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Great video! One of the reasons "wake windows" and "leap" theories are so harmful, in my opinion, is because you are looking at the clock, or making presumptions of needs based on expectations, rather than actually getting to know your baby and their cues/body language. Ditch the wake windows, watch your baby!
Very true! I find wake windows helpful in providing a guide on when to start looking for tired signs, but as all babies are unique it is very important to follow their cues!
I get that, I somewhat had to depend on wake windows etc. I consider myself very in tune with people and animals, I'm good at getting ahead of a problem before it's obvious, but I could not read my baby for the life of me. I still can't, I just guess the need based on how long it's been
@@achanwahn Yes, I know someone that was like that too. The baby would be screaming and I would ask, "do you think they are hungry?" and she would say, "It hasn't been three hours yet and the doctor told me to wait three hours." I think the goal was to have them on a perfect schedule, but babies don't work like that.
i still keep an eye on wake windows because i'm usually doing several things at once and I want to make sure I hit naptime before she starts getting overtired. so I don't follow them hard and fast, especially if during awake time she's getting in a lot of active tummy time or if we had to go out and she didn't do a lot. so it's more or less just a guide since I lose track of time so easily these days. i keep track of how long she tends to be awake and when she tends to get cranky and kinda go from there. but I agree, trying to follow a hard schedule is going to be a recipe for disaster, learning from personal experience.
Love this video! I am a mom of 7, and I was proud that I could read the cues in the video, but I stumbled through learning this with my first few kids. If you are a new mom, this video is right on. I will add that in the early days when you are still learning, it is helpful to follow the general "eat, play, sleep" cycle. If they just woke up, it is time to feed them. Then they will be awake for a little while and you will know that if they start to get fussy they most likely are tired again. But once i learned these cues, there was a lot less crying (of course some babies are just fussier in general though). They will throw you for a loop when they have growth spurts, cluster feeding, teething, sick, etc. They will sometimes do an eat, play, eat, play, eat, sleep, or a super short sleep, then eat, and sleep right away again. But knowing the cues will help you sort it all out and help you avoid the problem of trying to feed a screaming baby - been there, it is hard to get them to latch when that upset. Blessings mamas, you've got this!
Very informative as always. A possible video suggestion if you please. A video on toddlers grinding teeth. What are causes and how to help them stop if one can.
Emma thanks for this video. You has really help me to understand how baby behaves. I have a baby of 4 months and your videos has been a guide for me because you always show in your videos examples, so is easy to understand. Thanks again ❤. Me and my baby send you ❤️.
So nice to hear these videos are helpful. My little one is just 4 months too! I find this age so much fun because they start playing with toys and getting so much more interactive. Their smiles and giggles are the best! Hope you are both having lots of fun together!
A problem that I have with my newborn is that I know her early tired cues , but she’ll REFUSE to sleep . No matter how much I prep or help her to sleep , she’ll just lay there and stare at me until she becomes over tired . HELP !!
Same boat! I have good luck putting my little guy in the baby wrap and doing a little bouncy walking. We're BF so that helps-- hard to cry with a boobie in your mouth! Sometimes I can nurse him to sleep, sometimes not.
Hey maybe I"m not a bad dad, I got most of these right just from intuition. Idk I've always noticed super minute details. It's subtle, but they display their needs differently
Thankyou Emma for such helpful videos on cues.. could you please help with the cue that could tell us if the baby is having gas trouble..and we need to try more for burping?
Thank you so much for the video! First time mom here with a 3 week old! Not sure what I’m doing but I’m loving the learning process! Plus your videos really help a lot :)
A massive congratulations on the arrival of your little one. I am sure you are doing a great job - we all stumble through in the beginning but they do get a lot easier to read and you will soon know exactly what they want. So glad these videos are helping make the journey a little easier.
Hi Emma Your videos have been so useful and help reduce so much anxiety and stress as a first time mom. My 2 month old daughter feeds only for about 10 -15 minutes each feed is it okay ??
Only managed to get my five week old to get down for 3 naps yesterday . Tried the same today after we came back from outside and no dice . She just wouldn’t settle after nappy change and many a feed.
This video is a lifesaver. Our newborn is three weeks old and I thought we'd understand her via parental instincts or something. Nope! Total foreign language for me.
Thank you Emma! This is a very useful video! Lately, my 3,5 month-old baby cries out like someone is hurting him before he falls asleep. I think I can read the early sleep signs and I start to put him to sleep the moment I see the signs, but he does not fall asleep and he starts to cry and his cries do not stop whatever I do. Eventually he gets so tired that he stops crying all of a sudden and in a few minutes he falls asleep. This is something we have been experiencing for the last 2-3 weeks. Before that, putting him to sleep was not that difficult. Do you think this could be temporary? Something to do with growth spurts maybe?
Try to hold him, kiss on his cheek and forehead, wipe his tears and then walk with him in somewhere where no sound, sleep music is playing on and very little light. Don’t put him on bed immediately after he falls asleep. Wait 20 more minutes before you put him on bed. It’s normal for babies. U can try another thing. Now you know exactly when he feels sleepy so everyday just few minutes before that time, sponge his body, give him lotion, change his diaper and dress, take him in a room where no noise except sleeping music, little light and then start breastfeeding and he will fall asleep. Wait for 20 more mins after he finishes his drinking milk.
Overtired and undertired can look similar. Sometimes I find our LO can throw out some cues before they are truly ready for sleep. If you try to put them down too early they will fight, same with too late (fun right!). Look up the appropriate wake windows for your LOs age and try and use those in conjunction with the cues. For 3.5 months it should be around 1.5 hrs (give or take 15m) in between naps - generally getting longer throughout the day. Before bed it can be up to 2hrs. Keep in mind, Shorter naps can lead to shorter windows. But if I were to guess without knowing your full situation, what your describing to me sounds like it could be undertired.
Thanks a lot for the suggestions and ideas. He stills seems restless before he falls asleep, but now the crises strike less often and the cries are more bearable. If we are at home, I take him somewhere where he can calm down, mostly to the balcony where it is cooler and quiet. He is OK if we are out during his sleep time. He has no trouble falling asleep in the open air. This is something I have observed recently. I think he is overtired because before his night sleep he stays awake for about 5 hours, which I find too much.
Mine does the same when he has a hard time falling asleep even if he is tired. I usually wrap him in a blanket and rock him to sleep and slightly brush my palm over his eyes
Gosh I wish I had seen your videos a few months ago when my baby was a month old. I think I wasn’t picking up on hunger cues and such and he would get fussy at the breast, unfortunately family who saw it told me I must have a low milk supply and should sub with formula. Now a few months later he will barely take the breast as the bottle is much easier and looking back I lm fairly certain my supply was ok
Please make a video about Throwing! When is it okay to throw? How to stop them from throwing things? Toys are getting broken and siblings are getting hurt in my home and saying “No!” And taking the toy does nothing! Please help us! He also throws everything from his crib/playpen and then screams for them!
@@Maiju86 He always throws soft toys. But then as soon as he has his hands on anything else, he throws it. The point is I want him not to throw everything or learn what is and isn’t acceptable to throw.
I thought the first one was obvious maybe I’m really good at reading but I automatically thought the baby looked somewhat distressed with the situation
This is what you should eat not avoid. Stewed fruits especially prunes. Increase fibre, fruits and veggies. Add bran and oats. Most importantly, drink bucket loads of water
Hi. I always feed my one month after every 2 or 2n half hours even if he is sleeping 💤. Is it okay to feed him while sleeping or waking him up to feed?? .? And he never look at us directly and hardly respond to any toy moving
What about showing they are hungry but then crying, kicking qnd pushing the bottle away. Then showing hunger cues a couple mins later eating a little and then doing the same thing😊
Waitttt, my baby whenever is tired and I understand the early cues of tiredness, I try make him sleep but I everytime fail, he doesn’t want to sleep, just wait and then feed later he sleeps 😭😭😭
Shame we ignore the cues for toileting babies do this too. Hence why Elimination communication works and so many cultures use it, I find it sad we have lost that skill in our culture.
I tried it for a couple of weeks with my first and it never worked.^^ he didn't pull a face, didn't have any tension in his body, he just went no2 without any behaviour changes^^
@@wolfsmaid6815 it’s something that takes more then a couple weeks to work. It can take a long time to learn the cues you can also use natural timings. When the wake after eating transition times. Since we don’t come from an EC culture it will be harder for us. We don’t have wise grandmothers showing us
Hi Emma, my baby opens her mouth wide when she's upset. And it appears to be her holding her breath for few seconds. How can I avoid this and for her not to do it again? Thank you
Some babies do that. I know it can be scary but if she is continuing to breathe then it isn't something I would worry about. But as always if you are concerned speak to your little one's doctor.
My baby is about to b six months old...but haven't roll over yet..she does assisted sitting nd standing..... Nd she can held her head in middle on tummy time .. but she don't lift her chest off ground... Do I need to worry
Hi! Rolling is a skill bubs can learn anywhere from 4 - 6 months, so I wouldn't necessarily be concerned at this point. It sounds like your little one is still building up her muscle strength in her arms to be able to lift her chest off the ground when lying on her tummy. So it's important to continue giving her lots of time lying on her tummy and back to help build these muscles. As always though, if you are concerned, check in with her doctor who can see her in person.
It is hard but hopefully this video gave you a little bit more of an understanding of how to combine newborn cues with the context in which they occurred.
My newborn son wakes up around the same time every night, around 8 or 9pm. And he just goes NUTS!!! He doesn't take a pacifier, doesn't eat, doesn't fall asleep when we put him down and he doesn't need a diaper change. I work away from home so I'm trying to figure this out so I can pass the information on to my wife. She's at her wits' end every single night.
My baby makes the sound as if she is pushing something when breastfeeding, when sleep...as if she is pushing something or stretching....even after massaging her....what could this mean?
What signs are you misreading? Don't forget to get your free 0 - 12 months old developmental milestone chart here:
brightestbeginning.com/12monthmilestones/
What can you do to keep our 1-month-old baby boy keep falling asleep why we are feeding him they say to keep waking him up every 3 hrs
Or you could rewrite human dna so that’s infants can learn language hand gestures more quickly then waiting over two years
"What do you mean I shouldn't be hungry? I ate a WHOLE 10 MINUTES AGO!" --my little milk goblin
Milk goblin lol, describes my 4 month old sister
I learned some British slang today! Grizzle: verb (used without object), griz·zled, griz·zling. British. to complain; whimper; whine
Great video! One of the reasons "wake windows" and "leap" theories are so harmful, in my opinion, is because you are looking at the clock, or making presumptions of needs based on expectations, rather than actually getting to know your baby and their cues/body language. Ditch the wake windows, watch your baby!
Very true!
I find wake windows helpful in providing a guide on when to start looking for tired signs, but as all babies are unique it is very important to follow their cues!
I get that, I somewhat had to depend on wake windows etc. I consider myself very in tune with people and animals, I'm good at getting ahead of a problem before it's obvious, but I could not read my baby for the life of me. I still can't, I just guess the need based on how long it's been
@@rcm_kemsame here! I’m very observant but I still struggle to see my baby’s cues.. doesn’t seem distinguishable 🥲
@@achanwahn Yes, I know someone that was like that too. The baby would be screaming and I would ask, "do you think they are hungry?" and she would say, "It hasn't been three hours yet and the doctor told me to wait three hours." I think the goal was to have them on a perfect schedule, but babies don't work like that.
i still keep an eye on wake windows because i'm usually doing several things at once and I want to make sure I hit naptime before she starts getting overtired. so I don't follow them hard and fast, especially if during awake time she's getting in a lot of active tummy time or if we had to go out and she didn't do a lot. so it's more or less just a guide since I lose track of time so easily these days. i keep track of how long she tends to be awake and when she tends to get cranky and kinda go from there. but I agree, trying to follow a hard schedule is going to be a recipe for disaster, learning from personal experience.
Love this video! I am a mom of 7, and I was proud that I could read the cues in the video, but I stumbled through learning this with my first few kids. If you are a new mom, this video is right on. I will add that in the early days when you are still learning, it is helpful to follow the general "eat, play, sleep" cycle. If they just woke up, it is time to feed them. Then they will be awake for a little while and you will know that if they start to get fussy they most likely are tired again. But once i learned these cues, there was a lot less crying (of course some babies are just fussier in general though). They will throw you for a loop when they have growth spurts, cluster feeding, teething, sick, etc. They will sometimes do an eat, play, eat, play, eat, sleep, or a super short sleep, then eat, and sleep right away again. But knowing the cues will help you sort it all out and help you avoid the problem of trying to feed a screaming baby - been there, it is hard to get them to latch when that upset. Blessings mamas, you've got this!
I also liked the 'Eat, Play, Sleep" rhythm because it makes them less dependent on comfort nursing to fall asleep.
Thank you for the info and encouragement ❤
Just had our 6th baby and learn so much from your videos! Thanks a lot! Also great that they're short.
I like to share them with other moms.
Congrats!! That’s so nice to hear. Thanks for sharing 🙂
Those cues in #1 weren't subtle. He reminded me of the cat trying to get away from Pepe Le pew lol.
I'm loving the video. Thank you
Glad you like them!
Please can you do a video on baby proofing your home i.e drawers, sockets, doors etc. Not sure what the latest advice is these days 😊
When my baby does this, I know he wants me to take him for a walk. He likes to look at things and he is only 1 month old. 😂
Very informative as always.
A possible video suggestion if you please. A video on toddlers grinding teeth. What are causes and how to help them stop if one can.
Emma thanks for this video. You has really help me to understand how baby behaves. I have a baby of 4 months and your videos has been a guide for me because you always show in your videos examples, so is easy to understand. Thanks again ❤. Me and my baby send you ❤️.
So nice to hear these videos are helpful.
My little one is just 4 months too! I find this age so much fun because they start playing with toys and getting so much more interactive. Their smiles and giggles are the best!
Hope you are both having lots of fun together!
What about when a baby goes 0 to 100 instantly? He just skips the early signs. As soon as he wakes up.
My girl is the same. Within minutes of being awake she’s hungry
A problem that I have with my newborn is that I know her early tired cues , but she’ll REFUSE to sleep . No matter how much I prep or help her to sleep , she’ll just lay there and stare at me until she becomes over tired . HELP !!
Same boat! I have good luck putting my little guy in the baby wrap and doing a little bouncy walking. We're BF so that helps-- hard to cry with a boobie in your mouth! Sometimes I can nurse him to sleep, sometimes not.
As an expectant mother with an active and baby obsessed 6yo the disengagement cue was a total eye opener, thank you!
No worries at all!
Hey maybe I"m not a bad dad, I got most of these right just from intuition. Idk I've always noticed super minute details. It's subtle, but they display their needs differently
Super helpful thanks for posting 🤗🤗
You're so welcome!
Thankyou Emma for such helpful videos on cues.. could you please help with the cue that could tell us if the baby is having gas trouble..and we need to try more for burping?
Thank you so much for the video! First time mom here with a 3 week old! Not sure what I’m doing but I’m loving the learning process! Plus your videos really help a lot :)
A massive congratulations on the arrival of your little one. I am sure you are doing a great job - we all stumble through in the beginning but they do get a lot easier to read and you will soon know exactly what they want.
So glad these videos are helping make the journey a little easier.
Congratulations! 😊
@@EmmaHubbard Thank you!! ❤️
Amazing video, thank you!
Glad you liked it!
Very useful video. Plus - so cute.
Thank you! 😊
Hi Emma Your videos have been so useful and help reduce so much anxiety and stress as a first time mom. My 2 month old daughter feeds only for about 10 -15 minutes each feed is it okay ??
Only managed to get my five week old to get down for 3 naps yesterday . Tried the same today after we came back from outside and no dice . She just wouldn’t settle after nappy change and many a feed.
Interesting insights, thanks
Amazing message thanks
This video is a lifesaver. Our newborn is three weeks old and I thought we'd understand her via parental instincts or something. Nope! Total foreign language for me.
😂 It can be so confusing in the beginning. It does get easier with time.
Lol! I thought the same before i had my baby, but man, it's being difficult to understand him
Thank you Emma! This is a very useful video! Lately, my 3,5 month-old baby cries out like someone is hurting him before he falls asleep. I think I can read the early sleep signs and I start to put him to sleep the moment I see the signs, but he does not fall asleep and he starts to cry and his cries do not stop whatever I do. Eventually he gets so tired that he stops crying all of a sudden and in a few minutes he falls asleep. This is something we have been experiencing for the last 2-3 weeks. Before that, putting him to sleep was not that difficult. Do you think this could be temporary? Something to do with growth spurts maybe?
Try to hold him, kiss on his cheek and forehead, wipe his tears and then walk with him in somewhere where no sound, sleep music is playing on and very little light. Don’t put him on bed immediately after he falls asleep. Wait 20 more minutes before you put him on bed. It’s normal for babies. U can try another thing. Now you know exactly when he feels sleepy so everyday just few minutes before that time, sponge his body, give him lotion, change his diaper and dress, take him in a room where no noise except sleeping music, little light and then start breastfeeding and he will fall asleep. Wait for 20 more mins after he finishes his drinking milk.
Overtired and undertired can look similar. Sometimes I find our LO can throw out some cues before they are truly ready for sleep. If you try to put them down too early they will fight, same with too late (fun right!). Look up the appropriate wake windows for your LOs age and try and use those in conjunction with the cues. For 3.5 months it should be around 1.5 hrs (give or take 15m) in between naps - generally getting longer throughout the day. Before bed it can be up to 2hrs. Keep in mind, Shorter naps can lead to shorter windows. But if I were to guess without knowing your full situation, what your describing to me sounds like it could be undertired.
Thanks a lot for the suggestions and ideas. He stills seems restless before he falls asleep, but now the crises strike less often and the cries are more bearable. If we are at home, I take him somewhere where he can calm down, mostly to the balcony where it is cooler and quiet. He is OK if we are out during his sleep time. He has no trouble falling asleep in the open air. This is something I have observed recently. I think he is overtired because before his night sleep he stays awake for about 5 hours, which I find too much.
Mine does the same when he has a hard time falling asleep even if he is tired. I usually wrap him in a blanket and rock him to sleep and slightly brush my palm over his eyes
Do you have a video on bottle aversions?
you are great ❤❤❤
Thanks!
Thanks Emma
No worries at all!
Thanks babe
No worries
Gosh I wish I had seen your videos a few months ago when my baby was a month old. I think I wasn’t picking up on hunger cues and such and he would get fussy at the breast, unfortunately family who saw it told me I must have a low milk supply and should sub with formula. Now a few months later he will barely take the breast as the bottle is much easier and looking back I lm fairly certain my supply was ok
Please make a video about Throwing! When is it okay to throw? How to stop them from throwing things? Toys are getting broken and siblings are getting hurt in my home and saying “No!” And taking the toy does nothing! Please help us! He also throws everything from his crib/playpen and then screams for them!
Give them something soft to throw. If they are very small, they don't understand what can happen - it's you who has to make the space safe.
@@Maiju86 He always throws soft toys. But then as soon as he has his hands on anything else, he throws it. The point is I want him not to throw everything or learn what is and isn’t acceptable to throw.
Tell him to throw harder. Aim for siblings head. Baby is on its way to a QB scholarship.
@@achanwahna time out for a baby at that age is going to do absolutely nothing. Throwing is developmentally normal.
perfect not only for 1st time moms, but also aspergers :)
So glad you found it helpful! Think this is something that everyone should be told about and it's so often missed.
can you do a video on feeding baby pure with syringe? is it good? bad?
I thought the first one was obvious maybe I’m really good at reading but I automatically thought the baby looked somewhat distressed with the situation
I've been messing up a lot. My baby's getting violent. He's only 2 months 😭
why does baby cry suddenly at night while sleeping as if they are really really sad?
Ram sleep, they are having a bad dream
seeking attention
Emma, please tell me what a breastfeeding mom must avoid to eat, to prevent constipation
This is what you should eat not avoid. Stewed fruits especially prunes. Increase fibre, fruits and veggies. Add bran and oats. Most importantly, drink bucket loads of water
Where were you when my babies were little? My life would have been so much easier
Hi. I always feed my one month after every 2 or 2n half hours even if he is sleeping 💤. Is it okay to feed him while sleeping or waking him up to feed?? .? And he never look at us directly and hardly respond to any toy moving
What about showing they are hungry but then crying, kicking qnd pushing the bottle away. Then showing hunger cues a couple mins later eating a little and then doing the same thing😊
Wish i would have known these when my kids were babies
Lol had this this week, wanted to be left alone
They can be so confusing! It feels so good when you get it right though!
@@EmmaHubbard it’s confused us as normally he hates being put down. Very useful content ❤️
That would have been even more confusing. But sounds like a nice break for your arms and back!
Waitttt, my baby whenever is tired and I understand the early cues of tiredness, I try make him sleep but I everytime fail, he doesn’t want to sleep, just wait and then feed later he sleeps 😭😭😭
Shame we ignore the cues for toileting babies do this too. Hence why Elimination communication works and so many cultures use it, I find it sad we have lost that skill in our culture.
I tried it for a couple of weeks with my first and it never worked.^^ he didn't pull a face, didn't have any tension in his body, he just went no2 without any behaviour changes^^
@@wolfsmaid6815 it’s something that takes more then a couple weeks to work. It can take a long time to learn the cues you can also use natural timings. When the wake after eating transition times. Since we don’t come from an EC culture it will be harder for us. We don’t have wise grandmothers showing us
Hi Emma, my baby opens her mouth wide when she's upset. And it appears to be her holding her breath for few seconds. How can I avoid this and for her not to do it again? Thank you
Some babies do that.
I know it can be scary but if she is continuing to breathe then it isn't something I would worry about.
But as always if you are concerned speak to your little one's doctor.
A lot of these things should be intuitive in my opinion, but it's really good education either way!
Thanks Ingrid! 🙂
My baby is about to b six months old...but haven't roll over yet..she does assisted sitting nd standing..... Nd she can held her head in middle on tummy time .. but she don't lift her chest off ground... Do I need to worry
Hi!
Rolling is a skill bubs can learn anywhere from 4 - 6 months, so I wouldn't necessarily be concerned at this point.
It sounds like your little one is still building up her muscle strength in her arms to be able to lift her chest off the ground when lying on her tummy. So it's important to continue giving her lots of time lying on her tummy and back to help build these muscles.
As always though, if you are concerned, check in with her doctor who can see her in person.
My son is 3 months and tbh.. I still struggle to understand him.. 😓
It is hard but hopefully this video gave you a little bit more of an understanding of how to combine newborn cues with the context in which they occurred.
My son often rubs his face on my chest when he lies on me for cuddle and won't stop.. does that mean he's just hungry?
It all depends on the context. If it has been a few hours since his feed then most likely but it could also be a tiredness sign.
M a worried😞mother my baby cries while sleeping
My newborn son wakes up around the same time every night, around 8 or 9pm. And he just goes NUTS!!! He doesn't take a pacifier, doesn't eat, doesn't fall asleep when we put him down and he doesn't need a diaper change.
I work away from home so I'm trying to figure this out so I can pass the information on to my wife. She's at her wits' end every single night.
My baby makes the sound as if she is pushing something when breastfeeding, when sleep...as if she is pushing something or stretching....even after massaging her....what could this mean?
Same here
Babies do things like that because they can't talk
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