️😭
Sue, you are the kind of person that restore our faith in humanity, thank you for being so kind and encouraging, may you always filled with love and happiness.
Hi sweetie, I wanted to tell you it’s perfectly normal to go through those phases in life. You went through so much in such short period and we all have been through so much the past two or three years with pandemic and all. You’re amazing and everything will fall in place eventually and sometimes we just need to go through some experiences and lows for some wierd reason. Focus on what makes you happy and on what brings you joy. Lots of love 🌺
Thank you for the support Sabrina! ♥️
I resonated so much with you in this video it’s insane. It’s a journey getting through those down moments, it’s a process and feels endless when you’re in it, but it truly and genuinely always does get better. Like you said, it’s really our chosen perspective and our intentions that make all the difference and choosing to give ourselves some grace. You’re so amazing, sending you so much love, high vibes, and positive energy 🙏🏾
Ashelyn you literally just summarized my feelings through this comment!! thank you for your support and hope that we can get past this stage together ♥️
@@juliafei Always supporting you and lifting you up, I believe in both of us! We’ve got this 🥰🙏🏾🙌🏾
I know what you mean when you said you don’t feel like doing anything anymore. Life has been very heavy over the past 2 years. Today I find myself not even wanting to go into work and needing a mental health day-everyday! I’m 39 with a 14 and 17 year old living in the very near suburbs of Chicago. So you are not alone-and it has nothing to do with age or where each person is at right now. I think alot of people are feeling the same in slightly different ways. I love watching your channel. ❤️
I appreciate you all being so transparent and vulnerable too 😭 just knowing that we’re not alone is so validating and comforting ♥️
hang in there. Remember that this is just a season of your life and your down feelings are only temporary. you were in fight or flight for awhile with your injury. after fight or flight you need a period of rest to recharge. dont feel guilty for needing a break. we all need them :)
Thank you for the validation Sarah ♥️
YOU'RE SUCH AN INSPIRATION
Sending you all the positive energy Julia!!
Thank you Alice ♥️
hello Julia - i don't usually comment on youtube videos, but just wanted to say - i love your videos, and, as someone with a long history of anxiety and stuff - it can be impossible when you're in it to remember that it will pass, but it will. i keep a self-soothe box, which helps ground me when i get really anxious. anyways - i really love seeing your videos pop up, especially as i'm in lincoln, uk! it's pretty different in NYC. take care
Deep breath Julia, you're doing great. Growth isn't always seen when it's happening but you'll look back in a year and think how far you've come.
I think many that watch this will resonate with what you are going through.
It'll all be ok. Thank you for sharing this video. I needed this video because I felt down today. I read a lot of others comments on here and others videos and you do have a talent and making these super authentic and real life videos. You are genuine. That's what I admire about you. Always keeping it real. Sending love and light your way from NM.
Aww thank you NM! I hope that you’re feeling better and whatever it is, we’ll get through it!!♥️
being real in front of camera is not every other youtubers out there can do, i admire yours being authentic. lots of love, Julia, keep going.
I think this struggle can be very hard for 20 something’s because our entires lives there has been a clear path of school and after a bit of time in the workforce we tend to start to wonder what we really want. Our entire young adult lives we were taught to work for the next degree that would eventually lead us to that great paying job and once we get it, I think many of us are left wondering “okay..now what?” I struggle with this every couple months/weeks and I found myself trying to move away from the fast pace life, I found myself wanting to have a simpler life. I think it’s hard and some days will be easier but it’s important to remember that it’s a marathon, not a sprint but I think you’re handling it very well.
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Hey Julia everybody feels anxious. Just take a deep breath and let the mind break for a while. Smile to self in the mirror and everything will be ok 👍 . Love your video so much, really soothing and in good pace. Thanks !😃
Can definitely relate with the gnawing feeling of not being fulfilled. I'll be clocking 20 this year and I'm scared of the things I might not accomplish before then. I'm really hoping that I don't beat myself up for them though and acknowledge my growth. You're not alone, Julia 🖤
Thank you for being so transparent, I feel like this too sometimes. It’ll soon pass, remember to look for the light happy things. There’s always light in the dark. ✨🤞🏻
I feel like a lot of people can relate to that feeling, myself included. I've come to realize that living in a constant state of happiness is not realistic because life simply just happens sometimes. We are humans with complex feelings, thoughts, and emotions. It is okay to rest and lean on others when we need to. I appreciate your vulnerability
Thank you for being so open about your feelings! I’ve been going through waves of self doubt with my career progress and frustration with myself for not doing more in my free time, even though I feel so busy and burnt out as it is. I can totally relate to your feelings and I have to remind myself that I am enough and I deserve to take a break and focus on my mental health, and I hope you’re taking that time too! You seem to have a great head on your shoulders and your vlogs have been really inspirational for me and have motivated me to get more involved in my own community and put my energy into things that truly inspire me. So thank you! Wishing you the best and can’t wait for the next vlog!
It’s always the right time for coffee and a pastry 🙂
100% ☕️ 🥐
Hey Julia.. first of all Love your Videos. They are so calming and realistic. We are so used to watching vloggers creating unrealistic lifestyle videos which we certainly can't relate to. I relate to your so much because I also live alone away from my family for work and I happen to love the freedom ❤️. Your videos are motivational for so many girls out there who want to build a life on their own but scared to. Keep doing what you are doing ☺️. Love From India 😍☺️..!!
Thank you so much 😭 this feedback was so validating because sometimes I wonder if I overshare 😂 hope you know that you’re not alone on this journey ♥️
Julia, you’re not alone, the loneliness and some times hopelessness, is just part of life in today’s world, but remember Gods grace and mercy is new each morning! Perspective is also REALLY important, there is ALWAYS someone that has it much worse, so stay focused on your blessings! The life you’re living, some people only dream about!
Thank you so much Cheri ♥️
Thank you so much for sharing that part of you with us as well
I did not expect such a long and thoughtful comment 😭 thank you for sharing too and validating my feelings ♥️
Caught your channel with the moving vlog. Been hooked ever since 😂🥰 Spending this chill Thursday evening binge watching your channel. Everything here is a vibe. I love it here 🤗
I started watching your videos because of exactly what you are going through. I just keep feeling like there is something I need to get and I keep chasing it and that is making me sad these days. I am a Data Scientist and the logical side of my brain tells me that I got what I have been wanting so I should just be happy, but I am finding it difficult to implement that in real life. Best of luck and thanks for normalizing this issue of lack of content that we feel sometimes.
Hi julia☺️ I really love how calm, simple, and peaceful your videos are.keep moving forward❤️ love lots from Philippines.
Interesting enough that somehow everone is going through this uncertain life phase. I had a quarter-life-crisis and felt behind in every aspect of life. It is good to talk about it and taking it step by step. I have no doubt that you will find back to your path.
p.s. that curry looks gooooooooooood
Juliaaaaaa!!!!!! Thank you so much for being vulnerable. I’ve been a subscriber of ur channel for quiet a while now, but I felt like I got to know u a lot from just this video alone. I am going into my first year in college and I feel a lot of what u described for yourself. I resonated with you, so thank you so much for sharing because you’re def not alone. I’m wishing you all the best, and sending you all the love for your journey. Let’s keep fighting and figuring out ourselves the way we want to.
Hi Julia! Like what many have said, feeling this way is normal. It might be whatever Adam Grant was saying (he gave a name to this phenomenon where we don’t feel like anything), and also I want you to know:
1) It’s okay to not know how to approach whatever’s happening and/or how to move on from it right now. You’ve done hard things, you will do it again!
2) don’t wait to be happy. Don’t expect that you’ll feel happy once a certain goal or outcome is attained; find ways to be happy at the present moment! Whether it’s the gym, getting a pastry, whatever. You deserve happiness and all the good juju just as you are 💜
I admire you so much and as they say “this too shall pass” you’ll find your path and will feel fulfilled!
Thank you ♥️
Things will definetely get better Julia! Sometimes you just don't always get what you want because you deserve better, I guess you just have to trust the process! Love you
Hi Julia, thank you for another amazing video and thank you for being so honest, you really are inspirational :) I find it absolutely impressive how you are doing all the things that you do, while having a work - life balance and also this channel! What you feel I think is super relatable, we aren't exactly in the easiest times right now and you even had your surgery, so I think it's so good that you are kind to yourself 🌻As a former Psychology student, I would also always say that there's no shame in reaching out to someone professional if you don't feel well for a longer time, but you obviously know best how you feel and what is suitable! Thank you again for this lovely Channel and many greets from Scotland 🌞
Thank you so much for your support Paula! & yes no shame at all because mental health is so so important. Thank you for the suggestion, I really appreciate it ♥️
julia, I too am old enough to be your grandmother. I find spending time with family, perhaps if it's possible take a break from the city and stay with family for a long weekend. I find cutting out caffeine changed my mood, anxiety, increased my energy level. I also am a vegan which i know is extreme to many people but maybe slowly cut back on the coffee, it's worth a try. You may find a clearer mind. Wishing you continued progress on your PT and stay safe and well.
Julia, i'm going through a similar stage in my life, but i just know that everything is gonna be great at the end and i want you to believe the same for you. Sending u tons of healing hugs from Argentina 💛
Hi Julia! I've been following your videos recently and I just want to let you know that I really enjoy them! Since we're the same age I often feel the same way you do, especially after graduating from university life's been kind of hard to maneuver with the pandemic and all 😅
Anyway, you're amazing and I hope you'll feel better soon! Sending love and hugs 💙
My fav comfort food is pasta! Eating comfort food hugs your soul lol 🥰
yes it does 😭🤗
Your videos are amazing! You are so courageous to speak about your struggles and concerns so candidly. From my vantage point in my mid-70’s, I can say that life is full of ups and downs. The accident, surgery and healing process has taken a lot out of you. You’ve had to make a lot of withdrawals from your emotional bank account. As you re-gain your health, strength and stamina, you will be able to pick up the pieces of your usual life. Then, you can start to make some deposits into that emotional bank account. This is where Self Care comes into play. It’s time to practice the activities that bring you joy, to interact with the people who love you, and to get in touch with the inner strength that has brought you through the past challenges in your life. On a practical note, going back to the gym will help to release the endorphins, the feel-good chemicals in our brains. When I was recovering after cancer surgery, I found that Restorative Yoga was a great way to deal with both physical and mental stress. The cushions and props support your body so you can just melt into the poses. I always felt like a new person when I walked out of class.
Don't worry too much. We've come out of a pandemic and people everywhere are assessing life again.
You deserve a pastry or two. I applaud your courage and frank honesty and look forward to your future postings.
My dream is to move to nyc one day and I hope I can make friends as sweet and cool like you!🥰 thanks for your content it’s been helping me a lot when I take breaks from studying
I feel tired and sad too. Everyday is exhausting. I understand the joy of living for short periods of time, but even more frequently, I question the point of life. I don’t mean this in a very negative way. I just think alot about what I am doing and what It all means. When I try to talk about it, I also get very emotional. Don’t worry about crying ☹️a lot of us understand!
Hi Julia! The material things God created can never do for you what only God can do. I’m an older woman and am proud of you for considering that our pursuits on earth are temporary and can be unfulfilling. True fulfillment comes from pursuing the Eternal God through Jesus. Thanks for letting me share this with you. I enjoy your channel! And I agree . . . Iced Coffee . . . Year Round!
Ah the good old "what am I doing with my life" phase. Dont worry, we all have them :) Try to find joy in the small things and hopefully you will feel better soon. Sending lots of love
Thank you Maria ♥️ it’s annoying when these phases come but I’m positive that things will get better!
Please could we have a recipe for the Thai curry?? It looks so delicious 😋. I’m going to uni and in need of lots of yummy and easy to make dishes. 🤍
So what did you get in the Mejuri package...?😊. I have a signat ring and a minimal thin blue stone ring from them. Love their stuff. Your feelings of anxiety resonated with me. I was very anxious my whole 20's. Not to say you will be also, but its a transformational and emotional time period in one's life. Not all fun as is sometimes portrayed. This too will pass. You will figure it out. I really enjoy seeing your New York life. And even though I am far away on another coast, cafe life is the same. For me its tea and a book at the Cafe. My happy place.
You are such a nice person ❤️
hey julia! may i know what headphones are you wearing!! are they good for working out? :) thank you~
Can I have your curry chicken recipe pls, it looks so good!!
You deserve a pastry, sending virtual hugs, if appropriate ❤️
They actually ran out of pastries so I wasn’t able to get one 😭😭😭 but dw I treated myself to other treats haha 🤗 sending virtual hugs back!
Julia, for a young woman, you have already accomplished much. You do good work for a charity, you have your own place in NYC (not small thing), you have family and friends who love you. Society tends to judge you or force you to judge yourself based on how productive you are. You are in charge of how YOU decide to measure your own success. And your measures of success will change - yearly, monthly and even daily. On the days that you feel low, adjust your measure of success. It may be just managing to get up, get showered and dressed and make it through the workday. But YOU are in charge of it. Think of it as a sliding bar. Some days you can move it all the way over and other days you need to scale back. Just determine your measure of success and remember that you are so much more than your productivity. Artistic pursuits, appreciating something lovely (whatever it is) and looking up at the trees and sky are just as worthy pursuits as work. Maybe go to Central Park and commune with the trees too (lol). You may be suffering from a nature deficit. ❤️❤️
Hi Julia, is it safe to take a train in NY?
你真的很可爱
I just think you've been through alot with your shoulder, and maybe it's just kinda all caught to you, very normal what your feeling. Your young , got alot of living to do. I think it's just a funk lol. Spring coming maybe it could be a time of growth and renewal for you as well ❤️🩹
Damn you’re so right Teri 😭 I definitely think it hit me all at once and I just didn’t know how to process it all. Thank you for your kind words and support ♥️
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Your anxiety is warranted. The world is anxious. Its turned into an absolute dumpster fire. This is a spiritual battle for your soul. You will never find peace without Jesus. You can add another degree, a bigger corporate position, marriage, kids. It will only fulfill you for a short time.
As we celebrate the death burial and resurrection of Jesus this weekend, maybe you should take a walk to time square church and sit in on a service. You have nothing to lose other than your anxiety and all to gain in the form of a savior who will bring you the peace that surpasses all understanding.