Oh, 2:39 tugged at my heart. My foster son has grown up and is making his way on his own, and I always wonder if I did enough for him in the time I had with him.
It is nasty when foster parents use the foster children to get money from the city, not use the money for the foster child other than doing same for themselves and taking advantage of the foster child not having a family of their own. If I were in that situation, I would either run back to my biological family or settle for street life which would be just as dangerous. Nobody wants to feel unwanted and unwelcome unless they are wanted and welcome for the wrong reasons.
This is a mixed bag. Certainly you want a kid to go home, but if that can’t happen it helps if they can find permanence in our home, rather than switch homes again.
I wish foster parents would just realize you are a mentor for them during this process and try to impact them with positive values. Don’t get attached like they are yours.
@Saav’s Kitchen - In order to be a successful foster parent, you must get attached and love the children. It’s always going to be hard when you watch them leave. Foster parenting is not like babysitting. Babysitters don’t have to get attached to the kids. I taught grades K-2 for 6 years. The teacher, especially a primary grades teacher, has to have a relationship with each child. Just like a flower won’t grow until it’s planted in nutrient rich soil and it’s getting appropriate amounts of sunlight and water, children have basic needs. They need food, shelter, clothes, water, and air. They also need a caretaker, they need to know that they are safe and loved in the foster parent’s home. So the foster parent must get attached in order to have a positive bond with the child.
@@SaavsKitchen - You have the right to your own opinion of course. I said what I said because at one time my husband and I were looking into being foster parents and learning about the “foster to adopt” program. I remember that the presenter who was explaining things said that in order to be a successful foster parent that you must get attached to the child except if the child was only going to be with you for a short time. What you’re saying does make sense from the standpoint of the foster parents. It’s just not the best for the kids. Of course there’s no way to prove whether or not you’re attached to the child so if someone wanted to use your idea, I’m pretty certain that they could as long as they didn’t come right out and tell the social worker that they were doing that.
@@cmm2145 Exactly. Save face and do your part. When I was a school teacher, the children I educated loved being in school and grew an attachment to me. I did not as I’m just a guide to help them through the learning process. This should be the same for foster parents. Be the guide through the system for them. Then maybe just maybe the children will have a less traumatic experience and less trauma to heal from upon being returned to their caregiver.
@@SaavsKitchen - You and I are quite different it seems. When I was teaching it usually took the first 2-3 weeks of school to bond with my students. After that I just loved them so much. I loved them and they loved me. One year I had 8 students out of 18 who had behavior problems. There were 2 that I’d really had a hard time with. One day I was fed up. I called them to a certain part of the room and basically told them that my husband and I couldn’t have kids and su I considered my students to be “my kids” and that I loved them and that I wanted them to always do right things not wrong. After that I didn’t have any more trouble with them. A teacher doesn’t have to love their students to be a good teacher. A teacher needs to get to know the students because it makes it easier to teach them when you really know them. But it isn’t necessary. And in middle and high school teachers have 125 kids. Apparently your method worked for you and your students. My method worked for me and my students. Have a nice day!
...going home to their birth parents is not always a good idea. Adults seldom change or it takes years to change...so if a child was removed, it was for very good reason. Children do better in a healthy environment with visits to bio family IF bio family is healthy for them to visit with.
They seem like good people
Oh, 2:39 tugged at my heart. My foster son has grown up and is making his way on his own, and I always wonder if I did enough for him in the time I had with him.
It is nasty when foster parents use the foster children to get money from the city, not use the money for the foster child other than doing same for themselves and taking advantage of the foster child not having a family of their own. If I were in that situation, I would either run back to my biological family or settle for street life which would be just as dangerous. Nobody wants to feel unwanted and unwelcome unless they are wanted and welcome for the wrong reasons.
State's get Alot of federal funding our tax dollars whenever they removed kids and more when the adoption agency sells them
The term foster parent is a rouse you are NOT Thier parents period
This is a mixed bag. Certainly you want a kid to go home, but if that can’t happen it helps if they can find permanence in our home, rather than switch homes again.
I wish foster parents would just realize you are a mentor for them during this process and try to impact them with positive values. Don’t get attached like they are yours.
@Saav’s Kitchen - In order to be a successful foster parent, you must get attached and love the children. It’s always going to be hard when you watch them leave. Foster parenting is not like babysitting. Babysitters don’t have to get attached to the kids.
I taught grades K-2 for 6 years. The teacher, especially a primary grades teacher, has to have a relationship with each child. Just like a flower won’t grow until it’s planted in nutrient rich soil and it’s getting appropriate amounts of sunlight and water, children have basic needs. They need food, shelter, clothes, water, and air. They also need a caretaker, they need to know that they are safe and loved in the foster parent’s home. So the foster parent must get attached in order to have a positive bond with the child.
@@cmm2145 I was a school teacher for many years myself. But I disagree with your opinion.
@@SaavsKitchen - You have the right to your own opinion of course.
I said what I said because at one time my husband and I were looking into being foster parents and learning about the “foster to adopt” program. I remember that the presenter who was explaining things said that in order to be a successful foster parent that you must get attached to the child except if the child was only going to be with you for a short time.
What you’re saying does make sense from the standpoint of the foster parents. It’s just not the best for the kids.
Of course there’s no way to prove whether or not you’re attached to the child so if someone wanted to use your idea, I’m pretty certain that they could as long as they didn’t come right out and tell the social worker that they were doing that.
@@cmm2145 Exactly. Save face and do your part. When I was a school teacher, the children I educated loved being in school and grew an attachment to me. I did not as I’m just a guide to help them through the learning process. This should be the same for foster parents. Be the guide through the system for them. Then maybe just maybe the children will have a less traumatic experience and less trauma to heal from upon being returned to their caregiver.
@@SaavsKitchen - You and I are quite different it seems. When I was teaching it usually took the first 2-3 weeks of school to bond with my students. After that I just loved them so much. I loved them
and they loved me. One year I had 8 students out of 18 who had behavior problems. There were 2 that I’d really had a hard time with. One day I was fed up. I called them to a certain part of the room and basically told them that my husband and I couldn’t have kids and su I considered my students to be “my kids” and that I loved them and that I wanted them to always do right things not wrong. After that I didn’t have any more trouble with them.
A teacher doesn’t have to love their students to be a good teacher. A teacher needs to get to know the students because it makes it easier to teach them when you really know them. But it isn’t necessary. And in middle and high school teachers have 125 kids. Apparently your method worked for you and your students. My method worked for me and my students.
Have a nice day!
...going home to their birth parents is not always a good idea. Adults seldom change or it takes years to change...so if a child was removed, it was for very good reason. Children do better in a healthy environment with visits to bio family IF bio family is healthy for them to visit with.