I’m glad Jennette McCurdy is speaking out against Hollywood, her mother, and Dan Schneider. It’s disappointing that Dan Schneider is still not being held accountable for his actions. I’m fine if Jennette McCurdy does not want to reprise her role as Sam Puckett in the new iCarly reboot. Her mental health matters.
As someone who loved ICarly and Sam and Cat, I felt so happy and proud for Jennette.. but hearing all of what happened with her and her mother, and Dan Schneider I’m so glad that she stepped away and focused on herself 🤙🏽🙏🏽
Thinking about the fact that she had to play a victim on SVU while still extremely young makes this even more heartbreaking. Huge props to her for showing such strength and transparency as she grew older. I find her very admirable.
When you watch SVU, her level of “acting” was deeper than ANY other child I ever saw on that show… it was deeply unsettling there was a level of awareness I think other child actors on the show didn’t have
This kind of mental abuse is honestly just disgusting. Completely just shutting down whatever the child wants to live through them... Using constant mental trauma and guilt trips. It's amazing she made it out.
I love her talk about people who have died that did terrible things we should not respect someone who has died just because they're dead if they were horrible while they're living we're allowed to talk about them
This is something I've always noticed too and was literally just talking about last night. It's far too common for families and media to suddenly "forget" all the bad someone's done and focus on good. Some ppl do not deserve that and pretending "they were so great" just reads like a trauma response to me.
@@AshChiCupcak I recently came to this realisation. My cousin (a person who sexually assaulted his sister and 2 of our neices) died 2 weeks ago (he was in prison and died due to unknown circumstances 👀). I was over the moon as were my siblings and other cousins, his sister more than anyone else was happy he was gone. Everyone else was "appalled we could feel this way towards a dead loved one". Tf?! Loved one?! I think not. He was a monster that deserved everything he got.
I agree as I feel this way about my dad He was physically abusive to me when I was a kid and is still verbally and emotionally abusive to me now When he dies I will not feel sad I will feel free People can say all they want "but he's your father" but I will not feel sad about the death of my abuser
That email from her mother is abhorrent. Abusive, narcissistic people use the best parts of you as weapons to punish you for not obeying and destroy you. Your kindness, your desire to make others feel loved, your compassion, your forgiveness, your trust, your love for them, all become nuclear bombs. They poison everything good by making your goodness a source of misery. It's psychological torture and the severity of it cannot be overstated.
@@Heartcore90one is hard pressed to find a greater example of how truly broken and deluded some people can be, than by reading that email capped off by "send money for new fridge"
I never saw iCarly or knew anything about Jennette, and I'm sort of glad this video is my introduction, because she seems like a really level-headed, introspective person and I respect that immensely. Hurting and controlling others comes from not being aware of yourself, you're on the right path, love and respect!
I just want to say you worded this incredibly well. I also never watched iCarly or other shows on Nickelodeon growing up, we didn’t have cable and it wasn’t appealing to me either. I was going to say something similar to what you wrote but you articulated it so well that I don’t feel the need to do so also.
I agree with her when she says kids shouldn’t be in the industry. It’s like giving them a job at age 8. U wouldn’t give an 8 year old a job at Taco Bell so why is acting so different
Right?! I had this argument with my older cousin that was trying to force her 5yo in to modeling. Why are you making your 5yo get a job when you won't? My cousins husband (who wasn't against it when my cousin brought it up) quickly stepped in and told her it wasn't happening. They divorced not long after that and he has full custody. My neice is 16 now, doesn't care about fashion and hates photos lol. Much to my cousins dismay. My still unemployed cousin.
her mum blaming jennette for her cancer coming back literally makes me feel sick, i feel like her mum passing away let jennette be free and i love that for her♥️
It's wild to me that the character and person I resonated most with, was the girl who was going through just as horrible things as I was in her childhood. I truly hope Jeanette has peace within her spirit now, and that the rest of her life is lived to HER desires.
Its crazy what goes on behind the scenes. Whats even worse is that most people cant/dont speak out about problems like this. She is so strong for speaking up writing a book and so much more.
If you speak out you're demonized, shunned and made fun of. look at Amber Heard everyone believes Johnny Depp was the one abused and they never listen to the other side..
Jeanette McCurdy reminds me of Shirley Temple. A child star who survived the worst and is ready to protect others from what she suffered through. What an incredible and strong woman ❤️
Agreed. I read about Shirley’s story out of boredom. If you think recent child stars had it bad under people like Dan Schneider, you should read into what Shirley Temple and Judy Garland went through. And this was during the 1930s/40s when mental health and child safety were rarely taken seriously.
I was never a fan of her shows on Nickelodeon. I was too old for Icarly and Sam and Cat when they were airing. But I do feel and understand her pain and am glad she’s in a much better place.
Yup I'm with her..I loved my mom, but she was a total and complete monster who even broke my front teeth out when I was 10. She needed to be arrested and punished for child abuse. Did it happen, nope. She is great for standing up for us abused woman who grew up thinking these people are normal bc it's all we knew and wanted to do anything to make them happy and proud. It's horrible to work through it and learn to move on.
I can relate to some degree. Never had my teeth punched out =(. Whipped badly and beaten as a kid yea. I've forgiven that stuff and really glad to see people like you and Jennette and obviously others are speaking out! =)
After watching I suddenly felt free. Free for JM. Like a breath of fresh air, coz she's no longer bound to her mom! That satisfaction I felt when she released her memoir-- chef's kiss! Btw kudos to all who did this video as it is so informative and well done! The narrative, the research, the edits, the time and effort-- just wow! It gave her GMA interview so much meaning and depth. Tbh I just watched her GMA interview with slight pity but no understanding/sympathy coz I have a good relationship with my mom. But now I get why she titled her book that way. The gaslighting/guilt-tripping, the narcissistic selfish manipulation of her mom to all of her kids is just so horrible. This video gave justice/vindication to what JM wanted say and I love it!👏👏👏
Wow! Much respect to Jennette for telling her truth. This is wild. I now totally understand why she titled the book the way she did… I can’t even frown at it.
My ex sister is just like her mother, I fear for my nieces. I tried to help, spoke out and warned her husband, but of course she banned me from seeing them "ever again". I hope they are ok. A narcissist will never change, ever.
To my understanding. Narcissism and sociopathy are learned so this is presumably us as society failing them. But I wonder if by the time symptoms manifest, they're far to ingrained in their mind to uproot the narcissistic thoughts. Psychopaths on the other hand is genetics so I can only assume the best course of action is removing them from the gene pool. ASAP.
@@JoelHernandez-tz3vk Sometimes, psychopaths can be taught differently if they catch the symptoms early on from what I've heard. Nature vs. nurture, y'know? I'm definitely not a medical expert or a psychologist, but I've seen multiple sources saying that while disorders and psychopathy do run in genetics, they just make them more common? I'm not in any way an expert on this, and just wanted to put this out there, but I can definitely be wrong. One note on the 'removing people from the gene pool' though. Isn't that similar to eugenics? Not allowing people to have kids to get a more favorable gene pool for future generations? I definitely agree, but I feel like it would form into something worse by not allowing "unattractive" people to reproduce, or whoever decides who has kids might not like certain groups, like minorities, religions, or the LGBT community. It's not that you're wrong, but that the world would twist this around to stop people who don't have these issues from having kids.
As the child of a narcissist whose mother used bans and “soft bans” as punishment for those who questioned her parenting, those kids are not okay. Unfortunately, there’s nothing you can do but hope that one day, they get out.
Wow! What Jennette's mom did to her, I get & understand why she named her book that. I'm glad she's making her life better & moving on from the abuse. Also great Investigation video (my mind went blank on what to call your video sorry). But I loved it. You dug deep about Jennette
It really quite sad that litteral children like jenet or ariana have been taken advantage of. Nicolodian has gone down in a horrible spiral. I have no words
Finally I've been waiting for you to do an episode on Jeanette man after reading her book, it was just insane learning about all the darkness that surrounded Nickelodeon as a whole now I can just strap myself in and watch another episode of spill
Well, whatever she does and decides to do, I will support her. I'm actually crying hearing her story, but sad stories don't usually make me cry so I don't know why this one is making me cry this hard.
Well, the narrator uses a distressing tone when speaking. The video editor has chosen distressing and suspenseful music as the background track. The editor has chosen to use photos to drive the message they want to convey. If you read the book you would probably be less impacted.
As someone who can relate to Jennette's mother situation, this is opening my mind. I have ALWAYS seen my mother in a positive light and never thought our relationship was even remotely harmful, Jennette has opened my eyes for the better.
“she doesn’t deserve my tears and my sadness” but you, deserve your tears and sadness. you deserve to feel what you feel. i truly appreciate mccurdy for writing about this, i think i will begin to relate to her grief when my father eventually passes too.
Oh wow, I didn't realize I had so much in common with Jennette McCurdy. I loved the character Sam but now I have a newfound appreciation for her as a person. Absolutely amazing and strong. I hope to be just as strong one day
She was my favorite in iCarly, and I always watched her on Vine. I never imagined she went through all of this. I am so glad shes doing well for herself, I'd love to read that book and if she ever does come back to the big screen, she would have my full support.
She doesn’t need her mom she probably wants her and wishes they had a relationship but she’s living her life now her mom was a anchor in her life clearly I’m proud of her
I wanna buy the book, I relate too much. When my mom died last year I had mixed emotions I was her favorite daughter because I was the youngest and the easiest to control. I had to be perfect and when I became a teenager and started to find myself, I was often told I was worthless and sometimes beaten. To which I started to rebel. When I left home for college she made me feel like she missed me and that she really cared for me but I ignored her. I still feel a lot of guilt ignoring her during those times she was struggling from her illness. I hated her because she was the reason I hated myself but I still miss her
I'm so sorry you can relate 😞 I hope you're in a better place now. I will say you won't regret buying the book. I listened to it on Audible (narrated by Jenette) and it was so heartbreaking but also SO empowering. I laughed and cried listening to it.
I remember her role in Law and Order SVU and her performance always made me feel so uneasy. She did a good job, but I always felt uneasy seeing that episode with her. After finding out what I found out, now I know why.
Every time I think about letting my kids get in to acting and modeling, I watch one of these to remind myself WHY I chose to keep them away from this industry. It is so toxic, but particularly toward children. She's right. Kids shouldn't be forced to carry the weight of movies/shows. Childhood is so short. Just let them be children. They have their entire adult lives to act and model.
@ DaniS398 Only reason this keeps happening is because producers aren’t held accountable. They’re allowed to get away with things just cause they have money. The solution is to have stricter laws for kids who get into show business and more severe consequences for adults who are inappropriate to them in any way. Because without child stars, there would be no movies and shows for kids to enjoy.
I grew up watching iCarly and Sam & Cat Me and my sister loved both so much As someone who grew up with an abusive parent and is still experiencing abuse I really feel for Jennette Our abuse histories are not the same (not even close) but as an abuse victim myself I know what it's like to have someone who is supposed to care about you and protect you treat you so horribly That kind of trauma can seriously mess with someone's mental state I am honestly so proud of her for having the courage to speak out about her experience and I hope she's able to heal soon
The line that got me: "the issue was not that she had issues, but that she refused to work on those issues". As the daughter of an alcoholic mother with bipolar and borderline personality disorder, this hits home
As the daughter of a survivor of childhood abuse from her mother, it also hits home. She needs help but won't help herself.... which makes healing my own trauma even more difficult. I want to be where she is one day. "I feel vapid and pointless." also resonated with me. Her story gives me hope.
Look at Michael Jackson and Corey Heim and how Corey Failedman latches on to the death of his "friend" for fame and relevance. F**k CF, R.I.P. Corey Heim..
I couldn't believe the email she got from her mother. Just wow what a peace of work. I'm soo impressed with her and her strength making it through everything she has. That email alone woulda completely destroyed me for life I think
I feel for Jeanette. She got abused and forced into fame against her will as a kid. That email from her mom is awful. I feel this as someone who has a controlling and at-times toxic parent. It seems like she's now just discovering herself and living her own life. She's observant, funny, empathetic, honest, and complex. Props to her.
I always had a feeling that Jennette had a rough life when I heard about her being forced into the acting world. But i never knew how rough she had it when it came to her family, especially her mother. That's not how a mother should treat their child. I love and admire Jennette for being so strong and going through life the way she did. She seems to have grown alot and has become a strong, amazing person. I hope the rest of your life is filled with happiness Jennette!
As someone who use to watch ICarly back in the early years I feel heart broken to know this happened to Jennette nobody deserves to go through the abuse and trauma.
I find it strange that while this documentary censors ED, it's shown me two adverts so far that have advertised Plenny protein shakes as meal replacements.
As someone who has also been through a lot of trauma in such a short life, I am very sorry Jeanette that you went through those horrible things that you described!! May you find peace and happiness that you truly deserve in this life and the next!
outstanding! now that was the best small biography I ever watched.... I hope Ms. McCurdy keeps on her path to just be Jennette McCurdy!!! it was a great to watch this!!
She wanted to say "Me" When she said "I think I have chosen." She stopped and looked for a different way to say it. Her concern was to not appear or feel selfish. I can tell if anything she is selfless. Which also has it problems. Good for you Jennette I hope things only ever get better and better for you.
so sad. i was 30 feet from meeting her at a carshow in Atl at the Georgia World Congress Center. i got barely close enough to get a good enough picture to see who she was before my parents got tired of standing in line. this was in probably about 2010(??) im not sure exactly the year.
I'm super glad that she is speaking out against Hollywood,her mother and Dan Schenider because they need to be in the wall of shame plus Dan Schneider needs to be held accountable for his actions I think that her mother was trying to live her dream out of Jennette and not knowing the red flags that was going on in the industry and beng toxic and blame it on her daughter that's so low.
Wow! 30:18 Her own mom wrote that. Disturbing! Then, the very last line is this.... "Send money for a new fridge. Ours broke." Even creepier, Mommy Dearest. Yikes! It's sad that parents aren't really held accountable for such criminal actions. I guess kids can be freely abused at home. No one will intervene. Sad. That's life.
I used to like Sam more than Carly back than, not because she supposed to be funny but because she had smart eyes. Im glad Jenette wrote the book, glad for her too and Im gonna read it.
Jeanette, I just want to say. I watched you as a kid as your a few months younger than me. You were always one of my favorites. I am so glad you did this. I am so glad you stripped it all away, and just said what your experience was, and you were able to do it in such a pure way. My heart aches for the way you were treated. But it has built you into who you are now. It just goes to show, you never know what these actors, comedians, singers, etc are going through while they’re performing for our entertainment. Drew Barrymore had such a crazy childhood as well due to a lot of choices that were made by her parents. Just know, you are so amazing, intelligent, and worthy of kindness, loyalty, love, and life. It kills me that I may never see you in another film again in my life, but I absolutely respect it. Sometimes you have to do what’s best for you and not everyone else.
The fact that in icarly Freddie and his mom have no boundaries and she does body exams on him and is very controlling and this was meant to be funny but it was really happening to Jennette in real life I feel so bad that she had to make fun of the things she was really going through and with all the food stuff on the show too I’m so happy she’s healing and putting herself first
I am so proud of her for what she has achieved and become. She’s become such a wonderful and strong person and that’s why I love her, she’s gone through so much come out on the other side a little dinged up but still afloat and going strong
I really have so much respect for Jennette. What an inspiring lady she is.I wish nothing but healing and happiness for her. I am sure wherever she ends up will be a wonderful place.
My parents moved out of state I had no choice but to go with even though my mom was abusive not as bad as jennetes but I finally found a way to move away to be my own person with my two baby girls … when I told my mom she started making plans to move to the same place saying I need her .. controlling mothers beyond reason are real there’s no logical explanation for what they do only the explanation that is logical to them and they want you to live their reality as well … and it’s so hard to know if your right when someone is constantly telling you you are wrong or evil for thinking they would ever do that to you … it hurts when it’s your mom …
She left $300k on the table and walked. That says everything you need to know. Never knew her story.. so sad what she had to go through with her mother. I cant imagine having my own mom speak to me like that. Even at her most upset, she's never even come close.
15:00 A mother capable of love would have so adored her precious 2 year old saying or singing jingle bells (in the video her mother recorded 1 week after the devastating diagnosis).
me and my daughters would tune into this show and have many hours watching Icarly it is crazy to think she was going through so much all the while me and my daughters lol throughout it and enjoyed the show. I am so happy she was able to muster the courage for herself and her health.
What an amazing story. So proud of Janette for choosing herself and her health over the abuse. The way she frames it is enlightening. I think I have a new book on my list to read! What a brave story!
Although I am German and my English is not an A-grade, I will buy this book in english and will read it!!! Just to support Jennette and to get all of her thoughts about what has accured... I am blown away, how she is dealing with that kind of childhood... I just realized, I took mine for granted...
"the creator" aka dan schneider needs to go to jail he literally touched jennete and was acting all creepy preassuring her to take some of the unnamed adult drink another person who needs to go to jail is that guy jennete was dating he was 30 and dating a 17 year old girl wth!?!?!?!?
Sadly, a 30 year old dating a 17 or even 16 year old is not illegal in the US, or in many parts of the world. 16 is the age of consent and they refuse to change it because it serves the sickos in hollywood and the government
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I absolutely loved seeing her on The Daily Show talking about this stuff and impressed how she handled herself while talking to Trevor Noah.
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Why is "eating disorder" censored?
I’m glad Jennette McCurdy is speaking out against Hollywood, her mother, and Dan Schneider. It’s disappointing that Dan Schneider is still not being held accountable for his actions. I’m fine if Jennette McCurdy does not want to reprise her role as Sam Puckett in the new iCarly reboot. Her mental health matters.
Its horrible to see no justice
Ain't he dead??
@@Atarxzhii Yes it is. people sometimes or always get in danger
While I'll miss Sam, it's understandable
its kinda """""funny""""" how sam's mother was like her real mother
It doesn't matter that it was her mother, those body checks were NOT okay. And she forced her into an eating disorder!! I am so happy she spoke out.
That was the worst that allegedly was done to her, right?
As someone who loved ICarly and Sam and Cat, I felt so happy and proud for Jennette.. but hearing all of what happened with her and her mother, and Dan Schneider I’m so glad that she stepped away and focused on herself 🤙🏽🙏🏽
This is a win for Sam puckett
@@Lowqualitybirdfor jennette mccurdy*
yeah it makes me sad. i don't want a funny actress like her to suffer. i want the rest of her life to be happy.
Good job for you guys
I loved iCarly when I was younger and I’m glad Miranda and Jeanette are both successful in their own ways
Thinking about the fact that she had to play a victim on SVU while still extremely young makes this even more heartbreaking. Huge props to her for showing such strength and transparency as she grew older. I find her very admirable.
When you watch SVU, her level of “acting” was deeper than ANY other child I ever saw on that show… it was deeply unsettling there was a level of awareness I think other child actors on the show didn’t have
If it hadn’t been her it would’ve been another actor. Stop acting like acting shouldn’t be allowed until the age of 18.
@@Hey_JamieIt shouldn't be especially considering most child actors end up having trauma and their lives change for the worse
@@Hey_JamieNo one said that
This kind of mental abuse is honestly just disgusting. Completely just shutting down whatever the child wants to live through them... Using constant mental trauma and guilt trips. It's amazing she made it out.
Orlando Brown doesnt seem so crazy now does he
And the audacity to even victim shame,,
I love her talk about people who have died that did terrible things we should not respect someone who has died just because they're dead if they were horrible while they're living we're allowed to talk about them
The most we should do is show the due respect that yes, someone died, another person has left this life, but that's it
This is something I've always noticed too and was literally just talking about last night. It's far too common for families and media to suddenly "forget" all the bad someone's done and focus on good. Some ppl do not deserve that and pretending "they were so great" just reads like a trauma response to me.
@@AshChiCupcak I recently came to this realisation. My cousin (a person who sexually assaulted his sister and 2 of our neices) died 2 weeks ago (he was in prison and died due to unknown circumstances 👀). I was over the moon as were my siblings and other cousins, his sister more than anyone else was happy he was gone. Everyone else was "appalled we could feel this way towards a dead loved one". Tf?! Loved one?! I think not. He was a monster that deserved everything he got.
@@ntfoperative9432 nah if they did horrible things like abuse kids, they do not deserve respect. Even in death.
I agree as I feel this way about my dad
He was physically abusive to me when I was a kid and is still verbally and emotionally abusive to me now
When he dies I will not feel sad
I will feel free
People can say all they want "but he's your father" but I will not feel sad about the death of my abuser
That email from her mother is abhorrent. Abusive, narcissistic people use the best parts of you as weapons to punish you for not obeying and destroy you. Your kindness, your desire to make others feel loved, your compassion, your forgiveness, your trust, your love for them, all become nuclear bombs. They poison everything good by making your goodness a source of misery. It's psychological torture and the severity of it cannot be overstated.
Ps send money for fridge
And after the mother had died, it came out that ALL 4 children are from an exmarital affair.
@@Heartcore90one is hard pressed to find a greater example of how truly broken and deluded some people can be, than by reading that email capped off by "send money for new fridge"
I never saw iCarly or knew anything about Jennette, and I'm sort of glad this video is my introduction, because she seems like a really level-headed, introspective person and I respect that immensely. Hurting and controlling others comes from not being aware of yourself, you're on the right path, love and respect!
You never watched icarly??
I just want to say you worded this incredibly well. I also never watched iCarly or other shows on Nickelodeon growing up, we didn’t have cable and it wasn’t appealing to me either. I was going to say something similar to what you wrote but you articulated it so well that I don’t feel the need to do so also.
yeah i didnt even know that icarly was a show lol
Same!
Yes you are
I agree with her when she says kids shouldn’t be in the industry. It’s like giving them a job at age 8. U wouldn’t give an 8 year old a job at Taco Bell so why is acting so different
Woah…I never thought of it that way that’s so true that completely changed my pov on a few things
Right?! I had this argument with my older cousin that was trying to force her 5yo in to modeling. Why are you making your 5yo get a job when you won't? My cousins husband (who wasn't against it when my cousin brought it up) quickly stepped in and told her it wasn't happening. They divorced not long after that and he has full custody. My neice is 16 now, doesn't care about fashion and hates photos lol. Much to my cousins dismay. My still unemployed cousin.
That's so true! But some shows needs to have kids for kids show like blues clues or something like that but I agree
For real life
Rr but would it still matter if the child wanted be. Or maybe at and older age ?
her mum blaming jennette for her cancer coming back literally makes me feel sick, i feel like her mum passing away let jennette be free and i love that for her♥️
No sin goes unpunished. A person will get theirs at the end if it's the next day or 40 years later and probably burning now
I verbally gasped when her mother said “YOU made my cancer come back” that is disgusting
@@angelthedemon1945 ikr!!
No wonder her book is titled "I'm Glad My Mom Died"
It's wild to me that the character and person I resonated most with, was the girl who was going through just as horrible things as I was in her childhood. I truly hope Jeanette has peace within her spirit now, and that the rest of her life is lived to HER desires.
Its crazy what goes on behind the scenes. Whats even worse is that most people cant/dont speak out about problems like this. She is so strong for speaking up writing a book and so much more.
If you speak out you're demonized, shunned and made fun of. look at Amber Heard everyone believes Johnny Depp was the one abused and they never listen to the other side..
Jeanette McCurdy reminds me of Shirley Temple. A child star who survived the worst and is ready to protect others from what she suffered through. What an incredible and strong woman ❤️
Agreed. I read about Shirley’s story out of boredom. If you think recent child stars had it bad under people like Dan Schneider, you should read into what Shirley Temple and Judy Garland went through. And this was during the 1930s/40s when mental health and child safety were rarely taken seriously.
I’m so proud of her. Sam was my favorite character growing up, and now Jennette is my hero.
I was never a fan of her shows on Nickelodeon. I was too old for Icarly and Sam and Cat when they were airing. But I do feel and understand her pain and am glad she’s in a much better place.
Yup I'm with her..I loved my mom, but she was a total and complete monster who even broke my front teeth out when I was 10. She needed to be arrested and punished for child abuse. Did it happen, nope. She is great for standing up for us abused woman who grew up thinking these people are normal bc it's all we knew and wanted to do anything to make them happy and proud. It's horrible to work through it and learn to move on.
That’s horrible I send my heart out to you
What happened
@@tiffprendergast what happened to me?
I can relate to some degree. Never had my teeth punched out =(. Whipped badly and beaten as a kid yea. I've forgiven that stuff and really glad to see people like you and Jennette and obviously others are speaking out! =)
After watching I suddenly felt free. Free for JM. Like a breath of fresh air, coz she's no longer bound to her mom! That satisfaction I felt when she released her memoir-- chef's kiss! Btw kudos to all who did this video as it is so informative and well done! The narrative, the research, the edits, the time and effort-- just wow! It gave her GMA interview so much meaning and depth. Tbh I just watched her GMA interview with slight pity but no understanding/sympathy coz I have a good relationship with my mom. But now I get why she titled her book that way. The gaslighting/guilt-tripping, the narcissistic selfish manipulation of her mom to all of her kids is just so horrible. This video gave justice/vindication to what JM wanted say and I love it!👏👏👏
I'm so proud of Jennette for everything is overcame. I hope the next chapter in her life is amazing.
Wow! Much respect to Jennette for telling her truth. This is wild. I now totally understand why she titled the book the way she did… I can’t even frown at it.
What would make you wanna frown at it
Is wild. I now totally understand why she titled the book the way she did... I can't even frown at it.
@ OreliaLatrice
Imagine all the child stars who were mistreated by Dan that never opened up about it. Jeanette is just one of many examples.
My ex sister is just like her mother, I fear for my nieces. I tried to help, spoke out and warned her husband, but of course she banned me from seeing them "ever again". I hope they are ok.
A narcissist will never change, ever.
To my understanding. Narcissism and sociopathy are learned so this is presumably us as society failing them. But I wonder if by the time symptoms manifest, they're far to ingrained in their mind to uproot the narcissistic thoughts.
Psychopaths on the other hand is genetics so I can only assume the best course of action is removing them from the gene pool. ASAP.
@@JoelHernandez-tz3vk Sometimes, psychopaths can be taught differently if they catch the symptoms early on from what I've heard. Nature vs. nurture, y'know? I'm definitely not a medical expert or a psychologist, but I've seen multiple sources saying that while disorders and psychopathy do run in genetics, they just make them more common? I'm not in any way an expert on this, and just wanted to put this out there, but I can definitely be wrong. One note on the 'removing people from the gene pool' though. Isn't that similar to eugenics? Not allowing people to have kids to get a more favorable gene pool for future generations? I definitely agree, but I feel like it would form into something worse by not allowing "unattractive" people to reproduce, or whoever decides who has kids might not like certain groups, like minorities, religions, or the LGBT community. It's not that you're wrong, but that the world would twist this around to stop people who don't have these issues from having kids.
As the child of a narcissist whose mother used bans and “soft bans” as punishment for those who questioned her parenting, those kids are not okay. Unfortunately, there’s nothing you can do but hope that one day, they get out.
Wow! What Jennette's mom did to her, I get & understand why she named her book that. I'm glad she's making her life better & moving on from the abuse. Also great Investigation video (my mind went blank on what to call your video sorry). But I loved it. You dug deep about Jennette
It really quite sad that litteral children like jenet or ariana have been taken advantage of. Nicolodian has gone down in a horrible spiral. I have no words
dont forget zoey 101 and Alexa (Nicole)!
Finally I've been waiting for you to do an episode on Jeanette man after reading her book, it was just insane learning about all the darkness that surrounded Nickelodeon as a whole now I can just strap myself in and watch another episode of spill
She has a point though. No child should be famous, they need to grow up like a kid and enjoy life as a kid.
In many countries you can't use kids this way there are laws.
Well, whatever she does and decides to do, I will support her. I'm actually crying hearing her story, but sad stories don't usually make me cry so I don't know why this one is making me cry this hard.
Emotions are definitely a beast on their own.
Well, the narrator uses a distressing tone when speaking. The video editor has chosen distressing and suspenseful music as the background track. The editor has chosen to use photos to drive the message they want to convey. If you read the book you would probably be less impacted.
As someone who can relate to Jennette's mother situation, this is opening my mind. I have ALWAYS seen my mother in a positive light and never thought our relationship was even remotely harmful, Jennette has opened my eyes for the better.
“she doesn’t deserve my tears and my sadness” but you, deserve your tears and sadness. you deserve to feel what you feel. i truly appreciate mccurdy for writing about this, i think i will begin to relate to her grief when my father eventually passes too.
Y’all I love this woman she is such a breath of crisp fresh air
Oh wow, I didn't realize I had so much in common with Jennette McCurdy. I loved the character Sam but now I have a newfound appreciation for her as a person. Absolutely amazing and strong. I hope to be just as strong one day
Im so glad that Jennette McCurdy is out of this situation, and Im glad she is starting to heal.
She was my favorite in iCarly, and I always watched her on Vine. I never imagined she went through all of this. I am so glad shes doing well for herself, I'd love to read that book and if she ever does come back to the big screen, she would have my full support.
She doesn’t need her mom she probably wants her and wishes they had a relationship but she’s living her life now her mom was a anchor in her life clearly
I’m proud of her
I wanna buy the book, I relate too much. When my mom died last year I had mixed emotions I was her favorite daughter because I was the youngest and the easiest to control. I had to be perfect and when I became a teenager and started to find myself, I was often told I was worthless and sometimes beaten. To which I started to rebel. When I left home for college she made me feel like she missed me and that she really cared for me but I ignored her. I still feel a lot of guilt ignoring her during those times she was struggling from her illness. I hated her because she was the reason I hated myself but I still miss her
I'm so sorry you can relate 😞 I hope you're in a better place now. I will say you won't regret buying the book. I listened to it on Audible (narrated by Jenette) and it was so heartbreaking but also SO empowering. I laughed and cried listening to it.
I remember her role in Law and Order SVU and her performance always made me feel so uneasy. She did a good job, but I always felt uneasy seeing that episode with her. After finding out what I found out, now I know why.
What Episode Was That?
I’m so sorry of kids becoming victims of crazy parents… why people are allowed to have kids uncontrollably
Love you Jennette ❤️ You’re so strong for speaking out about these sensitive issues!
I loved her on iCarly and Im very glad she is happy now and she is healthy and just Living her Best life :)
Every time I think about letting my kids get in to acting and modeling, I watch one of these to remind myself WHY I chose to keep them away from this industry. It is so toxic, but particularly toward children. She's right. Kids shouldn't be forced to carry the weight of movies/shows. Childhood is so short. Just let them be children. They have their entire adult lives to act and model.
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Only reason this keeps happening is because producers aren’t held accountable. They’re allowed to get away with things just cause they have money.
The solution is to have stricter laws for kids who get into show business and more severe consequences for adults who are inappropriate to them in any way. Because without child stars, there would be no movies and shows for kids to enjoy.
The way she talks, it's obvious words are one of her strengths.
Goes to show, you really never know what someone could be going through.
I grew up watching iCarly and Sam & Cat
Me and my sister loved both so much
As someone who grew up with an abusive parent and is still experiencing abuse I really feel for Jennette
Our abuse histories are not the same (not even close) but as an abuse victim myself I know what it's like to have someone who is supposed to care about you and protect you treat you so horribly
That kind of trauma can seriously mess with someone's mental state
I am honestly so proud of her for having the courage to speak out about her experience and I hope she's able to heal soon
Absolutely disgusting what happened to her. It's so great to see her rise above it all and become such an honest and open person.
The line that got me: "the issue was not that she had issues, but that she refused to work on those issues". As the daughter of an alcoholic mother with bipolar and borderline personality disorder, this hits home
As the daughter of a survivor of childhood abuse from her mother, it also hits home. She needs help but won't help herself.... which makes healing my own trauma even more difficult. I want to be where she is one day. "I feel vapid and pointless." also resonated with me. Her story gives me hope.
And nickelodeon just went downfall not too long after she left
Imagine how many people have similar stories, but were never granted the space to heal and recover because their parent never died.
Look at Michael Jackson and Corey Heim and how Corey Failedman latches on to the death of his "friend" for fame and relevance. F**k CF, R.I.P. Corey Heim..
@@lovelimbs4life bless them all
“I’m glad my mom died, so that I can live” sounds just right. Sums up everything !!
I couldn't believe the email she got from her mother. Just wow what a peace of work. I'm soo impressed with her and her strength making it through everything she has. That email alone woulda completely destroyed me for life I think
I feel for Jeanette. She got abused and forced into fame against her will as a kid.
That email from her mom is awful.
I feel this as someone who has a controlling and at-times toxic parent.
It seems like she's now just discovering herself and living her own life. She's observant, funny, empathetic, honest, and complex. Props to her.
I love her. She was a great actress and she's an amazing activist. I will never not love her as a person
I always had a feeling that Jennette had a rough life when I heard about her being forced into the acting world. But i never knew how rough she had it when it came to her family, especially her mother. That's not how a mother should treat their child. I love and admire Jennette for being so strong and going through life the way she did. She seems to have grown alot and has become a strong, amazing person. I hope the rest of your life is filled with happiness Jennette!
She did things no one even dared to so proud and happy for her ❤
As someone who use to watch ICarly back in the early years I feel heart broken to know this happened to Jennette nobody deserves to go through the abuse and trauma.
great video great way to tell her story i think you did this actually perfectly thank you for treating her as a person:)
Shirley temple kind of went through this. There's a history of parents taking their child star's money or making them work for them.
Love it when spill has all the tea
I identify so much with her relationship with her mother-the people pleasing and feeling powerless. I’m so glad I watched this.
You are hottt!
I find it strange that while this documentary censors ED, it's shown me two adverts so far that have advertised Plenny protein shakes as meal replacements.
Same. I got diet app commercials 👀
Shakes as meal replacements.
I personally think this is a book to study by high schooler in the next generation 🥺
The First Minute was so Intense I’m strapped to my seat
As someone who has also been through a lot of trauma in such a short life, I am very sorry Jeanette that you went through those horrible things that you described!!
May you find peace and happiness that you truly deserve in this life and the next!
I’ve always wondered why sam and cat just ended. Now I know
I am so glad she's free, she will get through this God bless her
outstanding! now that was the best small biography I ever watched.... I hope Ms. McCurdy keeps on her path to just be Jennette McCurdy!!! it was a great to watch this!!
i grew up on this show... i never wanted it to end back then. i never knew why it ended and didn't understand why, until now thank you.
all shows come to an end
She wanted to say "Me" When she said "I think I have chosen." She stopped and looked for a different way to say it. Her concern was to not appear or feel selfish. I can tell if anything she is selfless. Which also has it problems. Good for you Jennette I hope things only ever get better and better for you.
so sad. i was 30 feet from meeting her at a carshow in Atl at the Georgia World Congress Center. i got barely close enough to get a good enough picture to see who she was before my parents got tired of standing in line. this was in probably about 2010(??) im not sure exactly the year.
Good for her, the things they do to these kids are unthinkable and we as a society eat it up.
I'm super glad that she is speaking out against Hollywood,her mother and Dan Schenider because they need to be in the wall of shame plus Dan Schneider needs to be held accountable for his actions I think that her mother was trying to live her dream out of Jennette and not knowing the red flags that was going on in the industry and beng toxic and blame it on her daughter that's so low.
Dan was awful to the cast of all his shows though right? not just icarly
I’m glad she tell her story about abuse people in her life and some people will relate to that more then now
I am glad she is speaking out about it now, and it is a great book.
Wow! 30:18 Her own mom wrote that. Disturbing! Then, the very last line is this....
"Send money for a new fridge. Ours broke." Even creepier, Mommy Dearest. Yikes!
It's sad that parents aren't really held accountable for such criminal actions. I guess kids can be freely abused at home. No one will intervene. Sad. That's life.
Finally the coverage we've been waiting for.
I’m so glad that she’s Able to talk about this
I used to like Sam more than Carly back than, not because she supposed to be funny but because she had smart eyes. Im glad Jenette wrote the book, glad for her too and Im gonna read it.
Jeanette, I just want to say. I watched you as a kid as your a few months younger than me. You were always one of my favorites. I am so glad you did this. I am so glad you stripped it all away, and just said what your experience was, and you were able to do it in such a pure way. My heart aches for the way you were treated. But it has built you into who you are now. It just goes to show, you never know what these actors, comedians, singers, etc are going through while they’re performing for our entertainment. Drew Barrymore had such a crazy childhood as well due to a lot of choices that were made by her parents. Just know, you are so amazing, intelligent, and worthy of kindness, loyalty, love, and life. It kills me that I may never see you in another film again in my life, but I absolutely respect it. Sometimes you have to do what’s best for you and not everyone else.
I've never bought a book before. I get the feeling that's about to change soon
I just ordered her book. So happy you found you. Strong spirit you are. God bless you. Amen
The hatred I feel for Jeanette’s mother is strong.
When I was a kid I loved Sam and cat,but now I will never view it the same and I will truly understand what was really going on behind the scenes
I remember wanting to be exactly like Sam when I was younger... and im so glad im not
It's pathetic and damaging that 'eating disorder' is a self-censored word 🤦♀️
why do we live in a world where we have to sensor things so people don't get upset. its crazy just say it eating disorder its not that hard
Do we really live in a time where "EATING DISORDER" has to be bleeped out??
The fact that in icarly Freddie and his mom have no boundaries and she does body exams on him and is very controlling and this was meant to be funny but it was really happening to Jennette in real life I feel so bad that she had to make fun of the things she was really going through and with all the food stuff on the show too I’m so happy she’s healing and putting herself first
The thing that gets me mad,is that they sent,Dan to an island with a lot of money- them not putting him in custody says a lot,just think about it..
I am so proud of her for what she has achieved and become. She’s become such a wonderful and strong person and that’s why I love her, she’s gone through so much come out on the other side a little dinged up but still afloat and going strong
thank you for spilled the tea!
I really have so much respect for Jennette. What an inspiring lady she is.I wish nothing but healing and happiness for her. I am sure wherever she ends up will be a wonderful place.
My parents moved out of state I had no choice but to go with even though my mom was abusive not as bad as jennetes but I finally found a way to move away to be my own person with my two baby girls … when I told my mom she started making plans to move to the same place saying I need her .. controlling mothers beyond reason are real there’s no logical explanation for what they do only the explanation that is logical to them and they want you to live their reality as well … and it’s so hard to know if your right when someone is constantly telling you you are wrong or evil for thinking they would ever do that to you … it hurts when it’s your mom …
She left $300k on the table and walked. That says everything you need to know. Never knew her story.. so sad what she had to go through with her mother. I cant imagine having my own mom speak to me like that. Even at her most upset, she's never even come close.
15:00 A mother capable of love would have so adored her precious 2 year old saying or singing jingle bells (in the video her mother recorded 1 week after the devastating diagnosis).
I love this but the background music gave me so much anxiety lol
How long does it take you to make a video like this? It’s so good 😊
me and my daughters would tune into this show and have many hours watching Icarly it is crazy to think she was going through so much all the while me and my daughters lol throughout it and enjoyed the show. I am so happy she was able to muster the courage for herself and her health.
What an amazing story. So proud of Janette for choosing herself and her health over the abuse. The way she frames it is enlightening. I think I have a new book on my list to read! What a brave story!
The look what you’ve done to me vine scares me!
Although I am German and my English is not an A-grade, I will buy this book in english and will read it!!!
Just to support Jennette and to get all of her thoughts about what has accured... I am blown away, how she is dealing with that kind of childhood... I just realized, I took mine for granted...
0:36 I think that's enough internet for today after this I'm going to bleach my eyes out
"the creator" aka dan schneider needs to go to jail
he literally touched jennete and was acting all creepy preassuring her to take some of the unnamed adult drink
another person who needs to go to jail is that guy jennete was dating
he was 30 and dating a 17 year old girl wth!?!?!?!?
Sadly, a 30 year old dating a 17 or even 16 year old is not illegal in the US, or in many parts of the world. 16 is the age of consent and they refuse to change it because it serves the sickos in hollywood and the government
Dan Schneider really needs to be held accountable for his crimes.
Agree. I don't understand why no police charges have been filed.