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It sounds like surgery has come a really long way since my ex-husband transitioned (starting in 1999). I was with him through the whole thing and beyond (12 years). Back then, a neophallus felt more like an arm... they hadn’t done all these nerve studies. I’m so glad we’ve come along way from there. I’ve heard there is a “myth” that there is no real sexual sensation, but it wasn’t a myth back then.
Yes it has come a very long way since the early days but unfortunately its reputation hasn't. But this is changing now l think as more trans people are talking about their experiences. I will be forever grateful to trans men like your husband who were early pioneers of this incredible surgery
@@jaymefunny7424 Well, yes and no. The arm feels like an arm because of different layers of skin, fat, bone and tendons. Firstly, there is no bone in the Neo-phallus and also the skin is wrapped in a way that has a different structural density than an arm. For the person itself, it feels like a combination of the clitoral nerves giving off an erotic sensation and and the sensitive skin of the arm providing the rest. It is very much unlike an arm, since there is just no association with an arm anymore. Also- it is connected to the base of the pelvis, where dicks usually are. It’s also where the clitoral nerve starts.
@@brotchenkorner3944 it's an arm skin rolled up. No matter how many ways you slice it or dice it it's a peice of an arm and will never be a penis. Only a mentally ill delusional person would convince themselves otherwise.
Thank you! It needs to be openly talked about l feel. I want people to have the info l didnt have! Theres more info and more detail on my blog if it helps finlaygames.com
@@jaymefunny7424 Man why do ya gotta go and waste your energy like that? Being hateful literally benefits nobody. What's the point? Live and let live, for fuck's sake, it's so much easier.
You've already heard this a million times, but holy crap thank you for being so open. It's truly so helpful to know what the *actual* experience with bottom surgery is instead of just all the technical surgery stuff!!
I never get sick of hearing it! I am really pleased these are so helpful, Im hoping the book Im writing will help even more! Always feel free to message should you need any help. You can reach me easily over on finlaygames.com
I am not nor have i ever wanted to be male but i do love to learn about these type of things (especially being considered pansexual) and i left this video feeling extremely informed
Thank you so much, you are the only person I could find who has addressed this topic and it's really put my mind at ease. The sensation is something i was really scared of, but this makes me feel a lot better. Im very thankful to know all the gorey details.
Thank you for that lovely feedback! I'm very glad to help. I have additional resources over on my website if it helps! finlaygames.com/category/gender-transition/
Hey Perez! Saw your lovely face on the news last night and that made me remember this comment! I have now published my lower surgery memoir and it is due out in April, it might fascinate you even more! More details and an exclusive reading here finlaygames.com/my-books/
I'm still a baby trans who's been terrified of transitioning/phalloplasty in particular, but I came across this somehow and I just feel so much better about my options and what the future will be like :)
I can understand those fears. Remember, there is no rush, take your time to work out what you need. The more time you take, the more certain of your decisions you will be. I am glad this video was helpful. If I can be of any further help or you need some more resources, do pop over to my website finlaygames.com/welcome/
You weren't born in the wrong body. You're perfect the way you are. You are valid just the way you are and if youre in distress try therapy to work it out.
Your fear is justified. Yes a future of incontinence, bladder infections, kiddney infection, possible sepsis and countless surgeries to repair the mutiluation to fix something that wasnt broken. Any woman or girl who wants to cut off parts of their arm, have it rolled up to a tube and sewn on to their vagina so they can pee standing up NEEDS therapy. These Doctors see desperate mentally unwell people and take advantage, offer experimental sugeries and collect payday after payday. And adults showed know better.
I got recommended to your videos by someone on the r/FTM subreddit. I just wanted to say that, as a trans guy looking to get lower surgery in the future, these videos have been *extremely* helpful to me. Thank you so much for posting them. I’m glad you feel confident enough to share such a personal part of your life with us. Good luck with the rest of your journey!
I only just saw this comment, thank goodness I found your email! Thanks for the kind feedback, It makes my day to know I help. Its not easy to be this transparent, but it is necessary I think, I want people to have access to more info than I had when I started this journey. Have you set up the subreddit yet?
So glad to hear this was helpful! Welcome to the most amazing journey! If you need any more resources or support, pop over to my website finlaygames.com
Thank you so much, Finn, for making these videos, especially for making these kinds of ones that are really personal, because even as a trans guy who knows most things already I learn so much from you that I've never heard anyone else talk about and this sort of information is invaluable to me
Thank you so much for the appreciation my friend, its not easy to talk about but knowing that it is helpful, makes feeling a bit vulnerable, very worthwhile!
I'm a gay trans man as well and your videos have been helping me with my dysphoria tonight, thank you so much! I'm hoping to get phallo as soon as I can afford it or get insurance to cover it and hearing your experiences makes me feel so comfortable and excited.
This has got to be the best informative talk about Phalloplasty ever screened done in such a friendly common sense way you are a gem .Thank-you for explaining this procedure. It is also the fact that you are enjoying your amazing creation to fuller enjoyment is great to hear! Best wishes X.
Hey, I’d just like to thank you for making this video, I don’t think I’ve ever seen a better video on phalloplasty and I really appreciate this information from a more experienced trans man. As a person who is between considering metoidioplasty or phalloplasty this has been incredibly helpful
Hey Finn, I talked to you last year. I've had 4 surgeries so far. I'm all hooked up bro! Most humbling & wonderful experience of my life. Waited 52 years for my wanker and I love him!! I really appreciate your videos. I needed to hear that I need to heal and be patient. Your a kind soul to share your experience so openly. I thank you for that. Keep well my friend.
Love how mature you handle this, this should be talked about more! It's important to know about this stuff, whether you're trans yourself or are with a trans person. It shouldn't be awkward or uncomfortable to talk about. Great video!
I absolutely agree, and its especially needed for those of us in relationship types/identites that are rarely seen and talked about. Thank you for such lovely feedback!
Gosh. I hope you're a counselor or working with medical doctors, because your descriptions are so thorough and thoughtful. They would truly help someone walk through the woods of this transition. I simply came here because of listening to a man who didn't have a successful surgery and now is considering having his useless phallus removed. He has no regrets about transitioning, but his phalloplasty did not work (2006 operations may have something to do with it's non success). It's good to hear the operation is more successful. I wish you all the best. I hope someone is paying you to support FTM men considering this operation. You would be helpful.
What a lovely compliment, thank you! I am , as we speak developing a freelance content creation business, which will bring in some much needed cash I love doing what I do, helping others, but I also need to make a living! I have a Ko-fi page, where kind people donate when Ive helped them with something. Im also writing my memoirs, for self/traditional publishing. I will always do UA-cam, I always want people to be able to access resources, regardless of income, but the plan is to have other revenue streams support me. I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I cannot even begin to imagine how devastating that must be for him. Will he re try do you think?
@@FinnTheInfinncible This is not a personal friend. It's someone I saw on youtube also. I've never heard the medical transition explained in such detail. It is a leap of faith for the client on the part of the surgeon's skill, and a leap of hope.. Whew... I would encourage you to consult with the medical people who transitioned you to see if they have counselor staff they know who might work with on to explain transition. Since you UNDERWENT it, you have firsthand knowledge that is invaluable. This video is your resume. You could be in charge of a support group and get paid for that work under the supervision of a therapist. If you're interested in doing such work, you might want to get certified or degreed There are paths to either. It won't be easy to get all these ducks in a row, but your skills are far above average. You might want to partner with a MTF person with similar skills and experience. Much larger group to counsel with. It's up to what you feel comfortable doing: in person paid work or less personal video work. There is a market for both. For less affluent people, the video support might be all they can afford. For more affluent people who aren't shy, in person work might be the extra support they need to make it through. Heavens, you could be a counselor for people who think or may be ready for transition. Not just medical. But living as the oppposite gender. Again, firsthand experience from a counselor is unique. Dunno if any of this applies or interests you. I think you have a gift. Happy trails.
I just had to stop watching another UA-cam video to watch this, I love your content. I haven’t watched the video yet but I know it’s gonna be goooooood
Good for you Finn. I'm very proud of you for making this video and trying to educate people. I enjoyed it. I'm a straight female and I really learned something that I was always curious about.
thank you for this! i'm turning legal soon and started researching into more things as i know my transition journey is going to develop soon as i work my way through adulthood. i've been reading and watching videos on these topics so i know when it comes time i will know what surgeries i'll want. by far the most helpful video ive seen so far!
Thank you so very much for that lovely comment! You are very wise to be doing lots of research, being well prepared is key in this journey! I am wishing you all the best, pop over to my website anytime for more resouces or to massge me if you need anything finlaygames.com
Found this so interesting and informative. My mate has had top surgery many years ago but only this year had a hysterectomy. His next major step is bottom surgery and this video has certainly given me an insight on what he's going to go through. Thanks for posting 😊
So happy that you chose to share your story. Your courage has been phenomenal. I know nothing about your style of life. I truly enjoyed your story, and respect you tremendously. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE YOUR SHIRT!
Very glad it was helpful, I have made it my mission to create the kinds of content II wish Id had access to at the start of my phalloplasty. I have more phallo content on my blog if it helps? finlaygames.com/category/gender-and-sexuality/
I only figured out I was trans last year, I've been anxious about surgeries and medical treatment but this video actually really helped me clear some things that are very important to me up, thank you
Thank you for making these videos and talking about how it’s more than surgery to get to healing. I hope one day I get where you are. You’re such a wonderful and open person and I’ve buried myself so far in the closet I don’t know how to get out. Seeing how far you’ve come gives me some much needed hope. -Nico
Baby Trans man here, this is so incredibly helpful, my bottom dysphoria has been becoming intense since starting transitioning but i was too afraid of Phallo because there are hardly any in depth experiences out there. This seriously helped, and also made me certain that i am gonna get it in the near future hopefully :)
Hello and welcome! Thanks you for your lovely comment, I am so glad this video helped, this is exactly why I make these very frank videos, to help people overcome fear and make the best decisions for themselves. I am very glad to help and you can access more info and resources on my website here finlaygames.com/welcome/
I have been waiting for so many years for getting the information, that I feel now it´s too late. Thank you so, so much to talk so openly. I am so happy, you are living the life I might have. Wish you all the best.
My dear friend it is never too late, age and number has nothing to do with happiness and persuing dreams goals and wishes. I've seen people transition as old as their 80's!
@@FinnTheInfinncible Really? Thank you for the words of support, I´ll think about it. But I have already been doing lots of thinking already, like what´s important to me. Sure I would like to get me some cute boyfriend, but the truth is. I am autistic on top of everything, the nerd behind computer and I do not really like to to deal with people face to face. I´ve always acted more like a man, than a woman and now I even look like one with simple haircut. The way my hair grows, how my hairs grow all over my body, no boobs, the way I dress and always did. I do have a daughter and two grandsons and they call me Sofu(grandpa in Japanese). Also I live in the really tight community, the people I told totally were not surprised.-You never acted like a woman. It makes sense. and this one is good. So you now going to date girls? -No I am not going to change anything. And my daughter asked if she is supposed to call me pops, that was odd. I have realized that my friends never took me as a woman (I am a member of a historic fencing group), there was a dude that came one day and said that he is going to seduce me anyway and the whole group, me including, laughed so hard it shook the floor. It was a long sleepless night, but I have came to terms with myself. I will always be me and since I really enjoy my solitary life with friends outside my flat, my sanctuary, I am good the way I am. Also I have really good psychiatrist and very good pills. Still I believe you are doing great job for people like us, talking about your story as openly as you are.
There is never one right path, other than the path that is right for us! I'm glad you have made peace with yourself and found your way forward, that's wonderful to hear!
I so intensely appreciate this video, and it does help me a lot to hear your experiences. I think the thing I worry about most is going through the beginning stages of bottom surgery, because I read other transmasc folks talking about how *long* the healing takes...... And while being that careful and caring to my healing body for that long seems like a small cost comparatively to a lifetime of not feeling quite right; frankly, the idea of not having literally any erotic sensation available to my body in any way for over a year had made me disheartened. The idea that I'd be able to at least use my native anatomy for the period between no sensation and new sensation in a phalloplasty is very helpful to me; and hearing about the not necessarily linear changes in sensation is SO informative and helpful. Thank you so much for posting this, Finn. You're a great help to the community.
Thank you so much for such a lovely comment. Yes, l had the same worries, not only about losing sensation permanently but also about how long between stages ld have anatomy that didnt function. I was relieved to find that l could immediately still use my old equipment while l waited for sensation in my new penis to grow. I am so glad to be able to pass this info on!
Thank you so much for this video, I live in the UK and it’s so comforting how amazing the surgeons are. Love your videos, they really help me. All the best ❤️
Thank you for being so honest! I have learnt a lot from this video and it has started to completely change my personal view of phallo as a surgery, I am surprised at how much I didn't know or got wrong.
There are so many myths out there, I was put off by them in the beginning until I discovered the truth. Very glad to have helped and I hope my other phallo info helps you too.
thank you so much for being so open about this. im in the process of coming out to my family and starting my transition and this is something that ive been very stressed out about for a long time. i have massive bottom dysphoria but i had no real information about how phalloplasty works so your videos have helped me out immensely. thank you thank you thank you
Wow, you are so articulate about such a personal subject. I'm just in awe of your openness but we really need people like you who are brave enough to talk about this. I'm so impressed by your honesty. I hope you are getting on well in your life 🖤
What a lovely thing to say! Thank you so much. Its been really important to me to create honest content on this tricky topic, my mission is to create the kind of content I wished I'd had access to. Thank you for your kind words and for watching, life is good thank you!
THANK YOU! You are the first person I've seen to actually talk about this, which this question has been the one I've been most concerned about. I haven't started transitioning at all yet, but in the future, I want to be on T and get top, but I was concerned about bottom surgery. Specifically the sensation parts, but this made me feel much more at eased! So thank you so much!
Thank you for your lovely comment, makes me very happy to recive messages like yours! These are not the easiest videos to make, so knowing they are appreciated means the world. Phalloplasty is improving greatly and now outcomes are consistantly good, including sensation. If you would like any more info, I have a ton of blogs and resources to compliment these videos on my website finlaygames.com/phalloplasty-sensation-progress/
@@FinnTheInfinncible Hey! I know it's been a long time since we had this talk, and you probably won't even see this message due to how old this video is, but I wanted to share with you that I'm on T now. Tomorrow I'll be doing my second shot. I just wanted to say thank you again. The older generations of trans people have made it easier for young trans folk such as myself to gain access towards life saving steps. We wouldn't be where we are without people like you, openly sharing your experiences for others to learn. So even though I'm just a stranger on the internet, I want to thank you, sincerely, from the bottom of my heart; thank you for being you.
@@lefthandersrule9419 oh buddy just found this message and it made my heart swell! Congrats on starting T! How incredible to see you take such a huge leap forward in your journey! We are all here because of people before us, paying it forward gives me much pleasure and joy!
Well done the most concise and easy to understand explanation of this delicate subject and friendly to ,what a gem you are for people who are trying to understand this procedure,keep going so proud you are from the U.K please take care in these uncertain times.
I’ve been out for 10 years, on hormones for two, and I’ve always been intimidated by the idea of phallo. I didn’t want it at all at first because I was still somewhat attached to what I have now out of familiarity but your videos not only helped me realize that phallo is exactly what I want, but also helped me finally accept that I’m gay? Idk how those two things correlate but I’m grateful I found your content and that you’re so open. This is exactly the type of info I was looking for, and your personality just makes it that much more digestible.
I’m not really sure how to label myself. I was born as a female and while I’ve grown accustomed to my upper body and I have so much bottom dysphoria that I literally get suicidal and have anxiety attacks on my period. It’s worse when I have sex (with girls) because I feel like a part of me is missing in sex. I think I want to identify as bigender but i don’t care for labels. I’m in the process of getting bottom surgery with a therapist!! Thank you for guiding me through with your videos for so long :) I hope I can one day be comfortable with my body like you. You’re a role for me man!
What a lovely comment, thank you so much! It isnt always easy to find who we are, especially in a society where examples of gendrer diversity are not made obvious. I am glad to hear you are finding your way with a great therapist! Im also glad to hear my videos have helped!
Thank you, thank you, thank you! Amazing video. Absolutely spot-on about having to put the work in to come to terms with our situations, too. Thank you for sharing
As a parent to a wonderful trans teen, your willingness to be so open and honest about your transition is so so helpful! You’re an awesome person! Thanks again!
This wonderful trans teen is fortunate to have such a supportive parent. As a parent i cannot imagine any other option other than unconditional love and support for your child. Well done.
What a fantastic video and what a great guy you seem to be! Phalloplasty isn't very talked about so I loved listening to this firsthand experience. Thank you!!
What a lovely comment! Thank you so much. And yes, it is really hard to find first hand accounts of phalloplasty, which is why I share so openly, here on my chanel, and in my blogs and upcoming book! You can find more info and resources here if it helps finlaygames.com/welcome/
Really interesting stuff. Isn't the nervous system bizarre? I mean it tells you what you feel whether there's "evidence" of the cause or not. Really makes you question what defines what is real.
Very glad you found this helpful, it isnt an easy thinh to talk about, but it is so vital. There is more phallo and trans related stuff over on my website if its helpful finlaygames.com
Thank you so much for your information! I've been wavering about bottom surgeries and what I want for myself to be happy and content with who I am. You've given me great info to consider!!
Im late to watch this video, but what a great video!!! Very informative and hopeful for folks looking to have surgery or are going thru the feels of what they currently have post operatively.
Thanks so much my friend, thats wonderful feedback! I have also written a book, an indepth memoir and guide of the decision making, surgery process and coming to know my changed body. Its available everywhere you buy books, and I also sell signed copies on my Ko-fi friends of Finn page! ko-fi.com/finlaygames/shop
Just coming across this - but it's exactly what I needed to hear :) I have had stage 1 for a couple of years now and am trying to push forward onto stage 2 and 3. Getting the v-nectomy has been terrifying me because I have not been able to just get off through stimulation of my penis. There are some spots that I use to make things easier while doing direct stimulation to my OEM bits. I've recently begun to realize that I need to have the v-nectomy so knowing that things change even after 2 years is really helpful!
OEM bits! LOVE the use of that! Very glad this video was helpful. I struggled with the V choices too, I was so afraid Id lose the ability to feel good and orgasm etc. I talk about this a LOT more in tmy Phallolasty memoir you can find that here 👉finlaygames.com/my-books/ And if its helpful, I made a bideo about my own vaginectomy process, decision making, fears etc 👉 ua-cam.com/video/bbX3__Mh-7w/v-deo.html
You are such a beautiful human being, you have probably helped so many people with your video. Myself personally just wanted to understand more about this topic, a gay man myself I have a lot of love and respect for our trans community and this really helped me understand even more.
Hello my friend, thank you so much for such lovely comments! I'm very glad the video helps, I just like to make the type of content I wish I'd had access to, and to know it changes minds and hearts about trans people makes me very happy, thank you!
Thank you so so so much for being so open about this. It's hard to find information on trans folks experiences in text form in a quick google search, and it's even more difficult to actually visualise what they're talking about considering how many medical terms gotta be used. The hand gestures and casual explanation really go a long way to help me understand just what this stuff means. Idk if I'll ever even get a surgery like this, I'm fairly indecisive and kind of wanna have both bits if that makes any sense? But it's so comforting to know that there is indeed sensation
Thank you so much for your lovely comment. Yes, the lack of information makes this surgery so much more difficult doesnt it? And what we really need is first hand information, from folks who have been through it. Keeping both bits is possible, and does indeed make sense. Did you know that I have just had my phalloplasty memoir published? finlaygames.com/my-books/
i am questioning a lot, and i have been watching all kinds of videos about transitioning in general but so far you have been the best at teaching. although i'm still trying to figure myself out, i hope soon enough i can understand it all. thank you!
This is such lovely feedback thank you! Watching lots of vids, reading lots of blogs, talking to folks, writing down thought's, these can all really be helpful in figuring things out. Take your time and I promise it'll all make sense! I have lost more information on my website too if it helps finlaygames.com
@@FinnTheInfinncible thank you so much! i'll definitely be sure to check it out! once again, thank you so much for your help in this community. bless you!
As a trans guy who recently came out I know ill need to work to get to know my body when the changes start and hearing another trans guy talk about it openly is encouraging. Thank you for everything
Yes, it does take work, its a two way street with transition.Our bodies change and then we put the work in! I am very grateful for your appreciation, Im so glad my videos help. I have more content over on my website too! finlaygames.com
Hiya finn, great to see u again. I love learning from you, you explain everything so so well. Hope you have had a great day, also hope Chris is feeling a bit better x lots of love xxxx
I’m pre T thinking about bottom surgery in the future but some people bottom surgery doesn’t go well & that’s what has mhe scared & your videos help mhe a lot thanks for being so open & helpful
Helly my friend, thanks for watching and for your lovely comment. Lower surgery does often have a lot of complications, it is a big surgery, but complications get resolved and the end result is now more consistently good. If I can ever help, I have more resources over on my website, and I offer support and advice too. You can find me here: finlaygames.com/welcome/
Im FTM, and Im pretty sure I dont want bottom surgery, but I really enjoy watching these types of videos to keep the option open :P I really appreciate it!
Thanks for watching and for your kind appreciation! I have made it my mission to create the kinds of content I wished Id had access too. My phallo memoir comes out in April 2021, Im hoping that will helpmany people like you! I have lots more info over on my webiste too if its helpful finlaygames.com/welcome/
My dear Finn I’m happy really happy for you!!!! You are a hope for who is at the biginning of the process. Your willpower has awarded you. Now live your life totally and joyfully!!! 👍😉😘
Oh my goodness! You have seriously got me covered. I have watched your videos since I was a young and now, as expected, I am a trans man 😂 Your videos are great and so so so informative. Also, I had to do an art project about Glastonbury Festival!!! And then your videos popped up for that too!!! AHH thank you 🙏🏼❤️
FinnTheInfinncible so sorry!! Didn’t see your reply! And basically I got a merit so far but I need to add one little thing to make it a distinction piece of work!! So very well. Thank you so much! 😁
Adored This video Finn, you learn something new every day! I've certainly Learned a lot from you're video today, it is a well thought out and worded video for sure. Love to you and Fur Fur and Lamby.
Bless you buddy, l am so glad it helps. The blog l am creating will hopefully really help too, to map out sensation over the last 4 years. Thanks for such lovely words
I love your videos you’re such a cool and funny person 😎 it’s also great that you’re so open and honest about mental health and about your transition. Congratulations on becoming the real you and building such a fabulous and happy life ☺️
You’re very welcome ☺️I’ve been watching your videos for a while now from afar in Aus but haven’t gotten around to making a comment yet lol. I loved your Glastonbury vlogs and I love how open you are! I haven’t been able to watch your vids on your Mum yet though cause I’m still getting over the loss of both of my parents over the last 2 years 😢. I’m a straight, middle aged cis woman lol but just relate to warm, open, caring people ☺️
Thanks my friend! I made sure to take good care of my healing and scar care, here more infor on how I dd that: finlaygames.com/best-scar-care-products-for-surgery-recovery/
@@FinnTheInfinncible thank you! this is actually a wonderful resource, not just for surgical scarring. I scar like it’s some kind of skill. If I get cut, even lightly, or if there are any pimples or blemishes that pop up around my body, I can leave them alone forever and they’ll turn into very dark scars.
Very glad this video helped thanks for letting me know! I have also written a phalloplasty memoir which goes into much more detail about the decision making process, the surgery and the recovery, more info about that here finlaygames.com/my-books/
I don’t know how I got here... I was looking at ferret videos. BUT... your a strong person to get through this mess of being born the wrong gender. I always thought I was non-binary but now I realize I’m just me, a semi-masculine female, and I don’t believe that exists. But I can’t imagine what people who scientifically have MALE brains or FEMALE brains and are born into the opposite body go thru, geeze. This surgery must have cost millions, it’s so frickin intricate! I really wish I knew you in person bc you are a chill person and I bet you would let me see the surgeons work! It’s gotta be amazing!
I LOVE that ferrets brought you here! How random! And yes, being trans is an incredibly painful experience, but thank goodness that we can now access treatment and surgery and find peace in ourselves, I am very grateful for that! And it is completely up to you how you define your gender, semi masculine female sounds perfectly reasonable! Thank you so much for watching, and for your lovely comment!
Phalloplasty just about killed one of my best friends which opened the door to a support group of many ftm's suffering from intense complications and worsened gender dysphoria after surgery. I remember being allured myself by the glamourization of this procedure. I hope anyone enticed by the thumbnail and video or reading this reconsiders. My best friend now uses a walker. Please love yourself as you are.
I'm truly sorry to hear of your friend. This is major surgery, and carries risks, the same as any major surgery does. So of course compliactuons can happen but also it can be very successful , as it has been in my case. I share very honestly, about the good and the bad of surgery, its important that people can access balanced information so that they can make informed decisions.
Phalloplasty was meant for men with penis abnormalities, not for women who want to become men. This isn't just another procedure with risks, it's unnecessary, unnatural, perverse harm to the body.
I know that I want top surgery and t but when it comes to bottom surgery I really want phalloplasty but it's terrifying to think about having to take skin from somewhere else
I understand my friend, it was a concern for me too.l just took my time to work through it and now I'm very pleased I went ahead and very pleased with the outcome of my graft arm, especially now I have had it tattooed.You might feel differently later on. More resources over on my website if it helps! finlaygames.com
Thank you for covering this topic the way you have! So many people tend to avoid it which (i feel in myself) causes more blind anxiety going into the idea of surgery, plus people who do talk about it tend to be from other countries 😂 thank you so much 💙
My absolute pleasure my friend! Thank you very much for your appreciation and kind words. I really struggled in early day to make decisions with lower surgery, because there was such little info. Now, I make it my mission to creat the kind of content I wished I'd had access too. There are some more blog over on my website, and I am always happy to help if I can finlaygames.com
Referred sensation is not actually as uncommon as you’d think. Nerves are weird and human growth is even weirder. You’re probably familiar with the left arm pain that doctors warn about if you’re having a heart attack. There aren’t any pain sensing nerves around the heart and pericardium, but the body has adapted in such a way that the pain sensation is sent to the nerves of the arm. The swelling irritates specific nerves that lead to the arm. When I have upper right quadrant abdominal pain, especially if it’s gallbladder pain because I have passed a gallstone-0/10, do not recommend-I feel it in my shoulder. That’s of course not a one-to-one comparison, but I’ll give you one that I’ve discovered and hate. I’ve noticed if that something touches the sole of my left foot in a specific way, I can feel it directly my groin around both sets of labia. It is very awkward and I’m not a huge fan of feet, but it’s there and I think it’s always been there.
Hey there! So to be completely honest I have some differentiating opinions when it comes to this topic, but I do believe people have the right to do what they want to do, no one should ever be treated differently for ANY reason (race, gender, age, religion, sexuality, etc) (and am a homosexual woman myself), but I love and respect that your videos are informative, spoken with an insightful and respectful tone, and are self reflective and also are specific to your personal experiences and not a blanket experience assuming it's the same for everyone. Thanks for sharing! Ps Very happy everything has worked out for you and you healed healthily and found success! ❤
Oh that's a lovely thing to say! That makes me so happy! Welcome to the FinnFam! I look forward to seeing you around the comment section! I have a blog too if you fancy having a look and getting more of me! finlaygames.com
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Random but are you a gay male now?
human bodies are the coolest things. its insane how nerves work
I absolutely agree with that!
I'm so stupid I read that as "human boobies are the coolest things"
@@gage3180 the sound that came out of my mouth from reading this
Was unholy
This made me cackle
It sounds like surgery has come a really long way since my ex-husband transitioned (starting in 1999). I was with him through the whole thing and beyond (12 years). Back then, a neophallus felt more like an arm... they hadn’t done all these nerve studies. I’m so glad we’ve come along way from there. I’ve heard there is a “myth” that there is no real sexual sensation, but it wasn’t a myth back then.
Yes it has come a very long way since the early days but unfortunately its reputation hasn't. But this is changing now l think as more trans people are talking about their experiences. I will be forever grateful to trans men like your husband who were early pioneers of this incredible surgery
It's still feels like an arm because it is arm skin sewn to a viagina.
@@jaymefunny7424 Well, yes and no. The arm feels like an arm because of different layers of skin, fat, bone and tendons. Firstly, there is no bone in the Neo-phallus and also the skin is wrapped in a way that has a different structural density than an arm.
For the person itself, it feels like a combination of the clitoral nerves giving off an erotic sensation and and the sensitive skin of the arm providing the rest.
It is very much unlike an arm, since there is just no association with an arm anymore.
Also- it is connected to the base of the pelvis, where dicks usually are. It’s also where the clitoral nerve starts.
@@brotchenkorner3944 it's an arm skin rolled up. No matter how many ways you slice it or dice it it's a peice of an arm and will never be a penis. Only a mentally ill delusional person would convince themselves otherwise.
@@jaymefunny7424 you could've just said you're transphobic from the beginning
You’re the only person I’ve ever found to cover this properly!
Thank you! It needs to be openly talked about l feel. I want people to have the info l didnt have! Theres more info and more detail on my blog if it helps finlaygames.com
It's so amazing that you're actually able to feel sensation from using your 'bits'. Those surgeons are talented
Its incredible isnt it! Thanks for watching!
Yes its incredible that the overwhelmingly majority loose sexual funtion after genitail mutilation surgery.
@@jaymefunny7424 Man why do ya gotta go and waste your energy like that? Being hateful literally benefits nobody. What's the point? Live and let live, for fuck's sake, it's so much easier.
You've already heard this a million times, but holy crap thank you for being so open. It's truly so helpful to know what the *actual* experience with bottom surgery is instead of just all the technical surgery stuff!!
I never get sick of hearing it! I am really pleased these are so helpful, Im hoping the book Im writing will help even more! Always feel free to message should you need any help. You can reach me easily over on finlaygames.com
I am not nor have i ever wanted to be male but i do love to learn about these type of things (especially being considered pansexual) and i left this video feeling extremely informed
Very pleased to hear that and glad to help!
Cis, straight female here. I agree!
Thank you so much, you are the only person I could find who has addressed this topic and it's really put my mind at ease. The sensation is something i was really scared of, but this makes me feel a lot better. Im very thankful to know all the gorey details.
Thank you for that lovely feedback! I'm very glad to help. I have additional resources over on my website if it helps! finlaygames.com/category/gender-transition/
I don’t know how I ended up on this video - but this was fascinating to watch!
Well hello hello! I love it when people stumble upon me at random, lovely to have you here, glad you enjoyed the video, stick around for more! :)
Hey Perez! Saw your lovely face on the news last night and that made me remember this comment! I have now published my lower surgery memoir and it is due out in April, it might fascinate you even more! More details and an exclusive reading here finlaygames.com/my-books/
I'm still a baby trans who's been terrified of transitioning/phalloplasty in particular, but I came across this somehow and I just feel so much better about my options and what the future will be like :)
I can understand those fears. Remember, there is no rush, take your time to work out what you need. The more time you take, the more certain of your decisions you will be. I am glad this video was helpful. If I can be of any further help or you need some more resources, do pop over to my website finlaygames.com/welcome/
You weren't born in the wrong body. You're perfect the way you are. You are valid just the way you are and if youre in distress try therapy to work it out.
@@jaymefunny7424 I don't need therapy for being trans, thanks.
Your fear is justified. Yes a future of incontinence, bladder infections, kiddney infection, possible sepsis and countless surgeries to repair the mutiluation to fix something that wasnt broken. Any woman or girl who wants to cut off parts of their arm, have it rolled up to a tube and sewn on to their vagina so they can pee standing up NEEDS therapy. These Doctors see desperate mentally unwell people and take advantage, offer experimental sugeries and collect payday after payday. And adults showed know better.
@@FinnTheInfinncible its creepy when ADULTS solicit on the internet to people who are very possilbly UNDERANGE.
I got recommended to your videos by someone on the r/FTM subreddit. I just wanted to say that, as a trans guy looking to get lower surgery in the future, these videos have been *extremely* helpful to me. Thank you so much for posting them. I’m glad you feel confident enough to share such a personal part of your life with us. Good luck with the rest of your journey!
I only just saw this comment, thank goodness I found your email! Thanks for the kind feedback, It makes my day to know I help. Its not easy to be this transparent, but it is necessary I think, I want people to have access to more info than I had when I started this journey. Have you set up the subreddit yet?
Newly discovered trans guy here who's just figuring things out and this was very helpful thank you so much for this!
So glad to hear this was helpful! Welcome to the most amazing journey! If you need any more resources or support, pop over to my website finlaygames.com
Thank you so much, Finn, for making these videos, especially for making these kinds of ones that are really personal, because even as a trans guy who knows most things already I learn so much from you that I've never heard anyone else talk about and this sort of information is invaluable to me
Thank you so much for the appreciation my friend, its not easy to talk about but knowing that it is helpful, makes feeling a bit vulnerable, very worthwhile!
I know this is very personal stuff. I'm not trans, but the cure for ignorance is always knowledge. So thank you for sharing I learned a lot.
Absolutely it is! I always hope that everyone, trans or not, will get something from my content, so thank you!
I'm a gay trans man as well and your videos have been helping me with my dysphoria tonight, thank you so much! I'm hoping to get phallo as soon as I can afford it or get insurance to cover it and hearing your experiences makes me feel so comfortable and excited.
Ah your comment just made my day! I am so glad my vieo helped!
That's so sad. You can still like things men like without denying your womanhood.
This has got to be the best informative talk about Phalloplasty ever screened done in such a friendly common sense way you are a gem .Thank-you for explaining this procedure. It is also the fact that you are enjoying your amazing creation to fuller enjoyment is great to hear! Best wishes X.
Thank you for sharing this very personal aspect of your journey. Always graceful and eloquent.
That's such a lovely way to describe me, thank you so much!
Hey, I’d just like to thank you for making this video, I don’t think I’ve ever seen a better video on phalloplasty and I really appreciate this information from a more experienced trans man. As a person who is between considering metoidioplasty or phalloplasty this has been incredibly helpful
My pleasure! Very glad it was helpful. Deciding is not easy, just take your time.
Hey Finn, I talked to you last year. I've had 4 surgeries so far. I'm all hooked up bro! Most humbling & wonderful experience of my life. Waited 52 years for my wanker and I love him!! I really appreciate your videos. I needed to hear that I need to heal and be patient. Your a kind soul to share your experience so openly. I thank you for that. Keep well my friend.
Ah my friend this makes me absolutely over the moon for you lm thrilled! I'm so glad to have been able to help along the way, what an honour!
What a Finntastic informative video!! Much love and respect to you and Fur Fur. :)
Thank you my dear friend! Much love to you too, from us both!
Love how mature you handle this, this should be talked about more! It's important to know about this stuff, whether you're trans yourself or are with a trans person. It shouldn't be awkward or uncomfortable to talk about. Great video!
I absolutely agree, and its especially needed for those of us in relationship types/identites that are rarely seen and talked about. Thank you for such lovely feedback!
Gosh. I hope you're a counselor or working with medical doctors, because your descriptions are so thorough and thoughtful. They would truly help someone walk through the woods of this transition. I simply came here because of listening to a man who didn't have a successful surgery and now is considering having his useless phallus removed. He has no regrets about transitioning, but his phalloplasty did not work (2006 operations may have something to do with it's non success). It's good to hear the operation is more successful. I wish you all the best. I hope someone is paying you to support FTM men considering this operation. You would be helpful.
What a lovely compliment, thank you! I am , as we speak developing a freelance content creation business, which will bring in some much needed cash I love doing what I do, helping others, but I also need to make a living! I have a Ko-fi page, where kind people donate when Ive helped them with something. Im also writing my memoirs, for self/traditional publishing. I will always do UA-cam, I always want people to be able to access resources, regardless of income, but the plan is to have other revenue streams support me.
I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I cannot even begin to imagine how devastating that must be for him. Will he re try do you think?
@@FinnTheInfinncible This is not a personal friend. It's someone I saw on youtube also. I've never heard the medical transition explained in such detail. It is a leap of faith for the client on the part of the surgeon's skill, and a leap of hope.. Whew... I would encourage you to consult with the medical people who transitioned you to see if they have counselor staff they know who might work with on to explain transition. Since you UNDERWENT it, you have firsthand knowledge that is invaluable. This video is your resume. You could be in charge of a support group and get paid for that work under the supervision of a therapist. If you're interested in doing such work, you might want to get certified or degreed There are paths to either. It won't be easy to get all these ducks in a row, but your skills are far above average. You might want to partner with a MTF person with similar skills and experience. Much larger group to counsel with. It's up to what you feel comfortable doing: in person paid work or less personal video work. There is a market for both. For less affluent people, the video support might be all they can afford. For more affluent people who aren't shy, in person work might be the extra support they need to make it through. Heavens, you could be a counselor for people who think or may be ready for transition. Not just medical. But living as the oppposite gender. Again, firsthand experience from a counselor is unique. Dunno if any of this applies or interests you. I think you have a gift. Happy trails.
I just had to stop watching another UA-cam video to watch this, I love your content. I haven’t watched the video yet but I know it’s gonna be goooooood
Ah bless you! Thank you so much, enjoy, lol!
Good for you Finn. I'm very proud of you for making this video and trying to educate people. I enjoyed it. I'm a straight female and I really learned something that I was always curious about.
Thank you so much for this lovely comment!
thanks for getting directly to the point and not sugar coating everything!
My pleasure! Thanks for watching!
thank you for this! i'm turning legal soon and started researching into more things as i know my transition journey is going to develop soon as i work my way through adulthood. i've been reading and watching videos on these topics so i know when it comes time i will know what surgeries i'll want. by far the most helpful video ive seen so far!
Thank you so very much for that lovely comment! You are very wise to be doing lots of research, being well prepared is key in this journey! I am wishing you all the best, pop over to my website anytime for more resouces or to massge me if you need anything finlaygames.com
Found this so interesting and informative. My mate has had top surgery many years ago but only this year had a hysterectomy. His next major step is bottom surgery and this video has certainly given me an insight on what he's going to go through. Thanks for posting 😊
I am very glad it helped and thanks for watching!
So happy that you chose to share your story. Your courage has been phenomenal. I know nothing about your style of life. I truly enjoyed your story, and respect you tremendously. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE YOUR SHIRT!
What an absolutely lovely comment, thank you so much!
This is so informative, I randomly came across it and have never seen another video actually going into detail of the tactile effects of phalloplasty.
Very glad it was helpful, I have made it my mission to create the kinds of content II wish Id had access to at the start of my phalloplasty. I have more phallo content on my blog if it helps? finlaygames.com/category/gender-and-sexuality/
I only figured out I was trans last year, I've been anxious about surgeries and medical treatment but this video actually really helped me clear some things that are very important to me up, thank you
I am very glad this video helped! I hope things are going well and you are gradually making sense of this journey!
Thank you for making these videos and talking about how it’s more than surgery to get to healing. I hope one day I get where you are. You’re such a wonderful and open person and I’ve buried myself so far in the closet I don’t know how to get out. Seeing how far you’ve come gives me some much needed hope. -Nico
Bless you buddy, its little steps, that is how we get anywhere, on any journey and out of any closet. Much strength to you.
Thanks for this, my partner asked about sensation the other evening.. and I couldnt tell her.. so im glad I found your video 😍
Very glad to help!
Baby Trans man here, this is so incredibly helpful, my bottom dysphoria has been becoming intense since starting transitioning but i was too afraid of Phallo because there are hardly any in depth experiences out there. This seriously helped, and also made me certain that i am gonna get it in the near future hopefully :)
Hello and welcome! Thanks you for your lovely comment, I am so glad this video helped, this is exactly why I make these very frank videos, to help people overcome fear and make the best decisions for themselves. I am very glad to help and you can access more info and resources on my website here finlaygames.com/welcome/
This might just be the only video that actually answered a lot of my questions! Thank you!
Very glad to hear that! I have a ton of phallo resources over on my website too if it helps! finlaygames.com
I have been waiting for so many years for getting the information, that I feel now it´s too late. Thank you so, so much to talk so openly. I am so happy, you are living the life I might have. Wish you all the best.
My dear friend it is never too late, age and number has nothing to do with happiness and persuing dreams goals and wishes. I've seen people transition as old as their 80's!
@@FinnTheInfinncible Really? Thank you for the words of support, I´ll think about it. But I have already been doing lots of thinking already, like what´s important to me. Sure I would like to get me some cute boyfriend, but the truth is. I am autistic on top of everything, the nerd behind computer and I do not really like to to deal with people face to face. I´ve always acted more like a man, than a woman and now I even look like one with simple haircut. The way my hair grows, how my hairs grow all over my body, no boobs, the way I dress and always did. I do have a daughter and two grandsons and they call me Sofu(grandpa in Japanese). Also I live in the really tight community, the people I told totally were not surprised.-You never acted like a woman. It makes sense. and this one is good. So you now going to date girls? -No I am not going to change anything. And my daughter asked if she is supposed to call me pops, that was odd.
I have realized that my friends never took me as a woman (I am a member of a historic fencing group), there was a dude that came one day and said that he is going to seduce me anyway and the whole group, me including, laughed so hard it shook the floor.
It was a long sleepless night, but I have came to terms with myself. I will always be me and since I really enjoy my solitary life with friends outside my flat, my sanctuary, I am good the way I am. Also I have really good psychiatrist and very good pills.
Still I believe you are doing great job for people like us, talking about your story as openly as you are.
There is never one right path, other than the path that is right for us! I'm glad you have made peace with yourself and found your way forward, that's wonderful to hear!
I so intensely appreciate this video, and it does help me a lot to hear your experiences. I think the thing I worry about most is going through the beginning stages of bottom surgery, because I read other transmasc folks talking about how *long* the healing takes...... And while being that careful and caring to my healing body for that long seems like a small cost comparatively to a lifetime of not feeling quite right; frankly, the idea of not having literally any erotic sensation available to my body in any way for over a year had made me disheartened. The idea that I'd be able to at least use my native anatomy for the period between no sensation and new sensation in a phalloplasty is very helpful to me; and hearing about the not necessarily linear changes in sensation is SO informative and helpful. Thank you so much for posting this, Finn. You're a great help to the community.
Thank you so much for such a lovely comment. Yes, l had the same worries, not only about losing sensation permanently but also about how long between stages ld have anatomy that didnt function. I was relieved to find that l could immediately still use my old equipment while l waited for sensation in my new penis to grow. I am so glad to be able to pass this info on!
Thank you so much for this video, I live in the UK and it’s so comforting how amazing the surgeons are. Love your videos, they really help me. All the best ❤️
Very glad to help my friend, all the very best to you too!
Thanks for the openness and honesty Finn....You Rock Bro!
Thanks for the kind appreciation!
I really appreciate your honesty Finn. You are helping people more than you may think. I'm so glad I came upon your videos!
Bless you! Im glad you did too! Welcome to the FinnFam!
I cannot imagine having to deal with these kinds of issues. Much respect to those going through the process.
Thank you for your kindness, it is indeed a tough journey, but I am very grateful for all that it has taught me, and for the life I have today!
Thank you for being so honest! I have learnt a lot from this video and it has started to completely change my personal view of phallo as a surgery, I am surprised at how much I didn't know or got wrong.
There are so many myths out there, I was put off by them in the beginning until I discovered the truth. Very glad to have helped and I hope my other phallo info helps you too.
Thank you for sharing such personal and important information.
Thank you for the appreciation :)
thank you so much for being so open about this. im in the process of coming out to my family and starting my transition and this is something that ive been very stressed out about for a long time. i have massive bottom dysphoria but i had no real information about how phalloplasty works so your videos have helped me out immensely. thank you thank you thank you
Wow, you are so articulate about such a personal subject. I'm just in awe of your openness but we really need people like you who are brave enough to talk about this.
I'm so impressed by your honesty. I hope you are getting on well in your life 🖤
What a lovely thing to say! Thank you so much. Its been really important to me to create honest content on this tricky topic, my mission is to create the kind of content I wished I'd had access to. Thank you for your kind words and for watching, life is good thank you!
It’s definitely interesting to hear how they can do stuff like this. I’m glad you’re happy and doing well ❤
Thank you so much!
THANK YOU! You are the first person I've seen to actually talk about this, which this question has been the one I've been most concerned about. I haven't started transitioning at all yet, but in the future, I want to be on T and get top, but I was concerned about bottom surgery. Specifically the sensation parts, but this made me feel much more at eased! So thank you so much!
Thank you for your lovely comment, makes me very happy to recive messages like yours! These are not the easiest videos to make, so knowing they are appreciated means the world. Phalloplasty is improving greatly and now outcomes are consistantly good, including sensation. If you would like any more info, I have a ton of blogs and resources to compliment these videos on my website finlaygames.com/phalloplasty-sensation-progress/
@@FinnTheInfinncible Thank you so much! People like you are changing the world!
@@FinnTheInfinncible Hey! I know it's been a long time since we had this talk, and you probably won't even see this message due to how old this video is, but I wanted to share with you that I'm on T now. Tomorrow I'll be doing my second shot.
I just wanted to say thank you again. The older generations of trans people have made it easier for young trans folk such as myself to gain access towards life saving steps. We wouldn't be where we are without people like you, openly sharing your experiences for others to learn.
So even though I'm just a stranger on the internet, I want to thank you, sincerely, from the bottom of my heart; thank you for being you.
@@lefthandersrule9419 oh buddy just found this message and it made my heart swell! Congrats on starting T! How incredible to see you take such a huge leap forward in your journey! We are all here because of people before us, paying it forward gives me much pleasure and joy!
Well done the most concise and easy to understand explanation of this delicate subject and friendly to ,what a gem you are for people who are trying to understand this procedure,keep going so proud you are from the U.K please take care in these uncertain times.
Bless your heart, what a lovely comment, thank you so much!
@@FinnTheInfinncible You are so very welcome (subscribed!) Bye the way just for fun I am bi!! xx
@@SarahJones-wy5us ah yay!!! Welcome to our FinnFam! Its lovely to have you here!!!
@@FinnTheInfinncible Thank-you for the welcome.
This was insanely charming and informative! Thank you!
How kind! Thank you so much!
Definitely the best informative video I’ve seen , on this subject thus far !!
Thank you so much!
I’ve been out for 10 years, on hormones for two, and I’ve always been intimidated by the idea of phallo. I didn’t want it at all at first because I was still somewhat attached to what I have now out of familiarity but your videos not only helped me realize that phallo is exactly what I want, but also helped me finally accept that I’m gay? Idk how those two things correlate but I’m grateful I found your content and that you’re so open. This is exactly the type of info I was looking for, and your personality just makes it that much more digestible.
Thank you! I am going in for RFF on Monday morning, and you answered a lot of my questions! You're awesome!
Congratulations and may everything go well for you.
Ah I am so glad to help! All the very best of luck to you my friend!
I’m not really sure how to label myself. I was born as a female and while I’ve grown accustomed to my upper body and I have so much bottom dysphoria that I literally get suicidal and have anxiety attacks on my period. It’s worse when I have sex (with girls) because I feel like a part of me is missing in sex. I think I want to identify as bigender but i don’t care for labels. I’m in the process of getting bottom surgery with a therapist!! Thank you for guiding me through with your videos for so long :) I hope I can one day be comfortable with my body like you. You’re a role for me man!
What a lovely comment, thank you so much! It isnt always easy to find who we are, especially in a society where examples of gendrer diversity are not made obvious. I am glad to hear you are finding your way with a great therapist! Im also glad to hear my videos have helped!
Thank you, thank you, thank you! Amazing video. Absolutely spot-on about having to put the work in to come to terms with our situations, too. Thank you for sharing
I'm glad you agree! Its essential that this is understood as it makes for a much smoother transition l think! Thanks my friend
As a parent to a wonderful trans teen, your willingness to be so open and honest about your transition is so so helpful! You’re an awesome person! Thanks again!
Ah thank you and what a wonderful parent you are!
This wonderful trans teen is fortunate to have such a supportive parent. As a parent i cannot imagine any other option other than unconditional love and support for your child. Well done.
Like teens they know what they want 🤦🏻♀️
bless you for all the useful information you provide it really helps a lot of people
Thank you so much !
What a fantastic video and what a great guy you seem to be! Phalloplasty isn't very talked about so I loved listening to this firsthand experience. Thank you!!
What a lovely comment! Thank you so much. And yes, it is really hard to find first hand accounts of phalloplasty, which is why I share so openly, here on my chanel, and in my blogs and upcoming book! You can find more info and resources here if it helps finlaygames.com/welcome/
Wow your arm looks great!
Thank you so much!
I just love and enjoy truthful, factual information. Thankyou for sharing.❤
What a lovely comment. Thank you!
Really interesting stuff. Isn't the nervous system bizarre? I mean it tells you what you feel whether there's "evidence" of the cause or not. Really makes you question what defines what is real.
Very true! Its certainly made me scratch my head in wonder a fair few times!
Thank you once again for sharing such a personal, intimate experience with us. I have enjoyed watching you though your journey.
Same.
And I am very grateful to you for sharing this journey with me!
Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for this. This is the number one thing I have been worried about, but it seems like it’s so rarely addressed!
Very glad you found this helpful, it isnt an easy thinh to talk about, but it is so vital. There is more phallo and trans related stuff over on my website if its helpful finlaygames.com
Thank you so much for making these videos. It's helped me ALOT. You're amazing. Love your vibes.
What a lovely compliment, thank you so much! Im always so glad to hear that my content helps.
Thank you so much for your information! I've been wavering about bottom surgeries and what I want for myself to be happy and content with who I am. You've given me great info to consider!!
I am verry glad to help, this is why I share so openly, we need clear information in order to make the best decision.
Im late to watch this video, but what a great video!!! Very informative and hopeful for folks looking to have surgery or are going thru the feels of what they currently have post operatively.
Thanks so much my friend, thats wonderful feedback! I have also written a book, an indepth memoir and guide of the decision making, surgery process and coming to know my changed body. Its available everywhere you buy books, and I also sell signed copies on my Ko-fi friends of Finn page! ko-fi.com/finlaygames/shop
Thank you so much for making these videos and sharing such private information. Sexual health is so important!
Yes it is! Thank you for your appreciation!
I am watching this while my uterus is hurting like bitch and feeling jealous. This gives me hope of better life... Honestly.
Bless you, it does get better! Im sorry you are in so much pain. Sending much love
Thank you for this. It is taking a bit of fear away for me.
I'm very glad to hear that!
Just coming across this - but it's exactly what I needed to hear :)
I have had stage 1 for a couple of years now and am trying to push forward onto stage 2 and 3. Getting the v-nectomy has been terrifying me because I have not been able to just get off through stimulation of my penis. There are some spots that I use to make things easier while doing direct stimulation to my OEM bits.
I've recently begun to realize that I need to have the v-nectomy so knowing that things change even after 2 years is really helpful!
OEM bits! LOVE the use of that! Very glad this video was helpful. I struggled with the V choices too, I was so afraid Id lose the ability to feel good and orgasm etc. I talk about this a LOT more in tmy Phallolasty memoir you can find that here 👉finlaygames.com/my-books/
And if its helpful, I made a bideo about my own vaginectomy process, decision making, fears etc 👉 ua-cam.com/video/bbX3__Mh-7w/v-deo.html
You are such a beautiful human being, you have probably helped so many people with your video. Myself personally just wanted to understand more about this topic, a gay man myself I have a lot of love and respect for our trans community and this really helped me understand even more.
Hello my friend, thank you so much for such lovely comments! I'm very glad the video helps, I just like to make the type of content I wish I'd had access to, and to know it changes minds and hearts about trans people makes me very happy, thank you!
Thank you for that explanation about how the sensation works, very interesting indeed. I hope to get the surgery one day.
Very glad that it helps and I hope your time comes soon!
Thank you so so so much for being so open about this. It's hard to find information on trans folks experiences in text form in a quick google search, and it's even more difficult to actually visualise what they're talking about considering how many medical terms gotta be used. The hand gestures and casual explanation really go a long way to help me understand just what this stuff means.
Idk if I'll ever even get a surgery like this, I'm fairly indecisive and kind of wanna have both bits if that makes any sense? But it's so comforting to know that there is indeed sensation
Thank you so much for your lovely comment. Yes, the lack of information makes this surgery so much more difficult doesnt it? And what we really need is first hand information, from folks who have been through it. Keeping both bits is possible, and does indeed make sense. Did you know that I have just had my phalloplasty memoir published? finlaygames.com/my-books/
i am questioning a lot, and i have been watching all kinds of videos about transitioning in general but so far you have been the best at teaching. although i'm still trying to figure myself out, i hope soon enough i can understand it all. thank you!
This is such lovely feedback thank you! Watching lots of vids, reading lots of blogs, talking to folks, writing down thought's, these can all really be helpful in figuring things out. Take your time and I promise it'll all make sense! I have lost more information on my website too if it helps finlaygames.com
@@FinnTheInfinncible thank you so much! i'll definitely be sure to check it out! once again, thank you so much for your help in this community. bless you!
@@YoonminLife you are so kind. I'm here because of the kindness of others, so now I pay it forward 💜
As a trans guy who recently came out I know ill need to work to get to know my body when the changes start and hearing another trans guy talk about it openly is encouraging.
Thank you for everything
Yes, it does take work, its a two way street with transition.Our bodies change and then we put the work in! I am very grateful for your appreciation, Im so glad my videos help. I have more content over on my website too! finlaygames.com
Hiya finn, great to see u again. I love learning from you, you explain everything so so well. Hope you have had a great day, also hope Chris is feeling a bit better x lots of love xxxx
Hello lovely! Thank you so much! Chris is doing better thank you, sending hugs xx
I’m pre T thinking about bottom surgery in the future but some people bottom surgery doesn’t go well & that’s what has mhe scared & your videos help mhe a lot thanks for being so open & helpful
Helly my friend, thanks for watching and for your lovely comment. Lower surgery does often have a lot of complications, it is a big surgery, but complications get resolved and the end result is now more consistently good. If I can ever help, I have more resources over on my website, and I offer support and advice too. You can find me here: finlaygames.com/welcome/
Fantastic video! Thanks so much for being so open with something so personal!
Thank you for the appreciation!
Im FTM, and Im pretty sure I dont want bottom surgery, but I really enjoy watching these types of videos to keep the option open :P
I really appreciate it!
Great video. There's not a lot of videos like this. Thanks so much. I have my phallo consult in January so trying to get as much info as possible
Thanks for watching and for your kind appreciation! I have made it my mission to create the kinds of content I wished Id had access too. My phallo memoir comes out in April 2021, Im hoping that will helpmany people like you! I have lots more info over on my webiste too if its helpful finlaygames.com/welcome/
My dear Finn I’m happy really happy for you!!!! You are a hope for who is at the biginning of the process. Your willpower has awarded you. Now live your life totally and joyfully!!! 👍😉😘
Bless your heart, thank you so much!
Thanks for being willing to share this information. It’s very helpful.
Thank you for the appreciation, means the world!
Oh my goodness! You have seriously got me covered. I have watched your videos since I was a young and now, as expected, I am a trans man 😂
Your videos are great and so so so informative.
Also, I had to do an art project about Glastonbury Festival!!! And then your videos popped up for that too!!! AHH thank you 🙏🏼❤️
Haha love this so much!!!!! Thanks so much for your kind words, lovely to have you as part of the FinnFam! How was the Glastonbury project?
FinnTheInfinncible so sorry!! Didn’t see your reply! And basically I got a merit so far but I need to add one little thing to make it a distinction piece of work!! So very well. Thank you so much! 😁
It’s wonderful to hear things have gone so well for you 🥰🙏 Thank you for sharing your journey!
Thank you so much for your kind words!
FinnTheInfinncible absolute pleasure 🤗
Adored This video Finn, you learn something new every day! I've certainly Learned a lot from you're video today, it is a well thought out and worded video for sure. Love to you and Fur Fur and Lamby.
Bless you buddy, l am so glad it helps. The blog l am creating will hopefully really help too, to map out sensation over the last 4 years. Thanks for such lovely words
I love your videos you’re such a cool and funny person 😎 it’s also great that you’re so open and honest about mental health and about your transition. Congratulations on becoming the real you and building such a fabulous and happy life ☺️
What an absolutely lovely comment. Thanks so much for that!
You’re very welcome ☺️I’ve been watching your videos for a while now from afar in Aus but haven’t gotten around to making a comment yet lol. I loved your Glastonbury vlogs and I love how open you are! I haven’t been able to watch your vids on your Mum yet though cause I’m still getting over the loss of both of my parents over the last 2 years 😢. I’m a straight, middle aged cis woman lol but just relate to warm, open, caring people ☺️
Unrelated but your arm looks excellent! You’re very fortunate to not have a noticeable scar.
Thanks my friend! I made sure to take good care of my healing and scar care, here more infor on how I dd that: finlaygames.com/best-scar-care-products-for-surgery-recovery/
@@FinnTheInfinncible thank you! this is actually a wonderful resource, not just for surgical scarring. I scar like it’s some kind of skill. If I get cut, even lightly, or if there are any pimples or blemishes that pop up around my body, I can leave them alone forever and they’ll turn into very dark scars.
I needed this to feel better about my surgery choices. Thank you! I may go through with it!
Very glad this video helped thanks for letting me know! I have also written a phalloplasty memoir which goes into much more detail about the decision making process, the surgery and the recovery, more info about that here finlaygames.com/my-books/
This was extremely helpful!! Thank you for sharing such a personal experience with the rest of your Trans bros!
What a lovely comment, thank you so much!
that's so useful for so many people. Love you Finn
I am very glad, and thank you! Love you too!
I don’t know how I got here... I was looking at ferret videos. BUT... your a strong person to get through this mess of being born the wrong gender. I always thought I was non-binary but now I realize I’m just me, a semi-masculine female, and I don’t believe that exists. But I can’t imagine what people who scientifically have MALE brains or FEMALE brains and are born into the opposite body go thru, geeze. This surgery must have cost millions, it’s so frickin intricate! I really wish I knew you in person bc you are a chill person and I bet you would let me see the surgeons work! It’s gotta be amazing!
I LOVE that ferrets brought you here! How random! And yes, being trans is an incredibly painful experience, but thank goodness that we can now access treatment and surgery and find peace in ourselves, I am very grateful for that! And it is completely up to you how you define your gender, semi masculine female sounds perfectly reasonable! Thank you so much for watching, and for your lovely comment!
Thank you for making this video!
Thank you for your kind appreciation!
You have such fabulous energy!!!! Luv you. Such great info!!!
Ah thank you!
Medical science is incredible.
It really is!
I was so curious about this, thanksss
Glad to help! More phallo resources over on my website finlaygames.com
Thank you Finn.
I think this such an important subject too discuss.
I agree with you! Not easy to talk about, but vital I feel! Thanks for watching !
Phalloplasty just about killed one of my best friends which opened the door to a support group of many ftm's suffering from intense complications and worsened gender dysphoria after surgery. I remember being allured myself by the glamourization of this procedure. I hope anyone enticed by the thumbnail and video or reading this reconsiders. My best friend now uses a walker. Please love yourself as you are.
I'm truly sorry to hear of your friend. This is major surgery, and carries risks, the same as any major surgery does. So of course compliactuons can happen but also it can be very successful , as it has been in my case.
I share very honestly, about the good and the bad of surgery, its important that people can access balanced information so that they can make informed decisions.
Phalloplasty was meant for men with penis abnormalities, not for women who want to become men. This isn't just another procedure with risks, it's unnecessary, unnatural, perverse harm to the body.
I know that I want top surgery and t but when it comes to bottom surgery I really want phalloplasty but it's terrifying to think about having to take skin from somewhere else
I understand my friend, it was a concern for me too.l just took my time to work through it and now I'm very pleased I went ahead and very pleased with the outcome of my graft arm, especially now I have had it tattooed.You might feel differently later on. More resources over on my website if it helps! finlaygames.com
Thank you for covering this topic the way you have! So many people tend to avoid it which (i feel in myself) causes more blind anxiety going into the idea of surgery, plus people who do talk about it tend to be from other countries 😂 thank you so much 💙
My absolute pleasure my friend! Thank you very much for your appreciation and kind words. I really struggled in early day to make decisions with lower surgery, because there was such little info. Now, I make it my mission to creat the kind of content I wished I'd had access too. There are some more blog over on my website, and I am always happy to help if I can finlaygames.com
FinnTheInfinncible ive taken a look theough the website too! So grateful for you and how youve helped me in my own decisions! 🙏🏻 your a beautiful soul
@@connormozzy5094 bless you!
Referred sensation is not actually as uncommon as you’d think. Nerves are weird and human growth is even weirder. You’re probably familiar with the left arm pain that doctors warn about if you’re having a heart attack. There aren’t any pain sensing nerves around the heart and pericardium, but the body has adapted in such a way that the pain sensation is sent to the nerves of the arm. The swelling irritates specific nerves that lead to the arm. When I have upper right quadrant abdominal pain, especially if it’s gallbladder pain because I have passed a gallstone-0/10, do not recommend-I feel it in my shoulder.
That’s of course not a one-to-one comparison, but I’ll give you one that I’ve discovered and hate. I’ve noticed if that something touches the sole of my left foot in a specific way, I can feel it directly my groin around both sets of labia. It is very awkward and I’m not a huge fan of feet, but it’s there and I think it’s always been there.
Hey there! So to be completely honest I have some differentiating opinions when it comes to this topic, but I do believe people have the right to do what they want to do, no one should ever be treated differently for ANY reason (race, gender, age, religion, sexuality, etc) (and am a homosexual woman myself), but I love and respect that your videos are informative, spoken with an insightful and respectful tone, and are self reflective and also are specific to your personal experiences and not a blanket experience assuming it's the same for everyone. Thanks for sharing!
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Very happy everything has worked out for you and you healed healthily and found success! ❤
Just found your videos and I'm so at home here. You're amazing and share my personality.
Oh that's a lovely thing to say! That makes me so happy! Welcome to the FinnFam! I look forward to seeing you around the comment section! I have a blog too if you fancy having a look and getting more of me! finlaygames.com