Burial Vs Non -Burial | Phallo Decisions
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2024
- In preparing for stage 2 of phalloplasty, I need to decide on whether I want my clitoris buried or unburied. Each has implications for sensation and aesthetics, I met with Mr Garaffa of the London team to discuss my concerns.
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I'm so thankful that you're sharing all of this! Because my Doctor really tried to get me thinking about the option of a phallo (I've always been of the unthinking opinion that, "eh, more surgery is hassle, I'll just be non-op down below) and really got me wondering about whether or not it's a good decision to make long-term, and your videos are really helping me with that process.
+Nathus Dorkus Im glad to hear they help. I was in the same position, lower surgery just seemed to much of a hurdle but actually, although it has been painful, it hasnt been as much of a hurdle as I thought, besides, its just a short period of difficulty for a lifetime of contentment, I feel thats worth it! Please do contact me if I can help
enjoy the new look. As far as bury/non-bury... I went into my surgery asking for all female genitalia be gone. My dysphoria of all the female parts out weighed the loss of a little sensation (because one doesn't lose it all). So, I'm over 3 months post op and I can feel the lil guy and his sensation. I know as I heal that sensation will increase. I'm so happy knowing now I have no more female parts. It was a good decision for me, but I didn't struggle with it like you are. I wish you the best in any decision you make for yourself. You're looking good Finn. Take Care Buddy
+EthanJay1261 Thanks my friend. Its good to hear yours has been successful. I really do want it gone, now that I have my penis it looks so perfect, as it should always have looked, and so getting rid of all trace of the wrong parts is something I very much want. However, I am so scared of losing sensation! It does seem that it wont be much of a loss...if anything...so it might be woth the risk as more comfortability has got to also impact sexual satisfaction too
+EthanJay1261 thank you so much. I am leaning more towards burial...but its a relief to know there is no rush to decide. I am just going to keep reflecting on it and assess it over the coming monts
Right now I'm just starting my journey from female to male. This helps so mush.
So glad to hear that my friend. Welcome to the journey!!!
I'm still trying to decide whether meta or phallio would be better for me. On top of that when I hand my hysterectomy and then again a little worse when I had my top surgery I had some issues with coming out of the anesthesia. They had a hard time keeping my oxegen levels up. And with my top surgery they apparently had some trouble with my blood pressure and heart rate too. They told me to have my doctor get me tested for sleep apnea, so it might be at least part of the problem. I definitely need to get my health better under control, especially my weight, before I can really consider bottom surgery. But this sort of logistical nightmare is partly why I keep bouncing back and forth between the types of procedures for bottom surgery. I'm so glad to have UA-cam and the rest of the internet as a resource to find others who've gone through these things already. It does help to get a wide range of peoples experiences so you can gauge what might happen for you so you can make an informed discussion, even if it's basically an educated guess that you're just praying will turn out how you envisioned. XD
Thank you for all of this. My husband has been freaking out about not being able to feel anything.
Oh bless him. Yes, results are far better now and it is rare to be left without feeling. If I can ever be of any help for either of you, please do send me a message over on my website finlaygames.com
OH! can only say you are a supreme example honesty and bravery.Great to see your practical debate with yourself If going on your explanation of the situation burying seems the way you are leaning, whatever you decide best wishes and you get more handsome by the day!!
Thank you so much for this kind comment. I've had to get very good at personal reflection over the years, and l pass this skill on to as many people as l can because it is so very necessary in this transition journey. It's stood me well in making sure decisions were right for me. Many years forward, they most certainly were! Loving your comments, thank you!
I can't wait to see you get through stage 2. With everything you've gone through so far, I just want you to not have to deal with any more discomfort from your old equipment. Thank you so much for sharing your journey!
that's just so very kind. thank you so much!
Thank you for making this video! Any information about burial or non-burial surgery is helpful, but personal experiences help me a lot.
Very glad it helped!
Love the new intro dude.
+Jesiah Mac Thanks so much! The old one was a little long...and old....fancied a freshen up, glad you like it!
AHHH a fin fix in the morn..just what I needed today, I'm sure you will figure it out, you always do
hello sir! thank you! yes my brain will suddenly spring into action and point me the right way!
I apologize if you made an update on your choice and I missed it. There are a lot of videos!! I also realize this video is older. I am finally being able to start the process and just over a month into T. I am beyond excited! Your videos have been helpful and they are amazing!!! Could you please sum up your decision and how it has been for you with the decision you made???
Hello my friend. Yes, there are a ton of videos! I need to update the index on my website!
The decision re burial was not easy but it was the right one for me. Having now completed the entire process, I think I'll make another video soon re waiting this decision a out burial, but for now, here is a link to a blog post where I discuss burial and how that impacted on sensation and orgasm.
You can also find links to my Phallo memoir and guide on my website too . Hope this helps!
finlaygames.com/phalloplasty-sensation-progress/
@@FinnTheInfinncible beyond thank you!!! I am looking for all info and POV as I can get. Surprisingly, while I know there is a lot of info out there, I don’t feel there are as many in ah-mazing detail as yours and I greatly appreciate it! THANK YOU! I will be looking forward to your updates.
Just found your videos. Im really glad you're talking about this stuff. Ive been out as FtM for a year now and theres so much to think about and decide. And for the most part im sure what i want but I still worry. Bottom surgery is something that terrifies me and your videos are helping me to understand it more. You seem like such a lovely guy and from the few videos Ive watched we have had similar experiences and think in like ways. Thanks for sharing this with us all 😊
Thank you so much for your kind message. There is so much to decide, this is a tough journey in that sense, we have to work hard to really know ourselves in order to feel confident in the choices we make. I am very glad to help in some small way with that. All the best to you!
Thank you for sharing this. Your idea of what to do is logical.
thanks my friend! I went for burial in the end. and currently two weeks post op and so far am happy with my choice!
Thanks for sharing
Thanks for watching!
Thanks for sharing! Glad there's more people on youtube sharing this info as there didnt used to be many videos about it. Lower surgery is hard to decide always many factors to consider. Personally ive constantly changed my mind about it. I was going to keep what was there but t does have adverse effects on it and it becomes less useable. I also like sensation to and tidyness to. Im between either having hysto/v closure and cliteral release or the same with thigh or abdo phallo above my cliteral release. Ive not heard of many people wanting cliteral release and phallo but i cant help but think it combines the best of both as in erotic sensation/natural erection combined with phallo which gives size, possible penertration and possible sensation. I dont want to risk the idea of sensation not returning and i really like my t dicks natural function to. Good luck for stage 2.
+ju h It is really hard to decide! So many unknowns in how you will feel after, how much sensation will return, this is a massive decision. Thanks for the well wishes and all the best for your decision making!
+FinnTheInfinncible yeah its one of those decisions that will change as its not as straight forward as with or without boobs! that was an easier choice. Good luck with the rest of your surgeries, especially because i know what the London teams like for communication and getting dates sorted.....
Thank you for sharing this. I think you’re awesome. I originally watched this to ask a question about the first surgery.
But now I have more questions! But I will ask the original question, because I can’t find the answer anywhere!:
Did you have to get any hair removal done on your groin area?
Thomas
Thank you!! How kind! I didn't have any hair removal in my groin, just on my arm but l am considering having some done. If you need to chat my friend send me an email if you like. Best way is via the contact me button on my website finlaygames.com
No advice, but I do miss St Elmo's Fire ;) Good luck with this hard (ahah, sorry) decision, hope it will all turn out like you want it to.
Lmao!!! Thanks mate :-D and yes I miss st elmo too but it was too long as an intro really and I'm surprised I've got away without being told off for copyright for so long!
Thank you, Finn!
there was a whole Embarrassing Bodies thing with Dr Christian once telling cis guys how to clean themselves properly so it's not just you! :) Keir
+Keir Taylor oh really?! Yeah, its all so much more sticky dowm there, lmao! My bollock is a dirt magnet!!!!
+FinnTheInfinncible yep lots of how to clean under the foreskn etc! you might be able to find it on channel 4 or on UA-cam. definitely not just you :)
I'm going to have a look at that. Cheers my friend!
1. Can it be 'unburied' if it's not working out?
2. Is you phallo on the NHS?
3. If so, how long was he wait?
hi mate
no it can't be unburied once it's done
yes it's on the NHS
and the wait will depend on your clinic and the stage of the journey you are at
Hey there Finn,
Thank you for replying to my question below.
I definitely need to go for the RFF phalloplasty, but because of fibromyalgia, a soft connective tissue weakness, myofascial pain disorder, I am trying to avoid as much scarring as possible. I have to do the RFF for sensation, but I want to forego the urethral lengthening, the implant and the testicle implants (my labia are actually pretty flexible and prominent, so unless someone really looked up close, I think they would just look like small testicles), preferring not to risk complications and especially unnecessary adhesions! I can pee in a stall! And I can use an elator for erection. One of my questions is about the vaginectomy. Do they require that be done? Is it possible to close the vagina up to the urethral opening and call it a day without removing the vagina? That procedure will kill me.
Hi my friend, yes, you can indeed opt out of the vaginectomy, many guys do. Its all about working out what is best for us individually, for our mental and physical health. It sounds like you have a lot to deal with, bless you
Not that it's my body or my choice. But as someone who has trouble achieving orgasm now...without having any sort of crazy surgeries....and someone who is terrified to have my junk pierced (I would have it pierced to get more sensation in hopes of having easier orgasms)...because in piercing it there is a chance that you kill all the nerves (in my case killing all chance of ever having any kind of orgasm ever again). I would say leave it unburied until you know how things are going to work and then if things are good bury it later. Just my opinion though. It's better to leave a little extra and deal with it later...than to take it all off and have no way of getting it back.
+Femalesubmissive18 Thanks my friend, I too am scared, but from my discussions with others, its rare to be left with an inability to orgasm, you just often have to re learn how to achieve it. I still swing backwards and forwards with deciding!
me again lol xx just sending a big ole lizzy hug xxx
+Liz Knight Awww! I always love one of those! Thank you!!!! xxx
We all do lol xxx hope ya both well xxx
i have had phallo and i have some sensation i am 1yr 7mo po op i have been told it ca take up to 5 yrs for all feeling to come in if i would have known about not burying it i would have waited until all my sensation came in to see if i likes it then if everything was cool then bury it if not then hey i still have lil man
+caz humprob Thank you for your comment my friend, thats very helpful to know. I have been told that even though its buried you can still find it though? Is this the case for you! feel free to message me privately if you prefer! facebook.com/transactualize/
Just stumbled across your videos and it being april of 2016 I assume this surgery is long done and you made your decision. What was your decision and how is your sensation? I really hope you didnt lose it(sensation) if you went for burial
+Lynzei Smith Hi my friend, frustratingly I am still waiting for my second stage surgery! There is an issue with a lack of hysto surgeons so here I am at now 7 months post op still waiting!!!! I have pretty much decided on burial, I just want everything tidy! I will update asap!
I'm a trans guy and I really want surgery, but I'm so scared of surgery... I'm probably just going to have top surgery and that's it... but then there's dysphoria...
Your videos help a lot though. Thank you.
Bless you mate. Just take your time and eventually if it's right for you you'll find a way to overcome the fear. I was exactly the same.
I was kind of thinking that. Thank you for posting these videos, they help a lot.
+Roiche Darragh glad to hear it, do give me a shout anytime if I can help!
+FinnTheInfinncible. Ok! 😀
Which one is best according to you
This will vary person to person, but for me I am glad I chose burial. I can still locate it if I want too, but its all neat and tidy and tucked away. I will update specifically about this at some pint. For now, I do reflect on it in some of these post phallo videos ua-cam.com/play/PL-xdbMjLqelIYaTrgQ-jo4uAJxeu2QvBL.html
@@FinnTheInfinncible thanks for your reply sir😊
where do you get your research for your info
my info comes from my doctors and surgeons and from people that have already gone through the surgery process
Bury it.. :)
I'm still trying to decide whether meta or phallio would be better for me. On top of that when I hand my hysterectomy and then again a little worse when I had my top surgery I had some issues with coming out of the anesthesia. They had a hard time keeping my oxegen levels up. And with my top surgery they apparently had some trouble with my blood pressure and heart rate too. They told me to have my doctor get me tested for sleep apnea, so it might be at least part of the problem. I definitely need to get my health better under control, especially my weight, before I can really consider bottom surgery. But this sort of logistical nightmare is partly why I keep bouncing back and forth between the types of procedures for bottom surgery. I'm so glad to have UA-cam and the rest of the internet as a resource to find others who've gone through these things already. It does help to get a wide range of peoples experiences so you can gauge what might happen for you so you can make an informed discussion, even if it's basically an educated guess that you're just praying will turn out how you envisioned. XD
Thank you for making this video! Any information about burial or non-burial surgery is helpful, but personal experiences help me a lot.
I'm still trying to decide whether meta or phallio would be better for me. On top of that when I hand my hysterectomy and then again a little worse when I had my top surgery I had some issues with coming out of the anesthesia. They had a hard time keeping my oxegen levels up. And with my top surgery they apparently had some trouble with my blood pressure and heart rate too. They told me to have my doctor get me tested for sleep apnea, so it might be at least part of the problem. I definitely need to get my health better under control, especially my weight, before I can really consider bottom surgery. But this sort of logistical nightmare is partly why I keep bouncing back and forth between the types of procedures for bottom surgery. I'm so glad to have UA-cam and the rest of the internet as a resource to find others who've gone through these things already. It does help to get a wide range of peoples experiences so you can gauge what might happen for you so you can make an informed discussion, even if it's basically an educated guess that you're just praying will turn out how you envisioned. XD
+Nicolas Burton (Mint Fox Talks) Hi my friend, being in optimum health is key as surgery takes such a huge toll on the body. The more fit and healthy you are, the less likely complications are. Making decisions is so hard, I could have not come to decisions without the help of others who shared their experience, which is why I now do the same in return. As you say, by talking with each other we can make ourseves better informed as to whats right for us and what is likely to expect. All the best to you in your decision making
FinnTheInfinncible So, true and health wise I might have waited if it hadn't have been for the fact that not having the surgery was having negative effects on my health. SO, it was a step forward I needed to take. Bottom surgery, on the other hand, I know I need to be at my best and a lot of my decision making will no doubt hing on how well I can improve my health.
I started sharing my experiences for the same reason, especially since visually impaired transguys are pretty rare.
Anyway, thanks and all the best in the decision making you still have left as well. I've been enjoying you're videos and following your progress. I've been binge watching them since I discovered them the other day. XD I'll stop rambling now. lol