*If anyone ever comes to your hotel door unexpectedly and says security or hotel staff. Immediately call the front desk and ask if person was sent to room. Do not ever just open the door. * These days too many scary things occur to men and women both. It is best to be safe than sorry.
@@lifeascassandra5758 I am being realistic and truthful. People cannot go around pretending the world is a safe place. Everyone needs to be aware of dangers and their surroundings... if people choose not to travel that is on them not me.....🙄
@@christinem.alwaysbelieve I know you were and I wasn’t trying to say what you said was wrong I was just thinking about how others might read it and think. I know that there are people that are really paranoid about everything. I wasn’t trying to be rude, mean or hateful and call you out like you were doing something wrong I’m sorry if made you feel any type of way about me and what I said.
Hey Colleen!! I just saw a tik tok today of a lady who’s a boundary coach and one of her favorite boundary phrases is “hm, what an odd thing to say out loud.” It can be used for a lot of different situations and I think it could help when someone says something that makes you uncomfortable. I know I’m definitely going to use this so I wanted to share for you and anyone else reading this. Stay safe, sending love to you and your family
Yesss I was thinking the same thing ! But then I noticed it was heavily edited and wasnt sure if she made it funnier by cutting a bunch of parts out. It was definitely funny and adorable the way it was in the video tho.
Advice for responding to weird dudes: Something you could try is maybe asking them what they mean when they say something like "that neckalafe hangs in the right place". Then they're forced to be accountable to the thing they said. You also then have the chance to be like, "That is weird to say." Or it maybe provides them the opportunity to explain what they meant. Sometimes different generations don't realize how creepy they sound lol.
My favorite thing is to say “what an interesting thing to say out loud”. I say the same when someone says something racist to me thinking I’m a safe space for that BS.
I’ve had situations like that before also with men saying inappropriate things and they need to be called out for it. They do it because they know they can get away with it and they get some weird kick out of making a woman uncomfortable. I used to have Colleen’s reaction, but there came a point where I was like, why the F am I being made to feel bad. I called guys out very loudly so other people could hear and they would then get so uncomfortable not expecting me to say something. We ladies need to stick up for ourselves and call out the creeps.
see I totally thing it can work with certain “men” but some get super aggressive as well if you make them feel uncomfortable or try to make them take the accountable of what they are doing , I’ve seen so many videos of this in the US ):
i just replied with something similar! i just saw a tiktok today with the saying “huh, what an odd thing to say out loud” and thought it would work well in that situation.
ADVICE! f someone says something to purposefully make you uncomfortable, look them right in between their eyes, and ask them what they said. If they respond, be quiet for 5+ seconds while looking between their eyes. They will feel uncomfortable and start to question themselves. You could also just ignore it and walk away, because what they want is your attention. hope this helped! ❤
I asked 3 times what the guy said to me (when something happened to me) and he still sat there in his car waiting for an answer. Unfortunately that didn’t work for me but I hope it does for others.
I have heard of something like this before. Basically act like you don't understand what they mean and then when they try to explain it, they often realize how creepy and shitty they are being. So like in Colleen's case of "It really hangs in the right place, huh" just be like "what do you mean, I dont understand" and supposedly most people won't want to explain "oh, I meant I was looking at your boobs" so they will just leave it alone.
In my experience, a lot of men (older men especially) know full well that they’re being inappropriate and are making me feel uncomfortable, so doing this will not make them question themselves. I’m a bartender so I get a lot of crap from men and I always respond to them but they hardly ever change.
I hurts my heart that men make you (us) feel that way. That’s why when people say “raise your daughters to not dress like that” (or whatever their statement is), I love when people respond “raise your sons to treat women respectfully” (or however they say it given the situation). It’s scary and never downplay it please. Don’t discount your feelings
@@karl-heinzbrohme5890 how do we know that is the “conclusion”? Maybe that’s something being worked on. Either way, your body has its fight or flight. Sometimes we need that fear instead of speaking up. It keeps us alert of what’s happening around us. Idk if passing it on to your daughter like you said was a jab at Colleen. If it was, it’s not appropriate. We don’t know what she’s working on.
@@karl-heinzbrohme5890 Because sometimes standing your ground and giving a direct response to a random man who's been inappropriate can lead to violence. You have to pick your battles. Is this not common sense?
@@karl-heinzbrohme5890 it’s not bs. Everyone is not you and standing up to a man isn’t always the best option. Maybe leave this be. You’re coming off not only as a hater, but nonsensical.
Hi Colleen! I’m so sorry that happened to you at the Pumpkin patch, it is absolutely not okay Regarding the hotel incident, just be careful in the future answering the door to “staff” or “security”. I saw one story where a girl was told by “staff” that her car was having problems, but she didn’t have a car with her at the hotel. Turns out a lot of people try to kidnap and traffic women that way. So just be careful!❤️
I'd add that I'd never answer a door someone was banging on - or open it to anyone when alone - unless I could smell smoke or could hear other rooms being summoned as well. Instead, call the desk and report it. In this case, that would have solved the problem without having to argue with a man who obviously shouldn't have been given any authority! I traveled a great deal alone for my job, and know how uncomfortable men can make a woman feel, with good reason.
Please please don’t answer a door when you’re alone. Plus, Phoenix has a very serious trafficking problem and I wouldn’t want anyone staying here to visit get hurt. I remember 15 yrs ago a man dressed as a police officer came to our hotel room when my dad left the room and it was just us girls. He tried to convince us to let him into the room but my cousin yelled at him and closed the door on him. He wasn’t a police officer after all.
So sorry you experienced this Colleen. A really powerful question can be "What do you mean by that?" It gives you time to collect yourself and forces the other person to explain themselves. I'm a big believer in asking questions. It can help you work through impulsivity and overwhelming feelings in all kinds of conversations.
Hey colleen! I struggle with shutting people down too, it helps to practice some phrases! my favs are “what a weird thing to say” or “I’m surprised you feel comfortable saying that out loud”
you never have to downplay your experiences colleen !! you sometimes say "this isn't a big deal..." but it really is. this stuff is so scary and weird. you deserve to be treated like a person. love u colleen
Watching videos like these make me proves how much Colleen and Erik were meant to be parents. I love watching the simplest moments with their family ♥️
This stuff with gross men happens to me as well all the time. It’s so upsetting and uncomfortable in the moment and then afterwards I get so mad because I’m never able to stand up for myself because I’m to scared in the moment. It’s so annoying to be invalidated by other women as well just because they haven’t been through it yet. Love you and glad you’re safe ❤
@@fishwithgreenfin same I’m always like next time it happens I’mma punch a man I stg then when it’s actually happening I’m just shaking and trying to get out of the situation.
I'm sorry that guy said that to you , it's truly vile. I know its common but it shouldn't happen at all and what sucks even more is that it's often too scary to speak up for yourself or other women for fear of the men getting violent. Like you said, it's so easy to have a normal conversation but most men don't have two braincells to rub together in order to actually do that.
Omg....the twins are so precious it's killing me! Maisy practically singing the cloth book was so adorable. Wesley giggles to the point of practically choking himself when he is zooming down on Flynn's back! And Flynn's stand-up routine was hilarious! His timing and expressions were like a seasoned pro! I love watching your precious kids, Colleen! Thank you for sharing them with us!💚💙💜
The vlogs just keep getting better and better! Flynn’s stand up comedy was hilarious! He’s definitely got so much talent! Maisy reading and those ballerina slippers were adorable! Just love your little family Colleen ❤
Love, love, love Maisy reading her book, Wesley in the pumpkin patch and Flynn with stand up comic, just priceless. So love seeing them, you and Erik are such great parents ❤️❤️
The thing I love so much is that when the kids are grown, the thing they will remember most about childhood is laughing and using their imaginations. What a gift!
hearing you talk about your experiences with creepy men makes me very sad but also very validated and less alone because it happens to us more than it should and more than people probably realize. what you said was so true, i wish men could just have normal conversations with us and not make it sexual and uncomfortable
I’m so sorry this happened to you Colleen! I know how you feel. I have a big boobs and the amount of times I’ve caught men just staring at them is ridiculous. It makes me so uncomfortable. My Mum caught a man staring at my chest and almost slapped him down 😂 I Hope you’re ok. Your feelings and concerns are very valid! ❤️❤️
It's so weird how 3 kids can look so alike but have such distinctly different personalities. Flynn, Wesley and Maisy are just awesome little people 🧡🎃🧡
Girl!! If someone is telling you what happened when they weren’t there and you know and remember it perfectly, it’s no harm to say ‘you’re wrong, you weren’t there you wouldn’t know’ in that situation you can still be compliant like ‘I know for a fact I gave them my card as I was there, but sure, I can go down in the morning and be sure to give it to them again THX’ moments like that aren’t so annoying after the fact when you don’t allow yourself to be put against the wall
“This is probably too long”’No! Colleen, you could literally do nothing and I would watch! It’s like hanging out with a friend you get to see every day! It’s my favorite part of my day
it absolutely sounds like that "security guard" was a scam artist, either trying to get your card info or kidnap you for human trafficking. i'm glad you made it home safe!
I feel with you so much on the topic at 17:47 . I have severe anxiety being out ANYWHERE alone because there has never been failure in SOMETHING happening along the lines of sexual harassment and it completely ruins my day each time it happens. I try my best to limit my time in public.
Hi Colleen, I know this is totally unrelated but I just wanted to say thank you for being so open about mental health and your life experiences. You’ve definitely helped me in the past few years feel less alone and there’s been lots of times where I felt like you validated how I felt. I’ve struggled with many things and your videos provide me comfort in dark times. Anyways I don’t know if you’ll see this but thank you!
You ask why (some) men do this… it’s because they don’t see us as equals. It’s hard to accept but it’s sadly true. We are viewed as objects that can be commented on and made to feel small when our “protectors” aren’t around, a way to “keep us in check.” This is why it’s so important to teach our boys young about the disgusting and dangerous nature of misogyny and to speak out against it when we feel safe doing so. Enough is enough!
Unfortunately I can relate to this video way more than I wish was the case. I have had the exact necklace scenario play out for me except it was at work during my second week at a new job by someone in a higher position than me and with a lot of tenure. It was incredibly awkward and the best I could do while still trying to be professional was immediately change topic and say "unless there is something I can help you with, I need to get back to work". It put me in a horrible position since I was brand new and didn't feel comfortable reporting it to HR. When I did tell a few people in the office that I was comfortable with, the general response was "he is always like that and gets away with saying inappropriate things because it's gone on for so long; the best you can do is ignore it." It's really sad that so many women have to feel this way and especially in places you are supposed to feel safe like work or a pumpkin patch.
I’m so sorry. You deserve better. I hope you can fight the higher ups to help not only yourself, but any other women on your team. That is most definitely not okay.
Colleen, I completely understand what you mean about some men. I've been in similar situations far too many times. All I can suggest is telling them straight up how inappropriate they are being and make it VERY clear you're disgusted. Worst case, he'll retract and call you a nasty name but that's easier to handle than sexual innuendo's. I'm so happy you have Eric. Love you.
Oh wow! How cute are they! So so so adorable! You guys are the BEST parents ever! So cute, I love how you guys give you kids options even so little. They are all so adorable. Good job mom and dad.
Does anybody else find the fact that Wesley directly looks at the camera multiple times to blow raspberries at 7:53 just amazing? In my mind, he is understanding that the camera is something that is watching him. The fact that he is aware of this and it's not just like another object that sits in the room that does not visualize him is so interesting. Unless there is a screen and he is looking at himself 🤣 Also Maisey was so expressive reading that book! She was like, omg guys you can't believe what I'm reading right now!
@@pfftxoxo1502 I dunno, doesn’t bring the babies anything they want like food or cuddles or whatever. It’s probably the fact that she tries to not let them put it all in their mouth for very long, so they probably associate it with something they want but never fully get. My brother is a photographer who was taking photos of his baby daily when first born up until toddler and my nephew was always trying to get his camera and equipment just coz it got taken away pretty quickly 😅 But then again I dunno.
It’s very possible he can see himself either in the reflection in the lense (which to him would just look like a moving object) or I do recall her saying she keeps the view finder facing her way all the time so he’s probably interacting with the tiny baby on the screen haha 😂
15:30 Omg! Colleen this is literally me. If someone is going to look me in the face and tell me the opposite of what I am saying happened when they weren’t even there or have any proof or won’t explain their way of thinking/add something to the argument is so frustrating and makes me so mad!
i love the way that you put your theory about interactions with men- i also avoid them truly, but when i say that the men in my life who i love it can make them uncomfortable. but i totally empathize with you and thank you for sharing!!! you said it with such grace and eloquence
Maisy reading wins the internet, I love that video you posted to Instgram of her reading it was seriously the cutest video I have ever watched her facial expressions were everything, and Wesley's laugh in this vlog and always is so cute to hear, and Flynn is such a funny little guy, he is always making me laugh
You should look into a consultation with a stylist and they can tell you what works and what doesn’t or if you can afford it you should get styled by a stylist!!
I am so sorry that you had to experience another uncomfortable encounter with a man like that. Totally inappropriate. I usually get inappropriate exchange from men online that pose as mutual friends on Facebook and Instagram, when they actually don’t even know my friends at all. Handling uncomfortable situations online in my experience are easy to just hit “block”. In-person exchanges can be so much more uncomfortable and scary, people’s intentions or next actions are unpredictable. Always supporting you!
It is very appropriate to tell someone they are being rude. When people are miscommunications, that’s one thing. But when people are jerks, tell them they’re jerks. No woman needs to feel that way.
Oh my goodness I relate to being uncomfortable around basically all men. I know there are great men out there- my husband included! It’s not good in my field of employment and makes me feel very intimidated. I’m so hard on myself for that. I have always wished it wasn’t the case for me. Dang it. I will say though, it’s nice to know I’m not the only one.
Definitely not alone. I automatically get anxious and uncomfortable around men. I love to go for walks but I always wait for when my husband can go with me. I feel like an open target going alone. Its a type of anxiety that I can’t explain. Its so sad sometimes to think women just can’t go about their day without having to worry or feel uncomfortable. I’m like Colleen where I feel no anxiety or stress when I’m with my husband or even my brothers, it’s the alone part where I’m on high alert and fully aware of my surroundings. 😢
Dying over Flynn’s comedy paired with the laugh track 😂 also - LOVE the purple top. Pair with black skirt or shorts and a black boot/shoe. The purple gives just the right pop of color!
As always, Colleen, you, Kory, Erik, and the kiddos made me smile today! Thank you for taking your supporters along with you in your journey, looking forward to all the next videos, Haters Back Off, keep up the amazing work!
Maisy reading...there are no words! Adorable! The kids faces in the pumpkins...so precious! Your pumpkin patch outfit was so cute! Are y'all enjoying being back in the house?
Hi Colleen! Your story about men making you uncomfortable is so relatable. It’s amazing how once you as a woman are alone they feel free to comment, act, disrespect you and make you uncomfortable. It’s like the only way they can respect you is if you are with another men, because now you are “some men’s property”. As a lesbian it’s unbelievable how they don’t give a fuck if you are with your gf, they would still hit on you or her, or both, even if you explicitly say you are a couple. Patriarchy needs to be unalive.
Colleen you shouldn’t open a door in a hotel when you don’t know who they are. Just because he had a security uniform on doesn’t mean anything. Just be careful.
So love when you and eric show your beautiful family, all the little and big moments. Always love the giggles and smiles and those gorgeous faces. Nobody should be rude or disrespectful to anyone!
When she was making the apples you can see how bad her hands/ arms were shaking. I really really hope you're taking better care of your body and see yourself how we see you! Some tips: protein shakes, bars, hard boiled eggs(anything easy, quick, and with protein). You will notice youll start to feel stronger and better mentally!
Colleen, if you're in a hotel alone, and some man bangs on your door, DO NOT ANSWER. Call front desk and tell them. There's so many horror stories such as trafficking and assaults.
you have one of the most beautiful souls in this world and you deserve all good things, it sucks to be put into uncomfortable situations but i’m glad you were able to get out of that situation safely and that you have a partner who loves and takes care of you. you deserve the most pure love and i’m so glad you have it with your husband, kids, and family 🥺 i’m thankful you exist and thank you for bringing awareness to many different topics💜
I’ve been harassed by men my entire adult life, starting in my teen years. I have noticed it slightly less since the “me too” movement came to light, but it still happens. Like you, I’m non-confrontational by nature so I have hundreds of moments that I wish I’d responded to differently. In just the past few years (I’m in my 40s) I’ve felt a shift within myself in a number of ways, and one is that I have gained the confidence to stand up for myself. Now, if a man comments on my appearance in any way, I make sure I don’t say thank you. I don’t want to give any man the impression that those comments are ok. I DO say something like, “Just so you know, that kind of comment makes me feel uncomfortable.” Now, it depends on the situation of course. Since you had to continue to interact with him to buy the veggies, I would wait to make the comment until you had paid and could walk away. Otherwise it could be quite uncomfortable for someone who doesn’t like to create conflict. Another quick comment I keep on the ready is one that I use if a man tells me to smile. I tell him “Oh! I didn’t realize you were in charge of me today!”
I love the advice from the other commenters on what to say in future interactions with men. I also want to give you a little courage. I too have had these experiences with men and I’m a survivor of the same very traumatic experiences I believe you’ve eluded to. I have two young daughters and I’ve started to say something when men make me uncomfortable in these situations because my daughters are watching. I want them to know that these interactions are not okay and I want to teach them to say something (when it is safe, because we all know sometimes it’s not). Your children are watching and they will see you model this and learn. You are brave and strong. ❤
And they are healthy and thriving and growing… I was so scared when you announced that you were pregnant with twins. Every bad thing ran through my head and I’m so thrilled that they are so healthy and happy and doing so many awesome things!!! Xoxo love you guys!!!
The absolute ANGER that projects from my body when someone tries to tell me something that I KNOW is fact but boldly tells me is not is inhuman - I like get hot and shake I get so mad so I know exactly how you feel there
Flynn is SO funny, seems like performing might be something he would pursue in the future! Really amazing seeing all of their personalities evolve and watching them grow... They are growing so fast
I feel you when it comes to the guys making you uncomfortable.... about a month ago it happened several times and I broke down because it's disgusting.
Sidenote it is a very pretty necklace, I love that it represents Flynn and his love for bugs!🥰 Also I think black leather pants would look good with both tops!
Next time don’t answer the door. Call the front desk and ask is there is someone from security at your door and then tell them to wait while you have Kory come to your room.
10:04 has me so emotional😭💓 i looked at Erik's corner of the video right as he cradled Maisy & gave her the most loving smile:,) His face in that moment was pure joy & love for your little girl😭 Parenthood looks absolutely beautiful on the two of you, thank you for sharing so many joyful moment with us over this whole panoramic & quarantine! All of you Ballingers keep me company & warm my heart every week & have for the past couple years, love y'all a ton❤:,) I have to add that i have sensory issues & my purple "just girly things"✌ hoodie has been my go to since i got it when it first released:,) the inside is softer than anything else i own. It is truly so comforting! The purple creative juices tumbler is also my favorite iced coffee cup💜
Colleen, the best response you could give that jerk is to say sarcastically and just loud enough for the next customer to hear is "Really?, Do you talk to your wife, daughters, sisters or mother like that?"...and then just walk away. Be brave, you can do it.
I’m currently 26 weeks pregnant with boy/girl twins and your videos make me so excited for what’s to come with my little ones! Can’t wait to see what my babies likes and dislikes are.
Omg ahhh. When Wesley was crawling towards the camera, fell down, and then his little head popped up again, it literally cured all my sadness 🥺 You all are the cutest family ever!!!
oh Colleen you spoke right to my heart when you talked about being in general discomfort around men. I try my best to be kind and civil but they bother me like they're getting paid for it. the other day I was taking the bus home and this guy comes up to my seat and leans over me to ask me where I'm going. I obviously didn't want to say home so I said "the shop" he then proceeded to ask me if I was "sure"like four times. finally I said "I SAID IM GOOD". unfortunately, he then started asking me if my boyfriend was waiting for me or something. feeling very uncomfortable, I just went silent and refused to answer as he asked me over and over (yes ladies I know this is a dangerous situation but the aforementioned shop was directly in front of the bus stop and I was confident I could just run into it when I got off before he tried anything) when I got off he had the GAUL to say "I was just asking. we're good right" like sir?!?!! what the heck
I LOVE the magical cat idea so much. I strive to be as great as parents as y’all are ❤️❤️ Flynn’s stand up is so funny, I love seeing what he comes up with!
IT IS A BIG DEAL. NO ONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT OR MAKE YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE. I REPEAT, NO ONE DESERVES THAT. And the fact that women have just settled with this as a fact and consider it " no big deal" just saddens me to a point of anger and frustration. Because we don't deserve this, we deserve to be able to buy some vegetables without having to deal with weird comments and getting stared at by random men.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with horrible men. Thankfully I've never had to deal with that, BUT I have learned that if ANYONE says something to make me uncomfortable, angry, etc. I will just look them dead in the eyes and say nothing. It throws them off and they will reflect on what they just said because they're not getting the reaction they want, and it will make THEM feel uncomfortable.
Colleen watching the kids on the vlogs literally just makes me so happy . Also can’t still believe you have twins . Also where do I buy tickets for Flynn’s tour 😂
Hi Colleen, I am so sorry for what you had to go through at the pumpkin patch. I have been in that situation at work too many times. Some things that I have learned when in these situations are to have a somewhat long pause and create an awkward silence while giving a slight glare, or facial expressions that is both annoyed and unimpressed, then continuing with conversation as if he never made the comment. I know that is not what most people prefer, but it typically makes the guy see he's in the wrong without confronting him. This is something that I learned from my mom and as someone who also doesn't like confrontation, it has been helpful for me and has helped me feel less anxious about these situations. I hope it helps you too! Love all of your content! Keep being the light in the world that you are!
*If anyone ever comes to your hotel door unexpectedly and says security or hotel staff. Immediately call the front desk and ask if person was sent to room. Do not ever just open the door. * These days too many scary things occur to men and women both. It is best to be safe than sorry.
Yes THIS.
Thanks but fyi you are scaring people that really get freaked out about these kind of things and they might just not travel anywhere ever again.
@@lifeascassandra5758 I am being realistic and truthful. People cannot go around pretending the world is a safe place. Everyone needs to be aware of dangers and their surroundings... if people choose not to travel that is on them not me.....🙄
@@christinem.alwaysbelieve I know you were and I wasn’t trying to say what you said was wrong I was just thinking about how others might read it and think. I know that there are people that are really paranoid about everything. I wasn’t trying to be rude, mean or hateful and call you out like you were doing something wrong I’m sorry if made you feel any type of way about me and what I said.
Hey Colleen!! I just saw a tik tok today of a lady who’s a boundary coach and one of her favorite boundary phrases is “hm, what an odd thing to say out loud.” It can be used for a lot of different situations and I think it could help when someone says something that makes you uncomfortable. I know I’m definitely going to use this so I wanted to share for you and anyone else reading this.
Stay safe, sending love to you and your family
I love this. ❤️
i LOVE this and will definitely be using this
I love that. ❤️
Love this! And I too will be using this in the future. I almost can't wait to get the opportunity to. Lol
I saw that tik tok too!!! I was thinking the exact same thing
Flynn is actually so good at stand up! His timing and expressions are perfect !
Haaaaa that's actually so true. 🤣🤣👌💯♥️
That’s what I was thinking
his expressions are my FAVORITE! 😂
Yesss I was thinking the same thing ! But then I noticed it was heavily edited and wasnt sure if she made it funnier by cutting a bunch of parts out. It was definitely funny and adorable the way it was in the video tho.
Yes…. He sounded like it was a UA-cam special in his delivery
Maisy's excitement about her book is so cute. The "Wow" and "Oooh" everytime she turns a page...freaking adorable
Advice for responding to weird dudes: Something you could try is maybe asking them what they mean when they say something like "that neckalafe hangs in the right place". Then they're forced to be accountable to the thing they said. You also then have the chance to be like, "That is weird to say." Or it maybe provides them the opportunity to explain what they meant. Sometimes different generations don't realize how creepy they sound lol.
My favorite thing is to say “what an interesting thing to say out loud”. I say the same when someone says something racist to me thinking I’m a safe space for that BS.
@@Suprachiasmatic oh that's a good response! I'm so used to just laughing nervously out of fear
I’ve had situations like that before also with men saying inappropriate things and they need to be called out for it. They do it because they know they can get away with it and they get some weird kick out of making a woman uncomfortable. I used to have Colleen’s reaction, but there came a point where I was like, why the F am I being made to feel bad. I called guys out very loudly so other people could hear and they would then get so uncomfortable not expecting me to say something. We ladies need to stick up for ourselves and call out the creeps.
see I totally thing it can work with certain “men” but some get super aggressive as well if you make them feel uncomfortable or try to make them take the accountable of what they are doing , I’ve seen so many videos of this in the US ):
i just replied with something similar! i just saw a tiktok today with the saying “huh, what an odd thing to say out loud” and thought it would work well in that situation.
ADVICE! f someone says something to purposefully make you uncomfortable, look them right in between their eyes, and ask them what they said. If they respond, be quiet for 5+ seconds while looking between their eyes. They will feel uncomfortable and start to question themselves. You could also just ignore it and walk away, because what they want is your attention. hope this helped! ❤
I asked 3 times what the guy said to me (when something happened to me) and he still sat there in his car waiting for an answer. Unfortunately that didn’t work for me but I hope it does for others.
I have heard of something like this before. Basically act like you don't understand what they mean and then when they try to explain it, they often realize how creepy and shitty they are being. So like in Colleen's case of "It really hangs in the right place, huh" just be like "what do you mean, I dont understand" and supposedly most people won't want to explain "oh, I meant I was looking at your boobs" so they will just leave it alone.
Or the classic “I don’t get it”. When you say that or question the joke and force them to explain themselves they get quiet reallll quick
In my experience, a lot of men (older men especially) know full well that they’re being inappropriate and are making me feel uncomfortable, so doing this will not make them question themselves. I’m a bartender so I get a lot of crap from men and I always respond to them but they hardly ever change.
You edited flynn's stand up so well, so good seeing all the personalities grow you are doing such a good job raising these little humans. s
I LOVE this part of the vlog!!!💞💞💞
kory is so wonderful !!
yes it was so cute and funny it made me smile so much!
I hurts my heart that men make you (us) feel that way. That’s why when people say “raise your daughters to not dress like that” (or whatever their statement is), I love when people respond “raise your sons to treat women respectfully” (or however they say it given the situation). It’s scary and never downplay it please. Don’t discount your feelings
@@karl-heinzbrohme5890 how do we know that is the “conclusion”? Maybe that’s something being worked on. Either way, your body has its fight or flight. Sometimes we need that fear instead of speaking up. It keeps us alert of what’s happening around us. Idk if passing it on to your daughter like you said was a jab at Colleen. If it was, it’s not appropriate. We don’t know what she’s working on.
@@karl-heinzbrohme5890 Because sometimes standing your ground and giving a direct response to a random man who's been inappropriate can lead to violence. You have to pick your battles. Is this not common sense?
@@karl-heinzbrohme5890 lol you were putting the onus on women to stand up to men, when it is men who should fix their behaviour
@@karl-heinzbrohme5890 it’s not bs. Everyone is not you and standing up to a man isn’t always the best option. Maybe leave this be. You’re coming off not only as a hater, but nonsensical.
Hi Colleen!
I’m so sorry that happened to you at the Pumpkin patch, it is absolutely not okay
Regarding the hotel incident, just be careful in the future answering the door to “staff” or “security”. I saw one story where a girl was told by “staff” that her car was having problems, but she didn’t have a car with her at the hotel. Turns out a lot of people try to kidnap and traffic women that way. So just be careful!❤️
I'd add that I'd never answer a door someone was banging on - or open it to anyone when alone - unless I could smell smoke or could hear other rooms being summoned as well. Instead, call the desk and report it. In this case, that would have solved the problem without having to argue with a man who obviously shouldn't have been given any authority! I traveled a great deal alone for my job, and know how uncomfortable men can make a woman feel, with good reason.
Please please don’t answer a door when you’re alone. Plus, Phoenix has a very serious trafficking problem and I wouldn’t want anyone staying here to visit get hurt. I remember 15 yrs ago a man dressed as a police officer came to our hotel room when my dad left the room and it was just us girls. He tried to convince us to let him into the room but my cousin yelled at him and closed the door on him. He wasn’t a police officer after all.
I was thinking if the same story as soon as she said her story
I was thinking of this too!!! Ladies: always call the front desk and ask why someone is banging on your door- there’s no reason for anyone to do that!
I thought the same!! People are so sketchy
So sorry you experienced this Colleen. A really powerful question can be "What do you mean by that?" It gives you time to collect yourself and forces the other person to explain themselves. I'm a big believer in asking questions. It can help you work through impulsivity and overwhelming feelings in all kinds of conversations.
The fact that Maisy can flip through the pages of a book amazes me. She is beyond ahead of the game
Yaaaa
I agree
I absolutely adored her “reading” of the book!
@@christinevr7698 ya saaaaaaame
She is the dexterity queeen
Hey colleen! I struggle with shutting people down too, it helps to practice some phrases! my favs are “what a weird thing to say” or “I’m surprised you feel comfortable saying that out loud”
you never have to downplay your experiences colleen !! you sometimes say "this isn't a big deal..." but it really is. this stuff is so scary and weird. you deserve to be treated like a person. love u colleen
Watching videos like these make me proves how much Colleen and Erik were meant to be parents. I love watching the simplest moments with their family ♥️
I love how expressive flynn is with his facial expressions when hes thinking.. its so cute cus he 100% gets that from you!!
This stuff with gross men happens to me as well all the time. It’s so upsetting and uncomfortable in the moment and then afterwards I get so mad because I’m never able to stand up for myself because I’m to scared in the moment. It’s so annoying to be invalidated by other women as well just because they haven’t been through it yet. Love you and glad you’re safe ❤
Ughh I always think I’m gonna stand up for myself until the moment actually comes 😔 totally know how you feel
This happens to me all the time too it's so uncomfortable especially when it is loads of college male staff (this year especially)! you're not alone
@@fishwithgreenfin same I’m always like next time it happens I’mma punch a man I stg then when it’s actually happening I’m just shaking and trying to get out of the situation.
I'm sorry that guy said that to you , it's truly vile. I know its common but it shouldn't happen at all and what sucks even more is that it's often too scary to speak up for yourself or other women for fear of the men getting violent. Like you said, it's so easy to have a normal conversation but most men don't have two braincells to rub together in order to actually do that.
Omg....the twins are so precious it's killing me! Maisy practically singing the cloth book was so adorable. Wesley giggles to the point of practically choking himself when he is zooming down on Flynn's back! And Flynn's stand-up routine was hilarious! His timing and expressions were like a seasoned pro! I love watching your precious kids, Colleen! Thank you for sharing them with us!💚💙💜
The vlogs just keep getting better and better! Flynn’s stand up comedy was hilarious! He’s definitely got so much talent! Maisy reading and those ballerina slippers were adorable! Just love your little family Colleen ❤
Love, love, love Maisy reading her book, Wesley in the pumpkin patch and Flynn with stand up comic, just priceless. So love seeing them, you and Erik are such great parents ❤️❤️
Flynn's facial expressions during his stand up were killing me! He's literally the coolest!
I love how supportive you are to your babies. You are so encouraging of Flynn. I can’t wait for the babies to start expressing their creativity 🙂
flynns facial expressions while doing his show is so cute and funny.
The thing I love so much is that when the kids are grown, the thing they will remember most about childhood is laughing and using their imaginations. What a gift!
Maisy reading the book and making those sounds were sooooo cute!💜
hearing you talk about your experiences with creepy men makes me very sad but also very validated and less alone because it happens to us more than it should and more than people probably realize. what you said was so true, i wish men could just have normal conversations with us and not make it sexual and uncomfortable
I’m so sorry this happened to you Colleen! I know how you feel. I have a big boobs and the amount of times I’ve caught men just staring at them is ridiculous. It makes me so uncomfortable. My Mum caught a man staring at my chest and almost slapped him down 😂
I Hope you’re ok. Your feelings and concerns are very valid! ❤️❤️
The fact that men think they can do that is wrong. :(
I used to totally feel that too! I got a breast reduction a year ago for back pain issues but honestly not having the constant 👀 👀 👀 is so nice.
It's so weird how 3 kids can look so alike but have such distinctly different personalities. Flynn, Wesley and Maisy are just awesome little people 🧡🎃🧡
Girl!! If someone is telling you what happened when they weren’t there and you know and remember it perfectly, it’s no harm to say ‘you’re wrong, you weren’t there you wouldn’t know’ in that situation you can still be compliant like ‘I know for a fact I gave them my card as I was there, but sure, I can go down in the morning and be sure to give it to them again THX’ moments like that aren’t so annoying after the fact when you don’t allow yourself to be put against the wall
“This is probably too long”’No! Colleen, you could literally do nothing and I would watch! It’s like hanging out with a friend you get to see every day! It’s my favorite part of my day
Omg Flynn! Such a character! The Seinfeld music and laugh track was everything! Great job Kory ❤️
it absolutely sounds like that "security guard" was a scam artist, either trying to get your card info or kidnap you for human trafficking. i'm glad you made it home safe!
I feel with you so much on the topic at 17:47 . I have severe anxiety being out ANYWHERE alone because there has never been failure in SOMETHING happening along the lines of sexual harassment and it completely ruins my day each time it happens. I try my best to limit my time in public.
thank you for talking about these uncomfortable situations Colleen❤ it makes us other girls feel validated for experiencing similar things
theres nothing i love more then getting the notification for colleen's vlogs everyday, i smile every time
Me too!😊
Hi Colleen, I know this is totally unrelated but I just wanted to say thank you for being so open about mental health and your life experiences. You’ve definitely helped me in the past few years feel less alone and there’s been lots of times where I felt like you validated how I felt. I’ve struggled with many things and your videos provide me comfort in dark times. Anyways I don’t know if you’ll see this but thank you!
seeing the babies react to the olive is the cutest thing ever. 🥰
You ask why (some) men do this… it’s because they don’t see us as equals. It’s hard to accept but it’s sadly true. We are viewed as objects that can be commented on and made to feel small when our “protectors” aren’t around, a way to “keep us in check.” This is why it’s so important to teach our boys young about the disgusting and dangerous nature of misogyny and to speak out against it when we feel safe doing so. Enough is enough!
Unfortunately I can relate to this video way more than I wish was the case. I have had the exact necklace scenario play out for me except it was at work during my second week at a new job by someone in a higher position than me and with a lot of tenure. It was incredibly awkward and the best I could do while still trying to be professional was immediately change topic and say "unless there is something I can help you with, I need to get back to work". It put me in a horrible position since I was brand new and didn't feel comfortable reporting it to HR. When I did tell a few people in the office that I was comfortable with, the general response was "he is always like that and gets away with saying inappropriate things because it's gone on for so long; the best you can do is ignore it." It's really sad that so many women have to feel this way and especially in places you are supposed to feel safe like work or a pumpkin patch.
I’m so sorry. You deserve better. I hope you can fight the higher ups to help not only yourself, but any other women on your team. That is most definitely not okay.
Wow, Flynn stand up is adorable. And great editing on Kory's part.
Colleen, I completely understand what you mean about some men. I've been in similar situations far too many times. All I can suggest is telling them straight up how inappropriate they are being and make it VERY clear you're disgusted. Worst case, he'll retract and call you a nasty name but that's easier to handle than sexual innuendo's. I'm so happy you have Eric. Love you.
Oh wow! How cute are they! So so so adorable! You guys are the BEST parents ever! So cute, I love how you guys give you kids options even so little. They are all so adorable. Good job mom and dad.
Does anybody else find the fact that Wesley directly looks at the camera multiple times to blow raspberries at 7:53 just amazing? In my mind, he is understanding that the camera is something that is watching him. The fact that he is aware of this and it's not just like another object that sits in the room that does not visualize him is so interesting. Unless there is a screen and he is looking at himself 🤣 Also Maisey was so expressive reading that book! She was like, omg guys you can't believe what I'm reading right now!
@@pfftxoxo1502 I dunno, doesn’t bring the babies anything they want like food or cuddles or whatever. It’s probably the fact that she tries to not let them put it all in their mouth for very long, so they probably associate it with something they want but never fully get. My brother is a photographer who was taking photos of his baby daily when first born up until toddler and my nephew was always trying to get his camera and equipment just coz it got taken away pretty quickly 😅
But then again I dunno.
I'm guessing she has the video viewfinder turned around so they can see it. It is probably an interactive mini-TV to him
@@pfftxoxo1502 It’s literally a few minutes of a 24hr day, get a life
It’s very possible he can see himself either in the reflection in the lense (which to him would just look like a moving object) or I do recall her saying she keeps the view finder facing her way all the time so he’s probably interacting with the tiny baby on the screen haha 😂
It's like looking in a mirror to him. 💞💞
The relief I feel when I know my husband will be with me when going out is truly sad. I’m sorry you had to go through an interaction like that 💜
15:30 Omg! Colleen this is literally me. If someone is going to look me in the face and tell me the opposite of what I am saying happened when they weren’t even there or have any proof or won’t explain their way of thinking/add something to the argument is so frustrating and makes me so mad!
Maybe you should have a consultation with a stylist who can advise you on how to put outfits together so that you feel more confident doing so.
i love the way that you put your theory about interactions with men- i also avoid them truly, but when i say that the men in my life who i love it can make them uncomfortable. but i totally empathize with you and thank you for sharing!!! you said it with such grace and eloquence
Maisy reading wins the internet, I love that video you posted to Instgram of her reading it was seriously the cutest video I have ever watched her facial expressions were everything, and Wesley's laugh in this vlog and always is so cute to hear, and Flynn is such a funny little guy, he is always making me laugh
Omg her "reading" the book is priceless! She was so into it lol
You should look into a consultation with a stylist and they can tell you what works and what doesn’t or if you can afford it you should get styled by a stylist!!
I am so sorry that you had to experience another uncomfortable encounter with a man like that. Totally inappropriate.
I usually get inappropriate exchange from men online that pose as mutual friends on Facebook and Instagram, when they actually don’t even know my friends at all.
Handling uncomfortable situations online in my experience are easy to just hit “block”. In-person exchanges can be so much more uncomfortable and scary, people’s intentions or next actions are unpredictable.
Always supporting you!
It is very appropriate to tell someone they are being rude. When people are miscommunications, that’s one thing. But when people are jerks, tell them they’re jerks. No woman needs to feel that way.
I love watching you with your sweet children. You are such a wonderful mama. Those babies are so blessed to have you. Love Maisy's book reading :)
Your videos always make me feel so safe and calm. I love watching them ❤
Oh my goodness I relate to being uncomfortable around basically all men. I know there are great men out there- my husband included! It’s not good in my field of employment and makes me feel very intimidated. I’m so hard on myself for that. I have always wished it wasn’t the case for me. Dang it. I will say though, it’s nice to know I’m not the only one.
Definitely not alone. I automatically get anxious and uncomfortable around men. I love to go for walks but I always wait for when my husband can go with me. I feel like an open target going alone. Its a type of anxiety that I can’t explain. Its so sad sometimes to think women just can’t go about their day without having to worry or feel uncomfortable. I’m like Colleen where I feel no anxiety or stress when I’m with my husband or even my brothers, it’s the alone part where I’m on high alert and fully aware of my surroundings. 😢
Dying over Flynn’s comedy paired with the laugh track 😂 also - LOVE the purple top. Pair with black skirt or shorts and a black boot/shoe. The purple gives just the right pop of color!
As always, Colleen, you, Kory, Erik, and the kiddos made me smile today! Thank you for taking your supporters along with you in your journey, looking forward to all the next videos, Haters Back Off, keep up the amazing work!
colleen is constantly making weird props and erik makes ONE creepy head and its a big deal 😂 i love them
Maisys reading segment was 10 out of 10. 😂🖤😍
I am OBSESSED with Flynn’s standup 🤣 he’s such a pro already! I guess acting, singing, performing and comedy IS in his DNA 🥹🧡
As Halloween is approaching fast, I’m lowkey counting down to a Very Colleen Holiday already. 😅
i can’t wait for “colleen christmas” as i call it 😂
Colleen, your kiddos give me LIFE!!! They are the most adorable little beans. You and Erik must be so proud :) Sending your family all of the love!
Omg Flynns comedy routine was cute. Great comedic timing and pauses
Maisy reading...there are no words! Adorable! The kids faces in the pumpkins...so precious! Your pumpkin patch outfit was so cute! Are y'all enjoying being back in the house?
I love that Maisy just screams at the thinks she likes, it’s hilarious 😂
things.........she likes
Hi Colleen! Your story about men making you uncomfortable is so relatable. It’s amazing how once you as a woman are alone they feel free to comment, act, disrespect you and make you uncomfortable. It’s like the only way they can respect you is if you are with another men, because now you are “some men’s property”. As a lesbian it’s unbelievable how they don’t give a fuck if you are with your gf, they would still hit on you or her, or both, even if you explicitly say you are a couple. Patriarchy needs to be unalive.
Colleen you shouldn’t open a door in a hotel when you don’t know who they are. Just because he had a security uniform on doesn’t mean anything. Just be careful.
Came to say the same. NEVER open the door.
So love when you and eric show your beautiful family, all the little and big moments. Always love the giggles and smiles and those gorgeous faces. Nobody should be rude or disrespectful to anyone!
I have this happen to me all the time - if I hear one more time “it’s just a joke, geez” or “take a compliment”. No. Don’t. It’s not ok
COLLEEN!!! I love the purple corset you can do a black skirt and black boots to make the corset pop I’m also not good at coordinating lol
When she was making the apples you can see how bad her hands/ arms were shaking. I really really hope you're taking better care of your body and see yourself how we see you! Some tips: protein shakes, bars, hard boiled eggs(anything easy, quick, and with protein). You will notice youll start to feel stronger and better mentally!
Colleen, if you're in a hotel alone, and some man bangs on your door, DO NOT ANSWER. Call front desk and tell them. There's so many horror stories such as trafficking and assaults.
I love Colleen because she doesn’t have to do extravagant things like mr beast she just had to be her funny, loving and caring self
very back handed lol
you have one of the most beautiful souls in this world and you deserve all good things, it sucks to be put into uncomfortable situations but i’m glad you were able to get out of that situation safely and that you have a partner who loves and takes care of you. you deserve the most pure love and i’m so glad you have it with your husband, kids, and family 🥺 i’m thankful you exist and thank you for bringing awareness to many different topics💜
I’ve been harassed by men my entire adult life, starting in my teen years. I have noticed it slightly less since the “me too” movement came to light, but it still happens. Like you, I’m non-confrontational by nature so I have hundreds of moments that I wish I’d responded to differently. In just the past few years (I’m in my 40s) I’ve felt a shift within myself in a number of ways, and one is that I have gained the confidence to stand up for myself. Now, if a man comments on my appearance in any way, I make sure I don’t say thank you. I don’t want to give any man the impression that those comments are ok. I DO say something like, “Just so you know, that kind of comment makes me feel uncomfortable.” Now, it depends on the situation of course. Since you had to continue to interact with him to buy the veggies, I would wait to make the comment until you had paid and could walk away. Otherwise it could be quite uncomfortable for someone who doesn’t like to create conflict.
Another quick comment I keep on the ready is one that I use if a man tells me to smile. I tell him “Oh! I didn’t realize you were in charge of me today!”
I love the advice from the other commenters on what to say in future interactions with men.
I also want to give you a little courage. I too have had these experiences with men and I’m a survivor of the same very traumatic experiences I believe you’ve eluded to. I have two young daughters and I’ve started to say something when men make me uncomfortable in these situations because my daughters are watching. I want them to know that these interactions are not okay and I want to teach them to say something (when it is safe, because we all know sometimes it’s not). Your children are watching and they will see you model this and learn. You are brave and strong. ❤
And they are healthy and thriving and growing… I was so scared when you announced that you were pregnant with twins. Every bad thing ran through my head and I’m so thrilled that they are so healthy and happy and doing so many awesome things!!! Xoxo love you guys!!!
The babies trying new foods is my favorite thing to watch!! Can we please see more first good moments!! Wes reaction was so hilarious!!
The absolute ANGER that projects from my body when someone tries to tell me something that I KNOW is fact but boldly tells me is not is inhuman - I like get hot and shake I get so mad so I know exactly how you feel there
Flynn is SO funny, seems like performing might be something he would pursue in the future! Really amazing seeing all of their personalities evolve and watching them grow... They are growing so fast
I feel you when it comes to the guys making you uncomfortable.... about a month ago it happened several times and I broke down because it's disgusting.
Sidenote it is a very pretty necklace, I love that it represents Flynn and his love for bugs!🥰 Also I think black leather pants would look good with both tops!
Flynn’s stand up act 😂 he’s so cute
Lol Maisy talking to the book is the cutest thing everrrrr
Next time don’t answer the door. Call the front desk and ask is there is someone from security at your door and then tell them to wait while you have Kory come to your room.
10:04 has me so emotional😭💓 i looked at Erik's corner of the video right as he cradled Maisy & gave her the most loving smile:,) His face in that moment was pure joy & love for your little girl😭 Parenthood looks absolutely beautiful on the two of you, thank you for sharing so many joyful moment with us over this whole panoramic & quarantine! All of you Ballingers keep me company & warm my heart every week & have for the past couple years, love y'all a ton❤:,)
I have to add that i have sensory issues & my purple "just girly things"✌ hoodie has been my go to since i got it when it first released:,) the inside is softer than anything else i own. It is truly so comforting! The purple creative juices tumbler is also my favorite iced coffee cup💜
Colleen, the best response you could give that jerk is to say sarcastically and just loud enough for the next customer to hear is "Really?, Do you talk to your wife, daughters, sisters or mother like that?"...and then just walk away. Be brave, you can do it.
Colleen needs to see this!
Your kids are adorable!! You have three beautiful little lights!
Maisy screaming into the middle of the books… same girl. Med classes got me screaming too 🫠
I’m currently 26 weeks pregnant with boy/girl twins and your videos make me so excited for what’s to come with my little ones! Can’t wait to see what my babies likes and dislikes are.
"Maisy and Wesley, I love them...BUT...they love chairs!" That NEEDS to be on merch!! 🤣😂
Omg ahhh. When Wesley was crawling towards the camera, fell down, and then his little head popped up again, it literally cured all my sadness 🥺 You all are the cutest family ever!!!
oh Colleen you spoke right to my heart when you talked about being in general discomfort around men. I try my best to be kind and civil but they bother me like they're getting paid for it. the other day I was taking the bus home and this guy comes up to my seat and leans over me to ask me where I'm going. I obviously didn't want to say home so I said "the shop" he then proceeded to ask me if I was "sure"like four times. finally I said "I SAID IM GOOD". unfortunately, he then started asking me if my boyfriend was waiting for me or something. feeling very uncomfortable, I just went silent and refused to answer as he asked me over and over (yes ladies I know this is a dangerous situation but the aforementioned shop was directly in front of the bus stop and I was confident I could just run into it when I got off before he tried anything) when I got off he had the GAUL to say "I was just asking. we're good right" like sir?!?!! what the heck
I LOVE the magical cat idea so much. I strive to be as great as parents as y’all are ❤️❤️ Flynn’s stand up is so funny, I love seeing what he comes up with!
Bouncing the babies on Flynn is my new favorite segment.
IT IS A BIG DEAL. NO ONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT OR MAKE YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE. I REPEAT, NO ONE DESERVES THAT. And the fact that women have just settled with this as a fact and consider it " no big deal" just saddens me to a point of anger and frustration. Because we don't deserve this, we deserve to be able to buy some vegetables without having to deal with weird comments and getting stared at by random men.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with horrible men. Thankfully I've never had to deal with that, BUT I have learned that if ANYONE says something to make me uncomfortable, angry, etc. I will just look them dead in the eyes and say nothing. It throws them off and they will reflect on what they just said because they're not getting the reaction they want, and it will make THEM feel uncomfortable.
Colleen watching the kids on the vlogs literally just makes me so happy . Also can’t still believe you have twins . Also where do I buy tickets for Flynn’s tour 😂
Hi Colleen, I am so sorry for what you had to go through at the pumpkin patch. I have been in that situation at work too many times. Some things that I have learned when in these situations are to have a somewhat long pause and create an awkward silence while giving a slight glare, or facial expressions that is both annoyed and unimpressed, then continuing with conversation as if he never made the comment. I know that is not what most people prefer, but it typically makes the guy see he's in the wrong without confronting him. This is something that I learned from my mom and as someone who also doesn't like confrontation, it has been helpful for me and has helped me feel less anxious about these situations. I hope it helps you too! Love all of your content! Keep being the light in the world that you are!
It’s so cute how the twins are just developing into their own little cute selfs!! And Flynn is just the cutest coolest dude around