Peb yeej muaj tej txoj kev cai phem2 li no. Kuv ntxub tej niag kev cai duam2 li no tshaj plaws li os. Tseg kiag txoj kev zij poj niam, yuav niam yaus thiab niam tij tsis kwv ces peb yuav zoo lawm ntau lau!
Nuag nyob li xwb txawm siv hais tias nyuaj kj siab peb cov poj niam hmoob ua raug yuam yuav tus txiv yus g nyiam thiab yus tsis hlub tseem raug yuam yuav thiab yus yeej nyuaj siab thiab tu siab tshaj plaws li thiab koj nyuam qhuav rau me2 xwb os peb cov poj niam ma raug ib sim neeej yuam ib tiam dhau ib tiam g paub tag li na tu siab tshaj plaws li
OMG dude this happened in the old land like anybody had a choice? If you didn't go to Thailand you wouldn't have got a second wife, that was your old girl. She should have Married you years before. She only Married you only after making her mistake (ha ha). When you were still in Laos. So your not being fair to anyone one of them period, especially to all those kids. I hope your happy after venting.
Tus me nus koj hais koj txoj kev tu siab yeej kawg lawm thiab tab si yog ua li cas thaum koj twb taus koj tus qub hluas nkauj los ua koj tus niam yaus lawm ua li cas koj ho tsi hlub ob leeg mag koj ua li koj ua ko mas koj tsua ua li koj lub nyiam xwb zoo koj tab si tsi tshua ncaj rau koj tu niam tij lawm koj yog ib tug txiv neej siab phem kawg nkaus li thiab txawm koj yuav tu los yog nej txoj koj tsuav xav txog koj tus kheej xwb ua li koj ne yog hais tias koj ho yog koj tus niam tij no koj ho puas tu siab thiab
Koj xa tias koj tu saib tshaj. Muab hais los mas koj tus niam tij tseem tus tshaj koj. Koj tias yog tim nws es nws Tsi hais kom dim qhov yuav koj no. Koj twb yog niag haus tsev es Koj twb hais Tsi dim nes. Nws yog niag nej tias muab nyiaj Sawm lawm ces nej yuav hais li cas los tau. Nws ham yam Tsi muaj haus kev. Koj tias Koj nim tu tu saib tiam si Koj twb tau tu Koj hlub lawm nes Ua niam yau. Nws nes Nws hos tau dabtsi no. Koj tsuas xa txog koj tu kheej xwb. Koj YEEJ Tsis zoo kiag! I don’t feel sorry for u!
It goes both ways cause she don't eve want to marry you too. She was also forced too. So don't be to mad at her and show her some kindness. This Hmong culture religious belief needs to stop. Even when you get your own lover half the time it doesn't even work out too. GOOD LUCK
Brother!!!!!!! Don’t just think about you only!!!! Because she doesn’t have a choice either. Koj yog ib tug txiv neej yawg koj twb coj tsis ncaj li!!!!! Yog tias koj ua ib leej txiv es coj ncaj ces koj tsis tas yuav hais kom koj cov me nyuam hlub koj. Lawv yeej hlub koj lawm os!!!!!
Koj kuj xav qhov uas txiv neej muaj ob peb tus niam es tseem ho mus yuav cov me ntxhais mos2 los yuav es tseem tsis hlub thiab mas es tsis txhob ho cem2 koj tus niam loj thiab os vim koj niam koj txiv yuam xwb hos txiv neej laus xav tau ntxhais mosmas yog txiv neej tus kheej yuam yuav kiag lub txim no ntshe yuav tau ntiav muam phauj tsawg thiab os yom
Koj yeej yog neeg lim hiam, koj twb paub hais tias koj tuaj tsis tau tsis lhub luag hos yuav tuav luag los qha qhuav ua dab tsis ua cas tsis nti kom dim koj twb yog ib leej tub cag koj twb muaj cai. Mhoob txoj cai yeej phem tiam sis zam txim tsis tau rau koj.
I think he fails to u understand that she is also miserable and doesnt wanna be with him but she has no choice. Yes, maybe she could have fought harder and said no to the marriage, but if she walks out of the family with her kids, her kids will suffer. At least if she stays then the grandparents and that younger brother they will still love her kids, even if he doesn't love her. I hear too many stories about back in the days where the step dad/mom and step-grandparents are so mean to the new mom's kids.
Pab koj tus niam tij tu siab tshaj koj 10000000000000 Npaug lawm thiab os niag ntsej muag txiv neej siab Dub Chim koj niag qhov huam os cas siab dub siab phem dab tuag tshaj li Sib ua ua dab tsi naw cas tseem muaj cov me Nyuam tom qab no thiab Liam tshaj tsiaj lawm thiab os Cas tseem kab hais rau me nyuam thiab niam loj thiab os Mob koj niag qhov quav xwb os cas ntxim ntxub ua luaj
Peb yeej tau taub koj tiamsis qhov koj txhaum yog qhov koj liam yog niam tim niam loj. Lub sijhawm ntawv pojniam tsis muaj cai li, koj tus Niam loj thiaj tau yuav koj. Koj yog ib tug txivneej. Tiamsis tsis yog txivneej yawg kho es koj thiaj tsis nti kom dim koj niam thiab txiv. Koj tus niam loj lwj siab tsaj vim nws tsis muaj cai mus yuav ib tug txiv yau. Ho koj tu tu siab tiamsis koj twb rov tau tus koj hlub hlub es koj tseem tsi koj tus niam loj siab ntsws ntxiv thiab. Nej cov txivneej siab phem tsuas Pov nej sab xwb.
Yog lawm, yog yuav Thov muam phauj tsawm mas yus yuav tau thov yus li ko thiaj tsis txhaum neej. Tsis yog tsawm qhov hlub tsis taus luag tus ntxhais tsawm qhov kom txhob muaj kwv Txis niam tij lawm. Hmoob lub neej nim no nyob mekas no twb tsis muaj kwv Txis niam tij lawm mas, txawm koj tus muam tsis kam tuaj tsawm los tsis ua li cas yog nws ho tuaj tsawm ntxiv mas kuj haj yam zoo.
Tus txiv tsev no nws yeej tsi pom hais tias twb yog tim nws thiab, nwg tseem muaj plhus qhia txog nws qhov kev phem thiab. Koj twb yog koj txiv tug tub es koj twb tawv tsi dhau koj txiv es koj yuav kom koj tus niam tij tawv kom dhau. Mloog xwb yeej yog tim koj tsi hlub nws.
Sorry to hear uncle. My parent are niam tij txis kwv too. I never hate my Dad for not loving my Mom with all his heart. I told my Dad once that if he ever married a second wife, I understand. It’s true, some ppl aren’t in your shoes and they will never understand your feelings. I feel sorry for my parent, they both didn’t have a choice then, but was forced to married each other. My parent had been married for over 42 years and still going on strong. 🙏💕
Everyone is Mad at this man but it’s not all his fault . Before you say it’s all his fault, don’t forget he was forced and threatened by his father at 16 years old. He refused but they wouldn’t let him refuse. What do you expect a 16 year old to do in a situation like this at that time?! With no way out he unwilling do what they want but he did warn that if they make him he will marry her but won’t ever love her. She knew this and still agree. She was older and should know better so she should have refused but she didn’t and agreed to marry him knowing he said he won’t love her. You cannot force yourself to love someone when you don’t. Back in those days kids still respect their elders. He is just as much of a victim as she is. Have a heart and try to understand the bigger picture. People are So quick and easy to judge others. Walk a mile in his shoes before you judge him.
She has no fault. If you love her then don’t accept your Dad’s demands. Your wife or Niam Tij has no choice. It is your responsibility to take care of her. Why don’t you let her go, if your isn’t with her. Everything is your fault. Now you already has the person you want, then start love both of them. Don’t play favoritism and stop complaining.
Choonvg Hant she has fault just as much as him maybe even more. If she has no choice then he has no choice either. She was older so she should have refused but she didn’t refused. Not his fault she didn’t refused. He already warned them that if they force him to marry her he will do as they wish but will not going love her and she still agreed to choose him of the three brothers knowing that. Why blame him only? He was just 16 years old, she wasn’t.
Tus txiv ntawm qhov koj hai tias koj tus poj niam ua yog koj tus niam tij ntawv ma nw txhw2 nw cov me nyuam es nws cov me nyuav tsi hlub koj no. Kuv xav ma tsi yog li koj hais.peb ua tib neeg nyob muaj 10xyoo xwb peb yeej paub tias tus hlub thiab tus tsi hlub lawm. Twb yog li ntawv thiaj muaj neej neeg ntau2 hai nev
Niag ntsej muag koj tu siab ces tu rau koj cov niam cov Txiv xwb lawv puas xav yuav koj thiab na vim luag yuav mus los nej cov niag kwv tij pheej yuav theeb luag tej me nyuam ne thiab yuav koj tiag kuv xav tias yog nej muab txhua mesic koj niam tij mas koj yeej g tau nws tiag
Cia siab tias tag phauj laus no peb hmoob mekas los kuj yuav tseg txoj kev yuam neeg no lawm.. feem ntau nim no yeej tsis pom muaj tim mekas lawm tabsis tim nplog mas tseem muaj coob nawb!!
Yeej yog tim koj thiab koj tsis kam yuav ce koj txiv yuam khoos los koj xum tuag ua kom lawv txhob khoo tau ,niam tij los ib yam thiab vim koj txiv lawv khoos kiag li thiab yog yuav mus ua neej tom ntej es me tub me nyuam nyiaj kub nyuj twm vaj tsev los lawv tsis pub ce kawg yuav xwb thiab mas ntis tsis dlim lis koj thiab xwb os
Pang Thao that’s so true, because in 2010 I almost hit that phase too, what I meant is that my SIL was mad because I didn’t allow my husband to take care of her after her husband died. Omg 😆 she fuckin hated me but I didn’t care. I’m like there’s plenty of widow men’s and divorced men out there, wtf would I allowed my husband to take care of you and besides she has grown kids that are in their fuckin thirty’s to take care of her and she has all of her husband million $$$$ money so go she get the other fishes in the sea. It’s been almost ten years since her husband passed and She still hates me til this day but I don’t give a fuck 😂😂 I have my own family so forget her seriously, my husband side of the family don’t like it but I don’t care, too bad I don’t share my husband with nobody ever.
I AGREE WITH YOU BROTHER! NWS TAU KOJ MOS MOS ES UA LI CAS NWS TSI HLUB KOJ NO...VIM YOG KOJ SIAB ZOO DHAU LAWM ES LAWV SAIB KOJ TSI MUAJ NUJ NQE XWB MOG...
Txhawj yog li los kj yuav tau hlub Kj tus niam Loj thiab txhob xav tias yuav hlub niam yau xwb hlub 2 leeg kj thiaj li yog tus zoo hos niam loj los txhob mus cem 2 kj rau lwm tus xav tias nws tus twb tuag lawm ,niam loj los yeej lwj siab qhov kj tsim nws hos kj los yeej lwj siab qhov kj yog kwv txais niam Tij neb 2 leeg zoo ib yam yog li kj los yuav tau hlub nws ,nws los yuav tau hlub Kj thiab
Aub ntawd yog aub tsiaj xwb ces lawv ntse 2, tsuas yog lawv tsis txawj hais lus xwb, thaum aub los tom tsev ces twb yog aub los qhia xwm txheej rau nej xwb moj, aub tsis tom, tiamsis aub tsem xwb, mam yuav ua niam yau xwb moj, koj yog txiv koj yuav tsum coj ncaj xwb, Xyov cas HMOOB RUAM CES PHEEJ MUAJ QHOV NIAG NIAM TIJ TXIS KWV Tos mi nyuam ua li lawv niam qhia los vim lawv twb tsis tau rau koj nkawm khau, lawv thiaj tsis paub
I get he's hurt, in pain, and upset by what happened. I hope Hmong men understand how Hmong women have been treated and continued to be treated. Men still have options in our culture. Look dude, you have a second wife now. Our Hmong women have been brideknapped and forced marriages for centuries against their will and with NO options. Some women are married without their consent, against their will as young as age 13 and 14 to men two to three times their age into a polygamy lifestyle. Think of this!
Thaub koj yog tus phem xwb tsi yog koj poj niam yog tus phem os koj yog niag neeg phem peb tsom kwm saib mas koj yeej yog tus phem koj poj niam yeej zoo lawm teeb meem yog koj tsis xwb koj txhob hais lo lus hais tias tu siab tshaj koj os lis lys no ces txhob muab haus tawm txaj muag heev li os.
Im so thankful that this and the bridenapping are no longer practice at least here in the states. Its such a sad life however as a Hmong man you still have the right to marry another wife that you like. Unlike the kidnapped brides who have no choice...😢💔
Ntuj aw niag thaub laus aw koj twb tau koj niag qub hluas nkauj maum dev co tu lawm es koj tseem muaj plus tuaj piav koj lub qe luj thiab os tsis txaj muag li los. Koj tus niam tij twb tsis nrhiav dua dua txiv dev li koj es tsis paub tsaj muag li los tsej muag thaub laus
Koj siab phem tshaj li os, muab hais los ces koj yog tus phem tshaj es koj niag qub hluas nkauj twb yog pog laus rau lub sib hawm thaum koj yuav thiab nev.... Yawg dev aw...txhob tu2 siab nej nrog nej ntsawj2 niam tij lub zog noj as
I dont like the ideals, but I think the man will be more disappointed then the woman. Think about it, she's like a used car for many years already and its not out of love, its out of forcing only that is why it's so different. We hmong women marrying a younger men, it will never work, but if you choose to stay married to this young man up until now and you dont leaves him but complaints after complaints to your children especially to the relative and community. Your are the idiot's because you cant leaves him. Please ladies, dont used our children as a weapon and blame them for you not able to leaves someone who you say he doesn't love you.
Tus twg los tu siab li os thov txhob sib yuam lawm peb cov me hmoob niam hmoob txiv ruam awd. Peb cov niam cov txiv mas tau u txhaum ntau heev lawm ov.
Txhua txhua tus txiv neej ces niam yau yeej ua qab Dua es tsawg tus txiv neej Los thiaj li hais txog niam yau xwb mas thiab pom xeeb yog niam yau diam es nws thiaj li ua qab Dua mas thaub aw
Tab sis koj niam tij yeej tsis yeem kiag thiab nws xaiv koj vim nws tsis muaj kev xaiv lawm nej txhob muab liam rau koj tus niam tij nawb koj tsis xav yuav kuj muab nrauj kiag mus xwb mas cas nim yuav hais ua luaj mas
Nstej muaj laus you are the empithany of a Hmong men. Men like you lam yug muaj ib niag qlob xwb.. tsis muaj peem xwm ncab koj yeem koj txiv but now putting the blame on your niam tib.. you have no right to blame her. Your older kids don't respect you because you don't even love their mother... Koj NES, you married your old girlfriend.. es nws NES?? NES twg tsis Tau lwm tus. Cas tseem yuav muaj cais Los hais in tag nxtim ntxub tshaj nplaws!
Tus me txiv tsev yeej tos taub txoj kev mob tab sis tos poj niam ntis tsis tau los yog vim hlub hlub cov me nyuam yog tsis yuav koj ces hnub twg nws mus yuav lwm tus cov me nyuam yuav poob ua ntsuag tas nrho that why nws thiaj xum yuav koj vim cov me nyuam xwb koj mob npaum Kos Tab sis koj muaj cai yuav lwm tus los hlub rau luag ntsia ho luag yeej mob mob luag los poj niam nim Yuav tsis tau ib tug los hlub rau koj ntsia koj yuav tsum txhob chim chim poj niam yeej tu tu siab heev yog chim npaum Kos lawm ces Nrauj kiag nws mus thaum koj niam koj txiv tug tag ntawv xwb mas hnub no koj twb tau tus koj hlub lawm pab koj zoo siab o
Nrog koj zoo siab qhov koj rov tau kuv tus hluas nkauj Los hlub rau yam laus no lawm. Ntxub peb Hmoob txoj cais no tshaj plaws, zoo siab heev peb nyob teb chaws Vam meej tej kev quab yuav no tsis muaj lawm.
Tus nus, koj hais yog kawg rau koj, tabsis tas nrho rau peb pojniam Hmoob ces tsis Ncajncees rau peb. Peb coob tus pojniam raug quab yuam yuav, thaum laus los peb twb yuav tsis tau txiv yau li nej thiab.
Zaj neej neeg no mas khib siab tshaj plawv
Peb yeej muaj tej txoj kev cai phem2 li no. Kuv ntxub tej niag kev cai duam2 li no tshaj plaws li os. Tseg kiag txoj kev zij poj niam, yuav niam yaus thiab niam tij tsis kwv ces peb yuav zoo lawm ntau lau!
Hais yog kawg lawm Tab sis li cas los peb cov poj niam Hmoob yeej yog cov raug txim thiab poob peev tas lub neej.
Peb poj niam Hmoob uas taug quab yuam raug zij lub neej mob siab tu siab los yeej tsis muaj neeg paub neeg pom twb tsis hais niam tij txos kwv.
Koj tu siab los koj tseem tau tu koj hlub hlub lawm ho koj tu niam tij twb tsis tau tu nws hlub tag ib sim neej nws ntxim hlub tshaj koj os thaub aw
Koj zaj neej neeg tus siab kawg tabsis txhua yam no yog tim hmoob kev cai tabsis txiv neej twb ua tau txhua yam muaj cai xaiv yuav los tsis yuav, yog tsis hlub niamtij kuj muab nrauj kiag nyias mus nrhiav tus nyias hlub thiaj tsis lwj siab koj li hais. tsis nrauj tabsis ho yuav niam yau tsis hlub niam loj koj txhaum qhov no. tab txawm yog koj yuav niam yaus los koj txawj ua txiv hlub 2 leeg ib yam ces yeej zoo xwb.
Nuag nyob li xwb txawm siv hais tias nyuaj kj siab peb cov poj niam hmoob ua raug yuam yuav tus txiv yus g nyiam thiab yus tsis hlub tseem raug yuam yuav thiab yus yeej nyuaj siab thiab tu siab tshaj plaws li thiab koj nyuam qhuav rau me2 xwb os peb cov poj niam ma raug ib sim neeej yuam ib tiam dhau ib tiam g paub tag li na tu siab tshaj plaws li
Ntxub hmoob tej nias kev cai quav dev no kawg os.
Yog lawm thov maum phauj tshawm kom g txhob muaj lawm
Hmoob nis hmoob aws ua ca nim yuav hais tau tu siab ua luaj naj lawv es
It's your own fault don't even blame your first wife. Why don't you just divorced her back then? I hate og's like this.
Zoo li kv twb hnov zaj no los lawm
Thov qhuas Niam ntsuab teev piav zaj no tau zoo kawg thiab muaj ceem heev
Hmoob lub neej niam tij txi kwv thiab mus zij luag tej ntxhais mas ntxim ntxub tiag2
Tau ib lub neej zoo li ko ces leej twg log yeej tu siab heev lawm og tij laug aw
OMG dude this happened in the old land like anybody had a choice? If you didn't go to Thailand you wouldn't have got a second wife, that was your old girl. She should have Married you years before. She only Married you only after making her mistake (ha ha). When you were still in Laos. So your not being fair to anyone one of them period, especially to all those kids. I hope your happy after venting.
Nrog neb zoo siab kawg Vim thaum kawg neb kuj sib tau lawm
Agree. Let the past be the past. That’s few of tradition we, our communities need to change.
Hmoob txoj kev cai qaub thaum ub na btxim ntxub tshaj yog muab ib tug niam tij los txis rau koj txiv ntshe koj txiv haj tuag nrog tij laug thiab aw
Tus me nus koj hais koj txoj kev tu siab yeej kawg lawm thiab tab si yog ua li cas thaum koj twb taus koj tus qub hluas nkauj los ua koj tus niam yaus lawm ua li cas koj ho tsi hlub ob leeg mag koj ua li koj ua ko mas koj tsua ua li koj lub nyiam xwb zoo koj tab si tsi tshua ncaj rau koj tu niam tij lawm koj yog ib tug txiv neej siab phem kawg nkaus li thiab txawm koj yuav tu los yog nej txoj koj tsuav xav txog koj tus kheej xwb ua li koj ne yog hais tias koj ho yog koj tus niam tij no koj ho puas tu siab thiab
😲😲😲😲
Wow....zaj no mas ua cas yuav haib2 tag2 li os yom...txhob tu siab os mog....viv koj twb tau koj tus lawm ne....
Koj xa tias koj tu saib tshaj. Muab hais los mas koj tus niam tij tseem tus tshaj koj. Koj tias yog tim nws es nws Tsi hais kom dim qhov yuav koj no. Koj twb yog niag haus tsev es Koj twb hais Tsi dim nes. Nws yog niag nej tias muab nyiaj Sawm lawm ces nej yuav hais li cas los tau. Nws ham yam Tsi muaj haus kev. Koj tias Koj nim tu tu saib tiam si Koj twb tau tu Koj hlub lawm nes Ua niam yau. Nws nes Nws hos tau dabtsi no. Koj tsuas xa txog koj tu kheej xwb. Koj YEEJ Tsis zoo kiag! I don’t feel sorry for u!
Yog lawm os ua ca cov lau lawv yuav pom lawv tu kheej x g pom txog tej me tub me yuam
Txiv neej ruam
It goes both ways cause she don't eve want to marry you too. She was also forced too. So don't be to mad at her and show her some kindness. This Hmong culture religious belief needs to stop. Even when you get your own lover half the time it doesn't even work out too. GOOD LUCK
Koj ce hmoov zoo kawg ma qhov kj tau kj niam tij los ua poj njam ntsua nros kj ntshaw2 kj niam tij lub nj a
Tus kwv tij, vim yog koj muab quaj dhau lawm ces lawv thiaj txis rau koj tiag. Yeeb vim yog laus lawm ces thiaj tsis xav yuav. Tus txiv twb laus2 lawm nws yeej yuav tuag. Txoj kev zoo li no thiaj tsis muaj kev vam meej. Txoj kev tsis sib hlub ces thiaj tsis hlub sib haum. Cov laus txoj cai qias2. Txoj kev tsis vam meej rau txoj kev tsaus ntuj.
Brother!!!!!!! Don’t just think about you only!!!! Because she doesn’t have a choice either. Koj yog ib tug txiv neej yawg koj twb coj tsis ncaj li!!!!! Yog tias koj ua ib leej txiv es coj ncaj ces koj tsis tas yuav hais kom koj cov me nyuam hlub koj. Lawv yeej hlub koj lawm os!!!!!
Zaj no kuj haib kawg thiab
Txoj cai tsis yog rau peb lawm, tab yuav tsis yuav los koj twb lees tau lub neej lawm yuav tsum hlub luag thiab, ua li Koj ua tsis yog lawm
Koj kuj xav qhov uas txiv neej muaj ob peb tus niam es tseem ho mus yuav cov me ntxhais mos2 los yuav es tseem tsis hlub thiab mas es tsis txhob ho cem2 koj tus niam loj thiab os vim koj niam koj txiv yuam xwb hos txiv neej laus xav tau ntxhais mosmas yog txiv neej tus kheej yuam yuav kiag lub txim no ntshe yuav tau ntiav muam phauj tsawg thiab os yom
Cas koj tsis hais tias txiv cia koj yuav no, yog koj txiv xav tuav niam tij cia thiab hlub cov xeeb ntxwv.
koj hais tias koj raug yuam los nws twb raug yuam thiab. koj hais tias koj raug tsim los nws twb rau koj tsim thiab. koj tsis hlub nws koj muaj cai yuav dua ib tug. yog tus koj hlub. tab sis nws yuav tsis tau ib tug. koj tseem tsis hlub thiab nws lub neej tseem tu siab tshaj koj. koj tias koj tu siab. Koj pu xav tias nws tu siab thiab.
Koj luj2 siab koj twb yuav taus tus neeg koj hlub lawm ces cias koj Niam tij/niam loj yuav ib tug txiv yaus thiab mas. Tim koj niam koj txiv es koj chim rau lawv zoo duas chim rau koj niamtij.
Cov uas niam tij txis kwv es sib sib hlub ho yuav tsis kam muam phauj tsawm os... txawm tias cov no muaj tsawg tus
Ib tug txiv coj li koj kuv tsis quav tsej. Yog kuv yog cov me nyuam kuv tsis pam koj. Koj yeej tsis hlub nws koj yog neeg phem. Koj xav kom zoo zoo, yog koj hlub nws txawm koj yuav niam yau los nws yeej tsis tu siab. Tabsis mloog ces koj yeej lim hiam txaus.
Koj yeej yog neeg lim hiam, koj twb paub hais tias koj tuaj tsis tau tsis lhub luag hos yuav tuav luag los qha qhuav ua dab tsis ua cas tsis nti kom dim koj twb yog ib leej tub cag koj twb muaj cai. Mhoob txoj cai yeej phem tiam sis zam txim tsis tau rau koj.
I think he fails to u understand that she is also miserable and doesnt wanna be with him but she has no choice. Yes, maybe she could have fought harder and said no to the marriage, but if she walks out of the family with her kids, her kids will suffer. At least if she stays then the grandparents and that younger brother they will still love her kids, even if he doesn't love her. I hear too many stories about back in the days where the step dad/mom and step-grandparents are so mean to the new mom's kids.
Pab koj tus niam tij tu siab tshaj koj 10000000000000 Npaug lawm thiab os niag ntsej muag txiv neej siab Dub
Chim koj niag qhov huam os cas siab dub siab phem dab tuag tshaj li
Sib ua ua dab tsi naw cas tseem muaj cov me Nyuam tom qab no thiab
Liam tshaj tsiaj lawm thiab os
Cas tseem kab hais rau me nyuam thiab niam loj thiab os
Mob koj niag qhov quav xwb os cas ntxim ntxub ua luaj
chim siab tu siab lwj siab ua luaj li os😢
Cov laus yav thaum ub txoj Kev cai niam tij txis kwv no thov muab tso pov tseg thiab os hmoob
Peb yeej tau taub koj tiamsis qhov koj txhaum yog qhov koj liam yog niam tim niam loj.
Lub sijhawm ntawv pojniam tsis muaj cai li, koj tus Niam loj thiaj tau yuav koj. Koj yog ib tug txivneej. Tiamsis tsis yog txivneej yawg kho es koj thiaj tsis nti kom dim koj niam thiab txiv.
Koj tus niam loj lwj siab tsaj vim nws tsis muaj cai mus yuav ib tug txiv yau.
Ho koj tu tu siab tiamsis koj twb rov tau tus koj hlub hlub es koj tseem tsi koj tus niam loj siab ntsws ntxiv thiab.
Nej cov txivneej siab phem tsuas Pov nej sab xwb.
You are 100% right brother!
Cov phooj ywg ..luv mas ntxub cov niam txiv ua yus twb dhuav li dhuav li txawm khoo yus tas li xwb.
Tus txiv tsev aw....ntshe koj thov muam Phauj tsawm seb puas daws tau koj txoj kev npam xwb os tsis li ces twb tsis yog nws txhom koj yuav ne!!! twb yog koj txiv tsis kam nws mus yuav txiv rau sab nrauv es muab yuam yuav koj thiab xwb os!!! Yog hmoob txoj cai ncaj ncees rau poj Niam yuav txiv Yau ces nws yeej mus yuav ib tug txiv yau los Puag rau koj mob siab tib yam li Koj ua rau nws thiab os.
Poor guy . Deeply sorry to hear your story and I truly feel your pain . Thanks for sharing .
Yog lawm, yog yuav Thov muam phauj tsawm mas yus yuav tau thov yus li ko thiaj tsis txhaum neej. Tsis yog tsawm qhov hlub tsis taus luag tus ntxhais tsawm qhov kom txhob muaj kwv Txis niam tij lawm. Hmoob lub neej nim no nyob mekas no twb tsis muaj kwv Txis niam tij lawm mas, txawm koj tus muam tsis kam tuaj tsawm los tsis ua li cas yog nws ho tuaj tsawm ntxiv mas kuj haj yam zoo.
twb mus lees koj niam tij es koj ho tsi hlub tsi ncaj ncees rau koj tus niam tij li koj yeej yog neeg zoo li cas laj mloog ua luaj koj zaj no nas
Cov laus tsawg ces muaj kiag rau koj txiv yuav kiag xwb! A bitter life.
Tus txiv tsev no nws yeej tsi pom hais tias twb yog tim nws thiab, nwg tseem muaj plhus qhia txog nws qhov kev phem thiab. Koj twb yog koj txiv tug tub es koj twb tawv tsi dhau koj txiv es koj yuav kom koj tus niam tij tawv kom dhau. Mloog xwb yeej yog tim koj tsi hlub nws.
Txiv neej yeej siab phem tshaj cas nus tsis sav youv ho tsis tawv kom dau nus txiv, yog tawv tsis dau ces nus kuj tuag mus thiab
I agree with you brother! Peb Hmong tsis txob muab niam tij txis kwv lawm.
Tus txiv neej ko ces yog tias nws yog tus neeg zoo CES nws yeej g muaj coj lo hais li os
Sorry to hear uncle. My parent are niam tij txis kwv too. I never hate my Dad for not loving my Mom with all his heart. I told my Dad once that if he ever married a second wife, I understand. It’s true, some ppl aren’t in your shoes and they will never understand your feelings. I feel sorry for my parent, they both didn’t have a choice then, but was forced to married each other. My parent had been married for over 42 years and still going on strong. 🙏💕
Txhob coj tuaj qhia peb .peb tsis xav hnov .
Kuv nrog koj tu siab kawg tu mi nus, sad story brother 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Everyone is Mad at this man but it’s not all his fault . Before you say it’s all his fault, don’t forget he was forced and threatened by his father at 16 years old. He refused but they wouldn’t let him refuse. What do you expect a 16 year old to do in a situation like this at that time?! With no way out he unwilling do what they want but he did warn that if they make him he will marry her but won’t ever love her. She knew this and still agree. She was older and should know better so she should have refused but she didn’t and agreed to marry him knowing he said he won’t love her. You cannot force yourself to love someone when you don’t.
Back in those days kids still respect their elders. He is just as much of a victim as she is. Have a heart and try to understand the bigger picture. People are So quick and easy to judge others. Walk a mile in his shoes before you judge him.
Tus txiv tsev ib qho zoo uas koj muab qhia rau sawv daws, es sawv daws yuav tau pauv, tsis txhob ua tej yam ruam2 li cov laus lawm
tus txiv tsev aw yog yus twb paub tia yus g hlub cov me nyuam nian lawm cev me nyuam g hlub yus los txhob ntsha siab o
She has no fault. If you love her then don’t accept your Dad’s demands. Your wife or Niam Tij has no choice. It is your responsibility to take care of her. Why don’t you let her go, if your isn’t with her. Everything is your fault.
Now you already has the person you want, then start love both of them. Don’t play favoritism and stop complaining.
Choonvg Hant she has fault just as much as him maybe even more. If she has no choice then he has no choice either. She was older so she should have refused but she didn’t refused. Not his fault she didn’t refused. He already warned them that if they force him to marry her he will do as they wish but will not going love her and she still agreed to choose him of the three brothers knowing that. Why blame him only? He was just 16 years old, she wasn’t.
Tus txiv ntawm qhov koj hai tias koj tus poj niam ua yog koj tus niam tij ntawv ma nw txhw2 nw cov me nyuam es nws cov me nyuav tsi hlub koj no. Kuv xav ma tsi yog li koj hais.peb ua tib neeg nyob muaj 10xyoo xwb peb yeej paub tias tus hlub thiab tus tsi hlub lawm. Twb yog li ntawv thiaj muaj neej neeg ntau2 hai nev
Niag ntsej muag koj tu siab ces tu rau koj cov niam cov Txiv xwb lawv puas xav yuav koj thiab na vim luag yuav mus los nej cov niag kwv tij pheej yuav theeb luag tej me nyuam ne thiab yuav koj tiag kuv xav tias yog nej muab txhua mesic koj niam tij mas koj yeej g tau nws tiag
Cia siab tias tag phauj laus no peb hmoob mekas los kuj yuav tseg txoj kev yuam neeg no lawm.. feem ntau nim no yeej tsis pom muaj tim mekas lawm tabsis tim nplog mas tseem muaj coob nawb!!
Yeej yog tim koj thiab koj tsis kam yuav ce koj txiv yuam khoos los koj xum tuag ua kom lawv txhob khoo tau ,niam tij los ib yam thiab vim koj txiv lawv khoos kiag li thiab yog yuav mus ua neej tom ntej es me tub me nyuam nyiaj kub nyuj twm vaj tsev los lawv tsis pub ce kawg yuav xwb thiab mas ntis tsis dlim lis koj thiab xwb os
Koj twb muaj2 hmoo rov tau koj tus Qub hluas Nkauj los ua koj niam tau lawm ces nrog koj zoo siab thiab mog
Cas koj txiv ntshaw2 ces kom koj txiv yuav xwb mas
What a sad way to ruin a lot of different lives
Yog lawm hu maum phauj tsawm kiag yog leej twg tseemua kom nws tuag mus 9 tiam
I hate how these traditions are passed down and enforced back in the past. So many lives are ruined and destroyed for a life time.
Pang Thao that’s so true, because in 2010 I almost hit that phase too, what I meant is that my SIL was mad because I didn’t allow my husband to take care of her after her husband died. Omg 😆 she fuckin hated me but I didn’t care. I’m like there’s plenty of widow men’s and divorced men out there, wtf would I allowed my husband to take care of you and besides she has grown kids that are in their fuckin thirty’s to take care of her and she has all of her husband million $$$$ money so go she get the other fishes in the sea. It’s been almost ten years since her husband passed and She still hates me til this day but I don’t give a fuck 😂😂 I have my own family so forget her seriously, my husband side of the family don’t like it but I don’t care, too bad I don’t share my husband with nobody ever.
Kuv pav koj koj pab kuv nplooj suab xyooj thiab nawb
I AGREE WITH YOU BROTHER!
NWS TAU KOJ MOS MOS ES UA LI CAS NWS TSI HLUB KOJ NO...VIM YOG KOJ SIAB ZOO DHAU LAWM ES LAWV SAIB KOJ TSI MUAJ NUJ NQE XWB MOG...
Txhawj yog li los kj yuav tau hlub Kj tus niam Loj thiab txhob xav tias yuav hlub niam yau xwb hlub 2 leeg kj thiaj li yog tus zoo hos niam loj los txhob mus cem 2 kj rau lwm tus xav tias nws tus twb tuag lawm ,niam loj los yeej lwj siab qhov kj tsim nws hos kj los yeej lwj siab qhov kj yog kwv txais niam Tij neb 2 leeg zoo ib yam yog li kj los yuav tau hlub nws ,nws los yuav tau hlub Kj thiab
Yog koj yuav koj niag niam yau thaum koj hluas hluas ces ntshe koj twb yog niag tuag ntawv lawm ntag os thaub
Yileng Yang koj hais yog lawm ha ha
Hmoob txoj cais no mas tsim nyog hloov lawm, txhob muab lwm tus quav yuam rau txoj kev luag tsis txau siab.....
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Aub ntawd yog aub tsiaj xwb ces lawv ntse 2, tsuas yog lawv tsis txawj hais lus xwb, thaum aub los tom tsev ces twb yog aub los qhia xwm txheej rau nej xwb moj, aub tsis tom, tiamsis aub tsem xwb, mam yuav ua niam yau xwb moj, koj yog txiv koj yuav tsum coj ncaj xwb, Xyov cas HMOOB RUAM CES PHEEJ MUAJ QHOV NIAG NIAM TIJ TXIS KWV Tos mi nyuam ua li lawv niam qhia los vim lawv twb tsis tau rau koj nkawm khau, lawv thiaj tsis paub
It’s a hard situation both ways
I get he's hurt, in pain, and upset by what happened. I hope Hmong men understand how Hmong women have been treated and continued to be treated. Men still have options in our culture. Look dude, you have a second wife now. Our Hmong women have been brideknapped and forced marriages for centuries against their will and with NO options. Some women are married without their consent, against their will as young as age 13 and 14 to men two to three times their age into a polygamy lifestyle. Think of this!
Thaub koj yog tus phem xwb tsi yog koj poj niam yog tus phem os koj yog niag neeg phem peb tsom kwm saib mas koj yeej yog tus phem koj poj niam yeej zoo lawm teeb meem yog koj tsis xwb koj txhob hais lo lus hais tias tu siab tshaj koj os lis lys no ces txhob muab haus tawm txaj muag heev li os.
Im so thankful that this and the bridenapping are no longer practice at least here in the states. Its such a sad life however as a Hmong man you still have the right to marry another wife that you like. Unlike the kidnapped brides who have no choice...😢💔
Ntuj aw niag thaub laus aw koj twb tau koj niag qub hluas nkauj maum dev co tu lawm es koj tseem muaj plus tuaj piav koj lub qe luj thiab os tsis txaj muag li los. Koj tus niam tij twb tsis nrhiav dua dua txiv dev li koj es tsis paub tsaj muag li los tsej muag thaub laus
Tu siab rau kuv qhov koj lub pim tsw22 kuv g xav yaim xwb
Thaub koj phem .... Tim koj xwb
I agree with this guy... the OG ways are so unfair and they like to force marriage. Thank god its 2020 and we dont have to go through that.
Nus twb tsis sav youv koj thiab vim koj niam thiab koj txiv na koj youv tsum tawv kom dau ma.
Koj siab phem tshaj li os, muab hais los ces koj yog tus phem tshaj es koj niag qub hluas nkauj twb yog pog laus rau lub sib hawm thaum koj yuav thiab nev.... Yawg dev aw...txhob tu2 siab nej nrog nej ntsawj2 niam tij lub zog noj as
Goodbye the old Hmong tradition! No more thing like this.
I dont like the ideals, but I think the man will be more disappointed then the woman. Think about it, she's like a used car for many years already and its not out of love, its out of forcing only that is why it's so different. We hmong women marrying a younger men, it will never work, but if you choose to stay married to this young man up until now and you dont leaves him but complaints after complaints to your children especially to the relative and community. Your are the idiot's because you cant leaves him. Please ladies, dont used our children as a weapon and blame them for you not able to leaves someone who you say he doesn't love you.
Things need to change for sure. We need to stop 🛑 some of the old traditions especially this one.
Tus txiv tsev no los kuv yeej tsis qhuas koj li os. Koj twb yuav niam yau lawm es koj tseem complaining ua luaj li thiab.
Tus twg los tu siab li os thov txhob sib yuam lawm peb cov me hmoob niam hmoob txiv ruam awd. Peb cov niam cov txiv mas tau u txhaum ntau heev lawm ov.
Tu siab txog hnub tuag thiab mob siab hos
Txhua txhua tus txiv neej ces niam yau yeej ua qab Dua es tsawg tus txiv neej Los thiaj li hais txog niam yau xwb mas thiab pom xeeb yog niam yau diam es nws thiaj li ua qab Dua mas thaub aw
Koj yog tus yuav nyab rau tab sis nws niam yog tus them,yus tsis hlub luag niam ces luag ho tsis hlub yus pes tsawg los kuj txhob tu siab thiab
Txheej nim no ces twb tsis txis niam tij thiab kwv lawm. Cov hluas nim no ntse2 yeej txis tsis tau lawv
Tab sis koj niam tij yeej tsis yeem kiag thiab nws xaiv koj vim nws tsis muaj kev xaiv lawm nej txhob muab liam rau koj tus niam tij nawb koj tsis xav yuav kuj muab nrauj kiag mus xwb mas cas nim yuav hais ua luaj mas
Nstej muaj laus you are the empithany of a Hmong men. Men like you lam yug muaj ib niag qlob xwb.. tsis muaj peem xwm ncab koj yeem koj txiv but now putting the blame on your niam tib.. you have no right to blame her. Your older kids don't respect you because you don't even love their mother... Koj NES, you married your old girlfriend.. es nws NES?? NES twg tsis Tau lwm tus. Cas tseem yuav muaj cais Los hais in tag nxtim ntxub tshaj nplaws!
Tus me txiv tsev yeej tos taub txoj kev mob tab sis tos poj niam ntis tsis tau los yog vim hlub hlub cov me nyuam yog tsis yuav koj ces hnub twg nws mus yuav lwm tus cov me nyuam yuav poob ua ntsuag tas nrho that why nws thiaj xum yuav koj vim cov me nyuam xwb koj mob npaum Kos Tab sis koj muaj cai yuav lwm tus los hlub rau luag ntsia ho luag yeej mob mob luag los poj niam nim Yuav tsis tau ib tug los hlub rau koj ntsia koj yuav tsum txhob chim chim poj niam yeej tu tu siab heev yog chim npaum Kos lawm ces Nrauj kiag nws mus thaum koj niam koj txiv tug tag ntawv xwb mas hnub no koj twb tau tus koj hlub lawm pab koj zoo siab o
I feel bad for you. I don’t blame you for feeling the way you do. Hopefully Hmong people will get rid of that tradition.